I know some people don't understand the banter between my daughter and I and it may come off as disrespectful, but I assure you it's all in good fun. I think she's absolutely hilarious and have a lot of fun with her!
"You only smile when you hurt me.." pretty much define every teenager 😂 But, Mom, she's here among this mountain of a pile of stuff in someone's basement helping you out. So, she LOVES YOU and loves spending time with you. You did a great job as a mom! ❤ You two did an angel's work in there. 🙏
I watch you for 1/2hour….then i go through my house and find afew things to pitch. Repeat. And my house is already decluttered. But your videos inspire me to find even more things to get rid of!
My dad had two totes full of brand new single shoes- he was an amputee. In my city, now that he's gone, there's a shoe exchange for amputees. That's exactly why he saved them, in hopes of finding someone who could use them.
I love that! I actually brought that up in one of my other videos when I came across several shoes that I couldn't find pairs to. I wondered if amputees ever need just one shoe. A lot of people said that they usually will still get both shoes because most of the time they have a prosthetic that they put the other shoe on, but I suppose there are still those that only need the one shoe.
@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp the thing about prosthetics is that you must keep your weight very stable- they told my dad he had to keep his weight within 5 lbs of the weight he was when he was fitted for it. Otherwise, it doesn't fit correctly and chafes the stump. Dad couldn't keep his weight stable, so he was using crutches until he had a stroke in his 70's and had to use a mobility chair. It also depends on where the amputation is. I've got a friend who was amputated so close to his hip that he can't wear a prosthetic.
OMG! I'm dying! 😂 I think your daughter and my kids came from the same mold. Exasperating, irritating, enjoyable, and loving all at the same time. My daughter and I are dumb together all the time. Thank you for sharing the sarcasm and shenanigans!
I'm so glad the majority of people actually understand our banter and can see that we do love each other. It is definitely not a typical mother/daughter relationship, but I find Kaylee hilarious and I have so much fun being around her...even if she does want to beat the crap out of me with whatever the heck that thing was... haha! And I also love that you share a similar dumb humor with your kids.😄
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp 🤣My daughter was being a stinker when we were shopping one time in her Jr year of high school. She asked me why I don't love her and I said, "because you're not a boy." (We have 3 boys, 1 girl) She knew I was kidding and dropped to the floor laughing so hard but the lady next to us gave me the dirtiest look. It's 10 years later and that is still a huge joke between my daughter and I. I love that girl!
@@koc4787 Your story sounds very familiar...probably because we have had almost the exact same conversation. Seriously! That's so funny! I like shocking people who don't know we are joking. 🤣🤣🤣
I’ve recently come across your channel via Mack’s channel and I must say I am so impressed with your generosity, selflessness and honesty. You are an inspiration and the world would be a better place if there were more people like you in it. Greetings from Ireland ❤😘.
I think you and the crew have done enough for now. You have done the entire home and you have cleaned, organised, removed, as much as you can. Up to Julie where this goes next.
Exactly. I will actually talk a lot more about that very thing in the next one as it will be the final one in this series and I'm going to be a bit more candid about my experience.
Cognitive overload could be so reduced by labelling the bags and boxes. I carry wide painter's tape and a magic marker and slap a label on as soon as I designate a category for a box or bag. Essential when working with a big team as well, to cut down on questions like "Which identical black bag is garbage and which is clothes?" I'm also autistic and amazed by your endurance for social interaction while keeping up all this decision-making, Bonnie!
That definitely could have helped in this situation. I think I got so focused on just getting through stuff quickly and didn't stop to think about the fact that I could make it a lot easier on myself by labeling the bags.😅 I did label the boxes after we put stuff in them and stacked them so that she knew what was in each box without having to open it up, but didn't think about that during the sorting process. Definitely something to keep in mind for the future.😊👍
Even multiple color bags, or just a specific color for trash could help cut down on questions but also give the home owner a sense of peace that no one will throw away the wrong bag by mistake. It costs a little more and means you can't reuse bags as you empty them, as easily, but it can be worth the expense.
I'm glad you think so because others were quite offended by it and I thought she was being disrespectful.🤔😅 I definitely would not have put it in my video if I thought she was being disrespectful. This is just the way we are, and I love spending time with her! This one was also my favorite video of this series because of my daughter. I laughed all the way through the editing process.🤣
In England they have an expression for people like Kayley: Cheeky. Not really naughty but teasing and making fun in a little "off" way. I LOVE her humor. "Wearable" and "shoeable". Cool. I can force myself to kneed dough and make bread that way, but I prefer to put it in a mashine. Flour on my hands gives me goosebumps all over
She is a little cheeky. 😍 Oh my gosh, yes, I forgot about flour. That's another one that gives me the heebie-jeebies. It's not as bad as chalk, but still...yikes!
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp there are two types of jelly fish, the white and the red ones. The white ones are just jelly. the other ones are like stinging nettles. I like neither.
I would not have known to start.. It is great you have all the family helping you out. I admire what you do for deserving people so they can move on with their lives. So many shoes!
The part of the video that I'm missing right before that was me calling for my mom who is upstairs to come help me dig out of the mess and she wasn't responding, but after I swam over the pillows and went upstairs, I found that she was stuck behind her own wall of things. That's the part I wish I could have included in the video that I'm now missing in that corrupted file. Oh well. At least I had a portion of it still.🤷♀️😊
What an awesome family you guys are, that your mum and your daughter both come to help. I love your guys humour. Wow this home has me feeling overwhelmed just watching. The volume of belongings...you did so well just to categorize them and I'm hoping the owner will have the courage to use this new space to sort through things and let some more stuff go. Looking forward to seeing you at Mira's place! Yay!
