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  • Опубліковано 21 гру 2024

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  • @thebyrd7850
    @thebyrd7850 Місяць тому +8

    I hope to hire you some day when I get married! So sorry this evil came your way. But I agree with the patience, kindness, common-sense, and assertive way you're handling this. The betrayals are real, huh. I am confident you'll keep your pretty head up. Strong woman! Well done. 🎉😊

    • @AndreaEppolitoEvents
      @AndreaEppolitoEvents  Місяць тому +1

      Thank you so much! I appreciate you and hope to plan with and for you in the future!

    • @thebyrd7850
      @thebyrd7850 Місяць тому +1

      @@AndreaEppolitoEvents Outstanding! Keep on keeping on Ms. Andrea. Pleasant day.😉

  • @cassandrasbeautyblog
    @cassandrasbeautyblog Місяць тому +5

    Thank you so much for sharing, there are so many more like you out there!

    • @AndreaEppolitoEvents
      @AndreaEppolitoEvents  Місяць тому

      Thank you so much. I have been very grateful for the support and love from our community.

  • @newfangledfamily
    @newfangledfamily 18 днів тому +1

    I have always loved your creativity and I think you are wonderful and I have even more respect and appreciation for you and your work now thank you. When my daughter gets married, I would love to work with you.

  • @MichelleDiamondPhoto
    @MichelleDiamondPhoto 27 днів тому +2

    So SO eloquent in this response. Standing up and cheering for you by the end. One of the most elegant women out there, brava.

    • @AndreaEppolitoEvents
      @AndreaEppolitoEvents  27 днів тому

      @@MichelleDiamondPhoto thank you so very much. I appreciate the support.

  • @thehouseofginger
    @thehouseofginger 29 днів тому +2

    U are the bravest, savviest, straight shooter I enjoy watching. I am encouraged by the joy and work u do. Can't wait to see more! 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 Cheers

  • @jameshagibson4236
    @jameshagibson4236 Місяць тому +3

    Hi Andrea,
    Thank you so much for your bravery and commitment to authenticity, regardless of the consequences. In these turbulent times, I have observed that people who resort to personal attacks and intimidation are doing more to cripple creative spaces than to eradicate any inequities found in them. For example, the other day, I was in another creative space online. We were commenting, asking questions, and learning from another participant's preview of their upcoming project. The flow was smooth and going well, and then someone commented that the subject of the project was a "MAGA." Though subsequent commenters stood up to this person and told them they had been misinformed, I wondered what this person hoped to achieve from saying this? We were in that space to grow and learn as creatives. I wondered how that person's comment contributed to this? Also, I wondered in what ways this person's comment was supposed to help people like me facilitate conversations about any gender or racial inequities that might exist in the larger industry or this creative space? Short answer: it wasn't supposed to do any of those things. It was sent to intimidate and identify people who didn't agree with this person.
    I have also observed that intimidation like this doesn't work to cancel people as much as it works to create an exclusive group. The problem with that in the creative industries is that it is unsustainable. Uniformity makes dead art; and you can only take each other's money so long before you run out. You need other people-with diversity of thought and perspectives-to create indelible and timeless art and to appreciate and consume that art.
    My final observation is that intimidators, and those who remain intimidated (basically, those who "play dead" or don't speak up in an attempt to avoid _immediate_ persecution), assume that those in their exclusive groups won't attack and devour them simply because they _appear_ to share the same perspective on one line of thought. The problem here is that assuming that sharing a particular perspective is not protection. Especially when you condone the means (intimidation) by which people seek to control and manipulate others to get their way. Today it could be about excluding people based on their politics, tomorrow it can be about excluding more people because they disagree about the venue for a conference, or who to invite to speak, or a certain trend in the industry. Basically, it's not about the object of conversation as much as it is about *_the way_* we, in the creative industries, permit different perspectives to be addressed. If we choose intimidation and exclusion, it will ultimately end up like the end of Martin Niemöller's poem _First They Came_ :
    "Then they came for me
    And there was no one left
    To speak out for me."
    Heaven forbid we end up here.

    • @AndreaEppolitoEvents
      @AndreaEppolitoEvents  Місяць тому

      This is bravely and beautifully written. Thank you.

    • @AndreaEppolitoEvents
      @AndreaEppolitoEvents  Місяць тому

      Also, I am very curious about the space that you were in and would love to learn more about it. If you wouldn't mind sharing, you can email me direcly here: andrea@andreaeppolito.com

  • @curtiskennedyfilms
    @curtiskennedyfilms 20 днів тому +1

    Love you Andrea!!!

