I'm a bi chick that has mostly guy friends... But like 80% of them are gay. I just get along with males better in general, same with masculine girls. I don't like the psychological game it is to be "one of the girls", it's exhausting to me. I don't like gossipy, vain, high maintenance people all around, and I see that shit on both sides. But the average dude to me is more interesting to shoot the shit with. But of course, I don't flirt or put out signals if that's not the vibe. That's unprofessional 😎
Sounds abit off to me, like if you really dont feel safe you would not hang with them at all. OR its translation for not safe in the sense that these guys want her and she kinda wants them also so its not safe to be around them coz they might fuck/kiss/ somthing.
Shes the kinda girl to make a reddit post about how her boyfriend is acting cold when she hangs out with her male friends that want to fuck her and how should she make him realise the error of his ways.
@@kamille6636 Not unsafe as in dangerous. Unsafe as in, she probably doesn't trust herself around them. In other words, if they come at her she might not stop it.
@@kamille6636 no. They're probably good. She's just feeling unsafe and paranoid. So she should stay away. But despite this she still didn't tell her bf. He should dump her
Nope. She wants her "guy friends" to want her and her boyfriend to sit back and be OK with it. Girl if you really care about a man you wouldn't put him in an uncomfortable situation. Same vice versa. She isn't ready for the real deal. Run man!!!!! RUNNNNNNN!
She's got problems she needed to deal with before getting in a relationship. Clearly she not capable of being comfortable when alone, even if it means being friends with guys she doesn't even feel safe around around.
This what I’m going thru rn! She has so many guys friends and puts me in uncomfortable situations. I argue often, “if you cared about me you wouldn’t put me in these situations”
My aunt's husband was literally murdered and, no joke, men who had been trying to get with her since the 80s barely waited until my uncle's body was cold in the ground before popping the "how you been holding up" question in her messages. I swear they were all waiting for the "appropriate time" to ask her out. At least the one she's talking to now had the decency to wait a year. I'm convinced they only came to the funeral just to make sure he was dead. Men have no chill. Period. 😂
I feel like they just enjoy having that attention. Knowing that some people around really want to be with you is definitely a good feeling and a boost in self confidence. Or maybe they just want to have options.
@J.C. Are you saying that guy friends are only useful if they have a crush on you because then they'll do what you tell them? lol, idk about everyone else but the only criteria for friends for me is if I like hanging out with them haha
@@AsadoMao Not evil.. its the relationship dynamic... if she told them she has no interest in them and they still d these things "in hope" then its on them... now if she is acting like they may one day get thru... yeah then she is evil lol.
@@hythlodaeus9944 of course it’s on them too, but they are still victims in that scenario. If she knows they’re only doing things for her because they want her, then taking advantage of that is wrong.
she has low self esteem, and wants validation from men. she doesn’t care about her partner’s feelings, and probably enjoys making him feel jealous. he needs to move on.
👏👏👏 THANK YOU! 1000% agree smh. I personally don't think men and women could be friends, acquaintance sure but friends that's an extreme rarity that it's only just friends.
Exactly! She's basic looking, probably has been basic looking all her life, has low self-esteem, and finally found a group of guys who show her attention and she doesn't want to let that go. She needs to get her self-esteem together before entering into a serious relationship.
I have a couple of cousins that are women that only have "male friends" because they say they can't get along with women. My mom and I are like...it's because women aren't usually hypnotized by what you're selling lol
@@pcarebear1 idk about that. Some woman just fit the tomboy guy vibe better my friend group in school was like 6 dudes and two chicks and they where both just fun too shoot the shit with not mention one of em would occasionally get bullied by the cliche mean girl group it be like that sometimes
Not safe around a couple of them?! She can't even trust herself to be around these friends alone? _Her BF shouldn't be worried, he should be out the door._ Wow.
@@BrandonHeat243 no more like she'd cheat in a heartbeat on her bf at the time. I had a gf who tried to pull this on me, asked if it was ok, I asked her reasoning as to why she wanted male only friends. She told me she didn't like hanging out with other women or having them around. Basically she wanted choices, back up plans a-z, with no competition. And if one of those back ups was going to be an upgrade at any point I would've been dumped in an instant. I didn't give her the luxury to have any back ups, dumped her and made it very clear to her that she messed up. Women like that are players, all women are but these ones are worse because they try to pull this kind of crap under your nose and lucky is the man who is asked if it's ok. Huge red flag. Dump immediately or get monkey branched on.
We always say the guy should leave but when he leaves he’s got all this baggage with him, for all we know an event like this could make the boyfriend kill himself…. That’s hard shit to take in man. I feel like the guy should leave her too b his feelings for her will be so deep. It’ll be hard on his mental health
I've been calling "The Long Game" being a "Friendzone Ninja". I think it's pathetic. I mean they wait around for her self esteem to plummet or for the couple to fight then they strike like the pathetic bench warmers they are.
Hell dude sometimes they listen in and plant seeds in her head to make her self esteem drop and make her guy the culprit. Girls are so easily manipulated it is sad. It makes 99% not worth the risk. Your friend zone ninja is a perfect label.
My ex was one of these girls, her main friend group was 2 girls and 5 guys and she had dated one of these guys and I saw messages from her best friends telling her that he still liked her, I nicely asked that she wouldn’t hang out with that person just 1 person, when we broke up she talked about “how controlling I was not letting her hangout with her friends” and yes after we broke up she started seeing him. Proving my point. But of course I was still in the wrong lmaoo
Just got out of an extremely similar situation. She knew the dude had feelings for her but she would still spend time alone with him or go on trips with the group without me. She then told me she had feelings for him and once I caught her lying one more time, I cut it off. Never letting it happen again but I feel you man
You were in the wrong dude .. no offense but if I was in the dating scene and you told me to stop hanging out with my friends even just one I'd dump you myself . That's happened to me before and I almost lost a close friend because of it just for the dude to dump me .
@@dakotamabry1645 Nope, he's in the right. And this comment says a lot about you if you think that your boyfriend asking you to drop a male friend who has feelings for you puts him in the wrong. It sounds as if you're more trouble than you're worth.
Women that have no female friends often means one of a few things. Usually, it means that they cause drama (act inappropriately around the BF's of other women, etc) but they instead say "women are too dramatic" when they are the ones causing it. Or they just love male attention. Or the only people that can tolerate them are men that want to sleep with them. I've never met a psychologically healthy woman that dislikes women and mostly/only hangs out with men. Any man that seriously dates/marries a woman like that and then lets them hang out with all kinds of men alone is a fool for being with them in the first place. I know someone will misconstrue what I said as "controlling" simply because it was easier to say "let" in that sentence, when of course any normal person knows what I meant. I notice not many women would be happy with having a super hot boyfriend that "just gets along with women better" and is always out having drinks alone with other women.
People will do what they want and they should. I dont think it should be forgotten how manipulative and deceptive people can be especially when they can get something out of it. Only guy friends is definitely a red flag that you should take seriously. But it is not a definite thing that she’s cheating only very likely
Personality traits, such as being being complainers, passive aggressiveness, negative attitudes, being mean towards a whole gender are not gendered issues. I just can't fathom how a mentally-stable adult can exile an ENTIRE gender.
I have a lot of guy friends, and at times even most of my friends were guys, but that's not intentional at all. I have a little bit harder time finding women I can feel close with because there often is a lot of drama with them, and my hobbies lead me into communities that are mostly dudes or chicks trying to get attention from dudes. I am not someone who had a lot of good friends most of my life. In high school I had a couple of female friends, and they were really cool. They moved away for college. After that most of my friends have been online and met through gaming. In the beginning those were mostly male, but as time has gone on I have met more and more women I became close to. For about four years I was single and a few of the guy friends had feelings for me. I never did anything with any of them but there was a time where I considered the compatibility of each of them. Last year I met someone who was just perfect for me(not through gaming, although we do both play together :D) and we fell in love very quickly, have been happy ever since. Only one of the "former crushes" is still around but I keep him at arm's length because I don't want to send mixed signals. We share a social group so as long as he doesn't do anything inappropriate I won't make a fuss. My boyfriend tends to have a lot of female friends, and he has had way more partners in the past than me. I don't even know how many, but I don't care. I know he's a good honest person and trust him. We adore eachother. He is just comfortable around women and talks to them the same as he would talk to anyone who was kind and decent. There has never been anything between us like "oh these are MY friends and you can't come hang out with us" or anything off. He has always been welcome among my friends, in fact most of them are now his friends also, and they all think he's great. All the friends of his that I've met seem cool to me too, circumstances just prevent me from hanging out with them more. I would never confide private things about our relationship to any of my male friends, that would just be weird. I have a girl friend I talk to when I need to vent, but that's not often because me and my fiancé communicate pretty well with eachother and there just isn't a lot of conflict. I guess the point of what I'm saying is, yes, someone with a ton of friends of whatever gender they tend to be attracted to may be a red flag, but sometimes people are just friends with people who are good company and respectful of either gender and that works out as long as both partners are secure in themselves and honest with and trust eachother.
When I was younger I had a hard time being friends with other girls because I had so many bad experiences. "Friends" who would stop being friends and start dating my exes (seriously, happened 3 seperate times with different girls!) and ones who constantly tried to give me a make over (omg you would be more pretty if you wore make up or wear this and go here)....like no thanks, seriously. Now that im older, I love my girl friends cause are more mature and respectful of me and each other and our life styles. We just love talking and hanging out and addressing life problems. You just haven't found the right girl friends yet.
She wants to continue to feel desired. She is not communicating what she wants from her partner because she is too insecure to come out and say it. She does not feel desired enough by one person. Her take on desire is define by multiple people. It is a huge sign of immaturity. She needs to grow up and find validity in her relationship if she wants to continue to be in a relationship. Finding validity only partially comes from your partner. Most of it comes from you and showing appreciation and communication.
So wait, she don’t understand why her bf doesn’t like her guy friends even though she admits they use to have feelings for her and to top it off she don’t feel safe around two of them. Did I hear that right? 🤦🏾♂️
My best friend used to have feelings for me 10 years ago and he is way past them and he is my best friend for 13 years this September. And I really can't imagine my so telling me anything about it.
@@falseprophet1024 done that 3 years ago when my ex was suspicious and he really is past them. I think his fiance would've told me something or her attitude would've changed if he is still lingering on that. I'm not saying you are wrong, but it isn't always the case
My ex gf of 3 years immedielely ran to one of her guy friends and smashed him the same night after I told her I wanted to break up. She kept trying to tell me how she regretted it and it was in the moment but then months later they started going out and living together. She also tried to tell me that I was too restrictive of her even though that was never brought up the entire time we dated. These sorts of things just blow my mind and make me wary of dating now
@@TheShowOff2I naw naw naw..... Chris Rock hit it on the head many years ago... "A "platonic" friend is a dick in a glass case...... IN CASE OF EMERGENCY BREAK OPEN GLASS...
@@ryanbrown938 Exactly 🤣 behind the emergency glass she’s gonna try and reach for the beta orbiters to save her, in some cases tho the case may be empty
@@TravisFebruary see the shaming tactic? you probably weren't her 1st either, you are someone's sloppy next you just never met em' The insecurity is strong with you
@@dieseldawg7132 I agree 99.99%. As I have a female friend which both of us only, and I truly mean only see each other as friends, we're more like brothers at this point, since we met in school. BUT, I also aknowledge the reason is cause I suffered a lot of bullying and she had my back and was one of my only friends, so I've never felt attracted to her mor she to me, and even with that situation, I can admit majority of the "girl friends" I have are girls I wanted to have more of a friendship or a co-worker from my old job
@@moonknight4053 I am Magine most of these people think that they are my friend, as I am friendly with them. I wouldn’t say that these people really KNOW me, yknow?
@@jamesalexhowlett Same. The 6 guys I truly trust to have my back, and that I'd do anything for, are a whole different level than acquaintances and coworkers. That doesn't mean we're standoffish or unfriendly with others, just that they aren't the people you'd drop everything to go help.
Facts. When I was a teenager, I believed that all my guy friends saw me as just a friend because that's how I felt about them. By college, I realized that I was wrong. Most of them definitely wanted to be more than friends. Now that I'm married, I don't have any male friends that aren't friends with my husband as well and he doesn't have any lady friends that aren't my friends.
@@SobeCrunkMonster Well, I'm not sorry that I'm married. 😆 We just made 10 years of marriage recently. So far we aren't sick of each other so the future looks promising. 🤷🏾♀️😂
That's a weird comment to make. Why are you sorry she's married or assuming she will get divorced? When her post was quiet literally about how she respects that boundary for her partner of not having male friends.... Wtf?
She just LOVES the attention...she knows some of these 'friends' have feelings for her, and they stay friends with her hoping they would have a chance with her sometime.
I think 99% of men know. When a woman has guy friends it is basically saying “I’m getting boyfriend energy, masculine energy, validation, and attention” she wants without giving them sex and then guys who waits aka allows themselves to be put in the friendzone are simps/betas who don’t know their worth so… yeah
@@KingComp67_-io3iz I agree with the first half. The 2nd not so much. A dude who waits doesnt mean hes simping. He can be playing the friends role because maybe he really is her friend and still wants to smash. Because I got plenty of girl friends that are super cool to chill with and so on but that doesn't mean I wont smash and still continue as friends if possible. And I'm also not waiting around for to decide she wants to smash, I continue doing my thing with other girls. I think its when dudes are just pretending to be friends or simping buying her shit in hope's she gonna say yes is wack. Cause I had a girl friend that was with a dude they was going through some shit and I could've smashed but I passed on it and tried to help her out to see if she wanted to get back with dude because she is my friend after all.
