Maintain your virginty and don't share your sexual history with people. Keep it sacred to avoid unecessary pressure. I simply tell men I'm celibate and refuse to provide further details. They can either take it or leave it.
@@CaribbyanDoll-xoxo now I do keep it to myself I once told a guy I was a virgin and he kept pressuring me saying” you can’t be a virgin forever” and he wasn’t even my boyfriend, it made so uncomfortable
@@Dashiaaa Share that information with a man who you've had conversation with beyond a first date. As the video shared the guy has to be showing with his words and actions that he's committed to you. Don't stray away from telling your truth because it will reveal the true intention and motive of the guy. However, a guy needs to earn vulnerability from you. Get to know him.
I still waiting for mariage even if they're some guys told i'm sick but I know I'm stronger boy and I don't have any problem I have to walk through in my way
You do reliaze most guys who are virgins are losers who can't get play if they wanted too right, that's nothing to congratulate men for, only a few guys actually want to be a virgin and arent coping 💀
I'm 33 and still a virgin. I just got in my very first relationship this year. I'm still waiting until marriage to lose my virginity. And people need to realize that there are other ways to be intimate without losing your virginity.
Wow girl, I’m a Christian and I am waiting til marriage. I’m currently 18 and the looks from males and females I get is so annoying. They act as though it’s mandatory to do when you’re young like no. But it’s encouraging to hear that your staying a virgin for so long!🩷
When I was 15, I lost my virginity to a 19 years old boy. I don’t think I really even liked this guy but just like you said, I felt pressured by him, society and my entourage. A lot of my friends were starting to lose it and I wanted to be one of them kinda like when your friends starts to get their period for the first time. It’s about feeling like a woman, feeling sexy and desired. But even after doing it, I just felt disgusting and I wanted to go home. I felt even more like a little girl which is kind of ironic. He clearly had no respect for me and didn’t realize how a girls first time is so important. A few months after, I had sex with another boy, I really loved him I think and he had clearly shown that he wanted to do it with me. I still waited a few months before doing it with him and he was patient but when we finally did it, it wasn’t because I really really wanted to. It was because I wanted to please him, I wanted to make him like me more. He did not make me his girlfriend though and that broke my heart. After those events, I felt kinda detached from my body since nobody seemed to respect it, not even myself. I’m 16, a junior in high school, and all things sexuality related makes me feel so weird about men and kinda detached from them. Sometimes I don’t even see them as human. If you’re a virgin and you read this till the end, please wait for the right person or the right moment. I made a traumatizing mistake but you don’t have to. Finally, I actually don’t regret what happened because that would be pointless but I just have to learn from my mistakes. Society ruins young girls.
I hope you heal from this and stop blaming yourself for what happened,it's not your fault,you are young and we all do mistake like this and tbh being virgin or not doesn't define your worth,you are beautiful just as you are( ◜‿◝ )♡
I saw this comment and just had to respond. I’m a 20 year old virgin female, I “attempted” to try and lose my virginity when I was also 15 with a 19 year old guy. I barely knew him and went along with it anyways cause all my friends were doing it and I didn’t want to feel like a loser simply because I was a virgin. I ended up not doing anything with him because I was scared and wasn’t aroused at allll! We did oral but that was it. I left and felt awful, despite the fact we barely did anything. This dude actually turned out to be very toxic and insecure. I’m glad I left. I definitely agree, wait for the right person. I’m glad I’m still a virgin. Sometimes I feel a lil awkward because of it but for the most part, I think it’s a flex to still be a virgin.
As a 20 year old virgin I am really grateful that I came across this video today 🤍I was shamed so much in high school for saying 'I don't believe in sex before marriage' and guys would cheat on me in the name of 'You wouldn't give it up so what did I expect'. I'm glad I am still here and standing on my word 😮💨
I'm a 26 year old virgin. I'm not a religious person, it's because I'm asexual and I think being intimate with someone is very serious. Your virginity is not a burden that you need to get rid of as soon as possible. I feel ready, but I don't feel emotionally/sexually attracted to anyone at the moment. I'll do it with a special someone, and if I don't find that person, I'm ok with living my whole life without sex.
I totally agree, I'm the same age and I'm also asexual. I feel like this culture of rushing to "get rid of it" is getting less strong than it used to be, but all I know is that if I never do it, I'm extremely okay with that.
Same. Even before I realized that I'm ace, I always thought that being intimate with someone, sharing your body with them, is not something to make light of. It's incredibly vulnerable, and just like you said, it's much preferrable to share it with someone whom you have a deep emotional connection with, and where respect and care can easily be found.
Yeah, im about to turn 17 in a month, and i listened to my friends' traumatic experiences of getting rid of it at a very young age or after a short time of relationship. Im kinda scared of the future where my family expects me to get married, create a family before 30ish years old
Im 21 and feel like im behind sometimes. It’s not even for religious purposes, I just don’t like the thought of giving myself to a person and them leaving. It cheapens sex in my eyes.
finally, someone that understands my perspective. I also am not saving myself for religious reasons but because the men out here do not respect women and only chase after sex and its ugly. Whenever I look and hear all the stories of friends being dumped here and there and getting pregnant, I thank myself for not letting anyone touch my body or face
Same about to turn 20 in a month and have never been in a relationship HECK I haven’t even had my first kiss 😭💀 but again I’m not desperately trying to pursue that, Im just waiting for the right one and time 🙂
Same here as well,it feels really depressing and sick,more feels like that you are just getting used for your body and your so called virginity,they all just so predatory if they know the other person is a virgin.
As a young man I advise so many of you if you can/want please try your best to just wait until you’re ready and married. From my past relationships I can tell you from what I experienced and seen in other relationships in my life these men are not worth your time unless they are ok with being by themselves and are willing to have a relationship with God first and foremost.
@@lamontsimpson4871 thanks for saying this. Tbh I think that’s why I also avoid friendships with men (never had one anyway idk how to deal with them😭), I’m not sure it can be 100% platonic. I know from my side it’ll be a bit of a battle to know where the boundary lies with being too close with each other mentally and physically; for example, getting a long hug from a girl that’s my friend can be very healing and needed, but idk if that would work with a man. What’s your take on that?
@ I would say it depends. I’ve had friends who were female that pretty much stayed as friends but I’d be lying if I said I haven’t thought about a relationship with some of them. I can’t speak for all men but I would hope the make friends you meet are actually wanting to be your friend and not any funny business. Be careful who you hang around with, this goes for both male and female.
I wish more males thought like this and kept theirs as well. As a virgin, it’s hard finding men who are also virgins but I know if I chose the path of marriage, there’s one that God has prepared and he’s waited for me too❤
@ that’s so true. I believe if that marriage is for you then it will come whenever God deemed you ready. As someone who is still a virgin I plan on waiting to get married but I had a fear that somehow it wouldn’t be what me and most people think it is.
@@lamontsimpson4871 I don’t think marriage (and sex for that matter) is ever what people expect, that’s the beauty of it, but as long as God is the center of your marriage and the intention of both of you is to please God, it will be worth it. Even with the hardships, the trying multiple times before things work out etc. The communication and with that, growing together is what makes it so worth it ( I think )
When I was 22(now 23), I had my first bf. I grew up ugly and just started to take care of my appearance in my early 20s. He was the first boy in my life calling me beautiful. After dating for month, I had a chance to do the deed but I rejected him. At that moment he didn’t look like himself. He looked like a predator so I was scared. I felt like I’m just a sexual object to him at that time. Sometimes I feel embarrassed about being a virgin at this age. After seeing this video, I’m glad that I did not give my virginity to him. Thank you❤still a virgin lol😂
@@kaysmellsgood I'm glad to hear that! Also I think the reason I feel embarrassed is because I’m going back to university at 22, seeing teenagers getting into relationships and no longer being virgins. It actually plays a big part for me and made me feel like i'm missing out smth:(
@@gni1581 ignore that, most of those teenagers didn't have proper guidance, they probably lost theirs due to peer pressure and wanting to feel like they belong. Nobody needs to know your virginity status except you keep that information to yourself...I was also like that in university my roommates were already se**ually active but I could see their struggles treating infections, having pregnancy scares etc and I was like nope, this isn't what I want for myself
I relate with this story. “Almost happened “ but I rejected him. Then he felt really guilty, and later he became someone I didn’t recognize. I’m glad that I’m still a virgin and that he ghosted me. I’m glad that your BF left you too. You have a chance to find someone better.
