UPDATED GF Wanted To Have Open Relationship So I Broke It Off, She Went Crazy... Relationship Advice
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- My girlfriend and I have been together since January of 2011. I always took pride in the fact that we were the couple that could solve things without fighting. We are both pretty mature people and the disagreements we have had throughout our relationship have been taken care of.
Now here comes the situation at hand. My girlfriend works in a job where it's basically her a bunch of women and this one guy. This one guy that works there is a real ladies man type guy, and my girlfriend is enamored by this guy. Nothing new, here I get it we have been in a relationship for a long time, and lusting after something new isn't bad.
Story 1:
[Update] Girlfriend[28f] wanted to have an open relationship, I[29m] broke up with her now she has gone insane.
Story 2:
Girlfriend [31F] wanted an open relationship. I [34M] reluctantly agreed. She freaked out now that I am sleeping with other women.
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Story 1: UPDATE 3:52
[Update] Girlfriend[28f] wanted to have an open relationship, I[29m] broke up with her now she has gone insane.
Story 2: 7:37 UPDATE 10:34
Girlfriend [31F] wanted an open relationship. I [34M] reluctantly agreed. She freaked out now that I am sleeping with other women.
Can I have a shoutout pls
If you do shout outs can you give me a shout out
He doesn’t shout out :(
@@ashmikray ok thxs for telling me
she wanted to be open now she is.
Last story, she wanted the freedom to have sex with other men but didn't want you to have other women. She is selfish & wanted her cake and eat it too. Good for you to move on
Ikr?
_"I want to sleep around with other men why you try and fail to sleep around with other women"_
That is the case every time with this kind of thing. The person that wants the open relationship only wants the open relationship for themselves
Chick ate her cake and tried to take his
@@Martial_Autist hypocrisy at its finest
@@koine1491 Yet you would not say that if the MAN had sought the 'open' relationship. You will now be pathetic,and hurl abuse at me.
"I want to date someone else but I still need your money".
At this point, does open relationships actually work?
Depends but it has to start off open
I think open relationships is always a power grab in the relationship. Its always "how much can i get away with in the relationship?" The moment someone feels comfortable to request/demand/ bully their way into an open relationship, there is no "us", its "them" and their needs.
Story one guy is an idiot tbh. Tell friend not to tell where you are, refuse to see her and change the bloody passwords. Hes just acting like doing it is an "effort".
Story 2 guy played it out well. However she is going to spin the narrative that OP is a womanizer who is cheating, and edit out her role in this.
In America? Nah. In others parts of the world? Maybe.
If you try to open a relationship well after its starts, you have a 99% chance of it failing.
The best chance at success is if it starts that way. And even then the success rates are low.
My friend keeps trying to have open relationships with women who have never done them. They have failed every time.
No
Oh man, this is so much pettier and more satisfying than just dumping the cheater. Playing into her delusional entitlement and exposing that you do have value of your own, quickly nullifying her idea that she is in anyway special after she destroyed the monogamous relationship. The part that made her special to the OP was that she was his and as soon as she cheated she lost that status.
If a woman proposes an open relationship then it's already over...
You got what you wanted,
But you lost what you had.
Op #1 saw his chance and took it, good for him.
There is just no way at all I can do an open relationship.. For one, I can see that a man is very attractive for all of the 3 seconds it takes to look, thought, out of my mind.. I cannot imagine someone else touching me other than my husband, even a kiss.. It's, EWWW to me.. My body belongs to my husband and myself, period... It's like my "inner" molded to him as it is to be kinda painful, LOL... Nope, not removing that mold atall! 🤣🤣Took too much time to get it right down there in the recreational facility! Lol
OP should tell her ex that he woild ha e given her a chance but her sister made sure he wont lol
It never fails. The girlfriend or wife asks for an open relationship and when the guy says OK or just doesn't give the answer she expected she starts becoming irrational. They think you will struggle to get laid or find any interest and she will be getting all she can handle...that is until she realizes you're actually getting all you can handle. Then she gets jealous. I had an ex that did that very same thing. When she saw me getting laid by girls better looking than her she blew a gasket.
Who would want to have an LTR like this. It’s like asking for a steady diet of crap sandwiches for the rest of your life. How sad is it becoming that you are lambasted for saying you want to be in a one man, one woman relationship.
If she asks to do it odds are she already did it or she was on the verge of doing it
Wtf that 1st story. Run. block delete that psycho. Get some cameras installed. Tell your friends if she ever shows up immediately start recording her with their phones.
Thank you for being a real man.
I'm not an "open-marriage" guy.
The thought of that repulses me. We all know by now that it is far easier for a woman to get a man 24/7/365, whereas for a man it is much harder.
I agree with him that the thought of sharing your partner is not the way to go if you want a life-long partner to raise kids with.
Oh I'm sure if he said no and they moved forward with marriage, she would likely cheat on him then when would it end?
Yeah, she wants the guy in her office without guilt which is why she proposed it.
Listen, not all people want polyamory, or to cheat, or have flings!
Op's GF is way too immature...What's the point of getting married in the first place! Why not just "plate-spin" with five women and tell the GF to eff-off?
In a way, that's the impropriety of asking someone for an alternative relationship.
DTB!
I love how all this "you go girl, you deserve an open marriage, but only you, not him!" fad just makes them parade with all their red flags showing so we know to stay away from their crazyness.
