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  • Insight on the narcissist, never thought that you would leave them. The discard is an allusion.
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 415

  • @JL54777
    @JL54777 Рік тому +290

    There’s a blessing in the discard. The discard is the beginning of deliverance. It frees you from the chains of demonic oppression and depression.

    • @Glitter504
      @Glitter504 Рік тому +21

      I never knew demonic spirit was in there I know now !!!!

    • @1010QUEEN7
      @1010QUEEN7 Рік тому +5

      🎯🎯🎯

    • @christinawhitfield1720
      @christinawhitfield1720 Рік тому +8

      Then why does it feel like you’re not free when they discard you? I feel like I’m depressed

    • @JL54777
      @JL54777 Рік тому +19

      @@christinawhitfield1720 it’s an unnatural yet ungodly bond that is still there. It hurts because you have feelings of care and love while they are incapable of loving anyone including themselves. Go through and feel the pain and embrace the process of shedding the
      hurt, pain, disrespect and overall imprint of the narcissist

    • @1010QUEEN7
      @1010QUEEN7 Рік тому +14

      @@christinawhitfield1720 Sister get your self up and shake your self loose you have already won the battle he's out of your life. Embrace the sunshine be happy laugh,sing,shout from the top of your soul thank God for setting you free from the biggest devil you have ever met in your life. Many people would love to be in your shoes believe me 💕💕💕

  • @Kristalwalker1972
    @Kristalwalker1972 Рік тому +121

    My ex didn’t think I would leave. Thought when he broke up I would beg and cry. Nope. No emotion. I just started packing. He got arrested for domestic battery and spent the night in jail. When he came back everything I bought for him, me, and us was gone. No goodbye no nothing. I blocked his number and he has no clue where I am. I was emotionally and mentally drained. It’s going on 3 months. It’s hard because I do miss him, but I don’t miss the mess. I’m getting me back and that’s who I missed the most. Leaving was my weapon. Staying gone is my ammunition.

    • @davidcoppotelli3957
      @davidcoppotelli3957 Рік тому +12

      Smart Move I did the same thing and Staying GONE. There LOSS. BOOM.

    • @sisid6295
      @sisid6295 Рік тому +3

      i m so proved of u girl ! u are real hero and inspiration !

    • @samanthajames2032
      @samanthajames2032 Рік тому +2

      Same ,I took back what I bought x

    • @jamaicanjoyh6883
      @jamaicanjoyh6883 4 місяці тому

      Remember the narcissist as he was when you left him
      That's the real him
      Not the one you met
      Ijs

  • @jodiburnett6211
    @jodiburnett6211 Рік тому +32

    I allowed him to go “find himself” for a few days after catching him in a big lie. When he returned, I had him sign divorce papers.

  • @shannonme34
    @shannonme34 Рік тому +199

    I did the discard and have been no contact for 2 years. Although this demon is still stalking me I am in a much better place. Closure is overrated and knowing my life is blessed by eliminating the toxicity is enough to keep me warm at night 🔥💣💯

    • @meganfrancis4431
      @meganfrancis4431 Рік тому +4

      I hear what you are saying, after i did the discard. He kept stalking,sending men over and soo on. I still was better than what i went through.

    • @shannonme34
      @shannonme34 Рік тому +3

      @@mstenacious274 yes girl 💯

    • @shannonme34
      @shannonme34 Рік тому +2

      @@meganfrancis4431 amen to that 🙏

    • @shannonme34
      @shannonme34 Рік тому +2

      @@joshuaanzalone2060 that’s right, chasing what they will never have again. It is exactly what you said an obsession and sorry to hear you going through the same thing…stay strong 💪

    • @ameliaswisecounsel
      @ameliaswisecounsel Рік тому +3

      My thought eggsactly

  • @millicentstollenwerck5239
    @millicentstollenwerck5239 Рік тому +55

    I had no choice but to snatch the power grid from that narc demon. He took my presence for granted, it was either me or him. It was time to choose me.

    • @joann5465
      @joann5465 Рік тому +4

      Snatch that power grid!!!💯💥💨

  • @FiiireLight
    @FiiireLight Рік тому +43

    Call the narcs bluff and leave them alone for good!

    • @tansley67
      @tansley67 Рік тому +4

      Yep! That part! I just did this with someone recently. He broke up with me, but then stayed Facebook friends with me (that felt like I was being put on the shelf even though at that time, I didn't know that there was a term for it). Staying Facebook friends with him didn't fly with me, so I unfriended and blocked his a**. He wanted to play games but I finished the game. 😂😎😝😀☺️ So empowering!

    • @FiiireLight
      @FiiireLight Рік тому +3

      @@tansley67 great job! Keep those boundaries firm. You are well on your way to healing and wholeness, but most of all...PEACE Much love, Sistar.💕

  • @expatsierra
    @expatsierra Рік тому +150

    This is so true! I remember at the end of my last relationship, my ex was treating me horribly and with disdain as if I was a homeless person that took up space within his home without invitation. One day I I accepted that I no longer recognized the man that he had become (or was revealed to be) and I told him very calmly that I was moving out the next day and he sudden looked at me as if he had seen a ghost. They really do expect you to sit there and take hit after hit while being thankful for the crumbs from the table. Nah, keep it.

    • @healingonesmindset
      @healingonesmindset Рік тому +13

      100%!!!!

