I was testing my ability to focus on this video and found that after a few seconds of watching you, I'd immediately try opening another program on my computer, or checking something in my room. Thanks for this horrifying revelation.
I got bored after the first five minutes. I don’t have a small attention span usually, but the video itself isn’t very interesting. This girl is just repeating the same points over and over in different words Besides, one sided conversations aren’t very fun to participate in. I want to chip in and talk to this person irl. Watching Somebody talking alone to themselves through a screen sucks
True, you feel more relaxed and content. I recommend putting timers for apps in digital wellbeing page (on android) if you're having a hard time quitting/using social media less. I have two hours for youtube :P other apps I don't really use apart from tumblr from time to time, but it isn't as addictive as other apps
YESS! I really clocked myself I couple weeks ago with that thought. That alone says how unnecessary it is. I only remember one “saying” from a TikTok video that helped me in my daily life, that was genuinely the only beneficial video I watched and remembered. It is really crazy
She's so right. We are wasting our life watching other people's lives on social media instead of living our own - and the point she made about women comparing their physical beauty to other women - so true girl and the end of the video is too funny lol
try WE are the problem, not social media. if people posted MEANINGFUL things. like what they learned or are doing for themselves others would GROW from that. instead we post about the food we got from starbucks and the shoes we got from foot locker. WE are the problem, not social media.
The tik tok algorithm is insane. I saw a tik tok about animal gravestones and it made me cry, and I watched the whole thing so it was like "oh they like this video. We should fill their FYP with more of these sad videos" I spent half of my night crying at sad videos and unable to stop watching.
I'm not muslim I'm not religious at all but i really like how empathethic you are towards others and your points are absolutely true, it's also extremely difficult to escape this kind of living rn, society and social media fuel a cycle of depression - too much dopamine that's so difficult to break even if you're conscious it exists. Your message of doing nothing and sitting with yourself, which I think we're the first generation at all who has completely cut out those moments, is incredible
As a Christian I agree with you, I am a miserable social media user, I am going to have to change that. I am happy for you and have a lot ahead of me in earnest.
Glad to see your open-mindedness towards other religions and its actually refreshing to see when ppl use mind these days and don't blindly believe in everything...may Allah give you hidayyah , Aamen. Moreover, watch and learn from Dr Israr Ahmed, Dr.Zakir Naik , Engineer Mohd Ali , Molvi Raja ziaulhaq and Nouman Ali khan ❤😊
Agreed, one thing that also worries me about social media is this question of “are your thoughts really your own or just a reflection of all the time you spend on Social media?” If your going to use social media, use it, don’t let it use you! Who cares what everyone else is doing.
That’s a silly question. You are what surrounds you. If you follow a content creator, you will likely begin to act and talk the same way. If you consume propaganda, you will begin to believe it. If enough people tell you you’re wrong, you’ll think it’s true- and I don’t think it’s necessarily wrong, it’s just how the mind works. Thats how we get our personalities. Adults are just the culminations of everything they experienced as a child. From their friendships, to the religion they were raised into, to their families mannerisms, what you were taught is right or wrong, copying the laugh of someone you like, etc. Nothing about us is original, not a single thought is truly our own. We’re just little bits and pieces of other people 🤷♀️ this is inevitable.
“Reaching your goals with your sanity intact” That is such an important part that a lot of people don’t hold as important. Many just want to achieve their goal by ANY means. I found out about the importance of staying sane when I started working.
It is! I was awfully sick the other day and i couldnt even watch the tv show out of pain,but i still managed to scroll on phone and i somehow stopped feeling the pain for moments
I've been living with this mindset for the past year. No social media, no instant gratifications, allow myself to do nothing and get bored and now I enjoy every little thing that life has to offer since my dopamine release standards are not so fucked up
dude i’ve gone like 3 months without social media and it’s SO peaceful. and i was going to delete it for good!! but then i made friends 😭😭 and they like sending me funny videos and ahhh its hard for me to delete it because of the actual social aspect of it but it’s ruining me because i’m becoming a lazy and constantly simulated person again 😬
@@shithead-pf8hntrust me man that’s where I’m headed cause I’m barely on it and I get so much more done when I’m not on social media and my creativity has sparked up by a long shot so trust me man you’re not missing out when it comes to social media
@@shithead-pf8hn No worries, you can use it just to keep in touch, just turn off the notifications and have a timer set to it so you won't use it too much. It'll probably also help if you tell your friends that you might not answer right away in social media since you're cutting off on it and don't have notifications on. 🙌🏻
Thank you for uploading this video, I’m 17 and I’ve been trying to change the way I’m living my life , I realized how much time I waste on useless things, imagine that I’m 17 and I don’t even pray all of my salawat! Realizing how sad and miserable my normal life is, being addicted to dunya rather than working for my akhira , but I know deep down that I won’t stay like that , I will change for the sake of Allah even if it’s hard ❤
May Allah help you pray all of your 5 salawat. I didnt pray properly then i made so much dua then now Allah made me pray 5 times, night prayers ,duha and just this year added nawafil. Make DUAAAAAAAAAA
The point that you made about going through different emotions between a minute with different posts is very true and got me thinking for a while, because I had a time where I spent hours on Instagram, and after getting bored using it I felt so tired - like I had a really busy day, but just stayed on the couch.The human brain is not used to this kind of stimulation, and never will.
And it’s got so bad to the point of if you’re not on social media - you’re considered weird. You’ll push yourself out of society if you aren’t doing it
That’s so true and I been hearing that the most when people would delete their social media and I might as well be in that group as well because I’m deleting it off my phone and never installing instagram ever again
The biggest thing that stuck with me was the idea that sitting with yourself, is just like meditation. Except, really, meditation is usually focused silence. Sitting with yourself at least 5 minutes a day can help you improve so, so, much, because you arent running from your mind anymore. You are embracing your mind, and finally tuning in and saying hello to it. Focused silence is good for us, but I think personally that sitting with your own thoughts without focusing on anything, and just learning about yourself, helps you clear up the junk and things become more meaningful in life. Did you know our crackboxes (devices) increase depression, social anxiety, and shorten your attention span? Taking breaks, deleting your social medias, and overall cutting back on how much time you spend on social media helps SO MUCH!! Heres some things you can do also to clear the junk out of your head: - Writing out your thoughts to organize and remove stuff (like carefree journalling, dont limit yourself to only writing one thing or another! Make your journal, or your digital one, a place for you. - Talking with yourself. Even just like, as farah said, having two voices in your head talking with each other can help a LOT. - Deleting your accounts from the big social medias. Literally you are wasting your time on there, probably havent done anything that will be missed, and giving the big corporations plenty of money. If time is money, you are PAYING corporations for your mindless existing. Things like Instagram, Facebook, Snapchat, Tiktok (this one is a HUGE problem. I dont even have it.) Pinterest (K not gonna lie if you use Pinterest MINDFULLY! Like scrolling with a purpose, not just to waste time. I scroll for clothing ideas, embroidery inspiration, etc. Its both good and bad lol) , Twitter, and many more. The internet wont change while you are gone, I promise you, people will continue to repeat and do the same thing over, and over, and over again. - As farah said, set a goal for the day and try to reach it! - Stop listening to lyrical music. You know how many times ive tried to meditate, or chill, or do anything, and all I can think about is the two lines to a single lyrical song? Especially catchy ones, or ones ive listened on loop for awhile. Its been about a month and it happens less and less now. Now I just listen to instrumentals, because its less likely to get stuck in my head and it fills the silence when needed! - Turn off notifications. I promise its a LIFESAVER!! - Dont bring your tiny crackbox (phone) with you everywhere. I mean like bring it where you need to, but if its just to have contact with people I would recommend a smartwatch, or using your friends phone to contact your family if need be. When you leave your phone at home, you are opening yourself up to being uncomfortable and being in tune with your emotions, mind, and thoughts. Even if you bring it to take photos. Did you know if you take a photo of something, your brain is way less likely to remember it? It will simply not try to remember it, because you already have a copy it of and have no need to remember it, right? Enjoy the moment as is. - Download a homescreen changer that optimizes what you see. For example those ones called "productivity" homescreens? Those stop you from clicking on things for no reason or mindlessly, because you have to identify all of your apps by just words itself, not the icons? How much time have you spent just scrolling around on your phone looking at your homescreen??? Even though theres no reason??? You can also change up the locations of where your apps are, like sorting them lol, so you dont habitually click on things even though you dont want to do it in that moment. And much, much more. These are all things ive done in my life to declutter my brain, and even now I still feel like I can improve. Screens are still a problem for me, my whole family has a huge problem with it so I feel like I have to do it also. I love simple videos like these that are just talking and teaching. Thank you so much farah!
