How To Set Boundaries In Relationships! #1 Key To A Healthy Relationship!
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- Опубліковано 5 гру 2018
- How to set boundaries in a relationship.
Unapologetically honest- What boost attraction for women. Stating your opinion and not just agreeing with her to try and impress her. Women appreciate a man that can go out of his way to state is own opinion and open up the dialogue to disagree in a respectful way.
Understanding the MEANING behind what you want and also knowing how to communicate this with the WHY. Boundaries are set when you understand and get clear on what those are. Example: If you want a woman to be honest then how?
How to set boundaries in a relationship is by diagnosing exactly what you want and why. How and why? So many people just say they want respect but take the time to understand what that means to you.
When you get clear on setting boundaries and the woman does not show up this does not mean you need to stick around to convenience her. She should be able to see you for who you are and build a partnership that understands compromise.
The key to setting boundaries is knowing the WHY on what it is that you want. Of course, do it in a respectful way and know how to communicate it as I discussed with you in this video. This is the right way on how to set boundaries.
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You must also set boundaries to protect your own mental health. Women will drive you crazy.
Not only women but also some men
And any person of any gender
My ex gf broke my boundary. She knew clear as day not to do it. I had to cut all contact and walk away. Always respect yourself.
A real man should "always" have his principles,beliefs & morals intact ... Women respect a man that walks in truth & doesn't bend or/& break his beliefs just to please/satisfy her ... Set boundaries & never accept less .. Its like being a real estate agent never accept less than what you put into something or someone bcuz your not getting what your worth back in return ..
Need some want with respect for her self and don't lie to me so
My X would get very upset when I told her I would not leave my God or my family. She knew how much they meant to me so she tried to isolate me. I wasted way too much time on her. My first narc and last.
Thank you for clarifying boundary reactions. My ex-fiance would get very upset with me when I would tell her that she was not going to bully or control me. She said I was mean for doing that. This video has confirm that I was on the right track when I left her. Thank you for the confirmation.
You should of walked away
Relationships are but learning opportunities to grow. If boundaries are an issue, then that is the growth area to be worked on.
Love this one too. Another great video about boundaries! Great post, AP. 🙌🏾
Wow. This was very fruitful. I really appreciate the specific examples. I learned something from this. I've never had issues with personally having strong boundaries, but I guess I could've communicated things more concretely. Thanks for the wisdom.
I wish I could've communicated my boundaries better. Directness doesn't always pay off.
Your advice is the best, hands down! Thank you for all these videos.
I can't get enough of this. I recently enjoyed a similar book, and I couldn't get enough of it. "The Art of Saying No: Mastering Boundaries for a Fulfilling Life" by Samuel Dawn
This is something (boundaries) that are important in everything we do. Need to let her know the not negotiable things like; no hitting, no name calling, no white anting and the ones that if violated multiple times (like around trust / or violating you me time with trivial things) that consequences will happen. Not negotiable is a walk off the lot, this is no recovery, and they are common sense and you must enforce them no matter how hot she is.
Great video. The delivery on these is very important. Respect and clarity helps and use this time to find out her boundaries and the why.
She should Respect u
"White anting?"
Respect with me is paramount!!! It will not be all for me and it will not be all for you. Do the golden rule!!! Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
Try do unto others.. then split. (Joking)
Good point next video a step by step" how to argue with a woman" 😁 Like many men i had to deal with manipulation and ignored it completely, walk away, push, pull.Once back after a while this pattern started all over again. Like talking to a wall..But good boundaries is a must, most men fear that you loose a woman..
Impressive explanation. We must definitely set genuine boundaries in the relationship. To give our partner an honest reason to stay with us.
U have to give our partner an honest reason to stay with us
Thank you Apollonia. Being confident and having self dignity are what make a woman respect you for boundaries to be formed.
By the way, you are wearing a nice skirt. I trust your style Apollonia. I'm happy that you are fully expressing yourself by wearing your favourite colour. Allah bless you Apollonia.
Some girls need to be boldened in this communication facility, they tend to be scared by the questions.
Honesty ,Respect are common sense in a relationship,although too many people don’t have no common sense that’s the problem
Boundaries are sooo important.
When u ask women what's going on?? they always said nothing nothing... Then she goona dump you off 😂
GREAT VIDEO....NEEDED THAT ...THANKS !!!
