When relationships are new; they’re fragile. When I think of the first few years of my relationship with my husband while we were dating, when we would get in a big fight, i would think “I’m done”, “we’re finished forever”. 15 years into our relationship, we would get into a similar fight, and within 5 minutes I’m like “babe I’m planning our summer vacation, what airport do you want to fly from”. It’s about security. The commitment to my husband is like the commitment to my siblings. We can get in a huge argument and in the next breath it’s like, we’re going to dinner. We’ll talk about it later and iron everything out but husband and siblings are irreplaceable. The relationships are solid and no one could ever take their places. Unfortunately, in this relationship they may always be some insecurity.
Neither of you need to be sorry..Keep communicating, it's the key to everything..I agree with one comment, Amy is going through it, having her daughter leave is a loss, she is very vulnerable right now, it's a hard rite of passage to experience..Just be there for each other, tell each other how you feel without blame or shame..Love each other, you lost a lot wanting to love each other , don't lose each other over assumptions,miscommunication, or negative comments from complete strangers.. It was brave of you to share your thoughts and your hearts with us.Love your channel.
It's sounds like insecurity, and Amy is afraid of losing TJ, and his silence frightens her because read through his silence. They gave up everything to be together. Tj must make Amy feel secure in their relationship because of his history.
Amy he’s telling you how he feels and needs his space and it’s not about you, so when he’s quiet just do self-care, go take a nice bath, facial, get your nails done so when he’s ready to come back you’re in a good place as well.
Right! DUH! 🤦🏽♀️ AND NOW they live AND work together! No breaks from one another! NOW they have to provide ALL the other emotional stuff, children and everything else that goes in a relationship! 😩
This relationship is draining. She’s needs constant reassurance of his affection , love , attention and touch . Red flag 🚩 She’s going to push him away with her neediness . TJ is dealing with his pain , shame and frustration in silence as most men do. He is going to get tired of her , the relationship, loss of his high profile job and realistically his previous home life , seeing his daughter every night / every day . I know this comment will get deleted because it’s not what everyone wants to hear. TJ jumped from the frying pan to the skillet . He wants his work space separate from his relationship. Too much time spent together . They have lost their identities in this relationship. Based upon what Amy is detailing , she really doesn’t know him like she said she does (over ten years of working together ). I’m telling you , she’s pushing him away . When he decides to check out , it’s over . He’s dealing with huge, heavy issues and can’t shoulder her issues too . Being realistic , this is not good . Reality is setting in ….
Monkey branching from one person to another or one relationship to another never works out . Both should have engaged in self-healing and enjoy down time , alone before entering another relationship. They need space and self-healing .
YOU SAID IT JUST LIKE I WOULD HAVE AND THEN SOME...I even see a CONTROLLING side of his demeanor. If you LISTEN to him, he gives off a very condescending and manipulative form of speaking and gesturing. It is ALLLL in his tone. I see Amy catering to THIS and I hear her insecurities RAGING THROUGH!
Her tears and breakdowns SCREAMS he has not created a SAFE SPACE!!! She KNOWS this man will run and hide and leave her WAITING!!! NO! RUN, AMY! This AIN'T IT!!!
Ok...Sounds like TJ is moody. With that being said I understand how Amy feels. But I also understand TJ's position. But, there has to be a happy medium. Thanks for your transparency. ❤
Raw emotion, broken open vulnerability and the courage to share it. Bravo, this is real life. Amy we all have insecurities as humans but you can't stay in that state for a long time, And this conversation is how you work on it. After this conversation, please let it go and go back to enjoying each other.
Alright now! That's how you walk it out, TJ! I applaud you for your growth 👏🏾 🙌🏾 ✨️ ❤️. Now....get yo self together and give that woman a hug and while you're working and you're deep in your thoughts, give her a stroke on her back to acknowledge her.
Amy, stop allowing folks negative comments steal your joy. If you've made peace with your family and within yourself and God that's all that's matter. People will always have opinions. Remember this- once "you graduate" from what others think of you and you "truly believe in yourself ", gurl....it's liberating. It appears to me, that the trauma you've experienced has SHOOK the core of you...take your POWER back. People can't take your joy/power unless you give it to them. TJ when you are in one of your MOMENTS, to help her feel "connected", touch her cheek or give her a stroke down her back. It's not complicated.