This is so true!!! The emotional drain that you go thru after scrolling on tiktok is exhausting. I delete everything bc I realized social media is exhausting
I agree with literally every word. I’m so happy I watched this video so I know I’m not going crazy. It’s out of control, people are having their lives stolen from them
I am 100% addicted to my cell phone. I have a screen time goal of less than 1 hour and I only meet it about half the time. Your video motivated me to do better.
And I remember this scene where the mom and daughter were in a road trip, for many hours they were listening to a series of podcasts, when it ends, the girl tried to turn on the radio to listen to music(before the era of smart phones) so the mom tried to atop her, and she told her: " we dont have to be constantly entertained" , yes this is exactly what we are doing, we r trying to get away from the painful feeling being bored by constantly try to entertain oursellves here, so we lost the real lost the ability to be real, to feel real emotions, we are being fake, we r addicted
Honestly I didn't think about this too much before but then I realised how uncomfortable I felt leaving my phone at home while waiting outside. Everyone else would be on their phones and I'd be sitting alone with my own thoughts. Over time, like you said, it does make you appreciate things in your life more because you notice more :))
When I was little I would get so bored all the time, and instead of my mom filling that void and giving me a screen, she would let me sit in that boredom. I don’t do that anymore! It made me so creative I’d think of all sorts of things I never would have, just these stories filling my mind, and just learning to sit in peace.
this episode makes me want to sit alone with you having more conversations about topics like this while sipping tea or something idk long story short it resonates with me and i truly thank you
@@Forestry_rlyes! I remember finding no surf on Reddit but then I realised, noone will be on it because they're no longer using the internet. It's a shame we can't all write to each other
i'm very grateful that i found this video. i've been stuck in a depressive episode for weeks now and currently trying to find ways to make it better. i've realized that this is probably one of the reasons why. we consume too much now-a-days, barely spending time in silence or with only ourselves. i've been losing touch with who i am and not a single moment i can remember where its just only me; i and my thoughts alone. watching these types of vids is a wake up call and plus, your voice is so comforting to listen to! will do my hardest to apply this within myself. thank you 💗
5:20 I've always wondered why Tumblr feels slow paced and not as addictive as other apps. I think it has something to do with its design, you don't really have algorithm, you only get posts from the people you follow, so mostly stuff you will like seeing. There are also a lot of long text posts compared to other apps, from random fun educational facts to book reviews to stories and ponderings. The whole app culture feels slower paced and the people there seem to have more patience. You don't feel exhausted from using it in my experience. It feels like all the university/college students, science nerds, authors, artists and geeks jumbled up in one place and it's great lol :) Though now what's happening to twitter and reddit tumblr has started to make changes to look more mainstream. Most users don't like the change.
Subhanallah this was amazing! I am a Muslim revert from Finland. I’m also studying psychology, and social media is helping me a lot about learning about this dunya and Allah Azzawajal through podcasts like doubt busters on Efdawah, but the other part is this. Scrolling also takes me away from studying.
HealthyGamerGG, an actual psychiatrist, actually talked about this in a video called “why finding purpose is so hard today” and it covers many points in ur vid and more! Highly recommend it :) keep spreading this message, our generation really needs it
i thought of a lot of his content while watching this!! actually, in particular i got really emotional when farah brought up the bit about "our brains being our homes" after talking about how she experiences these internal conversations when she allows herself to sit in silence. it reminded me a lot of a segment of dr. k's second interview with ludwig about the internal dialogue, ego/id, and intuition that has stuck with me for months ever since i saw it!!! how much of our own internal logic, reason, and processing are we missing out on because we are distracting ourselves with so much flotsam 🥲
Farah dear, my neck started hurting from shaking my head in agreement so much😂 You're truly wisdomous and it's presented in such a uniqe and enjoyable content. I've built a habit of sitting alone for some minutes after prayers for a while now and it changed me into a whole much better and much more mature person. Especially when my dad passed away and my whole world just shifted and changed. I started sitting alone contemplating life and it's purposes and my emotions towards life's events. This habit alone helped me move on and make peace with alot of issues. However, I would be a true lier if I said that social media is not my source of addiction. It's enslaving me to the point where I don't think I'm standing on firm grounds anymore. My life feels like a journey with no heading and no destination and basically no goals. I think this is why social media has taken over my life so easily because having an incredible amount of free time is such a dangerous place to be. Sometimes I wish if I could study and do something with my life. Sometimes I wish if I had a job where I feel like I'm not such a loser and that I'm actually productive. But unfortunately, it seems that I cannot do anything at this moment of life. And even if I did, my lack of awareness and the lack of goals will keep me paralized. All&all, like shifting winds and like raging storms, life is beautifully unexpectable and who knows what will happen in the future. May Allah bless your life and give whatever you need and desire dear Farah. Keep posting such great videos as u don't know whom you will be saving because of them❤❤
YES 🙌 I’ve been feeling this for so long and it’s reassuring to see someone with a big platform spreading this message! Let’s put our phones down and connect with eachother, connect with ourselves again!
This video is absolutely golden. This is something I've been really getting a larger understanding of lately and it's quite terrifying just how much we've been affected by all of this overstimulation. I love how genuine and real you come across in this, I feel like it's not seen as much on these platforms. I made a video about it myself but I gave the message with stimulative presentation while talking about overstimulation. I think it's amazing that you were able to give it purely. Please continue to make content! Subscribed! Thank you so much for speaking about this 🙌🏽
I feel like a lot of this has been conditioned by social media and how we have all this information at hand from the internet. I remember how still in high school I was able to easily listen to 1h+ talks from old youtube and now? Even with this video my mind has the want to multitask - it's insane how high-strung we all are these days.
