WHAT EVERY MUSLIM GIRL NEEDS TO KNOW BEFORE GETTING MARRIED

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  • @sailormars13579
    @sailormars13579 6 років тому +861

    I am not a Muslim but I find the religion of Islam to be a very beautiful thing and your tips in this video are very spot on and helpful. Thank you for sharing ☺️

    • @aminah761
      @aminah761 6 років тому +51

      Jasmine Perez May Allah guide u to Islam

    • @HaroonAl-Rashid
      @HaroonAl-Rashid 5 років тому +19

      @Nacho Pop's brother you know that Islam was the first religion that gave rights to women?

    • @HaroonAl-Rashid
      @HaroonAl-Rashid 5 років тому +7

      @Nacho Pop's I'm not gonna argue with a jahil like you so keep barking and please get some knowledge about all religions...I chose Islam over others because it makes sense and doesn't contradict the discoveries of science...unlike your religion your book mentions incest,mistakes made by prophets, multiple Bibles that contradict each other...I mean seriously will you be a sheep that follows the media or a lion who decides what is right and wrong

    • @ДАИЛИНЕТ-ъ4я
      @ДАИЛИНЕТ-ъ4я 5 років тому +1

      Stupid people here will mean the end of freedom

    • @HaroonAl-Rashid
      @HaroonAl-Rashid 5 років тому

      @@ДАИЛИНЕТ-ъ4я Sofia T Sofia T right to property,right to get married by your own choice, freedom to do work(occupation),Right to express their ideas etc...what does your religion offer? You people commands women to stay in home only and treats them like animals and btw your own bible commands you to do hijab and cover your hair book of Corinthians 11:5.And one more thing I'd like to ask you...You know your Prophets Abraham,Moses etc? How many wives did they have? Wicked woman go away and read your scripture before accusing us.And you represent your faith in the comments and I can clearly see what your faith taught you to say to disbelievers...you are rude and jahil learn how to talk first. Hahahahaha you said "Get shot" and you are the ones who label us as terrorists.

  • @m.3881
    @m.3881 2 роки тому +75

    1. your spouse is not your main source of happiness but it is Allah
    2. Knowledge is power
    3. the habits that you have now, stay with you for life
    4. develop domestic skills
    5. lasting marriage is a union of two very great forgivers

  • @integritygenes1948
    @integritygenes1948 7 років тому +768

    Beneficial reminders. Men should have domestication skills too so they can help out around the house . The prophet swa use to cook and clean .

    • @NafisasPearlz
      @NafisasPearlz  7 років тому +71

      Integrity genes exactly sis, good point.

    • @NafisasPearlz
      @NafisasPearlz  7 років тому +73

      Integrity genes there's a lot that men should do too however this video was advice to sisters hence the statements.

    • @storiestotell
      @storiestotell 7 років тому +7

      WORD :) ITS THAT SIMPLE

    • @kushinaa1XD
      @kushinaa1XD 6 років тому +1

      Integrity genes exactly

    • @lapisskies
      @lapisskies 6 років тому +2

      Integrity genes You are perfectly correct.

  • @fatimaee4184
    @fatimaee4184 7 років тому +256

    Another thing is to realise when you get married u can not expect a man to understand u 100 percent and u to understand him 100 percent we are different and have different ways of expressing ourselves so we must be patient with eachother. Everything was sooo accurate

    • @NafisasPearlz
      @NafisasPearlz  7 років тому +13

      Fatima ee very good point mashallah

    • @mujahidalikhan4301
      @mujahidalikhan4301 Рік тому

      @@NafisasPearlz Asalamoalekum...I would like to ask u question my cousin sis is 35 yrs old and she is lawyer and she is at such a peak of her career where she is eligible for a job and coz she was getting all the rejection she started focusing on her career and now she gt a proposal where a person who is 40 yrs old and doesnt run a good job n doesn't have a proper house too coz his father married another women who is from another religion plz guide me so that I can guide her

  • @kimberley3577
    @kimberley3577 6 років тому +187

    I'm a Christian and I found these tips very helpful.

  • @Malenassaura
    @Malenassaura 6 років тому +361

    I'm not even Muslim, but I still watched your video :)

    • @saidaalhassan409
      @saidaalhassan409 6 років тому +3

      Maa Shaa Allah.
      Jazak Allahu khair dear

    • @mosalah5215
      @mosalah5215 6 років тому +2

      Malena Sandim Even though your not a Muslim, if u ever come to Islam choose islam Ahmadiyyat is the truth,Love for All Hatred for none...

    • @mosalah5215
      @mosalah5215 6 років тому

      @Rowan Izadi u have no knowledge of Islam how dare u call us Kaafir,Allah will deal with u and u will be Cursed in hell, stupid Mirza Sb was a Muslim not an Indian,And he died on his bed not toilet, if u don’t no anything then apne bikwaas bund kurro understand?

    • @asahnii7926
      @asahnii7926 5 років тому +9

      If both of you consider yourselves Muslim, fear allah and don’t act like this towards each other regardless of each other’s opinions on your beliefs. Islam is a religion of peace. Muslims are to be kind and peaceful.

    • @rasheeda1303
      @rasheeda1303 5 років тому

      Malena nice to know👍

  • @hibetullah
    @hibetullah 6 років тому +74

    Yes my bel bed sisters. As a sister who’s been married for over 8 years I say definitely check your expectations before you go in to marriage. Happiness is certainly every girls expectation from her husband. And it is to a small degree but trust me when I say if that’s your main thing you’re looking for from a man, you’ll be heartbroken. I know cuz I was there. Like the sister mentioned, always ALWAYS give your heart to Allah. Completely and unconditionally so when things happen that you never expected, the hurt your imperfect partner WILL CERTAINLY CAUSE AT SOME POINT, you’ll be equipped AND perhaps be able to forgive. Forgiveness is definitely a key to a lasting marriage. Forgive, forgive and forgive. And my sisters know that this does not mean you deserve a marriage of misery with a man who abuses your rights as a woman or as a wife! Know your rights and know your obligations. Seek knowledge so you’ll be able to differentiate between culture and deen! It’s sad that many sisters suffer at the hands of ignorant men and the baggage of culture simply because they’re not equipped with the right knowledge! My sisters Allah has given you rights many centuries ago and elevated your statuses. You are queens that need to be treasured not slaves! I pray all my beautiful single sisters find your kings that will lead you to Jannah and I pray Allah blesses those of you who are married with a lasting marriage filled with Imaan and contentment ameen. Love you all fillah.

