I'm 74, a USMC Vietnam veteran, a retired firefighter, husband, and father. Since the Marine Corps, fitness and a “can-do” attitude have kept me young and able to meet any challenge. Your lessons are excellent in this life, and may I add one: be resilient when the day doesn't go as planned. Have a plan B, adapt and overcome. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experiences.
Well said Marine! As a retired Army grunt myself. The "terrian dictates" and "adapt and overcome" principles I found are adaptable to everyday life. Im only 47, and if someone had told me 5 years ago that men would start to become soup sandwiches, I wouldnt have believed it. If you see something wrong....do something, sound off like you've got a pair! Get along to get along, to each his own and I always reserve the right to agree to disagree. I still uphold the oath I took back in 91'. I applaud all of you gentlemen for maintaining your bearing and driving on! God Bless you all. God Bless America🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸
The greatest gift I gave to myself at 25 years of age was to 'enjoy my own company'. I started by learning to cook high quality meals for myself in small portions. Some of the best reading a man can do to improve himself (next to the words of Jesus) is Marcus Aurelius. I am now 64 and have achieved the goals that I set for myself in my youth. Best of luck gentlemen.
Completely agree, on reading the Bible as well as Aerelius. It took me a little bit longer than you to realize I need to take care of myself above all else, and I focused too much on "keeping up" with "friends" and women for years and years. The most valuable things I have learned in my 41 years so far are self care, leaving toxic situations and people immediately, and focusing completely on leaving the rat race as soon as humanly possible. Godspeed brother.
Forty in October big brother and I planed a real estate empire 25 years ago that's firing up now after buying the property's in 17 for pennies on the dollar like in the movies where the government has a little known about public land auction website. Developing a couple to sell this year. Make the plan then die with the plan, never have a Plan B that just brings up the conversation quitting could be a option.
Respect. As corny as the saying "Age is just another number" might be, you can always better yourself regardless of age. I wish you strength to continue! All the best to you!
I'm 54, been retired for a year, no debt, cash in the bank, in great shape & single...on purpose. I've gone monk-mode & I know a lot of men will look down on me for this, but my life has NEVER been better. A peaceful, quiet lifestyle is such a huge flex.
I am 40 too. I was always a "good boy". Now I just take care of myself first. 100% me. From 35 to 40 it was an eye opening. Stopped sabotaging myself too.
Few things I did. I stopped smoking and drinking. Stopped dating toxic females. Love them, but they are not good for me. Stopped watching too much TV and working exessive hours. I workout more, more active and spend way more time with my kids. Good diet. Also take your vitamins (especially Vitamin D). Few things that have made a huge difference in my life. PS My kids live with me 70% of the time.
@@hjsegui I'm 42, divorced, and live with my two boys 100% of the time. Was scared as to how I was gonna raise them by myself. 2 years down the line my life is taking shape, my body as well. I no longer tolerate bullsh!t in any relationship. I come first.
Don't spend money you don't have on things you don't need to impress people who don't matter. It doesn't matter what you do, all that matters is that you take responsibility for your actions.
At 63,losing all I loved & strive for my spouse,mother,father & son,taught me the most valuable lesson,life happens,the how come,what for & why will tear you down if you try & figure it out,we spend 2/3 of our life's chasing down dreams,when we retire we're to physically & mentally wore out to enjoy it,my point is enjoy what you have,not what you want
I just wanted to check in and briefly share my story. I can relate to a lot of what was discussed in the video. I’m 33 years old. Had a good upbringing, did well in school, had a good family. But I had a lack of focus and purpose. I started drinking and partying, and years just ticked by. Eventually things completely fell apart and I lost everything. Dropped out of school, lots jobs, destroyed relationships. Addicted to heroin and meth, homeless on the streets, in and out of jail...it was a nightmare. And I created it. Now that I’m older though I finally got sick and tired of being sick and tired. After trying rehab over and over I finally managed to turn it around. I reestablished my faith in God, and got some clean time. I really dig deep and did some soul searching. I got a job, then a second one. I have an amazing girl friend. I started saving. Now I have 5 years clean from the hard stuff, and I’ve been working and saving for two years. I hope to own a home and get married soon. If I can do it, so can you. Be blessed, every one!!!!
Thank you for sharing your story. It would seem, based on the broad strokes you shared about your life we have some trials in common. By recounting not just the "good parts" but a whole picture you've managed to communicate hope for better times to me if I continue the "grind" forward. Very encouraging.
I just stumbled onto this video. I turn 47 tomorrow. I've spent my entire life following people and desperate for validation that never comes. Between toxic relationships, horrible choices with vices and excuses all combined with feeling sorry for myself I'm at a strange place. This video was a breath of fresh air. Time to put in the work. Thanks for your message. Subbed.
Brother, it is a rough journey leaving the Army life. Find another mission immediately. Don't linger it is weird becoming a civilian. God bless you, and thank you for your service.
More changes than you can imagine. Hopefully you are debt free with savings. Keep active don't let yourself go. Try to find ajob you like. Seek the Lord Find a good church, the support of other godly men is really helpful. Will pray for you
I'm 45 I've learned don't lie to yourself about your situation we tend to say everything is going good. Always keep yourself in shape, never break your word because it's the core of who you are.
47 this June. Recovering from COVID/hospitalization. Yes you are correct, definitely more mentally and emotionally comfortable. Life has become simpler. Less white noise. Like David Groggins said, "Stop caring what other people think of you". Being in isolation for almost two weeks, I learned, for me, it's to live for God, Jesus and my family. Do them right, and He will provide. Many blessings to you and yours man.
If Jesus helps you I think that is great and awesome. But I ask this of you Brother.Turn to your Ancestors and talk to them ask them for Guidance in life. They will speak to you and come to you.
I am 62. I am below 25 on the BMI scale. I am a better off-road motorcycle rider now than when I was 18. I could go on in this vein, but I won’t; you get the idea.
65 here. Lifestyle of exercise, nothing stupid. Been told I’ve got the heart of a 18 yr old endurance athlete. We all have our bad days, up and downs, stay focused. It pays dividends when you get older. Getting ready to retire in a couple of months. Stay strong, men. Our country will be calling on us very soon.