Lisstening to you speak gave me a fragment of my sanity back. I enjoyed the pauses. I enjoyed how natural, organic and authentic this entire thing is. Thank you for taking the time and energy to do this.
12:00 i remember one of my friends didn't wanted to study...so my teacher said "just sit on the table for 3 hours, dont do anything ,don't even touch the phone"...later he got bored and touched a book for moment...day by day he studied a little by liitle...his grades improved later.
You're so right! It's really scary to look around and see everyone on their phone. I feel like we're becoming robots without minds and the only thing we know is social media 😭. I'm concerned about the content on social media. How do people even post that awful content? Why do they post it? Why do others like it? I once read in a book that people ignore and want to forget their problems and not deal with them even though dealing with them is easier than ignoring them. I think social media makes it easy to ignore problems and feel happy. People are addicted to it because they "can't" find happiness in their life.
You’re such a beautiful soul. I’m not new to this community but everyday I get to watch videos of people that I believe have the same mindset it makes me feel new. It’s crazy how UA-cam recommended this gem for me. Hope to learn more stuff. You really have a wonderful humour too. Have a blessed day.
This made me emotional as well, since us Muslim sisters we are really wasting our time other than doing something that is beneficial for ourselves, and it’s so sad how we waste our time in stuff that doesn’t really help us in life, thank you farah ❤️
The exact reason why I stop using Snapchat, IG, and Twitter. I actually enjoy being bored and giving my thoughts the freedom to roam around in my head.
you're one of the most well spoken humans i've ever seen, made it so difficult for people who search for reasons to take offense at something to defend their addiction.
i recently went through a break up and i catched myself watching hours of videos on instagram just so I didn't have to sit with my feelings and actually work on it because it was a way of not having to think about what happened. this video actually opened my eyes about that.
Sister, thanks for sharing this. Ive deleted Instagram more than a week ago because of how I seem to find faults and problems with others that wouldn't even concern me if i didnt see that story/post. Ofc theres the important news but theres more negative than good. Usually it ends up in mindless scrolling, just to feel something. Two days ago ive actually noticed how through just a few minutes i was back and forth on both extremes; saddened by some stuff in life but then making myself laugh as coping mechanism for something positive. On repeat in a matter of few mins. Felt so crazy. We all do really have something valuable to give in this short time we're here and it's really painful to think of how much time was spent on others' living their lives.
this really struck a chord with me... i'm gonna try to spend more time with myself. i tend to fill my life with distractions because i get really depressed when i'm alone with my thoughts and ever since i've been old enough to have my own phone/pc/tv/whatever i've taken advantage of the ability to stay distracted 24/7 and never deal with those feelings but it's gotten to the point where i dont really even know who i am anymore and that disturbs me on such a deep level. i love existing and i love being alive. i love the world and i find so much beauty in it yet i dont even know the last time i really sat down and enjoyed what was around me. the feelings that come up absolutely suck and i'm definitely gonna cry each time i sit with my thoughts but i still think it's important to let whatever happens happen and embrace it as a part of life. this video was a sign to me that i need to change and i really appreciate you making this video. i wish you (and anyone reading this) peace in your life. i love you all
For as long as i remember , the internet has been almost my whole identity in a bad way. I’m basically glued to it in an unhealthy way. This video has motivated me honestly. Rn i average 10 hours. I’m going to try lower it as much as i possibly can. There is so much life for me outside the internet and i’m going to enjoy it moving forward.
I’m happy for you man and ima do the same thing and limit my time off the internet. Life is too short to always be on the internet and staying inside the house all day. Ima be living in the moment going forward. Good for you man you got this and take it one step at a time
recently there are videos appearing to me about how life was really good before 2020 and how we don't feel the time passing no more ,"its because of your phone" I just realized how our parents were right ,my mother always said that sitting in your phone will make you lose the feel of joy and peace of your mind. wow the more you grow the more you realize that your parents are so damn wise and true.
Your channel has to be, if not the best, one of the best ones I have come across. You explain everything so clearly and passionately MashaAllah. I relate to what you say so much, and it has helped me realise that I am not alone in this fight for being at peace with myself and what I have (and what I don't have). I really hope you keep making these podcast videos because they are truly inspiring and eye-opening to many of us. May Allah bless you with success in this world and the hereafter (Ameen).
I feel your sincerity. I'll try tomorrow to limit myself using social media but I also wanted to spend my time watching your podcast at least one episode per day. Love this.
I'm Catholic, but your video really helped me to , I've been losing so much time with useless thing, and that makes me forget my real objective in life. Thanks very much and keep the good working!
14:45 we are the only species that actually can think about their thoughts (like have a critical thinking about their thoughts) and I think there’s a reason for that❤
I didn't realize how bad it was for me until I finally set a time limit on my phone for TikTok and realizing how quickly I hit the 1-hour daily limit and how many time a day I subconsciously tried to open the app. And even when I was reminded I couldn't how I found myself trying to get the same vibe from shorts or reels. To the point where I put limit on every social media. It was truly an addiction. It took almost 6 weeks before I finally had a day where I didn't hit any of my limits. The hardest part was also realizing how it invades your social circle. At one point when hanging out with of my friends we were just sitting a someone's house scrolling together for hours. I never felt so isolated then being the only one that couldn't scroll and share content.
right now I'm off school for summer. It's the 20th of July and when my Dad goes to work and I am at home all day, in these 20 days I've discovered more about myself than I have in the last 2 years of my life. I'll cut the grass or do some chores and I'll just have conversations in my head with myself and it is like a podcast. I have no other stimulation other than the task I am doing, (sometimes I'm actually just sitting down thinking with nothing else happening) and when I say something I'll ask myself, "Well, why do you think that?" Or something similar and It is honestly some of the most truly peaceful and happy times I've ever experienced. Sitting outside in the evening just thinking and talking to myself in my thoughts is a different experience that one can only understand if they experience it. I would recommend doing it or just sitting with absolutely nothing else going on. This video is absolute preach and everyone should try/listen to everything she said.
Thank you for this video. Each day, i will spend at least 5 minutes just setting in silence or just listen to the natural sounds around me. Just what i needed to hear right when i was in the middle of looking for something to do because i was bored. 😅
this message was so important, thank you for this video! when you talked about your thoughts about your family wasting their precious times I got emotional too lol
I used to be addicted my my phone but everything changed when I finally got on medicine for my adhd and depression. I can sit in a room silently without my phone. I can read a whole book in a few days again and I haven't been able to do that in years! I feel like it's a dopamine deficit that causes tech dependency for a lot of people.
Sometimes I have to do something to stimulate my brain to distract myself from my problems. I don't want to face the reality of my life, and apart from work, I would rather just delve into the world of reading a story or watching a video instead of having 1-5 minutes of doing nothing that would lead to me feeling extremely depressed or sad. I know it's bad and I completely agree with your statements throughout this video, it's just very hard sometimes when you're having a bad day or a bad week.
