@davon3384 because this is the point of meditation to ultimately become more aware of yourself and others, to get rid off all the problems you have in your life and tackle them one by one until you have nothing else to conquer and you are somewhat happy with where you are at and even can say that to death. You are supposed to feel emotions but realistically speaking they just don't really make you do things you don't want to, you don't submit to them anymore. This is all what meditation will do to you, the OP of this post just doesn't understand that they feeling this way is actually part of the process and is completely fine to stumble upon, gah, even better to finally land here. EDIT: did you watch the full video? at least 1/4 of it?
@davon3384 i was at this point which OP was talking about and felt really good, what was worrying me was that i didn't feel negative emotions I feel I judged them and ignored them, so you are 100% right that you should accept all thoughts and feelings unconditionally. I think you need to be conscious of what you are doing. Regarding your first question and your answer I do not find your answer satisfying. Most of the techniques in meditation aim to make you more aware of your nuances. Regarding the 100s of techniques... it is up to the individual to decide on what tradition and what practice to choose from, example is someone with ADHD wont be able to do many practices like someone without ADHD. I had no idea what i was doing to reach that point also, so I wouldn't worry about this. I still think that you might have got what Dr K. wanted to say when he said that "it starts working" but let me rephrase myself. Simply it was the goal of pretty much every meditation tradition to make you more aware and strengthen your frontal lobe so all the urges are less powerful and you can control your body. If you feel like talking with me here is my discord burner account: "machehasie" drop me a friend request and I'll be happy to answer your questions. If that is not possible way of contacting me, well im sure we can figure it out if both of us want to. Take care and keep meditating
@davon3384 Meditation teaches you to accept all thoughts, feelings, and realities unconditionally. Once you mastered that, you’ve conquered your ego (probably not the best choice of words) and you feel Done with everything. You’re perfectly fine to feel that way as there is nothing to attain. Living from that perspective takes some getting used to as it’s different from 99% of the population lives.
That part. It is isolating as 99% of the world wants the best of the best. But living in awareness appears as living in mediocrity . I want to get out there and go work for 'success ' but theres just no motivation for that
When posting on reddit you aren't only helping yourself, you are helping everyone with similar questions but not able to ask the questions. Thank you to every one who is asking these questions on the reddit! Expressing yourself that understandably is something difficult to achieve, at least for me. I have been asking myself almost the same question for a while now. Just had no idea how write a comprehensible reddit post about it.
wow same. i saw what i thought were negative effects of a couple years of meditation recently where i didn’t feel any struggle which scared me. i felt like i didn’t feel anything anymore, no pleasures no pains, even didnt feel connected to my gf. i still don’t fully understand how this relates and exactly how to make it positive instead but i think this video/question is going to help me. thanks for asking it
I've had very similar thoughts about this topic before, but not necessarily meditation related. I just get these thoughts out of nowhere, like sometimes i'll be thinking about how i can improve at this game i like but part of my brain just says "this game doesnt really make me any happier, it doesn't mean anything" To which i kind of get scared because if all of the things i enjoy are meaningless what is the point of life? Its kind of the similar question being asked but from different circumstances, probably because i have different problems from the guy in the post. I've always kind of thought that life is about part struggle and part joy, but it can really be whatever you want. Hopefully this made some sense.
This is the weirdest yet most efficient form of group therapy ive ever been involved in. Theres engagement and the ability to just listen. Its nice. Thanks for putting this online and letting me be part of it
Right. And I am not even a gamer, lol. I think the trick is that he is highly intelligent, but also emotionally intelligent and comes in good faith. I feel like I could show this guy my true self, and he would neither mock nor placate me.
This is how the early internet was. A public conversation about what ever your passionate about. There were corners were you could seek advice or vent. Dr. K is also teaching kindness and compassion, whereas a lot of society is radicalized and has a knee-jerk reaction to the mildest things. He's up there with Fred Rogers and Bob Ross.
Thats because you think of many things! We all do, so when he makes a video, odds you have likely at least started to mentally look into whatever the topic is. It's kinda the genius of this platform--It banks on the similarities of the thoughts and stuggles of this demographic in order to help as many people as possible.
"The goal doesnt matter" is a phrase that gymgoers, athletes and people with passions will deeply understand, and is moreso true for mediation. Can you have a goal? Yes, loosing fat, gaining muscle, learning certain songs on the guitar or whichever instrument, or whatever goal is ok to have, but they wont bring happyness. This is one of the things that I know are hard to explain to people who have not found that "joy" that DrK describes that comes from meditation, but I just wanted to comment to let people know that yes, this is something that happens and that you'll get there. So yeah, go get the tatoo. You're not bound by the ego but engaging with it is not "sin", its life. So live while you can.
I disagree. Athletes and "those with a passion, gymgoers, etc all have a goal. Do people think that Athletes just train because they like training? No, they want to be the best, which is why many of them are on enhancement drugs in order to be the best. When I was an athlete, my goal was to improve every single day, not just "Enjoyment, " even though I enjoyed my sport and I had lots of fun... However, if I never improved..... or worse, even got worse over time.... Would it still be fun? Those who go to the Gym do so to work out and get stronger, improve themselves, and get healthier, etc. If you were working out, and ended up becoming weaker, and losing muscle... Would you still work out? Would you still want to work out if you didn't advance? "Enjoyment" is nice, and you want to enjoy what you do, but joy by itself only brings stagnation, whereas a goal allows you to improve. There are also many times the "Joy" wears off with the stagnation. You also mention Musicians, and while they play for enjoyment, they also play in order to get better and create music. The JOY comes from accomplishment, success, and hard work that comes from it. What kind of Musician just wants to play Cords their entire lives? They go out trying to experiment, trying to create and that births joy and happiness. All of the musicians wanted to create music, so that people could listen. Many of them made money off of it too. For example, One of my passions is to become a farmer and become self-sufficient. The fruits of my labor when I get Milk, Eggs, Fruits, Produce, etc will brings me joy and great joy, because with all of my hard work, comes accomplishment. Do you think I would want to be a farmer and plant tons of plants, have animals, etc, if there is no benefit from it? Yes I want a large dog pack that wont provide food, but they will still have a purpose. Another passion of mine is software. I've been a developer for over a decade, and do you think I just code to just code, or do you believe there is a reason I write code? I want to create things, I want to build things, I want my thoughts to become reality. Just learning to code constantly, and just reading and not putting it into practice isn't going to make anyone happy. There is always a goal.
@@lukebrindax7465 I feel like this is a huge projection of your own views onto other people. Not everyone sees things the way you do. Also, I resent the remark about Gymgoers, that just seems like a very conceited, incel-ish thing to say.
@@lukebrindax7465 it's amazing how you'll see someone who does the same things as you, but have a very different perspective on things. I may not be an athlete, but I'm a regular gymgoer. I competed on table tennis only on school level when I'm still studying, but I never won and competed against athletes from other schools. I know very well that I didn't stand a chance, but did it just out of pure enjoyment. I was completely captivated by computer programming since high school and became known as "the computer guy". My curiosity and thirst for knowledge drove me to take a deep dive to whatever I can learn about coding until I eventually became a software engineer. Currently I kinda have a love-hate relationship with coding mostly because I'm forced to code in a way I don't like by my company. But I'm also working on a side project that may become my full time work. If all goes well, there'll come a time when I can have a full control on the direction of tech I'm working on. I tried going to gym just because a friend asked me and I just said "sure", but I found that working out is something I truly enjoy doing. The gains are all good, but working out itself became the reward by now that I customized my program so I could go to the gym 6 times a week. And I figured that if I like going to gym anyway, why not set a goal? So now I decided to pursue calisthenics and currently working on my handstand and front lever. You're right that there's always a goal, but for some people, they're not the end all and be all. I think I belong to that category. Once you find something you like doing, it becomes like a hammer that looks for a nail. It's not that you set out to a journey because you have a goal, but you set a goal so that you can have a journey. At least that's what it's like to me.
@@JAM-rp6fi "You're projecting..." Projecting what? I'm speaking of my personal experiences, not projecting myself onto others, do you know what projection is? Do you know what an Opinion, is? Why should you resent the remark that many Gymgoers go to gyms for other reasons besides working out(is it because you fall into that category)? I started working out at age 11 in a Dungeon Gym... Regular gyms are filled with these types of people, which is why I work out at home. "that just seems like a very conceited, incel-ish thing to say." With such an angry, aggressive post using insults... Are you sure you're not the one who's "Projecting" now? Maybe you shouldn't use buzzwords that you don't understand. Besides the fact that with my entire post, the one thing that upset you was the gym comment about lazy people in the gym.... Clearly you identify heavily with what I mentioned, which is why you're upset. Have a great day.
"Life becomes play" is kinda how I've been trying to see things nowdays. When I go rockclimbing now whenever I'm up near the top of the wall feeling nervous and sweaty and shaky I'm just thinking "man this simulation is really good! This is awesome!"
Definitely agree. When you've made it to a point of success with an enlightened mind, there's no fear of failing because you see that there is even joy to be found in succeeding all over again.
Great if it helps you having a better life experience, but id like to add something. Life is not a game, what you are doing is again believing in something to make life easier for you, you could also choose to believe that god helps you climb and not fall, and itll do the same trick if not even better (because god is all mighty you know). Yes life is a place that is similar to a Simulation or a game, but if you dont come to that conclusion because there is simply No other option to picture life, then its a belief. What we are doing here is still laying filters above reality (beliefs) because we cannot bear to just accept now, with the feeling of fear, doubts, pain, and insecuritys, without trying to change them. These things are present but we need coping mechanisms because of our incapability of just living in the present and ego free, ego is afraid of falling, consciousness isnt. You can find out every moment in which youre acting out of ego, by simply recognizing if the suffering that is present is happening to a somebody. Is the pain just feelable in the now, the present, or is it also feelable in your mind and imagination? Hope this helped you, sorry if i just threw this in without anybody asking but i felt like this is a great addition to what you explained
I used to be very socially anxious, and lately I've been doing something similar, it has really helped me with making conversation and opening up to others :)
Life is, still was and will be play. I do not understand people, who stop playing. Your are attached btw. by your endorphine rush, it seems. Your point of view, seems to be Thelematic.
it's like trying to describe color with your words to someone who has never seen color. each form of perception like hearing, seeing, touching, are all in their own ballpark, and meditation is a form of perception of the mind.
I have started fearing communicating, because in reality, we cannot really communicate properly which is what my goal has been. I often struggle nowadays to say of what I think.
I think this peaceful "enlightenment" is just the default state of a complete person. If our societal structures and belief systems were conducive to human happiness, our children were raised in safety, our language contained the adequate tools to describe more of the emotional human experience, then we would all, naturally, be enlightened. But we live in a world run by profit, and our children know existential fear from a young age while never learning the necessary tools to make sense of themselves let alone the world around them. This is how you make widespread societal change, by educating millions of young minds. Young minds who will use this knowledge to make the world a better place after we're gone. Thank you Dr. K, people like you are helping undo the unaddressed generational traumas of the past millennia. Whether you realize it or not, you are creating a better world.
As a mathematician, what you said about logic being fake is so true. Even if we just consider mathematics and not even bother considering physics, in mathematics we have these axioms that are based on human ideas of how logic should apply in a mathematical universe. We have axioms that say how you can construct the objects that we study. But the moment you swap some of those axioms out, you can sometimes get completely different conclusions and theorems.
Deducing from Axioms is all logic is supposed to do. Of course it falls apart once you swap the axiom since everything sits on it. Logic is pretty incredible otherwise. So we just have to find the perfect axiom and logic does the Rest.
I think this is one of the main problems of meditating without guidance, and why it's so important for monks to have a master and a sangha (community). Meditation isn't about self-indulgence or self-alienation, it's about developing true consciousness and attention. Without any guidance, it can turn into a mere analgesic exercise. Another toy for the ego, which turns from emotions of rejection and obsession into equally unhealthy indifference. This is why meditating in groups/communities is important, so as to not lose track of the fact that we are not singular beings separated from everything and everyone that surrounds us, as a matter of fact, there is no real separation. The separation is a product of our imagination. This is what Buddhism teaches at least.
@@user-jc5ff7tu5o No, Buddha did not rise from the dead. He was a normal, regular human being who died of food poisoning. All Buddha did was make some findings and leave us some teachings that were very valuable for humanity. Among those teachings are certain methods of meditation. These teachings can be applied regardless of your religious beliefs.
He doesn’t answer the question of how you choose without desire. Because without desire you wouldn’t make a choice. Playing by the rules of the game doesn’t answer the question because you still have to make a choice, not to mention why play by the rules. You can’t live free from desire and be functional.
This video makes sense of so much for me because I literally told my therapist a week ago that my biggest struggle in life right now is that I feel a sense of apathy towards everything because there’s nothing I really desire intensely. I’ve been working on myself, my mental health and meditating for almost 3 years now. I was fresh out of an abusive narc relationship trying to find my identity again and put my life back together. Because of the apathy now, I was under the impression that it meant there was something wrong with me, turns out I’m right where I need to be. I even tried explaining to my therapist that it’s not like a bad apathy, I don’t hate my life and I’m not depressed or anything like that, I just don’t really care about what I do either way because regardless I’ll be fine and I just feel content with how I am. If anything, I want to try a relationship again, the healthy way, and see where it takes me.
That's awesome man being self sufficient and content is the whole point. Anything else that can add to our lives is just a bonus, not desired nor preferred but wouldn't hurt to have.
@@scythekh7356 Exactly, I feel like now I can truly appreciate the present and when I want something and get it I can take it for what it is and let go when it's time to do so. This mindset leaves you In a peaceful neutral state regardless of what's happening.
I feel the same but I have the problem that I'm an extremely capable desire killer and my two most used tools were reducing the reward's value and overpricing the costs of the attempt. By getting more enlightened and emotionally capable the desires decreased naturally and artificially devaluating them stopped and I became more capable to appreciate things for what they are. The trouble is nothing is worth the price of being alive every day. The satisfaction of any action is whole and true, but small far too small. Being alive is an annoying task. The bad thing is not working and going to gym, the very need to get off bed (staying in bed even worse) is already an obligation I'd like to not have
I also went through the same situation, it can become a problem if you get stuck there, I started to think that I was anhedonic or depressed, the thing that unstuck me was, as you said, seeing my self like a character in a videogame, I started to lose motivation and desire to do stuff, waiting to come to me to start doing things, but that doesn't happen in a videogame, motivation doesn't come to a game character to start playing, now you have become the player behind the screen and the only way to start enjoying the game is by taking action, the classic phrase "motivation comes after action" was very important for this phase that I was, I can also add "enjoyment comes after action".
Bro the timing is insane. Deleted all media two months ago, been studying and living my philosophy and ended up in stoicism. Having a good time honestly, I hope this mindstate remains. Much love!
