Mom thinks her hips are too big. She's just not coming out and saying it. Instead it's all about not "showing" them instead of saying "people are going to agree with me and say you're fat." Which daughter clearly is not, and why Monty is pointing out her figure is actually model-perfect. But mom is old-school 80's mom raised on heroin-chic models and low-fat diets and thinks any bit of hips is "fat".
99% of the time people that bodyshame others have their own insecurities that they’re struggling with and project it onto the people they bodyshame. Its clear that the mother is doing so..
my mom is the same with my hips. my 3 sisters and mom have small hips but bigger busts. I have no boobs and giant hips and my whole life have been told to feel insecure about them. I ain't. 😂 I love my hips and always have 😂 I feel like this bride is the same way. she adores her own hips. it's the mom that is insecure about them. which I never understood.
@@LifeOfLily2018 i have very much a rectangle body build(shoulders, waist, hips are similar measurements). I wish I had larger hips! They're beautiful!!
@@camb1821 my friend just introduced me to corsets. I just had a baby so I haven't started yet but I already bought one. If you want a smaller waist and more hourglass figure you should try it! I got my corset from Mystic City Corsets
For me here's the problem: the dress really doesn't fit because it's pulling and showing a pot belly. You can see they don't quite get the zipper up in the back on the first dress. So that's problematic because you really don't know what the dress is going to look like with a correct fit and/or alterations. As far as the dress goes, I don't think it's excessively revealing. I think it doesn't fit well enough to know what it is actually going to look like. The second problem is who is paying for the dress? The owner and staff is always putting the emphasis on what the bride wants. If the bride wants it that badly, then she needs to foot the bill.
@@susantescione8007 Well, if someone offers to pay for your dress it should be given as a gift. It should not be the grounds for controlling your options.
@@imamirrorballxo My relatives would like to know what color is the sky in your world? You mean there are actually financial gifts without a myriad of conditions attached?
I love that Monty is building up the bride in front of Mom. Telling her how gorgeous she is and how perfect her figure is. ❤ I hope that bride got far, far away from her toxic mother.
i have to agree, it goes beyond a mom just wanting what she wants, this is a toxic situation, no doubt! This is hurtful and damaging, period and it pisses me off.
@@dvml45 I also have to agree and have always loved Monty for this. He's always on the bride side. Okay the mom hated mermaid dresses - but I was thinking mom this isn't your dress. She looked amazing in all the dresses!
I hope her toxic mother is banned from the wedding ceremony and the wedding reception. She may make remarks on the bodies of the bridesmaids. I agree Monty is the best.
It's true, my mother was horribly jealous of me when I hit puberty and started getting all kinds of unwanted attention. She accused me of flaunting myself at 12 years old, to make me feel ashamed and hide myself. It scarred me for life. It's so damaging to a young girl's psyche and self-esteem to have a mother who is jealous. It's the most disgusting feeling.
@@noriginal2546 Thank you so much, you are so kind. Yes, her mother was and is a sadistic psychopath, I just did not know this as a kid, and would not have had the ability to process all of her pain as well as mine. When I got older and heard all the stories, met my grandmother, I understood and felt great sadness and compassion for my mom, but the damage was done. I try to find ways of healing and forgiveness, it's just very hard when the abuse is ongoing.
I am so sorry that you had to go through that with your mom. My mom is doing something similar and it really hurts me when she says how I'm going to be a fat and ugly girl when I move out because she can't regulate what I eat once I leave. I understand what you went through
@@sarahtaylor6081 That is horrible and it's a complete lie.. her always trying to control what you eat is a sign of narcissistic personality disorder.. my mom did the same thing. This is an insidious and extremely toxic form of abuse. What she is really doing is trying to make you feel you can;t survive without her, because she is the one who is terrified of losing you. It's a type of brainwashing that they do so that you don't believe in yourself.. if she can make you feel small and worthless, then she can keep you all to herself so that she doesn't feel small and worthless. The result is called learned helplessness.. they control everything you do, don't allow you to have boundaries and make your own decisions, so you don't actually believe you can do anything on your own.. but you know you can.. Once you move out, and you MUST MOVE OUT to save your life, you will learn to regulate your eating and everything else that she has been controlling for your whole life. I would recommend looking up Melanie Tonia Evans, Michele Lee Nieves, Lisa A. Romano, Also Daughters of Narcissist Mothers. These are people who really helped me understand my mother's disorder and how I could finally learn to heal myself from the abuse. It's an ongoing battle, it has taken me a really long time. I wish you all the love and independence you deserve!
"I know how you feel about your body". How she feels about it or how you've made her feel? There's a difference. She looked stunning in all of the dresses.
Yeah I got gas lighting vibes when she said that. Clearly her daughter wanted to show off her body and wasn't ashamed of it but the way her mom said that she knows how she feels about her body almost made it seem like mom was trying to bring back up old insecurities to make the daughter not like the dress
Oh yeah - I know the song... (totally LOVE that movie too! Finally the Disney princess that resonates with me...!!) Sort of had ocassion to have that very tune buzz around in my head a number of times since hearing it
@@pamscruggs2660 God bless you, dear. Any proper decent mother would. Do not quite get what the deal is with this mother toward her daughter, unless maybe just to be controlling...??
My Mom had bought my wedding dress that she had not seen since we live in different states. All that she wanted to know was if I loved the wedding dress. I had said yes and she said that is all she had ever wanted to hear because if I love the dress then she would as well. When she had saw my wedding dress, she was smiling with tears of joy and love. I had gotten beautiful expensive wedding dress that had huge lowered price off sale rack. It was very first wedding dress that I had tried on and love instantly. I was untraditional with wedding dress shopping by doing it with my hubby of over 28 years now. We had fallen in love with same wedding dress that we had saw separately.
This reminds me how my mother totally controlled every aspect of my wedding because "it was her money". If I had my own money I would have paid for it myself. I can never go back and change it and it's because of her that I will never have positive memories of my wedding. These mother's need to realize the damage they are causing.
True, she is really gorgeous, her figure is amazing and while the mom called herself conservative, the bride's boobs were pretty out there too in every dress and the mom didnt say a word about it. In the end it was all about the mom's insecurities and never about not showing the body.
"You wouldn't hide the mona lisa smile would you?" Awwww .... monte comparing her hips in that dress to fine art after her mom tore her down was the absolute sweetest. 😍
Of course you're going to have hips when you have a small waist! She's a perfect hourglass. When did that become a bad thing? Love Monty for hyping her up.
I don’t think mom was jealous. If she was jealous, she would have been talking about her wedding and make it about herself. I think mom really just wanted it to go her way so she was manipulating her daughter to feel insecure of her body and get her to not want to show it off in a mermaid and instead go for a ball gown or something. But she failed. Her daughter knows what she wants. Mom needs to respect her daughter’s choices.
Literally heartbreaking to watch the controlling, emotionally abusive mother. What a beautiful daughter with a lovely feminine form. I hope she learns how to make boundaries for herself. I loved her in the first dress. She was glowing!
Exactly, not to mention the fact that her daughter is an independent adult fully capable of making the best decision for herself, because SHE is getting married!!!
I'm sure the mom wouldn't have let her own mum decide what she was going to wear for her wedding. Yet forgets now that she is a mum that it's her daughter's dress and she should wear what she likes🤦♀️
I mean, if the fact that the mom wore an all white outfit to her daughter's bridal appointment wasn't a huge indicator that she's jealous, I don't know what is.
I could just weep for these brides. My daughters were told right from the start, I had my wedding exactly the way I wanted it, and now you do your wedding they way you want, and then we just cheered them on. I hope each of these brides breaks the toxic mother daughter relationship with their daughters.