Your video was eye opening for me , i am 14 and i am not good in studies, i have trouble sleeping(insomnia), my parents are disappointed in me, your video helped me so much, i am gonna join tuition tomorrow and study hard. Thanks from an indian muslim 🤍
You caught me scrolling and now I can't go back. You speak so much to my heart. I already got some of my little moments back. Work in progress 💪 Thanks for the friendly reminder of that subtle addiction ❤
After this video I sat in silence and drew a portrait of my friend that I’ve been meaning to get around to, and I thought about all of the things I was grateful for in our friendship
Wow, I just adore you. What beautiful energy you have. You absolutely did touch my heart, spoke to my soul, and changed my life. If I didn’t do something with this, I would be dumb. Eternally- thank you, Farah.
yt recommended me this in such diving timing. deleted snapchat last night. talked to my therapist today about my phone addiction and this video was more confirmation. thank you so much for this i need everyone to see this
last week one of my routines was broken after i was looking super forward to doing it that it made me enter a super depressive state. i was feeling lethargic and cocooned myself to my bed for hours not looking at my phone or any source of entertainment. i was very alone in my thoughts for several hours just letting myself wander but the time passed so much more effortlessly. although this boredom and misery came from a negative cause, the effect had me sit alone with myself something i haven’t done successfully since. great video
I’ve been slowly coming to the same conclusions over the last year, and this video came to me at the perfect time … I truly agree with everything you said
what u just said is something that the society is an aware of at all! the fact that sitting alone, all by yourself not doing anything is considered bizarre and weird nowadays. You waked me up, its just ,u answered to lots of things that happen with me throughout the day without me knowing
I needed this. I feel so disconnected from myself and am always on a chase for dopamine. It's no surprise I'm struggling with depression or that I feel restless all the time. It's not natural.
It makes me glad to see this in my recommendations just when I felt productive but overwhelmed since I've never really known what else to do so I'm really thankful you made this video. It honestly helped ease me down for a bit, so now I know what to do when I feel overwhelmingly unproductive:)
i haven’t seen a second of the video but this has been my mantra for so long and i keep telling it to people when they express sentiments regarding internet addiction etc
In italy we say "time go fast when you are havenig fun". The weird thing about social media is that when you spend your time scrolling time go fast, but you are not really having fun at all.
Assalamualaikum Farah, I hope you see this because you have no idea how perfectly timed your videos are by the grace of Allah(swt). Im currently 20 hehe, just a small background info! I literally had been struggling with the concept of productivity and occupying my time where the process itself had gotten so stressful that I enrolled myself in so many endeavours, only to end up not doing anything and doing everything at the very last minute. But I know I want to do something for this world, and I know I want to bring meaningful change. I saw this video and as soon as you talked about the ummah and how our potential is wasted on mindless scrolling, it just hit me. Overstimulating is what kept me excited and what kept me happy and without these distractions, I felt a bit miserable. Prayer and the reading the Quran despite it alhamdulillah being a consistent habit, I stopped feeling the love from these beloved actions. I realised how much I was caving into this dunya and how much people around me and their outlook on life mattered to me but in reality, my Rabb already had given me a purpose and gave me time to rediscover myself rather than put on imposter syndrome. Alhamdulillah, right after watching your video, I went out for a walk with no podcast whatsoever in the background and spent time with my brain and let it drift to various places and I realised how much I smiled during that walk just from the mere ideas my brain had and the conversations I was having with myself on life. I LITERALLY FORGOT EVERYTHING BY NOW BUT IT WAS SO NICE ALHAMDULILLAH. I COULD NOT STOP SENDING DUAS YOUR WAY, I love you a lot Farah. I always tell my friends about how I just want to be your best friend cuz MAN YOURE SO COOL URGH. May Allah(swt) bless you immensely and fill your life and your aakhirah with everything that you want for you and your loved ones
I'm really grateful to have found this video, everything about it is so true. I've decided to stop using social media so often and start meditating and be the better version of myself.
I loved this video and i figured this out on my own when i was grounded without electronics or distractions. having time to sit an actually think, made me productive and took away that itch of having to do something all the time. i was at peace for once. no one can not benefit from being more in touch with themselves. learning yourself is learning how to be by yourself.
This video was extremely insightful, and I am really grateful that you are spreading this message! Social media and short term gratification has plagued a lot of minds, and this video is a reminder on why sometimes the best course of action is to sit in silence and reflect on yourself.
“All of humanity’s problems stem from our inability to sit quietly in a room alone”
-Blaise Pascal
TRUE
Islam fixed this problem, and tons of other problems too.
@@meology8510 how? provide with me with verses and stuff please. (I am a muslim)
I am gonna make this wp things
In islam, god will ask you about your time as how you spent it…. So Muslims take this as a fuel to stay focused and make best use of their time…
I was testing my ability to focus on this video and found that after a few seconds of watching you, I'd immediately try opening another program on my computer, or checking something in my room. Thanks for this horrifying revelation.
Same here
Or just reading the comments throughout the whole video
yup that’s that short attention span coming into play
I got bored after the first five minutes. I don’t have a small attention span usually, but the video itself isn’t very interesting. This girl is just repeating the same points over and over in different words
Besides, one sided conversations aren’t very fun to participate in. I want to chip in and talk to this person irl. Watching Somebody talking alone to themselves through a screen sucks
this is me 100%, i do this all the time
people have no idea how much peace you have when you’re not on your phone
Watching while eating rn 🤡
i can 100% agree but the addiction is real.
True, you feel more relaxed and content.
I recommend putting timers for apps in digital wellbeing page (on android) if you're having a hard time quitting/using social media less.
I have two hours for youtube :P other apps I don't really use apart from tumblr from time to time, but it isn't as addictive as other apps
No because then I’m left with my thoughts which consume me more than my phone
@@Bigpussy.sloppp try doing art or something else you enjoy, hobbies can work as distractions as well
Alright but seriously, who even remembers what they saw while scrolling? I remember NOTHING. Thats how important it is to you.
YESS! I really clocked myself I couple weeks ago with that thought. That alone says how unnecessary it is. I only remember one “saying” from a TikTok video that helped me in my daily life, that was genuinely the only beneficial video I watched and remembered. It is really crazy
She's so right. We are wasting our life watching other people's lives on social media instead of living our own - and the point she made about women comparing their physical beauty to other women - so true girl and the end of the video is too funny lol
I had literally the same toughts abd the end was too funny hahahah.
I like this type of woman,she's the only one that i've seen in my life who's open minded
try WE are the problem, not social media. if people posted MEANINGFUL things. like what they learned or are doing for themselves others would GROW from that. instead we post about the food we got from starbucks and the shoes we got from foot locker. WE are the problem, not social media.
@@owlic227Ty for commenting this.
Your boring
I really needed this. This is a push to decrease stimuli for myself. It IS crazy to be crying and feeling pain by a post and laughing with the next.
The tik tok algorithm is insane. I saw a tik tok about animal gravestones and it made me cry, and I watched the whole thing so it was like "oh they like this video. We should fill their FYP with more of these sad videos" I spent half of my night crying at sad videos and unable to stop watching.
So true and I haven’t even watched yet.
I agree
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It’s even truer once you do 🤣
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Fr same😂
I'm not muslim I'm not religious at all but i really like how empathethic you are towards others and your points are absolutely true, it's also extremely difficult to escape this kind of living rn, society and social media fuel a cycle of depression - too much dopamine that's so difficult to break even if you're conscious it exists. Your message of doing nothing and sitting with yourself, which I think we're the first generation at all who has completely cut out those moments, is incredible
As a Christian I agree with you, I am a miserable social media user, I am going to have to change that. I am happy for you and have a lot ahead of me in earnest.