As someone who unknowingly stopped meditating because he couldn't battle with thoughts such as these I appreciate both Dr. K and the redditor who wrote this question. I will embark on the journey once again!
This is so fascinating. The longer I live the more apparent it becomes that balance is super important in nearly all aspects of life. Too much ego can be bad, but too much lack of ego almost turns into like a dissociative state, which is also bad. Desire is neither good nor bad, but too much turns it into an obsession which can make life difficult. Same thing for drugs, relationships, etc, etc. Good stuff!
I'm' gonna go out on a limb and say that it is the poster's ego that's getting in the way. If detachment is attained, what's hindering a purposeful life? It could very well be a way for OP to escape, this is tricky tricky. Detachment does not mean apathy, there is a block here I recon.
I went from wanting everything to being satisfied with just a healthy body&mind and being very appreciative of that alone, it may sound simple but its a lot deeper
my boyfriend is what you might call a guru. he got into meditation when he was 12-13 and practiced and learned all he could for over a decade. he has changed my life and a few nights ago we talked through what i had learned on my own through many acid trips and i finally understood that we are the universe talking to itself. it was the shift in mindset that i needed. i've been going through a lot of changes right now in my life, but despite all the fear and stress right now, i feel like i'm actually starting to heal from a decade of self-abuse. we're moving into our own place soon. feels like a fresh start, and a new perspective.
it’s interesting how ppl who do acid or shrooms come away from it saying the same things. i 100% have to try in the future. not sure where to find some, but i’ll figure it out one way or another.
@@user-xz1wy4to4o trying shrooms helped me physically feel the concept but also helped me feel literally connected to everything else. Highly recommend
You discovered the fundamental truth. I have dedicated the past 5 years to both meditation and psychadellics and combining the two. That is always the conclusion I come to during the session. The way I phrase it is that we are all the universe playing a game with itself. The verbiage doesn't matter our messages are the same. I still don't know what I'm supposed to do with that revelation but I have been slowly working towards aligning my life more with that belief
Being an admirer and follower of Meditation, and Buddhist thinking, I have made a revelation that has made me much happier in life: Your goal should not be to remove "Desire," your goal should be to remove "Attachment." You should still strive to live your life, and experience the ups and downs, have goals, start your business, live your dream. But be detached from it, so success or failure doesn't move you at a fundamental level. If life is a movie, an ordinary person watches it, and confuses it for something real, and important. This is also why so many people take fandoms of games, movies and MMOs so seriously, because life is like a movie, or a game. You can take a game just as seriously as real life. To remove your Attachments in life is to realize that its just a game, or movie. You can still enjoy it, and participate in it, but you don't identify with it so strongly. Just as you would say to someone to not take a game so seriously, you should do the same thing with your life. A horror movie is far more bearable, and even entertaining once you know its a show, and aren't scared a monster is going to get you. The analogy isn't 100% perfect, but is fairly close if you believe in rebirth. To remove Desire, is to stop playing the game, or stop paying attention to the movie, and that can be quite depressing. However if you are trying to leave the cycle of rebirth... I can see where removing desire would be useful. Your immortal soul is like a person binge watching a cool show on Netflix, and each episode is a different lifetime on Earth. It's very hard to stop binge watching. But if you stop paying attention to the episodes, you may decide to stop watching the series.
True. Because of the realisation, that the samsahara is true, my dreams make sense. But all the "soul inprints" they have no use, its just old attachment. So what is the use of attachment? Also it does not answer the question, what is up with the samsahara, if the buddist are really right, then all parents, did almost something like a crime against morality, isn´t it?
Mediation gave me back my emotions and being stoic is lock yourself away from your emotions, the opposite of living. Since i was 6, i was telling my parents the meaning of live is to be happy with family and friends. School, university, career all try to make me forget that simple truth. Mediation and running have kept me on the joyous path.
My struggle is that now I want to go out and "see what life has to offer" yet with my ADHD I'll sit around and play video games all day. I work and make a solid living and I have the desire to go out and live. To go out and travel, have fun, explore, etc.... live the life I envision and want to try the experience, yet I just end up sitting around all day. 0 urgency so I don't do it. Then shame gets added ontop of that... since I'm not doing what "I" wants to do I feel bad that I'm not doing it and end up just sitting around more.... strange loop. You mention "deeper" meditation techniques and "gurus". That's been my struggle as well. I've recognized that I'm at a point and would like further guidance. Most "teachers" "gurus" I come across are just businesses and don't really "care" about me, it's about the money. I feel like I don't know where to find someone to guide/teach me. I want to learn what karma's I'm here for and what must be done. I feel like I've been struggling since I've been meditating for 5 years. Hearing you talk is the first time I feel like I've had someone talk about these ideas in a sensible way. Most "therapists" don't lean enough into the spiritual teachings, most spiritualists don't have enough of the "therapy"/"science"/"western mind". Your approach helps a lot. Thank you.
This may explain why if you're not healed from trauma, you can find meditation difficult. The feeling of not caring if you get a tattoo or not for example becomes confused with not caring because of being detatched or emotionally blunted. Thank you for saying go and engage in life and experiment. Sounds right on. Curiosity is healing. Might be why we shell up when traumatized that curiosity gets a negative reinforcement with trauma. Something to think about when healing. There is a relationship between healing and becoming enlightened.
Eastern approach: get rid of ego, transcend it. Western approach: put togehter fragmented Ego, fix it. Synthesis: wake up, grow up, show up. Meditate, trauma and shadow work. Otherwise this world is doomed.
@@jaylogu5675 As it shouldn't, ego death is a toxic illusion, ego is in no way an enemy to be eliminated. Your ego is part of your thread of existence. The point of his comment was suggesting harmonious marriage of the two; synthesis, as he puts it well; don't destroy the ego, rather nurture the ego, and figure out how to perpetually manipulate it, which can be perceived as transcendence in its own right.
@@jaylogu5675 Lol no My whole point is you should absolutely not destroy the ego. Merely master manipulating it, as I said. I can respect your perspective though
How I understand meditation is that it teaches you to not try and 'escape' any feeling. You simply learn to accept it for how it is and learn that every feeling serves a purpose. The ego also has a purpose, but it's times when it and the conscious mind wants to try and 'control' to feel more certainty and avoid pain where the majority of people fall short (including me). It's difficult to let go of an outcome because we're so used to desiring and attaching meaning to 3D things in the world. I personally don't want to give up 'wanting' things because it's a part of the human experience to desire and want, but rather give up the 'need' for certain outcomes or things in my life to feel content. For instance, I love my car, and if it were to break down and fail I'd of course feel sad and annoyed, but I don't 'need' my car to feel content, as at the end of the day it's just a material object. Just my thoughts and how I view reality. It's really interesting to hear about other people's perspectives on this topic!
I know many people are skeptical of church and religion nowadays but the chants at the end remind me of some of the prayer chants I sing at church and it definitely evokes a similar sense of peace! Cool stuff!
I always thought religion exists for the same reason, just a different approach though (and this is just my belief) I prefer this as it's promoting self understanding, and you don't have to follow anyone other than your inner self
I started meditation, yoga and Qi-Gong while on a federal vacation. It helped me to find balance to clear my head of fear, worry doubt of my unknown future. It was like the universe opened up books, people knowledge just flowed to me a true sense of peace and understanding. The negative is I see through people and just don't understand why people get so caught up in all blue lights and distractions making excuses for themselves, blaming others vs just doing the work and finding peace. Yes stocism does appear as it's detachment, radical acceptance, radical honesty and just accepting life as it comes without over emotionally attachments. Life can be very easy if you let go and not become distracted by all Glitz and glamour. I enjoy your video very informative keep up.good work
I did the Shanti Mantra, started crying and coughing. Lead to me puking the burger and fries I ate 2 hours before. I think its a sign to eat healthier 😬🍎
hey dr.k i wanted to thank you because since i started watching your videos and meditate, I discover I became more peacefull to myself and others. as of today i don't get easiely angry like before and I am just relaxed, hard to describe it but even in stressfull situation my mind is just a lot more relaxed and in controll if it makes since. so thanks you very much man!
i enjoy these videos which go more into spirituality purely, without mashing it too much with science. Not to say that there isn't worth in exploring topics that intersect spirituality and science, or that there isn't worth in purely scientific discussions. Dr. K does tons of those and they're great too. I just love to have the completely unabridgedly spiritual discussions once on a while too. Really refreshing.
As a linguist, your pronunciation guide was pretty fun and accurate. I'd recommend checking out the international phonetic alphabet, as you can very distinctly say which sound it is, and someone can look it up and find a video for that specific sound, including how to say it with varying speech impediments. May be too technical but i thought it may be interesting.
@@gto433 it's just Dr K was giving instructions on how to pronounce a mantra and i thought i would just put out there that the International Phonetic Alphabet exists, which has notation and names for (probably) every sound in every natural and known human language. There exists a lot of UA-cam channels that have diagrams and other models for how to pronounce each sound and any variation of it. I thought it could be useful if exact pronunciation is important.
In my English books in 3rd grade in Norway (as a second language for the first time) I could look up those phonetics and it never occurred to me that anyone might learn English without them.
I love when Dr. K teaches this kind of esoteric occult symbolism. Especially the fact that he points out its pop culture connections as it relates to video games (like Final Fantasy), which is something that I have realized and has wracked my brain alot. Usually the things that are the most popular and permeate for the longest amount of time possess these deep, ancient, occult roots. People find it easier to digest when it’s presented through the medium of fiction, though it still satiates that inner longing for spiritual truth.
You were suggested to me a few months ago, with the "Why the world's mental health is getting worse" video. Since I hate especially psychiatrists with a passion I was prepared to laugh at you, but within 5 mins you've said so many good things that I looked a bit into your other videos and subscribed. I do listen to your videos while gaming, not all of them are of interest for me, and sometimes I decide to take a break from digging into my mental health as I'm actually quite fine nowadays. One major complaint I've had about your videos were that the titles were so random: I would have to watch each videos to see what it's about, I think that has changed recently, or it's just coincidence. Another thing I noticed is that you're giving more and more self help advise and nowadays rarely say that one has to get a therapist, which I'm really grateful for, but is there a reason for it? But since you've also mentioned that you became a streamer and a youtuber to find out why people are getting addicted to games and/or what makes games addictive, which you seem to answer yourself every now and then when gaming addiction is coming up; What do you make of the experience of being a streamer and youtuber? Is it like you expected it to be, did you learn anything along the way, are you still trying to find the reasons and/or cure for gaming addiction? I would love to hear your view on the development of Heathly Gamer GG.
You mention these more powerful meditation techniques around 19:30 and I’m hoping to begin exploring that. Where could I start? Resources, other UA-cam videos, etc… appreciate y’all and all the help from Dr K ❤️❤️
there's esoteric books like vijnana bhairav tantra which have advanced meditation techniques but please do not take them lightly, these are seriously mind altering techniques, so do it under guidance from some trusted guru or if you are going to get into it you have to be a serious meditator for years. i have been meditating for like 5-6 years on and off and i have observed that basic meditation techniques are enough for behavioral changes.
I'd definitely start with the frame technique taught by Aaron doughty. It's excellent for building and sustaining detachment, building confidence, and recognizing/asserting your boundaries.
00:04 Meditation is making me feel indifferent towards material desires and the external world. 02:12 Meditation helps reduce materialistic desires and find contentment. 06:11 Our society is based on ambition and materialistic needs. 08:12 Meditation leads to contentment within oneself 12:13 Understanding the internal rules of life allows you to engage more fully and find joy 14:16 Meditation helps in conquering visible problems and leads to personal growth. 18:26 Explore different experiences and live life to the fullest without being constrained by desire. 20:07 As you progress spiritually, you gain a deeper understanding and learn to navigate challenges. 23:59 Perception is subjective and needs to be adapted to fit the world's logic. 25:59 Meditation is not about reaching a specific goal, but about being present in the current moment. 29:41 Your true self transcends the ego. 31:23 Value judgment should not be placed on where we are in life 35:40 Success on the internet is about transmission of information, not original thought. 37:41 The western concept of religion separates people into 'us' and 'them'. 41:22 Practice shanti mantra with focus on vibration and slow, deliberate chanting. 44:25 Shanthi mantra helps release negative emotions and promote peace. 49:38 The Shanti mantra is an attempt to encapsulate the fundamental concept of peace with a vibration. 51:40 Certain sounds are closer to peace and certain sounds are closer to other stuff. Crafted by Viet York from Molly․com
Hey, love your videos, but as a physicist I have to say that saying "The laws of physics stop working at the quantum level" is an extremely inaccurate sentence. A correct sentence will be more like "Our understaing of the laws of physics according to classical physics theories stop working at the quantum level". On the quantum level(which roughly means "stuff that are very small", you got that right) we use an "updated" theories(that do not contradict the classical ones, btw) and these theories work really well. Sorry for nitpicking, its just that you have to be VERY careful when you talk about quantum mechanics because there are a lot of misconceptions about this and people think its this magical thing that we dont understand and we actually understand quite a lot nowadays.
@@reformed_attempt_1 No our understanding stops working. If there’s a discontinuity in our understanding, and we have to switch to a different mode of thinking to understand something, then our understanding stops working at that point. It’s we can’t build up to explain the entire universe using quantum mechanics, and why we can’t use general relativity to model things that could be easily modeled by QFT for instance.
@@matthewburger798 Classical theory consists of a heavily evidenced, principled, and systematic *particular* way of understanding physical phenomena, so you and the person you're responding to are saying the same thing. For example, a classical-theoretic perspective wouldn't have us *understand* what is going on in the quantum level. But we do understand it (well.. :P maybe).. through a new/different theoretical perspective. Thus, our understanding doesn't stop working (because we move on to a different theory to explain quantum phenomena, thereby understanding it), but we *can* say classical theory stops working (since its a particular way to try and understand a given phenomenon). This is despite how proven and principled and systematic it may have been, as it would then seem to be restricted to a particular domain/context/scope. Map is not the territory. All that jazz.
@@ジュレジュ The prevailing models of the universe aren’t classical and quantum, they’re relativity and quantum mechanics. Relativity is built off of newtons mechanics and can explain everything they can. However at a certain point they are unable to accurately predict observations, thus quantum mechanics is used. However there are points of discontinuity between the two, where observation is inaccurate impractical or impossible, and where the two models give different answers. Because our understanding of the universe is a patchwork of these two models, there are bits where the seams don’t match up right, such as in the singularity of a black hole. It’s not that we don’t have math to describe the singularity, it’s that the math gives obviously incorrect/impossible answers. And worse yet, the wrong answers don’t even match each other. If the models you use to build your understanding disagree with each other, perhaps your understanding is incomplete, which means it stops working at certain points. This shouldn’t be a controversial statement.