    • @hibetullah
      @hibetullah 6 років тому +1

      Beloved*** lol

    • @NafisasPearlz
      @NafisasPearlz  6 років тому +2

      hibetullah mashallah, great advice, may Allah for whom sake you love me, love you too. X

    • @fizakhanam7316
      @fizakhanam7316 3 роки тому

      👍

    • @Alexlittle9
      @Alexlittle9 Рік тому

      Thank you so much❤

  • @aminah761
    @aminah761 7 років тому +521

    I agree sis Allah is ur main source of happiness is Allah 😀😀😀😀😀

    • @arnelabih1845
      @arnelabih1845 7 років тому +1

      Aminah A your cookies in pic looks delicious.

    • @thebellatwins2758
      @thebellatwins2758 6 років тому +1

      agreeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

    • @aminah761
      @aminah761 6 років тому

      arnela bih thanks 😃

  • @PriscillaCooke-bd7tz
    @PriscillaCooke-bd7tz Рік тому +23

    I am not a Muslim however I listened to your advice and the information you provided is on point. I am looking to share this information and the likes of it with our granddaughter who is Muslim and is looking to get married. She needs all of the insight she can get to have a grounded and successful marriage. Thank you ❤

  • @nanaskin6
    @nanaskin6 7 років тому +333

    How on earth have I been following many many muslim Islamic channels but never seen yours! Loved this video so true. New subscriber!

    • @NafisasPearlz
      @NafisasPearlz  7 років тому +5

      nanaskin6 thank you, and welcome.

    • @simsimx723
      @simsimx723 5 років тому +1

      nanaskin6 subhanallah same thought!

    • @steffe9051
      @steffe9051 3 роки тому

      I just find out 3 years later 🥺🌝

  • @93lookatmenow
    @93lookatmenow 7 років тому +289

    MsA sister this is great advice! I am a western girl who married a middle eastern man from my parents homeland. He is a great Muslim but we do have cultural clashes. Having this independent women mindset that is bashed into our brains doesn’t work in marriage. At first I used to get so offended when he wouldn’t want me to run my errands alone. I was like what the heck is this? I don’t need a babysitter! But after learning to communicate properly and most importantly respectfully I found that he was just worried that people would treat me badly or rip me off. Shaytan found many ways to come between us especially in the begging. I didn’t marry to find someone to make me happy or complete me, I married because that’s what my parents wanted and my husband is a good man. Of course I wish he wasn’t as strict as maybe a western Muslim man would have been but he has darastically improved my deen as you mentioned. And to be honest I was quite lost until I met him and he is teaching me to read quaran and we pray together. So for the most part it’s a major adjustment for me because bad habits are sooooo hard to break! And I know I haven’t been the best muslimah. As for the domestication and learning to maintain a home this slapped me in the face so hard I cried after the first week because I was so tired. I called my mom to tell her she is an amazing women. Girls you need to practice doing laundry, cooking your own meals, but most importantly before marriage make sure you tell your man how you will split the household chores! When I told mine that I need help after marriage, he laughed and said that he didn’t get married to wash dishes and I was so angry! Both parties must understand that we share the same living space and it must be a certain level of cleanliness. It doesn’t make a brother less of a man if he sees the dishes pulling up and decides to wash them. Also please be cognizant of the amount of time you spend on your phones, keep technology out of the bed room and charge them in another room. Use an alarm clock to wake up and appreciate each other after a long and tiring day at night. I have plenty of advice but for now these are my key points. Salam alikum wa rahmatu allah wa barakatu. ❤️😊

    • @NafisasPearlz
      @NafisasPearlz  7 років тому +31

      93lookatmenow Mashallah Amazing advice sister, may Allah reward you and continue to bless and protect your marriage, ameen. X

    • @93lookatmenow
      @93lookatmenow 6 років тому +43

      yeah another good piece of advice is not to share everything, especially in social media. When I was engaged my now husband went onto my phone to check my Facebook. At the time i didn't care because i have nothing to hide. However, I never did that to him, and later i realized it was a major invasion of privacy. I know some people say or believe your husband is your best friend but there are things you may or may not want to share with him. I'm not saying be a sneaky person, but there needs to be limits drawn in the sand. He later asked me to take off all my male colleagues from FB because he believed it was not relevant to have them since i graduated university. At the time I was naive and thought, yeah he's right. I don't actually talk to these people. But DO NOT DO THAT ever. The idea is you are a good person, and isA may allah protect us but you won't do haram with any of these people. Because after that I found he asked me to take down my profile picture because he didn't want people to see my face. And at the time, i agreed as well. The moral of the story is i didn't draw any lines in the sand and so he kept taking it a step further. When I finally had enough I added back some male colleague and place a profile pic. He was so angry and we had an argument. I told him that he is not invited to manage my social media, and I don't do the same thing to him. He has female collegues on his FB. He tried to give me this BS on male vs female. I just ignored it, but we ended up not speaking to one another for three days! This brings me to the next point. Everyone expresses there anger in different ways. For me when I am angry or very upset I bottle my feelings and hold resentment, my husband yells and then ignores me. So at this point no matter how you argue dont be afraid to just CRY. If your man feels any empathy at all he will calm down and listen. That's when i told him how he needs to behave when we disagree. It is very cruel to ignore a person especially when you see each other for many hours in the day. I told him, when you ignore me i will find other people to talk too. So you will push me to talk to people that shouldn't know our issues because you are ignoring me. Don't let things linger. Just air it out and be done, and move on. Really FORGIVE. Also girls we are used to having our parents guide us, and give us there opinions. Hamdulliah we are so lucky to have them, but you need to learn to have your own opinions and most importantly learn to just say NO. The reason behind saying NO is so that you don't let your husband get used to the fact that you are complacent and agree to everything. He will stop asking for your opinion or advise. If he knows that you don't always agree than he will think twice and say "i need to discuss with my wife".

