Escaping the Pain of Human Trafficking | Markie Dell | TEDxDownsviewWomen
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- Опубліковано 4 лют 2019
- Markie Dell, human trafficking survivor, recounts her experience and her journey healing through the trauma. After trying to reclaim her life, it was the unusual advice from a friend that lead to her healing. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
“I had to forgive a person who wasn’t even sorry”
Meghan Fay good for you!
How did u do it?
B4L with patience.
Meghan Fay
I know what that’s like and sometimes they act like they don’t need your forgiveness because they claim they did nothing wrong...
But I’ve learned that forgiveness is for me. God doesn’t need the other parties involved to cooperate for Him to heal my brokenness. He just needs me to do my part of choosing to accept His gift of forgiveness to extend to those who’ve hurt me and then He will do the rest. If those involved choose to genuinely repent and make things right later on (as I pray they will), then praise the Lord! God is a God of relationships and restoration but God {who IS LOVE} doesn’t force anyone...
I’ve also learned that forgiveness is a process because the enemy wants us to be bitter and live in the past because he has that problem and he has no peace so he seeks to steal our peace... Satan does this by constantly bringing “the truth” of bad memories and choices made to steal our peace and joy. An important way to fight this arrow or dart is to keep surrendering these poisonous memories to God and each time I do that, the pain decreases until at last it’s gone! [shield of faith]
Then the only reason I bring up the past is to share a valuable lesson or encourage someone going through a similar struggle so they’ll be strengthened to hang on a little longer!
P.S. “Forgiveness doesn’t always mean or require complete trust again. Sometimes you need healthy boundaries and consequences in place.”
Reminds me of Kesha’s song praying. “I hope you find your peace, falling on your knees, praying”
The fact that her ‘friend’ - a woman nonetheless - was involved in this horrific story makes it 10x worse.
It happens all the time now with ladies trying to recruit for their pimps. Those girls are beautiful , have nice cars and clothes. You always have to question everything.
Great advice from the both of you - it is a truly sickening world that we are living in. Stay alert & stay safe.
Hollie Wright I also think the same when a woman touches kids, there is something oddly worse about it, maybe it’s the motherly instinct thing but you just don’t expect it in a woman
My mum taught me from young women will lure u and pass u to the men,
I teach my child be aware of everyone, women, men, kids and even teachers too!
I dont trust a soul
The woman that did that to her more and likely had it done to her I'm not saying it's right tho that's why u never juge a book by its cover I no what it's like because i can relate to every word she is saying
It's sad to see people doubting her story.. I mean. No wonder victims always worry about telling their truth.
Grow up people, seriously.
Luís Filipe 💯🙏🏾
Her story is SOOO full of holes its obscene!
Micah Kelly true, there’s always more but what made you say that? What parts
Micah Kelly shutup
Micah Kelly what holes?
“I want you all to think of a teenager you know, who’s shy, awkward, insecure; has a hard time making friends”
*thinks of myself*
Nathan Gurdoski i can relate
stay safe and alert and be true to yourself
Be safe out there
Nathan Gurdoski me too, i feel so alone now that i’m in college because i have no friends and i’m always so quiet so ppl think i’m weird i guess
@@hisneknvd Just be yourself and you'll make friends.
I run a shelter and hearing that the volunteer did that truly disgust me!!!
I don't think men should work inside of any shelters for women. A continuous conflict of interest in my opinion
@@seetycode trueee
Monsters are everywhere.
@@seetycode Agreed
@@darinaangelova2882 True and they purposely seek out professions like that to target victims, It's Sick!!!!!
I’m so thankful for all those times my parents made me tell them exactly 1) what friend’s party I was going to 2) what their address was and 3) if their parents would be there. My dad always insisted on picking me up (if not also on dropping me off), I wasn’t allowed to stay the night, and getting plastered was not acceptable in my house (even though I still did it and then had to try to sober up quick before getting picked up). So so thankful that they were “mean” “annoying” and “intrusive” while I lived with them because I was too young to know better and needed my parents to make the judgment calls that kept me safe.
If a pimp truly wanted you, he could have tricked you into it.
This made me tear up a bit because my parents do that all the time. I couple days ago my friend invited me to hang out with her and a bunch of my other friends. She lived in a area that my parents don’t like that much. My mom was on the verge of letting me go and was trying to convince my dad but he told me no. He wanted to meet my friends first and what not. I told him he can meet them when he drops me off, but he said with time, not right there and then. I thought that was unfair, considering that we use to live in that area and my friends are genuinely good. My parents and even my older brother are strict like this. Of course I know they have good intentions, but this comment made me realize even more because this is exactly what they do.