@@matthewburger798 I accept your correction at the start, but I fail to see how the rest of what you said contradicts what I said. Yes. The limitations of our models and our understanding coincide in a very non-accidental fashion, hence why one would even expect a new model to improve our understanding? You've explained our "incomplete" understanding based on our inadequate models. So, it is fundamentally the models that are the problem, not our "understanding." You yourself said we'd just need an additional more encompassing or alternative model. "Understanding" just means being able to intuitively apprehend and also make meaning or sense of something. The fact that something may lead to contradictory or counterintuitive results doesn't mean we lack understanding of it. After all, you would not know that to be the case *unless* you understood it. So, ultimately, it comes down to the models. Unless you are suggesting it's sufficient for us to simply sort our minds out in some configuration in order to supersede the explanatory issues you mention (such as for the singularities and surfaces of black holes) rather than do actual experiments and other kinds of skill application.
Strangest thing happened. I've been meditating for about a decade. First four years daily for avg 15min. Last 6 it's been on and off for at least 10min. But I'm very present and mindful (probably due to the first four years). About a month ago I took a VERY long transatlantic flight. I woke up during the flight and everything was off. People were treating me differently (like a king) and I felt completely detached from reality - indifferent would be best. I was convinced that the plane had crashed and I'm dead - either in a Vanilla Sky simulation or in heaven. (Whatever that means). This has persisted until now. I am more content, productive and happy than ever before. I hadn't meditated in the 4 months prior to the flight. Time is also standing still. My days are SUPER long - yet I'm working my ass off and working on my passions. Strange and great!
This is so spot on ! Really enjoyed how you explained this internal peace. Many people don't understand why i don't bounce out with them anymore. Groveling for instant gratifications ect 😅
This is so pertinent right now. I've been meditating and listening to a lot of nondual/advaita vedanta material, and while it's peaceful, there is a sense that I'm getting lost in these things and missing out on the world. Or, even that I am isolating myself from the world due to burn out but I'm disguising it in a spiritual veneer. As someone who frequently gets pulled around by their emotions, learning to rest in the "I" is essential for me, but I am a man of extremes so I tend to go to the opposite side of being so overly latched on to my mind to the side where I am detached from it all. It's like I'm trying to experience the emptiness of death because life is too overwhelming. All I do Is work and then chill at home, doing the bare minimum to stay alive (sure, I see friends but mostly I'm alone listening to music, and even then I'm finding myself magnetically pulled into Pure Being. Almost as if my body is ready to die and nondual mediation is a way to satiate this without actually harming myself. Yet, am I helping myself or am I just sinking further into oblivion?
you seem in a similar position to mine... I am more of a "pendulum" person than a "balance" person. I have a hard time seeing things as two plates coexisting... I swing to both sides, one after the other, and the wisest I get, the calmer I get, the less extremes are the pendulum's swings, the goal being to be as close to the middle as possible with as less swinging as possible. But life is life, sometimes something will happen, or someone will come by, that will pull on one side of the pendulum, and I'll have to deal with the bigger swings again... I don't really have a solution for you, but maybe this analogy can help you figure out how you want to deal with your own situation.
I’d suggest exploring the world with that detached mindset. See if some things become more enjoyable. Making music comes to mind, to me it’s something that hits a deeper part of me and bypasses my ego, emotions, although I can only manage to stay in that state for max 30 minutes before emotions take over.
I actually gave up meditation a long time ago for reasons like this. I decided that at the point in my life where I was, I actually wanted to have wants and goals and desires. I just found life more boring without them. Maybe I will return to it though. Maybe it would be good to get closer to enlightenment at this point in my life.
Damn. I’ve consumed hundreds of hours of Ram Dass, Allan Watts and similar content and gone down the wellness and trauma recovery rabbit hole for a while. But what you did at minute 15 really helped to bring the concept of non attachment to life. What a blessing to live in a time when our scientific understanding of the brain is able to align and help us make sense of these amazing insights from ancient wisdom.
You arent your trauma you dont really need to do the healing stuff .. just meditate... hes hiding some info from yous what he says is right but hes not going fully in depth on all this which is good tbh as people need to do their own spiritual development in their own time. You need to avoid capitalism corporate teachings its all to screw people up..
@@lena-Ramone wow. You know so much about me and didn’t even have to ask a question first. Do tell me, what “healing stuff” have I been doing so far that I need to stop wasting time on? How often, for how long and what type of meditation am I doing, or am I not doing any? Go ahead. You know apparently everything about me.
@@RCCurtright you are being hostile, sarcastic ; all lower vibe ways of communicating ✌️ I am not a hostile person.✌️ I dont need to be , because i am highly evolved and i dont need to go defensive and energy vamp off any other being which is what you do consciously or unconsciously in your weird off vibes response .. i will be straight to the point if someone is weird towards me like you are, when i was only being cool to them, FFS Man 🤨🤨 I WILL have been being kind to you by the way as i am a good person. you will have taken it TOTALLY the WRONG way 🤨 nevermind 😄 I wonder, are you an American? My earlier comment you replied to in a mad head way is no longer here , i did not remove it 🤷♀️ , so im not sure why its gone... but i remember i was not being 'off' with you no way would i have been.. I think i stated that the video guy is not in the FULL knowing and he is not going mega in depth on meditation and its a good job he isnt as their are plenty people out there who arent nearly evolved enough to be a vessel for such power. Your shitty response is classic example of not being ready.. The reaction you had is a prime example of needing to develop bigtime. Your response is unwarranted. It says to me you are a poor communicator . I do sincerely hope you develop and stop getting wound up the wrong way = EGO 🤨 when someone is simply being kind to you 🙃🙄😵💫😵💫🥴🥴🤭 DO realise an actual human is communicating with you (im not just words through a screen a robot) you evidently are not mindful due to your odd defensive reaction to me simply being kind to you- do you see ????? 👀👀 . And yes , as i am a mental health professional etc development over decades , sure i probably could assess you , however i wasnt in my original comment but i am now 😂😂. I am energetically cold to you now as protection as you attempted to attack energetically - this shows you have weak character / emotional issues and low patience - hey maybe someone wasnt being off towards you did you even think this prior to replying ?? but as you responded totally mad left field you make a person now turn their back.. 🙄🙄 I will no longer engage with you. Goodbye best wishes and good luck on your obviously needed development/evolution 🤨🙄🙄🙄🙄 im not being nasty saying that, i can just truly tell.
@@RCCurtright not sure why my comment is no longer there ??? but you took me completely the wrong way 🤣🤣 🤔🤨 you are hostile and unfortunatly unable to see i was being kind to you. I am a clinical therapist yea , so im sure i probably could figure you out alot , however I think i was saying that he is not disclosing everything in this video , those of us who fully know are able to tell yous are getting a censored version but good it helps you so far.
I used to meditate every morning, and I haven't meditated for the last 2 years. I find that the busier my schedule is, the less time I have to meditate. Which is ironic because the busy/stressed you are the more crucial it is to find time for meditation. Havent watched the video yet, looking forward to hear Dr K's take.
Beautifully put!! Reached this stage spiritually and felt a similar sense of apathy. I was feeling really lost and then I came across this! You are gathering a lot of good karma…
ive never used mantras as i felt it was religious practice, i tried it out of curiosity and instantly noticed the vibations and pricking sensation of the blood flow through my body made me smile. the sensation was similar to that of the feeling you have when you experience a deep sense of gratitude or euphoria wash over you
6:12 - structure of life is based on ambition, on wanting things 8:10 - ambition and desire is source of motivation for most people 8:25 - after meditation, people don’t feel like doing anything cause they are kind of content This is when people start living life, DrK says people who only chases desire aren’t truly 8:59 - opportunity cost shrink when you don’t chase desire 9:51 - in this “mode”, your choices will be exactly what you want them to be, it’s not influenced by desire 21:16 - you’re here because you owe this world something, you have a karma to complete
That was super interesting. I was thinking something was wrong with me if I lost an ability to desire, at the same time I was questioning reality on a fundamental level. Now I let myself just explore life from my new understanding which is based on spirituality.
You are so good idc what you've ever done or think any yourself, you have pure energy despite being human in this realm. Please keep doing this but take care of yourself first. It is so refreshing and to hear someone, anyone, know all you talk about on a deep true level. Even deeper but pure than you put out. I will say, it gets lonely having so much physical energy come out, like I can only explore Chakras that you're purpose is, and having to share it but never being heard and then with time being depleted. My vibrations are so strong, they don't hurt at all, but I need to share it to others that need those vibrations. And most people just don't take it. That's on me
When you get to the point that you don't desire anything, and everything seems meaningless,minimalize all your things and remove yourself from comfort.
Alright, when I got to that point, that realisation that nothing matters and I'm content, it then means that I can do whatever I want. Our brains create our realities so you choose everything and die happy knowing you did what you wanted. So yeah, it helps me keep my negative mental health in check because outcomes don't matter and there's no such thing as failure and I can create the life I want. The end
I see your alignment with your karmic duty, and Harmony with yourself and life. It’s beautiful to witness and inspirational to all of us. Peace and blessings to you, friend 🙏🏻♥️
I tried that type of meditation where you try to take everything all in at once. It would drive most people mad but I like it. I found myself laughing when I realized I would have been just as "happy" if I had a wife, kids and a house. It would have just replaced my current anxieties with different ones. Although love would be stronger than the freedom I enjoy, the self sacrifice and responsibility would have made it equal. So instead of stressing about what I think should have happened I should chill and make the most of life. Now I will always make sure I'm with someone because I want to be with them. Not some life goal. And I know it's not worth beating myself up for.
I would be curious to learn more about the different levels you reach through meditation. I think you articulated it very well. As you said, it is difficult to explain it without experiencing it but I'd love to see you try because I think you did a good job :)
oh i've been fighting it the whole life. I thought i had to want things. I thought i had to learn stuff to impress and succeed. I just instantly relaxed a whole bunch. Gotta give some advice here. For me keeping my eyes closed is hard so i put some cloth over my eyes. It helps a lot. If stuff is noisy, same goes with earplugs. Dont think about the stuff in the world as the things that your mind wants to think. For example. You might want to explain peoples bad behaviour and you can explain it but how ever you objectivly analyse it is still your ego. for example (i know and example in an example) you think peoples evil actions as evil or you think of them as ppl are lost or they are confused or unhappy, or what ever. The world is beautiful, the world is horrible. Both is true. Its about you though. If a child is having a problem. You can solve its problem but it wont learn to solve it on its own. Right, This is why god isnt helping you. If god helped you, or jesus or whatever. It will be great in the moement. your pain is solved but you will find a new pain. Learn not with logic and problem solving. Learn with emotions. Bad emotions are not evil. They are just your emotional state expressing itself. If a man watch his house burn he will scream because all he worked for is being lost. Now the same man is seeing his house burn and he watch the fires burn and thinks and feels okey. Maybe he thinks "nice, im not inside the house". If you feel strong negative emotions, try and watch it and think "it feels like im the middle of a battlefield, a bloody war. But nice, im not actually in a war. Its just feels like it." Im still in baby stage so take what i said with ease
I feel like this video itself would actually make a good meditation video. It's very calming, discusses the purpose of mediation, and gets you to think without attaching a lot of emotion. Definitely saving this for later!
Many great points here. We only have wisdom/knowledge through actual practice. Now I’m back in the world doing things and enjoying them much more with the observing self. And I see the lessons/karma behind each situation. Enlightenment is not about having enlightened thoughts vs unenlightened thoughts. Yes as you observe the grosser thoughts they become stripped away each time and more subtle. As long as you seem to be in a body, the ego continues its thoughts according to its patterns. Jeevan mukti is to be dis-identified from the thought stream. So the thoughts come but you don’t believe them or take them seriously. You are aligned in a different space that simply watches or observes all thoughts (sakshi, witness or observer of the mind). Being in the world (of thought) but not of it as Jesus taught. This awareness when it turns inward where it is not aware of any thoughts but only of itself, it dissolves the ego completely, the body, 5 senses, the world, people, everything disappears and only the Self (God) shines through and this is full enlightenment. Full enlightenment is for ALL because are all one and there is only God. So all the maya (multiplicity) ends and we are all one God in the end. That dissolution into the Self/God is being orchestrated so we first see the Leela of it all and then even the Leela disappears as there is only God- no world, time and space, no physical reality, no body. The ego, the false self has no purpose. The world is a projection of the ego (this world is a dream with dream logic, therefore these laws of physics can be broken), therefore it only has the purpose we give it. Advaita tells us the ego doesn’t exist so the world its projects also does not exist. It is a paradox because we seem to be here in this world and yet this is not our true reality as bodies. Our true reality is God/the Self/Turiya
Wow, thanks for covering my post! I'm really thankful Dr K 🌹 You give three suggestions on how to move forward, but where do I find these specific meditation techniques you mention here 18:58 ? Moreso, how do I find a guru? 💀
loved this. dr. K should do more talks on spirituality especially the eastern viewpoint. This is very interesting to someone born and raised into the western view on spirituality and ego
The most freeing thing I have ever realized was that life had no meaning and was entirely random. That meant I had the freedom to decide whatever meaning I wanted too it. So I was no longer scared by the thought of the randomness instead it invigorated me!!!! It made me so much more grateful for every single day I am alive! The fact I am even here on earth alive today in this body at this time is just so insane. One small action one small change. Had my parents had sex the day after I could have never existed!!!!!!! Now I have the opportunity to experience this singular life and I won’t take it for granted. I will live every day with the knowledge that my life is my own to make it. I cry when I think about it. I look at the trees and I think holy shit wow trees are incredible. Dirt is incredible. Bugs are incredible. The air is incredible. Feeling the wind on my skin is incredible. Smelling the rain in the grass is incredible. If I’m ever feeling down I just literally touch some grass. I love every day and I am so happy to be alive. If you’re reading this, I LOVE YOU!!!! Your existence is a blessing.
Very well argumented for the need to find a guru eventually. It is not like you need a guru from the start, but at a later point you will need help from people with deeper experience. And you gain devotion in guru, not by blind worship, but by having the experience that they know what they are talking about.
This reminds me of Brittany Simon's level's system. Sounds like OP is at a level 4. I think the mantra just forces you to exhale more than inhale. It's the build up of CO2 that induces more out of breathe feeling it's not the lack of oxygen, you'd be surprised how efficiently the body can use oxygen. When people get anxious they tend to think they need to breathe deeper instead of exhaling more which leads to hyperventilation. This has also helped me with aerobic or any long endurance exercise like running, exhaling twice as long as inhaling or inhaling through my nose and exhaling through my mouth has helped me prolong my breath and go longer and faster, it was quite a remarkable find. This tip has helped me improve my running and my mood the most.