This video has nothing to do with religion, just appreciate the message
@@WildWinterberry She mentioned the quaran and prayers like 20 times. Also I do appreciate the learning to be bored message.
Glad to see your open-mindedness towards other religions and its actually refreshing to see when ppl use mind these days and don't blindly believe in everything...may Allah give you hidayyah , Aamen.
Moreover, watch and learn from Dr Israr Ahmed, Dr.Zakir Naik , Engineer Mohd Ali , Molvi Raja ziaulhaq and Nouman Ali khan ❤😊
@@khadija.10.07 you're very open minded too, thanks for the suggestions
Agreed, one thing that also worries me about social media is this question of “are your thoughts really your own or just a reflection of all the time you spend on Social media?”
If your going to use social media, use it, don’t let it use you! Who cares what everyone else is doing.
So truee! 😊
You difinitely right
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That’s a silly question. You are what surrounds you. If you follow a content creator, you will likely begin to act and talk the same way. If you consume propaganda, you will begin to believe it. If enough people tell you you’re wrong, you’ll think it’s true- and I don’t think it’s necessarily wrong, it’s just how the mind works. Thats how we get our personalities.
Adults are just the culminations of everything they experienced as a child. From their friendships, to the religion they were raised into, to their families mannerisms, what you were taught is right or wrong, copying the laugh of someone you like, etc.
Nothing about us is original, not a single thought is truly our own. We’re just little bits and pieces of other people 🤷♀️ this is inevitable.
@@kaleycooper9111 i love this i think you explained it very well!!
“Reaching your goals with your sanity intact” That is such an important part that a lot of people don’t hold as important. Many just want to achieve their goal by ANY means. I found out about the importance of staying sane when I started working.
“You stop living.” Absolutely true. That really stood out to me.
It is! I was awfully sick the other day and i couldnt even watch the tv show out of pain,but i still managed to scroll on phone and i somehow stopped feeling the pain for moments
“It’s an exaggerated version of reality.”
So true. I needed this video today, thank you very much :)
I've been living with this mindset for the past year. No social media, no instant gratifications, allow myself to do nothing and get bored and now I enjoy every little thing that life has to offer since my dopamine release standards are not so fucked up
this gives me so much hope thank you ❤️
dude i’ve gone like 3 months without social media and it’s SO peaceful.
and i was going to delete it for good!! but then i made friends 😭😭 and they like sending me funny videos and ahhh its hard for me to delete it because of the actual social aspect of it but it’s ruining me because i’m becoming a lazy and constantly simulated person again 😬
@@shithead-pf8hntrust me man that’s where I’m headed cause I’m barely on it and I get so much more done when I’m not on social media and my creativity has sparked up by a long shot so trust me man you’re not missing out when it comes to social media
@@shithead-pf8hn No worries, you can use it just to keep in touch, just turn off the notifications and have a timer set to it so you won't use it too much. It'll probably also help if you tell your friends that you might not answer right away in social media since you're cutting off on it and don't have notifications on. 🙌🏻
I'm Christian, but i really think you're doing God's work sister. Keep helping humanity❤
Same! I just finished watching her video called “Quitting Music” or something like that lol!
Your religion doesn't matter, everyone can do God's work
@@missyyourbesti I saw that one too.
@@nathanielfleku3416 Yesss! Such a good video!! Truly changed my life.
Why did you have to preface with “I’m a Christian - but” 😂
Giving urself permission to get bored is probably the best underrated advice ever. It can literally save lives u all...
I love to be in silence and sit at the window watching people passing, watching the world around me, its a good amount of peace
Thank you for uploading this video, I’m 17 and I’ve been trying to change the way I’m living my life , I realized how much time I waste on useless things, imagine that I’m 17 and I don’t even pray all of my salawat! Realizing how sad and miserable my normal life is, being addicted to dunya rather than working for my akhira , but I know deep down that I won’t stay like that , I will change for the sake of Allah even if it’s hard ❤
InchaAllah you re not the only person who is struggling with that
May Allah help you pray all of your 5 salawat. I didnt pray properly then i made so much dua then now Allah made me pray 5 times, night prayers ,duha and just this year added nawafil. Make DUAAAAAAAAAA
May Allaah ease a path for your Akhirah and happiness for you. Ameen.
@@yusracabdulahi948 I will put that in mind 🤍
@@yapapatya Amen for all of us 🩵
The point that you made about going through different emotions between a minute with different posts is very true and got me thinking for a while, because I had a time where I spent hours on Instagram, and after getting bored using it I felt so tired - like I had a really busy day, but just stayed on the couch.The human brain is not used to this kind of stimulation, and never will.
And it’s got so bad to the point of if you’re not on social media - you’re considered weird. You’ll push yourself out of society if you aren’t doing it
That’s so true and I been hearing that the most when people would delete their social media and I might as well be in that group as well because I’m deleting it off my phone and never installing instagram ever again
The biggest thing that stuck with me was the idea that sitting with yourself, is just like meditation. Except, really, meditation is usually focused silence. Sitting with yourself at least 5 minutes a day can help you improve so, so, much, because you arent running from your mind anymore. You are embracing your mind, and finally tuning in and saying hello to it. Focused silence is good for us, but I think personally that sitting with your own thoughts without focusing on anything, and just learning about yourself, helps you clear up the junk and things become more meaningful in life.
Did you know our crackboxes (devices) increase depression, social anxiety, and shorten your attention span? Taking breaks, deleting your social medias, and overall cutting back on how much time you spend on social media helps SO MUCH!!
Heres some things you can do also to clear the junk out of your head:
- Writing out your thoughts to organize and remove stuff (like carefree journalling, dont limit yourself to only writing one thing or another! Make your journal, or your digital one, a place for you.
- Talking with yourself. Even just like, as farah said, having two voices in your head talking with each other can help a LOT.
- Deleting your accounts from the big social medias. Literally you are wasting your time on there, probably havent done anything that will be missed, and giving the big corporations plenty of money. If time is money, you are PAYING corporations for your mindless existing. Things like Instagram, Facebook, Snapchat, Tiktok (this one is a HUGE problem. I dont even have it.) Pinterest (K not gonna lie if you use Pinterest MINDFULLY! Like scrolling with a purpose, not just to waste time. I scroll for clothing ideas, embroidery inspiration, etc. Its both good and bad lol) , Twitter, and many more. The internet wont change while you are gone, I promise you, people will continue to repeat and do the same thing over, and over, and over again.
- As farah said, set a goal for the day and try to reach it!
- Stop listening to lyrical music. You know how many times ive tried to meditate, or chill, or do anything, and all I can think about is the two lines to a single lyrical song? Especially catchy ones, or ones ive listened on loop for awhile. Its been about a month and it happens less and less now. Now I just listen to instrumentals, because its less likely to get stuck in my head and it fills the silence when needed!
- Turn off notifications. I promise its a LIFESAVER!!