Excellent Video.
Love it.
Thank You
Ok i understand the boundaries yes !! But yes u do have 2 be clear really good tip !!!!!
I so need this video. Thank you.
You are a beautiful woman your video has given me some clarity on what I'm going through
Thanks for the videos that help out a lot 😌🙏🏼
Thank you for these tips, I have watched the other video so I guess I was ahead of the game on this ome😉
I have this profound quest regarding dating, relating,and mating... When did it get to be soooo complicated with such, we're merely human...although acting otherwise! Are we actually devolving???
Están bien rifados tus videos amiga, gracias.
Thank you so much!
I have boundaries in relationships she has to be honest loving caring supportive family oriented and have morals and be faithful
Bingo . If she can't you move on.. !!! Take care your own responsibilities
Best one yet, without being controling...
Thank you Matthew!
You are the first Apollonia I’ve ever seen 👀 wow. Lovely name
I didn't get a chance to answer your video topics ask on your IG, but can you make a video about how you argue/disagree constructively with a woman? I've been told I come off intimidating when I argue, but I feel that I'm simply being to the point and being objective.
Interesting topic but the question is if I set clear relationship boundaries can some women be held accountable if the decide to change the rules.
wow, that's a great video!
Everyone talks about setting boundaries, how to express yourself, and people say “be specific” about boundaries… but I want to know what are boundaries! I want to know 5 examples of 5 different boundaries..
Thank you I’ve been looking for examples as well
Nice video madam so happy hear u
This video was definitely another great one, very helpful. Awesome job 😉
Us men can build a house, and we can build a car. But when it comes to women 🤯 lol
Thanks for your help.
lol. I think men need more credit. ;)
Does everything you speak of,work in long distance relationships?
Thanks 😊
This is intimidating stuff. If you have to go through all this work maybe the two of you aren't a good match. If you are easy going and carefree and giving and unselfish, find someone like you who appreciates you. It's not just about finding someone who is good looking. Compatibility is very important.
I finally found out how to comment. Women don't read what I write - they READ what they THINK THEY ARE SEEING. "I want a loving trusting non-smoking smiling woman who listens to me the first time I say something not necessarily agrees with me ! She should have at least 5 of the 7F's FAITHFUL, FUN LOVING, FRIENDLY, FEISTY, FRISKY, FOOTBALL, FROLICKING ! "
So I don't see how its boundaries but I see the boundaries of being truthful or being too truthful being too truthful can hurt the feelings so there's a balance
Breathtaking video
Thank you!
Hey Apollonia, this is the only source to connect with you. I have shared you about a girl with whome i am in long distance relationship now. But i come to know that she is very much shy its been a month now and she isn't open up yet... She refuse to say i love you, she said i feel shy.. I will say it by myself if its don't bother you. But still she has not said anything.i feel very disappointed because of her behavior.. Please suggest me something to deal with her shyness. Thank you.
As a woman wants a man, a man wants a woman. It's a two way street. Women have to tell men there feelings and not just play mind games and " Woman UP"!!!
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I was dating a woman once. I set a boundary. I wasnt happy with her being on her phone too much. I respectively said that this bothered me. She said sorry. But then 2 days later said she saw no future
Good vdo.
I love my fiancee but told her from the start that I wasnt putting up with ANY bullshit from her, shit tests, fucking around on me (as im well versed in all the signs of cheating), or mind games. I love her but i told her id walk out the fucking door in a heartbeat on her and hers if she takes the piss!
Yes, and they will test you.
Well I gave her a year to figure things out, so now I'm letting her go cause nothing has changed with her not giving me time, I'm done now and now she will try to get me back but she let it go to far, not interested anymore 😒
A year is not enough time bro, give it another five years.
Okay i have 1 question how you set a boundary with a women im dating who has teenager and adult kids i understand i respect she has kids for example: say we go out to dinner or movies and she is on the phone texting her kids over & over all the time and i feel disrespected and there not texting anything important and i tell her about it that it bothers me because im here try to enjoy moment time with you & she thinks im trying to control her im not ill say why it bothers me because as akid growing up and had friends who always ignored me made me feel not important so know im a grown man & have value to myself i feel i need to be respected can someone answer my message please thought's 💡?
