I think the major issue is that we only tend to view men as romantic subjects or prospects and nothing else. Like they don’t exist outside of romantic affairs and partnership. What Sheraseven and the “Queen Maker” lady said towards the end are never things I would tell My friend My brother My nephew My grandpa Like men are humans and if we begin to see them as such things will change I can’t imagine saying to my 2year old nephew that he will incapable of ever loving someone. Love to me isn’t only reserved for romance. It’s for your friendships, elders, and community
this comment right here!!!! i agree wholeheartedly with you. the transactional relationships have to stop whether it’s romantic or platonic. thank you for watching! 🤍
Okay but men rarely view women as anything other than something to get their rocks off too and for labor. men use women and then toss them aside when they dont get what they want. majority women has always held men down regardless of their flaws and abuse and now that women rebelling against that and using men too, its a problem. be so fr.
I really felt this! Some people are just genuinely good people an friends it doesn't mean you have to date them. It's ok to have friends of the opposite in a genuine manner
Wait not me being shocked to see myself pop up 😮 I’ve been subscribed since you literally started. I loooooovvveee your content. See, like minded spirits always find each other! This definitely just made my night. Thank you gorgeous 😘♥️
All I’ll say is, all these manosphere/femininity online influencers are simply operating from a place of fear and hurt. My advice for people, both men and women is to go where you’re celebrated and not tolerated. Travel, be around/seek out a positive community of people with similar interests, take time to volunteer and help the less fortunate. True joy comes from elevating the human experience for all and not for oneself. Trust me, I was born in a 3rd world country where they’re is true suffering and I’ve seen things that I’d pray no child would ever have to witness. Gotta avoid being caught up in the gender wars bubble because it’s not real, it’s just entertainment and another way for people to make money like the lady said in this video.
yeah I truly feel like she has an amazing gift when it comes to reaching people, especially women HOWEVER the direction that she leads them in, in my opinion, is toxic.
I think the reason those creators are seen as extreme is that they aren't religious. After all, how can you decenter men when you're worshiping a male god? While I don’t agree with everything they say, I do appreciate that they reveal the true nature of men, rather than the idealized version we often imagine. Just imo! Lovely video 😊❤
unfortunately a lot of people have developed a lifestyle based on a cope, i believe these beliefs came from a pain they once felt and never wanted to feel again and began to minimize people into objects to fulfill their desires/ fantasy
At 19-25, Chaddy Chad lied in order to use her and never text back to run off with some other girl. This is usually the primary issue, women have had their hearts and egos shattered by a trash man who ain’t sh*t and instead of living, learning, & healing in order to move on & never allow that again, they find comfort in the revenge fantasy they desire to take out on some man, ANY man to feel less powerless. It’s incel culture ✨for her✨
As an African woman, who was born and raised in Africa, I can assure The Queen Maker aint too far off. The problem is we are raised in such a deeply patriachal and christian society that what she is saying feels blasphemous. After I started learning more about how African spirituality approached gender and duties, she stopped sounding extreme. African spirituality is women led because we understand the lifegiving power of a woman. How she has access to the spiritual world in way men cannot, not an insult, just a fact. The men of old knew this, and they respected it. Why, because the society was never hierarchical, it was about complementary responsibility. Men held dominion over the physical world, because they are physically stronger. At the same time, the man would move in the physical world with the guidance of the women; in my language we say "Machembere" in Zulu, Xhosa & Ndebele they say "Abo Gogo" which essentially refers to your female ancestors. Now if you're a Christian, following a male God, male Jesus, male Bishops and Priests this will make you very very uncomfortable. Understandably so, but I'd ask that Christian women don't conform to feminism, it contradicts with your holy book to a great extent.
as a black queer woman. it. is. CRAZY. like, the pipeline from bettering and establishing yourself as a woman to basing every part of your identity and life around a rich man feels like a one way street. like im just aggressively fed patriarchal sentiment through other women because why is there a huge focus on depending on a man financially when we are more than able to depend on ourselves? work is a hellscape but genuinely, i dont understand why stuff that leads to money like business skills, education, craft, etc is not emphasised at least more than what seems to be a very dark path. i wouldnt even go this far for a woman or a genderqueer person, let alone a man.