Bro when you're chewing gum and putting perfume on you and drinking water to sober up as quick as possible. Then your parents pick you up and you have to concentrate on walking like a sober person.😂😂😂👐🏼 Those were the days🤣😭
This is why two parent engaged parents are important. The world is dangerous and getting more dangerous everyday.
@@mOnika-pt6vk That's what parents and legal tutors are for: be your safe haven and guidance. Adults can see everything from a different perspective. Yes, a pimp can trick you, but your parents need to do whatever it takes to find you, even if they never do but end up saving a lot of girls in the meantime.
I burst into tears when she said she married that friend who helped her. It made me happy to know she has peace in her heart and that someone loves her unconditionally.
Yes happy tears 4 her!
Yea i did too that takes alot to trust someone again even though he was there through it all her "friend" mislead and did all that to her what makes her think he couldnt too.... So yea it takes alot to trust again and congratulations!
Notice how the first time she actively touched the engangement ring and twisted it was when she talked of the friend/husband sitting on the couch with her - kind of gave me a hint. She's so awesome!
Oh my God...
This is horrifying ....I’m so profoundly relieved that she escaped this.
Many of such girls are yet to escape!
She didn’t escape anything she’s a liar
Charlotte Garrett nah, she’s a liar
-- As someone who’s *actually* been abused its extremely obvious to sense a liar
-- For one, her story is identical to a reddit post that was posted long before this came out. Think it was deleted but I remember reading it. Exact, same thing. Second, she got into a club and had drinks...and she was in school with this girl. The club just let them in? I doubt she was 18. Just her mannerisms, someone who’s been through this wouldn’t act like this in general.
she is so beautiful and told that story with a smile, that’s strength. 🦋
a fake smile is a shield. you are just as strong with a straight face.
yeah & like I don't think praising someone's strength when it comes to things like this is always a good thing. it's completely normal to be absolutely shattered by something like this & not everyone is as lucky to make it out. for some people, healing takes decades or never happens completely & those victims are no less valuable or valid.
She’s plastic. Entirely fake and also a liar
Svetlana Volkova Are you being trafficked?
Svetlana Volkova ???
You can tell that telling this story hurts.
Her story is fake
Michelle Schön it is fake, and the only reason it’s an “issue” is because idiots put themselves in a bad situation in the first place.
Svetlana Volkova you honestly HAVE to comment on every comment? Get a life
Svetlana Volkova What a hateful, sad person you are. Shame on you.
@@mephistopheleslair8466 are you one of her traffickers you demonic weirdo?
My girl looked right at the camera "to my traffickers..." My girl you're strength!
@JustinBieber aw man. What a cool person to try to troll a human trafficking video.
I'm praying for your emotional Healing. You are worth more that that♥️💛
I really appreciated that part it showed she has empathy for these ppl and that maybe they're not just monsters for the sake of it that something must have led them that way but that they also have the chance or the power to change it and find peace like herself
the fact that one of the volunteers at the safe house offered her money, wow! I hope that person isn't there anymore.
does not surprise me
@Orlandope Dealer its horrible anyway because he is taling advantatge of somebody completely harmed and om drugs who would likely acept bcs she reached the bottom top. He was suposed to help to heal her not to create more trauma
@Orlandope Dealer yo you have issues. someone on drugs is not making smart choices.
Sadly, its not unusual :( they see a broken person and they a chanse to use them.
Seriously I gasped! Right when she said someone kept paying attention to her …
men like her husband are those who give me faith in humanity
AMEN
マリぴ Don’t. It’s like finding gold. A needle in a haystack.
Jk. Not really
@Be Frank WTF is wrong with you? This woman was a victim of human trafficking. How does it feel to be such a scumbag?
Be Frank bruh she was a victim end of story. Your Judgements do not Define her life, his life, and his parents. He’s a grown man he makes his own life decisions. And yes I would be happy for my son to be with a brave women that’s seen the horrible side of society that most ppl don’t see and found a way to fix herself and find a way to help others in her path.
@Be Frank god you are so insecure of strong women.
I wonder how on earth she manages to forgive all those people who abused her. That's something really hard to do. She must have amazing strength of mind and heart. Hats off to you, Markie!!
