How to Weaponize Your Beauty to Attain Social Power -Dark Femininity

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  • @lester2588
    @lester2588 5 місяців тому +153

    God forbid you’re attractive, confident & assertive. Triple threat for the haters who will use it against you to paint you as “rude & disrespectful” 🤦🏽‍♀️

    • @TanzytheglowupG
      @TanzytheglowupG 5 місяців тому +8

      This tripple threat sounds like me 😢 I am pretty confident smart and h@ted for it

    • @divinebeaute
      @divinebeaute 4 місяці тому +6

      i feel like people want you to be a people pleaser and force yourself to be extra bubbly even if that’s not your personality to prove you’re down to earth and compensate for being a “triple threat” in their eyes.

    • @sadizzle
      @sadizzle 4 місяці тому +3

      & low body count didn’t give it up to every man

    • @writingismagic5597
      @writingismagic5597 3 місяці тому +3

      This is happening to me in my current job & I got so tired of the hostility & abuse I put in my 2 week notice.

    • @hey5268
      @hey5268 2 місяці тому +2

      Tylas reality smh

  • @Therealblasianbae
    @Therealblasianbae 5 місяців тому +197

    I’ve started using my beauty to get six figure careers and I am an exotica with yellow/gold skin. I know other girls are jealous because my beauty outshines their whole existence but I don’t care! I’m coming out of my shell at 23 years old and I love life so much more now. Thank you for these videos. Our community needs to stick together always. 💕

    • @Rchl_Renee
      @Rchl_Renee 5 місяців тому +28

      Don’t shrink for nobody. Keep Queenin’ loud and proud 👑

    • @ExoticalsUnited
      @ExoticalsUnited  5 місяців тому +46

      Yes that’s amazing! I’ve seen women use their professional polished beauty to do newscasting, real estate, political activism etc. beauty is not just about dating! it’s about social power .

    • @ernestinewilson6209
      @ernestinewilson6209 5 місяців тому +4

      I appreciate , and love our Exotical Community 😘

    • @tinag.7256
      @tinag.7256 5 місяців тому +3

      Yes!!! I don’t know you personally but I’m rooting for you!!! ❤ Shine bright!!! ❤

    • @sabrinaa3478
      @sabrinaa3478 5 місяців тому +3

      I'm glad I'm not the only who thinks like this ❤

  • @mikhalaa746
    @mikhalaa746 5 місяців тому +122

    I’m gonna start saying “don’t talk to me sir I don’t want ugly offspring”🤷🏽‍♀️🤣

  • @EconomicWarfare
    @EconomicWarfare 5 місяців тому +99

    Weaponizing your beauty leads to the soft life. Since, I have the privilege to work from home, I can focus on my daily beauty rituals. I can work out while watching your videos. I'm able to prepare my healthy plant based meals and perfect my smoothies. ❤

    • @niratomas579
      @niratomas579 5 місяців тому +11

      This is indeed the LIFE!!!!💅🏾

    • @DearStephanieX
      @DearStephanieX 5 місяців тому +5

      Sooooo true ❤

    • @vam9785
      @vam9785 3 місяці тому +5

      Same! Love my plant based meals and having all this time for myself ❤

  • @minenhlensele9902
    @minenhlensele9902 5 місяців тому +62

    I'm from South Africa.Im not however exotic.Im a black african women.I consider myself as someone that has pretty privilege. I have found strength & power through watching your content.Thank you for sharing your past experiences.I can relate to some of your experiences..... 😅.I have found myself healing from my past trauma by just consuming your content.

    • @TeachersCornerwithMissMilton
      @TeachersCornerwithMissMilton 5 місяців тому +9

      Hey fellow South African ,Mkhaya ,lovely meeting you here ,yeah I relate to what you saying 😊

    • @minenhlensele9902
      @minenhlensele9902 5 місяців тому +7

      Yebo mkhaya❤❤❤❤sending love &hugs❤❤❤

    • @TeachersCornerwithMissMilton
      @TeachersCornerwithMissMilton 5 місяців тому +5

      @@User.777.1 lol I am Pedi even though I speak more Setswana since of area I grew up in ,Soweto .