I have a friend that has a "pillow room" in his home. Seriously! He probably has that many pillows in there. It is so cool, and comfy, to go there and listen to all kinds of music in candlelight. It is an immediate stress reliever. I'm quite sure he made it for his lady guests, like me, to cuddle up. I just got a kick out of it, and we talked for hours. We still do. I think there should be a program that donates large lots of pillows like that to make their own pillow rooms. I laugh younger in cheek, but honestly it would be excellent for mental health. Some therapist could likely benefit from such! I've been binging your shows and really like the organization. But. I mostly like how you talk about the hoarding being often from trauma. My home is in the worse shape ever. Listening to you, it is making sense, bc I have had a 6 surgeries in 3 years. The pain in between was terrible, as was the recovery. It has been truly traumatic. And, it is showing in my home and storage building. Just saying ... thank you for sharing your thoughts and knowledge! May God's blessings be upon you as continue this "ministry😊" with a true "servants heart❤" for those in need!
Oh my goodness! A new business idea. Instead of all of the event centers that are popping up everywhere (at least here in Utah), we could have Pillow Palaces where there are just different rooms of different colored pillows and different textures of pillows where people come to spend an hour in a room with beautiful pillows. There would need to be a good way to sanitize them after each session, but I'm loving the thought of this... haha! Also, yes, I can imagine that you would be a little traumatized after that many surgeries in a row and not being able to do things the way you used to. I'm so sorry you are dealing with that!
My dad came up with Bed Bath and Beyoncé a long time ago, which NGL would be amazing. You're getting your towels and curtains and turn the corner and there's Beyoncé singing and dancing. What about Bed, Bats, and Beyond? The store slowly becomes a haunted gothic castle the further back you go?
I like both these ideas. Why would Beyonce not want to spend her entire day at a store singing and dancing?😁 And I also love your second idea. That's actually right up my daughter's alley so she could help me start it. She loves horror movies and could do some cool things with that store.😂
Every time I watch a video in this series, I am AMAZED at how much stuff Julie has accumulated! I hope this is the first step on the road to recovery for her.
Well, stay tuned for the next video because I will share how things have gone so far as I am probably done helping there unless there are some significant changes over the next five or six weeks while I'm working on other projects.
Hoping Julie is doing well. There was so much stuff in this series. Thank you for what you do! You and Kaylee make me laugh every time you are working together. Very similar to myself & my daughter. Joking & laughs make it fun!
Thank you! I love finding people who understand our dumb humor. We have a pretty unconventional relationship, but it works for us. I love my daughter to pieces...even if she does think about beating the crap out of me with whatever that thing was.😂😂
I got inspired by this video. 1) Cleaning out my walk-in closet today 2) emptied & sorted junk drawer. Searching dollar store 4 an organizer. 3)Our city wide Cleanup is in April, so the shed is going 2 get purged and organized. Thanks for your inspiration. I'll tune in again soon. Your Oregon Viewer. 😊
Exactly 💯, I helped my neighbor clean his apartment, because it was the right 👍🏾 thing to do, and only someone who'd help, myself ❤ and didn't want him to be evicted because of. He wasn't able to, and appreciative to this day. He keeps it clean everyday since😂❤😂😊 that's what it's about... paying it forward with kindness 🌷 I've done like yourself,in my community ❤️ it keeps me from my own depression and anxiety 😔 helping others 😂 ❤, watching you to get added tips..thank you 👍🏾 for inspiring ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
This is an awesome video. I enjoyed seeing you with your daughter. That was alot of stuff to get through and you did a great job. I'm looking forward to you helping Mira again. ❤ to all of you free cleaners out there. You give us all hope
You are doing an excellent job. I know many people may think sorting it all but not getting rid of anything is useless, but this is huge first step in the process for the home owner. She’s letting you into her home, touching her stuff, and she’ll see the multiples of everything she has. And it’s getting everything up off the floor, consolidated, organized, making a path for fire and safety. If she were open to seeing a therapist, maybe she would eventually let you take the next step…letting go of some of the stuff. You have a heart of gold ❤🇨🇦
I agree it does help to have everything in one place. I think the biggest struggle here is that she has limited time to get through all of this so that she isn't evicted (I think end of May is the deadline) and I don't think she is making progress quick enough. She kept canceling or wanting to reschedule things, so it was a struggle to get things organized enough for her to really go through and make the best decisions. I'll actually talk more about some of the sad realities of this situation on my next video. Hoarding disorder is a seriously rough thing for both the hoarder and their family. It's been eye-opening to witness it firsthand. She is getting therapy, but I'm afraid it's not the kind she really needs...more like talk therapy rather than CBT which I understand is the best treatment for hoarding disorder. So, we will see what happens. I have other jobs I'm working on, but my mom is still keeping tabs on the situation and hopefully she will be ready for me to come back in May to help with one last push to keep her from being evicted.
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wpYes, people with hoarding disorders don’t seem to do well with absolute deadlines and pressure. It took years for them to get like this and it takes years to acknowledge they have a problem and learn how to overcome it. I have a couple family members that suffer from this. For them it is because of trauma and loss. I didn’t mean to come across as judging or be critical. I only mean to say thank you for trying to help. It’s unfortunate this case has a hard deadline and eviction.
I have so much empathy for the woman who owns all this stuff. Hoping she is able to use this momentum to create some big changes in her life with the appropriate supports and help. Great job Bonnie.
It has to be difficult for Julie. When I open my bins and boxes, sometimes I am relieved to see what is in it. Ok, no bad memories in this box, or I might identify something that has an easy decision to keep or give, or something that I was looking for. So far I have only gotten a few things out the door.