@Alex Macmillan
Easier to spot too, no longer are they snakes in the grass but now huge shits on the sidewalk.
@Alex Macmillan none of y’all were getting any pussy to begin with
@@okayomakaia I assume he hit a nerve with his comment.
Makes life really easy if you ask me
@@okayomakaia awwwwwww u mad? Gonna cry? Waaaaa waaaaa🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺
Girl from first story totally already slept with the work guy.
Of course, that's why she asked.
@@solomongrundy9735 to cover her cheating ass
@@solomongrundy9735 that makes zero sense. If she anyway was cheating why would she ask?
@@LinneAzalea so she doesn’t have to feel guilty and so he won’t leave her
@@LinneAzalea so she can say it is/was not cheating.
My ex wanted an open relationship. I said no. Then I found out that her mum had made the same request of her dad... he didn't have my spine. Her dad would have to go walk the dog while his mate came round and screwed his wife.
Me and gf broke up.
Tell your Folx that story !
You made the right decision. I'm a single guy myself and I'm glad I never experienced this with anyone. Never been in a relationship before. Settle for someone who will be there through thick and thin, the good and bad, and the best and worst times.
To duck with that, wow spineless
Good choice OP
Ha! This made my Easter Friday. Also, lad will self delete.
I remember a partner telling me they wanted an open relationship.
I regret not pointing them towards the door quick enough.
Can you tell us more of what happened in between?
I'm very curious to hear.
@James Stewart singular they has been in use in English for over 600 years.
"What is his favourite food?" "Their favourite food is pizza". In the context above it is not clear that they are non-binary.
@@SuperSpecies It's a crying shame that you even have to comment this.
@@A-RedHerring My friend is dating a non-binary, it's hard to get used to referring to them like that.
@James Stewart they is sometimes used to omit the sex for the sake of someone’s privacy.
Story 2 is usually how open relationships that start like this end. Either the one who suggested it has fun and leaves the relationship, Or the person who didn't want it find new found freedom and leaves....
bad idea either way
@@TheRumpelstinskin So true! If anyone asks for an open relationship, The only thing you should open is the door as you kick them out....
@@darrylblackshear710 This is why if anybody ever displays an open relationship with spouse/partner, just leave that relationship because at the end of the day someone will get hurt and its not worth it.
Part of the exclusivity talk I have with women mentions open relationships specifically. I am NOT and will NEVER be okay with an open relationship, an open relationship is the definition of NOT exclusive. I do not share, bring it up, and expect a break up because 1. I will doubt you from that point on because on one hand you obviously did not listen when we became serious and had the talk and 2. The very fact that you are mentioning it means you have someone in mind in a non-abstract form and want to fuck them, I see no reason to continue being in a relationship with someone who is thinking about sleeping with someone else.
I actually now a couple that is in an open relationship (don't know if that changed because of health issues both have). I was actually freaked out when her husband started flirting with me and asked her if it was ok with her and she said yes. Of course, in their case, the partner that the other person had chosen, had to meet with the other spouse. It was weird, but nice. Def not for me though. Just one night in bed with him, and then decided I'd rather be freinds. They are still together, but her health still wasn't that good for a while and he has his own problems too.
The first guy said “I had complaints about the relationship” so it sounds like there were some cracks in the foundation and her suggesting an open relationship was the last straw. As for your friends, it will be an awkward adjustment period to disentangle from your mutual friend group, but stick to your boundaries and who your real friends are will become clear.
Yeah tbh I think there is something else or a lot of things that build up to his nuclear reaction. He fell out of love way earlier before she even mentioned an open relationship.
I can guarentee her affection dropped long before open relationship was a thing to her. He knew something was up But not that she had SOMETHING Up her WAP. The open relationship was All the evidence he needed and BOUNCED like a Bad check 💁🏿♀️💁♀️💁🏾♀️💁♀️🤷🏾♂️😂
@@AlfieTank agreed, it was very surprising to hear that all the emotions OP had for his girlfriend went away the moment she suggested an open relationship, but there's probably more to this than we know. Maybe she's been like this for a while?
He made no effort, gave nothing to the relationship, was arrogant, thought himself to be superior to her, thought himself to be God's gift. He showed her no respect, no real love, no kindness. He did not support her in tough times. He did not support her dreams or ambitions. He did not make time for her willingly. He did not listen to her, or take her seriously. He did not SHOW that he cared about her. He blamed her for all the problems, whilst taking no responsibility HIMSELF. Then, he has the nerve to say 'I had complaints'. He needs to learn that HE must make the effort also.
@@tardislady9546 STFU
Ex brought this up towards the end of the relationship (I'm pretty sure she was cheating but I never snooped). We started talking about it and I was uncomfortable so I asked her questions like who she'd sleep with and if she had anyone in mind. She kept mentioning guys from work. I could tell she was turned on by it and was excited that it seemed I was into it. She got this glazed look in her eye and an accompanying blush at the thought of sleeping with these dudes regardless of my presence. The moment I started talking about girls I would bang, (some of them were her coworkers) and other girls who were close to me that she hated, her countenance changed and she shot down the idea. Apparently, the mental image of me with other women didn't sit well with her so she got upset and said it was a stupid idea. Lol. Apparently only she could step out and no other woman had the right to desire me in return.