  • @TrulyUnbothered
    @TrulyUnbothered 5 місяців тому +31

    This man told me I was so fine i can get away with anything. My antennas instantly went off 😈

  • @ettecolllove6313
    @ettecolllove6313 5 місяців тому +31

    Growing up my mum always pushed the point to my sister and I that we must look after ourselves and look good when we are outside, she did when she was younger she even wore heels to go shopping 😅

    • @ShekaGolden
      @ShekaGolden 2 місяці тому +4

      Sounds like my mom! She was a Lucky Libra ♎️

    • @Dashomin
      @Dashomin Місяць тому +2

      As long as she’s happy and your happy I know some people who would never go out without makeup or even wigs but if it gives a big confidence boost and you are comfortable of not being made up, then I’ll say good for you! ❤

  • @armanijack2927
    @armanijack2927 5 місяців тому +67

    I use my MLS privilege with men who I know prefer me. I am a lesbian though 😂 I do not share this information with them. I am sweet to them if I know they can or will offer me some form of assistance. I’ll smile, I’ll be personable. Lately I was able to get a guy to help me move to another state for $300. Without my pretty girl privilege I would’ve been paying almost $3,000. I plan to lose a little weight to be even more desirable.

    • @BlaxicanBeautyTV333
      @BlaxicanBeautyTV333 5 місяців тому +7

      Period 😂

    • @niratomas579
      @niratomas579 5 місяців тому +2

      Yeesss!!!!

    • @sewblue187
      @sewblue187 5 місяців тому +1

      Must be nice, as a dsbw we don’t have that luxury even when we a lot of the times look better than lsw

    • @camilia198773
      @camilia198773 4 місяці тому

      Don't forget to add Ving Tsun classes.

    • @kenasssss
      @kenasssss 2 місяці тому

      @@sewblue187 -_- stop. Remove that wiring from your brain. You are desirable, you can get whatever you want - ignore the opposite messaging, you're gaining nothing from it. From now on, you are delusional and everything else that doesn't align with it can go f itself.

  • @_komiichan9509
    @_komiichan9509 5 місяців тому +17

    I always wondered why people wanted my opinion on everything, it makes sense now.

  • @fatema555
    @fatema555 Місяць тому +4

    "Beauty is a form of social power"❤❤❤

  • @ChristenAlysia
    @ChristenAlysia 5 місяців тому +39

    I’m not light skinned and I’m not mixed but I’ve always been told I’m really pretty and have always been hated on. People always ask if I’m Caribbean and I say just black lol. But I can relate sooo much to you’re videos so that’s why I love you’re videos

    • @ExoticalsUnited
      @ExoticalsUnited  5 місяців тому +6

      Thanks for watching and please let me know what you wanna see next!

    • @ChristenAlysia
      @ChristenAlysia 5 місяців тому +3

      @@ExoticalsUnited 💕💕

    • @Z-ef1rr
      @Z-ef1rr Місяць тому +5

      “Just black”.. don’t diminish yourself babe

  • @camilleamaclean
    @camilleamaclean 5 місяців тому +14

    This truly came at the right time! It was this year where I realized I was supressing my beauty to get what I want and once I slowly started doing it, things really started to ascend for me. Dressing up everywhere I go, wearing heels, talking with confidence and not letting people get disrespectful really did wonders! Great video!

  • @Yourrrr
    @Yourrrr 5 місяців тому +41

    Seated and taking notes 📝

  • @kendracunningham1408
    @kendracunningham1408 5 місяців тому +11

    There's a saying that you have to "use what you got to get what you want"! It's so true, so why shouldn't we do it in every way possible 🙌🏽

  • @niratomas579
    @niratomas579 5 місяців тому +29

    “Ok then I’m selfish!”
    🗣️”Who gon’ check me boo!?!”