Awwww, i totally get your banter together. My son is 'on the spectrum' with A.D.H.D & autism. He is probably the funniest person i know & has me in stitches all the time. Sometimes people dont get our relationship & may view him as being disrespectful. But he is anything but! Hes extremely loving and kind, even though he will be 30 soon, and has moved away with his girlfriend, he still calls me every day to chat & check on me. He visits often & i visit him & his lovely girlfriend. There was a time that i was so worried about him. He barely left the house and had zero self confidence. But he is so happy now and a young man i am very proud of. Please let me assure you, that patience (which you obviously have) and love (also obvious) between you two, and good communication, will conquer any problems. You are so lucky to have each other. 😊 So if anyone doesn't 'get it', that is their problem not yours. Sorry to waffle on. 🤦🏻♀️ I think what you do is incredible btw. So kind. Sending you lots & lots of love from the U.K. ❤❤❤xx
Same situation here. I actually had to come watch the video after the author posted about the responses she had had about this video. It all looks and sounds pretty familiar. When every thing is hard the dark humour can be the only think that saves you
I love you guys so much for understanding and getting our banter together. I love my daughter so much and find her absolutely hilarious! She is one of my favorite people to be around because she always has me laughing! So, thank you for being part of our "tribe."❤️🙏😊
Ty for the continued help from your family members!! Not a shoe person either!! 😮😢😊😅❤ God bless. Continued prayers for this family on the decluttering journey
I think I might have already said this, but seeing the basement really brought home to me just how much stuff Julie has. It's absolutely mind blowing. It's going to take months to get through it all and I worry she might get fatigued with it all and still be adding to the hoard. You have worked so amazingly hard with all this I just hope Julie can appreciate that and keep at it.
I will actually talk a lot about how things ended up in my next video because I think, unless there are some serious changes in her mindset, I can't really do much more to help. She has got to get more stuff out of the house. It is really, really sad to see the reality of these situations and how it can feel like nothing is going to change. I have a lot of empathy for both her and her family because this is a seriously hard mental illness.😪
You did fantastically! I was so amazed at the end how much floor space you made. I bet the banter with your daughter made the day go easier! I liked your humour and seeing how slowly the non-sped up sorting actually goes! Well done- the house is looking so much better.
Great job and alot of hard work! Amazing! I helped my daughter organize her pantry. She could barely get in there! Lol! It took us 2 days! I had her really think about all the stuff she had and was able to convince her to throw some stuff away. It looked better but I wish I could have done more.
Isn't it crazy the amount of time it can take to clean and organize one little area? I'm always shocked at how far off I am on my estimation of how long something will take. And I totally understand wanting to do more. It's a lot easier to do that with someone else's stuff because you want to just toss half of it. 😅I'm sure she appreciated the help.😊
You are amazing and so nice of your daughter to come and help too! Some of the shoes were clearly worn while others looked new. Nothing worse than missing a match for a shoe you like.
Thank you. What's funny is I don't think she's actually worn any of these shoes. And I think she went on binge shopping sprees and bought all of them and then they got buried in all of this mess. That's the saddest part about this is that it seems she bought a lot of stuff for that dopamine hit, but has never actually used it or done anything with it. It breaks my heart because her mind is so broken.😪
AMAZING your daughter and mum has helped you take on an enormous task and you are all inspirational I’ve so enjoyed your videos so thank you so so much . Eva from Scotland xxx
She cracks me up. I also watched it several times even after I was done editing it because it's so funny to me. 😂I totally understand why a few people think she is being disrespectful, but this is just the way we banter. I always love spending time with her because she makes me laugh even if I do sound like I'm being stern with her sometimes. I'm never really upset. 😊
Thanks for another great video of decluttering. I feel a little bit better after watching your video. I have such a mess at my house. You’re giving me encouragement that I can clean it up one trash bag at a time.
Nothing weird at all about your conversations! Just funny in the ha ha ha way. :) If people don't like it, that's THEIR problem. It's certainly not yours! You do you. 💜💜
Wow! So much stuff. I have to admit that it causes me a lot of anxiety to see all the mountains of stuff and I wouldn’t know where to start. Great job Bonnie! I would think it would be very helpful for Julie to see just how much of each thing she has. Hopefully she realizes this now and can turn the page to a new attitude about stuff.
