I'm genuinely scared by the fact that this video tackled all the stuff passing through my brain on daily basis, it's crazy to see that a lot of us are in the same situation
Seriously and it seems like all of us are exactly 20 too. Seems like 2003 and early 2002 we’re like this hotspot where we were burdened with all the downsides that most generations don’t have to face To those wondering why I say 2003 or early 2002. It’s not to say that other years don’t feel the same, but to a degree the amount of more damage Covid did to those to years. For example I had a very short cut off graduation, I’m still glad I kinda sorta had one but the fact is 2002 didint have one at all and me being 2003 everything felt super rushed. I was also in ROTC for anyone one who doesent know what that is, it’s like a begginer military class you can take if you wanna join the military. Long story short I ended up not joining after high school for two reasons. 1 was that I was a “pc” and that’s a platoon commander of my class, meaning I basically taught my own class for two years. And guess what two years those were, the years Covid started, this made school completely not feel like school anymore no one tried, more than half of all students stayed home. So I basically have no memories or anything of my junior and senior year which I was building up to be my best years and Covid took that away. And 2 is that everything happening at the time effected my mental and still is to this day. Every job that I have and every person I meet at jobs and outside of jobs just seem like shells of personality’s that no would even consider possible of being freinds with. And I’ve read most of y’all’s comments and I’ve noticed that most of you guys have lost your freinds too and I can relate with the same reasons, they would talk about/do drugs all the time, everything felt empty even with them. But to say that I lost hope would be an understatement, and me being 20 and slowly getting older wacthing society change around us for the worse with all the lgbt/political/feminism pushes constantly being flooded into our ears. It’s starting to get to me, but I’m still going to try. And to be honest, hearing all of you going through the same things really does create this fire or bust of energy to keep going just like all of you.
Yeah, but at the same time, shouldn't it be hugely encouraging? The saying is cliche, but it is an absolute fact that you ARE NOT ALONE and ABSOLUTELY EVERYTHING you're going through. Someone else HAS gone through, AND they are on the other side of it
@@j_p2733 this is interesting and true i think. The 2001-2003 peeps seem to have this exact issue. I just turned 21 and i left school at 16 but when i think about the time inbetween its just blank... ive literally just been passing by and procrasinating about it everyday.
"you'll go outside and everyone's 40" Just graduated college, started working and can't overstate how true this is. Everyone's 40-60 years old, very rare they can relate to my humor, interests, perspective... If I weren't staying in touch with close buddies from college I'd be totally isolated socially.
eh? maybe. but its changing. Especially in smaller cities and towns and such. I visited smaller cities a couple of months ago and saw that home improvement stores and greenhouses were very busy with younger couples. Saw this again at a couple of boutique/specialty stores and it was almost all young couples. Its out there.
I cling pretty hard to the few guys at the office who have retained a wacky sense of humor through their age. They are legitimately keeping me sane at that place!
Don't worry that everyone outside is 40. You will be 40 in no time at all. Do you have any idea how fast the next 20 years is going to fly by? I can tell you, I am a Gen-X and I can remember 9/11 like it happened Yesterday. It feels like it was only a couple of years ago but it has been decades. Kids who weren't even born yet in 2001 are already fully grown adults. In the future which will feel like tomorrow you will meet adults who were born after Pandemic and have no idea what that whole lockdown thing was about. It will unsettle you in ways you have no idea.
Fr it sucks so much. This is the generation issue with boomers being so many ppl and our generation being a small one. And the boomers are so fucking toxic and narcissistic. It’s so hard to connect when everyone’s spread out...
Feel that man. I'm working an internship rn and everyone is 40+. They are all nice people but I feel so alone there. Some treat me like equals but others treat me like a dog. It's honestly just a feeling of emptiness that I can't describe. I am thankful for the opportunity, but not much else
"What sucks is that I am overthinking about all this shit to a degree that makes me weird" dude, every single thing you said in this video goes through my mind every single day, you are not alone
What he’s trying to say is that you wouldn’t be able to talk about this with a person living a healthy lifestyle because they can’t relate and if you tried they would probably think you were insane
@@Krab062 Jeg følger meg angsten noen ganger også, spesielt med skol og å tenke på framtiden. Bare kjenn at du er ikke ålene. (Jeg beklager om norsken min er ikke så bra, jeg er amerikansk).
@@xxJackethumans can accomplish a lot if we pool together, if we REALLY wanted better lives we would organize and make a new system for ourselves by force, but things aren't that bad yet..
The world gen Z was promised doesn't exist. We were prepared for the old world, leaning how to find books in the library, and grew up into the digital world. And we are vastly unprepared for it, especially socially
we were definitely not prepared for the old world. None of us was. The vast majority of us didn't grow up believing in religion. Hanging with friends outside all day long. We grew up mostly inside the house, in front of a computer or a tv. The vast majority of gen Zers have never read a book in their life, nevermind knowing how to search information inside one. We grew up thinking that proper socialization is through social media. And although soc media has had a few benefits, it has generally been an isolationist program that all of us got in happily.
@@EpicMinecraftFail I mean a proper book. Reading a child's book or a book for an assignment doesn't count. But surprisingly I know plenty of people my age that have never read a book in their teenage years (Im 19).
I don't really know about that. This is the narrative that was told about millenials and the gen x, and will probably be told for all post-boomer generations.
it's very wierd how relatable this was as a 21 year old, especially the "my parents lived more than me" and the "time is faster since the pandemic" parts.
@@theintrovertedaspie9095 a bit more scared of the video ai getting more realistic that you're charged with murder when theres footage of someone that looks like you doing something but yeah, replacing artists is the big issue
I'm turning 20 in a month, and this is all too relatable. Never been in a relationship as well, no real friends, everyone seems to be just consuming.. it scares me how so many people here made similar experiences, yet we're somehow collectively stuck in this society. What a weird time to be alive...
I gotta be honest idk how well this worked for others but the gym really does help. Developing a routine you chose for yourself can make the routine you may feel like you need to do (college or school for example) a little more eventful. If you split up your day and use the free time you have so much of maybe things can get better. I’m lucky to have some good friends around me but I know our of my extroverted personality what it feels like to observe a month pass by without really acting. So whenever you feel like that just say fuck it and break routine once in a while no matter how inconvenient or rewarding
You nailed it right on the head, man. I'm 23. I work a job as a junior software developer and the first thing I noticed was how older everyone was around me. Being surrounded by seniors is scary. I work 8 to 5 then when I'm done, what do I do? I scroll through TikTok, I watch videos, I play video games because without this form of escapism, the entire truth of this world comes crashing down on me. I start to realize I'm in debt, I start to realize my mom and dad both passed away and I'm alone. I'm depressed and just don't have the will to go out and find someone. I drink meds every morning just so I can feel good enough for my brain to suppress these nasty thoughts while I combine it with every form of dopamine farming activity I can think of just so I don't have to think. But there's hope. I'm making plans to pay off my debt. I'm pushing myself to get out everyday, take chances and talk to people. I'm trying to create these experiences and while it's not the same, it's not too late. Good luck, kings. You are an universe trying to figure itself out.
Same dude idk why those thoughts come up but I’m not in any debt and I work from home but those thoughts make me don’t wanna work and slack bro it’s crazy I’m 22 and I have my own condo I’m just gona move back to la and get a girlfriend cause that’s were all the girls are that want relationships , literally what I’m gona do at this point
This is not a life that someone like you deserves, king. I highly recommend to you to work out and find a sports type where you can connect with people. I started doing calisthenics in a local park 3 months ago, i literally became double as strong, well respected and also forged many new friendships. Not a single toxic person among them and even when I go to the gym there is always atleast one person talking to me (something that usually rarely happened in a gym) because of my training. I re-invented myself and i wish the same experience to everyone who is in a place of darkness.
I’m 29 and still feel like a child posing as a “functioning” adult. Trying to buy a house and feeling like an idiot. Times are way harder than they were for our parents. The American dream is dead we can barely afford to live
Haha! How is it that you feel like an idiot? Do you genuinely not know what you're doing or perhaps why? Or do you feel like an imposter just doing it because you "have to" but ultimately see the whole societal blueprint as fraudulent and you feel like you're being taken for a fool? Do you not feel ready because of feeling like a child? Or none of the above. Maybe it's something else? I legitimately laughed when I read "Trying to buy a house and feeling like an idiot." I'm 32, still don't have a house. Yeah, what makes you feel like an idiot - I would love to know. Cheers!
@@hyperblue3137 Nah - I think my comment maybe being read in a way I didn't intend. I simply wanna know why someone would feel like an idiot buying a house - because I don't get it - but also have felt weird in some of those ways I mentioned myself about certain things in the past. There have been zero incidents of cornflake pissings, at least not mine as far as I know. 😅
It's crazy how so many young people feel so lost at such a young age. I remember being 20 and feeling like I had so much time, and the future looked bright.
I turned 22 last December. I quit community college in 2020 because of Covid. All I’ve done for the past 3 years is work at Starbucks hating everyday while trying to pour my soul into my work because that’s what I thought people do. Aside from being able to fake connections with customers; because thats what I do; I don’t really have friends. I don’t feel like I have a community. And what is there to do? The world’s fucked: climate change, highly aggressive politics with us or them ideas, a constant stream of online entertainment, 10000 people talking about everything there is to do on UA-cam. What’s the point of trying to be an astronaut or whatever if you’re not a genius? When there’s 1000 other guys and gals who are just like you, but a little better? Where’s the hope in the world when everything is at your fingertips and impossible to reach?
@@snugglyhedgehog It doesn't have to be beyond your reach. Those "genius" folk didn't just wake up with all the knowledge and skills they have. They were a person just like you at some point. I think a huge part of the problem we are having as young people today is that we are only shown the loftiest goals as worthwhile. Who cares if you can't be the greatest astronaut or the smartest scientist? That doesn't mean you don't have value, and even if you have a low value now you can still improve and increase your value for the future. Not everything is about what is in your bank account; though that does make a difference, I won't deny that, but it isn't the only thing that matters.
@@snugglyhedgehogI always say if theres no point to life, why not have a little fun, it sounds like a dumb concept because it is stupid but finding what you enjoy and doing the way you want to, is what makes life a little bit more bearable, like somthing as small as finding the right music to play throughout your day. Thats how i plan to live most of my days i dont care how bizzare or crazy the things i do are, as long as i aight hurting no one but myself, i always try to find somthing fun or interesting even in the shitest conditions thatll make me smile for even a second. This is just a perspective of how i go through the day to day and yall could probably poke holes in it like swiss cheese and im not here to convince anyone how to live their lives just throwen my two cents in and seeing different perpectives on the topic.
Wtf literally describing my exact experience of highschool. Born in 2003, turning 20 this year, and I felt like I missed out on all the normal social progressions throughout highschool. No “teen love”, no parties, no waging with friends, nothing. Just homework, go home, watch YT, repeat. It all passed so quick, and it feels so weird to see young teens heading in and out of highschool just to remember I’m 2 years past that now. It’s quite sad in a way, and I’m never getting that back. Is what it is I guess :(
I was 19 when quarentine started. I'm almost 23 now and I swear that I barely remember being 19 or 20. In my head I'm still 20, about to be 21. 2 years of my youth were robbed.
frr. im turning 20 soon too but life only just begun last year for me since working out seriously everyday, entered college, starting my own business and just getting better at life. Still dont have girls, no parties , less friends. Just been grinding so i hope it pays off one day
As a 24 year old, who has been in your shoes, I can say that part of becoming an adult is grieving your adolescence. The quicker you come to terms with your past and everything you may have missed out on or not done, the quicker you can focus on building and doing those things for yourself today. Just because you didn't do things on societies schedule doesn't mean you can't do them on your own schedule. Your fate and destiny is in your hands. The longer you spend dwelling and grieving the past the more time you waste in changing today for your future.
this im 20 and missed so many bonding times with friends im sad about it but now me and buddies go camping in the mountains at least once a year, we have a bonfire at least once a month, and we are getting ready to get bikes and start backpacking
You're completely right. I'm 27, married, in a fixer upper home, with our first kid on the way. Up until a couple years ago, I used to mourn my past, but one great epiphany hit me: stages. More specifically, stages of life. I guess it kinda hit when our pet hamsters died; I was really sad to say goodbye, and had to hold back my tears as I buried them, but there are other critters out there that need a home, and there would never have been room for them if the old little guys hadn't passed on. Same goes for people: I became a bit more comfortable with my mortality when I thought of it as clearing space for future generations, so they can have their turn just like I had mine. It's only fair. There's also the pros and cons. Being a kid is the most fun, but you have no freedom; being a teenager gives more freedom, but you're still limited in what you have and can do, and most importantly don't have anything to die for (for, as a famous quote goes, if you wouldn't die for something, then you live for nothing); as an adult, you have the most responsibility and obligation, but you can build something worth living and ultimately dying for if you play your cards right, and that's a meaning that nobody can ever take away from you. There's a beauty to each stage, but it's unfair for any one to hog the space that they all deserve to occupy. And like furniture in a house, you have to remove something old if you want to put in something new.
@@tiagodecastro2929 Agreed. With all death comes the rebirth. A new cycle, a new life and a new way of seeing things. Things must die and pass on in order for a new wave and way to move in. It's how we as humans progress and move forward with our lives and in society. It's only natural
I'm 39, and this struck such a chord with me. I feel it, I see it. The pandemic wasn't the cause of the atomization, the isolation, but it radically accelerated it. I have so much love and awe for the younger generations and what they've gone through, and how well they're shaping up under the circumstances, it fills me with hope. The fight is still in the dog
honestly this video hit hard. I'm 26 now. one moment you wake up on your 20th birthday and the next you are waking up about to turn 27. don't let parents tell you where you should be in life, the world they lived in was totally different from the one we all currently face. For all of us young lads out there, I wish you all the best in health, spirit, and success! we got this guys 💪
true, my regret was listening to my mom and living in a constant dissonance. now graduated uni and unemployed. 25 eating beans n watching twitch. i lost for now
@@RudiGallon Same here man, 25 and just graduated. Wish I took up a trade, but I felt like I would have been seen as a loser by my parents if I did due to the expectation always being that college was where I was heading. School was not for me but here we are, unemployed and not knowing wtf to do next.
@@StriveForLuckyou can always go and try the trades, its never too late. im 18 and i just got into electrical apprenticeship. i havent started working yet but i am gonna soon.
I believe part of the problem as to why people in our generation seem to be stuck in fantasy and are unable/unwilling to grow up is because we have been conditioned to fear making mistakes and taking risks. I’ve always been terrified at the thought of messing up while working a job or embarrassing myself in some way because I don’t know what i’m doing. We’ve been taught that mistakes are bad and embarrassing so we should avoid them by not venturing out of our comfort zones. By not venturing out of our comfort zones we can never grow as people and develop essential life skills through learning and experience. If you happen to find this comment in this vast sea of people throwing their two cents in, just know that mistakes are meant to be made, bad times and hardships happen to be learned from, and that I believe in you, whoever you may be.
I definitely believe that is a large part of the reason. I live to learn and experiment with new things. But my mom has high anxiety. She is a lot better about it now but for a long time I felt I couldn’t do anything creative around her. If she saw the mess, she would get stressed. Even if she didn’t lecture me, she would be unhappy with me. I felt I had to hide the entire process, clean all the evidence, and only show the end results (provided I got good end results). I am talking about stuff like cooking experiments, art projects, making lip gloss, growing (edible and legal) mushrooms, etc. Admittedly I have made some messes over the years (the worst one I remember was when I got soot all over a pan and then in the sink when I put it in the sink after I used it to cook eggs over an oil stove I built in the backyard), but I think I am very good at cleaning now.
Nah, far from it bub. It is because they've come to realise, formally or instinctively, how antagonised they've become and increasingly so. So the reasoning quickly becomes "why bother?" Why bother giving a fraction of your best let alone your all to a system/community/state/people who are at best indifferent to your existence or for worse antagonising you for being male/white/straight/principled? It makes little sense. Some have the fortitude and social proof to press forward despite it, most do not and succumb to deaths of despair, violent outbursts sometimes taking people down with them or turn into cold killers in our midst never to be caught. That's what's going on here, and inb4 victim complex/it is what it is/boot strap yourself asinine rebuttals either from you or some other commenter. The reason for the aggressive rhetoric is because I'm tried of the handwaving/detracting/pretending/lying/co-opting of what the root cause really is; disenfranchised males growing up in a world that's become completely and utterly gynocentric. That's what's going on here and it's going to get worse because nobody (or at least nobody with power) has any interest in fixing or rolling this problem back. And why would they? Wombs > Everything else except when it comes time for war when the culling of these men happens to prevent the dissident from growing out of control.
I do think that is part of the reason. For me, a lot of it has been due to overprotective parents that haven’t ‘allowed’ me to grow up. For much of my adult life, they’ve been financially dependent on me but also very critical of the decisions I try to make on my own. From career choices, to new people I meet, my parents are always pessimistic of future outcomes and instill a fear in me that everything could lead to failure if I try doing something new. So, I just stop trying because I don’t want to prove them right.
Honestly, one of the worst parts about these last few years has been seeing my parents getting "old." Mom has onset-alzheimer's and Dad is realizing his anticipated years of retirement will be spent taking care of her. Granted, they are still happy together every day but, damn... I wish I had treasured those special moments just that little bit more. Seems like a lot of us early 2000s guys are having similar thoughts, we can stay strong and all be there for each other.
when shit like this happens, honestly it makes me feel like the system is evil. Useless people with billions of dollars while parents work 12 hour days just to come home and not want to spend time with their kids. We’re forced to cooperate and work for nothing just to maybe have a decent retirement, but even now that’s harder, just look at all the 70 year olds working at Walmart. And even then, what the f*** do you want to do when you’re 60? absolutely f*** all because you’re old and tired, and who knows if you’ll even make it til then. I’m sorry about your parents, I hope they spend the rest of their years happy with each other.
early-onset eh? My dad started to exhibit symptoms in his 50s, and he is now almost 66, in the advanced stages of the disease, despite how young he is. It is theorized he could've been suffering from the disease as early as his late 40s. We held onto him as long as we could but eventually we had to admit him to a special hospital fulltime, which has been one of the hardest chapters of our lives. My mother spends everyday she can at his side. I wish you guys much strength in the trials to come. God bless.
im from 2005, my last grandfather has late stage parkinson’s. Although my parents are fine since they had me young, yeah i kinda get where you’re coming from. shit sucks man
I 100% feel that. I'm 26, but my parents had me and my older brother when they were pretty old, compared to most people I know. My dad's approaching his 70's, and keeps himself in good shape, but he is definitely the outlier in his family (his dad died in 1978, when he was 54, and that's about par for the course for the men on that side of the family). My mom just turned 64 and was just diagnosed with cancer, started chemo the other week and it's been...rough. This video got me thinking, and, despite having it decently well, being 26, getting out of college debt free (thanks to my parents, which I know not very many people share the same luxury) before the pandemic, having a full time salaried job and living on my own, I just feel like I'm stuck in a hole, and the longer I stay, the deeper it gets. I'm 26. My dad started the job that ended up being his career when he was 22, and retired when he was 62. His dad went to war when he was 20, and got a purple heart when he was 21 in 1945. Looking back at old records, my dad is the only person on his side of the family that got out of the rural county in Virginia that he was born in. I'm 26, and I still live in the small city where I grew up. I still live in a hole. If my family history is anything to go off of, my life is about halfway over. I don't want to live in a hole anymore, and I intend to do something about it.
I’m 31 almost 32 in March and acknowledged a long time ago there’s no hope. My whole Childhood I had to take care of myself and I used to have confidence in the belief that the only person I can depend on is myself but how bad the world has become there’s no hope that I can’t even depend on myself to get through this. I wish I can enter the Mass Effect Universe and never come back to reality.
I'm 50 and have 3 teenage sons and am so worried about them. The way young people live right now is really frightening to me. When I was in high school, I was constantly with my friends, finding creative things to do, sometimes getting into trouble we needed to figure out how to get out of (which in retrospect was an important lesson). There were dances and Rocky Horror every Friday and parties and walking the mall to meet people and shows by crappy bands some guy we knew we in and going to the graveyard to pretend to see ghosts. The minute any of us could get a driver's license we would do it and work to save up for a crappy car so we could drive all over the place. We were almost never home. Now my teenage sons - and it seems every single teenage boy they know - just sits on the computer and either games or talks to each other on an app. And anytime I hear them talking about anything but gaming, all these guys just make fun of each other. Like that's their socialization. None of them seem interested in girls (or boys, whatever). They hardly do anything in person. None of them get into trouble, ever - and on the one hand, I'm glad I don't have to worry about them or have no idea where they are. On the other hand, I feel like they're missing out on something - they don't test boundaries and limits, they don't experience the exhilaration of sneaking out, they don't learn how to handle a situation that's scary, shady, or risky. And as a parent, you can't really do anything. Because what am I going to say? "Hey, you aren't rebelling against me enough!"? And if all their friends are online, I don't feel like I can even force them off the computer, because that's where these kids are socializing. I'm not even sure why I wrote all that. I guess I'm seeing everything you're talking about here in my sons. And if I'm honest, in myself a bit as well, even at age 50. I think a lot about how life just isn't as fun as it was when I was a kid and younger teenager. And this society really does suck so much more than when I was young. I know old people always say that, but I really feel like it's measurably true now. Like a society where kids don't go outside and waste their only chance at youth staring at computer screens is incredibly dystopian and horrific. When I think about the level of regret people are going to feel when they get to be my age and realize they've done almost nothing real, it kind of makes me feel like I'm going to have a panic attack.
It’s incredible to hear from you what being a young person used to be like. I’m 24 and while I did go out a little bit in high school, my experience was nowhere close to yours. I feel like so many young people really crave adventure, because we have so little experience with uncertainty or risk. I also just became a high school math teacher, (I graduated last year) and my students lifestyles fit everything in this video to a T. Lots of my students are just like your sons. When I ask them what they like to do outside of school, a lot of them don’t seem to do much. And the ones that do go out just want to drink or smoke weed or some kind of instant pleasure. I’m scared to think of what it will be like regretting all our missed experiences. That’s why I try to be intentional about keeping my friendships intact, going out and having new experiences; because I know that if I live life passively, I’ll have so much to regret later. I hope your sons go out and experience the world and have some fun! I hope we all get to experience some of what you experienced as a teenager.
@@loujackmorgiewicz8541 i might be wrong but i think todays young people are very quick to 'ghost' people, even their friends, for one mistake. im 52 and there were PLENTY of times a friend hurt my feelings or made me mad, but we didnt stop being friends. wed stop talking for a day or two, then one of us would swallow our pride and make a phone call and be hanging out again. i dont think young people do that anymore, they call it 'im not wasting my energy on toxic friends' but i think its not always a toxic friend its just a disgreement. could be wrong though.
52 here and i had the same childhood you did. before we could drive we rode bikes everywhere. If you didnt have a bike you stood on the back axle and rode along. if you were very lucky someones older brother might be bored enough to drive you to the movies or something. no phones no internet. made friends in minutes. a group of boys could go to the mall, run into a group of girls and start learning names and maybe phone numbers. of course back then you know if you called you had to talk with their mom or dad first lol. it was so easy back then. you couldnt be an introvert and survive. today with social media you can see what everyone else is doing without leaving your bed, so thats exactly what people do. back then you took shortcuts across private property, got stung by bees running through fields, swam in lakes. if we went to a friends house you didnt knock you just walked in like you lived there. the moms would offer a snack. the moms were boomers were always doing something around the house. like everyone was awake and up and doing something. youd go from playing touch football in the back yard to jumping on the bikes to go swimming somewhere, always competing. nobody was on anxiety meds, the town was lively. if you wanted to hear your favorite song you either bought the cassette and dragged a walkman or boombox everywhere or you hoped the DJ would play it and not talk over it. i can tell you this. Having instant access to any song, any tv show, any movie, 24/7 has made it SO MUCH HARDER to choose what to watch i literally just watch the same shows over and over. ive spent an hour going over hundreds of movies just to give up and put Friends on. this instant gratification didnt give us what we thought it would. and the endless scrolling on social media. I took myself off Facebook because even at my age i found myself stuck scrolling on every break at work, until i finally realized it was the same people complaining about the same things everytime i opened the app. It took about a week of weaning myself off of it but im so glad i did. I dont miss a damn thing. Then i tried tiktok and the psychology behind making people scroll is even worse on tiktok, i instantly realized it wasnt for me and deleted it. Instagram is the only one i use because somehow it doesnt have the addiction to it the others have. I can either go on it or ignore it for a whole day. I cant imagine how hard it is for immature brains to break free from it. Probably impossible. one nice thing about getting older is you just one day dont give a damn what kim and kylie and Taylor and whoever else is up to. it just doesnt matter that they took their jet to an exclusive party i couldnt go to even if i wanted to. from reading comments it appears im also lucky to have friends. 2 from HS to this day, and many more through work. every friend i have around here is someone i worked with or still do. a lot of people say your coworkers arent your friends but i think it depends on the job.
Hearing you talk about being born in 2003 and how things are today really puts things into perspective for me. I was 20 back in 2003, and let me tell you, times were definitely different. It's amazing how much has changed in just a couple of decades. Back then, going out and socializing in person was the norm. We didn't have smartphones glued to our hands, constantly distracting us. We actually had to make an effort to leave our houses and engage with the world around us. It was so much easier to meet new people face to face and form genuine connections. I can't help but feel a little nostalgic for the simpler times. There was something special about the anticipation and excitement of meeting someone new, exchanging conversation, and maybe even handing out in the club/lounge. It felt more organic, raw, and human. I have sympathy for the younger generation that didn't get to experience the same kind of social interactions we had back in the day. While technology has undoubtedly brought numerous benefits and advancements to our lives, it has also inadvertently altered we connect, and not much for the better. That being said, my life didn't really "begin" until 24. It was fairly monotonous, even back then. It's far too early to actually gauge how the rest of life will go at 20, at least that's how it was for me.
Same, i was born in the 90s but we still didn't have smartphones during our highschool. Only that old, brickwall, Nokia phone. Even tho im miserable today i am forever grateful that i got to grow up during normal circumstances in society and spend my childhood and teenage years in that era. It's and old saying since forever but everything really was better and simpler back then.