Im 29 and ppl are shocked and tell me im gonna get dust over there.i laugh and tell them -Aint nobody ddied from lack of sex and trust me,i wouldnt want a man who has no dicipline."their faces are like :😐.....Listen,i go to the gym,have an insane body & eat healthy. I meditate,create art etc. I have a full life on my own. If he is worth making space in all of this,then he is welcomed.if not,ion care😂😂😂. Have confidence ladies. And get hobbies. Most miserable people will pressure you ab anth
As a 24 yr old virgin. Same cause I feel like ppl build so much of their lives around sex and intimate relationships that it seems outlandish when you exist living a full and happy life without sex. I've never felt like having sex w a man will add anything valuable to my life I have so much to live for. Love can be gotten from any relationship whether familial or the friendships we have even the love you give yourself is more worthwhile than the love you supposedly get from a man who pressures you to sleep with him. I'm healthy and happy and not having sex has never affected me negatively rather having sex with the wrong person has affected many women negatively. So I'm cool where I'm at.
@NessaOG1 exactly. I have seen more negative aspects of ppl jumping into sex bc of peer pressure rather than good things. Most even do things bc they feel useless if they are on their own. I'm talking ab ppl who have even traveled or have a healthy habit for themselves. Instead they just get into relationships for the sake of it. You go girl 👏. Im the same
baby, take care of ur self. U and all other person of this generation deserve be happy, healthy and without social pressure. Be yourself above all and never forget that u are beautiful soul and human and valuable
We listen and we don't judge: I'm nearly 31 and haven't had penetrative sex yet. This talk is so needed, thank you for being open and vulnerable with yout story.
As an 18 year old virgin, I'm currently so unsure on whether to wait for marriage or lose it now. Our generation makes it so tricky to be in genuine relationships without intercourse. Thanks for this video!! ❤
Overthinking which route to take is not it. It’s not and shouldn’t be a priority cause there’s more important things in our lives as women. Free your mind and let it happen at the right time. I would encourage you to wait till marriage though, because If you you’re going to get to know someone enough to get engaged to them and then marry them then you’ve put a lot of thought into your relationship with them. Nothing is perfect though, and sometimes this doesn’t always seal the deal. But don’t encourage negativity for yourself. Don’t feel pressured, be careful who you trust and work on yourself and life.
please please wait until marriage. These men will waste your time and milage. They dont know what they want. I lost mine at 18 . Im now 37 never been married and have no children. I' ve been through so much heartbreaks and depression. I wish my mom would of talk to me about it but people didnt talk about that back then. Sex is for marriage it's more than physical it a spiritual thing.
Im in my 30's and never lost it, please wait for marriage. It will be tough but it's worth the wait. It will save you so much headache and emotion stress.
First of all, to my girls: we’ll never regret rejecting sex with a man. When he truly loves you, he will respect your opinions and exercise self-restraint. I’m deeply grateful for the videos and everyone’s shares; I’ve read almost all the comments, and it really opened my eyes. Recently, I met someone who was always sweet, calling me "my baby, my love," yet refused to define the relationship. He seemed overly excited about me being a virgin and constantly brought up sxual topics, even when I clearly felt uncomfortable. He also told me that sx would be good for me, that I would enjoy it, and subtly manipulated me. My belief in no s*x before marriage was shaken, and I even began to think the problem was with me. Now, I’m ready to end it and block him for good-men are often sweet only to achieve their goals.
I’m so glad women are speaking up about this now! I’m so happy that we women finally realize that our virginities aren’t a joke. Protect your body for someone that you trust and you want in your personal space! Do it for yourself!
You can just tell in friendships, some girls will silently judge you for being a virgin and just stop being your friend just because they can’t relate to you anymore 😢
It's your friends. If you surround yourself with people whose beauty validation is the amount of men they've slept with thats what will happen. All my friends are single Christian virgins who have never dated before. Lowkey they're intelligent and feel that if they date now(18), they'll break up and lose a lot. They are also very ambitious and focused ❤
Thank you so much for this video. I'm a 15 year old girl and am blessed with a dad who often talks about these exact topics. When he first started to talk about s*x and when it's the right time (which we believe is after marriage), I used to feel very uncomfortable. Later on I realised that these conversations he'd have with my sister and I empower us with the knowledge we need to make the correct decisions. My mother, who also waited until marriage, never had much to say when this topic arose, so it's very real for me to see a woman speak openly and truthfully about this. Once again, thank you❤
I kept mine till 23 years,I gave it to the man who we are married know. After reading some painful comments I turned back to him and told him,I'm glad I lost my virginity to you, and he responded, because ua married to me,u didn't lose it,u have it and forever will be😊. I pray those who keep their body holy find a rightful man who will cherish it forever.May ua perseverance not go to waste, Amen.❤
19 year old here lol! I’m not really religious (I’m more atheist if anything) but I mainly wanna stay a virgin because out of fear of just being used and dumped like I was nothing but a mere conquest (I’ve heard way too many stories of that happening and it gives me way too much anxiety) especially with how normalized hookup culture is or just being causal (I want my first relationship to be special and meaningful not something I’m gonna regret because I gave it to the wrong person who didn’t deserve it) I haven’t lost my first kiss either cause again I want it to be special or with “the one”. Sometimes I do get lonely or feel ashamed while I see my friends out getting into relationships (don’t get me wrong I’m happy for them but I do feel envious at the same time) but honestly? I’m willing to wait even if it takes a couple of years (plus I’m still young and I know I shouldn’t be so hung up on it) it’s just y’know midnight thoughts that really get to you and your emotions lmao. I’m glad I got this video recommended
I’m a lesbian and I feel the same way. I want to have my first time with my wife, not with someone random. Plus the horror stories of baby mamas, hookup culture, and the dating market scares me
right?? Baby mama culture, hookup culture and how awful the dating pool seems to be right now IS TERRIFYING (at least from what I’ve heard) like I stress enough as it is, go away 😭
@emolife I feel your not exposed, coz there's nothing like special person, Even in marriage you can get divorced. Just get to no the person first. someone sincere and respectful😊
Im not a virgin for religious reasons either, it hasnt happened because im not compatible with anyone yet. Thats all i want from a relationship, to feel alright around him and be able to be myself. Itll happen when i find him
I love that you brought up the fact of if “I” want to. That’s said a lot but I feel like that doesn’t hold the weight it should. As a 24 year old beautiful woman, I ain’t ashamed of waiting and thank you so much for speaking on this!!! You made me remind myself it is possible to care about what I want and not the mercy of men or other people.
I'm so grateful that I didn't get under the pressure by boy. I was like „no, I want to do it with a person that truly knows me and care about me” then he 2 weeks later said that is not ready for a relationship 💀
I think sex is a distraction - how can you properly vet people with a clear mind? That’s why I’m personally waiting until marriage (even though I’m not religious)
im really detached from sexual stuff, im not even a fan of kisses, i love innocent love, no need of kissing or intimate action just pure love, im about to start college and this video was comforting since most of my friends are on their hory era ❤
24 years old virgin female here and I still never had my first kiss yet either. Thank you so much for this video. It was the reminder that I needed to keep going in the right direction and value myself and my body. ❤
I'm a 30 year old virgin, so happy about it. I have an overflow of confidence and self worth, and have become successful. in my field. I do want a partner, but I'm also ok if it never happens.
Waiting is a challenge. Even if someone has had the experience it's never too late to start on the journey. However, the only thing that has kept me this long is Jesus and self-educating myself as I am doing now by watching this video.
I'm 24 and waiting until marriage. I've turned down thousand of guys already at this point, I'm not letting anyone use my body unless they put a ring on me.
@alex.harkness I wouldn't say I am model tier beautiful, but rather men around me want to hit it and quit it. Most of them see women as sexual objects and nothing more, good ones aside.