He doesn’t care about nobody’s love language damn have you not seen his history even the way he treated Merilee, the letter he wrote her was telling of who he is. He is who he is……
I am half way through and maybe Amy you have to know in your heart that he’s with you because he wants to be and even if he’s quiet or moody that TJ hasn’t changed his mind about you and the relationship ❤ sounds like you need a lot of reassurance and for him to bend to what you need despite the space he may need. There must be a compromise on both sides for relationships to work long term .. wishing you both the best ❤❤
It's okay to feel insecure Amy, when you do. You go and smile or put your hand on TJ, and TJ you need to respond back. Don't let no one write your next chapter only you two can write your chapter. You both will be okay. Prayers to you both
His race and gender is colouring your perception. You see him as attacking when he’s actually jus5 going through his own emotional process. She’s not a porcelain doll, she’s an adult who shoukd be responsible for her own feelings.
The real TJ comes out! He has cheated numerous times, he is able to withdrawn from women he is with. Amy, you had the world by a string. You gave so much to your career and had such a loving following. Reality may be seeping in for both of you. The drinking, the tension does not bode well and I hope you find happiness and peace within yourself. He seems checked out which is not a good place to be. I find him dismissive of your feelings!
He has no future in TV. If she looked for work independently, she could get a job. He will always resent her long term career, her net worth, and her popularity. With narcissists, there can only be one star in the relationship, so he has to dull her shine as much as he can because his very survival depends on him being the star.
Agree 100 percent. He is very condescending towards her from the first episode. I’d like there to be a video of this podcast. Listening only does him no favors!
His self absorption comes through so clearly and he is irritated that she has expectations in a relationship. He feels he will never meet the expectations because honestly he can't and he is frustrated. Her expectations are the bare minimum to be acknowledged in some way. She hopefully will learn soon that he cannot be there for her needs; her role is to make ALL the effort and be there for his needs (career and attention).
She's insecured and afraid. She knows the statistics regarding relationships that start out the way theirs did. She is in need of a lot of reassurance. She is afraid of not working out. I wish they had this conversation with a therapist and not on this podcast. I hope they are in therapy. He sounds like he is already tired of feeling like he has to constantly reassure her of his love.
I agree that she’s insecure and afraid . I also understand why TJ wanted to show this side of the relationship . Amy is needy ; he’s tired , frustrated and doesn’t know what to do with himself now that the dust has settled . TJ was drinking to cover his true feelings ;hoping that it would all work out with the tv folks knocking down his door with offers . Even with talk therapy , things that weren’t meant to be or should have never been can’t be fixed . Relationships should not be draining and heavy all the time . This one is both , heavy and draining . TJ wants space while Amy wants to be next to him all the time . Even if they both had jobs that required them to work for different employers, Amy would still feel a void and insecure with TJ working with other women and traveling on assignments with them . She knows what they did and how they acted . So, TJ will always be miserable because of her insecurities . This is going to be a tough road for them because a man wants to lead , protect and provide . TJ is in pain , struggling with those issues and more while trying to deal with her issues . The need to continuously focus on the relationship is only exacerbating his moodiness . That man is in pain . Deep down inside , he knows he has messed up …..I’m not bashing him or her for how they feel or for being transparent. However , this is the territory that comes with a relationship that started like theirs did .
@VeeVashti-ts1iv TJ and Amy MUST drop their emotional baggage and preoccupation with public opinion. They just need to love eachother. Also, they are young, they still need to make money...so they are feeling pressure in every facet of their relationship...
Amy is emotionally intelligent, she needs to keep being an example in that sense and stop trying to make TJ into a carbon copy of her. Sometimes all the talking sounds like criticizing or like he’s not good enough and it makes him push further away. He has a different way of showing his feelings, he likes to keep to himself at times and she needs to love him that way. During the time he wants to be alone and not talk, she needs to do self-care and self-love, she can’t expect for him to meet all her needs.
This relationship is going to be difficult for you both ended each other’s careers. Best of luck to you both but the fact will always be that you deep down resent one another for the supreme loss you both suffered.
True love will get you all through. Keep doing what you love and always be present for each other. Stay strong I know you both can and will make a positive influence in this world together with your honest amazing journalists talents. You two got this.
Amy, you have to get out of your head. He loves you, but as you say constantly, love is not perfect. If you need physical touch then go hug your man. If he’s quiet, ask him if he’s ok. Tell him you love him. Show him you love him. He needs the same things you do. You cannot allow your constant fear of him leaving to get the best of you. I love when TJ asked: what kept you….
Amy it’s nice to see that you have insecurities like any other woman and I’ve noticed people who have podcasts can have 99 great comments but 1 bad comment will make you upset and I hope you can just ignore the bad ones ❤️
The grass isn’t always greener on the other side. It’s starting to feel like a marriage, which is what you both left. Seems like Amy is having regrets and has a lot of insecurities. TJ is showing you who he really is and you can’t handle it. People are on a high when they commit adultery. This is what you signed up for. The way you get them is the way you potentially lose them. You are always going to have those feelings. This is reality. Amy is needy, TJ is moody or silent and I can see this relationship being short term.
