I Don't Have Friends
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- Опубліковано 6 вер 2024
- I talk about my history of not having friendships in my life and how I have grown to be more social. Clearly I am an introvert because I am making videos on UA-cam if that means anything to you. Always remember that YOU are my friend and I will be a friend for you. You have the option to send a private message to me over Facebook if you really need to talk to someone that bad. However, if you want to make real friends in real life, simply work on developing yourself to become a more interesting person and you will find yourself creating new relationships with people like you. Thanks for watching this video, please subscribe and share this video!
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I used to have many many friends, but throughout the years I lost every single one of them. That sucks :(
1 good friend is enough for me
But I don’t have one
I don't have any friends either. I'm always alone no matter where I go. I'm kinda use to being alone yet I hate being alone. I barely go on Facebook because I feel what the point, NOBODY don't hit me up unless they want some money. When I try to interact with them it like I'm just being ignore. So I just learn to entertain myself.
It's my Opinion thats same i try to make friends in school and the keep bullying at me and swearing and makeing fun of me :C i tryed alot i go to online game so no one can hit me but i fell sooo lonely :C i dont have brother to play with me that make me sooooo sad no one likes me :C
Nabeel Bk true. I had friends in school but since we congratulated like they say the circle become small. I have family but it feel like i dont. Only see them when someone in the family dies. Don't even have a relationship with my own mother. It like she always mad at me and look for the smallest things to yell at me. I became a loner due to lack of support. I seen to interact with people online more then my friends.
Also guys am i wrong for hating my own mom? Im probably am and may go to hell and i accept that. I will never get along with my mom we dont have a relationship. All is does is talk down on me never appreciate me.. She wish i end up missing. Im young but soon as school over i have to get out of here. The things she say about me i fucking hate her. Well if not hate i sure as hell dislike her
You aint alone...
Bow to god and the world will be yours
I'm really lonely, people have stabbed me in the back so much and bullied now I'm 18 and they have apologized but words hurt and I wasn't able to move on when people called me "psyco" or told me to die.
I want to have one friend. I have no one.
I'll be your friend....
Freddie Alexander Minton you wrote that 2years ago, did things get better now?
Kenny, I will be your friend.
love u bro
How are you now?
i have been homeschooled my whole life and i have social anxiety so i get super depressed about myself sometimes and this video really made me feel better! thank you 😊
Let me tell you something about a friend. I thought I had friends, until they ditched me. I have no friends, you have no friends, the whole world has no friends.
y did they ditch u?
They were just arrogant pricks I guess. This was over 12 years ago and they all just stopped texting, coming over etc.
+emello81 omg same 😐
Vigiel
I've learned all these years later that they all come and go. you find someone you relate to, have fun with them, and eventually meet other people to have fun with. We all move, job transfer, start families etc. I look back at when I was in grade school and realise most of those people I thought were friends really weren't. They were just people I thought I would become the cool guy with. And eventually look what happened, all 5 of them and even my girlfriend at the time all stopped seeing me. So I ditched them too and moved on to another chapter of my life.
emello81 this is sad is there anyone who remains very close to someone they know from first school, or high school
Wow...I am glad I came across this video.
It makes me feel good to know that I am not the only person that goes through this.
not having a lot of friends is a good thing. you can't be that introverted if you speak this well and speak to millions of people on youtube .
Aaron Hamilton it call explaining an issue NOT make conversation
great sir! you are correct now have a cookie for reward! lol
You are not alone man. I suffer from social anxiety and have poor social skills. Haven't had actual friends since i was a kid and I'm 22 years old now.
Go out and practice talking to people
I went out with 2 friends 2 days ago after almost 2 years of no going out . although i do enjoy my alone time , its starting to lose its color and I'm starting to crave social life .
