7 Movie Marriages that are ACTUALLY Healthy!
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- Опубліковано 17 чер 2024
- What makes a marriage work? What are your favorite movie marriages?
Licensed therapist Jonathan Decker and filmmaker Alan Seawright are diving into great movie marriages and sharing the beautiful lessons they can teach us. They discuss seven movies and lessons in marriage: Julie & Julia, supporting dreams; Father of the Bride, showing accountability; Love is Strange, accepting differences; The Legend of Tarzan, keeping passion alive; A Quiet Place, cherish each other; The Emperor’s New Groove, have each others’ backs; and Up, quality time. Don’t worry, we did a whole episode on the GOAT of movie marriages, Morticia and Gomez from The Addams Family. Marriage is often the most intimate and long-lasting relationship we have, though these lessons can be applied to any relationship. Should we do another top movie marriages video? Let us know in the comments!
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I'd absolutely watch a full Emperor's New Groove episode. Morticia and Gomez are the best movie marriage. Period.
Agreed! As a kid I always loved the second movie due to seeing more of the kids and the whole camp plot but as u grow up, the first movie gets funnier when you notice things you didn't understand as a kid. 😂
Me tooo
I agree!
Yes! This movie would be good to dissect!
Same!!! We need a Cinema Therapy on Emperor's New Groove!
Pepa and Felix from Encanto were a great couple as well. The way Felix doesn't try to control Pepa's emotions, even when she's creating a literal hurricane out of stress and instead tries to calm her and keep her dry is really sweet.
Yesss thay are my favorite!!!
And how he raised his sons to be respectful to and of women as well
"You're telling the story or am I??"
"I'm sorry, mi vida, go on..."
Yes! Definitely!
"married in a hurricane..."
"wHaT a BeAuTiFuL dAy-"
"You put your partner ahead of your needs, but not instead of your needs" so simple yet so brilliant.
Noted.
I mean I’m not even dating let alone married but noted.
@@thehevandragon neither am I lol. I do love that simple line. It is difficult to keep things simple sometimes.
And so very hard to do at times. Lol.
I would really like an ep (or series of eps) about friendships on film. Healthy, unhealthy, groups, one-on-one, toxic, supportive... There's so much. For many of us, our friends ARE our family, either by choice or because that's just how things turned out.
So would I! Me & Earl & The Dying Girl would be a great choice to start with
And maybe look at male friendships vs. female friendships?
This is great because so many movies are "main character plus supportive bestie who is barely a person"
There are a lot of great buddy movies, though, like planes trains and automobiles
Have you heard of My Little Pony: Friendship is Magic? It explores ALL of that
@@kiwitealc5353 There's a ton of great movie material about friendship, especially comedies. My favorite is "Peter's Friends", but also "Bridesmaids", "The Heat " (Melissa McCarthy and Sandra Bullock), Sideways...
Let’s talk about the fact that in Up when Carl accidentally paint his hand in the mail box Ellie has the best reaction. She doesn’t yell, get mad that he “ruined it”, doesn’t make him feel bad about it, even tho she spend time making it. She just smile and does the same. It’s like she is saying, it’s okay, let’s take this “accident” and turn it in to something new. Make the best of everything. Not focus on the “mistake” or make you feel bad about it.❤
Similar to when Pam ripped her wedding veil and Jim cut his tie on "The Office" XD
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To use Bob Ross' words: there's no mistakes, just happy little accidents 🥲
not only does she add hers, but she adds it like they are holding hands.
@@tracyroweauthor yeah😊
Someone mentioned 101 Dalmatians already, but Pongo and Perdita are SUCH a good marriage. They reassure each other, they are so quick and fast to fight off the baddies from their kids and each other, and in the scene where they are running away with the puppies, they never once bicker or fight over who's in charge - they just trust each other's knowledge and decisions.
The human couple and dog couple are both so good!
Roger and Anita are also relationship goals
"Do as your mother/father says," was the best example of being a team! Pongo/Perdita and Rodger/Anita for the win 🏆
Yes!
If you read the book, Pongo's mate is Missy, and Perdita is a mama with pups that they rescued. They end up in a polyamorous relationship.
Also Mr and Mrs Incredible has one of the most realistic and healthy marriages I have seen in a film.
Came here to say this. They are also great parents.
They’re not perfect the whole film, but overall yes
@@rayesafan9628 That’s part of what makes them great!
@rayesafan9628 that's why they are a perfect portrayal of an amazing couple. No couple is perfect and a perfect portrayal reflects that.
The first one yes, the second one not so much.
One of the most moving "movie marriage" moments for me took up just a few seconds of screen time. In the movie Titanic, when the ship is going down and steerage passengers are panicking at the locked stairwell gates, we cut to an old married couple who meet their fate while lying in bed, holding each other, and staring into each other's eyes.
I didn't particularly care for the movie, but that was my favorite scene. Like you, it's the scene I remember best out of that whole long movie.
That was a real life couple and it was the inspiration for Jack and Rose. She was offered a place on a life-boat, but chose to die with her husband.
That was based on a real-life couple who died going down with the ship-Isidor and Ida Straus. Isidor and his brother had become co-owners of Macy’s department store in the 1890s. So the couple was very rich. They were on the Titanic because they were returning from a visit to their native Germany, where they still had family. I bet she supported him so much in the stressful world of entrepreneurship, through thick and thin. Couple goals right there.
As someone struggling with infertility, UP shows an AMAZING example of taking it in stride and still living and spending together. It's been one of my favorite movies since it came out, and always will be. My Fiancé and I are taking the news in stride and still living our life with our dog, knowing there are other options when we are ready. Until then we can be ourselves and go on our own adventures.
♥♥♥
As a fellow infertile woman, I feel you. I mean, I don't have a partner and I don't want a baby. But maybe this fact will make it easier for either of us to adopt a kid sometime in the future!
Personally, I see it as a blessing because I have tokophobia, but that's just me.
An underrated and overlooked movie, which also happen to be one of my favorites, the film Return to Me, with Minnie Driver and David Duchovny, which came out around 1999, is a veritable almanac of healthy relationships. Not just married, or romantic relationships, but supportive friends and family are exemplified. I would love to hear your thoughts. Keep up the great work.
@@LadybugsOpin Thanks, I just learned what tokophobia is. I don't think I have it myself but I'm definitely not looking forward to the giving birth part of it.
@@sarahlandis289 Fair enough!
I have a soft spot for Roger and Anita from 101 Dalmatians. Always loved how supportive they are towards each other (like Anita standing up for Roger when Cruella was bashing his career) and also how they can tease at each other and have their fun (Roger singing Cruella De Vil and Anita trying to get him to stop). Love seeing those two
I love Roger and Anita!
This was my first thought as well.
Yes!!! Both the cartoon and live.
I also really liked Pongo and Perdita, specifically the fact that they back each other up with all the pups “better do as your mother/father says”
Aww, that's a sweet one!
I loved the couple dynamic in "My big fat greek wedding". Yes, Toula and Ian marries only at the end of the film, but man they are one of the best examples of healthy relationships
There's the second movie, when their kid is adolescent already. And also, Toula's parents are a great married couple as well. Love the neck quote...