Pray. Men are from Mars. Women are from Venus. TJ, reassure Amy. Sending a child off is a lot to deal with emotionally. Amy, check in with him but give him sapce. You both need individual therapists and a couples therapist. Thanks for the raw and real transparency.
Good Luck to you both in your relationship journey. You got this! It does get easier. The first 1 to 2 years are the hardest. I am in my 10th year in my second marriage. Don’t give up on the other ❤
Not going to work, I wish it could Amy is scared she made the wrong decision. TJ has a strong independent personality. my opinion. Maybe couples therapy.
@jackielavelle7974…. Agree . It’s called monkey branching . Monkey branching from one relationship to another never works out . They both should have taken time for self- healing before embarking on another relationship.
Sounds like she's harboring some resentment over losing her job for love and underlying insecurities. And him on the other hand is void of emotion. Women and men communicate differently on top of working together too. Gotta find a way through their new norm. Therapy helps. Thx for sharing the good and hard reality.
This podcast was brilliant! It's the whole thing about the difference between men and women! There is nothing wrong with your relationship. Just respect each other's boundaries, don't take it personally, and move on. You guys are awesome❣️
She’s scared because of his history. And he can’t find a therapist? Such B.S. they just had one on the show (Group Therapy)and with his connections he can get one. God will not blessed this.
So she said job taken unfairly? Employee handbook says disclose relationships and they don’t do that. Both separated in Aug. 2022 not a coincidence? Further they said it episode after this that they have been dating year and a half which proves they were dating before what they said they were. Plus do not say you will pray for them because should have been praying for the previous marriages. Most marriages leave God out of it after they use the Bible and say I do!
I think you both with resent each other for losing your jobs! Amy is telling TJ what she needs but yet he still not listening to her. Maybe y’all need a break from each other
I think Amy is having empty bird’s nest syndrome because she doesn’t want to be alone - I think they are very nice people - I don’t see it going the long haul - hoping for the best - jmo
Amy is needy, this relationship is not going to work out, sorry to say that but the writing is on the wall. TJ, was more than reasonable to hearing her but she’s on a whole different level of neediness than what he can give her. She needs to work on herself.
Meanwhile their exes are having fun with each other! Lol I used to like Amy. But Amy, I’m so against home-wreckers and for men, I’m against cheating husbands. I lost respect for you Amy. It’s so sad and I felt bad for your then husband and felt bad for TJ’s then wife and their child. When you talked about relationships, I wish you said that about your marriage. I’ve been married to the same person for over 20 years now. I’ve known my husband since I was a middle schooler and he was in college. I came from another country but didn’t have the relationship until I was about to finish college. Until today, even though it’s not been easy to marry someone with totally different culture, language, pretty much everything including the fact I came from a megapolitan city and he came from just a small town here. Yet we have been able to make it until today through the ups and downs we have had. Maturity is key in a marriage and every relationship. Btw Amy, you should give a space in relationship at times. My husband and I don’t always speak to each other or be in the same room, especially when I have to focus on a project or he has to finish his work at home. You’d probably need to seek for a relationship therapist. Sigh.
At the end of the day Amy, you are human. Enjoy your life, your family, and your partner...Life is too short to be burdened by the world's viewpoint and opinion...❤
Neither one of you is responsible for making the other feel happy or safe. The belief that another is capable of that is a remnant of the child mind. We are meant to evolve from the child mind into the adult mind. Amy, I feel that you are putting a lot of pressure on TJ to meet your emotional needs, and you are punishing him for not being able to meet them. TJ I feel you need to be very honest and straightforward about who you are. Above all, the only person who provides happiness and safety is God... so put God first and in the center of your relationship.
This shit was built on lies, disrespect, they need to sincerely apologize to their ex’s apologize to their coworkers and be truthful about this whole affair
Totally feeling ít for them. However, this vulnerability is not really good for them in front of the public. It's one thing to be honest with the public; it's another to allow yourself space to work through difficult stuff. Public opinions would take away your ability to have different and changeable solutions. In the end, only your solutions matter, but if you are in the public eye, your mode of operation is not the same as normal people.
Hilarious soap opera. I can see this appeals to the The Real Housewives crowd. Came by to see a bit of the drama for a good laugh at the self important.
I feel you both may be projecting,you found out Michael Strahan’s daughter has cancer.This is normal feelings.Your colleague you were so close to is going through hell and you both aren’t there. This is bringing up feelings of the past. Very normal.This whole thing is bringing. up cancel culture and the job you loved and lost.Deep breath. Plus everyone feels sick…..just day by day.