- Dont bring your tiny crackbox (phone) with you everywhere. I mean like bring it where you need to, but if its just to have contact with people I would recommend a smartwatch, or using your friends phone to contact your family if need be. When you leave your phone at home, you are opening yourself up to being uncomfortable and being in tune with your emotions, mind, and thoughts. Even if you bring it to take photos. Did you know if you take a photo of something, your brain is way less likely to remember it? It will simply not try to remember it, because you already have a copy it of and have no need to remember it, right? Enjoy the moment as is.
- Download a homescreen changer that optimizes what you see. For example those ones called "productivity" homescreens? Those stop you from clicking on things for no reason or mindlessly, because you have to identify all of your apps by just words itself, not the icons? How much time have you spent just scrolling around on your phone looking at your homescreen??? Even though theres no reason??? You can also change up the locations of where your apps are, like sorting them lol, so you dont habitually click on things even though you dont want to do it in that moment.
And much, much more. These are all things ive done in my life to declutter my brain, and even now I still feel like I can improve. Screens are still a problem for me, my whole family has a huge problem with it so I feel like I have to do it also. I love simple videos like these that are just talking and teaching. Thank you so much farah!
i love how you have such a humorous personality while ur also able to engage in deep talk
“There’s so little that you need in life to do amazing ,great things” that hit me hard. Thank you sister❤️
“We’re almost introducing ourselves to our brains” love this.. “we don’t sit with our brains anymore” sad but true
This is so true!!! The emotional drain that you go thru after scrolling on tiktok is exhausting. I delete everything bc I realized social media is exhausting
19:38 "You're wasting it on other people's lives" 😮 Thank you for your sharing Sister Farah! Always looking forward on your podcast ❤
Damn, it was really difficult for me to concentrate for 29 minutes. But I learned something and I think it will help me. Thank you farah 👍🏾
That's the thing, we weak attention-spanned guys should start from somewhere, start torturing ourselves with long videos and reading boring books lol
I agree with literally every word. I’m so happy I watched this video so I know I’m not going crazy. It’s out of control, people are having their lives stolen from them
We are what we pay attention to and our attention is being actively stolen. Completely agree with your point.
I am 100% addicted to my cell phone. I have a screen time goal of less than 1 hour and I only meet it about half the time. Your video motivated me to do better.
yo i have 11 hours u good
And I remember this scene where the mom and daughter were in a road trip, for many hours they were listening to a series of podcasts, when it ends, the girl tried to turn on the radio to listen to music(before the era of smart phones) so the mom tried to atop her, and she told her: " we dont have to be constantly entertained" , yes this is exactly what we are doing, we r trying to get away from the painful feeling being bored by constantly try to entertain oursellves here, so we lost the real lost the ability to be real, to feel real emotions, we are being fake, we r addicted
Honestly I didn't think about this too much before but then I realised how uncomfortable I felt leaving my phone at home while waiting outside. Everyone else would be on their phones and I'd be sitting alone with my own thoughts. Over time, like you said, it does make you appreciate things in your life more because you notice more :))
You're honest care for the ummah is honestly very beautiful and admirable
When I was little I would get so bored all the time, and instead of my mom filling that void and giving me a screen, she would let me sit in that boredom. I don’t do that anymore! It made me so creative I’d think of all sorts of things I never would have, just these stories filling my mind, and just learning to sit in peace.
Girl can I just say you’re killing it with these videos honestly, love watching your videos!
this episode makes me want to sit alone with you having more conversations about topics like this while sipping tea or something idk long story short it resonates with me and i truly thank you
same :)
A community would be even better idk. Like our little society.
@@Forestry_rl exactly
Me too😊
@@Forestry_rlyes! I remember finding no surf on Reddit but then I realised, noone will be on it because they're no longer using the internet. It's a shame we can't all write to each other
i'm very grateful that i found this video. i've been stuck in a depressive episode for weeks now and currently trying to find ways to make it better. i've realized that this is probably one of the reasons why. we consume too much now-a-days, barely spending time in silence or with only ourselves. i've been losing touch with who i am and not a single moment i can remember where its just only me; i and my thoughts alone. watching these types of vids is a wake up call and plus, your voice is so comforting to listen to! will do my hardest to apply this within myself. thank you 💗
May Allah reward you , you don’t even know how much videos helped me with these podcast videos. Pls make more of these podcasts InshAllah
Reward with male h u . R ??
@@allahlesboslu2_9 you have no life making a whole account and targeting Muslims. Get a life lol
@@allahlesboslu2_9why male?
@@allahlesboslu2_9Nah you need some female Apsaras
Will Allah reward me too?
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I've always wondered why Tumblr feels slow paced and not as addictive as other apps. I think it has something to do with its design, you don't really have algorithm, you only get posts from the people you follow, so mostly stuff you will like seeing. There are also a lot of long text posts compared to other apps, from random fun educational facts to book reviews to stories and ponderings. The whole app culture feels slower paced and the people there seem to have more patience. You don't feel exhausted from using it in my experience. It feels like all the university/college students, science nerds, authors, artists and geeks jumbled up in one place and it's great lol :)
Though now what's happening to twitter and reddit tumblr has started to make changes to look more mainstream. Most users don't like the change.
is there any other slow paced apps you recommend?
@@basilcreates8146 pinterest maybe
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You got me at pointing out how not normal it is to experience extreme happiness or sadness in less than a minute. Jazaki Allahu khairen 🌻❤️🤲
Subhanallah this was amazing! I am a Muslim revert from Finland. I’m also studying psychology, and social media is helping me a lot about learning about this dunya and Allah Azzawajal through podcasts like doubt busters on Efdawah, but the other part is this. Scrolling also takes me away from studying.
This is the most healthful video that I’ve seen in a very long time. Thank you for this message.
HealthyGamerGG, an actual psychiatrist, actually talked about this in a video called “why finding purpose is so hard today” and it covers many points in ur vid and more! Highly recommend it :) keep spreading this message, our generation really needs it
i thought of a lot of his content while watching this!! actually, in particular i got really emotional when farah brought up the bit about "our brains being our homes" after talking about how she experiences these internal conversations when she allows herself to sit in silence. it reminded me a lot of a segment of dr. k's second interview with ludwig about the internal dialogue, ego/id, and intuition that has stuck with me for months ever since i saw it!!! how much of our own internal logic, reason, and processing are we missing out on because we are distracting ourselves with so much flotsam 🥲
Farah dear, my neck started hurting from shaking my head in agreement so much😂 You're truly wisdomous and it's presented in such a uniqe and enjoyable content. I've built a habit of sitting alone for some minutes after prayers for a while now and it changed me into a whole much better and much more mature person. Especially when my dad passed away and my whole world just shifted and changed. I started sitting alone contemplating life and it's purposes and my emotions towards life's events. This habit alone helped me move on and make peace with alot of issues. However, I would be a true lier if I said that social media is not my source of addiction. It's enslaving me to the point where I don't think I'm standing on firm grounds anymore. My life feels like a journey with no heading and no destination and basically no goals. I think this is why social media has taken over my life so easily because having an incredible amount of free time is such a dangerous place to be. Sometimes I wish if I could study and do something with my life. Sometimes I wish if I had a job where I feel like I'm not such a loser and that I'm actually productive. But unfortunately, it seems that I cannot do anything at this moment of life. And even if I did, my lack of awareness and the lack of goals will keep me paralized. All&all, like shifting winds and like raging storms, life is beautifully unexpectable and who knows what will happen in the future. May Allah bless your life and give whatever you need and desire dear Farah. Keep posting such great videos as u don't know whom you will be saving because of them❤❤
im sorry to be a bother, but you could use "wise" instead of wisdomous (i love this word, and its never leaving my lexicon). Truly loved your comment!