I don’t buy the nostalgia shit anymore. It feels near impossible for anyone find real social opportunities in todays world. I feel like iv been conditioned to be unable to form real attachment to others. I feel distant from everyone I know and the few friends I have are more like acquaintances. It’s like If I had the financial means I could just disappear into the world and cut ties to everyone and everything I know without much though.
I’m 19, didn’t go to college and currently working a full time labor job. This video definitely has spoken to me. I feel isolated almost on a daily basis and sometimes wonder if going to college would’ve been worth it just to have some friends, because for me too, my high school friend group seemingly began to dissolve right after we graduated. Maybe for people like us the best days are yet to come.
You don’t need to go to college. It should be viewed as an “option,” not a necessity. I’m 27 and didn’t go to college. Joined the Army after high school and did it for 8 years. I’m doing fine now, financially and all. I’m not suggesting joining the Army, but like I said about college, it should be an option, not an obligation. Public schooling fails in preparing kids for life. It’s trying to fill a quota of how many go to college.
It's better than hanging onto all those same old friends who didn't have any direction, who drink every friday-monday and have all SORTS of aged girls over. I remember being 19-20 still chillin with my HS friend group while we transitioned into partying and chasing girls. Justin was having a party and it was FULL of highschool girls. Absolutely full of them. I was like uh I gotta go. Haven't talked to them in 15
Currently 23 working as a DoorDash driver and haven’t had a real job since I was 15. I don’t think the older folks understand just how daunting it is to put yourself out there in today’s social climate. It is a cutthroat world where NOTHING is based on skill, talent, or hard work. It’s all dependent on algorithms and the whims of hiring managers. In other words, luck. If you don’t come from wealth or have some kind of connection who can get you a job, you are at an immediate disadvantage. The reason kids today are so obsessed with content creation and social media is because it’s the one career where you can become successful off of your own merit. They’re not lazy, they’re just desperate to live in an environment where their effort is recognized and acknowledged.
And trade will hire skill. It takes putting effort in to get a said skill. Its always been tuff. Sit in solitude long enough and you can convince yourself of anything is one issue I'm sure. The number of excuses I hear now is insane being a buisness owner(this took me 25 years of being in the workforce to achieve btw) because life happens and you keep trying and stay positive.
@@Will_14_years_ago Note the second paragraph. You began your career in a fundamentally different job market and economy than the one in place today: one that was tough, but not one anywhere near as sisyphusian as it is now. I should also mention that I’m referring to white collar work, not trades. The rules are a bit different there. Significant inflation and COVID’s unemployment crisis have done irreparable damage to the job market and people aren’t able to just waltz on into it like they used to. I could rant for several paragraphs, but I recommend you do some of your own research into this topic, because I don’t think you realize how much has changed since you started your business.
I became 30 one week ago and I still identify with everything you’re saying. What makes you mature is experience, not time. Some people are older than us but seem to be younger because of a lack of experience. Fill your life with experience to solve this conundrum.
Turned 30 last month, and Gerbert is speaking point blank to my worldview. The internet has forever interrupted natural selection and it's been this way for almost 10 years.
I turn 29 in a month and same here, I have a good job but now I’m back living with my parents cus I don’t want to live alone, my buddy who I lived with couldn’t keep a job and couldn’t afford to live on his own and I can’t find a decent woman to save my life. I want more than anything to start a family before I get too old to play with my kids but with everyday that passes it feels like less of a possibility. I hope all the guys here can find what you’re looking for and be successful men, I know it’s hard but I’m holding on to hope that we can do it and fix the direction that society is headed
My biggest thing is I don’t really know what there is to fill my life with experience. Most things I do feel invaluable in that regard and I just feel kind of stuck. I like how the creator of this video mentioned “rampant consumerism” and we’re basically just money farms for consumption. Most of the things we are used to doing nowadays, like right now how most of us are just consuming content on the internet for that dopamine hit, only really benefit the people that publish the content and create the platforms. I just feel like I’m in a loop and I’m stuck but I don’t really know what’s holding me back other than just playing video games and being on social media in my free time. I don’t know if it’s just that holding me back or if there’s something more to it. I want to improve but don’t know where to start.
The death of community is something that I feel is not talked about enough. We are inherently social creatures, we want to be together, but its harder now than ever to find a group that you not only fit into, but is good for your life. This is why I feel that these crazy fan consoomers are becoming a thing. Its a warped attempt to join a community that will never actually help or benefit them and only serves to validate their own child like behavior.
Yeah I cannot agree more. Us humans are inherently social creatures - we're simply are not made for a life in isolation, where tech substitutes real world experiences. No wonder why there is so many people with mental health issues, drug crisis and to a larger extent so much toxicity (especially when it comes to politics). Think about it - people waste their time arguing with people they dont know about things that shouldnt be their concern - and for what? They go to bed stressed, angry, only to repeat it all over again on the next day.
If you go overseas, especially to a third world nation or an asian nation you realize community is alive and well over there. It's just western culture seems to be dying a slow painful death where the bottom is just falling out and no one is noticing or caring because all of those in power are near death and don't care. Community needs to make a comeback in western nations. Once the boomers are out of power huge changes need to happen in how the western world is organized.
I’ve been stressed out simply because I’m coming out of this phase… I’m 24 now and live in a bigger city, stopped playing video games for the most part, and am barely in my apartment. I’m more social, play in a volley ball league a few times a week, have friends, volunteer, and have a community oriented job at a non profit. I’m doing a lot more but I’ll say that it’s so stressful to make this transition… I feel like I’m forcing myself to be out there and make as many interactions & connections as possible, and while it feels so good to have that now, it’s so stressful to maintain it on a weekly basis.
You have made great progress, be yourself and don't overthink your social interactions too much and you'll be fine. Just stepping out of your comfort zone is already a big step and that is what I'm trying to achieve. Dr K has a bunch of videos on the subject if it can help, it helped me a bit. Good luck brother
@@jaybutton3004 Literally what they do whenever I try to open up even the slightest, and I only do that because they complain that "I'm too quiet" or that "I don't tell them how I feel/how I'm doing". Of fucking course, how do they expect me to open up when they never take it seriously.
I turn 20 this October, 2003 kid here. "You come home from work to your tiny apartment with neighbors you don't know"...that hit me hard. I don't even know where to start with building relationships. Everyone I work with is late 20s and older. I really didn't expect this video to hit me as hard as it did, well done.
I turned 20 in April and same everything execpt I'm lucky and I get to work for my dad's company so I have a small single story house with no bathtub just a shower you really don't realize how nice a hot soak is till you can't just sit in your own bathtub
@@ace3154i’m 24, ill be 25 on september 1st and more or less a spitting image of what this vid is about. I dont oodle my noodle to hentai or any of that dork shit but i went to a higher learning private school institution, graduated and went to community college for like 3yrs to never even finish my associates lol. Now i’m 24, tired of manual labor and realizing I can choose to make money with my brain, or destroy my body and be physically exhausted by 45. So now, I’m going back and finishing my associates and then onto university for a supply chain degree. It’s important to take your time deciding what you want to do these days. The difference between what we do now and what our parents did is that its nearly impossible for us to re-adjust an educational direction without actually crippling ourselves. On top of that, it’s nearly impossible to live on your own without living check to check. Theres no shame in staying at home, I know 35yr olds who still live at home because they never figured it out.
@@imcrux6583 18 working in supply chain and logistics for almost a year and about to take classes for it at a community college in the fall. I still have no idea what imma do after I finish these classes and graduate and if I even want to do this later in life
I’d recommend finding something you like to do that involves other people. Off the top of my head, joining a rock climbing gym. Just be friendly but not needy. After doing it for 6 months you’ll be ripped, probably healthier, and you’ll develop a couple friendships probably. Just remember, you don’t have to do some big gesture the first time you meet someone. Let things happen naturally and remember that some people are not going to want to be your friend and that’s ok.
The fact that you're coming to all these realizations at 20 puts you way ahead of the game, so kudos to you. I'm 29 and still barely starting to scratch the surface of how/ why I ended up becoming so lost and behind in life....
Man, you're lucky you didn't screw your life up doing doing dumb stuff. A lot of it has to do with porn. Be yourself, man. Stop jacking off and masterbuating and follow Jesus and read the Bible, and you'll see the difference. God bless you. Don't regret. Think positive ✨️. * Soon, there is going to be the rapture. It's when there will be trumpet sounds, and after the trumpet sounds, God will lift his people from here. Also, God said people should be living by the Bible. Amen, and God bless you.
i info dumped all these same thoughts on my dad recently and he gave me advice that i genuinely find useful. he said "i know things are harder for your generation in ways that i dont even understand, but the fact that you're realizing all this and are somehow still standing with aspersions for self fulfillment means that you'll succeed. Just keep analyzing the world around you and dont give into the pressure, as long as you dont grow content with society's issues, you'll find peace in this flawed world."
See this is the kinda stuff we need. Not the impending doom apathetic videos that we see all the time now. We need hope and reassurance that shits gonna work out. Sulking gets us nowhere.
Damn lucky you didn't get the grandpa "I worked an unskilled factory job for $5 an hour and bought the house I still live in for $3000" talk. Like you can do the same thing with a $170,000 house on $12.50 an hour.
I turn 31 in September, married with two daughters. You are much wiser than a 16 year old. You are not weird. I've been trying to process all this for years, and I really appreciate how you laid everything out in this video. We have to take back control of our lives.
I'm 22 and couldn't agree more. I wish people we're more connected. I'm sober completely but that means i got no friends because every other guy my age would rather be in clubs, focusing on drinking and drugs. I did that when i was younger but i want friends who are like minded.
Definently not enough. awareness is less than half the battle the majority is willpower. Speaking from experience. ive been thinking about this kind of thing and ive gone full circle from black pill to white pill and back several times now. I came to the realization that in the end you have to willingly suffer the vast majority of every day in order to get anywhere. Its worth it, but it takes more willpower than I have.
I’m a 2003 kid and never thought that someone in my year felt the exact same way I do. It’s terrifying but somewhat relieving that my doubts have been confirmed by the experience (or lack there of) of others in my generation.
Damn just turned 21 and this hits pretty damn hard. I feel like the lockdowns did irreversible damage to this generation especially those around our age. I never expected my last day of actual highschool to be that friday we left in march in never really came back. I feel like the end of my childhood didn't get any closure and the boys just went their separate ways without any kind of sendoff.
No cap bro I feel the same, I haven’t gotten over the time before lockdown yet, I miss all of it. Everything feels so tasteless, not a day goes by when I don’t miss my school and wish I could go back.
I finished school thru a laptop and graduated thru the pandemic and after I went straight to la and had the time of my life I really didn’t even notice Covid but now.. life is hitting crazy in bouta just go back to la cause that’s were I’m truly happy at and the women are everywhere I can’t keep scrolling thru TikTok seeing all these 🌈 people these apps tryna turn us gay and shii
As a 25 year old I can tell you it's a normal feeling. After going through HS, college and working you finally have time to reminisce on the things in life you do before. That fear is anxiety telling you to do more with your life. Our brains have been wired for 20 years to do school and hw. After your education your brain has no stimulation besides social media. You have to get out there and connect with people, find a new hobby. You have to find yourself many times in your life I know I have.
25, you'd have been 22 during the lockdowns, that is, the age were you either already graduated or had a strong enough circle to whistand forced isolation. It is a really different experience when you're 19 or 20 and still trying to get acclimated to college life, finding friends and connections. "Get out there", what bullshit, as if people waited after internet to tell them to have a hobby. The truth is most had hobbies that were outlawed because of "two weeks to flatten the curve". Need I remind you it too more than 13 months to get back to "no restrcitions" on socialization? Of course, it matters not because the damage is done and the trust broken. Speaking of trust, let's not talk about distrust sowed between groups (men, women, black, white), i'm sure it's really helpful to walk on eggshells when you want connections.
@@blackfire6009Hey, another 25 year old chiming in here. Ngl bro, you sound like a coward. Like you’re afraid of getting hurt or failing, but that’s literally a defining point of human existence. You can’t be too anxious about life that you stop acting and living it. Life is short in hindsight, and it’ll pass you by quicker than you think. So instead of being frozen in contemplation, go out and act, go crazy. There is always time for rumination, there is very little time for inaction.
@@blackfire6009the lockdowns were a huge mistake. The biggest transfer of wealth, power, and happiness from the young to the old. People still talk about them as if they were an inevitability, quite often people say ‘the pandemic’ when describing the misery wilfully forced on the public by governments. This generation should be a lot more angry than they are.
I can’t imagine how hard it is to establish connections during COVID. The true point the original comment makes is “find yourself many times”. It really is a constant battle to find yourself, your people, and really make it all work. But, you’ve got to try! Adulthood takes off those guide rails from birth to college graduation. It’s another reason I think it’s more difficult because you truly start playing the game after completing the (very long) tutorial. This is a double sided coin because now the world really opens up as well. Hope this helps
Recently I needed to return to my hometown after 1 year of college (couldn't afford it anymore), this place looks the same, but at the same time it feels very alien. Most people I've cared about are gone - nearly every friend went to college or moved to other cities to work
As a 30 year old it actually made me so sad to hear that there is a whole generation where the end of your high school time was devastated by the pandemic, that must be so incredibly difficult to process
Thanks for all the likes btw. I make music bout being depressed so peep Yea i turned 20 August 10 & this vid is pretty accurate. For me personally tho, the "golden era" was 2007/8-2014 that was when i was the happiest. 2015 was alright but '16 was crap, 2017 was actually when it kinda got better, social media wasn't too bad yet, it just felt lively again but that's the same year i homeschooled (online schooling) which was 3 years before everyone else was forced to aswell. So my high school "life" was kinda hindered early (partially due to my own accord) 2018 i finally turned 15 but i wasn't happy, i felt old cuz i just got into old music (rap, rock & metal mainly) and was sad & really depressed cuz i realized how bad modern music was & basically became one of the "born in the wrong generation" kids. 2019 hit i turned 16 and got even more depressed cuz i really started realizing how dumb young ppl are & how alone i was, then i began getting into everything "old", ps1 video games, movies, shows etc but yea then 2020 hit, i'm hit with a dramatic election, crazy politics, not even 17 yet & now there's a pandemic, America is rioting, dumb girls are dancing on tiktok & i'm even more depressed so yea it's been alot the past 5 years
@@1950s_was_da_peakIm in a similar boat. I turn 20 in november and the golden era for me was between 2008-2014. Things were okay when i first joined high school in 2015, but things started to go downhill for me around 2017, when i lost my pet cat which was my first taste of grief. 2018, was even worse, i lost 2 grandparents and my anxiety was really starting to show. Of course the pandemic only made it worse. Then i lost a 3rd grandparent in 2021 and by that point, reality was in full swing. Things have been getting better so far, im talking action against my anxiety and hopefully it will lessen by alot.
@@1950s_was_da_peak we are legit almost the same person lol. i turn 20 august 19th but i didnt go into online school until my 11th grade year literally 3-4 months before covid hit so either way i wouldve graduated online but i do really miss high school a lot. it was tons of fun so many new friends and memories i wish i could go back to 9th grade tbh.
@@1950s_was_da_peak I turn 20 in September. Everything you said was completely relatable. 2016 really was a crap year and everything went down hill from there.
I see a lot of people in the comments here mourning their youth after feeling like they had their childhood stolen. The lesson we should learn is that we should appreciate the time that we have now. The little things that you enjoy and can only really do at this specific place you're at today.
You are right but I live like a prisoner sentenced to death. What kind of life is this? I have fun but I wonder what a life with a future is. You know, knowing a girl who is not woke and crazy, not having a government who steal everything we have like a mafia, not being an unsafe country because of immigration and poverty, etc. I guess it is what it is.
I was born in 1997, making me the eldest of generation z. I feel all the hurt and confusion coming from our generation and the millennials, especially since the pandemic flipped everything around. I want to make 3 things clear to anyone reading this: 1. It’s not too late 2. Your path won’t look like your parents path 3. Nobody is more than a message or phone call away When I was 20, I was living it up at college and enjoying life. At 23, I moved into my moms house during Covid and felt a level of isolation that almost killed me. At 26, I’m with my dad working freelance art jobs and learning to be there for my first real girlfriend. Point is, life isn’t a straight shot and things change fast. You aren’t late to the game, contrary to how you feel I’m telling you it’s just getting started. It’s not always easy, it’s fucking harder now than ever for young people, but there’s always hope. Never lose that hope. Great video Gerbert 👍
Similar case myself. When the pandemic was over, the feelings did not depart, but I hit the ground running. Was extremely painful, but now I have a much better life ahead of me than before m
Thank you so much for this. I’m 19 right now and I turn 20 in a couple of months. I struggle with the same issues and reading this really put it all in a perspective that I needed to hear.
This, a millions times this. After Covid when everyone was on discord all the time I sorta got smooshed together with my parents friends kids who were sort of stranded in town and we just decided we were going to do stuff together. That ended up falling away because that’s sort of how life is. After that I had to actively go seek out communities that I wanted to be apart of and when my d&d groups went on hold for more than a month I remembered when my sister told me about her post-college experience which was basically “if you want to keep in touch with your friends, you have to work at it” so I just started calling or texting people a bit more often
I think a big part of it is being afraid to strike your own path. Going to college puts a lot of power in the hands of parents into your 20’s. I’m pursuing my MD, and just about to move out at 23.
I’m one of the older gen z’s being born in the late 90’s. It feels we were doomed from the start. We got raised for a world that doesn’t exist, everything we’d be told we’d be able to do by certain ages just seems impossible which causes just a feeling of hopelessness. Many of us lost the prime of our lives to covid wether that be high school or college and the experiences that go with them, it’s a generation of loneliness and regret.
"Many of us lost the prime of our lives to covid wether that be high school or college and the experiences that go with them, it’s a generation of loneliness and regret." this made me tear man 😢
That's a really profound way to say it I totally agree as a mid 90s baby. We were raised for a world that no longer exists and we just end up blaming ourselves for something that we really don't have any control over. It all can seem so hopeless and then social media adds on that next layer of seeing these kids on instagram and tik Tok flexing their parents money and then we end up comparing ourselves to them. Early to mid 2000s were the best...
What can't you do? I think that's one of the main problems with this particular generation, they have convinced themselves and let other people convince them that they are victims. Stop listening to people who make things seem impossible or hopeless because they aren't, anyone who is willing to try can get a house and get married and do all the same things every other generation has done. Also there are much worse things you could have gone through than being stuck at home for 2 years so that would be a fairly silly reason to become a generation of "loneliness and regret."
I'm 19 and still living with my parents. I Resonate with this very heavily. I feel so isolated all the time and have no idea what to do with myself. Thank you for making these videos man.
No one should be ashamed of living with their parents. America is very anti-family, once you turn 18, you're expected to live on your own. In 3rd world countries, families literally stay together for most of their lives, and even when one gets married, they invite the spouse and their family in. Me and my family got together and bought a house. Yeah, it's not 100% on my own or own all of it, but I can confidently say I'm a home owner at 24. I don't particularly want to do much for my life heck I just work as an average retail worker and it doesn't bring me down. Not everyone needs to be great. Do what you can and live how you want Kings. 💪
I'm 24 and this video said so much what I've been thinking about for the last 5-6 years. I hated the feeling that I got when reaching adulthood and entering the "real world" it was a real eye opener that I am no longer a child. I never developed good social skills and was shy the entirety of high school so didn't have any friends. In college it was the same thing, I tried and made some friends but after getting our bachelor's they all started their jobs while my parents made me get my MBA which I hopefully will finish this year. I honestly don't know when was the last time I texted someone that wasn't a family member. I deleted all social media to just be alone. My days are the exact same every damn day, just me being in my room all day long. Now I'm focusing on learning new skills for a new field I plan on moving into later this year. Some days I feel sad to be alone but other days I feel great to be alone, not bothering anyone else, just me and my life.
I can relate in a small way I never had a gf in high school the people I was cool with in High School I rarely talk to them like man I wish I could go back in 2016 to do stuff differently I'm 24 going on 25
Don’t be afraid to live man just remember if you can do it once (make a friend) you can do it again and maybe a little better go out and experience the world, put yourself in awkward situations, put yourself in hard or uncomfortable situations and you’ll learn and grow. It’s hard at first but you gotta start somewhere if your gonna start
As for probably majority of people (correct me if I'm wrong) who started losing friends/acquaintances, it was only the "forced" high school/college environment that made it significantly easier to hang around people and meet them, but once everybody graduated then the relationships start to drift apart really fast and then you find yourself realizing that you probably had nothing in common with most of those people back then. I learned this lesson the hard way.
I realize I didn’t have anything in common with the majority of people I met in high school Not the same language, not the same culture, not the same values, not the same experiences, not the same mission, not even the same humor. It sucked being a foreigner in a predominantly middle upper class white American high school. For me they all seemed so fake when it came to relationships. American society is very superficial.
I still meet some of my classmates from time to time, we're in good terms still, even when we split after graduating. I have my best friend since 6th grade and after graduating we're still best friends
@@19ars92 Perhaps you shouldn't be living in a western country then? Even white people will struggle to fit into a place where it doesn't align with their ways. I can only imagine race is a greater divider.
Bro i turned 20 this may and i have to say how freakishly accurate this was. you were able to perfectly illustrate how i feel on a daily basis. and it's kinda scares me that so many of us are going through this. Giving all ya'll virtual hugs and hope things will get better.
I am not feeled this way, maybe because I am from Russia and life in this country is much more juicy. You are meeting a lot obstacles and realizing how fucked the things is. I don't know who give your that mindset, because it is completely wrong, your destiny is on your hands and always is. If you will be sitting in one place and will not learn, life is gonna be incredibly fast for you. As Lenin once said "In life you need to learn, learn and one more time - learn"
@@yinzernation84 turned 21 may 16th, couldnt relate more. Change is 1000# easier with friends that want to change, for me its surrounding myself around my siblings.
College monopolizing socialization is so real. My friends who got into state colleges all have friend groups. I have 0 friends and work as a dishwasher. All because my grades in highschool went to shit during lockdown/i caught mono, and my friend killed himself, and I got cheated on, and became an alcoholic. Looking back a lot of shit happened lmao, but the best thing I can do for myself now is focus on the progress I’ve made. We all are gonna make it bros.
It won't last. Those friend groups usually dissolve after college. At best the college experience just delays the inevitable loneliness and alienation many of us feel. You aren't alone in feeling the loneliness and alienation.
Literally just get a hobby and go to hobby related events. Pick up a craft. This video is extremely narrow in mind and worldview and thats to be expected of someone who is only 20 and is in the process of grieving a lost childhood, but guess what, you can simply just do whatever you want If you're choosing to model yourself and your life based on the expectations of others, or the assumption of expectarion of others, you will never become a whole and fulfilled person
I'm 24 years old and I only feel about 18, similar to you. However, i expressed this to my parents, and they agreed. They are in their mid-50s, but they mentioned that they dont mentally feel that way. The only thing that makes them feel old is the deterioration of their body (bad back, arthritis, etc.). My mom said that back when she first took me to high school, she felt like a high-schooler again just by being there. I will agree that a lot of points you bring up in this video do seem exclusive to Zoomers, but i thought that the "mental age" thing being non-exclusive to me was interesting.
that's good to hear because me personally, I wanna feel like a teenager forever, it would be a shame to spend every waking moment feeling old and depressed all the time only thinking about responsibilities, work and taxes LOL
Nothing new under the sun, however you feel people throughout time have felt the same. We have modern problems sure, but our feeling towards problems hasn’t changed much
I am a fellow ‘03 and I felt that this video was exactly the thing I’ve been looking for. I had some pretty good highs and some pretty deep lows through HS and Uni but I have never felt like these experiences allowed me to change to an “adult”. I still have my two main friend groups from high school and without them I honestly don’t know if I’d continue living, but because of the escapism of videogames and anime, my lack of sociability from HS, and this innate fear of “I’m not worth these people’s time” has kept me from getting out of my comfort bubble and seeking help, seeking new experiences to develop myself as a fucking person. Thank you for reading my rant
I feel that. I dropped pretty much every friend I ever had because they all ended up doing nothing with their lives, tried fucking me over, etc. Idk what keeps me going considering most of the time I don't feel like it at all, but there's something and whatever it is that keeps you going, hold onto it, whatever it is man. You got it
@@timmejia8476I appreciate your words. I hope you find that something too and find people you can trust along the way. I found during my reflection that my something is my sister, because I’d feel too guilty leaving her alone without supporting her at all
@Jinstu same. My girlfriend and my sister. I don't live with my sister anymore but she comes out here to visit during summers and I get so happy when she gets to visit. Life has its ups and downs especially with how fast my life has moved since 18 but I'm just proud of how far she's come as well
That feeling of I haven't really grown up, I am not ready for real life is never gonna go away, trust me, I am turning 27 this year and I still feel like a high schooler deep down my mind.
I have no idea what my purpose in life is in this day and age, as a guy. I’m 25 and everything you said I relate to almost exactly! No sense of self, no proper friends now, dating as a guy is stupidity difficult nowadays, completely lost, no idea where I’m going, time goes so quick, once school and university are over it’s pretty much limbo out there.
It's quite interesting, how we do have younger men aiming to make great buisnesses, but the majority are people like you and me who get told to be those kind of guys, but we either don't know or simply don't want to. We are intuitive and 'smart' but at the same time we also know, what's the point in it, a lot of things have been done already, we know that the market is very saturated so instead the few who can make it find a way between the lines and the rest just wonders, what is my purpose and instead we drown ourselfs in things like games or anime because to us, this is a place that accepts us. I fckd up a lot in life, not in the way a drugaddict would fck up his life or how old people would say someone fcks up their life, but rather in the way of I was undecisive and made bad decisions which made me do a lot more steps than I had to do in life to find my way. But I 'woke up', it's not really a waking up because I was awake all the time and I knew what I am doing wrong, I was just lacking ambition. And now instead of being the next Steve Jobs I simply decided, I wanna get a good paying jobs, so I can literally buy more anime waifu body pillows. It sounds like a dumb reason, but I think, as long as the reason makes sense to you to get to work, it is a good reason. Find something that you really enjoy, let's say it's games, you need a PC for games, if you play competetively you need a good setup. This all costs money, a lot of money, now you found a reason to work for. This will increase the ambition for yourself to figure out in which way you want to earn the money, it takes long to figure this out, to figure out something you enjoy doing, but you always need to remember why you are doing this. It's because you want to life your hobby and enjoy what you really love. What I see in the older generation is a lot of people who just did something, because they got told to do so, so we have a lot of older people who don't like their job, don't like what they do at home, usually just watch some boring TV shows and then go back to work. We have a lot of people in our society who are very unhappy and at the same time rude, because they got forced to do something instead of wanting to do it.