The reason why I can’t mess with sheera is because she is approaching a manipulation with manipulation which will equal disaster in the end for most women. Priscilla is just telling you the manipulative qualities of men and that you should leave them alone.
i wish I never saw sheeras videos :( Me and him are only 16 and I dropped him thinking i was doing the right thing and he was such a sweetheart we were growing together :((
@@tailiesoleilgirl at your age you could do anything. You could find a career field that excites you, you could be improving your skills or hobbies, you could make penpals, you could start an influencer career, you could do sooo much. Take it from me as 25 y/o, chasing boys or even thinking about them will set you back. Yes you can have relationships and aspire to get married but you are worth so much more than your relationship status and you live in a world where anything is possible without or with a man. So I’d encourage you to find a passion or hobby that truly interests you and set a goal to become the best at it. A relationship will eventually find you, ad besides your type will change over time. Like I would’ve never guessed that’d be dating a completely different type of person from what I used to when I was younger 😂😂😂 but yeah sorry for the unwarranted advice I just hate to see young girls get caught up in all of this brain rot “advice” out here. Blessings to you darling 🥰
People have to understand all advice isn’t for everyone. If you have a value system or faith, follow it. A lot of the advice is for people who are already prostituting. If you’re not a prostitute, you better declare that. I listen to these people and they have a little for me, but not all of it is for me.
I love Shera’s content but there are some things she says I don’t agree with especially when she stated women needed to wear wigs to attract a provider man. I just take some of her advice that applies to me and ignore what doesn’t apply to me.
I loved shera some of her advice is useful BUT i am T I R E D of the femininity content omg 😂 ppls views on relationship views are so messed up now because of it
I definitely understand why people think Sheraseven is toxic and I don’t disagree but is what majority of what she telling women wrong? Alot of women don’t like her because she’s telling you how a good amount of men are and they don’t like it.
facts, men use women all the time, every day to get there rocks off and labor. I recently been used by several men and then ghosted. they want women to empathize more with men who dont empathize and rarely respect us. Im tired of being used for nothing in return
I agree with your points when it comes to Shera Seven and Princella. They focus on transaction rather than genuine connection. Though Shera makes good points, it doesn't really come from a genuine place. Rather, a jaded place (as with Princella). And a lot of the women who watch her content are hurt and jaded and decide to just engage in transactional relationship rather than a genuine loving relationship. My favourite feminity creator is Jasmyne Theodora, shes a Christian creator who's content focuses on things like marriage (I hope to get married someday so i do listen to that advice) however she does teach about not being desperate for a man lol, womanhood, women's health, developing yourself and of course Christianity. She's a very genuine creator and I encourage women to check her content out. I do watch others like Lucy Benson - though her content is more women improvement than feminity and I've watched a few Jaz Turner videos too. But Jasmyne is really my go to. This was a pretty good video 🤍
4:30 my mom would always be like “…” if I left the house without gold earrings on, and now as an adult who has to fight the urge to “roll out of the bed” I thank her for that 😆😆
Ayo hold on tim ross is a pastor last i checked what'd i miss😭 girl biblical femininity and worldy femininity are so different. Its kinda sad to see the amount of compassion that people DONT want to have if that makes sense. Like you see people trying to be a "male manipulator" or whtv Proverbs 30:20 An adulterous woman consumes a man, then wipes her mouth and says, "What's wrong with that?" Proverbs 22:14 The mouth of an immoral woman is a trap; those who make the Lord angry will fall into it. Proverbs 31:25-26 She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future. When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness. I see nth wrong with content telling women that they should carry themselves with respect and be careful who they surround themselves with and stuff but it gets out of hand at times. TYSM FOR ANOTHER GREAT VIDEO BOOKIEEE❤
Lol Tim hasn't been a pastor for over a year now. He still preaches though, just not leading a church (no scandal either). It's worth nothing that intro clip with Tim & Princella was them as guests being hosted on Hardly Initiated. Neither were on their own platforms so they weren't necessarily representing the same thing (I didn't watch it though, so who knows). And I agree there's a big difference between taking care of/honoring yourself and manipulating the opposite gender. I think there are a lot of people hurt or afraid to get hurt who are exhausted by the nitty gritty of being a human in relationship with other humans and want what appears to be a guarantee. Putting one on a pedestal and degrading the other isn't it.
