I've been ignored my whole life and I still am being ignored (but when people need something from me, they act like best mates). But this doesn't mean that I will change for people who ignore me, it means I have to find new people. Real friends don't ignore you. If they do (it also depends on the circumstances!) they're not your friends. End of.
People ignore you because you are not useful for them. Don’t help them with your money. You will definitely lose money and friendship. Help them when they need some help. Talk less don’t hangout in unnecessary situations. Never share your personal secrets. You should ruthlessly cut bad friendships.
ive cut a very bad relationship and friendship right out of my life its was toxic from the begining with him now i am careful who i make friendships with
I've been ignored by almost everyone my whole life, but i'm personally not interested in a step by step guide on how to get people to stop ignoring you. If people don't wanna talk to you there's no need to even try to keep talking to them. Just find better friends, even if it means having fewer friends. Never beg for anyone's attention.
This goes deeper than friends. There are people in your life that you'll need to make listen to you at some point, whether it be a boss, a police officer/judge, a girlfriend.. This isn't about begging for attention, it's about being assertive and commanding attention.
J Morgan hit the nail on the head. It is not about being popular. It's about confidence and self esteem. Get what You want! And then get more! Life's about having more
yup agree .i passed that road in my life.if any one ignors me when i try to get closer to them i just leave them even if it's hard for me (i mean crush & girls that i liked but they didin't like me) 7b in the world u can alwayse find better ;)
I always feel lonely because I just wanna fit in but I feel like when I try to make friends I can't cuz people just don't want me there... it's like the world is against me...
Bigwavesparkles Your not alone and Im sorry you feel that way. I have felt this way too and i find when im happy like really happy n having a good day that positivity is radiant and you know what people see it n FEEL it and will engage with you. It starts with you and finding your happiness. I wear my heart on my sleeve and im highly intune n sensitive and have learned that light attacts light. Happiness..
short summary. 1. ask less questions and make more statements about the other person. for example, wow you have long hair ect. 2. Talk less about yourself and relate more to the other person or group. 3. change your questions into statements
red pill psychology give inconsistent advice that makes pepole confused "get people to talk about them selfs" "don't ask questions" "control the frame" how? You can't do that with put asking questions
“Asking a question puts you in a submissive position.” “A student asks questions. A teacher makes statements.” “A soldier requests orders. The General gives them:” Never thought of that. Thanks!
Everyone hates me no matter what they ignore I’m left out always it’s gotten so bad I don’t care if I’m ignored, hated and left out I prefer to be alone I always go places we’re no one expects someone to be. All these occur at school I don’t do anything at home and I when I leave school nothing will change and I don’t care if it doesn’t
The funny thing is, there are a lot of people who have ignored me for years and years... then they wonder why I appear rude towards them, when they happen to be walking by me in a grocery store... for example: you see someone who has consitently ignored you, you make eye contact for a split second and you KNOW they recognise you... then you keep walking without saying hello... then you can tell from the corner of your eye they are looking over their shoulder wondering "why did he not say hello?" Sometimes I think that is the best way to treat these people.
Same thing applied to me my own fucking family ignores me expect my dad and my brother But in public I expect to be ignored because I don’t know these ppl like I do with my own flesh and blood that’s why I’ll either ignore back or be a rude asshole to ppl because that’s how I feel about society in the 21st century?
We should get all the outsiders together, start a reality show, then the worst outsiders get voted off the island one by one, until there is one ultimate outsider left. We can call the show Outsider Island.
I have friends who aren't afraid of questions, and answer them no problem, without feeling threatened. Some friends, though, clam up when asked certain questions I think they simply have no interest in answering, and I think that's lazy and selfish. Friendships are give and take, and honestly, friends who clam up when I need to know something important that will make my life easier, no matter the approach, aren't very committed friends. I am going to start investing more in friends who act as if my needs are important.
People ignore you? They are all jealous trust me I experienced this. Nice video, but I think that nobody should change to have friends. Ignoring someone is actually a prove that other people CARE about you. That's because they all hate you and the fact that you do the things you really want without caring what others think. So please don't change yourself for others, don't do it
I would never use this statements over questions thing with my real friends. Because if they ignore me they are not my friends. Random people I would use statements over questions to keep the conversation going. It feels like acting for me tho.
that's what i thought (and experiencing much) but my prove to it is that i do have people that love to get with me and then there are specific type of people that not just ignore they feel frustrated by me and ignore on purpose. so there could be 2 reasons. 1. they hate. 2. you're boring. BUT - an impressing individal can't expect people to like him just because he is impresive, because sometimes you can "outshine the """master""" " (cause jelaousy). an impressing individual must develop ability to make people feel good (love themselves more) and those suggestions in this video aiming towards this. so he's righ after all..
Xy Yx Could you please re-write what you’re meaning to say? I can’t follow you When you leave out words when writing a sentence. You’re saying that People ignore you because they are jealous? You write: “Ignoring Someone is actually a prove that other people care about you”. What Does that mean? My sister ignored me for half of my life. She’d come Home from school and I would try to talk to her, and she would just Start talking to someone else in the room. She did this in her 30’s Too, after she had kids. She ignored me for half my life, and now She wants to be friendly to me. When I asked her why she did it, I got no reply. Jealousy does not make sense, if that’s what you Are trying to say?
B.D W Some people just refuse for whatever reason, to open up to have a discussion. Not much we can do about that. I’m not spending moments of my life after A certain time, to try to get them to talk. I refuse to do most of the talking.
