Hannah - I’ve been working professionally for nearly 30 years. I can tell you from experience that it is very rare to make friends at work. The moment there is a re-org and you get laid off, all those people you thought were friends, evaporate, they disappear. Even colleagues that you may have a close relationship at work, when they move on to their next gig, that’s essentially the end of that relationship. Work is work. The people you may develop work friendships are not real friends. The best way to develop friendships is to get involved in activities where you can meet people with similar interests.
My mother in law told me exact same thing when I was young, but I didn't listen, I became too close to my colleagues, and it harmed my career in the end.
*_I’ve heard it’s more difficult to make friends in California, unless u grew up there. That U gotta watch ur back w/ making “friends” esp, coming in as a newbie. Everyone is trying to “make it” in Cali. They will stomp on u to get to where they need to go._* 😳
I have spent much of my adult life in 24/7 operations. Having days off during the week made it easier to get a haircut, dental appointment, or oil change but it was harder to be friends with anyone NOT from my workplace. I have a few few folks I keep in touch with even after not seeing them for years at a time but yes, I have found that friendships can fade with time and distance. During the isolation of the pandemic shutdown I tried to reconnect with some former classmates and coworkers with varying degrees of success.
My heart broke when you tried to socialize and got rejected like that. I'd understand wanting to stay with your group but JOIN US would be my solution. People really do grow up to be villains like wtf. From what I can see you have a pure heart and I wish you the best, much love from NYC.
Yeah it might not be malicious in nature. I'm also a software engineer and it would be fair to say I'm not well adjusted socially. Social things just stress me out, a lot of other people who work in tech are like this too.
She's in California, the land of fake niceness, it's to be expected. In NYC, not my favorite place, people might be a bit rough but at least they have a heart and a soul ...
Yeah try moving the midwest or east coast for work if you can. It's socially warmer here. I Lived in west coast culture for 20 ish years and the fake is real.
I had to write this comment because you are one of the bravest people I have come across on UA-cam. Also the fact that you decided to your share your honest story in an era where social media and UA-cam is about people showing off of their wealth, your story is inspiration for all of us who are struggling to build something for ourselves coming from very humble backgrounds. It’s okay to be different than social norms if that’s the most practical way according to our situation. I am looking forward to seeing your journey towards great success! ❤
I feel you. It's awfully hard to make friends as adults for some reason. I can totally relate to this; everyone just prefers to be in their bubble. I even went as far as connecting with people from business, marketing, design, accounting, HR departments, but it is hard to find relatable topics and build lasting connections. Sometimes all you want is to share a nice lunch, find out the best bowl of ramen in the town, talk about a bit of your day, know about someone else's, and feel that you belong to this place. Kudos to you though for staying strong and not giving up. Kudos to you for putting yourself out there. Kudo to you for being at Microsoft. I see you crying, but hey, you're crying in a Tesla, that's positive. You're doing great. Keep going! I hope you find your kind of people soon.
yeah it hard to make friends in a office. if you open your mouth on how you talk and be cheeky or take a joke out of each other then chance to lose your job for acting who you are as a person. I try and do my best to be social as a developer but I have to careful as some are in their own bubble.
This is true. Having friends in same team is a joke. Even with other teams, it's pretty hard for a friendship to happen. But it's easy if you have similar culture people working for the same vertical. Go and meet people from other office Hannah.
I've only seen this one video. Not sure what her hobbies are. The best way to make friends as an adult is to pic an interactive hobby where the same people go every week. I did karate for a year,. We have to go regularly to get our belts so everyone start to get to know each other pretty well.
Hannah this was very emotional for me to watch. I moved to Van Island for my bsc, completed it and found a job on the island. few months later I felt like you: that I do not belong there. I just didnt click with society there... my only friend was my roommate, and i havent dated anyone in a year. Then I just snapped, I stopped crying and flew back home. Found a job as a software developer and made friends within the 1st weeks of my return. Started dating few days I returned.... Everything felt so natural and it finally clicked for me. Found the girl of my dreams at work, and built strong confidants over the next few months. Keep looking for your place. DO NOT SETTLE FOR LESS ! I compromised my salary, which is slightly lower that what i would had made, but my mental health, and the people that are in my life, are much more valuable to me. Keep looking for your place in this world, Im sure youll find it xoxo
I have been on Van Island (Parksville) for a little over a year now and am so incredibly lonely here. Starting to wonder if this was such a good idea. I'm in healthcare. Where did you go back home to?
Hey! I'm based in San Francisco and run a community for Asian women who travel and work abroad. Would love to invite you to some events and meet up with us if you're looking for a community. I worked abroad and know exactly how you feel. Sending hugs!
Can I join your community? I'm very interesting about the community that has mutual working status as I am an abroad worker too. I'm looking forward to hear from you. Thank you.
My 30 years in the technology sector, especially in Silicon Valley, taught me that friendships in these companies are like vapourware: it comes and goes abruptly. It's nobody's fault: it is a part of the nature of the work environment. I have made friends with people by volunteering in charities and Not-For-Profit organizations, and believe it or not, through social media. But I needed to be very careful and selective with whom I meet from Facebook contacts. The long and tedious "due-diligence" process of finding friends with similar interests, mutual life goals has been worth it. However, we should expect friends from this industry to have to leave the valley abruptly: getting fired, or finding new jobs. Best of luck to you!
Thank you all so much for your kind words. I’ve been really curious to see if this lifestyle could actually be sustainable, especially since it feels like our generation is trapped in this earn-to-spend cycle: we’re told to make more money, only to spend it all. With housing prices skyrocketing, it got me thinking-if all my efforts are vanishing into housing, what’s the point? I want to test if there's another way to escape this matrix. Thanks again for all your encouragement. I’m trying my best to editing my footage and will get more vlogs out soon. If you have any questions, feel free to reach me on Ins: HannahWurld ❤
Hey. Hannah, your story just let me remind my first few years in Germany. Trust me, slowly, you will set down there. Now, I am living in Germany almost 10 years and work as a medical doctor for almost 5 years. Trust yourself. Keep trying. Things will become better.
Why don't you try to move out to a different country where the cost of living is lower? You're already working remote so you can give it a try if it's feasible.
Hi Hannah, I just found your channel and subscribed. Please keep making more videos as you are good at it and you have a very interesting life and story to be told. The fact that you have lived in your car safely for 6 months has saved you $24,000 in rent. Having your dog, not only is he your best buddy, but he's protecting you. I think a lot of people can learn from your life experiences so please keep making videos and documenting everything. You are an incredible resilient person and a survivor and I really admire you very much!
Living in the bay in a car is wild. Please reconsider this type of life. I am located in Sacramento and it's not that bad. A lot of bay area residents moved here and bought homes to settle and raise families while they commute to the bay. With FSD and public transits and/or company shuttles, you will find it way better. As for your dog, there is a huge dog park presence in downtown and midtown. Good luck on your journey. Coming from someone looking to break into tech, this is inspirational.
Yea great! All those idiots who voted for the degenerate, incoherent woke nonsense that ruined their cities are cashing out from inflated home prices and moving to our small towns.
@@mikealexander5428 She said that the average salary in the LA area was 80k, not that she makes 80k. I really doubt Microsoft is paying a SWE $80k anywhere on the west coast. Source: I work as a SWE, once for a bit in Seattle. Lower end salaries for SWE are around 115-120k in that area. All that said, I don't really think the car life is a great choice, considering she seems very lonely, there is no reason she cannot hit up people on FB marketplace or Craigslist and find folks that need a roommate. That solves part of her loneliness prob and will reduce the cost of living to a more reasonable level.