@@Alehzinhah true
Tulare and Ian grow in their romance
I was just thinking about that when I re-watched
You guys talking about asexuality almost had me crying, I sometimes feel like I'm alone in it because no one ever talks about it, not even my family, so hearing you guys talk about it was very special, so thank you. I love your channel! ❤
Understandable
It's ok. You're not alone. I'm the same, and sometimes its hard dealing with a world that expects everyone to be interesting in romance and marriage for themselves.
You are definitely not alone. I’m on the ace spectrum, and it can sometimes be really hard to be in such a minority, but you’re still valid. You’re not alone.
I think you might be on the wrong side of the internet then usually, I hear about asexuality, aroace, non-binary, etc. all the time on the internet. I’m usually into progressive left-winged stuff so I hear about that a lot. If you feel alone or feel like you haven’t heard a lot of people on the media talk about it, you may be on the wrong side of the internet most of the time.
You also aren’t alone and I’m sorry you feel that way. There are plenty of people who feel the same way and there are many safe spaces for you to go to to connect with people like you. You’re never alone. ❤️
The parents from Easy A played by Stanley Tucci and Patricia Clarkson. They're obviously healthily in love and playful and charming. They're also age appropriate. Too often the dad is allowed to age and grey gracefully but the mom needs to pretend to not have wrinkles. They're both beautiful with natural charisma and chemistry between each other.
They care for their kids equally. One is an adoptee and it's just a natural thing to reference for them.
they’re so underrated!! They have such great chemistry and have created such a healthy and loving home 🥹 I wish they were my parents
"Oh my god who told you?! We were going to discuss this at the right time, as a family" - my favorite almost background line from that movie when the son who is very obviously black, in the otherwise Elmer's glue complected family, casually notes that he's adopted.
That’s a great one! They’re just not in the movie very long
oh my god yes.
He's adopted..."WHAT?!? WHO TOLD YOU??!"
That scene you put from the Emperor's New Groove is soooo good (as is the entire film): "they can handle themselves" -no doubt about it. Pacha is not a neurotic protector who thinks his family is incapable and if he can't take care of them nobody will. They are so witty and well-coordinated, as if they took villains out of their homes every other week. (And yes! Do a whole episode on the Emperor's New Groove! A lot to discuss about vanity and humility there).
True
Yes!! Yes, yes, yes!
And Izma is a gem. Period. Basically, my role model minus evil schemes.
Boost this comment - another vote for the Emperor's New Groove movie!
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I went to the theater to see "Up" with my family a couple of weeks after my mom was diagnosed with brain cancer. The relationship that Ellie and Carl had aside from the infertility reminded me so much of my Mum and Dad. She was fairly young (63 when she was diagnosed) and I bawled my eyes out through the whole movie for how they just lived to make each other happy. It's vivid in my memory, and I wish I could watch it again, but I am afraid of how much it would bring back.
I love the marriage in "It's a Wonderful Life." It's not perfect by any means, but it shows that perfection is not required for a good marriage. Rather, overcoming the imperfections is what makes it good. When George loses it and acts out against his family, his wife tries to understand what's going on. But in the end, he takes a good look at himself and fixes his perspective for the good of everyone. The movie also takes the philosophy of making the best of a bad situation and adjusting to change of plans to its very core.
I’d like to add that, for that first scene, Tucci’s character wasn’t talking for the most part. While he doesn’t offer a solution to her worries and it appears he isn’t engaged, he’s actually taking in what she’s saying and responds accordingly. He’s actively listening. They clearly both respect each other. That’s awesome! A very healthy relationship indeed!
Great point!
In the film "The Help", Johnny and Celia could count as a happy marriage. He doesn't care that she can't cook, take care of their house, or that she's had several miscarriages trying to give him children. He just wants her to be happy, and they're one of the only couples in the movie who seem genuinely happy together.
Facts I agree
Yup, I condone to that ❤
100% agree! Johnny and Celia are the only couple in "The Help" that seem genuinely happy together.
@@aubreycarter7624 Also they were the only couple who weren't racist and didn't give a damn about the norms of the time and were genuinely good people.
@@voicesforlife I don't know as though _Johnny_ is the one making Celia feel like she needs to be the perfect wife... I always felt that it was Celia making herself feel that way due to thinking Johnny only married her because she was pregnant and because of the pressures of the other wives in the society clique. She just desperately didn't want to embarrass or disappoint him.
Unless I'm forgetting something that Johnny did or said, ofc. 🤷♀️
I really liked Olive's parents in Easy A - yeah they seem a bit aloof sometimes but their whole dynamic as a family is really great, supportive and funny. Only goes to show that being raised in a good family is not necessarily boring and does not make boring adults out of boring children - you can parent your child and still be funny - it is possible.
And another one I always loved is the Weasleys from Harry Potter - best portrayal of poverty is a state of mind not of your wallet because they don't have much in terms of material stuff but they have everything as long as they have each other.
I was going to suggest Easy A as well. I love that whole family dynamic.
Yes, the Weasleys are a great married couple ❤
I was coming here to say the same thing!
You are so right on both couples.
Not a movie, but on the show Call the Midwife the best example of a marriage is Patrick (Dr. Turner) and Shelagh. They raise their family together. They communicate and respect each other’s feelings. They support one another through individual and family struggles. The show doesn’t paint everything in rosey tones.
Agreed. They're a wonderful couple.
One of the best on screen couples and I loved their romance.
I would love an episode of My Big Fat Greek Wedding, exploring how two individuals who are from two different cultures and families who don't always understand each other, can make it work. It's so beautiful that Ian embraces Toula's culture and get baptized in the Greek Orthodox church because it's important to her and her family. Plus their love story is so precious.
Edit: Y'ALL ARE SO PRECIOUS AND MADE MY ENTIRE NIGHT 😊😊 I hope this episode will get made! Thanks everyone for their lovely comments.
Yesssssssssss
Oh absolutely, a great couple in a great movie
Oh, that would be great!
I Love that movie!!
Yes!
I remember loving the fact that the Sound of Music showed Maria and Cap. Von Trapp AFTER the wedding. So many other movies treat the wedding day as the grand finale of any good romance. But SoM actually showed life AFTER the wedding, and I appreciated that. And loved they way they acted as a single unit for the back half of the film. In the midst of a war, they worked at partners to get their family to safety.
My favorite 😌
YES
Heck that was a sad fact... these 20/30 something guys couldn't figure a way to write married Mary Jane watson and Peter Parker so they wanted to break them back so Parker is swinging single so went to their just divorced boss and pitched breaking the wedding up and he basically went I like it run it and make sure they can't get together again and we can make Parker young again. Pre Quesada since STan Lee was still more involved nixed it saying Parker deserved a life however...
Oh yes, they're great! So cute together!
Even before when she jerks him up short and he tries to cut her off and she's not having any of it
"About Time" has amazing relationships. I'd love to hear your guys' takes on anything from the movie, honestly
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The dad who shows his son time travel?
