@@jonatans.5080 You do not have to play games. If a woman wants to be with you, she will do the work. She will adapt. Also know that you cannot negotiate attraction. A person's desire to be with you can end at any time, for any reason. Therefore, do not trash others, and put yourself first, always. People who play games are trying to 'game' the 'system.' It may work for a few months, but invariably it will become an burden to the player. Just become your best self. Be polite, honest, & direct. And make sure you will do what you say, even when it's difficult. Doing this will show all people you are a man of your word. This is the way to earn respect.
It's so funny how people miss you when you're gone but when you're around they don't miss you .we live in an evil world where women want the guy who does not care about them which is actually really childish
LOL. Exactly what happened with me and a girl who really loved me when i didn't give a damn about her. And now, karma has pulled an Uno reverse card on my ass: I like her and now she doesn't like me.
Wanting someone to miss you, will only destroy you. Because seeking someone else's approval for your self worth, does not validate self importance. But is a clear indication that you are insecure. So when you text someone which in this case 'her' just text her because you want to text her and everything else should flow naturally. So remember to love yourself first; body, mind and spirit. Stay safe y'all, peace ✌.
@@sjm7290 So long as you express what genuinely want and your happiness is independent of the outcome, you'll never be disappointed. To be in this place only requires that you love yourself.
and that's why 50% of marriages end in divorce after about 8 years. how can you not know someone fully after 8 years. the remaining 50% are sensible people :)
@@MrDJROGERS Thats what irritates the hell out of me about women. Once I see that a woman is mine, thats when I give her everything I got. Women are the opposite.
The cold hard truth is that the Game never stops my friend. You men gotta get over the idea that women are sane and logical like us men. Women are agents of Chaos. They despise order and stability. They get bored easily. They need emotional turmoil to enjoy life. That's why you gotta create some form of turmoil to keep them on their toes. Never make a woman too comfortable around you. Dont shower her with gifts and compliments. Skip 2 or 3 weeks without calling her. Break patterns of behaviour. Dont bust when you have sex with her. Know how to make her cum real good. Fuck with her ego a little bit. And watch how her interest level skyrockets.
Not really, just don't come off desperate. When I was in high school I used to be super nonchalant/laid back and that attracted a lot of girls. In college I had more of pressure from friends who were in relationships to get a girlfriend and that eventually gave me crippling anxiety around women I found attractive. This also killed off any attraction from girls who were initially interested in me. It's all about prioritizing yourself and not putting too much value in trying to get a girl. It goes both ways, I have also rejected girls who were too clingy and pushing a relationship with me in the past. Desperation is an unattractive trait regardless of gender, it simply makes people look unstable and crazy. Nobody wants to be in a fatal attraction situation lol.
That would be useful if, and only if, the woman in case has a clear, non conflicting process of thought. My guess is that women in general have a mind that is confusing and contradictory.
4 tips to make her miss you 3:00 Focused to something else more than Your Girl 5:00 Never be needy,never get attached 6:10 ignoring is not pushing her away 7:40 stop being 100% available,100%in, be decisive 8:25 (you offer her something obviously) observe what she is offering if she is not, leave her,man. ....... Ignore Ignore Ignore a lot Everyone else is giving her time whats the uniqueness you have ......
Even if she rather dump a good boy who knows and who they both talk about having strong bond even when she got two jobs only becusee she wants to move so bad becusee of mom problems that can easily be in controll why say she might break up with me if I don't move in iwth her say I dont want tocachive more when where u live now and have a job thats good why would u leave if ur good and that other person is having problems its a big move on me leaving my fam to go be with a girl who wants to move outbso bad but got a second job and say dont need u financially but now says she wants your love and sweetness lol but breaks up with u a week later so now shes all livin life lol with teo jobs tryn pay off her dept and get a house then what ur gonna find someone eles lol what about me what about the guy u dumped for no reason who was down to ride lol n now u cant call it a rebound cause by then it would be a yesr already and now prolly think how better they are and al lthis stuff while im over here like the relationship was unfinished like I got left dry and high what about that
The problem is that when she pulled away , we are so needy , we are so attached. And when we are stable in the life without her , when she come back , we don't want those girls again
News flash Pimp , thass 90% of women . They love chaos 🤣 . Once a women sense she got you OTS OVA . Thats why I recommend a guy have atleast 6-7 females “friends” on the side that are Waaaayyy more attractive then her . This will place her in a scarcity mind state or a competitive one either way DONT CARE . If it comes down to it fuck one of the girls you call your “friend” and watch how your emotions change toward her . It sound harsh but its human nature bruh
Care but produce first shift gears like an F1 driver. Be your own man, care about others and have your own life but fuck her good. Be mysterious without being a cock but deliver the cock. Have your own shit she just becomes part of what you’re doing. Be a gentlemen. Take care of “us”
Girl this stuff works!! Lol I tried exactly as you said and really dissed her for a couple of days and she was the one now calling me or texting me. I’ve learned to stop “being needy” thanks for the advice gurl!!!
Nicely put “you have to be the man she desires”. Honestly, this does not work on every woman. For instance, if I reach out to my guy after he returns from his trip away, and he shows indifference to me and doesn’t immediately want to see me upon his return. I would instantly think he was not considerate and/or interested in this relationship to work. I would cease and withdraw my interest completely. I’m not interested in “mind games“. Guys be honest with yourselves and follow your inner intuition.
Ez-zackly!!! Men, don’t let no female run their silly games on you. When it doesn’t make sense or you got that knot in your stomach (sixth sense) then it’s time to have a conversation. If she’s combative, passive aggressive or evasive - show her the door. Time is precious and I don’t have time for the bullshit. Guard your mind & self respect!
1. Attraction was killed 2. You have to become the man she desires 3. Missing INHANCES the MYSTERY! 4. Follow something you are Passion about, whatever; be busy and gone from her life. 5. Book at trip and start posting stuff on social media - she will see it and wonder about you... 6. Get rid of all NEEDINESS! Change the Attentiveness, constant talking to her, make yourself scary, & stop being attached to her. 7. Change the Behaviors that Pushed her away. You need to deal with your weaknesses. 8. She will start missing you, once you back off. Do not tell her full out what you are doing. Don't give details, Mystery, Mystery, Mystery! 9 Calm your inner voices down, that you will lose her if you don't press in - NEVER CHASE her, unless you have really screwed up. Let her come to you. 10. Let her try to figure out what you are doing. 11. Always show her Respect, but do not give your Mystery or Power away to her.
hell yeah i agree 100 percent. the only thing ive ever wanted from a woman is companioonship. but n. i dont want a weak woman. I want a woman who knows who she is and what she wants in life. I wont take her hand and lead. basically woman operate on emotion like little children.
This works. It's really true. Every relationship I've had, they would always start with women wanting to be around me all the time. When I give in, they start backing away.
Some girls sadly are incapable of missing you, because they're far too independent, hell some of em are so cold they don't even know how to love because they've spent too much time on these "self healing" things that they feel they don't need anyone in their lives, so girls like that will never say they miss you or show you their feelings, they'll just watch you walk away and not care. It's about finding a happy balance, someone that shows the emotions to you and shows they want to be with you in actions and words and doesn't want to lose you out of how they feel for you, not out of if they can manage alone or not.
You just have to accept how things are. If you want to play, these are the rules to follow. If not....well, then go into the desert and be forever alone.