Jahnavee Palsodkar because forgiving them allowing you to have the power it may not make sense but it’s a very powerful tool of forgiveness
With God, forgiveness, anything is possible. U won't believe forgiving what horrible things horrible ppl did to u & then having the heart to be able to forgive w/ God's love in your heart, I've been there.
Most people scoff at forgiving others... without realizing forgiveness is not about other people. Forgiveness is for yourself. It’s letting go and releasing toxic energy that’s been burdening you. This lovely young lady described it perfectly when she described the amount of weight lifted from her. Forgiveness is about taking back your power. When you hold unforgiveness in your heart, you’re allowing those people who wronged you to still hold power over you. With forgiveness, you are set free. It is entirely 100% for YOU, no one else.
@@isabelcruz1825 Can you explain why forgiving them was so important here? I feel like I'm missing the big picture
She didn’t because she’s a liar
When she was talking about the friend who challenged her, she touched her wedding ring awe
That's powerful
7:24
Unfortunately they broke up and are now divorced… he’s a genuinely a good guy… I was so sad when I found out they split. 😞
"He married me 4 days ago....."
Tears! So happy she found that peace and found someone who, instead of feeling some way about what had happened to her....challenged her to forgive.
Man.....good words.
Unfortunately they broke up and are now divorced… he’s a genuinely a good guy… I was so sad when I found out they split. 😞
Forgiving herself was the important part, though she is innocent. As for forgiving the bad people, you do that when revenge is not an option and you don't want anger eating you alive.
Aaron Solt revenge never should be an option though
@@uoluvr maybe. instant karma would be a better solution
Liv revenge is always an option
it can take a long time to "forgive" and some people never get to that point & it's okay
She’s a liar
Oof when she looked into the camera and spoke directly to traffickers...THANK YOU FOR SHARING YOUR STORY
8:46
Love it! 💕💕
“you know i hit rock bottom when i gave forgiveness a chance” ❤️
I was trafficked as a very young child (4-11) by my own father. That is why I started my own UA-cam channel of my life. I have been through so very much more and I want to inspire others to never give up or give in.
Her story is both frightening and yet deeply educational. And to think this happens the world over.. and not all stories will have this happy ending...
This isn’t her story it’s fake
Its a well written Tale 👍
AnnaWeewee Austin don’t need proof to spot a liar
And have you seen Anneke Lucas story? Incredible survival
@Noxious Lair- you seem so obsessed with negativity. Are you a trafficker?
This topic is super underrated.
no it is not.
@@muffinmoon6258 do you even know what that means lol
@@kauigirl808 do i even know what underrated means? I do.
@@muffinmoon6258 well 279 people agreed.
If you do not then explain.
Human trafficking deserves WAY more attention. PLEASE do some research.
EXACTLY 👏👏 sister can you believe their was a Senator (i cant remember where) this dumbness said "I didnt think human trafficking happened in my safe state" I was pissed.
He said that on purpose.
To downplay the problem 😑
That is crazy I'm from Hamilton Ontario and to hear this type of this happening in your own backyard is sobering to say the least
Hamilton has the highest rate of prostitution in all of Ontario, unfortunately.
Mystical Kumquat yeh that doesn’t surprise me...
It’s worldwide.
Emma I hear Hamilton is one of the worst spots. Im in Windsor, and Windsor is becoming just like Detroit.
Is Hamilton near Toronto?
What about the real story how you got to Toronto
It seems like a far stretch that you went to a birthday party and everything fell off the rails
She is such a strong woman, the fact that she could learn and heal from all of this is so amazing. I'm so happy that everything turned around for her.
This is absolutely terrifying. I couldn’t imagine going through what this woman experienced. Sending all my love to her!
I know :/
Hi, I agree. I recently saw a Anneke Lucas story. That is even worse. Because she was just a child.
This topic is very underrated and the perpetrators know people like those in comment section wouldn't be able to believe such horror. That's what they rely on.
She-Ra Princess of Power you don’t know that. You don’t know her.
This She-Ra person must be a trafficker
A guy I thought I knew got arrested this year for trafficking girls in this same way. I never thought I’d meet someone in that lifestyle but traffickers and trafficking victims really are right up under your nose, hiding in plain sight. I still don’t know if he was trying to groom me or not
Girl I'm glad you're safe!!!!