Yeah, everything is more expensive in Sac. If you really want to save money, move to somewhere like Modesto or Fresno. Or just GTFO out of California, this states sucks all around.
Love this vid. It was honest and transparent. You could have pretended everything was great, but instead you were open about your loneliness. Things will get better! Keep pushing and keep pivoting when you need to.
Hey, Hannah! Just met you and loved the video. Thanks for being so transparent. Gtk that there's more people questioning the pricing of housing. We need more Hannahs in the world! All the best for you!! Greetings from Brazil
Beautiful, Hannah! Thank you so much for sharing your honest experience. Your journey is a courageous and difficult one and I admire the genuineness and kindness with which you lead. As a Silicon Valley native and local I know how hard cultivating meaningful community can be, but I know that you will find your people sooner than later! Sending you hugs and love!
Beautiful is right. That’s the part I don’t get. Sitting alone for lunch all that time? Looking like she does. There must not be any red blooded boys there. Or girls if that’s your choice. Or maybe it’s a strict policy or s’’ harassment rules. I mean even unwanted attention. I just think something is wrong with this picture.
Hello Hannah, your vlog has been the highlight of my evening. I'm sorry that it's hard for you to find friends at work. For me, it's much easier to find friends outside office, maybe in a sports or a hobby community. You're very brave, and you have support from me and from everyone who watches your journey. I hope you stay healthy and safe!
Stumbled across your video tonight and just want to tell you how incredibly brave you are. Keep following your compass. This experience you're having is the experience you must have. I'm wholeheartedly rooting for you!
Ohhh Hannah!!! I feel you, felt your emotions from this video!! People are so blinded so preoccupied in their own bubbles they forget basic nature of humanity! Love, compassion, kindness…. If I was there I wouldn’t think about my team instead I’d involve you. Keep going stay strong!!! You’re learning more about yourself throughout the process!!!! ❤
You are so incredibly brave for embarking and sharing this experimental journey with us. Living in the US, especially in California isn't easy, especially with the high cost of living and an isolating social culture (value of individual over sense of community, especially at the workplace in my experience). But there are many good people out there too, and the right ones will find you. I'd personally love to sit with you because you seem like a very warm hearted and genuine person to befriend! Rooting for you 💪 Props to Halo, such a good doggo being by your side throughout this move 💕🐕🦺
Great video diary. Really frank about how isolating the tech sector is too. I moved to LA from Australia a few years ago and experienced a very similar situation. Los Angeles is a dog eat dog place, and can really put you off trusting people in general. It is very tough to become friends with people in this city when you are older and didn’t grow up there, I imagine it’s probably the same in San Francisco . Keep up the great video diaries and great work. You’ve got a friend here.
Hannah ❤ i truly admire your courage and perseverance in challenging yourself and going on this journey. i hope others can open their eyes and hearts to you as you are such a genuine and kind soul. keep going girl 💪 and please stay safe 🙏
I thought this was a joke, but it is not. Most of your life seems to be devoted to your work. This will probably damage your mental health in the long term. An apartment should not only be for sleeping. Its also a place to relax, do hobbies, hang out with friends. If you cannot get that in LA or SF then I would move away. These cities are always idealized but they are actually really distopian.
Hello Hannah, your story reminds me of my situation too. I applaud for your bravery and would want to do that for myself as well. Sacrifice the comfort for the adventure. Wish you the best.
I was paying 2200 a month for a small studio. Over the years I didn’t realize how much that was draining me. Kudos to you for breaking the norm. Also, I made the closest friends outside of work through my hobbies. People at work can be two faced and can’t be trusted all the time. GL to you!
Another thing you could try is to split the rent with a roommie, When I was first moved to Fremont, CA, we split the rent 3 ways, which is def nicer than living inside the car. And eventually when your salary increases (for SWE, it shouldn't take too long) you can start to reduce the amount of roommates and perhaps find a condo for sale. This is something that I did and didn't regret after stopped renting for good - every dollar gets reinvested into your own property!
Felt really sad when you were having lunch alone, wish I could join but I'm miles apart. Can join on call tho and would love to talk on tech, life, etc. while having lunch or dinner or in free time 🙃
Having Tesla and working as Software Engineer at Microsoft but being homeless is unbelievable. What is wrong with America? I live much better in my home country even though I don't have Tesla.
This is part of the reason why I've always been happier as an engineer working for smaller companies and by myself. I worked for a large hotel reservation organization for some time but even then, nothing ever felt like I was ever part of one crowd or another and that there weren't many people who even cared that I existed. That left a bad taste in my mouth for a long time. However, I did give you a sub! The power to leave your home to venture into the unknown is an incredibly courageous thing to do! I'll be happy to engage with more of your story in the future!
This is such a good reminder to tell everyone you are special. First video on UA-cam and it’s already such great quality, every journey is so worth to documenting. Hannah! All the best! I can only see good things will be happening from here. And we are all here to support you! Keep posting content, and I am sure you will attract others come to your way. Help me say hi to Halo!
I watched the one posted 10 days ago first, and as someone who has been confronted with the cost of living in the Bay, the way most people get by is to split housing with housemates or friends. Rent ends up being closer to 1.2k-2k. Not that bad tbh
Lived in my suv for 6 months bouncing between Redwood City, Eastridge and Santa Cruz but the only thing I did was instacart and teach yoga (still do!) It was humbling!!! I ended up getting in with a gig watching pets and homes for free in exchange for free rent and slowly got myself back into a rental situation. A year later, married, we are living comfortably and still working on building authentic friendships with people. Would love to connect. Your nomad and adventurous lifestyle would match ours for sure. :)
You are not supposed to be able to afford a $4k apartment fresh out of college. You choose this and math is math. Many fresh out of college kids have roommates. Or as Asian you can rent a room from empty nesters in the Bay Area. Life is about compromise and if you are not willing to compromise, so be it. Sorry I sound harsh but welcome to the real world. I was young once and I rented a room before I got married as an Asian male.
The problem is many places that are more affordable or where you can rent a room, they don't allow pets. As you see she moved to California with her dog
I also want to applaud you for trying out this lifestyle, I think it's an incredibly courageous and intelligent choice and I wish you health and happiness!
I love to see your resiliency. Putting yourself in a situation like that and still preserving. That’s inspiring. And storytelling ability, incredible. btw, I work at an IT corporate office in Minnesota. I would have definitely loved to sit down and have lunch with you ❤
Sometimes life is just like that, we get in that liminal space between beeing part of something and yet not connected to it at all. Good luck girl, I wish you to find your people to walk togheter~
I gave up making friends here after moving US . And it just frees me up, and now I’m allowed to do things that I really enjoy doing, no strings attached. It’s hard at first, but trust me it will get better
@@HannahWurld I think living in a car is fun, though I've only done it on road trips. If you have any tips for finding places to park it would be great, that's always the most difficult part for me.
Hi Hannah I live in Australia with my vietnamese gf. We found your posts and found them very touching. You are beautiful amazing and inspirational. It's an interesting social experiment you are sort of doing. You have high value and you are simply in the wrong place at the wrong time to be fully appreciated. Good luck!