Alot of guys say dont go to a fish to catch a fish, but this lady is pretty spot on. She not really saying how she feels like most women do. She actually says the facts, and I like that. 10/10
Also thank you for this. Everything in life is about focusing on myself first and then relationship. I have a girl who have same interests as I do. We been doing good but before graduation, my relationship almost fell apart by being desperate. Today and after today, I wait for her to come to me.
How to make her miss you 4 tips 1. Do something your passionate about 2. Don't accept all invitations 3. Change behaviors 4. Close ended answers. (Don't be completely available for her)
she texted me after i said goodnight. "rough day. wish i knew how to get rid of all this anger. gonna drink and go to bed. i responded." you are worth far more than you know. i think youre amazing. and although i cant fix you nor would i try. im happy to sit on the sidelines and cheer you on. right now she is not ready. im becoming more and more stable than older i get. the working out consistently has cleared my head and calmed me so to the point i realized. yes i do care for this girl. but right now she needs to fix her self. if i try to pick up her pieces and put them back. they would just slip out my hands as if i was dosed grease. it rings true. focus on you first and always. people will gravitate towards it. trust me. im living it now. health. love. happiness. and wealth. cheers!!!
and now she tells me she needs space 5 days after i last texted her. i get a quote about liking to be alone and that im not competing with another man. but that im competing with her comfort zones. whatever the hell that means. then she says im telling you i need space. uuuuuuh yeah its why im leaving you alone. later.....
🤣🤣🤣 this why relationships are not working. Women dating coaches are telling them to be hard to get, men dating coaches telling them to be hard to get. In the end both partners waiting on each other to reach out to the other because no one wants to seem weak. Damn I came here to see what kind of advice men receive, seems like the same advice we women get, let him text you,let him come to you, give him silence,give him space...meanwhile his dating coach telling him to do the same thing 💆
😂😂😂😂, Angel we are all screwed, can you imagine your ex ends it with you and you get advice to go do something like skiing or find a hobby chances are your ex is at the same ski resort or is doing the same hobby as she’s getting the same advice !!!!!, bring back the old mans pub where women aren’t allowed in that’s our only escape, even the women rubber doll has its own dating advice Channel
Definitely needed to hear this… if anyone is going through the same , just know I understand what you are going through. I truly wish you happiness in your future. Women are at times unexplainable creatures that men have never figured out but we just got to keep our heads up as men & shake it off. Much love & peace
Ugh as much as I agree with your opinion, it’s super difficult not to want to be there with someone you are extremely attracted to, not only physically but mentally attracted. I have not felt this way in a long time about a woman and my head hurts from wanting to be with her. My chest hurts when I’m around her from the attraction. It’s harder when your a more mature man because you know how good love can be and it’s hard to wait for that to develop. When I was in my teens and twenties I had no problem giving a girl space, I was to busy only thinking about me. Now in my thirties I yearn for affection it’s ridiculous how my body starts to ache over this new found prospect that makes me feel good where it counts.
Right there with you Kool. Its worse at 51. And when your dating older people, they dont often have time or patience for games. Yeah, psychologically this stuff does work, but I think it works more on younger women then women in their mid 40's. I find things that worked for me when I was 25 dont work anymore. Crazy world we live in.
Posting things on social media immediately tells others that you're actually not that busy... Also doesn't it actually kill the mystery of what you're doing?
Definitely not if I have a crush on a girl and all she has on her Instagram is the same thing from 3 years ago I immediately assume she’s not done anything interesting in her life.
me: *gives her all the love and attention she needs* her: *Doesn´t want it/ thinks it´s needy* me: *focusing on myself/ not caring about her at all* her: Oh my god, I want to get his attention and be loved by him....
Honestly this is so helpful. I was struggling with too much availability, actually lost time for myself. I am sure this is a way to actually focus on bettering the things you had fears about
You can't make someone feel anything , even if you give them a reason, they need to come to terms with there own feelings to know which way there going with it, so honestly, your taking the same amount of chances by not calling her or not being available and acting like your busy or whatever it is to get her attention to turn around in your favor that it may or it may not work.......However, some people don't realize that they take people for granted when they were right there and when they are not there thats when they want to see there value, it sucks but its true.
Thanks Apollonia, I love hearing these words coming from an intelligent woman, it means so much more. @8:00 are the key points here, solid stuff right there. I am a man of mystery by nature, I just don't let anyone in my house, you have to earn it. Be kind, respectful, and generous with your time. If she is not reciprocating back and making the playing field fair or one-sided., then slowly pull back on the text messages, phone calls, and the attention. Then you will see her squirm and miss the attention that she once took for granted. No woman is going to open up to you and commit to you if you are clingy and needy. Be a gladiator, not a poodle
Biggest mystery is not to post anything on social media. Let her miss you when she is not able to find your presence even. Even if you start something to learn don't post anything immediately till the time you don't master it. Once confident enough then you may think of dropping a bomb. New skills, new personality and new lifw.
Well, everyone is different, and every relationship is different and we have to understand that if her attraction for u is decreasing and u pull away, take a trip, dont call or text and continue to give her sort dry answers when she reaches out, that can go either way, it may draw her to u but it may also drive her away
Im currently a student, so it’s quite easy to work on yourself by focusing hard on schoolwork, sports, and after school clubs. When I’m not studying or going to practice, I’m building my community service hours as a counselor for a group of kids ages 6-13. Stay active. If she’s not willing to stay with a person who’s dedicating more time to personal development and the community than on her, she’s not even worth the spare time you have to begin with.
No my friend you kind of want her to think that actually! Then just normal human psychology will take over and she will begin to try to get you to notice her again
It does work, I tried it with a girl that would take a long time to respond, I did not text back and waited a day, she reached out the next day :) and is more interested now
People love out of necessity, there are some exceptions. True lovers support like rocks. As soon as a selfish person's needs are met, they leave. Ignoring them makes no difference. On the contrary, they are happy that their obstacle has been removed. It is very sad when you leave the one you truly love but the reality must be accepted. Loving yourself and making time for self-improvement is a real reality.
I’ve been single for the 25 years I’ve been alive. I still feel confident in myself everyday. Although once in a while I wonder why every women I have asked out has rejected me.
I blame social media. Women now are more visible than ever and have an abundance of options. Good guys are too boring, the only ones who keep their interest are the bad boys who have a record, no job and cheat on them! I just accept it for what it is, no need to get mad about it.
@@cascadeblue7268 Can't agree more. Bad guys always win when it comes to attracting women. Even in movies or drama😂. The nice guy will get sick, lonely, or die in drama. While the bad guy eventually become sweet, romantic and caring for the girl which he ignored before, then they'll fall in love and live happily ever after.
I just realized that there is all these videos on how to keep the women, make her want you, kiss her, and all this other stuff. F that, the women should prove themselves to us men
Think two people should prove their worth to each other. When it starts with one side having to put in more effort then you already know it won't last.
Well said. I wrote a letter to my best friend who I have known for almost 3 years. She rejected the letter, so I am avoiding her to see if she can prove herself, or was she just playing games with me all these years.
If a girl decided to leave you and tell you that she is going to leave you so don't think she is just telling you on that time. She has already been left you and then decided to tell you just.
Sometimes you have to do this. I just started. Took myself on a day trip to Boston yesterday. Posted it all on social media. My next thing to do is, not be available for her all the time. Great advice 💯🙌🏾
EXACTLY!!! I tell dudes all the time TRAVEL!!! POST YOURSELF TRAVELING!!! POST IT ONLINE!!! 7/8 times out of 10 they will talk to you after they see that. If not, REPLACE HER
I dated a lot. Sometimes you meet a girl like this. If you have to play this game, I promise you that these types of girls I couldn’t date with long term. It’s a constant battle of who has dominance of the emotional energy because they offer you little back but they demand you offer your best.