My mom hoarded papers and trash. I toss at least 20 items each day. Junk mail, clothes and dishes for Goodwill, recycling, and more are gone. I own 3 cardboard cartons. My mom had over 200. In our home, there are 2 toss pillows. Two toss pillows. You are a saint. Tina, Al's wife
It's definitely a hard mental illness to understand for those of us who don't have such an attachment to things. It has been really, really sad to see how much this stuff means to her, and yet she doesn't want to live this way.😪 I definitely have a few things that I have a hard time getting rid of, but nothing even close to this.🤔
Awwwww ❤ you mentioned me again! Thank you so much!!! I got over 400 new subscribers for your mentioning!! You’re so awesome!! One day maybe I’ll come help you clean haha I promise not throw pillows at you 😂
Amazing job as always Bonnie, don’t be disheartened! You have made a huge visible difference and a definite positive impact on the owners quality of life. Keep at it😊 take care, from the UK Xxx
Omg ye worked on Valentines Day that’s love of the job 🥰 or madness 😂 With so much stuff I’m not surprised you kept changing how you were going to organise it. Bonnie you are absolutely amazing to help anyone in this situation. I would have cried so many times with so many emotions. With the stuff ye didn’t sell was it donated or did it come back into the house. The space you made in the basement was brilliant. Have a great week. Mary, Joes wife 🙇♀️👏👍💪🙏💐👢🩴👞👟🥾🥿👡👠🕶👓
To answer your question about the stuff being donated, I actually couldn't tell you because I wasn't able to go back the next week like I was supposed to to finish things up and get my final footage because she woke up sick the morning that I was supposed to go and so I wasn't able to see if things actually got taken to the thrift store or if they came back into the house. Sadly, my guess is that they never made it to the thrift store, but I hope I'm wrong. I will talk a lot more candidly about this whole experience in my next video as I think there is not anything more I can do to help this woman until she gets some serious therapy. It's really, really sad.😞
I actually know nothing about The Shoe People. I was just thinking about a "shoe person" in my head and wondered if there was some kind of picture out there of a shoe person, and then I stumbled across The Shoe People. I don't remember the show at all even though apparently it was in 1987. It must not have been on TV very long because I have no memory of it. It was just funny that I actually found a picture to go along with the dumb thought in my head.😅
Bravo 👏 for your labors! I wouldn't even consider doing a job like that. Just would trigger too many negative thoughts and emotions and I'd be a massive wreck for my own family to deal with at the end of the day. I'm all for making a mess go away and cleaning and actually enjoy that but just to make other stacks and piles of stuff that isn't going away, just sorted and moved to a new pile or stack, nope. Not doing that. 😢
I will be talking a lot more candidly about this whole experience in my next video/ last video of this series because it has been a very interesting and different experience than any of the other homes I have cleaned, for sure. It's been a huge learning experience and I definitely have a lot of empathy for those with hoarding disorder and their families. It is a seriously hard mental illness.😞
The chalk thing makes sense to me. Anyone who has choked on chalk dust would have the same feeling. It is so dry and clings. The wood thing makes sense as well because splinters are the worst.
It would make sense if that's what actually made me feel like I can't breathe, but even the thought of chalk and touching it makes my chest feel tight and I have to take deep breaths. I agree about the wood. I don't like the feel of wood after my hands have been wet or touching paper, which makes sense because it is wood, but I can touch it. It's not my favorite, but I am definitely not as a verse to it as my daughter. And yes, splinters do suck.😄
I know some people don't understand the banter between my daughter and I and it may come off as disrespectful, but I assure you it's all in good fun. I think she's absolutely hilarious and have a lot of fun with her!
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I would love too see more of you both together ❤
💕Love the fun you have with your daughter. These times are precious.
When she said, "I do my laundry *fast*. It's like going from guitar to electric guitar." OMG! She is totally my new best friend!
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"You only smile when you hurt me.." pretty much define every teenager 😂 But, Mom, she's here among this mountain of a pile of stuff in someone's basement helping you out. So, she LOVES YOU and loves spending time with you. You did a great job as a mom! ❤
You two did an angel's work in there. 🙏
Lol! Yeah, she makes me laugh...even if I pretend otherwise. 😁
Amazing job too All!! Soooo much stuff to go through, its overwhelming for anyone. Im sure the family is grateful for your help!! ❤🕉️
I watch you for 1/2hour….then i go through my house and find afew things to pitch. Repeat.
And my house is already decluttered. But your videos inspire me to find even more things to get rid of!
I love to hear that!😁❤️
Your daughter is hysterical and delightful - love her humor!
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Your daughter is hilarious! 😂
My dad had two totes full of brand new single shoes- he was an amputee. In my city, now that he's gone, there's a shoe exchange for amputees. That's exactly why he saved them, in hopes of finding someone who could use them.
I love that! I actually brought that up in one of my other videos when I came across several shoes that I couldn't find pairs to. I wondered if amputees ever need just one shoe. A lot of people said that they usually will still get both shoes because most of the time they have a prosthetic that they put the other shoe on, but I suppose there are still those that only need the one shoe.
@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp the thing about prosthetics is that you must keep your weight very stable- they told my dad he had to keep his weight within 5 lbs of the weight he was when he was fitted for it. Otherwise, it doesn't fit correctly and chafes the stump. Dad couldn't keep his weight stable, so he was using crutches until he had a stroke in his 70's and had to use a mobility chair. It also depends on where the amputation is. I've got a friend who was amputated so close to his hip that he can't wear a prosthetic.
I didn't know that. That's very interesting. Thanks for sharing!
Interesting...I never considered this.
That is wild on how many shoes there are there she has enough to start a shoe store 100% and Pillows. Anna In Ohio
Cleaning out moms house and our own stuff. It is overwhelming but nearly done
I love your daughter’s sense of humor.
I'm so glad. I do, too. Some people really don't get it and think that she's being disrespectful, but she makes me laugh every time I'm around her.😄
I do too! As soon as I heard her talking I was like “I love this kid!”
OMG! I'm dying! 😂 I think your daughter and my kids came from the same mold. Exasperating, irritating, enjoyable, and loving all at the same time. My daughter and I are dumb together all the time. Thank you for sharing the sarcasm and shenanigans!
I'm so glad the majority of people actually understand our banter and can see that we do love each other. It is definitely not a typical mother/daughter relationship, but I find Kaylee hilarious and I have so much fun being around her...even if she does want to beat the crap out of me with whatever the heck that thing was... haha! And I also love that you share a similar dumb humor with your kids.😄
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp 🤣My daughter was being a stinker when we were shopping one time in her Jr year of high school. She asked me why I don't love her and I said, "because you're not a boy." (We have 3 boys, 1 girl) She knew I was kidding and dropped to the floor laughing so hard but the lady next to us gave me the dirtiest look. It's 10 years later and that is still a huge joke between my daughter and I. I love that girl!
