Our Gender Reveal/ Welcome To Hell - RELAX #27
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- Опубліковано 21 лип 2021
- Colleen and Erik talk about some exciting news and what happens next. PLUS they take some advice from an expecting twin mom that strikes a bit of fear when she plainly “welcomes them to Hell.”
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erik coming onto the podcast with temporary truck tattoos is the best this ever
thing
Imagine him getting on set and the makeup artist having to take a deep breath and getting the oil cleanser out and mentally adding the extra time it's going to take to get him on set!
Any one.... oh.. just me 😬
I always thought they were legit tattoos made to look like stickers because they were always there lmao so it turns out he's been putting on new ones when the old ones fade
@@azukichiu saw
You can’t forget the other arm is paw patrol
I’m a twin and when my mom first had us, she tried walking through a doorway holding both of us. She smacked my head on the door frame and freaked out. Then she went to turn to make sure I was okay and smacked my sister’s head on the doorframe lol.
Oh noo... hahah! Shee must have felt so panicky!
Idk I should laugh or feel bad
It's like the movie Blended
I feel bad for laughing. Your poor heads you two and your mum. Poor thing would have been so panicky already and then this happens. Hope everything was good
😅
Erik really is amazing. When Colleen was crying and frustrated about not being able to work as much as she wants, he immediately just went into reaassurance mode and hyped her up/complimented her a lot and made her laugh so she would feel better.
It's so great to see such a healthy and fulfilling relationship.
Ikr he is the most supportive husband ever. This is the best episode so far
fr i loved this episode so intimate and personal
I know 😭. Sso sweet. They are GOALS 💜💜💜
Ikr they’re the cutest couple ever 🥺 #Erikleen
Yas. Pregnancy hormones are wild. And he's such an amazing guy, loving husband and one hell of a cool dad.
Okay! So as a trans man, who has watched and loved your videos and family for 10 years I want to say this to you. Yes of course Gender is a spectrum and can change over time as someone grows into their self BUT you are allowed to have stereotypical thoughts of genders. I am someone who had to medically change to be my correct gender BUT I will still find out the gender of my baby, I still imagine certain things when I think "Boy" and certain things when I think "Girl" it does not make you a bad person! You love for Flynn and your unborn babies is so visible and that is all that matters. Don't feel scared to have those thoughts and day dreams. You are two amazing people and two amazing parents, please don't be hard on yourselves.
i love this!!! you’re so sweet for writing this :)
Jordan, thank you so much for posting this comment. I was considering writing a comment about how, as a Trans guy, I’ve always imagined myself as becoming a parent to a baby boy. I’ve always wanted a baby girl, too, but it’s just my life experience that I was a “girl”, born after an older boy, and I related to the boys and guy characters and my first baby cousin was a boy and it’s just the experience I’ve grown up seeing. I can’t think of the right words right now but I just wanted to thank you again, and to thank Colleen and Christopher for being open with their conversation of the concept of mourning the thought of the life you imagined in the other way.
Mom of boy/girl twin here! Double stroller - single wide, with car seat attachments - plop the babies from the car to the stroller and wheel right through those doorways! Add the toddler standing-board attachment too, and you’ve got 3 kiddos all ready to go! You’ve got this!!
colleen, I have a suggestion for a topic, it MIGHT be too personal, and it's totally ok if you don't want to talk about it.
But you always talk about your religious upbringing, and church and all that. And the Halloween stuff and all that. But when I see Gwen on videos and Rachel's podcast, she doesn't seem like a fanatic, she seems actually very kind and respectful and progressive. Was there some like light that shone on your parents for them to grow beyond the Church's limitations? Was it gradual, just them keeping up with the times? were you the one contesting things first, or trent/chris/rachel?
Again, I know this might be personal, but whenever you bring up religion and your college and stuff, I always get so curious to know how your family went from point A to point B
can’t answer for her but i think the reason why is because they’re grown? maybe i’m not sure
yes i’ve always been so interested in this as well! i hope she talks about it someday
I want to know this too! I grew up similarly to Colleen and my parents still think the same way. When I see her parents in vlogs I’m so impressed that they think the way they do and are as kind, welcoming and open as they seem! I’d love to know more details.