  • @ChaChaWitYa
    @ChaChaWitYa 5 місяців тому +35

    I’m not an Exotical, but I have to thank you for this channel ❤

  • @prettywhitney17
    @prettywhitney17 5 місяців тому +16

    Not a Person of color, but ALWAYS felt empowered listening to your channel. thank you so much for doing what you do!! xx

  • @PatriceCetrine
    @PatriceCetrine 3 місяці тому +6

    New subbie here . I want to thank you for this channel because for awhile I always muzzled my beauty because I hate when people change around me…I noticed all it did was actually hurt me. So now I’m learning to embrace it. I’m an indie musician, and I now see how powerful beauty is. I want use it for good

  • @ReleasewithPhilece
    @ReleasewithPhilece 2 місяці тому +5

    Chocolate beautiful neck breaker checking in and I love your content it resonates to beautiful women of all shades we can all learn From this content ❤❤❤

    • @ExoticalsUnited
      @ExoticalsUnited  2 місяці тому +1

      Aw thanks for commenting beautiful ! ❤️

  • @Chamsiee
    @Chamsiee 4 місяці тому +7

    I am black. However, many people think I'm mixed because I am french, I travelled a lot, and I'm not seen as the stereotypical "black woman" These days I'm not doing well because I have to work a lot to find a job and to study. And I'm realising how the women at my workplace were awful towards me.
    This video brings me joy because it reminds me that I unconsciously used some of these tactics and it worked ! ( Being so pretty that the others women collegue have to level up, using beauty to have the best man in relationship and others... )
    Thank you to remind me that I am that girl, that fucking threat. We have to stay focus no matter what people throw at us. I need to move on and let their karmas beat them. That is on God, not on me anymore.

  • @ExoticalSauce
    @ExoticalSauce 5 місяців тому +47

    "Okaayyy im selfish who gon check me" 🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @callieblossomASMR
    @callieblossomASMR 5 місяців тому +17

    it would be an honour for my picture to be used on this channel, I love the message.

    • @ExoticalsUnited
      @ExoticalsUnited  5 місяців тому +2

      Ok, just email your pics to exoticalsunited@gmail.com !

  • @CousinCourtney
    @CousinCourtney 5 місяців тому +11

    Thank you for all of your work-your honesty and always raising the bar! ✨

  • @Tsunamijane0
    @Tsunamijane0 5 місяців тому +10

    the "who gon' check me" gets me everything

  • @HoneySnowflake
    @HoneySnowflake 5 місяців тому +12

    Plus size exotical here! People get so offended that I know and acknowledge I am fat and pretty! 😅 I've used it to create plus size clothing brands ❤

  • @maddisb6501
    @maddisb6501 4 місяці тому +3

    Watching this as a Native American Mexican Asian mixed girl ❤

  • @AFocusedLiving
    @AFocusedLiving 5 місяців тому +39

    I’ve just realised my little 12-year-old sister has been has been using her privilege to get things from my parents😂🤣

    • @niratomas579
      @niratomas579 5 місяців тому +6

      Hilarious and smart!
      I’m curious to know examples of what she does 👀

    • @AFocusedLiving
      @AFocusedLiving 5 місяців тому +11

      @@niratomas579 she uses the sweet soft voice and because she has a innocent look you end up falling for it.😅

    • @niratomas579
      @niratomas579 5 місяців тому +5

      @@AFocusedLiving Period💅🏾

    • @adrienne7642
      @adrienne7642 2 місяці тому +2

      Learning young lol

  • @tinag.7256
    @tinag.7256 5 місяців тому +13

    I want to thank you, EU, for your content and speaking out for the community! I do wish there was someone like you putting out this type of content years ago!! I will use whatever info you and other exoticals such as myself to navigate in this world as my true self and to not let any “basic Bettys” to dim my light. I’m almost pushing 50, but I can still use your info/advice to cater to my needs and get what I want in life (I’m almost 50 but I’m not dead lol)! I can pass on the info to my 3 multiracial daughters; I was telling my teen twin daughters about your channel. They definitely can relate to your content and they have their own stories about how they are treated in school. Keep spreading the message EU and stay pretty ladies!! ❤

  • @3mi3mi
    @3mi3mi 5 місяців тому +15

    28:30 For us nerdy girls: streaming on Twitch, making UA-cam react videos, learning how to make good cosplays and make a TikTok or Instagram for your cosplays. I’ve seen pretty girls into Star Wars, Lord of the Rings, anime, etc., have a ton of views and followers for their content. It’s not lame or stupid to show your passions. And the reality is, if you have pretty privilege, people want to see you into the same things they’re into.