Her behavior before, during and after our relationship was basically,*"I should go out and have fun with other guys but I want you around because you're the only one who cares about me and my family loves you"*. 2 years later and my life is much better while she is on Tinder doing whatever.
@K Dash Beta bux, alpha fucks.
@K Dash Yep. She dumped me later that year because she wanted to "see what is out there" but she tried to keep me around (her family, especially her mom adored me). I said no and became her enemy. She threw huge tantrum in a public park because of this. Like I said, I'm pretty sure she cheated on me (multiple times) but I never snooped because I found it "dishonorable".
Flop Shopping !
Say it with me now she's for the streets
That’s absolute crap what a joke. Yeah she sounds pretty selfish and I’d say you’re much better off.
The first story all I can say to the gf is congratulations you played yourself 😂😂
Real shit type it one more time for the people in the back 💯
When "keeping it real" goes wrong
Stupid games. Stupid prizes.
Breh the whole video was basically that hahahahaha, GOOD!!!
Cue gif
If my gf even entertained the idea of open-relationship or looked at someone more than a fantasy. She can just evacuate out of my life. I don't have time for that
Hell there’s nothing wrong with open relationships but if you propose one, be ready for rejection unless you are sure that is what you both want
@@brutustantheiii8477 Nah, the concept is not logical. Why be in a relationship if you want to sleep with other people? It doesn't make sense to me.
@@brutustantheiii8477 stds hiv you name it unwanted pregnancies running off cause you found a better lover oh nothing wrong with yeah right keep telling yourself that lie
@@brutustantheiii8477 there is if you dont want to be with multiple people. That means you would want your partner to remain with you too. Most humans cannot do that. Notice how even though she wanted it, she couldn't handle him doing it , lmao shes an idiot. She only wanted it for herself
@@eakintunde84 for the security
If your girlfriend says she lusts someone else or wants an open relationship, she is already emotionally disconnected from you and has been so for at least a few months. They ponder this for some time (othen with the help and encouragement from their "friends" or even after having initiated). You're now her her safety net. Either her plan B or her stable but now boring emotional provider. The worst part is that she does somewhat love you in a twisted kind of way as you are still the guy who will drop everything for her while she can search for attention, novelty and tingles elsewhere.
No man want to be that guy. So don't feel sorry for her or yourself. The women you loved died the minute that idea got engrained in her head. Move on and be happy with someone more deserving.
Well said. The only thing I would add is when you are with a person who genuinely wants to be with you and has a deep love and respect for you, they will not want to share you with somebody else. If you have been with someone who willingly does things to make you happy without you having to beg or plead, you'll understand what I am talking about.
The reaction of the exes to the breakups shows that they really wanted their cake and to eat it too. They wanted the excitement of new relationships, but the security of the beta simp at home. When the OPs broke up with them, they lost that security and needed to start a new relationship. Many girls, not all, won't break up with a guy until they have the next one lined up.
This is legit so true. And I'm a girl myself and I've witnessed the shit with my own eyes
It's called monkey branching.
Men provide soooooo much more than sex to a relationship, the average man truly loves and cherishes his mate and it totally breaks his heart to imagine another man with her. Its as if he's being violated!
Ouch! Way to call me out with that last line but hey, it's true. The only time I've been single since I started dating was for a year before I met my husband. You need time to be single to get confident in yourself and figure your own stuff out. And "monkey branching" (I like to call it "relationship leap-frog") does not lead to healthy relationships. In my experience at least.
@J. M. it's extremely hard to move on especially if you really love your wife. Its soul crushing, its almost like dying. You really have to pray to make it to the other side in good shape, but it can be done.
Of course he's less committed to her after losing monogamy. That's one of the reasons the drive for monogamy exists. So the father is more likely to commit all his time and resources to one mate and their offspring.
I don't get why people think we are now above millions of years of evolution.
Everyone is supposed to pretend that they don't know where babies come from. That's the only way their ideas about relationships make sense. Same for divorce, single moms, same-sex marriage, transgender kids being sterilized, "gender is a social construct", all the communist/feminist propaganda.
But if gender is a social construct, then so is being gay. If you're not born with a gender, you can't be born preferring your own gender.
@@customsongmaker ikr? Every leftist ideology is one big contradiction once you examing it for more than two seconds. If gender is a social construct. Then so is sexism/misogyny/transgenderism by default. It also means the B cancels out the T in lgbt. But it's easier to just call someone names/ism's the use on common logic .
The last story reminds me of another op who opened his marriage because the wife wanted to and the wife was having her fun for over a year before op met a really nice woman. Once the wife saw that he was smiling when texting or receiving a call from the new woman before that she didn't care that he was miserable during her "adventure" then she started to try to be the wife she was before. But it was too late he just did not see her as the woman he married anymore. She found out the manager she was seeing was only using her as a distraction but never thought of her seriously as he "loved" his fiance. Ruined her own relationship listening to her coworkers egg her on to have an open relationship.
I know exactly the story you are talking about.
You mean the one where the guy met a Korean lady right?
@@danielread8549 yeah thats the one I was talking about. The Korean woman was treating him better then the wife seemed to ever have. I kinda hope he updates again on his progress lately.
She is stupid to even listen to a bunch of divorced and bitter women, while she was still married.
@@Z.O.1991 yes and another one of her old coworkers ruined her relationship messing with the same manager after the ops wife did. Got pregnant but the stress caused her to miss carry and then her LTR boyfriend found the text chain between her and the manager and dumped her on the spot. She laughably went to ops wife to see how to fix things but didn't know op had moved out and wasn't trying to fix things.