    • @paradisefamilyvlogs3426
      @paradisefamilyvlogs3426 Рік тому +22

      Well said. Especially that they're shocked when they can't get you to go anymore rounds with them.

    • @Melanatedminimalist
      @Melanatedminimalist Рік тому +12

      Yes had me move to another state where he resided.... later I kept saying I am not cut out for this lifestyle, very negligent even to the dogs he bought, he bought his aging mother to live and neglected her too!!! He tried ti make me feel needy, homeless, and like I am a bum...I left a amazing job and my "tropical life" to get treated not decent.... Neglected unless he wanted "sex" yep.... Like a transaction.... See ya later BYE!!!!

    • @WoolyTresses
      @WoolyTresses Рік тому +4

      Yep. 2mths ago I met his representative. He was kind, polite, attentive. No smashing but, some petting happened as we both (I thought WE) wanted to wait till a commitment.. I started to call like he wanted and he'd never answer but will call me back only to get off the fone bc he's at WORK. So I stop calling. He'd call me two days later annoyed. So a week before thanx Day Ge calls I don't answer. He never called back. I'm GOOD. #Coocoo

    • @MarriageFraudSurvivors
      @MarriageFraudSurvivors Рік тому +4

      Good for you! I’ve been free for 5 years now and his new supplies are miserable. Better them than me!

  • @Theloversconjure
    @Theloversconjure Рік тому +74

    Yes girl!!! I discard in the love bomb phase now since I’m enlightened lol and they RUN! Once they know you know it’s over- their ego can’t handle it. 😂

    • @Flokix4
      @Flokix4 Рік тому +6

      I reject he's hoover/love bomb 2 days ago, but never saw it coming. He is stalking bad right now.

  • @bernedamoncrief1507
    @bernedamoncrief1507 Рік тому +21

    I did the discard and he is so angry with me for choosing peace ..when I seen him all I seen was a angry demon pure evil and hatred made my skin crawl!!!!

    • @peacefaith560
      @peacefaith560 Рік тому +4

      my mom saw him ..she said he looked like he aged 10 yrs ?!!

  • @terridameron2074
    @terridameron2074 Рік тому +7

    Narcissists need to make sure they have plenty of supplys they need it bad and lots of it that's that craziness

  • @Stan0619
    @Stan0619 Рік тому +162

    Mam, your perspective in this NPD arena is top notch. As a male victim, you have shed so much light on this mental illnesses for us all. I was ill informed of this relationship trap. It’s amazing from my short research, the perpetrators seem to be operating from the same playbook.
    The dangers of this disorder needs more attention, because the ramifications are deadly. I am a victim of all the NPD phases, and it has affected my employment and everything in between. IMO, this behavior is criminal, and they need to be institutionalized.
    Again, thank you again for your selfless contributions to the victims, because you are truly saving lives.
    🙏🏿

    • @pierredavidstrong5255
      @pierredavidstrong5255 Рік тому +5

      Facts😎❤️💫

    • @rmboch
      @rmboch Рік тому +6

      You're right, she saved me too bro! May God bless her for all she does 🙏🏽💕

  • @HonestyIsAVirtue7
    @HonestyIsAVirtue7 Рік тому +30

    A Hoover from a narc should never be seen as a badge of honor. It's not an honor to have a demon possessed monster show back up at the door looking like death eating crackers. It's a dishonor, and It's disrespectful to the 1000th degree of insanity. The Looney Tunes play every game in their narc playbooks without any remorse, but still have the nerve to come back knocking at the door. Just like nothing ever happened! No Sir! They are brainless pigeon peckers just trying to kick up some more dusty dirt. Don't fall for it! It's a trap! They want to see if they can do a repeat. Slam the door shut, and leave it shut. IJS.... When that door slams shut for good, you WIN! It's Game Over Right Then! 🏆

    • @paradisefamilyvlogs3426
      @paradisefamilyvlogs3426 Рік тому +4

      Oh, this is great! It's a dishonor that they a.) want to abuse someone more, b.) think someone is so desperate, stupid, etc.that the narc can get back into the fold.
      d

    • @martymcfly5138
      @martymcfly5138 Рік тому +6

      ‘ Death eating crackers ‘ 🤣🤣🤣👏👏👏

    • @HonestyIsAVirtue7
      @HonestyIsAVirtue7 Рік тому

      @@martymcfly5138 😆...

    • @livelife5890
      @livelife5890 Рік тому +2

      Wish I could give you two thumbs up. A hoover is a nasty insult. What audacity ? They know full well what they did, yet have the disgusting nerve to text you a couple months later and say "Hey I was just wondering......blah, blah, blah".
      As if nothing ever happened and we are all good. It's almost a criminal offense. It took me a while to accept that my narc sibling was demon possessed.
      Been no contact for months and my life has literally improved without trying. It's liberating to not have to seek these people's validation.