Yeeeees please
I’ve been wondering this as well. I know Colleen/Rachel/Chris have been asked this over the years, but I doubt they’ll answer it since it’s more so their parents’ journey and experience. Maybe Gwen will say something on ATI before it ends, who knows. Anyways, I’m glad that they’re more open minded now
I feel like the boy baby will be shy and calm like Erik and the girl baby will be upbeat and fun like colleen.
Lol i saw this comment before on another relax video
I agree! And Flynn is a mix of each!
No hate but Colleen said these same exact words in her video
@@avikakumar2939 Oh sorry I didn't realize that. Still so excited for these twins tho!
@@richelleopal2918 no no it’s ok..I might be wrong, my memory is a bit fuzzy. But this happens to me too sometimes.
You should call Terry again and do a reading like you did when you were pregnant with fylnn.
Yesss and I swear if she would’ve said something to do with trucks I’d literally lose it like oh my goooood
This needs a million up votes!
Flynn*
this !!!!!!
YESSS
Colleen on the podcast: “no they can’t see my belly button!”
Colleen in the vlogs: “I’m in my bra, but here’s my bump today” 😂😂
The sponsors might get offended lol
“Derik’s” tattoos are EVERYTHING!😂
😂😂😂😂😂
Ohh I thought those were stickers? They look like stickers or fake tattoos that you can put on
@@mondrella627 the truck ones look like tattoos to me but the paw patrol ones could go either way🤔
He had some on last week too
All I think of is how cute him and Flynn are putting those tattoos on ❤️ great family vibes ❤️
I noticed them in the vlogs! I wonder if they're temporary tattoos? They look awesome!
I love how many kid tattoos/stickers are on Eric. New and old faded ones lol. That's a sign of a great dad!!
Erik.
I'm going through the worst heartbreak of my life and watching your relationship really gives me hope that one day I'll find my person the way you two did.
literally same! stay strong love🤍
@@giuliacacciatore4765 you too bb
Me tooo 💗💗💗
Same here. I love watching their relationship and dynamic 🖤🖤 hope you guys are doing better now!
I know everyone says this but honestly, I literally can't believe they are having twinssss
Same
I LOVE YOUR PFP SO MUCH-
That's how I felt when I was having twins. Absolute biggest shock of my life!!! I still can't believe I have 6 year old twins lol. We've made it 6 whole years! 🥴🥰🙏😂🖤🖤🖤
I miss when there were time stamps in the description!! Please bring that back :((
I'm sure this sounds weird, but if you're worried about being out of the house with the twins and Flynn, you might want to teach Flynn to hold onto something that you're wearing, like a keychain or something that you can attach to a belt loop on your pants, or the strap on a bag you're carrying. This way you can know that he's staying close to you, but you'll also have your hands free to carry the twins.
Good idea. Also, I don’t think anyone who’s walking any kind of far distance usually holds 2 little babies in their arms. Most likely stroller that holds 2 or car seats! I mean to me, I’d be anxious I’ll trip and drop them. Around the house she might carry both, who knows 🤷🏻♀️
Erik is just an amazing man, father, husband, ect. Not just that but he's perfectly fitted for Colleen as a person that it's just do amazing. It's awesome to see that kind of relationship, it just feels really healthy? Lol I hope that made any sense at all.
Prep Flynn about being patient and waiting for his turn and for attention before the twins come. Mommy and Daddy love him even if they can’t be with him all the time.
That’s a good point, he’s so used to undivided attention
That’s a great point! Thanks for adding that!
As someone in customer service, a lot of times we are trained to be agressive like that to deter shoplifting and to justify the company paying us. It's so ridiculous and stupid.
Yeah, I'd bet money that speech was company policy. Although I never heard that reasoning, the retail job I had preached zealous customer service and called it "going above and beyond."
@@MsSmile300 it is that's why I never go to buckle lol. I understand wanting to deter shoplifting, but a security system, cameras, the machines at the front of the store that detect the little clip things left on clothes...so many things that don't involve braiding the costumers.
Yeah, I used to work for Safeway and they trained us and we got in trouble if we didn't act like that towards customers, especially if the feedback was from a secret shopper.