I am so glad you spoke about this. I could have not said it better myself. Every young woman needs to hear this. I was 24 when I lost mine and it was a bit traumatic. I didn’t realize how much I had been impacted by it until just recently at age 36 when I saw something related to the guy and was triggered immediately. Then I began to cry and started to ruminate on all the things I should have said to him and the ways I should have stood up for myself. It’s bad enough that I was touched as a child but I still had my virginity so I felt this is something I have control over. I was very disciplined until one night where I got carried away. I drank alcohol on an empty stomach so it hit me hard. I was somewhat aware of what was going on but it’s as if I had no control over my actions. I knew I liked the guy but not enough to give up my virginity. He didn’t even know I was a virgin. We were at a hotel party that he invited me. It was more of a music video shoot. I somehow found myself in the bedroom with him. I was fine with it initially since there were people there with us initially but they left. Someone turned off the lights, and one thing lead to the next. It felt as if everything happened so fast. It didn’t even hit me I had just gave up my virginity. Almost immediately he lashed out at me and treated me with such disrespect. I didn’t even have a chance to tell him I was a virgin. I never felt so low as I did that night. The next day I attempted to tell him so I texted but was ignored. So the following day after, I decided to write him and tell him over fb. I wasn’t expecting a response, I just needed him to know. He responded saying he didn’t know. That’s when I cut off all contact with him. I just suppressed how I felt and moved on until years later, I had to face how I felt. Please value yourselves. Don’t put yourself in any predicament where you may have regrets. Make smart choices. I don’t know what I was expecting from him but I did not expect to be mistreated the way I was almost immediately after. On top of the humiliation since people were still there at the party. Maybe he had some guilt because it looked bad that I was drunk. I forgave the situation but I learned a valuable lesson that night. The first time is supposed to be special and sacred. We never forget our first time experience. When you share yourself in such an intimate way especially the first time, it feels as if you are giving a part of yourself away, be sure to share it with someone who you know cares about you and respects you. Someone who you trust and makes you feel comfortable. Not someone simply lusting after you. Some times guys will switch up after being intimate. They will pretend for as long as they need to until they get what they want then discard you. You won’t be able to tell unless you’ve properly vetted the guy. Do not equate sex with love. Focus on building quality time and getting to know each other before and making sure he does commit as she said in this video, listen to this sound and wise advice. I honestly wish someone would have spoken to me about this when younger. That night would have never happened. I’ve learned to accept that it happened. Love and respect yourselves. I say don’t drink at all, always be sober so you are alert and aware but if you’re going to drink, watch your intake. Do not make the mistake I have. I wasn’t much of a drinker as it is. I felt ashamed about it but had to forgive myself for going against my own integrity. We’re human so we will make mistakes. We can’t always do things perfectly but when you know better, you do better. Much love ❤
Im glad you're ok. Most of these events have subtle implications, and those who stay late have given undue consent(if you haven't been to such parties before) and lights of signify something sexual. So, beware if you're going to programs you've never been to, that closes late ❤
thank u for this video. now, i'm not ashamed to be still virgin at the age of 22... and now i don't have to compare myself to other ppl who has bf/gf. i feel relieved and happy as i am.
so I'm 22 years old and I haven't had my first kiss, let alone sex. I know for me sex before marriage is a Non negaotiable and at first I was a bit hesitant if I did want to kiss before marriage, but I'm leaning more and more towards also not kissing outside marriage. is it hard? YES, it's a STRUGGLEEE, but I'm protecting myself by the way I dress myself and where I go (it's either school, work or home and when I do go out with my girlfriends (I don't have guy friends), is when it's still light outside (occasionally at night for a movie etc but even then after the movie we go home immidately, so it also helps to have friends who have the same behaviour/values).
I am also on the same journey. As a muslim, it helps that this stuff is all haram. So yh its a no go territory. But i am loving every second of it, saves us from so much unecessary stress.
I'm 22 too and you right... I have been my happiest ever since I met friends who are like me. We not even boy crazy and we get other ladies asking if we lesbian or Asexual just because we were not doing what people our age are doing, are we phased no but we've promised each other to finish school and we will see the rest from there onwards. So I really advice being friends who have the same mentality as you like you said because it's so refreshing
Omg SAME!! I'm 22 as well, like exact same scenario with @Barry-ot2dg, only that I don't have friends like me so it feels a little lonely on this journey cause there's no one to talk to who understands, and you can see that in the way people respond or act around you when the topic comes up. I honestly I thought I was the only one until I entered the comments and saw yours. So Thank you so much for sharing 🤍🤍
I’m a 19y/o f, luckily whenever I tell someone I’m a virgin they only ask “why” and I give them my answer “it’s a personal choice” It never goes beyond that and if someone does try to shame me I just ignore them. I didn’t get romantic attention from boys in school as well so that helped a little as well.
To the girl who is not a virgin anymore It's totally fine, even if you wanted to lose it and it was not because you had to.. it's ok trust me it's totally ok don't be hard on yourself and don't judge your past self. Change is good and it's good that you are trying to not have intimate relationship before marriage anymore and you decided to change, it's good but don't judge your past self Whatever you did was ok and it's good that you want to change. Love you❤️
@curiousmoa3998 No, I am not talking to the creator only But she can apply it on her too And it's fine if you think that "it's ok even if she doesn't wait till marriage" I am just talking to any girl who is young or maybe not young but have lost her virginity and want to change but they're judging themselves because nowadays people overhype verginity. Virginity is a good thing and you should be proud to protect it but if you are not virgin.. don't let others judge you.. whether you stay virgin or not, it's your choice.. you're not bad because of it.. that's basically what I was trying to say And sorry if I made any mistake.. English is not my first language
@@Shreya-n1x2p its good to be virgin and its good to be not a virgin neither one is better, both the same please. I'm sorry I'm just so annoyed by ppl shaming women for not being a virgin and overrating virginity. I just feel like a lot of ppl try to push the sex after marriage thing on others
I’m 22 and a virgin. I still live at home so it would be hard to do anything anyways.🤭 On a serious note, at this time I couldn’t see myself having a boyfriend yet. Being in a relationship kind of terrifies me. I thought I was weird for not being like the other girls being all boy crazy. I was the kid that didn’t care about all that and trying to get good grades. I’m in no rushing.
I’m 22 and being in a relationship scares me too like I’ve spoken to one boy before but that’s about it not kissing or sex ever! I’m dedicated to my grades but now I’m more focused on having fun with friends
Omgg i'm 22 still virgin and never had a boyfriend..literally same i dont really cares about having boyfriend finally i found someone who had the same feeling as me... 02 supremacy yeayyy🎉🎉
Same! I was born in 2002 too ❤ This month I was crazy cuz I started to have a crush on 1 guy and I was imagining how I will give him my V-card but I understand I want to do this because I want to please him 😅 now I understand that I should start to care about yourself more, and make myself priority number 1.
god blessed me by sending to my feed before i go to college . i have never had a relationship till now and i am opening to new connections and this is what i needed to know , thank you so much for sharing this online .
It was not easy because I was bullied at school by my peers. I thank God that I stood on my words and still standing on my words that my virginity will be taken by my husband 🙏
Still a virgin and I’m proud of it. If virginity makes one “pure,” then I see that as a plus. I worry about losing it because I can’t trust anyone to betray me and leaving me alone to regret losing it to a terrible person. It’s something we are raised to believe that you can’t take it back, hence why I have this concern.
I'm 18 and my first ever boyfriend just broke up with me just a month ago cuz i told him i wanna wait till I'm married 😅😅...... It hurt me....but it also made me realize dat men will always put themselves first. He was willing to leave me because i refused him.... I feel so dumb cuz i wasn't willing to leave him because he was pressuring me 🥲🥲.
28 and a virgin who believes in sex after marriage. I hope all patient women find God-fearing, respectful and understanding men to marry and never give in to society and peer pressure. Amen.
You are so smart and outspoken! I’m only a senior and sometimes I do some dumb stuff 😭 but I’m glad I have role models like you to look up to. In high school your constantly surround by a LOT of “popular” opinions that are confusing. I pray I end up being just like you.
I love this video thank you, im 28 still a virgin i have too much self respect and care for myself that i see myself in high worth so much that no man can sweep me off my feet like I KNOW im worth it 🤷🏻♀️
I just turned 19, i had a thing w a guy that I liked so much, but let me say he didn’t respect me AT ALL and hurt me so much, he was extremely immature and even though i wanted him so bad, i always felt in my heart like i just didn’t want to do it with him, not my first time not ever… and rn I’m very selective in general for everything!
Thank you, this is a very important topic and lesson that so many people could learn from. As you said it is not something that is talked about enough, so I am glad you did.
Thank you girl! (I'm 19) never really talked with my friends, or family about it. And I didn't really care if I did or didn't, but it just never happened for me--maybe I'll start thinking about it differently, and think that it's actually special..! I had one "relationship" that lasted like 2 months, but we met online and met in person and EVERYTHING was just so awakward--kissing, anything.. AND HE DIDN'T EVEN WANT TO DRIVE TO ME and looking back even on those 2 months he was kinda creepy and manipulative!!!! He did the BARE minimum--no, that taught me a lot about what I want in a relationship though grateful for the experience, but I am now wondering if I'm asexual.