I remember that story. The wife got jealous to the point of asking her husband what the other woman could do for him that she couldn't, that she would do it to close their marriage. He didn't answer her for what she could do. The other woman gave him back his dignity, self-respect, self-worth, confidence, emotional support/encouragement, she was a self-less giving lover, and made him think he could take on the world. Everything the wife threw away and denied her husband to go be with her crush. Play stupid games, win wonderfully stupid prizes.
Opening marriages/relationships is USUALLY(not always, by some cosmic fluke some people make it work) just a coward's way of ending a relationship because one or both are afraid to be alone or don't want to be labeled a cheater because they lack self control and morals.
When women tell you to sleep with other people it means she already sleeping with others.
Exactly
That was my thought too, especially when they push for it like that.
Thank you
@@Evulchair yup trying to cover up the guilt
Nail on the head
I wouldn’t accept an open relationship, no matter what my girlfriend wanted.
Yet you would demand that she accepted it if you wanted an 'open' relationship.
@@tardislady9546 No, I don’t approve of a open relationship in marriage. I would never ask for one. It doesn’t matter who asks for it, my wife would be having sex with other people. That is unacceptable.
@@rickjason215 The fact is, you would expect her to accept it, and not object, if YOU wanted the 'open' relationship, and all your claiming moral superiority will not change that fact.
@@tardislady9546 I’m a possessive jerk. I don’t like when people kiss my wife hello. My wife is the same way. Neither of us would accept an open relationship.
@@rickjason215 Yeah right. I am not an idiot. You would be willing to sleep around, and demand that your wife accept it without question. You do not love her, you see her as a possession.
An open relationship is an oxymoron, it can never work. Y'all aren't partners, you're friends with benefits
There are plenty of open relationships that last; the difference is that BOTH parties are upfront, open, communicate and most important BOTH AGREE BECAUSE THEY WANT TO! Not because they feel like it would hurt the other person, those will 100% fail.
@@lolly166541 What's the difference between that and fwb? Also when the parties have children. The kids get f*cked up. Open-relationships are for those with commitment issues tbh
@@triplemoyagames4195 You have the emotional connection, a stable back bone on which you can fall back, a person you love and desire a person you lust for. Sounds weird from the fixed Vanilla perspective you've got but that's simply the case. My ex and I had the rule that we'll always be home for the Night and NEVER, under no circumstances, EVER spend a Night somewhere else and most couples that I know that are in an open relationship have the same rule.
As soon as Kids get involved usually the Relationship will close down asap. I don't know of a single Couple that have kids in an Open relship. There probably are, no doubts but you usually don't tell your Kids about your sex life anyways.
I mean, maybe you're the type of person that would tell your daughter or son how you banged their mom with a banana last night on the Kitchen table in great detail; not judging you but that's usually not the case.
Thing is, you don't read about working Relationships on these Sites because why would they post about something that works well for them? If 100 people have an experience but only 10 post their negative feelings in regards to that experience, while the other 90 simply liked it and moved on with it. What type of posts will you see overwelmingly? Exactly, the 10 People with the bad experience while you have maybe one or two positives answer in the Comments.
@@lolly166541 I may be old-fashioned, and it could be my Christian faith chatting. But even before it didn't make sense. A wedding is joining of two families to one, two people join to become one (a child). Once you get married you have both agreed to stay together and be each other's, only partner. Open-relationships don't make sense, if you want to sleep around just be single and talk to your friends. I see no difference between fwb and open-relationships
I don't get it. It just demonstrates a lack of self-control so this a loop-hole. Commitment issues as you are unable to commit to one person the rest of your life. If you want to do it, then go ahead, just don't call it bf/gf thing or a husband/wife thing.
There are numerous stories of couples being monogamous with children involved. Some don't even hide it.
I doubt I would talk to me kids about my sex-life, that's just ludicrous. But my household would be an open one, as sex is God's gift, simply put.
@@triplemoyagames4195 Note she says they work... then refers to an EX as an example. Don't drink the Kool-aid. Poly can work, but usually doesn't, open just doesn't.
Man oh man, I am loving how this “open marriage polyamory lifestyle” is blowing up in so many peoples faces. Glad to see that nature is once again pushing us to a monogamous lifestyle if ever so slowly.
Only females are supposed to be monogamous. Men dont have to but he still cant be a dog
You love to see it
Who knew that pulling the rug out from under your partner by changing the terms of the relationship is risky busniess.
A functional polyamorous relationship starts as one with consent from all partys and with clear boundaries in place. Changing a relationship from mono to poly is like throwing four dices and hoping they all land on six. It can happen. But you better have a long hard think and decide if the slim odds of winning justify the near certainty of your partner leaving.
Agree and I honestly think these girls should give the guys a time limit. If you don’t want to marry me after 2 or 3 yrs then you don’t want to marry me, bye. I can see why staying with a guy for 6, 10, 11 yrs who has no intention of marrying them drives them to strange requests.
@@msnawrecka9786 so once again, it’s the mans fault when the woman cheats?! 🤦♂️ “he made me have sex with chad from work” 🤦♂️
Nonsense.
I couldn't marry a partner in a open relationship.
Been there, didnt last week.