I also watch Brittany Simon! I've always thought she and Dr. K would have an interesting discussion. Her "Level 5" seems to be the same idea as enlightenment. I do like that she defines the other levels 1-4 though; it's helped me be less judgmental of people I previously considered "stupid" for causing suffering, including myself.
I'm very often in the "I" presence state, and I can tell you from my experience, it feels like I have the FREEDOM to do even the most practical things like working hard at my current job and developing my business for long hours! On the other hand, I, personally, see NIHILISM as an EXTREMELY POSITIVE and UPLIFTING thing - not something that makes me completely doubt the value of things in my 3 dimensional reality at all! It's not that I don't care about things anymore, I'm just more ENTERTAINED AND ENTHRALLED by the IDEA that my ATTENTION to any perspective I have of the world is COMPLETELY UP TO ME! If spirituality (or stoicism) is as bad as this person is making it, why would any practical person suggest to someone that they shouldn't stress about things they can't control even though this is something that is VERY COMMONLY SAID?
Im trans and a wild thing that happened was that while my gender identity and appearance had very little meaning to "me"... it was still important to continue to transition. Even in a state of total detachment, there was still an underlying sense of duty to myself to self-actualize.
@@calmexit6483 It’s hardcoded in their brain. Much like you have an instict to eat or clothe yourself, they have a similar instinct to go through with transitioning.
@@supC_ what? I didn’t ask you to speak for them. In addition, as “hard coded” as survival instincts? So their desire to transition comes from the reptile brain? You raised more questions then was answered. This person is describing an almost spiritual compulsion to carry out their duty. Eating isn’t a fucking duty bro, so don’t equate them.
@@Hawkenwhacker That’s true as well, but not what I was talking about. Recent research has shown that the brain’s development is influenced by the ratio of male to female hormones in the womb. There are physical differences between the male & female brain that lead to gender dysphoria if it happens to develop opposite to the body (or even just ambiguously). Their body’s sex feels wrong to those people because it literally is. And it feels WRONG to them. Like, the mere thought of being their birth sex is revolting on an instinctual level. (Or so I’ve heard, would be nice if an actual trans/nb person could confirm as I do not have any experience and the last thing I want to do is accidentally speak for someone incorrectly.) Just eliminating societal issues would not solve the problem, in fact that’s a misconception that can lead to conclusions like “nobody would need to transition if society accepted any behavior from any person regardless of gender” which is simply untrue and would actually end up hurting people with the real condition because it devalues their feelings.
I could have written this question!! (F46) I had this happy contentment since childhood, I had no intention of playing a game. If I was already happy, nothing could make me more happy than happy. But I realised I had to play the game, got lost in it, didn't master it, only pretended. At 46 I am doagnosed adhd and gifted iq, which means I've masked and faked all the time. I already knew it but life trapped me. I started exploring thought, mind and consciousness and regained the peace. I am content, mostly. Oh, and ADHD-medication really helps 😅 Thank you for this video!
"Consciousness emerges over dimensions of disagreement with the universe. Things where you care. Where things are not the way they should be. Where you need to regulate. So in some sense the sense of self is the result of all the identifications that you're having and an identification is a regulation target that you're committing to. It's a dimension that you care about. That you think is important. And this is also what locks you in. If you let go of these these commitments, of these identifications, then you are free, there is nothing that you have to do anymore. And if you let go of all of them then you are completely free and you can enter nirvana because you are done." - Joscha Bach, Principal AI Engineer at Intel Labs. Please comment on his ideas. I'm trying to understand what you're saying in light of what he's saying. See the clip: "Joscha Bach: We don't exist in the physical world. We exist in the story that the brain tells itself"
We exist in both, but your ego thrives from dissonance and harmony that it can come up with by identifying and labeling the world around you coupled with emotions. So like a ego desire is “I want/don’t want this, because it makes me feel like ___” in the most basic form. In that sense, all that is internal and that’s how majority of the world functions. However, you also exist outside that. You are a real thing, just as real as the stars in the night sky, just as real as the birds chirping every morning. It’s just that the stars don’t desire to be placed in a specific spot, birds don’t necessarily desire for a bunch of different things, or nothing more that is needed or have specific desires for a particular tree they want to live in or a specific bug they want to eat every morning? Just like you don’t necessarily have desire certain things. Once you able to become mindful of what’s your desire and you just … being, (this what he meant by letting go of those identities) you can view things differently. That’s something you can’t always put into words, but you’ll know. You’ll move with a purpose and understanding. Rather than moving for a understanding or expecting/looking for a purpose imo. But where some kinda ver off, is that they thing full enlightenment is that you get rid of your ego and you’re walking around basically inside out and one with universes. And what K touches on, that’s not necessarily the case. Understanding you’re a real thing includes understanding that you’re human, part of your brains job is to be able to label things, give narratives, give you desires, etc. you don’t have to and it’s not really possible to get rid of that part of you, which paradoxically desiring to do. Meditation teaches you mindfulness. That you will have all those things previously mentioned but you’re able to take a step back before you wrapped up in a fairytale that your brain spins and realize life itself is a fairytale. A very rare one, and that means life in its entirety. The good, the bad, the exciting, the mundanity, and everything in between. meditation just allows you to step outside of your personal narrative and recognize there’s a bigger one that’s been playing already and will continue to play and when it throws curveballs your able manage change your mindset to fit accordingly when you need to. Allows you to feel and deal. Like my ego helps me put alls this in words with the extent of my knowledge. But my most mindful answer would be “take a walk around your neighborhood and literally just look around. At the people, houses, cars, nature, etc. without coming up with a story. Instead ask yourself, like if you see a person, “I wonder where they’re walking to” “I wonder why they’re outside rn just like me” or even “I wonder what got them out of bed today” “I wonder what’s their reason to live atm” etc, that helps you to at least recognize there’s a bunch of lives simultaneously coexisting as you tell your own story too.
@@Yourmomsassstinks But that is still creating a story by wondering about what they are doing and what they are going to. Just mindless “wondering” isn’t really being aware, if you payed attention you’d get a glimpse of what they are doing or where they are going. The rest sounds more like it’s made up than actual reality. Every animal has desires even birds. Granted not the same as we do sure but it’s the same. Life isn’t a fairytale that’s what you realize through mediation according to Buddhism. Also you can’t really live outside of desire, otherwise you’d never do anything. He ties himself in knots to avoid having to acknowledge that fundamental truth even going so far as to suggest “trying it” isn’t desire when that’s literally what it is.
desiring to not desire is a desire. The realization that there is nothing to realize. IT IS WHAT IT IS, is the most profound statement that can be made. Alan Watts is who you should listen to.
What's puzzling to me is that i feel I've reached this point but am still stuck in particular cycles where the basically the ego would be in control. On top of that there's things that are related to me being autistic that just do not become easier. Which then still leads to a large amount of disharmony in communication with most individuals. Feelings of shame, guilt and disconnect arise. Some disregulation and trauma wounds bring a whirlwind of being disoriented, performing attempts at unnecessary rectifying behaviors and questioning myself. I tend to now get to the point where i do not regret the final decision except for a couple erratic behaviors along the way. These difficulties and disconnects still have me wishing I was neurotipical sometimes, often for being loved related reasons, sometimes because of career-oriented stuff (which if its just about money instead of creation, I'm incapable of being passionate about it.). I guess I'm doing allright in life. Especially with the amount of shit that's on my plate. I can't stand it anymore when anybody thinks i don't do enough though. It feels rather validating that at least my therapist and a couple of people that are close to me know how much effort i put into things. Not everyone has to see it for it to be true, i was hurt today in this direction 🥲. Need more self-respect, more sure of myself. Decided to post in case a soul like mine would read it. I know I would appreciate reading something like this from someone else.
At the same time i have a bunch of abilities others do not. Many naturally, many learned. But I have not found any societal benefit with them yet. Which now I'm saying this still looks like i hang on to that very tightly. Which is not strange since it has to do with my social statuses, bringing safety and security in the form of money, stuff like that.
The laws of physics don't stop working at a quantum level. If they did, we'd just make new laws of physics. Our models designed for macro stuff stops. Basically, we were 'wrong' but the models are still very accurate for big, slow things. But your point still applies. Science uses logic and evidence to produce models of the universe. And just because the model works doesn't mean it's right. We don't discern truth with logic, we set boundaries using assumptions for where the truth must lie. Such as F=ma is extremely useful and 'true' until you start going really fast, then it is not true at all. If I run into a wall, using quantum tunneling, there is a chance that I appear on the other side of the wall, not having touched it (or at least that's what our logic tells us, perhaps that's also not true). It's not worth considering but all of the weird quantum mechanics stuff does also apply to large objects. Nvm you kind of said just what I said after I paused but I'll leave it there
My favorite thing about Healthy gamer is that it starts on something that is easy to understand and looks like a surface level discussion and slowly digs deeper until it reaches subjects like the purpose of life
What I really struggle with the spiritual stuff is it feels like I'm being sold a delusion that just isn't working because I don't believe it hard enough. I used to be a Christian and a lot of the stuff feels like the Christian idea of "if faith isn't working out for you, it's just cus not doing it right. And no one can tell you what right is or even guide you because it's personal" which just feels like a way to lead you on forever.
Obviously it works for a lot of people, and I'm not discrediting anyones experience. They've had that experience, I haven't. But I can't help but be resistant to suggestion when I'm aware of it. If I'm told I should be experiencing something I'm not, I can't help but be inhibitively skeptical
try practices that doesn't require much time to master and are easy. it's not magic like religion, it's more of an experience you get from certain practices
@@thebillyd00 I would say the goal shouldn't be to experience anything, that could be just the ego attaching itself to the outcome of meditation, the point of meditating is to meditate, not to get anywhere or achieve anything
@@gothicfan52 my experience with meditation is a few minutes of calm followed by feeling exactly as I did before meditating. It doesn't feel like anything other than just a temporary escape from stress, so why would I stick to it?
Abraham Hicks has the answers to all of these questions. the tings we experience create the contrast that allows us to realize what we do and do not desire. desires start new creations. which is why we are here. we are meant to experience it all.
This video helped me with a question I have had for a very long time. I was raised a Jehovah Witnesses, which believe most humans will live forever on earth. I have always found this EXTREMELY boring, and thought I would never want to live forever. And this video helped a lot! Can’t wait to practice this!!
Yes thanks for saying that meditation is for improving already stable people. I had to wait 15+ years to figure that out and NOBODY in the mindfulness/meditation/new age business tells you this! I was trying to use meditation to fix myself and it just made me more dissociated. Trauma therapy fixed me.
And this is why the pali kanon is so insanely long and basically keeps talking about the same handful of topics over and over and over. It's incredibly hard to convey the concept of non-attachment without going straight to apathy. It's hard to promote self love without it becoming some kind of escapism. People are quick to recognize that wanting a tattoo and getting it is desire/attachment, but they don't see that wanting the tattoo and not getting it is a form of attachment too.
I found this very helpful. I like instructional videos on meditation that sort of walk you through the meditation. Makes me feel more secure in knowing I am doing the meditation as intended.
I've meditated on and off for a couple of years, but in the last 6 months I started meditating more frequently, not quite daily, but like 5 times a week on average. Just the last month I've began to slowly start experiencing what Dr. K talks about here, but I've had a really hard time putting it into words. I can't believe how well he puts it. I've quit videogames for like half a year now, but it was because self improvement youtubers told me to, but recently I've began experiencing this "life like play" phenomenon, which made me want to play videogames (instead of "playing" life) even less. I keep trying to explain this to my videogamer friends, but they just don't seem to get it.
I've heard you speak of your training as a guru before. Never has it felt more apparent. I love your kind recognition of this person's state of mind, and gentle guidance to continue.
“Sometimes when people meditates, it starts working” might be the funniest line I’ve heard all week 🤣
@davon3384 because this is the point of meditation to ultimately become more aware of yourself and others, to get rid off all the problems you have in your life and tackle them one by one until you have nothing else to conquer and you are somewhat happy with where you are at and even can say that to death. You are supposed to feel emotions but realistically speaking they just don't really make you do things you don't want to, you don't submit to them anymore. This is all what meditation will do to you, the OP of this post just doesn't understand that they feeling this way is actually part of the process and is completely fine to stumble upon, gah, even better to finally land here.
EDIT: did you watch the full video? at least 1/4 of it?
@davon3384 i was at this point which OP was talking about and felt really good, what was worrying me was that i didn't feel negative emotions I feel I judged them and ignored them, so you are 100% right that you should accept all thoughts and feelings unconditionally. I think you need to be conscious of what you are doing.
Regarding your first question and your answer I do not find your answer satisfying. Most of the techniques in meditation aim to make you more aware of your nuances.
Regarding the 100s of techniques... it is up to the individual to decide on what tradition and what practice to choose from, example is someone with ADHD wont be able to do many practices like someone without ADHD.
I had no idea what i was doing to reach that point also, so I wouldn't worry about this.
I still think that you might have got what Dr K. wanted to say when he said that "it starts working" but let me rephrase myself.
Simply it was the goal of pretty much every meditation tradition to make you more aware and strengthen your frontal lobe so all the urges are less powerful and you can control your body. If you feel like talking with me here is my discord burner account: "machehasie" drop me a friend request and I'll be happy to answer your questions.
If that is not possible way of contacting me, well im sure we can figure it out if both of us want to. Take care and keep meditating
@davon3384 Meditation teaches you to accept all thoughts, feelings, and realities unconditionally. Once you mastered that, you’ve conquered your ego (probably not the best choice of words) and you feel Done with everything. You’re perfectly fine to feel that way as there is nothing to attain. Living from that perspective takes some getting used to as it’s different from 99% of the population lives.
That part. It is isolating as 99% of the world wants the best of the best. But living in awareness appears as living in mediocrity . I want to get out there and go work for 'success ' but theres just no motivation for that
When posting on reddit you aren't only helping yourself, you are helping everyone with similar questions but not able to ask the questions. Thank you to every one who is asking these questions on the reddit! Expressing yourself that understandably is something difficult to achieve, at least for me. I have been asking myself almost the same question for a while now. Just had no idea how write a comprehensible reddit post about it.
wow same. i saw what i thought were negative effects of a couple years of meditation recently where i didn’t feel any struggle which scared me. i felt like i didn’t feel anything anymore, no pleasures no pains, even didnt feel connected to my gf. i still don’t fully understand how this relates and exactly how to make it positive instead but i think this video/question is going to help me. thanks for asking it
I've had very similar thoughts about this topic before, but not necessarily meditation related. I just get these thoughts out of nowhere, like sometimes i'll be thinking about how i can improve at this game i like but part of my brain just says "this game doesnt really make me any happier, it doesn't mean anything" To which i kind of get scared because if all of the things i enjoy are meaningless what is the point of life? Its kind of the similar question being asked but from different circumstances, probably because i have different problems from the guy in the post. I've always kind of thought that life is about part struggle and part joy, but it can really be whatever you want. Hopefully this made some sense.