YES 🙌 I’ve been feeling this for so long and it’s reassuring to see someone with a big platform spreading this message! Let’s put our phones down and connect with eachother, connect with ourselves again!
This video is absolutely golden. This is something I've been really getting a larger understanding of lately and it's quite terrifying just how much we've been affected by all of this overstimulation. I love how genuine and real you come across in this, I feel like it's not seen as much on these platforms. I made a video about it myself but I gave the message with stimulative presentation while talking about overstimulation. I think it's amazing that you were able to give it purely. Please continue to make content! Subscribed!
Thank you so much for speaking about this 🙌🏽
I feel like a lot of this has been conditioned by social media and how we have all this information at hand from the internet. I remember how still in high school I was able to easily listen to 1h+ talks from old youtube and now? Even with this video my mind has the want to multitask - it's insane how high-strung we all are these days.
Also thank you for saying that being productive doesn't mean doing 100 of different things, for some reason that was an eye opener.
Lisstening to you speak gave me a fragment of my sanity back. I enjoyed the pauses. I enjoyed how natural, organic and authentic this entire thing is. Thank you for taking the time and energy to do this.
It's so important to differentiate between the wants and needs of this life. Thank you for reminding me Sister Farah.
"learn to be bored" is the greatest thing I've read in years
12:00 i remember one of my friends didn't wanted to study...so my teacher said "just sit on the table for 3 hours, dont do anything ,don't even touch the phone"...later he got bored and touched a book for moment...day by day he studied a little by liitle...his grades improved later.
Being grateful isn't only Important for your mental health it's also very important for your faith in God.
You're so right! It's really scary to look around and see everyone on their phone. I feel like we're becoming robots without minds and the only thing we know is social media 😭. I'm concerned about the content on social media. How do people even post that awful content? Why do they post it? Why do others like it? I once read in a book that people ignore and want to forget their problems and not deal with them even though dealing with them is easier than ignoring them. I think social media makes it easy to ignore problems and feel happy. People are addicted to it because they "can't" find happiness in their life.
You’re such a beautiful soul. I’m not new to this community but everyday I get to watch videos of people that I believe have the same mindset it makes me feel new. It’s crazy how UA-cam recommended this gem for me. Hope to learn more stuff. You really have a wonderful humour too. Have a blessed day.
This made me emotional as well, since us Muslim sisters we are really wasting our time other than doing something that is beneficial for ourselves, and it’s so sad how we waste our time in stuff that doesn’t really help us in life, thank you farah ❤️
The exact reason why I stop using Snapchat, IG, and Twitter. I actually enjoy being bored and giving my thoughts the freedom to roam around in my head.
you're one of the most well spoken humans i've ever seen, made it so difficult for people who search for reasons to take offense at something to defend their addiction.
i recently went through a break up and i catched myself watching hours of videos on instagram just so I didn't have to sit with my feelings and actually work on it because it was a way of not having to think about what happened. this video actually opened my eyes about that.
Sister, thanks for sharing this.
Ive deleted Instagram more than a week ago because of how I seem to find faults and problems with others that wouldn't even concern me if i didnt see that story/post. Ofc theres the important news but theres more negative than good. Usually it ends up in mindless scrolling, just to feel something.
Two days ago ive actually noticed how through just a few minutes i was back and forth on both extremes; saddened by some stuff in life but then making myself laugh as coping mechanism for something positive. On repeat in a matter of few mins. Felt so crazy.
We all do really have something valuable to give in this short time we're here and it's really painful to think of how much time was spent on others' living their lives.
So true..when you mindlessly scroll on Instagram 'you just exist you are not living' that then leads to frustration on so many different levels
FACTSSS i had an severe phone addiction but alhamdulilah now my screen time is 3-4 Hours a day
this really struck a chord with me... i'm gonna try to spend more time with myself. i tend to fill my life with distractions because i get really depressed when i'm alone with my thoughts and ever since i've been old enough to have my own phone/pc/tv/whatever i've taken advantage of the ability to stay distracted 24/7 and never deal with those feelings but it's gotten to the point where i dont really even know who i am anymore and that disturbs me on such a deep level. i love existing and i love being alive. i love the world and i find so much beauty in it yet i dont even know the last time i really sat down and enjoyed what was around me. the feelings that come up absolutely suck and i'm definitely gonna cry each time i sit with my thoughts but i still think it's important to let whatever happens happen and embrace it as a part of life. this video was a sign to me that i need to change and i really appreciate you making this video. i wish you (and anyone reading this) peace in your life. i love you all
For as long as i remember , the internet has been almost my whole identity in a bad way. I’m basically glued to it in an unhealthy way. This video has motivated me honestly. Rn i average 10 hours. I’m going to try lower it as much as i possibly can. There is so much life for me outside the internet and i’m going to enjoy it moving forward.
I’m happy for you man and ima do the same thing and limit my time off the internet. Life is too short to always be on the internet and staying inside the house all day. Ima be living in the moment going forward. Good for you man you got this and take it one step at a time
Wish that you're keeping doing that 💗
recently there are videos appearing to me about how life was really good before 2020 and how we don't feel the time passing no more ,"its because of your phone" I just realized how our parents were right ,my mother always said that sitting in your phone will make you lose the feel of joy and peace of your mind.
wow the more you grow the more you realize that your parents are so damn wise and true.
Your channel has to be, if not the best, one of the best ones I have come across. You explain everything so clearly and passionately MashaAllah. I relate to what you say so much, and it has helped me realise that I am not alone in this fight for being at peace with myself and what I have (and what I don't have). I really hope you keep making these podcast videos because they are truly inspiring and eye-opening to many of us. May Allah bless you with success in this world and the hereafter (Ameen).
I don’t comment on UA-cam videos often, but this is quality. Keeping it real… & speaking truth. Proud of this kind of information online still around.
Mashallah you’re so well spoken and knowledgeable at such a young age. may allah reward you for these helpful videos. Ameen
I feel your sincerity. I'll try tomorrow to limit myself using social media but I also wanted to spend my time watching your podcast at least one episode per day. Love this.
I wait for you every jumuah , it’s almost like a jumua’s lecture ❤ it speaks to me and i love it. Thank you.
I'm Catholic, but your video really helped me to , I've been losing so much time with useless thing, and that makes me forget my real objective in life. Thanks very much and keep the good working!
14:45 we are the only species that actually can think about their thoughts (like have a critical thinking about their thoughts) and I think there’s a reason for that❤
I didn't realize how bad it was for me until I finally set a time limit on my phone for TikTok and realizing how quickly I hit the 1-hour daily limit and how many time a day I subconsciously tried to open the app. And even when I was reminded I couldn't how I found myself trying to get the same vibe from shorts or reels. To the point where I put limit on every social media. It was truly an addiction. It took almost 6 weeks before I finally had a day where I didn't hit any of my limits.