This mother is gaslighting her own daughter; she's abusive. How sad is this. This bride is beautiful, and she looks wonderful. Mom needs to back off. I'm proud this bride stood up for herself. If she doesn't continue, her mom is going to dictate the rest of her life. She'll undermine all her decisions.
To me the worst part was when she had that last dress on her mom went "I love the way it accents her hips" honey no that dress hides those hips, the other ones showed and accented her hips
If you're offering to buy your daughter's wedding dress, let her pick what she wants. I bought my daughter's gown, and I let her pick what she wanted. We did have a price point, but that was it.
I totally agree! The price point is understandable if the mothers paying but every else should be the daughters choice! Also you sound like a very nice mother!
I mean I kinda agree with her.I think that on your wedding day you shouldn't go out of you'r comfort zone becuase you could love it at the fitting and horrible at the wedding.So I believe that you should stick to what you like
Just the fact that she's so young and getting married tells me they're probably really traditional and religouse, I come from a similar back ground, and am very happy I didn't have arguments with my mom about the dress I chose- but I think she looked wonderful in both dresses!
Me too. I don't often gasp at these dresses but her figure is the perfect hourglass, a rare thing. The first dresses showed that. If her mother puts her nonexistent "flaws" down like this in public, what does she do in private?!
100% she just lost heart after the mother's controlling behaviour knocked the self esteem right out of her. So sad i hope she finds the dress of dreams and mum doesn't see it until the big day
The amount of body shaming from mothers to daughters is disgusting. My mother started calling me fat when I was 12. Mind you... I was 5'2" and 115 lbs. This mother was jealous and so was mine. Gross. Disgusting. This bride deserved more
I'm sorry that you had to experience that - especially from your own mother. I hope that you've been able to heal from her hurtful words, cut out the toxicity, and build yourself a happy life 💕 Your beauty comes through in the empathy and compassion of your comment. Don't let anyone put you down again - & certainly don't give jealous bullies the power over you that they crave. Wishing you good health and happiness x
@@brookemcb You sound young (no offence 💕), so please let me give you a big piece of advice that I wish someone had given me when I was younger... Only take advice on what is big or small from health professionals. That's because we're all built differently, with different fat and muscle ratios, so height and weight is an awful way to tell if someone is healthy - it's more complicated than that. For example, muscle is heavier than fat, so if you just judged on height and weight, most Olympic athletes would be technically obese, or even morbidly obese, when they're some of the healthiest and fittest people on the planet. You said you're not 5' yet, which is why I'm guessing you're young. When you're growing you need lots of extra energy, vitamins and minerals in order to grow healthily. So please don't even consider a diet without the advice of a doctor or dietician. If you want to be careful, just eat healthily - a bit of everything, lots of fruit and veg, and limited fast food/sugary snacks. Don't compare yourself to others. You are you - your body is unique and so long as you are healthy, numbers like height and weight are not important. Comparing yourself to others, on and off line, from such an early age can lead to eating disorders and really knock your confidence completely unnecessarily. It really isn't healthy. Keep fit and active, eat well, speak to your doctor if you're worried, and you will be the healthiest, best shape possible 💖 Keep smiling x
@@brookemcb Im not much older than you so I don’t know if my advice will be right or help lol but if I were you I would just not worry about it until I’m older and it actually become a problem, you aren’t that heavy anyway, and if you are actually worried you can join a simple school sport, idk that helped me but I know that sports aren’t for everyone
When the bride walked out in the third dress I could tell she didn't love it. Her expression was much brighter and happier in the first 2 dresses. She was definitely confident in how she looks but the mother kept gaslighting her.
My mom acts the same. I have a pretty pear shape and my mom always tells me to not show my curves at all like its a bad thing. Like when I wear something tighter my mother tells me how bad I look and that I shouldnt show my curves.
That mom is JEALOUS of her daughter. She is projecting HER insecurities onto her. She KNOWS her daughter has a great figure and she doesn't like that. I absolute hate mother's like this. Should have just left her at home.
You are spot on there. I couldn't work as a consultant and do what they do I wouldn't be able to stay quiet when narcissistic mom's steam roll their daughters.
it's as if the mom isn't proud of her daughter's beauty which is sooooo annoying :/ Edit: y'all are right, her mom is jealous as heckk. It's just so irritating bc she shouldn't be trying to take anything away from her own daughter
I would KILL to have this girl's figure! That second dress she tried on was absolutely stunning on her body. Her mother should feel ashamed of herself for not supporting her daughter!!
@BlouBear77 "I know how you feel about your body" saying she wants her daughter to hide her hips, when possibly for once the bride loves her hips and wants to show off her (PERFECT) figure? THAT'S odd. It's worse than odd. I see nothing wrong with Jenn's comment. EDIT to clarify: it's hard to know in what way the mother meant her statement, but one of the ways it could be taken was "I know you're insecure about your body so you should hide it", as if to remind her daughter that she was insecure during her moment of self-love. I'm sure it could've been meant in the "I know how much you love your body, but-" as well. We'll never know, but the point is this mom is not being supportive. If she knows how much her daughter loves her body (unlike hundreds of daughters who get ED's because of their moms), then she should be supportive!
It kills me that the person who is supposed to love her the most is front and center at bringing her down. This girl is gorgeous and her figure is amazing. Shame on her mom.
@@isobelmcarthur6761 : I agree. And, that comment about, " I know how you feel about your body..' suggested weight insecurities.. Mom should simply re-enforce her sense of beauty. You made this child!! She is gorgeous. Be proud.
I paid for my daughter's dress, NO STRINGS ATTACHED, and it was just the 2 of us at the appointment. When she chose her dress, I cried happy tears. I wanted what SHE wanted! I was just so happy to be there with her as she tried dresses on. She could have decided on a burlap bag - if she loved it, I loved it for her❤ I am very proud to be her mom.
honestly the a-line 'hiding her hips' did nothing for her, made her look blah. the other dresses showed off her amazing hourglass figure and she looked bangin
I offered to pay for my daughter's wedding dress when she got married two years ago. We set a reasonable budget and that's where my involvement ended. I didn't offer her the money so I could pull her strings to get what I wanted. I offered her the money because I genuinely love her and wanted to help her realize her dreams. I watched her try on dozens of dresses and I gave my opinion (gently) when asked. In the end, she bought exactly the dress she wanted and she looked beautiful. Would I have picked a different one? Not sure...but it doesn't matter. It wasn't my wedding and my support didn't come with strings attached. Mommas need to back off. You had your day. Your daughter's day is not yours.
Hello wonderful mum! The world needs more mums like you in it! I told my mum that when my sister gets married, I'd be a supportive big sister in helping her pick out her dress. I know what I want, but it's not MY wedding. It's my sister's , and what she wants is what matters!
Well done!👏👏👏 You're a great mum for doing that for your daughter. I hope she realised how wonderful you are.❤️❤️ I'm a mum to four beautiful children❤️❤️❤️❤️, one of whom is my angel girl. I hope I'm as supportive of her and her wedding as you were of your daughter's. God's blessings to all xx
EDIT: This comment is over 2 years old and no longer fits my current views. Although I believe this mom behaves like a narcissist based on my life experiences, I do not believe it is acceptable or appropriate to diagnose people you don't know. But I'll be leaving this comment up as both a learning experience and place for conversation Thank you 💗 ~~~~~~~~~~~~ That mom is an absolute narcissist The way she's trying to break down her daughter's confidence and doesn't want her to love, show off or accept her body is disgusting The defeat on her face was heartbreaking
Oh, absolutely. It was disgusting to watch her tear her daughter down like that. Just awful. This girl looks gorgeous in those mermaid dresses, they are literally made for her body.