@@whitykitty2651 I work at Buckle and it is so so embarrassing and annoying having to treat the customers that way. It makes me so uncomfortable, especially when they obviously don’t want or need my help but I’ll get in trouble if I’m not in their face showing product 😭😭
Yeah same! We get in trouble of we dont further push you to buy our membership
I do love hearing Erik talk about how he feels about having twins and soon being a father of three. Guys don't often share their feelings like this and I'm sure it could help a bunch of dads to hear that. I love how supportive of Colleen he is, their kids are so lucky to have these two to raise them!
I agree! If dads are going to be able to be as involved as we and they want to, they also must have a space and voice to talk about all that goes in to raising and expecting children!
Thank you for understanding when we may have to slow/block traffic or close a lane or two during an accident. Please know, we really don't like doing it and only do so to keep us and our patient(s) safe.
Sincerely, your friendly 🚑 guy.
I appreciate that you rephrased being "broken" if you are infertile. For those struggling with infertility, the idea of brokenness is such a heartbreaking psychological component of the condition and can really damage a person's sense of self during the process of trying to conceive. I am the mother of a donor conceived child and do not see myself as broken. I see myself as someone who benefitted from incredible science (as you mentioned) and the tremendous generosity of our egg donor. I also see myself as a devoted and whole woman and mother.❤
♥️
So unbelievably happy for you!! Hearing stories like yours make me smile ear to ear.
She’s a horrible person for this.
@@abbyolivia As someone that struggled with infertility for 10+ years. I referred to myself as "broken". To refer to it as the "proper" word only reminded me that I WAS INFERTILE!!! The fact that I couldn't get pregnant for 10+ years was a VERY good reminder every single month of every single year that I was INFERTILE. So, "broken" was a better term. If something didn't work, it's broken.
@@chriswaite9197 to each their own.
i sat right by Erik when I saw you in Waitress and you can see how incredibly proud of you he is. It’s literally on his face.
cried just listening to Erik stumble through and try to answer the question, "how are you?" I know for men, and especially GOOD men who truly love, care and protect their families as fiercely as he does, it can be difficult to allow yourself the space to say that you're also struggling. Erik, remember you can't pour from an empty cup. You're having a human experience and reaction to all of this just as Colleen is; you are valid.
This!
It is ok to hire help when you feel overwhelmed. Like Christopher and Jessica have done.
This!
Definitely! No judgment for it! 💜
How cool will it be to see Flynn be so amazed at seeing his mom on stage again, performing for a packed audiance!? Cause the last time Colleen toured, Flynn was too little to remember it so now it's gonna be so awesome to see him experience it and maybe be involved on stage too!
My grandma didn’t know she was having twins (aka my mom and her identical twin) and I cannot imagine how she was feeling, because it had to have been so different than her first pregnancy with one baby and she didn’t know why!
Also she was 4’11” so she must have just been all babies.
erik wearing temporary truck tattoos is the cutest dad thing i’ve ever seen.
When they did the Raycon ad, I couldn’t stop thinking about how much Colleen HATES Bluetooth. 😂
SAME lol
Love how she says "My friend JOJO." Like she just your common every day, Jo. Haha
But... she is her friend... im sorry if i dont get the joke pl someone make me understand
@@ananyarayaprol like shes not famous. But she is.
Colleen: *hates bluetooth*
Colleen on the podcast: these headphones are the best, I use them all the time!!
Me: ......we love a sponsored queen 😂
I thought I remembered her ranting about her hatred of cordless earbuds before 😂
I thought the same thing!!! Girl, you hate Bluetooth!!!!
Thought the exact same thing!! Giiiiirl nice try we know you hate Bluetooth and definitely don’t use them while editing. IDGAF though, get that Raycon coin 👏👏
OMG YESSSS LOLOLOLOL
tbh the mourning for something you imagined that’s not happening anymore makes complete sense to me. also, this episode highlights how much y’all could probably use a nanny or some kind of helper once the twins come (or even now).
And Flynn is the prime age for preschool. It would be best to start him before the babies arrive so he's transitioned and has something to look forward to that's part of his "normal."