A girl did this mystery thing with me, and I freaked out about it. I absolutely can’t stand it if my partner is hiding something even if I specifically asked about it or is dishonest.
..... As a Man, you must continue to immerse yourself in the things that you're passionate and EXCITED about! With that, of course you're not going to call ANYONE right back after people leave messages for you, both phone calls & texts. You get back to people who are not contacting you for specific business related reasons when you can! Ladies are so used to needy, desperate, predictable Men. It's so refreshing to them when they meet a busy, career--oriented Man who's incredibly AMBITIOUS and puts himself first and is decisive.
@@gorightongurl I totally agree! Reciprocating is key! She doesn't do that! As so many have said, "mirror" what she does and nothing more! I've been also the giver, doer, initiator! Bring the flowers, leave special cards just because, little notes here and there, and near 6 months into this relationship, I've only received 1 card and that was for my birthday. 3 handwritten thank you notes for a zillion things done, but she says thank you for all I do. Thing is, if I don't initiate the lead on kissing, I most likely won't get that kiss. Things have changed since the beginning when I was getting all those can't waits, and let's do this, and little innuendo text msg's, no more kiss emoji's with the good night text. We're exclusively dating, but seems it should be moving to a higher level or escalating in her feelings. She can't tell me how she feels toward me. I've had several conversations about "where are we headed?" and she says she is still trying to figure it out. The whole space thing comes up from time to time, and that includes the texting. I'm in love with her and she knows it. She says there are things missing in our relationship, though she says "I''m good for her". I explained that no one gets 100% of what their looking for. IDK! Not ready to throw in the towel! I need to give her the 'space' and hope that Apollonia is right! Hoping she'll miss me if I am not so attentive and available. I have to try or I'll never know! The one time I did back off, she was thinking I was mad at her, she texted me and I said I was busy, then she called and I didn't answer. She text me saying that wasn't like me to not answer. I need that attraction back from her! This is on another note, but she is so f ing consumed with being on FB, she can't seem to put that phone down. I've hinted and of late started getting pissed at her for giving FB more attention than to me. On the damn thing all the time! Tried to tell her about the research that has been conducted on how FB has ruined relationships. But I guess this is getting into whole other discussion.
Apollonia, I love you! I know I would have to say this in private, but you deserve it in public! By few videos you managed to calm down my mind which was blown for the last few weeks, because I realize that I didn't do anything wrong and it is all about how psichologically things works. I'm getting now more confident where perhaps other 100 would have failled. Thanks Lady, you are more helpful and camarade than lots of men friends I have are :)
I married my high school sweetheart but she was one of those "10 Women to Avoid" ( good video!) After 25 years later of dating and marriage, I left. Even with multiple reconciliation attempts, her adultery and absolutely cruel and belittling behavior toward me sealed that decision. God had to help me heal from that but once I did, I understood a lot more about foundations. A guy has to learn how to live by himself first and strengthen good habits and make needed changes. If a guy feels that he MUST have a woman to make him complete, he will come across as needy and clingy, and that makes him a target to be rejected by women or to be taken advantage of by a manipulative woman. Instead he needs to first build himself up and have a good foundation under him as a single man, learning to be independently strong, and then he can be a good partner. He should have a love for the creator God in his heart, but at a bare minimum, he needs to learn to love his partner as he would want to be loved; even if the relationship isn't serious yet. A man who is not strong as a solo will never be a good partner for a woman as a duo.
Jesus christ, can't people just cut the bloody crap and be honest?! "I'm pretending to not like you so you like me, because I like you" what the hell?!
But as Think about it. It clear to me. In dating game you got be interesting and not desperate. So right now I going trying figure out how to more money. That will help me lead a more interesting life and everything else should fall into place.
this is exactly a sticking point for me too. The only way I can understand it is to put it in the context of the entire relationship in terms of a long-term relationship. That maybe this is just for a beginning or leading into a more serious relationship at the beginning of the relationship. Then it might make a little bit of sense. But I'm really struggling with this idea that I have to spend my life playing some f****** game in order for a woman to like me. Personally I want someone one in my life that wants to be around me and with me doing every activity that gets done being done together.I thought there were people who had marriage is like that they would start a business together work together cook meals together sleep together shower together do everything together. At least for a. Of time in the beginning while you're infatuated with each other. That's the kind of relationship I want that's the God's honest truth. I want somebody that wants to be around me all the time and shower me with her affection on a daily basis
If you gotta re-ignite the attraction even before you're "in a relationship" , then she ain't tha one.. or maybe you ain't tha one... .. however you spin it, y'all ain't it💯
I’ve been watching your videos and they are a great help. I’m dealing with a situation with a girl and even if she doesn’t call me again I understand relationships a lot better. I was married for 38 years before my wife passed. She was a perfect mate. I can’t believe dating at this age would be so difficult. I guess women are the same regardless of age. Thanks for the help and I will continue to watch your videos
Apollonia is right on the money. It all evolves around "Missing enhances mystery". Mirroring her actions is a big part of the equation "for your own sake" Do not let your emotions get the better of you, yes it can be hard when you really like someone. You want to say this and you want to say that and all these wonderful things to her because you feel your going to lose her... Thats not the case. She has not invested yet in you so give her a chance first do not suffocate her, give her room to breathe and you watch how fast she comes to you. If she is taking too long to reciprocate then politely move on its very simple. (which shows it wasnt worth your time to invest your emotions in the first place). Ive learned to apply this technique and it becomes natural that way you dont think about it it just happens and you get along with your life. The more you do that the more success you will have with women it will be an abundance because you are worried about you and where you are going. Sometimes it can get to you, and yes no one is perfect, I can be quite impatient and yes emotions can get to you when you like someone and you can sometimes feel swayed to lean towards old habbits. You have to talk to yourself put the brakes on and just keep applying what you are doing in your everyday life, keeping busy creating abundance and success. Very quickly you will see that its not so hard , its quite easy. Do not be afraid or conjure up and manifest thoughts that if you dont say this to her or get intouch with her that your going to lose her. That is all made up negative thoughts. 1.Put your life at #1 2. Make her work for you 3. You are amazing 4. You are the best 5. You can do this!
It is an one of the best video I have ever watched this exactly happens with me I had been seeing a girl since 13 years I am 22 years since childhood we have a relationship now she has been changed
I'm the older brother of former 20th United States Surgeon General Dr Jerome Adams and I watched your video few minutes ago and I agree with you I like the way your video explained it very well because that works for me and I was hoping to see your video because I saw it here months ago here on UA-cam and I blessed to find you again to watch your video & it's going to help me with a situation that is with a woman , who seems to be always ignoring me and instead she is actually very very busy at work I found out and i already known because she has mentioned to me as she's also my best friend so I laid back to give her space and I continued to get thru my day and the one technique I saw you had of being on social media and so forth I did that two months ago and it caught her attention very quickly indeed then when I continued to do something else weeks ago she then , actually paid me ATTENTION again instead of message her lot she actually message me to see if I'm doing okay so I do understand what you mean and your techniques do work for me. Thankyou you're a blessing to me. I'm FROM Mechanicsville, Maryland in Southern Maryland
When she realized that i had a life and wasn't needy she backed off of me and now she is texting me. I don't text right back and keep it limited. I AM NOT A KEPT MAN. GOOD VIDEO
I don't always agree with everything that you say Apollonia. However, I feel that this lesson is really sound advice and well presented. I appreciate you and the work you do with your channel. Thanks!