@@seashellbeesaveres7951 my first gf had a girlfriend and wanted us all to do things together the day after we did stuff it started getting weird as she started making it seem like I was giving her gf more affection. So I started avoiding her gf and nothing Improved 🙃
Open relationship is pretty much friends with benefits. Why give her half your assets and alimony too? Makes no sense.
My husband and I have been in a (sort of) open relationship for years except it’s something we talked through and agreed on wanting before we got married. We’re happy and have very strong communication because of it. The big difference is we both wanted it rather than having one person trying to appease the other.
@@Mimiroo then you dont have a damn marriage when you got married it was you 2 not the whole damn world why did you get married just to brake your damn vows stupid thinking
These two examples show why enforcing good old-fashioned monog relationships just works for most people most of the time. Simple, clear rules, everyone knows what's expected. May not be perfect but you _can_ build a society on it... Which may explain a few things...
Also, some people are just too dumb to be allowed to think for themselves.
Ya ! But they can still vote !
That last line was gold lmao.
' All opinions are equal' and ' Don't ever judge others' are the bane of modern civilization.
This is the only way to respond to this nonsense, If you are not into this! If they want an open relationship give them what they want. Open the door and shove them through it......
Yea, it's just like BDSM and stuff. You can introduce your partner (if you have experience) to the Idea, explaining it to them from your point of view, what you hope to gain from it, what the relationship could gain from it etc. If the person doesn't want it, then you move on; Either with a new partner *or* with a middle ground where both people feel comfortable.
If she likes being the Rope Bunny but he doesn't like tying the partner up because he's not in to it or he's scared - maybe start with like Handcuffs to the bedpost.
But as he was against it from the beginning and only agreed to not wanting to hurt his girl - it was prone to fail. That's not how these things work.
If an open relationship is suggested from your SO, its most likely to late, just leave the mess with your head up.
If I'm in a relationship and my gf brings up an open relationship I'll simply tell her. "Okay. You're single now and open to be with as many guys as you want. When you later end up regretting it and try to come back to me I will pretend you don't exist. So. Bye."
Yet you would demand that she accepted it if you wanted an 'open' relationship.
@@tardislady9546 Except I never would want one because i don't do open relationships.
@@tardislady9546 Not many men wants an open relationship. It is mainly women who do.
@@lildroptop4178 Rubbish! It's usually men who seek 'open' relationships, so they can cheat, but they still want their clothes washed and ironed, food prepared, and children kept out of their way.
@@tardislady9546 who hurt you saweetie
I rarely heard of open relationships until this past year and now it seems that women have gone nuts for this as a way to cheat on their SO without "cheating", usually secure in the knowledge that the guy won't be able to find anyone while she goes out and does whoever she had her eyes on. It is funny when I read about guys either dumping them for even suggesting it or being more successful than them at finding new partners. I would recommend that you just dump her as she has already shown you what her character is and will cheat on you sometime in the future.
As a side note, women seem to be going out of control with their lust. I'm reading on Reddit about 19 year olds with a 50+ body count and women that married early thinking that they missed out on all the "fun" of getting pumped and dumped. I thank God that I'm too old to care about women any more as I'd hate to be participating in this mess.
Oh it's a scene man
Yeah, I don't know if this will lead to a more lonely, narcissistic, depressed, population when they reach their later years, or it will lead to them finding some meaningful fulfillment in their lives looking back, but as a younger guy I've already checked out. I always felt disillusioned with how culturally trendy it is to undermine the significance of sex and meaningful relationships, I guess I just chalked it up to me being old fashioned and boring lol.
It's interesting how the thought of "cheating" or "open relationships" or just the "thought of going out of control over lust" reminds you of just women. Very interesting indeed.
@@mohammadmeu SIMP
@@jacksongunner7122 CRINGE
"We never discussed how many partners would be acceptable."
Why would you go into an open relationship situation and not iron out details? Fail to plan, plan to fail.
Because she was so excited at that he said yes, plus the fact that she assumed(whole heartedly)he couldn't pull a new chick.
Is there supposed to be a limit?
@@randomduck8679 that depends on the people involved. Apparently, she wanted a limit. Or wanted one after she saw how easy it was coming to him.
She didn't discuss rules because she thought her man wouldn't have any success in their "arraignment" Now that she saw that he doesn't actually need her, she is losing her mind.
Open relationships always end bad for men most times. It’s a female benefit seeing they don’t have to work for pleasure.
I was in a similar situation some odd years back. Things were fine when it first started then she suggests we have an open relationship out of the blue. I had surmised that she already had another person lined up and just wanted to have permission to cheat without guilt while still being with me until she eventually break off the relationship. She also thought I wouldn't be able to find anyone, forgetting how I ended up getting her in the first place. So, I started talking to her "best friend" at the time who hated me.. at first, but only because she was bi and liked my ex as well. Then the more we talked, the more she grew to like me, which lead to her admitting to liking me and wanting something more. So we fucked around for a bit but she felt guilty because while we had the go-ahead, we didn't tell the ex that we were screwing around. We tell the ex, but as it turns out, the ex was rejected by the other guy she wanted so she was incredibly jealous and upset- thus lead to her demanding to call the open relationship off, with her being mad at both me and the best friend for "betraying" her trust.. I laughed it off and said she was the one that suggested it in the first place and went ahead and called both relationships off. None of us are on speaking terms anymore and while I'm not all that proud of the way I handled things, I am happy that I stood up for myself. She tried to pull a fast one on me, but I was better at the game.