She doesn't "feels safe" being alone with them "in any sort of circumstance" because she knows that she'll probably say yes to them. I hope her boyfriend sees this vid and moves on.
Wasn’t there a ABA AND PREACH Episode *about this where the GIRL WAS GRAPED BY HER FRIEND* but didn’t say crap to the boyfriend CUS HED HANDLE IT AND CUT A TREE DOWN 🙄 *and she’s still friends with the dude* 🙄 MAN TAKE YOUR DUMB ASSSSZ and walk
No, it means that they will force themselves onto her! That’s what unsafe means!! People don’t feel unsafe to be around people whom they are attracted to.
Woman are natural plate spinners, They are natural players. Always keep two more guys, back up men. In society, men’s playerness has been exposed and shamed. , But woman’s player game has been under the shadow. Not to be talked about. There are woman who go on dates with no intention of romantic interests at all. Its wild. They’re called foodie dates. Wife’s who keep back up men. Its damm wild. Because nature, Our animal instinct to reproduce with others doesn’t keep up with our society rules.
I wonder if she meant safe like in a sexual harassment way or safe as in, I can’t trust myself and I would allow things to progress that I know will be bad for my relationship
My ex is like this, made me literally feel like I was losing my mind. Out of her guy friends she had hooked up in some way with 8 out of 10 of them. She made me feel like I was controlling and an insecure asshole. We had a horrible breakup and I've been single for 2 years and have zero urge to date again. It almost feels like having PTSD.
That’s rough man I would try to date again but set your boundaries as soon as you hear something like that or something else that could potentially be toxic I also am gonna take my own advice next relationship I get into lol
This generation needs to understand uncomfortable truth about men & women instead of denying things that clearly common sense and obvious to know without playing dumb
And understand being honest...... And to communicate..... And to empathize....... And to understand one another...... And understand understanding...... Theres a lot of things wrong with all these younger generations of people
@@KingComp67_-io3iz Yeah. The truth being that people should be honest about their intentions, which eliminates any of this vagueness. Men and women CAN be friends, but men like to *pretend* that they're friends, and then turn their back on someone later when they're not interested. Don't tell someone you want to be friends when you don't, and you won't have that problem.
@@Zeverinsen I agree and the (w)omen knows that a man wants to smash from the beginning 99.99% of the time and she says “lets be friends” to a guy so she can benefit from a man without her giving sex in return. We all (W)omen know how to play dumb and preserve themselves as a victim to not be in any type of confrontation with anyone
I have 2 female friends total, outside of my family, one is a lesbian with a godlike personality and the other is brutally funny and caring. I've never been attracted to either of them and the feeling is mutual and that's why we stay tight. The rest is simple: if I approach a woman there's a fair chance I want her. If it's not mutual, I am out. Never be friends with women you're attracted to, just for the remote chance of eventually getting them. Your partners will thank you for it. Keep it real.
I wouldn't necessarily say that this girl wants to smash with her male friends but she most definitely likes her attention harem. In a group of girls, she will not get the same kind of attention a girl will get in a group of guys. My ex was like that. The guys she would hang out with were the same guys that were spamming her on facebook and Instagram, telling her how beautiful and cute she looked in her latest selfie etc..... On one occasion, she invited me to join her on a night out with some of her friends and none of them turned up. Hmmmm, I wonder why.
Sounds like she has bigger issues at play here, like deep seated psychological issues, because who in their right mind would continue to be friends with someone they feel unsafe with, not only one, but two! 😬
She might have meant she didn't feel safe with them as in she assumes they'll make a move if shes alone with them. Which is equally shitty cause these people aren't even hiding they want to smash you and you're still hanging around them.
she knows whats she doing it. Its the attention and its rewards. Many woman use that to get things out of men. especially men they know want them. They will do anything to smash. Fix this for me, fix my car, lets go on a trip, get my dry cleaning, lets go for drinks. Bro she is using these men. And she knows what they want, so she teases them, and calls it friend “hangouts” boyfriend energy/attention without the boyfriend benefits. He needs to break up with right away. And leave her wondering, Then she will chase him. I can’t count how many times I have seen it, and experienced it with girls chasing when you don’t give them that attention, where they come chase cause its that “something they can’t have”. Do you think these “friends of her” know she has a bf, I bet 20$ they dont. Cause simps would lose interest. She is using them, and loving the attention she gets from multiple men, and having a boyfriend she can go back home to. If I was that man I would break up with her asap. #SheisNotisGF. she for the streetszz
@@calumbarry1829 seemed obvious to me. I would not call "friends" girls who would just orbit around me waiting to have a chance to be my gf. It's incredible how in denial she is, or she knows exactly what she's doing then she's straight up lying.
@@guilouken7818 Yeah when you flip the roles like that it shows how remarkably shitty it is. Unfortunately when there's people out there that do anything and everything for a woman at mere chances, there's gonna be women who exploit that. Both are idiots.
@@calumbarry1829 unfortunately, that's pretty much everybody on both sides. People do not analyse human interactions, let alone how they function themselves.
Bro I feel for her boyfriend, she knows that she can't be alone with two of her friends in any sort of circumstances but she still want them around because I bet theses guys attention pleases her, bro I feel for you
@@RealSpiit_4rm_Z3 Of course she's lying... body language was all over the place. She couldn't even look at them on the screen while she was telling her story.
It honestly sounds like she was just setting the stage to throw out a rape accusation/ her fear of being raped because she knows you can't argue with that. She probably thought mentioning that would shut up their judgment of her because they'd feel bad questioning why she hands around them or some shit. Her guy friends should run the fuck away from her, because this is definitely the kind of girl who will cheat and cry wolf later.
Exactly lol this chick is a goofy attention seeking dummie. NEVER be around ppl that you dont feel safe with cuz THERE IS A REASON. Fukk around & get got.
It used to piss me off when my friends would confess feelings for me, which happened with my male and female friends often. If you're truly somebody's friend, you wouldn't be comfortable with them having feelings for you because 1- you cannot or Don't have interest in returning them, and 2- because you truly care about them and don't want them to be in the position of emotionally being attached to somebody who does not feel the same (whether it is you or not) it's sad to see your homeboy or homegirl in that state. Either way you have to be an intentionally naive adult to believe that most straight men and straight women can have purely innocent and platonic (deep) relationships on both sides. I think it's natural to have organic friendships of the heterosexual opposite gender, but once those relationships get more emotionally involved, majority of humans are incapable to maintaining innocence, because something is bound to get romantic or perverted. You gonna have to cut some friends, because if you cannot uphold those boundaries then why would you want to bring a partner into your life when you do not have clear boundaries with your supposed "friends." They gotta go. Most ppl cannot control themselves, it's reality and unfair, but very seldom will it be that way 🤷🏾
Just got out of a 2.5 year relationship where I remember her mentioning early on that she just always enjoyed hanging around guys more. Hence she had a long time male friend who she knew had feelings for her but kept him around bc she didn’t have many other friends. I kept catching her spending alone time with him at dinner or the gym but she always had an excuse and I wanted to be accommodating bc of her lack of friends. Two weekends ago, she told me she had feelings for him and then I caught her lying to me about being with him again. We broke up on Monday and I’ve never felt more free. Don’t have to put up with her bullshit and I’ll never put up with anything like that again
The feeling of freedom is beautiful isn't it... now you'll be ready when the right one comes along - and they will. Hold on to that feeling, never let it happen again. I guess The feeling is also knowing that you did the right thing for you instead of letting circumstance and emotions get in the way.
@@tso7639 didn’t plan on posting anything but since you asked, I’ve actually found my way back to my faith and have been focusing on building that back up and getting closer to God. I’ve also gotten myself back into my workout routine and I’m in the best shape of my life. I also moved to a new town to be closer to work and have made some good friends from the gym/work. Not to say it’s been totally smooth sailing. I don’t want her back but not a day goes by where she doesn’t pop into my head and I’ve been having dreams about her usually at least once a week. That part is definitely frustrating and I’m hoping with more time that will fade. If not, I’ll probably consider some form of therapy to help.
When I got married - every single one of my guy friends took a hike lmao. I genuinely wasn't expecting it, but looking back on it I can't believe I was that naive.
That’s how it is. That’s why chasing relationships before you’re ready to start a family is corny asf to me because unless there’s a sense of commitment everything between the two partners is a facade. That’s just how I think of it as a dude🤷🏻♂️
I will say one thing, first im too young(not a child just too young to be married soon) to properly give any explanation on that beyond that they were likely chasing after you, so im not saying this as fact, just a thought, but i will say id assume its alot weirder to hang out with a married women, even if i was cool with the spouse, depending on the situation, i could still see my self feeling like i might still be overstepping bounderies in closeness with a married woman and could definitely see atleast some freindships like that dwindling over time as a result even if i wasnt trying to be in a relationship with them prior
Girls in those situations stay because the like the attention. She even said there is a guy she doesn't feel safe around, be he's her friend somehow?? She loves the attention and the likely simping she receives and she knows exactly what she's doing, but playing dumb. She wants to have her cake and eat it too
So that is actually a mental disorder called love addiction and most people that have it don't realize it and they stay in a loop of looking for attention and once they get it its not enough anymore and by what she says yea she has a love addiction and needs a bit 9f therapy to learn more about herself
Those orbiting guys don’t just wait, either. Whenever she complains about her boyfriend, whatever inevitable stress comes up, they reflect it back to her & magnify it. “Oh dang, I can’t believe he did that! Wow, I’ve never treated a girlfriend that way… “ 🙄 Those dudes are nothing but trouble.
I'm a woman, and I would definitely think twice before seriously dating a guy who has a lot of female friends. I've dated a couple of guys who had close female friends and it was always uncomfortable hanging out with them because the female friends were pretty hostile towards me, which made me think there was a more than friends vibe going on between them.
my SAME experience. I talked to him about this one girl, and he said "shes like a sister" come to find out, days into us dating he cheated on me with her. like ya right. just some brotherly/sisterly love right there.
@whitykitty I'm sorry to hear that. I think most of these guys who have a lot of female friends keep them around as a potential dating pool, and even to keep their girlfriends/wives in check, like saying I have other options if you don't do what I want.
1st Ladies, men are truly not interested in being your friend, they all if you were to text them and asked them to come over to smash, they would speed over. They are your friend because you friend zone them. No man friend zones themselves. Men aren't built that way.
To be fair, when other women say "I don't get along with other women. They are so much drama." I always think that's sus as hell. Because these women are usually the most drama which is why they don't have any female friends.
Right? They usually follow it up with "ugh omg I HATE drama" like ok Destiny you create all that, first of all. Is it maybe they feel competition with other women and cant handle the challenge? Insecurities? I always felt chicks like that just loved basking in the attention of their many guy friends that want them very much. And if other women are around thats something they have to share. Idk prolly way off the mark but thats my musing...
My ex bf only had female friends, i found it fine since it takes alot for me to get jealous or anxious and stuff but what did make me abit suspicious was that he wouldn't allow me to meet any of them.
@@oljerseysoul8724 It is super oblivious to say any. Ignoring the obvious differences of entitlement and double standards that are so common on the female's side which are SUPER common. Because too many pussy whipped males deem it acceptable because sex is held on some stupid pedestal. Women NEED attention by and large WAY MORE than Men who may want it and most who certainly don't NEED it. That's a dumb comment to say otherwise
“He never let me hangout with guys so once he did I cheated” Just imagine how many of those scenarios have happened. Guess what I’m one of them🤦🏽♂️I’m better now though man I love myself and will never let a female make me feel lesser than ever again we are all kings. Remember your the prize king🤴
People kill me calling themselves kings/queens when the reality is they've been broken by someone beyond repair. Just admit you're damaged now and will never have a happy, healthy, long-lasting relationship as a result. It's a lot easier when you not only see the writing on the wall but actually acknowledge it. Trust me on this one. 😂
@@vegetaismydad5382 bro if you don’t want to see yourself as a higher level being than any horrible person on the planet then you go ahead and give them that power I’m not gonna sit here and go back and fourth with you though I’m a king and whatever you are you are fuck outa here💀💀💀💀💀💀
@@chillsketchs2638 oh new law passed. its now illegal to fix your past life. you’ll always be shit and you’ll never amount to anything past that relationship. or whatever that dude was tryna say 🤣 man fuck him bro theres only such thing as a good experience and a learning experience. you got this homie ✊🏾
Chill Sketch’s your saying your higher than women because there horrible while claiming not to be damaged. Good lord get some counselling or stay away from people with a pulse please 😳
No its "I was the drama , so other women don't like me" behaviour. I stay away from women.who only have guy friends, that shit is "don't pick me "behaviour
it definitely is, they want make themselves look more appealing bc most men claim to love women who aren't into drama. But alas, they're usually the ones starting most of the drama.
@@hoebihoebi2536 Women can tell men what we want to hear like “women are drama” to try to convince men to get with her thinking there wouldn’t be any consequences when dealing with her even though the consequences is a big deal when dealing with her
Anyone could be attracted to anyone, that doesnt really matter. Only being friends with men if you are a hetero female is a good way to get constant validation. Having other women around in the mix means you arent the only female. I mainly have male friends but I also have female friends--i dont have a lot of friends in general. But making a point not to befriend other women and keep men around who are explicit with their sexual attraction towards you is validation/fear of competition. I've been there before. Best way to check yourself is asking how you would feel if your boyfriend only befriended women, talked down about a specific gender, etc. How would you choices look if it were someone else
You hit the nail on the head. In this day and age most girls have such an abundance of men around that want to sleep with them or seek a relationship. Most of them will never get too as they are contempt being friend zoned and lack the ability to get a females interest to begin with. From a mans perspective, it shouldn’t matter unless she’s your wife and men don’t want a girl with this type of behavior anyways. Men seek higher quality women who don’t require the constant need of validation from other males. Only a male who lack leadership, control and understanding of themself and how women think would let this happen and or put themselves in this situation to begin with.