    • @93lookatmenow
      @93lookatmenow 6 років тому +6

      Asifa Jaay ya no problem, message me anytime if u need more tips :D I been married for a year and a half now. I know it’s not a long time but they say the first year is the hardest!

    • @jessicamhone
      @jessicamhone 4 роки тому +2

      Ah that was fantastic advice, thank you

    • @cathyb2967
      @cathyb2967 4 роки тому

      93lookatmenow
      What about submitting to his sex needs ?

  • @Tassycrafty
    @Tassycrafty 6 років тому +114

    I have been married for 14 years and everything you said is so true in my opinion. You are amazing mashaAllah. Subscribed of course!

  • @manthapantha2632
    @manthapantha2632 7 років тому +99

    I wish I had watched this before I got married lol would have saved me a whole lot of drama. I think there need to be classes for men and women alike at the masjid. It needs to educate them on marriage in islam and how to be successful in it. By the way the point about the two of u being forgiving is a VERY strong point. It's truly the secret to a long marriage. Jazak Allah khayr sister, may Allah reward u for ur efforts X

    • @NafisasPearlz
      @NafisasPearlz  7 років тому +5

      Samantha Kanniappen lol, your so funny, but yes you're right, these things should be taught to men and women of marital age in the masjid. Thanks for watching sis.

  • @thequranicwisdom744
    @thequranicwisdom744 7 років тому +35

    May Allah bless her with Jannatul Firdaus... and make her Husband coolness of her eyes..Insha Allah

  • @zaakirah4997
    @zaakirah4997 6 років тому +218

    Very helpful, masha'Allah. Another tip is to not baby/spoil your husband. In the beginning of your marriage, you may want to be sweet and do everything for your husband down to buttering his toast however I advise that you don't because before long you will tire from having to do EVERYTHING for him. From the beginning, try to get him to pick up after himself and help you with small things so that later down the road, you do not become overwhelmed with being a one woman show.. Just some advice ❤ may Allah give barakat in all our marriages. Ameen.

    • @NafisasPearlz
      @NafisasPearlz  6 років тому +16

      Zaakirah Khan very good point sister.

    • @SisterhoodPathways
      @SisterhoodPathways 3 роки тому +5

      On point sister thank you

    • @zaakirah4997
      @zaakirah4997 3 роки тому +19

      ❤️ At the end of the day, you are his partner NOT his mother ✌️

    • @azfarhameedkhan7117
      @azfarhameedkhan7117 3 роки тому +2

      Well i would suggest you allow him to have 4 wives and by doing so he will be spending only one or 2 nights a week with you. So you wont have to do everything for him and you will have more "me time". Or time to worship Allah or you can visit your parents. Jazak Allah bil khair 🙏

    • @ivory8492
      @ivory8492 3 роки тому +2

      @@azfarhameedkhan7117 lol

  • @anisanoor194
    @anisanoor194 7 років тому +172

    I've been looking for sisters on youtube who discuss Islam and alhamdulillah I found you!
    May Allah reward you

    • @NafisasPearlz
      @NafisasPearlz  7 років тому +4

      Anisa Noor Ameen sis, welcome to the family. 😘😘😘

    • @lapisskies
      @lapisskies 6 років тому +1

      Anisa Noor ameen

  • @iSTACKA
    @iSTACKA 7 років тому +195

    I’ve been married for 6 months and it’s been really HARD but the key is communicating and expressing concerns and being open to those concerns. My husband and I lived two completely different lives I lived in the US while he lived in Qatar his whole life so although it was a shock at first and hard we have learned to express and communicate are concerns rather then get angry or upset about it.

    • @michellesoomro7946
      @michellesoomro7946 6 років тому +5

      Iman Ali I lived in Qatar for nearly 3 years. It's a very different lifestyle. I love Qatar. . .but it is not a fast adjustment. I wish I was still there, but that is a different topic.