Edit I'm gonna re write this from PC because writing from phone made my brain go nuts.
You expressed yourself really well in this YT comment
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This is the weirdest yet most efficient form of group therapy ive ever been involved in. Theres engagement and the ability to just listen. Its nice. Thanks for putting this online and letting me be part of it
it’s the only spot on the internet that doesn’t feel like it’s trying to strangle me for my attention.
@@BoxOfCurryos for real! That's pretty accurate
Right. And I am not even a gamer, lol. I think the trick is that he is highly intelligent, but also emotionally intelligent and comes in good faith. I feel like I could show this guy my true self, and he would neither mock nor placate me.
This is how the early internet was. A public conversation about what ever your passionate about. There were corners were you could seek advice or vent.
Dr. K is also teaching kindness and compassion, whereas a lot of society is radicalized and has a knee-jerk reaction to the mildest things. He's up there with Fred Rogers and Bob Ross.
@@morganseppy5180 thanks
I feel like Dr. K just knows what questions I've been mulling over internally...
Same here!
Thats because you think of many things! We all do, so when he makes a video, odds you have likely at least started to mentally look into whatever the topic is. It's kinda the genius of this platform--It banks on the similarities of the thoughts and stuggles of this demographic in order to help as many people as possible.
Feel like he explain what i understood. but said in better ways
Yeah makes you think we're not all that different because these questions that Dr K helps us through come from other people
No he doesn't know. Stop acting like he's your holy god lol
"The goal doesnt matter" is a phrase that gymgoers, athletes and people with passions will deeply understand, and is moreso true for mediation. Can you have a goal? Yes, loosing fat, gaining muscle, learning certain songs on the guitar or whichever instrument, or whatever goal is ok to have, but they wont bring happyness.
This is one of the things that I know are hard to explain to people who have not found that "joy" that DrK describes that comes from meditation, but I just wanted to comment to let people know that yes, this is something that happens and that you'll get there.
So yeah, go get the tatoo. You're not bound by the ego but engaging with it is not "sin", its life. So live while you can.
I disagree.
Athletes and "those with a passion, gymgoers, etc all have a goal. Do people think that Athletes just train because they like training? No, they want to be the best, which is why many of them are on enhancement drugs in order to be the best. When I was an athlete, my goal was to improve every single day, not just "Enjoyment, " even though I enjoyed my sport and I had lots of fun... However, if I never improved..... or worse, even got worse over time.... Would it still be fun?
Those who go to the Gym do so to work out and get stronger, improve themselves, and get healthier, etc. If you were working out, and ended up becoming weaker, and losing muscle... Would you still work out? Would you still want to work out if you didn't advance?
"Enjoyment" is nice, and you want to enjoy what you do, but joy by itself only brings stagnation, whereas a goal allows you to improve. There are also many times the "Joy" wears off with the stagnation.
You also mention Musicians, and while they play for enjoyment, they also play in order to get better and create music. The JOY comes from accomplishment, success, and hard work that comes from it. What kind of Musician just wants to play Cords their entire lives? They go out trying to experiment, trying to create and that births joy and happiness. All of the musicians wanted to create music, so that people could listen. Many of them made money off of it too.
For example, One of my passions is to become a farmer and become self-sufficient. The fruits of my labor when I get Milk, Eggs, Fruits, Produce, etc will brings me joy and great joy, because with all of my hard work, comes accomplishment. Do you think I would want to be a farmer and plant tons of plants, have animals, etc, if there is no benefit from it? Yes I want a large dog pack that wont provide food, but they will still have a purpose.
Another passion of mine is software. I've been a developer for over a decade, and do you think I just code to just code, or do you believe there is a reason I write code? I want to create things, I want to build things, I want my thoughts to become reality. Just learning to code constantly, and just reading and not putting it into practice isn't going to make anyone happy.
There is always a goal.
but how do you progress if there isnt a goal.
@@lukebrindax7465 I feel like this is a huge projection of your own views onto other people. Not everyone sees things the way you do. Also, I resent the remark about Gymgoers, that just seems like a very conceited, incel-ish thing to say.
@@lukebrindax7465 it's amazing how you'll see someone who does the same things as you, but have a very different perspective on things. I may not be an athlete, but I'm a regular gymgoer. I competed on table tennis only on school level when I'm still studying, but I never won and competed against athletes from other schools. I know very well that I didn't stand a chance, but did it just out of pure enjoyment.
I was completely captivated by computer programming since high school and became known as "the computer guy". My curiosity and thirst for knowledge drove me to take a deep dive to whatever I can learn about coding until I eventually became a software engineer.
Currently I kinda have a love-hate relationship with coding mostly because I'm forced to code in a way I don't like by my company. But I'm also working on a side project that may become my full time work. If all goes well, there'll come a time when I can have a full control on the direction of tech I'm working on.
I tried going to gym just because a friend asked me and I just said "sure", but I found that working out is something I truly enjoy doing. The gains are all good, but working out itself became the reward by now that I customized my program so I could go to the gym 6 times a week. And I figured that if I like going to gym anyway, why not set a goal? So now I decided to pursue calisthenics and currently working on my handstand and front lever.
You're right that there's always a goal, but for some people, they're not the end all and be all. I think I belong to that category. Once you find something you like doing, it becomes like a hammer that looks for a nail. It's not that you set out to a journey because you have a goal, but you set a goal so that you can have a journey. At least that's what it's like to me.
@@JAM-rp6fi "You're projecting..." Projecting what? I'm speaking of my personal experiences, not projecting myself onto others, do you know what projection is? Do you know what an Opinion, is?
Why should you resent the remark that many Gymgoers go to gyms for other reasons besides working out(is it because you fall into that category)? I started working out at age 11 in a Dungeon Gym... Regular gyms are filled with these types of people, which is why I work out at home.
"that just seems like a very conceited, incel-ish thing to say."
With such an angry, aggressive post using insults... Are you sure you're not the one who's "Projecting" now? Maybe you shouldn't use buzzwords that you don't understand.
Besides the fact that with my entire post, the one thing that upset you was the gym comment about lazy people in the gym.... Clearly you identify heavily with what I mentioned, which is why you're upset.
Have a great day.
"Life becomes play" is kinda how I've been trying to see things nowdays. When I go rockclimbing now whenever I'm up near the top of the wall feeling nervous and sweaty and shaky I'm just thinking "man this simulation is really good! This is awesome!"
That's a great way to think about it! I'm gonna try that the next time I'm near the top of the wall 😂
Definitely agree. When you've made it to a point of success with an enlightened mind, there's no fear of failing because you see that there is even joy to be found in succeeding all over again.
Great if it helps you having a better life experience, but id like to add something.
Life is not a game, what you are doing is again believing in something to make life easier for you, you could also choose to believe that god helps you climb and not fall, and itll do the same trick if not even better (because god is all mighty you know). Yes life is a place that is similar to a Simulation or a game, but if you dont come to that conclusion because there is simply No other option to picture life, then its a belief.
What we are doing here is still laying filters above reality (beliefs) because we cannot bear to just accept now, with the feeling of fear, doubts, pain, and insecuritys, without trying to change them.
These things are present but we need coping mechanisms because of our incapability of just living in the present and ego free, ego is afraid of falling, consciousness isnt.
You can find out every moment in which youre acting out of ego, by simply recognizing if the suffering that is present is happening to a somebody. Is the pain just feelable in the now, the present, or is it also feelable in your mind and imagination?
Hope this helped you, sorry if i just threw this in without anybody asking but i felt like this is a great addition to what you explained
I used to be very socially anxious, and lately I've been doing something similar, it has really helped me with making conversation and opening up to others :)
Life is, still was and will be play. I do not understand people, who stop playing. Your are attached btw. by your endorphine rush, it seems. Your point of view, seems to be Thelematic.
The longer I've been meditating, the more I've come to feel words are incredibly poor tools to communicate it
Yeah, words don't compare to how it feels(?)
it's like trying to describe color with your words to someone who has never seen color. each form of perception like hearing, seeing, touching, are all in their own ballpark, and meditation is a form of perception of the mind.
I have started fearing communicating, because in reality, we cannot really communicate properly which is what my goal has been. I often struggle nowadays to say of what I think.
Why religion has been so corrupted.
Not to sound like a “cool” high school teacher but that’s poetry is for 😊
I think this peaceful "enlightenment" is just the default state of a complete person. If our societal structures and belief systems were conducive to human happiness, our children were raised in safety, our language contained the adequate tools to describe more of the emotional human experience, then we would all, naturally, be enlightened.
But we live in a world run by profit, and our children know existential fear from a young age while never learning the necessary tools to make sense of themselves let alone the world around them.
This is how you make widespread societal change, by educating millions of young minds. Young minds who will use this knowledge to make the world a better place after we're gone. Thank you Dr. K, people like you are helping undo the unaddressed generational traumas of the past millennia. Whether you realize it or not, you are creating a better world.
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As a mathematician, what you said about logic being fake is so true. Even if we just consider mathematics and not even bother considering physics, in mathematics we have these axioms that are based on human ideas of how logic should apply in a mathematical universe. We have axioms that say how you can construct the objects that we study. But the moment you swap some of those axioms out, you can sometimes get completely different conclusions and theorems.
And I'd like to say that true mathematicians and physicists are the first to say that!
Philosophy major here and Kant completely agrees
Godel's incompleteness theorem
Deducing from Axioms is all logic is supposed to do. Of course it falls apart once you swap the axiom since everything sits on it. Logic is pretty incredible otherwise. So we just have to find the perfect axiom and logic does the Rest.
Wouldn't that make it illogical by definition
I think this is one of the main problems of meditating without guidance, and why it's so important for monks to have a master and a sangha (community). Meditation isn't about self-indulgence or self-alienation, it's about developing true consciousness and attention. Without any guidance, it can turn into a mere analgesic exercise. Another toy for the ego, which turns from emotions of rejection and obsession into equally unhealthy indifference. This is why meditating in groups/communities is important, so as to not lose track of the fact that we are not singular beings separated from everything and everyone that surrounds us, as a matter of fact, there is no real separation. The separation is a product of our imagination. This is what Buddhism teaches at least.
Buddha did not rise from the dead.
There’s only one who rose from the dead
@@user-jc5ff7tu5o No, Buddha did not rise from the dead. He was a normal, regular human being who died of food poisoning. All Buddha did was make some findings and leave us some teachings that were very valuable for humanity. Among those teachings are certain methods of meditation. These teachings can be applied regardless of your religious beliefs.
@@user-jc5ff7tu5o there isn't anyone who rose from the dead
He doesn’t answer the question of how you choose without desire. Because without desire you wouldn’t make a choice. Playing by the rules of the game doesn’t answer the question because you still have to make a choice, not to mention why play by the rules.
You can’t live free from desire and be functional.
I wouldn’t say it’s equally unhealthy. Not giving a f is a much better state than feeling like a worthless piece of crap.
This video makes sense of so much for me because I literally told my therapist a week ago that my biggest struggle in life right now is that I feel a sense of apathy towards everything because there’s nothing I really desire intensely. I’ve been working on myself, my mental health and meditating for almost 3 years now. I was fresh out of an abusive narc relationship trying to find my identity again and put my life back together. Because of the apathy now, I was under the impression that it meant there was something wrong with me, turns out I’m right where I need to be. I even tried explaining to my therapist that it’s not like a bad apathy, I don’t hate my life and I’m not depressed or anything like that, I just don’t really care about what I do either way because regardless I’ll be fine and I just feel content with how I am. If anything, I want to try a relationship again, the healthy way, and see where it takes me.
That's awesome man being self sufficient and content is the whole point. Anything else that can add to our lives is just a bonus, not desired nor preferred but wouldn't hurt to have.
You are detached from everything, now the game starts with your new and fresh me
@@scythekh7356 Exactly, I feel like now I can truly appreciate the present and when I want something and get it I can take it for what it is and let go when it's time to do so. This mindset leaves you In a peaceful neutral state regardless of what's happening.
Wish I could try a relationship.
I feel the same but I have the problem that I'm an extremely capable desire killer and my two most used tools were reducing the reward's value and overpricing the costs of the attempt. By getting more enlightened and emotionally capable the desires decreased naturally and artificially devaluating them stopped and I became more capable to appreciate things for what they are.
The trouble is nothing is worth the price of being alive every day. The satisfaction of any action is whole and true, but small far too small.
Being alive is an annoying task. The bad thing is not working and going to gym, the very need to get off bed (staying in bed even worse) is already an obligation I'd like to not have
I also went through the same situation, it can become a problem if you get stuck there, I started to think that I was anhedonic or depressed, the thing that unstuck me was, as you said, seeing my self like a character in a videogame, I started to lose motivation and desire to do stuff, waiting to come to me to start doing things, but that doesn't happen in a videogame, motivation doesn't come to a game character to start playing, now you have become the player behind the screen and the only way to start enjoying the game is by taking action, the classic phrase "motivation comes after action" was very important for this phase that I was, I can also add "enjoyment comes after action".
I love this analogy
Bro the timing is insane.
Deleted all media two months ago, been studying and living my philosophy and ended up in stoicism.
Having a good time honestly, I hope this mindstate remains.
Much love!
I've thought about stoicism as well. Have you read Seneca's "letters to a stoic"?
As someone who unknowingly stopped meditating because he couldn't battle with thoughts such as these I appreciate both Dr. K and the redditor who wrote this question. I will embark on the journey once again!
This is so fascinating. The longer I live the more apparent it becomes that balance is super important in nearly all aspects of life. Too much ego can be bad, but too much lack of ego almost turns into like a dissociative state, which is also bad. Desire is neither good nor bad, but too much turns it into an obsession which can make life difficult. Same thing for drugs, relationships, etc, etc.
Good stuff!
I'm' gonna go out on a limb and say that it is the poster's ego that's getting in the way.
If detachment is attained, what's hindering a purposeful life?
It could very well be a way for OP to escape, this is tricky tricky.
Detachment does not mean apathy, there is a block here I recon.
I went from wanting everything to being satisfied with just a healthy body&mind and being very appreciative of that alone, it may sound simple but its a lot deeper
my boyfriend is what you might call a guru. he got into meditation when he was 12-13 and practiced and learned all he could for over a decade. he has changed my life and a few nights ago we talked through what i had learned on my own through many acid trips and i finally understood that we are the universe talking to itself. it was the shift in mindset that i needed. i've been going through a lot of changes right now in my life, but despite all the fear and stress right now, i feel like i'm actually starting to heal from a decade of self-abuse. we're moving into our own place soon. feels like a fresh start, and a new perspective.
