Since 2019, friendships have been drastically altered by everyone being sent to their rooms for physical isolation. The friendship reconnection through para social interactions has changed the traditional definition.
Rebecca, it was the ultimate gaslighting. “Oh, nothing will happen, we’re all going to be there… surely he didn’t do that…” Meanwhile he’s telling the story framing it like you are faking an injury, making him out as the bad guy. I’m glad you stood up for yourself. The most difficult part is to not get drawn into an explanation, emotionally charged argument and feed the story. Because it wasn’t your friend you were talking to; it was the ex. He was attempting to get you in position at the party.
I totally agree! That's why I refused to go. And because my friend couldn't understand when I tried to explain it, I couldn't stay her friend. I need people in my corner who know me and have my back, not people who will defend him. I really appreciate that you were able to see it from the conversation.
I think it is more than your friend misunderstanding you. Loved ones sometimes do not get you, but they don't assume the worst about what you are thinking/behaving. It's not just I don't get you. It is I believe I get you and you are a terrible person. Such a person is NOT a friend.
Since 2019, friendships have been drastically altered by everyone being sent to their rooms for physical isolation. The friendship reconnection through para social interactions has changed the traditional definition.
Rebecca, it was the ultimate gaslighting. “Oh, nothing will happen, we’re all going to be there… surely he didn’t do that…” Meanwhile he’s telling the story framing it like you are faking an injury, making him out as the bad guy. I’m glad you stood up for yourself. The most difficult part is to not get drawn into an explanation, emotionally charged argument and feed the story. Because it wasn’t your friend you were talking to; it was the ex. He was attempting to get you in position at the party.
I totally agree! That's why I refused to go. And because my friend couldn't understand when I tried to explain it, I couldn't stay her friend. I need people in my corner who know me and have my back, not people who will defend him. I really appreciate that you were able to see it from the conversation.
I think it is more than your friend misunderstanding you. Loved ones sometimes do not get you, but they don't assume the worst about what you are thinking/behaving. It's not just I don't get you. It is I believe I get you and you are a terrible person. Such a person is NOT a friend.