    • @LilyM-qx2qu
      @LilyM-qx2qu 2 місяці тому

      What other common websites can you post cosplays besides instagram and TikTok?

  • @Chamsiee
    @Chamsiee 4 місяці тому +4

    True for the children ! And also as someone who worked in a school, the most annoying kids treated me with more kindness and appreciation than my colleagues

  • @TeachersCornerwithMissMilton
    @TeachersCornerwithMissMilton 5 місяців тому +11

    Hi exotical united ,I admire your courage . You are very bold and not afraid to speak your mind .
    I found your series on decentering and centering very eye opening .
    Watching all the way from the beautiful South Africa 🇿🇦,
    I also am seen as light skinned even though I don’t really see it that way ,my complexion changes and in the summer I would think I’m more relating with the dark skinned or unless I am in denial with my skin tone .I would say I am caramel if I were to describe my complexion .
    But Winter I do get lighter which is normal though .

  • @kendracunningham1408
    @kendracunningham1408 5 місяців тому +5

    Awwh thank you! I see my pic and im going to use my beauty to my advantage!!❤

  • @ladyeam
    @ladyeam 5 місяців тому +13

    Yes, I’ve definitely been bestowed “Queen Bee” status without even knowing it 😊. Before I realized what it was truly about, I’d be thinking, “Um, how did I become the expert all of a sudden 😂😂?”

  • @EconomicWarfare
    @EconomicWarfare 5 місяців тому +13

    I'm loving this dark femininity series. ❤ I'm selfish? So? Now what?! 😂😅

  • @Teclairee
    @Teclairee 5 місяців тому +4

    At this point, I'm not even that beautiful and I was looking for a way to maximize my privilege of beauty and charm. But as you speak I realize that I am already at the top level of weaponry (she speaks French). Thank you soo much for the encouragement. I am so grateful for this video

  • @KendraHernandez-j5u
    @KendraHernandez-j5u 5 місяців тому +6

    Did not realize how much I was weaponing beauty privilege especially in social media when it comes to humor and creating funny content. I’m trying to work on using it more in the workplace and my dating cause I’m tired of settling with the “dusty” guys that take advantage of me lol

  • @rushellepeterkin3768
    @rushellepeterkin3768 3 місяці тому +2

    I like how this video went. At first i was like hmmm this sound kinda mean girl ish but when u went over how beauty is bith objective and subjective and we all can push our own, i was very pleased

  • @DearStephanieX
    @DearStephanieX 5 місяців тому +8

    Ooooooo you are a cosplay/LARP girly?! 😍 I love my Renaissance faires as well! I’ve definitely gotten a pass for my nerdy hobbies too 🙃. It’s fun when kids/adults ask to take pics with me when I’m in costume 😊

    • @ExoticalsUnited
      @ExoticalsUnited  5 місяців тому +4

      omg yes! i dressed up and went to an event and i felt so cool when people asked to take pics with me! 😍😂

    • @DearStephanieX
      @DearStephanieX 5 місяців тому +2

      @@ExoticalsUnited it’s such a beautiful and fun, feel-good hobby, enjoy! 🥰

  • @TheExoticBrownSkin
    @TheExoticBrownSkin 5 місяців тому +9

    This was so spot on omg

    • @ExoticalsUnited
      @ExoticalsUnited  5 місяців тому +1

      omg i just did a video inspired by you! youre doing a great job! have you ever noticed we all get the same hate comments on our channels? "youre stuck up, you think youre better, youre conceited" 😂

    • @TheExoticBrownSkin
      @TheExoticBrownSkin 5 місяців тому +1

      @@ExoticalsUnited what?! Let me go check it out 🥰 thank you and yes we get met with the same BS!!

  • @oneproudmommy100
    @oneproudmommy100 4 місяці тому +2

    Love this!!!!!!!!