She is an IT person and owns a Tesla. A software engineer in Silicon Valley will earn at least $200K per year and she couldn't afford a rental apartment? This is unbelievable. But she owns a Tesla costing at least $55K-$75K. When she can live in her Tesla car, couldn't she room with somebody? Come on! Who is she kidding?
I'm at 34. And I just started doing what ur doing. I move from central california to santa barbara for a job. Living in my fj cruiser is different but I like it. I feel like everyday is a adventure. I enjoy off roading, hiking, fishing and exploring places I never been before.
What a brave decision. Good for you! I think ultimately when you can make friends it will be easier for you. Also try doing other activities that you enjoy outside of work to create that social interaction that your missing. Don't worry about making friends at work it will come sooner or later. If you can do things like biking working out etc. Cant wait to see next video
I have seen some 1bdm apartments that costs between 2,200-2,700 near where you work. I don’t understand how you can’t find an apartment. If you prefer luxury apartment, maybe that’s the reason why it’s really expensive.
Also, Please keep posting! I am invested in your journey and would love to see what your life holds for you down the line! I also live in a unique living situation, my rent is only 14% of my income. I hugely enjoy the benefits (and freedom and peace of mind) of the extra income that would go to rent- i get to spend extra in other areas of my life and save a LOT , some of which goes into investments, my future, retirement, and vacations. However, I do have a shower, bathroom, and charger in my home and I feel like those are important things that greatly improve your quality of life. I get that living in your car is an experiment, I hope you have concluded that having a place to live is the winner. money is there to make your life easier. if you dont use it to do so, than theres really no point in making so much money.
I'm impressed you can sleep well in the 3. Part of the reason I switched to the model Y was that it was far more comfortable sleeping in, since you could fold the seats completely flat and there wouldn't be this bump in the middle. There was a guy who worked at Tesla many years back who did something similar and lived in his Model X. Back then you get unlimited supercharging for the S and X, so he'd just shower at the gym and do lyft/uber on the side with his free electricity. My question is did you not want to live with roommates? Most people I know here in the Bay share an apartment with roommates until they can save enough for a house or etc. Splitting usually brings down costs closer to around $1000-1500/mo for housing.
Once you finish college, it becomes increasingly difficult to make friends. Making friends at your job is not entirely ideal since most of the people there seems to be cliquey. You need to go out and meet people outside of your job. Try joining some sort of organization: the gym, a hiking group, some type of club, a dog group, church group, a (x) class, a book group, etc. You can probably make friends through one of those organizations. If I was still living in the area, I would be your friend, but I moved out of state because I can no longer afford to live in the SF Bay Area (ie California in general). Palo Alto is very expensive to live, try searching outside that area to find an apartment or a room. Lots of my friends live some where else and commute in. Kudos to you for preserving, your determination will get you far in life. However, I don’t know how much longer you can sustain living in your car once winter hits because it’s going to be very cold living in it. I wish you good luck and I hope your living situation improves.
Aloha Hannah! I was scrolling through UA-cam when I happened to come upon your videos and wish to thank you for sharing your world heartfelt moments through them. As you can see here there are many supporters cheering for you. If it's OK, I wish to become a member of this team and your friend, too.
I laughed really hard on how you acted when calling Ryan😂😂😂, but your story is really interesting. I wish you all the best, and keep updating us on any progress
Friends come and goes. Acquaintance would be more appropriate thing to do. Less commitments and headaches. Your pet is your best friend, faithful, gives back unconditional love and the best protector ever.
Hannah, you've picked some difficult places to try to fit. I applaud you for trying your best, and for getting this far. More affordable housing does exist, but it does take some time and luck. SF > then LA for sure for what you're doing. I suggest trying to find some extracurricular activities to meet people if work isn't working out for you. (yoga, hiking, community groups, associations, pickle ball). Try breaking into the bubble to be part of one; that's the challenge. I live in SF South Bay, if you are interested in bicycling, let me know.
Young lady, you are a strong and courageous person like a man. There are many men who went through the hard life like you, but they have never cried because of no pain, no gain. I started my life in Canada in the winter with only a T-shirt, a Jean, broken language English, and 5 Canadian dollars plus zero relationship or friends. You are still lucky to have a software degree , new car+ and living knowledge + fluence English language skills. MY BEST WISH TO A COURAGEOUS PERSON LIKE YOU. BE STRONG SISTER.
Amazing unfiltered look into your life, would love to see the hidden logistics of living in your car (showering, privacy, ...) if you want to show that in your next video
It's hard trying to make new friends in a company where most like to stay within their own bubbles. If it's too difficult trying to make friends in the company, maybe other social places like dog parks can help? It takes a lot of willpower and strength to move to an entire different country, especially if you don't know anyone in it. I hope you can make new friends to help make your stay in the US better!
Oh my gosh, the tech bubble is so true. I'm based out of San Francisco, the tech bubble is real and they don't want to expand their circle. I hate remote work, I hate not working with my team in person. The best part about having an apartment/home is that you get to have roommates who can be super involved in your life. My and my buddy chill out everyday, have friends come over from time to time. Please please get a place, since you also have a dog, please bring Halo to Dolores park, its warm and everyone so friendly. Human being are social creatures and everyone would love to meet you :)
I applaud you for trying this. To me, the best way of meeting new people in a new city is by hobbies. I met many people through skiing, mountain biking and tennis.
It will be difficult as you do not have space to store all of your belongings. Younger people tend to be more anti social. Hang in there and you will make friends.
Technology, Facebook, social media has connected us digitally but is disconnecting us from socially from each other as people. This is the dangerous consequence of big tech.
I worry for this beautiful sweet girl! You need to leave California there are much safer and much cheaper places to live and still have an excellent quality of living. You should go to Florida or the Carolina’s or somewhere in the Deep South it’s much safer , there are beautiful beaches and the people are really friendly. No matter where life takes you, please be careful and don’t put yourself or your awesome companion in harm’s way
Greetings from Brazil, so sorry to hear that nobody wants to have lunch with you, know that you are not alone, keep posting your videos so we can chat. I wish we could have lunch together though
According to PayScale, the average software engineer salary in Silicon Valley ranges between $94K and $162K a year. The median pay is $128K which is almost 19% higher than the annual mean wage across all computer and mathematical occupations. and living in car ??????????
Very brave and interesting. Having worked at FAANG companies myself, I'm surprised at people's unwillingness to mingle with you. Looking forward to future vids!
The Bay Area was the strangest place I've ever lived. It's hard to meet people there. Lived there for over 10 years. It is different than the rest of California.
As a Vancouverite who moved to the states 8 years ago, you moved to the wrong state if you're looking for friends. SF, NYC, DC are all like Vancouver - it's high school and people have their cliques. If you want friendly people who want to connect move to red states. I had your problem in DC. In Texas, I literally met some random stranger vlogging in front of his house, struck up a conversation and hung out at his garage before needing to go to church. Best of luck, Donald
Where you work the vibes are def. Cruel!! They should be more friendly and inviting, hugs and the best of luck for you and your journey I am glad you have a dog!
Thank you for sharing your story. I worked for a FANG a decade ago and was in a similar situation, moved to a crazy expensive city, my whole team was in another country anyway but they needed me there. I struggled to make friends and deal with office politics and the overall experience wasn’t great but it taught me something and that’s what I DIDNT want to do and so it helps me everyday today when I live and work the way I do to remember those times and the trials I was put through to know myself fully. all the best!
