As a reminder - if my videos resonate with you and you are tired of learning about the narcissist and yet still feeling stuck - if you're ready to now turn your focus on you and how you can HEAL from this horrific abuse, come join me live on zoom in the School of Transformation. I meet live weekly with survivors from all over the world that are doing the inner work to overcome the cptsd that narcissistic abuse creates! There are 9-12 live zoom mtgs each month - most are recorded in case you are unable to attend live! I'll leave the link here for you to see if it's a good fit for you: www.micheleleenieves.com/school-of-transformation
Omg, exactly about growing up with a narcissist - I realised I don’t have memories of what it is like to believe in yourself, be kind to yourself, or simply feel loved. I don’t have that side of myself I can come back to. I will need to discover and learn these things.
My X not only burned the bridge, she scorched the relationship. For you good ladies and men out there. Do not take them back. Get back your A game again. Lessons learned.
Michelle, thank you for what you do! Narcissistic abuse is such a difficult thing to live through and to explain to others in your life. It’s so confusing and traumatizing that you end up feeling stuck, alone, crazy and misunderstood. Thank you for helping so many of us make sense of this senseless abuse and get the help we need to rescue ourselves and find our way back to our true selves. You are literally helping save lives.🙏🫶
Michelle, thank you ❤for clarity. When went full no contact with family, I felt peace but started again over eating on chocolate to feel protection, to self sooth , it's self destruction, it's an old way of coping, plus felt pyscical pain, heart racing. Makes sense listening to your video. Much gratitude 🙏 ❤
Most Narcissists are so needy and insecure that they can't stand seeing others doing there own thing while there around. If your washing your car on a beautiful summer day and the narcissists wants to clean his fish tank in the house ~ Your going to have to put down the hose and shut down your plans to help the narcissists clean a fish tank, just because they want you there so they don't have to deal with separation anxiety. I can't tell you how many jobs I did with my father that all i did was hold a flashlight or hand him a nail ( all the while thinking " why can't I wash my car outside while you do this inside and later we can sit together and watch TV ) BUT NO, NOT WITH A NARCISSIST. They want there audience present AT ALL TIMES.
ONG!! This is so true!! Mine wld go from a good mood to pouting if I was outside cleaning His yard and not being with him inside!! It was so strange and very stressful!! 🙏💪💜
yes, they are all 4 year olds trapped in the bodies of adults. But it does help to look at things from a spiritual perspective and know they are wounded souls. just don't let them take you down while your caring. Always know your worth. @@djw8504
My covert narc parent was so damaging to me and my other parent. And for many years, me and my other parent have felt afraid that we are not allowed to speak up and expose the narc to people. We have suffered in silence. 😢 The narc has many on their side and has credibility with people. We are very isolated and people treat us with indifference and disrespect. But we are healing from the abuse. It is so great to not have the narc in our lives!
These truth 💣 💣 💣 are so validating. I feel guilty going to exercise because my mother used to throw comments making me feel like it was stupid to work out. When I run, every time I think of her it becomes impossible to go on (my body would suddenly feel so weak) and I have to stop. I never heard anyone else specialising in NPD speak about it. So glad I discovered this channel.
Exactly what Happened, my body freaks out , this explains why I was people pleasing last week, going to far and above at work, it’s exhausting it gave me a panic attack , it’s finally gone after 2 weeks
Omg! This is what happened to me! I thought the narcissist increased my social anxiety (might be still true) but it is mainly this! -> I no longer feel safe to be me, to express myself. Even tho he didn't openly shame me or put me down, I do really not feel safe to show people who I am, I don't feel safe enough to tell my perspective. I even am afraid to talk in online game because even slight thing as someone laughing at my wrong grammar - it makes me feel horrible! I really feel I am not being me - I live like If I was ghost. I dont think I have something important to say. Even yesterday I realized I dont feel safe to post quote on Facebook. I think no one really cares and I am somehow afraid to put light on me - to show people I added something. How can I feel safe again? Does it comes with time? Because After the previous narcissist damaged me, I never went back to myself. I stayed years like that - afraid to express, to talk. It stayed with me and with another narcissist it got even worse. How can I detangle this?
Can someone turn into this type of person, who once wasn't?? My ex husband wasn't like this for the first half of our marriage but got very abusive. It's like he became a person I didn't recognize
Michelle Thank you its hurts so much that i took do call from a narssest that show agin they dont care at all .i was blind many they relize but it was the opposite.And dont know how i prosses this itgo so deep of dont belive not care and feel so lonly and therfor i took the call .lesson dont engaged to a narssesist .shod have boundaries and self respect .hurts in my soul
Very good video! I really like the way to explore and explain different topics. You had dimensions that most other online coaches do not have. Thank you for sharing your content!
As a reminder - if my videos resonate with you and you are tired of learning about the narcissist and yet still feeling stuck - if you're ready to now turn your focus on you and how you can HEAL from this horrific abuse, come join me live on zoom in the School of Transformation. I meet live weekly with survivors from all over the world that are doing the inner work to overcome the cptsd that narcissistic abuse creates! There are 9-12 live zoom mtgs each month - most are recorded in case you are unable to attend live! I'll leave the link here for you to see if it's a good fit for you: www.micheleleenieves.com/school-of-transformation
Spot on . I messed up and let them win but my recovery and bounce back will be spectacular
Amen!
Once you see through the con, and come out on the other side, you can only pity them. Very clearly explained-thank you.
I wouldn’t go as far as pity them.
@@XxxX-wx3er I concur. I just meant because they’re weak and think they’re “strong.” We attributed too much power to them.