I hope the past year has been well for you since you wrote this comment.
the universe talking to itself? holy shit, that's gonna be on my mind for a while
it’s interesting how ppl who do acid or shrooms come away from it saying the same things. i 100% have to try in the future. not sure where to find some, but i’ll figure it out one way or another.
@@user-xz1wy4to4o trying shrooms helped me physically feel the concept but also helped me feel literally connected to everything else. Highly recommend
You discovered the fundamental truth. I have dedicated the past 5 years to both meditation and psychadellics and combining the two. That is always the conclusion I come to during the session. The way I phrase it is that we are all the universe playing a game with itself. The verbiage doesn't matter our messages are the same. I still don't know what I'm supposed to do with that revelation but I have been slowly working towards aligning my life more with that belief
Being an admirer and follower of Meditation, and Buddhist thinking, I have made a revelation that has made me much happier in life:
Your goal should not be to remove "Desire," your goal should be to remove "Attachment."
You should still strive to live your life, and experience the ups and downs, have goals, start your business, live your dream. But be detached from it, so success or failure doesn't move you at a fundamental level.
If life is a movie, an ordinary person watches it, and confuses it for something real, and important. This is also why so many people take fandoms of games, movies and MMOs so seriously, because life is like a movie, or a game. You can take a game just as seriously as real life.
To remove your Attachments in life is to realize that its just a game, or movie. You can still enjoy it, and participate in it, but you don't identify with it so strongly. Just as you would say to someone to not take a game so seriously, you should do the same thing with your life. A horror movie is far more bearable, and even entertaining once you know its a show, and aren't scared a monster is going to get you. The analogy isn't 100% perfect, but is fairly close if you believe in rebirth.
To remove Desire, is to stop playing the game, or stop paying attention to the movie, and that can be quite depressing.
However if you are trying to leave the cycle of rebirth... I can see where removing desire would be useful. Your immortal soul is like a person binge watching a cool show on Netflix, and each episode is a different lifetime on Earth. It's very hard to stop binge watching. But if you stop paying attention to the episodes, you may decide to stop watching the series.
True. Because of the realisation, that the samsahara is true, my dreams make sense. But all the "soul inprints" they have no use, its just old attachment. So what is the use of attachment? Also it does not answer the question, what is up with the samsahara, if the buddist are really right, then all parents, did almost something like a crime against morality, isn´t it?
Mediation gave me back my emotions and being stoic is lock yourself away from your emotions, the opposite of living. Since i was 6, i was telling my parents the meaning of live is to be happy with family and friends. School, university, career all try to make me forget that simple truth. Mediation and running have kept me on the joyous path.
My struggle is that now I want to go out and "see what life has to offer" yet with my ADHD I'll sit around and play video games all day. I work and make a solid living and I have the desire to go out and live. To go out and travel, have fun, explore, etc.... live the life I envision and want to try the experience, yet I just end up sitting around all day. 0 urgency so I don't do it. Then shame gets added ontop of that... since I'm not doing what "I" wants to do I feel bad that I'm not doing it and end up just sitting around more.... strange loop.
You mention "deeper" meditation techniques and "gurus". That's been my struggle as well. I've recognized that I'm at a point and would like further guidance. Most "teachers" "gurus" I come across are just businesses and don't really "care" about me, it's about the money. I feel like I don't know where to find someone to guide/teach me. I want to learn what karma's I'm here for and what must be done.
I feel like I've been struggling since I've been meditating for 5 years.
Hearing you talk is the first time I feel like I've had someone talk about these ideas in a sensible way. Most "therapists" don't lean enough into the spiritual teachings, most spiritualists don't have enough of the "therapy"/"science"/"western mind". Your approach helps a lot. Thank you.
All love brother hope you do what you do May God Allah blessed
Brother try doing wim Hof method gives you energy to do something try it out hope it helps
This may explain why if you're not healed from trauma, you can find meditation difficult. The feeling of not caring if you get a tattoo or not for example becomes confused with not caring because of being detatched or emotionally blunted. Thank you for saying go and engage in life and experiment. Sounds right on. Curiosity is healing. Might be why we shell up when traumatized that curiosity gets a negative reinforcement with trauma. Something to think about when healing. There is a relationship between healing and becoming enlightened.
Eastern approach: get rid of ego, transcend it. Western approach: put togehter fragmented Ego, fix it. Synthesis: wake up, grow up, show up. Meditate, trauma and shadow work. Otherwise this world is doomed.
@@whatthehirsch7385 West is materialistic it never would get rid of ego
@@jaylogu5675 As it shouldn't, ego death is a toxic illusion, ego is in no way an enemy to be eliminated. Your ego is part of your thread of existence. The point of his comment was suggesting harmonious marriage of the two; synthesis, as he puts it well; don't destroy the ego, rather nurture the ego, and figure out how to perpetually manipulate it, which can be perceived as transcendence in its own right.
@@aphrodieMonkey Correct first half of the life should be spend in developing a healthy ego , the latter part of life should be getting rid of it
@@jaylogu5675 Lol no My whole point is you should absolutely not destroy the ego. Merely master manipulating it, as I said. I can respect your perspective though
There's a difference between giving into a desire and *choosing* to experience it.
How I understand meditation is that it teaches you to not try and 'escape' any feeling. You simply learn to accept it for how it is and learn that every feeling serves a purpose. The ego also has a purpose, but it's times when it and the conscious mind wants to try and 'control' to feel more certainty and avoid pain where the majority of people fall short (including me). It's difficult to let go of an outcome because we're so used to desiring and attaching meaning to 3D things in the world.
I personally don't want to give up 'wanting' things because it's a part of the human experience to desire and want, but rather give up the 'need' for certain outcomes or things in my life to feel content. For instance, I love my car, and if it were to break down and fail I'd of course feel sad and annoyed, but I don't 'need' my car to feel content, as at the end of the day it's just a material object.
Just my thoughts and how I view reality. It's really interesting to hear about other people's perspectives on this topic!
I know many people are skeptical of church and religion nowadays but the chants at the end remind me of some of the prayer chants I sing at church and it definitely evokes a similar sense of peace! Cool stuff!
I always thought religion exists for the same reason, just a different approach
though (and this is just my belief) I prefer this as it's promoting self understanding, and you don't have to follow anyone other than your inner self
Vagus nerve has an offshoot that loops around the voice box
I started meditation, yoga and Qi-Gong while on a federal vacation. It helped me to find balance to clear my head of fear, worry doubt of my unknown future. It was like the universe opened up books, people knowledge just flowed to me a true sense of peace and understanding.
The negative is I see through people and just don't understand why people get so caught up in all blue lights and distractions making excuses for themselves, blaming others vs just doing the work and finding peace. Yes stocism does appear as it's detachment, radical acceptance, radical honesty and just accepting life as it comes without over emotionally attachments.
Life can be very easy if you let go and not become distracted by all Glitz and glamour.
I enjoy your video very informative keep up.good work
I did the Shanti Mantra, started crying and coughing. Lead to me puking the burger and fries I ate 2 hours before. I think its a sign to eat healthier 😬🍎
hey dr.k i wanted to thank you because since i started watching your videos and meditate, I discover I became more peacefull to myself and others.
as of today i don't get easiely angry like before and I am just relaxed, hard to describe it but even in stressfull situation my mind is just a lot more relaxed and in controll if it makes since.
so thanks you very much man!
Congrats bud!
Me, a singer, listening to Dr. K go up a half-step every time he chants: "Cool! New vocal warmup!"
haha I actually grabbed my guitar and began to play along with single notes too
i enjoy these videos which go more into spirituality purely, without mashing it too much with science. Not to say that there isn't worth in exploring topics that intersect spirituality and science, or that there isn't worth in purely scientific discussions. Dr. K does tons of those and they're great too.
I just love to have the completely unabridgedly spiritual discussions once on a while too. Really refreshing.
YES PLEASE
This isn’t even spiritual. They’re just parts of consciousness.
@@SnailHatanThe topics of discussion come from explicitly spiritual traditions.
@@SnailHatanyou’re so, so close.
As a linguist, your pronunciation guide was pretty fun and accurate. I'd recommend checking out the international phonetic alphabet, as you can very distinctly say which sound it is, and someone can look it up and find a video for that specific sound, including how to say it with varying speech impediments. May be too technical but i thought it may be interesting.
Can you give context on what you're saying?
@@gto433 it's just Dr K was giving instructions on how to pronounce a mantra and i thought i would just put out there that the International Phonetic Alphabet exists, which has notation and names for (probably) every sound in every natural and known human language. There exists a lot of UA-cam channels that have diagrams and other models for how to pronounce each sound and any variation of it. I thought it could be useful if exact pronunciation is important.
Made me wonder if you could alternate between [u] and [a] for the same effect, since that also alternates the formant frequencies.
In my English books in 3rd grade in Norway (as a second language for the first time) I could look up those phonetics and it never occurred to me that anyone might learn English without them.
@@cyberneticbutterfly8506 the fact we don't use the IPA in our schools is actually headache inducing.
This is a good discussion. More of these please.
I love when Dr. K teaches this kind of esoteric occult symbolism. Especially the fact that he points out its pop culture connections as it relates to video games (like Final Fantasy), which is something that I have realized and has wracked my brain alot.
Usually the things that are the most popular and permeate for the longest amount of time possess these deep, ancient, occult roots. People find it easier to digest when it’s presented through the medium of fiction, though it still satiates that inner longing for spiritual truth.
You were suggested to me a few months ago, with the "Why the world's mental health is getting worse" video. Since I hate especially psychiatrists with a passion I was prepared to laugh at you, but within 5 mins you've said so many good things that I looked a bit into your other videos and subscribed. I do listen to your videos while gaming, not all of them are of interest for me, and sometimes I decide to take a break from digging into my mental health as I'm actually quite fine nowadays. One major complaint I've had about your videos were that the titles were so random: I would have to watch each videos to see what it's about, I think that has changed recently, or it's just coincidence. Another thing I noticed is that you're giving more and more self help advise and nowadays rarely say that one has to get a therapist, which I'm really grateful for, but is there a reason for it? But since you've also mentioned that you became a streamer and a youtuber to find out why people are getting addicted to games and/or what makes games addictive, which you seem to answer yourself every now and then when gaming addiction is coming up; What do you make of the experience of being a streamer and youtuber? Is it like you expected it to be, did you learn anything along the way, are you still trying to find the reasons and/or cure for gaming addiction? I would love to hear your view on the development of Heathly Gamer GG.
You mention these more powerful meditation techniques around 19:30 and I’m hoping to begin exploring that. Where could I start? Resources, other UA-cam videos, etc… appreciate y’all and all the help from Dr K ❤️❤️
yeah I was wondering that too, did you find some?
there's esoteric books like vijnana bhairav tantra which have advanced meditation techniques but please do not take them lightly, these are seriously mind altering techniques, so do it under guidance from some trusted guru or if you are going to get into it you have to be a serious meditator for years. i have been meditating for like 5-6 years on and off and i have observed that basic meditation techniques are enough for behavioral changes.
Alan watts
I'd definitely start with the frame technique taught by Aaron doughty. It's excellent for building and sustaining detachment, building confidence, and recognizing/asserting your boundaries.
00:04 Meditation is making me feel indifferent towards material desires and the external world.
02:12 Meditation helps reduce materialistic desires and find contentment.
06:11 Our society is based on ambition and materialistic needs.
08:12 Meditation leads to contentment within oneself
12:13 Understanding the internal rules of life allows you to engage more fully and find joy
14:16 Meditation helps in conquering visible problems and leads to personal growth.
18:26 Explore different experiences and live life to the fullest without being constrained by desire.
20:07 As you progress spiritually, you gain a deeper understanding and learn to navigate challenges.
23:59 Perception is subjective and needs to be adapted to fit the world's logic.
25:59 Meditation is not about reaching a specific goal, but about being present in the current moment.
29:41 Your true self transcends the ego.
31:23 Value judgment should not be placed on where we are in life
35:40 Success on the internet is about transmission of information, not original thought.
37:41 The western concept of religion separates people into 'us' and 'them'.
41:22 Practice shanti mantra with focus on vibration and slow, deliberate chanting.
44:25 Shanthi mantra helps release negative emotions and promote peace.
49:38 The Shanti mantra is an attempt to encapsulate the fundamental concept of peace with a vibration.
51:40 Certain sounds are closer to peace and certain sounds are closer to other stuff.
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Hey, love your videos, but as a physicist I have to say that saying "The laws of physics stop working at the quantum level" is an extremely inaccurate sentence. A correct sentence will be more like "Our understaing of the laws of physics according to classical physics theories stop working at the quantum level". On the quantum level(which roughly means "stuff that are very small", you got that right) we use an "updated" theories(that do not contradict the classical ones, btw) and these theories work really well.
Sorry for nitpicking, its just that you have to be VERY careful when you talk about quantum mechanics because there are a lot of misconceptions about this and people think its this magical thing that we dont understand and we actually understand quite a lot nowadays.
No, our understanding doesn't stop working. We understand that classical theories stop working and that's what indeed happens
@@reformed_attempt_1 No our understanding stops working. If there’s a discontinuity in our understanding, and we have to switch to a different mode of thinking to understand something, then our understanding stops working at that point. It’s we can’t build up to explain the entire universe using quantum mechanics, and why we can’t use general relativity to model things that could be easily modeled by QFT for instance.
@@matthewburger798 Classical theory consists of a heavily evidenced, principled, and systematic *particular* way of understanding physical phenomena, so you and the person you're responding to are saying the same thing. For example, a classical-theoretic perspective wouldn't have us *understand* what is going on in the quantum level. But we do understand it (well.. :P maybe).. through a new/different theoretical perspective. Thus, our understanding doesn't stop working (because we move on to a different theory to explain quantum phenomena, thereby understanding it), but we *can* say classical theory stops working (since its a particular way to try and understand a given phenomenon). This is despite how proven and principled and systematic it may have been, as it would then seem to be restricted to a particular domain/context/scope. Map is not the territory. All that jazz.
@@ジュレジュ The prevailing models of the universe aren’t classical and quantum, they’re relativity and quantum mechanics. Relativity is built off of newtons mechanics and can explain everything they can. However at a certain point they are unable to accurately predict observations, thus quantum mechanics is used. However there are points of discontinuity between the two, where observation is inaccurate impractical or impossible, and where the two models give different answers. Because our understanding of the universe is a patchwork of these two models, there are bits where the seams don’t match up right, such as in the singularity of a black hole. It’s not that we don’t have math to describe the singularity, it’s that the math gives obviously incorrect/impossible answers. And worse yet, the wrong answers don’t even match each other. If the models you use to build your understanding disagree with each other, perhaps your understanding is incomplete, which means it stops working at certain points. This shouldn’t be a controversial statement.