i actually only know him as a podcaster 😂 i knew he was a pastor but i just remember him talking about being called to leave that and start his podcast! but yeah girl I agree with you, i feel like the self development part is amazing but once it turns into “manipulate this man” or “all men are horrible and need to be put away” it’s toxic and i don’t like that 😭 thanks for watching bookieeee!! 🩷🩷🩷
I agree with a lot of what you said, but I think it's important to remember that many of these creators started putting out content to help Black women combat the negative messages received about their ability to partner and find love; that's why they focus so much on men. Everywhere you turn someone was talking about how undesirable Black women are, how we are unwanted, etc. I've been around a long time, so many of these creators spawned from the original Black Women's Empowerment movement that started online 20 years ago. Those original creators were about empowering Black women in every area of life, including relationships with men. A lot of the messages these creators put out now are way off and unrealistic.
I think Shera is deeply understood by the collective it’s okay to disagree with her but we cannot deny her impact on the community. She is teaching hypergamy which is not for everyone but beneficial to some who want that! But I do think she deserves criticism.
The bible clearly states that women should respect their husbands and men should love their wives. The truth is us women hold more power and these women are just teaching us to not compromise, plus Shera is a financial advisor not a relationship guru.😅
I think the major issue is that we only tend to view men as romantic subjects or prospects and nothing else. Like they don’t exist outside of romantic affairs and partnership.
What Sheraseven and the “Queen Maker” lady said towards the end are never things I would tell
My friend
My brother
My nephew
My grandpa
Like men are humans and if we begin to see them as such things will change
I can’t imagine saying to my 2year old nephew that he will incapable of ever loving someone.
Love to me isn’t only reserved for romance.
It’s for your friendships, elders, and community
this comment right here!!!! i agree wholeheartedly with you. the transactional relationships have to stop whether it’s romantic or platonic. thank you for watching! 🤍
Great perspective!
Okay but men rarely view women as anything other than something to get their rocks off too and for labor. men use women and then toss them aside when they dont get what they want. majority women has always held men down regardless of their flaws and abuse and now that women rebelling against that and using men too, its a problem. be so fr.
I really felt this! Some people are just genuinely good people an friends it doesn't mean you have to date them. It's ok to have friends of the opposite in a genuine manner
Wait not me being shocked to see myself pop up 😮 I’ve been subscribed since you literally started. I loooooovvveee your content. See, like minded spirits always find each other! This definitely just made my night. Thank you gorgeous 😘♥️
the way my jaw just hit the floor 😭 wow thank you beautiful! 🩷🩷 I love your content so much!
@@sonya.danielleboth our mouths dropped lol you are so welcome gorgeous ❤❤
Love when women show love to each other 🥰🥰😍
All I’ll say is, all these manosphere/femininity online influencers are simply operating from a place of fear and hurt. My advice for people, both men and women is to go where you’re celebrated and not tolerated. Travel, be around/seek out a positive community of people with similar interests, take time to volunteer and help the less fortunate. True joy comes from elevating the human experience for all and not for oneself. Trust me, I was born in a 3rd world country where they’re is true suffering and I’ve seen things that I’d pray no child would ever have to witness. Gotta avoid being caught up in the gender wars bubble because it’s not real, it’s just entertainment and another way for people to make money like the lady said in this video.
We watch the same people when it comes to leveling up. I LOVE those two ladies. Straight, to the point, getting goals accomplished!!
Shera seven says herself she's a financial coach, not a feminine energy coach. 😅
Sheera’s content has never sat well with me tbh, it’s a bit sad when you really think about how pessimistic it is
very
yeah I truly feel like she has an amazing gift when it comes to reaching people, especially women HOWEVER the direction that she leads them in, in my opinion, is toxic.
She's a Pisces LMFAO . Pisces are pessimistic
I think the reason those creators are seen as extreme is that they aren't religious. After all, how can you decenter men when you're worshiping a male god? While I don’t agree with everything they say, I do appreciate that they reveal the true nature of men, rather than the idealized version we often imagine. Just imo! Lovely video 😊❤
unfortunately a lot of people have developed a lifestyle based on a cope, i believe these beliefs came from a pain they once felt and never wanted to feel again and began to minimize people into objects to fulfill their desires/ fantasy
At 19-25, Chaddy Chad lied in order to use her and never text back to run off with some other girl. This is usually the primary issue, women have had their hearts and egos shattered by a trash man who ain’t sh*t and instead of living, learning, & healing in order to move on & never allow that again, they find comfort in the revenge fantasy they desire to take out on some man, ANY man to feel less powerless.