Agreed-- as introverts, we tend to burry ourselves so deep into isolation as means of comfort, that we forget we actually NEED some social spark in our lives; every human being does. I'm learning to step out of my comfort zone as an introvert and go to events at times. It's scary at first, but once you've done it, you grow!
i used to hang out with a bad crowd, they just used me, now i cant trust anyone
You dont need them they dissapoint you
I realized you can't depend on anyone. I had close people ditch me and my family for little reasons. It got me thinking if people will do it one time then they are bound to do it again if not to me then someone else. We would cross a ocean for them, but they would ditch us over a puddle for us. I have little hope in ever finding another friend in my life. I'm sick and tired of being the guy who would give a kidney for people who spit in my face in times of need.
Emster Erick , wow i think you are a good friend and i respect you , im also a good friend but recently i also lost my good friend , we just live far away from each others , sometime people are moving on and we have to accepted that . Good friends is very hard these day .
sometimes I feel my world was over, when I realize I have no many friends
You deserve more subs and views.You're helping people,while other youtubers playing video games have millions of views and subscribers.
Alex, son. i don't know what to say but i love you even if we're far away, take care of yourself kid - Dad
I wish I had the social skills i needed to make friends is highschool
Friends are disappointments
I'm an introvert to the core. I always had friends or people to socialize with. the problem is that throughout life most people lose touch. how many people can you say you've met and maintained a relationship with? friendships are overrated
Aaron Hamilton only 2 people for me
Some people say positive affirmations are good. You could say "I have friends" and "I'm a winner" if you're that way inclined. Makes your brain change. The Bible says words can bless or curse. Don't curse yourself.
I started out as awkward/quiet/shy but I'm no longer that (I realized what a waste of time it is to be intimidated by ppl or to be afraid of someone judging you). I haven't been awkward/quiet/shy for a couple years now... but the loneliness lingers. All day every day I'm thinking of WHY I don't have friends. I think of so many reasons: I'm too dry, I'm too corny, I'm too different, I'm too harsh, etc. But I'm not satisfied with any of these answers because I know that some ppl of those same characteristics indeed have friends. So there must be something else... but I just cycle that question through my mind constantly and it makes me sad/frustrated. The other day I was riding the bus and there was a group of ppl in the back laughing really loudly and I immediately thought "ugh, so annoying". Then I thought of how badly I'd like to have a group of ppl to laugh loudly with. Even though they were being loud and obnoxious, like you said - they're just having fun.
Hello, I saw how many ppl have this problem and I had it too. Sometimes we expect something that we couldn't have. Sometimes things are dry for help us to be better, not everyone can pass this test. Life is not always good, but when it's Hurt and you'll fight you will realize that what u need is Yourself! only with your self you can win,sometimes it's better give than have. Read this Book: divine mercy by saint faustina maria kowalska and try to read a bible all or (proverbs and siracide).
You cannot find peace quick, but beautifull things happens when you will wait :-)
marti okou Thank you so much for your comment. Fistly because it's nice to not be "trolled" here on UA-cam and instead taken seriosuly. Secondly, because I truly appreciate what you said. I believe you are right by saying life is not always good, we all suffer in different ways at different points in our life. Also, I've found that having myself and knowing loneliness are two important things. I'm not a Christian but I believe anyone can learn from the Bible. Thanks so much for your words.
:-) before I wasn't really a christian, I know that was God but he wasn't for me I said. I know everyday is calling you, because that's was for me even with your imperfections. Belive me :-)
I'm happy when I can make someone smile or just thinkig about life. Too much ppl out there are mad, angry, crazy, selfish ecc
But it's hard to know Why they do this? In many cases they are more sad than us.
Read these books will help you, I know :-)
marti okou thank you :)
I can totally relate to this video. I'm 25 and everyone my age is married with kids. I haven't established myself in a career and I'm still going to school in addition to working part-time graveyard shift. I don't have any friends and it's really depressing as an adult. I lack social skills due to social anxiety. I was completely unaware of social anxiety until I learned about it in a college psychology class. People called me anti-social all of my life. It's not even that, I just don't know what to say to people or I'm afraid to talk to them. UA-cam is my only social media outlet because I'm afraid of people judging me if I were to use Instagram or Facebook. I am not a fan of bars or clubs. I am trying to find ways to keep myself happy, but so far I am very unsuccessful.