I think one problem is that you see the work environment as a proper place to make friends, and it is not that at all. Even lunchtime with your team is not some relaxed leisure time, it is meant to improve team spirit and make it easier working together. To expect a member from another team to leave their group and have lunch with you is like expecting someone to drop their spouse to have lunch with you.
I think there's be something you're not entirely telling us. I could be wrong. But I just think its crazy to decide to move from Vancouver to US just for a job which you can find anywhere else and then live in a car. Why US? Maybe that job is a once in a lifetime opportunity or its your dream job, but I can't seem to fathom the rationale of doing something like this just for a job. Otherwise perhaps i'm just trolled by this video because it's just for "content" You mentioned in 5-10 years or when you're older to move to US to retire that you will feel different, what difference is it? Why retire in US? You even explicitly asked to be moved to LA when you could have at least started in Vancouver first, build some capital and then maybe plan a move there someday. You work with your team remotely, and you're the only one based in LA, that's like almost going over there for no reason. If there is a huge amount of people you work with there and they are always in the office, then I get it. But this move...was a little reckless I feel I mean I know the main reason is the high cost of living in silicon valley, but wouldn't you have done some research before taking the job or even decide to move there?
Some people are just reckless. And when you’re fresh out of school, sometimes the idea of a big city clouds judgment; a lot of idealization perhaps. From your comment, I can tell you are probably a person who meticulously plans everything, but at the same time there are people who are the total opposite of you, hence what is seen here.
Check to see if there's a lunch buddy program at MSFT. Maybe they can pair you with a buddy for lunch hour - talk to your team leads even, to see if there's someone on your site you can sit with. It def. breaks my heart to see you living like this in the car with your dog in this video. I do think in the long term, this isn't very healthy way to live as your body needs the extra room to relax, and need extra living spaces to do your hobbies or to socialise. I wish your lifestyle eventually improves and wish you the very best!
Hannah, I hope you and your dog are doing well & that you will put each other first before all else even work. Perhaps, try applying to Facebook in Menlo Park. They offer on campus housing for their staff. Or maybe check out some studio apartments and do a hybrid WFH schedule. I know it’s hard to make friends especially in the tech industry. Keep staying positive and you’ll connect with a friend soon enough. You deserve a life that is happy & safe, even if that means not being able to save as much at first. Wishing all the best!
Hi Hannah, I just stumbled upon your Chanel, I’m now a subscriber. I’m from Toronto and I can feel the challenges that you’re going through. Always believe that tomorrow will be more prosperous than today, fight a good fight and never loose hope. Be safe and God bless💪🏼🙏🏼
When I moved to California for the Dot Com boom, the first place I lived was the campground in Half Moon Bay. I had a four person tent with a queen size futon in it. Totally luxurious. Every couple of days, I had to pack up and leave the park for 30 minutes. I'd go out to dinner and then return to my campsite on a Thursday night. (Few people show up on a Thursday.) The showers at the bathroom were not heated to discourage the homeless from staying. Once I got a great job, I bought a proper house and rented out some of the rooms to other people I met in the campground. You do what it takes. I didn't want to sign a lease and pay for an apartment.
I'm truly grateful for my team's support in allowing me to work in California. Our org’s culture is incredibly flexible, and there is a strong sense of trust among us all
Hi Hannah, you could rent a in-law quarter, or a converted garage to studio or an EDU to live in if you are in Silicon Valley or a master bedroom with private entrance which go for $1000-$1,300 per month. This includes free electricity, free internet, washer/dryer for you to use. Talk to your co-worker, they could show you where to look or even helping you looking for a decent place to live. Once you have a “permanent place” and safer place to sleep, you will look a life differently. Best wishes.
Probably job opportunities. tech companies in california pay insane amounts of money compared to almost anywhere else in the world. the only places that come close are seattle and NYC. I'd guess that the average pay for software engineers in Vancouver is at least 80k less than in LA.
Insane amounts of money but cannot afford housing or social connections? Is it that really worth it in the end? Unfortunately Sillicon Valley/CA doesn’t seem as attractive as it once was.
@@GunnerJayx she can afford housing. She just chooses not to. I'd estimate that she's making 200k-250k as a software engineer at microsoft. Even if her rent was 3.7k per month like she said the one apartment she looked at was, she would be totally fine. And by living in LA, you can very realistically see a salary of 300k-400k as you get a few years of experience. The high cost of living is super outweighed by the high compensation for software engineers in the area. As for making friends, it's hard to make friends as an adult. Thats going to be equally true in basically any North American city. It's not a problem exclusive to LA.
Hi Hannah! I’m glad to watch your video. My heart go out to you. I’m hoping that you’ll be able to find an affordable room to rent. Wish you all the best and be safe. God loves you.❤
Hannah - I’ve been working professionally for nearly 30 years. I can tell you from experience that it is very rare to make friends at work. The moment there is a re-org and you get laid off, all those people you thought were friends, evaporate, they disappear. Even colleagues that you may have a close relationship at work, when they move on to their next gig, that’s essentially the end of that relationship. Work is work. The people you may develop work friendships are not real friends. The best way to develop friendships is to get involved in activities where you can meet people with similar interests.
My mother in law told me exact same thing when I was young, but I didn't listen, I became too close to my colleagues, and it harmed my career in the end.
*_I’ve heard it’s more difficult to make friends in California, unless u grew up there. That U gotta watch ur back w/ making “friends” esp, coming in as a newbie. Everyone is trying to “make it” in Cali. They will stomp on u to get to where they need to go._* 😳
I have spent much of my adult life in 24/7 operations. Having days off during the week made it easier to get a haircut, dental appointment, or oil change but it was harder to be friends with anyone NOT from my workplace. I have a few few folks I keep in touch with even after not seeing them for years at a time but yes, I have found that friendships can fade with time and distance. During the isolation of the pandemic shutdown I tried to reconnect with some former classmates and coworkers with varying degrees of success.
Volunteer at a foster center if you care and not just about selfishness
This is truth. I have experienced this myself.
My heart broke when you tried to socialize and got rejected like that. I'd understand wanting to stay with your group but JOIN US would be my solution. People really do grow up to be villains like wtf. From what I can see you have a pure heart and I wish you the best, much love from NYC.
It's a tech company, so social skills, emotional awareness, etc. are probably severely lacking.
Yeah it might not be malicious in nature. I'm also a software engineer and it would be fair to say I'm not well adjusted socially. Social things just stress me out, a lot of other people who work in tech are like this too.
😢😢😢
She's in California, the land of fake niceness, it's to be expected. In NYC, not my favorite place, people might be a bit rough but at least they have a heart and a soul ...
Yeah try moving the midwest or east coast for work if you can. It's socially warmer here. I Lived in west coast culture for 20 ish years and the fake is real.
I had to write this comment because you are one of the bravest people I have come across on UA-cam. Also the fact that you decided to your share your honest story in an era where social media and UA-cam is about people showing off of their wealth, your story is inspiration for all of us who are struggling to build something for ourselves coming from very humble backgrounds. It’s okay to be different than social norms if that’s the most practical way according to our situation. I am looking forward to seeing your journey towards great success! ❤
Appreciated ❤
Dont worry about being alone for now. The right friend will approach you. Better alone than being with the wrong crowd.