It’s incel culture ✨for her✨
praying the women who follow those women find Christ and learn their true identity in Christ!
amen!
Im good thanks, stopped living a male centered life, went back to the teachings of my ancestors and I've found my true identity
@@theresamatambo9196I mean, that’s what Christ would’ve wanted anyway
How bout we love ourselves first and worry about loving others last. LOVE yourself dammit! 😂😂😂
balance friend 😂 but this made me chuckle
The last sentence 💀
As an African woman, who was born and raised in Africa, I can assure The Queen Maker aint too far off. The problem is we are raised in such a deeply patriachal and christian society that what she is saying feels blasphemous. After I started learning more about how African spirituality approached gender and duties, she stopped sounding extreme. African spirituality is women led because we understand the lifegiving power of a woman. How she has access to the spiritual world in way men cannot, not an insult, just a fact. The men of old knew this, and they respected it. Why, because the society was never hierarchical, it was about complementary responsibility. Men held dominion over the physical world, because they are physically stronger. At the same time, the man would move in the physical world with the guidance of the women; in my language we say "Machembere" in Zulu, Xhosa & Ndebele they say "Abo Gogo" which essentially refers to your female ancestors. Now if you're a Christian, following a male God, male Jesus, male Bishops and Priests this will make you very very uncomfortable. Understandably so, but I'd ask that Christian women don't conform to feminism, it contradicts with your holy book to a great extent.
Shera seven and Princella are not perfect but they both have a point.
as a black queer woman. it. is. CRAZY. like, the pipeline from bettering and establishing yourself as a woman to basing every part of your identity and life around a rich man feels like a one way street. like im just aggressively fed patriarchal sentiment through other women because why is there a huge focus on depending on a man financially when we are more than able to depend on ourselves? work is a hellscape but genuinely, i dont understand why stuff that leads to money like business skills, education, craft, etc is not emphasised at least more than what seems to be a very dark path. i wouldnt even go this far for a woman or a genderqueer person, let alone a man.
The reason why I can’t mess with sheera is because she is approaching a manipulation with manipulation which will equal disaster in the end for most women. Priscilla is just telling you the manipulative qualities of men and that you should leave them alone.
i wish I never saw sheeras videos :( Me and him are only 16 and I dropped him thinking i was doing the right thing and he was such a sweetheart we were growing together :((
You’re too young to be watching her. Get offline and be a teenager. Her advice doesn’t apply to your age group.
@@xoxo.jnikole be a teenager and do what? 😭
@@tailiesoleilgo hangout with your friends, go to the movies, play sports, etc. But as a teenager, you should absolutely not be listening to Shera.
Thank you for your honesty bc I have been thinking a lot abt how this must affect young people trying to navigate their first relationships
@@tailiesoleilgirl at your age you could do anything. You could find a career field that excites you, you could be improving your skills or hobbies, you could make penpals, you could start an influencer career, you could do sooo much. Take it from me as 25 y/o, chasing boys or even thinking about them will set you back. Yes you can have relationships and aspire to get married but you are worth so much more than your relationship status and you live in a world where anything is possible without or with a man. So I’d encourage you to find a passion or hobby that truly interests you and set a goal to become the best at it. A relationship will eventually find you, ad besides your type will change over time. Like I would’ve never guessed that’d be dating a completely different type of person from what I used to when I was younger 😂😂😂 but yeah sorry for the unwarranted advice I just hate to see young girls get caught up in all of this brain rot “advice” out here. Blessings to you darling 🥰
People have to understand all advice isn’t for everyone. If you have a value system or faith, follow it. A lot of the advice is for people who are already prostituting. If you’re not a prostitute, you better declare that. I listen to these people and they have a little for me, but not all of it is for me.
I love Shera’s content but there are some things she says I don’t agree with especially when she stated women needed to wear wigs to attract a provider man. I just take some of her advice that applies to me and ignore what doesn’t apply to me.
This was such a good take def got a new subscriber 🫶🏾
thank you! 🫶🏽🫶🏽🫶🏽
I loved shera some of her advice is useful BUT i am T I R E D of the femininity content omg 😂 ppls views on relationship views are so messed up now because of it
You already got a like from me just for the title.