    • @HonestyIsAVirtue7
      @HonestyIsAVirtue7 Рік тому +3

      @@livelife5890 Yes!!! You nailed it 🔨... It is a HUGE Insult! It's an insult to my intelligence. Just like you said, They try to circle back around later and pretend like nothing ever happened. No! I'm not ignorant, and I don't pretend & play mind games. I don't forget what happened. I'm not here for a narcissist to make me look like I'm crazy whenever they decide to do their hoovering back around like an idiot 😆... I keep moving forward, not backwards. When I'm done, I'm done. I don't need closure from a nutcase for me to heal, and move on. They are absolutely beyond psychomaniacs. Shewww! You are right! They are a "Nasty Insult." 👍👍 👍

  • @Imnotyourdoormat
    @Imnotyourdoormat Рік тому +22

    Watch out for mandatory trips too. A hardcore card-carrying malignant narcissist cannot resist an out-of-state company or family business flight they have to attend, and miss out on a chance to abuse neglect and establish authority. When they arrive at their destination they will always somehow fail to call to let you know they've landed OK. And somehow they will always mysteriously miss your concerned calls too some kind of unforeseen phone problem. They'll go shopping, then go to eat, maybe catch a movie. When they're done with their day and tired getting ready to turn in maybe they'll call, or maybe not. It's all just an extremely predictable dismissive demeaning humiliation manipulation tactic designed to keep an Empath in their lowly submissive and subordinate unimportant place like telling an unruly child, "Shut up and let the adults talk." Never met a hobgoblin yet that can resist the juicy opportunity no...not 1 ever.

  • @tenniller5581
    @tenniller5581 Рік тому +31

    This woman is off the chain on her accuracy, knowledge, wisdom. Nails the narcissistic son of a b* like a God. Take note everyone. She's so on the mark it's ridiculous x

  • @myblessings1000
    @myblessings1000 Рік тому +13

    NO Contact for 16 months... I took my power and I will NEVER return. Oh The Ex Narc knows now that truly "I Ain't No Joke". God restored me and living my best life.
    #Powergridsnatched
    #IamNottobeplayedwithanymore

  • @donnahale1011
    @donnahale1011 Рік тому +17

    Out of all the years of back and forth...15 years I AM THE ONE WHO GOT AWAY!!!! THANK GOD!!!

  • @conniekimes6019
    @conniekimes6019 Рік тому +15

    Packing leaving Jesus has healed me

  • @ainaatinuke3685
    @ainaatinuke3685 Рік тому +26

    You are so right and I wish I didn’t take the discard so personal in the past. Now! I am like wow! That was where my breakthrough started. To think that I was so scared that I was never going to heal but I am glowing and married to the best man in the whole world! Dropped this fool after the discard and found my forever and this man allows me grow with love🥰😩🥰

  • @leniecelewis3415
    @leniecelewis3415 Рік тому +9

    I Discarded That Bird When I Seen Signs Of Him Cheating So He Went To That Crow That He Was Cheating With Which Turns Out To Be His Neighbor In Return I Believe She Gave Him An STD Talking About Karma

  • @martamarta5206
    @martamarta5206 Рік тому +4

    They 50% going 50% coming like pendulum hahahahaha. No comedy can make me laugh like the narcissist. Laugh at their face.

  • @kylaren6337
    @kylaren6337 Рік тому +41

    This is very true. They will push you to your limit and then vanish. They expect you to go crazy and try to get THEM back. They use this in their storyline for their new partner. Like “oh she’s crazy…”Don’t fall for it.

    • @amab1853
      @amab1853 Рік тому +2

      Exactly. I realized it now

    • @toniwilliams9817
      @toniwilliams9817 Рік тому +7

      I bet my ex narc still thinks I will try to get him back for all he’s done. I’m letting God do that.

    • @mimi-jf5zx
      @mimi-jf5zx Рік тому

      Omg!! Yes my experience

  • @tiheshakp
    @tiheshakp Рік тому +64

    You stay in my head sista "T"! That backwards walking giraffe called me today apologizing and admitted to his wrongdoings. The old me would've entertained that foolishness and allowed him to come back. But with your vids, prayer and support from my family and friends, I took everything he said with a grain of salt and ended the call! Hadn't heard from him in over a month! It took him an entire month to realize the error of his ways...BOY BYE!!!!

    • @mjoseph4305
      @mjoseph4305 Рік тому +7

      Amen!

    • @mjoseph4305
      @mjoseph4305 Рік тому +6

      I really got my antennas. I've met 2 in my lifetime, there will not be a 3rd, trust and believe. The most recent one thought he could discard a second time and I'd be here waiting , joker, I put my energy and the new time into stepping up in myself by healing, excelling in my work and studies and maintaining myself for me and the man who will see my worth! I let the narc see what he is missing, and it's 🔥 him..but as I said he will see, the grass is green here and in his garden pure weeds...trust and believe! He better get his lawn mower out.loool

  • @patricebeene646
    @patricebeene646 Рік тому +12

    I'm not on no Hobo Bum narcissist shelf. There's an empty spot. Old .... player!!! Bye Boy!!!

  • @TheDivinePetitePrincess
    @TheDivinePetitePrincess Рік тому +5

    Them pigeons without wings.. No elevation💯👏🏾😂
    💞

  • @queenj5308
    @queenj5308 Рік тому +37

    Yup that’s exactly what my ex narcissist did ghosted me to go be with another woman just to try to come back and act like nothing ever happened and attempt to get back in my good graces, nope! Rejected him, been done and I don’t need any closure anymore! I’m at peace with the situation and much more happier without him in my life.

