when i first saw Katie i was angry, i said she's cruel, if you've been f*d up by someone, they did it - but she is life changing - what an absolute power house of a woman. this is where the healing is
Yes...I felt the same way too. When I first saw one of her videos, I quickly turned it off and called it hogwash. But somehow, a week or so later, another one of her videos came up on UA-cam...and I listened for about 5 minutes. And she said something that instantaneously turned my thinking around. So I decided to continue listening. Now....I'm literally going through some of the most revolutionary and FREEING emotional shifts I've ever experienced in my lifetime, doing THE WORK on a daily basis. Thank GOD for Byron Katie!
I have fallen in love with this talk...A talk that liberates you even from the beginning. I must say a Big Thank you , to this wonderful men, who did ' the work' on his mothers ' problems ' ! Thank you Byron Katie! Thank you God, for sending these Superb Luminaries to us, to the world!
Typing this through my tears, what an incredible transformation. "Life, bring it on!". No matter what the thought is, the turnaround is just as true. Wow!
I’ve been helped by Byron Katie’s work so many times in so many ways. But this one is 100% dead-on, absolute perfection. Thank you to this man, thank you Katie, and thank you for posting it. ✨♥️✨
Its so interesting to watch how he responds when he believes the story he's always told himself, so sad and broken; and then when he uses inquiry, and turns the thoughts around, he Is released from the sadness! Amazing, and so life altering for me, as I do identify with this man! Thank you for doing the work! Thank you for helping me!! ❤
Omg.this is my story too.my mom too was left with 3 little girls after my dad died young, and over the years she became an alcoholic that eventually killed her.Thank you for this, is exactly how i felt!
Dear Katy. I watch your work since last week only but I gained already so much joy. I am experencing happines with every soul who takes part in inq. with You. It is such joy to see happines and end of suffer. Thank you from the botom of my heart. God bless us all and please liberate us from ilusion we are living in.
I’ve gotten half way through this session...I’m going to let it settle in and go back for the second half. Thank you for your generosity and courage to share your story.
This is one of my favorite. Thank you so much for both of you. My father was an alcoholic and beat my mom. they are both pretty preoccupied with their abusive relationship.
Beautiful example of experiential process. Getting him to inhabit and speak from the experiences generating the feelings that are driving his thoughts that are causing his suffering. Two courageous loving, generous people showing us all how we can achieve awareness of what is keeping us stuck and how to free ourselves to experience joy. Much love to you both and thank you. This is the best example i have seen yet of how to do The Work.
We cannot know what's going on in anyone's head. Everyone is 'right' in their own heads. We're all doing the best we can with what we've got. The Work of Byron Katie has provided for me amazing universal understanding on our relationships with our family and others. If I can only pass along one thing it to have 'real' faith in humanity and family. It does always work out, if that's the authentic "Intentions" This conversation is so beautiful of how real love can heal all wounds. Sometimes saying: "I'm sorry, I was wrong, and I love you." Can be the hardest words to say. Love does heal all wounds. Try it out. Hey, don't take my word for it, it's just my besh guess. Peace, Love, Hugs and Gratitude!
1. Is it true? Y/N 2. Do you absolutely know []? 3. How do you react (treat X) when you think []? Emotions What happens when you think []? Go into the situation 4. Who would you be without the thought []? Witness who'd you be? (Compassion. Gratitude) 5. Turnaround Sit it in. Your tears and emotions have a right to life X did this to me I did that to X X didn't do this to me + Examples 12:30 18:25
Agreed. It's clear he was emotionally abandoned whether it was mom's intention or not. Intention is not required for harm to be done. The turnaround sounds like they're assigning way too much agency to him as a child. People, it's ok to accept "yes ,I'm a victim of alcoholism in my family. Yes, I'm accepting that. Yes, abuse exists beyond bruises. Yes, I made it through. Yes, she may not have chosen that intentionally but neither did I. "Acceptance is not always requiring that you like it.
An abandoned kid is publically shamed, can you absolutely know that it's true? It's the story you tell yourself, and when you are ready to find out if it's really true, you can do The Work. I wish you all the best.