    • @rabbithole8592
      @rabbithole8592 Рік тому

      And those who no longer expect menstruation among your women - if you doubt, then their period is three months, and [also for] those who have not menstruated. And for those who are pregnant, their term is until they give birth. And whoever fears Allah - He will make for him of his matter ease. - Quran 65:4 (Sahih International Translation).
      Would you let a 51 yr old man marry your 6 yr old child?
      Would you allow a 54 yr old man rape your 9 yr old Daughter?
      Would you marry a 6yr old child and rape her when she was 9yrs old?
      For the love God Muslims, read your Quran and Haddiths.
      Allah said he only made it look like Jesus was crucified, for Allah is the best of decievers. So either way he's a deciever. And to decieve is to be dishonest. Lie.
      Allah, the Best Deceiver (Qur'an 3:54)
      Your god Admits he's a liar. Father of all lies. Satan!
      Mohammed was a war mongering murdering pedophile rapist who forced a 6yr old Aisha into marriage when he was 50yrs old and raped her when she was 9yrs old. Aishas father didn't even approve of Mohammed marrying Aisha. A 6yr old cannot consent to marriage and a 9yr old cannot consent to sex.
      “The Prophet [ﷺ] married Aisha when she was six years old and he consummated his marriage when she was nine years old.” - The revered Sahih al-Bukhari, 5134; Book 67, Hadith 70.
      Narrated 'Urwa:
      The Prophet (ﷺ) asked Abu Bakr for `Aisha's hand in marriage. Abu Bakr said "But I am your brother." The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "You are my brother in Allah's religion and His Book, but she (Aisha) is lawful for me to marry."
      حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ اللَّهِ بْنُ يُوسُفَ، حَدَّثَنَا اللَّيْثُ، عَنْ يَزِيدَ، عَنْ عِرَاكٍ، عَنْ عُرْوَةَ، أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ صلى الله عليه وسلم خَطَبَ عَائِشَةَ إِلَى أَبِي بَكْرٍ فَقَالَ لَهُ أَبُو بَكْرٍ إِنَّمَا أَنَا أَخُوكَ، فَقَالَ ‏ "‏ أَنْتَ أَخِي فِي دِينِ اللَّهِ وَكِتَابِهِ وَهْىَ لِي حَلاَلٌ ‏"‏‏.‏
      Reference : Sahih al-Bukhari 5081In-book reference : Book 67, Hadith 19.
      Sunan Abi Dawud 2147
      Narrated Umar ibn al-Khattab:
      The Prophet (ﷺ) said: A man will not be asked as to why he beat his wife.
      حَدَّثَنَا زُهَيْرُ بْنُ حَرْبٍ، حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنُ مَهْدِيٍّ، حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو عَوَانَةَ، عَنْ دَاوُدَ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ الأَوْدِيِّ، عَنْ عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ الْمُسْلِيِّ، عَنِ الأَشْعَثِ بْنِ قَيْسٍ، عَنْ عُمَرَ بْنِ الْخَطَّابِ، عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ ‏ "‏ لاَ يُسْأَلُ الرَّجُلُ فِيمَا ضَرَبَ امْرَأَتَهُ ‏"‏ ‏.‏
      Grade: Da'if (Al-Albani) ضعيف (الألباني)حكم :
      Reference : Sunan Abi Dawud 2147In-book reference : Book 12, Hadith 102English translation : Book 11, Hadith 2142
      Sahih al-Bukhari 392
      Narrated Anas bin Malik:
      Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said, "I have been ordered to fight the people till they say: 'None has the right to be worshipped but Allah.' And if they say so, pray like our prayers, face our Qibla and slaughter as we slaughter, then their blood and property will be sacred to us and we will not interfere with them except legally and their reckoning will be with Allah."
      Surah 3:151: "We shall cast terror into the hearts of those who disbelieve (all non-Muslims) …"
      Surah 2:191: "And kill them (non-Muslims) wherever you find them … kill them. Such is the recompense of the disbelievers (non-Muslims)."
      Surah 9:5: "Then kill the disbelievers (non-Muslims) wherever you find them, capture them and besiege them, and lie in wait for them in each and every ambush …"
      Apostasy is a Hudood crime. Execution is traditional punishment for both genders of Muslim apostates. Ja'fari - Male apostates must be executed, while a female apostate must be held in solitary confinement till she repents and returns to Islam.
      Jihad is not self defense. It's offensive. An Islamic army spreading Islam with the sword conquering new lands. Otherwise they never would have stayed in one place instead of spreading outwards. It's common sense. And Islam is a direct attack on Christianity. That's why it was created. To appose Christianity. It's Satan's Army.

  • @aesthete7227
    @aesthete7227 7 років тому +313

    *I CLICK THIS SO FAST EVEN THOUGH I'M NOT OUT HERE TRYING TO GET MARRIED😂😂😂*

    • @NafisasPearlz
      @NafisasPearlz  7 років тому +16

      ThisIsNajma lol, your funny mashallah

    • @rknoor1742
      @rknoor1742 7 років тому +2

      ThisIsNajma girl you’re a mini celebrity in my world. I see you out here commenting on The Real and All sorts

    • @FlamingYoungho
      @FlamingYoungho 7 років тому +2

      aayyyyeee Najma omg i swear we constantly watch the same vids fellow muslim, somali and kpop fan

    • @user-yv9lu7jp3t
      @user-yv9lu7jp3t 7 років тому +2

      I see you everywhere 😂👵🏻

    • @lair.9173
      @lair.9173 7 років тому +3

      As soon as i scroll down, I always see your comment in litterally every video ... like how !?

  • @proudmuslim1535
    @proudmuslim1535 7 років тому +248

    Mashaa Allah This is my first time to see such a different channel not about makeup, fashion, etc love you channel sister may Allah bless you wishing to you all the best.

    • @NafisasPearlz
      @NafisasPearlz  7 років тому +3

      علم ينتفع به Ameen, thank you and for you the same.

    • @proudmuslim1535
      @proudmuslim1535 7 років тому +2

      Nafisa's Pearlz keep glowing 🌷🙏.

    • @proudmuslim1535
      @proudmuslim1535 7 років тому +2

      Nafisa's Pearlz may Allah shine you with his blessings and power 💪😊👍.

  • @druoleary
    @druoleary 6 років тому +23

    I'm Catholic and married 30 years. Everything you say is true for all who love God. Young people really need to think about what they are bringing to the table and not just what they're getting. If compromise hurts your pride you are not ready for this holy commitment!

  • @aminad9337
    @aminad9337 7 років тому +59

    We need more sister like this so we can encourage and inpire each other!

  • @anikanalohamin1077
    @anikanalohamin1077 7 років тому +140

    Alhumdulilah beautiful video sis! So happy to see a hijabi UA-camr not focusing on look books lol!

  • @asumanwatara9114
    @asumanwatara9114 7 років тому +67

    You are great my daughter. You are 100% right. May Allah bless you.

  • @NafisasPearlz
    @NafisasPearlz  7 років тому +22

    Salamualaikum all, if your new, please don't forget to click the bell near the subscribe button so that you get to know when I upload a new video inshallah. If you don't click on it, you may not get notified that I've uploaded. Jazakallahu Khairan for all your kind comments and duas.