Isn't it funny how Karma always seems to catch up to these DELUSIONAL FOOLS that think that open relationships will enhance their relationship ?
1st story, she didn't go crazy after the break, she always was. The mask just fell off.
Second story:
Funny how it was only a problem when OP's girlfriend found out that OP was able to pull other women. Can't get upset if she created the situation.
1: Well done to OP for having some self respect. That one commenter who said she just wanted permission to cheat had it right. Now she can freely chase after that guy she wanted so badly.
2: It seems like open relationships rarely work out. I've seen this a few times where the one who wanted an open relationship gets mad because the partner is also seeing other people. Was the partner supposed to just sit at home alone until they're done fucking around?
It's because lack of communication and being forced in to one. Proper Open Relationships work just fine, but there are rules... many many rules.
An open relationship is no relationship at all. If you go from committed to open, you broke up.
usually that happens mainly because only one side wants, and sees as "permission ro cheat", so when that same person sees the partner with someone else they see as the partner was cheating
Story #1 Girlfriend asks for an open relationship. Boyfriend doesn’t play that game. He gives her a reality check and kicks her ass to the curb. Boy, reality really sucks doesn’t it?
Finally someone saw where it was heading and ended it
All these women wanting to wallow in hypergamy and beg for open relationships lol. Becoming more and more prevalent.
More women are starting to loose self respect
No. 1 was trying to monkey branch but he pulled his branch away before she had another one firmly in her grasp.
As another commenter pointed out, an open relationship is an oxymoron. If you aren't monogamous, then you aren't in a relationship. What people don't seem to understand is that the only thing that makes someone special is the time you have shared with them. All these people obsessed with hook up are basically people who just keep playing the tutorial in a video game over and over again. Relationships are more than just "thrills." At the end of the day, the happiest memories are the "dull" times that you didn't appreciate in the moment. Any two people can bond while having fun, but it's the bonding that happens during boredom and routine that means something.
Today, I'd rather be able to relive one quiet meal with my grandparents than relive all my sexual encounters.
Anyone who doesn't understand this can never succeed in any relationship.
Well said..👌👍
The only time i have ever seen an open relationship work is when it started open.
Yeah. As someone in an open marriage, I can't imagine trying to make that work after any length of time. I'm sure it's happened and everyone's fine but it's got to be rare as hell.
@@dergluckliche4973 yeah it has to be open from the beginning. No way you can just make it open after 5 years or whatever time
Huh, interesting
I want to talk about an open marriage translates as: i am already ducking a few others.
If your SO ever asks you for an open relationship, they're either about to cheat, or already have.
Guys if she asks for an open relationship, its over.
I've seen this story play out many times. They want to have their cake and eat it to. They want you to be the safe, secure and faithful boyfriend while they have their fun. She doesn't love you, she loves your resources. Its over.
What she really wants is a one sided open relationship where only she has the right to date other men but once her boyfriend finds someone else she wants to close the relationship. This is like wanting to have her cake and eat it too while denying her partner any cake.
First story. Yes. Finally. This is what i like to see. Instantly dropped her. This is what a secure man looks like. Women will try to convince us the opposite but an insecure man would have stayed cuz he'd know he can't do better than her. This Chad is secure enough to drop her instantly knowing he has many options and turns out he was right, judging by his hook up.
That comment about bonobos tho.
If he learned that where I think they did, then they also know they are dying off.
Why are they dying off?
@@jagosevatarion8822 If you are still interested, then:
low reproductive rate + poaching/deforestation
@@tamasrehany6532 Notice how the female bonobos treat their men. And compare that to modern females. See a coorelation?
She became..overtly insane!
I fucking LOVE it when the open relationship idea backfires on whomever proposes it.
Any woman dating me: "I want an open relationship!"
Me: "There's the door. GTFO!!!"
Dead bolt door after I push her out!!!
I wish these people would realize when their SO brings up the idea of an open relationship, it means they're already cheating and want an excuse for it
1st Story: She may or may not have slept with work guy, she pushed too hard for an open relationship. It was obvious that she had PLANS and it never occurred to her that he wouldn't want any part of that. The way she, her sister, and their friends acted, none of them are mature enough to handle an actual open relationship. I'm just sorry that she keeps showing up in his life
An open relationship is just a way to let whoever screw around without the guilt....F@CK THAT! Personally If my wife of 15 years wanted an open relationship I'd be getting a divorce pretty quick
A three way is one guy two girls, two guys and one girl is a train. - Patrice Oneal
So it’s expected that the women are bisexual, but the men aren’t? Because that feels like the implication
@@breedlejuice8691 there are two guys one girl threesomes but yep, most girls are bisexual
@@breedlejuice8691 You can infer what ever you like sweetie, it doesn't make a difference to my statement.
@Kageyama’s Milk a scientific study has been done and most women are aroused by men and women never mind how comfortable women are with kiss and touching on their friends, not only that but powerful men would have multiple wives and that’s also part of it because it benefited women to be bi but men aren’t as bi as women but still it affects us, like how cowboys were mostly gay because women weren’t around them a lot, but yea, multiple women can have one man’s child so they can pass on genes more then bi men
@Kageyama’s Milk I can say stuff like this because I’m done sugarcoating stuff
the golden rule in having an open relationship is both parties need to be all in on it and not forced to do it in order to keep the peace
And that has to be the beginning of the situation in the first place. Because it's not a relationship at all, it's FWB. You can't go from committed to open, that's called a break up with benefits. Also, neither can be subsidizing the other's life (living together, splitting rent, paying each other's bills) because then at least one of you is a sucker.