Calista Love ofcourse he was trying
Ditto
I someone comment about how her skin is “orange” your basically just making a mockery of her situation ,that just disgust me 🤢
Yeah shows some people's priorities after hearing such a powerful story.
The fact that even the “safe house” wasn’t safe is so disheartening.
A safehouse is not a safe place for anyone .. people who go there are involved one way or another in cases that involves different things that break the law and morals....
this is the most underrated ted talk....
Where was her family that they threatened to harm that first year she was missing? I don’t understand how she was kept so long undetected.
Where was the missing person report? Where's her imagine being plastered all over tv's and billboards?
Catapillargirl 20 having traumatic events after traumatic events over a period of time during your lifetime causes complex PTSD.. It is not easy to become aware of what is fully going on and your are conditioned to believe that ratting is the worst thing possible and you get threaded that your family will be killed. It’s sad but true. This happened to me. I am a survivor too.
Lucero Ohhh I completely understand that. I was questioning why her family was seemingly not looking for her. Not the other way around.
Milk Marri what an uneducated, jealous thing to say. Girl, go read a book 😒
It happened to my friend and her father is a police officer... This is way more complex than you think. These girls fall in love with their pimp and stay there, or they move all over the country.
I wish you many years of peace and happiness. No one should endure this amount of abuse. Sharing your story takes courage. I know it will help many lives through out history.
I wish I was there to protect you
Praise the Lord God sent her a real man that loved her for her and challenged her to forgive and rise above the pain!
A real SIMP.
Unfortunately they broke up and are now divorced… he’s a genuinely a good guy… I was so sad when I found out they split. 😞
This is absolutely terrifying. I wish that our politicians would talk about stuff like this but, anything concerning women and children in danger usually doesn’t make it to the big events or even their twitter accounts. As a young girl it makes me sick to my stomach to know that this could happen to me, my sisters, cousins, future children, etc.
@M D exactly, I came to say this. They are the main ones trafficking men, women and children.
It’s because politicians are in on it. The Clintons on Ebsteins island on multiple occasions is one example. High political men preying on young girls on this island
Luv the politicians are the ones doing the trafficking
Well don't listen to someone who threatens you, they're just using intimidation in a manipulative way
She is so brave, I am so happy she married that friend who helped her out. I wish nothing but the best for her :)
Unfortunately they have broken up and divorced… 😞
Omg when she said “that friend... he married me four days ago!” I lost it awwww 🥺🥰🥰💜🦋
Unfortunately they broke up and are now divorced… he’s a genuinely a good guy… I was so sad when I found out they split. 😞
Her: oh and the man that challenged me, I married him 4 days ago
Me: PERIODDDDDDDD
7:24 you can see her touch her wedding ring when she talks about a friend who challenged her
Ahaha me too😂
Unfortunately they broke up and are now divorced… he’s a genuinely a good guy… I was so sad when I found out they split. 😞
Bet those two dislikes are two human traffickers
Now 14.
33 pimps ;)
Or the intimidating mans
84 now
I imagine it’s people that are upset by what happened to her and don’t want to “like” it because it feels like saying it’s a good thing
She's an extremely brave & amazing person.
Annnnd... *That* *highlight* *though* what a QUEEN!😍😍
And those boots 😍
@@naomi-gu1gh yessssss!!
what's a "highlight"? - clueless.
@@snap-off5383 its a type of makeup - makes your face have a shine on certain parts 😊
@@naomi-gu1gh oh so she just has it all over her face
I admire her strength and the power to forgive. Can't imagine how difficult must have been but seeing her happy and with inner peace is all that matters now.
There's so many things wrong in the world that we live... when will we change?
As a single parent l was watchful where my daughters friends were after my divorced l was there for my girls and l thank God that he give me wisdom to not to trust no one l am sorry this happened to this beautiful human being thank you for sharing your life story what happened to you God bless you and your family
I nearly cried when she said "You know that friend..." since I had a feeling about where that was going to go, and I'm so happy for her.
Something alarming is that human-trafficking romance is now a thing. I wish I was kidding. EL James, wrier of Fifty Shades, has a new book about how romantic it is to have a man be aroused by the nightmare-screams of a trafficking survivor that he can send back.
The point is bad, but at least it is educating people about trafficking. Does it recruit more sadists or educate more nice johns of the horrors they are inflicting.
Yuck! 😝
Um.... A book? Do you know how many topics are covered in books- every topic ever.
