Life After Fifty As A Gay Man.
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- Опубліковано 22 сер 2024
- Richard Eric Weigle discusses life after 50 as a gay man - meeting his husband and forming a new family within the community.
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I'm 76. Lost the love of my life of 40 years in 2017. We met New Years Eve 1977. I was 32, he was 25. I treasure every year we were together. He was so much a part of me . To have had this kind of love was truly a gift from God. It IS possible !
Im glad you got to experience love and aging together is a blessing in this community
1 Corinthians 15:3-4 KJV
3 For what I received I passed on to you as of first importance that Christ died for our sins according to the Scriptures, that he was buried, that he was raised on the third day according to the Scriptures
John 3:16
16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life
ROMANS 10:13
For “whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.”
Acts 2:38 - Then Peter said unto them, Repent, and be baptized every one of you in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins, and ye shall receive the gift of the Holy Ghost
I am 65 years old and my husband is 58 years old we celebrated our 30th year together in July,I couldn't imagine life without him, Married almost seven !
30 years!!!! Wow bless the both of you!!!!❤️🙏🏽
1 Corinthians 15:3-4 KJV
3 For what I received I passed on to you as of first importance that Christ died for our sins according to the Scriptures, that he was buried, that he was raised on the third day according to the Scriptures
John 3:16
16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life
ROMANS 10:13
For “whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.”
Acts 2:38 - Then Peter said unto them, Repent, and be baptized every one of you in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins, and ye shall receive the gift of the Holy Ghost
I’m 58. Husband is 71. Together 29 years, married for 6. Life is great. ❤️❤️
You are lucky.
We've been together 16 years. You're right.
You're so lucky. And you prove the people who say that gays are always on the hunt for fresh meat sooo wrong!!! Str8 marriages seem to be the ones ending in divorce.
Very nice
Awesome. Been with my partner for 21 years. I'm 50 and he's 48.
Gay. 76. Extremely happily in love with 60-year-old husband of 30 years!!! He works; I'm retired! He's Southern; I'm Latino. He's OCD; I like clutter! He's ginger; I'm silver! He's tall; I'm short! OPPOSITES!!! We DO attract!!! The thing that made us CLICK - he's hairy (I love that); I'm Central American Indian SMOOTH - no hair (except in strategic places!) The past 30 years together we have made so many wonderful friends and we really appreciate them all. If we went on a gay cruise, my hubby would get upset if ANYONE were to make eyes at me (I told him THAT'S NOT POSSIBLE!); but he does protect me!!! I guess, for him, I'm still cute; like I was when we met!!! LOL LOL And to answer one of the people who commented; YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE RICH TO HAVE A GREAT SENIOR LIFE; YOU JUST HAVE TO BE RICH IN LOVE AND SPIRIT!
Omg all love from me and my bf (were straight) hes telling me to write quicker...hope we can last as long as you guys going on 7 yrs...ups and downs but love all the way from us to you ❤❤
You both have good values & being open to committed love for each other is the best thing of all. Nice to read your story.
1 Corinthians 15:3-4 KJV
3 For what I received I passed on to you as of first importance that Christ died for our sins according to the Scriptures, that he was buried, that he was raised on the third day according to the Scriptures
John 3:16
16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life
ROMANS 10:13
For “whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.”
Acts 2:38 - Then Peter said unto them, Repent, and be baptized every one of you in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins, and ye shall receive the gift of the Holy Ghost
I still haven't found anyone, I'm 53 now. Feel sad sometimes but then life goes on. People say one day that one will come my way. It's hard to believe that. I feel really lonely and isolated in some occasions. Guess I wasted too much time not accepting myself the way I was in my younger years. Now I am paying the price. Having said that we never know...life is so full of surprises.