@@kasenleal5757 Yes!!!!!!!!!!! It's stunning.
I love this movie! I'd love to see it here too
Yes!! One of my favourite films of all time.
It has a good Dad and Son relationship. The main couple tho starts out good but almost immediately turns into a stalker relationship which is nooooo bueno
Rick & Evelyn in The Mummy Returns have a great marriage (though I would love a couples therapy with them and their relationship through both The Mummy and The Mummy Returns)
I love the growth both characters have, and how they both change each other in a positive way.
I came to the comments to say this!!!
I think Bob and Helen Parr are a great example of how the fabric of our relationships evolves with time and remembering to choose and fight for each other when things get hard. I also love how they exemplify learning to forgive ourselves and each other when a partner has made a mistake or is struggling. They’re not a “perfect” marriage, but there is something so relatable and real about their challenges as a couple and how they choose to grow together instead of push apart.
On the contrary, I'd call Bob and Hellen Parr an example of the closest people can come to that ideal of a "perfect" marriage. They have their fights, they don't always see eye to eye, but they stick together, they work through their problems and they communicate. Not perfectly, but they try.
@@sarahluchies1076 I agree
Yeah
I also liked when Helen suspected the possibility of Bob cheating on her with another woman (Mirage), she didn't accuse or interrogate him right away like how most movies would. She stuck to her trust and patience, even though it must've been anxiety-inducing for her.
What movie are Bob and Helen Parr from?
I 100% vote for an Emporer's New Groove episode. What a fun film that actually does the work of having a main character truly grow without compromising comedy or forgetting cartoon elements. I also think the marriages of Encanto display really incredible amounts of mutual love and respect. Both major couples really work well as teams while it's clear that Abuelo Pedro and Alma also loved each other very deeply.
12:25 Pride and Prejudice 2005 is a great example of this. The pure tenderness, intensity, and romance that that movie could portray with loving gazes and forehead touches is astounding. I would argue that both eventual marriages (Lizzy/Darcy and Jane/Bingley) were very healthy as well.
Great minds... I immediately had to think of the scene where Darcy helps Lizzy onto the carriage after the Netherfield ball, and then the camera just focuses on him flexing his hand.
Those are not married couples.
@@Alehzinhah That is true, although they do both end up getting married!
I'd say that 2005 Pride & Prejudice is the one version where Mr. Bennett and Mrs Bennett have a healthy marriage. Mr Bennett has a kinder humor in his teasing of his wife, there are moments where they touch and kiss, and we also saw them lay in bed and talk to each other. They were an older couple with different personalities who were quite content with each other. I think their shared hobby of eavesdropping through doors kept their spark alive.
@@rockstarchick820 Someone read a different book than the rest of us.
I'm aromantic, but I love these kinds of episodes and protrayals of healthy marriages. I grew up around loveless on-off-again marriages that really repulsed me from romance early on. And most modern media (music especially) doesn't exactly paint relationships in a very flattering light either. These kinds of videos give me hope that love isn't really hopeless after all. I should wrap this up because technically I'm still at work. Loved the episode keep up the good work!!
I've been called "legendary non-romantic" quite often.
I hate the bad relationships idealised I pop music!
Dependence, stalking, seeing a person as property, you name it.
That's because happy, trusting and mutually supportive love is not dramatic.
Daily life compatibility is what I have been looking for since teenage years.
Happily married for 15 years now.
It is well worth it. Don't believe the drama they try to sell.
"Up" manages to really get us invested in Carl and Ellie's life together, all without a single word being uttered. I remember being confused as to why Ellie was crying in the Doctor's office, and being told that she either had a miscarriage, or she was infertile.
To me, I believe she definetely had a misscarriage, since they were decorating the nursery and all... kinda something you usually do once you're already pregnant
!!! Carl and Ellie's relationship is so sweet and that's one of the few movies that still manages to make me tear up despite having watched it many times
I figured it was both, some women have miscarriages and are only told then that they have fertility issues. So I always took the scene to mean they had lost a baby and were told they'd probably never have a child together...
@@giovannadiaz1917 On the other hand, one miscarriage isn't usually enough on its own to make you give up on having children.
And the nursery decoration is more about when you expect to have kids rather than when you're definitely pregnant (unless you're taken by surprise) - though, yeah, it's pretty plausible that it would get put off until the looming deadline makes it urgent rather than being done as a project early.
@@rmsgrey All good points, but to add on: In my family and amongst some family friends, the first miscarriage was always how they found out about issues with how their uterus developed as well as infertility. Uterine septum is one issue they could learn about, where fertilization can happen, but the placenta doesn't develop properly, and a unicornuate uterus, which means it is smaller than normal and cause an increase in ectopic pregnancies etc. There's other conditions, like endometriosis, can be discovered because of that first miscarriage. Some people are lucky regardless of the complications they face with these conditions etc., but that doesn't takeaway from the many who still cannot succeed. In the case of UP!, seeing one miscarriage or failed fertilization can be more than enough to make people give up on having children.
(This is just to add on and potentially educate anyone interested,. None of this was intended to take away or diminish what was already said. Anyone and everyone is free to ignore me.)
Everyone loves the Emperor's New Groove. It's criminally under-appreciated!
I have to ask. If everyone loves it, how is it underappreciated?
@@lou8391 Right? Also, it's never been one of my favorites. The art style just... yeah, not my thing.
Yeah, I'm one of those who didn't love it. The art style also did not work for me; it would have been great in a cartoon series, but in a film it somehow felt cheap. Among other things that rubbed me the wrong way about it. I can objectively admit that many things about it may be great, but I just did not enjoy watching it enough to ever rewatch.
@@lou8391 it was not well-received at its release, and only found a following years later
Not really, is like you say, a very loved one, almost a cult movie, even with a sequel and a series
I would love a reaction to Rick and Evelyn's marriage in The Mummy Returns. Not perfect, but I love how devoted they are to each other and how they support one another through everything.
Thank you so much for taking a moment to address asexuality in the beginning of your video 🥺it's a little thing but it means a lot, another great one from you guys, as always.
You’re welcome! Everyone is welcome here. ❤️
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Someday I'd love to see a movie couple's therapy episode about Bob and Helen Parr from The Incredibles. You've covered the parenting and how the kids are so well done, but not their relationship with each other. I think it's cool how they both really want to do what's best for their family, but run into trouble when their ideas of what that means clashes.
Ooooo, good call!
That would be brilliant! I honestly was expecting a bit of that here. I'd like to see both movies covered because both partners take on different roles depending on their circumstances and it's fascinating to watch.
Yes, to all!
I love seeing a strong man learn to be safe in his own masculinity and support a strong woman. The incredible series did such a great job of showing outside people influencing how Bob felt about himself and having to move past that to support his wife and really be developed a supportive partnership.
Yes!!! Both harmony and discord in their marriage!!!
Another Tucci relationship- The mom and dad from Easy A always struck me as a great marriage. They're loving, non-judgemental, playful, and they make time for their family and each other.
Love them!
oh yes, they are amazing
Also came here to say Easy A!