Better would be if they want to make you their wife, someone who respects, honors, loves and adoes you. Keep your virginity until you can recognize when you are in a healty, whole, loving and long term relationship. There is a book called: Sex and the soul of a Woman by Paula Rinehart. A true gem to help women better understand sexuality. Im in my 30's and never lost it. It's worth the wait, even if it gets hard.
Honestly, thank you so much. Your speeches ignite something that I was hesitate about my thoughts. You have empowered those, making me feel that I should keep those morals, my thoughts, my opinions about myself. Thank you so much. You are so brave and kind. Love♡♡♡
23 yr old here. Thank you for this video. I've been feeling so pressured by my entourage because everyone around me is in a relationship/situationship and have already done the deed, even my younger friends. I'm personally not ready to commit to anything yet so I've also never dated. The idea of intimacy scares me, specially coming from a place where it's a very taboo topic and s*x ed was never taught. I'm scared that if I do it, I do it wrong or something (or obv put my health at risk). It makes me feel pathetic and clueless but I also have nobody to really ask about this to anyway.
Now I'm 16 years old virgin and this video... gave me a new perspective on what it's like to be in a relationship and experiencing this type of intimacy. I never knew that some of the things that I thought were okay were actually harmful. This subject is daunting for me but this helped a bit, thank you.
I absolutely admire people like you. Being able to admit you made a bad decision out loud and using your experience to educate young girls. Comments did not pass the vibe check. Don't know how people watched the video and the only thing they can comment on is the fact they're still virgins. Shit I am too but how is that the only thing you took from the video?
I plan to wait in marriage and I’m literally an atheist, because I want it to be with someone I trust, and know doesn’t have any diseases, and will stay by my side if I accidentally get pregnant
I’m 12 years old and I am glad this video came across me today now I know to think about the decisions before I make them in the future thank you so much for this video and god bless you and others ❤️✨🙏🏾
29 yrs virgin,gonna wait till marriage ❤ and super proud of it . Girls,don't give it too easily, treat your body like a temple because you are q damn goddess❤❤
Thank you so much for making this video beautiful... still a virgin in my early 30's, was my choice, still is till am married. God bless you for encouraging others to keep making the right decision in this direction 🎉🎉
19 in two months time and still a virgin. Thank God for my life and i am waiting till married. Shout out to us who are still virgins. And I thank God for coming across this vlog🤲🙏
V at 32. Very proud of myself. I experienced pressure and judgement in the past, but I held off and stood my ground because I'm waiting for the right person.
21 year old virgin women and I admit I do have desire to do it. But I am not giving it up to any guy. I am only doing it when I meet someone I want to do it with. Not bc I owe him something not bc he nice to me. But bc I want to
23 and still a virgin. I never had any advice from anyone growing up. There was a Time i felt the need to do it but I asked myself*for what reason*? And then i quit that idea. Now my current boyfriend wants to do it but I said I want to keep it till marriage and he told me it will ROT.
I’m 23 years old and a virgin. Literally just hasn’t been in the cards thus far. Need to keep my approach. Glad to hear the female prospective on this topic though.
I’m 22 and I’ve been thinking about waiting until marriage and this video pretty much solidified the decision for me. The opportunity has come up before but it never entirely felt right. I recently broke up with someone I was serious about losing my virginity to but after a while it didn’t entirely feel right so I broke it off. I’ve been going into an absolute shame/ guilt spiral because I don’t know if I made the right decision or if I gave into fear. But after some points you made in this video, it kind of shattered some illusions for me in some ways and I can see how he stepped over some boundaries which I didn’t want to admit to myself because I’m the type who always tries to see the good in people. Thank you for this video ❤️ This has inspired me to truly wait for the one and for a man who is willing to respect my boundaries and get to know ME rather than chase after my body.
Thank you for sharing this, this is so important for girls… Even in a binding marriage there must also be a mutual respect and desire for each other’s bodies as you’ve described. God bless you, girl ❤
I get made fun of for being a virgin at 25 but I’m extremely happy with my decision
Maintain your virginty and don't share your sexual history with people. Keep it sacred to avoid unecessary pressure. I simply tell men I'm celibate and refuse to provide further details. They can either take it or leave it.
@@CaribbyanDoll-xoxo now I do keep it to myself I once told a guy I was a virgin and he kept pressuring me saying” you can’t be a virgin forever” and he wasn’t even my boyfriend, it made so uncomfortable
Yes please maintain your virginity it’s such a flex trust me.
@@Dashiaaa Share that information with a man who you've had conversation with beyond a first date. As the video shared the guy has to be showing with his words and actions that he's committed to you. Don't stray away from telling your truth because it will reveal the true intention and motive of the guy. However, a guy needs to earn vulnerability from you. Get to know him.
@CaribbyanDoll-xoxo unless it is ur partner..shouldn't they know somewhat, as in before they wife you up & consider laying wit you,etc.
Virgin at 26, I have lost everything in life except GOD and my VIRGINITY . PROUD AND PROUD
Wow hey twin 😂😂..same lol
26 same here
I am 19 and virgin too 🥹
Same here hello
Me too 26 and I’m in tact 👌👌 so proud of myself 😊
18 year old virgin waiting till marriage brilliant advice dear
Same I just turned 18!
Girl same
Me too!
Sameeee
@ goo girl 💗💗
Big ups to men who are also virgins, and working on themselves- much respect
I still waiting for mariage even if they're some guys told i'm sick but I know I'm stronger boy and I don't have any problem I have to walk through in my way
this cmt is very nice
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You do reliaze most guys who are virgins are losers who can't get play if they wanted too right, that's nothing to congratulate men for, only a few guys actually want to be a virgin and arent coping 💀
Unfortunately a lot of virgin men are weird incels who never leave their houses
I'm 33 and still a virgin. I just got in my very first relationship this year. I'm still waiting until marriage to lose my virginity.
And people need to realize that there are other ways to be intimate without losing your virginity.
It's encouraging seeing this. I'm a virgin at 27
Is the man a virgin too?
Wow girl, I’m a Christian and I am waiting til marriage. I’m currently 18 and the looks from males and females I get is so annoying. They act as though it’s mandatory to do when you’re young like no. But it’s encouraging to hear that your staying a virgin for so long!🩷
I'm 24 and thank you for the encouragement❤
I'm 32, and I also want to loose it in marriage ❤
When I was 15, I lost my virginity to a 19 years old boy. I don’t think I really even liked this guy but just like you said, I felt pressured by him, society and my entourage. A lot of my friends were starting to lose it and I wanted to be one of them kinda like when your friends starts to get their period for the first time. It’s about feeling like a woman, feeling sexy and desired. But even after doing it, I just felt disgusting and I wanted to go home. I felt even more like a little girl which is kind of ironic. He clearly had no respect for me and didn’t realize how a girls first time is so important. A few months after, I had sex with another boy, I really loved him I think and he had clearly shown that he wanted to do it with me. I still waited a few months before doing it with him and he was patient but when we finally did it, it wasn’t because I really really wanted to. It was because I wanted to please him, I wanted to make him like me more. He did not make me his girlfriend though and that broke my heart. After those events, I felt kinda detached from my body since nobody seemed to respect it, not even myself. I’m 16, a junior in high school, and all things sexuality related makes me feel so weird about men and kinda detached from them. Sometimes I don’t even see them as human. If you’re a virgin and you read this till the end, please wait for the right person or the right moment. I made a traumatizing mistake but you don’t have to. Finally, I actually don’t regret what happened because that would be pointless but I just have to learn from my mistakes. Society ruins young girls.
I hate the feeling of being used for my body, it seems men only want sex nowadays. Disgusting.
@@Jane-jd1sk lovely, I’m so sorry this happened to you🫶🏽
I’m sorry you experienced that :(
Thanks for sharing your story 🫶🏾
I hope you heal from this and stop blaming yourself for what happened,it's not your fault,you are young and we all do mistake like this and tbh being virgin or not doesn't define your worth,you are beautiful just as you are( ◜‿◝ )♡
I saw this comment and just had to respond. I’m a 20 year old virgin female, I “attempted” to try and lose my virginity when I was also 15 with a 19 year old guy. I barely knew him and went along with it anyways cause all my friends were doing it and I didn’t want to feel like a loser simply because I was a virgin. I ended up not doing anything with him because I was scared and wasn’t aroused at allll! We did oral but that was it. I left and felt awful, despite the fact we barely did anything. This dude actually turned out to be very toxic and insecure. I’m glad I left. I definitely agree, wait for the right person. I’m glad I’m still a virgin. Sometimes I feel a lil awkward because of it but for the most part, I think it’s a flex to still be a virgin.