@@koc4787 Your story sounds very familiar...probably because we have had almost the exact same conversation. Seriously! That's so funny! I like shocking people who don't know we are joking. 🤣🤣🤣
Clearly the shoes were overwhelming and I like your daughter's sense of humor 😊
Haha... thank you!
I’ve recently come across your channel via Mack’s channel and I must say I am so impressed with your generosity, selflessness and honesty. You are an inspiration and the world would be a better place if there were more people like you in it. Greetings from Ireland ❤😘.
Aw, thank you so much!❤️🙏
Your daughter’s dry sense of humor is absolutely hilarious. I love her. ❤
I think you and the crew have done enough for now. You have done the entire home and you have cleaned, organised, removed, as much as you can. Up to Julie where this goes next.
Exactly. I will actually talk a lot more about that very thing in the next one as it will be the final one in this series and I'm going to be a bit more candid about my experience.
Cognitive overload could be so reduced by labelling the bags and boxes. I carry wide painter's tape and a magic marker and slap a label on as soon as I designate a category for a box or bag. Essential when working with a big team as well, to cut down on questions like "Which identical black bag is garbage and which is clothes?" I'm also autistic and amazed by your endurance for social interaction while keeping up all this decision-making, Bonnie!
That definitely could have helped in this situation. I think I got so focused on just getting through stuff quickly and didn't stop to think about the fact that I could make it a lot easier on myself by labeling the bags.😅 I did label the boxes after we put stuff in them and stacked them so that she knew what was in each box without having to open it up, but didn't think about that during the sorting process. Definitely something to keep in mind for the future.😊👍
Even multiple color bags, or just a specific color for trash could help cut down on questions but also give the home owner a sense of peace that no one will throw away the wrong bag by mistake. It costs a little more and means you can't reuse bags as you empty them, as easily, but it can be worth the expense.
Your banter with your kid is hilarious 😂 That was my favorite part of this series.
I'm glad you think so because others were quite offended by it and I thought she was being disrespectful.🤔😅 I definitely would not have put it in my video if I thought she was being disrespectful. This is just the way we are, and I love spending time with her! This one was also my favorite video of this series because of my daughter. I laughed all the way through the editing process.🤣
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wpit’s wild that people were offended! I could tell you guys were having a blast joking around with each other
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp My youngest daughter would have been twerking (I mean really badly) all over everything 😁
“Mom, I am doing a process” 😂😂
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OMG, I love your daughter! She is hilarious and a little dark..I like that in a person, lol! Holy pillows Batman 😱
She's the best! I always laugh when I'm with her, even when I sound like I'm exasperated with her. We just get each other.😁
The amount of work you do is truly breathtaking.
Thank you!
In England they have an expression for people like Kayley: Cheeky. Not really naughty but teasing and making fun in a little "off" way. I LOVE her humor. "Wearable" and "shoeable". Cool.
I can force myself to kneed dough and make bread that way, but I prefer to put it in a mashine. Flour on my hands gives me goosebumps all over
She is a little cheeky. 😍 Oh my gosh, yes, I forgot about flour. That's another one that gives me the heebie-jeebies. It's not as bad as chalk, but still...yikes!
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wpI'm really good at bringing in the memory of things NOT to touch. My number one is Jellyfish - yikes.
Thank goodness I've never been stung by a jellyfish. 🤞
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp there are two types of jelly fish, the white and the red ones. The white ones are just jelly. the other ones are like stinging nettles. I like neither.
Did she say "Do you want a variety of wholesomeness? 😅 That was funny! Its great to see you two work together.
I would not have known to start.. It is great you have all the family helping you out. I admire what you do for deserving people so they can move on with their lives. So many shoes!
You swimming in the pillows was the funniest thing to watch 😂 The home owner really could organize a pillow fight with the whole neighborhood! 😊
😂 it was a pillow fight. Bonnie's the best.
The part of the video that I'm missing right before that was me calling for my mom who is upstairs to come help me dig out of the mess and she wasn't responding, but after I swam over the pillows and went upstairs, I found that she was stuck behind her own wall of things. That's the part I wish I could have included in the video that I'm now missing in that corrupted file. Oh well. At least I had a portion of it still.🤷♀️😊
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp that's hilarious! 😂
Ooh both stuck in and behind stuff .... Hilarious but also sad
Hahaha!! It really makes it less overwhelming when you can have some fun too 😅 @@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp
What an awesome family you guys are, that your mum and your daughter both come to help. I love your guys humour. Wow this home has me feeling overwhelmed just watching. The volume of belongings...you did so well just to categorize them and I'm hoping the owner will have the courage to use this new space to sort through things and let some more stuff go. Looking forward to seeing you at Mira's place! Yay!
Thank you! ❤️🙏
Wow Bonnie! An immense task! You did really well and I wish I had your persistence and patience! ❤😊
Thanks so much! 😊
I have a friend that has a "pillow room" in his home. Seriously!
He probably has that many pillows in there. It is so cool, and comfy, to go there and listen to all kinds of music in candlelight. It is an immediate stress reliever.
I'm quite sure he made it for his lady guests, like me, to cuddle up. I just got a kick out of it, and we talked for hours. We still do.
I think there should be a program that donates large lots of pillows like that to make their own pillow rooms. I laugh younger in cheek, but honestly it would be excellent for mental health.
Some therapist could likely benefit from such!
I've been binging your shows and really like the organization. But. I mostly like how you talk about the hoarding being often from trauma. My home is in the worse shape ever. Listening to you, it is making sense, bc I have had a 6 surgeries in 3 years. The pain in between was terrible, as was the recovery. It has been truly traumatic. And, it is showing in my home and storage building. Just saying ... thank you for sharing your thoughts and knowledge!