Xy Yx I’m not sure what you’re talking about. Are you trying say that the people who ignore me CARE about me, because they are jealous of me?? If they care about me, why are they jealous? Why do they ignore? And why do they hate?
Nobody would hang out with me..even if I was alone...they never let me speak...it makes me loose my confidence...i cry almost every day...i feel like I have depression bc i feel like nobody loves me anymore
They never let you speak or you choose not to speak, cuz they might ignore you and if they do yes you will feel a lil bad, but you know what fuck them im pretty sure you know someone who listens to you. Meet 10 new people this month and see how many of them end up becoming friends with you. If none its a you problem, if 1 or more those people are either jealous, think your boring, or they think your annoying or they think your low value like the bums ignored on the street giving off low value behaviors. If you find your only ignored by girls and not guys its prob how you present yourself and vice versa. If your ignored by both its a combo of everything. Not everyone will like you, most people who ignore you either find you boring or annoying, most people dont have a reason to be jealous, I ignore people that i dont like and find annoying,however i hate ignoring people cuz i myself know how it feels
I can relate.I don't understand, I never do anything annoying or negative, I'm always nice and happy but when I try to speak, I have to say the persons name multiple times to get their attention, but when I do that, they think I'm annoying because of that, and be mean.Whenever I do get noticed, I get bullied, and I cry because of that.I feel like the whole world is against me which makes me feel like I don't deserve to be here, but at the same time I try, but for some reason it never works...But I understand where you are coming from, it's good to know that I'm not the only outsider here.
I often do get ignored... But all I really talk about around the people I am ignored by is other people. . . I'm usually trying to be very happy and when I do act happy and be funny everyone pays attention and likes me... But then if I feel sad and show it which is rare... I'm just ignored and called over dramatic... . . .
You need to work on your communication skills... the problem with being "too quiet" is that eventually people will actually think that ignoring you is the most polite way to treat you... because if they have tried to talk to you in the past and you have not continued the conversation, they are NOT going to think to themselves "this person must be worth all this silence," they will talk to others and pretend you're not in the room... I am not saying that you deserve to be ignored, but if you continue to not work on your communication skills -- people won't pretend that you are "better" than someone who talks a lot more, If you get what I'm saying -- if you don't communicate, people will eventually assume you are signed up to be that way forever.
Honestly a lot of people get ignored simply bc of physical unattractiveness and it’s largely beyond their control. To make matters worst, it’s socially acceptable to outright discriminate against unattractive people.
When I went to University ( lasted 5 years), I talked to roughly 6 people - once each. I never gave a crap that nobody talked to me. I chose math, as it's a solitary subject, and I like my solitude. Screw people.
This video was actually pretty good. I still don't think this guy's material is truly red pill, but this particular video was genuinely perceptive and insightful, and it contained a lot of practical, useful information.
Gonna have to agree with undercover, asking a question doesn't put you in a submissive position. People don't give one word answers because questions are submissive low-value or you are qualifying to people , people give one word answers because they either: 1. Don't know how to make conversation 2. Not comfortable , not in a good mood or don't want to talk to you. If you believe that making a statement will make you more attractive or is high value because its outcome independent you are delusional. You can be outcome independent (which is a really good thing) by asking questions. It's all about your intent expectations and how you react emotionally and with body language (something that can't be faked and needs to be learned with practice). Definitely value in getting people talking about themselves tho.
BrainCeps 👏🏼👏🏼well said. I stopped watching rest of the video just because how he thinks asking questions will make him look less of independently strong.
MindOverMatter I can see from both points of view, and I believe a balance between questions and statements is the perfect solution. I personally LOVE when people ask me questions because it makes me feel important, and like I’m the center of their attention and focus. Also, I’ve read in a lot of books that asking people questions makes them feel important. (We are all slightly narcissists). The trick here is knowing when or what kind of questions are appropriate. But you definitely can’t rely only on statements for conversations.
Saying stuff like, "The student asks questions, the teacher makes statements. The employee asks questions, the boss makes statements" actually makes no sense what so ever... They only act like that because it's their position or rank. They didn't get where they are by making statements. They had to ask questions first. Every general started as a soldier, every teacher started as a student, and most bosses who didn't start off as a employees to begin with are usually not as successful as the ones who did.. So no, asking questions is not a bad thing. People who sit around and make statements all day are usually full of shit. You gotta learn before you speak, and if you just make statements all the time, you're still going to get ignored because everyone will start to think you're a prick... When a cop pulls you over, he asks you questions and you give statements. If you think for one second that you have the power in that conversation, you're delusional.
Never thought of questions that way. Very interesting. Im going to have to think through this quite a bit. I spend some time daily pawing through the Tube looking for something striking. This was a big find. Very profound to me. Thanks! EDIT: Ok I gave it some thought and I think the counter argument is that asking questions puts you in a position of power. The parent asks the child about something they did, expecting an answer. The teacher tests the student by asking, expecting a answer. The general asks for a report, the soldier must provide it. When a person gives a minimal answer, it could well mean you have exercised power over them... they preferred not to answer but in order not to seem rude, or whatever, they did something against their will because you made them do it. But your approach to questions is still an interesting idea and could be useful, because if a person replies to your statement it might indicate a more voluntary response or greater interest in talking to you.
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I'm absolutely convinced this is the most powerful video on all of UA-cam.
People: you should talk more Me: okay *me tries to talk to people* *gets ignored* People: well then you should talk more Me: *talks more* People:omg you’re so annoying
Never talk if you don't have something interesting to say and by interesting I mean in the interest of the other person for example something good you can do for them : how are you +try to solve their problems. Don't talk about the small details of your life or anything not interesting.