They probably won't do it, but I think it would be a great thing for him.
ugh the beginning where colleen and erik are being cute before the graphic fades away is always my favorite
I agree with Eric, this podcast felt very intimate. Very kind of you to let us sort of get a glimpse into your thought processes and conversations about life and future.
Colleens face when she felt one of the babies move and took Erik hand and put it on her stomach was adorable and so sweet. ❤️
the way that erik tried to comfort colleen and talk her through getting emotional towards the end of the podcast was the cutest thing
I wonder if Flynn would enjoy going to a little preschool program like 3 days a week when the twins come. He’s so social and I feel like it would be such a fun outlet for him
Speaking of relaxing and customer service here is a Fun fact: Walmart tried to enter the German market and failed misserably. One major factor was the customer service. Employees said hi to customers and asked them if they needed help, that's too invasive for German liking. Just leave us alone!
Walmart is the worst, especially Sams club they are pushed so hard to upsell
Well they should’ve stuck with their American methods or basically hiding from the customers.
Americans going into a German market: The worker yelled at me.
Every woman needs a man like Erik he so loving and protective
Erik is the only hope I have that there might be a good man for me out there lol
My goal in life is to have a relationship with someone the way Colleeen and Eric do
Why do I cry every time Colleen does while she is pregnant. I cannot wait for her blogs once she has the twins. I loved those after she had Flynn.
I absolutely love how Erik reassures Colleen that it’s okay to be emotional. Thank you. I cried for absolutely no reason today because of hormones and I think this is one of the best ways you can help your partner ❤️
As someone who works in customer service, yes as they said we *have* to give the whole spiel, BUT we're also basically getting graded on how many people we sign up/help out :( I don't think anyone likes being aggressive, but we're literally pressured to insist
i’ve heard so many stories on this. it must be a horror to work retail😂
@@ashalexandra6514 it is the WORST!
I can definitely relate to that.
That moment when Colleen starts getting emotional and Erik holds her hand. 🥺
Cops sometimes do that to allow passage from the left side to the ride side; my dad and I broke down on the 405 carpool lane then we got to walk across the empty freeway. It was rad.
I have had the cop car thing happen, when they haven't block the road yet for major accidents, then they have you exit to the right.
My husband 3 minutes into the podcast: “As someone who has worked both in an ice cream stand and as a museum tour guide, I feel personally attacked right now.” 😂
Bahaha!
Clicked faster than Colleen could say “I’m still pregnant.” ☺️💕
I love that Erik gets so excited over “bump check” 😂
57:48 Erik just produced the most amazing line for poetry/ song writing??
“It’s set in stone so to speak, it’s set in paper on our wall in ink”
I have never been more emotionally invested in a total stranger's pregnancy before 😂. I'm living for it honestly. You are already such amazing parents so I cannot wait to see you smash having twins 💜💜💜💜💜💜
Around the 30 minute mark you started talking about mourning the loss of an idea of a child being a certain gender. I can completely relate to that because when I found I don’t I was having a girl I had lost that idea of me having a son. She’s six months old now & I love every bit of her no matter her gender.
The kind of support and love and patience Erik has for Colleen is so wild. Actual goals. 🥺
“Have you done your research?”
“Absolutely not!!”
😂😂😂
Omg THANK YOU. I found out a couple months ago that I'm having a boy and I feel so sad about it, but more than that I feel so guilty for feeling this way. I never thought I'd ever have a boy, I grew up with 5 sisters and already have a girl. I imagined my children being sisters and that has been a hard thought to let go of. Thank you for helping me through that. I'm crying feeling a bit better knowing I'm not completely a terrible person 😭
Ahhh I'm one half of boy/girl twins and it has been the greatest gift of my life. I'm a little overemotional in general today, but there's been a handful of times in my life where I've come SO CLOSE to giving up but felt so deeply that I had to keep going because I was meant to be there for my twin- and he has said the same. Big congrats!!!!!!
I loved this episode. So personal, humane and real.
This!