I definitely understand why people think Sheraseven is toxic and I don’t disagree but is what majority of what she telling women wrong? Alot of women don’t like her because she’s telling you how a good amount of men are and they don’t like it.
facts, men use women all the time, every day to get there rocks off and labor. I recently been used by several men and then ghosted. they want women to empathize more with men who dont empathize and rarely respect us. Im tired of being used for nothing in return
I agree with your points when it comes to Shera Seven and Princella. They focus on transaction rather than genuine connection. Though Shera makes good points, it doesn't really come from a genuine place. Rather, a jaded place (as with Princella). And a lot of the women who watch her content are hurt and jaded and decide to just engage in transactional relationship rather than a genuine loving relationship. My favourite feminity creator is Jasmyne Theodora, shes a Christian creator who's content focuses on things like marriage (I hope to get married someday so i do listen to that advice) however she does teach about not being desperate for a man lol, womanhood, women's health, developing yourself and of course Christianity. She's a very genuine creator and I encourage women to check her content out. I do watch others like Lucy Benson - though her content is more women improvement than feminity and I've watched a few Jaz Turner videos too. But Jasmyne is really my go to. This was a pretty good video 🤍
4:30 my mom would always be like “…” if I left the house without gold earrings on, and now as an adult who has to fight the urge to “roll out of the bed” I thank her for that 😆😆
NO SAME!!!! my mom wouldn’t allow me to leave the house any kind of way 😂 and now i just can’t snap out of it
@@sonya.danielleyes!😆😆
Ayo hold on tim ross is a pastor last i checked what'd i miss😭 girl biblical femininity and worldy femininity are so different. Its kinda sad to see the amount of compassion that people DONT want to have if that makes sense. Like you see people trying to be a "male manipulator" or whtv
Proverbs 30:20 An adulterous woman consumes a man, then wipes her mouth and says, "What's wrong with that?"
Proverbs 22:14 The mouth of an immoral woman is a trap; those who make the Lord angry will fall into it.
Proverbs 31:25-26 She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future. When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness.
I see nth wrong with content telling women that they should carry themselves with respect and be careful who they surround themselves with and stuff but it gets out of hand at times. TYSM FOR ANOTHER GREAT VIDEO BOOKIEEE❤
Lol Tim hasn't been a pastor for over a year now. He still preaches though, just not leading a church (no scandal either). It's worth nothing that intro clip with Tim & Princella was them as guests being hosted on Hardly Initiated. Neither were on their own platforms so they weren't necessarily representing the same thing (I didn't watch it though, so who knows).
And I agree there's a big difference between taking care of/honoring yourself and manipulating the opposite gender. I think there are a lot of people hurt or afraid to get hurt who are exhausted by the nitty gritty of being a human in relationship with other humans and want what appears to be a guarantee. Putting one on a pedestal and degrading the other isn't it.
i actually only know him as a podcaster 😂 i knew he was a pastor but i just remember him talking about being called to leave that and start his podcast! but yeah girl I agree with you, i feel like the self development part is amazing but once it turns into “manipulate this man” or “all men are horrible and need to be put away” it’s toxic and i don’t like that 😭 thanks for watching bookieeee!! 🩷🩷🩷
I agree with a lot of what you said, but I think it's important to remember that many of these creators started putting out content to help Black women combat the negative messages received about their ability to partner and find love; that's why they focus so much on men. Everywhere you turn someone was talking about how undesirable Black women are, how we are unwanted, etc. I've been around a long time, so many of these creators spawned from the original Black Women's Empowerment movement that started online 20 years ago. Those original creators were about empowering Black women in every area of life, including relationships with men. A lot of the messages these creators put out now are way off and unrealistic.
I think Shera is deeply understood by the collective it’s okay to disagree with her but we cannot deny her impact on the community. She is teaching hypergamy which is not for everyone but beneficial to some who want that! But I do think she deserves criticism.
Her advice does not work. She’s pandering to women and making money off of them. Jezebel.
The problem is though her content is being viewed by impressionable teenagers and hurt women that think they want hypergamy
The bible clearly states that women should respect their husbands and men should love their wives. The truth is us women hold more power and these women are just teaching us to not compromise, plus Shera is a financial advisor not a relationship guru.😅