As a 26 year old who feels lost and stagnant in life. I’ve had my share of mistakes and detours from the intended path. Resulting in not being where I thought I wanted or needed to be. Not being the person I know I am capable of. This video and the stories of these amazing men in the comments, it’s electrifying. It gives me confidence and motivation to challenge myself. It’s time to look inward and work on myself.
I felt the same way at 26. Now, at 46, I’ve accomplished everything I set out to do. My kids are raised. I built my own house. I’ve paid off all my self-sabotage(ing) debts. It takes time, sir. The days are long but the years are short. I hope this is helpful.
@@rasheemthebestfirstone3274 Invest in a few books about self-care. When you've established healthy eating, sleeping, and exercise/work routines and you become interested in forming a relationship with a woman, stop. And ask yourself how well you know yourself and your own mind. Or what you want to accomplish in life? Internalize your own locus of control-- this is the step that will allow you to continue to make truly independent choices and keep you from getting manipulated and caught up/used in other people's (a woman's) plans. Learn about attachment theory. It governs how past significant relationships have influenced another person's thinking and/or actions. Learn about boundaries in relationships that are the way to safeguard your own self-respect and helps define the differences between you and others. And, never surrender the good relationships you've formed with male friends to placate any woman you might be interested in getting to know better. That's how you build loyalty in your friendships.
I’m almost 40 now. After fighting atypical major depressive disorder for 35 years, I’d say don’t let anyone who hasn’t been where you are tell you where you ought to be going. We are all constrained by our own horizons.
38 years old and have made some severely bad life choices up until the beginning of 2021. What I've gained since then... it's never too late to get started! I will say when I added in the planning out everyday, my productivity went up at least 50%! I want to thank you!
Im 40, Your comment just inspired me bro. I know Im not alone. My whole life has bee trauma and horrible choices and friends Ive had in life. I am fighting depression but if we dig deep, we will grow. Monk mode for me. No distractions. Salute.
@@teshmorrow605 the only way I'm going to stop trying as if I know today is my last day (even then I'm going to try all the way up until my last breath!) we can never give up! we have people that depend on us as men to provide for them and protect them. Somehow it has become socially acceptable to let your loved ones down (we have to change that) Keep fighting and find your purpose brother! once you find that purpose,everything else falls into place
Having a planner (calendar) filled with what you need to do that day, and tactical and strategic deadlines is liberating: you don't have to remember all of the stuff, but you don't let it fall through the cracks. On paper you look like a crazy man, but in you own head you are organized. It eliminates so much chronic stress so you can perform in the present.
I’m a ‘75 vintage, and so I’ve been around the block a couple of times. Had a few wins, but tripped over every mistake (often in multiples). A woman is a byproduct of the success or failure that you make out of the mission you face in navigating the challenges of your journey. She should not be your central focus, and her behaviour will reflect the degree to which you have managed to comprehend that. God knows; I’m still working on grasping this, and cleaning up the mess created by my ignorance. I like this channel - subbed.
I'll be 40 years old in October, I'm happy, but I can definitely improve. I've been married for almost eleven years and have a son. Only thing I'm definitely unsatisfied with is not having a career. Maybe being content is partially dangerous. I definitely feel that the wife and I grow stronger each year and am happy in that respect.
I'm 55 and just found your channel. I feel like I have spent my whole life rolling 2 feet forward then 4 back. Too many times I felt lost when trying to cross the wall that I placed in front of my face by past poor decisions. Now, I see someone to look at as an example. Not fan boy worship, but as an example to strive to achieve. Thank you.
Ive heard and believe: we have no heros...we as Americans have no age for Rights of passage . Heard Columbine may of happened simply because nobody told him any better. I believe Good people are out there and we need to surround ourselves with them. Good luck! Have a great day
Good video, thanks! Of all of the points you made I believe that the most important is to accept yourself. Not be satisfied, but accept yourself where you are. I'm 59 years old and it took a long time to accept myself. I have done good things and bad, but at my inner core, I'm a servant. Serving, protecting, and providing for others brings me joy, as well as achievement. Achievement requires goals. Defining for yourself what you want and how you want it to achieve it is a foundation for "success" how ever you might define that ideal.
Anyone you encounter in life look after their own interest. That don't make them selfish. What makes a person selfish is that he only look after his own interest and disregard everyone else's.
Dude, I am 35, about to complete PhD in electrical engineering, divorced my wife at 31,about to change job, sold house got cash, bought a decent apartment, about to change the city but involved in a 2 month relationship with an almost 30 year old gal, however since I started treating her like a princess, her dominant behaviour is coming up that is bothering me, and my plans are changing as they are circled around her, but thats making me unhappy, hence I decided to leave her, stick to my career goals only and that will make me happy which I wanna be at 40
Good move stay focused on your carrier stay single learn to just talk to a couple of girls here and there but no attachment sex will come of it but move on and stay focused on your carrier
@He IsLord actually the world isn't that a fine place after all, so though staying lonely might be difficult at 80 but it will be better than having a bitter taste all through out till 80
maybe she had other ideas of what a princess is guy...theres so many mistakes here i dont know where to start but for the good of all mankind, i will try: *slaps the sht out of you through the internet* tell me when you find something that makes us happy out here...we get a fleeting glimpse at best. suffering is the price of life. its unrealistic to expect having any kind of control over that. thats why love is worth the struggle. the helplessness, that unstoppable surrender, the uncertainty, its all normal. cant control that either. the joy when we find our worries had no merit? life changing. but rare. we lose faith and stop looking before we get there. we get hurt past any point of bearable and we shut it all down. we rationalize, stigmatize, ostracize our hearts away. it gets cold, we buckle up, double down. we get stiff. hard. and befre you know it *bink* big ole scary lookin block of ice, out on a glacier, sliding towards the water. and you start wishing you could feel anything agian. broken hearts included. how anything suppoise to spontaniously hapen in that. its rare because its hard to not fk it up almost immediately out of fear. but thats because nature wants the best of the best. love is the absence of fear. you can of course fix an unhealthy upbringing and a lot of relationships are these natural battlegrounds of the heart which lead to break down and failure. but then learning and growth. and eventually it whips you into shape, or it doesnt and you repeat lesson 1 over and over.
