If you grew up in a home where abuse was normalised and your caregivers were inconsistent and hostile/ abusive and sometimes loving- you sub- conscious will not be able to leave the relationship- As in your subconscious belief patterns are ruling your life. It take a lot of work to leave and to stop the cycle of being wtih toxic partners.
I have lived this for so many years in a situationship. When I first heard you explain this, I marveled at how accurate you were. The good that came from it was that it drove me to PDS! Thank you! Your courses have helped so much, but there's also much work yet to do.
You asked about the slides. I always listen while I'm working or driving so I don't even see them. I know they probably help some people, but it's the content that I appreciate so much.
Why can’t I let my fearful avoidant ex boyfriend go. He’s caused me more pain than anyone else ever has in the past. He’s ghosted me, blamed me being scared and leaving, then I reached out to him after no contact for 10 weeks. Then we had one great week and he broke up with me through a text message. I did not respond. I hope that makes a stronger statement than responsing. He’s broken up with me 3 times. Prior to this relationship I had been with secure attachment styles. This fearful avoidant ex is the first one that had broken up with me 3 times. I broke up with him once. He’s unaware of his attachment style. I’m open to any and all thoughts?
My “on and off again” makes me feel the most alive I have ever felt (until he doesn’t - #wallofrejection). I think feeling “alive” includes feeling special, important, a “favorite,” wanted and fun when I’m with him. I’m not sure how to help myself feel these things/meet my own needs in these particular ways. I can do things I think are fun, but that does not necessarily make me feel like a fun person. I can do special things for myself, but it doesn’t translate into feeling special. Meeting other needs seem more straightforward - like protecting myself more if protectiveness is an alluring trait in someone else. Can you make a video on how to meet these specific needs for ourselves (including “alive,” if possible)?
Thank you! I got it It’s her assertiveness IM LACKING and my loneliness I NEED TO FILL THIS VOID it’s her ambition I love ILL TURN MINE UP ON THOUSAND I understand now more clearly She does not reciprocate at all I need the energy I give back she takes leaving me EMPTY AND IT HURTS 😢then the hot and cold drives me insane I got it! Stay CLEAR PUT MY LONGING INTO ME 🎉
I make great money my children are awesome and thriving! I just don't want to be alone I want to be Happily Married 😢. I want a Husband to love and provide for me choose ME😢
Is it a toxic relationship when your wife is unable to communicate and that bottles up emotions and issues which then leads to needs being unmet and constant falling out, or does that relate to an issue of learning and changing and bettering oneself if so, should be patient
shes unable to emotionally communicate, be present, and express emotional vulnerability. shes learned to avoid and isolate as a subconscious defensive mechinism.
Please share in the comments if you are experiencing this or have experienced this in the past ❤
I never have these problems with my dog. Woof !
You can trust your dog with your life but not your lunch. That's completely off-topic 😂
If you grew up in a home where abuse was normalised and your caregivers were inconsistent and hostile/ abusive and sometimes loving- you sub- conscious will not be able to leave the relationship- As in your subconscious belief patterns are ruling your life. It take a lot of work to leave and to stop the cycle of being wtih toxic partners.
I have lived this for so many years in a situationship. When I first heard you explain this, I marveled at how accurate you were. The good that came from it was that it drove me to PDS! Thank you! Your courses have helped so much, but there's also much work yet to do.
Keep up the good work :)
Happy you are with us ❤
You asked about the slides. I always listen while I'm working or driving so I don't even see them. I know they probably help some people, but it's the content that I appreciate so much.
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Thanks for your videos they’ve helped me more through my own healing.
Great to hear it Dave ❤
Why can’t I let my fearful avoidant ex boyfriend go. He’s caused me more pain than anyone else ever has in the past. He’s ghosted me, blamed me being scared and leaving, then I reached out to him after no contact for 10 weeks. Then we had one great week and he broke up with me through a text message. I did not respond. I hope that makes a stronger statement than responsing. He’s broken up with me 3 times. Prior to this relationship I had been with secure attachment styles. This fearful avoidant ex is the first one that had broken up with me 3 times. I broke up with him once. He’s unaware of his attachment style. I’m open to any and all thoughts?
A lot of times it's not that the person is even being protected
Thais, is it possible to do the work on the wound from abandonment but there always be a scar that keeps me a bit afraid of it?
My “on and off again” makes me feel the most alive I have ever felt (until he doesn’t - #wallofrejection). I think feeling “alive” includes feeling special, important, a “favorite,” wanted and fun when I’m with him. I’m not sure how to help myself feel these things/meet my own needs in these particular ways. I can do things I think are fun, but that does not necessarily make me feel like a fun person. I can do special things for myself, but it doesn’t translate into feeling special. Meeting other needs seem more straightforward - like protecting myself more if protectiveness is an alluring trait in someone else. Can you make a video on how to meet these specific needs for ourselves (including “alive,” if possible)?
I think a lot of people believe that having someone no matter how toxic they are is better than being alone.
Thank you! I got it
It’s her assertiveness IM LACKING and my loneliness I NEED TO FILL THIS VOID it’s her ambition I love ILL TURN MINE UP ON THOUSAND I understand now more clearly She does not reciprocate at all
I need the energy I give back she takes leaving me EMPTY AND IT HURTS 😢then the hot and cold drives me insane
I got it! Stay CLEAR PUT MY LONGING INTO ME 🎉
i needed this so badly, you have no idea. thank you so so much, thais
I am sooo grateful for this video. And yes, please do more of.
I can so relate to this
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Great explanation.
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Love the slides! Thank you
You're welcome ❤
❤ so helpful!
I make great money my children are awesome and thriving! I just don't want to be alone I want to be Happily Married 😢. I want a Husband to love and provide for me choose ME😢
Is it a toxic relationship when your wife is unable to communicate and that bottles up emotions and issues which then leads to needs being unmet and constant falling out, or does that relate to an issue of learning and changing and bettering oneself if so, should be patient
shes unable to emotionally communicate, be present, and express emotional vulnerability. shes learned to avoid and isolate as a subconscious defensive mechinism.
Can you please stop the vocal fry? It’s unbearable. Speak with your voice all the way through your words.
Whyyyyy do I feel like I need her! She FA and selfish and mean and I’m drawn to her 😂😢 I’m definitely ANXIOUS AVOIDANT