As a 20 year old virgin I am really grateful that I came across this video today 🤍I was shamed so much in high school for saying 'I don't believe in sex before marriage' and guys would cheat on me in the name of 'You wouldn't give it up so what did I expect'. I'm glad I am still here and standing on my word 😮💨
Blaming you for them cheating is gross. It’s a good thing you didn’t give them anything, as they clearly didn’t deserve it.
Period. I’m about to be 21 & still waiting for marriage, I’ll die a virgin idc 😂
Same here.@@fs-bn6vm
This is my WORST fear ever
Same i just don't see myself engaging in sexual intercourse
I’m a 20 year old virgin. Praise God!! 😭😭😂❤️
Same. 😭stay strong ❤😭
REAL LMAO
Same girl, same ❤😂
May the good Lord God Almighty continue to keep you dear ❤
Me 2 ❤
21 next week and keeping my virginity till marriage... shout out to all the girls on this journey
I turned 21 last week and still virgin.Am grateful
@ well done dear
Turning 21 in two days God's willing ❤
@@Justchristelle 5 days for me. Happy birthday dear🥰
Amen🥹
If not the comment section, I thought I was the only virgin on earth 😂.I'm glad there are many and more ❤
Likeeee… same thing I thought!! 😅 I am suprised seeing this much people are also virgins 😊
Same here 😂 I don't even tell people when I'm being asked, scared of them coming at me, I just avoid the question.
Yes I'm 19 and a virgin so keep it up guys 🎉cheers to us
As muslims we stay virgin until getting married
@@July_covers not everyone tho ! I know a lot who aren't !!
I'm a 26 year old virgin. I'm not a religious person, it's because I'm asexual and I think being intimate with someone is very serious. Your virginity is not a burden that you need to get rid of as soon as possible. I feel ready, but I don't feel emotionally/sexually attracted to anyone at the moment. I'll do it with a special someone, and if I don't find that person, I'm ok with living my whole life without sex.
I totally agree, I'm the same age and I'm also asexual. I feel like this culture of rushing to "get rid of it" is getting less strong than it used to be, but all I know is that if I never do it, I'm extremely okay with that.
Same. Even before I realized that I'm ace, I always thought that being intimate with someone, sharing your body with them, is not something to make light of. It's incredibly vulnerable, and just like you said, it's much preferrable to share it with someone whom you have a deep emotional connection with, and where respect and care can easily be found.
Yeah, im about to turn 17 in a month, and i listened to my friends' traumatic experiences of getting rid of it at a very young age or after a short time of relationship. Im kinda scared of the future where my family expects me to get married, create a family before 30ish years old
I'm sapiosexual, I'm only interested in intelligent guys with a large library, so I wasn't truly interested yet. There aren't any around...
Im 21 and feel like im behind sometimes. It’s not even for religious purposes, I just don’t like the thought of giving myself to a person and them leaving. It cheapens sex in my eyes.
this is literally me too it’s not for religious reasons either and i’m 21 too
finally, someone that understands my perspective. I also am not saving myself for religious reasons but because the men out here do not respect women and only chase after sex and its ugly. Whenever I look and hear all the stories of friends being dumped here and there and getting pregnant, I thank myself for not letting anyone touch my body or face
@@v3nus894 same!
Same about to turn 20 in a month and have never been in a relationship HECK I haven’t even had my first kiss 😭💀 but again I’m not desperately trying to pursue that, Im just waiting for the right one and time 🙂
Same here as well,it feels really depressing and sick,more feels like that you are just getting used for your body and your so called virginity,they all just so predatory if they know the other person is a virgin.
I lost mine , it was awful. And the man didn’t deserve me, he also was married , don’t rush please just keep it
I'm so sorry
As a young man I advise so many of you if you can/want please try your best to just wait until you’re ready and married. From my past relationships I can tell you from what I experienced and seen in other relationships in my life these men are not worth your time unless they are ok with being by themselves and are willing to have a relationship with God first and foremost.
@@lamontsimpson4871 thanks for saying this. Tbh I think that’s why I also avoid friendships with men (never had one anyway idk how to deal with them😭), I’m not sure it can be 100% platonic. I know from my side it’ll be a bit of a battle to know where the boundary lies with being too close with each other mentally and physically; for example, getting a long hug from a girl that’s my friend can be very healing and needed, but idk if that would work with a man. What’s your take on that?
@ I would say it depends. I’ve had friends who were female that pretty much stayed as friends but I’d be lying if I said I haven’t thought about a relationship with some of them. I can’t speak for all men but I would hope the make friends you meet are actually wanting to be your friend and not any funny business. Be careful who you hang around with, this goes for both male and female.
I wish more males thought like this and kept theirs as well. As a virgin, it’s hard finding men who are also virgins but I know if I chose the path of marriage, there’s one that God has prepared and he’s waited for me too❤
@ that’s so true. I believe if that marriage is for you then it will come whenever God deemed you ready. As someone who is still a virgin I plan on waiting to get married but I had a fear that somehow it wouldn’t be what me and most people think it is.
@@lamontsimpson4871 I don’t think marriage (and sex for that matter) is ever what people expect, that’s the beauty of it, but as long as God is the center of your marriage and the intention of both of you is to please God, it will be worth it. Even with the hardships, the trying multiple times before things work out etc. The communication and with that, growing together is what makes it so worth it ( I think )
Virgin at 23 and I’m keeping it that way till I get married. A promise I made to God💯
Can we talk please?
Praise the lord 🙏🏻
Keep going!!! I'm proud of you!
You should do it for you and not for someone Who doesn't exist brah
Same here,23 also
When I was 22(now 23), I had my first bf. I grew up ugly and just started to take care of my appearance in my early 20s. He was the first boy in my life calling me beautiful. After dating for month, I had a chance to do the deed but I rejected him. At that moment he didn’t look like himself. He looked like a predator so I was scared. I felt like I’m just a sexual object to him at that time. Sometimes I feel embarrassed about being a virgin at this age. After seeing this video, I’m glad that I did not give my virginity to him. Thank you❤still a virgin lol😂
Girl than God I'm 27 and still one so you're fine
@@kaysmellsgood I'm glad to hear that! Also I think the reason I feel embarrassed is because I’m going back to university at 22, seeing teenagers getting into relationships and no longer being virgins. It actually plays a big part for me and made me feel like i'm missing out smth:(
@@gni1581 ignore that, most of those teenagers didn't have proper guidance, they probably lost theirs due to peer pressure and wanting to feel like they belong.
Nobody needs to know your virginity status except you keep that information to yourself...I was also like that in university my roommates were already se**ually active but I could see their struggles treating infections, having pregnancy scares etc and I was like nope, this isn't what I want for myself
I relate with this story. “Almost happened “ but I rejected him. Then he felt really guilty, and later he became someone I didn’t recognize.
I’m glad that I’m still a virgin and that he ghosted me. I’m glad that your BF left you too. You have a chance to find someone better.
@@gni1581If that man “truly loves” you, then even after rejection he would still be there with you emotionally until your ready.
I'm 28 and I am still waiting. It's not easy. I pray that I meet my husband soon and I believe that I will.
God bless you may God bring you a husband who is a provider ❤
Can we talk?
God will bless you with your own man IJN
Keep going
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Candid conversations like this are needed.
🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾
@@ChamiaTiarra please do more of those, this was and is so so healing💕
Im 29 and ppl are shocked and tell me im gonna get dust over there.i laugh and tell them -Aint nobody ddied from lack of sex and trust me,i wouldnt want a man who has no dicipline."their faces are like :😐.....Listen,i go to the gym,have an insane body & eat healthy. I meditate,create art etc. I have a full life on my own. If he is worth making space in all of this,then he is welcomed.if not,ion care😂😂😂. Have confidence ladies. And get hobbies. Most miserable people will pressure you ab anth
As a 24 yr old virgin. Same cause I feel like ppl build so much of their lives around sex and intimate relationships that it seems outlandish when you exist living a full and happy life without sex. I've never felt like having sex w a man will add anything valuable to my life I have so much to live for. Love can be gotten from any relationship whether familial or the friendships we have even the love you give yourself is more worthwhile than the love you supposedly get from a man who pressures you to sleep with him.