@Swat Im loving this comment bro! ive heard this before, but you brought it back to memory. Im dealing with rejection from this woman I'd been dealing with for sometime and your comment rlly helped relieve a little bit of that pain... thanks bro🙌🏾
I can relate to being Confident with myself and not needing to prove myself to anyone!!! Am currently 39 and I feel like I just woke up to a much productive life, thanks for all the advice it is very helpful
Fantastic video Sir, it’s taken me 30 years to find myself completely and be comfortable with myself. The last comment you made on that part of being a man means more to me than you will ever know, “You Can’t Beat A Man Who Has Fought Against Himself All of His Life” my own saying. Thank You
Besides learning from David Goggins, this is single-handedly the finest golden nugget of wisdom, concerning manhood that I’ve heard in the last four years of my life.
I find that facing fears, letting the truth lead me, maintaining my humility and constantly desiring to grow and act spiritually, mentally and emotionally has really helped me to develop into my manhood. I’m almost 38 and I’m finally learning what it mean to be a man and it’s really a process but it starts with faith and humility and asking God to help you in this life for his glory, and honor. Amen 🙏
I found your channel though recommend. Glad I clicked on this video. I'm 31 and lost with no direction in life. I just work my 9 to 5 and go home. No real memories with friends, family or girlfriend, it's just work and home for me and I'm tired of living like this... I've been like this since I got out of high school in 07. I can't get my 20s back but I really want my 30s to be better. I wanna win.
I could almost copy and paste this comment, because I'm the same age and feel exactly like that. Also this is the first ever video I've seen on this channel.
Im thankful for you brother ... Ive been feeling a bit lost and behind in life. However as i indulge deeper into your content and prayer things are becoming more clear. I truly desire to be the Best Man i can possibly be. Your words and speaking cadence definitely has helped gain more understanding of being a man. Thank you
30 years old and a single dad. This video was recommend to me on a Sunday. This is my Sunday blessing for directions of what I needed to do. God bless u sir
One thing I've learned in life is that everything takes a plan. And that without a plan, nothing gets done. I'm so glad I found your channel. Maybe now I can figure out how to be that man I'm supposed to be. Thank you!
Brother this was so insightful and the clear cut truth. I myself just turned 41, and am now at my happiest in my life. I have so much respect for myself and worth. That’s the most important thing needed to propel into that “future version” of self you described. Thanks for your insight! Blessings to you and family. New subscriber and look forward to more of your content. Peace and love brother.
I appreciate what you are doing. My mom gave me, “wild at heart” years ago and I set it aside. Until I found your channel after a break up because I acted like a little bitch did I see the importance in standing up. I’ve been listening to all your content, sharing your content and just trying to find my strength to overcome adversity. I have a better life than some yet finding it difficult to keep pushing forward. You are like a big brother to a lot of us younger guys in this world of misleading influencers, dating coaches and life coaches. I am grateful for this movement. I don’t have any questions because it’s right here. Thank you my friend. Through hardships and depression accountability be the answer. Others to Blame is the Number one cause of the helplessness we all feel sometimes.
Really enjoyed this. Very inspiring. Starting the same Journey you started in your thirties, in my 40s. Hopefully I can be as successful and inspire men like you have, but for the Glory of God through whom all blessings flow. I'll definitely be listening more to your stuff.
Thank you for your service brotha. Many of us have a sleeping lion deep inside of us and all we need is to be taught how to unleash it in a productive & positive way and I believe what you are doing can definitely help us to do that. Thank you 👍
There it is! Finally an episode that I can say that all content truly hit home with me. I have listened to many many of your tutorials within the past few weeks since I started listening. Thank you for what you are doing and thank you for helping and guiding.
Respect!!! I’m older than you and know you are speaking truth to power. Your service is needed for young men (and older men too) who are now growing up in a society that often neuters their potential and growth as MEN!!!
Nothing more attractive or interesting or relaxing or inspiring than meeting a man who is all and completely comfortable in his masculinity. No to be confused with macho behaviour which is the opposite of true masculinity. A man who stands fully in his masculinity and is very comfortable in his own skin is how men were always supposed to move around in this world. No thanks to unisex and onesized approach. The same goes for women and femininety. Stand tall and comfortable in your masculine or feminine nature. 🙌🏻
Love your encouragement and support for men, God knows in today’s world it is not easy for our beloved men - but you are LOVED and NEEDED!!! ❤️❤️❤️ Do you know of a 12 week plan for women and femininity by chance? Much love ❤️
Honestly, femininity can easily be learned right here in the manosphere simply by reading between the lines. Woman tend to be quite good at that?😜 A few examples to start you off on the right foot. Paul Elam has a few designed to help woman improve themselves in order to become more attractive to a man. Here is the problem though, they are geared toward men, and few woman have the ability to simply turn the talk 180 degrees in order to apply to them. Karen Straughan has many similar videos, again, geared toward men, but useful for woman with introspective.yan Alexander Grace, Courtney Ryan, Dianna Davison, there are literally thousands of MGTOW videos that would be a gold mine for woman, if they could just learn to let their feels at the door.
Very well stated. Thank you. Gonna be 45. Thought still being around at this age ... no way. But got out of my office job. Completely self-sufficient. Working outside doing construction now. Feeling better than I can ever remember. Great stuff. Thanks again.
I think God for you and your The Order of Man, Ryan. It truly is a godsend to me and so many others. Praying for you, brother for all those involved and all those who listen.
I’m an architect feeling my mission is to address this at a large scale hope I can stay focused needing to plan is my problem, trying to organize myself to keep adding value instead of just having great ideas that go no where.
At 38, realizing that finding my own lane and achieve what I can do for my daughter. Toxic relationship will no longer have a hold on me and attack my life with routine and being resilient in my approach with what I want.
I’ll be 40 in December. I have a wife and 3 kids. This is great content and I was happy to stumble across your channel. Subscribed 👌🏻 Keep them coming, sir.
Great insights. I like how you prioritize relationship building. It’s just as important- and maybe even more important than other aspects of manhood that are generally given greater emphasis.
This video/channel popped up as a recommended video for me and I'm so glad it did! I had never heard of this channel or podcast before today. I could tell within the 1st min that I found something I would resonate with and relate to. Just within the last couple weeks I have said many times to friends and family .... "What the hell is happening to the men of this world??" Loving the content and just followed on Instagram. Keep up the awesome work! 🤘🏼👍🏼
Congratulations to you! I wish you strength for the future. Become the example and role model that your son needs to succeed in life. All the best to you!