May God's blessings be upon you as continue this "ministry😊" with a true "servants heart❤" for those in need!
Oh my goodness! A new business idea. Instead of all of the event centers that are popping up everywhere (at least here in Utah), we could have Pillow Palaces where there are just different rooms of different colored pillows and different textures of pillows where people come to spend an hour in a room with beautiful pillows. There would need to be a good way to sanitize them after each session, but I'm loving the thought of this... haha! Also, yes, I can imagine that you would be a little traumatized after that many surgeries in a row and not being able to do things the way you used to. I'm so sorry you are dealing with that!
Bonnie I just couldn’t! I salute you, I had second hand stress just from watching and I am a messy person. You are a trooper xx
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This video was so much fun 🤩
Bed, Bat & Beyond sounds like a winner. I’m in!!
My dad came up with Bed Bath and Beyoncé a long time ago, which NGL would be amazing. You're getting your towels and curtains and turn the corner and there's Beyoncé singing and dancing.
What about Bed, Bats, and Beyond? The store slowly becomes a haunted gothic castle the further back you go?
I like both these ideas. Why would Beyonce not want to spend her entire day at a store singing and dancing?😁 And I also love your second idea. That's actually right up my daughter's alley so she could help me start it. She loves horror movies and could do some cool things with that store.😂
Every time I watch a video in this series, I am AMAZED at how much stuff Julie has accumulated! I hope this is the first step on the road to recovery for her.
Well, stay tuned for the next video because I will share how things have gone so far as I am probably done helping there unless there are some significant changes over the next five or six weeks while I'm working on other projects.
Hoping Julie is doing well. There was so much stuff in this series. Thank you for what you do! You and Kaylee make me laugh every time you are working together. Very similar to myself & my daughter. Joking & laughs make it fun!
Thank you! I love finding people who understand our dumb humor. We have a pretty unconventional relationship, but it works for us. I love my daughter to pieces...even if she does think about beating the crap out of me with whatever that thing was.😂😂
I got inspired by this video.
1) Cleaning out my walk-in closet today
2) emptied & sorted junk drawer. Searching dollar store 4 an organizer.
3)Our city wide Cleanup is in April, so the shed is going 2 get purged and organized.
Thanks for your inspiration. I'll tune in again soon. Your Oregon Viewer. 😊
Yay! I love to hear that! 🥰
Exactly 💯, I helped my neighbor clean his apartment, because it was the right 👍🏾 thing to do, and only someone who'd help, myself ❤ and didn't want him to be evicted because of. He wasn't able to, and appreciative to this day. He keeps it clean everyday since😂❤😂😊 that's what it's about... paying it forward with kindness 🌷 I've done like yourself,in my community ❤️ it keeps me from my own depression and anxiety 😔 helping others 😂 ❤, watching you to get added tips..thank you 👍🏾 for inspiring ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you for sharing, Shettikka! I love hearing stories of people helping each other. 🥰🙏
If perseverance came with awards, the trophy would be yours!
This is an awesome video. I enjoyed seeing you with your daughter. That was alot of stuff to get through and you did a great job. I'm looking forward to you helping Mira again. ❤ to all of you free cleaners out there. You give us all hope
Thank you so much!
Your relationship with your daughter, is awesome. 😊
I think so too! Thank you!❤️
You are doing an excellent job. I know many people may think sorting it all but not getting rid of anything is useless, but this is huge first step in the process for the home owner. She’s letting you into her home, touching her stuff, and she’ll see the multiples of everything she has. And it’s getting everything up off the floor, consolidated, organized, making a path for fire and safety. If she were open to seeing a therapist, maybe she would eventually let you take the next step…letting go of some of the stuff. You have a heart of gold ❤🇨🇦
I agree it does help to have everything in one place. I think the biggest struggle here is that she has limited time to get through all of this so that she isn't evicted (I think end of May is the deadline) and I don't think she is making progress quick enough. She kept canceling or wanting to reschedule things, so it was a struggle to get things organized enough for her to really go through and make the best decisions. I'll actually talk more about some of the sad realities of this situation on my next video. Hoarding disorder is a seriously rough thing for both the hoarder and their family. It's been eye-opening to witness it firsthand. She is getting therapy, but I'm afraid it's not the kind she really needs...more like talk therapy rather than CBT which I understand is the best treatment for hoarding disorder. So, we will see what happens. I have other jobs I'm working on, but my mom is still keeping tabs on the situation and hopefully she will be ready for me to come back in May to help with one last push to keep her from being evicted.
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wpYes, people with hoarding disorders don’t seem to do well with absolute deadlines and pressure. It took years for them to get like this and it takes years to acknowledge they have a problem and learn how to overcome it. I have a couple family members that suffer from this. For them it is because of trauma and loss. I didn’t mean to come across as judging or be critical. I only mean to say thank you for trying to help. It’s unfortunate this case has a hard deadline and eviction.
That piano room was amazing!
I have so much empathy for the woman who owns all this stuff. Hoping she is able to use this momentum to create some big changes in her life with the appropriate supports and help. Great job Bonnie.
Hey Bonnie… do you label the boxes as you go?
I hope so, too. Yes, I did label all the boxes with a date so that she knows when that label was from.
It has to be difficult for Julie.
When I open my bins and boxes, sometimes I am relieved to see what is in it. Ok, no bad memories in this box, or I might identify something that has an easy decision to keep or give, or something that I was looking for. So far I have only gotten a few things out the door.
What an amazing job organizing everything ❤ Pillows everywhere. 😮 What a beautiful collection of them 😍 God bless all you do ❤
Thank you so much 🤗
Awwww, i totally get your banter together. My son is 'on the spectrum' with A.D.H.D & autism. He is probably the funniest person i know & has me in stitches all the time. Sometimes people dont get our relationship & may view him as being disrespectful. But he is anything but!