My husband is still freinds with his ex's and has had the girl he lost his virginity come over for multiple days in a row . Hes even went to strip clubs and had lap dances - I was their for one of them . I am comfortable enough to know he would not cheat especially when he doesn't hide these woman or where he was going and has even told me he thought about what it would be like , he was given the opportunity and told one of the ex's no and are still freinds- she has sense got married. It's the same for me in our relationship I hung out with 3 guys solo one being my ex. When we harbor strong amounts of emotions we communicate it but we do not tell one another to abandon our friendships because most of the time they were their before me or him .. I even showed him I have pictures of my ex's in a scrap book .. seriously they are just pictures of my childhood. My husband was my bestfriend in high school and I was 20 and I'm 27 now . If it didn't workout I wouldn't drop him or my guy freind who is married btw.
Alright. I'm gonna bite the bullet and say that I was like this when I was younger. The whole "I got all male friends, women ain't shit" vibe. I was a tomboyish girl growing up, and I saw that shutting out girly girls was normal. By the time I was in college, to our group, I was seen as bitchy, immature, dramatic and rumors had that I slept with everyone of our guy friends, because I was overprotective and clingy of them. But that changed when I got in my 20s and started to work on my insecurities. Fast forward, I became more confident in myself and have a lot of lady friends to talk to, hang out, and just be myself without any judgment. The guys who I was friends with... the majority of them did want to smash, despite having girlfriends or wives. As I got confident in myself, I decided to cut the guy friends loose. Now I'm friends with males still, but only ones that already have a girlfriend or wife and am comfortable with both as a respect to their relationship.
Yea my ex had a bunch of guy friends. I didn’t think much of it as I had a lot of girlfriends and my friends, that all changed when she decided for me not to hang with those guys, but that I had to also stop hanging with ALL of my friends and family. Lol I wonder why in single and alone while she smashing Tom dick and Harry looking for a stepdad for my kids lol
I'm a woman and have always had more guy friends than women. When I broke up with my long term boyfriend not a single one tried to hit me up. So it is totally possible to just be friends. I do find guys easier going. I am open to having more friends that are girls but I'm generally bad at growing friendships and don't find I have much in common with most other girls.
Its easier to get along with us because we want something from you, we condition our selves from a young age to be able to make girls feel comfortable around us, and it takes hard work to master that. Girls want nothing from you, when you compare that to men who are consciously setting the right conditions and atmosphere to extract what they want, you'll think girls are harder to get along with. Its fulfilling to have girlfriends that you know just like you because of you. Please try to put in the work to get some good female friends, just a suggestion.
Time to self-examine babes, why don't you have at least some female friends? You sound like you're already putting women in a box and not trying at an individual level
Men need to vet better. A woman should meet higher criteria for a relationship than just being "cute." Women have a laundry list of qualities they want in a Man; it's time Men held Women to higher standards as well. That will end a lot of these problems.
I honestly used to think along time ago people were actually doing better with vetting or picking seemingly good people. I really thought the people they picked were just true manipulators but apparently everyone is getting into relationships blind or willfully ignoring red flags. Both men and women.
The men who can get many women don't care about standards because they're not investing. The men who are investing don't get many women, so they can't care about being picky.
If you truly value your man, you wouldn’t fight him on having male friends. Sorry but friendship vs potential husband….. I can root for you from a distance.
like its cool if they have guy friends (depends on the relationship), but to go out and hang out and dont trust them, nahhhh. your mans gotta go or your friends do
@@noahchase9647 What She means by unsafe /don’t trust the guys in question… it really means them Guys Are serious Temptations..girls kno instantly when guys want to smash
Its totally situational though my best friend is female our mums are best friends we grew up together if my current or future girl has a problem that my best friend is female then thats a problem she needs to work on this situation however is totally different those "Friends" aren't her friends if she cant Trust herself around them... We all know what this is and it has nothing to do with friendship
@@12wer3wer9 yeah I dunno women who hate other women either. Met a few who hate guys who act like it's a mum they want rather than a partner though. Think guys that dont do well with women just wanna think that. Not American either though 😂😂😂😂😂
The shit people allow when they get into relationships will never cease to amaze me. These "friends" become options. It makes no sense. Be on the look out to see her asking dating advice on reddit.
@@lilfairykiki122 She’s so addicted to attention, she won’t care what people say about her. If they said she was in an orgy with all of them; I guarantee you that she would ACT like she cared but wouldn’t stop hanging out with them.
A girlie having all male friends feels secure, if the guy she's with doesn't come up to expectations, no problem, she knows there are spares just waiting in the wings for an opportunity. What do they call it? Having spare strings for your bow comes to mind. Personally I would run a mile from that chick, I'm not into silly games.
@Thomas Mottl I'm assuming the ones with girlfriends were uninterested as were the ones who were gay or going on about their dates...are you seriously telling me that you would like any female friends because that just sounds ridiculous? It's good to know that I'm crazy for assuming that the guy friends in the groups I've mentioned are uninterested in me
In my 20s, all of my close friends were guys and we were all straight. My best friend was also a guy but he was gay. It always felt like walking a tightrope with the others because I felt deep down that the glue that really held me in their friendship was probably some subtle attraction and/or their extra tolerance for me as a girl. Now that I'm older I realize that I needed that extra glue because I really did annoy most people (I was diagnosed with ADHD later) and it wasn't just in my imagination. On one hand, yes, it's easier to find friends with similar interests and motivations as me in guys and on the other hand, yes, they did have extra tolerance for me because I was a girl. It wasn't about wanting attention from men or needing to feel special. I just needed tolerance lol. We all had a lot of fun and I'll always love the times we had but it really sucks when you feel like you can't get close to your friends for fear of sending the wrong signals. I did try to figure out how to get girl friends but it never happened. This issue still fucks with me even in my 30s. I know there's gotta be girls out there who I'd get along with (my best friend in high school was a girl) they're just really hard to find.
If you’re dating a girl like this, Run I went through this situation and most of her so called male “friends” were just suitors waiting in the wings. Any fight or friction with your girl she will flirt and potentially let them smash. Now she wasn’t just trying to be a thot but she had serious daddy issues because her mom died from cancer and her father abandoned her and her sister. So she was always subconsciously looking for daddy validation. I went through a lot checking her about it.
Same shit. Twice. As soon as you hear all my friends are guys. Whatever the excuse is ... RUN. There’s billions of girls in this world, you’re worth better
Yeh. Same. Girl only had dude friends. Dad had abandoned her. She just flirted with all her dude friends all the time, eventually she banged a colleague.
“Do any of those guys have feelings for you?” The answer is always: YES. They’d at least be DTF. Otherwise, they never would have gotten to the point of being friends with you. Guys don’t waste time on people they’re not interested in. Only women do that, and it’s because we thrive on any attention we can get when we’re not getting attention from the guys we want to be getting attention from. If we were instead focused on securing our own bag (like, using actual talent and labor to make cash, not just marrying someone who does that for us), we wouldn’t have time for that shit, either.
as a dude can confirm if you ask I'm saying yes. It's why I don't trust dudes who are friends with my GFs, I'm a dude and I know what goes through other dudes minds. I'm currently surrounded by Females at my current college, I maybe have one guy friend there, am I gonna jump on the opportunity if I'm offered a good time by the single ones, you bet your god damn ass I will. I my a guy not a celibate.
keagan hainsworth no mate you know what goes through your mind! It’s a bit childish to assume everyone is just like you. Is that true in any other situation? No
You know the characters that get offed in horror movies in the most obvious signs of danger.... She's that, and she'd even complain "like I saw the signs but why did I die though?".
A couple of years ago in school I had a teacher tell the class that if there is a friendship between a female and a male, and both of them are straight, there is, was, or will be feelings between them at some point. I was kind of bummed by this and wanted to find an example of where he was wrong so bad. I never did find an example by the way.
My sister and her best friend and along with 2 others are roommates. I’m sure there might’ve been feelings but what I’ve seen theyre the best of friends. :) I’m sure they’ve been friends for even longer. But there has to be rough patches like this but I think setting some type of boundaries helps. But that’s my take lol. 😳
It's possible for there to be fleeting feelings maybe, but I wouldn't say that is an absolute rule. Otherwise, there must be a lot of girls that secretly like or liked me because I've never had friendships with women because I wanted to date them or something. It's normal among people that I know to have friends groups that include males and females, and the vibes aren't weird at all.
i am a female who has a majority of male friends, but it mostly had to do with the environments i was in. i was in the military and in a field that had majority males, and i'm also a huge gamer. it's not that i don't mind having female friends ( ngl, sometimes i crave it ), but i'm pretty boring and really can only hold a long term conversation if it has something to do with gaming lol. i only have less than a handful of female friends, and only because they're also gamers or just know how to put up with me lol. so i just get along better with guys. i try to make it known that i have zero interest in dating, or being fwb. still, somehow, some guys will think they're the exception. i used to play flirt, but when people started to take me seriously or get mad when i don't flirt back, i put a stop to that. this was my fault, and i shouldn't have ever even encouraged this. if the person is persistent in getting with me, i give them some space so that they can clear their heads. if the situation escalates, then i'm outta there. but i also acknowledge that this may make it hard for my significant other when i eventually decide to enter a relationship. hopefully we'll all be in the same friend circle, but who knows and it's something we'll have to figure out when we get there. i hopefully wouldn't dismiss their concerns and we can talk and work things out.
This is honestly why you need to be clear with people about boundaries with your friends and with your partner. Respect his/her wishes. Also exactly why I’m totally deleting social media when I get into a serious relationship.
she knows whats she doing it. Its the attention and its rewards. Many woman use that to get things out of men. especially men they know want them. They will do anything to smash. Fix this for me, fix my car, lets go on a trip, get my dry cleaning, lets go for drinks. Bro she is using these men. And she knows what they want, so she teases them, and calls it friend “hangouts” boyfriend energy/attention without the boyfriend benefits. He needs to break up with right away. And leave her wondering, Then she will chase him. I can’t count how many times I have seen it, and experienced it with girls chasing when you don’t give them that attention, where they come chase cause its that “something they can’t have”. Do you think these “friends of her” know she has a bf, I bet 20$ they dont. Cause simps would lose interest. She is using them, and loving the attention she gets from multiple men, and having a boyfriend she can go back home to. If I was that man I would break up with her asap. #SheisNotisGF. she for the streetszz
@@houseofhas9355 Yeah if she truly cares about this man, she wouldn’t have this friends especially when she admits that’s it’s not safe to be around them. The constant use I hear when it comes to girls with guys in their lives that they’re leading on is horrible. If you don’t want this guy now, leave him alone or make strict boundaries that nothing will happen. It’s so sad🤦🏽♀️
When girls do this they got options but I have personally seen it when the lady gets drunk and mess with the worst guy and all the other guys bail, than they cry.
had a friend of mine whos a girl tell me the other day. anything physical with a man isnt cheating if you still care for your boyfriend and she has mostly male friends. Then she went to say her ex boyfriend didnt like when she hung out with her male friends, but she didnt know why. The logic, like its obvious kkkkkm
she was lying, she knew. Its either she was clearly having sex or using these guys for anything, because simp would do it. Get me food, get my dry cleaning, take me to lunch, or let use your house for a get together, lets go on a trip. No bro its power and control. dont let her lead you to believe she didn’t know what she was doing. They all know. The attention from multiple men is hot and rewarding. If you don’t believe me ask if okay if her bf having female girlfriends. Think about it.
Funnily enough, DHARMANN taught me that mostly a guy who "hangs out" with a girl who already has a bf is just waiting for that relationship to fall so that they could be the first to *POUNCE*
She knows this, she’s just keeping them around because she likes the attention. Very obvious what she’s doing and her boyfriend would dump her if he has any sense.
One time she said "No, I have told him many times that nothing will ever happen between us." and then I said "You had to tell him many times?" She played dumb but she loved having these guys around because they fed her ego. It's a flag. The girls she did have in her life were all 5's and they would try to pick up the dudes who circled her. Some real animal kingdom shit.
@J.C. that’s irrelevant. The red flag is an individual that specifically avoids being friends with others of the same gender. The reason it’s a red flag is because it’s not normal. It usually indicates that someone acts the opposite of the gender they are ie. a man with all female friends is normally very feminine, on the other hand a female with a lot of male friends tends to be argumentative and masculine in certain ways. It also indicates the person may not be a secure adult, many times people seek constant attention from the opposite sex in order to fill a void within themselves
She does not want friends or a boyfriend she wants a rolling roster. I was like preach had/have a lot of female friends, most of them especially the ones I have had for a long time are more like family friends, similar to my sister or my cousins, similar motivations to hanging out or being around them as I have with my male friends. No I did not just have female friends only, many male ones too. Seems a bit weird when they only have friends of the opposite sex and they know many of them wanted to smash, to the point where they do not feel safe being around them what? Seems like this girl does not want equal relationships, she wants people who obviously want something from her, so she can feel like she has some sort of control and has them on a string.