  • @terridameron2074
    @terridameron2074 Рік тому +20

    It's time to heal It's Time To Love Yourself respect yourself care for yourself

  • @Vivianwoods63
    @Vivianwoods63 Рік тому +25

    Mine discarded me and said I was mad because he discarded me first. He knew I had already Checked out of the marriage. He knew I would eventually leave so he did it first in the worst way EVER. I been no contact since he left. I moved far with no forwarding address. Of course he had a new supply before he left. It’s been 9 months and no Hoover at all from him. That’s good for me.

    • @toniwilliams9817
      @toniwilliams9817 Рік тому +3

      Be glad he left you alone. A lot of us weren’t so lucky

  • @yogib8
    @yogib8 Рік тому +21

    I was the one who asked for the divorce . Well I guess that was the discard . I was DONE DONE … I saw no progress which had been in a reasonable amount of time…I wanted out , whatever lil dignity I had left I was taking it with me … I needed no closure, at least not from him… whatever needed to be closed I’d close it myself… I escaped and got away…

  • @leandraherring1824
    @leandraherring1824 Рік тому +10

    MRS. TELSHA 💖 I JUST WENT THROUGH THAT WITH THAT SIDE STEPPING CAMEL HE WOULD LEAVE IN THE MIDDLE OF US TALKING AND NOT COME HOME FOR 3 OR 4 NIGHTS HUNNY IM DONE AND DONE WITH THAT DOG.. AND HE'S 52 YEARS OLD PLAYING GAMES BYE DUCK AND YOUR ACHING KNEES 😂😂🔨🔨 LOVE YOU QUEEN TELSHA NOW IM TAKING MY POWER BACK MOVING IN SILENCE 💯❤️🔨🔨 THAT PART 💯

  • @hatchingofthegods648
    @hatchingofthegods648 Рік тому +6

    They never wanna talk it all the way out your just left with the emotion of the situation

  • @rdub4life
    @rdub4life Рік тому +6

    Been free 9 months going on 4eva!!!! NO CONTACT with the bird OR his monkeys and the head crow (the one who birth him, NOT a mother). He is the PERFECT example of “the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree.”

  • @donnahale1011
    @donnahale1011 Рік тому +9

    I would let him know that I did not need him but he needed me...CRAZY 4 them 2 leave when they need u...real CRAZY!!!

  • @meganfrancis4431
    @meganfrancis4431 Рік тому +7

    Throw that trash and his/her stuff out!!!! I loved it, Boy Bye!!!!

  • @JoannA-sweetly
    @JoannA-sweetly Рік тому +11

    Stay gone! Stay free! THANK YOU, THANK YOU TELSHA, agent of the Most High God!

  • @jbsdiversified9510
    @jbsdiversified9510 11 місяців тому +5

    You are so right sister Tea! It hit the narcissist like an unforseen storm! When I told that narcissist it was over she thought it was a joke! I proved it by no contact! I'm grade triple A supply she really hated to lose me and still doesn't know what to do but she had it coming! She kept poking the bear but instead of attacking, the bear walked away! No more narcissist forever!

  • @cwiltzjr
    @cwiltzjr Рік тому +11

    Went NC and haven’t heard from her at all! My ex didn’t have a FB page for years and suddenly she signed on with an account a few weeks ago. 🤷🏾‍♂️ Blocked her and her associates quickly! She hasn’t been by my place or my job! I am enjoying the silence! So, I am blessed! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

  • @donnasissoko8289
    @donnasissoko8289 Рік тому +7

    The most DELLUSIONAL People in the 🌐💨💨💨✔️🚫

  • @tanyagamble3432
    @tanyagamble3432 Рік тому +4

    I can’t be reached so the flying monkeys are after me I won’t accept any new friends.

  • @fosterjanine5112
    @fosterjanine5112 Рік тому +3

    They took for granted thinking you would always stick around and be their doormat! They can be someone's else problem and karma will come to them tenfold! Don't give your power away to someone who will use it against you and you end up being destroyed! Ever.

  • @relmo3528
    @relmo3528 Рік тому +5

    We're protected totally from them... Our gardian angels and personal guardian angel has show us so much and reveal everything about them. They're not and never will harm us again. This is sealed and irrevocable forever.

  • @tarshaledwards7468
    @tarshaledwards7468 Рік тому +24

    The ex narc husband still in shock that I never came back and it’s been 4 years

    • @kimberlys347
      @kimberlys347 Рік тому +12

      That’s what I was thinking, they’re not so much shocked you left but shocked you stayed gone! I love it

    • @MarriageFraudSurvivors
      @MarriageFraudSurvivors Рік тому +3

      Yes poor things think that everybody wants them 😂

    • @kimberlys347
      @kimberlys347 Рік тому +3

      @@MarriageFraudSurvivors this made me laugh out loud. So true! I dumped mine almost a year ago and he’s STILL searching for my replacement. He thought he was gonna replace me quickly, bc he thinks everyone wants him. 😂 thank you for this

    • @MarriageFraudSurvivors
      @MarriageFraudSurvivors Рік тому +1

      @@kimberlys347 you’re welcome! I’ve been rid of my narc for 5 years now. I brought him from Jamaican and he gave me his butt to kiss after a month. Now immigrations is on his butt trying to kick him out of the US. He has a BM and a couple of other supplies over here. I’m glad I’m no longer apart of his sick and twisted harem!