I'm 42, and I'm so thankful that I found this Channel!! I'm a newer Sub here so I have some catching up to do on past videos, and I can't wait as more content is Uploaded!! You are hitting every point! I'm in my 40's and more lost in my life than in my younger years!! Married for 20+ years now, 4 kids, just lost my job 2 weeks ago, for reasons to dumb to explain! Pointless firing of a great worker that was just finally getting back on his feet after being Unemployed for a majority of 2020 due to the Pandemic!! Tired, Depressed, Failing my family, failing my wife, failing at everything here lately!! I will over come this, just gotta organize and plan accordingly!! Love the shirt and hat Brother!! Thanks again for the content, I can't wait to watch more!!
I’ve had many successes and failures in my 57 years and one of the key things is starting over no matter the circumstance ,learn from your mistakes and enjoy each day that God gives you to soldier on. Be positive , respectful of others and serve to lead with self examination lists for correction, discipline for self motivation and wellbeing.
Love this episode! For some reason, I'm not sure why it sounds very powerful. Ryan's delivery is on point. I wish this video is capsulated and shared with the world 50 years from now. Men, stand up.
Thank you, very authentic speech. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and knowledge. This will change my life. Together we will make this world a better place.
I know this video is a older one but you said it’s your 40th and this is from the last 6ish years of your life. Well I’m 34 and I’m here for the wisdom man. Thanks for everything you do.
Thank you very much for putting this together. God bless you richly. "Act like men" from 1 Cor 15:33-34 "Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act as men, be strong. Let all that you do be done in love."
This was very very inspiring and so far... Its only been a day.... But much progress brother. U woke my butt up!! Thanks!!! Seriously i wanna cry thanks..
1 plan the day
2 learn from the best
3 cause bigger than you
4 do things that lead to joy
5 get comfortable with where and who you are
6. have a sense of humor about yourself
7. after 40 red hot potato chips are going to cause you some pain the next time on the pot.
Thanks
5 I thought it was win battles with yourself and don't be the natural man. I'm new to the channel, just thought that was important.
Thank you. Honestly, I wish youtubers would provide a list like this at the beginning of their video
@@modernmistyk4341 ikr!
I'm 74, a USMC Vietnam veteran, a retired firefighter, husband, and father. Since the Marine Corps, fitness and a “can-do” attitude have kept me young and able to meet any challenge. Your lessons are excellent in this life, and may I add one: be resilient when the day doesn't go as planned. Have a plan B, adapt and overcome. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experiences.
The USMC has that effect on people. You learn that you have the ability to move mountains with sheer will and effort.
Well said Marine! As a retired Army grunt myself. The "terrian dictates" and "adapt and overcome" principles I found are adaptable to everyday life. Im only 47, and if someone had told me 5 years ago that men would start to become soup sandwiches, I wouldnt have believed it. If you see something wrong....do something, sound off like you've got a pair! Get along to get along, to each his own and I always reserve the right to agree to disagree. I still uphold the oath I took back in 91'. I applaud all of you gentlemen for maintaining your bearing and driving on! God Bless you all. God Bless America🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸
Thank you for your service and for staying true! You are appreciated and loved! ❤️
Thank you for your services sir, I’ll keep that in mind
You and Jay are what I expect from our military. Good on you.
The greatest gift I gave to myself at 25 years of age was to 'enjoy my own company'. I started by learning to cook high quality meals for myself in small portions. Some of the best reading a man can do to improve himself (next to the words of Jesus) is Marcus Aurelius. I am now 64 and have achieved the goals that I set for myself in my youth. Best of luck gentlemen.
Meditations is a fantastic book.
Thanks for the pointers old timer👍🏼
Completely agree, on reading the Bible as well as Aerelius. It took me a little bit longer than you to realize I need to take care of myself above all else, and I focused too much on "keeping up" with "friends" and women for years and years.
The most valuable things I have learned in my 41 years so far are self care, leaving toxic situations and people immediately, and focusing completely on leaving the rat race as soon as humanly possible.
Godspeed brother.
Forty in October big brother and I planed a real estate empire 25 years ago that's firing up now after buying the property's in 17 for pennies on the dollar like in the movies where the government has a little known about public land auction website. Developing a couple to sell this year. Make the plan then die with the plan, never have a Plan B that just brings up the conversation quitting could be a option.
@@zacharycarrpublicadjuster7298 good on ya! Absolutely correct, carry-on.
I’m 50... down 28 pounds and in the best shape of my life. Running daily and kettle bells. No excuses!
Hell yea!
Nice job brother, I just turned 45 last week and I need to start exercising more brother . I work a ton but jogging needs to start.
Cheers
Olympia WA
That's awesome
Respect. As corny as the saying "Age is just another number" might be, you can always better yourself regardless of age.
I wish you strength to continue! All the best to you!
Good effort mate
I'm 54, been retired for a year, no debt, cash in the bank, in great shape & single...on purpose. I've gone monk-mode & I know a lot of men will look down on me for this, but my life has NEVER been better. A peaceful, quiet lifestyle is such a huge flex.
You are a very smart Man Danny, and do not worry about those who choose to be a Mule for her.
@@madhatter9001 thanks brother. I hope you're well.
Good goin Danny! You should do whatever makes you happy in life ❤️☀️🥰
@@1111om thanks, Heather. I hope you’re doing well.
Danny D you will live a long healthy life.
I am 40 too. I was always a "good boy". Now I just take care of myself first. 100% me. From 35 to 40 it was an eye opening. Stopped sabotaging myself too.
Same here bro.. It’s Time for the “nice guy” to have fun.
Same here!
Sabotaging self has been a thorn in my side. For the last 4 years, I'm sabotage self free.
Few things I did. I stopped smoking and drinking. Stopped dating toxic females. Love them, but they are not good for me. Stopped watching too much TV and working exessive hours. I workout more, more active and spend way more time with my kids. Good diet. Also take your vitamins (especially Vitamin D). Few things that have made a huge difference in my life. PS My kids live with me 70% of the time.
@@hjsegui I'm 42, divorced, and live with my two boys 100% of the time. Was scared as to how I was gonna raise them by myself. 2 years down the line my life is taking shape, my body as well. I no longer tolerate bullsh!t in any relationship. I come first.
Don't spend money you don't have on things you don't need to impress people who don't matter.