  • @Starting_anew
    @Starting_anew 29 днів тому +1

    I want to express this with upmost sincerity and kindness.
    If you care about freedom of religion, then we shouldn’t undermine the right of women to control their bodies, reason being there are many religions that do not see abortion as a sin, Judaism for example. Atheism and Agnosticism would honor the living woman over the supposed “soul” of a fetus. The conservatives of this era are undermining freedom of religion and freedom from religion.

    • @AndreaEppolitoEvents
      @AndreaEppolitoEvents  27 днів тому

      @@Starting_anew I don’t disagree. I am actually pro-choice. I don’t believe that anyone agrees with the entirety of platform. Even RBG felt that Roe v. Wade was hung on the wrong point of law. I would love to see a federal compromise that allowed for a woman’s right to choose up to a reasonable point, and then of course through any medical necessity.
      Until then, it’s in the states hands. I voted for Trump in Nevada, and also voted to ratify the right to an abortion as a part of our state constitution. It is possible to have both, and to vote on a number of issues - not just one.

  • @InventaChris
    @InventaChris 22 дні тому +1

    I'm a liberal, but I would still consider hiring you to plan my gay wedding.
    My concern is that you might be hurting yourself & your business by publicizing your views...

    • @AndreaEppolitoEvents
      @AndreaEppolitoEvents  22 дні тому +1

      Thank you! I have always said that I plan weddings for people in love, and if/when you decide to get married I would be honored to be considered.
      I don’t think anyone ever shames the left for posting their political views or cautions them about the risk to their business - which is the point of my video.
      I’m pro-Gay marriage. I’m pro-choice. Most of my conservative friends are - but by and large we are not encouraged or allowed to share our POV because people have labeled us incorrectly or applied to extreme-right views to us. Most of us are much more middle of the road.
      I do very much appreciate your support and the fact that you took the time to comment. Thank you ❤

  • @Starting_anew
    @Starting_anew 29 днів тому +2

    I was raised in Trump’s NY and he was always seen as a blustering buffoon who stiffed his contracts. genuine question: What is a conservative wedding planner? That’s like saying you’re a conservative painter. You’re in the creative arts therefore regardless of what you would choose for yourself or someone else, your disposition is to be open to people’s vision for their lives and their big day. Putting them first- putting other people first. If you’re oriented to only see your vision, it might be limiting for the client. Trump voters have become known for putting themselves first above anyone else.

    • @AndreaEppolitoEvents
      @AndreaEppolitoEvents  27 днів тому

      I really appreciate your comment and your desire to have a conversation.
      I’ll start by saying that I love connecting with a fellow New Yorker. I left over 30 years ago, and while I don’t miss living there, I certainly miss the people!
      In terms of how Trump supporters see themselves and the way that we are portrayed or the reputation that we have… I’ll start with this: I believe that everyone votes, according to their own conscience and their own experience. Each of us brings our own set of needs and priorities to the voting booth, and every other decision we make. And so every person, whether a Democrat or a republican is thinking about the things that matter to them when they make a decision about how they vote. Whether that is taxes, immigration, international relations, women’s rights, the military industrial complex, etc. We also think about our own children and the world we want to leave them, our friends, our parents, our communities and so on. And so we all have a somewhat limited and self-directed world view.
      But I believe that Trump supporters have been portrayed more often as people that are more self-centered, as opposed to Democrats, who are portrayed as people who are more driven to be social saviors.
      I started my video by saying I never thought I would have to make a comment like this. As an artist and as a designer, I seek to take my clients world view and filter it through my lens. And for that reason, my own viewpoint on many of these topics has never mattered to me. The only reason that I felt the need to address this was because a colleague and contemporary, who is familiar with my political views publicly posted about me, my private family life, and then began to argue with friends and other industry professionals on my Threads page.
      Ultimately, I abhor a bully and this video was made in response to a public attack.

    • @Starting_anew
      @Starting_anew 25 днів тому

      Hi, I too no longer live in NY but I miss the sensibilities of New Yorkers most, namely an appreciation for diversity and novelty, a “live and let live” mentality, an uncanny knack for small talk, and a belief that people of all walks of life have equal worth and value in a given society. Yes, we do carry our values to the ballot box, my own personally being that ‘we all do better when we all do better’. Therefore policies which look out for marginalized peoples, young people, women, poor people and the working class will always win out over tax cuts for the 1% or mass deportations of families. As far as detesting a bully, Trump, long before questioning Obama’s birth certificate or name calling Mexicans and Haitians, was referring to women in public life as dogs, pigs, and horrific terms denigrating their appearances. He was openly cheating on his first wife with his second, putting page six on the map. He subsequently buried his first wife unceremoniously on an unmarked grave on his golf course. That’s a bully. By now I assume that listing these qualities does nothing to sway the people who support him. And I can respect that you most likely arrived at supporting him through your social environment. Based on your thoughtful responses, I don’t deny your genuine desire to connect with those of us deeply hurt by the election outcome. I just want to say you always have the freedom to change your mind, to be open to new information, and no one will begrudge you that.