    • @kimberlys347
      @kimberlys347 Рік тому +1

      @@MarriageFraudSurvivors glad you’re free from that mess. We are all better off without them. Like Ms. T says, they belong on an island all together

  • @angelinaalexander5910
    @angelinaalexander5910 Рік тому +9

    Lookie- here, lookie- here😂 just get me the information. I'm on it. I thought I was dealing with a bipolar. Come to find out I was dealing with a whole devil😠 Dey don't get shiaat from me, a boot up daass👍

  • @LN-pm5yl
    @LN-pm5yl Рік тому +7

    They will obsess over you forever. My ex has a new supply whos supposedly perfect yet still constantly trying to get my attention. When my youngest turns 18 I am moving several states away and he will not know.

  • @lifewithtaliyah3930
    @lifewithtaliyah3930 Рік тому +27

    This is so TRUE! My ex had his ex targeted me on Facebook & even after he discarded her, she still was attacking me. They both are sick individuals!

    • @aalexnavas
      @aalexnavas Рік тому +4

      Block them..

    • @armcandi36
      @armcandi36 Рік тому

      Same he has drug her through the mud but they both are narcissist

  • @victoriahollis13
    @victoriahollis13 Рік тому +17

    As a young woman in the seventies, I had no idea what was going on with the bird 🐔. I learned thru listening to Tea what had been dealing with. It's been almost two years since breaking away from last narcissist. So, thankful for being educated on these type of people. My family is full of narcissist issues. I have keep my distance. I always knew that if my mother got saved all the cards would fall. She persists in being a victim and critiques and criticizes everyone. Thanks be to God for his marvelous kindness.

  • @patriciamacnichol5061
    @patriciamacnichol5061 Рік тому +33

    Hi All,
    The only truthful statement my soon to be narc ex husband said to me was, "I never thought you would leave".
    Full disclosure: he had good reason to think that because I was caught in the cycle for 4 decades.
    Unbelievable, I know.
    Please believe me when I say that it is never too late to have a life of freedom and peace.
    Of course I wish I had awakened sooner, but I'm thankful that I won't die tethered to this dysfunction.
    I'm grateful, and I give praise and glory to the Lord for awakening me when it was clear I could not do it with my own human capabilities.
    Broken and damaged, I surrendered to the Lord one night, and He took over.
    I was led to websites like this one, and it was game over for the marriage.
    God Bless everyone in this bittersweet community.
    Thank you, Tea, for your divine gift enlightening us.

    • @patriciamacnichol5061
      @patriciamacnichol5061 Рік тому +3

      @D Young
      Dear D Young,
      I know how mindbending it is to wake up to the fact that you've been with someone with this disorder.
      You and I have sacrificed too many years living someone else's life.
      You live your life now.
      I promise you that the work and pain involved in healing, is still more tolerable than life with a narcissist.
      Although life still has challenges, I am in peace; for the first time in forever, peace.
      If you have even a mustard seed size of Faith, latch on to it and give it all to God.
      Stop fighting the constant pain, let God take over.
      I pray you have a beautiful life, filled with love and peace.

    • @judybfine
      @judybfine Рік тому +2

      I've been married for 16 years...together for 23 years. I just filed for divorce...I love him but I couldn't take no more & I had to chose me. I pray for his deliverance, healing & peace...cause these Narcs need it. 🙏

    • @patriciamacnichol5061
      @patriciamacnichol5061 Рік тому +2

      @judyb Fine
      Hi Judy,
      It took me a long time to forgive, pray for, and bless the ex, but wow, when I finally felt it, instead of just struggling to do it, as the Lord tells us to, what additional weight lifted off me.
      I know how hard and sad this journey can be, but I just know, truly believe, leaving was the best thing I could have ever done.
      I truly felt like I was not going to make it through the pain, grief, etc.
      Yes, these narcs need all the prayers we can offer, because the Lord is truly the only way that they would ever be able to stop the destruction they cause.
      All the professionals and brilliant minds have been unable to reach them, but I can pray, bless, and forgive, from a distance now, and feel it a lot more genuinely, than I could when I was still in the situation.
      God Bless You judyb, and I wish you peace, love, and joy.
      You've earned it!

    • @judybfine
      @judybfine Рік тому +1

      @@patriciamacnichol5061 Thanks for the encouragement ❤️

  • @rachelegilbert8175
    @rachelegilbert8175 Рік тому +3

    I could never understand if they were so unhappy, why they would never leave. Now I know why. It’s the supply; of any kind! They’ll put their “pride” to the side for supply. Narc supply is the air that they breathe, so when you take that away for good, it’s a devastating blow to their demonic spirit.

  • @michaeltaylor9096
    @michaeltaylor9096 Рік тому +6

    No contact works! It's been NARC/she was in panic mode in the beginning. I get hoovered every couple of weeks. She is blocked. Call goes to voicemail. She went from calling TO RIDING WHERE I HANGOUT WITH FAMILY. WITH HER NEW SUPPLY IN THE CAR. I GAVE NO RESPONSE. I WONDER WHAT IS NEXT. ALSO CALLING FROM UNKOWN NUMBERS NOT SAYING ANYTHING WHEN I ANSWER. I BLOCK THOSE NUMBERS ALSO. WHAT DOES SHE WANT???

  • @Briley1980
    @Briley1980 Рік тому +9

    Ooh wee...we snatching power grids on these ducks with combat boots on, backwards walking giraffes!! Best word of the week sis!!! Reminds me of the old school videos you did back in the day, but let me tell you that anointing you got ain't no joke!!! It destroys the yoke and breaks chains!!