A lot of people at my school ignore me and not because they are jealous but I don't know why! I have to call their name like 15 times to get their attention but they just yell "WHAT!?!" every time! But when I start to talk they ignore me two seconds into the conversation I never knew why so I just assumed people thought I looked fat but then I realized there were more bigger people in my school who had way more friends than me so them I assumed it was my looks but there are other people who have the same skin and hair color as me I only have like six or four friends but I wanted more friends I was confused on why people didn't like me was it my personality? It had put me in a constant state of depression but here's the other thing! People started to instantly hate me on my second day that I went to school! They just instantly judged me but I never talked to them! Also there are rarely any people that go outside where I live but then again I also hate the sun
same thing but.. it changed I get bit ignored but not that much try make funny joke that's relayed to the conversation if they are mean don't care it's best off to not have friend it gives u more depression when you lose them T.T
Talk less about yourself and relate more to the other person or group. That is right but for the rest, the kind of person that you will communicate to will be all about power dynamics instead of a simple dialogue. Show interest in the person that you are talking to, period.
This is an interesting, and a new perspective that I haven’t heard before. Most of the videos I watch, and books that I read, say to ask a lot of questions. After you share your own experience of course, so that it doesn’t feel like an interview. I personally believe a healthy amount of balance between statements, and questions will make it perfect.
I also get ignored by others when i have a boyfriend my parents and roommates are only interested in him, it makes me even more lonely, they think my happiness is theirs and that’s so cruel.
"You must have an interesting job" can also make a person feel shitty if they don't have an interesting job. It might be better to say "What's your dream job?" I've asked this before and the girl said "I already have it! I'm a Zoologist" .. etc etc.
almost every one either ignores me and almost everyone i have a conversation with either tries to listen and yeah sometimes people listen , or sometimes others walk away mid conversation and don’t fudgeing to what i say clearly conversation or never give me a chance to talk to them and i’m always either too nice or straight up salty. and people are sometimes rude or too sensitive . and some say that they mean a lot to me but i sometimes think there lying because they don’t ever respond a lot of the times when i ask (hey are u busy) or i wanna ask something. and it all just makes me feel like none wants me around or that i’m invisible .lol
As a popular and respected guy as I read some of these comments I now know why many people ignore you including probably myself when I see you guys and that's because your energy/Aura screams NEEDINESS and SELFISH! I say selfish because if I speak to you then you automatically going to think we are friends and should speak to each other often and probably tell others how we're friends now and cause others to ask me questions and to avoid all that i just ignore you for MY OWN PEACE OF MIND!
Well...maybe this does not work for everyone, or there is something I am missing...keeping attention on others brings them to me yakking there. No one listens like that to me. Ever. So, listening to people for thirty years has not brought me closer to people but helped me realize no one cares about listening to me. They say I'm a great friend but no one is friend in return. I wonder what I am overlooking...no one is interested in me but everyone loves me...this advice has drawbacks folks. If no one will listen before you start listening to others more, I will tell you my thirty years trying this advice...this will not help you in any quest to have people treat you like you treat others. People want to treat some derogatory to inflate themselves. They do not like you, then there is nothing you can do, no matter how great people think you are as a friend....they are no friend back and you are STILL ignored. This is not bad advice per se, it's just a little deceptive. If you are ignored you are always ignored. Just do this advice though, and you will be liked by all. Worked for me...but you still get ignored.
Vincent Hildebrand Wow!, I noticed that too. Get enough interesting experiences abt yourself. Share and listen, not just let them speak your ears off. Treat it like a game, you share - they listen, and vice versa. So you won't get bored of them easily. Good insight though, no one ever points out the long term result of their tips/tricks on communication
Israel Abraham o I'm sorry if I seemed to imply I find people boring. Far from it. It is just when you listen, for some people, they never ever get attention back. Lots of people think they know and understand me, and know NOTHING. People subconsciously choose to not give a shit about you unless you are a good listener. It is life. No, listening to others is great. It is its own reward. It doesn't matter to me that people are not the same as me and listen to others. I don't listen with the expectation of being heard, people are greedy self centred or maybe I am so unworthy listening to, in their eyes, they do not even give attention to me, just zero. I stopped caring about such a long time ago. Listening to others is great, I just wanted to caution people that listening to others is rewarding, but has absolutely zero to do with people liking YOU enough to listen to you. Besides, that is kind of manipulative if you think deeper into it eh. It could possibly get frustrating to find you are opening up and sharing other people's thoughts, and then they walk away uninterested in you still. It is the way people are. But no I do not find it boring why should I? There's always something and someone new out there to discover eh.
I would like every one of your videos. Maybe I actually will do it.. Keep up the work, it really helps when you put such lessons into picture and words. So glad I found this channel.
Bad advice..without getting into it, questions are most definitely not submissive. It's the first step to covert conversational control, meaning you're the undercover dominant one and driver of the conversation. Moreover, asking open ended questions automatically results in you talking less about yourself.
Every time I try to text someone and strike up some conversation hardly anyone ever responds to my text and ignores me or leaves me on seen, whenever I ask people if they wanna hang out with me it’s always never a response back. I just want some friends man i mean I know people are probably busy but people aren’t bust 24/7.
Funny thing is you are making a statement and it gained a significant amount of likes. You can read hundreds of unanswered questions in the realm of forgotten comments. Just think about it. The top comments are generally statements.