I'm 22 and still look and feel 16. My teenage years were practically stolen from me by parents who thought they were doing me good by subjecting me to extremely harsh punishments for minor things and I came to develop extreme hyper independence. It's disturbing to think that the most "new experiences" I've had since I graduated high school was being homeless for a year. It was the time I felt most free, and despite the hardship I look back on it with nostalgia. Only time I've ever felt like I could do as I pleased but in reality, there's no glorifying it. It was shitty, and it was really my own form of escapism. I guess when you hit rock bottom, you feel freed, because the only worse thing that can happen is death itself. I wouldn't choose to be homeless again, but I'd be damned if I said I didn't miss the simplicity of it
One thing I'll say, that's easy to say as a young person in North America. That experience of being homeless vs how most experience homelessness is likely quite different. The way you talk about it even makes that pretty clear
@@THE_MOONMAN well I tried to make the most out of a shitty situation. Did my best to explore the world around me, despite the limitations of having no money. Saw a lot of places I otherwise wouldn't give a second thought to, particularly in nature. Took a lot of time to stop and smell the proverbial roses. There were several times I just kept walking and walking until my feet were so blistered I had to stop and rest for a few days. I mean what else was there to do really lol I was never the type to stay in an encampment or anything, those places had such an aura of sadness and desperation I had to leave for my own sanity, so adventuring was my pastime, getting sleep where I could. Kinda backfired on me at one point, when a "friend" took me on a ferry to the mainland and we got separated and I was stuck alone in a completely different environment for 2 weeks. One of the times I came closest to dying out there. I slept exactly 3 nights out of those 2 weeks and I was completely out of my mind by the end of it. Even now, with the fact that I have my own money and job and I could take a trip out there again if I wanted to and it would be fine, I hesitate to leave my small city since the idea of being lost more than 50km from home again terrifies me, as irrational as it is
@@justemoi555 it's freeing but you've got nothing. Moving out into a 170 year old cottage freed me from my mother's constant nagging and criticism. I remember a few years ago she sat there blubbing I wasn't loved enough as a child but not even TRY to stop being an asshole at the time. She's mellowed a bit now but she's also losing her marbles. She can't have a conversation as an ongoing stream of sentences. She takes each sentence like a separate statement unrelated to the last one 5 seconds ago. I have figured out the world in my own view, not my parents as I could see some things they missed like opportunities or stuff they don't fully understand. We're talking about boomers here who pretend everything the news says is the word of God.
I'm a female but holy shit I felt this to my core. I was born in '05... I've never had a relationship, I can't drive, I've never had a real job, I spend most of time in some form of childish fantasy... I have no real ambitions and I have no clue what to do with myself. I know my parents love me but I feel so useless and pathetic and it really, really hurts. I feel like this video just reached into my head and pulled out all the things I fret about every night.
same here i was born in 05 and i just sit in my room staring at my computer screen trying to escape reality, and the thing is that i know i want to change, but i just don't know why i don't do it, maybe i just don't know how to
@@NitroGlace Look into joining the Air Force (assuming you;re in the U.S), it would get you out of your parents house and college paid for after you put in 4 years.
Don’t worry that much. I’m 24 and something I’ve learned recently is that nothing is that serious or that big of a deal. If you were born in 05 you are probably 19 and guess what, most people don’t have a job by that age. If you can, try to do stuff like hobbies or different activities that involve other people that come from different backgrounds or that have different mentalities. If you socialize a lot and push your comfort zone as far as you can, other things tend to fall into place (such as a relationship or a job) because we are all stuck in this bubble. Physical exercise and socializing make you feel a lot better as they produce dopamine and noradrenaline. Even if you don’t feel like dining something, try to do it. And try to do a lot of different and engaging things every day. I don’t know if this helps in any way but I hope it does
Death is creeping so fast I cannot see it coming. I swear I was 21 last year but in reality im 32. It feels like next year im going to be 65 on my death bed. After health issues, the existential dread of eternity has made it into my mind like ive never felt before and I thought death was terrifying before, now it feels crippling. I wish I could give advice but honestly, nothing I say will help you. Just get out there and live.
"Accustom yourself to believing that death is nothing to us, for good and evil imply the capacity for sensation, and death is the privation of all sentience; therefore, a correct understanding that death is nothing to us makes the mortality of life enjoyable, not by adding to life a limitless time, but by taking away the yearning after immortality. For life has no terrors for him who has thoroughly understood that there are no terrors for him in ceasing to live. Foolish, therefore, is the man who says that he fears death, not because it will pain when it comes, but because it pains in the prospect. Whatever causes no annoyance when it is present causes only a groundless pain in the expectation. Death, therefore, the most awful of evils, is nothing to us, seeing that, when we are, death is not come, and when death is come, we are not. It is nothing, then, either to the living or to the dead, for with the living it is not and the dead exist no longer" - Letter to Menoeceus By Epicurus
I was born in 2003. Left college. Moved out.I was learning to become software engineer. Left for an opportunity to get a job faster. Opportunity disappeared. Worked my ass off for 12-14 hours a day at a restaurant just to sustain myself. 0 time for friends. This last 2 years almost vanished. And after you said about being isolated in a small apartment I just felt it. It's so painful to realise how much time is wasted and how life is not what we imagined in our childhood. But now I study hard to be a software developer by my own and hope that someday it will just be a bad memory.
stay hard brother, also a bit of conservativism might help, look into JBP bible stories, they have important life lessons, (not saying go to church btw) but understanding the why behind bible stories has help me in my life, I'm 25 and I felt most of what you said, not the moving out part, here in portugal u are lucking if u can leave your parents place at 34 (not joking, statistics) its just really hard for young ppl BUT, thanks for sharing, and good luck!
I believe that with this failure you got a lot of experience as the video argues. Dont beat yourself over wrong choices in life. Maybe this punch from life was what you needed to continue studying software engineering.
Being 26, and not having gone into college immediately after graduation, it was really hard for me to watch all my friends go off to uni while I was just stuck doing manual labor. And when we would have get togethers they would all just talk about their college experiences whilst I sat there feeling completely disconnected from the guys I was friends with. In a way, I felt like a loser for not having gone straight to school even though I wasn't sure what I wanted to do.
Just letting ya know that you’re not alone. I dropped out college 5 months in (during covid lockdowns) so I did not have a chance to engage with anyone or experience college life. Since then, just been working my ass off to afford my own place. I feel desperately out of place compared to my friends who are all in college still and talk about their vibrant experiences.. while I’m just working to eat and have a place to sleep. I don’t really have a social group to go out to bars/clubbing. If you see anyone in their 20s, they are more than likely in the same situation. So it wouldn’t hurt to just say hey and have a conversation in public.
I went to college, but I dropped out, and whilst there, couldn't really make friends. My old friends got into different colleges, so I really isolated my self in that sense. I remember when we were out with my long time friends on a trip, they were talking so much about uni, and they've had so many experiences that I just couldn't really relate to but I really wished I could. I was struggling to not burst into tears. Just stood there in silence.
I graduated this year and purposely chose a college in which I could graduate debt-free. To me, going to an expensive college and graduating in debt is a scam. I may not have had all of the stereotypical university experiences, but I did have great experiences and make many memories along the way. Looking back, I am glad I decided that being debt-free was more important than going to a big name university or having to dorm or whatnot. I chose commuting and thankfully after graduation, I am looking for a job and want to get my life in order. I am 21.@@jamiemohan2049
I was 20 in 2003 and let me tell you, the 80's/90's were the most incredible eras for a teenager. I feel really sorry for the youth of today. they seem so in a rush to be all grown up that they never actually do.
I'm the same way. But like I've always been told I'm mature for my age growing up but then suddenly something happened and I never progressed past that while everyone else grew up. So I'm like immature for my age
I feel you brother and I also do feel sorry for the future generation,since they won't gonna experience living in a time before overcorporatization and before all the covid and activist stuff...a world free of constant worry...they surely won't experience such(excluding the 2008 finantial crisys ofc)
I just turned 20 and can definitely see this everywhere. The sad thing is that many people feel there’s something wrong collectively, but we’re all too scared to say it out loud, let alone have conversations about it. Many people are comfortable in their escapism, like you said it’s what they live for, and it can be distressing for someone like this to be faced with their life in actuality. I think that’s why we shy away from talking to each other because we don’t want to upset our peers or overstep boundaries.
this. i feel exactly like this. each time i talk with someone i'm like "dont you guys just feel wrong" but then i keep myself in the role for the fear to upset someone or be rejected
This might just be one of the most important videos of our current generation... You're succinctly laying out everything young men today are struggling with today. Understanding what's wrong is the first step towards a better society.
Except nobody will do anything about it. Your generation has been indoctrinated into staring at their phones and living on social media all day. Most are happy doing just that. Say something that bothers a Zoomer, they'll retreat behind their phones and post about it. Not sure how we're going to compete against China with such a weak and inexperienced generation coming into the workforce.
@@ehehehehehe9661 John 14:6 New International Version 6 Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.
I'm 25, I moved out when I was 20 because I didn't go to university and just went into the workforce. You're absolutely right in that everyone is 40. It also doesn't help that every single one of your co-workers defaults to treating you like a kid, so you never feel like a peer in terms of profession or maturity. You feel like a kid because everyone treats you like a kid. You could be better than everyone at your place of work at your job and still feel inferior because they just baby you in a weird way. All your friends that *did* go to Uni/College now have new social circles, they rarely have time to see you or have you visit them, and the scarce few times you do, you feel like a guest more than anything in this new social circle that you very rarely see or interact with. And it fucks with you in weird ways, to constantly be guest to friend groups and communities without one of your own. You start feeling like there's something wrong with you because you're a kid who doesn't have "friends", because you made the mistake of thinking you're an adult now and getting a job. The people at work alienate you, and the people that once were your community now have their own communities that you're only ever going to be a guest to. It's no wonder most young adults turn to online communities, because its the only place where they can even be part of a community. And the more time they spend in online communities, the more weirder spaces they're exposed to, and might join. It becomes an addicting spiral that detaches you from the outside reality because you pay far more attention to the online spaces instead of real life. I don't know how I managed to break that spell, but I very rarely engage in online communities these days because I've been totally absorbed before. The need to belong is a hell of a driving force.
22M, this is word for word how life is for me now except I attempted university only for Covid to hit and make the experience absolutely miserable. Dropped out, got to work full time, everyone’s completely not relatable and sees me as the youngster and is to be treated as such, it’s extremely devaluing, being online let’s me escape all that and it sucks knowing I need to resort to such escapism to feel like I’m not being looked down upon. I’m trying to look forward at least, might go back to college and get a diploma I actually take pride in and use (my first is music technology) to find a career that isn’t a complete dead end and I’m pushing myself to learn to drive, hopefully it’s only up from here for me
@@SPIREDOCKLATERRA I think it's valuable to remember that for everyone on earth, to live means to struggle. The most difficult and meaningful work any of us will ever do is find meaning and purpose in that struggle. To struggle without meaning is to suffer. I'm very happy to hear that you're looking forward, into facing the new day head on, and a goal in mind. There are always things, societal difficulties in the way, especially now when technology has far surpassed our ability to cope with it in a healthy way, and I understand that it *sucks*. Choosing to pursue anything at all in this environment is in itself an achievement, in a way. I think this is what keeps me going, despite how bleak things look; choosing a purpose and finding meaning in pursuing that purpose.
yeah I fell into that spiral. A year ago I joined a discord for a tiktoker/youtuber and became apart of that community. Made online friends, participated in online events. I always looked forward to that. Fast forward to now, I don’t talk to any of them anymore, the discord has become dead, I’m no longer apart of a community. I’m alone now
Thanks for this video bro. I just turned 20 too, and I feel pretty much the same way. It’s reassuring to see that I have people in the same boat as me, even if you’re all just strangers online. There’s hope for us still. Much love
I just turned 27 this year and I still feel like a kid. I don’t truly feel like an adult. It’s crazy how much active effort it takes to have a fulfilling social life at this age when you’re working 50 hours a week
The part about college having a monopoly on socialization was spot on. After I graduated college the isolation hit me like a ton of bricks and I was kind of angry because no one in my life told me about this or prepared me for it even though most of them went to college too.
Socialization didn’t used to end after college, America has become secularized, just 20-30 years ago we still had churches and community. So when you came back from college you would go back to your church etc where you hung out/ knew 2-300 people. The digital age has destroyed community for a lot of people. To add to this I went out fishing this afternoon and ended up talking to another guy who was fishing. We ended up talking for 6 hours while we fished at the end he asked for my Facebook and friended me. Also I’m pretty big introvert about 70/30 suffered from depression, anorexia, can look someone in the eyes long while holding a convo, etc. I’m saying this because my issues aren’t me you have to train/work on yourself to be a more outgoing person and meet people. You can do this guys believe in yourselves 😁❤️
Must highly recommend getting involved in a church. There are many awesome churches that have small group community. It has been the second best thing I have ever done.
@@leflanged2707 I was alone for months waiting to join the air force because of a broken hand and joined a local church with a young adult group and became part of their friend group in 3 weeks. Still waiting to leave for BMT (Aug 29)
@@kirkchurchil8216 back then anyone the church didnt accelt ead fucked, black, poor , athiest, people that believe in evolution, so overall still better
i’m a 17 year old girl, turning 18 in a couple months. covid took away a good portion of my teen years. my parents are both in the medical field and took quarantine very seriously. i spent 14-15 by myself in my room. by 16 life returned back to normal. at the time i wasn’t so upset about being alone, but now i feel like i missed out on so much.
So many people live with constant regrets for the years they lost to one thing or another. But let me be honest. The few years you ruminate about are nothing compared to the many years ahead of you. I pretty much lost the years from age 17 to 22 to mental illness. I'm 25 now and I am guilty of ruminating about it. But the truth is I caught up tremendously in the past 3 years - I experienced things 20-year old me never imagined I could. And I will make the best of the few young years I have left, not to mention the time that comes after. I could spend so much time ruminating, but the truth is... While it is still seemingly far away and nowhere in sight, death is rushing towards me at a steady pace. It will get me someday. So I will make the best of what comes next. This is not the time to ruminate about regrets. Go for it, you are still a curious and dynamic child in many ways. You can travel, learn, party, do good work, build a relationship, make friends... Those 2 years will become less and less significant in the story of your life as you grow older.
I feel the same when I look back at COVID. I'm also 17 on my last year of highschool and I think you described what the pandemic felt for the 2023 graduation generation. I think that these 2-3 years we in general changed the most and that's why we think and feel that we lose a lot more of time and experience :/
Big part of being lonely is related to having no GF/BF to share your life with, women have it easier cause you dont need game to find a BF but as a man in my late 20' with almost no game even though i would define myself as a good guy, average looking and financialy stable most women will just ignore me, i dont blame women for this, its my fault for taking so long to realize that wasting my early 20' sitting in my room playing games all day was something really bad. I blame myself for being so dumb and i partially blame society for going along with this BS narrative. Dont be me, dont wake up one day and realize its too late, go out, find a bf that is a good guy instead of a fuckboy and create memories. Hopefully one day you wake up in your 30' and you have a good husband by your side and 2 kids you have to make breakfast and drive to school. Life is too short.
Man, i feel this video. As a 22 year old who is about to graduate college, i definitely feel about my lost years and how much i regret the lifestyle k lived. It sucks since i spent my time just playing video games and not doing anything valuable and now here i am, about to enter my adulthood without actually having lived it or anything like that.
I feel like this generation is in a rough spot. What's even scarier is if you somehow beat the loneliness and obstacles and find people that make your heart warm and complete its so easy to lose them. I went to college at 18 and did a 2 year degree and graduated this May. During my first 2 semesters i felt so isolated and lonely. Nobody wanted me around it felt like. I invited people to go out, nobody ever accepted. I found myself going to events just wandering about the room. But during my third semester a bunch of international students came to the college and I became very close to them. I gave them rides to shopping districts, we went ice skating, rollerskating, cooked food, and connected on various levels that i haven't felt in years. They wrote me countless letters before they left and the memories i had are irreplaceable. I made them so many hand made gifts and its just amazing. And of course after they left i was in the same situation as beforehand. I don't know if this is an exclusively American issue, but im kind of sick and tired of how isolated people are. Throughout high school and college countless rejection even if it was in terms 9f just trying to find people to spend quality time with people. Now i'm back home in my hometown, everyone i knew is gone. And when I try talking to people. It seems like it never goes anywhere.. What's even crazier is one of my international friends that lived across the hall from the main group i was with just invited me to go to Yellowstone National Park. She's flying all the way here just to see me and hike in the park for 6 days. And im going to Yellowstone soon a few days from now. I met these people and spent almost four months with them And they were the best 4 months of my life.
That’s really cool. Finding close friends is a very difficult thing that only gets harder over time. I got really lucky and am still best friends with my boys from elementary school even after we’ve all graduated college now. You should keep making an effort to find friends even if they’ve known each other for a long time. I cherish my friends that have joined my group of very old friends throughout the years
This is definetly not a Spanish issue, here you have the opportunity of making lots of good friends and almost everyone goes to University when you turn 18.
I'm a 2002. covid robbed me off from graduation experiences or experiences in general. My life has been pretty mundane since then, but im making changes slowly by doing small steps. We got this, you got this
Hey man, I’m about to turn 30 and I gotta say it’s impressive how self aware you are as a 20 year old. I’ve noticed a lot of people in your generation are pretty self aware, but also feeling stuck or trapped by the present situation. Growing up is hard, and it’s been made even more difficult by the world these last few years. It’s like you have to grapple with everything a normal 20 year old would, but with both hands tied behind your back. I think you really hit the nail on the head with everything you’re talking about. The important part is that you’ve identified your struggles and potential pitfalls. You know the game that society is playing, you know your weaknesses, and you know what you’re up against. I had it a bit easier than people your age and it still took me most of my 20s to identify those things and then figure out how I needed to solve them in order to live a fulfilled life. I’m still working on it honestly, but that’s kind of the beauty of living is that you’re always going to be working on it. If anyone is reading this and wants some advice, find something in life you’re passionate about and dedicate time to it. The more niche the better for the most part. Then find other people who are passionate about that thing and connect with them. If you’re not in a school setting it’s one of the only ways to make friends as an adult aside from just walking up to strangers and saying hello lol
Thank you for helping us lost souls of the younger generation we only have one advantage that we have been FORCED to recognize the pitfalls and such or face suicide and insanity.
I am 29 years old, turning 30 in October. I live far away from my family, I work for a large tech company, I occupy a position that almost anyone could hold. I've spent my 20s in total confusion, I've done a lot of different things, studied different things, but mostly I've wasted a lot of time thinking, thinking, thinking. Now that I'm reaching 30 I look back and I don't know how to put everything I've done together, they are such different experiences that putting them together wouldn't make any sense. I worked in catering, I worked in delivery, I have a bachelor's degree in painting, I sold products for two years on Amazon and I volunteered during the pandemic period, now I work in IT.. I remember that in my life I never had any dream, no passion, not even any particular interest, nothing, not even an interest in a sport or even an interest in wanting to learn a card game, any card game, nothing. Now that I'm growing up I think the only thing I can do is surrender to the needs of the job market. I'm not interested in computers, programming, IT, data, coding but I'm afraid of getting screwed by my constant confusion and indecision. I've been going to the psychologist every week for 9 months now but I really can't find a way out, I can't dedicate myself to anything, the only things I do are work, go back home, work, go back home. I know I'm not a kid anymore but I also know that it's not that late to do something, to take charge of my life, but I mean it, I don't care about anything, I have no motivation, I have no discipline, I have no will, I just do the bare minimum to survive and it's really depressing. Sorry for the complaint, I wanted to complain a little bit about my life
As a fellow 2003 and as someone who admits their childlike mentality, you have a very mature view about the sense of self, as well as where our generation is headed, a struggle that a lot of us don't have enough courage or support to speak about.
Dawg, ur 20. I'm 20. Of course we have a more childlike mentality than 30 year olds. Our generation (don't even get me started on how silly it is to confine sociological studies to generation, as if social class wasn't entirely more important a factor) has only had 20 years on the planet so far. Give us some time my guy. Also, "I'm afraid of where this generation is headed" is such a cop out. If everyone is so confused and lost that means its the perfect time to introduce your own ideas and your own beliefs to the world to start changing where we're headed.
@@transgenderbasketballplayer Take a look at 20 years olds a few decades ago, previous generations had their shit together by the time they were 15-17, men in the early to late 1900s had wives and children when they were 18. The generations of the 2000s and after are not growing up as fast and that's a pretty big problem.
@@Valentin_126got any stats to back up the claim that 15-17 year olds had their shit together? because as has been made very clear to me by people who've been 15-17 in the 1900s, they did not.
@@Valentin_126 I knew a couple that got married at 17 with permission from their parents. The guy bought a 5 grand Jeep with his own money on his 16th. They've been together almost 10 years and have 2 kids and a house. They're not the only ones from my highschool to be like this. Generational thinking is generalization
@@Valentin_126 most marriages happened because of community, women also had much less say in the matter, a lot of marriages were arranged by parents, like hey jim your daughter is 18 next month right? well my billy bob is 18 in 3 months, maybe we could get some dinners with our families and, etc... you get the point. it is completely another world than back then, and no they didn't have their sh*t together, that's what they tell you, but you look at the leaders of the world, your employers, parents and our economy and you can see they f*cked it all up worse than any other generation before them, stop glamorizing people that were just as idiotic as we are today, they simply didn't have the means to broadcast it en masse.
22 years old, I started watching your videos about six or seven months ago, and I felt myself stuck in that endless pointless loop of consumption and depression, and lack of purpose Recently, however, I have made changes with my life. I committed to a career path and I’m spending all of my weeks studying and pushing myself further than I ever thought I could go. And for once, I feel like a man not an overgrown consumer kid Anything can happen, I wish you gerbs and other men here luck
22 as well, same thing. About a year ago I've made changes into becoming a man and slowly I've stopped feeling like a child. Maturity is a weird thing. I think it has more to do with acceptance than anything else.
I've always been terrible with numbers but exceptionally good with words. I'm currently going through college to pursue journalism and mass coms. I don't know if this is really what I want though, just going with the flow see if it works for me. If there's one thing I'm truly terrible at, more so than multiplying, is bending over and shilling out my soul.. which is actually a good thing in any sane morally adequate society. But in this godless mess we're all stuck in, everyone's falling over themselves to suck off that big red white and blue capitalism pp for a better salary. Everyone's proud of me for landing in college. I'm just doing what we're expected. Seeing the current state of the world, as an aspiring journalist, I wish the worst to happen for everyone and I root for the destruction of modern civilization so that we'll drop our gadgets and bullshit, and see what truly matters.. each other and God.
I’m 25 and I went to college for STEM and had scholarships that helped me through. I know it was worth it for the degree I got. The only thing I’d mention is that yes you will make friends in college, but eventually everyone just goes their own way. So it is more of a temporary solution for finding those new social circles rather than a permanent one. I think it does help some in the future just getting out of your shell when you get out though.
I'm a Statman myself, and I get what you're saying. I'm only 20, and this scares me. I know that all of my friends will leave, but I don't want them to.
@@wetwillyis_1881 Sometimes in life you got to expect people going away from your life. I'm Sophomore in university and most of my friends from Highschool have gone different ways. I don't even contact them expect a few but I have made alot of friends in college. When I had to join college, I was scared as heck too. I had spend my entire childhood in my city but the college I chose was in another city, so I damn well knew that no familiar faces would be there. It was hard for me, being an alien in another city knowing that I had too restart my social life meeting new people. In the end it turned out well, I met alot of interesting people and am having fun with them. I know that when I graduate college, I won't be seeing most of them but that's perfectly fine, that's how life goes. All that matters is living a life you enjoy that you can take to your death bed, feeling nostalgic in your last hours. You should check out a UA-camr called 'Anthpo'. He made videos on different things, but the message he spread still resounds with me - Doing something, anything( it doesn't have to be things of grandeur but even little things) in life which give you joys and the people around you.
also 25, and im not in contact with anyone from college anymore, as you said everyone went their separate way, and now I wake up and realize it was all like a dream
I’m 27 and felt this to my core. I have had a decent amount of life experiences pre 2020 though. I swear I experienced so much in high school alone. My girlfriend of 7 years recently left me abruptly, I was forced to leave my town and chase a better job. I now live in a studio apartment in a town where I don’t know anybody, I commute to work and the sense of community I had at my old job is gone. I have a decent job, come home to my shitty studio apartment to play video games all night or go to the gym surrounded by beautiful women I couldn’t care to talk to. My life is regimented, lonely, and mostly boring now. I haven’t had any recognizable experiences in the last 4 years
This is spot on. I'm 23 now (a girl). Some people have pointed out that I look like a teenager. I spend day in and day out on the internet and in my daydreams, addicted to consuming the escapism they offer. I've been feeling exactly the way you described ever since I was 17/18 and time in the past 5 years or so has just gone by so fast. I feel like an old lady stuck in a body that yearns to be just...active, like I used to be when I was a child. I sometimes literally just get this random urge to go outside and run at top speed. I used to love running as a child, but haven't felt the rush of that kind of dumb childlike fun in forever. It feels like I'm wasting my time and that time is seemingly passing by faster and faster (and my youth along with it). This sh*ts gotta change, I don't know how yet, but I'm gonna change.