Me neither and I'm actually kinda glad atleast I don't have to end up getting hurt or worry about bothering other people. I don't have to commit to anyone and besides everyone nowadays acts the same so it's boring talking to others
Mohamed Ahmed I agree with you. Allah is enough ❤
I would rather have 1 true friend than lots of friends
I'm suffering from depression really bad and I'm losing my memory myself. I'm african American and I don't like all african americans, because we hold each down too much. I got my childhood taken away from me, I went home to home living with people. I'm starting to hate myself. I don't have kids, cuz this a crazy world. My dreams got taken away, from me. I just been through alot.
Man, I can so relate. I have *_zero_* friends. Indeed, most of my life growing up I had no friends. However...there was a small window, from 2005 to 2009, where I had a small group of close friends. Those were good times....but then we all graduated college and moved on, people got married, had kids, etc. There's a few people I'll see maybe once a month at most, but no one that I feel truly close to. It sucks because, while I'm _very_ introverted, I actually love humanity and other people. In fact, I'm quite open to people and find myself in conversations with strangers often....but it never leads to any real friendship.
Now, the internet has helped somewhat...in that it's a way to connect...but it seems like connections in *"real life"* are dwindling....people just seem less and less available to connect on a face-to-face manner. I have a feeling this isn't an uncommon problem; I think our generation as a whole is _really_ missing out on human connection in real life. Though, for some of us(such as myself, and probably everyone who typed "i have no friends" and ended up here) it's worse than most.
Now, I am quite introverted and actually love being alone most of the time. I feel rejuvenated being alone...and often drained when hanging out with people. But, it would be so nice to have just 2 or 3(or even just 1) really close friend who I could go through this crazy life together with. But, after 31 years, I'm starting to wonder if that's even feasible for me. If only it wasn't considered "creepy" to simply ask people straightforwardly, "Do you want to be friends?" For whatever absurd reason, that's considered a big social taboo. Little kids do it with ease...but as we get older, we stop doing that....which sucks imo.
The biggest lesson I've learned through all this is that *in order to make a friend...you have to BE a friend.* It's easy to forget that; we look to _others_ to take charge and befriend us...while often being unwilling to extend our own hand outward.
Oh well....at least having no friends doesn't completely depress me. Luckily, I'm so introverted, that most of the time I'm quite happy to be alone. But, still....it would be nice to have someone to talk to about life with, to share struggles and joy with, to just shoot the shit with, or have deep existential conversations.
Here's a million dollar idea: Someone(who knows how to do such things) ought to create a social network that caters specifically to introverts. Introverts together make good friends...they _get_ each other....but sadly, introverts, by their very nature, aren't likely to ever meet. :(
Btw....you(Kenneth Stahl) seem like a really cool person. I actually typed in "I have no friends" and have been watching all the videos that came up. What's odd is....*_every single_* person I've seen so far in these videos are all really cool interesting creative intelligent ethical people. Why is it that the coolest people end up alone? What a cruel joke lol. If only we all lived in the same city....
lastly... Just thought I'd throw this out on the odd chance someone sees it. I live in Johnson City, Tennessee. I also visit Asheville, NC a lot(which is close to JC, and I used to live there...and hope to move back soon). So, if anyone in the area sees this and wants to be buddies, hit me up! :) It's a long-shot, but you never know....
lets be friends man
I never had many friends also because I suck at maintaining friendship, I have a few friends (like 5 no joke) but I don't actually complain because being an introverted and having social anxiety is what drags me down but I actually like that about me, I love spending time alone.
being an introvert does NOT mean social isolation.