I think when ppl ignore you they are simply rude. If I've done nothing to offend u u have no reason to ignore me. Ppl( people i dont have a personal close relationship with) have ignored me just simply greeting them or giving them a compliment. So its rude. Lol
Great video! Love your channel. (And there is just something about learning psychology from someone with a German(?) accent that makes it so much better)
Yes of course everybody in the whole entire world will just ignore me I don’t know what I have done but I just hate it also people don’t talk to me because they only talk to their friends I am trying to make some friends but no they ignore me instead and I am so lonely like every time nobody likes to partner up with me they do it with their friends but I hate how I am new and everybody just don’t want to be friends with me I really hate my life so much that it happened for over 2 years now
first week of school everyone kinda ignores me like I'm not their classmate I'm not even doing anything I just introduce myself formally and smile at Jokes that aren't even funny try to ask a question to our Gc that is like a statement yet no one even answered I felt embarrass they threat me as if Air well atleast Air is needed
I prefer to be out of sight. My line of work is behind the scenes anyway. Unlike many others, I do not have the luxury of taking time off, vacation, or other activities that involve "not working". So what possible interest could I have in conversing with others?
Just start talking louder and louder until they actually start noticing. Just kidding. Yeah, people ignore me all the time. If I want to talk about something (could be anything), they will start talking to other people nearby in the middle of talking or in a few words. Sometimes I even raise my voice but they act like I'm invisible and can't be heard. It's really annoying, but I can grow up with it I guess. I still have friends who don't ignore me.
Yea, the "no questions, only statements" kind of people are exactly who I hate. Cause God forbid they are ever "submissive," cause that would mean they don't already know everything or don't need to know. This makes me not want to talk to people even more. (No offense to who made the video.)
To the people being ignored usually it's not them it's a you problem....it must be something about you that rubs people the wrong way maybe you are a compulsive liar and don't even realize (you probably do realize but make excuses such as they lie to you) it's not their job to point out your flaws it's yours to be SELF AWARE
So how do you ask someone's name without asking (and "obligating" them to reply)? What if you don't know them from Eve (or, Mary)? You can't very well presume to know a perfect stranger's name just to "make a statement" and hope it will prompt them to "correct you" by telling you their name.
no, you wait for their reply, if they dont tell you their name though... take the queue and move on, just play it cool like you dont care even if you do
+NikeSoccerTennis Sounds like a bunch of hoop-jumping horseshit to me. if a woman cannot just communicate like a normal human being, use her words, be direct, answer simple questions with simple answers, and not resort to - or compel ME into resorting to - all this mind-game manipulation, then I quite frankly have better and more satisfyingly productive things to do. And unlike everybody else on this forsaken planet, I am NOT AFRAID to do them ALONE.
I am prone to ask questions and made statements for myself. The other think I say ussually are commands. Which are very rude for unfamiliar group of people. Or if girls I am attracted to, then compliments. See, I talk shit for myself that no one here cares.
If I tell my truth anymore. I love it because no more pressure. I think these help people like me alot .. emotional development was late for me and I have had to explain . Being female Aspi with borderline traits is hard . I have to raise myself at age 47.. I am finally getting it . 🤔
I've been ignored my whole life and I still am being ignored (but when people need something from me, they act like best mates). But this doesn't mean that I will change for people who ignore me, it means I have to find new people. Real friends don't ignore you. If they do (it also depends on the circumstances!) they're not your friends. End of.
Mysterious Thang thank you i needed this
People ignore you because you are not useful for them. Don’t help them with your money. You will definitely lose money and friendship. Help them when they need some help. Talk less don’t hangout in unnecessary situations. Never share your personal secrets. You should ruthlessly cut bad friendships.
ive cut a very bad relationship and friendship right out of my life its was toxic from the begining with him now i am careful who i make friendships with
Very wise statement and good advice..
I've been ignored by almost everyone my whole life, but i'm personally not interested in a step by step guide on how to get people to stop ignoring you. If people don't wanna talk to you there's no need to even try to keep talking to them. Just find better friends, even if it means having fewer friends. Never beg for anyone's attention.
This goes deeper than friends. There are people in your life that you'll need to make listen to you at some point, whether it be a boss, a police officer/judge, a girlfriend.. This isn't about begging for attention, it's about being assertive and commanding attention.
J Morgan hit the nail on the head. It is not about being popular. It's about confidence and self esteem. Get what You want! And then get more! Life's about having more
I would normally agree, but yeah I need my family to listen to me.
yup agree .i passed that road in my life.if any one ignors me when i try to get closer to them i just leave them even if it's hard for me (i mean crush & girls that i liked but they didin't like me) 7b in the world u can alwayse find better ;)
doom guy unless you doing sales 😊
Your video just made me want to never have another conversation with a human being ever again.
Same..
Same here.
oliver izzard so true
oliver izzard exactly. This video actually makes people ignore you more
same lol
I always feel lonely because I just wanna fit in but I feel like when I try to make friends I can't cuz people just don't want me there... it's like the world is against me...
Bigwavesparkles Your not alone and Im sorry you feel that way. I have felt this way too and i find when im happy like really happy n having a good day that positivity is radiant and you know what people see it n FEEL it and will engage with you. It starts with you and finding your happiness. I wear my heart on my sleeve and im highly intune n sensitive and have learned that light attacts light.
Happiness..
Sheena Free omg this is just what I needed to hear.. brought a tear to my eye (,:
Bigwavesparkles now you made me happy .
Sheena Free I should be saying that to you (:
Most people want you to listen to them. They don't want to here what you say. THIER self centered
short summary.
1. ask less questions and make more statements about the other person. for example, wow you have long hair ect.