@megabooooo2999 Hard to say. We didn't have internet at home until I was about 12, so there's that. And I wouldn't say I struggled too much to fit in. I didn't _feel_ like I fit in necessarily, but I wasn't a loner. I've always had a small group of friends/neighbours with whom I played/hung out with almost every day. But it's true that I didn't really leave the house after school to hang out with my school friends. Partially because it wasn't an option (my mother would have had to drive me to wherever I'd need to go and well she was at work all day...single parent household btw). But in all honesty, being a rather asocial introvert, the idea of hanging out with friends after spending all day with them at school already was less than appealing. School friends were just school friends to me. I was more than happy to spend the rest of my time at home with my siblings (with whom I've always been very close with, we never really fought and such). Of course I spent most of my time at home on the internet in some way or form. The internet was not something I used to socialize with though. Social media never interested me that much (still doesn't, unless you count youtube of course). And I've been playing video games all my life, but never felt the need to use a mic to communicate with other players online. But there was a noticeable decline in overall happiness once both my siblings left the country to study abroad (I'm the youngest, so they left before me). So for 2 years I was basically all alone with my mom (with whom I'm also very close, but it's a slightly different dynamic as the one I have with my siblings of course). Depression definitely kicked in from seemingly out of nowhere. This would be when I was 15-16. So in that period at least I think I was socially deprived with my siblings not being around anymore. At 17 I moved to the same country as my siblings and while the first few years here were even tougher (adjusting to a new country, starting university, living on my own for the first time, not having any friends etc.) things started going much better with me afterwards and it's been about 2-3 years now since I left that depression bs behind me. I'm lucky to have gotten what was essentially a fresh start at the point of my life when I was beginning to get really depressed. But even now there's still that feeling of emptiness and like I'm wasting my time with the bad habits that I developed in those years by being on the internet so much. It's hard for me to find joy in anything that doesn't involve a screen. I think it's made worse by the fact that I know what it was like as a kid to not have internet at all times and just spend every day being active, both physically and socially. I now miss that feeling/way of life and just know in my gut that this internet lifestyle isn't healthy for me and doesn't truly feel fulfilling. The whole being fluent at english thing due to this is definitely relatable though. I also speak with a mostly American accent despite not being a native english speaker (I'm from a third world country in the Caribbean, currently live in western Europe). But I see this as a win.😁
@megabooooo2999 Thank you and I completely agree. I think starting out with a new outdoorsy hobby could be a start. Not sure what I want to do yet but I'll figure it out. Hope all is well with you and if not, I hope things get better soon.☺
Same boat here, im a guy and I haven't aged physically or mentally since my sophomore year. I even got called a freshman constantly my entire senior year 😂 it's been a year and a half since I've graduated, and its been flying by so fast and slowly at the same time. I quit college after 2 semesters and ever since then ive spent alot of time trying to find a sense of self and creating a legitimate path for my life, instead of just doing what other people want me to do, its why i quit in the first place. So I decided that I am officially going to become a pilot and my classes start in January of 2024, and i dont plan on doing it forever either, its just a starting point for now. I got sick of being in this stagnant part of my life, and its about damn time for a change. This is the first time ive felt a true sense of direction and excitement for the future, and I feel that I'm ready to take this first step. I hope you too find whatever your looking for, because I know that feeling, and I still feel it from time to time in this waiting period im in. You should look deep into yourself and find that passion you had or have had before about something, and see if it's a viable career or life path. Even if it seems crazy, you should try it anyways because you never know, plus, your young! You dont have to do it for your whole life. So if you REALLY love it, then you already got the first part down. Now you just gotta manifest it 🤌 anyways good luck and i hope you find the change your looking for!
@@felixfam0481 Thank you and good luck to you as well. And I totally agree, you don't have to keep doing the same things for the rest of your life. People change all the time and as long as you're following your current passions you will most likely feel at least somewhat fulfilled. Even if times are hard. Of course we first gotta know what our passions are, but we'll figure it out eventually I'm sure.
This video filled me with so much existential dread. Just turned 22 and this resonated with me like nothing else has. Thank you for inspiring me, its never too late to start living :)
It does feel too late when you look and it seems many others were living it years before you. Thinking about that and how behind I am just makes me short circuit. I'm recently 22 as well, life isn't really ruined, but I have little prospects and am comparatively behind.
As a guy who’s also 20 born in 2003, I really resonated with these topic. You basically reached into my brain and pulled out all the things I overthink about every night
Bro I just turned 20 on Halloween and I’m still muted I have good opportunities, I really want to train mma and go back to college; but life has dragged it but I don’t want it to be too late.
I'm almost 30 and it still feels like I'm 18. Everyone I went to school with is getting married and having kids, and I still haven't had a proper relationship yet. I don't have anything close to a career. I also feel like the past few years have been stolen from me, as if everyone's trajectory was permanently derailed during the lockdowns.
I turn 21 in August and you really hit the nail on this one man. At 18 the age of 21 felt so distant and now it’s here, these last 3 years flew by so incredibly fast and I feel robbed of these years tbh.
Same I also turn 21 in august the biggest thing I've noticed is peoples personality's are fabricated Its hard to find real genuine people that wont put on a mask for their benefit.
lmfao wait until 21 to 30, it feels like 15-25 only it happens 10x as fast after that the wall that is death is practically racing towards you, but for real tho
I also turn 21 in August. I feel like I've missed the majority of my life from age 17. Waiting around any longer will not feel any better. The pain of change is the same as the pain of remaining the same, and I choose to change.
me too man, 21 in september. its so crazy to think about, this video really touched on everything on my mind for the past year and its crazy to see so many others in the same boat.
this hit way harder than I was expecting. When lockdown first hit my reaction was "nice, online classes i can have on in the background while i play binding of Isaac", but that quickly changed. I basically lived day to day just keeping myself alive waiting for the boys to hang out. I never even ended up graduating. The sheer loneliness snowballed fast, but with everyone having their own things to do it wasn't an issue i had control over. This is still the case but maybe something meaningful will happen throughout my life eventually
That’s your fault for staying in. My family’s and I view on this whole plan-demic was “Fvck Covid” and still went out and hung out. No cold flu will k!ll us.
this is exactly where im at. i dropped out of high school n tbh the loneliness is unbearable most days but it help knowing other ppl going through the same shit
When I was in 5th grade my teacher told us to never stop learning because it will make time move slower. I always took that to heart and I’m in the tech field so I am continuously learning. My perception of time feels the same as it did 10 years ago. It’s something interesting to think about especially when I asked my parents and they said a month for them would feel like a week when they were my age.
I wish that applied, but I remember learning things in school every day and the whole year still disappearing in a flash… but maybe that’s just the post-Covid perception of time
Same. I've always been a nerd and I have set too many goals and directions for learning. I'm not bored, I have so many things to improve at. But some people do not have this drive for knowledge, so it's much harder for them to navigate contemporary life.
Dude you are literally me. Everything you described yourself as is literally me. I’ve never dated anyone in my entire life, I am a late bloomer, I only have like one or two friends, and COVID made me lose track of time. Great video!
This hurts man, I’m 22, my best friend 24, and we both live with our parents, and are so intensely depressed that there really isn’t any option to get out of it
That's the scary thing man. I'm 24 and in the same situation, and I don't know HOW to get out. I want to leave and start my life but I just don't know how.
Just turned 21 and I feel this video describes how I’ve felt for a while. I feel like I’ve been mentally stuck at 16 and like I’ve plateaued in growth. This video really helped me feel seen and I think I know what I should do moving forward
im 21 too... and since i was 17 ive already stopped wanting to become older. powerless. it seemed like my childhood and school was so good. why didnt it continue forever
I moved out a few months ago, easily the worst decision of my life. I’m 18 living, essentially, completely alone. I live two hours from my hometown, and after we graduated my friends and myself have gone our separate ways. What you said about the trade industry is so true. I’m working in an off road vehicle shop, and everyone there is a good 20 years older than me. They’re nice, but I can’t connect fully. It’s funny how you can be so surrounded by people and still be so alone.
My best friends from work were always 10-20 years older than me. Your isolation is self imposed by the stupid idea that you cant be friends with older people.
I'm 25 now. And i definitely felt this. I've been stuck in a teenage rut post teens. I've been unemployed for long periods of time. I've been lost in the escapism sauce. If i have one piece of advice for anyone. It's to get out of your comfort zone and grind. Because only once you stop trying. Is when you have truly lost.
I agree. You guys who are 19, 20, 21 please please start doing the shit you need to do NOW. Hit the gym in the morning, go to work and have a problem to solve, read a book like Mastery by Robert Greene and learn more skills and educate yourself beyond what school gave you. On your day off, go approach a woman and talk to her, make it playful but don't be needy, plan a vacation with the money you have while you're young. I'm in the same boat as OP. Trust me you do not want to be here when you're in your mid 20s and you better not be still here when you're in your 30s. Keep working and good luck gentlemen. You got this!
I just really want to add to this that this advice never helped me as I was already deep in the mental sh*ts. If any of you feel you really can't get the holds to start anything you want to do, concider you might need help. I had to crash hard first to ask for help as I thought I was doing fine and just focusing on school, while in reality I didn't do anything new, didn't build any new (social) skills and simply used school as an escapism for the rest of life.
I appreciate that other young men or other young people are starting to vocalize, organically, these things that older generations have measured, specifically, in a clinical sense. Because it’s real. “Lonely men with no brotherhood”. Thank you for making this video
For somebody who is only 20 years old and was capable of dictating the story of getting into the workforce. I was shocked. You hit the bullseye on exactly what I am going through. The crazy part is I am older than you. I am 30 years old. But my coworkers are all 45+. There is no community. No comradere. Everyone is individualized and the personality is to perform, clock-in and out. I am struggling to decipher where or how to find my tribe. Where to find a community I can truly connect with. So. What to do? Go back to school? Find another job? Change cities? Roam the city? The loneliness epidemic is truly an elephant in the room. Lastly. You made great points on how your generation is muted in technology and medication. The dopamine merry-go-round. But that was also true of many millenials. I got to only experience the wild and free "live outdoors, and roam the forest" vibes prior to the internet being a thing. After that. Everyone got sucked into the computer lifestyle. It happened quick. Almost overnight nobody was outside. We were all exploring the web. Luckily I took a world backpacking trip for 1 year and experienced more than I ever did in my last 10 years. It truly felt like I was in a time chamber. It felt like 4 years, but in reality only 1 year had passed. If you want to know the secret to living a good life. Keep the novelty of life going. Routines are only sending us to an early grave. Keep your friends and family close. Cherish them. Open to others. Moments can last a lifetime when you look back at them fondly. I sure do.
Fr I’m 22 and been working at Amazon since I was 19 full time , the people around me are mostly older people that have no responsibility’s. It motivates me to learn what I can and get a higher ranking position so I don’t have to be a grunt until I’m 45😂😂.
You have to find things to become passionate for. AKA explore hobbies and interests that you may have set aside for this money goal. I For example, I love to study nature, so I wound up in many environmental volunteer groups. Many of the other members have degrees in various scientific fields. The walks and talks on these hikes, I never get to reach such depths of conversation anywhere else. They actually want to go into detail, they want me to as well. I'm used to most other people in every other setting shutting down those same deep thoughts. Not with them, they are happy to see young people like me actually trying to help and give a shit. The Majority of my great friends are older than I am by at least a decade. I also played on a trivia team and took State with them a few times. Again my passion for information lead me to an activity that I could say is worthwhile. I have a great disdain for media and politics, but another team mate is helpful there. I bring Music, Art, Science and Math. They bring their own interests as well and we knock it out the park most times! Find things that you like to do, seek out groups that also like to do them. I'm not very social naturally, I have Asperger's actually. However, even we have a type of people we feel comfortable around. That's the keyword, comfort. I'm not sure how much of this you've already attempted, if my assumption is flat out wrong then I apologize in advance lol. Otherwise I just hope to help someone else struggle less and help others when they can as well.
@@supersonicguru1 Look, if you really want to get something done. Generally speaking if you were looking for ANYTHING to get better than this is my advice: 1. Put it down as the goal this week 2. After you write what the goal is, write this "RESULT:" Leave that blank until the end of the week. 3. Until you reach that point of end of week, note anything that derailed you from the goal or note success stories along the way. 4. Now that the week is over, be honest about what happened and write how the project this week resulted. 5.(opt) If plan was unsuccessful, you have notes and a written result to make a new plan from. Rinse and repeat. Watch Success happen. So, WEEK1 Goal: Get a job. Resume empty Note1: I need to look for a job that ANYBODY can apply to. Entry level. Min wages. ...2 : Found some restaurants and other businesses to apply to. ....3 : Sent in some applications ...so forth: Some calls back of both disinterest and others wanted to interview RESULT:: I have interviews lined up for a prospective new job. REPLAN or NEXT(Variable as to whether needed or not, I typically do it anyway if more needed to happen)::: Successful prior step taken so, Go interview, if hired Use job to save for better form of transportation. If not, look again or make calls to employers you weren't going with first. Honestly if you do something like this any time you want to make a goal happen, it should. Sure you might cater it to your own liking but the important part is you made it work out. There are problems to be solved, you are capable of solving them. Last tip: STICK TO IT AND DON'T GIVE UP OR ANYTHING YOU SAY REGARDING INTEREST IN GETTING BETTER AT IT IS JUST YOU TALKING OUT THE REAR END. Good luck buddy, you got this!
I feel 16 when I was 20 as well, even today when I'm 22. I got cronical illness when I was born. Never socialized with anyone, never grown mentally besides thinking about my past by myself. My parents divorced, and ignored my feelings everyday. Somewhere in my 19, I witnessed my grandma pass away. No one was there except me the second she pass away. And afte surviving all that, I did something so bad I could only think of my self as "bad person". It doesn't feel fair! Why after all my suffering I get this! I hate life and I just want to end it!
I hate how much I needed to hear this. Im still a kid, I’ve got time to spend, but I’m just throwing it away. I spent most of my summer playing video games, didn’t meet with friends, and it’s my fault. After seeing this, I’m gonna change. This video is the motivation I needed, thank you man.
You go boy! Take the phone and call a friend or a cousin, hang out outside, meet people at the library, anything! What worked for me at some point was to gather people around a project, a creative one. Nothing is more human than to gather around a project. I hope you'll find what you seek for.
I'm lucky to not be one of the young men he was talking about. I went to college, graduated, I have a job and I'm not a rampant consumer who lives his entire life in escapism. However, a lot of this still applies to me. I still live with my parents (I could live on my own, but all parties understand that doing so would be a poor financial decision), I live in their basement. I have no friends irl. I have never been in a relationship, I haven't even fooled around with anyone like Gerbert says he has, and everyone around me is way older than me so there's little hope of me ever changing that. I'm at the age where my parents had me, and there's so much they experienced that I haven't. My friends look at me and think "Wow, he's got a good job and is good with money." and I'm just thinking to myself "I'm a fucking loser." What can I do to change this? I don't know. I'm trying to exercise, eat healthy and pursue my hobbies after work, but none of this makes me feel any better about my situation. My parents taught me to always save money, so I am an obsessive saver who never experiences anything new. I grew up being belittled and insulted by everyone around me, so I've always felt like no one wanted to talk to me let alone date me. No matter what I do, I feel like I'm hopeless to be this worthless piece of shit who will always be alone, and I don't know what I can do to fix this. I guess I'll just have to get lucky in the future.
@@PixelatedFear hi man! I I haven't a lot of advices for I am still trying to figure out this stuff. But if I could recommend you something, one thing, is to travel. Not traveling with plane or tourist kind of bullshit, travel for real. Get a backpack and walk, or hitchhike. Go on the road! A system is available for change when it's limits are reached. You seem like a guy who does a lot of effort and I wish I could do the stuff you do (I'm trying), but maybe something you need is a bit of out of bounds? Especially if you are in a 9-17 kind of job, or hesitate to spend. Don't spend, just go. You don't have rent, no gf, just leave a little! Try a few days, then a week, then more! It won't find you friends, but seeing what the country is made out of is impressively efficient to find solutions and gain lucidity on your life. Don't count on luck arriving, increase the surface of your luck by moving. Anyway, maybe it's not what you need to hear, but that's what I think at the moment. I wish you all the best.
Just turned 21 and felt exactly like this, I’ve spent a lot of time spinning my wheels in the dirt for these reasons. Amazing essay film, I really love the honest handmade style and aspects of digital brutalism with the fonts, it’s really great to see our generation start to define a cohesive voice and style.
There is no cohesion whatsoever within this content. It's poor excuses from a limited perspective about things they can't understand. It can be tough at that age, I know I did it already. I know for sure, there's nobody else to blame for your current state, it's just what it is. You can change it, but it's on you. If you're lonely, get out there and meet people, find events you'd like to attend. It's not at all supposed to be like a movie, none of the pleasures and joys in life are guaranteed simply because you're here. You've got to go get it. Figure out where you want to go and plot a realistic course, and don't try to skip steps to the good part, it won't work that way.
I'm already 27 but I can relate tons. Past 7 years are a vague blur, like I never experienced them. Still feel like a 18 year old, just older and less socially appropriate in my cluelessness. As others have said your insights on life and the current state of affairs at just 20 years old is really impressive. You'll go places, I'm pretty sure.
Same here, 26 and feeling clueless like a kid, wasted the past 7 years of my life being on a futureless path, now im doing things I should have done when I was 19.
@@PBart7 Im bit older... and lets say... Problem didnt start with Gen Z. But with Milenials ( introduction of Internet and all taht came with it ) . BUT no one ever talk about it. Im closer to my 40's then my 30's . and lets say i still feel like im in my 20's, i was always alone. 2 years ago cashier did stop asking me for ID when i buy alkohol thats how young i still look. Relationships with women? yeaa right , dream on pal. WOmen my age have now such big baggage its better to avoid them.
I'm nearly 40 myself but I can relate. On a deeper level of being-- you shook me with this insight. There is no book anymore; no rules that work. There is no "color inside the lines" recipe anymore. But, with that said, I believe fiercely that your generation has the empathy, altruism, and power to craft a new book with new lines. If you feel like you can't change the world, maybe it's because you're making an entirely new one-- I think that's awesome. As for me, I believe in you. Zoomers, you've got this. Sorry we mucked stuff up.
I believe 40 year olds are on the edge of this chage, where they can witness non digital natives just a few years older than themselves and appreciate the technology for how it can be maxamized. Vs a current 20 year old only has older digital natives to reference from, no objective non technology old guys to reference off like 40 year olds
I am 22 years old and have felt like I was the only one living in the view point of this video. I thought I was apart of a small percentage of people that thought or did exactly what this guy does. It is insane to think that your not alone in feeling as if you are alone. I wish to live a day where our generation will see life for how it is suppose to be lived. I don't wanna escape reality anymore, I just want to live. I wish most people would feel the same to.
I feel the same man. I hate how this become. One of the biggest realizations I had was how programmed I am to my past experiences and how I just give up because it didn’t go the way I did. I am so used to all this crap and I’m Trying to change. And that is hard. The limiting beliefs are holding me back, I feel paralyzed. I was wondering why I hurt my self so much and I realized how the people around me would constantly put me down. And I am trying to change that. It’s very hard to stop seeing my self as a failure and having this constant reminder. Im a first generation in USA, and all my life I have been told to be successful and when I fell, I was always put down for it. And I realized how focused on my failure I have been and still am. What am I to do now? That’s what I’m figuring out.
Im 22 now and this video is pretty spot on. I was pretty much that guy in college who just went home after class and never made any long lasting relationships like having a gf or having out with the 'boys' which only got worse when covid hit. Looking back it's like where did all that time go? It feels like mostly a daze spent on games or anime after coming home from my 9-5 routine gig these days. I think my only hope now to gain some character development is living a nomadic lifestyle to make up for all those lost experiences by travelling.
I’m 36 and just got out of a 5-year relationship with the woman I thought I was going to marry. I am completely lost- no kids, no identity. I do have a little bit of money in my savings though (not a TON tho). I’m thinking of starting to plan solo trips. I have 3 weeks of vacation each year… I need to start using them in a positive way.
I'm genuinely scared by the fact that this video tackled all the stuff passing through my brain on daily basis, it's crazy to see that a lot of us are in the same situation
Not even Iran would recover from the decadence of the XXI century.
Seriously and it seems like all of us are exactly 20 too. Seems like 2003 and early 2002 we’re like this hotspot where we were burdened with all the downsides that most generations don’t have to face
To those wondering why I say 2003 or early 2002. It’s not to say that other years don’t feel the same, but to a degree the amount of more damage Covid did to those to years. For example I had a very short cut off graduation, I’m still glad I kinda sorta had one but the fact is 2002 didint have one at all and me being 2003 everything felt super rushed. I was also in ROTC for anyone one who doesent know what that is, it’s like a begginer military class you can take if you wanna join the military. Long story short I ended up not joining after high school for two reasons. 1 was that I was a “pc” and that’s a platoon commander of my class, meaning I basically taught my own class for two years. And guess what two years those were, the years Covid started, this made school completely not feel like school anymore no one tried, more than half of all students stayed home. So I basically have no memories or anything of my junior and senior year which I was building up to be my best years and Covid took that away. And 2 is that everything happening at the time effected my mental and still is to this day. Every job that I have and every person I meet at jobs and outside of jobs just seem like shells of personality’s that no would even consider possible of being freinds with. And I’ve read most of y’all’s comments and I’ve noticed that most of you guys have lost your freinds too and I can relate with the same reasons, they would talk about/do drugs all the time, everything felt empty even with them. But to say that I lost hope would be an understatement, and me being 20 and slowly getting older wacthing society change around us for the worse with all the lgbt/political/feminism pushes constantly being flooded into our ears. It’s starting to get to me, but I’m still going to try. And to be honest, hearing all of you going through the same things really does create this fire or bust of energy to keep going just like all of you.
Yeah, but at the same time, shouldn't it be hugely encouraging? The saying is cliche, but it is an absolute fact that you ARE NOT ALONE and ABSOLUTELY EVERYTHING you're going through. Someone else HAS gone through, AND they are on the other side of it
@@j_p2733 this is interesting and true i think. The 2001-2003 peeps seem to have this exact issue. I just turned 21 and i left school at 16 but when i think about the time inbetween its just blank... ive literally just been passing by and procrasinating about it everyday.
I’m going to die alone
"you'll go outside and everyone's 40"
Just graduated college, started working and can't overstate how true this is. Everyone's 40-60 years old, very rare they can relate to my humor, interests, perspective... If I weren't staying in touch with close buddies from college I'd be totally isolated socially.
eh? maybe. but its changing. Especially in smaller cities and towns and such. I visited smaller cities a couple of months ago and saw that home improvement stores and greenhouses were very busy with younger couples. Saw this again at a couple of boutique/specialty stores and it was almost all young couples. Its out there.
I cling pretty hard to the few guys at the office who have retained a wacky sense of humor through their age. They are legitimately keeping me sane at that place!
Don't worry that everyone outside is 40. You will be 40 in no time at all. Do you have any idea how fast the next 20 years is going to fly by? I can tell you, I am a Gen-X and I can remember 9/11 like it happened Yesterday. It feels like it was only a couple of years ago but it has been decades. Kids who weren't even born yet in 2001 are already fully grown adults. In the future which will feel like tomorrow you will meet adults who were born after Pandemic and have no idea what that whole lockdown thing was about. It will unsettle you in ways you have no idea.
Fr it sucks so much. This is the generation issue with boomers being so many ppl and our generation being a small one.
And the boomers are so fucking toxic and narcissistic. It’s so hard to connect when everyone’s spread out...
Feel that man. I'm working an internship rn and everyone is 40+. They are all nice people but I feel so alone there. Some treat me like equals but others treat me like a dog. It's honestly just a feeling of emptiness that I can't describe. I am thankful for the opportunity, but not much else
"What sucks is that I am overthinking about all this shit to a degree that makes me weird" dude, every single thing you said in this video goes through my mind every single day, you are not alone
Ekte.
@@Krab062 Hvordan går det?
What he’s trying to say is that you wouldn’t be able to talk about this with a person living a healthy lifestyle because they can’t relate and if you tried they would probably think you were insane
@@Life_of_Matthew Dagene kan være en struggle, noen værre en andre. Tankene og angsten tar over, vært sånn lenge...
@@Krab062 Jeg følger meg angsten noen ganger også, spesielt med skol og å tenke på framtiden. Bare kjenn at du er ikke ålene. (Jeg beklager om norsken min er ikke så bra, jeg er amerikansk).
All men that identify with this video should come together
lol wishful thinking
@@xxJackethumans can accomplish a lot if we pool together, if we REALLY wanted better lives we would organize and make a new system for ourselves by force, but things aren't that bad yet..
@@stronensycharte64exactly bro you're right . I really do wish we would all unite and try to fix these problems but it's highly unlikely
Alright let's fuck boys
true, Social Mwdia is truly not a social place unless we become social like a true social platform would be.
As a 25 year old I got kinda depressed when you said you are 20
why lol
Imagine being in my shoes I’m 103 years old
Imagine being in my grave I'm 633 years old
21 reaching 22 end of this year here, felt that
23 being like that since 16
The world gen Z was promised doesn't exist. We were prepared for the old world, leaning how to find books in the library, and grew up into the digital world. And we are vastly unprepared for it, especially socially
we were definitely not prepared for the old world. None of us was. The vast majority of us didn't grow up believing in religion. Hanging with friends outside all day long. We grew up mostly inside the house, in front of a computer or a tv. The vast majority of gen Zers have never read a book in their life, nevermind knowing how to search information inside one. We grew up thinking that proper socialization is through social media. And although soc media has had a few benefits, it has generally been an isolationist program that all of us got in happily.
@@captainvanisher988never read a book in their life is a wild assumption
Promised? Wasn’t promised shit fuck is you talkin bout?
@@EpicMinecraftFail I mean a proper book. Reading a child's book or a book for an assignment doesn't count. But surprisingly I know plenty of people my age that have never read a book in their teenage years (Im 19).
I don't really know about that. This is the narrative that was told about millenials and the gen x, and will probably be told for all post-boomer generations.
it's very wierd how relatable this was as a 21 year old, especially the "my parents lived more than me" and the "time is faster since the pandemic" parts.
Yep. My dad was out of the military and bought a house by the time i had landed a job at Best Buy
Fuck you touched my insecurities i turned 20 on 7 of june
Damn i feel like 16 or 17 at best
its all relatable as a 20 yr old guy, after work coping through fantasy is the realest sht he said to me
Same
@@nytro8027 inflation has fucked us all. I didn't get my house till I was 29
So many young men are struggling right now. This world is falling apart.
And it doesn't help that we have
--rapid inflation.
--and AI coming into our lives and will probably replace artists and stuff.