I'm healthy and happy and not having sex has never affected me negatively rather having sex with the wrong person has affected many women negatively. So I'm cool where I'm at.
I'm a 29 year old virgin too. Being by myself has been one of God's many blessings to me.
@NessaOG1 exactly. I have seen more negative aspects of ppl jumping into sex bc of peer pressure rather than good things. Most even do things bc they feel useless if they are on their own. I'm talking ab ppl who have even traveled or have a healthy habit for themselves. Instead they just get into relationships for the sake of it. You go girl 👏. Im the same
Thank you for these dear.
I am also 29 and just graduated from University a few days ago.
I am so chasing my dreams until I find someone deserving.
@@chidinmaodihe8895congrats on graduating 🎉❤
I love that there are so many of us in the comments, I feel like it’s rare nowadays. Stay strong yall!🌟
☺️✊️🍀
Thank you we will stay strong together ❤
Keep going girl!
As 15 yrs old virgin using the internet am happy to come across this video and it's going to help in the future alot thanks
ME TOO
baby, take care of ur self. U and all other person of this generation deserve be happy, healthy and without social pressure. Be yourself above all and never forget that u are beautiful soul and human and valuable
We listen and we don't judge: I'm nearly 31 and haven't had penetrative sex yet. This talk is so needed, thank you for being open and vulnerable with yout story.
Sending virtual hugs
Wow 2025 is your year Jesus Christ is going to give u a wonderful husband 😍😍
As an 18 year old virgin, I'm currently so unsure on whether to wait for marriage or lose it now. Our generation makes it so tricky to be in genuine relationships without intercourse. Thanks for this video!! ❤
If you do plan on losing it, just make sure he a real one
Overthinking which route to take is not it. It’s not and shouldn’t be a priority cause there’s more important things in our lives as women. Free your mind and let it happen at the right time. I would encourage you to wait till marriage though, because If you you’re going to get to know someone enough to get engaged to them and then marry them then you’ve put a lot of thought into your relationship with them. Nothing is perfect though, and sometimes this doesn’t always seal the deal. But don’t encourage negativity for yourself. Don’t feel pressured, be careful who you trust and work on yourself and life.
Wait for marriage!! I promise it's worth it
please please wait until marriage. These men will waste your time and milage. They dont know what they want. I lost mine at 18 . Im now 37 never been married and have no children. I' ve been through so much heartbreaks and depression. I wish my mom would of talk to me about it but people didnt talk about that back then. Sex is for marriage it's more than physical it a spiritual thing.
Im in my 30's and never lost it, please wait for marriage. It will be tough but it's worth the wait. It will save you so much headache and emotion stress.
First of all, to my girls: we’ll never regret rejecting sex with a man. When he truly loves you, he will respect your opinions and exercise self-restraint.
I’m deeply grateful for the videos and everyone’s shares; I’ve read almost all the comments, and it really opened my eyes. Recently, I met someone who was always sweet, calling me "my baby, my love," yet refused to define the relationship. He seemed overly excited about me being a virgin and constantly brought up sxual topics, even when I clearly felt uncomfortable. He also told me that sx would be good for me, that I would enjoy it, and subtly manipulated me. My belief in no s*x before marriage was shaken, and I even began to think the problem was with me. Now, I’m ready to end it and block him for good-men are often sweet only to achieve their goals.
I’m so glad women are speaking up about this now! I’m so happy that we women finally realize that our virginities aren’t a joke. Protect your body for someone that you trust and you want in your personal space! Do it for yourself!
I'm so glad UA-cam exists so we can talk about topics that we can't discuss with our closest sometimes
20yr old virgin here
I would've lost it this year but i remembered that I'm a nominee for the virgin award 😩
Not that award lol
Same
You go girl!!
Same, but the award is important 😂
17:38 “what you’re teaching them is when they treat you bad you will treat them better” i physically froze after she dropped that bar
Same
You can just tell in friendships, some girls will silently judge you for being a virgin and just stop being your friend just because they can’t relate to you anymore 😢
It's your friends. If you surround yourself with people whose beauty validation is the amount of men they've slept with thats what will happen. All my friends are single Christian virgins who have never dated before. Lowkey they're intelligent and feel that if they date now(18), they'll break up and lose a lot. They are also very ambitious and focused ❤
That's true
She speaking straight facts!! Our bodies, our job to protect it 🗣️🗣️🔥🔥
Thank you so much for this video. I'm a 15 year old girl and am blessed with a dad who often talks about these exact topics. When he first started to talk about s*x and when it's the right time (which we believe is after marriage), I used to feel very uncomfortable. Later on I realised that these conversations he'd have with my sister and I empower us with the knowledge we need to make the correct decisions. My mother, who also waited until marriage, never had much to say when this topic arose, so it's very real for me to see a woman speak openly and truthfully about this. Once again, thank you❤
18 and counting.
Am coming back to this video in 7yrs❤.
God's grace will keep me🥰
AMEN SEE YOU IN 2031 🙏🏼✨
Will keep us instead
A lot of young ladies need to hear about this. Thank you for this
I kept mine till 23 years,I gave it to the man who we are married know.
After reading some painful comments I turned back to him and told him,I'm glad I lost my virginity to you, and he responded, because ua married to me,u didn't lose it,u have it and forever will be😊. I pray those who keep their body holy find a rightful man who will cherish it forever.May ua perseverance not go to waste, Amen.❤
19 year old here lol! I’m not really religious (I’m more atheist if anything) but I mainly wanna stay a virgin because out of fear of just being used and dumped like I was nothing but a mere conquest (I’ve heard way too many stories of that happening and it gives me way too much anxiety) especially with how normalized hookup culture is or just being causal (I want my first relationship to be special and meaningful not something I’m gonna regret because I gave it to the wrong person who didn’t deserve it) I haven’t lost my first kiss either cause again I want it to be special or with “the one”.
Sometimes I do get lonely or feel ashamed while I see my friends out getting into relationships (don’t get me wrong I’m happy for them but I do feel envious at the same time) but honestly? I’m willing to wait even if it takes a couple of years (plus I’m still young and I know I shouldn’t be so hung up on it) it’s just y’know midnight thoughts that really get to you and your emotions lmao. I’m glad I got this video recommended
I’m a lesbian and I feel the same way. I want to have my first time with my wife, not with someone random. Plus the horror stories of baby mamas, hookup culture, and the dating market scares me
right?? Baby mama culture, hookup culture and how awful the dating pool seems to be right now IS TERRIFYING (at least from what I’ve heard) like I stress enough as it is, go away 😭
@emolife I feel your not exposed, coz there's nothing like special person, Even in marriage you can get divorced. Just get to no the person first. someone sincere and respectful😊
how u afraid of baby mama culture when u gay
Im not a virgin for religious reasons either, it hasnt happened because im not compatible with anyone yet. Thats all i want from a relationship, to feel alright around him and be able to be myself. Itll happen when i find him
It's my body...am the one that runs this
These are the big sister chats so many of us needed growing up, thank you for your content n keep creating❤
Thank youu❤️
Im 24 and still a virgin. My mom thought me to wait for the right woman and dont rush it. But at times I still feel ashamed of being one.
You don't need to dear , you are pure bold and The LORD will be pleased with you ❤
Omg I'm sooo impressed keep it up....my first time hearing this from a guy ❤
You have my respect, really🤝.
Same.
Tf u should be happy that u are in this generation u don’t really see men who are still intact
you should be proud
I love that you brought up the fact of if “I” want to. That’s said a lot but I feel like that doesn’t hold the weight it should. As a 24 year old beautiful woman, I ain’t ashamed of waiting and thank you so much for speaking on this!!! You made me remind myself it is possible to care about what I want and not the mercy of men or other people.
I think men should hold themselves to this standard too. I love when my boyfriend limits me too. It shows concern and care.
Im a 24 years old virgin waiting until marriage, im honoring God and my future husband through my body! May the Lord blesses us with a good man of God
Same
Honestly, I'm hoping that the man wasn't just a man of God but also a virgin.
Same
I'm so grateful that I didn't get under the pressure by boy. I was like „no, I want to do it with a person that truly knows me and care about me” then he 2 weeks later said that is not ready for a relationship 💀
I think sex is a distraction - how can you properly vet people with a clear mind?