It doesn't matter what you do, all that matters is that you take responsibility for your actions.
It reminds me of something that George Carlin said
nice
Actually George Carlin was one of the great philosophers of our time.
He just happened to also be funny 😀
@@omahajim45 It's funny how he predicted what's going on today's society
Well said 👍🏽
At 63,losing all I loved & strive for my spouse,mother,father & son,taught me the most valuable lesson,life happens,the how come,what for & why will tear you down if you try & figure it out,we spend 2/3 of our life's chasing down dreams,when we retire we're to physically & mentally wore out to enjoy it,my point is enjoy what you have,not what you want
Thank you, wise brother
I just wanted to check in and briefly share my story. I can relate to a lot of what was discussed in the video. I’m 33 years old. Had a good upbringing, did well in school, had a good family. But I had a lack of focus and purpose. I started drinking and partying, and years just ticked by. Eventually things completely fell apart and I lost everything. Dropped out of school, lots jobs, destroyed relationships. Addicted to heroin and meth, homeless on the streets, in and out of jail...it was a nightmare. And I created it.
Now that I’m older though I finally got sick and tired of being sick and tired. After trying rehab over and over I finally managed to turn it around. I reestablished my faith in God, and got some clean time. I really dig deep and did some soul searching. I got a job, then a second one. I have an amazing girl friend. I started saving. Now I have 5 years clean from the hard stuff, and I’ve been working and saving for two years. I hope to own a home and get married soon. If I can do it, so can you. Be blessed, every one!!!!
Sounds almost identical to what you been threw except I’m 10 years older starting over
Keep up the good work!!!!!!
@@Jays0979 We got this, Jayson! Life is sweet on the other side! God is good!
I don’t know you, but I’m proud of you brother! Keep at it. You’ve got at least one new person rooting for you.
Thank you for sharing your story.
It would seem, based on the broad strokes you shared about your life we have some trials in common.
By recounting not just the "good parts" but a whole picture you've managed to communicate hope for better times to me if I continue the "grind" forward.
Very encouraging.
Thank you for sharing... This is definitely inspiring
I just stumbled onto this video. I turn 47 tomorrow. I've spent my entire life following people and desperate for validation that never comes. Between toxic relationships, horrible choices with vices and excuses all combined with feeling sorry for myself I'm at a strange place. This video was a breath of fresh air. Time to put in the work. Thanks for your message. Subbed.
Me too. I’m waking up after going along with the bs
It's not the dark ages, 47 is young these days, you got decades to go bud, you're gonna crush it
It's never too late to turn things around. New day starts at midnight.
Me too brother
I heard that. I'm done with it. Looking forward to new beginnings.
1-Plan everyday a day early
2-Have a 5 year plan
3-Execute the plans
4-Don't wait for others
5-Learn from mistakes
I just turned 40 this weekend and I’ll be retiring from the army after 20 years. So many changes coming.
I’m 5 years in and I am getting out. Not sure how you put up with the BS but it makes my head hurt.
Brother, it is a rough journey leaving the Army life. Find another mission immediately. Don't linger it is weird becoming a civilian. God bless you, and thank you for your service.
More changes than you can imagine. Hopefully you are debt free with savings. Keep active don't let yourself go. Try to find ajob you like. Seek the Lord
Find a good church, the support of other godly men is really helpful. Will pray for you
@@chrishugs6173
There's b.s. even out here man. In my opinion, more than in the military. Thats life.
@@chrishugs6173 Time to join the salvation army.
43, just retired from the Army 21years , and hit the ground running and I can say I am ready for whats coming down the pipe 😎!
Army 24 years... thank tou for your service.
What lesson learned cam you share feon transitioning?
Podcast like the guy above........Would love to know what you learned.........All the best..........Blessings................
Podcast like the guy above........Would love to know what you learned.........All the best..........Blessings................
Army 23 years. Thank you for your service
I'm 45 I've learned don't lie to yourself about your situation we tend to say everything is going good.
Always keep yourself in shape, never break your word because it's the core of who you are.
47 this June. Recovering from COVID/hospitalization. Yes you are correct, definitely more mentally and emotionally comfortable. Life has become simpler. Less white noise. Like David Groggins said, "Stop caring what other people think of you". Being in isolation for almost two weeks, I learned, for me, it's to live for God, Jesus and my family. Do them right, and He will provide. Many blessings to you and yours man.
People say covid patients always have high c reactive protein and high fibrin(clots)??
If Jesus helps you I think that is great and awesome. But I ask this of you Brother.Turn to your Ancestors and talk to them ask them for Guidance in life. They will speak to you and come to you.
I got a shitty hand right off the bat, but over the 45 years I have learned how to clean it off and fill my hands with love and purpose.
🌹
The mature and responsible man is greater than his original programming.
Learn and grow every day.
This is a fantastic statement, well done.
I’ll turn 60 this year and after a lifetime of working out I’m stronger than most half my age. You either do it or you don’t. It’s only up to you.
I am 62. I am below 25 on the BMI scale. I am a better off-road motorcycle rider now than when I was 18. I could go on in this vein, but I won’t; you get the idea.
I'm 49, I'm feeling optimistic reading these comments.
65 here. Lifestyle of exercise, nothing stupid. Been told I’ve got the heart of a 18 yr old endurance athlete. We all have our bad days, up and downs, stay focused. It pays dividends when you get older. Getting ready to retire in a couple of months. Stay strong, men. Our country will be calling on us very soon.
@@rogerknight2267 for what?
@@michaelpace1075 : you
As a 26 year old who feels lost and stagnant in life. I’ve had my share of mistakes and detours from the intended path. Resulting in not being where I thought I wanted or needed to be. Not being the person I know I am capable of. This video and the stories of these amazing men in the comments, it’s electrifying. It gives me confidence and motivation to challenge myself. It’s time to look inward and work on myself.
aye you got this yo
I felt the same way at 26.
Now, at 46, I’ve accomplished everything I set out to do. My kids are raised. I built my own house. I’ve paid off all my self-sabotage(ing) debts. It takes time, sir.
The days are long but the years are short.
I hope this is helpful.
Any advice for a 19 year old?