@@devrijer Ivo, Your reply isn't helpful and is a cheap shot . "when you are ready ' smacks of smugness and critical parent. See "I'm ok -you are ok and the games people play."I absolutely know that an abandoned child experiences shame and finds it difficult to move into the next development stage of feeling connected and worthy of belonging. I also believe that it is absolutely true that where I am today it is Monday and I'm really sure I 'm not ready to find out otherwise, despite my knowing that time is an agreed on concept for our learning.
@@paulinedolan5989 I see that my reply comes across as smug, that was not my intention, sorry for that. What I meant is that we each have our own reality. I see a man that is dealing with the images in his head of him as a kid, I'm ok with that. You see an abandoned kid that is publically shamed. Based on your reaction I assumed (so I might be wrong here) that you are not ok with that. Inquiry might help you deal with that feeling, if that's something you would want (that's what I meant with "when you are ready", obviously those were not the right words). Sorry again, I really wish you all the best.
The thing is she is not minimizing that abuse happens or happened. She is not saying it only occurs with bruises. She does the work with people who have also had physical and sexual abuse. The point is taking a grown man and helping him get a different perspective. It’s actually empowering to not allow the thoughts of pain and torture to continually haunt and make us suffer. She’s guiding and allowing the fellow to be emancipated from his painful thoughts. This doesn’t condone abuse in any way.
That's true. When the student is ready, the teacher appears. Also people watching this, and learning from it, are pointing to the right direction for healing through love and liberation.
21:04 the point here is that you should answer the questions without adding a reason ("because")... bc that would be like a justification and therefore counterproductive... The only thing I'd add to the work is always remind the person to breathe in and out well...
That's right, breathing helps to connect mind with body and feelings. It really helps to release pain energy from our physical and emotional body. Breathing also connects us with higher wisdom and it helps when trying to sink into situations for answers.
@@Rawdream13 ...especially when ppl have crying cramps... the profound breathing stops them immediately and really helps process the feeling and emotion... whereas crying doesn't...
Hi Ivo, I appreciate your email and taking some responsibility for your negative impact. 1. Until we are in a relationship with boundaries, please do not presume to know what I see , how could you without checking with me2.. You also assumed that I needed help"Inquiry might help you with that ". 3. You are in my business without invitation, intention or unintentional ,I did not invite you there with your assumption . you wish me the best, what is best for me is that I honour my perspective and allow others the same freedom.
so according to this if someone kills your child it will be your fault for wanting to kill your child and there should be no pain about it in your mind.... and then you say they didn't really want to abuse and kill your child.... then you laugh and smile.
Well you can still choose to be with pain in your mind and that will not change the fact the child was killed or you can stop killing your child in your mind and be free! Every time you fight reality it’s you that hurts hun
when i first saw Katie i was angry, i said she's cruel, if you've been f*d up by someone, they did it - but she is life changing - what an absolute power house of a woman. this is where the healing is
Yes...I felt the same way too. When I first saw one of her videos, I quickly turned it off and called it hogwash. But somehow, a week or so later, another one of her videos came up on UA-cam...and I listened for about 5 minutes. And she said something that instantaneously turned my thinking around. So I decided to continue listening. Now....I'm literally going through some of the most revolutionary and FREEING emotional shifts I've ever experienced in my lifetime, doing THE WORK on a daily basis. Thank GOD for Byron Katie!
Beautiful eh 🇨🇦🧡✨
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I love his laughter!! Realizing and laughing
I have fallen in love with this talk...A talk that liberates you even from the beginning. I must say a Big Thank you , to this wonderful men, who did ' the work' on his mothers ' problems ' ! Thank you Byron Katie! Thank you God, for sending these Superb Luminaries to us, to the world!
Typing this through my tears, what an incredible transformation. "Life, bring it on!". No matter what the thought is, the turnaround is just as true. Wow!