That is one disgusting Mother. It must have been very difficult growing up the fact that you did not meet your Mothers standards for beauty. Such a beautiful young woman. My heart goes out to her. Someone please tell that Mother to shut it.
What saddens me the most is that she's STILL looking for her mom's approval. When you got a toxic parent like this, you gotta learn how to ignore them and their degrading opinions. Easier said than done though...
Paying for the dress in just a means to manipulate. Better to get married in jeans as long as you're happy. Better still would be to elope because if she's involved in the rest of the wedding, it'll be the same struggle.
Women like her mom are the reason daughters have body confidence issues! It’s so sad. Her daughter has literally a beautiful curvy figure and what a lot of women want and she’s trying to make her feel like she should dislike her own body. So crazy how some people can’t look at their issues. Her daughter is gorgeous!
Mom is absolutely jealous of her daughter. The bride-to-be had a magnificent figure, and looked amazing in *all* the dresses. Shame on that awful mother.
mama's just jealous she looks "fat" (in her own opinion, I'm sure, from her comments about hiding what you don't want to see) and is projecting insecurities onto her daughter
Oh is that what she was doing?? Dear God, I couldnt quite figure it out... Was a bit confused actually, but I see all the comments saying she the mother is projecting her insecurities, & now it makes sense - she is overly critical. I thought the daughter seemed confident with her shape so it didnt register why the mother would act like that, as though it was indecent or something, to show her figure
I think her mom doesn't like mermaid dresses because she knows her daughter has the hips and the figure; she is just jealous and hates to admit that she is not young anymore. The brides body is amazing!!
My jaw dropped when she put on that first dress. She looked like a superstar. Edit: the second was amazing too! This girl has a stunning figure, she could wear a sack cloth and it would look great Edit 2: that girl is a bomb shell and you're trying to make her over into a girl next door pretty princess bride? Give her the mermaid!! She was a Hollywood starlet in a past life. I dont think I've ever been this emotionally invested before.
Wow. When the camera cut to the mom when they were complimenting her daughter... That was very telling; her expression, that is. She doesn't want her daughter to be independent, much less herself. Toxic.
I disagree. Only skinny girls look good in a mermaid because it gives them somewhat of a butt. But if you already have a booty, Aline is perfect. It shows off a slim waist and you don't look like you're all butt.
Amen to that, she needs standing up to, seemed like a controlling critical insecure cow of a mother, projecting her securities (or something??) on the poor girl & ruining her happy experience
Me, too. But I also have a narcissistic mother, so I understand what this bride was dealing with as well. It broke my heart, because I know that pain of only trying to make my mom proud, but never getting there. This bride looked FANTASTIC in the mermaid style dresses. She was beaming in the second one. I hope she got what she wanted in the end.
I guess just, don't make comments on their body. My mom has helped the decline of my self esteem. I'm not gonna blame it all on her, but a lot of my insecurities came from things she has said. Stuff about my butt, the shape of my body, how she wishes she had my body, etc. Even if it is a positive comment, or ment to be one, it can still really hurt.
Horrible insult, I don't know what rock you crawled out of, but throwback haircuts are very popular right now, and the 80s are IN. Shags everywhere. Comment on her personality, not her looks.
that comment the mom made about "knowing how her daughter feels about her body better than anyone" really set me off, she's so jealous that she's trying to manipulate her daughter's self-esteem. what a terrible mother, clearly projecting her own insecurities on her daughter.
Seems like momma has some insecurities that she is passing onto her daughter. Grams is right show 'em while you got' em. I bet Brides future husband loves those hips and makes her feel great about them
Similar for me. It taught me to only bring people who I know will be positive & kind, and to never let anyone pay a cent for something I don’t want their opinion on.
If I ever do get married I would want to bring my sister but than my mom is going to get all butt hurt and I don’t need the headache. We’d either have to lie and my sister would eventually spill the beans or else no one comes. I’m probably opting for the no one option. It’s a shame, I would like to bring my sister. My mom won’t come out and say things but she’ll make the faces and become icy. No thank you. She would come out and say cruel things to my sister though. She’s mean to both of us but worse to my sister. So she can’t come for the bridesmaids dresses either!
I literally hate how no one seems to ever stick up for these brides. She is not there to try on dresses for anybody but herself. If my mom was body shaming me in front of not only strangers, but my whole family I would uninvite her to my wedding. I would rather get married in a pair of jeans and a tank top then let my mother control my wedding day. Awful terrible mother. Kudos to the grandma for not body shaming her.
This show should be an advertisement for, “Girls, get educated, make your own money and don’t be reliant on anyone so you can do what you want”. I quit taking money from my parents right out of high school. Sorry mama!! I do what I want!!
Agreed. When you have financial freedom, nobody can take your choice away with what you want to do with it. I bought my own house and told my mom I was repainting one of the bedrooms a dark blue for extra mood. She said she doesn’t like that and I shouldn’t do it. 😂 Okay, mom. Love ya but I can’t hear your over the sound of my paint sprayer.
I still remember when I got my first pay and bought my first shampoo/conditioner ever. My mother saw them as a waste when the kitchen coconut soap would clean hair just fine. I quit taking her money way before my first job though. Only the essentials (eating).
She just took away that smile her daughter had on her face by obsessing over her hips. She looked stunning in the first 2 dresses! It broke my heart to see her disappointed:(
Speaking from the big hip guild, when you’re curvy like this a lot of people automatically snap that you’re “showing off your body” when in reality this is just how everything fits for us. Everything hugs the waist and the hips!
People who get mad and claim that you are showing off your body are just mad because they don't have the same shape you have. They're mad because they are jealous!
This. EVERYTHING hugs my hips, because my hips are two sizes bigger than the rest of me and clothes off the rack just aren't made for that. Don't blame us for the fact that fast fashion is only designed for a very specific body type.
Count me in as being "all about that bass!" 😁 Even when my mom was slender in the waist back when she married my dad, she had what she called "the Hoover hips," and I have em too. (Hoover was my maternal great-grandmother's married name.) We both also inherited a tendency towards a full bust (C cup and up). So neither of us have been able to work out why "twig" became the standard for women, when many of us, genetically, just won't ever fit that "norm."
@@agnes15101968 Well, I haven't had many partners, out of choice. I'm particular. But it's served me well, because my bf, my soul mate, is defo crazy about my figure. Yeah, I've got a bit of weight I want to get rid of for the sake of health, but he thinks I'm beautiful anyway. He's the only man who has truly called me beautiful. That's even his favorite pet name for me. But he also loves the inner me as it is. I am truly blessed. 😍😍
Wow the mother is a control freak! Not to also mention that it's not her wedding but her daughter's! Her daughter who is an adult and getting married still does not stop this mother from treating her daughter like a child, belittling her and suffocating all form of independence that this beautiful bride has.
This mom is obsessed with her daughter’s hips. It’s weird and sad. She’s made her feel self conscious in her amazing body.
Mom thinks her hips are too big. She's just not coming out and saying it. Instead it's all about not "showing" them instead of saying "people are going to agree with me and say you're fat." Which daughter clearly is not, and why Monty is pointing out her figure is actually model-perfect. But mom is old-school 80's mom raised on heroin-chic models and low-fat diets and thinks any bit of hips is "fat".
99% of the time people that bodyshame others have their own insecurities that they’re struggling with and project it onto the people they bodyshame. Its clear that the mother is doing so..
my mom is the same with my hips. my 3 sisters and mom have small hips but bigger busts. I have no boobs and giant hips and my whole life have been told to feel insecure about them. I ain't. 😂 I love my hips and always have 😂 I feel like this bride is the same way. she adores her own hips. it's the mom that is insecure about them. which I never understood.