  • @Chidiuche
    @Chidiuche Рік тому +2

    You know, your Naija exclaimation mixed with your accent is probably one of the funniest expression I've heard recently..Heyyyy..Yes ooo 🤣🤣🤣

  • @chrisgaddy8672
    @chrisgaddy8672 Рік тому +10

    You're spot on with that. My Narc had the nerve to say to me the week she left.
    This might be the last time we see each other, so let's savor the moment. What!!!!

  • @willowclay5406
    @willowclay5406 Рік тому +1

    Shut it down permanently! Snatch your power grid back!

  • @danielleholliday7519
    @danielleholliday7519 Рік тому +4

    Yes Ma'am. Ms.T I was ghosted after two years on Valentine's Day. I snatched the we power grid when he came back after 3 days of not hearing anything from him. He tried to love bomb me and a Discarded him and went complete Black Out!! He has been stalking me every since!! Bye Clown.. Loan Denied forever... Be Blessed Sir!

  • @kevotldyaso5202
    @kevotldyaso5202 Рік тому +2

    One been gone for 2 years came around and thought he was gone come back in my life and was real shocked when I didn't say not one word!
    Then had the nerve to message me the next day and ask if he could breed his dog with mine... like WHET??? didn't say not one thing!
    That ass got the message now!!

  • @cmonnnbri
    @cmonnnbri Рік тому +3

    How is this so relatable?! I ignored the red flags because i’m a huge empath. I ended up having a child with him and he’s already trying to take control over my sons life. I rebuke it in the name of Jesus! So i’m waiting on Gods blessing to move and leave him in the dust! We stay in the same house and he doesn’t even come to see him. Only when his family (that never come to visit) to take pictures to post on facebook. Then i found an email of him sending a picture of me pregnant this time last year. God my lesson is learned! Remove him from our lives especially my sons life and let us live in peace!

  • @zeetee5346
    @zeetee5346 Рік тому +24

    God bless you Telsha, this is exactly what happened in my situation. He pulled my bedroom door down but never expected I would leave. 9 months gone and I'm a whole new person.

  • @Kat-zl8pz
    @Kat-zl8pz Рік тому +2

    I changed my number and blocked him on social
    Media then deleted my social media after during his "shelfing". Too many too much shelfing and damage done already. We are 500 miles apart. 10 months no contact. 🤷🏻‍♀️ i am still feeling severly depressed.

  • @carlitah74
    @carlitah74 Рік тому +12

    I definitely know my soon to be ex husband didn't expect me to leave January 2021, because I gave no warnings. I had been planning for months. That was the best decision I could have ever made.

  • @girlbeautiful2727
    @girlbeautiful2727 7 місяців тому +1

    These build a birds gonna keep plotting and chirping in trees 🤦🏽‍♀️ smh…

  • @Flokix4
    @Flokix4 Рік тому +17

    I FCKING DID IT💪🏼💥🤺

  • @CoachCreesh
    @CoachCreesh Рік тому +5

    Although I don't like the term; I call my "DISCARD" the GIFT that KEEPS ON GIVING! I LOVE LOVE LOVE IT HERE 💃🏿❤️💯💃🏿❤️💯💃🏿❤️💯

  • @tyreewilliams7954
    @tyreewilliams7954 Рік тому +12

    For real Ms.Telsha, you are on point no doubt, in February 2023 it'll be two years no contact, this whole week is going to be Hoover City so get ready fam, they'll be riding around our houses. Remember A HOOVER IS NOT FLATTERING. Enjoy the Holiday everyone Food and Football 🤣.

    • @tyreewilliams7954
      @tyreewilliams7954 Рік тому +3

      @@joshuaanzalone2060 Good for you Joshua 💯💯!! Proud of you

    • @tyreewilliams7954
      @tyreewilliams7954 Рік тому +3

      @@mstenacious274 Hey Ms. Tenacious 💯❤️

  • @josephroberts2321
    @josephroberts2321 Рік тому +18

    Absolutely Queen you shot off a nuclear missile with this video, I remember times the monster used to discard me and all of a sudden pop back up a couple of days later like nothing happened, wow this is true revelation of the narcissist and how they really get down thank you Queen for this message it was on point as always God bless you 👑✨💫💪🏿🙏🏿🖤💯🥰🔥❤️‍🔥💫💫✨✨❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥💖💓💕

  • @s.nodash8448
    @s.nodash8448 Рік тому +14

    Please cover the Shanquella Robinson story as it pertains to narcissism.

  • @donnahale1011
    @donnahale1011 Рік тому +4

    Now I understand y he would say that we will always b 2gether but I look at it like I'M DONE...IT'S OVER...NO CONTACT!!!!