    • @AndreaEppolitoEvents
      @AndreaEppolitoEvents  25 днів тому

      @@Starting_anew I could not be more appreciative of this thread. While you and I will continue to disagree, I love that we are both open to conversation and welcoming people in from "the other side" should they change their minds. One small note: Ivana Trump is not buried in an unmarked grave. She is buried at a rather remote location on a NJ golf course. Their shared children have spoken about this locataion and one of them have referred to it as "the family plot". I don't expect it to change your mind, but there are published photos of her very simple stone with articles written about it, and so to say it is unmarked would not be accurate.
      Let's continue to disagree respectfully and wish for the best for our country - regardless of who is in office.

    • @Starting_anew
      @Starting_anew 24 дні тому +1

      @@AndreaEppolitoEvents
      I will gladly concede the unmarked grave scenario lol as this account you gave sounds a bit less disturbing. See, I’m reasonable sometimes 😅. Unfortunately this all does little to assuage my concerns about Trump’s character overall. I have been thinking about the phrase “one nation, indivisible” with hope that this notion can remain true despite all that’s going on around us.

    • @AndreaEppolitoEvents
      @AndreaEppolitoEvents  21 день тому

      @@Starting_anew I don’t think you’re unreasonable at all! I think you’re someone who just sees the world through a different set of eyes and who wants what’s best for the country and yourself and your family. You just think we should get there differently than I do, and that’s why Ilook forward to these conversations. In the end, I think they help us see that we are more alike than the media would have us think, and if we can talk to each other in a common respectful way we can be stronger and more productive.
      We have always been “one nation, indivisible” and I believe that the only thing that can destroy us will come from within. And that won’t be a politician. That is the definition of “we the people“ - because it is up to us in our everyday lives, working with our friends and our neighbors in our local communities that have the most impact. And somewhere along the lines we have forgotten that the government works for us and that we are not beholden to them.
      It’ll be really interesting to see where we are in four years and what happens next. But until then, I appreciate the fact that you were here. .

  • @Didi781c
    @Didi781c Місяць тому +6

    You like most Trump related postings on Fox News. That means you align with a lot of his ideas including the Project 25. It’s not just a political view. You shouldn’t try to play innocent now.

    • @AndreaEppolitoEvents
      @AndreaEppolitoEvents  Місяць тому +6

      Trump is not aligned with Project 25. He never has been, and has publicly stated so. I have never hidden my political leanings and am not trying to play innocent. What I AM trying to do is foster an open and respectful line of communication that would allow us to have discussions on policies and platforms beyond the sound bites and click bait.
      What I am really advocating and calling for is respect and freedom of speech, tolerance for those who believe something other than you, and a reminder of the fact that most of the country vote on more than one issue.

    • @Didi781c
      @Didi781c Місяць тому

      @@AndreaEppolitoEvents Trump has already started announcing his plans which aligns directly with Project 25. Words have been coming out of his own mouth after he won the election. You probably don’t care about those announcements because they may not adversely impact you or some of your family or they benefit you so you welcome it.

    • @Didi781c
      @Didi781c Місяць тому

      @@AndreaEppolitoEvents with respect, I think you may watch a little too much Fox News and you should try diversifying where you get your news a little more. He is actively working on implementing them now with his buddies that wrote the Project 25 plan. He already started making plan announcements.
      In addition you like a lot of pro-Israel news on Fox News. Israel is literally killing woman and children and fighting a one sided war in Palestine and starting wars in other countries. You can be Jewish or not and see this isn’t right. The Biden administration/US, Netanyahu/Israel, and your character is questionable. Money talks I guess

    • @InventaChris
      @InventaChris 22 дні тому

      Actually, Trump isn't affiliated with Project 2025.
      And I say this as a liberal.