I'm sorry that you feel "lonely and isolated", especially at 53! Honestly? For me when at the age of 53 I was and felt SO vital. Now at nearly 68 and having lost my Husband 2+ years ago, life is much more of a struggle. Basically because of being without the support I enjoyed and depended on for 32 years but I recently required heart surgery (that was a surprise!!) and now with a young 3 yo dog that relies on me for love and care, the house, the yard, car, bills and groceries, cooking, you name it all falling on one person it has "tested me". But you know what?? When I feel lost, down, pressed, stressed and tried I'm never really "down". The reason is I found out that I CAN do it. Even if I have to manage it alone and even after enjoying the constant love and support that I no longer have and the somewhat "ill health" I now live... I live. I go on because I want to and need to. You just DO. You CAN! You will. I still look and am still (somewhat) hopeful that one day a gorgeous soul of a man will notice me and my ability to remain pertinent but if and until that ever happens, it's gotta be ME who digs the trenches and traverses them to get to where I'm destined to be. God Bless you for moving forward but please don't ever feel you've "paid a price" for your younger years. We are who we are and working toward a better you is all it takes to wake up and see the gorgeous light of day. May it fill your heart with sunshine!
@@jamesgreg5542 Thanks for your kind and wise words. I actually haven't given up the fight. You know, sometimes we feel down but I am aware we gotta carry on. And I do keep going. Thanks again.
"Someday your prince will come" is one of worst delusions we tell each other. I wonder how long a person can blindly hope for a thing before they accept reality. I looked for 15 years before I realized my energies were better directed at more fulfilling exploits. I haven't looked back.
Hello my dear plz hw are u doing
So, the secret to happiness as older gay men is to be rich.
exactly. it's easy to go out among gay people and not "be invisible" if you're loaded.
yep,
Money helps of course it does who ever you are or sexuality, but the key is to have a bright positive outlook on life, have hobbies, be fun and interesting. That is what makes sensible people engage with each other socially.
NO!!! If two people meet and have great chemistry the "wealth" you build together makes you richer than a billionaire. My husband and I are not RICH; but we're comfortable because we met while we were both still working. And our idea was to build together for our respective retirements. We own a house; two cars and have enough insurance to choke a horse; but all that aside, we are rich in our mutual respect for each other.
shocking right?
The morning of my 50th birthday (6+ years ago now) I woke up and it was almost as if some switch was thrown. Suddenly my new mantra was 'fuck it'. I'm continuing to learn and grow as a person in every single way. I haven't found 'the one' just yet, although I thought I had in late 2019. Being single and heading toward 60 leaves me anything but sad or dejected. I'm vital, I have good health and the ability to enjoy life through friendships and keeping myself active. Twice I've received an interesting fortune cookies (laugh as you will!) that said I would marry late in life. So I guess I'm going to find out what that means....until then, I'm just going to keep moving my life forward.
Yea most times I have the 'fuck it, happy mindset' but most times I can't help but feel lonely!
As humans I think it's normal for us to have that feeling even when we try so hard to reject it....
Good luck on finding happiness, I sincerely hope you find the right one!❤✌
I was 54 when I met my partner. He's in my age group. It's never too late.
Hello my dear plz hw are u doing
Thank you!
I'm 52. I moved to another state 2 years ago. I've been remodeling a home. I've decided to return to school to begin a second career. I have two dogs and two cats. I enjoy working in the yard and hope to begin some new raised vegetable beds next spring. I've been working on the landscaping since I moved here. Planning a scouting vacation to the ocean in August to look for some land. When I'm finished with school I may build a home there. Not sure if it will be a second or primary home. Hopefully I will be able to put a cheap camper on it for weekends for now.
My point is...I'm over 50 and just happily going about life. I've lost to many people to waste my life. I'm alive and appreciate the opportunity to live! I'm in a relationship, 11 years and going strong. The relationship isn't what makes me happy, me being happy and positive is what makes the relationship work.
Get out there guys, work hard, play hard.
This was encouraging to me. I'm 53 and single again and weary of "gay life" and the seeming futility of dating apps and the like. I appreciated Richard's insight. Thank you.
Oh...! Dear.. Do you not feeling lonelyness ?
@@dilips6070 Hey!
Sometimes I feel lonely too...
@@dilips6070 I just felt you might want to talk...
Yes sir ...same here ...im 57
@@peaceandhumanity5705 OK.. Welcome. You can chat me.
He's very fortunate. I'm three weeks out from turning 45, and I can't remember the last time I was asked out. If you can find love at any age as a gay man, it's special, but as an older man it's even more so. The rest of us will be alone.