2. Talk less about yourself and relate more to the other person or group.
3. change your questions into statements
red pill psychology give inconsistent advice that makes pepole confused "get people to talk about them selfs" "don't ask questions" "control the frame" how? You can't do that with put asking questions
Dapper Wolf it's hard to get it right my friend. Success is not easy
Super Rookie I know lol I was a little irritated, but I found better advice In a book called 48 laws of power
Dapper Wolf that book rocks.
Salamander33 it is, but its like the art of war you read into it alot
Lmao "all I know is, before we started talking I felt good"
“Asking a question puts you in a submissive position.”
“A student asks questions. A teacher makes statements.”
“A soldier requests orders. The General gives them:”
Never thought of that. Thanks!
teacher's also have to learn everyone has to ask questions to learn
But teachers also ask questions to students...
Everyone hates me no matter what they ignore I’m left out always it’s gotten so bad I don’t care if I’m ignored, hated and left out I prefer to be alone I always go places we’re no one expects someone to be. All these occur at school I don’t do anything at home and I when I leave school nothing will change and I don’t care if it doesn’t
Same:(
The funny thing is, there are a lot of people who have ignored me for years and years... then they wonder why I appear rude towards them, when they happen to be walking by me in a grocery store... for example: you see someone who has consitently ignored you, you make eye contact for a split second and you KNOW they recognise you... then you keep walking without saying hello... then you can tell from the corner of your eye they are looking over their shoulder wondering "why did he not say hello?" Sometimes I think that is the best way to treat these people.
Yeah!😏
Same thing applied to me my own fucking family ignores me expect my dad and my brother
But in public I expect to be ignored because I don’t know these ppl like I do with my own flesh and blood that’s why I’ll either ignore back or be a rude asshole to ppl because that’s how I feel about society in the 21st century?
Ive felt like an outsider my whole life
I feel you 100%
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We should get all the outsiders together, start a reality show, then the worst outsiders get voted off the island one by one, until there is one ultimate outsider left. We can call the show Outsider Island.
Sheena Free Me too, I need emotional help with it but that could be fixed if more wanted to meet me, they don't
god bless yu sys...dont worry hope it ends soon
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I have friends who aren't afraid of questions, and answer them no problem, without feeling threatened. Some friends, though, clam up when asked certain questions I think they simply have no interest in answering, and I think that's lazy and selfish. Friendships are give and take, and honestly, friends who clam up when I need to know something important that will make my life easier, no matter the approach, aren't very committed friends. I am going to start investing more in friends who act as if my needs are important.
People ignore you? They are all jealous trust me I experienced this. Nice video, but I think that nobody should change to have friends. Ignoring someone is actually a prove that other people CARE about you. That's because they all hate you and the fact that you do the things you really want without caring what others think. So please don't change yourself for others, don't do it
I would never use this statements over questions thing with my real friends. Because if they ignore me they are not my friends.
Random people I would use statements over questions to keep the conversation going. It feels like acting for me tho.
that's what i thought (and experiencing much) but my prove to it is that i do have people that love to get with me and then there are specific type of people that not just ignore they feel frustrated by me and ignore on purpose.
so there could be 2 reasons.
1. they hate.
2. you're boring.
BUT - an impressing individal can't expect people to like him just because he is impresive, because sometimes you can "outshine the """master""" " (cause jelaousy).
an impressing individual must develop ability to make people feel good (love themselves more) and those suggestions in this video aiming towards this. so he's righ after all..
Xy Yx
Could you please re-write what you’re meaning to say? I can’t follow you
When you leave out words when writing a sentence. You’re saying that
People ignore you because they are jealous? You write: “Ignoring
Someone is actually a prove that other people care about you”. What
Does that mean? My sister ignored me for half of my life. She’d come
Home from school and I would try to talk to her, and she would just
Start talking to someone else in the room. She did this in her 30’s
Too, after she had kids. She ignored me for half my life, and now
She wants to be friendly to me. When I asked her why she did it,
I got no reply. Jealousy does not make sense, if that’s what you
Are trying to say?
B.D W
Some people just refuse for whatever reason, to open up to have a discussion.
Not much we can do about that. I’m not spending moments of my life after
A certain time, to try to get them to talk. I refuse to do most of the talking.
Xy Yx I’m not sure what you’re talking about. Are you trying say that the people who ignore me CARE about me, because they are jealous of me?? If they care about me, why are they jealous? Why do they ignore? And why do they hate?
Nobody would hang out with me..even if I was alone...they never let me speak...it makes me loose my confidence...i cry almost every day...i feel like I have depression bc i feel like nobody loves me anymore
They never let you speak or you choose not to speak, cuz they might ignore you and if they do yes you will feel a lil bad, but you know what fuck them im pretty sure you know someone who listens to you. Meet 10 new people this month and see how many of them end up becoming friends with you. If none its a you problem, if 1 or more those people are either jealous, think your boring, or they think your annoying or they think your low value like the bums ignored on the street giving off low value behaviors. If you find your only ignored by girls and not guys its prob how you present yourself and vice versa. If your ignored by both its a combo of everything. Not everyone will like you, most people who ignore you either find you boring or annoying, most people dont have a reason to be jealous, I ignore people that i dont like and find annoying,however i hate ignoring people cuz i myself know how it feels
David Hent nope
I can relate.I don't understand, I never do anything annoying or negative, I'm always nice and happy but when I try to speak, I have to say the persons name multiple times to get their attention, but when I do that, they think I'm annoying because of that, and be mean.Whenever I do get noticed, I get bullied, and I cry because of that.I feel like the whole world is against me which makes me feel like I don't deserve to be here, but at the same time I try, but for some reason it never works...But I understand where you are coming from, it's good to know that I'm not the only outsider here.