Maybe take a drive, be alone together without work ..Go have fun, you miss your old job.Can you dance,look at trees have dinner?Everyone has. moods. Ava leaving triggered Amy.
Sounds like there are hints of regret driving her insecurity and fear around TJ's weather changes. It also sounds like to me that this podcast is a little to early for where they are in the relationship. The stakes are high here.
This episode displays how narcissistic and emotionally unavailable TJ is. His “I’m sorry” is so empty, insecure, and weak. Amy girl, you can do better than this man. With men like this, the minute she loves him more than he loves her, the minute she needs him more than he needs her, that is the nail in her coffin. If her cancer came back, or any sickness like she had with her first husband, a narcissist like this would never care for her the way her ex did. Tj would be like, “this is to much for me”. It’s not TJ it’s MeJ.
I’ve been trying to support you guys, but maybe this is too much vulnerability in public. Maybe consider talking it out with a therapist instead. What I see is selfishness on both part. This is what hurts relationships. Stop saying what “you need” and start thinking of what “you need to give”. If you don’t like him being distant, go and give him a hug and say hey, can we take a work break just to hug or something? Or say your love language is words of affirmation and you would like him to acknowledge you every once in a while. On the other hand, he is distant and that’s how he deals with stuff, so he can think of how he can reach out to you (but you have to leave the door open for him to trust that he can do that with you and not feel attacked). He seems like a sensitive guy, which is rare and can be an asset because he is willing to talk things out eventually rather than sweep it under the rug. You’re both very smart and logical, but you’re both sensitive right now bc of the career stress.
I think TJ needs to read the reviews. Most of those are that he totally disrespects Amy. Where is he seeing that they look like a great couple? He’s awful to her since the first episode!
Narcissists will read comments and think they are positive (to them) when they are negative. Their self image is so skewed and they constantly have to seek attention and outside approval to get their cup filled - which will never be filled because they are empty.
So basically the honey moon stage is over. Totally normal.
When relationships are new; they’re fragile. When I think of the first few years of my relationship with my husband while we were dating, when we would get in a big fight, i would think “I’m done”, “we’re finished forever”. 15 years into our relationship, we would get into a similar fight, and within 5 minutes I’m like “babe I’m planning our summer vacation, what airport do you want to fly from”. It’s about security. The commitment to my husband is like the commitment to my siblings. We can get in a huge argument and in the next breath it’s like, we’re going to dinner. We’ll talk about it later and iron everything out but husband and siblings are irreplaceable. The relationships are solid and no one could ever take their places. Unfortunately, in this relationship they may always be some insecurity.
Excruciating listen. Tj is more busy not wanting to take accountability or change his behavior than he is actually listening to what she’s saying
Neither of you need to be sorry..Keep communicating, it's the key to everything..I agree with one comment, Amy is going through it, having her daughter leave is a loss, she is very vulnerable right now, it's a hard rite of passage to experience..Just be there for each other, tell each other how you feel without blame or shame..Love each other, you lost a lot wanting to love each other , don't lose each other over assumptions,miscommunication, or negative comments from complete strangers.. It was brave of you to share your thoughts and your hearts with us.Love your channel.
This guy is a nightmare to date or be married to……. Run 🏃♀️ asap 😢
It's sounds like insecurity, and Amy is afraid of losing TJ, and his silence frightens her because read through his silence. They gave up everything to be together.
Tj must make Amy feel secure in their relationship because of his history.
Yes, that’s exactly what I thought.
Amy he’s telling you how he feels and needs his space and it’s not about you, so when he’s quiet just do self-care, go take a nice bath, facial, get your nails done so when he’s ready to come back you’re in a good place as well.
How could you not know what she needs your withdrawal is not what she needs if I may in the words of Ottis Redding “Try A Little Tenderness”
Oh the thrill of the chase is over!! Watta surprise……NOT!!!🙄🙄☠️☠️☠️
Right! DUH! 🤦🏽♀️ AND NOW they live AND work together! No breaks from one another! NOW they have to provide ALL the other emotional stuff, children and everything else that goes in a relationship! 😩
This relationship is draining. She’s needs constant reassurance of his affection , love , attention and touch . Red flag 🚩 She’s going to push him away with her neediness . TJ is dealing with his pain , shame and frustration in silence as most men do. He is going to get tired of her , the relationship, loss of his high profile job and realistically his previous home life , seeing his daughter every night / every day . I know this comment will get deleted because it’s not what everyone wants to hear. TJ jumped from the frying pan to the skillet . He wants his work space separate from his relationship. Too much time spent together . They have lost their identities in this relationship. Based upon what Amy is detailing , she really doesn’t know him like she said she does (over ten years of working together ). I’m telling you , she’s pushing him away . When he decides to check out , it’s over . He’s dealing with huge, heavy issues and can’t shoulder her issues too . Being realistic , this is not good . Reality is setting in ….