I don’t believe in close male-female friendships (between heterosexual people) and never have. Here are all the caveats: couple friendship is not the same; group friendship is not the same; and anything from acquaintance, to colleague to friend you catch up twice a year is not the same. But. One on one, close, text every few days type of friendship? No way. I don’t believe it can be just platonic. It’s just not how people are wired. Of course, we’re talking about human beings, so there’s bound to be exceptions. But 9 times out of 10, if you’re not the one with feelings, your friends is. I believe women who don’t believe this just either completely fail to understand the male way of thinking in this, or they subconsciously do, but enjoy the attention anyway so they pretend they aren’t aware.
So many of them secretly hate seeing each other happy. When a woman is in a happy relationship there's always a bitter female friend trying to downplay it or sabotage the relationship.
@@tiffanyferguson829 I don’t say I dislike hanging out with other women (it honestly depends on the personality at the end of the day)but I get your point. I was in a friend group of “stereotypical” girls one year and everyone secretly hated each-other. It was a mental chess match everyday.
They’re not her friends. She probably likes the attention she gets from them. And most likely is feeling insecure in her relationship, so she seeks outside attention just so her boyfriend can be jealous, and when he gets jealous, it validates his feelings for her (in her mind).
She doesn’t even necessarily need to be feeling insecure in her relationship. Even if they’re happy in their relationship, some women just like the attention period.
As a woman I’m telling you, any girl who only has guy friends is trouble. If she’s saying “girls are just drama” or “i get along better with guys” chances are she’s the drama, and other woman are a threat to steal her spot light. These girls like male attention and validation and arnt actually interested in real relationships that arnt revolving around giving them attention. It’s the same as a straight guy saying he only hangs out with women cuz he’s not like other guys. They are not doing it for innocent reasons. I’m not saying it’s a red flag if she has some guy friends, but if only male friends and no women, red flag. It’s because she doesn’t want another woman to see through her and call her out, or start to get more attention. A lot of the time these girls might not want to date their guy friends, but they want their guy friends to want to date them.
I was in a relationship where my previous partner had female friends and I had male friends, but we never acted weird and we all always hung out and we were all friends. I trusted him and he trusted me. We had a good connection and he never came accusing me of anything and neither did I. However, people knew we were solid. From both sides. I let him hangout with his friends alone and I went out alone with friends. Nothing shady happened. I guess people need to mature up and involve their partner and lay boundaries with people so they know where you stand. -Don’t keep people around who have feelings -Have all your friends meet your partner and become friends -Lay solid boundaries -Listen to your partner if anything violates these boundaries. Don’t head to the gym with a Chad/Jessica without letting them know and hiding stuff -Your partner must be on good terms and feeling safe around everyone and all activities involved whether y’all are present or not -You must have a conversation and communicate things -Do the inner work to not be seeking validation from other deep down and calling them friends -If your partner starts the comparing game, they gotta go. I mean I think it’s common sense but that level of security takes special people to do that.
Women that only have guy friends are a huge red flag for me, but what bothers me even more is when I watch a video about it and some absolute SIMP on UA-cam tells me to be comfortable with it and that I have to trust her. Men, please save yourself the headache and find a loyal woman who enjoys your company and doesn't disrespect you by going out with other men alone.
From a girls prospective, girls like that are huge problems. They’ll say they arnt friends with girls because of drama but in reality its due to being intimated and fearing they might steal the spotlight. They are always attention obsessed and will be weirdly possessive of their male friends. Its very clear the intentions in my opinion. If a woman can’t find one single other woman she gets along with it’s because she’s the problem.
Or she's into hobbies that mostly men are into so because they have common similarities in interest so they become friends and there's not a lot of women in that field or she's not around the women who are. It's not a red flag
@@michaelhouston3450 whatever I'm not letting some individual who don't know shat about me tell me what kinda man I am. So okay whatever I'm a simp 🤷♂️
I understand that a girl might not relate to her gender and has had bad experiences with Women that might have made her wary of having friendships with Women, and having a couple of male friends is not wrong, but: You only have male friends, they have had feelings for you in the past, you are sometimes alone with them and you feel unsafe. That is just a bit crossing the line in my opinion. I know some people will say that the boyfriend should trust her and whatnot, but I totally get where he is coming from lol. It's like having competition in your own relationship and your partner just being so oblivious about it is really bothersome, honestly. They both really need to reevaluate the relationship, because those male friends are just waiting for her to slip or end it with him to do what they want to do.
Anyone that says "her bf should just trust her" is missing the point that regardless of trust, one has to avoid situations where you could cheat, even if the person putting themselves in the situation is 100% sure that he/she won't cheat. All it takes is one little problem for it to go under 100% and eventually happening.
That type of woman is a red flag. Every time I hear something like “I don’t like hanging out with girls something something they are bad” find better friends. Stop looking in the same place, because chances are, you are looking in the same place.
You don't have to say "in my opinion for this", that's like saying "Leaving a Ferrari parked in a poor area with the doors unlocked will more likely cause it to get stolen than keeping it unlocked in the suburbs, in my opinion"
The unsafe part is what gets me, it sounds more like its unsafe to be alone with them coz she also might be willing to smash them given the right situation. If you really dont feel "safe" around ppl you generally dont hang out or talk to them ever. Sure a couple of the guys prob are just friends and nothing more. But ffs this shits pretty common she knows what she is really doing, we know what she is really doing fuck even her boyfriend knows. Why the games ?!
@@riel0563 if someones feeling like they need a shaparone to feel safe around someone this isn’t even about cheating or trusting your partner anymore, they aren’t friends imo 😬
I'm a bi chick that has mostly guy friends... But like 80% of them are gay. I just get along with males better in general, same with masculine girls. I don't like the psychological game it is to be "one of the girls", it's exhausting to me. I don't like gossipy, vain, high maintenance people all around, and I see that shit on both sides. But the average dude to me is more interesting to shoot the shit with. But of course, I don't flirt or put out signals if that's not the vibe. That's unprofessional 😎
Sounds sexist tbh. Youre basically saying males are superior friends. #TOXIC.
@@AbaNPreach lmaooooo
@@AbaNPreach im dead bruh
Ah, so women are gossipy, vain, and a pain to deal with? Gee, never would have guessed.
@@AbaNPreach hahaha so be it, I guess XD thanks guys, love your vids! 👍
Surely a “friend” that you are not comfortable around is not a friend at all.
Sounds abit off to me, like if you really dont feel safe you would not hang with them at all. OR its translation for not safe in the sense that these guys want her and she kinda wants them also so its not safe to be around them coz they might fuck/kiss/ somthing.
@@brokenhalo2001 smart
Big facts
Shes the kinda girl to make a reddit post about how her boyfriend is acting cold when she hangs out with her male friends that want to fuck her and how should she make him realise the error of his ways.
@@GGGmod1 Sounds like a reddit post alright
*HOW ARE THESE HER FRIENDS?! She can’t even be alone with them. Like what kind of friend is that?* 🤨😬
How is this comment from 6 days ago? The video hasn't been out for 30 minutes yet.
@@MHGFTW Time travelers bro
@@MHGFTW That's I thought
Wtffff. Video came out 9 minutes ago
Shits wild. This was from 6 days ago?
"A shoulder to cry on becomes a D to ride on" - Preach
Bro...I'm putting that quote on a shirt💯💯.
Hoodville Energy
Huh
It's a well known classic quote
Freaking facts! I'm using that one.
I can’t believe she said she feels unsafe being alone with certain friends. What the hell? Get rid of them!!
They don't sound like good guys...
@@kamille6636 Not unsafe as in dangerous. Unsafe as in, she probably doesn't trust herself around them. In other words, if they come at her she might not stop it.
@@justsayin23 she cant say no lol
@@kamille6636 no. They're probably good. She's just feeling unsafe and paranoid. So she should stay away. But despite this she still didn't tell her bf. He should dump her
Not really, get away from her. Damn
You just can’t make this stuff up ⬆️!
Sir Samuels has spoken 🗣
Hi Kevin
Shave your head kev. It's time to just let it go.
The GodFather!
@@Zx14rrrrrrrrrrr ayo 😂😂
These "friends" sound like they're on the rebound waiting list...
Fax Ik some people that wait for 5+ YEARS on that list
lol
Whether she is aware of it or not every female on earth has a rebound waiting list.
She's not yours, it's just your turn.
@@comancheclub3449 they all single at a moments notice.
A wise man once said ‘they might not cheat, but they know who got next’
Nope. She wants her "guy friends" to want her and her boyfriend to sit back and be OK with it. Girl if you really care about a man you wouldn't put him in an uncomfortable situation. Same vice versa.
She isn't ready for the real deal. Run man!!!!! RUNNNNNNN!
True makes me feel shit that the one I loved never loved me enough not todo this.
She's got problems she needed to deal with before getting in a relationship. Clearly she not capable of being comfortable when alone, even if it means being friends with guys she doesn't even feel safe around around.
We need more women like you
Exactly this..
This what I’m going thru rn! She has so many guys friends and puts me in uncomfortable situations. I argue often, “if you cared about me you wouldn’t put me in these situations”
My aunt's husband was literally murdered and, no joke, men who had been trying to get with her since the 80s barely waited until my uncle's body was cold in the ground before popping the "how you been holding up" question in her messages. I swear they were all waiting for the "appropriate time" to ask her out. At least the one she's talking to now had the decency to wait a year. I'm convinced they only came to the funeral just to make sure he was dead. Men have no chill. Period. 😂
We will literally start wars and religions for 🐱
Bro....
@@phoenix-king779 “we” 😐
@@phoenix-king779 “we” bruh don’t include me
@@bossman4590 or men in the pass
Girls who hang out with guys who "had feelings" for them are either so oblivious that it's painful or waiting for a rebound.
I feel like they just enjoy having that attention. Knowing that some people around really want to be with you is definitely a good feeling and a boost in self confidence. Or maybe they just want to have options.
@J.C. damn that’s evil lmao
@J.C. Are you saying that guy friends are only useful if they have a crush on you because then they'll do what you tell them? lol, idk about everyone else but the only criteria for friends for me is if I like hanging out with them haha
@@AsadoMao Not evil.. its the relationship dynamic... if she told them she has no interest in them and they still d these things "in hope" then its on them... now if she is acting like they may one day get thru... yeah then she is evil lol.
@@hythlodaeus9944 of course it’s on them too, but they are still victims in that scenario. If she knows they’re only doing things for her because they want her, then taking advantage of that is wrong.
she has low self esteem, and wants validation from men. she doesn’t care about her partner’s feelings, and probably enjoys making him feel jealous. he needs to move on.
👏👏👏 THANK YOU! 1000% agree smh. I personally don't think men and women could be friends, acquaintance sure but friends that's an extreme rarity that it's only just friends.
Exactly! She's basic looking, probably has been basic looking all her life, has low self-esteem, and finally found a group of guys who show her attention and she doesn't want to let that go. She needs to get her self-esteem together before entering into a serious relationship.
I have a couple of cousins that are women that only have "male friends" because they say they can't get along with women. My mom and I are like...it's because women aren't usually hypnotized by what you're selling lol
Damn... You right...
@@pcarebear1 idk about that. Some woman just fit the tomboy guy vibe better my friend group in school was like 6 dudes and two chicks and they where both just fun too shoot the shit with not mention one of em would occasionally get bullied by the cliche mean girl group it be like that sometimes
Not safe around a couple of them?! She can't even trust herself to be around these friends alone? _Her BF shouldn't be worried, he should be out the door._ Wow.
I thought she meant unsafe in the sense that they seem rapey.
@@BrandonHeat243 that's exactly what she meant.
@@BrandonHeat243 no more like she'd cheat in a heartbeat on her bf at the time. I had a gf who tried to pull this on me, asked if it was ok, I asked her reasoning as to why she wanted male only friends. She told me she didn't like hanging out with other women or having them around. Basically she wanted choices, back up plans a-z, with no competition. And if one of those back ups was going to be an upgrade at any point I would've been dumped in an instant. I didn't give her the luxury to have any back ups, dumped her and made it very clear to her that she messed up. Women like that are players, all women are but these ones are worse because they try to pull this kind of crap under your nose and lucky is the man who is asked if it's ok. Huge red flag. Dump immediately or get monkey branched on.
We always say the guy should leave but when he leaves he’s got all this baggage with him, for all we know an event like this could make the boyfriend kill himself…. That’s hard shit to take in man. I feel like the guy should leave her too b his feelings for her will be so deep. It’ll be hard on his mental health
Should had been ended it with her.
I've been calling "The Long Game" being a "Friendzone Ninja". I think it's pathetic.
I mean they wait around for her self esteem to plummet or for the couple to fight then they strike like the pathetic bench warmers they are.
I think its only pathetic if you're not getting pussy elsewhere.
Hell dude sometimes they listen in and plant seeds in her head to make her self esteem drop and make her guy the culprit. Girls are so easily manipulated it is sad. It makes 99% not worth the risk. Your friend zone ninja is a perfect label.
HA! friend zone Ninja. my man!
My ex was one of these girls, her main friend group was 2 girls and 5 guys and she had dated one of these guys and I saw messages from her best friends telling her that he still liked her, I nicely asked that she wouldn’t hang out with that person just 1 person, when we broke up she talked about “how controlling I was not letting her hangout with her friends” and yes after we broke up she started seeing him. Proving my point. But of course I was still in the wrong lmaoo
good thing you kicked her out early. that shit dead. work on yourself and get something better.