Omg I’d love for them to do Easy A!!
+1
I love the marriage between Maria and the Captain in The Sound of Music, I also really love the way the romance turns to marriage in the original Arthur movie and how they both support one another.
Wash and Zoé from Firefly and Serenity were pretty great. Married way before the narrative in the show starts and some fantastic moments of jealousy, heroism, sweetness. And something not often seen in scifi!
Not a marriage but Hiccup and Astrid’s relationship growth throughout the movies (and the tv shows) is amazing. Also Felix and Pepa from Encanto are also amazing.
They did get married right at the end tho! And there's a couple scenes of their life after
This one pairing is kind of an enigma to me because the setup was so darn cliche, but in the sequel the decision to go that direction is justified right off the bat by showing how much they've grown together. can definitely vouch for it!
@@kordeliiius9821 yeah, i just meant that they weren’t married through the entire series.
Yes I love hiccup and Astrid, and even stoick and valka
Hmm…. I don’t really think the beginning of their relationship is that great, but I absolutely love how much Astrid believes in Hiccup in the second two.
@@rachelking3055 enemies to friends to lovers is one of my favourite tropes
Love to see an emperor’s new groove. Fun fact: Pacha’s wife is the first pregnant woman in any Disney film. Probably should do a fun healthy but no traditional marriages list. Gomez and Mortica, Jessica and River Rabbit, etc
funny thing in the book Who Framed Roger Rabbit is based on Jessica and Roger had a REALLY REALLY toxic marriage... like if I recall he used some form of aphrodisiac to get her to the altar toxic
They did an episode on Gomez and Morticia a while ago. It's a pretty fun one.
@@Monocultured01 I watched it. Thought that they should be included with a list of odd healthy marriages
@@Ladywizard Honestly, the book is underrated. Way better than I ever expected it to be
Omg Julie and Julia is such a comfort movie!! I first watched it in theaters at age 10 and was so invested in the whole thing! It’s nice to see that some of my childhood influences displayed healthy relationships. And now I’m in a happy, fun relationship with the man who is my best friend and future husband 😊
Yes! It’s my favorite comfort movie! It’s just always perfect ❤ no stress, healthy relationships and a happy ending yessss
Carl and Ellie are the relationship gold standard ❤️
I can't remember - have we discussed Rick and Evy from The Mummy? They got off to a rocky start, but they are so great together! The love and respect they have for each other has literally saved their lives, because they always have each other's back and they always put the other one first. They also never lost their passion for each other. They're both brave, strong, smart, and kind people. I love them.
Yes!!
I literally thought of them while watching this video.
YES YES YES YES YES YEESSSSSS!
AND they turn out to be great parents! Evy very tender and loving, Rick very authoritative but still kind, both showing love and passion and respect and support for each other and their son. I could go on and on and on! Lol But yes, they were one of my first thoughts.
Y E S
I think a really cute movie marriage exists in Miyazaki's Kiki's Delivery Service. Even though it doesn't get much screen time, the dynamic between bakery owner Osono and her husband is endearing.
YES INDEEDY
Yes...
omg, YES!!! they're so sweet with eachother.
YES!! Yes yes yes! I've always loved these two
absolutely! i love how the wife took Kiki in and the husband wasn't even surprised, he was just like "oh, cool. i have a kid now."
Hey, guys. Ace here. I skipped this video on release because “this have nothing to add for me”, but you indeed added a “”disclaimer”” and I feel so validated. Thank you so much for including this part 🖤💜
You're so welcome!
It'd be awesome to see your list of movie sibling relationships that are actually healthy! I'm very close to my sister so it'd be nice to know wholesome and healthy sibling relationships that I may be unaware of 😁 I cried a lot when I watched Onward because I could relate to Ian. In so many ways, my sister raised me too ❤
I second this! My sister and I have always been very close, and I just saw Onward maybe 2 weeks ago for the first time 💗
Agreed! I'd love to see this too! A movie about the connection between siblings is People Like Us. Beautiful movie. Gets us every time.
they have one on siblings about little women, you should watch it
I've actually suggested a rating of Movie Friendships a few times already; from Outright Toxic that makes us ask why the friendship is still happening all the way to Genuinely Healthy and actually making each other truly better.
I'd love to see this
The something borrowed friendship is so toxic
@@danzi373 but what the level of toxicity it is would probably be the real question there.
Amazing idea!
I would love this!!!
Not only Carl and Ellie but also Julia and Paul experienced not pursuing the dream of having a child. And still had a good life and a great marriage. I love how in the movie Julie and Julia they show Julia's reaction to the lady with a baby on the street and her husband's immediate support, he knew what she felt without any words and comforted her. They make me believe that I can do it too, just live my life with my best friend and take on everything what life brings, even when it hurts so much.
My husband was my advocate even before my diagnosis of ASD Level 1 and ADHD Inattentive Presenting Moderate. When I first began the process and told him, "I think I'm on the autism spectrum", he asked how it would change our lives. I told him I wasn't sure, but I imagine it will only get better because now I'll have the tools to work around my obstacles. It's been a few years, and our companionship is even stronger and more beautiful! And he is still my advocate. Good people are out there, and lonely, and wanting companionship. Your eyes need to be wide while dating, sure, but you also need to discern what is a red flag vs. what is just natural human shortcomings, and your partner has to also do that. I think a tragedy of our world at the moment is so many people aren't willing to extend grace or compassion for the human shortcomings.
I had a guy that proposed to me, and when I turned him down he said, "but we are soul mates, I just feel it." So I asked my father, who is a flawed human being but who still gives me good counsel, if he believed in soul mates. After thinking for a moment, he said yes. But then he said, "but soul mates aren't instantaneous. Soul mates become soul mates because they trust and can be trusted through the ups and downs of life. And there are going to be a lot of ups and a lot of downs. But somewhere along the way, choosing to be kind and graceful even through the hardest storms, you become each other's soul mates." I always thought that was beautiful. I am so grateful I didn't settle for that man who proposed to me. It was incredibly painful, unraveling our lives from one another. But I found my husband two years later, who was a friend for about a year before he asked me out (because I was dating other people, and so was he). I only agreed to the date because I figured it would be a fun distraction, this man didn't have hardly any qualities I thought I wanted in a spouse. And I almost broke up with him twice, over issues that felt significant but then I realized they were actually just human missteps. We've been together 12+ years now, have two beautiful neurodivergent children, and are still so in love and happy! I'm grateful I wasn't too prideful to take a chance on a friend, and to really evaluate situations. My father tried to talk me out of marrying my husband a few days before our wedding, but I knew without a doubt that the imperfect man I was marrying was someone who would always put God and family before anything else in this life, and that was important to me. After 4 years of marriage, my Dad finally called my husband "son", and it was beautiful!
@@lbatemon1158so your dad had common sense and his daughter was blind in love?
for me another great married couple are Claire and Jamie from “Outlander”. They are so devoted to one another, always try to be as honest as possible with each other, consider each other’s feelings, have each other’s back and they communicate so well. I just love the chemistry they have.