    • @nabiirahswalez9200
      @nabiirahswalez9200 6 років тому +1

      Nafisa's Pearlz Jazaka Allah khair shkt

    • @mariammbonde6602
      @mariammbonde6602 6 років тому

      Nafisa's Pearlz nyc ukhty

    • @musasayyaf3101
      @musasayyaf3101 6 років тому

      Nafisa's Pearlz wa alaykum ssalaam warahmatullahi wabarakaatuh madam teacher waffe. Baarak Allahu fiik

  • @kanwalyasir4156
    @kanwalyasir4156 6 років тому +5

    I am getting married in four days insha'Allah 😓😓so confused but jazakAllah jazakAllah this helped...and thanks for saying that Allah is the main source of happiness....we expect alot 😝

  • @rasheedaibrahim2260
    @rasheedaibrahim2260 6 місяців тому +1

    Mashallah.
    Really helpful for the ones who are getting married❤

  • @muna4631
    @muna4631 7 років тому +56

    omg the first advice had me liking this video. this was so helpful

  • @paperhaq
    @paperhaq 7 років тому +14

    Alhamdulillah so glad I found you! So many Muslim vloggers out there but hardly any Islamic content! I'm married alhamdulillah, and I agree with everything you say! I do get annoyed with my husband easily because as you say, your first child is your husband - that is really true! But then I put things into perspective and think that life is unpredictable and short and it breaks my heart to think there will come a time we will say goodbye to each other (crying as I write this lol), so I make dua too that we are united as husband and wife in jannah. This means encouraging each other to do good to get closer to Allah

    • @NafisasPearlz
      @NafisasPearlz  7 років тому

      AichaBlueSky subhallah, that's amazing sis, may Allah continue to bless your marriage, ameen. I can imagine it may be difficult at times but like you said, if you both put Allah first then inshallah he will reunite you again in Jannah as man and wife.

  • @haleemabegum22
    @haleemabegum22 7 років тому +57

    MashaAllah I agree with all the points you’ve highlighted to make the marriage work. Although I’m not married, I’d also like to add the importance of having shared values, morals and beliefs. It’s soooo important to discuss this sort of stuff before marriage like lifestyle choices because there really is no point marrying someone who thinks it’s acceptable when you think it’s haram like clubbing, smoking and drugs etc. It’s not any women’s job to change and neither it’s his. Its important to accept him for who he truly is. It’s also important to acknowledge and ask the question if he’s a good father role model. Would you want your child to look up to him? If he has more bad habits or character than the good, then perhaps this guy isn’t the right guy for you. And also, trust - such an important foundation for marriage. Without trust and openness, there really isn’t much point in a relationship leaving it really unhealthy because after all, no other relationship will ever come close between a husband and a wife. It’s really deep stuff this you know. May Allah grant us good loving spouses. Ameen!

    • @NafisasPearlz
      @NafisasPearlz  7 років тому +4

      Haleema Begum very good points sister, may Allah reward you for it.

  • @shannonross148
    @shannonross148 7 років тому +213

    I love SOOOOOOOOOO much how your channel is about just spreading the deen and helping other muslim. Such an inspiration. May Allah grant u and ur loved ones jannah and that ur channel grows. Salam💟

    • @NafisasPearlz
      @NafisasPearlz  7 років тому +8

      Thank you so much girl. Ameen to your dua and may Allah grant you the same.

  • @naylisyazwina6836
    @naylisyazwina6836 6 років тому +17

    I am 17 now. I'll hopefully get married in 7 more years, after my master's degree and first year of job. Inshallah I will become a great clinical psychologist.

    • @icygirl97
      @icygirl97 3 роки тому +3

      hows life treating ya?

    • @doubleslit3913
      @doubleslit3913 2 роки тому

      @@icygirl97 don't know bout her but mine has been ruined !

    • @aj__love5919
      @aj__love5919 Рік тому

      @@doubleslit3913 hope your doing better 🥺?

  • @pearls2733
    @pearls2733 7 років тому +83

    Salams sister! The points you have made in this video are all valid points .I would just like to add that men who are immature and not able to take the responsibility (provide for a wife and children) should not get married because that is a condition that Allah has placed upon them as stated in the Quran. Also, a big reason for the high divorce rate is infedelity so ladies it is really important to select a God fearing and righteous husband who will remain chaste in a marriage. Always verify details and information that you know about a potential spouse particularly on online matrimonial websites because often people are not who they say they are so be cautious and careful.

    • @NafisasPearlz
      @NafisasPearlz  7 років тому +4

      Pearl S very good points sister, jazakallah

    • @ilhamfarid498
      @ilhamfarid498 7 років тому

      Nafisa's Pearlz Please also talk about "finding happiness". Great talk up there

    • @NafisasPearlz
      @NafisasPearlz  7 років тому +2

      Ilham Farid inshallah, however I already have a video on how to be happier in life, its one of the first videos I made so check for it on my channel page. Hope it helps inshallah but if you're meaning happiness in marriage then that's one that I'll have to save till I've settled down myself inshallah.

    • @pearls2733
      @pearls2733 7 років тому

      Nafisa's Pearlz Your welcome :)

    • @ilhamfarid498
      @ilhamfarid498 7 років тому

      Nafisa's Pearlz Thank youu. Al checknit out. God Bless You

  • @ttrdf
    @ttrdf 7 років тому +60

    Union of two forgivers :-)

  • @sabrinasamsuddin
    @sabrinasamsuddin 7 років тому +5

    Very useful video.. I am going to get married soon InShaAllah.. Pray for me sisters 😊❤

  • @michellezevenaar
    @michellezevenaar 6 років тому +6

    So true! Your husband really is your first child! I would add that you have to always work on your relationship and always appreciate your partner, he should appreciate you and you him. When we were having problems in our marriage we were told about a youtube video 'a tale of 2 brains', it's very long and from the 90s I think but it's so spot on! Really worth watching in the first month of marriage to help prevent problems.