@@LifeOfLily2018 i have very much a rectangle body build(shoulders, waist, hips are similar measurements). I wish I had larger hips! They're beautiful!!
@@camb1821 my friend just introduced me to corsets. I just had a baby so I haven't started yet but I already bought one. If you want a smaller waist and more hourglass figure you should try it! I got my corset from Mystic City Corsets
She's the kind of mom who could cause self esteem and body issues.
You described my mother in one sentence. Damn.
Yes- absolutely. It was done to me growing up and I never got over it.
For me here's the problem: the dress really doesn't fit because it's pulling and showing a pot belly. You can see they don't quite get the zipper up in the back on the first dress. So that's problematic because you really don't know what the dress is going to look like with a correct fit and/or alterations. As far as the dress goes, I don't think it's excessively revealing. I think it doesn't fit well enough to know what it is actually going to look like. The second problem is who is paying for the dress? The owner and staff is always putting the emphasis on what the bride wants. If the bride wants it that badly, then she needs to foot the bill.
@@susantescione8007 Well, if someone offers to pay for your dress it should be given as a gift. It should not be the grounds for controlling your options.
@@imamirrorballxo My relatives would like to know what color is the sky in your world? You mean there are actually financial gifts without a myriad of conditions attached?
The grandma is being a better mother figure to her than her actual mother
My grandma raised me while my mom ran away. Some grandparents really deserve a heroes medal I swear.
I love that Monty is building up the bride in front of Mom. Telling her how gorgeous she is and how perfect her figure is. ❤
I hope that bride got far, far away from her toxic mother.
i have to agree, it goes beyond a mom just wanting what she wants, this is a toxic situation, no doubt! This is hurtful and damaging, period and it pisses me off.
@@dvml45 I also have to agree and have always loved Monty for this. He's always on the bride side. Okay the mom hated mermaid dresses - but I was thinking mom this isn't your dress. She looked amazing in all the dresses!
I hope her toxic mother is banned from the wedding ceremony and the wedding reception. She may make remarks on the bodies of the bridesmaids. I agree Monty is the best.
Right? This Mother is how eating disorders are born.
That mother is just jealous as hell of her daughter's figure. So gross.
It's true, my mother was horribly jealous of me when I hit puberty and started getting all kinds of unwanted attention. She accused me of flaunting myself at 12 years old, to make me feel ashamed and hide myself. It scarred me for life. It's so damaging to a young girl's psyche and self-esteem to have a mother who is jealous. It's the most disgusting feeling.
@@Quantum36911 that is so sad. She must have been badly mistreated as a child. Wishing you healing in your heart and soul.
@@noriginal2546 Thank you so much, you are so kind. Yes, her mother was and is a sadistic psychopath, I just did not know this as a kid, and would not have had the ability to process all of her pain as well as mine. When I got older and heard all the stories, met my grandmother, I understood and felt great sadness and compassion for my mom, but the damage was done. I try to find ways of healing and forgiveness, it's just very hard when the abuse is ongoing.
I am so sorry that you had to go through that with your mom. My mom is doing something similar and it really hurts me when she says how I'm going to be a fat and ugly girl when I move out because she can't regulate what I eat once I leave. I understand what you went through
@@sarahtaylor6081 That is horrible and it's a complete lie.. her always trying to control what you eat is a sign of narcissistic personality disorder.. my mom did the same thing. This is an insidious and extremely toxic form of abuse. What she is really doing is trying to make you feel you can;t survive without her, because she is the one who is terrified of losing you. It's a type of brainwashing that they do so that you don't believe in yourself.. if she can make you feel small and worthless, then she can keep you all to herself so that she doesn't feel small and worthless. The result is called learned helplessness.. they control everything you do, don't allow you to have boundaries and make your own decisions, so you don't actually believe you can do anything on your own.. but you know you can.. Once you move out, and you MUST MOVE OUT to save your life, you will learn to regulate your eating and everything else that she has been controlling for your whole life. I would recommend looking up Melanie Tonia Evans, Michele Lee Nieves, Lisa A. Romano, Also Daughters of Narcissist Mothers. These are people who really helped me understand my mother's disorder and how I could finally learn to heal myself from the abuse. It's an ongoing battle, it has taken me a really long time. I wish you all the love and independence you deserve!
"All anybody's gonna see are her hips"
Yeah? So? The human anatomy comprises of a hip, thank you for pointing that out, now leave
No pelvis for her, her femur is supposed to be attached to her rib.
@@noomre9105 For real 😂
Hahahah
I'm plagiarising this to use on my mom. But for my butt
Like bro, you should be thankful she HAS hips
Me sad with hip dips xDDD
WHY is that mother so fixated on her daughter's hips? They're not YOUR hips, honey, so stop projecting YOUR insecurities onto them!
EXACTLY!!
Some mothers do tend to be jealous of their daughters. I'm sad that its got to *almost* ruining her daughter in picking out her wedding dress 😔
She’s jealous
Totally agree with you there
Exactly. I wish I had her hips lol
Grandma for the win!!! She is being so supportive and actually like a mother figure should be for a bridal appointment!!!
Mom, you won't be wearing the dress! YOUR body issues aren't relevant at this appointment!
Thank you!
There is some issue mom has, she is projecting on her daughter. Mom needs therapy.
It's so selfish of the mom,it's sad
"I know how you feel about your body".
How she feels about it or how you've made her feel? There's a difference. She looked stunning in all of the dresses.
Well said
facts
Felt the same way!
Yeah I got gas lighting vibes when she said that. Clearly her daughter wanted to show off her body and wasn't ashamed of it but the way her mom said that she knows how she feels about her body almost made it seem like mom was trying to bring back up old insecurities to make the daughter not like the dress
Right?! She's trying to tell her daughter how to feel
Mom is offering to pay for the dress so that she can control it. “Mother knows best” from Tangled is buzzing in my East now...
So sad. I’m offering to pay for my daughters but the dress will be HER choice.
Oh yeah - I know the song...
(totally LOVE that movie too! Finally the Disney princess that resonates with me...!!) Sort of had ocassion to have that very tune buzz around in my head a number of times since hearing it
@@pamscruggs2660 God bless you, dear. Any proper decent mother would.
Do not quite get what the deal is with this mother toward her daughter, unless maybe just to be controlling...??
My Mom had bought my wedding dress that she had not seen since we live in different states. All that she wanted to know was if I loved the wedding dress. I had said yes and she said that is all she had ever wanted to hear because if I love the dress then she would as well. When she had saw my wedding dress, she was smiling with tears of joy and love. I had gotten beautiful expensive wedding dress that had huge lowered price off sale rack. It was very first wedding dress that I had tried on and love instantly. I was untraditional with wedding dress shopping by doing it with my hubby of over 28 years now. We had fallen in love with same wedding dress that we had saw separately.
@@pamscruggs2660 You are a good mom. My mom was the same for my sister. She paid for my sister's dress but let my sister pick her own dress.
This reminds me how my mother totally controlled every aspect of my wedding because "it was her money". If I had my own money I would have paid for it myself. I can never go back and change it and it's because of her that I will never have positive memories of my wedding. These mother's need to realize the damage they are causing.
That's when you skip the big wedding and do something small but meaningful on your own dime.
Maybe you could have a 10 year recommitment ceremony and do it your way?
Oh sweetie I'm so sorry
@@pazza4555 The wedding was only 2 thousand as it was.
@@ClaireSpace25 l
Seriously though, her body is amazing and she's beautiful, what's wrong with her hips?!!