"being an awkward kid has influenced my life" can relate to this, big time.felt so out of place when i was in high school and college but you know when it comes to life you gotta found other ways to entertain yourself.i found a lot of ways like going for long walks travelling and playing video games with deep storylines with amazing adventure.
I need to get this out there, I'm 17 and I have no friends. Back in 2014 when I was in secondary school (high school) I had a group that I did hang out with and we would meet up but rarely and even though I could easily have texted them and talked more often I just didn't and wasn't because I didn't like them its just because I'm naturally antisocial and I really regret it. I have always had issues with communication/social skills but I was able to find a group of friends at my secondary school. But when I left in August and started my new school, I was very lonely and even when I tried to make friends I just came across as annoying, awkward,childish and weird and I literally feel so alone I spent allot of evenings just so depressed and feeling sorry for myself that no one likes me in any way. This video really helped me and thanks for posting it. Cheers mate
+Wezzer TBC i am ur friend bro #nohomo :)
I can relate to you on so many levels. I'm an introvert as well and I've always struggled to make friends. Even now that I'm almost out of college I find myself alone a lot. It's like you want to have friends but just don't know how to go about making friends and keeping them.
hi bro - i like the way you addressed the topic in a positive light - somone who doesn't have friends usually has a negative "sting" that keeps him from progressing and keeps them down - but you have this positive attitude which in itself is what will secure your lasting friendship with your 'crew' i just wanted to point out something - "true friends are rare like diamonds - and sometimes even when you have them - you don't know it - thus in real deal situations you must count on your real friends and its important to know the difference between being "friendly" or "true soldiers" you can rely on - look at it like this: you can be a teacher or a student - and your friends can be from both groups -so for a wise decision you want to go to your "teachers" friends - and for your physical help like moving boxes you ask your student friends i.e. each person has a different personality and will be good at something else - the key is to reveal the good you to can do and stick to it - whether you will teach him or he will teach you - or together you will accomplish - something in a better way - that you both can do. thats the tec. part of it - the heart and soul is that you must love and respect everyone like moses and be careful from them like the biggest thief - the lubavitcher rebbe king moshiach shilt"a (google him) says a global message today (starting around 20 years ago) that "Moshiach is ready to come now - it is only on our part to do something additional in the realm of goodness and kindness - at least a little more and moshiach will come immediately" now if you read and read again those words (everyday) and it becomes the main mission in life then you will learn what people are - because you will be trying to help people (but being careful as well) thus you will know the meaning of friends and that there is no freinds at all in essence because we are all human - the only one who always knows when you need help is ONE AND ONLY hashem-g-d - the g-d of abraham - the g-d of the jews - and of course his messenger the king moshiach - the rebbe - (btw see --igrot.com-- to write to the rebbe and see your life streitend out with miricals today - free - no kidiing intended) all these concepts are fount in chasidus and at more lenth see "tanya - the book - in english" for the map of the human soul - yechi hamelech!
I am in 10th grade now, and people I have done so much for have just let me down and I am really lonely.. I have tried so much, but family and friends have just left, and I know alot of people also have same problems like me. But it is NYE and I am sitting here alone, but Happy New Year to everybody out there.
I had a few close friends in high school. But, I didn't have any friends when I was working. I would of been so grateful if I could of only had at least one friend at my workplace! And I'm also glad that I am now retired and that workplace is now a thing of the past! I have became closer with my friends at my gym!! And I have joined a couple of clubs!! I volunteer every now and then when my gym or clubs, has volunteer days and special events!!! Most importantly, I finally met and got to know people who I consider my good friends!!!!😍
I have so much respect for you brother, I absolutely can relate to what you’re talking about and I’m absolutely sure many others out there can relate
Praise to you🙌🏼🙏🏼
You and I would definitely be great friends
Just subscribed to your channel
Keep posting videos man, you got great contents
You are an inspiration...I also have no friends...be my friend. I love you bye.