Monkey branching from one person to another or one relationship to another never works out . Both should have engaged in self-healing and enjoy down time , alone before entering another relationship. They need space and self-healing .
I totally agree 👍
YOU SAID IT JUST LIKE I WOULD HAVE AND THEN SOME...I even see a CONTROLLING side of his demeanor. If you LISTEN to him, he gives off a very condescending and manipulative form of speaking and gesturing. It is ALLLL in his tone. I see Amy catering to THIS and I hear her insecurities RAGING THROUGH!
Her tears and breakdowns SCREAMS he has not created a SAFE SPACE!!! She KNOWS this man will run and hide and leave her WAITING!!! NO! RUN, AMY! This AIN'T IT!!!
You've pretty much nailed that one lol you must have a pad, pen and a couch I take it?
Ok...Sounds like TJ is moody. With that being said I understand how Amy feels. But I also understand TJ's position. But, there has to be a happy medium. Thanks for your transparency. ❤
Raw emotion, broken open vulnerability and the courage to share it. Bravo, this is real life. Amy we all have insecurities as humans but you can't stay in that state for a long time, And this conversation is how you work on it. After this conversation, please let it go and go back to enjoying each other.
Alright now! That's how you walk it out, TJ! I applaud you for your growth 👏🏾 🙌🏾 ✨️ ❤️. Now....get yo self together and give that woman a hug and while you're working and you're deep in your thoughts, give her a stroke on her back to acknowledge her.
Wishing y’all the best in your new careers but more importantly in your relationship.
Amy, stop allowing folks negative comments steal your joy. If you've made peace with your family and within yourself and God that's all that's matter. People will always have opinions. Remember this- once "you graduate" from what others think of you and you "truly believe in yourself ", gurl....it's liberating. It appears to me, that the trauma you've experienced has SHOOK the core of you...take your POWER back. People can't take your joy/power unless you give it to them. TJ when you are in one of your MOMENTS, to help her feel "connected", touch her cheek or give her a stroke down her back. It's not complicated.
She didn't make peace with anyone. You women hate dishonesty but then support it....
She didn't make peace with anyone. You women hate dishonesty but then support it....
TJ she’s telling you what she needs. Pay attention. You’re extremely dominating and eventually she will probably leave .
I agree with you but she will never leave him. He will leave her.
Y'all are going to be ok. No relationship is perfect. Hang in there!! Love you guys!!! ❤❤❤❤
Yes Amy just an acknowledgement or a hug goes a long way. Please hear her. Her love language.
He doesn’t care about nobody’s love language damn have you not seen his history even the way he treated Merilee, the letter he wrote her was telling of who he is. He is who he is……
I am half way through and maybe Amy you have to know in your heart that he’s with you because he wants to be and even if he’s quiet or moody that TJ hasn’t changed his mind about you and the relationship ❤ sounds like you need a lot of reassurance and for him to bend to what you need despite the space he may need. There must be a compromise on both sides for relationships to work long term .. wishing you both the best ❤❤
It's okay to feel insecure Amy, when you do. You go and smile or put your hand on TJ, and TJ you need to respond back. Don't let no one write your next chapter only you two can write your chapter. You both will be okay. Prayers to you both
Why are you drilling her? You should make her feel safe. It’s YOUR RESPONSIBILITY
He’s doing what he’s always done, make women feel used and unwanted 🤷🏻♀️What have you not seen with his past. 🤷🏻♀️
EXACTLY!!! CONTROLLING AND MANIPULATIVE!!! IT IS CLEAR IN HIS TONE.
His race and gender is colouring your perception. You see him as attacking when he’s actually jus5 going through his own emotional process. She’s not a porcelain doll, she’s an adult who shoukd be responsible for her own feelings.
She’s lonely. She feels lonely even though she’s in a relationship. She needs God.
The real TJ comes out! He has cheated numerous times, he is able to withdrawn from women he is with. Amy, you had the world by a string. You gave so much to your career and had such a loving following. Reality may be seeping in for both of you. The drinking, the tension does not bode well and I hope you find happiness and peace within yourself. He seems checked out which is not a good place to be. I find him dismissive of your feelings!
He knows he fucked up! The way they went about it was just wrong.
He has no future in TV. If she looked for work independently, she could get a job. He will always resent her long term career, her net worth, and her popularity. With narcissists, there can only be one star in the relationship, so he has to dull her shine as much as he can because his very survival depends on him being the star.
Agree 100 percent. He is very condescending towards her from the first episode. I’d like there to be a video of this podcast. Listening only does him no favors!