True, she is really gorgeous, her figure is amazing and while the mom called herself conservative, the bride's boobs were pretty out there too in every dress and the mom didnt say a word about it. In the end it was all about the mom's insecurities and never about not showing the body.
Not one damn thing. That mom is delusional.
She has the hips, Her mom is stubborn
Wide hips are biologically attractive. The mom is JEALOUSSSS!!
It's not her hips that's the matter
"I hATe MeRMaId dReSSeS"
This ain't your wedding
Exactly! These moms forget that!
I would have said “On you…you hate them on you” lol
I absolutely love the mermaid dresses. When I get married one day, I want a mermaid dress
@@seniorqueen08 I prefer ballgowns, generally. But a bride with such a figure would commit a crime if she wore anything else than mermaid.
Who wants her as a mother
If I had a body like hers I would wear the TIGHTEST dresses.
same!!! like the first dress looked like it was MADE for her body, she looked gorgeous 🥺
My jaw dropped at the first dress-
Same!
You are sooo right.
100% all the time!!
"You wouldn't hide the mona lisa smile would you?" Awwww .... monte comparing her hips in that dress to fine art after her mom tore her down was the absolute sweetest. 😍
Of course you're going to have hips when you have a small waist! She's a perfect hourglass. When did that become a bad thing?
Love Monty for hyping her up.
My friend has a small waist and straight hips. Having 2 kids didn't change that.
Love Monte in general
Alli Markel Fr having big hips is like the “popular” thing everyone wants have. Man I wish I had big hips. I’m a SQUARE lol.
@@x3no841 you could try a corset for waist training
Zanillani wait i have a waist trainer how do i use it
She is literally made for a mermaid dress. She's the first bride I've seen that literally looks like a mermaid in it.
her figure is literally amazing. grandma was right, mom was just jealous and projecting.
I wish that the parents were more excepting here
I agree it huged her in all the right places
i hate mermaid dresses but when she came out i said wow, she looked stunning
You’re right but she was rocking every gown, I mean grandma be right flaunt what you got, it’s not super revealing and she rocks the hell outta it
I think mom his jealous of her own daughter figure, the first dress was breathe taking.
Mom is supposed to be a cheerleader and guide, not a stumbling block
Exactly! Said that too. She knows its gorgeous 🙋🏽♀️⌛️
I don’t think mom was jealous. If she was jealous, she would have been talking about her wedding and make it about herself. I think mom really just wanted it to go her way so she was manipulating her daughter to feel insecure of her body and get her to not want to show it off in a mermaid and instead go for a ball gown or something. But she failed. Her daughter knows what she wants. Mom needs to respect her daughter’s choices.
Thalia Del Toro so she is jealous of her figure AND doesnt want everybody to see it on HER special day. Thats jealousy right there.
Yep.
Literally heartbreaking to watch the controlling, emotionally abusive mother. What a beautiful daughter with a lovely feminine form. I hope she learns how to make boundaries for herself. I loved her in the first dress. She was glowing!
Honestly, all of those dresses looked fabulous on her. But the 1st and 2nd were amazing!
I'm pretty disappointed that grandma didn't tell her daughter (mom) to shut it.
Maybe it’s her daughter in law 😂
I’m thinking she is. Dang it.
My grandmas were very vocal and not shy speaking their mind.
Me,too! Go,Bride.
i was expecting her to
Mom forgets that this isn't her big day. She's horrible.
I agree, it's not like the mom is going to wear it .
Exactly, not to mention the fact that her daughter is an independent adult fully capable of making the best decision for herself, because SHE is getting married!!!
I'm sure the mom wouldn't have let her own mum decide what she was going to wear for her wedding. Yet forgets now that she is a mum that it's her daughter's dress and she should wear what she likes🤦♀️
I mean, if the fact that the mom wore an all white outfit to her daughter's bridal appointment wasn't a huge indicator that she's jealous, I don't know what is.
I’d be told my mother that I’m wearing jeans and a t-shirt if she’s gonna be like that! Mom’s being a B
I wouldn't normally say this but Mom's should not take their insecurities about their own body out on their daughter.
Spot on
Preach👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Why wouldn’t you? It’s the truth. I call this bullshit out everytime I see it. Too many toxic verbally abusive parents on this show....
@@Mooncrest0 same
Exactly.
I could just weep for these brides. My daughters were told right from the start, I had my wedding exactly the way I wanted it, and now you do your wedding they way you want, and then we just cheered them on. I hope each of these brides breaks the toxic mother daughter relationship with their daughters.
This mother is gaslighting her own daughter; she's abusive. How sad is this. This bride is beautiful, and she looks wonderful. Mom needs to back off. I'm proud this bride stood up for herself. If she doesn't continue, her mom is going to dictate the rest of her life. She'll undermine all her decisions.
In the words of Mother Gothel “Mother knows best.”
@@Zoethechoirkid lol
This mom needs to leave,
To me the worst part was when she had that last dress on her mom went "I love the way it accents her hips" honey no that dress hides those hips, the other ones showed and accented her hips
Can we talk about how amazing her grandma is???? "Show it while you got it." I love it!
I love the fact that her grandma is supportive, and the mother is horrifying 🥴
Period!
@@ginamenday5491 gramma is really shifty too. She is allowed to like whatever dress she is looking at. And "mamaw" is being a jerk
I wish the grandma is great and everything but I wish she would have addressed the mom and told her to shut her mouth!
Something tells me she's paternal grandma!
Welcome to another episode of *NOT YO DAMN WEDDING* !
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This comment made my day
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@@nathatleue 😂😂
this mom was so brutal she gave me a complex about my own hips. the daughter was beautiful in all of the dresses. this broke my heart 💔
If you're offering to buy your daughter's wedding dress, let her pick what she wants. I bought my daughter's gown, and I let her pick what she wanted. We did have a price point, but that was it.
I totally agree! The price point is understandable if the mothers paying but every else should be the daughters choice! Also you sound like a very nice mother!
You’re a good mom. My mom did the same. She gave me a budget and let me pick what I loved and felt comfortable in.
Absolutely! I just wanted to jump into the scene and just tell this girl I'M buying the dress - pick out whatever you want.
Maybe that's why she offered in the first place?... just a feeling many mothers seem to give off
You're a great mom!!🥰
Mom is encouraging and fostering insecurities instead of encouraging her daughter to help her overcome them
She is against sexy on a wedding and she is not the only one by far. A wedding doesn't have to be a "showstopper" it can also just be a wedding
you nailed it- instead of celebrating her daughter.
@@ang5798 yes, but it's not her wedding. So her opinion isn't the most relevant one.
I mean I kinda agree with her.I think that on your wedding day you shouldn't go out of you'r comfort zone becuase you could love it at the fitting and horrible at the wedding.So I believe that you should stick to what you like
Just the fact that she's so young and getting married tells me they're probably really traditional and religouse, I come from a similar back ground, and am very happy I didn't have arguments with my mom about the dress I chose- but I think she looked wonderful in both dresses!
My jaw actually dropped when I saw her in the first dress. She's built like a goddess. What an awful mom.
Truth. The bride is literally the exact figure that mermaid dresses are built to look drop-dead gorgeous in.
Me too. I don't often gasp at these dresses but her figure is the perfect hourglass, a rare thing. The first dresses showed that. If her mother puts her nonexistent "flaws" down like this in public, what does she do in private?!
Stop perpetuating that this body type is the goal for women. It’s not.
@@kirbyhatesincels917 I'm not gonna take that from someone with incel and r*pist in their username.
@@kirbyhatesincels917 how u gonna speak for what every woman’s body goals are? 😭
The mom's neck muscles clinched when the complimentary words were spoken of her daughter. That was hard to witness.