I feel you. It's awfully hard to make friends as adults for some reason. I can totally relate to this; everyone just prefers to be in their bubble. I even went as far as connecting with people from business, marketing, design, accounting, HR departments, but it is hard to find relatable topics and build lasting connections. Sometimes all you want is to share a nice lunch, find out the best bowl of ramen in the town, talk about a bit of your day, know about someone else's, and feel that you belong to this place.
Kudos to you though for staying strong and not giving up. Kudos to you for putting yourself out there. Kudo to you for being at Microsoft. I see you crying, but hey, you're crying in a Tesla, that's positive. You're doing great. Keep going! I hope you find your kind of people soon.
yeah it hard to make friends in a office. if you open your mouth on how you talk and be cheeky or take a joke out of each other then chance to lose your job for acting who you are as a person. I try and do my best to be social as a developer but I have to careful as some are in their own bubble.
This is true. Having friends in same team is a joke. Even with other teams, it's pretty hard for a friendship to happen. But it's easy if you have similar culture people working for the same vertical. Go and meet people from other office Hannah.
I've only seen this one video. Not sure what her hobbies are. The best way to make friends as an adult is to pic an interactive hobby where the same people go every week. I did karate for a year,. We have to go regularly to get our belts so everyone start to get to know each other pretty well.
I’ve never made friends at work nor plan to. It’s drama you can save.
People at work are not your true friend. They will gossip about you with other co-worker and stab you in the back by getting you fired.
Hannah this was very emotional for me to watch.
I moved to Van Island for my bsc, completed it and found a job on the island.
few months later I felt like you: that I do not belong there.
I just didnt click with society there... my only friend was my roommate, and i havent dated anyone in a year.
Then I just snapped, I stopped crying and flew back home. Found a job as a software developer and made friends within the 1st weeks of my return. Started dating few days I returned.... Everything felt so natural and it finally clicked for me. Found the girl of my dreams at work, and built strong confidants over the next few months.
Keep looking for your place. DO NOT SETTLE FOR LESS ! I compromised my salary, which is slightly lower that what i would had made, but my mental health, and the people that are in my life, are much more valuable to me. Keep looking for your place in this world, Im sure youll find it xoxo
I have been on Van Island (Parksville) for a little over a year now and am so incredibly lonely here. Starting to wonder if this was such a good idea. I'm in healthcare. Where did you go back home to?
@@mishmish2261 Tel Aviv. Van Island is great, I just didnt fit in : ) I hope youll find your place, you deserve it after all your hard work ❤️
Hey! I'm based in San Francisco and run a community for Asian women who travel and work abroad. Would love to invite you to some events and meet up with us if you're looking for a community. I worked abroad and know exactly how you feel. Sending hugs!
Thanks.
Scam?
Your dog is so cute! Costs for living in CA is insane 🥲
Can I join your community? I'm very interesting about the community that has mutual working status as I am an abroad worker too. I'm looking forward to hear from you. Thank you.
Sorry, but this sounds like a trap. lol
My 30 years in the technology sector, especially in Silicon Valley, taught me that friendships in these companies are like vapourware: it comes and goes abruptly. It's nobody's fault: it is a part of the nature of the work environment. I have made friends with people by volunteering in charities and Not-For-Profit organizations, and believe it or not, through social media. But I needed to be very careful and selective with whom I meet from Facebook contacts. The long and tedious "due-diligence" process of finding friends with similar interests, mutual life goals has been worth it. However, we should expect friends from this industry to have to leave the valley abruptly: getting fired, or finding new jobs. Best of luck to you!
Thank you all so much for your kind words. I’ve been really curious to see if this lifestyle could actually be sustainable, especially since it feels like our generation is trapped in this earn-to-spend cycle: we’re told to make more money, only to spend it all. With housing prices skyrocketing, it got me thinking-if all my efforts are vanishing into housing, what’s the point? I want to test if there's another way to escape this matrix. Thanks again for all your encouragement. I’m trying my best to editing my footage and will get more vlogs out soon. If you have any questions, feel free to reach me on Ins: HannahWurld ❤
Hope it gets better. Stay safe dear❤
Honestly enjoying this journey a lot you should upload more about it it’s amazing
Hey. Hannah, your story just let me remind my first few years in Germany. Trust me, slowly, you will set down there. Now, I am living in Germany almost 10 years and work as a medical doctor for almost 5 years. Trust yourself. Keep trying. Things will become better.
Why don't you try to move out to a different country where the cost of living is lower? You're already working remote so you can give it a try if it's feasible.
Hi Hannah, you should reach out to my good friend and his wife in Palo Alto. He built comfortable tiny homes for tech workers and a dog sitter too! 😊
Hi Hannah, I just found your channel and subscribed. Please keep making more videos as you are good at it and you have a very interesting life and story to be told. The fact that you have lived in your car safely for 6 months has saved you $24,000 in rent. Having your dog, not only is he your best buddy, but he's protecting you. I think a lot of people can learn from your life experiences so please keep making videos and documenting everything. You are an incredible resilient person and a survivor and I really admire you very much!
Thanks
Living in the bay in a car is wild. Please reconsider this type of life. I am located in Sacramento and it's not that bad. A lot of bay area residents moved here and bought homes to settle and raise families while they commute to the bay. With FSD and public transits and/or company shuttles, you will find it way better. As for your dog, there is a huge dog park presence in downtown and midtown. Good luck on your journey. Coming from someone looking to break into tech, this is inspirational.
Yea great! All those idiots who voted for the degenerate, incoherent woke nonsense that ruined their cities are cashing out from inflated home prices and moving to our small towns.
@@mikealexander5428 She said that the average salary in the LA area was 80k, not that she makes 80k. I really doubt Microsoft is paying a SWE $80k anywhere on the west coast. Source: I work as a SWE, once for a bit in Seattle. Lower end salaries for SWE are around 115-120k in that area. All that said, I don't really think the car life is a great choice, considering she seems very lonely, there is no reason she cannot hit up people on FB marketplace or Craigslist and find folks that need a roommate. That solves part of her loneliness prob and will reduce the cost of living to a more reasonable level.
I’d move to Sacramento too rather than live in a vehicle for sure.
Lol 100miles one way…
Yeah, everything is more expensive in Sac. If you really want to save money, move to somewhere like Modesto or Fresno. Or just GTFO out of California, this states sucks all around.
God bless this sweet girl 💝🙏
I hope all her dreams come true and finds happiness.
Love this vid. It was honest and transparent. You could have pretended everything was great, but instead you were open about your loneliness. Things will get better! Keep pushing and keep pivoting when you need to.
Hey, Hannah! Just met you and loved the video. Thanks for being so transparent. Gtk that there's more people questioning the pricing of housing. We need more Hannahs in the world! All the best for you!! Greetings from Brazil
Beautiful, Hannah! Thank you so much for sharing your honest experience. Your journey is a courageous and difficult one and I admire the genuineness and kindness with which you lead. As a Silicon Valley native and local I know how hard cultivating meaningful community can be, but I know that you will find your people sooner than later! Sending you hugs and love!
Thank you for the thoughtful words❤
Beautiful is right. That’s the part I don’t get. Sitting alone for lunch all that time? Looking like she does. There must not be any red blooded boys there. Or girls if that’s your choice. Or maybe it’s a strict policy or s’’ harassment rules. I mean even unwanted attention. I just think something is wrong with this picture.