Omg, exactly about growing up with a narcissist - I realised I don’t have memories of what it is like to believe in yourself, be kind to yourself, or simply feel loved. I don’t have that side of myself I can come back to. I will need to discover and learn these things.
I'm really sorry! I'm in the same boat! Don't really have an old self to get back to i guess!
My X not only burned the bridge, she scorched the relationship. For you good ladies and men out there. Do not take them back. Get back your A game again. Lessons learned.
Michelle, thank you for what you do! Narcissistic abuse is such a difficult thing to live through and to explain to others in your life. It’s so confusing and traumatizing that you end up feeling stuck, alone, crazy and misunderstood. Thank you for helping so many of us make sense of this senseless abuse and get the help we need to rescue ourselves and find our way back to our true selves. You are literally helping save lives.🙏🫶
🧐💯Been an AWFUL walk this far, but I KNOW who I am & just GONNA KEEP GOIN TILL **WE** CAN GET THROUGH ALL THIS BS ❣️😇💞
Michelle, thank you ❤for clarity.
When went full no contact with family, I felt peace but started again over eating on chocolate to feel protection, to self sooth , it's self destruction, it's an old way of coping, plus felt pyscical pain, heart racing.
Makes sense listening to your video.
Much gratitude 🙏 ❤
Most Narcissists are so needy and insecure that they can't stand seeing others doing there own thing while there around. If your washing your car on a beautiful summer day and the narcissists wants to clean his fish tank in the house ~ Your going to have to put down the hose and shut down your plans to help the narcissists clean a fish tank, just because they want you there so they don't have to deal with separation anxiety. I can't tell you how many jobs I did with my father that all i did was hold a flashlight or hand him a nail ( all the while thinking " why can't I wash my car outside while you do this inside and later we can sit together and watch TV ) BUT NO, NOT WITH A NARCISSIST. They want there audience present AT ALL TIMES.
ONG!! This is so true!! Mine wld go from a good mood to pouting if I was outside cleaning His yard and not being with him inside!! It was so strange and very stressful!! 🙏💪💜
yes, they are all 4 year olds trapped in the bodies of adults. But it does help to look at things from a spiritual perspective and know they are wounded souls. just don't let them take you down while your caring. Always know your worth. @@djw8504
piercing truth. you may not know the level helpfulness presented here.. million thanks.💟
My covert narc parent was so damaging to me and my other parent. And for many years, me and my other parent have felt afraid that we are not allowed to speak up and expose the narc to people. We have suffered in silence. 😢
The narc has many on their side and has credibility with people. We are very isolated and people treat us with indifference and disrespect.
But we are healing from the abuse. It is so great to not have the narc in our lives!
These truth 💣 💣 💣 are so validating. I feel guilty going to exercise because my mother used to throw comments making me feel like it was stupid to work out. When I run, every time I think of her it becomes impossible to go on (my body would suddenly feel so weak) and I have to stop. I never heard anyone else specialising in NPD speak about it. So glad I discovered this channel.
No you didn’t?! Keep it going!! My memory is slowly but surely starting to come back.
So true. I called my now residance Stuck.. Since 2018
They may win many battles, however they always lose the war.
Yes i was outgoiuand happy and lost me thath forget who i am now so empty and hurt .
Exactly what Happened, my body freaks out , this explains why I was people pleasing last week, going to far and above at work, it’s exhausting it gave me a panic attack , it’s finally gone after 2 weeks
Omg! This is what happened to me! I thought the narcissist increased my social anxiety (might be still true) but it is mainly this! -> I no longer feel safe to be me, to express myself. Even tho he didn't openly shame me or put me down, I do really not feel safe to show people who I am, I don't feel safe enough to tell my perspective. I even am afraid to talk in online game because even slight thing as someone laughing at my wrong grammar - it makes me feel horrible! I really feel I am not being me - I live like If I was ghost. I dont think I have something important to say. Even yesterday I realized I dont feel safe to post quote on Facebook. I think no one really cares and I am somehow afraid to put light on me - to show people I added something. How can I feel safe again? Does it comes with time? Because After the previous narcissist damaged me, I never went back to myself. I stayed years like that - afraid to express, to talk. It stayed with me and with another narcissist it got even worse. How can I detangle this?
God bless
I have to do this and that or be this and that to be a good person, I'm not just a good person, they keep reminding me of this
So damn true!!!!!!
Thank you Michelle!❤️💙🙏
Thank you for brillant observations and advice. ❤
Can someone turn into this type of person, who once wasn't?? My ex husband wasn't like this for the first half of our marriage but got very abusive. It's like he became a person I didn't recognize
They might even with hold signing divorce documents and move somewhere not know by me!
Michelle Thank you its hurts so much that i took do call from a narssest that show agin they dont care at all .i was blind many they relize but it was the opposite.And dont know how i prosses this itgo so deep of dont belive not care and feel so lonly and therfor i took the call .lesson dont engaged to a narssesist .shod have boundaries and self respect .hurts in my soul
I liked the picture of your happen yoy
Im doing ok... walking away. But the nightmares and hypervigilant mornings drain the shizznikks out of me 😢 im not well
Going through this dilema
Thank you for all your words
Very good video! I really like the way to explore and explain different topics. You had dimensions that most other online coaches do not have. Thank you for sharing your content!
Lol. So. True
So when your try to self heal and they say to your being fake why is that?
They know you're real, its projection also envious attempt to feel better and destroy you
cause you've lost who you are through the forced experience of losing your reality
Pure evil
i think she wants me to die.
Me too.
😂