I often do get ignored...
But all I really talk about around the people I am ignored by is other people. . .
I'm usually trying to be very happy and when I do act happy and be funny everyone pays attention and likes me...
But then if I feel sad and show it which is rare... I'm just ignored and called over dramatic...
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Ive always been ignored... always... i don’t know how to interact with others in social situations... and im so quiet people just pretend im not there
You need to work on your communication skills... the problem with being "too quiet" is that eventually people will actually think that ignoring you is the most polite way to treat you... because if they have tried to talk to you in the past and you have not continued the conversation, they are NOT going to think to themselves "this person must be worth all this silence," they will talk to others and pretend you're not in the room... I am not saying that you deserve to be ignored, but if you continue to not work on your communication skills -- people won't pretend that you are "better" than someone who talks a lot more, If you get what I'm saying -- if you don't communicate, people will eventually assume you are signed up to be that way forever.
I often feel lonely in a crowded room with people who "know" me
Honestly a lot of people get ignored simply bc of physical unattractiveness and it’s largely beyond their control. To make matters worst, it’s socially acceptable to outright discriminate against unattractive people.
So true
When I went to University ( lasted 5 years), I talked to roughly 6 people - once each. I never gave a crap that nobody talked to me. I chose math, as it's a solitary subject, and I like my solitude. Screw people.
I want to personally thank the author of this video for creating something so clear and so incredibly useful.
This video was actually pretty good. I still don't think this guy's material is truly red pill, but this particular video was genuinely perceptive and insightful, and it contained a lot of practical, useful information.
Boon Doggle What do you mean by " red pill"?
Gonna have to agree with undercover, asking a question doesn't put you in a submissive position. People don't give one word answers because questions are submissive low-value or you are qualifying to people , people give one word answers because they either: 1. Don't know how to make conversation 2. Not comfortable , not in a good mood or don't want to talk to you. If you believe that making a statement will make you more attractive or is high value because its outcome independent you are delusional. You can be outcome independent (which is a really good thing) by asking questions. It's all about your intent expectations and how you react emotionally and with body language (something that can't be faked and needs to be learned with practice). Definitely value in getting people talking about themselves tho.
BrainCeps 👏🏼👏🏼well said. I stopped watching rest of the video just because how he thinks asking questions will make him look less of independently strong.
MindOverMatter I can see from both points of view, and I believe a balance between questions and statements is the perfect solution. I personally LOVE when people ask me questions because it makes me feel important, and like I’m the center of their attention and focus. Also, I’ve read in a lot of books that asking people questions makes them feel important. (We are all slightly narcissists). The trick here is knowing when or what kind of questions are appropriate. But you definitely can’t rely only on statements for conversations.
why should we fake for getting other's attention? 😞
ur not faking once u talk alot to ppl these stuff will come instinctly lol
This is no fake .. this is working on your character which is nessascary ..
as a person suffering from anti social personality disorder I don't care about them, I do this because I gain benefit from them sooner or later ;)
Also a people pleaser who agrees with everything anyone else says will often be ignored.
Saying stuff like, "The student asks questions, the teacher makes statements. The employee asks questions, the boss makes statements" actually makes no sense what so ever... They only act like that because it's their position or rank. They didn't get where they are by making statements. They had to ask questions first. Every general started as a soldier, every teacher started as a student, and most bosses who didn't start off as a employees to begin with are usually not as successful as the ones who did.. So no, asking questions is not a bad thing. People who sit around and make statements all day are usually full of shit. You gotta learn before you speak, and if you just make statements all the time, you're still going to get ignored because everyone will start to think you're a prick... When a cop pulls you over, he asks you questions and you give statements. If you think for one second that you have the power in that conversation, you're delusional.
Never thought of questions that way. Very interesting. Im going to have to think through this quite a bit. I spend some time daily pawing through the Tube looking for something striking. This was a big find. Very profound to me. Thanks!
EDIT: Ok I gave it some thought and I think the counter argument is that asking questions puts you in a position of power. The parent asks the child about something they did, expecting an answer. The teacher tests the student by asking, expecting a answer. The general asks for a report, the soldier must provide it. When a person gives a minimal answer, it could well mean you have exercised power over them... they preferred not to answer but in order not to seem rude, or whatever, they did something against their will because you made them do it. But your approach to questions is still an interesting idea and could be useful, because if a person replies to your statement it might indicate a more voluntary response or greater interest in talking to you.
I'm absolutely convinced this is the most powerful video on all of UA-cam.
THIS VIDEO SHED SO MUCH LIGHT ON WHAT I WAS DOING WRONG. THANK YOU
I would not change myself because people are jealous of me
People: you should talk more
Me: okay
*me tries to talk to people*
*gets ignored*
People: well then you should talk more
Me: *talks more*
People:omg you’re so annoying
curved saltburn I love this fucking truth, but what should one do though
Never talk if you don't have something interesting to say and by interesting I mean in the interest of the other person for example something good you can do for them : how are you +try to solve their problems. Don't talk about the small details of your life or anything not interesting.