I’ve been helped by Byron Katie’s work so many times in so many ways. But this one is 100% dead-on, absolute perfection. Thank you to this man, thank you Katie, and thank you for posting it. ✨♥️✨
Its so interesting to watch how he responds when he believes the story he's always told himself, so sad and broken; and then when he uses inquiry, and turns the thoughts around, he Is released from the sadness! Amazing, and so life altering for me, as I do identify with this man! Thank you for doing the work! Thank you for helping me!! ❤
I cried my eyes out watching this. So amazing!
such a beautiful old man. such a beautiful Byron Katie
Omg.this is my story too.my mom too was left with 3 little girls after my dad died young, and over the years she became an alcoholic that eventually killed her.Thank you for this, is exactly how i felt!
Dear Katy.
I watch your work since last week only but I gained already so much joy. I am experencing happines with every soul who takes part in inq. with You. It is such joy to see happines and end of suffer. Thank you from the botom of my heart. God bless us all and please liberate us from ilusion we are living in.
how does she have so much love in her like that, it never empties it just flows over
Best laugh ever! I was right there...this story applied to the self-pity story I used to have.
I’ve gotten half way through this session...I’m going to let it settle in and go back for the second half. Thank you for your generosity and courage to share your story.
She is an amazing woman, this process has changed my life. This is how healed people think. This is the future.
This is one of my favorite. Thank you so much for both of you. My father was an alcoholic and beat my mom. they are both pretty preoccupied with their abusive relationship.
Beautiful example of experiential process. Getting him to inhabit and speak from the experiences generating the feelings that are driving his thoughts that are causing his suffering. Two courageous loving, generous people showing us all how we can achieve awareness of what is keeping us stuck and how to free ourselves to experience joy. Much love to you both and thank you. This is the best example i have seen yet of how to do The Work.
What a delightful piece of Work! How far he travels, and what he finds there is wonderful and liberating to watch.
this man is beautful
Wow this one really hits home. I need to watch many times to work through myself. Thank you for doing the work and sharing.
We cannot know what's going on in anyone's head. Everyone is 'right' in their own heads. We're all doing the best we can with what we've got. The Work of Byron Katie has provided for me amazing universal understanding on our relationships with our family and others. If I can only pass along one thing it to have 'real' faith in humanity and family. It does always work out, if that's the authentic "Intentions" This conversation is so beautiful of how real love can heal all wounds. Sometimes saying: "I'm sorry, I was wrong, and I love you." Can be the hardest words to say. Love does heal all wounds. Try it out. Hey, don't take my word for it, it's just my besh guess. Peace, Love, Hugs and Gratitude!
Thank you; beautiful, light hearted soul
I am laughing and smiling through tears with him♥️😘🤗
Thank you both for this great work, God bless you
1. Is it true? Y/N
2. Do you absolutely know []?
3. How do you react (treat X) when you think []? Emotions
What happens when you think []?
Go into the situation
4. Who would you be without the thought []?
Witness who'd you be? (Compassion. Gratitude)
5. Turnaround
Sit it in. Your tears and emotions have a right to life
X did this to me
I did that to X
X didn't do this to me + Examples
12:30
18:25
Thats our true nature - exactly !!! our true nature is LOVE!
Beautiful, brave man. Thank you 🙏🏻
The little one did need his mother to be present. Its hard to watch adults publically shaming abandoned kids.
Agreed. It's clear he was emotionally abandoned whether it was mom's intention or not. Intention is not required for harm to be done. The turnaround sounds like they're assigning way too much agency to him as a child. People, it's ok to accept "yes ,I'm a victim of alcoholism in my family. Yes, I'm accepting that. Yes, abuse exists beyond bruises. Yes, I made it through. Yes, she may not have chosen that intentionally but neither did I. "Acceptance is not always requiring that you like it.
An abandoned kid is publically shamed, can you absolutely know that it's true?
It's the story you tell yourself, and when you are ready to find out if it's really true, you can do The Work. I wish you all the best.
@@devrijer Ivo, Your reply isn't helpful and is a cheap shot . "when you are ready ' smacks of smugness and critical parent. See "I'm ok -you are ok and the games people play."I absolutely know that an abandoned child experiences shame and finds it difficult to move into the next development stage of feeling connected and worthy of belonging. I also believe that it is absolutely true that where I am today it is Monday and I'm really sure I 'm not ready to find out otherwise, despite my knowing that time is an agreed on concept for our learning.