This last bit at the end of the video about the being in control of youre emotions and staying rational if you are angry or sad.. this is eye opening voor me if i read back what i have been saying to people in response of what they said and remembering how i felt about it. Take this to the heart and think abt it gentlemen.
Anytime, I want someone , I’ll start watching these type of videos and my desire fades away. If it takes this much work to get her then imagine how much work it will be to keep her. I’ll just appreciate the friend zone and keep my money and sanity.
Apollonia, you are so right on with everything. I wish I heard this when I was 22. It took me so long to figure it out on my own. What was I thinking? Thank you for sharing!
Isn't it mysterious when he starts talking to her as if she were some other woman? Won't that cause her to take action to at least try to figure out how anyone could be chosen over her for intimate conversation? This will cause immediate attraction and spark a short term sexual renewal. Well, unless she has already made her decisions with her friends and relatives to quit the man. I sometimes feel like no woman is worth this much effort to have. If she needs me to constantly up my game, she is the one with the emotional issues. She may have taken the leap to a relationship long before she understood the man or life she was getting into. Continue to make adjustments to your style, as a man, and you will find yourself pushing her away. Be a man. Let her go. Find a woman who has the intestinal fortitude, intelligence and morals equal to yours, whatever those may be. .
100% agree...Just be patient and honest and true to YOURSELF..If she walks away, then its her loss, because I know me, I know what I want , and what I dont want...
This 100% works!!!! She is giving the most valuable advice available here. I lived out this scenario, it takes intestinal fortitude and the strength of Sampson to follow it through, but it is worth it. You will grow and have more self worth and be more attractive if you apply this advice. Semper Fidelis🇺🇸
I have to say personally how much I truly appreciate and admire the amount of work that you put in to each of your videos. The love and passion you have for helping us men find and or keep a Woman of Value an True depth. Intelligently shines through in your videos. I am confident enough to know that if the Men here follow your videos and truly listen to your instruction. There is definitely a greater chance in attracting or keeping a Wonderful Woman in there life. So, Yes this is True! That is a Blessing in itself!
The man who shows indifference and really feels this way....is in control of any relationship....... It also helps if you don't need to validate yourself..... Love yourself first
your videos are very refreshing to watch. I wish I had this stuff all figured out but ultimately I am feeling very positive about the idea of focusing on self actualisation and developing myself for me. Thanks Apollonia. Subscribed!
Whoever cares the least, controls the relationship!
Ain’t that the truth!
Right
Facts
True
Exactly
If you love someone, let them go...
If they come back, they're yours..
If they don't, they never were..
Aye aye captain.
Jack Sparrow I agree
Not if she's a narcissist lol, in my experience that is 😂
If you love someone then let her go. She will come back cause she's a ho.
What if she’s thinking the same
Anyone else thinking “Damn, it’s sad that we have to act this way to keep a woman.”
100%. I dont like playing games like this. But it works.
Its stupid , these games drain me mentaly emotionally .
I rather stay single n normal
Yes! I say this ALL THE TIME!!!🎯
Yup it’s sad!
@@jonatans.5080 You do not have to play games. If a woman wants to be with you, she will do the work. She will adapt. Also know that you cannot negotiate attraction. A person's desire to be with you can end at any time, for any reason. Therefore, do not trash others, and put yourself first, always. People who play games are trying to 'game' the 'system.' It may work for a few months, but invariably it will become an burden to the player. Just become your best self. Be polite, honest, & direct. And make sure you will do what you say, even when it's difficult. Doing this will show all people you are a man of your word. This is the way to earn respect.
Never be needy around her and be always in control of your emotions.
This is key. Women hate this shit but would never say it
Money over Bitches everytime all the time
True af
Care too much and they lose attraction. Care too little and they don't like that either. You can't win
Easier said than done to be in control of your emotions.
A line is “Once you treat her like a celebrity, she’ll treat you like a fan” it’s from a UA-cam video that I watched.
Roberto Nunez omg me too!!!!!!!!
isnt that black guy which i forgot his name but he does videos about this topic too?
Ams
Todd V
Corey Wayne :)
1. Follow your passion!
2. Change your behaviours!
3. MYSTERY, MYSTERY, MYSTERY!
4. Limit your answers with her!
thanks
True. Be careful with your words cuz " loose lips sink 🚢 ships!"
All I can say that shit works and I ain't have to watch this video to know that
blablabla try doing this after 2-3-8-15 years in a relationship.
I don’t care what women think of me. I’m gonna do what I’m gonna do rain or shine. Act like a man!
If your girlfriend wants to leave you, set her free. If she comes back nobody loves her, set her free again. 😂🤣🤣🤣
🤣🤣😂😂😁😁
Trueeeeee
point taken
hahahhahhlol
did anyone ever tell you you look like ""martins wife Gina.????? which I may add is a very very good thing 👍😉
It's so funny how people miss you when you're gone but when you're around they don't miss you .we live in an evil world where women want the guy who does not care about them which is actually really childish
VibesKeyz Music why are women like this ?!!
Not exactly “funny”
Not ‘every’ single time..
Women nature you have to accept it
LOL. Exactly what happened with me and a girl who really loved me when i didn't give a damn about her. And now, karma has pulled an Uno reverse card on my ass: I like her and now she doesn't like me.
Wanting someone to miss you, will only destroy you. Because seeking someone else's approval for your self worth, does not validate self importance. But is a clear indication that you are insecure. So when you text someone which in this case 'her' just text her because you want to text her and everything else should flow naturally. So remember to love yourself first; body, mind and spirit. Stay safe y'all, peace ✌.
...So what if we havent spoken in a while..and I tell her I miss her want to see her..
@@sjm7290 So long as you express what genuinely want and your happiness is independent of the outcome, you'll never be disappointed. To be in this place only requires that you love yourself.
Thats cause this video is based off a woman's advice and their insecure strategies
I haven't got her Instagram so i can text her
"Go to Mexico, go to London, go to Australia" If I had money like that to do all that I wouldn't be watching videos like this.
hahahaha!!
😂
Hahahahahah savage
Me too 😂😂
Fax
I’m not a client but she’s 100% right. A great line “Once she knows she fully has you, it’s all over.”
and that's why 50% of marriages end in divorce after about 8 years. how can you not know someone fully after 8 years. the remaining 50% are sensible people :)
@@MrDJROGERS Thats what irritates the hell out of me about women. Once I see that a woman is mine, thats when I give her everything I got. Women are the opposite.
@@chapinrey exactly!!!!!!
Bro I just want to love her
Think like a woman act like she has you then do the complete opposite never show up again 🤣🤣 Ego Dead
Love is not a game, of someone loves you they love you...no games.
I DONT, WANNA...
*PLAY NO GAMES*
The cold hard truth is that the Game never stops my friend. You men gotta get over the idea that women are sane and logical like us men. Women are agents of Chaos. They despise order and stability. They get bored easily. They need emotional turmoil to enjoy life. That's why you gotta create some form of turmoil to keep them on their toes.
Never make a woman too comfortable around you. Dont shower her with gifts and compliments. Skip 2 or 3 weeks without calling her. Break patterns of behaviour. Dont bust when you have sex with her. Know how to make her cum real good. Fuck with her ego a little bit. And watch how her interest level skyrockets.
@@KreolaBoy thanks man.
My problem is finding a girl that Would love me haha
Jason...women's minds are different from ours that's just the way it is...they love mystery like opening a box meant for them.
We men need to learn how to read minds, period.