Just got out of an extremely similar situation. She knew the dude had feelings for her but she would still spend time alone with him or go on trips with the group without me. She then told me she had feelings for him and once I caught her lying one more time, I cut it off. Never letting it happen again but I feel you man
You shouldn't have even asked nicely. As soon as you learned she was still friends with her ex you should have walked.
You were in the wrong dude .. no offense but if I was in the dating scene and you told me to stop hanging out with my friends even just one I'd dump you myself . That's happened to me before and I almost lost a close friend because of it just for the dude to dump me .
@@dakotamabry1645 Nope, he's in the right. And this comment says a lot about you if you think that your boyfriend asking you to drop a male friend who has feelings for you puts him in the wrong.
It sounds as if you're more trouble than you're worth.
This is a prime example of why so many relationships don't last long.
Exactly, she creating doubt.
Once people learn about common denominators there is no turning back.
@@clarkeboy12345 And then they have the audacity of accusing their boyfriends of being insecure
Just enjoy the ride.
@@Ash_Wen-li ohhh bruhh no cap and when I do the same to them its WW4
It’s mad how two of them literally make her UNSAFE, but she still considers them friends
What She means by unsafe is the guys in question Are serious Temptations
Woooosh!!
Toxic masculinity! Also, she sounds like she has low self-esteem. She sounds drowsy like a Zannex user.
She said that for the camera to make it sound like she's not interested when we all know...she is veeeery much.
She wants to slap skins with them also
Women that have no female friends often means one of a few things. Usually, it means that they cause drama (act inappropriately around the BF's of other women, etc) but they instead say "women are too dramatic" when they are the ones causing it. Or they just love male attention. Or the only people that can tolerate them are men that want to sleep with them.
I've never met a psychologically healthy woman that dislikes women and mostly/only hangs out with men.
Any man that seriously dates/marries a woman like that and then lets them hang out with all kinds of men alone is a fool for being with them in the first place. I know someone will misconstrue what I said as "controlling" simply because it was easier to say "let" in that sentence, when of course any normal person knows what I meant.
I notice not many women would be happy with having a super hot boyfriend that "just gets along with women better" and is always out having drinks alone with other women.
People will do what they want and they should. I dont think it should be forgotten how manipulative and deceptive people can be especially when they can get something out of it. Only guy friends is definitely a red flag that you should take seriously. But it is not a definite thing that she’s cheating only very likely
@@tomscully9589 risk is too high man
Personality traits, such as being being complainers, passive aggressiveness, negative attitudes, being mean towards a whole gender are not gendered issues. I just can't fathom how a mentally-stable adult can exile an ENTIRE gender.
I have a lot of guy friends, and at times even most of my friends were guys, but that's not intentional at all. I have a little bit harder time finding women I can feel close with because there often is a lot of drama with them, and my hobbies lead me into communities that are mostly dudes or chicks trying to get attention from dudes.
I am not someone who had a lot of good friends most of my life. In high school I had a couple of female friends, and they were really cool. They moved away for college.
After that most of my friends have been online and met through gaming. In the beginning those were mostly male, but as time has gone on I have met more and more women I became close to. For about four years I was single and a few of the guy friends had feelings for me. I never did anything with any of them but there was a time where I considered the compatibility of each of them.
Last year I met someone who was just perfect for me(not through gaming, although we do both play together :D) and we fell in love very quickly, have been happy ever since.
Only one of the "former crushes" is still around but I keep him at arm's length because I don't want to send mixed signals. We share a social group so as long as he doesn't do anything inappropriate I won't make a fuss.
My boyfriend tends to have a lot of female friends, and he has had way more partners in the past than me. I don't even know how many, but I don't care. I know he's a good honest person and trust him. We adore eachother.
He is just comfortable around women and talks to them the same as he would talk to anyone who was kind and decent. There has never been anything between us like "oh these are MY friends and you can't come hang out with us" or anything off. He has always been welcome among my friends, in fact most of them are now his friends also, and they all think he's great.
All the friends of his that I've met seem cool to me too, circumstances just prevent me from hanging out with them more.
I would never confide private things about our relationship to any of my male friends, that would just be weird. I have a girl friend I talk to when I need to vent, but that's not often because me and my fiancé communicate pretty well with eachother and there just isn't a lot of conflict.
I guess the point of what I'm saying is, yes, someone with a ton of friends of whatever gender they tend to be attracted to may be a red flag, but sometimes people are just friends with people who are good company and respectful of either gender and that works out as long as both partners are secure in themselves and honest with and trust eachother.
When I was younger I had a hard time being friends with other girls because I had so many bad experiences. "Friends" who would stop being friends and start dating my exes (seriously, happened 3 seperate times with different girls!) and ones who constantly tried to give me a make over (omg you would be more pretty if you wore make up or wear this and go here)....like no thanks, seriously.
Now that im older, I love my girl friends cause are more mature and respectful of me and each other and our life styles. We just love talking and hanging out and addressing life problems. You just haven't found the right girl friends yet.
"she's not yours, it's just your turn." That 'friends' list is just a roster who are waiting for their turn.
Like Kylie Jenner 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Or had a turn and waiting for seconds
I've waited my turn and then got back on the bench for another one. I have 2 fuck policy. Lmao
She wants to continue to feel desired. She is not communicating what she wants from her partner because she is too insecure to come out and say it. She does not feel desired enough by one person. Her take on desire is define by multiple people. It is a huge sign of immaturity. She needs to grow up and find validity in her relationship if she wants to continue to be in a relationship. Finding validity only partially comes from your partner. Most of it comes from you and showing appreciation and communication.
Yessir!
This is exactly it.
PRECISELY!
yuuupppppp!!
like glass, you see right through her !
So wait, she don’t understand why her bf doesn’t like her guy friends even though she admits they use to have feelings for her and to top it off she don’t feel safe around two of them. Did I hear that right? 🤦🏾♂️
Delusional as we thought
My best friend used to have feelings for me 10 years ago and he is way past them and he is my best friend for 13 years this September. And I really can't imagine my so telling me anything about it.
@@justme7947 Trump Won 🇺🇸
@@justme7947
Is he really passed them? Test it. Call him and tell him you caught feelings and watch how quick he finds those long lost feelings..
@@falseprophet1024 done that 3 years ago when my ex was suspicious and he really is past them. I think his fiance would've told me something or her attitude would've changed if he is still lingering on that. I'm not saying you are wrong, but it isn't always the case
My ex gf of 3 years immedielely ran to one of her guy friends and smashed him the same night after I told her I wanted to break up. She kept trying to tell me how she regretted it and it was in the moment but then months later they started going out and living together. She also tried to tell me that I was too restrictive of her even though that was never brought up the entire time we dated. These sorts of things just blow my mind and make me wary of dating now
Did you tell her you **wanted** to break up, or did you actually split?? Still fucked either way just confused
Well you played, you lost.
@@Ssookawai lmao right. I cant with these dudes, always chase these ho*s cuz "they exciting"🤭 and then end up being cheated on.
Really sorry to hear that. You did the right thing breaking it off and sticking to your guns. Best wishes
I wonder why she says she can’t be alone. Is it that she can’t trust them OR is it that she can’t trust herself?
Both.
also isn't getting a boyfriend including other things a perfect way to not feel alone?
I was thinking the same things…
More than likely she can't trust herself.
Both
"A shoulder to cry on, becomes a diq to ride on" LMFAO
FACTS!!!
It only becomes a diqc to ride on when she runs out of options and hits Da wall
@@TheShowOff2I naw naw naw..... Chris Rock hit it on the head many years ago...
"A "platonic" friend is a dick in a glass case...... IN CASE OF EMERGENCY BREAK OPEN GLASS...
lol every white knight who read this let out a sigh and said "i wish"
@@ryanbrown938
Exactly 🤣 behind the emergency glass she’s gonna try and reach for the beta orbiters to save her, in some cases tho the case may be empty
She's using it as a power play , to remind him she doesn't have to go far to replace him.
Agreed 💯
Toxic af
Well if they wanna be the sloppy next....
@@TravisFebruary see the shaming tactic? you probably weren't her 1st either, you are someone's sloppy next you just never met em'
The insecurity is strong with you
Lol from the time a girl be doing that, automatically she has no respect for you as a boyfriend nor the relationship, time to get tf outta there
Never date a girl with a ton of male friends period…. No need to think too deeply into this.
You’re damn right I smashed tons of my exs and their sisters and best friends listen ladies no man wants to just be your friend
@ J.A. YES!
@@dieseldawg7132 I agree 99.99%. As I have a female friend which both of us only, and I truly mean only see each other as friends, we're more like brothers at this point, since we met in school. BUT, I also aknowledge the reason is cause I suffered a lot of bullying and she had my back and was one of my only friends, so I've never felt attracted to her mor she to me, and even with that situation, I can admit majority of the "girl friends" I have are girls I wanted to have more of a friendship or a co-worker from my old job
Yup 👍
Not gonna do this mistake again
That was just a waste of time
Friends? This is why you gotta be selective about who you let sit in your circle.
I have 5 friends in my life, everyone else is just an acquaintance.
@@jamesalexhowlett nice haha but do they know they just acquaintances? That’s something we should address to dem right
@@moonknight4053 I am Magine most of these people think that they are my friend, as I am friendly with them. I wouldn’t say that these people really KNOW me, yknow?
@@jamesalexhowlett Same. The 6 guys I truly trust to have my back, and that I'd do anything for, are a whole different level than acquaintances and coworkers. That doesn't mean we're standoffish or unfriendly with others, just that they aren't the people you'd drop everything to go help.
Or your face
Facts. When I was a teenager, I believed that all my guy friends saw me as just a friend because that's how I felt about them. By college, I realized that I was wrong. Most of them definitely wanted to be more than friends. Now that I'm married, I don't have any male friends that aren't friends with my husband as well and he doesn't have any lady friends that aren't my friends.
im sorry youre married and i hope you never try to take 50% of him when youre tired of the marriage
@@SobeCrunkMonster Well, I'm not sorry that I'm married. 😆 We just made 10 years of marriage recently. So far we aren't sick of each other so the future looks promising. 🤷🏾♀️😂
I applaud you for respecting that boundary.
That's a weird comment to make. Why are you sorry she's married or assuming she will get divorced? When her post was quiet literally about how she respects that boundary for her partner of not having male friends.... Wtf?
@@rosieposiepooh562 pretty sure that persons whole personality is hating women
She just LOVES the attention...she knows some of these 'friends' have feelings for her, and they stay friends with her hoping they would have a chance with her sometime.
Bingo
Wouldnt call it big hope and feelings not that near. If path is not free then ait go other ways. If path is clear a switch turns on and here we go.
I think 99% of men know. When a woman has guy friends it is basically saying “I’m getting boyfriend energy, masculine energy, validation, and attention” she wants without giving them sex and then guys who waits aka allows themselves to be put in the friendzone are simps/betas who don’t know their worth so… yeah
For real a shoulder to cry on stays a shoulder to cry on
@@KingComp67_-io3iz I agree with the first half. The 2nd not so much. A dude who waits doesnt mean hes simping. He can be playing the friends role because maybe he really is her friend and still wants to smash. Because I got plenty of girl friends that are super cool to chill with and so on but that doesn't mean I wont smash and still continue as friends if possible. And I'm also not waiting around for to decide she wants to smash, I continue doing my thing with other girls. I think its when dudes are just pretending to be friends or simping buying her shit in hope's she gonna say yes is wack. Cause I had a girl friend that was with a dude they was going through some shit and I could've smashed but I passed on it and tried to help her out to see if she wanted to get back with dude because she is my friend after all.
She doesn't "feels safe" being alone with them "in any sort of circumstance" because she knows that she'll probably say yes to them. I hope her boyfriend sees this vid and moves on.
Wasn’t there a ABA AND PREACH Episode *about this where the GIRL WAS GRAPED BY HER FRIEND* but didn’t say crap to the boyfriend CUS HED HANDLE IT AND CUT A TREE DOWN 🙄 *and she’s still friends with the dude* 🙄 MAN TAKE YOUR DUMB ASSSSZ and walk
No, it means that they will force themselves onto her! That’s what unsafe means!! People don’t feel unsafe to be around people whom they are attracted to.
She's for the streets
She is the streets
@@kevina.2269 From the streets she cometh and to the streets she shall return!
She’s for the galaxy
Lol.. attention seeking missle
She's from Lynn, MA 😆
That's not a friends list, that's a roster! 🤣
lol she's tryin to play it off like, "potato , potAhto.' Naw bitch, thats potato...
Exactly cuz if she truly felt ‘unsafe’ she would’ve been burn that bridge and she’d let it be known in no uncertain terms…
@@jayclearmen411 unsafe means she wants them too lol. Probably already smashed them
pretty much got a team full of benchwarmers waiting in the cut 😂😂😂
Woman are natural plate spinners, They are natural players. Always keep two more guys, back up men.
In society, men’s playerness has been exposed and shamed. , But woman’s player game has been under the shadow. Not to be talked about. There are woman who go on dates with no intention of romantic interests at all. Its wild. They’re called foodie dates. Wife’s who keep back up men. Its damm wild. Because nature, Our animal instinct to reproduce with others doesn’t keep up with our society rules.
I wonder if she meant safe like in a sexual harassment way or safe as in, I can’t trust myself and I would allow things to progress that I know will be bad for my relationship
Either way is seriously questionable
How the f this comment is from 6 days ago? It just came ou
@@mraj1510 again brah people pay monthly subscription fee so get access to perks like videos on private link access in advance
Things progressing from both sides because they used to be involved and someone still wants to be involved.