Weirdo
being a friend is sharing common interests .. you've got something in common with all the other youtubers who "don't have friends". Cheers.
you have a extreme likeness to me - brother from across the pond.
ah the joys of intelligence
The real issue with me is keeping or making conversation.
No matter how smart you can be it comes down to your social skills
People just verbally bullied me a lot in 8th grade and high school. So I never learned how to make friend. And in my 20s people just where disinterested me no matter how much I reached out
I lost all my friends when I fell into depression 8 months ago.
Two years before I had one friend and I LOOOOVED her.we had so much fun together but she moved to the other side of the country and now i don’t have real friends... I am in a group of friends and I know that if I didn’t was there they wouldn’t even care. no one cares about me. I have depression and anxiety for about 2 years because of that one friend has moved
She was a real friend and we were both introvert lol....and I was bullied
CupNoodle Doodle put yourself out there
Don Chello what do you mean?
CupNoodle Doodle make a social media and put your face on there and try to get invited to as many parties as possible
CupNoodle Doodle and then keep in contact with the people you meet
Its easier to make friends when you're younger so make as much friends as possible because some of them will leave and some will stay its hard to met people sometimes
Hi, my name is Sara this is going to be really hard for me to share all this, but I've never talked to anyone about it, so I guess I need to get it out eventually. Well I'm 15 and in my 10th grade year of high school and I'm craving friends. but I have major depression and eating disorders that make me hate myself 24/7 and constantly have suicidal thoughts, I'm getting help with that though. I have a boyfriend but that's it. I don't know if I'm just super awkward and annoying or if I'm really bad at making friends. I just want one or two people who show interest in me and talking to me and who actually don't mind hanging out with me outside of school.. one of my biggest problems is that since I've had depression I've had NO HOBBIES WHATSOEVER. NO interest in activities I used to love, and that makes me a very boring person to talk to. i could go on for so long but it hurts too much to talk about. I'm just at the end of my line and am seriously contemplating suicide. please someone give me advice anything.
Aw, sweetie. Find something; anything. I barely have any friends, but I have passion for music, and took up drums about 4 years ago. I'm not a christian, but I play drums at church and feel surrounded by nice people, some of which I have become friends with. If you want someone to talk to, I'd be more than happy to. But I would encourage you first to talk about it with your boyfriend or your acquaintances, and if you already have, talk about meeting other friends.
we are here ffor u
I hope your still around, from what you wrote I can see your a good writer, maybe that could be a hobby, I used to be really depressed and now I write rap music haha.
Basquiat I seriously don't get you suicide trolls, you make me ashamed to be human and I dont really care if you feel good that you got a rise. Idiot.
I'll be your friend.
I want to be friends with you on Skype.
Okay, if you don't that's fine. I just know we just both need firends and someone to talk to every once in a while.
Anyway.....
DON'T COMMIT SUICIDE. JUST DON'T.
Eating disorders don't change you at all... You can still make friends (Unlike me). You should be thankful for everything you have.....
(Again) Anyway...... Go get 'em.
No more friends for me
You're not alone, thank you for making this video
Im indonesian and many friend gone in my life[lonely]..
Anyone else here having one or two friends but never want to go out with them because having social phobia?
We all feel lonely, I do too!, sometimes I think the same way as anybody else!
I don't have friends either. I got people that love me, but truly no friends.
Listen to the song legacy by eminem. It might make you feel better
I say that having friends is not necessarily a positive thing at all, here are two scenarios. One you are a very social person and usually social people don't have deep relationships with people "shallow" relations, in that case you'd get betrayed very easily because you don't really know the people around you very well. Scenario two, you'd be an introverted guy and usually introverted people have a very deep relationships with their friends in that case your gonna have to do a lot of what your friends would do even if you didn't like it because it's your only choice to fit in, for example, if your friend thought about smoking weed you'd have to join him...etc . So really, having friends is not necessarily a good thing #LifeLesson .
suliman khayyat I don't get why those are negative things at all. If you have that deep connection with someone and it is mutual, they would never force you to do anything you do not feel comfortable with anyway. I'm like that, and i know my friends would not do that. When you are a 'social butterfly' you actually enjoy the variety of people you meet and the options of hanging out and meeting new people. You're not easily disappointed because you do not trust them with the world anyway. ( I have a few friends who are like this) it fits their personality so they are very happy. The only downside of having friends is when you have shitty friends, in that case being alone is better. And being alone is not the same as being lonely, you can be happy on your own too.