His self absorption comes through so clearly and he is irritated that she has expectations in a relationship. He feels he will never meet the expectations because honestly he can't and he is frustrated. Her expectations are the bare minimum to be acknowledged in some way. She hopefully will learn soon that he cannot be there for her needs; her role is to make ALL the effort and be there for his needs (career and attention).
@@lilygirl2719well said!!
Danggg give her time to sort out her feelings. She would eventually tell you
Amy, you are insecure and you have a fear of loosing TJ. So tell him the truth. You need to get some help.
She's insecured and afraid. She knows the statistics regarding relationships that start out the way theirs did. She is in need of a lot of reassurance. She is afraid of not working out. I wish they had this conversation with a therapist and not on this podcast. I hope they are in therapy. He sounds like he is already tired of feeling like he has to constantly reassure her of his love.
I agree ..this ia a therapy session not public! He's getting irritated!
I agree that she’s insecure and afraid . I also understand why TJ wanted to show this side of the relationship . Amy is needy ; he’s tired , frustrated and doesn’t know what to do with himself now that the dust has settled . TJ was drinking to cover his true feelings ;hoping that it would all work out with the tv folks knocking down his door with offers . Even with talk therapy , things that weren’t meant to be or should have never been can’t be fixed . Relationships should not be draining and heavy all the time . This one is both , heavy and draining . TJ wants space while Amy wants to be next to him all the time . Even if they both had jobs that required them to work for different employers, Amy would still feel a void and insecure with TJ working with other women and traveling on assignments with them . She knows what they did and how they acted . So, TJ will always be miserable because of her insecurities . This is going to be a tough road for them because a man wants to lead , protect and provide . TJ is in pain , struggling with those issues and more while trying to deal with her issues . The need to continuously focus on the relationship is only exacerbating his moodiness . That man is in pain . Deep down inside , he knows he has messed up …..I’m not bashing him or her for how they feel or for being transparent. However , this is the territory that comes with a relationship that started like theirs did .
@@VeeVashti-ts1ivyes
@VeeVashti-ts1iv TJ and Amy MUST drop their emotional baggage and preoccupation with public opinion. They just need to love eachother. Also, they are young, they still need to make money...so they are feeling pressure in every facet of their relationship...
AGREED 1000%
Amy is emotionally intelligent, she needs to keep being an example in that sense and stop trying to make TJ into a carbon copy of her. Sometimes all the talking sounds like criticizing or like he’s not good enough and it makes him push further away. He has a different way of showing his feelings, he likes to keep to himself at times and she needs to love him that way. During the time he wants to be alone and not talk, she needs to do self-care and self-love, she can’t expect for him to meet all her needs.
This relationship is going to be difficult for you both ended each other’s careers. Best of luck to you both but the fact will always be that you deep down resent one another for the supreme loss you both suffered.
Amy GIRLWAKE UP and Runnnnn for your Happiness Freedom and Stability
True love will get you all through. Keep doing what you love and always be present for each other. Stay strong I know you both can and will make a positive influence in this world together with your honest amazing journalists talents. You two got this.
I love you both .no one Said there weren't gonna be puddles..just jump it together and keep moving.we are rooting for you both.
Speak for yourself
TJ did show he loves Amy and wants to work things out by him setting up for them to talk about there issues.
Really? You guys need counseling….. together and apart!!! Andrew and his wife had down time and dealt with your infidelity…… you two have not!!!
Is this the official UA-cam channel? How has this channel been around since 2020 I'm confused
You two deserve eachother. 😂 😬
Also, we didn’t need to be apart of this conversation. Some things are to be left private
Assuming you have self-autonomy, no one is forcing you to be part of this conversation. If it's not for you, then move along.
TRAINS COMING. BOTH OF YOU ARE ON THE TRACKS. YOU NEED TO GET RIGHT WITH YOUR PEOPLE, YOURSELVES AND GOD. Then, maybe revisit a relationship later.
LMFAO....TJ a real mfr, You aight wit me bruh
Don't let the devil steal your joy!
The devil brought them together the way they did
Intresting podcast. This is a great way to talk it out.
Always communicate to each other what is wrong, be clear in what you mean.
Amy, you have to get out of your head. He loves you, but as you say constantly, love is not perfect. If you need physical touch then go hug your man. If he’s quiet, ask him if he’s ok. Tell him you love him. Show him you love him. He needs the same things you do. You cannot allow your constant fear of him leaving to get the best of you. I love when TJ asked: what kept you….
He’s going to start resenting her.
Therapy in real time folks
I hope you guys can work everything out. Relationships are hard sometimes. I'd love to see you both back on TV, but maybe that will come soon.