Hello Hannah, your vlog has been the highlight of my evening. I'm sorry that it's hard for you to find friends at work. For me, it's much easier to find friends outside office, maybe in a sports or a hobby community. You're very brave, and you have support from me and from everyone who watches your journey. I hope you stay healthy and safe!
Stumbled across your video tonight and just want to tell you how incredibly brave you are. Keep following your compass. This experience you're having is the experience you must have. I'm wholeheartedly rooting for you!
Ohhh Hannah!!! I feel you, felt your emotions from this video!! People are so blinded so preoccupied in their own bubbles they forget basic nature of humanity! Love, compassion, kindness…. If I was there I wouldn’t think about my team instead I’d involve you. Keep going stay strong!!! You’re learning more about yourself throughout the process!!!! ❤
You are so incredibly brave for embarking and sharing this experimental journey with us. Living in the US, especially in California isn't easy, especially with the high cost of living and an isolating social culture (value of individual over sense of community, especially at the workplace in my experience). But there are many good people out there too, and the right ones will find you. I'd personally love to sit with you because you seem like a very warm hearted and genuine person to befriend! Rooting for you 💪
Props to Halo, such a good doggo being by your side throughout this move 💕🐕🦺
Great video diary. Really frank about how isolating the tech sector is too.
I moved to LA from Australia a few years ago and experienced a very similar situation. Los Angeles is a dog eat dog place, and can really put you off trusting people in general.
It is very tough to become friends with people in this city when you are older and didn’t grow up there, I imagine it’s probably the same in San Francisco .
Keep up the great video diaries and great work. You’ve got a friend here.
Hannah ❤ i truly admire your courage and perseverance in challenging yourself and going on this journey. i hope others can open their eyes and hearts to you as you are such a genuine and kind soul. keep going girl 💪 and please stay safe 🙏
Right. The crime has increased terribly these years, so break ins into cars are allowed and done within minutes by these pros. Really be careful.
you got this, girl!
making friends as an adult is challenging, but the only way is to keep putting yourself out there.
I wish you and halo success!
You should try getting involved in some extracurriculars! Join a frisbee team, go indoor rock climbing, do something outside of work!
I thought this was a joke, but it is not. Most of your life seems to be devoted to your work. This will probably damage your mental health in the long term. An apartment should not only be for sleeping. Its also a place to relax, do hobbies, hang out with friends. If you cannot get that in LA or SF then I would move away. These cities are always idealized but they are actually really distopian.
Don't forget highly competitive elite places too. It is all business and don't take it personally, worth visit though as tourist to observe it.
Yup, she should get a remote job and then she can live wherever she wants
Hello Hannah, your story reminds me of my situation too. I applaud for your bravery and would want to do that for myself as well. Sacrifice the comfort for the adventure. Wish you the best.
I was paying 2200 a month for a small studio. Over the years I didn’t realize how much that was draining me. Kudos to you for breaking the norm.
Also, I made the closest friends outside of work through my hobbies. People at work can be two faced and can’t be trusted all the time. GL to you!
Thank you for sharing your journey with us and for your vulnerability! Subscribed now as I’m looking forward to hearing more about your story!
Another thing you could try is to split the rent with a roommie, When I was first moved to Fremont, CA, we split the rent 3 ways, which is def nicer than living inside the car. And eventually when your salary increases (for SWE, it shouldn't take too long) you can start to reduce the amount of roommates and perhaps find a condo for sale. This is something that I did and didn't regret after stopped renting for good - every dollar gets reinvested into your own property!
Wow, very good editing, you're doing a great job! Things will work out!
Thanks
Hi Hannah!
i am so proud of you!
don't give up, you can make lots of friends here in tech industry...so many great people in SJ Sanfrancisco, ..etc
Felt really sad when you were having lunch alone, wish I could join but I'm miles apart. Can join on call tho and would love to talk on tech, life, etc. while having lunch or dinner or in free time 🙃
Having Tesla and working as Software Engineer at Microsoft but being homeless is unbelievable. What is wrong with America? I live much better in my home country even though I don't have Tesla.
This is part of the reason why I've always been happier as an engineer working for smaller companies and by myself.
I worked for a large hotel reservation organization for some time but even then, nothing ever felt like I was ever part of one crowd or another and that there weren't many people who even cared that I existed. That left a bad taste in my mouth for a long time.
However, I did give you a sub! The power to leave your home to venture into the unknown is an incredibly courageous thing to do! I'll be happy to engage with more of your story in the future!
This is such a good reminder to tell everyone you are special. First video on UA-cam and it’s already such great quality, every journey is so worth to documenting. Hannah! All the best! I can only see good things will be happening from here. And we are all here to support you! Keep posting content, and I am sure you will attract others come to your way. Help me say hi to Halo!
Halo says hi ❤️
I watched the one posted 10 days ago first, and as someone who has been confronted with the cost of living in the Bay, the way most people get by is to split housing with housemates or friends. Rent ends up being closer to 1.2k-2k. Not that bad tbh
Lived in my suv for 6 months bouncing between Redwood City, Eastridge and Santa Cruz but the only thing I did was instacart and teach yoga (still do!) It was humbling!!! I ended up getting in with a gig watching pets and homes for free in exchange for free rent and slowly got myself back into a rental situation. A year later, married, we are living comfortably and still working on building authentic friendships with people. Would love to connect. Your nomad and adventurous lifestyle would match ours for sure. :)
You are strong. You will adapt. This chapter shall pass. You will look back and smile. God Bless 😇🙏
You are not supposed to be able to afford a $4k apartment fresh out of college. You choose this and math is math. Many fresh out of college kids have roommates. Or as Asian you can rent a room from empty nesters in the Bay Area. Life is about compromise and if you are not willing to compromise, so be it. Sorry I sound harsh but welcome to the real world. I was young once and I rented a room before I got married as an Asian male.
The problem is many places that are more affordable or where you can rent a room, they don't allow pets. As you see she moved to California with her dog
@@catleeena yeah missed that part about the pet.
I also want to applaud you for trying out this lifestyle, I think it's an incredibly courageous and intelligent choice and I wish you health and happiness!
I love to see your resiliency. Putting yourself in a situation like that and still preserving.
That’s inspiring.
And storytelling ability, incredible.
btw, I work at an IT corporate office in Minnesota. I would have definitely loved to sit down and have lunch with you ❤
Just a random stranger passing, but I hope things gets easier/better!
I seriously admire you! Totally going to stick around for your journey. Blessings!
Your dog reminded me of my dog when we had a tough time together and without any friends 😢
Sometimes life is just like that, we get in that liminal space between beeing part of something and yet not connected to it at all.
Good luck girl, I wish you to find your people to walk togheter~
Keep your head up Hannah. Hope you upload more on UA-cam. I want to keep watching. 👍
Forget friends. Everyone for himself or herself. Better that way. You don't want to worry about other persons' baggage.
My First video on this channel and wow! All I can is Stay strong!! You got this!! 🙌🏾
I gave up making friends here after moving US . And it just frees me up, and now I’m allowed to do things that I really enjoy doing, no strings attached. It’s hard at first, but trust me it will get better
Would love to see more of the logistics of car living! Been looking into this myself, thank you for sharing❤
Yeah it is definitely sustainable. I’ll share more on the logistics in my future vlogs
@@HannahWurld I think living in a car is fun, though I've only done it on road trips. If you have any tips for finding places to park it would be great, that's always the most difficult part for me.