When she's PG how many bad boys gonna stop by the Hospital to see whose kid it is ?
@@johnowen9349 lol it's nothing like FWB :))))) you actually do pay each other's bills, buy cars, share bank accounts, etc. It's the same as a monogamous relationship you just get to bang other people from time to time. FWB has no business in your actual private life and other things.
@@elyeliza8287 its exactly like FWB. Only difference is you decided to be a chump and go from Mono to Poly
If a woman says the words "open-relationship", open the door and get rid of her. That way she can have as many relationships as she wants and you don't have to deal with any of her drama.
Anyone suggesting an open relationship probably already has someone lined up without it being called cheating. If they're so willing to change the terms of the relationship you need to find someone else.
Story 1: it's likely she was already stepping out with someone else and the open relationship was to alleviate some guilt.
Story 2: she's only mad because he found better lays. She wanted a guy to provide and a guy to ride. He should just dump her already, but keep the fwb's.
#3
"We never talked about how many partners we'd have. "
This means she wanted to be married and have another relationship with someone else.
'OPs with spine'edition . Good vid
Ex is a huge yikes. I’m so happy he broke up with her immediately.
She went from lukewarm to full boil pretty quickly. I'm pretty worried for OP, that kind of crazy often ends up in violent dysfunction, guy needs to watch himself.
STORY 1: They were together how long and still didn't even live together?
Yeah, it wasn't going anywhere anyway and he deep down knew it. As soon as she gave him such an obvious out he pulled the trigger.
Ah yes, the "I want to cheat on you, but I don't want to feel guilty. Also you better don't date anyone else" tactic. Totally will work /s
When OP mentioned his ex's sister I was so afraid he'd say he slept with her.
Well, he was single at that point. If she wanted to climb on the seat was unoccupied.
I had a casual (non-sex) relationship with a girl who eventually saw that there were a few prospects and/or potential competitors for my affection from other girls in the area. She immediately attempted to gaslight and tell lies to people that she and I were in a much more committed relationship. Not cool. Considering that I wasn't in any type of sexual relationship with the girl only told me that manipulation was a possibility with her and I couldn't stop feeling that sense that the only reason she wanted to be with me was because other people wanted me. This is why ghosting is the preferred behavior for men.
Well ghosting is preferred because it also gets us in less legal trouble. When I had an abusive cheating ex, i ghosted her for the most part. After awhile I tried talking(not getting together) because i liked her family, I guaranteed to NEVER be alone with her. Eventually i just ghosted her for good.
@@zibix4562 Thanks for the response. Yes, I understand why men would prefer to not be alone with a woman because of the risk of false accusations. True or not, it's just safer.
Open relationship is just an excuse to cheat and not feel bad. Just like when they say “we need to go on a break”
Anyone who asks for an open relationship thinks they're the only one that's gonna get to use it. An open relationship isn't a relationship at all.
It can be but it requires special people that, at best, at the very begining, or at least, soon after any exlusivity is decided make a set of baseline rules that they *abide* by and do not break at any point in time.
Jelousy is also a big factor and will *definitely* become a factor if two people have been dating or are married for any longer than a month, give or take.
The women in these reddit stories don't want open or poly relationships, they want the freedom to fuck anyone they want while their beta waits obidiently at home.
@@anelbegic2780 i'm not sure bro, in the few "Open relationships" Ive been, after knowing she fucks another dude I can't feel anything. Never consider opening up your marriage, and if the relationship gets open, just leave dude. It's gross to think your partner slept with somebody else
@@Hugex97 that's subjective tho. It's not objective. I cannot be in a open relationship tho
It always follows the same pattern:
- She cheats or is about to -> Asking for an open relationship
- He agrees and does what you do in an open relationship -> Starts multiple relationships successfully.
- She's mad he succeeded and wants to close it again, he won't
> End of the relationship of these two.
Well my question would be "How open is an 'open relationship' ". I can't see a problem with an open relationship if everything is "open", including, no cohabitation/key exchanges, no joint accounts, no crossing of "passwords", having scheduling in advance for dates/excursions, keeping friend pools as separate as possible, time-limited communication, etc. Now, you might say "Hey, wait, that sounds like 'no relationship at all' " ... and you would be right. So my point is, for those of you who are dense in interpretation of written language, if a relationship is TRULY open, there is no relationship, and if she suggests it, its a one way door for her to keep all of the important advantages of a relationship, while having her most important responsibilities and commitments waived.
Well said
@@yettiluch1 Thanks
Yes, this! An open relationship is no relationship at all. If you go from a committed relationship to an open relationship, you broke up.
"open" is about the sex... not the bank, not the passwords, not the bills, not the joint accounts, and you pretty much make up whatever rules you want. they have to be placed before anything happens to avoid all confusion... aka if your dad is off limits or not ROFL :))) it's sooo much work.... different strokes for different folks i guess...