  • @Therealvashneyy
    @Therealvashneyy 3 місяці тому +2

    I love your Chanel ❤

  • @kateemmerson3891
    @kateemmerson3891 5 місяців тому +3

    I love the knowledge and perspective…and empowerment you bring into my life. It’s been powerful seeing my beauty as a value I can leverage. Really revolutionizes how I see myself. I also look back and see how when men have been unkind to me it … it might have been some humbling going on.

    • @niratomas579
      @niratomas579 5 місяців тому +1

      Yesss!!! Knowledge is indeed power!

  • @TaylorMorgan-qr1ti
    @TaylorMorgan-qr1ti 4 місяці тому +2

    omg I screamed when you said " they wanna have a peak inside, the world of a pretty girl" @16:48 , invasion of privacy is like a motif of our shared lived experience from conception. Like literally telling beautiful pregnant women that daughters will steal their beauty, ego. Thank goodness we can get that exoctial tax, the only redemption

    • @ExoticalsUnited
      @ExoticalsUnited  4 місяці тому

      Omg yes we need to make videos about that !

  • @xoxosisihere
    @xoxosisihere 5 місяців тому +2

    My favourite videos on here are your #DarkFemininity videos. Being in this energy will literally save your life.

  • @CousinCourtney
    @CousinCourtney 5 місяців тому +3

    You are gold! You really get IT

  • @MoonLightt57
    @MoonLightt57 5 місяців тому +7

    This channel is gold! Love from India 💗🌸

  • @BlaxicanBeautyTV333
    @BlaxicanBeautyTV333 5 місяців тому +6

    Great video, I have been told I can get ahead in possible career prospects because of my looks, I just didn’t know how to use them. But 10:28 is definitely me 😂

  • @Rosaline1700
    @Rosaline1700 5 місяців тому +12

    I love your dark femininity content EU❤ 20K here you come!!!!

  • @tbdgaming2074
    @tbdgaming2074 Місяць тому +1

    You did an amazing job with this video! 👏🏽

  • @Becomingsplendour
    @Becomingsplendour 5 місяців тому +4

    A new subscriber. Also studied sociology

  • @soullooker
    @soullooker 21 день тому

    The scene from princess diaries:
    “Someone sat one me again today” lol.

  • @tammaraforde4914
    @tammaraforde4914 5 місяців тому +3

    I keep getting random hate from women - for example i literally never go outside looking bad - I saw this girl I see every single Saturday she knows my style her comment was “you look like you rolled out of bed “ 😂😂😂 me never / I was like what “in my head “ I’m dark skin and extremely pretty

  • @angelface333
    @angelface333 5 місяців тому +5

    eek! i’ve been waiting for another dark femininity video 😁💗

    • @ExoticalsUnited
      @ExoticalsUnited  5 місяців тому +3

      More to come! 💅🏽💁🏽‍♀️

  • @TanzytheglowupG
    @TanzytheglowupG 5 місяців тому +5

    I have pretty privilege as a brownskin woman...im told your not dark or light. In the middle.i ve had darkskin men and lightskin women tell me they want their children to look like me? I was shocked .i have this pecan tan if i stay in the sun for 5 hrs i get dark called burnt Bizkit.but when winter comes i get much lighter that people ask me am i bleaching? The beauty in being in the middle makes me feel like i have the best of both worlds just like i feel a mixed race person blk and white. I dont belong with the lights or the darks. I exists and ive been targeted by ugly dark skin women and even some light skins have been ugly towards me mainly because i have more confidence and they want me to be jealous .my cousin is high yellow and shes ugly as all get out and makes fun of my skin and yet i made fun of her napppppy hair. Which i was doing her hair while she talk about me being darkrr yhen her .its crazy i have a darkskin family member she is gorgeous yet hates me for being lighter then her? It just unbelievable... But im loving me now my pecan tan im about to use to my advantage just like my beauty

    • @ExoticalsUnited
      @ExoticalsUnited  5 місяців тому +5

      Yes, you have a fluid skin tone identity which means you get to pick and choose whether you want to be light skinned or dark skinned. And you have every right to use your skin tone however you want, and to navigate through society however you choose. Stay pretty ❤️

    • @TanzytheglowupG
      @TanzytheglowupG 5 місяців тому +1

      @@ExoticalsUnited thank u and I sure will!!! I love your channel keep shinning bright and speaking up when others want to silence you! I'm proud of u being a light in the dark that most people don't get to see!❤️❤️❤️🥰🌟

  • @AmaLoveGoddessTV
    @AmaLoveGoddessTV 5 місяців тому +17

    I’m a counselor and I notice that it’s hard for uabw to connect with me. They choose me based on my profile picture for virtual therapy but they come once and don’t return. Mostly younger, light skin, or other pretty black women come back to me plus other races.