This was a very sad episode to watch! That mother crushed her daughter’s excitement for her first ever wedding experience.
100% she just lost heart after the mother's controlling behaviour knocked the self esteem right out of her. So sad i hope she finds the dress of dreams and mum doesn't see it until the big day
@@lexawinter7725 agree. That mother is just awful. It's not her wedding.
let´s just hope it will be just one wedding experience.
Completely agree! (Exactly like 1.1k!)
Right disgusting 😒
I hope her mom knows that she just ruined the whole experience for her daughter.
How selfish of her.
Try on different styles..... different fabrics... it's the bride's choice...time out the peanut gallery...
Shame on her Mother.
That's what narcissists do. No one else can be happy if it upstages them.
The amount of body shaming from mothers to daughters is disgusting. My mother started calling me fat when I was 12. Mind you... I was 5'2" and 115 lbs. This mother was jealous and so was mine. Gross. Disgusting. This bride deserved more
I'm sorry that you had to experience that - especially from your own mother. I hope that you've been able to heal from her hurtful words, cut out the toxicity, and build yourself a happy life 💕
Your beauty comes through in the empathy and compassion of your comment. Don't let anyone put you down again - & certainly don't give jealous bullies the power over you that they crave.
Wishing you good health and happiness x
Is being 115 Ibs at 12 overweight…? I’m not even 5 feet yet I don’t think.
@@brookemcb You sound young (no offence 💕), so please let me give you a big piece of advice that I wish someone had given me when I was younger...
Only take advice on what is big or small from health professionals. That's because we're all built differently, with different fat and muscle ratios, so height and weight is an awful way to tell if someone is healthy - it's more complicated than that. For example, muscle is heavier than fat, so if you just judged on height and weight, most Olympic athletes would be technically obese, or even morbidly obese, when they're some of the healthiest and fittest people on the planet.
You said you're not 5' yet, which is why I'm guessing you're young. When you're growing you need lots of extra energy, vitamins and minerals in order to grow healthily. So please don't even consider a diet without the advice of a doctor or dietician. If you want to be careful, just eat healthily - a bit of everything, lots of fruit and veg, and limited fast food/sugary snacks.
Don't compare yourself to others. You are you - your body is unique and so long as you are healthy, numbers like height and weight are not important. Comparing yourself to others, on and off line, from such an early age can lead to eating disorders and really knock your confidence completely unnecessarily. It really isn't healthy.
Keep fit and active, eat well, speak to your doctor if you're worried, and you will be the healthiest, best shape possible 💖 Keep smiling x
@@brookemcb Im not much older than you so I don’t know if my advice will be right or help lol but if I were you I would just not worry about it until I’m older and it actually become a problem, you aren’t that heavy anyway, and if you are actually worried you can join a simple school sport, idk that helped me but I know that sports aren’t for everyone
But to be fair, you really don’t sound overweight to me
When the bride walked out in the third dress I could tell she didn't love it. Her expression was much brighter and happier in the first 2 dresses. She was definitely confident in how she looks but the mother kept gaslighting her.
She’s gorgeous, it’s maddening how rude and terrible she is to her own daughter!
My mom acts the same. I have a pretty pear shape and my mom always tells me to not show my curves at all like its a bad thing. Like when I wear something tighter my mother tells me how bad I look and that I shouldnt show my curves.
“In a sea of mermaids, there is always one shark” That’s the most subtle burn ever.
I think the correct term is, a sea witch
The burn!!!!!
lmao, she’s Ursula
I don't exactly call it subtle... lol
That mom is JEALOUS of her daughter. She is projecting HER insecurities onto her. She KNOWS her daughter has a great figure and she doesn't like that. I absolute hate mother's like this. Should have just left her at home.
You are spot on there. I couldn't work as a consultant and do what they do I wouldn't be able to stay quiet when narcissistic mom's steam roll their daughters.
Sad but true.
Should have left her at the nursing home
Unfortunatly she paye for it , nasty jealous invious mother!
She looks great in the mermaid....
1:39 Are we not gonna talk about this famous quote of Monty’s!? *In a sea of mermaids, there is always a shark* 😂
The fact that she kept insinuating, “you know how you feel about your hips!” Uhm no ma’am, it’s not her that has an issue with her hips, its you!
Moms teaching their daughters to be ashamed of their own bodies. Absolutely awful. That mother should build her daughter up. Not drag her down.
Hopefully that girl's new husband can undo the damage her mother is wreaking.
I've honestly never seen a mother jealous of their OWN DAUGHTER'S body, everytime everyone compliments the bride she comes in ruining the mood.
The mother needs to do something about own hips!
narcissists
Unfortunately it's not that uncommon for mothers to be jealous of their daughters and to attempt to ruin things for them.
You are correct she's mad that her daughter looks good and everyone is giving her the attention . I hope that bride gets what she wants.
i dont think shes jealous just projecting her insecurities onto her daughter
Can we take a second to appreciate how beautiful the bride is. Absolutely stunning.
it's as if the mom isn't proud of her daughter's beauty which is sooooo annoying :/
Edit: y'all are right, her mom is jealous as heckk. It's just so irritating bc she shouldn't be trying to take anything away from her own daughter
I couldn't believe it when she told her to hide her hips...
I agree
Or maybe just jealous...
meme bean mom is jealous of her daughter.
garotadagavea seems pretty accurate actually
So sad that bullies always win. Even sadder when the bully is your mother.
Natalie Lear
I agree totally with you..
I hope this daughter moves away from that controlling mother.
Grandmother was very supportive.
Australia 🙂🙃
Ikr
And that mother will have robbed her of all happiness and success. It’s pretty much impossible to undo that damage.
"The saddest thing about betrayal is that it never comes from your enemies"
"I don't want to see my daughter in another mermaid gown"
Then don't go to the wedding.
"I will die"
Then do
This. Perfect.
I like you
Yes Besfran😩
SAY IT LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK!!!
@@iamtheaceupmysleeve1687 SAY IT LOUDER FOR THE MOM
This mother is another piece of work. How to completely undermine your daughter's joy. I am so lucky with my mom.
I would KILL to have this girl's figure! That second dress she tried on was absolutely stunning on her body. Her mother should feel ashamed of herself for not supporting her daughter!!
Same here!! That bride was absolutely stunning!!
@BlouBear77 "I know how you feel about your body" saying she wants her daughter to hide her hips, when possibly for once the bride loves her hips and wants to show off her (PERFECT) figure? THAT'S odd. It's worse than odd. I see nothing wrong with Jenn's comment. EDIT to clarify: it's hard to know in what way the mother meant her statement, but one of the ways it could be taken was "I know you're insecure about your body so you should hide it", as if to remind her daughter that she was insecure during her moment of self-love. I'm sure it could've been meant in the "I know how much you love your body, but-" as well. We'll never know, but the point is this mom is not being supportive. If she knows how much her daughter loves her body (unlike hundreds of daughters who get ED's because of their moms), then she should be supportive!
YeS! I loved the second dress on her. Just beautiful!
Insecure mom is so disgusting
Has the mom ever seen the hips of beyonce and kim k?
It kills me that the person who is supposed to love her the most is front and center at bringing her down. This girl is gorgeous and her figure is amazing. Shame on her mom.
This mom is obsessed with her daughter’s hips. It’s weird and sad. She’s made her feel self conscious in her amazing body.
@@isobelmcarthur6761 : I agree. And, that comment about, " I know how you feel about your body..' suggested weight insecurities.. Mom should simply re-enforce her sense of beauty. You made this child!! She is gorgeous. Be proud.