  • @Didi781c
    @Didi781c Місяць тому +5

    Biden and Harris wasn’t trying to hurt the majority of people. Trump and affiliates policies hurt people. There is a difference that you don’t care about

    • @AndreaEppolitoEvents
      @AndreaEppolitoEvents  Місяць тому +3

      Who's policies are Trump and the Republican Party hurting?
      Is this an LGBTQ issue? If so, let's look at what Trump actually did in his first term...
      Appointment of Openly Gay Officials: Trump appointed Richard Grenell as the U.S. Ambassador to Germany in 2018, making him the first openly gay ambassador to serve under a Republican administration. In 2020, Grenell was appointed as Acting Director of National Intelligence, becoming the first openly gay person to hold a cabinet-level position in the U.S. government. (WIKIPEDIA)
      Recognition of Pride Month: In June 2019, Trump became the first Republican president to acknowledge LGBTQ Pride Month, stating his commitment to stand in solidarity with LGBTQ individuals worldwide. (WIKIPEDIA)
      Global Initiative to Decriminalize Homosexuality: The Trump administration launched a global campaign aimed at decriminalizing homosexuality in countries where it remained illegal, signaling a commitment to LGBTQ rights on an international scale. (WIKIPEDIA)
      Support for Same-Sex Marriage: In a 2019 statement, Counselor to the President Kellyanne Conway indicated that Trump approved of same-sex marriage, reflecting a supportive stance on marriage equality. (WIKIPEDIA)
      Is it women's rights or freedoms? As a woman, I care about the right to enjoy freedom of speech, to bear arms, the right to vote, the right to enjoy a free and unincumbered press. I care about the right to practice my religion, to freedom of expression...
      I care about protection from unreasonable searches and seizures, the right to be secure in my person, home, papers, and belongings. I care about protection from excessive fines and punishments - all of which are threatened by an increasingly growing government.
      Who exactly as I trying to hurt? Who is it that I don't care about?

    • @AndreaEppolitoEvents
      @AndreaEppolitoEvents  Місяць тому +3

      And please remember....Donald Trump won both the electoral and the popular vote. Do you really believe that more than half of the country doesn't care and/or seeks to hurt people? And if that is truly your belief, what are you doing about it? Are you engaging in conversation? Are you trying to understand and change minds through thoughtful debate? If you are afraid for yourself or those you love, are you considering leaving? Where would you go and why?
      These questions are not meant to mock you - I am truly curious.
      America remains the only country that people openly hate, yet continue to live in and flock to. How can you explain that if you truly believe that half of the country is hateful or hurtful?

    • @Didi781c
      @Didi781c Місяць тому

      @@AndreaEppolitoEvents Trump won not because people loved him and wanted to hire him for President again. Not enough folks wanted to hire him Kamala. “Wonder Why”. Now some are regretting it and Trump isn’t in office yet as he is starting to implement his Project 25 plan which may not have much of an impact on you and yours so it make sense if you don’t care too much.

    • @Didi781c
      @Didi781c Місяць тому +1

      @@AndreaEppolitoEventsyou deleted my response to you, you are not interested in an honest dialogue. You are interested in looking good

    • @AndreaEppolitoEvents
      @AndreaEppolitoEvents  Місяць тому

      @@Didi781c I didn’t delete anything, and I never saw a response to any of my responses. I’m obviously trying to engage with you and share my POV but I can’t do that if you won’t allow me to.

  • @Didi781c
    @Didi781c Місяць тому +6

    Although I like your work, I wouldn’t hire you because of your political views. Why would I want to be around someone that wishes harm on me and people I love. I lean more conservative too but this is different.

    • @AndreaEppolitoEvents
      @AndreaEppolitoEvents  Місяць тому +1

      There are so many different designers and personalities out there; you certainly have the right to choose - and I respect that. But who do I hate? Who do I wish harm to? I quite literally say in the video at 36:44 that I don't hate anybody, and I would love to speak with everyone and anyone about the things that are happening in our country.

    • @InventaChris
      @InventaChris 22 дні тому

      Fascist much?

    • @AndreaEppolitoEvents
      @AndreaEppolitoEvents  21 день тому

      @ When people throw around words like fascist, racist, Nazi, etc. it diminishes the power in the severity of those words and cheapens them.
      Two questions… 1.) what exactly happened under Donald Trump’s first presidency that leads you to believe that he is a fascist? Be specific and note how he expand the role in the rights of the government, how did he diminish the role of the people, and what policies were put into place that gave him ultimate control. If he truly were a fascist, then explain the election in 2020. 2.) If you are an American or if you live in this country and you truly believe that Donald Trump is a fascist, then what steps are you taking right now to either leave or protect yourself and your family.
      And just for fun, can you actually define and describe what a fascist is? Not because you Google it, and not because the media says it, but can you explain it to me in Laymans terms and then tie the definition to the historical actions of Donald Trump And the government while he was president?

    • @InventaChris
      @InventaChris 21 день тому +1

      @AndreaEppolitoEvents
      Oh noooo!!
      I wasn't calling you or Donald Trump a fascist, I was calling the lady who refused to hire you a fascist! haha lol 😅😅😂😭

    • @AndreaEppolitoEvents
      @AndreaEppolitoEvents  20 днів тому +1

      @@InventaChris OMG! 🤣🤣 I missed that!!!