@@elyeliza8287 My guess is that you read a book on relationships, and not a very good one at that. Everybody here knows what "open" means, in the modern frame of reference, and my diatribe is illustrating the necessity of making it truly "open" given the open "sex thing". Crudely put, "pussy" can be available now days to just about any man willing to, at the least, fake the predominate conditions women seek. What fun is that in the long run ? Wouldn't it be nice to have a viable companion who is willing to provide meaning in a relationship of sufficient quantity/quality to offset her natural "drive to drama/self-destructiveness". She would of course have to self moderate (there's no societal restraints to her anymore) based on your guidance on that front, as an adjunct to you self moderating the more unacceptable aspects of your own personality flaws, based on her reasonable guidance. Its like that very rare, "olden times" concept of "build each other up" But the big question is "Where are you going to find one of those unicorns ?".
The open relationships that I've seen work generally started out as open relationships. Both partners are into open relationships in general, and this was the understanding from the word go. Monogamous relationships that are suddenly "opened" usually involve one partner who was just playing along to maintain the relationship. And in these cases, the partner wanting to open the relationship often actually just wanted to have an affair with a particular person, and figured it wouldn't be so bad if s/he let the other partner have some fun too. Eventually, the "playing along" partner realizes this was just window dressing on an affair, not a serious polyamorous relationship. And the relationship breaks up.
92% time it doesn't work
There is only one reason why women try to open their relationship, which is to check what is their current sexual market value. If they find men better than their current boyfriend/husband they can leave them now without worries and if they can't find men better than their current boyfriend/husband they want to close relationship back quickly.
This is also known as hypergamy.
Story 2: Do NOT get into an open relationship unless you are 100% comfortable with your SO actually being with other people. Dear god how stupid are people. And, hell, if you want an open relationship, do your research completely before you even approach the subject. Talk to couples, not just one side, that are in one. Get both sides of it. Because I can guarantee that 98% of people don't want to actually be in an open relationship if they knew everything.
When your partner says they want a open relationship what they really mean is open for them, not for you.
"Police Man and his amazing sidekick Restraining Order" broke me into hysterical laughter.
hold on hold on. she wanted an open relationship then got mad cause he was 'cheating' on her??? what kind of logic is that???
Logic and women...oil and water
See I'm so confused, polyrelationships are loopholes for cheating in all these stories but the story where the mom didn't want her kids polyrelationship over at Christmas got decimated with YTAs.
That’s very true most poly relationships and open relationships don’t work out due to lack of honesty
Story 2 is confusing as hell she got mad that he was sleeping with other women even tho she suggested it 🤦♂️ like what
I don't think she expected him to actually do it and then she got pissed when he seemed to be enjoying himself.
@@philmore1871 but still what was the thought behind that stupid choice you can’t have your cake and eat it to
What she meant was she was going to bang anyone anytime and he was suppose to be home eagerly awaiting everyone elses seconds
@@mcleod56ify Most women spend their entire lives being absolved of responsibility, protected from consequences, and being told it's not right when they can't get away with either previous option. It's perfectly normal to find grown women who think they can have their cake and eat it too.
@@johnrencheck2283 Pussy timeshare
Second story:
The OP misunderstood what the gf meant by an "open relationship".
Only she was supposed to screw other people.
He was meant to stay at home and live like a monk until she got bored/got dumped.
Amazing how often the open relationship backfires on the one who wanted it when their partner realises they can do better.
Usually women pick men that are above their own league, men that would be desirable by multiple others.
finally someone with a backbone.
The Way she wanted to solve it with more infidelity just like what ruined the relationship.... Just shows how she thinks. She only cares about sex and thus assumes that he must also want that.
If she even breathes the suggestion of an open relationship, drop her
If you are in a relationship and want to lust after someone different, lust after fictional characters or actors there's no way you'll sleep with them
Unless is ,you know, obsessively
Story 1. When someone brings up wanting an open relationship it's time to run, no going back.
No judgement for those that do, but me personally I could never do an open relationship especially if it seemed based off a crush. He made the right decision. I would have gave the shirts and receipt back and tell her to get her money back. She wouldn’t stay loyal if she pressed that hard about it and would eventually breaks. He needs to change all his passwords and if she gets crazy get a restraining order.
She can have an open relationship. So open that you aren't in it anymore. Ahhh freedom.
I think it’s funny how the person who suggests the open relationship idea is only thinking at their wants of sleeping with others without the guilt but don’t want their s/o sleeping with others and fail to realize that’s what a open relationship is having multiple sex partners on both sides not just one
Open relationship means the end of your relationship!
No one in their right mind, proposes or even participates in such disgusting acts!
6:45 best response I've heard to one of these so far
Listen kids, if a woman EVER asks you for a open relationship she is 100% already cheating.
My gf did this. I told her that if we did, our relationship is never going to be the same. And I'd loss interest and love. She's. Poly but said it's worth just being with me . My situation is more complicated, but if it was common relationship if she brought this up I would have broken it off on the spot. Or I guess a few days it took me 3 days to think this thru originally. Tldr if u mono and ur girl not break up! Lol
So what happened? Are you still with her ?
I always found it weird how certain groups of people entertain, promote, and even swear that open relationships are the way to go. Why even bother being in a relationship if all you want are friends with benefits?
The first story, the guy wanted to break up from time. Let's be honest, he was just looking for any reason to hop out and he found it.
The second story, open relationships are for fools and one person always benefits more than the other and the one that brings it up almost always wants to fuck someone without being considered a cheater. Just leave at that point