Hi😍😜
R you looking for a relationship with a good man💖💋
Hi am Ryan Donald am single and looking for a serious relationship
I really hope you find or have found someone. I really do. Everybody deserves someone, but not everybody gets what they deserve. I'm 41. I feel much older, and with the life I've had, I look much older. I was waiting for my mother to pass before I made my choice to bow out, but I'm not sure if I can keep on like this. I'm unloveavle, undateable and to in many respects repulsive and disgusting. All I want is to be held. It will never happen. Good luck to you.
I've sat and watched each and everyone of your videos Richard and they are all truly amazing! As a man who is now in his early 50s, and having seen only some of what you witnessed as a native New Yorker I have had a string of unsuccessful relationships with older me, but that has not stopped from wanting be with older men. I am currently in a relationship with an older man (by 5 years) and he is Greek and lives in Greece and although it's closing in on 2 years, it's the best relationship that I have ever had.
So many fortunate and lucky men who were able to find true love and compatibility with a life partner.
All I know of romantic love is how to live without it, was never lucky or fortunate to find it or it discovering me. I’m in my mid 60s now and living alone isn’t so bad as I never learnt the language of love, that language that only lovers speak or can understand. I see them walking, holding hands, sitting close on a park bench or smiling at each other as they sit together on the grass on a warm summer evening immersed in each other. They make me smile, even if I don’t have romance in my life it’s always nice to see lovers in the world.
Yes how wonderful to witness those people that have found love ,and show this by true warm affection is a wonderful feeling ! Gives hope to us that have not found that as yet , 👏💫
I am 70 and my partner is 65. We've been together for over 23 years. The secret is that theer is no secret. It's a choice. Oprah said, the word LOVE is a verb. A verb is actions. Love is actions. Remember to say please and thank you even after years together and laugh no matter how bad the joke. It isnt always easy but the payoff is a lifetime of sharing and caring.
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Great stories! I'm honored to know you and Michael! You know, I'm now the age that Michael was when we all were together in NYC. And life is wonderful!!
Hello my dear plz hw are u
I’m so envious of you. I’m 62. I live in hope. You’ve inspired me. Thank you.
I’m 15 years younger than my husband. We have no issues in our relationship. We have a mutual love and respect for each other
Very nice.. Your love is great.
I love u
❤❤❤🌷🌷
I like u
Really I m alone
Meet me
😍😍🙋🙋
Thank you so very much for sharing your perspective, Richard. You truly have been lucky to have such wonderful positive experiences.
Hello my dear plz hw are u doing
Humm. My man and I are together since 1999, so that's 21 years now. I am 62, he is 53. We travel a lot, but we wouldn't be caught dead on a cruise, let alone a gay one. Are we unhappy? No, not really. We have enough friends in the town where we live. No, not in Amsterdam, Sydney or Rio. They live a few blocks away, which we really do prefer.
Yes, it's right - you have to make contacts to keep your relationship fresh and stable. But not necessarily on a cruise or in the streets.
I'm dissimilar to him in many ways. I'm Vietnamese, 25. And yet, I feel his advice at the end has helped me with moving on over the issue of sexual racism. Not that it isn't salient anymore or I will give up on rectifying it. But I've got to move on with my life, too, and with a mindset which is positive and constructive for me.
So, if some guys don't like me because I'm Asian, it's not about me, and it's their huge loss. :)
It is so sad that many members of the gay community judge others mostly by what they look like. My husband of 30 years, also Vietnamese, experienced the same at your age. In that respect is seems the gay community in America has learned little since the 80's. I would encourage you to continue on your chosen path. If the preconceived ideas people derail their appreciation of your worth as a person then that is their loss. Besides, you don't need folks like that in your life anyway. Best to you!!!
As I write this, I see it's been 3 years since your post. I say to you, "Bravo! Stick to your beliefs." I'm an old white guy and when I first came out some45 years ago, I thought I was finally entering a world where people didn't sound like George Wallace. Once, I went to a Diana Ross concert with a guy and we were coming home, we were going through Chinatown a nd approaching a stop light and he said, "Whatch this." He waited for an elderly Asian person passed the car when he acted as if he was starting his car. He startled the old man and then screamed, "CHINKS!" I thought to myself, I may not be in Kansas anymore, but I might be in Mississippi in 1963. But I guess what it amounts to is that we all have our jerks. Nevertheless, I move on with personal happiness. I have lived in a Latino neighborhood for almost 23 years. My roommate is Asian-American. My closest friend is also Asian-American. Why is he my "closest" friend? Well, for one, he was at my bedisde in the hospital when I had a heart attack. He eggs me on to go to the gym even when I'm tired but he knows I need to go to the gym. He has a better education (Harvard) than me (Western Michigan), yet we both have our moments of intellectual stimulation. It's not that I don't have white friends, I do, but I have been a blessed person because my life is wrapped around a Rainbow flag. So, again, BRAVO!.