Either way those are two horrible things lol
My ex is like this, made me literally feel like I was losing my mind. Out of her guy friends she had hooked up in some way with 8 out of 10 of them. She made me feel like I was controlling and an insecure asshole. We had a horrible breakup and I've been single for 2 years and have zero urge to date again. It almost feels like having PTSD.
That’s rough man I would try to date again but set your boundaries as soon as you hear something like that or something else that could potentially be toxic I also am gonna take my own advice next relationship I get into lol
Going through it myself
Saying "I know this sounds bad" is an instant admission.
The laughter said it all
I think this generation needs to understand the purpose of boundaries.
This generation needs to understand uncomfortable truth about men & women instead of denying things that clearly common sense and obvious to know without playing dumb
And understand being honest...... And to communicate..... And to empathize....... And to understand one another...... And understand understanding...... Theres a lot of things wrong with all these younger generations of people
Agreed
@@KingComp67_-io3iz Yeah.
The truth being that people should be honest about their intentions, which eliminates any of this vagueness.
Men and women CAN be friends, but men like to *pretend* that they're friends, and then turn their back on someone later when they're not interested.
Don't tell someone you want to be friends when you don't, and you won't have that problem.
@@Zeverinsen I agree and the (w)omen knows that a man wants to smash from the beginning 99.99% of the time and she says “lets be friends” to a guy so she can benefit from a man without her giving sex in return. We all (W)omen know how to play dumb and preserve themselves as a victim to not be in any type of confrontation with anyone
“it’s not spidy-sense, it’s common sense” I like that one
I have 2 female friends total, outside of my family, one is a lesbian with a godlike personality and the other is brutally funny and caring. I've never been attracted to either of them and the feeling is mutual and that's why we stay tight. The rest is simple: if I approach a woman there's a fair chance I want her. If it's not mutual, I am out. Never be friends with women you're attracted to, just for the remote chance of eventually getting them. Your partners will thank you for it. Keep it real.
I wouldn't necessarily say that this girl wants to smash with her male friends but she most definitely likes her attention harem. In a group of girls, she will not get the same kind of attention a girl will get in a group of guys.
My ex was like that. The guys she would hang out with were the same guys that were spamming her on facebook and Instagram, telling her how beautiful and cute she looked in her latest selfie etc..... On one occasion, she invited me to join her on a night out with some of her friends and none of them turned up. Hmmmm, I wonder why.
Attention Harem
*Thanks that's my band name now*
Attention harem. Yes that it the best description and basically what i was just commenting to someone else.
@this is [REDACTED] I wouldn't say smash, polite nudging was probably better described.
@this is [REDACTED] ah yes, fair enough. No I did not smash her like the Hulk might. 😁
In this situation right now and I'm getting fucked good but I'm not giving her a title bec I know 🤫🤷🏾♂️
Sounds like she has bigger issues at play here, like deep seated psychological issues, because who in their right mind would continue to be friends with someone they feel unsafe with, not only one, but two! 😬
She might have meant she didn't feel safe with them as in she assumes they'll make a move if shes alone with them. Which is equally shitty cause these people aren't even hiding they want to smash you and you're still hanging around them.
she knows whats she doing it. Its the attention and its rewards. Many woman use that to get things out of men. especially men they know want them. They will do anything to smash. Fix this for me, fix my car, lets go on a trip, get my dry cleaning, lets go for drinks. Bro she is using these men. And she knows what they want, so she teases them, and calls it friend “hangouts” boyfriend energy/attention without the boyfriend benefits. He needs to break up with right away. And leave her wondering, Then she will chase him. I can’t count how many times I have seen it, and experienced it with girls chasing when you don’t give them that attention, where they come chase cause its that “something they can’t have”.
Do you think these “friends of her” know she has a bf, I bet 20$ they dont. Cause simps would lose interest. She is using them, and loving the attention she gets from multiple men, and having a boyfriend she can go back home to. If I was that man I would break up with her asap. #SheisNotisGF. she for the streetszz
@@calumbarry1829 seemed obvious to me. I would not call "friends" girls who would just orbit around me waiting to have a chance to be my gf. It's incredible how in denial she is, or she knows exactly what she's doing then she's straight up lying.
@@guilouken7818 Yeah when you flip the roles like that it shows how remarkably shitty it is. Unfortunately when there's people out there that do anything and everything for a woman at mere chances, there's gonna be women who exploit that. Both are idiots.
@@calumbarry1829 unfortunately, that's pretty much everybody on both sides. People do not analyse human interactions, let alone how they function themselves.
Bro I feel for her boyfriend, she knows that she can't be alone with two of her friends in any sort of circumstances but she still want them around because I bet theses guys attention pleases her, bro I feel for you
How do you know what she is saying is true trying to convince herself that her “guy friends” don’t want to smash🤔🤔🤔
She's lying...🤦🏿♂️
@@RealSpiit_4rm_Z3 Of course she's lying... body language was all over the place. She couldn't even look at them on the screen while she was telling her story.
It honestly sounds like she was just setting the stage to throw out a rape accusation/ her fear of being raped because she knows you can't argue with that. She probably thought mentioning that would shut up their judgment of her because they'd feel bad questioning why she hands around them or some shit. Her guy friends should run the fuck away from her, because this is definitely the kind of girl who will cheat and cry wolf later.
Exactly lol this chick is a goofy attention seeking dummie. NEVER be around ppl that you dont feel safe with cuz THERE IS A REASON. Fukk around & get got.
It used to piss me off when my friends would confess feelings for me, which happened with my male and female friends often. If you're truly somebody's friend, you wouldn't be comfortable with them having feelings for you because 1- you cannot or Don't have interest in returning them, and 2- because you truly care about them and don't want them to be in the position of emotionally being attached to somebody who does not feel the same (whether it is you or not) it's sad to see your homeboy or homegirl in that state.
Either way you have to be an intentionally naive adult to believe that most straight men and straight women can have purely innocent and platonic (deep) relationships on both sides.
I think it's natural to have organic friendships of the heterosexual opposite gender, but once those relationships get more emotionally involved, majority of humans are incapable to maintaining innocence, because something is bound to get romantic or perverted.
You gonna have to cut some friends, because if you cannot uphold those boundaries then why would you want to bring a partner into your life when you do not have clear boundaries with your supposed "friends."
They gotta go. Most ppl cannot control themselves, it's reality and unfair, but very seldom will it be that way 🤷🏾
Just got out of a 2.5 year relationship where I remember her mentioning early on that she just always enjoyed hanging around guys more. Hence she had a long time male friend who she knew had feelings for her but kept him around bc she didn’t have many other friends.
I kept catching her spending alone time with him at dinner or the gym but she always had an excuse and I wanted to be accommodating bc of her lack of friends.
Two weekends ago, she told me she had feelings for him and then I caught her lying to me about being with him again. We broke up on Monday and I’ve never felt more free. Don’t have to put up with her bullshit and I’ll never put up with anything like that again
Facts bro!
The feeling of freedom is beautiful isn't it... now you'll be ready when the right one comes along - and they will.
Hold on to that feeling, never let it happen again.
I guess The feeling is also knowing that you did the right thing for you instead of letting circumstance and emotions get in the way.
You’ve lost nothing and gained everything. Most importantly, the wisdom of knowing what’s a red flag and cutting it before it starts.
Any update?
@@tso7639 didn’t plan on posting anything but since you asked, I’ve actually found my way back to my faith and have been focusing on building that back up and getting closer to God. I’ve also gotten myself back into my workout routine and I’m in the best shape of my life. I also moved to a new town to be closer to work and have made some good friends from the gym/work. Not to say it’s been totally smooth sailing. I don’t want her back but not a day goes by where she doesn’t pop into my head and I’ve been having dreams about her usually at least once a week. That part is definitely frustrating and I’m hoping with more time that will fade. If not, I’ll probably consider some form of therapy to help.
When I got married - every single one of my guy friends took a hike lmao. I genuinely wasn't expecting it, but looking back on it I can't believe I was that naive.
That’s how it is. That’s why chasing relationships before you’re ready to start a family is corny asf to me because unless there’s a sense of commitment everything between the two partners is a facade. That’s just how I think of it as a dude🤷🏻♂️
I will say one thing, first im too young(not a child just too young to be married soon) to properly give any explanation on that beyond that they were likely chasing after you, so im not saying this as fact, just a thought, but i will say id assume its alot weirder to hang out with a married women, even if i was cool with the spouse, depending on the situation, i could still see my self feeling like i might still be overstepping bounderies in closeness with a married woman and could definitely see atleast some freindships like that dwindling over time as a result even if i wasnt trying to be in a relationship with them prior
they were never your friend they always were a suitor
Because they new the possibility of banging you was now slim to none
Like Aba said, it doesn't take a lot of work to maintain those friendships. So it goes to show how little they cared about you to disappear like that.
Girls in those situations stay because the like the attention. She even said there is a guy she doesn't feel safe around, be he's her friend somehow?? She loves the attention and the likely simping she receives and she knows exactly what she's doing, but playing dumb. She wants to have her cake and eat it too
Tbh I definitely agree
And She wants to get her cake eaten too 😁
💯
So that is actually a mental disorder called love addiction and most people that have it don't realize it and they stay in a loop of looking for attention and once they get it its not enough anymore and by what she says yea she has a love addiction and needs a bit 9f therapy to learn more about herself
@@obsidienwolf6887 your right. It's dangerous cause there are guys who recognize this and make chicks victims.
Those orbiting guys don’t just wait, either. Whenever she complains about her boyfriend, whatever inevitable stress comes up, they reflect it back to her & magnify it. “Oh dang, I can’t believe he did that! Wow, I’ve never treated a girlfriend that way… “ 🙄 Those dudes are nothing but trouble.
Young and stupid.
Little Ms. "I have friends I can't be alone with because they are sexually aggressive". 😔 Makes me tired.
"You, you got what I need but you say he's just a friend"
- Biz Markie (RIP)
“I dOnT kNoW wHy MY BoYfrIenD....”
Are you serious bro?
I feel more empathy for her bf than that girl lol
@@curlybroccoli6230 Give him a call, and let him know that his girl is apparently all *OUR* girl.
I bet if he only had female friends it would have been a problem for her
J
she ain’t for the streets, she for the communists
I'm a woman, and I would definitely think twice before seriously dating a guy who has a lot of female friends. I've dated a couple of guys who had close female friends and it was always uncomfortable hanging out with them because the female friends were pretty hostile towards me, which made me think there was a more than friends vibe going on between them.
my SAME experience. I talked to him about this one girl, and he said "shes like a sister" come to find out, days into us dating he cheated on me with her. like ya right. just some brotherly/sisterly love right there.
@whitykitty I'm sorry to hear that. I think most of these guys who have a lot of female friends keep them around as a potential dating pool, and even to keep their girlfriends/wives in check, like saying I have other options if you don't do what I want.
I know girls and guys who are friends without sexual tension and drama. This girl is not one of them...
A guy would blow his cover with a lot girl friends girl are way more sneaky about it
@Pr.incorporated honest as a guy who can be friends with a women and not want to fuck her, I find it odd how unbelievable this is for some people.
It's either the bf is a *SIMP* or this girl is a side chick & doesn't know yet.
"You can't make this sh*t up!" 😂
Or they could be a regular couple and the girl is just trash at understanding situations or is just ignorant
If he was a simp he wouldn’t have a problem with it
@@imanigordon6803 please stop don’t be delusional
@@milton7763 You're confusing simp with cuckold
@@imanigordon6803 No sir she clearly understands, she said so. She is illogical.
I think we all know she understands. She just wanted to know if she has to actually change to maintain the relationship.
Faaaaax
100% facts
1st Ladies, men are truly not interested in being your friend, they all if you were to text them and asked them to come over to smash, they would speed over. They are your friend because you friend zone them. No man friend zones themselves. Men aren't built that way.
@@bmos212 unless childhood friends
I don’t even like being with guys that have a bunch of female “friends” either. I know from experience what that leads to..
what it leads to?
What do you mean?
@@albertpranata4926 It usually works the exact same way the other way around, is what I think Kim is saying.
Using that sausages in the mouth snapshot was savage.
To be fair, when other women say "I don't get along with other women. They are so much drama." I always think that's sus as hell. Because these women are usually the most drama which is why they don't have any female friends.
Right? They usually follow it up with "ugh omg I HATE drama" like ok Destiny you create all that, first of all. Is it maybe they feel competition with other women and cant handle the challenge? Insecurities? I always felt chicks like that just loved basking in the attention of their many guy friends that want them very much. And if other women are around thats something they have to share. Idk prolly way off the mark but thats my musing...
Also I think its a bit of projecting?
Yes n yes!.. 😂 😂
I can kind of see that. Some definitely are, but then again I think most women are so it's not saying much for me.
Can't be having drama all the time and expect someone to stay. Some people stay but those with sense don't..
Let her boyfriend have all his friends as female… there wouldn’t even be a discussion!
Especially if these female friends wanna smash.
My ex bf only had female friends, i found it fine since it takes alot for me to get jealous or anxious and stuff but what did make me abit suspicious was that he wouldn't allow me to meet any of them.
Steve Harvey said something I strongly agree with “most guys befriend girls for the slightest chance they can get in”
Fact that she's laughing as she says "they have had feelings for me but not anymore" would be enough for any sane man to break up with her.
She's the type of girl that can get a man arrested,beat up, or dead.