Markie - you are such an eloquent speaker, thank you for sharing your story. It was heartbreaking and uplifting - youre truly beautiful inside and out😊 Bless you on your journey, we are all a work in progress and your strength is inspiring to say the least 🙏
No she's fake
@@mickmo5242 why
So powerful I can’t even...when she said “I was just a body to please men “ ohh that hit my heart real hard such a brave strong woman!! Respect!!✊🏾😭❤️
Bless her. I hope she stays safe.
She was very strong and brave to give this speech on such a public platform
Wtf is wrong with people!
I know Christine. Such a cruel world that we live in. A lot of these crimes we are totally unaware of it even happening. These people are pure monsters for the things they put girls/women/boys/men through.
Everything Christine, everything x
Teach this to your daughter
So damn cold and vicious😔😔😔
It's all about that money honey! That's all ppl see.
May you always have a shield of protection over you ❤️
aameen Ya Allah
bi Rehmatika Ya Ar-Rahman Ya Ar-Raheem Ya Al-Kareem Ya Al-Wahhab Ya Al-Mujeeb Ya Al-Ghani Ya Al-Aziz
I have to forgive people who aren’t even the least bit sorry & though it’s heartbreaking, I’m trying my hardest... Thanks for this video, it was something I really needed to hear💜.
This can happen to any young girl these days, we as adults need to sit down with our daughters and talk about human trafficking and to advise them that this CAN happen. An open lot be of communication is key.
The speech at the end was so sweet
I believe that everyone needs to hear this, Markie you are so inspiring and if I'm ever in a situation like this I will know what to do, I loved the ending, congrats you are beautiful inside and out, thank you for sharing your story.
Proves what my Father said, "... nothing is free". Thank you Jesus for parents who instill wisdom. May God deliver all those Woman/Girls who cry out to Jehovah. Everyone who calls upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.
This woman is so so inspiring. I’m going to make as many people on my college campus aware of the evils of human trafficking as possible.
Beautiful woman on the inside and out. She is so strong to be able to so eloquently and fluidly tell her story of horror.
She is absolutely beautiful and she took that 1000 while at the half way house
This video made me cry, tears of joy at the end.God bless you and the best that life can give you for the future.
Hits home way more when I hear her mention this happened in the area I live and work....so sad, I just want to hug her! :(
im beyond proud of her, and everyone else who has been through a situation like that, you’re not alone loves!!
What I need to know is HOW to forgive??? When you don’t feel these people deserve forgiveness or have earned it. HOW do you forgive??
Jessica M you deserve it- to forgive, doesn’t matter if they do.
Audra Braun thank you ❤️❤️❤️
I don't know how to forgive. Is it simply letting go of the anger and hurt? If so, how do you do that? I wish I could forgive myself and all those who have harmed me but I honestly don't know how.
thatonegamergirl 11 forgiveness is about accepting that you have emotions attached to wrongs people have done to you, but just telling yourself what’s done is done, the past only effects your future if you allow it to. And if you allow those hurts to stick with you now, then those people still have control over you, and they don’t deserve another minute of thought. To forgive is to shed weight you’ve been carrying. It’s not for them, it’s for you.
Audra Braun I really tried to sympathize and understand your perspective on forgiveness but I just can’t.. I wish to but I just can’t.
If someone did something to me in bad faith I would never forgive but try to forget... if that makes sense?
Absolute bravery and grace. Thank you for sharing with us and giving insight into how easily anyone can get trafficked. May love and peace follow you the rest of your days.
aameen Ya Allah
bi Rehmatika Ya Al-Haqq
My heart goes out to this as I am myself just getting out of the same situation ❤️thank you for being strong enough to endure the way most of us have as well I know how hard it is
Girl I’ve been there and it’s not easy. You are incredibly strong for coming forward and speaking.
Thank you for your story. I hope you are on a path to healing. Stories like these raise awareness.
Wow strong woman!! You've been through it and come out the other side and it is incredible. You are an inspiration to us all and I hope your story makes everyone more aware of human trafficking.
You are so brave and strong. I have been struggling for nearly a year after a traumatic experience. I am having a hard time forgiving two women who were in positions of power over me for two months. The psychological scars they left have really affected my life. I experience PTSD and intrusive memories from that time. Thank you for sharing this. It gives me hope that one day I will have inner peace. I know that my trauma doesn't define me, my strength does. It is truly amazing to hear about your journey, you have come out of something horrible as someone so wise, courageous and powerful. Keep sharing your story.