@@williamsnyder5616 It has been 3 long years and much has changed. Thank you for taking the time to share with me your experience and encouragement. I very much appreciate that. 45 years ago - you are brave! And I’m happy to hear that you have had an amazing life worthy of such character. ;) I pray you will manage your health well and keep us young peeps in good company.
Regarding the “sexual racism”. I have gotten a lot thicker skin now. And I think I have also come to accept, with sympathy, that we all exist upon this world like raindrops condensing around a cloud seed, meaning that deep within us exists the germ of our often conflictual existence - a selfish and dark impulse to sustain it all, at costs. And so I have come to understand that choosing a partner is a very intimate and personal act. And therefore, discrimination - the process of differentiation, selection and rejection for the benefit of the self- must prevail. In that, I am no better than the guy next to me. Well, maybe just a bit better because I wouldn’t utter certain silly ideas haha. Of course, I had wished that discrimination would be based on sounder reason and be expressed in more pleasant terms, but after all, words don’t have to hurt us if we don’t allow them, too. And developing an understanding and a thick skin is much more feasible personally and politically than imposing a world view on other people. :) So yeah, I just moved on and focused on building my life and supporting others’ lives. Because in the end, service is what matters and attracts. Why would a British ship make a vow not to sail in the Pacific Ocean, why would a Persian lavender make a point of not growing under an American sun, right? Hehe. ;)
@@hismajesty9951 Thank you. I've had young peeps and old croaks in my life and it has been harmonious. Smile.
This is more about gay cruise.
Thanks for being an uplifting role model for the gay community.
My partner was 33 and I was 37 and we had been together for almost 19 years. Unfortunately my partner had passed away almost 3 years ago from cancer, and I am still devastated from my loss. Although, I still feel lucky since we had 2 boys and 6 grand kids together. They keep me going although every time I look into my boys eyes I see him and I keep them close to my heart. What's that saying? Better to have loved and loss than to never have loved at all. 💕
Sending you blessings and good vibes ! Beautiful comment !
@@tula1433 Thank you so much. 👍
Excited to turn 30 this year.!!. This gives me hope, cheers to love ✌🌈
Lol
Def gives me hope too!
I'm 58 and my husband is 61. We've been together for 35 years and married for a year. We tied the knot on July 5, 2023! 😊😊😊😊
I’m hearing allot of white privilege statements.
Hello my dear plz hw are u doing
Beautiful. Thank you for sharing your story Richard!
im 51, my fela is 56, he has managed cancer twice in the last 7 years, we about to complete and move into a cottage in Wales. Thank you universe for not killing us off.
Thank you Richard! This was certainly one of the most inspiring videos about being gay until now. You’re so positive, giving out energy and self-confidence to people like me who feel low every now and then because of being gay. Thanks again, I feel really happy to have watched those videos.
You don't have to feel that way, I sincerely hope everything turns out right for you!❤
Must be well off cause not everyone has money and time to go on cruises everywhere
Tell the truth
I had a man and we agreed not to marry women. Little did I know he was bisexual while I'm not. He left me got married and they have two children who he claims Belong to both of us. I disconnected from him completely coz he told me that the period we were together none of us can show anything out of that relationship. I was devastated and called it a day. Congrats to those who are enjoying. I'm turning 53 soon. I really need one
Richard will never be invisible because he is SO HOT!!!
Thank you for sharing so much about yourself. I wish I could be one of your friends.
He's confusing two distinct issues....sexual interest and social interest... Sure gay men socialize with other gay men of different ages, but that's not the issue. It's the loss of sexual interest and absence of a partner that older gay men fear. There will always be parties for them to attend, but if they're looking for more than parties, you may be disappointed as you age.
@Linda Lowther ...and that worked for you?