I'd like to know how realistic Claire and Jamie are.
I was going to comment Jamie and Claire!
I was thinking of them as well. The goal set out by the author was to portray a long healthy passionate marriage
Jamie abused Claire. Let's not sort this into the healthy category
It’s not a movie couple but probably my fave couple of all time is JJ and Will from the show Criminal Minds. They didn’t always get the most screentime, they’re not always perfect, but they always work on their love and support each other and their kids. A 14 season and still ongoing marriage is as rare as they come for a TV show given how quick shows are about breaking couples up for drama. The fact they survived all of these years with a relationship intact and stronger than ever is amazing.
One of my favorite movie is Meet the Robinsons. It's less about the marriage and more about family, but I loved the way Grandpa Bud and Lucille are with each other. Also Franny and Cornelius were very much like my parents.
"BAKE THOSE COOKIES LUCILLE"
Family therapy too! Meet the Robinson’s is so good for an eccentric , kooky yet functional, supportive family lol!
That needs to be an episode. Most of that movie is just bonkers, but then you get to the ending, and the ultimate message of the movie, and it's kleenex time.
The family dynamic was good, however the messages about adoption versus foster care were iffy and got called out by the Adoption community.
It's a really good one for sure for the 2000s
EMPORERS NEW GROOVE PLEASE! It’s a better example of healthy marriage and relationships and parenting than I was ever shown in reality 😂
the nice thing about Julia Child was that this was also their marriage in real life, which is just wonderful.
Fergus and Elinor are up there for me, they're not 100% in sync all of the time but the scene where he tells her to practice a hard conversation with him is so sweet and shows he really cares. Also Howl and Sophie from Howl's Moving Castle, it does seem sort of magical "oh now we're in love", but he learns to love her and she learns to love him and herself by being unself-conscious in her old age, he says he's inspired by her and isn't lying and lets her come into her own on her own (the book is a whole separate conversation that is unique and beautiful in it's own right but this is a movie channel).
Eartha Kitt was immaculate! Her role as Yzma is forever iconic on top of her Grade A talent and charisma! I think an episode on The Emperor's New Groove is in order!
Me too
I second that
When I was growing up, the Addams Family was on TV. It was the only time I ever saw a couple love and support each other. All members of the family were accepted. Everybody had their own pursuits, and followed them with passion. There may have been disagreements, but never fights and no belittlement. Just a discussion with a resolution. It was the most positive image of how people should treat each other.
And it is such subtle bit of commentary that the Addams family are seen as the ‘weird’ ones by the outside world.
I'd like to see an episode on Seven Brides for Seven Brothers, because there's a lot of problematic stuff in it, but it's a funny story about growing up and discovering romance.
I love that movie!
I just want to point out that a big part of the chemistry between Emily Blunt and John Krasinski in A Quiet Place is the fact that they're married and have that kind of chemistry in real life. They've been married since 2010, and you can clearly see this isn't just acting - it's real, raw, beautiful passion.
Edit: I literally saw this, stopped and commented, then pushed play and you said, "I know they're married in real life..." Lol
Please do another animated Disney couples with Robin Hood and Maid Marian, the only Disney couple who were friends for years first!
Simba x Nala and Carl x Ellie. Aladdin and Jasmine didn't get married until the third movie, but I'm not sure how much time there was between them?
That's not to say I am not 100% on board with Robing Hood and Maid Marian though. They are wonderful and I may actually need to rewatch that movie now. 🥰
The problem is their childhood together was told, not shown. We got to see Simba & Nala play together as kids before falling in love as adults, and while we didn’t see all of Carl & Ellie’s shared childhood, the married life montage did a perfect job conveying these two spent a lifetime together.
How did you post this 3 days ago when the video came out today? Is this a patreon thing?
@@sylvirgiomanach1491 I should be years since Aladdin 2 probably happened about a month after the conclusion but right after that, there was the Aladdin show. 86 Episodes, each spanning over 2 to 3 in universe days on average and guessing about a week at least between each adventure so with those estimates 2.3 to 3 years from the end of aladdin 1 to the beginning of aladdin 3. And yes the show is directly connected to the movies.
@@applepie8841 The video was weirdly unlisted but I found it in their couples playlist. Mystery solved!
It’s not a huge part of the movies, but Hiccup and Astrid have a very healthy relationship that eventually turns into a marriage in my opinion. I love them so much!
Very much agree!!
Yes I agree! They have a great relationship that evetually turns into love and friendship. they really trust eachother :)
Yessss
I was thining about them, too, but do we really see them married, ever? ^^;
@@EverythingxYourexNot Yeah, they get married
Do more of the healthy marriage couples! I love these videos!❤❤
Thanks, will do!
Awesome, thank you, I love these videos so much. I anxiously and excitedly look forward to watching these videos and love what you guys are doing. Thank you so much. We need more of you guys in this world!❤️❤️
The Father of the Bride 1 and 2 will always be some of my all time favorite, healing chicken soup for the soul movies. Growing up in a disfunctional home filled with violence, alcoholism and mental illness, this film always felt like the family and love I always dreamed of having. George Banks was my dad in my dreams, his bond with his kids, his loving marriage and overall family life was sometihing I wish I could've had.
Also Pacha and his wife has always been relationship goals for me. I always loved how she just believed him about Cuzco and she was SO devious in diverting Izma and Kronk. The kids were allowed to shine too. Love this family sm
She is incredibly smart, witty, and clever! Those two have such a loving and endearing relationship. Bonus points that the kids were genuinely funny and not written as annoying.
@@Scrofar agreed! They're obviously in a home where their creativity and energy are celebrated
He also had total faith in her.
He also had total faith in her.
He also had total faith in her.
As a kid, I thought the scene with Ellie and Carl in Up not being able to have kids was sad. As an adult currently going through infertility struggles with their partner, it is unbelievably gut wrenching. And it’s a story that deserves representation.
It feels a lot like grief. Grieving a life you imagined. Grieving the pregnancies that didn’t result in a birth. Grieving this piece of your relationship you aren’t able to experience together.
But I love that they go on to have a happy life together regardless. I’m still hopeful that it’ll happen for us someday, but I watch the Up intro every once in a while when I’m feeling especially lost to remind me that I’m lucky to have found my Carl.
Adventure is out there ❤
sorry if this is too much of a personal question, but have you thought about adoption? i know that can be an incredibly difficult journey too tho
@@hinasakukimi When I was 19, I spent a month in Ho Chi Minh working at an orphanage that was indescribably sad. Ever since then, I’ve wanted to adopt at some point, and my husband agrees. But it’s very expensive and there is a LOT to consider. Private vs public adoptions, open vs. closed, fostering, local vs international, age, disability, etc. Not to mention the ethics of it and what is ultimately best for the child. I am a firm believer that adoption should not be about having ownership of a child, but wanting to do what is best for them. But that’s easier said than done. I’ve heard some adoptees make the case that true “adoption” is like branding ownership over another person without their consent, but usually in those cases they either experienced some form of abuse from their adoptive parents, or their adoption was lorded over their heads, or their parents used it as a symbol of their own status (usually most common when white parents adopt a non-white child). Not only this, but parents who turn to adoption due to infertility tend to impart unintended traumas onto their adoptive children as part of their own inability to heal. It’s a tricky dynamic.