A lot of people at my school ignore me and not because they are jealous but I don't know why! I have to call their name like 15 times to get their attention but they just yell "WHAT!?!" every time! But when I start to talk they ignore me two seconds into the conversation I never knew why so I just assumed people thought I looked fat but then I realized there were more bigger people in my school who had way more friends than me so them I assumed it was my looks but there are other people who have the same skin and hair color as me I only have like six or four friends but I wanted more friends I was confused on why people didn't like me was it my personality? It had put me in a constant state of depression but here's the other thing! People started to instantly hate me on my second day that I went to school! They just instantly judged me but I never talked to them! Also there are rarely any people that go outside where I live but then again I also hate the sun
same thing but.. it changed I get bit ignored but not that much try make funny joke that's relayed to the conversation if they are mean don't care it's best off to not have friend it gives u more depression when you lose them T.T
Talk less about yourself and relate more to the other person or group. That is right but for the rest, the kind of person that you will communicate to will be all about power dynamics instead of a simple dialogue. Show interest in the person that you are talking to, period.
Jesus Nice nice
This is an interesting, and a new perspective that I haven’t heard before. Most of the videos I watch, and books that I read, say to ask a lot of questions. After you share your own experience of course, so that it doesn’t feel like an interview. I personally believe a healthy amount of balance between statements, and questions will make it perfect.
I have been feeling Lonely sence last year through this and I have a feeling that this is going to continue in 2020.
"If you want people to listen to you, feed into their self absorbance during the conversation".
I also get ignored by others when i have a boyfriend my parents and roommates are only interested in him, it makes me even more lonely, they think my happiness is theirs and that’s so cruel.
"I'm boring AF" I LOLed
"You must have an interesting job" can also make a person feel shitty if they don't have an interesting job. It might be better to say "What's your dream job?" I've asked this before and the girl said "I already have it! I'm a Zoologist" .. etc etc.
almost every one either ignores me and almost everyone i have a conversation with either tries to listen and yeah sometimes people listen , or sometimes others walk away mid conversation and don’t fudgeing to what i say clearly conversation or never give me a chance to talk to them and i’m always either too nice or straight up salty. and people are sometimes rude or too sensitive . and some say that they mean a lot to me but i sometimes think there lying because they don’t ever respond a lot of the times when i ask (hey are u busy) or i wanna ask something. and it all just makes me feel like none wants me around or that i’m invisible .lol
They tell you you're too introverted yet whenever you try to talk they ignore you 😑 anyway this video is great 👍🏻
Statement. bears eat beets. BattleStar Galactica.
Seeking validation and acceptance from other people especially women is not "Redpill".
So helpful, I think it's the greatest help yet I've been doing things so wrong
As a popular and respected guy as I read some of these comments I now know why many people ignore you including probably myself when I see you guys and that's because your energy/Aura screams NEEDINESS and SELFISH! I say selfish because if I speak to you then you automatically going to think we are friends and should speak to each other often and probably tell others how we're friends now and cause others to ask me questions and to avoid all that i just ignore you for MY OWN PEACE OF MIND!
We don't have time for everyone so we should choose the best energies around us ;)
Well...maybe this does not work for everyone, or there is something I am missing...keeping attention on others brings them to me yakking there. No one listens like that to me. Ever. So, listening to people for thirty years has not brought me closer to people but helped me realize no one cares about listening to me. They say I'm a great friend but no one is friend in return. I wonder what I am overlooking...no one is interested in me but everyone loves me...this advice has drawbacks folks. If no one will listen before you start listening to others more, I will tell you my thirty years trying this advice...this will not help you in any quest to have people treat you like you treat others. People want to treat some derogatory to inflate themselves. They do not like you, then there is nothing you can do, no matter how great people think you are as a friend....they are no friend back and you are STILL ignored. This is not bad advice per se, it's just a little deceptive. If you are ignored you are always ignored. Just do this advice though, and you will be liked by all. Worked for me...but you still get ignored.
Vincent Hildebrand Wow!, I noticed that too. Get enough interesting experiences abt yourself. Share and listen, not just let them speak your ears off. Treat it like a game, you share - they listen, and vice versa. So you won't get bored of them easily. Good insight though, no one ever points out the long term result of their tips/tricks on communication
Israel Abraham o I'm sorry if I seemed to imply I find people boring. Far from it. It is just when you listen, for some people, they never ever get attention back. Lots of people think they know and understand me, and know NOTHING. People subconsciously choose to not give a shit about you unless you are a good listener. It is life. No, listening to others is great. It is its own reward. It doesn't matter to me that people are not the same as me and listen to others. I don't listen with the expectation of being heard, people are greedy self centred or maybe I am so unworthy listening to, in their eyes, they do not even give attention to me, just zero. I stopped caring about such a long time ago. Listening to others is great, I just wanted to caution people that listening to others is rewarding, but has absolutely zero to do with people liking YOU enough to listen to you. Besides, that is kind of manipulative if you think deeper into it eh. It could possibly get frustrating to find you are opening up and sharing other people's thoughts, and then they walk away uninterested in you still. It is the way people are. But no I do not find it boring why should I? There's always something and someone new out there to discover eh.
I would like every one of your videos. Maybe I actually will do it.. Keep up the work, it really helps when you put such lessons into picture and words. So glad I found this channel.
Gained a subscriber. Love the content and thorough explanations with detailed examples.
Fantastic video, thanks!
Bad advice..without getting into it, questions are most definitely not submissive. It's the first step to covert conversational control, meaning you're the undercover dominant one and driver of the conversation. Moreover, asking open ended questions automatically results in you talking less about yourself.
Every time I try to text someone and strike up some conversation hardly anyone ever responds to my text and ignores me or leaves me on seen, whenever I ask people if they wanna hang out with me it’s always never a response back.