My daughter works at bed bath and beyond and they HAVE to ask for an email and if they don't get enough emails they get "talked to" by management. I'm on board with just checking out and not giving a bunch of info and I don't think businesses should punish the employees for not getting enough emails! 🤷🏼♀️
When I was in a car wreck on the interstate, someone had ran me off the road into the concrete guard, the police officer had to use that technique to stop traffic so I could move my car to the right side of the road and not be hit. It's definitely a useful maneuver and I was thankful when he did it.
This may have been my favorite episode so far. Love hearing you guys give such honest and intimate perspectives on having a family while still following your other dreams.
As hard as Colleen is on herself (which I know she’s working on and is doing great), she could never know how much she inspires me
I hope she didn’t inspire you to insinuate and joke that those who have to do IVF are broken.
How does she inspire you? Genuinely curious.
Erik hyping you up is everything, stay strong mama. One workaholic to another, youre kicking butt!
I love that this was posted just as I sat down to eat!
sameeeee ✨perfect timing✨
@@kelseysullivan5312 yes! ♥️
@@ItsRiky- their minds!
So relatable
I feel like you should look up articles like “the best part of having twins”
Sitting here crying with you as you're emotional... you are so inspirational and you will be such a strong pillar I'm all 3 of your babies lives. They're lucky to have such amazing parents and family around them to always uplift and celebrate them
Who needs to relax? The people that clearly hate Colleen continuing to watch her content and comment degrading things about her! Anyone with an ounce of discernment can tell Colleen is a good person. If something she says rubs you the wrong way, using words like "disgusting" and "you should be ashamed" and "cruel" says a lot more about you than it does about her.
YUPPP
I can't speak for anyone else but I will criticize her LOUDLY when she's using her platform in a toxic way. This is not an echo chamber. She also exploits her child and speaking out against it is all anyone can do. She should be accountable. Blindly praise and defend her all you want.
Somebody help me to get the word out to Colleen and Eric that they HAVE to watch The Backup Plan. It’s soooo funny and literally everything they’ve been talking about!
Hands down my favorite episode. So real and literally just life. Trust me it does get easier, just go through the motions and enjoy it. I have 3 daughters and my husband and I have worked while raising them plus now I’m adding school to the mix. It’s all possible if you want it. Family, career, and the whole ten yards. You two will be great and will crush this whole experience called life.
already listened to the podcast because it came out earlier in the audio version but have to rewatch now that the video is posted! :)
Same
Same
I would just like to generously say that I appreciate so much how deeply you guys talk about these topics! It definitely helps to hear both sides talking through topics like these, so thank you!
“It’s us just sus-ing them out”
😂 that’s the BEST way to describe finding out the babies’ sexes 😂
Not that you guys might know, but some people with autism and adhd tend to over-explain things. The guy with the ice cream might have really loved ice cream, and wanted to share. People with autism don’t understand social cues as well, so they don’t always know when you are not interested unless you explicitly say it. Not saying the guy is autistic, but not everyone you interact with will be neurotypical, and I think it’s good to be mindful of that.
That is fair, and as an autistic person I know how it is to want to go on with a topic. But it's also fair for others to not want to listen, haha. Especially in a professional exchange. And as others have said, sometimes that kind of schpiel is something manegement pushes the workers to do. Or it was just a really enthusiastic proud owner.
@@hernameispekka_Rebecca right, I get it, but the way it was talked about was a bit insensitive. That’s all I was getting at. I come from 8+ years of customer service, 90% of that being a barista so I totally understand the scripts. I think Colleen and Erik could have let the guy know that they didn’t want to listen to the menu being repeated to them.
@@rogetaboutit that is fair. But also, considering how socially anxious the both of them are I doubt they would ever be able to vocalize that, haha!
I genuinely adore this podcast. If I heard these conversations from anybody else I’d be sooo bored but the fact that they’re talking just makes me so engaged. I LOVE RELAX 💖💖
This goes in the list of one of the best episodes ever because I just love really deep conversations about life and hearing you both speak about your struggles of parenthood while trying to maintain your career was really eye opening for me and made me realise you guys are going through a tough time and that parenthood is not easy at all. Thank you for being so open and honest about this.
Yessss and that they still have these struggles too!