She is old enough to pick a man to marry but not pick a dress.
we all can blame “the hips”
This is literally my favorite comment
I paid for my daughter's dress, NO STRINGS ATTACHED, and it was just the 2 of us at the appointment. When she chose her dress, I cried happy tears. I wanted what SHE wanted! I was just so happy to be there with her as she tried dresses on. She could have decided on a burlap bag - if she loved it, I loved it for her❤ I am very proud to be her mom.
honestly the a-line 'hiding her hips' did nothing for her, made her look blah. the other dresses showed off her amazing hourglass figure and she looked bangin
Yes, I am a huge fan of A-line, but that was a drab number, and very blah on her! She's got it, so show it!
@@deepblueinthedark9856 A-line is great, but a shame on such a perfect body!
@@deepblueinthedark9856 Exactly✨.🙂
She looked amazing in the first 2 dresses. The one Mom liked did nothing for me. I'm glad the bride didn't cave and get it.
I offered to pay for my daughter's wedding dress when she got married two years ago. We set a reasonable budget and that's where my involvement ended. I didn't offer her the money so I could pull her strings to get what I wanted. I offered her the money because I genuinely love her and wanted to help her realize her dreams. I watched her try on dozens of dresses and I gave my opinion (gently) when asked. In the end, she bought exactly the dress she wanted and she looked beautiful. Would I have picked a different one? Not sure...but it doesn't matter. It wasn't my wedding and my support didn't come with strings attached. Mommas need to back off. You had your day. Your daughter's day is not yours.
Hello wonderful mum! The world needs more mums like you in it!
I told my mum that when my sister gets married, I'd be a supportive big sister in helping her pick out her dress. I know what I want, but it's not MY wedding. It's my sister's , and what she wants is what matters!
Wow! You’re literally the perfect mom - the mom that every child deserves to have. Thank you for sharing your transparency and your honesty. 🕊✨
Well done!👏👏👏 You're a great mum for doing that for your daughter. I hope she realised how wonderful you are.❤️❤️
I'm a mum to four beautiful children❤️❤️❤️❤️, one of whom is my angel girl. I hope I'm as supportive of her and her wedding as you were of your daughter's.
God's blessings to all xx
You're a Wonderful Mother💐👍
Thanks momma
The mother is all about “hiding what you don’t want anyone to see” but she’s the only one who doesn’t want to see it...
Exactly!
I thought you said she was the thing no one wants to see😅
If we're hiding what we don't want people to see, where can we hide mama.
I reckon you don spoke the truth!
Should be the bride's decision and no one else, regardless of who is paying!
Maybe dont pass ur insecurities to ur daughter. Especially not when looking for wedding dresses.
*your
EDIT:
This comment is over 2 years old and no longer fits my current views.
Although I believe this mom behaves like a narcissist based on my life experiences, I do not believe it is acceptable or appropriate to diagnose people you don't know.
But I'll be leaving this comment up as both a learning experience and place for conversation
Thank you 💗
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That mom is an absolute narcissist
The way she's trying to break down her daughter's confidence and doesn't want her to love, show off or accept her body is disgusting
The defeat on her face was heartbreaking
@@carlamcewen2361 Oh definitely
Or maybe she never looked like that to begin with 👀
That would definitely make her extra bitter
Oh, absolutely. It was disgusting to watch her tear her daughter down like that. Just awful. This girl looks gorgeous in those mermaid dresses, they are literally made for her body.
And that " I know how you feel about your body manipulation" I mean wtf
The mother is jealous of her daughter's absolutely amazing figure, she has a perfect mermaid figure, I'd love to know what she eventually gets.
She probably had to listen to her mother all the way home about not getting that dress.
I love how Monty is constantly telling her how she has the perfect body over and over again. Trying to contradict moms nasty energy
BRO SHE LOOKED SO FRICKIN PRETTY AND BEAUTIFUL IN THE FIRST AND SECOND DRESS 😭
Mom's like, "How did I accidentally raise a daughter who doesn't completely hate her body?!"
OMG right ? something must have been wrong in the upbringing :D ahhahaha
That is one disgusting Mother. It must have been very difficult growing up the fact that you did not meet your Mothers standards for beauty. Such a beautiful young woman. My heart goes out to her. Someone please tell that Mother to shut it.
The way u said it reminds of Jennifer Aniston not " meeting HER mother's standards of beauty". It can definitely fuck up your confidence
The Daughter will have to tell the Mom to hush.
What saddens me the most is that she's STILL looking for her mom's approval. When you got a toxic parent like this, you gotta learn how to ignore them and their degrading opinions. Easier said than done though...
Paying for the dress in just a means to manipulate. Better to get married in jeans as long as you're happy. Better still would be to elope because if she's involved in the rest of the wedding, it'll be the same struggle.
@@joyleff790 Oh yes that’s true
@@joyleff790 absolutely true
@Cindy any suggestions on how to do it....... Whenever I take a stand for myself.... I feel selfish😐😐
@@jaspritkaur2389 How old are you? Where are you?
Women like her mom are the reason daughters have body confidence issues! It’s so sad. Her daughter has literally a beautiful curvy figure and what a lot of women want and she’s trying to make her feel like she should dislike her own body. So crazy how some people can’t look at their issues. Her daughter is gorgeous!
Mom is absolutely jealous of her daughter. The bride-to-be had a magnificent figure, and looked amazing in *all* the dresses. Shame on that awful mother.
It so strange....how could you be jealous of your daughter?
Seriously, the bride could throw on a burlap sack and be total knockout! 😍
@@ivorysmith8020 most of these narcissistic Moms are, it goes with the turf.
I was going to say this. I think he mom is envious of her body.
Mom is stuck in the 80's with her tripping on those average hips... mom was giving her a cause for concern. Who can get excited in those conditions???
If that’s the case then the mom shouldn’t be wearing pants or jeans because that shows off your hips!
Preach 🙌🙌
My first thought exactly!
Full burqa
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mama's just jealous she looks "fat" (in her own opinion, I'm sure, from her comments about hiding what you don't want to see) and is projecting insecurities onto her daughter
This mom is just looking for an excuse to shame her daughter, c’mon!! Her figure is perfection, she’s clearly making everything up!
Oh is that what she was doing?? Dear God, I couldnt quite figure it out...
Was a bit confused actually, but I see all the comments saying she the mother is projecting her insecurities, & now it makes sense - she is overly critical.
I thought the daughter seemed confident with her shape so it didnt register why the mother would act like that, as though it was indecent or something, to show her figure
I know that’s a great body show it off if you want
I hope this beautiful young woman moved across the country from this toxicity.
She has the perfect figure! I agree with grandma if you got it flaunt it! 👏🏼
They should have left the mom home and brought the grandma! Love the grandma’s support!
Mom was paying .
I would have just waited longer and payed for it myself. Would not have brought a mom like that.
I think her mom doesn't like mermaid dresses because she knows her daughter has the hips and the figure; she is just jealous and hates to admit that she is not young anymore.
The brides body is amazing!!
When I saw her in the first dress I literally said wow for the best possible reason.. she looked breathtaking..
This mom makes no sense.
"No one should be looking at my daughter's hips."
"The dress flatters her hips so much."
I think "flattering" to her is not accentuating anything about her daughter's hips lol
Exactly!
My jaw dropped when she put on that first dress. She looked like a superstar.
Edit: the second was amazing too! This girl has a stunning figure, she could wear a sack cloth and it would look great
Edit 2: that girl is a bomb shell and you're trying to make her over into a girl next door pretty princess bride? Give her the mermaid!! She was a Hollywood starlet in a past life. I dont think I've ever been this emotionally invested before.