I just want some friends man i mean I know people are probably busy but people aren’t bust 24/7.
Human relationships are the worst thing in this world.
Yes many people are just like that ignore in thing you want in what your saying
I don't think that if you ask a question that you are in a submissive position.
It depends on the question and if you need the amswer from him or not
If you don't need the answer, then why ask them a question?
Funny thing is you are making a statement and it gained a significant amount of likes. You can read hundreds of unanswered questions in the realm of forgotten comments. Just think about it. The top comments are generally statements.
Give an example
What equipment do you use to make your videos?
you deserve more views 😒
I think when ppl ignore you they are simply rude. If I've done nothing to offend u u have no reason to ignore me. Ppl( people i dont have a personal close relationship with) have ignored me just simply greeting them or giving them a compliment. So its rude. Lol
Good morning! How are you today?.....no response
Ok but that's what you think how about if they just don't wanna respond in the WAY YOU WANT THEM TO??! I mean damn can others have a CHOICE as well?!
Never thought of it that way .
Interesting
Hi can i know what was the outro that you've used? Thank you
Because some people are just full of themselves
Why do people walk in front of
And gravitate towards my suv ?
Great video, thank you
Great video! Love your channel.
(And there is just something about learning psychology from someone with a German(?) accent that makes it so much better)
What software are you using
thanks a lot that's what I've forgotten.
Awesome Dude. Keep Rocking!!
Yes of course everybody in the whole entire world will just ignore me I don’t know what I have done but I just hate it also people don’t talk to me because they only talk to their friends I am trying to make some friends but no they ignore me instead and I am so lonely like every time nobody likes to partner up with me they do it with their friends but I hate how I am new and everybody just don’t want to be friends with me I really hate my life so much that it happened for over 2 years now
Holy shit, this channel is great
first week of school everyone kinda ignores me like I'm not their classmate I'm not even doing anything I just introduce myself formally and smile at Jokes that aren't even funny try to ask a question to our Gc that is like a statement yet no one even answered I felt embarrass they threat me as if Air well atleast Air is needed
I prefer to be out of sight. My line of work is behind the scenes anyway. Unlike many others, I do not have the luxury of taking time off, vacation, or other activities that involve "not working". So what possible interest could I have in conversing with others?
people like to ignore me
"You're Mary, right?" Is still a question 😁
with implication.. that will make her want to correct you
Men you should do a full 10 mn of video turning question into statements those are so good
Just start talking louder and louder until they actually start noticing. Just kidding.
Yeah, people ignore me all the time. If I want to talk about something (could be anything), they will start talking to other people nearby in the middle of talking or in a few words. Sometimes I even raise my voice but they act like I'm invisible and can't be heard. It's really annoying, but I can grow up with it I guess. I still have friends who don't ignore me.
I just realized how I have hit rock bottom to the point of watching videos like this what have I become
Same 🧡🧡
I agree about asking questions thing
Thank you sooo much
You are a genius dude!
Yea, the "no questions, only statements" kind of people are exactly who I hate. Cause God forbid they are ever "submissive," cause that would mean they don't already know everything or don't need to know. This makes me not want to talk to people even more. (No offense to who made the video.)
Love your insight
Is there a book that I can get on the subject?
My pet peeve: someone ignoring my texts. Yet when they text I'm always there. No more!
Great video/s
I dont talk about myself i talk about them but they keep leaving me out
Shit, that hit you direct in the balls !
To the people being ignored usually it's not them it's a you problem....it must be something about you that rubs people the wrong way maybe you are a compulsive liar and don't even realize (you probably do realize but make excuses such as they lie to you) it's not their job to point out your flaws it's yours to be SELF AWARE
Perfectly said thank you for your valuable comments ;)
So how do you ask someone's name without asking (and "obligating" them to reply)? What if you don't know them from Eve (or, Mary)? You can't very well presume to know a perfect stranger's name just to "make a statement" and hope it will prompt them to "correct you" by telling you their name.
Blackie Nuff you just state your name
....And?
You're gonna have to expand on that.
no, you wait for their reply, if they dont tell you their name though... take the queue and move on, just play it cool like you dont care even if you do
+NikeSoccerTennis
Sounds like a bunch of hoop-jumping horseshit to me. if a woman cannot just communicate like a normal human being, use her words, be direct, answer simple questions with simple answers, and not resort to - or compel ME into resorting to - all this mind-game manipulation, then I quite frankly have better and more satisfyingly productive things to do. And unlike everybody else on this forsaken planet, I am NOT AFRAID to do them ALONE.
to each their own :P i do find it quiet satisfying when i get something i want from someone :P
This vid just made me feel bad about myself!
Why do I constantly ignore people?
I am prone to ask questions and made statements for myself. The other think I say ussually are commands. Which are very rude for unfamiliar group of people. Or if girls I am attracted to, then compliments.
See, I talk shit for myself that no one here cares.
The outro was dope
You are pretty wise for a young man
When you were observing and interacting with girls, were they people you knew or total strangers?
Change your question into statements: "You're Mary, right?" (4:15) ...Oops!
Superb value
I'm tired of listening to people I need to be listen too
If I tell my truth anymore. I love it because no more pressure. I think these help people like me alot .. emotional development was late for me and I have had to explain . Being female Aspi with borderline traits is hard . I have to raise myself at age 47.. I am finally getting it . 🤔
Is it just me or do people always ignore comments?
I like questions
lone wulf same here
Asking question = Social Blackmail... wow!
People ignored me because they thought I am DEAD
Phenias & Ferb cameo in this video .☺