Absolutely
So smoke weed alone then? ok... I'll do it right now.. Hang on..
same here.....19 years of age
no friend to hangout with...😭😭😭
I have your same problem Sara and its really hard to say this
People are headaches they only cause drama hurt and pain and sometimes betrayal you're better off
you're making a simple prom harder all you have to have is one common interest with someone like bonfires video games or something you both enjoy doing then you have a friend personally I have a lot of friends because we have all different interest we do a lot of fun stuff together
Dominic toretto- "I don't have friends I got family"
I would think I am an extrovert and cannot get the "energy" off...does that make sense? Seriously: Is it possible to be an extrovert that feels like being lonely?
I have been Socially Deprived my entire life. Wasnt aloud friends, go hang out, girlfriends, etc. Idk why but I feel alone and unwanted in life. But thats ok. I mean im 23 and my job makes me be more social and I have improved 100% but it feels like its to late. I was always the black sheep of my family and was shut out from everything. All ive ever wanted was a social life. Friends. Ive always been outgoing and respectful to everyone but I just cant figure out the social game. If anyone ever needed a friend I was always their. and I still am. For anyone.
Do you have buddies now?
Nah not really
+Drew Rogers Good to know im not the only one
+Drew Rogers sorry bruh
+Drew Rogers I'm in the same boat as you currently.
So If I'm an akward kid who wants to have but has no friends, the only way I can get some is to change? Because if I want to work on my social skills, take up some sport or anything that I can share when I'm speaking with someone means that I have to change. ..But I want friends who love me for who I am and not for who I can be after that small/big change..
Zsirmik Marcell Its more like developing social skills rather than changing.
Be your own best friend works for me
weed the only way i kinda made friends but I never actually figured out how to socialize i used weed as the cover so I could skate before that i was alone and im right back
Hey there. I'd like to be your friend. I'm homeschooled. I don't get many chances for friends.
Man your stuation was better than mine .... the high school i were in were all enemys
It's okay. I'll be your friend.
They who dont have friends have better chance to get good job.
My grandfather sayed that.
Is it true?
Sausage- Slayer999 , never actually if you have a good friend is very good , just like me , i want a job opportunities i want to introduce to my good friends . There are some friends out there that we can trust and rely on sometimes .
No. Corporate America is more crony than merit based. Powerful friends hire and promote friends.
U did a good job bro.u did not make frnds because frnds will only cheat.
I really liked your video!
Okay, today is June 6, 2020....12.4 UA-cam subscribers...life any better....?
Same
“Friends are a possible financial and emotional burden,a wise man would not have them”
😁 feel lonely ? ...read the prince.
Great vid bro
u can be my friend
Just go out and do stuff. Plan stuff
I think your a cool dude Kenneth.
Dont waist uour Time to Make friends because of it Goes Wrong IT wil cost you Time and Time is More worth than anyting on the hole world
Your just like me , im 19 too
Isolation and separation are illusions...read A Course in Miracles.That'll set you straight.
Hey...
I don't have friends ?????
undead ink, you can pm me any time
Me gusta maradona, el dulce de leche, los jueguitos y pewdiepie y 6nine guba alguien quiere ser mi amigoooooo
can you work ? Do you work?
U r what i aim not to be
I think you're beautiful!😍😍😍
I can be a frnd :)
u dont have frend
what the heck are I doing booooooooooooooooo
I mean you