Collapse of Western Societies
@@theintrovertedaspie9095i love how people think ai is taking their job but didnt realize they can use ai for himselfs too
@@theintrovertedaspie9095 a bit more scared of the video ai getting more realistic that you're charged with murder when theres footage of someone that looks like you doing something
but yeah, replacing artists is the big issue
With that mindset the world will fall apart, stay hard
I'm turning 20 in a month, and this is all too relatable. Never been in a relationship as well, no real friends, everyone seems to be just consuming.. it scares me how so many people here made similar experiences, yet we're somehow collectively stuck in this society. What a weird time to be alive...
Fr tho
19 from europe and same thing 😔
Ig this is us... The gen Z
I gotta be honest idk how well this worked for others but the gym really does help. Developing a routine you chose for yourself can make the routine you may feel like you need to do (college or school for example) a little more eventful. If you split up your day and use the free time you have so much of maybe things can get better. I’m lucky to have some good friends around me but I know our of my extroverted personality what it feels like to observe a month pass by without really acting. So whenever you feel like that just say fuck it and break routine once in a while no matter how inconvenient or rewarding
19, same thing here
You nailed it right on the head, man. I'm 23. I work a job as a junior software developer and the first thing I noticed was how older everyone was around me. Being surrounded by seniors is scary. I work 8 to 5 then when I'm done, what do I do? I scroll through TikTok, I watch videos, I play video games because without this form of escapism, the entire truth of this world comes crashing down on me. I start to realize I'm in debt, I start to realize my mom and dad both passed away and I'm alone. I'm depressed and just don't have the will to go out and find someone. I drink meds every morning just so I can feel good enough for my brain to suppress these nasty thoughts while I combine it with every form of dopamine farming activity I can think of just so I don't have to think.
But there's hope. I'm making plans to pay off my debt. I'm pushing myself to get out everyday, take chances and talk to people. I'm trying to create these experiences and while it's not the same, it's not too late.
Good luck, kings. You are an universe trying to figure itself out.
Same dude idk why those thoughts come up but I’m not in any debt and I work from home but those thoughts make me don’t wanna work and slack bro it’s crazy I’m 22 and I have my own condo I’m just gona move back to la and get a girlfriend cause that’s were all the girls are that want relationships , literally what I’m gona do at this point
You're not alone dude, It may not be much but I love you.
Good luck and God bless you bro for real.
I’m rooting for you brother
This is not a life that someone like you deserves, king. I highly recommend to you to work out and find a sports type where you can connect with people. I started doing calisthenics in a local park 3 months ago, i literally became double as strong, well respected and also forged many new friendships. Not a single toxic person among them and even when I go to the gym there is always atleast one person talking to me (something that usually rarely happened in a gym) because of my training. I re-invented myself and i wish the same experience to everyone who is in a place of darkness.
I’m 29 and still feel like a child posing as a “functioning” adult. Trying to buy a house and feeling like an idiot. Times are way harder than they were for our parents. The American dream is dead we can barely afford to live
Haha! How is it that you feel like an idiot? Do you genuinely not know what you're doing or perhaps why? Or do you feel like an imposter just doing it because you "have to" but ultimately see the whole societal blueprint as fraudulent and you feel like you're being taken for a fool? Do you not feel ready because of feeling like a child? Or none of the above. Maybe it's something else?
I legitimately laughed when I read "Trying to buy a house and feeling like an idiot." I'm 32, still don't have a house. Yeah, what makes you feel like an idiot - I would love to know. Cheers!
@@zanderman004the hell man, who pissed in your cornflakes?
@@hyperblue3137 I DID
@@zanderman004i legit don’t understand what you’re trying to say with this reply lol, you’re an odd one
@@hyperblue3137 Nah - I think my comment maybe being read in a way I didn't intend. I simply wanna know why someone would feel like an idiot buying a house - because I don't get it - but also have felt weird in some of those ways I mentioned myself about certain things in the past. There have been zero incidents of cornflake pissings, at least not mine as far as I know. 😅
I just hate that we can't have fun anymore. Everyone is so boring
Danm my thoughts exactly 😞
At least we got mario odyssey
It's crazy how so many young people feel so lost at such a young age. I remember being 20 and feeling like I had so much time, and the future looked bright.
I turned 22 last December. I quit community college in 2020 because of Covid. All I’ve done for the past 3 years is work at Starbucks hating everyday while trying to pour my soul into my work because that’s what I thought people do. Aside from being able to fake connections with customers; because thats what I do; I don’t really have friends. I don’t feel like I have a community.
And what is there to do? The world’s fucked: climate change, highly aggressive politics with us or them ideas, a constant stream of online entertainment, 10000 people talking about everything there is to do on UA-cam. What’s the point of trying to be an astronaut or whatever if you’re not a genius? When there’s 1000 other guys and gals who are just like you, but a little better? Where’s the hope in the world when everything is at your fingertips and impossible to reach?
@@snugglyhedgehogdamn bro it’s been the same thing for me but I’m planning on moving to another state in 2 months and restarting
@@snugglyhedgehog It doesn't have to be beyond your reach. Those "genius" folk didn't just wake up with all the knowledge and skills they have. They were a person just like you at some point.
I think a huge part of the problem we are having as young people today is that we are only shown the loftiest goals as worthwhile. Who cares if you can't be the greatest astronaut or the smartest scientist? That doesn't mean you don't have value, and even if you have a low value now you can still improve and increase your value for the future. Not everything is about what is in your bank account; though that does make a difference, I won't deny that, but it isn't the only thing that matters.
@@snugglyhedgehoglol at worrying about climate change 😂
@@snugglyhedgehogI always say if theres no point to life, why not have a little fun, it sounds like a dumb concept because it is stupid but finding what you enjoy and doing the way you want to, is what makes life a little bit more bearable, like somthing as small as finding the right music to play throughout your day. Thats how i plan to live most of my days i dont care how bizzare or crazy the things i do are, as long as i aight hurting no one but myself, i always try to find somthing fun or interesting even in the shitest conditions thatll make me smile for even a second. This is just a perspective of how i go through the day to day and yall could probably poke holes in it like swiss cheese and im not here to convince anyone how to live their lives just throwen my two cents in and seeing different perpectives on the topic.
Wtf literally describing my exact experience of highschool. Born in 2003, turning 20 this year, and I felt like I missed out on all the normal social progressions throughout highschool. No “teen love”, no parties, no waging with friends, nothing. Just homework, go home, watch YT, repeat. It all passed so quick, and it feels so weird to see young teens heading in and out of highschool just to remember I’m 2 years past that now. It’s quite sad in a way, and I’m never getting that back. Is what it is I guess :(
If it makes you feel better I feel the same as you
I was 19 when quarentine started. I'm almost 23 now and I swear that I barely remember being 19 or 20. In my head I'm still 20, about to be 21. 2 years of my youth were robbed.
@@pedroroque829bro I feel the exact same, just turned 23 last week
frr. im turning 20 soon too but life only just begun last year for me since working out seriously everyday, entered college,
starting my own business and just getting better at life. Still dont have girls, no parties , less friends. Just been grinding so i hope it pays off one day
Never missed out on any of that sucks to be you ig
As a 24 year old, who has been in your shoes, I can say that part of becoming an adult is grieving your adolescence. The quicker you come to terms with your past and everything you may have missed out on or not done, the quicker you can focus on building and doing those things for yourself today. Just because you didn't do things on societies schedule doesn't mean you can't do them on your own schedule. Your fate and destiny is in your hands. The longer you spend dwelling and grieving the past the more time you waste in changing today for your future.
Well said my friend
this im 20 and missed so many bonding times with friends im sad about it but now me and buddies go camping in the mountains at least once a year, we have a bonfire at least once a month, and we are getting ready to get bikes and start backpacking
Grieving, what a fitting word it feels like the death of something, it's like something, or apart of you has died.
You're completely right. I'm 27, married, in a fixer upper home, with our first kid on the way. Up until a couple years ago, I used to mourn my past, but one great epiphany hit me: stages. More specifically, stages of life. I guess it kinda hit when our pet hamsters died; I was really sad to say goodbye, and had to hold back my tears as I buried them, but there are other critters out there that need a home, and there would never have been room for them if the old little guys hadn't passed on. Same goes for people: I became a bit more comfortable with my mortality when I thought of it as clearing space for future generations, so they can have their turn just like I had mine. It's only fair.
There's also the pros and cons. Being a kid is the most fun, but you have no freedom; being a teenager gives more freedom, but you're still limited in what you have and can do, and most importantly don't have anything to die for (for, as a famous quote goes, if you wouldn't die for something, then you live for nothing); as an adult, you have the most responsibility and obligation, but you can build something worth living and ultimately dying for if you play your cards right, and that's a meaning that nobody can ever take away from you. There's a beauty to each stage, but it's unfair for any one to hog the space that they all deserve to occupy. And like furniture in a house, you have to remove something old if you want to put in something new.
@@tiagodecastro2929 Agreed. With all death comes the rebirth. A new cycle, a new life and a new way of seeing things. Things must die and pass on in order for a new wave and way to move in. It's how we as humans progress and move forward with our lives and in society. It's only natural
I'm 39, and this struck such a chord with me. I feel it, I see it.
The pandemic wasn't the cause of the atomization, the isolation, but it radically accelerated it.
I have so much love and awe for the younger generations and what they've gone through, and how well they're shaping up under the circumstances, it fills me with hope.
The fight is still in the dog
honestly this video hit hard. I'm 26 now. one moment you wake up on your 20th birthday and the next you are waking up about to turn 27. don't let parents tell you where you should be in life, the world they lived in was totally different from the one we all currently face. For all of us young lads out there, I wish you all the best in health, spirit, and success! we got this guys 💪
true, my regret was listening to my mom and living in a constant dissonance. now graduated uni and unemployed. 25 eating beans n watching twitch. i lost for now
@@RudiGallon Same here man, 25 and just graduated. Wish I took up a trade, but I felt like I would have been seen as a loser by my parents if I did due to the expectation always being that college was where I was heading. School was not for me but here we are, unemployed and not knowing wtf to do next.
@@StriveForLuckyou can always go and try the trades, its never too late. im 18 and i just got into electrical apprenticeship. i havent started working yet but i am gonna soon.
I notice , time is happening faster for 20 something males...
In my 20s, it went like my teens
@@kathleenking47 im 24 and tbh when i just work for weeks I feel like a 20 year old living the life of a 40 year old
I believe part of the problem as to why people in our generation seem to be stuck in fantasy and are unable/unwilling to grow up is because we have been conditioned to fear making mistakes and taking risks. I’ve always been terrified at the thought of messing up while working a job or embarrassing myself in some way because I don’t know what i’m doing. We’ve been taught that mistakes are bad and embarrassing so we should avoid them by not venturing out of our comfort zones. By not venturing out of our comfort zones we can never grow as people and develop essential life skills through learning and experience. If you happen to find this comment in this vast sea of people throwing their two cents in, just know that mistakes are meant to be made, bad times and hardships happen to be learned from, and that I believe in you, whoever you may be.
That’s one reason but it’s a lot more complicated than just that
I definitely believe that is a large part of the reason. I live to learn and experiment with new things. But my mom has high anxiety. She is a lot better about it now but for a long time I felt I couldn’t do anything creative around her. If she saw the mess, she would get stressed. Even if she didn’t lecture me, she would be unhappy with me. I felt I had to hide the entire process, clean all the evidence, and only show the end results (provided I got good end results). I am talking about stuff like cooking experiments, art projects, making lip gloss, growing (edible and legal) mushrooms, etc. Admittedly I have made some messes over the years (the worst one I remember was when I got soot all over a pan and then in the sink when I put it in the sink after I used it to cook eggs over an oil stove I built in the backyard), but I think I am very good at cleaning now.
Nah, far from it bub. It is because they've come to realise, formally or instinctively, how antagonised they've become and increasingly so. So the reasoning quickly becomes "why bother?" Why bother giving a fraction of your best let alone your all to a system/community/state/people who are at best indifferent to your existence or for worse antagonising you for being male/white/straight/principled? It makes little sense. Some have the fortitude and social proof to press forward despite it, most do not and succumb to deaths of despair, violent outbursts sometimes taking people down with them or turn into cold killers in our midst never to be caught.
That's what's going on here, and inb4 victim complex/it is what it is/boot strap yourself asinine rebuttals either from you or some other commenter. The reason for the aggressive rhetoric is because I'm tried of the handwaving/detracting/pretending/lying/co-opting of what the root cause really is; disenfranchised males growing up in a world that's become completely and utterly gynocentric.
That's what's going on here and it's going to get worse because nobody (or at least nobody with power) has any interest in fixing or rolling this problem back. And why would they? Wombs > Everything else except when it comes time for war when the culling of these men happens to prevent the dissident from growing out of control.
Thank you
I do think that is part of the reason. For me, a lot of it has been due to overprotective parents that haven’t ‘allowed’ me to grow up. For much of my adult life, they’ve been financially dependent on me but also very critical of the decisions I try to make on my own. From career choices, to new people I meet, my parents are always pessimistic of future outcomes and instill a fear in me that everything could lead to failure if I try doing something new. So, I just stop trying because I don’t want to prove them right.
Honestly, one of the worst parts about these last few years has been seeing my parents getting "old." Mom has onset-alzheimer's and Dad is realizing his anticipated years of retirement will be spent taking care of her. Granted, they are still happy together every day but, damn... I wish I had treasured those special moments just that little bit more. Seems like a lot of us early 2000s guys are having similar thoughts, we can stay strong and all be there for each other.
when shit like this happens, honestly it makes me feel like the system is evil. Useless people with billions of dollars while parents work 12 hour days just to come home and not want to spend time with their kids. We’re forced to cooperate and work for nothing just to maybe have a decent retirement, but even now that’s harder, just look at all the 70 year olds working at Walmart. And even then, what the f*** do you want to do when you’re 60? absolutely f*** all because you’re old and tired, and who knows if you’ll even make it til then. I’m sorry about your parents, I hope they spend the rest of their years happy with each other.
early-onset eh? My dad started to exhibit symptoms in his 50s, and he is now almost 66, in the advanced stages of the disease, despite how young he is. It is theorized he could've been suffering from the disease as early as his late 40s. We held onto him as long as we could but eventually we had to admit him to a special hospital fulltime, which has been one of the hardest chapters of our lives. My mother spends everyday she can at his side. I wish you guys much strength in the trials to come. God bless.
I understand how you feel, my mother had schizophrenia at times, but at the moment she feels good, I hope this will last as long as possible.
im from 2005, my last grandfather has late stage parkinson’s. Although my parents are fine since they had me young, yeah i kinda get where you’re coming from. shit sucks man
I 100% feel that. I'm 26, but my parents had me and my older brother when they were pretty old, compared to most people I know. My dad's approaching his 70's, and keeps himself in good shape, but he is definitely the outlier in his family (his dad died in 1978, when he was 54, and that's about par for the course for the men on that side of the family). My mom just turned 64 and was just diagnosed with cancer, started chemo the other week and it's been...rough.
This video got me thinking, and, despite having it decently well, being 26, getting out of college debt free (thanks to my parents, which I know not very many people share the same luxury) before the pandemic, having a full time salaried job and living on my own, I just feel like I'm stuck in a hole, and the longer I stay, the deeper it gets. I'm 26. My dad started the job that ended up being his career when he was 22, and retired when he was 62. His dad went to war when he was 20, and got a purple heart when he was 21 in 1945. Looking back at old records, my dad is the only person on his side of the family that got out of the rural county in Virginia that he was born in.
I'm 26, and I still live in the small city where I grew up. I still live in a hole. If my family history is anything to go off of, my life is about halfway over. I don't want to live in a hole anymore, and I intend to do something about it.
I’m 31 almost 32 in March and acknowledged a long time ago there’s no hope.
My whole Childhood I had to take care of myself and I used to have confidence in the belief that the only person I can depend on is myself but how bad the world has become there’s no hope that I can’t even depend on myself to get through this.
I wish I can enter the Mass Effect Universe and never come back to reality.
I'm 50 and have 3 teenage sons and am so worried about them. The way young people live right now is really frightening to me. When I was in high school, I was constantly with my friends, finding creative things to do, sometimes getting into trouble we needed to figure out how to get out of (which in retrospect was an important lesson). There were dances and Rocky Horror every Friday and parties and walking the mall to meet people and shows by crappy bands some guy we knew we in and going to the graveyard to pretend to see ghosts. The minute any of us could get a driver's license we would do it and work to save up for a crappy car so we could drive all over the place. We were almost never home. Now my teenage sons - and it seems every single teenage boy they know - just sits on the computer and either games or talks to each other on an app. And anytime I hear them talking about anything but gaming, all these guys just make fun of each other. Like that's their socialization. None of them seem interested in girls (or boys, whatever). They hardly do anything in person. None of them get into trouble, ever - and on the one hand, I'm glad I don't have to worry about them or have no idea where they are. On the other hand, I feel like they're missing out on something - they don't test boundaries and limits, they don't experience the exhilaration of sneaking out, they don't learn how to handle a situation that's scary, shady, or risky. And as a parent, you can't really do anything. Because what am I going to say? "Hey, you aren't rebelling against me enough!"? And if all their friends are online, I don't feel like I can even force them off the computer, because that's where these kids are socializing.
I'm not even sure why I wrote all that. I guess I'm seeing everything you're talking about here in my sons. And if I'm honest, in myself a bit as well, even at age 50. I think a lot about how life just isn't as fun as it was when I was a kid and younger teenager. And this society really does suck so much more than when I was young. I know old people always say that, but I really feel like it's measurably true now. Like a society where kids don't go outside and waste their only chance at youth staring at computer screens is incredibly dystopian and horrific. When I think about the level of regret people are going to feel when they get to be my age and realize they've done almost nothing real, it kind of makes me feel like I'm going to have a panic attack.
It’s incredible to hear from you what being a young person used to be like.
I’m 24 and while I did go out a little bit in high school, my experience was nowhere close to yours. I feel like so many young people really crave adventure, because we have so little experience with uncertainty or risk.
I also just became a high school math teacher, (I graduated last year) and my students lifestyles fit everything in this video to a T. Lots of my students are just like your sons. When I ask them what they like to do outside of school, a lot of them don’t seem to do much. And the ones that do go out just want to drink or smoke weed or some kind of instant pleasure.
I’m scared to think of what it will be like regretting all our missed experiences. That’s why I try to be intentional about keeping my friendships intact, going out and having new experiences; because I know that if I live life passively, I’ll have so much to regret later.
I hope your sons go out and experience the world and have some fun! I hope we all get to experience some of what you experienced as a teenager.
This is spot on. Mother of one son, almost 10. I fear his future.
@@loujackmorgiewicz8541 i might be wrong but i think todays young people are very quick to 'ghost' people, even their friends, for one mistake. im 52 and there were PLENTY of times a friend hurt my feelings or made me mad, but we didnt stop being friends. wed stop talking for a day or two, then one of us would swallow our pride and make a phone call and be hanging out again. i dont think young people do that anymore, they call it 'im not wasting my energy on toxic friends' but i think its not always a toxic friend its just a disgreement. could be wrong though.
52 here and i had the same childhood you did. before we could drive we rode bikes everywhere. If you didnt have a bike you stood on the back axle and rode along. if you were very lucky someones older brother might be bored enough to drive you to the movies or something.
no phones no internet. made friends in minutes. a group of boys could go to the mall, run into a group of girls and start learning names and maybe phone numbers. of course back then you know if you called you had to talk with their mom or dad first lol. it was so easy back then. you couldnt be an introvert and survive. today with social media you can see what everyone else is doing without leaving your bed, so thats exactly what people do.
back then you took shortcuts across private property, got stung by bees running through fields, swam in lakes. if we went to a friends house you didnt knock you just walked in like you lived there. the moms would offer a snack. the moms were boomers were always doing something around the house. like everyone was awake and up and doing something. youd go from playing touch football in the back yard to jumping on the bikes to go swimming somewhere, always competing.
nobody was on anxiety meds, the town was lively. if you wanted to hear your favorite song you either bought the cassette and dragged a walkman or boombox everywhere or you hoped the DJ would play it and not talk over it.
i can tell you this. Having instant access to any song, any tv show, any movie, 24/7 has made it SO MUCH HARDER to choose what to watch i literally just watch the same shows over and over. ive spent an hour going over hundreds of movies just to give up and put Friends on. this instant gratification didnt give us what we thought it would. and the endless scrolling on social media. I took myself off Facebook because even at my age i found myself stuck scrolling on every break at work, until i finally realized it was the same people complaining about the same things everytime i opened the app. It took about a week of weaning myself off of it but im so glad i did. I dont miss a damn thing. Then i tried tiktok and the psychology behind making people scroll is even worse on tiktok, i instantly realized it wasnt for me and deleted it. Instagram is the only one i use because somehow it doesnt have the addiction to it the others have. I can either go on it or ignore it for a whole day. I cant imagine how hard it is for immature brains to break free from it. Probably impossible.
one nice thing about getting older is you just one day dont give a damn what kim and kylie and Taylor and whoever else is up to. it just doesnt matter that they took their jet to an exclusive party i couldnt go to even if i wanted to.
from reading comments it appears im also lucky to have friends. 2 from HS to this day, and many more through work. every friend i have around here is someone i worked with or still do. a lot of people say your coworkers arent your friends but i think it depends on the job.
I get panic attacks pretty often about it. Im 26 and feel hopeless for all of humanity.
Hearing you talk about being born in 2003 and how things are today really puts things into perspective for me. I was 20 back in 2003, and let me tell you, times were definitely different. It's amazing how much has changed in just a couple of decades. Back then, going out and socializing in person was the norm. We didn't have smartphones glued to our hands, constantly distracting us. We actually had to make an effort to leave our houses and engage with the world around us. It was so much easier to meet new people face to face and form genuine connections.
I can't help but feel a little nostalgic for the simpler times. There was something special about the anticipation and excitement of meeting someone new, exchanging conversation, and maybe even handing out in the club/lounge. It felt more organic, raw, and human. I have sympathy for the younger generation that didn't get to experience the same kind of social interactions we had back in the day. While technology has undoubtedly brought numerous benefits and advancements to our lives, it has also inadvertently altered we connect, and not much for the better. That being said, my life didn't really "begin" until 24. It was fairly monotonous, even back then. It's far too early to actually gauge how the rest of life will go at 20, at least that's how it was for me.
26, here my life practically ended at 23.
Same, i was born in the 90s but we still didn't have smartphones during our highschool. Only that old, brickwall, Nokia phone. Even tho im miserable today i am forever grateful that i got to grow up during normal circumstances in society and spend my childhood and teenage years in that era. It's and old saying since forever but everything really was better and simpler back then.
dude what are you talking about im 35 and people still make connections face to face. ummm???
@@sithticklefingers7255 What happened? Why do you think so?
I don’t buy the nostalgia shit anymore. It feels near impossible for anyone find real social opportunities in todays world. I feel like iv been conditioned to be unable to form real attachment to others. I feel distant from everyone I know and the few friends I have are more like acquaintances. It’s like If I had the financial means I could just disappear into the world and cut ties to everyone and everything I know without much though.
I’m 19, didn’t go to college and currently working a full time labor job. This video definitely has spoken to me. I feel isolated almost on a daily basis and sometimes wonder if going to college would’ve been worth it just to have some friends, because for me too, my high school friend group seemingly began to dissolve right after we graduated. Maybe for people like us the best days are yet to come.
You don’t need to go to college. It should be viewed as an “option,” not a necessity.
I’m 27 and didn’t go to college. Joined the Army after high school and did it for 8 years. I’m doing fine now, financially and all. I’m not suggesting joining the Army, but like I said about college, it should be an option, not an obligation.
Public schooling fails in preparing kids for life. It’s trying to fill a quota of how many go to college.
I’m a 22 year old manager at a big retail chain. I like my job but sometimes I wonder, should I have gone to college?
It's better than hanging onto all those same old friends who didn't have any direction, who drink every friday-monday and have all SORTS of aged girls over.
I remember being 19-20 still chillin with my HS friend group while we transitioned into partying and chasing girls.
Justin was having a party and it was FULL of highschool girls. Absolutely full of them.
I was like uh I gotta go.
Haven't talked to them in 15
go to church
Trade school
Currently 23 working as a DoorDash driver and haven’t had a real job since I was 15.
I don’t think the older folks understand just how daunting it is to put yourself out there in today’s social climate. It is a cutthroat world where NOTHING is based on skill, talent, or hard work. It’s all dependent on algorithms and the whims of hiring managers. In other words, luck. If you don’t come from wealth or have some kind of connection who can get you a job, you are at an immediate disadvantage.
The reason kids today are so obsessed with content creation and social media is because it’s the one career where you can become successful off of your own merit. They’re not lazy, they’re just desperate to live in an environment where their effort is recognized and acknowledged.
Holy crap this is literally me. DoorDash driver, also content creator. My mom kicked me out and it has been hard ever since
Great comment, spot on
Come to construction, the right trade and company cares about skill and honesty, and you feel usefull
And trade will hire skill. It takes putting effort in to get a said skill. Its always been tuff. Sit in solitude long enough and you can convince yourself of anything is one issue I'm sure. The number of excuses I hear now is insane being a buisness owner(this took me 25 years of being in the workforce to achieve btw) because life happens and you keep trying and stay positive.
@@Will_14_years_ago Note the second paragraph. You began your career in a fundamentally different job market and economy than the one in place today: one that was tough, but not one anywhere near as sisyphusian as it is now. I should also mention that I’m referring to white collar work, not trades. The rules are a bit different there.
Significant inflation and COVID’s unemployment crisis have done irreparable damage to the job market and people aren’t able to just waltz on into it like they used to. I could rant for several paragraphs, but I recommend you do some of your own research into this topic, because I don’t think you realize how much has changed since you started your business.
I became 30 one week ago and I still identify with everything you’re saying. What makes you mature is experience, not time. Some people are older than us but seem to be younger because of a lack of experience. Fill your life with experience to solve this conundrum.
Also 30, and same.
Turned 30 last month, and Gerbert is speaking point blank to my worldview. The internet has forever interrupted natural selection and it's been this way for almost 10 years.
@@StephenP93what do you mean when you say the internet interrupted natural selection?