That is to say we are still in our late 20s and we planned on looking at adoption a little later in our lives. So we will see what is in the cards!
If you’ve adopted or were adopted, I’d love to hear your thoughts on the subject!
@@courtney3743 you sound like you have a great understanding of the subject and a lot of empathy. i totally understand where you're coming from.
i've considered adoption but you've perfectly summarised why it's not something to be taken lightly. i'm in my 20s too so it's something i'll have to give a lot more consideration. thanks for such a thoughtful answer, i'm rooting for you
Courtney, I feel the same; and was at your stage when I saw Up with my young nephews when it came out. I have never been able to have children; and because of deep trauma my husband was not open to adoption. Life has many choices, and I chose to stay in this lovely relationship with this wonderful man who has been and is my life partner. I still have some regret; but I also have a lot of joy and wonder and love in our life. My sincere best wishes and prayers are with you.
I hear you. After 4 years of trying I just lost the #6 attempt. When you finally get that heartbeat, and then it disappears it is so hard, every time. Even with the expense of a reproductive immunologist that seemed to identify the problem but whose treatments didn't change their outcome... The medical procedures or drugs or tests offered as possible answers, the waiting, the hope, the grief...I know. We're now at the point where we have to ask "what next?" It's not an easy decision. I will probably have to let that dream go and figure out how to fill that absence. I don't know the answer yet but for you I hope no matter what, you get peace and happiness.
Cheaper by the Dozen has a great Marriage. And I know in “Crazy stupid love” they deal with cheating and are in the middle of a divorce, but ultimately they work it out and Steve Carrell’s speech at the end is a testament of a good marriage.
i would love to see a family review on father of the bride. thats one of my favorites just because of how touching the relationship between the father and daughter is
A marriage I would definitely recommend is Fergus and Eleanor from Brave. Two scenes that come to mind are the scene where she's helping him with public speaking, and when he recognizes that she's upset even when she herself doesn't.
I love them together. She is a prim and proper lady and he is a big doofus with a heart of gold.
its what I inspire to be for my girlfriend, even after a long abusive relationship when I saw brave again with my girlfriend I looked at her said "we are the girls version of them and I hope I will be forever".
Ugh I adore those two. Brave has such fun family dynamics in general.
And it's quite refreshing too cause they were (implied) of an arranged marriage. And they built something really beautiful for themselves and their kids
@@blake9033 You're right! I had forgotten the arranged marriage part!
I wanna see a whole episode on the emperor's new groove! :)
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That would be a good one, and for multiple characters.
Pacha, a loving family man but a pushover who learns to be more assertive. Kuzco, a selfish narcissist who learns empathy and kindness. Yzma, a manipulative megalomaniac who loses even her loyal sidekick. Also Kronk, who shows he's not a total moron and learns to stand up for himself and do what's right.
@@coffeeaddict9605 Kronk is my favorite character
Yeeees, is so goood!
Oh yes, please, Pacha and Chica are so adorable together. Plus, I'd love to see an analysis of Kuczo's character development, and learning to be less selfish.
I love that y’all talked about pivoting after discovering that we aren’t able to do something we thought ourselves capable of. It’s so easy to make promises when you’re young, but they don’t always pan out. It’s imperative to be able to handle those pivots with compassion, because losing the idea of you in your head (or watching your spouse come to terms with their limits) is devastating.
Miyazaki's adaptation of "Howl's moving castle"! Not strictly marriage, but beautiful growth of Howl and Sophie into a supportive relationship.
when my (now) husband and I decided to make it official, we agreed that we were partners and friends against the world. That coming home would be our safe space. Life is stressful enough and not being able to leave that behind you the moment you get home, there was no point to the relationship. We understand our differences and don't stress over small things. In 10 years together we've had maybe 2 real fights. That weren't even bad fights, just disagreements that needed sorting out. So this compilation of good movie marriages makes me very happy because I see that we are doing everything right ❤
I agree, and the best scentence my husband and I learned is:
I am mad/angry, but I don't want to fight and I love you.
It is easier to calm down and then talk about the problem, why you were angry.
i would love learn more about this what a nice accomplishment!!!! congratulations :)
I totally stand by this and agree wholeheartedly.
As soon as we started being a couple, Me and my boyfriend agreed that a romantic partner should also be your best friend, first and foremost. We were bestfriends before we got togheter and we still technically are, while we love each other deeply and super into eachother, he’s so beautiful inside and out, our passion is strong as much as our respect and care for one another. We know we can always count of eachother and tell each other everything, even stuff that can be uncomfortable, and i love him more every day that passes. It’s been just 3 years since we got togheter but we are planning on growing old togheter
I really like Ellie and Carl because they accept eachother's clumsiness and work with it to get the best outcome instead of criticising it. It's heartwarming. 🥰
What little we see of the relationship between Colin Firth's character and Matthew Goode's character in "a single man" always simultaneously warms and breaks my heart. Don't sleep on that movie, it's a masterpiece.
The Emperor’s New Groove is one of my favorite movies of all time! Do it!
If you do another movie couples episode, The King’s Speech has a great relationship between Liz and Bertie. It also shows a great friendship between Bertie and Lionel.
Yes, to all of this. We just rewatched The King's Speech, and I was struck by the support and acceptance in that marriage.
I never knew how much I loved my husband until we hit a crisis. Yes, we had a foundation of friendship before we married, but had never faced anything as challenging to our self images of who we were as individuals and a couple. We talked, we cried, and the biggest revelation was how safe we were with each other when we were not our best selves. He's my rock, my giggle, my extra tank of gas and my biggest cheerleader as I hope I am his. It takes work, but it doesn't feel like work with the right partner. It's hard and joyful at the same time. It's great to see these good cinematic marriages - they aren't boring, they're enlightening to me. Thank you!
My wife and I lost our first pregnancy just before the third trimester last February, it's been a year but it's still hard, especially as we have been talking about trying again. So many times I blamed myself for what happened, things I could have done differently that might have saved the pregnancy, and every time she's there to tell me that it wasn't my fault and I did my best. At the same time, she blames herself, saying she could have done better and failed as a mother, and I'm always there to tell her that she's not to blame and she did her best. I still carry some guilt, as I'm sure she does as well, but the important thing is we've never blamed the other person and we're always there for each other. I'm so happy that your husband is supportive as I've seen many other guys give up in those crisis situations. You found yourself a keeper!
@@scipocelah6677 my condolences on your loss. I am glad you and your wife can be there for each other. Grief can come in waves and when you're least prepared for it, but knowing your partner isn 't blaming you, and being able to share those tough feelings? Yeah, that can make all the difference. Best of luck to you both.
Same! We lost one of our children to a stillbirth and because of our not blaming each other and cherishing and supporting… it actually strengthened our relationship instead of all the “warnings” that it would destroy and hurt us-mostly from people who didnt do what was suggested in this video and refused to move past the tragedy and grow-so glad it didnt.