Not really, just don't come off desperate. When I was in high school I used to be super nonchalant/laid back and that attracted a lot of girls. In college I had more of pressure from friends who were in relationships to get a girlfriend and that eventually gave me crippling anxiety around women I found attractive. This also killed off any attraction from girls who were initially interested in me. It's all about prioritizing yourself and not putting too much value in trying to get a girl. It goes both ways, I have also rejected girls who were too clingy and pushing a relationship with me in the past. Desperation is an unattractive trait regardless of gender, it simply makes people look unstable and crazy. Nobody wants to be in a fatal attraction situation lol.
That would be useful if, and only if, the woman in case has a clear, non conflicting process of thought. My guess is that women in general have a mind that is confusing and contradictory.
Not really even darth vador didn't manage to keep his GF ..
Change the 'we'... 'Why' should men need to learn how to play mind games just to get a fucking immatured woman... Think about it
That wouldn't work because they would change their mind before you even finished your sentence from the first mind reading.
4 tips to make her miss you
3:00 Focused to something else more than Your Girl
5:00 Never be needy,never get attached
6:10 ignoring is not pushing her away
7:40 stop being 100% available,100%in, be decisive
8:25 (you offer her something obviously)
observe what she is offering if she is not,
leave her,man.
.......
Ignore Ignore Ignore a lot
Everyone else is giving her time
whats the uniqueness you have
......
Im writing these tips later
I did it with my ex wife and it did not work at all.
never worked in my life.
None of this shit work.
Why waste time with any female that wont just love you for you.
True. Shouldn't have to at games or be someone that your not just to be loved.
Even if she rather dump a good boy who knows and who they both talk about having strong bond even when she got two jobs only becusee she wants to move so bad becusee of mom problems that can easily be in controll why say she might break up with me if I don't move in iwth her say I dont want tocachive more when where u live now and have a job thats good why would u leave if ur good and that other person is having problems its a big move on me leaving my fam to go be with a girl who wants to move outbso bad but got a second job and say dont need u financially but now says she wants your love and sweetness lol but breaks up with u a week later so now shes all livin life lol with teo jobs tryn pay off her dept and get a house then what ur gonna find someone eles lol what about me what about the guy u dumped for no reason who was down to ride lol n now u cant call it a rebound cause by then it would be a yesr already and now prolly think how better they are and al lthis stuff while im over here like the relationship was unfinished like I got left dry and high what about that
That's what im saying
Does work that way man, women subconsciously play games even without knowing.
What a cruel world
If she don’t miss you after this. She don’t want you.
She's not good for you anyways
Takes 3 months usually could be longer lol
WE dont Care.. WE guys cared enough
At this point, that's the risk I'm willing to take.
@@alexanderstevens145 facts
The problem is that when she pulled away , we are so needy , we are so attached. And when we are stable in the life without her , when she come back , we don't want those girls again
News flash Pimp , thass 90% of women . They love chaos 🤣 . Once a women sense she got you OTS OVA . Thats why I recommend a guy have atleast 6-7 females “friends” on the side that are Waaaayyy more attractive then her . This will place her in a scarcity mind state or a competitive one either way DONT CARE . If it comes down to it fuck one of the girls you call your “friend” and watch how your emotions change toward her . It sound harsh but its human nature bruh
@@GLERiko facto
Preach .
Yup so we get women we don’t actually want
Care but produce first shift gears like an F1 driver. Be your own man, care about others and have your own life but fuck her good. Be mysterious without being a cock but deliver the cock. Have your own shit she just becomes part of what you’re doing. Be a gentlemen. Take care of “us”
Girl this stuff works!! Lol I tried exactly as you said and really dissed her for a couple of days and she was the one now calling me or texting me. I’ve learned to stop “being needy” thanks for the advice gurl!!!
Nicely put “you have to be the man she desires”. Honestly, this does not work on every woman. For instance, if I reach out to my guy after he returns from his trip away, and he shows indifference to me and doesn’t immediately want to see me upon his return. I would instantly think he was not considerate and/or interested in this relationship to work. I would cease and withdraw my interest completely. I’m not interested in “mind games“. Guys be honest with yourselves and follow your inner intuition.
If only more women thought like you 😪
💯😘
Ez-zackly!!! Men, don’t let no female run their silly games on you. When it doesn’t make sense or you got that knot in your stomach (sixth sense) then it’s time to have a conversation. If she’s combative, passive aggressive
or evasive - show her the door.
Time is precious and I don’t have time for the bullshit.
Guard your mind & self respect!
1. Attraction was killed
2. You have to become the man she desires
3. Missing INHANCES the MYSTERY!
4. Follow something you are Passion about, whatever; be busy and gone from her life.
5. Book at trip and start posting stuff on social media - she will see it and wonder about you...
6. Get rid of all NEEDINESS! Change the Attentiveness, constant talking to her, make yourself scary, & stop being attached to her.
7. Change the Behaviors that Pushed her away. You need to deal with your weaknesses.
8. She will start missing you, once you back off. Do not tell her full out what you are doing. Don't give details, Mystery, Mystery, Mystery!
9 Calm your inner voices down, that you will lose her if you don't press in - NEVER CHASE her, unless you have really screwed up. Let her come to you.
10. Let her try to figure out what you are doing.
11. Always show her Respect, but do not give your Mystery or Power away to her.
That is a long list
U didn't think it would be easy it never simple@@travisandrews3909
Purpose trumps females. Follow your purpose and give your 100%. Abundance mindset and eventually they'll come to you, that's a fact fellas.
Amen!
Bullshit that girl wud take u needy ,yow
An Alpha Male Strategies pupil.....did you plagiarize in school too? You should at least give him a reference......
Alpha Male Strategies💪
hell yeah i agree 100 percent. the only thing ive ever wanted from a woman is companioonship. but n. i dont want a weak woman. I want a woman who knows who she is and what she wants in life. I wont take her hand and lead. basically woman operate on emotion like little children.
This works. It's really true. Every relationship I've had, they would always start with women wanting to be around me all the time. When I give in, they start backing away.
Me too
Same man!
What is your dating a lady for 1 year and she is loosing attraction? Is it still fine to say good morning everyday?
I so wished relationships were as simple as 1+1=2
Thanks again
Rohit Chopra that’s a bad idea
I swear!
Where the challenge in that
erik macedo go to jail and fight some charges see what a challenge is
Some girls sadly are incapable of missing you, because they're far too independent, hell some of em are so cold they don't even know how to love because they've spent too much time on these "self healing" things that they feel they don't need anyone in their lives, so girls like that will never say they miss you or show you their feelings, they'll just watch you walk away and not care. It's about finding a happy balance, someone that shows the emotions to you and shows they want to be with you in actions and words and doesn't want to lose you out of how they feel for you, not out of if they can manage alone or not.
You hit the nail on the head.
Well Girls like that are not for you, The right woman will come
That's the majority of them. Why do you think there are so many male players.
Factual.
Remember legends
If she leaves you
There’s always her mother
I'd rather be single than to be with someone that plays games all the time.
Facts
I'm also thinking this the more I hear her talking.
That’s just how it is bro
You just have to accept how things are.
If you want to play, these are the rules to follow.
If not....well, then go into the desert and be forever alone.
You totally missed the point. She’s telling guys to drop the needy/desperate behaviours.
Alot of guys say dont go to a fish to catch a fish, but this lady is pretty spot on. She not really saying how she feels like most women do. She actually says the facts, and I like that. 10/10
agreed shes different
Agreed She is like a rare Jewel among rocks. When it comes to women. Why can't there be more like her in this mess up world?