I turn 29 in a month and same here, I have a good job but now I’m back living with my parents cus I don’t want to live alone, my buddy who I lived with couldn’t keep a job and couldn’t afford to live on his own and I can’t find a decent woman to save my life. I want more than anything to start a family before I get too old to play with my kids but with everyday that passes it feels like less of a possibility. I hope all the guys here can find what you’re looking for and be successful men, I know it’s hard but I’m holding on to hope that we can do it and fix the direction that society is headed
My biggest thing is I don’t really know what there is to fill my life with experience. Most things I do feel invaluable in that regard and I just feel kind of stuck. I like how the creator of this video mentioned “rampant consumerism” and we’re basically just money farms for consumption. Most of the things we are used to doing nowadays, like right now how most of us are just consuming content on the internet for that dopamine hit, only really benefit the people that publish the content and create the platforms. I just feel like I’m in a loop and I’m stuck but I don’t really know what’s holding me back other than just playing video games and being on social media in my free time. I don’t know if it’s just that holding me back or if there’s something more to it. I want to improve but don’t know where to start.
Wasn't sure what I was watching at first, but damn this resonated.
ZMDE. Right. Well, what did you take away from this video?
Gerbert would say "resounded"
@@dubble_cuppachinoperfect timing with the vid tf. He said resounding as soon as I read this comment
How old are you
How right you are my friend 😊
Take care of yourself 🙏 ✌️
The death of community is something that I feel is not talked about enough. We are inherently social creatures, we want to be together, but its harder now than ever to find a group that you not only fit into, but is good for your life. This is why I feel that these crazy fan consoomers are becoming a thing. Its a warped attempt to join a community that will never actually help or benefit them and only serves to validate their own child like behavior.
ngl I wish I was born in the hood, because at least hood kids have community lol
based observation
The community aspect has been in decline in America for a while but COVID really ripped it apart.
Yeah I cannot agree more. Us humans are inherently social creatures - we're simply are not made for a life in isolation, where tech substitutes real world experiences. No wonder why there is so many people with mental health issues, drug crisis and to a larger extent so much toxicity (especially when it comes to politics).
Think about it - people waste their time arguing with people they dont know about things that shouldnt be their concern - and for what? They go to bed stressed, angry, only to repeat it all over again on the next day.
If you go overseas, especially to a third world nation or an asian nation you realize community is alive and well over there. It's just western culture seems to be dying a slow painful death where the bottom is just falling out and no one is noticing or caring because all of those in power are near death and don't care. Community needs to make a comeback in western nations. Once the boomers are out of power huge changes need to happen in how the western world is organized.
I’ve been stressed out simply because I’m coming out of this phase… I’m 24 now and live in a bigger city, stopped playing video games for the most part, and am barely in my apartment. I’m more social, play in a volley ball league a few times a week, have friends, volunteer, and have a community oriented job at a non profit. I’m doing a lot more but I’ll say that it’s so stressful to make this transition… I feel like I’m forcing myself to be out there and make as many interactions & connections as possible, and while it feels so good to have that now, it’s so stressful to maintain it on a weekly basis.
You have made great progress, be yourself and don't overthink your social interactions too much and you'll be fine. Just stepping out of your comfort zone is already a big step and that is what I'm trying to achieve. Dr K has a bunch of videos on the subject if it can help, it helped me a bit. Good luck brother
It's something that we can't explain to our parents, yet we know about it inside us. You did good
Because they will only try to guilt trip you into thinking what you are dealing with is 0 compared to their “problems”
@@jaybutton3004 Literally what they do whenever I try to open up even the slightest, and I only do that because they complain that "I'm too quiet" or that "I don't tell them how I feel/how I'm doing". Of fucking course, how do they expect me to open up when they never take it seriously.
@@sampthiago same for, can’t be myself even to my own parents when talking about our personal struggles
Yeah, being a terminally online weirdo is difficult to explain but easy to fix by logging off.
@@spicewilliam9786 If I'm an internet weirdo, you're an internet jerk/troll. Fuck off, dude.
I turn 20 this October, 2003 kid here. "You come home from work to your tiny apartment with neighbors you don't know"...that hit me hard. I don't even know where to start with building relationships. Everyone I work with is late 20s and older. I really didn't expect this video to hit me as hard as it did, well done.
I turned 20 in April and same everything execpt I'm lucky and I get to work for my dad's company so I have a small single story house with no bathtub just a shower you really don't realize how nice a hot soak is till you can't just sit in your own bathtub
@@ace3154i’m 24, ill be 25 on september 1st and more or less a spitting image of what this vid is about. I dont oodle my noodle to hentai or any of that dork shit but i went to a higher learning private school institution, graduated and went to community college for like 3yrs to never even finish my associates lol. Now i’m 24, tired of manual labor and realizing I can choose to make money with my brain, or destroy my body and be physically exhausted by 45. So now, I’m going back and finishing my associates and then onto university for a supply chain degree. It’s important to take your time deciding what you want to do these days. The difference between what we do now and what our parents did is that its nearly impossible for us to re-adjust an educational direction without actually crippling ourselves. On top of that, it’s nearly impossible to live on your own without living check to check. Theres no shame in staying at home, I know 35yr olds who still live at home because they never figured it out.
@@imcrux6583 18 working in supply chain and logistics for almost a year and about to take classes for it at a community college in the fall. I still have no idea what imma do after I finish these classes and graduate and if I even want to do this later in life
I’d recommend finding something you like to do that involves other people. Off the top of my head, joining a rock climbing gym. Just be friendly but not needy. After doing it for 6 months you’ll be ripped, probably healthier, and you’ll develop a couple friendships probably.
Just remember, you don’t have to do some big gesture the first time you meet someone. Let things happen naturally and remember that some people are not going to want to be your friend and that’s ok.
@@Lurrows23logistics makes you wanna kill yourself I hate it
The fact that you're coming to all these realizations at 20 puts you way ahead of the game, so kudos to you. I'm 29 and still barely starting to scratch the surface of how/ why I ended up becoming so lost and behind in life....
Have you done your military duties?
it only keeps going faster. I waited until about 35 before i realized ive wasted many years of my life on a computer/games.
I’m in a similar boat at 30. Trying to clean up my habits, and find more life experiences. Plus be more consistent with a long term plan.
Man, you're lucky you didn't screw your life up doing doing dumb stuff. A lot of it has to do with porn. Be yourself, man. Stop jacking off and masterbuating and follow Jesus and read the Bible, and you'll see the difference. God bless you. Don't regret. Think positive ✨️.
* Soon, there is going to be the rapture. It's when there will be trumpet sounds, and after the trumpet sounds, God will lift his people from here. Also, God said people should be living by the Bible. Amen, and God bless you.
@@trabajodisciplinacrecimien8230There are no military duties. This is not pre third world immigration or pre feminism. There is NOTHING to defend.
it’s almost like being isolated for months has lasting impacts
i info dumped all these same thoughts on my dad recently and he gave me advice that i genuinely find useful. he said "i know things are harder for your generation in ways that i dont even understand, but the fact that you're realizing all this and are somehow still standing with aspersions for self fulfillment means that you'll succeed. Just keep analyzing the world around you and dont give into the pressure, as long as you dont grow content with society's issues, you'll find peace in this flawed world."
Content not contempt
@GamingPlus10 very true grammar nazi
See this is the kinda stuff we need. Not the impending doom apathetic videos that we see all the time now. We need hope and reassurance that shits gonna work out. Sulking gets us nowhere.
@PThorpe11 also true very inspirational commenter
Damn lucky you didn't get the grandpa "I worked an unskilled factory job for $5 an hour and bought the house I still live in for $3000" talk. Like you can do the same thing with a $170,000 house on $12.50 an hour.
I turn 31 in September, married with two daughters. You are much wiser than a 16 year old. You are not weird. I've been trying to process all this for years, and I really appreciate how you laid everything out in this video. We have to take back control of our lives.
I'm 22 and couldn't agree more. I wish people we're more connected. I'm sober completely but that means i got no friends because every other guy my age would rather be in clubs, focusing on drinking and drugs. I did that when i was younger but i want friends who are like minded.
Must be fucking nice to be desired and have kids. Not everyone gets that. Most of us are screwed no matter what we do.
I'm 16 an he took the words straight from my brain I think about this stuff every day
@@BansheeKing22dude he’s 31 you can’t say this stuff when you’re probably not even 20
@@BansheeKing22 I'm sorry man
You’re gonna be all right, man. The fact that you’re self-aware enough to put this out at your age, is a good sign.
Actually not. It's not enough
@@iver9069what is enough ?
@@arzentvmactually doing something.
Definently not enough. awareness is less than half the battle the majority is willpower.
Speaking from experience. ive been thinking about this kind of thing and ive gone full circle from black pill to white pill and back several times now. I came to the realization that in the end you have to willingly suffer the vast majority of every day in order to get anywhere. Its worth it, but it takes more willpower than I have.
@@Greasy__Beargood take.
Realization is only the start of the battle.
I’m a 2003 kid and never thought that someone in my year felt the exact same way I do. It’s terrifying but somewhat relieving that my doubts have been confirmed by the experience (or lack there of) of others in my generation.
Damn just turned 21 and this hits pretty damn hard. I feel like the lockdowns did irreversible damage to this generation especially those around our age. I never expected my last day of actual highschool to be that friday we left in march in never really came back. I feel like the end of my childhood didn't get any closure and the boys just went their separate ways without any kind of sendoff.
No cap bro I feel the same, I haven’t gotten over the time before lockdown yet, I miss all of it. Everything feels so tasteless, not a day goes by when I don’t miss my school and wish I could go back.
Class of 2020 🥹
It wasn’t the lockdowns. That’s just what happened on the surface.
@@hacksickreal talk :/
I finished school thru a laptop and graduated thru the pandemic and after I went straight to la and had the time of my life I really didn’t even notice Covid but now.. life is hitting crazy in bouta just go back to la cause that’s were I’m truly happy at and the women are everywhere I can’t keep scrolling thru TikTok seeing all these 🌈 people these apps tryna turn us gay and shii
As a 25 year old I can tell you it's a normal feeling. After going through HS, college and working you finally have time to reminisce on the things in life you do before. That fear is anxiety telling you to do more with your life. Our brains have been wired for 20 years to do school and hw. After your education your brain has no stimulation besides social media. You have to get out there and connect with people, find a new hobby. You have to find yourself many times in your life I know I have.
25, you'd have been 22 during the lockdowns, that is, the age were you either already graduated or had a strong enough circle to whistand forced isolation.
It is a really different experience when you're 19 or 20 and still trying to get acclimated to college life, finding friends and connections.
"Get out there", what bullshit, as if people waited after internet to tell them to have a hobby. The truth is most had hobbies that were outlawed because of "two weeks to flatten the curve". Need I remind you it too more than 13 months to get back to "no restrcitions" on socialization? Of course, it matters not because the damage is done and the trust broken.
Speaking of trust, let's not talk about distrust sowed between groups (men, women, black, white), i'm sure it's really helpful to walk on eggshells when you want connections.
@@blackfire6009Hey, another 25 year old chiming in here. Ngl bro, you sound like a coward. Like you’re afraid of getting hurt or failing, but that’s literally a defining point of human existence. You can’t be too anxious about life that you stop acting and living it. Life is short in hindsight, and it’ll pass you by quicker than you think. So instead of being frozen in contemplation, go out and act, go crazy. There is always time for rumination, there is very little time for inaction.
@@blackfire6009the lockdowns were a huge mistake. The biggest transfer of wealth, power, and happiness from the young to the old. People still talk about them as if they were an inevitability, quite often people say ‘the pandemic’ when describing the misery wilfully forced on the public by governments. This generation should be a lot more angry than they are.
I can’t imagine how hard it is to establish connections during COVID. The true point the original comment makes is “find yourself many times”. It really is a constant battle to find yourself, your people, and really make it all work. But, you’ve got to try! Adulthood takes off those guide rails from birth to college graduation. It’s another reason I think it’s more difficult because you truly start playing the game after completing the (very long) tutorial. This is a double sided coin because now the world really opens up as well. Hope this helps
Recently I needed to return to my hometown after 1 year of college (couldn't afford it anymore), this place looks the same, but at the same time it feels very alien. Most people I've cared about are gone - nearly every friend went to college or moved to other cities to work
As a 30 year old it actually made me so sad to hear that there is a whole generation where the end of your high school time was devastated by the pandemic, that must be so incredibly difficult to process
I'm 31 and I agree. I feel so bad for these young men 😞
Thanks for all the likes btw. I make music bout being depressed so peep
Yea i turned 20 August 10 & this vid is pretty accurate. For me personally tho, the "golden era" was 2007/8-2014 that was when i was the happiest. 2015 was alright but '16 was crap, 2017 was actually when it kinda got better, social media wasn't too bad yet, it just felt lively again but that's the same year i homeschooled (online schooling) which was 3 years before everyone else was forced to aswell. So my high school "life" was kinda hindered early (partially due to my own accord) 2018 i finally turned 15 but i wasn't happy, i felt old cuz i just got into old music (rap, rock & metal mainly) and was sad & really depressed cuz i realized how bad modern music was & basically became one of the "born in the wrong generation" kids. 2019 hit i turned 16 and got even more depressed cuz i really started realizing how dumb young ppl are & how alone i was, then i began getting into everything "old", ps1 video games, movies, shows etc but yea then 2020 hit, i'm hit with a dramatic election, crazy politics, not even 17 yet & now there's a pandemic, America is rioting, dumb girls are dancing on tiktok & i'm even more depressed so yea it's been alot the past 5 years
@@1950s_was_da_peakIm in a similar boat. I turn 20 in november and the golden era for me was between 2008-2014. Things were okay when i first joined high school in 2015, but things started to go downhill for me around 2017, when i lost my pet cat which was my first taste of grief. 2018, was even worse, i lost 2 grandparents and my anxiety was really starting to show. Of course the pandemic only made it worse. Then i lost a 3rd grandparent in 2021 and by that point, reality was in full swing. Things have been getting better so far, im talking action against my anxiety and hopefully it will lessen by alot.
@@1950s_was_da_peak we are legit almost the same person lol. i turn 20 august 19th but i didnt go into online school until my 11th grade year literally 3-4 months before covid hit so either way i wouldve graduated online but i do really miss high school a lot. it was tons of fun so many new friends and memories i wish i could go back to 9th grade tbh.
@@1950s_was_da_peak I turn 20 in September. Everything you said was completely relatable. 2016 really was a crap year and everything went down hill from there.
I see a lot of people in the comments here mourning their youth after feeling like they had their childhood stolen. The lesson we should learn is that we should appreciate the time that we have now. The little things that you enjoy and can only really do at this specific place you're at today.
You are right but I live like a prisoner sentenced to death. What kind of life is this? I have fun but I wonder what a life with a future is. You know, knowing a girl who is not woke and crazy, not having a government who steal everything we have like a mafia, not being an unsafe country because of immigration and poverty, etc. I guess it is what it is.
I was born in 1997, making me the eldest of generation z. I feel all the hurt and confusion coming from our generation and the millennials, especially since the pandemic flipped everything around. I want to make 3 things clear to anyone reading this:
1. It’s not too late
2. Your path won’t look like your parents path
3. Nobody is more than a message or phone call away
When I was 20, I was living it up at college and enjoying life. At 23, I moved into my moms house during Covid and felt a level of isolation that almost killed me. At 26, I’m with my dad working freelance art jobs and learning to be there for my first real girlfriend.
Point is, life isn’t a straight shot and things change fast. You aren’t late to the game, contrary to how you feel I’m telling you it’s just getting started. It’s not always easy, it’s fucking harder now than ever for young people, but there’s always hope. Never lose that hope.
Great video Gerbert 👍
Well said, thank you.
Similar case myself. When the pandemic was over, the feelings did not depart, but I hit the ground running.
Was extremely painful, but now I have a much better life ahead of me than before m
Thank you so much for this. I’m 19 right now and I turn 20 in a couple of months. I struggle with the same issues and reading this really put it all in a perspective that I needed to hear.
I was born in 1997 as well. Thanks for your words dude
This, a millions times this. After Covid when everyone was on discord all the time I sorta got smooshed together with my parents friends kids who were sort of stranded in town and we just decided we were going to do stuff together. That ended up falling away because that’s sort of how life is. After that I had to actively go seek out communities that I wanted to be apart of and when my d&d groups went on hold for more than a month I remembered when my sister told me about her post-college experience which was basically “if you want to keep in touch with your friends, you have to work at it” so I just started calling or texting people a bit more often
You did a great job. The older generations don’t understand, but as a 22 year old this is so true. Young guys need to look out for eachother
Were all gonna make it bros.
Hey man I loved ur recent video about death. I think it really helped me :)
my nigga Rudyard
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I think a big part of it is being afraid to strike your own path. Going to college puts a lot of power in the hands of parents into your 20’s. I’m pursuing my MD, and just about to move out at 23.
I’m one of the older gen z’s being born in the late 90’s. It feels we were doomed from the start. We got raised for a world that doesn’t exist, everything we’d be told we’d be able to do by certain ages just seems impossible which causes just a feeling of hopelessness.
Many of us lost the prime of our lives to covid wether that be high school or college and the experiences that go with them, it’s a generation of loneliness and regret.
"Many of us lost the prime of our lives to covid wether that be high school or college and the experiences that go with them, it’s a generation of loneliness and regret." this made me tear man 😢
Almost as if that ws planned
That's a really profound way to say it I totally agree as a mid 90s baby. We were raised for a world that no longer exists and we just end up blaming ourselves for something that we really don't have any control over. It all can seem so hopeless and then social media adds on that next layer of seeing these kids on instagram and tik Tok flexing their parents money and then we end up comparing ourselves to them. Early to mid 2000s were the best...
@@hllyenaylleth9576trump tards aren’t welcome here
What can't you do? I think that's one of the main problems with this particular generation, they have convinced themselves and let other people convince them that they are victims. Stop listening to people who make things seem impossible or hopeless because they aren't, anyone who is willing to try can get a house and get married and do all the same things every other generation has done. Also there are much worse things you could have gone through than being stuck at home for 2 years so that would be a fairly silly reason to become a generation of "loneliness and regret."
I'm 19 and still living with my parents. I Resonate with this very heavily. I feel so isolated all the time and have no idea what to do with myself. Thank you for making these videos man.
I feel the same way and in the same situation but i am 37
No one should be ashamed of living with their parents. America is very anti-family, once you turn 18, you're expected to live on your own. In 3rd world countries, families literally stay together for most of their lives, and even when one gets married, they invite the spouse and their family in. Me and my family got together and bought a house. Yeah, it's not 100% on my own or own all of it, but I can confidently say I'm a home owner at 24. I don't particularly want to do much for my life heck I just work as an average retail worker and it doesn't bring me down. Not everyone needs to be great. Do what you can and live how you want Kings. 💪
I'm 24 and this video said so much what I've been thinking about for the last 5-6 years. I hated the feeling that I got when reaching adulthood and entering the "real world" it was a real eye opener that I am no longer a child. I never developed good social skills and was shy the entirety of high school so didn't have any friends. In college it was the same thing, I tried and made some friends but after getting our bachelor's they all started their jobs while my parents made me get my MBA which I hopefully will finish this year. I honestly don't know when was the last time I texted someone that wasn't a family member. I deleted all social media to just be alone. My days are the exact same every damn day, just me being in my room all day long. Now I'm focusing on learning new skills for a new field I plan on moving into later this year. Some days I feel sad to be alone but other days I feel great to be alone, not bothering anyone else, just me and my life.
I can relate in a small way I never had a gf in high school the people I was cool with in High School I rarely talk to them like man I wish I could go back in 2016 to do stuff differently I'm 24 going on 25
Don’t be afraid to live man just remember if you can do it once (make a friend) you can do it again and maybe a little better go out and experience the world, put yourself in awkward situations, put yourself in hard or uncomfortable situations and you’ll learn and grow. It’s hard at first but you gotta start somewhere if your gonna start
You're not alone man.
I would suggest joining a club, like a sports club. That way you can get to know more people.
We're all gonna pull through boys. Keep your heads up and believe you can be what you set yourself to be, I believe in you, and you should too.
As for probably majority of people (correct me if I'm wrong) who started losing friends/acquaintances, it was only the "forced" high school/college environment that made it significantly easier to hang around people and meet them, but once everybody graduated then the relationships start to drift apart really fast and then you find yourself realizing that you probably had nothing in common with most of those people back then. I learned this lesson the hard way.
I realize I didn’t have anything in common with the majority of people I met in high school
Not the same language, not the same culture, not the same values, not the same experiences, not the same mission, not even the same humor.
It sucked being a foreigner in a predominantly middle upper class white American high school.
For me they all seemed so fake when it came to relationships.
American society is very superficial.
Spot on, although I had a few good friends that did stick with me. Lucky I guess
I still meet some of my classmates from time to time, we're in good terms still, even when we split after graduating. I have my best friend since 6th grade and after graduating we're still best friends
@@19ars92 Perhaps you shouldn't be living in a western country then?
Even white people will struggle to fit into a place where it doesn't align with their ways. I can only imagine race is a greater divider.
I think I had good friends and many things in common but I just didn’t know how to hangout with them and keep in touch.
Bro i turned 20 this may and i have to say how freakishly accurate this was. you were able to perfectly illustrate how i feel on a daily basis. and it's kinda scares me that so many of us are going through this. Giving all ya'll virtual hugs and hope things will get better.
Turned 20 may 16th, couldnt relate more. Change is easier with friends that want to change.
Stop patrolling the Mojave, and wish for things other than a nuclear winter.
I am not feeled this way, maybe because I am from Russia and life in this country is much more juicy. You are meeting a lot obstacles and realizing how fucked the things is. I don't know who give your that mindset, because it is completely wrong, your destiny is on your hands and always is. If you will be sitting in one place and will not learn, life is gonna be incredibly fast for you. As Lenin once said "In life you need to learn, learn and one more time - learn"
@@trashhater9304🤡🤡 you’re whole country boutta be gone 💀 you’re destiny isn’t in your hands cause you’re about to get nuked 💀💀💀
@@yinzernation84 turned 21 may 16th, couldnt relate more. Change is 1000# easier with friends that want to change, for me its surrounding myself around my siblings.
Never loose the passion you have for climbing my friend. You're never too old to climb a tree.
College monopolizing socialization is so real. My friends who got into state colleges all have friend groups. I have 0 friends and work as a dishwasher. All because my grades in highschool went to shit during lockdown/i caught mono, and my friend killed himself, and I got cheated on, and became an alcoholic. Looking back a lot of shit happened lmao, but the best thing I can do for myself now is focus on the progress I’ve made. We all are gonna make it bros.
keep at it my friend. i'll pray for you man.
Same
It won't last. Those friend groups usually dissolve after college. At best the college experience just delays the inevitable loneliness and alienation many of us feel. You aren't alone in feeling the loneliness and alienation.
Literally just get a hobby and go to hobby related events.
Pick up a craft.
This video is extremely narrow in mind and worldview and thats to be expected of someone who is only 20 and is in the process of grieving a lost childhood, but guess what, you can simply just do whatever you want
If you're choosing to model yourself and your life based on the expectations of others, or the assumption of expectarion of others, you will never become a whole and fulfilled person
Really got fucked in the ass huh
I'm 24 years old and I only feel about 18, similar to you. However, i expressed this to my parents, and they agreed. They are in their mid-50s, but they mentioned that they dont mentally feel that way. The only thing that makes them feel old is the deterioration of their body (bad back, arthritis, etc.). My mom said that back when she first took me to high school, she felt like a high-schooler again just by being there.
I will agree that a lot of points you bring up in this video do seem exclusive to Zoomers, but i thought that the "mental age" thing being non-exclusive to me was interesting.
that's good to hear because me personally, I wanna feel like a teenager forever, it would be a shame to spend every waking moment feeling old and depressed all the time only thinking about responsibilities, work and taxes LOL
This is a great point thanks for bringing it up
same bro, it feels like i started living a year ago and i am 24 aswell
Nothing new under the sun, however you feel people throughout time have felt the same. We have modern problems sure, but our feeling towards problems hasn’t changed much
That was nice that you could open up to your parents in that manner. They’re a gift. Appreciate them.
I am a fellow ‘03 and I felt that this video was exactly the thing I’ve been looking for. I had some pretty good highs and some pretty deep lows through HS and Uni but I have never felt like these experiences allowed me to change to an “adult”. I still have my two main friend groups from high school and without them I honestly don’t know if I’d continue living, but because of the escapism of videogames and anime, my lack of sociability from HS, and this innate fear of “I’m not worth these people’s time” has kept me from getting out of my comfort bubble and seeking help, seeking new experiences to develop myself as a fucking person. Thank you for reading my rant
I feel that. I dropped pretty much every friend I ever had because they all ended up doing nothing with their lives, tried fucking me over, etc. Idk what keeps me going considering most of the time I don't feel like it at all, but there's something and whatever it is that keeps you going, hold onto it, whatever it is man. You got it
Don’t call it a rant. It’s not. Love yourself
@@timmejia8476I appreciate your words. I hope you find that something too and find people you can trust along the way. I found during my reflection that my something is my sister, because I’d feel too guilty leaving her alone without supporting her at all
@@banjomanperson Thank you
@Jinstu same. My girlfriend and my sister. I don't live with my sister anymore but she comes out here to visit during summers and I get so happy when she gets to visit. Life has its ups and downs especially with how fast my life has moved since 18 but I'm just proud of how far she's come as well
That feeling of I haven't really grown up, I am not ready for real life is never gonna go away, trust me, I am turning 27 this year and I still feel like a high schooler deep down my mind.
I have no idea what my purpose in life is in this day and age, as a guy.
I’m 25 and everything you said I relate to almost exactly! No sense of self, no proper friends now, dating as a guy is stupidity difficult nowadays, completely lost, no idea where I’m going, time goes so quick, once school and university are over it’s pretty much limbo out there.
I relate to this too
I feel like if you can have at least 1 good friend or even better girlfriend to rely on, then you won’t be depressed or whatever it may be.
I don't quite relate as a lot of my friends are dead, but I kinda feel u this world is a trip but u got this
It's quite interesting, how we do have younger men aiming to make great buisnesses, but the majority are people like you and me who get told to be those kind of guys, but we either don't know or simply don't want to.