  • @izy2740
    @izy2740 3 роки тому +2

    Brilliant video! As a woman married 10 years I can 100% agree. A couple of other things I must stress are patience! Patience, patience, patience and patience. And when you think you've ran out you will need patience! I cannot stress this point enough. Little things like picking up socks putting your things away as well as your spouses, you many think oh that's not a big deal but my sister in Islam is right in saying if you don't learn to forgive and compromise you'll find it's the little things that will build up and cause anger and arguments. Everyones patience runs out as some point. I have 0% patience compared to my husband who has 100% patience and believe me you can still knock heads. Without lifelong patience there is no marriage. Marriage will be over before you can blink. You must always remind yourself to forgive others in the way you would like Allah to forgive you and show patience in the way you want Allah to show you. I am not saying I have mastered this. I am very very very far away from mastering this but I have to keep reminding myself that Allah is all seeing all hearing and that our goal in life is to please Allah. Everything we go through is a test. We must pass our test with flying colours to please Our Creator. May Allah guide us all, bless us all and bestow upon us His never ending mercy and forgiveness InshaAllah! 🙏 May we all meet in Jannah Ameen! 🙏 🙏 🙏 Salam to all.

  • @LenaFerrari
    @LenaFerrari 3 місяці тому +1

    As a secular person, I think your advice is very based and mature, and true for marriages in and outside islam

  • @undercoverreader6075
    @undercoverreader6075 4 роки тому +5

    Thank you for making this video! I also just wanted to add that we should be careful and not refer to Allah as a person

  • @bugajekaramcooks7481
    @bugajekaramcooks7481 7 років тому +87

    Salam sister Nafisa. I have Been married for 4 years Alhamdullilah and I agree with all you have said. The first year the hardest for us but Alhamdullilah we have both settled very well in our marriage and couldn't be happier.

    • @NafisasPearlz
      @NafisasPearlz  7 років тому +10

      Mashallah, that's so good to hear, with every difficulty Allah gives many eases. May Allah continue to bless and protect your marriage sis.x

    • @bugajekaramcooks7481
      @bugajekaramcooks7481 7 років тому +5

      Nafisa's Pearlz Ameen sister. And may Allah reward u abundantly for all your effort.

    • @NafisasPearlz
      @NafisasPearlz  7 років тому +6

      Ameen sis.

    • @lapisskies
      @lapisskies 6 років тому

      Buga Jekaram MashaAllah

    • @lapisskies
      @lapisskies 6 років тому

      Buga Jekaram ameen

  • @sharidanaisley2905
    @sharidanaisley2905 5 років тому +2

    You are very inspiring throughout your videos. I'm a studying Muslim and my husband was born Muslim. I just begun to cover my hair a few weeks ago. Your journey to cover in complete hijab is so relatable in my current situation.

  • @parissaintgermain6156
    @parissaintgermain6156 5 років тому +1

    A youtuber that helps and gives real information

  • @batulahussein5157
    @batulahussein5157 Рік тому +1

    Aslamu Alakum sister. I watched your video a year ago that was when I was not married and I can still say this video is beautiful and worth it because it reminds me of having straight to forgive and have straight to give compassion to your other. I am re watching your video to remind myself what marriage can be and what I need to do to make my marriage better. I am not married but one day I will be and when that day comes I will look back to this video and keep it in mind because everything you said will help me in the long haul. Thank you for sharing your honest truth and one thing I can relate is the abiya habit, I used to wear it a lot and feel ready for prayer but now I don’t do that I changed my habits. Forgiveness is hard to give depending how hurt you feel but once you remind yourself about Allah and how fast you would want to be forgiven by him then it just changes your mindset and warms your heart. And another thing is “ I don’t think someone should stay in a marriage that only becomes more miserable sometimes divorce is needed but other times divorce is unnecessary for example “your husband got angry and you got angry about something and instead of talking about it he decides to divorce because of selfish reasons. I wish I can tell you more… thank you for this video sister. ❤

  • @maryannkatunge2696
    @maryannkatunge2696 Рік тому

    very good content,your tips have worked for us being a non muslim and getting married to a muslim then now a muslim have had alot to learn but MashAllah everything has worked out so well.Thank you for sharing.

  • @maureenomollo
    @maureenomollo 7 років тому +10

    Hello dear. I am not a Muslim but the advice you have given ladies is spot on.☺

  • @wolffiab5777
    @wolffiab5777 7 років тому +43

    Really well reasoned advise and love your no nonsense attitude if telling how it is and still coming across as kind and humble.

  • @smilee6003
    @smilee6003 6 років тому +1

    your skin is glowing mashallah allahumma barek

  • @User-to7nb
    @User-to7nb 7 років тому +12

    Just subscribed. Thank you for being a good influence.
    "Your first child is your husband" sad truth... Reality hits hard 😂

  • @desiriemendez
    @desiriemendez 6 років тому +34

    Everything was on point. I loved the part about expectations when it comes to marriage, I think as young girls your conditioned to think love is like it is in the movies, so perfect with grand gestures of romance and fairytale like. To be honest if you go into marriage thinking like that you’ll just be disappointed. Love is different for everyone but I find loving a man is about getting through your troubles, not wanting to give up, being selfless and wanting the best from and out of each other. Lots of great tips overall through the vid. Subscribing now 😍

    • @mohammedadil8134
      @mohammedadil8134 6 років тому +2

      I like your comments 100 % agree with you 💋

    • @roo7yy
      @roo7yy 2 роки тому

      for me it was even better than the movies. it’s not about the big gestures or expensive gifts and wedding. it’s about the small things and how he does everything to make me happy even if it’s hard for him and he’s so gentle with me. and ever since i’ve been with him i’ve been happy and i have no anxiety anymore

  • @ProjectPak2010
    @ProjectPak2010 6 років тому +7

    I am getting married in six months, and I am really worried and nervous. :( I have a really bad habit of waking up late and my mums told me so many times to change it. Alhamdulilah, I don't any other problem.

  • @Najma-n1
    @Najma-n1 7 років тому +5

    I love it sister, straightforward and brutally honest. I'm excited to hear this.