Amy it’s nice to see that you have insecurities like any other woman and I’ve noticed people who have podcasts can have 99 great comments but 1 bad comment will make you upset and I hope you can just ignore the bad ones ❤️
Oh please after what she did to Merilee shit ain’t bothering her, except losing that 🍆, that’s all this relationship was built on.
LOLOL 😅😅😅😂😂😂
Accept the things you cannot change hun. That's how he operates that doesn't mean he doesn't love you.
He doesn’t love her…
he can never love anyone but himself.
Train wreck 🚞
The grass isn’t always greener on the other side. It’s starting to feel like a marriage, which is what you both left. Seems like Amy is having regrets and has a lot of insecurities. TJ is showing you who he really is and you can’t handle it. People are on a high when they commit adultery. This is what you signed up for. The way you get them is the way you potentially lose them. You are always going to have those feelings. This is reality. Amy is needy, TJ is moody or silent and I can see this relationship being short term.
A very candid discussion. You each should consider writing a book - either together or individually!
I am sooooooooooo rooting for these two. But it sounds like the honeymoon phase is over 😢 doesn’t mean they won’t work out.
That’s the realest stuff I have ever heard… I need a drink and I don’t drink !
The same way you get them is how you lose them
Pray.
Men are from Mars. Women are from Venus.
TJ, reassure Amy. Sending a child off is a lot to deal with emotionally.
Amy, check in with him but give him sapce.
You both need individual therapists and a couples therapist.
Thanks for the raw and real transparency.
Best wishes to their exes for being a REAL couple. ❤
Good Luck to you both in your relationship journey. You got this! It does get easier. The first 1 to 2 years are the hardest. I am in my 10th year in my second marriage. Don’t give up on the other ❤
Amy he is just very focused perhaps
Not going to work, I wish it could Amy is scared she made the wrong decision. TJ has a strong independent personality. my opinion. Maybe couples therapy.
@jackielavelle7974…. Agree . It’s called monkey branching . Monkey branching from one relationship to another never works out . They both should have taken time for self- healing before embarking on another relationship.
Sounds like she's harboring some resentment over losing her job for love and underlying insecurities. And him on the other hand is void of emotion. Women and men communicate differently on top of working together too. Gotta find a way through their new norm. Therapy helps. Thx for sharing the good and hard reality.
I would love if we can see you though.
Yes that would be perfect
Heavy conversation. Hope they figure it out.
This podcast was brilliant! It's the whole thing about the difference between men and women! There is nothing wrong with your relationship. Just respect each other's boundaries, don't take it personally, and move on. You guys are awesome❣️
Love you guys. Much blessings to you and your relationship.❤
The beginning of the end.
Make time to run together if you’re not. that is something that will make you feel
Better and closer to each other
Come on guys..you can do this.
🤮ewww it won’t work it was built on a lie.
She’s scared because of his history. And he can’t find a therapist? Such B.S. they just had one on the show (Group Therapy)and with his connections he can get one. God will not blessed this.
Total normal in a cheater relationship. He did it on his own wife why wouldn’t he do it to me.
God relationships are so exhausting
So she said job taken unfairly? Employee handbook says disclose relationships and they don’t do that. Both separated in Aug. 2022 not a coincidence? Further they said it episode after this that they have been dating year and a half which proves they were dating before what they said they were. Plus do not say you will pray for them because should have been praying for the previous marriages. Most marriages leave God out of it after they use the Bible and say I do!
I think you both with resent each other for losing your jobs! Amy is telling TJ what she needs but yet he still not listening to her. Maybe y’all need a break from each other
I think Amy is having empty bird’s nest syndrome because she doesn’t want to be alone - I think they are very nice people - I don’t see it going the long haul - hoping for the best - jmo
Amy is having I fucked over my friend syndrome, now how is this relationship gonna last
No perfect situations.
Amy is needy, this relationship is not going to work out, sorry to say that but the writing is on the wall. TJ, was more than reasonable to hearing her but she’s on a whole different level of neediness than what he can give her. She needs to work on herself.
Meanwhile their exes are having fun with each other! Lol I used to like Amy. But Amy, I’m so against home-wreckers and for men, I’m against cheating husbands. I lost respect for you Amy. It’s so sad and I felt bad for your then husband and felt bad for TJ’s then wife and their child. When you talked about relationships, I wish you said that about your marriage. I’ve been married to the same person for over 20 years now. I’ve known my husband since I was a middle schooler and he was in college. I came from another country but didn’t have the relationship until I was about to finish college. Until today, even though it’s not been easy to marry someone with totally different culture, language, pretty much everything including the fact I came from a megapolitan city and he came from just a small town here. Yet we have been able to make it until today through the ups and downs we have had. Maturity is key in a marriage and every relationship. Btw Amy, you should give a space in relationship at times. My husband and I don’t always speak to each other or be in the same room, especially when I have to focus on a project or he has to finish his work at home. You’d probably need to seek for a relationship therapist. Sigh.