@@matthewburger798 I accept your correction at the start, but I fail to see how the rest of what you said contradicts what I said. Yes. The limitations of our models and our understanding coincide in a very non-accidental fashion, hence why one would even expect a new model to improve our understanding? You've explained our "incomplete" understanding based on our inadequate models. So, it is fundamentally the models that are the problem, not our "understanding." You yourself said we'd just need an additional more encompassing or alternative model. "Understanding" just means being able to intuitively apprehend and also make meaning or sense of something. The fact that something may lead to contradictory or counterintuitive results doesn't mean we lack understanding of it. After all, you would not know that to be the case *unless* you understood it. So, ultimately, it comes down to the models. Unless you are suggesting it's sufficient for us to simply sort our minds out in some configuration in order to supersede the explanatory issues you mention (such as for the singularities and surfaces of black holes) rather than do actual experiments and other kinds of skill application.
Strangest thing happened. I've been meditating for about a decade. First four years daily for avg 15min. Last 6 it's been on and off for at least 10min. But I'm very present and mindful (probably due to the first four years).
About a month ago I took a VERY long transatlantic flight. I woke up during the flight and everything was off. People were treating me differently (like a king) and I felt completely detached from reality - indifferent would be best. I was convinced that the plane had crashed and I'm dead - either in a Vanilla Sky simulation or in heaven. (Whatever that means).
This has persisted until now. I am more content, productive and happy than ever before. I hadn't meditated in the 4 months prior to the flight.
Time is also standing still. My days are SUPER long - yet I'm working my ass off and working on my passions. Strange and great!
This is so spot on ! Really enjoyed how you explained this internal peace.
Many people don't understand why i don't bounce out with them anymore. Groveling for instant gratifications ect 😅
This is so pertinent right now. I've been meditating and listening to a lot of nondual/advaita vedanta material, and while it's peaceful, there is a sense that I'm getting lost in these things and missing out on the world. Or, even that I am isolating myself from the world due to burn out but I'm disguising it in a spiritual veneer.
As someone who frequently gets pulled around by their emotions, learning to rest in the "I" is essential for me, but I am a man of extremes so I tend to go to the opposite side of being so overly latched on to my mind to the side where I am detached from it all.
It's like I'm trying to experience the emptiness of death because life is too overwhelming. All I do Is work and then chill at home, doing the bare minimum to stay alive (sure, I see friends but mostly I'm alone listening to music, and even then I'm finding myself magnetically pulled into Pure Being. Almost as if my body is ready to die and nondual mediation is a way to satiate this without actually harming myself. Yet, am I helping myself or am I just sinking further into oblivion?
you seem in a similar position to mine... I am more of a "pendulum" person than a "balance" person. I have a hard time seeing things as two plates coexisting... I swing to both sides, one after the other, and the wisest I get, the calmer I get, the less extremes are the pendulum's swings, the goal being to be as close to the middle as possible with as less swinging as possible. But life is life, sometimes something will happen, or someone will come by, that will pull on one side of the pendulum, and I'll have to deal with the bigger swings again... I don't really have a solution for you, but maybe this analogy can help you figure out how you want to deal with your own situation.
I’d suggest exploring the world with that detached mindset. See if some things become more enjoyable. Making music comes to mind, to me it’s something that hits a deeper part of me and bypasses my ego, emotions, although I can only manage to stay in that state for max 30 minutes before emotions take over.
Literally solved my issues with my mental health with depression and anxiety I feel calmer
Once again people come here describing exactly the same feeling I am going through and Dr K nails it!!!
oh my goodness, that word being translated as play is the sweetest thing ever
I actually gave up meditation a long time ago for reasons like this. I decided that at the point in my life where I was, I actually wanted to have wants and goals and desires. I just found life more boring without them. Maybe I will return to it though. Maybe it would be good to get closer to enlightenment at this point in my life.
"Enlighten person vibes with life" what a beautiful way to put it haha
Damn. I’ve consumed hundreds of hours of Ram Dass, Allan Watts and similar content and gone down the wellness and trauma recovery rabbit hole for a while. But what you did at minute 15 really helped to bring the concept of non attachment to life. What a blessing to live in a time when our scientific understanding of the brain is able to align and help us make sense of these amazing insights from ancient wisdom.
You arent your trauma you dont really need to do the healing stuff .. just meditate... hes hiding some info from yous what he says is right but hes not going fully in depth on all this which is good tbh as people need to do their own spiritual development in their own time. You need to avoid capitalism corporate teachings its all to screw people up..
@@lena-Ramone wow. You know so much about me and didn’t even have to ask a question first. Do tell me, what “healing stuff” have I been doing so far that I need to stop wasting time on? How often, for how long and what type of meditation am I doing, or am I not doing any? Go ahead. You know apparently everything about me.
@@RCCurtright you are being hostile, sarcastic ; all lower vibe ways of communicating ✌️
I am not a hostile person.✌️ I dont need to be , because i am highly evolved and i dont need to go defensive and energy vamp off any other being which is what you do consciously or unconsciously in your weird off vibes response ..
i will be straight to the point if someone is weird towards me like you are, when i was only being cool to them, FFS Man 🤨🤨
I WILL have been being kind to you by the way as i am a good person.
you will have taken it TOTALLY the WRONG way 🤨 nevermind 😄
I wonder, are you an American?
My earlier comment you replied to in a mad head way is no longer here , i did not remove it 🤷♀️ , so im not sure why its gone... but i remember i was not being 'off' with you no way would i have been..
I think i stated that the video guy is not in the FULL knowing and he is not going mega in depth on meditation and its a good job he isnt as their are plenty people out there who arent nearly evolved enough to be a vessel for such power. Your shitty response is classic example of not being ready..
The reaction you had is a prime example of needing to develop bigtime.
Your response is unwarranted.
It says to me you are a poor communicator .
I do sincerely hope you develop and stop getting wound up the wrong way = EGO 🤨 when someone is simply being kind to you 🙃🙄😵💫😵💫🥴🥴🤭 DO realise an actual human is communicating with you (im not just words through a screen a robot) you evidently are not mindful due to your odd defensive reaction to me simply being kind to you- do you see ????? 👀👀 .
And yes , as i am a mental health professional etc development over decades , sure i probably could assess you , however i wasnt in my original comment but i am now 😂😂.
I am energetically cold to you now as protection as you attempted to attack energetically - this shows you have weak character / emotional issues and low patience - hey maybe someone wasnt being off towards you did you even think this prior to replying ?? but as you responded totally mad left field you make a person now turn their back.. 🙄🙄
I will no longer engage with you. Goodbye best wishes and good luck on your obviously needed development/evolution 🤨🙄🙄🙄🙄 im not being nasty saying that, i can just truly tell.
@@RCCurtright not sure why my comment is no longer there ??? but you took me completely the wrong way 🤣🤣 🤔🤨
you are hostile and unfortunatly unable to see i was being kind to you.
I am a clinical therapist yea , so im sure i probably could figure you out alot , however I think i was saying that he is not disclosing everything in this video , those of us who fully know are able to tell yous are getting a censored version but good it helps you so far.
Basically, you become that one friend who's always chill
I used to meditate every morning, and I haven't meditated for the last 2 years. I find that the busier my schedule is, the less time I have to meditate. Which is ironic because the busy/stressed you are the more crucial it is to find time for meditation. Havent watched the video yet, looking forward to hear Dr K's take.
Same. What I did was trying to reduce my meditation time. Years ago I would do it during 40 min a day. Now I try 10-15 min
@@elwiwi69 maybe ill try that aswell.
Beautifully put!! Reached this stage spiritually and felt a similar sense of apathy. I was feeling really lost and then I came across this! You are gathering a lot of good karma…
ive never used mantras as i felt it was religious practice, i tried it out of curiosity and instantly noticed the vibations and pricking sensation of the blood flow through my body made me smile. the sensation was similar to that of the feeling you have when you experience a deep sense of gratitude or euphoria wash over you
I totally resonate with this . I can’t believe the feeling I felt, it was super weird
6:12 - structure of life is based on ambition, on wanting things
8:10 - ambition and desire is source of motivation for most people
8:25 - after meditation, people don’t feel like doing anything cause they are kind of content
This is when people start living life, DrK says people who only chases desire aren’t truly
8:59 - opportunity cost shrink when you don’t chase desire
9:51 - in this “mode”, your choices will be exactly what you want them to be, it’s not influenced by desire
21:16 - you’re here because you owe this world something, you have a karma to complete
36:30 - meditation
Sometimes you hear Mantra in other things. I hear it in cats purring, and it's quite relaxing too.
That was super interesting. I was thinking something was wrong with me if I lost an ability to desire, at the same time I was questioning reality on a fundamental level. Now I let myself just explore life from my new understanding which is based on spirituality.
I really like these more spiritual talks
You are so good idc what you've ever done or think any yourself, you have pure energy despite being human in this realm.
Please keep doing this but take care of yourself first.
It is so refreshing and to hear someone, anyone, know all you talk about on a deep true level. Even deeper but pure than you put out.
I will say, it gets lonely having so much physical energy come out, like I can only explore Chakras that you're purpose is, and having to share it but never being heard and then with time being depleted.
My vibrations are so strong, they don't hurt at all, but I need to share it to others that need those vibrations. And most people just don't take it. That's on me
As Ayya Khema put it: the _near enemy_ of equanimity is _indifference_ ... it is surprisingly easy to "meme yourself" into not caring
Equanimity... that's a new word to me, thank you =P
When you get to the point that you don't desire anything, and everything seems meaningless,minimalize all your things and remove yourself from comfort.
Alright, when I got to that point, that realisation that nothing matters and I'm content, it then means that I can do whatever I want. Our brains create our realities so you choose everything and die happy knowing you did what you wanted. So yeah, it helps me keep my negative mental health in check because outcomes don't matter and there's no such thing as failure and I can create the life I want. The end
Its not that nothing matters, its that the things that dont matter dont matter.
>Got rid of all my desires
>Forgot to get rid of my desire for desire itself
>feelsbadman
i think this is what is happening to me.
@@pedroba76 desire is not required for enjoyment/fulfillment
Alan Watts told a story about how getting rid of all your desires still leaves the desire for enlightenment, which leaves the door open to the ego.
I see your alignment with your karmic duty, and Harmony with yourself and life. It’s beautiful to witness and inspirational to all of us. Peace and blessings to you, friend 🙏🏻♥️
I was getting so relaxed doing the meditation with you then when you mentioned final fantasy I got all excited again. Way to end a video ;)
I tried that type of meditation where you try to take everything all in at once. It would drive most people mad but I like it. I found myself laughing when I realized I would have been just as "happy" if I had a wife, kids and a house. It would have just replaced my current anxieties with different ones. Although love would be stronger than the freedom I enjoy, the self sacrifice and responsibility would have made it equal. So instead of stressing about what I think should have happened I should chill and make the most of life. Now I will always make sure I'm with someone because I want to be with them. Not some life goal. And I know it's not worth beating myself up for.
I would be curious to learn more about the different levels you reach through meditation. I think you articulated it very well. As you said, it is difficult to explain it without experiencing it but I'd love to see you try because I think you did a good job :)
oh i've been fighting it the whole life. I thought i had to want things. I thought i had to learn stuff to impress and succeed. I just instantly relaxed a whole bunch.
Gotta give some advice here. For me keeping my eyes closed is hard so i put some cloth over my eyes. It helps a lot. If stuff is noisy, same goes with earplugs.
Dont think about the stuff in the world as the things that your mind wants to think. For example. You might want to explain peoples bad behaviour and you can explain it but how ever you objectivly analyse it is still your ego. for example (i know and example in an example) you think peoples evil actions as evil or you think of them as ppl are lost or they are confused or unhappy, or what ever. The world is beautiful, the world is horrible. Both is true. Its about you though.
If a child is having a problem. You can solve its problem but it wont learn to solve it on its own. Right, This is why god isnt helping you. If god helped you, or jesus or whatever. It will be great in the moement. your pain is solved but you will find a new pain. Learn not with logic and problem solving. Learn with emotions.
Bad emotions are not evil. They are just your emotional state expressing itself. If a man watch his house burn he will scream because all he worked for is being lost. Now the same man is seeing his house burn and he watch the fires burn and thinks and feels okey. Maybe he thinks "nice, im not inside the house". If you feel strong negative emotions, try and watch it and think "it feels like im the middle of a battlefield, a bloody war. But nice, im not actually in a war. Its just feels like it."
Im still in baby stage so take what i said with ease
I feel like this video itself would actually make a good meditation video. It's very calming, discusses the purpose of mediation, and gets you to think without attaching a lot of emotion. Definitely saving this for later!
Many great points here. We only have wisdom/knowledge through actual practice. Now I’m back in the world doing things and enjoying them much more with the observing self. And I see the lessons/karma behind each situation. Enlightenment is not about having enlightened thoughts vs unenlightened thoughts. Yes as you observe the grosser thoughts they become stripped away each time and more subtle. As long as you seem to be in a body, the ego continues its thoughts according to its patterns. Jeevan mukti is to be dis-identified from the thought stream. So the thoughts come but you don’t believe them or take them seriously. You are aligned in a different space that simply watches or observes all thoughts (sakshi, witness or observer of the mind). Being in the world (of thought) but not of it as Jesus taught. This awareness when it turns inward where it is not aware of any thoughts but only of itself, it dissolves the ego completely, the body, 5 senses, the world, people, everything disappears and only the Self (God) shines through and this is full enlightenment. Full enlightenment is for ALL because are all one and there is only God. So all the maya (multiplicity) ends and we are all one God in the end. That dissolution into the Self/God is being orchestrated so we first see the Leela of it all and then even the Leela disappears as there is only God- no world, time and space, no physical reality, no body. The ego, the false self has no purpose. The world is a projection of the ego (this world is a dream with dream logic, therefore these laws of physics can be broken), therefore it only has the purpose we give it. Advaita tells us the ego doesn’t exist so the world its projects also does not exist. It is a paradox because we seem to be here in this world and yet this is not our true reality as bodies. Our true reality is God/the Self/Turiya
Wow, thanks for covering my post! I'm really thankful Dr K 🌹
You give three suggestions on how to move forward, but where do I find these specific meditation techniques you mention here 18:58 ?
Moreso, how do I find a guru? 💀
love the sentence "you need some centering to tolerate that [mystical] stuff [in order to get the best out of it]"
To this day i still do not understand why all therapists do not recognize meditation as one of the most important practices of man.