I can tell that this comment was written over the course of the video.
@@eleanorcooke7136 😅😅😅 you're right
@@safe2738 😂🤣😂
What's wrong with hips. Women are supposed to have hips and hers are gorgeous. She has an amazing figure.!!!
Wow. When the camera cut to the mom when they were complimenting her daughter... That was very telling; her expression, that is. She doesn't want her daughter to be independent, much less herself. Toxic.
Sad she didn’t get a dress but glad she didn’t give in to her mom. The Aline did nothing for her. Mermaid is her shape!
The A-Line made her hips wider than the mermaid did. That just looked stunning on her.
Her wedding photos show her wearing a lose fitted dress sadly
@@summerrose3142 Where did you see that?
I disagree. Only skinny girls look good in a mermaid because it gives them somewhat of a butt. But if you already have a booty, Aline is perfect. It shows off a slim waist and you don't look like you're all butt.
Amen to that, she needs standing up to, seemed like a controlling critical insecure cow of a mother, projecting her securities (or something??) on the poor girl & ruining her happy experience
I have 5 daughters and I couldn’t IMAGINE making my girls feel this way 😞
Me, too. But I also have a narcissistic mother, so I understand what this bride was dealing with as well. It broke my heart, because I know that pain of only trying to make my mom proud, but never getting there. This bride looked FANTASTIC in the mermaid style dresses. She was beaming in the second one. I hope she got what she wanted in the end.
I guess just, don't make comments on their body. My mom has helped the decline of my self esteem. I'm not gonna blame it all on her, but a lot of my insecurities came from things she has said. Stuff about my butt, the shape of my body, how she wishes she had my body, etc. Even if it is a positive comment, or ment to be one, it can still really hurt.
Thank you.
You Lucky woman
Hey Mom- the 80’s called, they want their hairstyle back.
Along with the clothes...
Horrible insult, I don't know what rock you crawled out of, but throwback haircuts are very popular right now, and the 80s are IN. Shags everywhere. Comment on her personality, not her looks.
@@smellmych33z you mean like the dragon of a Mum has constantly been doing to her own daughter?????
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@raissa kalama gtfu 🤷♀️
the second dress was PERFECT for her ugh that mom
I love the way it sounds so wholesome when Monty says, "That's one heck of a figure!" I love Monty. He loves beauty.
I hate mothers like its not your wedding its the daughters
Do you hate apostrophes?
Glad my mom won't be part of my wedding pheww
My grandma was the reason my mother couldn't get married in anything but white
Me too, specially when they had 80's haircuts.
They can't overcome their age
her mom acting like SHE is getting a dress not her daughter smh
This poor girl should have left her NEGATIVE mama at home!
She literally has the figure of a mermaid so that mermaid dress was gorgeous on her
If the mom says anything besides “I want her to get the dress she wants,” than they are probably a little controlling
I don't think I've ever seen a mother more rude than this one.
The first dress looked absolutely stunning on her. It hugged her curves perfectly and was very beautiful
that comment the mom made about "knowing how her daughter feels about her body better than anyone" really set me off, she's so jealous that she's trying to manipulate her daughter's self-esteem. what a terrible mother, clearly projecting her own insecurities on her daughter.
Either jealousy or the mom has a similar figure and was also shamed for her hips throughout her life.
Seems like momma has some insecurities that she is passing onto her daughter. Grams is right show 'em while you got' em. I bet Brides future husband loves those hips and makes her feel great about them
One thing SYTTD has taught me: Do not bring anybody to a bridal appointment.
Similar for me. It taught me to only bring people who I know will be positive & kind, and to never let anyone pay a cent for something I don’t want their opinion on.
100 percent!
Especially not your mom if she's critical of your body.
I didn’t let anyone come and I never regretted it. I let my mon see it after I ordered it.
If I ever do get married I would want to bring my sister but than my mom is going to get all butt hurt and I don’t need the headache. We’d either have to lie and my sister would eventually spill the beans or else no one comes. I’m probably opting for the no one option. It’s a shame, I would like to bring my sister. My mom won’t come out and say things but she’ll make the faces and become icy. No thank you. She would come out and say cruel things to my sister though. She’s mean to both of us but worse to my sister. So she can’t come for the bridesmaids dresses either!
I literally hate how no one seems to ever stick up for these brides. She is not there to try on dresses for anybody but herself. If my mom was body shaming me in front of not only strangers, but my whole family I would uninvite her to my wedding. I would rather get married in a pair of jeans and a tank top then let my mother control my wedding day. Awful terrible mother. Kudos to the grandma for not body shaming her.
This show should be an advertisement for, “Girls, get educated, make your own money and don’t be reliant on anyone so you can do what you want”. I quit taking money from my parents right out of high school. Sorry mama!! I do what I want!!
Agreed. When you have financial freedom, nobody can take your choice away with what you want to do with it. I bought my own house and told my mom I was repainting one of the bedrooms a dark blue for extra mood. She said she doesn’t like that and I shouldn’t do it. 😂 Okay, mom. Love ya but I can’t hear your over the sound of my paint sprayer.
I still remember when I got my first pay and bought my first shampoo/conditioner ever. My mother saw them as a waste when the kitchen coconut soap would clean hair just fine. I quit taking her money way before my first job though. Only the essentials (eating).
"I think i look good in this dress"
"Serously"
MOM IS FULLY BODYSHAMING HER, AND NOT SUPPORTING HER OWN CHILD
She’s jealous that her daughter looks better than her
Her mother has those mean-spirited gimlet eyes and wants to get her own way at any cost, even at the cost of her daughter's happiness
She is one of those mothers that thinks skinny is beautiful.
She just took away that smile her daughter had on her face by obsessing over her hips. She looked stunning in the first 2 dresses! It broke my heart to see her disappointed:(
Since when does a mother have the authority to tell her adult daughter what she is allowed to wear on her wedding day.
Speaking from the big hip guild, when you’re curvy like this a lot of people automatically snap that you’re “showing off your body” when in reality this is just how everything fits for us. Everything hugs the waist and the hips!
People who get mad and claim that you are showing off your body are just mad because they don't have the same shape you have. They're mad because they are jealous!
This. EVERYTHING hugs my hips, because my hips are two sizes bigger than the rest of me and clothes off the rack just aren't made for that. Don't blame us for the fact that fast fashion is only designed for a very specific body type.
Count me in as being "all about that bass!" 😁 Even when my mom was slender in the waist back when she married my dad, she had what she called "the Hoover hips," and I have em too. (Hoover was my maternal great-grandmother's married name.) We both also inherited a tendency towards a full bust (C cup and up). So neither of us have been able to work out why "twig" became the standard for women, when many of us, genetically, just won't ever fit that "norm."
@@a.katherinesuetterlin3028 I bet, your men were crazy for your figure :)
@@agnes15101968 Well, I haven't had many partners, out of choice. I'm particular. But it's served me well, because my bf, my soul mate, is defo crazy about my figure. Yeah, I've got a bit of weight I want to get rid of for the sake of health, but he thinks I'm beautiful anyway. He's the only man who has truly called me beautiful. That's even his favorite pet name for me. But he also loves the inner me as it is. I am truly blessed. 😍😍
Mom: I hate mermaid dresses!
Well news flash woman, it isn’t your wedding!
Agreed, she had her turn to choose her own dress and now she wants to choose her daughters also?
If the bride is self conscious about her body, it's because mom taught her to be. Poor kid
Wow the mother is a control freak! Not to also mention that it's not her wedding but her daughter's! Her daughter who is an adult and getting married still does not stop this mother from treating her daughter like a child, belittling her and suffocating all form of independence that this beautiful bride has.