I need a drink and I don’t even drink!!!
😂 same
Amy he is saying if he get in that space again you Amy should be the one engaging.
At the end of the day Amy, you are human. Enjoy your life, your family, and your partner...Life is too short to be burdened by the world's viewpoint and opinion...❤
Neither one of you is responsible for making the other feel happy or safe. The belief that another is capable of that is a remnant of the child mind. We are meant to evolve from the child mind into the adult mind. Amy, I feel that you are putting a lot of pressure on TJ to meet your emotional needs, and you are punishing him for not being able to meet them. TJ I feel you need to be very honest and straightforward about who you are. Above all, the only person who provides happiness and safety is God... so put God first and in the center of your relationship.
Hang in there. You two will be okay. Love you guys.
It's called reassurance.
Pray it out remember Jesus loves you..shut out negativity please. 🙏
This shit was built on lies, disrespect, they need to sincerely apologize to their ex’s apologize to their coworkers and be truthful about this whole affair
It always sounds like TJ is saying robot instead of Robach. I know It’s not the first time he’s heard this.
This is what me and my boyfriend babe been going through this same thing with communication.
RUN Amy!!!!
You either love each other or you don't. It is a process.
Totally feeling ít for them. However, this vulnerability is not really good for them in front of the public. It's one thing to be honest with the public; it's another to allow yourself space to work through difficult stuff. Public opinions would take away your ability to have different and changeable solutions. In the end, only your solutions matter, but if you are in the public eye, your mode of operation is not the same as normal people.
You guys stay strong we love you
❤❤❤
I understand Amy TJ need to know he have a strong women behind him so get use to it. ❤
Hilarious soap opera. I can see this appeals to the The Real Housewives crowd. Came by to see a bit of the drama for a good laugh at the self important.
I feel you both may be projecting,you found out Michael Strahan’s daughter has cancer.This is normal feelings.Your colleague you were so close to is going through hell and you both aren’t there. This is bringing up feelings of the past. Very normal.This whole thing is bringing. up cancel culture and the job you loved and lost.Deep breath. Plus everyone feels sick…..just day by day.
Maybe take a drive, be alone together without work ..Go have fun, you miss your old job.Can you dance,look at trees have dinner?Everyone has. moods. Ava leaving triggered Amy.
Seeeeee now you're laughing 😂 awesome 🎉 just work at it daily..u can do it!
Sounds like there are hints of regret driving her insecurity and fear around TJ's weather changes. It also sounds like to me that this podcast is a little to early for where they are in the relationship. The stakes are high here.
This episode displays how narcissistic and emotionally unavailable TJ is. His “I’m sorry” is so empty, insecure, and weak. Amy girl, you can do better than this man. With men like this, the minute she loves him more than he loves her, the minute she needs him more than he needs her, that is the nail in her coffin. If her cancer came back, or any sickness like she had with her first husband, a narcissist like this would never care for her the way her ex did. Tj would be like, “this is to much for me”. It’s not TJ it’s MeJ.
Let her help you!
I’ve been trying to support you guys, but maybe this is too much vulnerability in public. Maybe consider talking it out with a therapist instead. What I see is selfishness on both part. This is what hurts relationships. Stop saying what “you need” and start thinking of what “you need to give”. If you don’t like him being distant, go and give him a hug and say hey, can we take a work break just to hug or something? Or say your love language is words of affirmation and you would like him to acknowledge you every once in a while. On the other hand, he is distant and that’s how he deals with stuff, so he can think of how he can reach out to you (but you have to leave the door open for him to trust that he can do that with you and not feel attacked). He seems like a sensitive guy, which is rare and can be an asset because he is willing to talk things out eventually rather than sweep it under the rug. You’re both very smart and logical, but you’re both sensitive right now bc of the career stress.
Therapy would be for you both if you want your relationship to last.
It’s not gonna last point blank period.
Hahahaha...trouble in paridise? You two will never be happy because of how you went about it all, just know that!
I think TJ needs to read the reviews. Most of those are that he totally disrespects Amy. Where is he seeing that they look like a great couple? He’s awful to her since the first episode!
Yup he’s lying as always those comments are horrible
Narcissists will read comments and think they are positive (to them) when they are negative. Their self image is so skewed and they constantly have to seek attention and outside approval to get their cup filled - which will never be filled because they are empty.
Is this their official podcast channel?
Not for long 🤦♀️