Shoutout to any Dr who brings their talents to youtube. Helped me more then any in person doctor I've paid money to.
loved this. dr. K should do more talks on spirituality especially the eastern viewpoint. This is very interesting to someone born and raised into the western view on spirituality and ego
Even eastern people nowadays have so much western influence that they don't care anymore.
When you got into reality being something our language & logic cannot define it lit so many lightbulbs i swear.
Man, I'm REALLY curious about the demonic mantras now XD
For me, the easy answer to this post would be just to keep your mind open, don't believe you know anything, keep yourself open to the unknown.
Ayo early gang. Gotta love some Dr. K for breakfast 😩👌🏽
The most freeing thing I have ever realized was that life had no meaning and was entirely random. That meant I had the freedom to decide whatever meaning I wanted too it. So I was no longer scared by the thought of the randomness instead it invigorated me!!!! It made me so much more grateful for every single day I am alive! The fact I am even here on earth alive today in this body at this time is just so insane. One small action one small change. Had my parents had sex the day after I could have never existed!!!!!!! Now I have the opportunity to experience this singular life and I won’t take it for granted. I will live every day with the knowledge that my life is my own to make it. I cry when I think about it. I look at the trees and I think holy shit wow trees are incredible. Dirt is incredible. Bugs are incredible. The air is incredible. Feeling the wind on my skin is incredible. Smelling the rain in the grass is incredible. If I’m ever feeling down I just literally touch some grass. I love every day and I am so happy to be alive.
If you’re reading this, I LOVE YOU!!!! Your existence is a blessing.
I would love a video on what meditation actually is and the different types.
He has some in his past videos FYI.
Very well argumented for the need to find a guru eventually. It is not like you need a guru from the start, but at a later point you will need help from people with deeper experience. And you gain devotion in guru, not by blind worship, but by having the experience that they know what they are talking about.
This reminds me of Brittany Simon's level's system. Sounds like OP is at a level 4.
I think the mantra just forces you to exhale more than inhale. It's the build up of CO2 that induces more out of breathe feeling it's not the lack of oxygen, you'd be surprised how efficiently the body can use oxygen. When people get anxious they tend to think they need to breathe deeper instead of exhaling more which leads to hyperventilation. This has also helped me with aerobic or any long endurance exercise like running, exhaling twice as long as inhaling or inhaling through my nose and exhaling through my mouth has helped me prolong my breath and go longer and faster, it was quite a remarkable find. This tip has helped me improve my running and my mood the most.
I also watch Brittany Simon! I've always thought she and Dr. K would have an interesting discussion. Her "Level 5" seems to be the same idea as enlightenment. I do like that she defines the other levels 1-4 though; it's helped me be less judgmental of people I previously considered "stupid" for causing suffering, including myself.
I'm very often in the "I" presence state, and I can tell you from my experience, it feels like I have the FREEDOM to do even the most practical things like working hard at my current job and developing my business for long hours! On the other hand, I, personally, see NIHILISM as an EXTREMELY POSITIVE and UPLIFTING thing - not something that makes me completely doubt the value of things in my 3 dimensional reality at all!
It's not that I don't care about things anymore, I'm just more ENTERTAINED AND ENTHRALLED by the IDEA that my ATTENTION to any perspective I have of the world is COMPLETELY UP TO ME!
If spirituality (or stoicism) is as bad as this person is making it, why would any practical person suggest to someone that they shouldn't stress about things they can't control even though this is something that is VERY COMMONLY SAID?
Im trans and a wild thing that happened was that while my gender identity and appearance had very little meaning to "me"... it was still important to continue to transition. Even in a state of total detachment, there was still an underlying sense of duty to myself to self-actualize.
Where do you think that sense of "duty" come from if I can ask?
@@calmexit6483 It’s hardcoded in their brain. Much like you have an instict to eat or clothe yourself, they have a similar instinct to go through with transitioning.
@@supC_ what? I didn’t ask you to speak for them.
In addition, as “hard coded” as survival instincts? So their desire to transition comes from the reptile brain? You raised more questions then was answered. This person is describing an almost spiritual compulsion to carry out their duty. Eating isn’t a fucking duty bro, so don’t equate them.
@@Hawkenwhacker That’s true as well, but not what I was talking about. Recent research has shown that the brain’s development is influenced by the ratio of male to female hormones in the womb. There are physical differences between the male & female brain that lead to gender dysphoria if it happens to develop opposite to the body (or even just ambiguously). Their body’s sex feels wrong to those people because it literally is. And it feels WRONG to them. Like, the mere thought of being their birth sex is revolting on an instinctual level. (Or so I’ve heard, would be nice if an actual trans/nb person could confirm as I do not have any experience and the last thing I want to do is accidentally speak for someone incorrectly.) Just eliminating societal issues would not solve the problem, in fact that’s a misconception that can lead to conclusions like “nobody would need to transition if society accepted any behavior from any person regardless of gender” which is simply untrue and would actually end up hurting people with the real condition because it devalues their feelings.
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I could have written this question!! (F46) I had this happy contentment since childhood, I had no intention of playing a game. If I was already happy, nothing could make me more happy than happy. But I realised I had to play the game, got lost in it, didn't master it, only pretended. At 46 I am doagnosed adhd and gifted iq, which means I've masked and faked all the time. I already knew it but life trapped me. I started exploring thought, mind and consciousness and regained the peace. I am content, mostly. Oh, and ADHD-medication really helps 😅 Thank you for this video!
"Consciousness emerges over dimensions of disagreement with the universe. Things where you care. Where things are not the way they should be. Where you need to regulate. So in some sense the sense of self is the result of all the identifications that you're having and an identification is a regulation target that you're committing to. It's a dimension that you care about. That you think is important. And this is also what locks you in. If you let go of these these commitments, of these identifications, then you are free, there is nothing that you have to do anymore. And if you let go of all of them then you are completely free and you can enter nirvana because you are done." - Joscha Bach, Principal AI Engineer at Intel Labs.
Please comment on his ideas. I'm trying to understand what you're saying in light of what he's saying. See the clip: "Joscha Bach: We don't exist in the physical world. We exist in the story that the brain tells itself"
I mean he’s wrong though we do exist in the physical world.
We exist in both, but your ego thrives from dissonance and harmony that it can come up with by identifying and labeling the world around you coupled with emotions. So like a ego desire is “I want/don’t want this, because it makes me feel like ___” in the most basic form. In that sense, all that is internal and that’s how majority of the world functions. However, you also exist outside that. You are a real thing, just as real as the stars in the night sky, just as real as the birds chirping every morning. It’s just that the stars don’t desire to be placed in a specific spot, birds don’t necessarily desire for a bunch of different things, or nothing more that is needed or have specific desires for a particular tree they want to live in or a specific bug they want to eat every morning? Just like you don’t necessarily have desire certain things. Once you able to become mindful of what’s your desire and you just … being, (this what he meant by letting go of those identities) you can view things differently. That’s something you can’t always put into words, but you’ll know. You’ll move with a purpose and understanding. Rather than moving for a understanding or expecting/looking for a purpose imo.
But where some kinda ver off, is that they thing full enlightenment is that you get rid of your ego and you’re walking around basically inside out and one with universes. And what K touches on, that’s not necessarily the case. Understanding you’re a real thing includes understanding that you’re human, part of your brains job is to be able to label things, give narratives, give you desires, etc. you don’t have to and it’s not really possible to get rid of that part of you, which paradoxically desiring to do. Meditation teaches you mindfulness. That you will have all those things previously mentioned but you’re able to take a step back before you wrapped up in a fairytale that your brain spins and realize life itself is a fairytale. A very rare one, and that means life in its entirety. The good, the bad, the exciting, the mundanity, and everything in between. meditation just allows you to step outside of your personal narrative and recognize there’s a bigger one that’s been playing already and will continue to play and when it throws curveballs your able manage change your mindset to fit accordingly when you need to. Allows you to feel and deal.
Like my ego helps me put alls this in words with the extent of my knowledge. But my most mindful answer would be “take a walk around your neighborhood and literally just look around. At the people, houses, cars, nature, etc. without coming up with a story. Instead ask yourself, like if you see a person, “I wonder where they’re walking to” “I wonder why they’re outside rn just like me” or even “I wonder what got them out of bed today” “I wonder what’s their reason to live atm” etc, that helps you to at least recognize there’s a bunch of lives simultaneously coexisting as you tell your own story too.
@@Yourmomsassstinks But that is still creating a story by wondering about what they are doing and what they are going to. Just mindless “wondering” isn’t really being aware, if you payed attention you’d get a glimpse of what they are doing or where they are going.
The rest sounds more like it’s made up than actual reality. Every animal has desires even birds. Granted not the same as we do sure but it’s the same. Life isn’t a fairytale that’s what you realize through mediation according to Buddhism. Also you can’t really live outside of desire, otherwise you’d never do anything.
He ties himself in knots to avoid having to acknowledge that fundamental truth even going so far as to suggest “trying it” isn’t desire when that’s literally what it is.
desiring to not desire is a desire. The realization that there is nothing to realize. IT IS WHAT IT IS, is the most profound statement that can be made. Alan Watts is who you should listen to.
What's puzzling to me is that i feel I've reached this point but am still stuck in particular cycles where the basically the ego would be in control. On top of that there's things that are related to me being autistic that just do not become easier. Which then still leads to a large amount of disharmony in communication with most individuals.
Feelings of shame, guilt and disconnect arise. Some disregulation and trauma wounds bring a whirlwind of being disoriented, performing attempts at unnecessary rectifying behaviors and questioning myself. I tend to now get to the point where i do not regret the final decision except for a couple erratic behaviors along the way. These difficulties and disconnects still have me wishing I was neurotipical sometimes, often for being loved related reasons, sometimes because of career-oriented stuff (which if its just about money instead of creation, I'm incapable of being passionate about it.).
I guess I'm doing allright in life. Especially with the amount of shit that's on my plate.
I can't stand it anymore when anybody thinks i don't do enough though.
It feels rather validating that at least my therapist and a couple of people that are close to me know how much effort i put into things.
Not everyone has to see it for it to be true, i was hurt today in this direction 🥲.
Need more self-respect, more sure of myself.
Decided to post in case a soul like mine would read it. I know I would appreciate reading something like this from someone else.
At the same time i have a bunch of abilities others do not. Many naturally, many learned. But I have not found any societal benefit with them yet.
Which now I'm saying this still looks like i hang on to that very tightly. Which is not strange since it has to do with my social statuses, bringing safety and security in the form of money, stuff like that.
Thanks for sharing your experience.
I also have Asperger's by the way, and I can relate to a lot of what you said.
Dr k is listening and really paying attention to his community
Omg this video messes with my mind so hard 😅
I really enjoy this Shanti Mantra, thank you! It feels like singing the world to peace... I hope the message spreads, that's what we're here for!
The laws of physics don't stop working at a quantum level. If they did, we'd just make new laws of physics. Our models designed for macro stuff stops. Basically, we were 'wrong' but the models are still very accurate for big, slow things. But your point still applies. Science uses logic and evidence to produce models of the universe. And just because the model works doesn't mean it's right. We don't discern truth with logic, we set boundaries using assumptions for where the truth must lie. Such as F=ma is extremely useful and 'true' until you start going really fast, then it is not true at all. If I run into a wall, using quantum tunneling, there is a chance that I appear on the other side of the wall, not having touched it (or at least that's what our logic tells us, perhaps that's also not true). It's not worth considering but all of the weird quantum mechanics stuff does also apply to large objects.
Nvm you kind of said just what I said after I paused but I'll leave it there
My favorite thing about Healthy gamer is that it starts on something that is easy to understand and looks like a surface level discussion and slowly digs deeper until it reaches subjects like the purpose of life
What I really struggle with the spiritual stuff is it feels like I'm being sold a delusion that just isn't working because I don't believe it hard enough. I used to be a Christian and a lot of the stuff feels like the Christian idea of "if faith isn't working out for you, it's just cus not doing it right. And no one can tell you what right is or even guide you because it's personal" which just feels like a way to lead you on forever.
Obviously it works for a lot of people, and I'm not discrediting anyones experience. They've had that experience, I haven't. But I can't help but be resistant to suggestion when I'm aware of it. If I'm told I should be experiencing something I'm not, I can't help but be inhibitively skeptical
try practices that doesn't require much time to master and are easy. it's not magic like religion, it's more of an experience you get from certain practices
yup in the same page
@@thebillyd00 I would say the goal shouldn't be to experience anything, that could be just the ego attaching itself to the outcome of meditation, the point of meditating is to meditate, not to get anywhere or achieve anything
@@gothicfan52 my experience with meditation is a few minutes of calm followed by feeling exactly as I did before meditating. It doesn't feel like anything other than just a temporary escape from stress, so why would I stick to it?
Abraham Hicks has the answers to all of these questions. the tings we experience create the contrast that allows us to realize what we do and do not desire. desires start new creations. which is why we are here. we are meant to experience it all.
This video helped me with a question I have had for a very long time. I was raised a Jehovah Witnesses, which believe most humans will live forever on earth. I have always found this EXTREMELY boring, and thought I would never want to live forever. And this video helped a lot! Can’t wait to practice this!!
Yes thanks for saying that meditation is for improving already stable people. I had to wait 15+ years to figure that out and NOBODY in the mindfulness/meditation/new age business tells you this! I was trying to use meditation to fix myself and it just made me more dissociated. Trauma therapy fixed me.
And this is why the pali kanon is so insanely long and basically keeps talking about the same handful of topics over and over and over. It's incredibly hard to convey the concept of non-attachment without going straight to apathy. It's hard to promote self love without it becoming some kind of escapism. People are quick to recognize that wanting a tattoo and getting it is desire/attachment, but they don't see that wanting the tattoo and not getting it is a form of attachment too.
I found this very helpful. I like instructional videos on meditation that sort of walk you through the meditation. Makes me feel more secure in knowing I am doing the meditation as intended.
I've meditated on and off for a couple of years, but in the last 6 months I started meditating more frequently, not quite daily, but like 5 times a week on average. Just the last month I've began to slowly start experiencing what Dr. K talks about here, but I've had a really hard time putting it into words. I can't believe how well he puts it.
I've quit videogames for like half a year now, but it was because self improvement youtubers told me to, but recently I've began experiencing this "life like play" phenomenon, which made me want to play videogames (instead of "playing" life) even less. I keep trying to explain this to my videogamer friends, but they just don't seem to get it.
What kind of meditations do you do?
@@orih7148 10 minutes of "daily meditation", "mantra meditation" or just a timer and focus on my breath on the app medito. Pretty basic.
I've heard you speak of your training as a guru before. Never has it felt more apparent. I love your kind recognition of this person's state of mind, and gentle guidance to continue.
meditation : "put these foolish ambitions to rest"
I finally understand why masters only guides not literally telling practisers exactly what to do