  • @brookenemo8857
    @brookenemo8857 7 років тому +107

    I Iove this! I am not married yet, but it seems like you really know what you’re talking about. I am not Muslim myself, however, I am very interested in it as I have a Muslim boyfriend (soon to be engaged inshallah). I think it’s important for me to better understand him and maybe what he is expecting in marriage. Glad I found your channel, now time to binge watch you videos 😂

    • @NafisasPearlz
      @NafisasPearlz  7 років тому +11

      lol, thanks, all the best sis, yes its definitely a good time to learn as much as you can. All the best with the engagement inshallah. Welcome to the family and enjoy the binge. 😂

    • @lapisskies
      @lapisskies 6 років тому +16

      Brooke Campbell There is no boyfriend or girlfriend in Islam.

    • @brookenemo8857
      @brookenemo8857 6 років тому +20

      lapisskies yes we know, and that is why we are engaged now 🤗 we have asked Allah for forgiveness

    • @lapisskies
      @lapisskies 6 років тому +11

      Brooke Campbell I'm SOOOOOO HAPPY. I will make du'aa for you.

    • @brookenemo8857
      @brookenemo8857 6 років тому +4

      lapisskies thank you so much I appreciate it! Peace and blessings

  • @albaimussa
    @albaimussa 7 років тому +3

    Mashaallah sister your are absolutely right with your tips
    I also watch the lecture with yasir and it was very helpful in my marriage i think every muslim lady need to watch it and this video also
    Very helpful information

  • @netizencapet
    @netizencapet Рік тому

    Wonderful last point: a marriage is the union of two expert forgivers. All faiths, all times, all genders.

  • @maryamsulu2162
    @maryamsulu2162 6 років тому

    Definitely, Allah is the main source of our hapiness. 💜

  • @Nezeo
    @Nezeo 7 років тому +3

    Thank you for this eyeopener.. BarakAllahu feeku

  • @wajeehkhan6295
    @wajeehkhan6295 Рік тому

    Absolutely agreed sister! you also gave few points for men too....Keep up the good work!

  • @sweetsalara
    @sweetsalara 7 років тому +5

    You had me at point 1 sis, bravo!!! 👏👏👏👏👏

  • @User-to7nb
    @User-to7nb 7 років тому +33

    Honestly I'm going to struggle with the compromising thing...
    I'm an independent woman that gets a paycheck and can take care of myself fully, BUT I guess I'll compromise. May allah help us 😂🙏🏽

    • @NafisasPearlz
      @NafisasPearlz  7 років тому +5

      Fajer njr same here, financially I don't need a man but inshallah it will work out in the end and will be worth it for Allah's sake.

  • @jamilathompson9146
    @jamilathompson9146 7 років тому +3

    Love the video. Communication is so important. You have to talk sooooo much! I had no idea how important it is to share honestly and peacefully from your heart. It takes time too. Thank you!

  • @انساحمد-ض9ف
    @انساحمد-ض9ف 10 місяців тому +1

    Aslamoalicom Dear Sister Nafisa.
    Thanks for your excellent Amazing collection topic.
    Keep going forward Allah bless you always and your family aswell.
    Wish you all the best success in doniah and Akierat. 👍💥💙💚

  • @aliyahanderson99
    @aliyahanderson99 7 років тому +3

    Alhamdulillah sister! Preach!👐🏾👏🏿

  • @littlewitch4life
    @littlewitch4life 5 років тому

    This is very helpful to me I am about to get married myself InshaAllah. Everything you said is correct I am going to send this video to some single sisters I know. Thank you for your videos

  • @asmaamjad-khan562
    @asmaamjad-khan562 7 років тому +97

    I found your channel today. You are very inspirational, so glad I found you x

    • @NafisasPearlz
      @NafisasPearlz  7 років тому

      Asma Amjad jazakallah sis, glad your able to join us, may Allah make it a means of goodness for you. X

  • @sadafahmed3387
    @sadafahmed3387 7 років тому +3

    Very good, mashallah.
    Do also bullet point/ break down.
    Very good points.
    May Allah reward you.

  • @aaliyah9721
    @aaliyah9721 10 місяців тому +1

    “A lasting marriage is a union between two very good forgivers.”

  • @rumaanahmed3765
    @rumaanahmed3765 7 років тому +14

    New subscriber from somalia 💪❤

  • @BoiAmina
    @BoiAmina 7 років тому +25

    Asalamu alaykum warahmatullahi dearest.... I love you for the sake of Allah the Almighty and thank you very very much, I really enjoyed your video 💖🤗🌹.

  • @theresapearls2302
    @theresapearls2302 7 років тому +5

    Jazak Allah khair Nafisa . Looking forward to get married

  • @Savvy.K
    @Savvy.K 6 років тому

    JazakAllah hu khair sister! It really opened my eyes! Alhamdulillah I watched this before getting married.
    May Allah give me a great husband and make me the best wife and make each other the coolness of each other’s eyes. Ameen.

  • @nazianahar1830
    @nazianahar1830 4 роки тому

    Ur advice is on point and a reality check. Jazak Allah Khair.

  • @nafisahabdulazeez1677
    @nafisahabdulazeez1677 7 років тому +12

    First time seeing your video, my heart skipped the moment I heard "my name is Nafisa", I'm Nafisah too, automatic love for you sister!

    • @NafisasPearlz
      @NafisasPearlz  7 років тому +4

      Yesss, another Nafisah, welcome sis, the feeling is mutual! Although, its so weird when someone else has your name, Nafisa is not a very common name here in Britain so its a bit weird but great too lol.