Huge red flag
Exactly. A women like this will have guy’s fighting and trying to kill each other over her because she’s clearly playing game’s.
Attention is a drug for most women. A daily dose of ego boost is why she has so many male friends.
Attention is a drug to ANY immature person, male OR female. Both sexes can get full of themselves like this woman here.
@@oljerseysoul8724 It is super oblivious to say any. Ignoring the obvious differences of entitlement and double standards that are so common on the female's side which are SUPER common. Because too many pussy whipped males deem it acceptable because sex is held on some stupid pedestal.
Women NEED attention by and large WAY MORE than Men who may want it and most who certainly don't NEED it. That's a dumb comment to say otherwise
@@oljerseysoul8724 My comment is contextual. The subject in question is a woman hence my response.
Thats so gross. I couldn't imagine wanting so much attention every day. I'd rather just talk to a real friend.
@@oljerseysoul8724 At the end we are just doing things because our dopamine system gets activated... . We are like biochemical machines in that way.
She knows what she’s doin… she probably gets off on the feeling of being wanted by many, like an Instagram model.
“He never let me hangout with guys so once he did I cheated”
Just imagine how many of those scenarios have happened. Guess what I’m one of them🤦🏽♂️I’m better now though man I love myself and will never let a female make me feel lesser than ever again we are all kings. Remember your the prize king🤴
People kill me calling themselves kings/queens when the reality is they've been broken by someone beyond repair. Just admit you're damaged now and will never have a happy, healthy, long-lasting relationship as a result. It's a lot easier when you not only see the writing on the wall but actually acknowledge it. Trust me on this one. 😂
@@vegetaismydad5382 bro if you don’t want to see yourself as a higher level being than any horrible person on the planet then you go ahead and give them that power I’m not gonna sit here and go back and fourth with you though I’m a king and whatever you are you are fuck outa here💀💀💀💀💀💀
@@chillsketchs2638 oh new law passed. its now illegal to fix your past life. you’ll always be shit and you’ll never amount to anything past that relationship. or whatever that dude was tryna say 🤣 man fuck him bro theres only such thing as a good experience and a learning experience. you got this homie ✊🏾
@@TedjiroKamado 😂😂nah fr. Goodlooking out bro🤘🏽
Chill Sketch’s your saying your higher than women because there horrible while claiming not to be damaged. Good lord get some counselling or stay away from people with a pulse please 😳
When girls say, “I don’t have a lot of girls that are friends bc they are too much drama…” isn’t that pick me behavior?
No its "I was the drama , so other women don't like me" behaviour. I stay away from women.who only have guy friends, that shit is "don't pick me "behaviour
it definitely is, they want make themselves look more appealing bc most men claim to love women who aren't into drama. But alas, they're usually the ones starting most of the drama.
@@cevapipapi8920 Exactly!
It is big pick me energy
@@hoebihoebi2536 Women can tell men what we want to hear like “women are drama” to try to convince men to get with her thinking there wouldn’t be any consequences when dealing with her even though the consequences is a big deal when dealing with her
Anyone could be attracted to anyone, that doesnt really matter. Only being friends with men if you are a hetero female is a good way to get constant validation. Having other women around in the mix means you arent the only female. I mainly have male friends but I also have female friends--i dont have a lot of friends in general. But making a point not to befriend other women and keep men around who are explicit with their sexual attraction towards you is validation/fear of competition. I've been there before. Best way to check yourself is asking how you would feel if your boyfriend only befriended women, talked down about a specific gender, etc. How would you choices look if it were someone else
You hit the nail on the head. In this day and age most girls have such an abundance of men around that want to sleep with them or seek a relationship. Most of them will never get too as they are contempt being friend zoned and lack the ability to get a females interest to begin with.
From a mans perspective, it shouldn’t matter unless she’s your wife and men don’t want a girl with this type of behavior anyways. Men seek higher quality women who don’t require the constant need of validation from other males.
Only a male who lack leadership, control and understanding of themself and how women think would let this happen and or put themselves in this situation to begin with.
My husband is still freinds with his ex's and has had the girl he lost his virginity come over for multiple days in a row . Hes even went to strip clubs and had lap dances - I was their for one of them . I am comfortable enough to know he would not cheat especially when he doesn't hide these woman or where he was going and has even told me he thought about what it would be like , he was given the opportunity and told one of the ex's no and are still freinds- she has sense got married. It's the same for me in our relationship I hung out with 3 guys solo one being my ex. When we harbor strong amounts of emotions we communicate it but we do not tell one another to abandon our friendships because most of the time they were their before me or him .. I even showed him I have pictures of my ex's in a scrap book .. seriously they are just pictures of my childhood. My husband was my bestfriend in high school and I was 20 and I'm 27 now . If it didn't workout I wouldn't drop him or my guy freind who is married btw.
@@dakotamabry1645 I could never do that..
Alright. I'm gonna bite the bullet and say that I was like this when I was younger. The whole "I got all male friends, women ain't shit" vibe. I was a tomboyish girl growing up, and I saw that shutting out girly girls was normal. By the time I was in college, to our group, I was seen as bitchy, immature, dramatic and rumors had that I slept with everyone of our guy friends, because I was overprotective and clingy of them. But that changed when I got in my 20s and started to work on my insecurities.
Fast forward, I became more confident in myself and have a lot of lady friends to talk to, hang out, and just be myself without any judgment. The guys who I was friends with... the majority of them did want to smash, despite having girlfriends or wives. As I got confident in myself, I decided to cut the guy friends loose. Now I'm friends with males still, but only ones that already have a girlfriend or wife and am comfortable with both as a respect to their relationship.
Nice
Respect for your honesty and introspection. Much respect.
Respect for your honesty and introspection. Much respect.
Yea my ex had a bunch of guy friends. I didn’t think much of it as I had a lot of girlfriends and my friends, that all changed when she decided for me not to hang with those guys, but that I had to also stop hanging with ALL of my friends and family. Lol I wonder why in single and alone while she smashing Tom dick and Harry looking for a stepdad for my kids lol
Enjoy your cheap wine and cats.
Most of your eggs are probably already dead.
I'm a woman and have always had more guy friends than women. When I broke up with my long term boyfriend not a single one tried to hit me up. So it is totally possible to just be friends. I do find guys easier going. I am open to having more friends that are girls but I'm generally bad at growing friendships and don't find I have much in common with most other girls.
Its easier to get along with us because we want something from you, we condition our selves from a young age to be able to make girls feel comfortable around us, and it takes hard work to master that.
Girls want nothing from you, when you compare that to men who are consciously setting the right conditions and atmosphere to extract what they want, you'll think girls are harder to get along with.
Its fulfilling to have girlfriends that you know just like you because of you. Please try to put in the work to get some good female friends, just a suggestion.
Are you fat?
Time to self-examine babes, why don't you have at least some female friends? You sound like you're already putting women in a box and not trying at an individual level
Men need to vet better. A woman should meet higher criteria for a relationship than just being "cute." Women have a laundry list of qualities they want in a Man; it's time Men held Women to higher standards as well. That will end a lot of these problems.
I honestly used to think along time ago people were actually doing better with vetting or picking seemingly good people. I really thought the people they picked were just true manipulators but apparently everyone is getting into relationships blind or willfully ignoring red flags. Both men and women.
The men who can get many women don't care about standards because they're not investing. The men who are investing don't get many women, so they can't care about being picky.
@@mgancarzjr Its not that black and white my boy
@@mgancarzjr I agree.
You are right brother
If you truly value your man, you wouldn’t fight him on having male friends. Sorry but friendship vs potential husband….. I can root for you from a distance.
True story
Yup, if she truly respects him and sees a future, she needs to choose and do it wisely.
like its cool if they have guy friends (depends on the relationship), but to go out and hang out and dont trust them, nahhhh. your mans gotta go or your friends do
@@noahchase9647 What She means by unsafe /don’t trust the guys in question… it really means them Guys Are serious Temptations..girls kno instantly when guys want to smash
Its totally situational though my best friend is female our mums are best friends we grew up together if my current or future girl has a problem that my best friend is female then thats a problem she needs to work on this situation however is totally different those "Friends" aren't her friends if she cant Trust herself around them... We all know what this is and it has nothing to do with friendship
“Women understand women and y’all hate each other”😭😭😭😭😭😭
I don't know any woman who hates other women. But I'm also not American, and I don't know any American girl in my country so...
As a women i dont hate women. Pick me girls hate women. But not REAL women. We appreciate our own gender
@@12wer3wer9 yeah I dunno women who hate other women either. Met a few who hate guys who act like it's a mum they want rather than a partner though. Think guys that dont do well with women just wanna think that. Not American either though 😂😂😂😂😂
No we dont it was just made up
@@memeeee1114 this one 💯
"I only have guy friends" "I only have female friends"
Me: "Y'all have friends?"
L
The shit people allow when they get into relationships will never cease to amaze me.
These "friends" become options. It makes no sense.
Be on the look out to see her asking dating advice on reddit.
redditors will call the bf insecure
@@GG-jr9xl lol on point.
Everybody can have any type of friends but don’t be surprised when people start judging you based on your friends
Bingo
Yeah, people love complaining about how people view them, but will do nothing to change it but make you out to be a bad person.
@@lilfairykiki122 She’s so addicted to attention, she won’t care what people say about her. If they said she was in an orgy with all of them; I guarantee you that she would ACT like she cared but wouldn’t stop hanging out with them.
@@FaithFallRepentGraceRepeat oof I hope you're wrong but...
A girlie having all male friends feels secure, if the guy she's with doesn't come up to expectations, no problem, she knows there are spares just waiting in the wings for an opportunity. What do they call it? Having spare strings for your bow comes to mind. Personally I would run a mile from that chick, I'm not into silly games.
You sounding like a nice guy bruv careful
just because you're friends with guys doesn't mean they want to date you? All but one of my guy friends was completely uninterested in me
@Thomas Mottl I'm assuming the ones with girlfriends were uninterested as were the ones who were gay or going on about their dates...are you seriously telling me that you would like any female friends because that just sounds ridiculous? It's good to know that I'm crazy for assuming that the guy friends in the groups I've mentioned are uninterested in me
@@katkit1479 If you call all of them right now and say your drunk and horny, I’ll bet my life savings more than 1/2 of them would try and slide in
@Thomas Mottl it's speaks more on how men can't control themselves and want to fuck any women they can get.
“Take a finger like this, mhm
You gon dip it in the water, mhm
Take it out, mhm
Is it salty? Theres sharks.”
BRUH THAT HAD ME ROLLING 😂
In my 20s, all of my close friends were guys and we were all straight. My best friend was also a guy but he was gay. It always felt like walking a tightrope with the others because I felt deep down that the glue that really held me in their friendship was probably some subtle attraction and/or their extra tolerance for me as a girl. Now that I'm older I realize that I needed that extra glue because I really did annoy most people (I was diagnosed with ADHD later) and it wasn't just in my imagination.
On one hand, yes, it's easier to find friends with similar interests and motivations as me in guys and on the other hand, yes, they did have extra tolerance for me because I was a girl. It wasn't about wanting attention from men or needing to feel special. I just needed tolerance lol.
We all had a lot of fun and I'll always love the times we had but it really sucks when you feel like you can't get close to your friends for fear of sending the wrong signals. I did try to figure out how to get girl friends but it never happened. This issue still fucks with me even in my 30s. I know there's gotta be girls out there who I'd get along with (my best friend in high school was a girl) they're just really hard to find.
I get it. I’m having a hard time finding female friends that aren’t toxic. Just cut my toxic friend off yesterday.
Those "friends" waiting patiently for the keys to her kingdom.
Facts
Where’s the lie?! 😄
Them pirates are ploting to raid for that booty, arrr!
Those layin-in-wait dudes.
They are circulating like vultures
If you’re dating a girl like this, Run I went through this situation and most of her so called male “friends” were just suitors waiting in the wings. Any fight or friction with your girl she will flirt and potentially let them smash. Now she wasn’t just trying to be a thot but she had serious daddy issues because her mom died from cancer and her father abandoned her and her sister. So she was always subconsciously looking for daddy validation. I went through a lot checking her about it.
Lmao
Craziest comment I’ve seen.
I feel like I know these sisters you’re referring to
Same shit. Twice. As soon as you hear all my friends are guys. Whatever the excuse is ... RUN.
There’s billions of girls in this world, you’re worth better
Yeh. Same. Girl only had dude friends. Dad had abandoned her. She just flirted with all her dude friends all the time, eventually she banged a colleague.
“Do any of those guys have feelings for you?” The answer is always: YES. They’d at least be DTF. Otherwise, they never would have gotten to the point of being friends with you. Guys don’t waste time on people they’re not interested in. Only women do that, and it’s because we thrive on any attention we can get when we’re not getting attention from the guys we want to be getting attention from. If we were instead focused on securing our own bag (like, using actual talent and labor to make cash, not just marrying someone who does that for us), we wouldn’t have time for that shit, either.
as a dude can confirm if you ask I'm saying yes. It's why I don't trust dudes who are friends with my GFs, I'm a dude and I know what goes through other dudes minds. I'm currently surrounded by Females at my current college, I maybe have one guy friend there, am I gonna jump on the opportunity if I'm offered a good time by the single ones, you bet your god damn ass I will. I my a guy not a celibate.
@@keaganhainsworth1245 I respect this behavior
keagan hainsworth no mate you know what goes through your mind! It’s a bit childish to assume everyone is just like you. Is that true in any other situation? No
What a miserable outlook to have
@casey but when you get messed around it's "all men are the same" f outta here...