  • @eringobragh7
    @eringobragh7 5 місяців тому +1

    Narcissist’s don’t discard, they disengage, that’s fact!
    I was discarded by a Psychopath 9 years ago and thought I would never hear from him again, thank God.
    My horror came when the Psychopath found me on a new social media profile of mine 8 years later and messaged me like nothing ever happened!
    I deleted that profile and shut it all the way down.
    In my experience now that I have a deep understanding of narcissism, they always come back.
    I’ve realised I’ve got rid of several out of my life (family, friends and 3 ex partners).
    Now I know in their minds that I’m supply, I’ve shut it down all the way 💯
    Thank you Ms Telsha ❤

  • @Sonoio20245
    @Sonoio20245 6 місяців тому +1

    That's why they don't work...to busy playing with their cruel business 😈

  • @stephanietrinidad6579
    @stephanietrinidad6579 Рік тому +11

    THAT PART!!! 💯💯💯 Your Absence FOREVER just got to say I am so proud of myself for reclaiming my freedom back. lol...I am grateful everything worked out how it did and I hit him where it hurts, which was by discarding them during the love bomb and placing his behind on child support so that he understood what time it really was bc BABYYY nothing is more valuable than your "Peace and happiness" and being anywhere near these miserable creatures is just that "Insane and miserable" a true reflection of who they really are!!...and of course due to the fact that the extreme blow to the ego I hit him w/he didn't try to hoover (unsuccessfully) until 4 months later, while I was leaving my Apts and rode right by him like nothing, that fool is going through it I tell YOU, hasn't had a haircut in all that time and was talking shii to somebody on the phone on his way to pop up on me ..LOL probably getting his delusional behind amped up playing victim on the phone boy KARMA iS A Real B*shhh I that is all I got to say about it! They Love to play the game till they get played they can't take what they ditch out which makes them WEAK as heck! YOUR ABSENCE FOREVER is the only response to these BIRDS and to think his friends all call him "EAGLE BIRD DOTT" ..LMAO hey it makes sense probably the only thing REAL about this Clown was his shitty nickname....smh !:) god bless and keep going is my advise to any1 that has ever fallen victim to a person w/NPD this disorder is something serious!!🤡🤡🤡

  • @willowclay5406
    @willowclay5406 Рік тому +1

    I'm not interested in his mind games anymore! I know all the tactics. GAME OVER! MOVE ON PSYCHOS!

  • @777JESUSISLORD71
    @777JESUSISLORD71 Рік тому +2

    Mine kept saying girl you're not going anywhere . That was a lie from the devil. I showed him the devil was a lie. I'm out

  • @tanyagamble3432
    @tanyagamble3432 Рік тому +8

    Thank you sis your still saving lives time waits for no one it’s been 2 yrs 3 mths since I vanished and all access is still denied. So This swamp creature is still insane and had someone to befriend me on Facebook long story short I blocked this person but I did find out he hadn’t changed it’s unbelievable this creature will be 58 in January still acting a whole fool . Thank you for being part of my healing journey.

  • @lindabest3171
    @lindabest3171 Рік тому +30

    Thank you Lady Telsha 😘. This message is another absolute truth of the fruits that these Crows Manifest. It amazed me that my ex Narccistic husband, showed up at a Venue ,after 25 years had passed, acting like nothing had ever happened. He had the audacity to talk (at) me, as he had just stepped off for a 2 week vacation. Too bad he didn't know that I was well - long over him.He Stormed out (heated),from the Venue like his A--,was set on 🔥🔥🔥🤣🤣🤣.I 🙌🏿✨️God that I've finally been legally divorced from him for 5yrs now 😀 😄.

  • @CoryMill
    @CoryMill Рік тому +7

    My narc ex friend discarded and blocked me 10 months ago and I’ve never heard from or seen her since. She discarded me because I helped her much with her Christian walk with God and she started having an affair and she didn’t want me to know about that. She knows that having an affair is wrong and knows that I would tell her that.

    • @sagba9473
      @sagba9473 Рік тому +2

      Same happened to me she started messing with a married man and knew I would get on her a$$

    • @CoryMill
      @CoryMill Рік тому +1

      @@sagba9473 It tears me up at times still!

  • @1010QUEEN7
    @1010QUEEN7 Рік тому +22

    Great sermon thank you for allowing God to use you you are a precious gift

  • @WoolyTresses
    @WoolyTresses Рік тому +1

    Week before thanx day I went no contact. He called once I didn't answer. He didn't call back. I'm GOOD🥰

  • @donnieadams2839
    @donnieadams2839 Рік тому +3

    I did the discard, ended the relationship. They never thought I would do it and they went crazy; Went into a narcissist rage times 10 power and totally destroyed our home . I’m free now. They stated they have no regrets on destroying our home and will do it again . Well, God, I see the enemy but I’m no way connected or sleeping with the enemy. I’ve been following you. I’m learning my voice and by listening to my . God. I cannot be connected to a demon yet alone having sex. So thank you sis for the truth because the truth has set me free. I love me.

  • @aalexnavas
    @aalexnavas Рік тому +6

    Thanks to you T. I build the courage to ignore 4 Hoovers by the Mother and the Brother within the past 2 months. The Narc must be reeling since her family did not succeed with the Hoovers.. ❤

  • @kieshaspady4923
    @kieshaspady4923 Рік тому +5

    Happy Sunday Everyone ✋

  • @azailialankster657
    @azailialankster657 Рік тому +10

    Well go ahead and tell the truth boo. I got my ticket too freedom baby by the grace of God my eyes are open. Very proud of myself and will always be the one who got away!!!!!☺️💯✨

  • @ottriewhitehead705
    @ottriewhitehead705 Рік тому +13

    Listen!!!, married for 12 years 5 kids. I'm in year 4 of being apart and I'm watching the cycle right before my eyes with different women. He left the woman he left me for, for another woman with better supply for what he needed. He tried to spin the block no baby. I bossed up and he is steadily depending on women and from pillow to post. Smh. Me and the kids are doing so good without him and he hates it.