Great information, and such a beautiful face to go along
ONE word - GREAT !!!
Thank you Eli!
Dear Apollonia, Every video is so simple, concise, and most importantly it is true that it is simply wonderful.
Great video. Honesty and respect does not mean different things to different people. Honest is just that. Do not lie. Respect is just that, do not be disrespectful. Unless is it that women need to know super specific things so they know what they can and cant get away with? Also what is your stance on gender roles in a relationship? Do you believe that mean should be the leaders of the household and Women are submissive handling the nurturing aspect? I do not mean the extreme where the man says what I say goes no matter what and the woman just does what she is told. What I mean is as a family we all have our talking point and opinion of how something should be done but at the end of the day the family trust that the man of the house is making the decision with the best intentions of the family in mind whether the decision he makes works out or not. I do not mean submissive as in a slave either. I mean submissive in a feminine way where it causes the man to actually take a moment to reflect and actually think things threw instead of him saying, "well she does what I say anyways" and has that self absorbed narcissist mentality.
Been with my woman 7 years everytime she disrespects I stand my ground and tell her to respect my boundaries she gets insecure “why you being nasty to me” lool some women just can’t handle a man who stands his ground , in the past I use to react and be all angry but over the years I just learn to not react and stay grounded give her my honest opinion but it still seems to clash with her / she’s a Sagittarius so I guess respecting other people’s opinions can clash with her at times lool
7 yrs and she still crosses your boundaries?
No my friend... You have no boundaries if after 7 years you still tolerating that shit.
Once someone crosses that line a man who has strong boundaries walks away.
My. Grand father gave me an example of what’s is principal. And you put the yoke of oxen as example He say the yoke arre the principal and the oxen will work together under the yoke But remember if they don’t understand each other and get alone in one goal they won’t perform a good strait line in the field. The oxen they need to understand each other. Other wise ones they put the yoke in their neck tfey know what to do and what’s is their job And they respect each other . That’s is true the yoke are principal in from each person and just like man have principal we need to find out what’s her principal too so we can understand each other Hey I learned when I was a kid you thought I remember until u screw up twice I remember but I learn more lesson the hard way for not remember this old advice in life
Wonderful deep dive into boundaries with a great example on how to communicate boundaries with strength.
HI George! Thanks so much! :)
and girls who txt 2 men the same time online dating and say they are single although seeing a boyfriend once a week and the rest of the week they are online txting as many men as they can find to hookup late that night and only interested in men and how fast they can change lovers.
The more I listen to this lady the more I understand why you have to LOVE a woman to stick with her. Women are so complicated
great
I got a question... So me and my ex broke up from me cheating and we are trying to work it out but I recently found out that she was hiding a guy by saying it was her cousin the hole time we was dating and now that we not together but we are trying we been on a few dates and talk every day but she likes him to I don’t know what to do because I love her and I think I’m better for her can you guys make a video and give me some help thank you...
The trust is broken bro move on To the next girl and keep ur head up don’t cheat this time.
6:43 Apollonia called it
Good
Amen
I set boundaries by following two rules...1. Don't tolerate bullshit. 2. Don't accept bullshit. I'll explain what I mean in details...etc
Hi Apollonia I just got out of an long relationship about a year now and there’s this girl that I like and I know she likes me too.but she wants me to stay single much longer..I really don’t know what that means.why she would say that
Is there any reason?
She may want to date while you sit and wait for her.