Really don't want her to miss me. I'm praying she forgets me.
i presume you must have done something horrible :D
U gay?
@@camabron1 lmao
Also thank you for this. Everything in life is about focusing on myself first and then relationship. I have a girl who have same interests as I do. We been doing good but before graduation, my relationship almost fell apart by being desperate. Today and after today, I wait for her to come to me.
How's that going mate?
How’s it going now
I couldn’t do it I completely fell for her soul for the little time I was with her she made me feel so happy :(
i miss her but she left me. she was the only person to ever make make happy :/
How to make her miss you 4 tips
1. Do something your passionate about
2. Don't accept all invitations
3. Change behaviors
4. Close ended answers. (Don't be completely available for her)
Im writing these tips tomorrow
This is true AP. Mystery is everything. Neediness is 150% a turnoff.
AKA “Absence makes the heart grow fonder”
Amen
You'r giving me stuff more than what's needed for a lady to miss me. Thanks Ponti
she texted me after i said goodnight. "rough day. wish i knew how to get rid of all this anger. gonna drink and go to bed. i responded." you are worth far more than you know. i think youre amazing. and although i cant fix you nor would i try. im happy to sit on the sidelines and cheer you on. right now she is not ready. im becoming more and more stable than older i get. the working out consistently has cleared my head and calmed me so to the point i realized. yes i do care for this girl. but right now she needs to fix her self. if i try to pick up her pieces and put them back. they would just slip out my hands as if i was dosed grease. it rings true. focus on you first and always. people will gravitate towards it. trust me. im living it now. health. love. happiness. and wealth. cheers!!!
and now she tells me she needs space 5 days after i last texted her. i get a quote about liking to be alone and that im not competing with another man. but that im competing with her comfort zones. whatever the hell that means. then she says im telling you i need space. uuuuuuh yeah its why im leaving you alone. later.....
If all if this is truly necessary to have a good relationship I think I'll opt out and be single thanks.
🤣🤣🤣 this why relationships are not working. Women dating coaches are telling them to be hard to get, men dating coaches telling them to be hard to get. In the end both partners waiting on each other to reach out to the other because no one wants to seem weak. Damn I came here to see what kind of advice men receive, seems like the same advice we women get, let him text you,let him come to you, give him silence,give him space...meanwhile his dating coach telling him to do the same thing 💆
That's a really good point! Now I'm curious about what dating coaches for women say.
😂😂😂😂, Angel we are all screwed, can you imagine your ex ends it with you and you get advice to go do something like skiing or find a hobby chances are your ex is at the same ski resort or is doing the same hobby as she’s getting the same advice !!!!!, bring back the old mans pub where women aren’t allowed in that’s our only escape, even the women rubber doll has its own dating advice Channel
You literally put it in world, thank you. If both sides keep saying "no", then nothing good will happen.
Hello
Which makes one think whats their real agenda?? They can play a part in this matrix as well, that was a thought 💪🏾💯💯💯
Boy I wish you’d been around 50 years ago when I needed advice! What a great dress, you always present yourself so well.
Definitely needed to hear this… if anyone is going through the same , just know I understand what you are going through.
I truly wish you happiness in your future. Women are at times unexplainable creatures that men have never figured out but we just got to keep our heads up as men & shake it off.
Much love & peace
Just be honest and true to YOURSELF..If she walks away, then it's her loss, because I know me, I know what I want, and what I don't want...
Ugh as much as I agree with your opinion, it’s super difficult not to want to be there with someone you are extremely attracted to, not only physically but mentally attracted. I have not felt this way in a long time about a woman and my head hurts from wanting to be with her. My chest hurts when I’m around her from the attraction. It’s harder when your a more mature man because you know how good love can be and it’s hard to wait for that to develop. When I was in my teens and twenties I had no problem giving a girl space, I was to busy only thinking about me. Now in my thirties I yearn for affection it’s ridiculous how my body starts to ache over this new found prospect that makes me feel good where it counts.
Right there with you Kool. Its worse at 51. And when your dating older people, they dont often have time or patience for games. Yeah, psychologically this stuff does work, but I think it works more on younger women then women in their mid 40's. I find things that worked for me when I was 25 dont work anymore. Crazy world we live in.
I understand how that is. I am in the same boat for someone.
Posting things on social media immediately tells others that you're actually not that busy... Also doesn't it actually kill the mystery of what you're doing?
Exactly that kills the mystery
Definitely not if I have a crush on a girl and all she has on her Instagram is the same thing from 3 years ago I immediately assume she’s not done anything interesting in her life.
@@rades920 she out living and fucking my G not posting. Don’t get caught up in this social media crap it’s online business/fake news.
Great info, at the end of the day. If she doesnt end up reaching out. It was never meant to be.
me: *gives her all the love and attention she needs*
her: *Doesn´t want it/ thinks it´s needy*
me: *focusing on myself/ not caring about her at all*
her: Oh my god, I want to get his attention and be loved by him....
Simon Hegermann shiiii so true!
True
😪😪😪derrrrm very true.
😂😂😂
Big facts
"go play guitar"
lmao, literally me rn as I'm holding my guitar and playing it while watching this video.
Damn me to
Honestly this is so helpful. I was struggling with too much availability, actually lost time for myself. I am sure this is a way to actually focus on bettering the things you had fears about
True... Its like all the sudden EVERYTHING IS ON PAUSE for her. Even FROM YOUR SELF. UNHEALTHY.
You can't make someone feel anything , even if you give them a reason, they need to come to terms with there own feelings to know which way there going with it, so honestly, your taking the same amount of chances by not calling her or not being available and acting like your busy or whatever it is to get her attention to turn around in your favor that it may or it may not work.......However, some people don't realize that they take people for granted when they were right there and when they are not there thats when they want to see there value, it sucks but its true.
It’s true, you can’t force an interaction with a women. It has to be her idea.
Apolonia, I've got to say keeping a woman in mystery works in the attraction process. You're right!
Thanks Apollonia, I love hearing these words coming from an intelligent woman, it means so much more. @8:00 are the key points here, solid stuff right there. I am a man of mystery by nature, I just don't let anyone in my house, you have to earn it. Be kind, respectful, and generous with your time. If she is not reciprocating back and making the playing field fair or one-sided., then slowly pull back on the text messages, phone calls, and the attention. Then you will see her squirm and miss the attention that she once took for granted. No woman is going to open up to you and commit to you if you are clingy and needy. Be a gladiator, not a poodle
What if you don't miss her anymore after taking a break for yourself?
Biggest mystery is not to post anything on social media. Let her miss you when she is not able to find your presence even. Even if you start something to learn don't post anything immediately till the time you don't master it. Once confident enough then you may think of dropping a bomb. New skills, new personality and new lifw.
No need for social media
Well, everyone is different, and every relationship is different and we have to understand that if her attraction for u is decreasing and u pull away, take a trip, dont call or text and continue to give her sort dry answers when she reaches out, that can go either way, it may draw her to u but it may also drive her away
Im currently a student, so it’s quite easy to work on yourself by focusing hard on schoolwork, sports, and after school clubs. When I’m not studying or going to practice, I’m building my community service hours as a counselor for a group of kids ages 6-13. Stay active. If she’s not willing to stay with a person who’s dedicating more time to personal development and the community than on her, she’s not even worth the spare time you have to begin with.
The best part is i did all those things without even knowing this stuff and really its amazing
I’d book a trip but this quarantine wont let me lol
But how do you know how much space to give without her thinking your not interested anymore?