That’s why I’m personally waiting until marriage (even though I’m not religious)
Totally agree, I am not religious as well. LOVE HIGHLY EMOTIONAL SMART PEOPLE!!
im really detached from sexual stuff, im not even a fan of kisses, i love innocent love, no need of kissing or intimate action just pure love, im about to start college and this video was comforting since most of my friends are on their hory era ❤
24 years old virgin female here and I still never had my first kiss yet either. Thank you so much for this video. It was the reminder that I needed to keep going in the right direction and value myself and my body. ❤
I'm a 30 year old virgin, so happy about it. I have an overflow of confidence and self worth, and have become successful. in my field. I do want a partner, but I'm also ok if it never happens.
Waiting is a challenge. Even if someone has had the experience it's never too late to start on the journey. However, the only thing that has kept me this long is Jesus and self-educating myself as I am doing now by watching this video.
I'm 24 and waiting until marriage. I've turned down thousand of guys already at this point, I'm not letting anyone use my body unless they put a ring on me.
Same here
Bruh thousands? You must be a model deadass💀
@alex.harkness I wouldn't say I am model tier beautiful, but rather men around me want to hit it and quit it. Most of them see women as sexual objects and nothing more, good ones aside.
@@alex.harkness lol
@@alex.harknessprobably started when they were 13
I am so glad you spoke about this. I could have not said it better myself. Every young woman needs to hear this. I was 24 when I lost mine and it was a bit traumatic.
I didn’t realize how much I had been impacted by it until just recently at age 36 when I saw something related to the guy and was triggered immediately.
Then I began to cry and started to ruminate on all the things I should have said to him and the ways I should have stood up for myself.
It’s bad enough that I was touched as a child but I still had my virginity so I felt this is something I have control over. I was very disciplined until one night where I got carried away.
I drank alcohol on an empty stomach so it hit me hard. I was somewhat aware of what was going on but it’s as if I had no control over my actions.
I knew I liked the guy but not enough to give up my virginity. He didn’t even know I was a virgin. We were at a hotel party that he invited me. It was more of a music video shoot.
I somehow found myself in the bedroom with him. I was fine with it initially since there were people there with us initially but they left. Someone turned off the lights, and one thing lead to the next. It felt as if everything happened so fast. It didn’t even hit me I had just gave up my virginity.
Almost immediately he lashed out at me and treated me with such disrespect. I didn’t even have a chance to tell him I was a virgin. I never felt so low as I did that night.
The next day I attempted to tell him so I texted but was ignored. So the following day after, I decided to write him and tell him over fb. I wasn’t expecting a response, I just needed him to know. He responded saying he didn’t know. That’s when I cut off all contact with him.
I just suppressed how I felt and moved on until years later, I had to face how I felt. Please value yourselves. Don’t put yourself in any predicament where you may have regrets. Make smart choices.
I don’t know what I was expecting from him but I did not expect to be mistreated the way I was almost immediately after. On top of the humiliation since people were still there at the party. Maybe he had some guilt because it looked bad that I was drunk.
I forgave the situation but I learned a valuable lesson that night. The first time is supposed to be special and sacred. We never forget our first time experience.
When you share yourself in such an intimate way especially the first time, it feels as if you are giving a part of yourself away, be sure to share it with someone who you know cares about you and respects you. Someone who you trust and makes you feel comfortable. Not someone simply lusting after you.
Some times guys will switch up after being intimate. They will pretend for as long as they need to until they get what they want then discard you. You won’t be able to tell unless you’ve properly vetted the guy. Do not equate sex with love.
Focus on building quality time and getting to know each other before and making sure he does commit as she said in this video, listen to this sound and wise advice.
I honestly wish someone would have spoken to me about this when younger. That night would have never happened. I’ve learned to accept that it happened. Love and respect yourselves.
I say don’t drink at all, always be sober so you are alert and aware but if you’re going to drink, watch your intake. Do not make the mistake I have. I wasn’t much of a drinker as it is. I felt ashamed about it but had to forgive myself for going against my own integrity.
We’re human so we will make mistakes. We can’t always do things perfectly but when you know better, you do better. Much love ❤
I love you ❤
Im glad you're ok. Most of these events have subtle implications, and those who stay late have given undue consent(if you haven't been to such parties before) and lights of signify something sexual. So, beware if you're going to programs you've never been to, that closes late ❤
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thank u for this video. now, i'm not ashamed to be still virgin at the age of 22... and now i don't have to compare myself to other ppl who has bf/gf. i feel relieved and happy as i am.
so I'm 22 years old and I haven't had my first kiss, let alone sex. I know for me sex before marriage is a Non negaotiable and at first I was a bit hesitant if I did want to kiss before marriage, but I'm leaning more and more towards also not kissing outside marriage. is it hard? YES, it's a STRUGGLEEE, but I'm protecting myself by the way I dress myself and where I go (it's either school, work or home and when I do go out with my girlfriends (I don't have guy friends), is when it's still light outside (occasionally at night for a movie etc but even then after the movie we go home immidately, so it also helps to have friends who have the same behaviour/values).
I am also on the same journey. As a muslim, it helps that this stuff is all haram. So yh its a no go territory. But i am loving every second of it, saves us from so much unecessary stress.
I'm 22 too and you right... I have been my happiest ever since I met friends who are like me. We not even boy crazy and we get other ladies asking if we lesbian or Asexual just because we were not doing what people our age are doing, are we phased no but we've promised each other to finish school and we will see the rest from there onwards. So I really advice being friends who have the same mentality as you like you said because it's so refreshing
@ they really help 💕
I'm 22 and I just don't want to get my heart broken 💔 😢, that's why I'm waiting for that one person ❤
Omg SAME!! I'm 22 as well, like exact same scenario with @Barry-ot2dg, only that I don't have friends like me so it feels a little lonely on this journey cause there's no one to talk to who understands, and you can see that in the way people respond or act around you when the topic comes up. I honestly I thought I was the only one until I entered the comments and saw yours. So Thank you so much for sharing 🤍🤍
I’m a 19y/o f, luckily whenever I tell someone I’m a virgin they only ask “why” and I give them my answer “it’s a personal choice”
It never goes beyond that and if someone does try to shame me I just ignore them. I didn’t get romantic attention from boys in school as well so that helped a little as well.
Same❤
To the girl who is not a virgin anymore
It's totally fine, even if you wanted to lose it and it was not because you had to.. it's ok trust me it's totally ok don't be hard on yourself and don't judge your past self. Change is good and it's good that you are trying to not have intimate relationship before marriage anymore and you decided to change, it's good but don't judge your past self
Whatever you did was ok and it's good that you want to change.
Love you❤️
Are you talking to the creator? It's also fine if she (whoever) doesn't wait tho
@curiousmoa3998 No, I am not talking to the creator only
But she can apply it on her too
And it's fine if you think that "it's ok even if she doesn't wait till marriage"
I am just talking to any girl who is young or maybe not young but have lost her virginity and want to change but they're judging themselves because nowadays people overhype verginity.
Virginity is a good thing and you should be proud to protect it but if you are not virgin.. don't let others judge you.. whether you stay virgin or not, it's your choice.. you're not bad because of it.. that's basically what I was trying to say
And sorry if I made any mistake.. English is not my first language
@@Shreya-n1x2p its good to be virgin and its good to be not a virgin neither one is better, both the same please. I'm sorry I'm just so annoyed by ppl shaming women for not being a virgin and overrating virginity. I just feel like a lot of ppl try to push the sex after marriage thing on others
Thank you definitely needed to hear this today after waiting 25 years.
Thanks for this advice couldn’t bring myself to near guy talkless of dating one for three years now
I’m 22 and a virgin. I still live at home so it would be hard to do anything anyways.🤭 On a serious note, at this time I couldn’t see myself having a boyfriend yet. Being in a relationship kind of terrifies me. I thought I was weird for not being like the other girls being all boy crazy. I was the kid that didn’t care about all that and trying to get good grades. I’m in no rushing.
Same😂
Same
I’m 22 and being in a relationship scares me too like I’ve spoken to one boy before but that’s about it not kissing or sex ever! I’m dedicated to my grades but now I’m more focused on having fun with friends
Omgg i'm 22 still virgin and never had a boyfriend..literally same i dont really cares about having boyfriend finally i found someone who had the same feeling as me... 02 supremacy yeayyy🎉🎉
Same! I was born in 2002 too ❤ This month I was crazy cuz I started to have a crush on 1 guy and I was imagining how I will give him my V-card but I understand I want to do this because I want to please him 😅 now I understand that I should start to care about yourself more, and make myself priority number 1.
as a 14 yo i think we need this as teenager. thanks so much sis
I’m 21 & still virgin glad I came across this video 💗💗💗
17 year old virgin waiting till marriage,I’m only focusing on my career,thanks for the video
god blessed me by sending to my feed before i go to college . i have never had a relationship till now and i am opening to new connections and this is what i needed to know , thank you so much for sharing this online .