@Linda Lowther So, drugs are the answer...not willing yourself into a good mood.
This is true. And if you are not already in a relationship going into your 50s the fear and trepidation is stronger. Too many people have the attitude that if you are over 40 or 50 then you are past it. Sadly, you also have to meet certain physical and look standards to be considered. There are a lot of lonely gay men out there in this predicament.
@@Durufle68 And that number will only grow as many millenial and gen z enter hit 30, 40, and 50. It will be very interesting to see how these hot stuff youtubers and tik tokers deal with these issues.
Great stories from you, Richard! You are very fortunate to have had a life partner, like most of my gay friends seem to have had! My life has been a series of short relationships (tacky little affairs, my friends called them!). I am quite fortunate to be on very good terms with my former partner of 1968-1969, and we are the closest of friends almost 50 years later, though he lives in Los Angeles and I live in the Southeast. Keep up the nice stories! You are indeed an interesting guy.
Nice.. Great love.
Hello my dear plz hw are u doing
Ohk But my dear plz wh are u from
An am waiting for u now k we need to chat with now k plz I need u in my heart k 💋💋💋💋
As a gay man in his 50's I remember the AIDS crisis and lost many people that I met a friended.
Would love to go on a gay cruise but on my pay grade always to expensive.
AND NO in my 50's do not class myself as being invisible and actually do videoblogs on UA-cam about many subjects.
Yep, I think gay men can be perfectly visible after 50: social media is critical to be a part of today to stay connected.
@@bernlin2000 Yep I agree with you 100%
I'm not big on flying but we used to travel by bus to NYC. He taught me to appreciate Broadway and sight-
seeing. We both LOVED Ogunquit, Maine and antiquing there. There was 19 years difference and HE made the first move. The only trouble with being in love with someone older is that you usually lose them first. But I'm better for having been with him and I have the memories!!
@@russellepatch7848 You'll get through it!❤ Believe
I've been through same....
Do you mind us talking?
Hello Tony... how are you doing
Great to see someone I 'know' in this series. Richard, haven't seen you guys in a long time - our mutual friend is Bill F, in case you need a memory jog. Well done.
Hello Tom
Hi... Tom..
@@dennisfrank6308 hello
@@dennisfrank6308 how are you doing
Hello my dear plz hw are u
I'm 66 and my partner is 52 life is wonderful
Randy Ward,I am 65 and my husband is 58,we celebrated our 30th year together in July. Married almost seven,Life is good!
@@michaelgaynor6866 oh.. Nice. You are great..!
I love this guy!! So much wisdom for those who have ears to hear! Thank you! 💗 love and light 🌈
The things they don't tell you when you're 20! Someday you'll be yesterday's news.
Your "lifespan" as a queer is about 10 years. This guy has money enough to travel and meet all these fabulous people. Most "old" gays don't have it so lucky. It's not easy.
Who loves honestly does not care for age, gender, ethincity and religion. All these is not important except the peson who share you everything, and you can put your head on his chest to feel the safety and warm feelings. Make a home♡♡
So, a gay man over 50 meets another man over 50 and they form a loving relationship. Great. Then, they proceed to go on cruises to surround themselves with other gay men from around the world - possibly young men. In this 5 minute video, he spends only 1 minute talking about his partner, but devotes the rest of his time talking about meeting other men. So typical.
Hahaha
Meeting people on the street is best because no one's drunk, no fake lighting... Thanks for the tip sir.
This guy is such a fun storyteller...I could listen to him for hours :-)
THANKYOU VERY MUCH FOR SHARING UR VIEWS OF OLDER GAY MEN 😄IVE LEARNED TO CHANGE MY WAY OF THINKING AND OF LIVING... IT'S ANOTHER PAGE TURNED IN LIFE 💘& HAPPINESS !!☺😘
I’m 78. My husband of 44 years and I retired to Spain 7 years ago…..it was a lifelong plan. I have a degree in Spanish…..fluent….hubby struggles. Best decision of our lives. Many, many real friends ….smallish town on the coast. Many nationalities….straight and gay. Would never return to the fucked up US ever!
It’s not about money but it’s not fun to be old in general if you are poor or no healthcare. That’s why it’s best to love and live in a country that provides these things free so you can focus on other things.