They ain't out the game, they're just on the bench rn until the captain gets a few fouls.
You know the characters that get offed in horror movies in the most obvious signs of danger.... She's that, and she'd even complain "like I saw the signs but why did I die though?".
A couple of years ago in school I had a teacher tell the class that if there is a friendship between a female and a male, and both of them are straight, there is, was, or will be feelings between them at some point. I was kind of bummed by this and wanted to find an example of where he was wrong so bad. I never did find an example by the way.
My sister and her best friend and along with 2 others are roommates. I’m sure there might’ve been feelings but what I’ve seen theyre the best of friends. :)
I’m sure they’ve been friends for even longer. But there has to be rough patches like this but I think setting some type of boundaries helps. But that’s my take lol. 😳
It's possible for there to be fleeting feelings maybe, but I wouldn't say that is an absolute rule. Otherwise, there must be a lot of girls that secretly like or liked me because I've never had friendships with women because I wanted to date them or something. It's normal among people that I know to have friends groups that include males and females, and the vibes aren't weird at all.
@@AudaciousBourgeois how old are you if you don't mind me asking?
@@SoulDelSol 23
@@AudaciousBourgeois i started to write novel and deleted it lol. Long story short I think it gets a little different as get older
i am a female who has a majority of male friends, but it mostly had to do with the environments i was in. i was in the military and in a field that had majority males, and i'm also a huge gamer. it's not that i don't mind having female friends ( ngl, sometimes i crave it ), but i'm pretty boring and really can only hold a long term conversation if it has something to do with gaming lol. i only have less than a handful of female friends, and only because they're also gamers or just know how to put up with me lol. so i just get along better with guys.
i try to make it known that i have zero interest in dating, or being fwb. still, somehow, some guys will think they're the exception. i used to play flirt, but when people started to take me seriously or get mad when i don't flirt back, i put a stop to that. this was my fault, and i shouldn't have ever even encouraged this. if the person is persistent in getting with me, i give them some space so that they can clear their heads. if the situation escalates, then i'm outta there.
but i also acknowledge that this may make it hard for my significant other when i eventually decide to enter a relationship. hopefully we'll all be in the same friend circle, but who knows and it's something we'll have to figure out when we get there. i hopefully wouldn't dismiss their concerns and we can talk and work things out.
This is honestly why you need to be clear with people about boundaries with your friends and with your partner. Respect his/her wishes. Also exactly why I’m totally deleting social media when I get into a serious relationship.
I think I'll do the same, too.
she knows whats she doing it. Its the attention and its rewards. Many woman use that to get things out of men. especially men they know want them. They will do anything to smash. Fix this for me, fix my car, lets go on a trip, get my dry cleaning, lets go for drinks. Bro she is using these men. And she knows what they want, so she teases them, and calls it friend “hangouts” boyfriend energy/attention without the boyfriend benefits. He needs to break up with right away. And leave her wondering, Then she will chase him. I can’t count how many times I have seen it, and experienced it with girls chasing when you don’t give them that attention, where they come chase cause its that “something they can’t have”.
Do you think these “friends of her” know she has a bf, I bet 20$ they dont. Cause simps would lose interest. She is using them, and loving the attention she gets from multiple men, and having a boyfriend she can go back home to. If I was that man I would break up with her asap. #SheisNotisGF. she for the streetszz
@@houseofhas9355 Yeah if she truly cares about this man, she wouldn’t have this friends especially when she admits that’s it’s not safe to be around them. The constant use I hear when it comes to girls with guys in their lives that they’re leading on is horrible. If you don’t want this guy now, leave him alone or make strict boundaries that nothing will happen. It’s so sad🤦🏽♀️
When girls do this they got options but I have personally seen it when the lady gets drunk and mess with the worst guy and all the other guys bail, than they cry.
had a friend of mine whos a girl tell me the other day. anything physical with a man isnt cheating if you still care for your boyfriend and she has mostly male friends. Then she went to say her ex boyfriend didnt like when she hung out with her male friends, but she didnt know why. The logic, like its obvious kkkkkm
A'ight. Time to leave the planet!🤕
Has she been dropped as a baby?.
she was lying, she knew. Its either she was clearly having sex or using these guys for anything, because simp would do it. Get me food, get my dry cleaning, take me to lunch, or let use your house for a get together, lets go on a trip. No bro its power and control. dont let her lead you to believe she didn’t know what she was doing. They all know. The attention from multiple men is hot and rewarding. If you don’t believe me ask if okay if her bf having female girlfriends. Think about it.
also you might have been one of those guys. were you attracted to her??
The same woman will probably castrate you if a female cashier smiles at you
Funnily enough, DHARMANN taught me that mostly a guy who "hangs out" with a girl who already has a bf is just waiting for that relationship to fall so that they could be the first to *POUNCE*
That thumbnail is a masterpiece considering the context.
Gotta love Olivia Munn back in the golden days of AOTS
Just went to check it. That’s a power move bro
Just because you reject someone doesn’t mean they don’t still like you feelings don’t go away like that lmao
unless you turn it into hatred by rejecting them strongly.
@@lampsenpai4325 then they wouldn't be friends...men dont work that way. We dont stay friends with people we HATE
@@ElderCreationist never said you would be friends. Was what I said wrong?
She knows this, she’s just keeping them around because she likes the attention. Very obvious what she’s doing and her boyfriend would dump her if he has any sense.
If a guy ever loved you, he will always love you (especially if he remains in your friend group)
One time she said "No, I have told him many times that nothing will ever happen between us." and then I said "You had to tell him many times?" She played dumb but she loved having these guys around because they fed her ego. It's a flag. The girls she did have in her life were all 5's and they would try to pick up the dudes who circled her. Some real animal kingdom shit.
@J.C. that’s irrelevant. The red flag is an individual that specifically avoids being friends with others of the same gender. The reason it’s a red flag is because it’s not normal. It usually indicates that someone acts the opposite of the gender they are ie. a man with all female friends is normally very feminine, on the other hand a female with a lot of male friends tends to be argumentative and masculine in certain ways. It also indicates the person may not be a secure adult, many times people seek constant attention from the opposite sex in order to fill a void within themselves
@@reeferrotrandy458 that and it helps to feel like you're on the Bachelorette and you have 20 guys to choose from if something goes wrong with guy #1.
”I know how it sounds”
But CANNOT COMPREHEND why it would bother him 😂
Some women just don't understand logic
She does not want friends or a boyfriend she wants a rolling roster. I was like preach had/have a lot of female friends, most of them especially the ones I have had for a long time are more like family friends, similar to my sister or my cousins, similar motivations to hanging out or being around them as I have with my male friends. No I did not just have female friends only, many male ones too. Seems a bit weird when they only have friends of the opposite sex and they know many of them wanted to smash, to the point where they do not feel safe being around them what? Seems like this girl does not want equal relationships, she wants people who obviously want something from her, so she can feel like she has some sort of control and has them on a string.
@J.C. so basically people that can be used?
@J.C. did you know it and stiml asked them to do those things?
“It’s when you plant a seed and wait for it to sprout.” Yeah there’s a couple kinds of seeds being/waiting to be planted in these situations…😆
[From the streets she came,
To the streets she needs to return!
*You can't save her, bruv!*
*She don't wanna be saved!*
_Bel Biv DeVoe!✌🏼💊]_
I don’t believe in close male-female friendships (between heterosexual people) and never have.
Here are all the caveats: couple friendship is not the same; group friendship is not the same; and anything from acquaintance, to colleague to friend you catch up twice a year is not the same. But. One on one, close, text every few days type of friendship? No way. I don’t believe it can be just platonic. It’s just not how people are wired.
Of course, we’re talking about human beings, so there’s bound to be exceptions. But 9 times out of 10, if you’re not the one with feelings, your friends is. I believe women who don’t believe this just either completely fail to understand the male way of thinking in this, or they subconsciously do, but enjoy the attention anyway so they pretend they aren’t aware.
"Woman understand women, and they hate each other's guts."
-Al Bundy
Thank you I can't deal with most women they are way too competitive.
So many of them secretly hate seeing each other happy. When a woman is in a happy relationship there's always a bitter female friend trying to downplay it or sabotage the relationship.
Thats not true, at all🙄
@@metta2432 Yes not to mention most men get treated better by women that female friends so they don't understand why women don't get along.
@@tiffanyferguson829 I don’t say I dislike hanging out with other women (it honestly depends on the personality at the end of the day)but I get your point. I was in a friend group of “stereotypical” girls one year and everyone secretly hated each-other. It was a mental chess match everyday.
They’re not her friends. She probably likes the attention she gets from them. And most likely is feeling insecure in her relationship, so she seeks outside attention just so her boyfriend can be jealous, and when he gets jealous, it validates his feelings for her (in her mind).
Is this common among women?
@@whattheheck7984 yes
I hate females like this ugh
She doesn’t even necessarily need to be feeling insecure in her relationship. Even if they’re happy in their relationship, some women just like the attention period.
As a woman I’m telling you, any girl who only has guy friends is trouble. If she’s saying “girls are just drama” or “i get along better with guys” chances are she’s the drama, and other woman are a threat to steal her spot light. These girls like male attention and validation and arnt actually interested in real relationships that arnt revolving around giving them attention. It’s the same as a straight guy saying he only hangs out with women cuz he’s not like other guys. They are not doing it for innocent reasons. I’m not saying it’s a red flag if she has some guy friends, but if only male friends and no women, red flag. It’s because she doesn’t want another woman to see through her and call her out, or start to get more attention. A lot of the time these girls might not want to date their guy friends, but they want their guy friends to want to date them.
Wanted to ask how does a guy having nothing but women friends a red flag i ask because I rarely see that unless thier gay so im just curious
This is false.
That's some game right there
@@justicethedoggo3648 just say gay
Sounds narcissistic.
I was in a relationship where my previous partner had female friends and I had male friends, but we never acted weird and we all always hung out and we were all friends. I trusted him and he trusted me. We had a good connection and he never came accusing me of anything and neither did I. However, people knew we were solid. From both sides. I let him hangout with his friends alone and I went out alone with friends. Nothing shady happened. I guess people need to mature up and involve their partner and lay boundaries with people so they know where you stand.
-Don’t keep people around who have feelings
-Have all your friends meet your partner and become friends
-Lay solid boundaries
-Listen to your partner if anything violates these boundaries. Don’t head to the gym with a Chad/Jessica without letting them know and hiding stuff
-Your partner must be on good terms and feeling safe around everyone and all activities involved whether y’all are present or not
-You must have a conversation and communicate things
-Do the inner work to not be seeking validation from other deep down and calling them friends
-If your partner starts the comparing game, they gotta go.
I mean I think it’s common sense but that level of security takes special people to do that.
Women that only have guy friends are a huge red flag for me, but what bothers me even more is when I watch a video about it and some absolute SIMP on UA-cam tells me to be comfortable with it and that I have to trust her. Men, please save yourself the headache and find a loyal woman who enjoys your company and doesn't disrespect you by going out with other men alone.
From a girls prospective, girls like that are huge problems. They’ll say they arnt friends with girls because of drama but in reality its due to being intimated and fearing they might steal the spotlight. They are always attention obsessed and will be weirdly possessive of their male friends. Its very clear the intentions in my opinion. If a woman can’t find one single other woman she gets along with it’s because she’s the problem.
Or she's into hobbies that mostly men are into so because they have common similarities in interest so they become friends and there's not a lot of women in that field or she's not around the women who are. It's not a red flag
@@Ja.abbatta_V you sir are a definition of a simp
Fucks you up more when there bisexual and has female friends
@@michaelhouston3450 whatever I'm not letting some individual who don't know shat about me tell me what kinda man I am. So okay whatever I'm a simp 🤷♂️
I understand that a girl might not relate to her gender and has had bad experiences with Women that might have made her wary of having friendships with Women, and having a couple of male friends is not wrong, but: You only have male friends, they have had feelings for you in the past, you are sometimes alone with them and you feel unsafe. That is just a bit crossing the line in my opinion. I know some people will say that the boyfriend should trust her and whatnot, but I totally get where he is coming from lol. It's like having competition in your own relationship and your partner just being so oblivious about it is really bothersome, honestly. They both really need to reevaluate the relationship, because those male friends are just waiting for her to slip or end it with him to do what they want to do.
Anyone that says "her bf should just trust her" is missing the point that regardless of trust, one has to avoid situations where you could cheat, even if the person putting themselves in the situation is 100% sure that he/she won't cheat. All it takes is one little problem for it to go under 100% and eventually happening.
That type of woman is a red flag. Every time I hear something like “I don’t like hanging out with girls something something they are bad” find better friends. Stop looking in the same place, because chances are, you are looking in the same place.
You don't have to say "in my opinion for this", that's like saying "Leaving a Ferrari parked in a poor area with the doors unlocked will more likely cause it to get stolen than keeping it unlocked in the suburbs, in my opinion"
The unsafe part is what gets me, it sounds more like its unsafe to be alone with them coz she also might be willing to smash them given the right situation. If you really dont feel "safe" around ppl you generally dont hang out or talk to them ever. Sure a couple of the guys prob are just friends and nothing more. But ffs this shits pretty common she knows what she is really doing, we know what she is really doing fuck even her boyfriend knows. Why the games ?!
@@riel0563 if someones feeling like they need a shaparone to feel safe around someone this isn’t even about cheating or trusting your partner anymore, they aren’t friends imo 😬
Naw she can't be serious. She can't be serious bruh 🤦♂️