It was not easy because I was bullied at school by my peers. I thank God that I stood on my words and still standing on my words that my virginity will be taken by my husband 🙏
Still a virgin and I’m proud of it. If virginity makes one “pure,” then I see that as a plus. I worry about losing it because I can’t trust anyone to betray me and leaving me alone to regret losing it to a terrible person. It’s something we are raised to believe that you can’t take it back, hence why I have this concern.
I'm 18 and my first ever boyfriend just broke up with me just a month ago cuz i told him i wanna wait till I'm married 😅😅......
It hurt me....but it also made me realize dat men will always put themselves first. He was willing to leave me because i refused him.... I feel so dumb cuz i wasn't willing to leave him because he was pressuring me 🥲🥲.
Good men will put their wives above themselves don’t settle
He isn't a virgin? He ain't worth it girl. Those type of men are for the streets
I’m nearly 22 and it’s so saddening to not find anyone I could trust with my body I definitely feel the pressure and that I’m falling behind
Sameeeeee , I completey agree 😭
Same here. It’s sad out here.
Keep it... The right man will have it the right way (marriage)
28 and a virgin who believes in sex after marriage. I hope all patient women find God-fearing, respectful and understanding men to marry and never give in to society and peer pressure. Amen.
Amen ❤
You are so smart and outspoken! I’m only a senior and sometimes I do some dumb stuff 😭 but I’m glad I have role models like you to look up to. In high school your constantly surround by a LOT of “popular” opinions that are confusing. I pray I end up being just like you.
I love this video thank you, im 28 still a virgin i have too much self respect and care for myself that i see myself in high worth so much that no man can sweep me off my feet like I KNOW im worth it 🤷🏻♀️
I just turned 19, i had a thing w a guy that I liked so much, but let me say he didn’t respect me AT ALL and hurt me so much, he was extremely immature and even though i wanted him so bad, i always felt in my heart like i just didn’t want to do it with him, not my first time not ever… and rn I’m very selective in general for everything!
I lost mine at 22 and I’m glad I waited till now, there’s honestly no rush
Thank you, this is a very important topic and lesson that so many people could learn from. As you said it is not something that is talked about enough, so I am glad you did.
Thank you girl! (I'm 19) never really talked with my friends, or family about it. And I didn't really care if I did or didn't, but it just never happened for me--maybe I'll start thinking about it differently, and think that it's actually special..! I had one "relationship" that lasted like 2 months, but we met online and met in person and EVERYTHING was just so awakward--kissing, anything.. AND HE DIDN'T EVEN WANT TO DRIVE TO ME and looking back even on those 2 months he was kinda creepy and manipulative!!!! He did the BARE minimum--no, that taught me a lot about what I want in a relationship though grateful for the experience, but I am now wondering if I'm asexual.
Better would be if they want to make you their wife, someone who respects, honors, loves and adoes you. Keep your virginity until you can recognize when you are in a healty, whole, loving and long term relationship. There is a book called: Sex and the soul of a Woman by Paula Rinehart. A true gem to help women better understand sexuality. Im in my 30's and never lost it. It's worth the wait, even if it gets hard.
Honestly, thank you so much. Your speeches ignite something that I was hesitate about my thoughts. You have empowered those, making me feel that I should keep those morals, my thoughts, my opinions about myself. Thank you so much. You are so brave and kind. Love♡♡♡
23 and still going.
It feels off/ wrong for someone that isn't mine, like not married to see me in such a vulnerable state.
22 year old virgin and I’m so thankful for this video. ❤ Thank you so so much, sister 🥹
This was a much needed video, thank you so much for the wisdom you shared. Many young girls need to hear this!
I'm a 17 years old virgin. I thank God and i thank you for the video.
Now my body, my decision my priority
23 yr old here. Thank you for this video. I've been feeling so pressured by my entourage because everyone around me is in a relationship/situationship and have already done the deed, even my younger friends. I'm personally not ready to commit to anything yet so I've also never dated. The idea of intimacy scares me, specially coming from a place where it's a very taboo topic and s*x ed was never taught. I'm scared that if I do it, I do it wrong or something (or obv put my health at risk). It makes me feel pathetic and clueless but I also have nobody to really ask about this to anyway.
Now I'm 16 years old virgin and this video... gave me a new perspective on what it's like to be in a relationship and experiencing this type of intimacy. I never knew that some of the things that I thought were okay were actually harmful. This subject is daunting for me but this helped a bit, thank you.
I absolutely admire people like you. Being able to admit you made a bad decision out loud and using your experience to educate young girls. Comments did not pass the vibe check. Don't know how people watched the video and the only thing they can comment on is the fact they're still virgins. Shit I am too but how is that the only thing you took from the video?
Another beautiful video. Just turned 22 and this video is so comforting to me
My dream is to focus more my craft my goals, achieve it ready to build up my business at the age 24 and then get into a marriage life style
Ty for the video. Its really comforting seeing a grown woman saying and being sure of the things you naturally feel
I plan to wait in marriage and I’m literally an atheist, because I want it to be with someone I trust, and know doesn’t have any diseases, and will stay by my side if I accidentally get pregnant
I’m 12 years old and I am glad this video came across me today now I know to think about the decisions before I make them in the future thank you so much for this video and god bless you and others ❤️✨🙏🏾
i’m 16 and thank you so much for all these advice it strengths me even more to wait until marriage
18 and virgin saving till marriage. I felt pressured too but I'm glad i kept to myself.
29 yrs virgin,gonna wait till marriage ❤ and super proud of it . Girls,don't give it too easily, treat your body like a temple because you are q damn goddess❤❤
Gosh I love this girl. Hitting the nail on the head.
A sister i always wanted.... 🥺 ..love from india ❤
Thank you so much for making this video beautiful... still a virgin in my early 30's, was my choice, still is till am married. God bless you for encouraging others to keep making the right decision in this direction 🎉🎉
Wow, You truly admirable Ma'am...it's soo Great as a Woman to be unapologetic about knowing Your worth❤
19 in two months time and still a virgin. Thank God for my life and i am waiting till married. Shout out to us who are still virgins. And I thank God for coming across this vlog🤲🙏
I'm 20 and when i tell others I'm still a virgin they can't belive and say whats wrong with me, but that is my decision and I like it
Damn you were speaking facts.. thst made me think about my life and descions, and I'm wondering about relationships and everything
I’m 19 and still a virgin and I plan on staying that way till marriage. Wonderful video ❤
V at 32. Very proud of myself. I experienced pressure and judgement in the past, but I held off and stood my ground because I'm waiting for the right person.
21 year old virgin women and I admit I do have desire to do it. But I am not giving it up to any guy. I am only doing it when I meet someone I want to do it with. Not bc I owe him something not bc he nice to me. But bc I want to
23 and still a virgin. I never had any advice from anyone growing up. There was a Time i felt the need to do it but I asked myself*for what reason*? And then i quit that idea. Now my current boyfriend wants to do it but I said I want to keep it till marriage and he told me it will ROT.
I’m 23 years old and a virgin. Literally just hasn’t been in the cards thus far. Need to keep my approach. Glad to hear the female prospective on this topic though.
People like you are one of the few blessings of social media
I’m 22 and I’ve been thinking about waiting until marriage and this video pretty much solidified the decision for me. The opportunity has come up before but it never entirely felt right. I recently broke up with someone I was serious about losing my virginity to but after a while it didn’t entirely feel right so I broke it off. I’ve been going into an absolute shame/ guilt spiral because I don’t know if I made the right decision or if I gave into fear. But after some points you made in this video, it kind of shattered some illusions for me in some ways and I can see how he stepped over some boundaries which I didn’t want to admit to myself because I’m the type who always tries to see the good in people. Thank you for this video ❤️ This has inspired me to truly wait for the one and for a man who is willing to respect my boundaries and get to know ME rather than chase after my body.
Thank you for sharing this, this is so important for girls… Even in a binding marriage there must also be a mutual respect and desire for each other’s bodies as you’ve described. God bless you, girl ❤