No my friend you kind of want her to think that actually! Then just normal human psychology will take over and she will begin to try to get you to notice her again
You are right dear
You gotta buy the course for the real info
That's a great fucking question
@@blucollarballer Sorry, I don't understand what you mean.
It does work, I tried it with a girl that would take a long time to respond, I did not text back and waited a day, she reached out the next day :) and is more interested now
And how has it been going so far? Any improvements?
She must be a low value women 😃
Im gonna implement on afemale friend off mines..time to up the anti
Well said apollonia.. Thats the thing i am thinking right now.. Dont chase her and focus on other things gonna keep me busy..
So far so good
You have my attention !!
People love out of necessity, there are some exceptions. True lovers support like rocks. As soon as a selfish person's needs are met, they leave. Ignoring them makes no difference. On the contrary, they are happy that their obstacle has been removed.
It is very sad when you leave the one you truly love but the reality must be accepted. Loving yourself and making time for self-improvement is a real reality.
I’ve been single for the 25 years I’ve been alive. I still feel confident in myself everyday. Although once in a while I wonder why every women I have asked out has rejected me.
Finally someone that actually provides not just “advice” but actual wisdom.
*subbed
You cant evan display you need a women in a healthy way these days without being called needy now what kinda crap! is that?🤣👌
society is fcked
I blame social media. Women now are more visible than ever and have an abundance of options. Good guys are too boring, the only ones who keep their interest are the bad boys who have a record, no job and cheat on them! I just accept it for what it is, no need to get mad about it.
@@cascadeblue7268 Can't agree more. Bad guys always win when it comes to attracting women. Even in movies or drama😂. The nice guy will get sick, lonely, or die in drama. While the bad guy eventually become sweet, romantic and caring for the girl which he ignored before, then they'll fall in love and live happily ever after.
@@franklyiamallbymyself2870 then the 2nd movie comes out all of a sudden we the bad guy n we get killed off
Basically you are saying you must start behaving like a jerk and you get accused of a side chick😏 cool advise huh
It's so true! Don't be always available guys...thank you for your work Apollonia, you are so appreciated 🙏☀️❤️
I just realized that there is all these videos on how to keep the women, make her want you, kiss her, and all this other stuff. F that, the women should prove themselves to us men
Think two people should prove their worth to each other. When it starts with one side having to put in more effort then you already know it won't last.
Well said. I wrote a letter to my best friend who I have known for almost 3 years. She rejected the letter, so I am avoiding her to see if she can prove herself, or was she just playing games with me all these years.
If a girl decided to leave you and tell you that she is going to leave you so don't think she is just telling you on that time. She has already been left you and then decided to tell you just.
Sometimes you have to do this. I just started. Took myself on a day trip to Boston yesterday. Posted it all on social media. My next thing to do is, not be available for her all the time. Great advice 💯🙌🏾
EXACTLY!!! I tell dudes all the time TRAVEL!!! POST YOURSELF TRAVELING!!! POST IT ONLINE!!! 7/8 times out of 10 they will talk to you after they see that. If not, REPLACE HER
"if you want men to not support each other... tell them to support each other"-big saying
Pssh I tried that and she ended up meeting someone else. It all depends on the girl.
Eduardo Garcia true! This video doesn’t apply to all girls. Even a girl misses you, she can still go about her way Lol
Exactly and sometimes you just need to do what you think is best and if you “push her away” you made the best choice at the time.
Yeah. I want to do this but what if she date someone
She wasn't yours
moises roque stop being insecure
I dated a lot. Sometimes you meet a girl like this. If you have to play this game, I promise you that these types of girls I couldn’t date with long term. It’s a constant battle of who has dominance of the emotional energy because they offer you little back but they demand you offer your best.
A girl did this mystery thing with me, and I freaked out about it. I absolutely can’t stand it if my partner is hiding something even if I specifically asked about it or is dishonest.
..... As a Man, you must continue to immerse yourself in the things that you're passionate and EXCITED about! With that, of course you're not going to call ANYONE right back after people leave messages for you, both phone calls & texts. You get back to people who are not contacting you for specific business related reasons when you can! Ladies are so used to needy, desperate, predictable Men. It's so refreshing to them when they meet a busy, career--oriented Man who's incredibly AMBITIOUS and puts himself first and is decisive.
There is no "when you can"... nobody is that fucking busy dude. I work 14 hours a day and can return all my texts in a day no problem, if I want to.
True said
@@Michael-gy1iz ure a legend my freind.
I really like this person I helped her,care for her and be there in times of need i feel like she never appreciates me
This video helped a lot Thanks
I feel u bro.... their not worth it....
Exactly, I have always been a Giver. Now its time for her to give. Give N Take, opposition in All things!!!!
Reciprocity is most important.
@@gorightongurl I totally agree! Reciprocating is key! She doesn't do that! As so many have said, "mirror" what she does and nothing more! I've been also the giver, doer, initiator! Bring the flowers, leave special cards just because, little notes here and there, and near 6 months into this relationship, I've only received 1 card and that was for my birthday. 3 handwritten thank you notes for a zillion things done, but she says thank you for all I do. Thing is, if I don't initiate the lead on kissing, I most likely won't get that kiss. Things have changed since the beginning when I was getting all those can't waits, and let's do this, and little innuendo text msg's, no more kiss emoji's with the good night text. We're exclusively dating, but seems it should be moving to a higher level or escalating in her feelings. She can't tell me how she feels toward me. I've had several conversations about "where are we headed?" and she says she is still trying to figure it out. The whole space thing comes up from time to time, and that includes the texting. I'm in love with her and she knows it. She says there are things missing in our relationship, though she says "I''m good for her". I explained that no one gets 100% of what their looking for. IDK! Not ready to throw in the towel! I need to give her the 'space' and hope that Apollonia is right! Hoping she'll miss me if I am not so attentive and available. I have to try or I'll never know! The one time I did back off, she was thinking I was mad at her, she texted me and I said I was busy, then she called and I didn't answer. She text me saying that wasn't like me to not answer. I need that attraction back from her! This is on another note, but she is so f ing consumed with being on FB, she can't seem to put that phone down. I've hinted and of late started getting pissed at her for giving FB more attention than to me. On the damn thing all the time! Tried to tell her about the research that has been conducted on how FB has ruined relationships. But I guess this is getting into whole other discussion.
Keith L ... same here brother we're on the same boat.... their not worth it no matter how much u love them...
Apollonia, I love you! I know I would have to say this in private, but you deserve it in public! By few videos you managed to calm down my mind which was blown for the last few weeks, because I realize that I didn't do anything wrong and it is all about how psichologically things works. I'm getting now more confident where perhaps other 100 would have failled. Thanks Lady, you are more helpful and camarade than lots of men friends I have are :)
I married my high school sweetheart but she was one of those "10 Women to Avoid" ( good video!) After 25 years later of dating and marriage, I left. Even with multiple reconciliation attempts, her adultery and absolutely cruel and belittling behavior toward me sealed that decision. God had to help me heal from that but once I did, I understood a lot more about foundations.
A guy has to learn how to live by himself first and strengthen good habits and make needed changes. If a guy feels that he MUST have a woman to make him complete, he will come across as needy and clingy, and that makes him a target to be rejected by women or to be taken advantage of by a manipulative woman. Instead he needs to first build himself up and have a good foundation under him as a single man, learning to be independently strong, and then he can be a good partner. He should have a love for the creator God in his heart, but at a bare minimum, he needs to learn to love his partner as he would want to be loved; even if the relationship isn't serious yet. A man who is not strong as a solo will never be a good partner for a woman as a duo.