Its a time of sorrow but also of good from how it connected us thru it.
Sorry for your losses, I have nothing to compare that to, I've only lost a parent... My parents-in-law lost their first child, what would have been my husband's big sister, and it took them five years to want to try again. But they've got one of the strongest relationships I've ever seen. Everyone grieves in their own way and at their own rate, grief attacks happen when you least expect it, and you need to support your partner through this (or any) kind of crisis, not blame them.
@@scipocelah6677 I'm so sorry for your loss -- my first pregnancy ended in a 2nd trimester miscarriage too. It's no one's fault ❤️
But along the topic of marriage, miscarrying was one of the first hard things my husband and I had to go through, and weathering that together and supporting each other through it definitely made us stronger.
Hawkeye and Laura Barton - to me - demonstrate one of the healthiest and most supportive relationships/marriages that I can recall from film and television in recent years. They’re open and honest at all times, even when the conversation is hard and not what the other wants to hear (which is MUCH more rare than it should be). Love them!
that entire family was so refreshing in all the movies/series they appeared into
Agreed and I think Laura Barton will be revealed to be a mutant or some sort of super in the MCU even though she is not one in the comics. She is just too calm for all the weird ish.
That's a great one to point out! There were many chances for the relationship to sour over the course of movies and TV shows but they understand eachother, they know their life together is not the typical kind and held no illusions that they put the Avenger and spy life behind them forever.
Not sure if TV shows count, but I love the marriage between Shelagh and Dr. Patrick Turner in Call the Midwife.
Hey, I thought of one! Lois and Clark from the TV series! He is so utterly honorable, and unlike in most movies - we get to see the details of how their relationship grows and strengthens in light of this, over many seasons pre- and at least one season post- marriage. No matter how different their biological and even relationship heritage most definitely is. The gems of this were always my favorite part of the series. :)
Yes! Love this show and their relationship!
Hiccup and Astrid are a great example of a healthy relationship and then marriage!
I love Hiccup and Astrid! I love the way she encouraged him at the end of the first movie:
A - "I bet he (Toothless the dragon) is really frightened now. What are you going to do about it?
H - "Eh, probably something stupid."
A - "Good, but you've already done that."
H - "Then something crazy."
A - "That's more like it."😄
Totally agree!!
A movie marriage I always admired was Swiss Family Robinson. The parents are there for each other in hard times, they defend each other, they comfort each other, they argue, they make up, they keep the romance alive, and even tease/play/laugh together.
Yes, I really liked this movie during my childhood, and it really deserves to be discussed more. 💖😍
Classic film and a classic relationship!
Yes!
Not a movie relationship, but a good TV one is Florida & James Evans from Good Times
I actually have the book that movie is based off of and it’s just so good. The movie did right by that book in everything.
My personal favorite TV marriage isn't from a movie but a series and it's Claire and Jamie from Outlander. I love how they trust each other (after they got used to each other). Claire is a time traveler and in season 2 people think she's a witch cause of the knowledge she has. She tells Jamie the truth, that she's coming from 1947 and that she knows the future that awaits them. And no matter how weird it sounds to him, he believes her, saying "it had been a good deal easier if she had only been a witch".
During all the seasons they always supported each other, choosing whats best for each other, even if the decision might hurt. (Season 1 Ending made me tear up)
One movie marriage that I love is Bonnie Hunt and John Belushi in Return to me, really all the relationships in that movie are amazing and I will stand by saying that it has one of the best first 30 origin story type beginnings
jim belushi and yes, a nice marriage!
If you do another one, please include Berty and Elizabeth from The King's Speech. What a wonderful example of supporting, encouraging and standing by your partner when things are challenging and things don't go to plan!
A "The King's Speech" episode itself would be amazing!
@@annawenrich I second this! We went to watch the movie with our English class back in school and none of us really expected much (because when do you ever of movies you gotta watch for class?) but the entire class left the movie reformed. It was amazing!
@@annawenrich yes!
Yes! The King’s Speech definitely deserves to be in a Healthy Marriage episode.
Rick and Evie from the Mummy should DEFINITELY be included in Part 2! Also, how about Danielle and Henri in Ever After? They came together in spite of their differences and came to love and respect each other.
My FAVOURITE Cinderella movie out of all of it's reincarnations!
Definitely agree!!! Both of those are wonderful!!!
John’s explanation of marriage and how romance is great but it’s also about partnership has got to be one of the most beautiful explanations of marriage I’ve ever seen. Me and my best friend love each other platonically SO much. We look like a couple to people who don’t know us, but we arent romantically together. We’ve been friends for 4 years now (and have dated in that time until we realised we didn’t want that) and have considered each other soulmates and even twin flames. We’ve actually discussed and want to go forward with getting married because our partnership is so strong and it’s really lovely to see marriage explained as a union of two people who want the best for the other rather than just a romantic thing you do after dating for a while 💛
The Light Between Oceans depicts the hard times in marriage. And while it was a little dramatized I really enjoyed the love they had for one another.
I'm just getting deliriously happy every time they mention asexuality, it really means a lot
Same
Same here! It maes me so happy that we're being seen more nowadays. More work can always be done, but it's still the best thing to be mentioned in an episode like this, nonetheless.
It's so wierdly relieving!
There isn't a lot of screen time with them, but the King and Queen from "Tangled" have a loving and supportive marriage.
The King searched high and low for a magical flower that could save his wife, and after their child is kidnapped, they continue to support each other, and refuse to give up the search for their daughter.
The cartoon series has a whole episode dedicated to their relationship and how they fell in love, what makes them work etc. It was very sweet.
I for the most part agree!! In the animated series you get a lot more of her parents, and there is definitely some room for growth there though. If you're talking strictly about their marriage, yes I can see that! They are supportive of each other. But, in the series the king is so paranoid of Rapunzel being kidnapped or worse in the outside world again, and he does try to lock her within the palace for a lot of the show though (obviously harkening back to the movie). The queen from what I remember just tries to tell Rapunzel to understand where her father's requests are coming from, so she does kind of condone that behavior in the beginning. I think she is a lot less overprotective of Rapunzel though. They weren't perfect, but of course they land in a better place at the end of the series.
@@vVRukiadVv That's so interesting! I haven't watched the series yet. 😊
I think Dave and Jean in "The Full Monty" have a great marriage. She is so supportive and they clearly still love each other (although he cam't really believe it).
Good call, they were indeed super cute together. When he was feeling insecure, she always uplifted him.
A really good marriage that you guys can do an episode on is Jake and Neytiri from the Avatar movies. Especially in the second movie, you can see how they function through raising a family together and how both of their fiery, rebellious spirits connect through open communication and shared goals.
I would actually love another episode like this with Gomez and Morticia. I would recommend: Deadpool and Vanessa, Hipcup and Astrid, and the couple of ghosts in Beetlejuice.