💕
Young ladies: Beware! After hearing this sisters ordeal, always be on your guard. Don't trust anyone you come across-male or female. There are people, even in cities like Ontario, who do not have your best interests in mind. Be warned and stay safe 💕
Especially female. Alot of traffickers rely on women trusting other women.
What a powerhouse of a woman!!!
Forgiveness is tough, which is what makes it so liberating!!
Wow, she's from my hometown. Kudos to her for being able to share this story, and be able to forgive after all of it.
Finally a TED talk by someone who has something profound and intense to share -- and wisely told. this is an incredible cautionary tale. my hat's off to her
What an amazing woman! She gave me chills and made me cry. I’m SO glad to see that she’s happy now ❤️🙏🏼
I don't think people understand the TRUE power of forgiveness..as I wipe away the tears from your heart wrenching story, I remember the pain, the drugs, the depression and the abuse I endured..I remember the pain of only asking God for one single thing, every single night..I asked God, if you love me, if you're merciful, let me die..through everything I could request, I only asked for that..I was too hurt to live another day..the days went on, and again and again and again I should have died..over and over and over..I was deliberately in situations so I *could* die..but I didn't..7yrs ago (on September 3rd) will be a very special day for me..that is the day my life changed forever..I cried out words I've never said in my entire life..I yelled out to God, bawling and snotty, "if You give me the peace that surpasses all understanding, I will live for You!" The next few moments I can't really describe..everything left me..pain I had carried for over 30yrs, was completely gone..I studied Behavioral Psychology in college..everything I knew made no sense in this situation..something changed in me, exactly like a switch being flipped..that started my journey..I immediately pushed everything aside (and I do mean everything) and started studying Theology specializing in Biblical Eschatology..this journey is comparative to nothing I've ever seen or heard..God showed me how to forgive, and I mean forgive everybody..and the second I really worked it out in my heart with my eyes as big as saucers, filled with tears, something else happened..I *literally* felt like 500lbs lifted off of me..the EXACT same thing she experienced..as much as I had been through, beaten and bloodied and left for dead, betrayed by everyone I cherished and loved, all of a sudden, it didn't matter anymore..the hate and anger and resentment, I was letting go..I had tried every drastic measure you could think of to unload this pain for decades..had done what professional after professional had told me to do, unsuccessful..but me ACTUALLY forgiving every single person, who had done and said despicable things to me, was what finally actually freed me..God gave me peace, and from that peace I let it all go..all of it..I'm fully aware that *they* will STILL be held accountable before God, but now I won't..the hate I carried for them, that made me murder them over and over in my heart, is gone..I had to forgive myself too, which was almost even harder..I wouldn't be alive now, if these events didn't happen..and while things will most certainly still pop up, I'm ready for them..I'm ready to deal with them head on..you will never understand the power of forgiveness unless you get really serious about it..people, love yourself enough to forgive..you have no idea what your life is missing until you do 💜💜💜 God bless
God bless you too. Your also a beautiful soul. Got to get ready for work though....only was going to watch like 5 mins while I drank coffee... 20 mins later ...commenting included
Lisa F aKa the Cassandra Effect F Thank You for sharing your story. This genuinely encouraged me a lot. God bless you. ❤️
I also want that peace that surpasses all understanding!
Isn't God so gracious and merciful! You are an incredible beautiful lady. May God continue to bless you and keep you always. ❤
I'm not exactly a believer but your story was very touching. Thanks for sharing it xx
My heart goes out to her, I could never imagine the pain and suffering she went through 😔
This made me cry because I worry so much about my daughters all the time that this could happen to them. Thank your for sharing your story!!
This is so real. It is a huge issue that gets ignored everyday. So thankful for her sharing this story ❤
Markie you're so darn strong, I'm so glad that your life is better now ❤️❤️
These shows about this literally made me face my abusers , I mean that, thankyou girls, you and all the girls AND BOYS who shared these stories 🙏❤️🙏 thankyou
Wow. What a beautiful human. Her strength is so admirable. So happy she found forgiveness & created a beautiful life.
Such a painful story. I have so much respect for how honest you are both in what happened and your thoughts at the time.
All choked up. Powerful testimony about forgiveness and how it will set one free. Bless you and God be with you.
I’m so inspired by her. I’m grateful she chose to share her story.