Sage advice as I fast approach 50 this summer lol.
Great advice indeed!
BRAVO !! you are an inspiration
Heartwarming message. Thank you!
👏 Kudos for sharing this. I'm 53 and gay and you tend to lose hope that no one or no thing will come along. It does though. The longer that you are single the harder it is to get back into a relationship especially the older you get😉 as you tend to be set in your ways more. My advice = persevere. Well that's my experience. Just two more things ... nose and hair ;-)
I don’t blame you thinking of Amsterdam as your 2nd home. I would have emigrated there back in the 90’s if The Netherlands had my healthcare specialty there, which they don’t.
he looks exactly his age, those brown mustaches are just ridiculous not to mention the red flannel shirt: hideous ... all the money in the world won't give you good taste if you never had any
My husband and I were 38 & 29 when we started dating. We are now 71 & 62. We have been together ever since we met. We love cruising. We have never been on a gay cruise even though NCL has Friends of Dorthy every night and some cruises we have met great groups of people.
He’s 60 some years old, and his hair is more perfect than mine...
Regarding the fear of being invisible, when he says, “If they are into young men, they aren’t into me, if they are into black men, they aren’t into me.”, that almost seems to be indicating that the only interest is based on sexual attraction. But there are plenty of people who are interested in people of all ages, all races, just because they see the value of true friends. It has nothing to do with sexual orientation or attraction. I’d be honored to be this man’s friend.
UK straight guy here - congratulations gents!
Great story!!
Hello my dear plz hw are u
Hi dear, I'm from California 34 yrs old single gay,, are you???
Yes
@@ikehinnocent8160 I'm not comfortable here on UA-cam to discuss further about myself, my email contact is johnfuture01@gmail.com
@@ikehinnocent8160 I'm not comfortable here on UA-cam to discuss further about myself, my email contact is johnfuture01@gmail.com
Hello my dear plz hw are u doing today
The problem is that we're talking about going on gay cruises, international travel, etc. Not everyone can afford to do these things. That is sort of what I was feeling when readiing Alan Down's book a few years ago : these gay couples he wrote of were of an above average affluent lifestyle. It isn't very easy to be attractive when one is living paycheck to paycheck through no fault of one's own. Thus, it may not be age so much as socio-economic status which causes the "invisibility".
Yes my husband (65) and I (70) are always discussing going on a gay cruise. You made a good point. I don’t have a problem with young or middle aged or older men. I think it would be so much fun !!
some ppl want love and relationships i like being single
Why dear...?
If you've been in a relationship with a virile older man you would love it. When we traveled to NYC he had our days planned out but I always said he forgot about sleeping time!!! LOL
gay 71 came out 2 years ago when I figuredmy self out. Will not go to a bar or go on a cruise because that is foolish during a pandemic. Still trying to figure out how to meet the non hypersexuals.
Gay cruises sound scary. Imagine thinking ur going to Venice but end up in Brunei
‘ summer night’ aka cruising park trail.....lawl.
I have been with my partner for 28 years. We raised 4 children. We are both world travelers. Presently visiting Nepal.
People can’t believe I’m in my 50’s my two sons look older than me lol ,
Tony Barnett, I am 65,My significant other is 58.......everyone thinks he is older!
I think I should try a Cruise or two you sound like a lot of fun.
A Tom Cruise would be apropos.
Donald Storm Send me a message
Hello Storm.. how are you doing
Hello my dear plz hw are u doing
Hello my dear plz hw are u doing
70 years old. Husband of 21 years died 9 months ago. Learning to be one again. No idea how to meet in my desired age bracket ( 65 to 70)
You're a wonderful couple.
Ohh girl stop you and your guy are on gay cruises getting your backs blown out🙄
I love this guys attitude and way of thinking. Very kind and positive.
It seems in retrospect that the 20’s are figuring out what you want in your life and the 30’s are getting a job and beginning to settle down, and from there on the age doesn’t really matter as much. I had a little dread at age 50. I was freshly out of a horrible relationship and had given up, and I went on one more date with a man that was 5 years younger then I, and it has been 22 years. I had a house and he had military benefits so we both contributed and we have a big bunch of friends that are for the most part, straight. It’s all good in my view. I have no idea where the time has gone, but there is little I am afraid of at this point in life.