@@michaeldalton8374 It's reading comments like this that makes me feel that humanity will be ok. This whole comment thread is refreshing
@@rasheemthebestfirstone3274 Invest in a few books about self-care. When you've established healthy eating, sleeping, and exercise/work routines and you become interested in forming a relationship with a woman, stop.
And ask yourself how well you know yourself and your own mind.
Or what you want to accomplish in life?
Internalize your own locus of control-- this is the step that will allow you to continue to make truly independent choices and keep you from getting manipulated and caught up/used in other people's (a woman's) plans.
Learn about attachment theory. It governs how past significant relationships have influenced another person's thinking and/or actions.
Learn about boundaries in relationships that are the way to safeguard your own self-respect and helps define the differences between you and others.
And, never surrender the good relationships you've formed with male friends to placate any woman you might be interested in getting to know better.
That's how you build loyalty in your friendships.
I’m almost 40 now. After fighting atypical major depressive disorder for 35 years, I’d say don’t let anyone who hasn’t been where you are tell you where you ought to be going. We are all constrained by our own horizons.
Great quote!
Thank you for this truth and encouragement. It is not easy being single, abused, being a father alone, and taking care of myself.
38 years old and have made some severely bad life choices up until the beginning of 2021.
What I've gained since then...
it's never too late to get started!
I will say when I added in the planning out everyday, my productivity went up at least 50%! I want to thank you!
Im 40, Your comment just inspired me bro. I know Im not alone. My whole life has bee trauma and horrible choices and friends Ive had in life. I am fighting depression but if we dig deep, we will grow. Monk mode for me. No distractions. Salute.
@@teshmorrow605 the only way I'm going to stop trying as if I know today is my last day
(even then I'm going to try all the way up until my last breath!)
we can never give up!
we have people that depend on us as men to provide for them and protect them.
Somehow it has become socially acceptable to let your loved ones down (we have to change that)
Keep fighting and find your purpose brother!
once you find that purpose,everything else falls into place
Having a planner (calendar) filled with what you need to do that day, and tactical and strategic deadlines is liberating: you don't have to remember all of the stuff, but you don't let it fall through the cracks.
On paper you look like a crazy man, but in you own head you are organized. It eliminates so much chronic stress so you can perform in the present.
I’m a ‘75 vintage, and so I’ve been around the block a couple of times. Had a few wins, but tripped over every mistake (often in multiples). A woman is a byproduct of the success or failure that you make out of the mission you face in navigating the challenges of your journey. She should not be your central focus, and her behaviour will reflect the degree to which you have managed to comprehend that. God knows; I’m still working on grasping this, and cleaning up the mess created by my ignorance. I like this channel - subbed.
I'll be 40 years old in October, I'm happy, but I can definitely improve. I've been married for almost eleven years and have a son. Only thing I'm definitely unsatisfied with is not having a career. Maybe being content is partially dangerous. I definitely feel that the wife and I grow stronger each year and am happy in that respect.
I love it I turned 40 in April and the true feminine compliments the man when we each stand in our power
True.
I'm 55 and just found your channel. I feel like I have spent my whole life rolling 2 feet forward then 4 back. Too many times I felt lost when trying to cross the wall that I placed in front of my face by past poor decisions. Now, I see someone to look at as an example. Not fan boy worship, but as an example to strive to achieve. Thank you.
55? So you got at least another 30 years, sounds like enough time to conquer the world
Ive heard and believe: we have no heros...we as Americans have no age for Rights of passage .
Heard Columbine may of happened simply because nobody told him any better.
I believe Good people are out there and we need to surround ourselves with them.
Good luck! Have a great day
Good video, thanks! Of all of the points you made I believe that the most important is to accept yourself. Not be satisfied, but accept yourself where you are. I'm 59 years old and it took a long time to accept myself. I have done good things and bad, but at my inner core, I'm a servant. Serving, protecting, and providing for others brings me joy, as well as achievement. Achievement requires goals. Defining for yourself what you want and how you want it to achieve it is a foundation for "success" how ever you might define that ideal.
Amen brother !🙏 and Amen to all those getting up everyday and doing their best to succeed in life.
I turn 27 year's old in June and I'm glad I found this video I'm learning a lot
Anyone you encounter in life look after their own interest. That don't make them selfish. What makes a person selfish is that he only look after his own interest and disregard everyone else's.
I'm 43 this is pretty much 100% true. If you slack, it's hard to win it back.
Dude, I am 35, about to complete PhD in electrical engineering, divorced my wife at 31,about to change job, sold house got cash, bought a decent apartment, about to change the city but involved in a 2 month relationship with an almost 30 year old gal, however since I started treating her like a princess, her dominant behaviour is coming up that is bothering me, and my plans are changing as they are circled around her, but thats making me unhappy, hence I decided to leave her, stick to my career goals only and that will make me happy which I wanna be at 40
Good move stay focused on your carrier stay single learn to just talk to a couple of girls here and there but no attachment sex will come of it but move on and stay focused on your carrier
Look up for Corey Wayne On UA-cam, he'll help you get the girl you wish for.
Nice guys dont finish
@He IsLord actually the world isn't that a fine place after all, so though staying lonely might be difficult at 80 but it will be better than having a bitter taste all through out till 80
maybe she had other ideas of what a princess is guy...theres so many mistakes here i dont know where to start but for the good of all mankind, i will try:
*slaps the sht out of you through the internet*
tell me when you find something that makes us happy out here...we get a fleeting glimpse at best. suffering is the price of life. its unrealistic to expect having any kind of control over that. thats why love is worth the struggle.
the helplessness, that unstoppable surrender, the uncertainty, its all normal. cant control that either.
the joy when we find our worries had no merit? life changing.
but rare.
we lose faith and stop looking before we get there. we get hurt past any point of bearable and we shut it all down. we rationalize, stigmatize, ostracize our hearts away.
it gets cold, we buckle up, double down. we get stiff. hard.
and befre you know it *bink* big ole scary lookin block of ice, out on a glacier, sliding towards the water.
and you start wishing you could feel anything agian.
broken hearts included.
how anything suppoise to spontaniously hapen in that.
its rare because its hard to not fk it up almost immediately out of fear.
but thats because nature wants the best of the best. love is the absence of fear.
you can of course fix an unhealthy upbringing and a lot of relationships are these natural battlegrounds of the heart which lead to break down and failure. but then learning and growth. and eventually it whips you into shape, or it doesnt and you repeat lesson 1 over and over.
if you keep yourself busy in life (purpose) you don'y really care .....let alone have the time to worry what
anyone else thinks
I watch this as I just buried a great man, the greatest gift from him at my 42: Sobriety.