Deadpool and Vanessa are a wonderfull example, but dear god, the amount of editing they'd have to do to make it even vaguely UA-cam friendly! 🤣
@@AnInsideJoke I'm pretty sure the amount of sex they have before marriage would count as a red flag with these guys... But damn it, I love the romance between Deadpool and Vanessa! 🤣
Hiccup and Astrid are probably one of my favourite couples. The TV show between films 1 & 2 just shows the trials and tribulations they had to go to. So we'll written 😍
Yes the couple beetlejuice would be awesome!!
Heck, the Deetzes, while dysfunctional, really do care for one another.
I didn't see it when I was a kid, but Delia Deetz is actually quite relatable now. She sacrificed so much of the life she loved for her husband's sake--she could have refused to leave the city but she didn't. Yes, she's salty about it, but that's fair. And while she and Lydia are constantly bickering she's not cruel to the kid.
Also, she stood up for herself in the matter of remodeling but was willing to accommodate Charles's weird desire to just move into a dead man's study.
I think Brave is another good example of a healthy marriage, the parenting aspect struggles of course since it's the whole plot of the movie, but Fergus* is always head over heels for his wife and when the absolute relief and joy he has when he realizes that she wasn't killed by a bear is such a sweet and cute touch.
Also as a possible series idea: Disney/Pixar/Dreamworks fathers, since you're both dads yourselves I think it'd be interesting to see your take on fathers like Mufasa, the Great Prince of the Forest (Bambi 2), Merlin (Finding Nemo), Fergus*, Stoik (How to Train Your Dragon), etc. and perhaps ones that may not be biological but were willing to step up to the plate like Gobber, Mr. Peabody, Pharaoh Seti I (Prince of Egypt), David(Lilo & Stitch), Ping and Shifu (Kung Fu Panda).
Movie recommendation for funsies: The Slipper and the Rose, it's free on youtube rn. It's a really long one but it was one of the last classics directed, produced, written, and soundtracks created by the Sherman brothers.
Oh, I love Slipper and the Rose. Absolutely love it.
I saw Brave as an example of a marriage that did need work, though. At the end of the movie, it was just about perfect. But Elinor really did 'rule the roost' and that wasn't all to the good for the family. The boys didn't respect their father and Merida didn't respect her mother.
In the beginning of the movie, you see it - he's a bit more casual about her fretting. But by the time Merida is a teenager, he's obviously worn down into a 'yes dear' man. But at the end, with everything restored, she goes off riding with Merida and lets him take care of those exasperating triplets himself... and a wife should be able to do that from time to time. She should be able to trust her man with their children and with other matters, and not take over every time she thinks she'd do it better. Even a less perfect handling of the situation is better than a marriage in which one partner always winds up being the responsible one.
@@Gothelittle “the boys didn’t respect their father and Merida didn’t respect her mother” so then each of their kids didn’t really respect their same sex parent apparently
Small side note, Angus is Merida's horse, the dad's name is Fergus.
Massimo from Luca is an amazing overlooked father figure.
i almost always cry when watching these videos of yours. seeing glimpses of other marriages (even fictional ones) fills a gap in my heart left by my separated parents. but, it also keeps me hoping that one day i’ll get to experience a happy and healthy marriage too.
Honestly, the phrase “oh well, more for me” is so good for a relationship. It’s pretty specific to foods, but there can be a surprising amount of frustration from showing someone a food that’s important to you only for them to completely hate it. Especially if it’s important to your family. “My boyfriend doesn’t like this food that has a lot of significance to me, and I was really looking forward to sharing it with him… Oh well, more for me!”
It’s also great to be on the receiving end of it, because it completely takes off any pressure. No more guilt about not liking it, because it’s true: more for them. You’re not being a wet blanket or ruining a kind gesture, you’re accepting the thought and saying “Thank you. You can have all of it, because it would be wasted on me. It should be enjoyed.” My boyfriend hates a lot of my favorite flavors, and it was a point of frustration until I learned to flip it on its head and appreciate that I don’t have to share my favorite foods! I get the salad that he hates, and he gets the fish that I don’t like.
Another honorable mention from an episode you guys have done before: Yasuko and Tatsuo, the mother and father from My Neighbor Totoro! I think they have a healthy marriage. Even though she is sick and unable to take care of her children as she would want to be able to, she still shows them such love and compassion when they come to visit her. And as a father taking care of his kids almost alone, Tatsuo is such a strong, kind character as you guys pointed out in the episode. I know the focus is more on the kids in that movie but I figured I'd throw their names in!!
Good throw in my opinion - they also seem to have a healthy partnership where Tatsuo visits her after she has to stay in the hospital a little longer. It's just a cold, but he's there, to cheer her up, to tell her every update about the girls, to check up on her and possibly just to spend time with her together.
@@dzr4421 agreed!! 👏👏
Yes! This! Plus the mother isn't really absent, the whole family is thinking and talking about her during the whole movie. She's not out of sight/out of mind for any of them, she's still important regardless of her location or her health - that's true care for someone
Yes, there's never any sign of resentment from Tatsuo or any complaints about her not being there to be the caregiver, etc (unlike so many men who still call it "babysitting" when looking after their own kids! 😤).
They also do a great job of trying to balance honesty and not talking down to the girls about the situation, while also shielding them so they can be kids, never making their fears worse but also not belittling the concerns that they have.
Yeah, thought about them, too.
An Emperor's New Groove episode would be so fun!
Yes please!!!!
Also I'm sure you get more than a comment a day thanking you, but really I cannot say thank you enough. You helped me realize my last partner was hurting me far more than I knew and now I have found my amazing partner and husband, and you help me be a better half of a while with every episode you do. From the bottom of my heart... Thank you. For the laughs, the tears and the information that was right in front of me all along
I am glad you saved the UP scene until last. It makes me cry. I have learned more from you than any other source about what it takes to have healthy relationships, move past bad experiences, and strive for loving partnerships. Thank you,
Clint and Laura from the Avengers movies. Not a lot if screen time but amazing example. She is so supportive and encourages him give his best without comparing himself to the others. She is also incredibly unselfish in sharing him. And his extreme measures protect his family and their privacy as well as how he thinks about what he can do for her even in the middle of a fight. So cute. She is always on his mind.
Yes yes yes!
They are also great in the Disney + show .
And she is not jealous of Nat she knows how important she is to Clint and embraces her.
Ooh! I forgot about them! Yes, they are an amazing example :D
The Emperor's New Groove is SUCH an underrated movie! The comedy is gold and Kronk is one of the best sidekicks in a movie ever. Please do an Emperor's New Groove episode!
They could also talk a lot about how much time the animators spent with the voice actors to match their faces and mannerisms… it would be a great therapy episode AND film episode
Me and my sister quote it and Bartok from Anastasia all the time. 💜 Squeak squeakum.
I LOVE the Emperor's New Groove, I would love to revisit it with you two!
Also thank for for posting this lovely video ("Up" did get me 😢 it always does.) I love the mix of videos you two do--the "this relationship isn't healthy because" videos are fun and catharic--but I really needed a nice positive video like this today! Thank you for your work!
I *always* cry at Carl and Ellie's montage. Such a loving marriage