@@paulinedolan5989 I see that my reply comes across as smug, that was not my intention, sorry for that.
What I meant is that we each have our own reality. I see a man that is dealing with the images in his head of him as a kid, I'm ok with that. You see an abandoned kid that is publically shamed. Based on your reaction I assumed (so I might be wrong here) that you are not ok with that. Inquiry might help you deal with that feeling, if that's something you would want (that's what I meant with "when you are ready", obviously those were not the right words).
Sorry again, I really wish you all the best.
The thing is she is not minimizing that abuse happens or happened. She is not saying it only occurs with bruises. She does the work with people who have also had physical and sexual abuse. The point is taking a grown man and helping him get a different perspective. It’s actually empowering to not allow the thoughts of pain and torture to continually haunt and make us suffer. She’s guiding and allowing the fellow to be emancipated from his painful thoughts. This doesn’t condone abuse in any way.
This Video helped me emencly. As I went threw the same situation as my mum is a Alcoholic.
Omg he is amazing. I stayed in self pity and victimized myself. It's a warm blanket.
I was waiting for that usual breakthrough... Douh! He was a tough cookie ':-)
OMgosh.... That was so powerful and freeing.
Omg MY STORY. I memorized it! I resent changing it
I love Katie 💖
thank you so much for uploading!!
Beautiful! Thank you for this.
I realize some will not go there with this knowledge but I think it wonderful, even as emotional as it is for those it affects!
Awesome
Thank you for sharing this
Powerful session. Just beautiful to get to the core of this man's heart.
What a wonderful man!
I'd like to see Byron Katie go to a random meeting of Children of Alcoholics. How many people would be as receptive?
Wow and wow and wow.
Anyone who goes to a Byron Katie seminar is already half way to healing. No one who is still in a state of emotional warfare would attend.
That's true.
When the student is ready, the teacher appears.
Also people watching this, and learning from it, are pointing to the right direction for healing through love and liberation.
What a amazing man.
how do you get an alive inquiry?
towering little boy
brilliant
nice work :)
In that way you can excused all abusers...I wonder what she will tell to somebody who was sexually abused as a child?...
Do you have "He Doesn't Care About His Illness-Is It True?" video?
HI, Do you have Katie's video named as "He doesn't care about his illness"?
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21:04 the point here is that you should answer the questions without adding a reason ("because")... bc that would be like a justification and therefore counterproductive...
The only thing I'd add to the work is always remind the person to breathe in and out well...
That's right, breathing helps to connect mind with body and feelings. It really helps to release pain energy from our physical and emotional body. Breathing also connects us with higher wisdom and it helps when trying to sink into situations for answers.
@@Rawdream13 ...especially when ppl have crying cramps... the profound breathing stops them immediately and really helps process the feeling and emotion... whereas crying doesn't...
is it true my mother abandoned me for alcohol?
Wow
05:05 Lord. $6000 for every head in the crowd she's a genius.
Hi Ivo, I appreciate your email and taking some responsibility for your negative impact. 1. Until we are in a relationship with boundaries, please do not presume to know what I see , how could you without checking with me2.. You also assumed that I needed help"Inquiry might help you with that ". 3. You are in my business without invitation, intention or unintentional ,I did not invite you there with your assumption . you wish me the best, what is best for me is that I honour my perspective and allow others the same freedom.
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so according to this if someone kills your child it will be your fault for wanting to kill your child and there should be no pain about it in your mind.... and then you say they didn't really want to abuse and kill your child.... then you laugh and smile.
Who says this? In this video?
The video said that, is that true?
The Work isn't about let anyone do whatever they want with you.
It's about giving yourself freedom.
Well you can still choose to be with pain in your mind and that will not change the fact the child was killed or you can stop killing your child in your mind and be free! Every time you fight reality it’s you that hurts hun
My mother DID abandon me for Alcohol.