  • @TheGirlylicious
    @TheGirlylicious 6 років тому +1

    Yaaaaasssssss preach sister 👏👏 u took the words right out of my mouth I agree with u completely. May Allah bless and reward you for speaking the truth ❤❤

  • @habibteaaa820
    @habibteaaa820 5 років тому +1

    Shes so straught up LOOL i love you for the sake of Allah ukhti, Allahuma barik & JazakAllah khair

  • @heelamomand2374
    @heelamomand2374 6 років тому

    Sister how blessed you are Mashallah !! Unlike other Muslims sisters you provide us good advice and beneficial tips for being a good Muslim May Allah reward you ameen !!

    • @NafisasPearlz
      @NafisasPearlz  6 років тому

      Heela Momand Ameen to your dua and jazakallahu Khairan for your kind words. May Allah see us all through, ameen. Jzk for watching.

  • @lilianrose715
    @lilianrose715 4 роки тому +1

    I needed this information having just converted an getting married in March

  • @zakiyalawal04
    @zakiyalawal04 Рік тому +1

    I so relate to the wearing jilbab at home thing

  • @hadiyyahm
    @hadiyyahm 5 років тому +2

    As salaam alaikum sister, I just started watching your channel today and I already love it. You give some great advice to our ummah May Allah SWT be pleased with you and send you baraka, Ameen. One of the most important things in a marriage is COMMUNICATION!!!!! You have to communicate with your spouse no matter how upset you are with them. I used to be so upset that I would just ignore my husband but doing that will not get you anywhere! You have to communicate in the beginning so that it doesn’t worsen the situation. Also, don’t be mean to your spouse and always respect them. Marriage is so different from being single. You can’t get into a marriage and expect things to be the same as if you were single. You should always obey your husband as long as he is following the right path of Muhammad SAW.

  • @Naturesbeautyeverywhere
    @Naturesbeautyeverywhere 5 років тому

    Ma sha Allah ....these advices are 'THE REAL ADVICES'.

  • @ZarshahKahn
    @ZarshahKahn 6 років тому +4

    Salam Sisiter! I’m unmarried and about to get married and the things you said are true! 💯🙏🏻

  • @mazlinarazelan3805
    @mazlinarazelan3805 2 роки тому

    Love for lovely preaching. Love frm Malaysia

  • @rojaani
    @rojaani 7 років тому +3

    You are absolutely right.

  • @PRS_IS24
    @PRS_IS24 Місяць тому

    You're really amazing. Thank you, thank you so much for sharing these Lifesaving marriage tips.
    May the journey be worthwhile and worthy of earning Allah's great pleasure🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

  • @awab4272
    @awab4272 7 років тому +18

    5 seconds in and I love you already sis 😘

    • @NafisasPearlz
      @NafisasPearlz  7 років тому +1

      Issa gambienne jazakallah sis, may Allah for whom sake you love me, love you too.

  • @seemeinsyed3541
    @seemeinsyed3541 6 років тому +6

    Thanks a lot for this. This is the kind of content we need!

  • @maryfield2080
    @maryfield2080 10 місяців тому

    Selam Nafisa also add another video for the guys with basic skills on how to pick up their socks and fix and keep organized their living environments too,OR it can be that both males and females take some good classes on basic skills before they get married. Thank you !

  • @aminah761
    @aminah761 7 років тому +62

    New subscriber masha allah nice page sis 🤗🤗

  • @yellowspeaks4980
    @yellowspeaks4980 7 років тому +6

    MashaAllah you seem so kind and you’re so beautiful MashaAllah! 💛💐

  • @toniafofana8081
    @toniafofana8081 7 років тому +3

    Marsha Allah, thanks so much sis u are 100% correct, it’s my first time watching ur channel I love the topic it’s very much educative. I have share it on Facebook. May the almighty blessed u with more knowledge

    • @NafisasPearlz
      @NafisasPearlz  7 років тому

      Tonia Fofana Jazakallahu Khairan sis, I really do appreciate the support. Have a blessed day and welcome to my channel. XxX

  • @madinahalakoozi1065
    @madinahalakoozi1065 Рік тому

    Thank you for this information sister May Allah reward you immensely 🤲🏽🤍

  • @shahistajuma6006
    @shahistajuma6006 3 роки тому

    Alhamdulilah I’m getting married and found your video and this really helps sister. Thankyou ❤️

  • @pencintasolawat5582
    @pencintasolawat5582 5 років тому

    ALHAMDULILLAH, Nice Sharing Ukhty🌹👍

  • @islamicinformation495
    @islamicinformation495 5 років тому

    These are really good tips. Thanks for sharing these, they will come useful inshAllah

  • @zk9494
    @zk9494 4 роки тому

    Subhanallah, preach my woman, I'm so glad I stumbled upon this channel the serendipity 😊

  • @j.s.martinez1343
    @j.s.martinez1343 2 роки тому

    A.s.a. I am new to the lifestyle and just married under a week lol also practicing Ramadan so I am exhausted. I love your videos, they are most helpful and yes compromise, forgiveness and communication are all important factors.

  • @TazRauz
    @TazRauz 7 років тому +10

    Subhanallah i just saw this and been reading the comments and I love what ur doing... keep it up

  • @muskanshaikh1195
    @muskanshaikh1195 2 роки тому

    Absolutely correct I agree with all your tips

  • @zsuso4083
    @zsuso4083 6 років тому

    I agree with you sister may Allah reward you with goodness

  • @BashaBasha-er9jc
    @BashaBasha-er9jc 2 роки тому

    I am aaliyaa.mashaallah Nafees sis u did a very useful video for every human being should hav to know and understand properly in which phase v r travelling.may Allah give the capability to each and every male and female to get a right,true and honest life partner who always follow Deen and having fear of akhira.automatically the couple directly meet in Jannah. Also.inshaallah🤲☺️

  • @Alexlittle9
    @Alexlittle9 Рік тому

    *”A lasting marriage is a union of two really good for givers”* 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 I will quote you in my next book beloved. Thank you

  • @hozizprettyaimer4896
    @hozizprettyaimer4896 7 років тому +5

    Masha Allah, ur tips are very Good and important one's.
    Off the topic but I ❤ the super calm way you talk.🖒