Now I want to go on a gay cruise! I'm in my mid-50s, single, and don't know any gay men at all where I live.
Send a message to me.
I am still single at 57. I was a runway model in my late teens and early twenties m It is hard getting older
I highly recommend an amazing new (not for the faint-hearted) autobiography by a gay author titled 'Saved by the Light of the Buddha Within. What an eye-opening and thought-provoking read it is.
Very interesting. Thank you for the information.
I TOTALLY AGREE. On the street is THE BEST WAY to meet gay men! Happened to me all the time when I lived in the Castro, and it happened to me at the nude beach a lot when I moved to Portland!
We frequently go on gay group vacations, often adventure vacations. We have the best time.
I have a very close friend who has been gay all his life and his partner have been together for 35 yrs. They are very close friends of mine but recently to my horror I found out they were both tops. I never laughed more. I thought they were joking but they weren't. They loved each other the instant they set eyes upon each other. They never have s@#. They just do the basic stuff. They are so handsome and could have anyone but they are just into each other. I felt so sad in one way and refused to believe it when they told me. I kept telling them to go meet a bottom dude but they don't fool around. I thought gay was top and bottom but little did I know. You always have to keep an open mind. Has anyone else been in the same situation?
Ha ! I've been single for 8 years and at 59 I feel like I've "missed the boat " in finding my significant other. Especially now with covid the chances of meeting others are slim to none. Im not rich, built or young. The 3 key ingredients apparently.
As an older gay man, I hoped this video would be inspiring. Sadly, it wasn't.
Hey Don!
Do you mind being specific on why it wasn't helpful?
@@peaceandhumanity5705
My comment wasn't meant as an insult, and I apologize if that's the way it came across. I am older gay single guy that lives in more of a straight world due my former career and communities I have lived. I am now retired and in a world where meeting other gay men is difficult at best, but I love my home and the 'sanctuary' I have created since separating from my partner of 26 years a decade ago. I guess, I wanted to hear more about being gay and aging in our society. Most of what you talked about was going on gay cruises.
@@dondon6655 Hey Don!
I clearly understand your point and no it didn't come off as an insult!
I just wanted to hear why it wasn't helpful....
Do you mind us talking further?
PS: My apologies for the late reply, I'm not always here!
@@peaceandhumanity5705 My apologies for an even later response. I would like to talk more. I live now in Cleveland Heights, Ohio and stunned that I want to stay here after living all sorts of places around the world. So, how would we start a conversation?
@@dondon6655 I guess you've found that special place that speaks to your heart....
I'm so happy for you! Most people never find that special place....
Uhmm okay so are you on Instagram?
Still totally single and a novice at the over ripe age of 55yo. I want more than just intimacy, I'm searching for love respect honour and yes even marriage.
The right attitude 👍🏻
Well, interesting statement and nice mature gay guy, but he has got some money, there are poor men too, who can´t afford this lifestyle. I started my gay life early, had great experiences, don´t like to travel so much any more, know the USA where I stayed for a while, now I prefere Europe, met my boyfriend in a pharmacy, didn´t look for him, was just by accident and I am happy.
It sucks. No one looks at you. The older guys want younger guys, the couples want a third and the ones who want older guys want money.
Two sets of mighty fine choppers
wow what a positive attitude!
Why is it always about sex ? Even in this vid I hear him talk about younger into older, going on cruises, dancing, partying. What about community, what about creating family and so on. Not everyone can afford a gay cruise or can dance and party anymore nor do we want to. After 60 you may have sex but it isn't the main focus nor should it be.
Hey there,, I'm from California 40 yrs old single gay,, you?????.
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Great story X
Wonderful story.
Thanks for sharing
For your video. I’ve promulgated the same message to many guys. Beautiful man feeling alone I say go on a gay cruise you’ll meet lots of people I think it’s a fantastic way to socialize with all types.
Awesome Buddy...
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Hello my dear plz hw are u doing
He further hurt me by saying at least that woman has been on his life for a short while and 2 children thereon
I'm 57 and looking for a older gay man in his 60 or 70 to host me and see how it goes
Gay cruise?! I didn't even know that was a thing Wtf have I been? So need to look that up!
Richard bless your cotton socks. You made me smile 💟
Seems like a nice white gay life