Hes extremely loving and kind, even though he will be 30 soon, and has moved away with his girlfriend, he still calls me every day to chat & check on me. He visits often & i visit him & his lovely girlfriend.
There was a time that i was so worried about him. He barely left the house and had zero self confidence. But he is so happy now and a young man i am very proud of.
Please let me assure you, that patience (which you obviously have) and love (also obvious) between you two, and good communication, will conquer any problems. You are so lucky to have each other. 😊
So if anyone doesn't 'get it', that is their problem not yours.
Sorry to waffle on. 🤦🏻♀️
I think what you do is incredible btw. So kind.
Sending you lots & lots of love from the U.K.
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Same situation here. I actually had to come watch the video after the author posted about the responses she had had about this video. It all looks and sounds pretty familiar. When every thing is hard the dark humour can be the only think that saves you
I love you guys so much for understanding and getting our banter together. I love my daughter so much and find her absolutely hilarious! She is one of my favorite people to be around because she always has me laughing! So, thank you for being part of our "tribe."❤️🙏😊
@@lisabullock5864 absolutely! Sending you a hug too! 🤗 X
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp you are so welcome hun. 🤗🩷Xxx
👞 👟 👠 I found a match! I found a match!! Nope no match 😂
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Your perseverance and patience are amazing. I appreciate all the hard work you do to help others.❤
Thank you so much!
Me too. ❤❤❤😊
The plug is worn out and needs to be replaced. You're doing amazing as a cleaner and a mother. You have far more patience then I. ❤❤❤
Ty for the continued help from your family members!! Not a shoe person either!! 😮😢😊😅❤
God bless. Continued prayers for this family on the decluttering journey
Great job with all of this, I look forward to seeing you help Mira 💕💕💕
Thank you! 🤗
I think I might have already said this, but seeing the basement really brought home to me just how much stuff Julie has. It's absolutely mind blowing. It's going to take months to get through it all and I worry she might get fatigued with it all and still be adding to the hoard. You have worked so amazingly hard with all this I just hope Julie can appreciate that and keep at it.
I will actually talk a lot about how things ended up in my next video because I think, unless there are some serious changes in her mindset, I can't really do much more to help. She has got to get more stuff out of the house. It is really, really sad to see the reality of these situations and how it can feel like nothing is going to change. I have a lot of empathy for both her and her family because this is a seriously hard mental illness.😪
You did fantastically! I was so amazed at the end how much floor space you made.
I bet the banter with your daughter made the day go easier! I liked your humour and seeing how slowly the non-sped up sorting actually goes!
Well done- the house is looking so much better.
Thank you so much!❤️
Another sorting tour de force! It is miraculous what you can do, Bonnie!
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Great job and alot of hard work! Amazing! I helped my daughter organize her pantry. She could barely get in there! Lol! It took us 2 days! I had her really think about all the stuff she had and was able to convince her to throw some stuff away. It looked better but I wish I could have done more.
Isn't it crazy the amount of time it can take to clean and organize one little area? I'm always shocked at how far off I am on my estimation of how long something will take. And I totally understand wanting to do more. It's a lot easier to do that with someone else's stuff because you want to just toss half of it. 😅I'm sure she appreciated the help.😊
That’s a thousand dollars just in pillows, if not more. Man. I like the “member of the free cleaning community” for the intro today.
I thought the same thing when I saw the pillow short! Throw pillows are $$$$$
Yeah, she has a small fortune just in pillows.🤔
Excellent work, Bonnie!
Looking forward to you and Mirs
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Wow you are doing a fantastic job well done your simple the best ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you so much 😊
Amazing job! You work so hard Bonnie!
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Beautiful lady you had your hands full on this one. This looks amazing God bless you 🙏❤️
Thank you so much 🤗
You are amazing and so nice of your daughter to come and help too! Some of the shoes were clearly worn while others looked new. Nothing worse than missing a match for a shoe you like.
Thank you. What's funny is I don't think she's actually worn any of these shoes. And I think she went on binge shopping sprees and bought all of them and then they got buried in all of this mess. That's the saddest part about this is that it seems she bought a lot of stuff for that dopamine hit, but has never actually used it or done anything with it. It breaks my heart because her mind is so broken.😪
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“Oh look more shoes”
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AMAZING your daughter and mum has helped you take on an enormous task and you are all inspirational I’ve so enjoyed your videos so thank you so so much .
Eva from Scotland xxx
You are a champion pillow swimmer! Hugs!
Your daughter is hilarious. I had to replay several parts of the video 😂 🩵
She cracks me up. I also watched it several times even after I was done editing it because it's so funny to me. 😂I totally understand why a few people think she is being disrespectful, but this is just the way we banter. I always love spending time with her because she makes me laugh even if I do sound like I'm being stern with her sometimes. I'm never really upset. 😊
Love you and Haley (sp?) together! Reminds me of me and my daughters…. Totally laughing! Thanks! 😂
Oh, I'm so glad! Yeah, I think she's pretty funny.😄❤️
Thanks for another great video of decluttering. I feel a little bit better after watching your video. I have such a mess at my house. You’re giving me encouragement that I can clean it up one trash bag at a time.
Aw, I'm so glad!🤗❤️
You are doing awesome. Myself, I prefer to sort like items and toss trash then start the storing of all sorted items.
Great job. Unbelievable amount of shoes.
Nothing weird at all about your conversations! Just funny in the ha ha ha way. :) If people don't like it, that's THEIR problem. It's certainly not yours! You do you. 💜💜
You're the best! Thank you!