Mom told me ignore she wants me jealous but I cant believe she chose them ova me really hurts and get me angry I trust her but still I dont trust them she shouldn't do me that I care for her alot does anything she wants spend my last think she even has my son only reason she say we together
I have heard so many videos on the importance of setting boundaries but fall short of give examples or offering some kind of list to go by. A list you could provide at the end of the video would be nice since your goal is to note make a long video. A list containing many examples of health boundaries and just flat out deal breakers. Now I get it, this list of boundaries is supposed to be something that's structured for me and what I will and Won't tolerate as well to have some skin in the game too in generating such a list. Let's take for example someone like me, who's laid down like a door mat while NPD and HPD woman walk all over him for over 30 years. Mostly due to marriage/relationship counselors as well as relationship books suggest doing whatever it takes to keep your one sided abusive relationship going at all cost so that divorce doesn't become an option. Most counselor s and relationship books fail to have a chapter on what to look out for if your spouse presents these certain traits and if so run for the hills and file asap since it only gets worse. Sorry I went off on a tangent. Ok I'm back, LOL Any who, guys like us may not even know that a boundary has presented itself since this behavior have been our norm & not even recognize that gas lighting and word salad conversation should be deal breakers. This list should be clear on what's acceptable and unacceptable behavior and how it should be handled. Examples of what that consequence should be when the behavior or boundary is crossed. Because in may experience it will be crossed and tested over and over again. If you made it this far I want to apologize for my poor writing and grammar skills and if you were able to decipher through it to have at least gotten my point then that's all that really matters. This 2 figure typing of mine is making my fingers tired. LOL
Good point. A lot of people giving advice have no concept of the spectrum of behaviour and how dangerous some people can be. It sounds like you figured out a lot on your own. Well done! Wishing you better connections on your future journey.
I Like this video I have a question How do you know a women's intention? 🤔
By her actions. How she shows up with you and if she is meeting you halfway. Is she reciprocating?
@@ApolloniaPonti sometimes not all the time.
Some people don't have boundaries but are ready to abide by their partners values or rules.What is wrong with such people?
They haven't figured out who they are and might wonder why internally they aren't happy.
I know you be yelling Apollonia 😂
no way! lol
Did ur bf do all the moves on ur videos????
What happens when your ex girlfriend shows up with her new boyfriend at the same restaurant that you're at? Then what?
If you are the owner of the restaurant... cahrge them more .... if u are just a costumer too just mind your business
Just ignore her like she doesent exist. Talk to other women if you can and let her see you.
Will and Jada 🥲
I need help
Excuse me. I am like a school student who is infatuated by his teacher, i.e., I like you.
I have limits and boundaries to what I will not let happen is anger and jealousy when I have my video game and alone reflect time that I'm not spending time with her like I should, I would say too possible woman look I'm a introverted I value my Alone Time I need space to be me and I'm not engaging in this talk anymore, cool video as always, and you have amazing smooth long hair it's very unique
Ok here's something I call being honest to me if I ask a woman I'm interested in how many men has she been with I expect an honest answer and how would I know she is telling me the truth because to me that is important
That's a 2way street...
Never ask, she will never tell you the real number..🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣👍💯💪
Restraining order
The richness of this content is a guide through life's journey. Reading a book with related material was transformative. "The Art of Saying No: Mastering Boundaries for a Fulfilling Life" by Samuel Dawn
Watching this 2020 and hearing aboit will smith 😅
I feel like you’re saying the guy Has to have all of his shit together and do all the work, and all of the communicating.
It takes two to communicate.
‘Look what happened to Will Smith’ it’s not enough to set boundaries, 1st time they cross them you leave and let them contact you
Leave and watch them chase. Then decide if you even want them back.
What if the woman won’t communicate
Then move on find another woman there's plenty of fish in the sea
Wish I would’ve found this video earlier
cashflow2day don’t do it buddy unless you want your relationship to go down hill, you really need a lesson on understanding today’s women
I have fallen for the wrong people of Late who Love money more than me
U cant explain honesty and respect? Or did I misunderstand you?
I would like to find hey lady that would accept me for who I am and it wanted to find and learn more about the Lord and that would understand and I could understand and work together for each other and the better and it's of each other
The great philosopher willie Wonka...STOP, DON'T COME BACK!! JUST BEFORE THEIR DOOM!!!!
This is relationship advice for a woman
Not clear just go through your video again.
Why would a woman test man. Didn't her parents teach her boundaries. This just seems recipe for break up. I mean you actually said , she may test him to see how far she can go?? Huh
But yeah I was with a woman that did not respect boundaries, entitlement was her middle name😒
I was wondering the same thing. But then again we not in their mind.
Women by nature test men. Women test men until the day you die.
woman have boundaries ? ? ? HA HA HA HA
Your action is fucking calling me.
No conversation but setting boundaries and rules and you know they're talking to you but they have no conversation with you it's b*******
I can’t believe you are using Will and Jada as a example for setting boundaries. Don’t raise your voice but you can sleep with your sons friends them go on television and call it a entanglement. You lost all credibility with that statement. Unbelievable