4:38 seconds into the video and I couldn't help but cry. Her experience sounds so terrifying and twisted. It's so sad people go through this on a daily basis. We have to be the ones to change this.
"I want you all to think of a teenager you know, who's shy, awkward, insecure; has a hard time making friends"
*hey, that's me.*
It’s sick how some people sit here doubting her story. You must be dead inside to hear someone speak about their suffering and begin to judge and doubt them. My heart goes out to you people, someone must have hurt you bad to be so cold and cynical. May you find some compassion in your hearts.
Thank you beautiful human for sharing your story and being vulnerable in front of the whole world! We need more of that
Mind blowing how she managed to forgive her abusers. That is a whole other level of inner peace that needed to be achieved
These women are so strong to come out to talk about what they have been through. Thanks again.
This talk made me cry , I’m so happy for her she had the strength to change her whole life around
This woman is so smart and graceful. It breaks my heart what happened to her, but I am so happy she is able to teach and educate others by talking about her story and very happy to see she found someone as well.
Unfortunately they broke up and are now divorced… he’s a genuinely a good guy… I was so sad when I found out they split. 😞
I’m thankful for my very brown overprotective parents...not so much then...but SOOO much now
Don't think that because your parents are brown, that it won't happen to you. It happens to ANYONE.
Same here. Mine let me go out but they equipped me with so much knowledge and street savvy that I was literally prepared for anything. This was even in the days before having my own mobile. I'm a grown woman in my late 30s and even today I still use their tips.
@M D yay, fragile white person.
@@idontevenhaveapla7224 If someone threatens your family, it is not your fight to prevent them from getting involved. It has then become your entire family vs this one person. Your family is on your side and will fight for you. "Go ahead and go try to kill my family" would be the appropriate response.
@@idontevenhaveapla7224 coming from someone who was a teen runaway/homeless for almost a year, the best advice is:
Trust no one. Ever.
Listen when something about someone makes your parents nervous.
Don't go to unfamiliar places, especially with unfamiliar faces.
Never accept drinks from anyone. Don't do drugs, they love to get teens hooked to incapacitate them. Besides, they may not be truthful about what they give you.
*Trust your instincts.* If it feels wrong, it probably is.
Never let anyone intimidate you or bully you into something you're not comfortable with. Only you control you, if they think otherwise they'll keep trying.
It's better to risk being unpopular than to risk your life. Think about what you might really be giving up.
Talk to your parents every day, and even when you're pissed at each other tell them you love them. Good luck kid, be smart and you'll be ok.
This one of the most emotional Ted-Talks for me and this just breaks my heart and I'm very happy she has the strength to share this.
7:37 tears running down my face.. 7:43 more tears.. 8:25 face full of tears...
You are wonderful and the strongest person I have ever seen!
The fact that she can tell tell her story without breaking down is absolutely unbelievable 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
She’s such a brave and strong and courageous woman, I’m so happy that she didn’t let these horrible events destroy her life, what an inspiration ❤️
I strongly agree & very inspiring.
What a strong person! To stand up and publicly share a story like this takes so much courage and I’m so pleased that she has shared this and had a happy ending!👏👏👏
Unfortunately they broke up and are now divorced… he’s a genuinely a good guy… I was so sad when I found out they split. 😞
Very impressed at her strength . Beautiful inside and out . But mostly the peace inside is even more beautiful than the outside . Inspirational !
You’re an amazing person ♥️ please never stop sharing your hope and light.
Beautiful woman inside and out, thank you for this empowering story, forgiveness is indeed to key to complete inner peace.
Amazing story - thank you for the strength to survive, heal and tell your story! How wonderful you're married to that wonderful man! May you continue growing in love and strength.
I really needed this.. I was in a toxic relationship for a year. I left finally and as of now I’m sad but feel a sense of relief. I want to forgive but I’m still learning how to.
You are a powerful and beautiful person with an amazing message. Thank you for sharing it publicly.
You're a very eloquent speaker. Your story will help others. Thank you-
I am so sorry to hear what happened to you. But, I am amazed by your recovery. Thank you for your candor. GOD Bless You.
This was very deep and powerful. You are a beautiful, strong young woman, and I am happy that you were able to overcome those horrible times. Bless you and your husband, and I hope that you live a wonderful rest of your life :)
Unfortunately they broke up and are now divorced… he’s a genuinely a good guy… I was so sad when I found out they split. 😞