What a mess good luck!
Wow!! That was a lot of stuff!! Great sorting job y'all!!🌟💜🌟💜🌟💜🌟💜🌟😍👍👍
Thank you 🤗
Wow weeee! You are a sorting machine! Good work
Progress is progress!!!❤❤❤
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You are great 🎉
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Good morning 🌄🌞 blessings ☕ awesome job 👏🏾👍🏾😊
Good morning!
Wow! So much stuff. I have to admit that it causes me a lot of anxiety to see all the mountains of stuff and I wouldn’t know where to start. Great job Bonnie! I would think it would be very helpful for Julie to see just how much of each thing she has. Hopefully she realizes this now and can turn the page to a new attitude about stuff.
My kids and I also have conversations like yours! So fun! We are weirdos too! 😅
Yes! Thanks for being a fellow weirdo!😁👍❤️
You are such a fine person, Bonnie! I like you very much! 🥰🥰
You are so nice. Thank you!❤️❤️😊🙏
I love the interactions you have with your daughter - it sounds like my daughter and myself!!! ❤
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You are so amazing!!! I would not have the patience 😂 And I thought you & your daughter were adorable together!!! 💜
Thank you so much!!😁
A job well done! Thanks for sharing the footage of your interactions with your daughter! Looking forward to the next video!
Thank you!😊
My mom hoarded papers and trash. I toss at least 20 items each day. Junk mail, clothes and dishes for Goodwill, recycling, and more are gone. I own 3 cardboard
cartons. My mom had over 200. In our home, there are 2 toss pillows. Two toss pillows. You are a saint. Tina, Al's wife
It's definitely a hard mental illness to understand for those of us who don't have such an attachment to things. It has been really, really sad to see how much this stuff means to her, and yet she doesn't want to live this way.😪 I definitely have a few things that I have a hard time getting rid of, but nothing even close to this.🤔
You & your daughter are rockstars!! Love your humor too!! ❤😂
Thank you!😄❤️
Awwwww ❤ you mentioned me again! Thank you so much!!! I got over 400 new subscribers for your mentioning!! You’re so awesome!! One day maybe I’ll come help you clean haha I promise not throw pillows at you 😂
I'm so happy you got so many new subscribers! And if you do ever come help me, I would totally let you throw pillows at me. I don't mind.🤷♀️😁
Good video!!!
Amazing job as always Bonnie, don’t be disheartened! You have made a huge visible difference and a definite positive impact on the owners quality of life. Keep at it😊 take care, from the UK Xxx
I enjoyed your small talk, minor shenanigans etc.
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Omg ye worked on Valentines Day that’s love of the job 🥰 or madness 😂 With so much stuff I’m not surprised you kept changing how you were going to organise it. Bonnie you are absolutely amazing to help anyone in this situation. I would have cried so many times with so many emotions. With the stuff ye didn’t sell was it donated or did it come back into the house. The space you made in the basement was brilliant. Have a great week. Mary, Joes wife 🙇♀️👏👍💪🙏💐👢🩴👞👟🥾🥿👡👠🕶👓
To answer your question about the stuff being donated, I actually couldn't tell you because I wasn't able to go back the next week like I was supposed to to finish things up and get my final footage because she woke up sick the morning that I was supposed to go and so I wasn't able to see if things actually got taken to the thrift store or if they came back into the house. Sadly, my guess is that they never made it to the thrift store, but I hope I'm wrong. I will talk a lot more candidly about this whole experience in my next video as I think there is not anything more I can do to help this woman until she gets some serious therapy. It's really, really sad.😞
You two remind me of my daughter and me. We are too much alike and bicker back and forth. 😂
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WOW-you’re all amazing!👏🏻
You totally just unlocked my memory with The Shoe People! Holy cow, that was deeply hidden in my brain 🤣🤯
I actually know nothing about The Shoe People. I was just thinking about a "shoe person" in my head and wondered if there was some kind of picture out there of a shoe person, and then I stumbled across The Shoe People. I don't remember the show at all even though apparently it was in 1987. It must not have been on TV very long because I have no memory of it. It was just funny that I actually found a picture to go along with the dumb thought in my head.😅
So much work and great result! 👍
❤bless you beautiful mess!😢 your a great mother !!
Thank you so much, Carolyn!😊❤️🙏
Bravo 👏 for your labors! I wouldn't even consider doing a job like that. Just would trigger too many negative thoughts and emotions and I'd be a massive wreck for my own family to deal with at the end of the day. I'm all for making a mess go away and cleaning and actually enjoy that but just to make other stacks and piles of stuff that isn't going away, just sorted and moved to a new pile or stack, nope. Not doing that. 😢
I will be talking a lot more candidly about this whole experience in my next video/ last video of this series because it has been a very interesting and different experience than any of the other homes I have cleaned, for sure. It's been a huge learning experience and I definitely have a lot of empathy for those with hoarding disorder and their families. It is a seriously hard mental illness.😞
God Bless you! What a feat. Great job!!
Thank you so much!
WOW 😮😮😮
The chalk thing makes sense to me. Anyone who has choked on chalk dust would have the same feeling. It is so dry and clings. The wood thing makes sense as well because splinters are the worst.
It would make sense if that's what actually made me feel like I can't breathe, but even the thought of chalk and touching it makes my chest feel tight and I have to take deep breaths. I agree about the wood. I don't like the feel of wood after my hands have been wet or touching paper, which makes sense because it is wood, but I can touch it. It's not my favorite, but I am definitely not as a verse to it as my daughter. And yes, splinters do suck.😄
Well done .Never seen so much stuff ❤