The hardest part was also realizing how it invades your social circle. At one point when hanging out with of my friends we were just sitting a someone's house scrolling together for hours. I never felt so isolated then being the only one that couldn't scroll and share content.
right now I'm off school for summer. It's the 20th of July and when my Dad goes to work and I am at home all day, in these 20 days I've discovered more about myself than I have in the last 2 years of my life. I'll cut the grass or do some chores and I'll just have conversations in my head with myself and it is like a podcast. I have no other stimulation other than the task I am doing, (sometimes I'm actually just sitting down thinking with nothing else happening) and when I say something I'll ask myself, "Well, why do you think that?" Or something similar and It is honestly some of the most truly peaceful and happy times I've ever experienced. Sitting outside in the evening just thinking and talking to myself in my thoughts is a different experience that one can only understand if they experience it. I would recommend doing it or just sitting with absolutely nothing else going on. This video is absolute preach and everyone should try/listen to everything she said.
Thank you for this video. Each day, i will spend at least 5 minutes just setting in silence or just listen to the natural sounds around me. Just what i needed to hear right when i was in the middle of looking for something to do because i was bored. 😅
this message was so important, thank you for this video! when you talked about your thoughts about your family wasting their precious times I got emotional too lol
I used to be addicted my my phone but everything changed when I finally got on medicine for my adhd and depression. I can sit in a room silently without my phone. I can read a whole book in a few days again and I haven't been able to do that in years! I feel like it's a dopamine deficit that causes tech dependency for a lot of people.
Sometimes I have to do something to stimulate my brain to distract myself from my problems. I don't want to face the reality of my life, and apart from work, I would rather just delve into the world of reading a story or watching a video instead of having 1-5 minutes of doing nothing that would lead to me feeling extremely depressed or sad. I know it's bad and I completely agree with your statements throughout this video, it's just very hard sometimes when you're having a bad day or a bad week.
Your video was eye opening for me , i am 14 and i am not good in studies, i have trouble sleeping(insomnia), my parents are disappointed in me, your video helped me so much, i am gonna join tuition tomorrow and study hard. Thanks from an indian muslim 🤍
You caught me scrolling and now I can't go back. You speak so much to my heart. I already got some of my little moments back. Work in progress 💪
Thanks for the friendly reminder of that subtle addiction ❤
After this video I sat in silence and drew a portrait of my friend that I’ve been meaning to get around to, and I thought about all of the things I was grateful for in our friendship
prime reason I love school. School should last our entire lives. That's partly why teachers are smarter than most.
Wow, I just adore you. What beautiful energy you have.
You absolutely did touch my heart, spoke to my soul, and changed my life.
If I didn’t do something with this, I would be dumb.
Eternally- thank you, Farah.
yt recommended me this in such diving timing. deleted snapchat last night. talked to my therapist today about my phone addiction and this video was more confirmation. thank you so much for this i need everyone to see this
"'If you're not doing something you're not being productive' is the biggest myth known to man" I felt that. I want to have it tattooed on my forehead.
last week one of my routines was broken after i was looking super forward to doing it that it made me enter a super depressive state. i was feeling lethargic and cocooned myself to my bed for hours not looking at my phone or any source of entertainment. i was very alone in my thoughts for several hours just letting myself wander but the time passed so much more effortlessly. although this boredom and misery came from a negative cause, the effect had me sit alone with myself something i haven’t done successfully since. great video
I’ve been slowly coming to the same conclusions over the last year, and this video came to me at the perfect time … I truly agree with everything you said
what u just said is something that the society is an aware of at all! the fact that sitting alone, all by yourself not doing anything is considered bizarre and weird nowadays. You waked me up, its just ,u answered to lots of things that happen with me throughout the day without me knowing
the way in which you express yourself is truly beautiful, thank you for this video.
I needed this. I feel so disconnected from myself and am always on a chase for dopamine. It's no surprise I'm struggling with depression or that I feel restless all the time. It's not natural.
It makes me glad to see this in my recommendations just when I felt productive but overwhelmed since I've never really known what else to do so I'm really thankful you made this video. It honestly helped ease me down for a bit, so now I know what to do when I feel overwhelmingly unproductive:)
I can't believe someone has addressed this. It's so rare these days, and I'm really glad you've talked about it. You're wonderful!
i haven’t seen a second of the video but this has been my mantra for so long and i keep telling it to people when they express sentiments regarding internet addiction etc
Listening to you feels like a fresh breath of air . Like a nice pause .
Spreading such a good message. So hard to put down my phone when it feels like my friend
This is what I needed to hear today. Alhumdulilah. May Allah reward you. Love your personality!
In italy we say "time go fast when you are havenig fun". The weird thing about social media is that when you spend your time scrolling time go fast, but you are not really having fun at all.
Assalamualaikum Farah, I hope you see this because you have no idea how perfectly timed your videos are by the grace of Allah(swt). Im currently 20 hehe, just a small background info! I literally had been struggling with the concept of productivity and occupying my time where the process itself had gotten so stressful that I enrolled myself in so many endeavours, only to end up not doing anything and doing everything at the very last minute.
But I know I want to do something for this world, and I know I want to bring meaningful change. I saw this video and as soon as you talked about the ummah and how our potential is wasted on mindless scrolling, it just hit me. Overstimulating is what kept me excited and what kept me happy and without these distractions, I felt a bit miserable. Prayer and the reading the Quran despite it alhamdulillah being a consistent habit, I stopped feeling the love from these beloved actions. I realised how much I was caving into this dunya and how much people around me and their outlook on life mattered to me but in reality, my Rabb already had given me a purpose and gave me time to rediscover myself rather than put on imposter syndrome.
Alhamdulillah, right after watching your video, I went out for a walk with no podcast whatsoever in the background and spent time with my brain and let it drift to various places and I realised how much I smiled during that walk just from the mere ideas my brain had and the conversations I was having with myself on life. I LITERALLY FORGOT EVERYTHING BY NOW BUT IT WAS SO NICE ALHAMDULILLAH.
I COULD NOT STOP SENDING DUAS YOUR WAY, I love you a lot Farah. I always tell my friends about how I just want to be your best friend cuz MAN YOURE SO COOL URGH. May Allah(swt) bless you immensely and fill your life and your aakhirah with everything that you want for you and your loved ones
we’re the same age & I sometimes feel like this!! there’s so much we can do at our age with our free time, may Allah allow us to make the most of it
Your post inspired me to take walks without listening to anything💙 Inshallah I'll try that next time. Thank you for sharing and I wish you the best 💙
Am glad your video popped up..
It's like a calling.Thank you and stay blessed.
I'm really grateful to have found this video, everything about it is so true. I've decided to stop using social media so often and start meditating and be the better version of myself.
I loved this video and i figured this out on my own when i was grounded without electronics or distractions. having time to sit an actually think, made me productive and took away that itch of having to do something all the time. i was at peace for once. no one can not benefit from being more in touch with themselves. learning yourself is learning how to be by yourself.
This video was extremely insightful, and I am really grateful that you are spreading this message! Social media and short term gratification has plagued a lot of minds, and this video is a reminder on why sometimes the best course of action is to sit in silence and reflect on yourself.