We are intuitive and 'smart' but at the same time we also know, what's the point in it, a lot of things have been done already, we know that the market is very saturated so instead the few who can make it find a way between the lines and the rest just wonders, what is my purpose and instead we drown ourselfs in things like games or anime because to us, this is a place that accepts us.
I fckd up a lot in life, not in the way a drugaddict would fck up his life or how old people would say someone fcks up their life, but rather in the way of I was undecisive and made bad decisions which made me do a lot more steps than I had to do in life to find my way.
But I 'woke up', it's not really a waking up because I was awake all the time and I knew what I am doing wrong, I was just lacking ambition.
And now instead of being the next Steve Jobs I simply decided, I wanna get a good paying jobs, so I can literally buy more anime waifu body pillows.
It sounds like a dumb reason, but I think, as long as the reason makes sense to you to get to work, it is a good reason.
Find something that you really enjoy, let's say it's games, you need a PC for games, if you play competetively you need a good setup. This all costs money, a lot of money, now you found a reason to work for.
This will increase the ambition for yourself to figure out in which way you want to earn the money, it takes long to figure this out, to figure out something you enjoy doing, but you always need to remember why you are doing this. It's because you want to life your hobby and enjoy what you really love.
What I see in the older generation is a lot of people who just did something, because they got told to do so, so we have a lot of older people who don't like their job, don't like what they do at home, usually just watch some boring TV shows and then go back to work.
We have a lot of people in our society who are very unhappy and at the same time rude, because they got forced to do something instead of wanting to do it.
Real shit
I'm 22 and still look and feel 16. My teenage years were practically stolen from me by parents who thought they were doing me good by subjecting me to extremely harsh punishments for minor things and I came to develop extreme hyper independence. It's disturbing to think that the most "new experiences" I've had since I graduated high school was being homeless for a year. It was the time I felt most free, and despite the hardship I look back on it with nostalgia. Only time I've ever felt like I could do as I pleased but in reality, there's no glorifying it. It was shitty, and it was really my own form of escapism. I guess when you hit rock bottom, you feel freed, because the only worse thing that can happen is death itself. I wouldn't choose to be homeless again, but I'd be damned if I said I didn't miss the simplicity of it
I think that last line explains what we're feeling. I don't miss being a child, but I do miss the simplicity that came with being a child.
One thing I'll say, that's easy to say as a young person in North America. That experience of being homeless vs how most experience homelessness is likely quite different. The way you talk about it even makes that pretty clear
@@THE_MOONMAN well I tried to make the most out of a shitty situation. Did my best to explore the world around me, despite the limitations of having no money. Saw a lot of places I otherwise wouldn't give a second thought to, particularly in nature. Took a lot of time to stop and smell the proverbial roses. There were several times I just kept walking and walking until my feet were so blistered I had to stop and rest for a few days. I mean what else was there to do really lol I was never the type to stay in an encampment or anything, those places had such an aura of sadness and desperation I had to leave for my own sanity, so adventuring was my pastime, getting sleep where I could. Kinda backfired on me at one point, when a "friend" took me on a ferry to the mainland and we got separated and I was stuck alone in a completely different environment for 2 weeks. One of the times I came closest to dying out there. I slept exactly 3 nights out of those 2 weeks and I was completely out of my mind by the end of it. Even now, with the fact that I have my own money and job and I could take a trip out there again if I wanted to and it would be fine, I hesitate to leave my small city since the idea of being lost more than 50km from home again terrifies me, as irrational as it is
thats relatable to me.
@@justemoi555 it's freeing but you've got nothing. Moving out into a 170 year old cottage freed me from my mother's constant nagging and criticism. I remember a few years ago she sat there blubbing I wasn't loved enough as a child but not even TRY to stop being an asshole at the time. She's mellowed a bit now but she's also losing her marbles. She can't have a conversation as an ongoing stream of sentences. She takes each sentence like a separate statement unrelated to the last one 5 seconds ago. I have figured out the world in my own view, not my parents as I could see some things they missed like opportunities or stuff they don't fully understand. We're talking about boomers here who pretend everything the news says is the word of God.
I'm a female but holy shit I felt this to my core. I was born in '05... I've never had a relationship, I can't drive, I've never had a real job, I spend most of time in some form of childish fantasy... I have no real ambitions and I have no clue what to do with myself. I know my parents love me but I feel so useless and pathetic and it really, really hurts.
I feel like this video just reached into my head and pulled out all the things I fret about every night.
same here i was born in 05 and i just sit in my room staring at my computer screen trying to escape reality, and the thing is that i know i want to change, but i just don't know why i don't do it, maybe i just don't know how to
@@NitroGlace Look into joining the Air Force (assuming you;re in the U.S), it would get you out of your parents house and college paid for after you put in 4 years.
Don’t worry that much. I’m 24 and something I’ve learned recently is that nothing is that serious or that big of a deal. If you were born in 05 you are probably 19 and guess what, most people don’t have a job by that age. If you can, try to do stuff like hobbies or different activities that involve other people that come from different backgrounds or that have different mentalities. If you socialize a lot and push your comfort zone as far as you can, other things tend to fall into place (such as a relationship or a job) because we are all stuck in this bubble. Physical exercise and socializing make you feel a lot better as they produce dopamine and noradrenaline. Even if you don’t feel like dining something, try to do it. And try to do a lot of different and engaging things every day. I don’t know if this helps in any way but I hope it does
@@petert543found the recruiter
you’re 18 or 19 at most. You’ve been an adult for 20 minutes
Death is creeping so fast I cannot see it coming. I swear I was 21 last year but in reality im 32. It feels like next year im going to be 65 on my death bed. After health issues, the existential dread of eternity has made it into my mind like ive never felt before and I thought death was terrifying before, now it feels crippling.
I wish I could give advice but honestly, nothing I say will help you. Just get out there and live.
READ PHILOSOPHY
@DevoidVoid any recommendations?
this was really scary to read
Take shrooms, it helps with nihilism and depression. Helps with acceptance and change.
"Accustom yourself to believing that death is nothing to us, for good and evil imply the capacity for sensation, and death is the privation of all sentience; therefore, a correct understanding that death is nothing to us makes the mortality of life enjoyable, not by adding to life a limitless time, but by taking away the yearning after immortality. For life has no terrors for him who has thoroughly understood that there are no terrors for him in ceasing to live. Foolish, therefore, is the man who says that he fears death, not because it will pain when it comes, but because it pains in the prospect. Whatever causes no annoyance when it is present causes only a groundless pain in the expectation. Death, therefore, the most awful of evils, is nothing to us, seeing that, when we are, death is not come, and when death is come, we are not. It is nothing, then, either to the living or to the dead, for with the living it is not and the dead exist no longer" - Letter to Menoeceus By Epicurus
I was born in 2003. Left college. Moved out.I was learning to become software engineer. Left for an opportunity to get a job faster. Opportunity disappeared. Worked my ass off for 12-14 hours a day at a restaurant just to sustain myself. 0 time for friends. This last 2 years almost vanished. And after you said about being isolated in a small apartment I just felt it. It's so painful to realise how much time is wasted and how life is not what we imagined in our childhood.
But now I study hard to be a software developer by my own and hope that someday it will just be a bad memory.
stay hard brother, also a bit of conservativism might help, look into JBP bible stories, they have important life lessons, (not saying go to church btw) but understanding the why behind bible stories has help me in my life, I'm 25 and I felt most of what you said, not the moving out part, here in portugal u are lucking if u can leave your parents place at 34 (not joking, statistics) its just really hard for young ppl BUT, thanks for sharing, and good luck!
I believe that with this failure you got a lot of experience as the video argues. Dont beat yourself over wrong choices in life. Maybe this punch from life was what you needed to continue studying software engineering.
@@Tisrokyou are so wrong, clearly your are not a real programmer.
Exactly same bro
I don’t know you, but stay strong buddy. Life is tough. Make something beautiful out of it. And never give up❤💪🏻
Being 26, and not having gone into college immediately after graduation, it was really hard for me to watch all my friends go off to uni while I was just stuck doing manual labor. And when we would have get togethers they would all just talk about their college experiences whilst I sat there feeling completely disconnected from the guys I was friends with. In a way, I felt like a loser for not having gone straight to school even though I wasn't sure what I wanted to do.
Just letting ya know that you’re not alone. I dropped out college 5 months in (during covid lockdowns) so I did not have a chance to engage with anyone or experience college life. Since then, just been working my ass off to afford my own place. I feel desperately out of place compared to my friends who are all in college still and talk about their vibrant experiences.. while I’m just working to eat and have a place to sleep. I don’t really have a social group to go out to bars/clubbing.
If you see anyone in their 20s, they are more than likely in the same situation. So it wouldn’t hurt to just say hey and have a conversation in public.
Don't feel like a loser they are the ones that have to pay 75k to 100k a year for a degree. That is a terrible investment.
@@jamiemohan2049how is that a terrible investment 4 year engineering degree can almost guarantee a 90k+ a year job
I went to college, but I dropped out, and whilst there, couldn't really make friends. My old friends got into different colleges, so I really isolated my self in that sense. I remember when we were out with my long time friends on a trip, they were talking so much about uni, and they've had so many experiences that I just couldn't really relate to but I really wished I could. I was struggling to not burst into tears. Just stood there in silence.
I graduated this year and purposely chose a college in which I could graduate debt-free. To me, going to an expensive college and graduating in debt is a scam. I may not have had all of the stereotypical university experiences, but I did have great experiences and make many memories along the way. Looking back, I am glad I decided that being debt-free was more important than going to a big name university or having to dorm or whatnot. I chose commuting and thankfully after graduation, I am looking for a job and want to get my life in order. I am 21.@@jamiemohan2049
I was 20 in 2003 and let me tell you, the 80's/90's were the most incredible eras for a teenager. I feel really sorry for the youth of today. they seem so in a rush to be all grown up that they never actually do.
Yeah I know what you mean.
Pre 9/11 it was much better.
Speak for yourself, I was 20 around the same time and experienced the same thing spoken in this video
maybe in the US, for most of the world, the 90s-80s were nightmare, is not even comparable to present, i am so glad i was born after 2000s.
I'm the same way. But like I've always been told I'm mature for my age growing up but then suddenly something happened and I never progressed past that while everyone else grew up. So I'm like immature for my age
I feel you brother and I also do feel sorry for the future generation,since they won't gonna experience living in a time before overcorporatization and before all the covid and activist stuff...a world free of constant worry...they surely won't experience such(excluding the 2008 finantial crisys ofc)
25 and i feel like I haven't socialized w people my age in so long that now when I do, I feel an abhorrent disconnect.
I just turned 20 and can definitely see this everywhere. The sad thing is that many people feel there’s something wrong collectively, but we’re all too scared to say it out loud, let alone have conversations about it. Many people are comfortable in their escapism, like you said it’s what they live for, and it can be distressing for someone like this to be faced with their life in actuality. I think that’s why we shy away from talking to each other because we don’t want to upset our peers or overstep boundaries.
this. i feel exactly like this. each time i talk with someone i'm like "dont you guys just feel wrong" but then i keep myself in the role for the fear to upset someone or be rejected
This might just be one of the most important videos of our current generation... You're succinctly laying out everything young men today are struggling with today. Understanding what's wrong is the first step towards a better society.
Except nobody will do anything about it. Your generation has been indoctrinated into staring at their phones and living on social media all day. Most are happy doing just that. Say something that bothers a Zoomer, they'll retreat behind their phones and post about it.
Not sure how we're going to compete against China with such a weak and inexperienced generation coming into the workforce.
Find God I promise you he is the way
@@ellis1469 more like he is in the way lul
@@ehehehehehe9661 John 14:6
New International Version
6 Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.
@@ellis1469L bozo
I'm 25, I moved out when I was 20 because I didn't go to university and just went into the workforce. You're absolutely right in that everyone is 40. It also doesn't help that every single one of your co-workers defaults to treating you like a kid, so you never feel like a peer in terms of profession or maturity. You feel like a kid because everyone treats you like a kid. You could be better than everyone at your place of work at your job and still feel inferior because they just baby you in a weird way.
All your friends that *did* go to Uni/College now have new social circles, they rarely have time to see you or have you visit them, and the scarce few times you do, you feel like a guest more than anything in this new social circle that you very rarely see or interact with. And it fucks with you in weird ways, to constantly be guest to friend groups and communities without one of your own. You start feeling like there's something wrong with you because you're a kid who doesn't have "friends", because you made the mistake of thinking you're an adult now and getting a job. The people at work alienate you, and the people that once were your community now have their own communities that you're only ever going to be a guest to.
It's no wonder most young adults turn to online communities, because its the only place where they can even be part of a community. And the more time they spend in online communities, the more weirder spaces they're exposed to, and might join. It becomes an addicting spiral that detaches you from the outside reality because you pay far more attention to the online spaces instead of real life. I don't know how I managed to break that spell, but I very rarely engage in online communities these days because I've been totally absorbed before. The need to belong is a hell of a driving force.
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22M, this is word for word how life is for me now except I attempted university only for Covid to hit and make the experience absolutely miserable. Dropped out, got to work full time, everyone’s completely not relatable and sees me as the youngster and is to be treated as such, it’s extremely devaluing, being online let’s me escape all that and it sucks knowing I need to resort to such escapism to feel like I’m not being looked down upon.
I’m trying to look forward at least, might go back to college and get a diploma I actually take pride in and use (my first is music technology) to find a career that isn’t a complete dead end and I’m pushing myself to learn to drive, hopefully it’s only up from here for me
@@SPIREDOCKLATERRA
I think it's valuable to remember that for everyone on earth, to live means to struggle. The most difficult and meaningful work any of us will ever do is find meaning and purpose in that struggle. To struggle without meaning is to suffer.
I'm very happy to hear that you're looking forward, into facing the new day head on, and a goal in mind. There are always things, societal difficulties in the way, especially now when technology has far surpassed our ability to cope with it in a healthy way, and I understand that it *sucks*. Choosing to pursue anything at all in this environment is in itself an achievement, in a way.
I think this is what keeps me going, despite how bleak things look; choosing a purpose and finding meaning in pursuing that purpose.
yeah I fell into that spiral. A year ago I joined a discord for a tiktoker/youtuber and became apart of that community. Made online friends, participated in online events. I always looked forward to that. Fast forward to now, I don’t talk to any of them anymore, the discord has become dead, I’m no longer apart of a community. I’m alone now
I'm 25, literally the same story as you. Feels very strange to hear someone with the exact same experience
Thanks for this video bro. I just turned 20 too, and I feel pretty much the same way. It’s reassuring to see that I have people in the same boat as me, even if you’re all just strangers online. There’s hope for us still. Much love
I just turned 27 this year and I still feel like a kid. I don’t truly feel like an adult. It’s crazy how much active effort it takes to have a fulfilling social life at this age when you’re working 50 hours a week
Well your 27 not 21 you should feel like an adult by now
@@Demetrius416tf is the point of this comment lmao
@@Bozowomp what lol I'm just saying
@@Bozowomp 21 is a kid 27 is a grown adult that's what I meant
in the same boat man
The part about college having a monopoly on socialization was spot on. After I graduated college the isolation hit me like a ton of bricks and I was kind of angry because no one in my life told me about this or prepared me for it even though most of them went to college too.
you must be not 6'4 blonde and blue eye with angular jawline
Socialization didn’t used to end after college, America has become secularized, just 20-30 years ago we still had churches and community. So when you came back from college you would go back to your church etc where you hung out/ knew 2-300 people. The digital age has destroyed community for a lot of people.
To add to this I went out fishing this afternoon and ended up talking to another guy who was fishing. We ended up talking for 6 hours while we fished at the end he asked for my Facebook and friended me. Also I’m pretty big introvert about 70/30 suffered from depression, anorexia, can look someone in the eyes long while holding a convo, etc. I’m saying this because my issues aren’t me you have to train/work on yourself to be a more outgoing person and meet people. You can do this guys believe in yourselves 😁❤️
Must highly recommend getting involved in a church. There are many awesome churches that have small group community. It has been the second best thing I have ever done.
@@leflanged2707 I was alone for months waiting to join the air force because of a broken hand and joined a local church with a young adult group and became part of their friend group in 3 weeks. Still waiting to leave for BMT (Aug 29)
@@kirkchurchil8216 back then anyone the church didnt accelt ead fucked, black, poor , athiest, people that believe in evolution, so overall still better
i’m a 17 year old girl, turning 18 in a couple months. covid took away a good portion of my teen years. my parents are both in the medical field and took quarantine very seriously. i spent 14-15 by myself in my room. by 16 life returned back to normal. at the time i wasn’t so upset about being alone, but now i feel like i missed out on so much.
I'm 17 too and it feels as though we went from being kids to almost adults in no time at all
So many people live with constant regrets for the years they lost to one thing or another. But let me be honest. The few years you ruminate about are nothing compared to the many years ahead of you. I pretty much lost the years from age 17 to 22 to mental illness. I'm 25 now and I am guilty of ruminating about it. But the truth is I caught up tremendously in the past 3 years - I experienced things 20-year old me never imagined I could. And I will make the best of the few young years I have left, not to mention the time that comes after. I could spend so much time ruminating, but the truth is... While it is still seemingly far away and nowhere in sight, death is rushing towards me at a steady pace. It will get me someday. So I will make the best of what comes next.
This is not the time to ruminate about regrets. Go for it, you are still a curious and dynamic child in many ways. You can travel, learn, party, do good work, build a relationship, make friends... Those 2 years will become less and less significant in the story of your life as you grow older.
@@Stryfe56490% it experiences are over rated
Gimme a girl friend or give me death
(23yo depressed since 12)
I feel the same when I look back at COVID. I'm also 17 on my last year of highschool and I think you described what the pandemic felt for the 2023 graduation generation. I think that these 2-3 years we in general changed the most and that's why we think and feel that we lose a lot more of time and experience :/
Big part of being lonely is related to having no GF/BF to share your life with, women have it easier cause you dont need game to find a BF but as a man in my late 20' with almost no game even though i would define myself as a good guy, average looking and financialy stable most women will just ignore me, i dont blame women for this, its my fault for taking so long to realize that wasting my early 20' sitting in my room playing games all day was something really bad. I blame myself for being so dumb and i partially blame society for going along with this BS narrative. Dont be me, dont wake up one day and realize its too late, go out, find a bf that is a good guy instead of a fuckboy and create memories. Hopefully one day you wake up in your 30' and you have a good husband by your side and 2 kids you have to make breakfast and drive to school. Life is too short.
Man, i feel this video. As a 22 year old who is about to graduate college, i definitely feel about my lost years and how much i regret the lifestyle k lived.
It sucks since i spent my time just playing video games and not doing anything valuable and now here i am, about to enter my adulthood without actually having lived it or anything like that.
I feel like this generation is in a rough spot. What's even scarier is if you somehow beat the loneliness and obstacles and find people that make your heart warm and complete its so easy to lose them.
I went to college at 18 and did a 2 year degree and graduated this May.
During my first 2 semesters i felt so isolated and lonely. Nobody wanted me around it felt like. I invited people to go out, nobody ever accepted. I found myself going to events just wandering about the room.
But during my third semester a bunch of international students came to the college and I became very close to them. I gave them rides to shopping districts, we went ice skating, rollerskating, cooked food, and connected on various levels that i haven't felt in years. They wrote me countless letters before they left and the memories i had are irreplaceable. I made them so many hand made gifts and its just amazing.
And of course after they left i was in the same situation as beforehand. I don't know if this is an exclusively American issue, but im kind of sick and tired of how isolated people are. Throughout high school and college countless rejection even if it was in terms 9f just trying to find people to spend quality time with people.
Now i'm back home in my hometown, everyone i knew is gone. And when I try talking to people. It seems like it never goes anywhere..
What's even crazier is one of my international friends that lived across the hall from the main group i was with just invited me to go to Yellowstone National Park. She's flying all the way here just to see me and hike in the park for 6 days. And im going to Yellowstone soon a few days from now.
I met these people and spent almost four months with them And they were the best 4 months of my life.
That’s really cool. Finding close friends is a very difficult thing that only gets harder over time. I got really lucky and am still best friends with my boys from elementary school even after we’ve all graduated college now. You should keep making an effort to find friends even if they’ve known each other for a long time. I cherish my friends that have joined my group of very old friends throughout the years
absolutely brutal
wait like 5 years, trust me you'll have so much shit going on making time to do extra shit will be so minimal and your brain just grows its self up.
This is definetly not a Spanish issue, here you have the opportunity of making lots of good friends and almost everyone goes to University when you turn 18.
@@Martss_. everyone goes to university at 18?? what??
I'm a 2002. covid robbed me off from graduation experiences or experiences in general. My life has been pretty mundane since then, but im making changes slowly by doing small steps. We got this, you got this
Yoo 2002 gang! I understand you, pal
‘02 gang
@@pablothe1one imagine not knowing where you were on 9/11 (brought to you by the 01 gang)
Lol I’m not trying to be a downer, but High School graduation means nothing in the grand scheme.
@@coryjohnson2486less about that more of, never got to go to prom with the first girl I fell in love with.
Hey man, I’m about to turn 30 and I gotta say it’s impressive how self aware you are as a 20 year old. I’ve noticed a lot of people in your generation are pretty self aware, but also feeling stuck or trapped by the present situation. Growing up is hard, and it’s been made even more difficult by the world these last few years. It’s like you have to grapple with everything a normal 20 year old would, but with both hands tied behind your back.
I think you really hit the nail on the head with everything you’re talking about. The important part is that you’ve identified your struggles and potential pitfalls. You know the game that society is playing, you know your weaknesses, and you know what you’re up against.
I had it a bit easier than people your age and it still took me most of my 20s to identify those things and then figure out how I needed to solve them in order to live a fulfilled life. I’m still working on it honestly, but that’s kind of the beauty of living is that you’re always going to be working on it.
If anyone is reading this and wants some advice, find something in life you’re passionate about and dedicate time to it. The more niche the better for the most part. Then find other people who are passionate about that thing and connect with them. If you’re not in a school setting it’s one of the only ways to make friends as an adult aside from just walking up to strangers and saying hello lol
"that’s kind of the beauty of living is that you’re always going to be working on it. "
It's uncanny seeing you type this cause I've had the exact same dialogue in my head for the past 5 years and I still feel stuck.
Thank you for helping us lost souls of the younger generation we only have one advantage that we have been FORCED to recognize the pitfalls and such or face suicide and insanity.
I am 29 years old, turning 30 in October. I live far away from my family, I work for a large tech company, I occupy a position that almost anyone could hold. I've spent my 20s in total confusion, I've done a lot of different things, studied different things, but mostly I've wasted a lot of time thinking, thinking, thinking. Now that I'm reaching 30 I look back and I don't know how to put everything I've done together, they are such different experiences that putting them together wouldn't make any sense. I worked in catering, I worked in delivery, I have a bachelor's degree in painting, I sold products for two years on Amazon and I volunteered during the pandemic period, now I work in IT..
I remember that in my life I never had any dream, no passion, not even any particular interest, nothing, not even an interest in a sport or even an interest in wanting to learn a card game, any card game, nothing. Now that I'm growing up I think the only thing I can do is surrender to the needs of the job market. I'm not interested in computers, programming, IT, data, coding but I'm afraid of getting screwed by my constant confusion and indecision. I've been going to the psychologist every week for 9 months now but I really can't find a way out, I can't dedicate myself to anything, the only things I do are work, go back home, work, go back home.
I know I'm not a kid anymore but I also know that it's not that late to do something, to take charge of my life, but I mean it, I don't care about anything, I have no motivation, I have no discipline, I have no will, I just do the bare minimum to survive and it's really depressing. Sorry for the complaint, I wanted to complain a little bit about my life
"find something in life you’re passionate about" Yup, Im fucked from step 1.
Going back to this video, I genuinely think it worsened my life. Thanks
As a fellow 2003 and as someone who admits their childlike mentality, you have a very mature view about the sense of self, as well as where our generation is headed, a struggle that a lot of us don't have enough courage or support to speak about.
Dawg, ur 20. I'm 20. Of course we have a more childlike mentality than 30 year olds. Our generation (don't even get me started on how silly it is to confine sociological studies to generation, as if social class wasn't entirely more important a factor) has only had 20 years on the planet so far. Give us some time my guy. Also, "I'm afraid of where this generation is headed" is such a cop out. If everyone is so confused and lost that means its the perfect time to introduce your own ideas and your own beliefs to the world to start changing where we're headed.
@@transgenderbasketballplayer Take a look at 20 years olds a few decades ago, previous generations had their shit together by the time they were 15-17, men in the early to late 1900s had wives and children when they were 18. The generations of the 2000s and after are not growing up as fast and that's a pretty big problem.
@@Valentin_126got any stats to back up the claim that 15-17 year olds had their shit together? because as has been made very clear to me by people who've been 15-17 in the 1900s, they did not.
@@Valentin_126 I knew a couple that got married at 17 with permission from their parents. The guy bought a 5 grand Jeep with his own money on his 16th. They've been together almost 10 years and have 2 kids and a house. They're not the only ones from my highschool to be like this. Generational thinking is generalization
@@Valentin_126 most marriages happened because of community, women also had much less say in the matter, a lot of marriages were arranged by parents, like hey jim your daughter is 18 next month right? well my billy bob is 18 in 3 months, maybe we could get some dinners with our families and, etc... you get the point. it is completely another world than back then, and no they didn't have their sh*t together, that's what they tell you, but you look at the leaders of the world, your employers, parents and our economy and you can see they f*cked it all up worse than any other generation before them, stop glamorizing people that were just as idiotic as we are today, they simply didn't have the means to broadcast it en masse.
22 years old, I started watching your videos about six or seven months ago, and I felt myself stuck in that endless pointless loop of consumption and depression, and lack of purpose
Recently, however, I have made changes with my life. I committed to a career path and I’m spending all of my weeks studying and pushing myself further than I ever thought I could go.