I absolutely love this relationship. They are so different yet so alike and perfect together. I look up to this relationship so much
This week’s podcast was very therapeutic ❤️
Aww this genuinely made me so emotional and just goes to show how great these two are as a couple and as parents, I wish only good things for these beautiful humans
It is super interesting taking care of twins and keeping them safe in public places, my husband and I have perfected the technique of one of us following one and the other following the other around as they explore and play. Randomly throughout the time we switch also so that we both get time with each of our daughters. It is so fun, but they do learn quickly that when they run in opposite directions that I can't chase them both. I've been really looking into a backpack leash for this exact reason!
I love this podcast so much it's so entertaining 😇
Best podcast ever. Love you so much. You are so talented sweet kind loving caring supportive encouraging and just the most amazing incredible people ever. This podcast as well as Colleens many channels make me so happy and are such a light in my life. Thank you so much. You guys are the best. And congratulations on baby boy and baby girl. So exciting 💗💜💙🌻🌵
i get so excited to listen to these podcasts!!! you guys are the bestttt
The babies sound exactly like mini Erik & Colleen. The girl is crazy and bullying the boy and the boy is so chill and sweet like Erik.
a baby wrap has saved my life, I’m able to go grocery shopping hands free, I’d say get TWO for you and Eric, also DOUBLE stroller babe!!
I appreciate your convo on customer services annoyances HOWEVER I work at a shoe store where management basically forces us to get customers to sign up for the membership program and we get in trouble when people say no. It's insane because I hate it just as much as the person I'm asking to sign up!! So just keep in mind that it is most likely not the cashier's fault, they are just trying to keep their job :/
This episode hands down my favorite. Seeing both of you have a one on one heart on sleeve talk made me feel very warm inside and very excited about your future :)
Ugh when Erik says it’s okay to get emotional I love him for her!! He’s the best to go through these huge moments with
Best Relax podcast episode I’ve seen thus far. Loved the deep convo, loved the getting real, loved the unveiling of needing to be perfect and poised for internet audiences.
Erik doesn’t have experience with people asking him how he’s doing in this scenario, bc people usually expect men to be fine all the time. Not the case. I wish people would ask men how they’re doing more.
Regarding customer service people, We hate pushing things as much as you hate hearing it lol I’m not offended I just also hate customer service lol
I was an assistant manager for a clothing store and had to enforce “sales tactics” and pushing asking questions for customers. So annoying! BUT, I always read body language!
This is the most inspiring and beautiful episode I’ve seen so far! Y’all are amazing inspiring people.
You made me emotional and I loved it.. thank you for this today it was amazing. You are an incredible person Colleen.
The way Erik looks at Colleen when she's crying and holds her hand 💜😭
Don't apologize for being a human Colleen!!! Your pregnant with not one but two babies!!! Your allowed to be emotional, even if you weren't pregnant your still allowed to be emotional your a human!
I really think this was my favorite podcast so far! It was all so genuine and made perfect sense! All the emotions and thoughts y’all were talking about are all so freeeeaaaaking relatable
This was my favorite episode. I feel like it was the first time we got to see their relationship. It was so nice 😭 also hearing them talk about their struggles made them feel so much more relatable because all parents feel that way! I love them even more now after this episode. We need more “intimate” episodes like this one. It reminded me of the conversations I have with my husband! Where you’re just honest and talking about how you feel.
I loved listening to this yesterday and will gladly watch it again. I loved how it went a bit deeper and, in Eriks word, was quite intimate!! Thank you for letting us in to your thoughts and plans and joys and worries.
I love these...feels like an adult, chill, hangout with friends that I can listen to while doing dishes, laundry, eating dinner and whatever else after I put my toddler to bed.
Exactly! I love that the podcast is more adult leaning!
You two are so awesome and I love this podcast! All these feelings and concerns are all normal and ok to have and share! Thank you for the content. Everything will be fine and you both are going to be champs at this.
I lived this episode it was deep convo with two ppl I love and admire!! You two are amazing hang in there!!
I live in Ca too, but not in LA. The cops do that swerving thing here too
This has to be the best episode so far! Loved it! ❤️
Love the rawness of your feelings/emotions.. thanks for sharing your realness..❤
I actually loved this podcast, and hearing you both deep dive into your feels. You guys are so wonderful