“Rejection is God’s protection. He has a bigger plan for you.”
Amen
Boom! Truth.
Amen brother! When you go to get a job or whatever and it doesn't go through is because GOD'S got a better door for you.
@Swat
Im loving this comment bro! ive heard this before, but you brought it back to memory. Im dealing with rejection from this woman I'd been dealing with for sometime and your comment rlly helped relieve a little bit of that pain... thanks bro🙌🏾
Amen
I can relate to being Confident with myself and not needing to prove myself to anyone!!! Am currently 39 and I feel like I just woke up to a much productive life, thanks for all the advice it is very helpful
Just found your channel. From a man and father to another man and father, thank you for your content.
When we are 20 we care about what others think of us . At 40 we dont care what they think of us. At 60 we realized they were thinking about us anyway.
As for me, my first 60 years of childhood were the most difficult ...
Yet I still deploy via OGA/NGO contracts ...
TOML
im 20 and i realise this, ig some learn later than others
@@jotarozee9548 you think you're better than chris ?
@@TheSAD999 im not better than nobody im just saying i realized what he was saying
i never cared what anyone thought of me, not in high school in 1991, not now. NEVER
Fantastic video Sir, it’s taken me 30 years to find myself completely and be comfortable with myself. The last comment you made on that part of being a man means more to me than you will ever know, “You Can’t Beat A Man Who Has Fought Against Himself All of His Life” my own saying. Thank You
Besides learning from David Goggins, this is single-handedly the finest golden nugget of wisdom, concerning manhood that I’ve heard in the last four years of my life.
Absolutely agree....For some reason nowadays we are taught to feel almost ashamed for being a strong Alpha (or not ) Male.
Go read 3% man, no more mr later nice guy, way of the superior man and Jordan Peterson books.
@@nathantinsley07 Thanks NT
I find that facing fears, letting the truth lead me, maintaining my humility and constantly desiring to grow and act spiritually, mentally and emotionally has really helped me to develop into my manhood. I’m almost 38 and I’m finally learning what it mean to be a man and it’s really a process but it starts with faith and humility and asking God to help you in this life for his glory, and honor. Amen 🙏
I found your channel though recommend. Glad I clicked on this video. I'm 31 and lost with no direction in life. I just work my 9 to 5 and go home. No real memories with friends, family or girlfriend, it's just work and home for me and I'm tired of living like this... I've been like this since I got out of high school in 07. I can't get my 20s back but I really want my 30s to be better. I wanna win.
I could almost copy and paste this comment, because I'm the same age and feel exactly like that. Also this is the first ever video I've seen on this channel.
Hey bro, it's all up to you.
Read the book he mentioned ... Wild at Heart
Im thankful for you brother ... Ive been feeling a bit lost and behind in life. However as i indulge deeper into your content and prayer things are becoming more clear. I truly desire to be the Best Man i can possibly be. Your words and speaking cadence definitely has helped gain more understanding of being a man.
Thank you
30 years old and a single dad. This video was recommend to me on a Sunday. This is my Sunday blessing for directions of what I needed to do. God bless u sir
One thing I've learned in life is that everything takes a plan. And that without a plan, nothing gets done.
I'm so glad I found your channel. Maybe now I can figure out how to be that man I'm supposed to be. Thank you!
Brother this was so insightful and the clear cut truth. I myself just turned 41, and am now at my happiest in my life. I have so much respect for myself and worth. That’s the most important thing needed to propel into that “future version” of self you described. Thanks for your insight! Blessings to you and family. New subscriber and look forward to more of your content. Peace and love brother.
I’m 22 and you’ve just nailed in who I know I need to be.
I appreciate what you are doing. My mom gave me, “wild at heart” years ago and I set it aside. Until I found your channel after a break up because I acted like a little bitch did I see the importance in standing up. I’ve been listening to all your content, sharing your content and just trying to find my strength to overcome adversity. I have a better life than some yet finding it difficult to keep pushing forward. You are like a big brother to a lot of us younger guys in this world of misleading influencers, dating coaches and life coaches. I am grateful for this movement. I don’t have any questions because it’s right here. Thank you my friend. Through hardships and depression accountability be the answer. Others to Blame is the Number one cause of the helplessness we all feel sometimes.
Really enjoyed this. Very inspiring. Starting the same Journey you started in your thirties, in my 40s. Hopefully I can be as successful and inspire men like you have, but for the Glory of God through whom all blessings flow. I'll definitely be listening more to your stuff.
Thank you for your service brotha. Many of us have a sleeping lion deep inside of us and all we need is to be taught how to unleash it in a productive & positive way and I believe what you are doing can definitely help us to do that. Thank you 👍
New to you. I love it, I live it. 45 years on this planet. Great to know that like-minded men are still out there. Thank you. I subscribed 👍on board.
The way you described winging the day vs planning and mastering the day...I’ve never heard it put that way. This was perfect timing for me.
There it is! Finally an episode that I can say that all content truly hit home with me. I have listened to many many of your tutorials within the past few weeks since I started listening. Thank you for what you are doing and thank you for helping and guiding.
Great advice I'm 36 and needed this earlier.
Respect!!! I’m older than you and know you are speaking truth to power. Your service is needed for young men (and older men too) who are now growing up in a society that often neuters their potential and growth as MEN!!!
Video starts at
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Thanks brother
Nothing more attractive or interesting or relaxing or inspiring than meeting a man who is all and completely comfortable in his masculinity. No to be confused with macho behaviour which is the opposite of true masculinity. A man who stands fully in his masculinity and is very comfortable in his own skin is how men were always supposed to move around in this world. No thanks to unisex and onesized approach. The same goes for women and femininety. Stand tall and comfortable in your masculine or feminine nature. 🙌🏻
My cause is my son. I have no time for jerks of any kind. Even if they're family.
Wow so your only give a shit about yourself what if they have a mental illness you going to teach your son about the way you think
Sounds about rite Romeo , thumbs up brother.
@@the_professor_70 thanks my man. You must be a parent too!
Being a good father to your son is very important
@@elmalanmalan2175 thank you, my friend. Exactly
Great Show. People need leadership.