Jesus christ, can't people just cut the bloody crap and be honest?! "I'm pretending to not like you so you like me, because I like you" what the hell?!
@endmy suffering I literally jus told this girl I like and she wants to see we work out 😂😂
I feel yah. All these fucking games people play.
But as Think about it. It clear to me. In dating game you got be interesting and not desperate. So right now I going trying figure out how to more money. That will help me lead a more interesting life and everything else should fall into place.
this is exactly a sticking point for me too. The only way I can understand it is to put it in the context of the entire relationship in terms of a long-term relationship. That maybe this is just for a beginning or leading into a more serious relationship at the beginning of the relationship. Then it might make a little bit of sense. But I'm really struggling with this idea that I have to spend my life playing some f****** game in order for a woman to like me. Personally I want someone one in my life that wants to be around me and with me doing every activity that gets done being done together.I thought there were people who had marriage is like that they would start a business together work together cook meals together sleep together shower together do everything together. At least for a. Of time in the beginning while you're infatuated with each other. That's the kind of relationship I want that's the God's honest truth. I want somebody that wants to be around me all the time and shower me with her affection on a daily basis
I think most guys may approach in a needy way, she is just trying to calm your nerves a bit so you can make a better move!
If you gotta re-ignite the attraction even before you're "in a relationship" , then she ain't tha one.. or maybe you ain't tha one... .. however you spin it, y'all ain't it💯
By far the realist shit I’ve heard I instantly changed my outlook to my relationship
I’ve been watching your videos and they are a great help. I’m dealing with a situation with a girl and even if she doesn’t call me again I understand relationships a lot better. I was married for 38 years before my wife passed. She was a perfect mate. I can’t believe dating at this age would be so difficult. I guess women are the same regardless of age. Thanks for the help and I will continue to watch your videos
She has to offer something not just me as the man... Great one right there
when you do everything she says, working on yourself, all that and your still single feels bad man.
Apollonia is right on the money. It all evolves around "Missing enhances mystery". Mirroring her actions is a big part of the equation "for your own sake"
Do not let your emotions get the better of you, yes it can be hard when you really like someone. You want to say this and you want to say that and all these wonderful things to her because you feel your going to lose her... Thats not the case. She has not invested yet in you so give her a chance first do not suffocate her, give her room to breathe and you watch how fast she comes to you. If she is taking too long to reciprocate then politely move on its very simple. (which shows it wasnt worth your time to invest your emotions in the first place).
Ive learned to apply this technique and it becomes natural that way you dont think about it it just happens and you get along with your life. The more you do that the more success you will have with women it will be an abundance because you are worried about you and where you are going.
Sometimes it can get to you, and yes no one is perfect, I can be quite impatient and yes emotions can get to you when you like someone and you can sometimes feel swayed to lean towards old habbits. You have to talk to yourself put the brakes on and just keep applying what you are doing in your everyday life, keeping busy creating abundance and success. Very quickly you will see that its not so hard , its quite easy.
Do not be afraid or conjure up and manifest thoughts that if you dont say this to her or get intouch with her that your going to lose her. That is all made up negative thoughts.
1.Put your life at #1
2. Make her work for you
3. You are amazing
4. You are the best
5. You can do this!
It is an one of the best video I have ever watched this exactly happens with me I had been seeing a girl since 13 years I am 22 years since childhood we have a relationship now she has been changed
I'm the older brother of former 20th United States Surgeon General Dr Jerome Adams and I watched your video few minutes ago and I agree with you I like the way your video explained it very well because that works for me and I was hoping to see your video because I saw it here months ago here on UA-cam and I blessed to find you again to watch your video & it's going to help me with a situation that is with a woman , who seems to be always ignoring me and instead she is actually very very busy at work I found out and i already known because she has mentioned to me as she's also my best friend so I laid back to give her space and I continued to get thru my day and the one technique I saw you had of being on social media and so forth I did that two months ago and it caught her attention very quickly indeed then when I continued to do something else weeks ago she then , actually paid me ATTENTION again instead of message her lot she actually message me to see if I'm doing okay so I do understand what you mean and your techniques do work for me. Thankyou you're a blessing to me. I'm FROM Mechanicsville, Maryland in Southern Maryland
When she realized that i had a life and wasn't needy she backed off of me and now she is texting me. I don't text right back and keep it limited. I AM NOT A KEPT MAN. GOOD VIDEO
I think mines just broken can't seem to figure out what she wants. And I don't think she knows
THANK YOU COACH I AM SMILE, YOUR COACHING MAKES ME GOOD, NOW I TRIED TO FEEL WITHOUT HER, AND MOVE ON LIVE ON MYSELF. THANKYOU
I don't always agree with everything that you say Apollonia. However, I feel that this lesson is really sound advice and well presented. I appreciate you and the work you do with your channel. Thanks!
This last bit at the end of the video about the being in control of youre emotions and staying rational if you are angry or sad.. this is eye opening voor me if i read back what i have been saying to people in response of what they said and remembering how i felt about it.
Take this to the heart and think abt it gentlemen.
Anytime, I want someone , I’ll start watching these type of videos and my desire fades away. If it takes this much work to get her then imagine how much work it will be to keep her. I’ll just appreciate the friend zone and keep my money and sanity.
Apollonia, you are so right on with everything. I wish I heard this when I was 22. It took me so long to figure it out on my own. What was I thinking? Thank you for sharing!
Isn't it mysterious when he starts talking to her as if she were some other woman? Won't that cause her to take action to at least try to figure out how anyone could be chosen over her for intimate conversation? This will cause immediate attraction and spark a short term sexual renewal. Well, unless she has already made her decisions with her friends and relatives to quit the man.
I sometimes feel like no woman is worth this much effort to have. If she needs me to constantly up my game, she is the one with the emotional issues. She may have taken the leap to a relationship long before she understood the man or life she was getting into. Continue to make adjustments to your style, as a man, and you will find yourself pushing her away.
Be a man. Let her go. Find a woman who has the intestinal fortitude, intelligence and morals equal to yours, whatever those may be. .
You are right dear
100% agree...Just be patient and honest and true to YOURSELF..If she walks away, then its her loss, because I know me, I know what I want , and what I dont want...
I wish I had a woman a 1/4 of how you are! You are truly amazing looks and personality!
This 100% works!!!!
She is giving the most valuable advice available here. I lived out this scenario, it takes intestinal fortitude and the strength of Sampson to follow it through, but it is worth it. You will grow and have more self worth and be more attractive if you apply this advice. Semper Fidelis🇺🇸
I have to say personally how much I truly appreciate and admire the amount of work that you put in to each of your videos. The love and passion you have for helping us men find and or keep a Woman of Value an True depth. Intelligently shines through in your videos. I am confident enough to know that if the Men here follow your videos and truly listen to your instruction. There is definitely a greater chance in attracting or keeping a Wonderful Woman in there life. So, Yes this is True! That is a Blessing in itself!
Hello,
Thank you for your support! I appreciate your comments!
Best,
Apollonia
Yep going through this . Thanks for the advice AP
she came back, then I messed it up again. haha great
The man who shows indifference and really feels this way....is in control of any relationship....... It also helps if you don't need to validate yourself..... Love yourself first
This is so true Apollonia. Can’t give too much especially, when she only gives small percentage.
your videos are very refreshing to watch. I wish I had this stuff all figured out but ultimately I am feeling very positive about the idea of focusing on self actualisation and developing myself for me. Thanks Apollonia. Subscribed!