And for once, I feel like a man not an overgrown consumer kid
Anything can happen, I wish you gerbs and other men here luck
i wish you luck too brother
22 as well, same thing. About a year ago I've made changes into becoming a man and slowly I've stopped feeling like a child. Maturity is a weird thing. I think it has more to do with acceptance than anything else.
turning 21 soon. We got this man
same bro also 22 years old trying to talk to more people and studying for final year of uni
I've always been terrible with numbers but exceptionally good with words. I'm currently going through college to pursue journalism and mass coms. I don't know if this is really what I want though, just going with the flow see if it works for me. If there's one thing I'm truly terrible at, more so than multiplying, is bending over and shilling out my soul.. which is actually a good thing in any sane morally adequate society. But in this godless mess we're all stuck in, everyone's falling over themselves to suck off that big red white and blue capitalism pp for a better salary. Everyone's proud of me for landing in college. I'm just doing what we're expected. Seeing the current state of the world, as an aspiring journalist, I wish the worst to happen for everyone and I root for the destruction of modern civilization so that we'll drop our gadgets and bullshit, and see what truly matters.. each other and God.
I’m 25 and I went to college for STEM and had scholarships that helped me through. I know it was worth it for the degree I got. The only thing I’d mention is that yes you will make friends in college, but eventually everyone just goes their own way. So it is more of a temporary solution for finding those new social circles rather than a permanent one. I think it does help some in the future just getting out of your shell when you get out though.
I'm a Statman myself, and I get what you're saying. I'm only 20, and this scares me. I know that all of my friends will leave, but I don't want them to.
@@wetwillyis_1881 Sometimes in life you got to expect people going away from your life. I'm Sophomore in university and most of my friends from Highschool have gone different ways. I don't even contact them expect a few but I have made alot of friends in college. When I had to join college, I was scared as heck too.
I had spend my entire childhood in my city but the college I chose was in another city, so I damn well knew that no familiar faces would be there. It was hard for me, being an alien in another city knowing that I had too restart my social life meeting new people.
In the end it turned out well, I met alot of interesting people and am having fun with them. I know that when I graduate college, I won't be seeing most of them but that's perfectly fine, that's how life goes. All that matters is living a life you enjoy that you can take to your death bed, feeling nostalgic in your last hours.
You should check out a UA-camr called 'Anthpo'. He made videos on different things, but the message he spread still resounds with me - Doing something, anything( it doesn't have to be things of grandeur but even little things) in life which give you joys and the people around you.
what stem major?
@@redwhanchoudhury4183 Mechanical Engineering
also 25, and im not in contact with anyone from college anymore, as you said everyone went their separate way, and now I wake up and realize it was all like a dream
I’m 27 and felt this to my core. I have had a decent amount of life experiences pre 2020 though. I swear I experienced so much in high school alone. My girlfriend of 7 years recently left me abruptly, I was forced to leave my town and chase a better job. I now live in a studio apartment in a town where I don’t know anybody, I commute to work and the sense of community I had at my old job is gone. I have a decent job, come home to my shitty studio apartment to play video games all night or go to the gym surrounded by beautiful women I couldn’t care to talk to. My life is regimented, lonely, and mostly boring now. I haven’t had any recognizable experiences in the last 4 years
This is spot on. I'm 23 now (a girl). Some people have pointed out that I look like a teenager. I spend day in and day out on the internet and in my daydreams, addicted to consuming the escapism they offer. I've been feeling exactly the way you described ever since I was 17/18 and time in the past 5 years or so has just gone by so fast. I feel like an old lady stuck in a body that yearns to be just...active, like I used to be when I was a child. I sometimes literally just get this random urge to go outside and run at top speed. I used to love running as a child, but haven't felt the rush of that kind of dumb childlike fun in forever. It feels like I'm wasting my time and that time is seemingly passing by faster and faster (and my youth along with it). This sh*ts gotta change, I don't know how yet, but I'm gonna change.
@megabooooo2999 Hard to say. We didn't have internet at home until I was about 12, so there's that. And I wouldn't say I struggled too much to fit in. I didn't _feel_ like I fit in necessarily, but I wasn't a loner. I've always had a small group of friends/neighbours with whom I played/hung out with almost every day. But it's true that I didn't really leave the house after school to hang out with my school friends. Partially because it wasn't an option (my mother would have had to drive me to wherever I'd need to go and well she was at work all day...single parent household btw). But in all honesty, being a rather asocial introvert, the idea of hanging out with friends after spending all day with them at school already was less than appealing. School friends were just school friends to me. I was more than happy to spend the rest of my time at home with my siblings (with whom I've always been very close with, we never really fought and such). Of course I spent most of my time at home on the internet in some way or form. The internet was not something I used to socialize with though. Social media never interested me that much (still doesn't, unless you count youtube of course). And I've been playing video games all my life, but never felt the need to use a mic to communicate with other players online. But there was a noticeable decline in overall happiness once both my siblings left the country to study abroad (I'm the youngest, so they left before me). So for 2 years I was basically all alone with my mom (with whom I'm also very close, but it's a slightly different dynamic as the one I have with my siblings of course). Depression definitely kicked in from seemingly out of nowhere. This would be when I was 15-16. So in that period at least I think I was socially deprived with my siblings not being around anymore. At 17 I moved to the same country as my siblings and while the first few years here were even tougher (adjusting to a new country, starting university, living on my own for the first time, not having any friends etc.) things started going much better with me afterwards and it's been about 2-3 years now since I left that depression bs behind me.
I'm lucky to have gotten what was essentially a fresh start at the point of my life when I was beginning to get really depressed. But even now there's still that feeling of emptiness and like I'm wasting my time with the bad habits that I developed in those years by being on the internet so much. It's hard for me to find joy in anything that doesn't involve a screen. I think it's made worse by the fact that I know what it was like as a kid to not have internet at all times and just spend every day being active, both physically and socially. I now miss that feeling/way of life and just know in my gut that this internet lifestyle isn't healthy for me and doesn't truly feel fulfilling.
The whole being fluent at english thing due to this is definitely relatable though. I also speak with a mostly American accent despite not being a native english speaker (I'm from a third world country in the Caribbean, currently live in western Europe). But I see this as a win.😁
@megabooooo2999 Thank you and I completely agree. I think starting out with a new outdoorsy hobby could be a start. Not sure what I want to do yet but I'll figure it out. Hope all is well with you and if not, I hope things get better soon.☺
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Same boat here, im a guy and I haven't aged physically or mentally since my sophomore year. I even got called a freshman constantly my entire senior year 😂 it's been a year and a half since I've graduated, and its been flying by so fast and slowly at the same time.
I quit college after 2 semesters and ever since then ive spent alot of time trying to find a sense of self and creating a legitimate path for my life, instead of just doing what other people want me to do, its why i quit in the first place. So I decided that I am officially going to become a pilot and my classes start in January of 2024, and i dont plan on doing it forever either, its just a starting point for now. I got sick of being in this stagnant part of my life, and its about damn time for a change. This is the first time ive felt a true sense of direction and excitement for the future, and I feel that I'm ready to take this first step. I hope you too find whatever your looking for, because I know that feeling, and I still feel it from time to time in this waiting period im in. You should look deep into yourself and find that passion you had or have had before about something, and see if it's a viable career or life path. Even if it seems crazy, you should try it anyways because you never know, plus, your young! You dont have to do it for your whole life. So if you REALLY love it, then you already got the first part down. Now you just gotta manifest it 🤌 anyways good luck and i hope you find the change your looking for!
@@felixfam0481 Thank you and good luck to you as well. And I totally agree, you don't have to keep doing the same things for the rest of your life. People change all the time and as long as you're following your current passions you will most likely feel at least somewhat fulfilled. Even if times are hard. Of course we first gotta know what our passions are, but we'll figure it out eventually I'm sure.
This video filled me with so much existential dread. Just turned 22 and this resonated with me like nothing else has. Thank you for inspiring me, its never too late to start living :)
It does feel too late when you look and it seems many others were living it years before you. Thinking about that and how behind I am just makes me short circuit. I'm recently 22 as well, life isn't really ruined, but I have little prospects and am comparatively behind.
Same here I look back on my childhood/teenage years and sometimes wish I could go back with all the the financial burdens placed on me
@@m1r197same here. Not surprised since I'm a subhuman incel.
Why aren't you doing it then?
I turn 22 in a week. I feel you bro
As a guy who’s also 20 born in 2003, I really resonated with these topic. You basically reached into my brain and pulled out all the things I overthink about every night
Bro I just turned 20 on Halloween and I’m still muted I have good opportunities, I really want to train mma and go back to college; but life has dragged it but I don’t want it to be too late.
I'm almost 30 and it still feels like I'm 18. Everyone I went to school with is getting married and having kids, and I still haven't had a proper relationship yet. I don't have anything close to a career. I also feel like the past few years have been stolen from me, as if everyone's trajectory was permanently derailed during the lockdowns.
I turn 21 in August and you really hit the nail on this one man. At 18 the age of 21 felt so distant and now it’s here, these last 3 years flew by so incredibly fast and I feel robbed of these years tbh.
3 years isn’t long, go out and live
Same I also turn 21 in august the biggest thing I've noticed is peoples personality's are fabricated Its hard to find real genuine people that wont put on a mask for their benefit.
lmfao wait until 21 to 30, it feels like 15-25 only it happens 10x as fast
after that the wall that is death is practically racing towards you, but for real tho
I also turn 21 in August. I feel like I've missed the majority of my life from age 17.
Waiting around any longer will not feel any better. The pain of change is the same as the pain of remaining the same, and I choose to change.
me too man, 21 in september. its so crazy to think about, this video really touched on everything on my mind for the past year and its crazy to see so many others in the same boat.
this hit way harder than I was expecting. When lockdown first hit my reaction was "nice, online classes i can have on in the background while i play binding of Isaac", but that quickly changed. I basically lived day to day just keeping myself alive waiting for the boys to hang out. I never even ended up graduating. The sheer loneliness snowballed fast, but with everyone having their own things to do it wasn't an issue i had control over. This is still the case but maybe something meaningful will happen throughout my life eventually
it won't just happen to you-- you have to *do* it. make it happen. it may take years, months, days, but you will make a change.
That’s your fault for staying in. My family’s and I view on this whole plan-demic was “Fvck Covid” and still went out and hung out. No cold flu will k!ll us.
this is exactly where im at. i dropped out of high school n tbh the loneliness is unbearable most days but it help knowing other ppl going through the same shit
It sounds like you totally lost momentum, I think a lot of people relate to you on this.
Man, am I the only one that was great full for the lockdown?
I hated high school all through out it, so a whole year without it was a true blessing
When I was in 5th grade my teacher told us to never stop learning because it will make time move slower. I always took that to heart and I’m in the tech field so I am continuously learning. My perception of time feels the same as it did 10 years ago. It’s something interesting to think about especially when I asked my parents and they said a month for them would feel like a week when they were my age.
this whole past 7 months felt like only 4 months man 😔
I wish that applied, but I remember learning things in school every day and the whole year still disappearing in a flash… but maybe that’s just the post-Covid perception of time
Same. I've always been a nerd and I have set too many goals and directions for learning. I'm not bored, I have so many things to improve at. But some people do not have this drive for knowledge, so it's much harder for them to navigate contemporary life.
This comment is going to stick with me
Thank you.
I'm constantly learning new things but still feel like it's 2018, coincidentally that was around the time I started heavily learning new stuff.
Dude you are literally me. Everything you described yourself as is literally me. I’ve never dated anyone in my entire life, I am a late bloomer, I only have like one or two friends, and COVID made me lose track of time. Great video!
This hurts man, I’m 22, my best friend 24, and we both live with our parents, and are so intensely depressed that there really isn’t any option to get out of it
That's the scary thing man. I'm 24 and in the same situation, and I don't know HOW to get out. I want to leave and start my life but I just don't know how.
Why is that even a bad thing? Lol
@@carnage0685influence from internet or younger people who are not in their parent homes
@@carnage0685 because people want a life of their own, being able to explore the world, and etc. Not being stuck inside their parent house all day
Maybe you too can get a place together?
Just turned 21 and I feel this video describes how I’ve felt for a while. I feel like I’ve been mentally stuck at 16 and like I’ve plateaued in growth. This video really helped me feel seen and I think I know what I should do moving forward
Same here man. Turning 21 really put me in a bad place mentally. I just wish I knew where to go from here.
It such a relief to me that so many other people feel this way.
im 21 too... and since i was 17 ive already stopped wanting to become older. powerless. it seemed like my childhood and school was so good. why didnt it continue forever
@@lillotusplays because you were meant for more my brother !
I moved out a few months ago, easily the worst decision of my life. I’m 18 living, essentially, completely alone. I live two hours from my hometown, and after we graduated my friends and myself have gone our separate ways. What you said about the trade industry is so true. I’m working in an off road vehicle shop, and everyone there is a good 20 years older than me. They’re nice, but I can’t connect fully. It’s funny how you can be so surrounded by people and still be so alone.
I got used to the isolatation. ☠️
Dam I planned on making friends at work, I’m almost 20 and going through school, but maybe I need to pick a hobby after work?
My best friends from work were always 10-20 years older than me. Your isolation is self imposed by the stupid idea that you cant be friends with older people.
brutal
@@kellapeer same, the workplace is my only hope in making friends now because I'm too dumb for college
Graduated hs in 2020 and these past 4 years have been a blur
I'm 25 now. And i definitely felt this.
I've been stuck in a teenage rut post teens. I've been unemployed for long periods of time. I've been lost in the escapism sauce.
If i have one piece of advice for anyone. It's to get out of your comfort zone and grind. Because only once you stop trying. Is when you have truly lost.
I agree. You guys who are 19, 20, 21 please please start doing the shit you need to do NOW. Hit the gym in the morning, go to work and have a problem to solve, read a book like Mastery by Robert Greene and learn more skills and educate yourself beyond what school gave you. On your day off, go approach a woman and talk to her, make it playful but don't be needy, plan a vacation with the money you have while you're young. I'm in the same boat as OP. Trust me you do not want to be here when you're in your mid 20s and you better not be still here when you're in your 30s. Keep working and good luck gentlemen. You got this!
I just really want to add to this that this advice never helped me as I was already deep in the mental sh*ts. If any of you feel you really can't get the holds to start anything you want to do, concider you might need help. I had to crash hard first to ask for help as I thought I was doing fine and just focusing on school, while in reality I didn't do anything new, didn't build any new (social) skills and simply used school as an escapism for the rest of life.
Don't just grind. Find something you're willing to do 90 hours for the rest of your life.
I'm 34 and i don't care anymore
Bro, always with the hit the gym shit. Not everyone has to go to gym bro, can you believe that?
I appreciate that other young men or other young people are starting to vocalize, organically, these things that older generations have measured, specifically, in a clinical sense. Because it’s real. “Lonely men with no brotherhood”. Thank you for making this video
For somebody who is only 20 years old and was capable of dictating the story of getting into the workforce. I was shocked. You hit the bullseye on exactly what I am going through. The crazy part is I am older than you. I am 30 years old. But my coworkers are all 45+. There is no community. No comradere. Everyone is individualized and the personality is to perform, clock-in and out.
I am struggling to decipher where or how to find my tribe. Where to find a community I can truly connect with.
So. What to do? Go back to school? Find another job? Change cities? Roam the city? The loneliness epidemic is truly an elephant in the room. Lastly. You made great points on how your generation is muted in technology and medication. The dopamine merry-go-round. But that was also true of many millenials. I got to only experience the wild and free "live outdoors, and roam the forest" vibes prior to the internet being a thing. After that. Everyone got sucked into the computer lifestyle. It happened quick. Almost overnight nobody was outside. We were all exploring the web.
Luckily I took a world backpacking trip for 1 year and experienced more than I ever did in my last 10 years. It truly felt like I was in a time chamber. It felt like 4 years, but in reality only 1 year had passed. If you want to know the secret to living a good life. Keep the novelty of life going. Routines are only sending us to an early grave. Keep your friends and family close. Cherish them. Open to others. Moments can last a lifetime when you look back at them fondly. I sure do.
Fr I’m 22 and been working at Amazon since I was 19 full time , the people around me are mostly older people that have no responsibility’s. It motivates me to learn what I can and get a higher ranking position so I don’t have to be a grunt until I’m 45😂😂.
@@itsrass1378bro works for Amazon, it’s so over
Once we have the money to travel the world. We will. Everyone loves to travel.
But no one has the money to afford traveling.
You have to find things to become passionate for. AKA explore hobbies and interests that you may have set aside for this money goal.
I For example, I love to study nature, so I wound up in many environmental volunteer groups. Many of the other members have degrees in various scientific fields. The walks and talks on these hikes, I never get to reach such depths of conversation anywhere else. They actually want to go into detail, they want me to as well.
I'm used to most other people in every other setting shutting down those same deep thoughts. Not with them, they are happy to see young people like me actually trying to help and give a shit.
The Majority of my great friends are older than I am by at least a decade. I also played on a trivia team and took State with them a few times. Again my passion for information lead me to an activity that I could say is worthwhile. I have a great disdain for media and politics, but another team mate is helpful there. I bring Music, Art, Science and Math. They bring their own interests as well and we knock it out the park most times!
Find things that you like to do, seek out groups that also like to do them. I'm not very social naturally, I have Asperger's actually. However, even we have a type of people we feel comfortable around. That's the keyword, comfort.
I'm not sure how much of this you've already attempted, if my assumption is flat out wrong then I apologize in advance lol. Otherwise I just hope to help someone else struggle less and help others when they can as well.
@@supersonicguru1
Look, if you really want to get something done. Generally speaking if you were looking for ANYTHING to get better than this is my advice:
1. Put it down as the goal this week
2. After you write what the goal is, write this "RESULT:" Leave that blank until the end of the week.
3. Until you reach that point of end of week, note anything that derailed you from the goal or note success stories along the way.
4. Now that the week is over, be honest about what happened and write how the project this week resulted.
5.(opt) If plan was unsuccessful, you have notes and a written result to make a new plan from.
Rinse and repeat. Watch Success happen.
So,
WEEK1
Goal: Get a job. Resume empty
Note1: I need to look for a job that ANYBODY can apply to. Entry level. Min wages.
...2 : Found some restaurants and other businesses to apply to.
....3 : Sent in some applications
...so forth: Some calls back of both disinterest and others wanted to interview
RESULT:: I have interviews lined up for a prospective new job.
REPLAN or NEXT(Variable as to whether needed or not, I typically do it anyway if more needed to happen)::: Successful prior step taken so, Go interview, if hired Use job to save for better form of transportation. If not, look again or make calls to employers you weren't going with first.
Honestly if you do something like this any time you want to make a goal happen, it should. Sure you might cater it to your own liking but the important part is you made it work out. There are problems to be solved, you are capable of solving them.
Last tip: STICK TO IT AND DON'T GIVE UP OR ANYTHING YOU SAY REGARDING INTEREST IN GETTING BETTER AT IT IS JUST YOU TALKING OUT THE REAR END. Good luck buddy, you got this!
I feel 16 when I was 20 as well, even today when I'm 22. I got cronical illness when I was born. Never socialized with anyone, never grown mentally besides thinking about my past by myself. My parents divorced, and ignored my feelings everyday. Somewhere in my 19, I witnessed my grandma pass away. No one was there except me the second she pass away. And afte surviving all that, I did something so bad I could only think of my self as "bad person". It doesn't feel fair! Why after all my suffering I get this! I hate life and I just want to end it!
I hate how much I needed to hear this. Im still a kid, I’ve got time to spend, but I’m just throwing it away. I spent most of my summer playing video games, didn’t meet with friends, and it’s my fault. After seeing this, I’m gonna change. This video is the motivation I needed, thank you man.
Those are true King words, onwards brother!
Hell yea man
You go boy! Take the phone and call a friend or a cousin, hang out outside, meet people at the library, anything! What worked for me at some point was to gather people around a project, a creative one. Nothing is more human than to gather around a project. I hope you'll find what you seek for.
I'm lucky to not be one of the young men he was talking about. I went to college, graduated, I have a job and I'm not a rampant consumer who lives his entire life in escapism.
However, a lot of this still applies to me. I still live with my parents (I could live on my own, but all parties understand that doing so would be a poor financial decision), I live in their basement. I have no friends irl. I have never been in a relationship, I haven't even fooled around with anyone like Gerbert says he has, and everyone around me is way older than me so there's little hope of me ever changing that. I'm at the age where my parents had me, and there's so much they experienced that I haven't. My friends look at me and think "Wow, he's got a good job and is good with money." and I'm just thinking to myself "I'm a fucking loser."
What can I do to change this? I don't know. I'm trying to exercise, eat healthy and pursue my hobbies after work, but none of this makes me feel any better about my situation. My parents taught me to always save money, so I am an obsessive saver who never experiences anything new. I grew up being belittled and insulted by everyone around me, so I've always felt like no one wanted to talk to me let alone date me.
No matter what I do, I feel like I'm hopeless to be this worthless piece of shit who will always be alone, and I don't know what I can do to fix this. I guess I'll just have to get lucky in the future.
@@PixelatedFear hi man! I I haven't a lot of advices for I am still trying to figure out this stuff. But if I could recommend you something, one thing, is to travel. Not traveling with plane or tourist kind of bullshit, travel for real. Get a backpack and walk, or hitchhike. Go on the road! A system is available for change when it's limits are reached. You seem like a guy who does a lot of effort and I wish I could do the stuff you do (I'm trying), but maybe something you need is a bit of out of bounds? Especially if you are in a 9-17 kind of job, or hesitate to spend. Don't spend, just go. You don't have rent, no gf, just leave a little! Try a few days, then a week, then more!
It won't find you friends, but seeing what the country is made out of is impressively efficient to find solutions and gain lucidity on your life. Don't count on luck arriving, increase the surface of your luck by moving.
Anyway, maybe it's not what you need to hear, but that's what I think at the moment. I wish you all the best.
Just turned 21 and felt exactly like this, I’ve spent a lot of time spinning my wheels in the dirt for these reasons. Amazing essay film, I really love the honest handmade style and aspects of digital brutalism with the fonts, it’s really great to see our generation start to define a cohesive voice and style.
There is no cohesion whatsoever within this content. It's poor excuses from a limited perspective about things they can't understand. It can be tough at that age, I know I did it already. I know for sure, there's nobody else to blame for your current state, it's just what it is. You can change it, but it's on you. If you're lonely, get out there and meet people, find events you'd like to attend. It's not at all supposed to be like a movie, none of the pleasures and joys in life are guaranteed simply because you're here. You've got to go get it. Figure out where you want to go and plot a realistic course, and don't try to skip steps to the good part, it won't work that way.
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I'm already 27 but I can relate tons. Past 7 years are a vague blur, like I never experienced them. Still feel like a 18 year old, just older and less socially appropriate in my cluelessness. As others have said your insights on life and the current state of affairs at just 20 years old is really impressive. You'll go places, I'm pretty sure.
Same here, 26 and feeling clueless like a kid, wasted the past 7 years of my life being on a futureless path, now im doing things I should have done when I was 19.
I just turned 31 and I feel like I've wasted the last decade of my life
agree with the vague blur of our past years
@@PBart7 Im bit older... and lets say... Problem didnt start with Gen Z. But with Milenials ( introduction of Internet and all taht came with it ) . BUT no one ever talk about it.
Im closer to my 40's then my 30's . and lets say i still feel like im in my 20's, i was always alone.
2 years ago cashier did stop asking me for ID when i buy alkohol thats how young i still look.
Relationships with women? yeaa right , dream on pal. WOmen my age have now such big baggage its better to avoid them.
same here, 27 and dont know how i got here.
im 37, my son is 16 right now. i see alot of this in him, and hear it.
I'm nearly 40 myself but I can relate. On a deeper level of being-- you shook me with this insight. There is no book anymore; no rules that work. There is no "color inside the lines" recipe anymore. But, with that said, I believe fiercely that your generation has the empathy, altruism, and power to craft a new book with new lines. If you feel like you can't change the world, maybe it's because you're making an entirely new one-- I think that's awesome. As for me, I believe in you. Zoomers, you've got this. Sorry we mucked stuff up.
Zoomer here. I'm not social or into social events, but I feel like offering to have a drink. Y'know?
@@weirdlypicturedbeing2122 bottoms up, friend. If we ever run into each other on the hull of starship earth. Drinks are on me
Our generation is cooked
but youngers are easy to manipulate so they are creating the world that billionaires corpos want
I believe 40 year olds are on the edge of this chage, where they can witness non digital natives just a few years older than themselves and appreciate the technology for how it can be maxamized. Vs a current 20 year old only has older digital natives to reference from, no objective non technology old guys to reference off like 40 year olds
I am 22 years old and have felt like I was the only one living in the view point of this video. I thought I was apart of a small percentage of people that thought or did exactly what this guy does. It is insane to think that your not alone in feeling as if you are alone. I wish to live a day where our generation will see life for how it is suppose to be lived. I don't wanna escape reality anymore, I just want to live. I wish most people would feel the same to.
Bro, I feel you
Same. I’m so isolated in that I’ve never had TikTok and have watched with my own eyes how’s it’s changed society and peoples brains. It’s disgusting
Same dude
I feel the same man. I hate how this become. One of the biggest realizations I had was how programmed I am to my past experiences and how I just give up because it didn’t go the way I did.
I am so used to all this crap and I’m
Trying to change. And that is hard. The limiting beliefs are holding me back, I feel paralyzed.
I was wondering why I hurt my self so much and I realized how the people around me would constantly put me down. And I am trying to change that. It’s very hard to stop seeing my self as a failure and having this constant reminder.
Im a first generation in USA, and all my life I have been told to be successful and when I fell, I was always put down for it. And I realized how focused on my failure I have been and still am.
What am I to do now? That’s what I’m figuring out.
Im 22 now and this video is pretty spot on. I was pretty much that guy in college who just went home after class and never made any long lasting relationships like having a gf or having out with the 'boys' which only got worse when covid hit. Looking back it's like where did all that time go? It feels like mostly a daze spent on games or anime after coming home from my 9-5 routine gig these days. I think my only hope now to gain some character development is living a nomadic lifestyle to make up for all those lost experiences by travelling.
Join the communist part frfr
@@Potatotenkopf gross
I feel you man
@@Potatotenkopf so yall can share women, right comrade ?
I’m 36 and just got out of a 5-year relationship with the woman I thought I was going to marry. I am completely lost- no kids, no identity. I do have a little bit of money in my savings though (not a TON tho). I’m thinking of starting to plan solo trips. I have 3 weeks of vacation each year… I need to start using them in a positive way.
The love part really gets me. I’m 33 in 8 days and all my hope and motivation for love has absolutely disappeared for the first time in my life.