    • @MarriageFraudSurvivors
      @MarriageFraudSurvivors Рік тому

      Same with me, they’re a special kind of stupid!

    • @eml5807
      @eml5807 Рік тому

      THEY ARE DISEASE CARRIERS AND SPREADERS.

  • @briaalford7799
    @briaalford7799 Рік тому +9

    Yes ma’am! Left my narc of 2 years on Friday. He was out with his baby mom the next day going to a football game and what not, went on and told my cousin that I messed up with him lol I definitely broke up with him and it was HIS fault but whatever.

  • @isha6085
    @isha6085 Рік тому +1

    Rhinos with bows 😂Ducks with combat boots 🤣

  • @peachesmcghee9802
    @peachesmcghee9802 Рік тому +2

    I snatched the Power Grid. He was totally in shock.I told him I love me more than him. I have my self respect, my Peace of mine. My last words to him was You never return to your vomit. May you find God in your journey, then I said 👋 Goodbye

  • @mcr1679
    @mcr1679 6 місяців тому +2

    he was a master of the silent treatment/reverse hoover... I caught on and started watching these videos. he had texted me a corny ass voice note talking about how he was worried and hoped i was well, how he couldnt stop thinking of me etc. I answered 2 days later with "everything is going very well" (i'm in another country) and now I went completely silent. I know he is doing the reverse hoover but bby I'm gooooone. Today is his bday but that clown will never ever hear from me again! I can feel his anxiety/anger/... it's weird it's not my energy. I pray every day so I can finally breeak this soul tie... he tried to do me dirty, watch how imma make his dusty ass dirtiER with my absence

  • @lynnwalker4329
    @lynnwalker4329 Рік тому +2

    I got out and I'm never ever going back praise God hallelujah for the strength to get out

  • @sisterchannel4465
    @sisterchannel4465 Рік тому +4

    It’s the YES OH in your Nigerian accent 🇳🇬🇳🇬🇳🇬🇳🇬🇳🇬 for me 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

  • @melissaquestelles7380
    @melissaquestelles7380 Рік тому +9

    Jehovah my God, I thank you for Tea! Continue to shine in your divine destiny. You have helped so many people. It is beyound your imagination.

  • @bem6344
    @bem6344 Рік тому +7

    You have literally helped me get away from the narcissist that has tormented my life for 5 years. Thank you so much for your advice and videos ❤God bless

  • @donnahale1011
    @donnahale1011 Рік тому +17

    Ms. Tea ur telling the TRUTH!!!! THIS KNOWLEDGE IS POWER!!!!!!!

  • @alexholland322
    @alexholland322 Рік тому +2

    Unfortunately I didn’t have the pleasure of discarding her she discarded me. She woke up one day and didn’t want to be with me anymore. It’s been a month since I’ve heard from her and it’s been really tough but I’ve maintained no contact.

  • @dawnia4291
    @dawnia4291 Рік тому +41

    Tea you’re the best!! You have helped me so much over the last 2 years! I owe my recovery to you and the Almighty God for showing me your channel! God bless you!

    • @leniecelewis3415
      @leniecelewis3415 Рік тому +6

      Same Here I Was severely depressed until I ran across Ms T's video I immediately got deliverance and healing and I owe it all to God and thanking God that he used sister tea to bring forth my healing ♥️

    • @TheTeaonNPDandRelationships
      @TheTeaonNPDandRelationships  Рік тому +5

      I give The Most High all the glory Sis!!💕🙌🏽🙏🏽💕

    • @TheTeaonNPDandRelationships
      @TheTeaonNPDandRelationships  Рік тому +5

      Hallelujah to God be all the glory!!💕💯🙏🏽🙌🏽💕

  • @racheljubilee71
    @racheljubilee71 Рік тому +13

    Preach it, Sister!!!!!!!

  • @cassandrabartee4999
    @cassandrabartee4999 Рік тому +13

    TY Telsha for this ON TIME Message! NO MORE BACK & FORTH With That Crazy, Cunning 🐊! I'm taking All Of My Power Back! 💪🏿🙏🏿👏🏿🤗🥰💖💝

  • @maudcabot5624
    @maudcabot5624 Рік тому +10

    FOR-EVER! That part. Amen. Thank you, Miss T 🙏❤️

  • @juliamarie8551
    @juliamarie8551 Рік тому

    When the trash takes itself out, don’t try to go back and retrieve it! No one wants trash or garbage!

  • @OrlandoP
    @OrlandoP Рік тому +6

    They just some ole Can’t Get Rights😵‍💫😉

  • @brucewilliams5614
    @brucewilliams5614 Рік тому +6

    Ms.Telsha, that spot of tea was on time. Have a tremendous day!

  • @Malligue
    @Malligue Рік тому +1

    Im out of the house of illusions. It's been 4 months. No hoover yet. Don't think he will either.😃

  • @terridameron2074
    @terridameron2074 Рік тому +1

    Yes yes they put you up on the Shelf in a vase with all the other collection they tried to anyways I call it recyclable stuff they use you to fill in between discard

  • @dscott4154
    @dscott4154 Рік тому +18

    Ms. Tea, I am truly grateful for your words of wisdom. Have a beautiful blessed Thanksgiving. Thank you.