Hi Hannah I live in Australia with my vietnamese gf. We found your posts and found them very touching. You are beautiful amazing and inspirational. It's an interesting social experiment you are sort of doing. You have high value and you are simply in the wrong place at the wrong time to be fully appreciated. Good luck!
Thank you so much! Sending good luck to you and your girlfriend in Australia.
She is an IT person and owns a Tesla. A software engineer in Silicon Valley will earn at least $200K per year and she couldn't afford a rental apartment? This is unbelievable. But she owns a Tesla costing at least $55K-$75K. When she can live in her Tesla car, couldn't she room with somebody? Come on! Who is she kidding?
I'm at 34. And I just started doing what ur doing. I move from central california to santa barbara for a job. Living in my fj cruiser is different but I like it. I feel like everyday is a adventure. I enjoy off roading, hiking, fishing and exploring places I never been before.
Oh this is heartbreaking.Please be safe. I hope you find a home soon.
What a brave decision. Good for you! I think ultimately when you can make friends it will be easier for you. Also try doing other activities that you enjoy outside of work to create that social interaction that your missing. Don't worry about making friends at work it will come sooner or later. If you can do things like biking working out etc. Cant wait to see next video
I have seen some 1bdm apartments that costs between 2,200-2,700 near where you work. I don’t understand how you can’t find an apartment. If you prefer luxury apartment, maybe that’s the reason why it’s really expensive.
Also, Please keep posting! I am invested in your journey and would love to see what your life holds for you down the line! I also live in a unique living situation, my rent is only 14% of my income. I hugely enjoy the benefits (and freedom and peace of mind) of the extra income that would go to rent- i get to spend extra in other areas of my life and save a LOT , some of which goes into investments, my future, retirement, and vacations. However, I do have a shower, bathroom, and charger in my home and I feel like those are important things that greatly improve your quality of life. I get that living in your car is an experiment, I hope you have concluded that having a place to live is the winner. money is there to make your life easier. if you dont use it to do so, than theres really no point in making so much money.
I'm impressed you can sleep well in the 3. Part of the reason I switched to the model Y was that it was far more comfortable sleeping in, since you could fold the seats completely flat and there wouldn't be this bump in the middle. There was a guy who worked at Tesla many years back who did something similar and lived in his Model X. Back then you get unlimited supercharging for the S and X, so he'd just shower at the gym and do lyft/uber on the side with his free electricity. My question is did you not want to live with roommates? Most people I know here in the Bay share an apartment with roommates until they can save enough for a house or etc. Splitting usually brings down costs closer to around $1000-1500/mo for housing.
Once you finish college, it becomes increasingly difficult to make friends. Making friends at your job is not entirely ideal since most of the people there seems to be cliquey. You need to go out and meet people outside of your job. Try joining some sort of organization: the gym, a hiking group, some type of club, a dog group, church group, a (x) class, a book group, etc. You can probably make friends through one of those organizations. If I was still living in the area, I would be your friend, but I moved out of state because I can no longer afford to live in the SF Bay Area (ie California in general).
Palo Alto is very expensive to live, try searching outside that area to find an apartment or a room. Lots of my friends live some where else and commute in. Kudos to you for preserving, your determination will get you far in life. However, I don’t know how much longer you can sustain living in your car once winter hits because it’s going to be very cold living in it. I wish you good luck and I hope your living situation improves.
Aloha Hannah! I was scrolling through UA-cam when I happened to come upon your videos and wish to thank you for sharing your world heartfelt moments through them. As you can see here there are many supporters cheering for you. If it's OK, I wish to become a member of this team and your friend, too.
I laughed really hard on how you acted when calling Ryan😂😂😂, but your story is really interesting. I wish you all the best, and keep updating us on any progress
He was there. I was filming about food that day, and he just happened to walk by at that time😂. The entire footage was longer, but I cut it shorter.
Friends come and goes. Acquaintance would be more appropriate thing to do. Less commitments and headaches. Your pet is your best friend, faithful, gives back unconditional love and the best protector ever.
hey amazing to see your resilience. one query if I may please, where does your doggo live while you work ?
Hannah, you've picked some difficult places to try to fit. I applaud you for trying your best, and for getting this far. More affordable housing does exist, but it does take some time and luck. SF > then LA for sure for what you're doing. I suggest trying to find some extracurricular activities to meet people if work isn't working out for you. (yoga, hiking, community groups, associations, pickle ball). Try breaking into the bubble to be part of one; that's the challenge. I live in SF South Bay, if you are interested in bicycling, let me know.
You've got this girl! Also lived in Vancouver and went to UBC and living in Silicon Valley now.
Young lady, you are a strong and courageous person like a man. There are many men who went through the hard life like you, but they have never cried because of no pain, no gain. I started my life in Canada in the winter with only a T-shirt, a Jean, broken language English, and 5 Canadian dollars plus zero relationship or friends. You are still lucky to have a software degree , new car+ and living knowledge + fluence English language skills.
MY BEST WISH TO A COURAGEOUS PERSON LIKE YOU. BE STRONG SISTER.
Amazing unfiltered look into your life, would love to see the hidden logistics of living in your car (showering, privacy, ...) if you want to show that in your next video
This mf tryna be creepy or sum shit
you are so brave! it is broken my heart to see a girl living in car alone. Wish you all the best
It's hard trying to make new friends in a company where most like to stay within their own bubbles. If it's too difficult trying to make friends in the company, maybe other social places like dog parks can help? It takes a lot of willpower and strength to move to an entire different country, especially if you don't know anyone in it. I hope you can make new friends to help make your stay in the US better!
People think LA is like what we see on TV, but it can be a tough city. There are so many other beautiful towns to explore.
Oh my gosh, the tech bubble is so true. I'm based out of San Francisco, the tech bubble is real and they don't want to expand their circle. I hate remote work, I hate not working with my team in person. The best part about having an apartment/home is that you get to have roommates who can be super involved in your life. My and my buddy chill out everyday, have friends come over from time to time. Please please get a place, since you also have a dog, please bring Halo to Dolores park, its warm and everyone so friendly. Human being are social creatures and everyone would love to meet you :)
You're NOT alone, Hannah, wish you experiencing joy & calm everyday, Godspeed.
I applaud you for trying this. To me, the best way of meeting new people in a new city is by hobbies. I met many people through skiing, mountain biking and tennis.
Yeah I’m figuring out where to settle down. Once that’s sorted, I am going to have more time to dedicate to my hobbies.
It will be difficult as you do not have space to store all of your belongings. Younger people tend to be more anti social. Hang in there and you will make friends.
Technology, Facebook, social media has connected us digitally but is disconnecting us from socially from each other as people. This is the dangerous consequence of big tech.
Hang in there Hannah! I'm sure you'll meet some great people soon!
here's a validation of what i was feeling then,
i thought i was alone.
thank you Hannah!
I worry for this beautiful sweet girl! You need to leave California there are much safer and much cheaper places to live and still have an excellent quality of living. You should go to Florida or the Carolina’s or somewhere in the Deep South it’s much safer , there are beautiful beaches and the people are really friendly. No matter where life takes you, please be careful and don’t put yourself or your awesome companion in harm’s way
Do come over to Singapore ! You will definitely love this country. Come and see for yourself.
Greetings from Brazil, so sorry to hear that nobody wants to have lunch with you, know that you are not alone, keep posting your videos so we can chat.