    • @ExoticalsUnited
      @ExoticalsUnited  5 місяців тому +1

      oh wow thats very interesting! i hope you tell a storytime about this!

    • @AmaLoveGoddessTV
      @AmaLoveGoddessTV 5 місяців тому +2

      @@ExoticalsUnited good idea. I had one dark skin lesbian call the office and say that she’ll just wait for them to get another black therapist. She gave an excuse saying that she feels like I didn’t read her notes from the previous counselor. Her previous counselor was an uabw. None of the dark skinned women returned unless they were old.

  • @AFocusedLiving
    @AFocusedLiving 5 місяців тому +1

    Wow great points EU❤

  • @mehanimations2675
    @mehanimations2675 2 місяці тому +3

    Make a discord server please

    • @ExoticalsUnited
      @ExoticalsUnited  2 місяці тому

      I already have one , it’s for patreon members only

  • @TheExoticBrownSkin
    @TheExoticBrownSkin 5 місяців тому +6

    👏🏾💯

  • @Victorygabz
    @Victorygabz 20 днів тому

    You are so smart and I ❤ you 🫶

  • @Afrocentric_Exotical_24
    @Afrocentric_Exotical_24 5 місяців тому +2

    Hey ! That's me 9:14-9:30 ❣️💙🥰

    • @munirayussuf8558
      @munirayussuf8558 5 місяців тому +1

      You are so beautiful 😍

    • @Afrocentric_Exotical_24
      @Afrocentric_Exotical_24 5 місяців тому

      @@munirayussuf8558 Thank you so much 🙂💙

    • @munirayussuf8558
      @munirayussuf8558 5 місяців тому +1

      @@Afrocentric_Exotical_24 you're welcome 🤗

    • @Afrocentric_Exotical_24
      @Afrocentric_Exotical_24 5 місяців тому

      You're so beautiful yourself ❣️😍❤​@@munirayussuf8558

    • @Afrocentric_Exotical_24
      @Afrocentric_Exotical_24 5 місяців тому

      I just realized I got the time stamped wrong because I was using automated voice system LOL I am from 9:14​-9:30. I put 19 minutes by accident @@munirayussuf8558

  • @AmaLoveGoddessTV
    @AmaLoveGoddessTV 5 місяців тому +2

    0:16 I love her hair

  • @ExoticalSauce
    @ExoticalSauce 5 місяців тому

    💕❤💕❤💕❤💕❤💕

  • @conservative1news
    @conservative1news 5 місяців тому +5

    😂Can't spell Exotical without t-o-x-i-c
    You're welcome .

    • @Doriginal-b8y
      @Doriginal-b8y 5 місяців тому +16

      Because we make you so sick, you just have to watch us & hate.
      Get therapy. You're welcome.😂

    • @conservative1news
      @conservative1news 5 місяців тому +4

      @@Doriginal-b8y I will always love watching this channel. This empowers women. #bwe

    • @ExoticalSauce
      @ExoticalSauce 5 місяців тому

      ​@@Doriginal-b8y😂😂😂

    • @Mstorrance
      @Mstorrance 5 місяців тому +1

      Yes and?

  • @jaqiana5612
    @jaqiana5612 5 місяців тому +1

    I absolutely love your content and it has provided soooo much validation for me. Thank you 🫶🏾

  • @DearStephanieX
    @DearStephanieX 5 місяців тому +14

    Damn. You really have the courage to make videos about the things people dare not say out loud. 🥲🩵 Such value! Your content is making me bolder, I'm not dimming my looks anymore and completely re-inventing myself 🙏🏽