Believe in god.
Save money for a rainy day.
Work Hard and be commited.
Accept responsibility for failures.
Love your encouragement and support for men, God knows in today’s world it is not easy for our beloved men - but you are LOVED and NEEDED!!! ❤️❤️❤️ Do you know of a 12 week plan for women and femininity by chance?
Much love ❤️
If you can't find one make one. Woman need encouragement too. I find it sad there's so few role models for women.
I was thinking this exact same thing while reading comments.
Honestly, femininity can easily be learned right here in the manosphere simply by reading between the lines. Woman tend to be quite good at that?😜
A few examples to start you off on the right foot.
Paul Elam has a few designed to help woman improve themselves in order to become more attractive to a man. Here is the problem though, they are geared toward men, and few woman have the ability to simply turn the talk 180 degrees in order to apply to them.
Karen Straughan has many similar videos, again, geared toward men, but useful for woman with introspective.yan
Alexander Grace, Courtney Ryan, Dianna Davison, there are literally thousands of MGTOW videos that would be a gold mine for woman, if they could just learn to let their feels at the door.
Very well stated. Thank you.
Gonna be 45. Thought still being around at this age ... no way. But got out of my office job. Completely self-sufficient. Working outside doing construction now. Feeling better than I can ever remember.
Great stuff. Thanks again.
Loved the point you made about having a plan in place, honestly changed the way I go on about my day.
I'm 39 years old, just found your channel and downloaded the 12 week journal. I'm ready man!
I think God for you and your The Order of Man, Ryan. It truly is a godsend to me and so many others. Praying for you, brother for all those involved and all those who listen.
I’m an architect feeling my mission is to address this at a large scale hope I can stay focused needing to plan is my problem, trying to organize myself to keep adding value instead of just having great ideas that go no where.
“It’s about winning battles with yourself.” So important! Go win battles with yourself! 25:33
Just signed up. I can't believe I let myself get so complaisant. It feels good to gain some directive and have a mission again. Thanks fellas
First time seeing your podcast, great content and at just 25 years young, this is great knowledge 🧠
At 38, realizing that finding my own lane and achieve what I can do for my daughter. Toxic relationship will no longer have a hold on me and attack my life with routine and being resilient in my approach with what I want.
I love the energy you bring to your work/this channel.
I’ll be 40 in December. I have a wife and 3 kids. This is great content and I was happy to stumble across your channel. Subscribed 👌🏻 Keep them coming, sir.
Great insights. I like how you prioritize relationship building. It’s just as important- and maybe even more important than other aspects of manhood that are generally given greater emphasis.
This video/channel popped up as a recommended video for me and I'm so glad it did! I had never heard of this channel or podcast before today. I could tell within the 1st min that I found something I would resonate with and relate to. Just within the last couple weeks I have said many times to friends and family .... "What the hell is happening to the men of this world??" Loving the content and just followed on Instagram. Keep up the awesome work! 🤘🏼👍🏼
Just stumbled on to this and I'm grateful. Thanks for your time and effort.
Your right need to plan the day better.
Fantastic to listen in the morning. I’m 4 months away from being a Father to a Boy.
Congratulations to you! I wish you strength for the future. Become the example and role model that your son needs to succeed in life. All the best to you!
Congrats brother. You're on track to make a great dad if this is what you listen to for entertainment.
Congrats
One month to go my friend, raise him strong and proud
I not only needed to hear this, I’m glad I clicked the link and found your page. Keep up the good work.
I'm 42, and I'm so thankful that I found this Channel!! I'm a newer Sub here so I have some catching up to do on past videos, and I can't wait as more content is Uploaded!!
You are hitting every point! I'm in my 40's and more lost in my life than in my younger years!! Married for 20+ years now, 4 kids, just lost my job 2 weeks ago, for reasons to dumb to explain! Pointless firing of a great worker that was just finally getting back on his feet after being Unemployed for a majority of 2020 due to the Pandemic!!
Tired, Depressed, Failing my family, failing my wife, failing at everything here lately!! I will over come this, just gotta organize and plan accordingly!!
Love the shirt and hat Brother!! Thanks again for the content, I can't wait to watch more!!
Chin up...................Blessings...................
Read the book he quoted.... Wild at Heart
@@ghhm2705 I will!! Thanks
Love Eldridge. Waking the Dead, Wild at Heart, The Way of the Wild Heart, etc. These books changed my life. 💪
I’ve had many successes and failures in my 57 years and one of the key things is starting over no matter the circumstance ,learn from your mistakes and enjoy each day that God gives you to soldier on. Be positive , respectful of others and serve to lead with self examination lists for correction, discipline for self motivation and wellbeing.
I'm 30 years old and am supper glad I watch this whole video. Thank you.
You are doing a great job for men. Keep it up.
First 30 seconds were so true that I just subscribed without thinking twice
I feel more manly 🙌 after watching this. Thx. 29 years old trying to put my life together and be more successful.
Love this episode! For some reason, I'm not sure why it sounds very powerful. Ryan's delivery is on point. I wish this video is capsulated and shared with the world 50 years from now. Men, stand up.
Good points, always enjoy your podcasts!!
Thank you, very authentic speech. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and knowledge. This will change my life. Together we will make this world a better place.
Rating 10+, our son's need to hear this
27 yo here. Trying to learn as much as I can every day. Thank you good Sir.
Youre valuable and appreciated💪🏾🔱
I know this video is a older one but you said it’s your 40th and this is from the last 6ish years of your life. Well I’m 34 and I’m here for the wisdom man. Thanks for everything you do.
Nothing but gems in all your videos!
I’m 28 and doing great since I started personal development, 3 years ago. First video I listen from you and I surely will subscribe!
This is exactly what I needed to hear today. 💪😎🤳
Thank you very much for putting this together. God bless you richly. "Act like men" from 1 Cor 15:33-34 "Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act as men, be strong. Let all that you do be done in love."
Glad I found your channel!!! PLAN YOUR DAY! yes 100%
Glad to see this channel getting deserved respect. Remember seeing sub-50k subs.
Thanks Ryan. Very precise points to live a better quality of life. I will share it with my students and close friends.
This was very very inspiring and so far... Its only been a day.... But much progress brother.
U woke my butt up!! Thanks!!!
Seriously i wanna cry thanks..