I wish we could have lunch together though
According to PayScale, the average software engineer salary in Silicon Valley ranges between $94K and $162K a year. The median pay is $128K which is almost 19% higher than the annual mean wage across all computer and mathematical occupations.
and living in car ??????????
Very brave and interesting. Having worked at FAANG companies myself, I'm surprised at people's unwillingness to mingle with you. Looking forward to future vids!
people in the bay area are like that, especially asians
The Bay Area was the strangest place I've ever lived. It's hard to meet people there. Lived there for over 10 years. It is different than the rest of California.
As a Vancouverite who moved to the states 8 years ago, you moved to the wrong state if you're looking for friends.
SF, NYC, DC are all like Vancouver - it's high school and people have their cliques.
If you want friendly people who want to connect move to red states.
I had your problem in DC.
In Texas, I literally met some random stranger vlogging in front of his house, struck up a conversation and hung out at his garage before needing to go to church.
Best of luck,
Donald
Where you work the vibes are def. Cruel!! They should be more friendly and inviting, hugs and the best of luck for you and your journey I am glad you have a dog!
Thank you for sharing your story. I worked for a FANG a decade ago and was in a similar situation, moved to a crazy expensive city, my whole team was in another country anyway but they needed me there. I struggled to make friends and deal with office politics and the overall experience wasn’t great but it taught me something and that’s what I DIDNT want to do and so it helps me everyday today when I live and work the way I do to remember those times and the trials I was put through to know myself fully.
all the best!
Stay strong and courageous, not everyone can do what you’re doing or experiencing right now. I’m just happy that you have your dog as your family.
Very interesting documentary. Look forward to seeing your next video and learn more about your journey.
More to come!
@HannahWurld can't wait. I'm in LA and sorry you didn't have a good experience
I think one problem is that you see the work environment as a proper place to make friends, and it is not that at all. Even lunchtime with your team is not some relaxed leisure time, it is meant to improve team spirit and make it easier working together. To expect a member from another team to leave their group and have lunch with you is like expecting someone to drop their spouse to have lunch with you.
😂
What? They all WORK for the same employer. You don't think she can't add fresh, new insights to that team? 🤣
@@undercoverastrology That is a good point. Microsoft is known for the insularity of its teams, though.
I think there's be something you're not entirely telling us. I could be wrong. But I just think its crazy to decide to move from Vancouver to US just for a job which you can find anywhere else and then live in a car. Why US? Maybe that job is a once in a lifetime opportunity or its your dream job, but I can't seem to fathom the rationale of doing something like this just for a job. Otherwise perhaps i'm just trolled by this video because it's just for "content"
You mentioned in 5-10 years or when you're older to move to US to retire that you will feel different, what difference is it? Why retire in US? You even explicitly asked to be moved to LA when you could have at least started in Vancouver first, build some capital and then maybe plan a move there someday. You work with your team remotely, and you're the only one based in LA, that's like almost going over there for no reason. If there is a huge amount of people you work with there and they are always in the office, then I get it. But this move...was a little reckless I feel
I mean I know the main reason is the high cost of living in silicon valley, but wouldn't you have done some research before taking the job or even decide to move there?
Some people are just reckless. And when you’re fresh out of school, sometimes the idea of a big city clouds judgment; a lot of idealization perhaps. From your comment, I can tell you are probably a person who meticulously plans everything, but at the same time there are people who are the total opposite of you, hence what is seen here.
@@visi5612 Fair enough
Check to see if there's a lunch buddy program at MSFT. Maybe they can pair you with a buddy for lunch hour - talk to your team leads even, to see if there's someone on your site you can sit with. It def. breaks my heart to see you living like this in the car with your dog in this video. I do think in the long term, this isn't very healthy way to live as your body needs the extra room to relax, and need extra living spaces to do your hobbies or to socialise. I wish your lifestyle eventually improves and wish you the very best!
Hannah, I hope you and your dog are doing well & that you will put each other first before all else even work. Perhaps, try applying to Facebook in Menlo Park. They offer on campus housing for their staff. Or maybe check out some studio apartments and do a hybrid WFH schedule. I know it’s hard to make friends especially in the tech industry. Keep staying positive and you’ll connect with a friend soon enough. You deserve a life that is happy & safe, even if that means not being able to save as much at first. Wishing all the best!
Appreciated❤
I like to see a video about, how to keep clean in the car. Where do you take a shower? What do you do with the Money?
wait, where does your dog go when you are at work?
some places let you bring your dog to work?
haha.. I am thinking about the same thing… where does the dog go?
Wondering the same thing…
Good question, can the dog follow you to the office?
I'm also wondering this, I am considering a similar option but also have a dog and don't want to do it if there's not a good place
Hi Hannah, I just stumbled upon your Chanel, I’m now a subscriber. I’m from Toronto and I can feel the challenges that you’re going through. Always believe that tomorrow will be more prosperous than today, fight a good fight and never loose hope. Be safe and God bless💪🏼🙏🏼
if a silicon valley software engineer lives in a car, im fked
When I moved to California for the Dot Com boom, the first place I lived was the campground in Half Moon Bay.
I had a four person tent with a queen size futon in it. Totally luxurious.
Every couple of days, I had to pack up and leave the park for 30 minutes.
I'd go out to dinner and then return to my campsite on a Thursday night. (Few people show up on a Thursday.)
The showers at the bathroom were not heated to discourage the homeless from staying.
Once I got a great job, I bought a proper house and rented out some of the rooms to other people I met in the campground.
You do what it takes. I didn't want to sign a lease and pay for an apartment.
How did you convince your manager to let you move to an office where your team doesnt sit in? And where are they based in?
I'm truly grateful for my team's support in allowing me to work in California. Our org’s culture is incredibly flexible, and there is a strong sense of trust among us all
Hi Hannah, you could rent a in-law quarter, or a converted garage to studio or an EDU to live in if you are in Silicon Valley or a master bedroom with private entrance which go for $1000-$1,300 per month. This includes free electricity, free internet, washer/dryer for you to use. Talk to your co-worker, they could show you where to look or even helping you looking for a decent place to live. Once you have a “permanent place” and safer place to sleep, you will look a life differently. Best wishes.
What was wrong with vancouver that u made the switch? The grass isn't always greener on the other side.
Probably job opportunities. tech companies in california pay insane amounts of money compared to almost anywhere else in the world. the only places that come close are seattle and NYC. I'd guess that the average pay for software engineers in Vancouver is at least 80k less than in LA.
Insane amounts of money but cannot afford housing or social connections? Is it that really worth it in the end?
Unfortunately Sillicon Valley/CA doesn’t seem as attractive as it once was.
@@GunnerJayx she can afford housing. She just chooses not to. I'd estimate that she's making 200k-250k as a software engineer at microsoft. Even if her rent was 3.7k per month like she said the one apartment she looked at was, she would be totally fine. And by living in LA, you can very realistically see a salary of 300k-400k as you get a few years of experience. The high cost of living is super outweighed by the high compensation for software engineers in the area.
As for making friends, it's hard to make friends as an adult. Thats going to be equally true in basically any North American city. It's not a problem exclusive to LA.
Hi Hannah! I’m glad to watch your video. My heart go out to you. I’m hoping that you’ll be able to find an affordable room to rent. Wish you all the best and be safe. God loves you.❤
戏有点多但是你成功了！无论是生活还是social media🎉