Why Pronouns Matter For Trans People
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- Опубліковано 15 бер 2015
- A person’s gender is always valid. Even if you don’t understand.
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+Emma w omg troye is ur picture i love this
+Emma w Lol she reminds me of Edna Mode from the Incredibles :)
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Some people are still learning the difference between "sex" and "gender". This is way over their heads.
By definition, they are exact synonyms. Gender was invented to avoid taboo when referring to children as "sexes". What difference do you believe they have?
Gender is what you identify as/what you feel like, wheras sex is just your body. For example, a biological male may identify as a female, making her sex make, but her gender female.
Minus Anti They are used as synonyms by people who don't know the difference. 'Sex' is whether your born with male or female parts. 'Gender' can be chosen by the person based on how masculine or feminine he/she/they feel(s).
Lano Stone It's not my definition of 'gender'; it's *the* definition. It's called 'gender identity', not 'sex identity', for a reason.
***** gender is an illusion made up by those who dont like the sex that they have that exists. Gender isnt real. Get over it
Note to self, avoid the comment section on videos about gender
Same. It's cancer ):
Agreed. There's always the danger that someone might disagree with you.
yupp, never scrolling down on those again
Diana Henne same
Diana Henne idk if this is a transphobic or nice comment
The Finnish language is rather unique, there is only one pronoun "hän" for both... sorry for ALL genders.
+Varga István My friend's Hungarian and she told me that and I thought it was so cool!
That is the best thing I have ever heard. Okay, not really, but it's up there!
thats so cool
Kazakh language as well.
Suomeksi voi puhua vaikka kuinka kauan ihmisestä ilman, että sukupuoli käy ilmi ja musta se on siistiä
So you can use "they" when referring to only one person?
***** Yes ma'am.
Or you know just call them as you see them intill they correct you that's the way i'd do it.
Skittles Poppanda But that's really rude. I, for one, Identify as a man but my gender expression is feminine. Some people like me might be too scared to correct you and then feel like shit when you misgender them. I feel like crap whenever I'm called "she" or something but "they" doesn't bother me.
Flying FryingPan but I feel like if it really makes them feel bad then they should speak up. Nowadays they're way too many genders even some I haven't heard of I don't think it's fair for me to play mind reader. It's the same as sexuality to me, when people ask if I like girls or guys I say "I don't care" they ask if I'm bi and you know what I say "no, I am pansexual"and then inform them what it is. People need to learn to just correct people. If the person keeps misgendering you then that's rude. But if you first meet a person it just a misunderstanding and should not be taken personal.
Them or they
As a bilingual speaker, I have always wondered why there are girl and boy pronouns in English. In chinese, we just use one pronoun for all genders.
+lok-yui chan Same here. In my language we call everyone the word 'ta'.
+lok-yui chan It seems that there are a number of languages that use gender neutral pronouns. The best we have in English is _they_. It would be fascinating if someone researched the development of pronouns.
+lok-yui chan True in speaking but theres still the writing. :/
But in Mandarin "tā" is written different when it's a male or a female
Try Japanese. There's like 30.
I sexually Identify as a colt six round revolver, caliber .357, and my pronouns are "Dean", "Sam", "Winchester", "DIO" (all caps), "Killer Queen" and the word "trigger" triggers me.
PULL THE DAME TRIGGER!!!!
OOH TAKE ME HIGGHER, ALL THE WAY TO TOP!!!
DOWN TILL THE WIRE , THE FIGHTING ONLY BEGAN!
Canal GXZ then shoot me
t....trigger :v
My gender is "BITES THE DUST" (Another/One pronouns) and my trigger is being called "Yoshikage Kira"
Canal GXZ i sexually identify as john moses browning...wanna hang out?
I don't understand how you can feel like neither a man or a woman,but it doesn't mean i can't respect it. You don't have to agree with what they say,but just be a decent human being.
THANK YOU
Same
I will never understand that. But I will respect it unless they tell me to "put ur pronouns in ur bio." Cuz no, I am not doing that.
@@Dream_Sweet_In_Sea_Major People who put pronouns in bio are losers
@@Dream_Sweet_In_Sea_Major hey I need advice. There is a game called dead by daylight and they are removing a new character. So the character looked trans and I told in Twitter. It can be a trans character this time and two people said that it was rude and use they instead of it but does they can be trans make sense? I don’t want to be rude just curious
I mean people can't really use the wrong pronouns on me because I'm okay with any pronoun. Like, you call me he? Cool. You call me she? Cool. You call me they? Cool. I feel like they all identify me, if that makes any sense.
+Rose Lewis Same. Even though I have XY chromosomes, I get misgendered a lot in public because I look sort of androgynous with long hair. Doesn't bother me at all. Call me a she. Sure. Call me a he. Fine. My mom actually corrects the people all the time if I'm eating lunch or something with her. If I was alone I wouldn't even have bothered. I actually like being androgynous and get validation when people misgender me because it means that I can pull off either being a male or female. It's kind of fun actually. Some days I like looking beautiful. Sometimes I like looking handsome. Like you I feel like a mix of everything despite my chromosomes being male. It's quite awesome if I do say so myself :)
Words mean things. If words lose meaning, we can't communicate. Then we all become morons.
if u feel like u need a label look up genderfluid bc to me it sounds like ur genderfluid :D
+Illuminature or perhaps trigender, when one feels like a combination of three genders either simultaneously or at varying times.
Gwen Randall I actually am genderfluid, it's just that no matter what gender (or lack thereof) I feel like, pronouns just aren't a big deal to me.
*Simple psychology:*
Sex- defined by the genitalia and the chromosomes.
Gender- defined by what the individual identifies with.
Sex is biologically set in stone by chromosomes but is physically (and legally) subject to change by sex reassignment surgery.
Gender is whatever the hell the person feels deep down in their heart.
*Not-so-simple psychology:*
Gender is not black and white. It can be grey, too.
Some males like to dress as women, but that's it. Some males like to dress as women and like to go by "she," but leave it at that. Some males like to dress as women, like to go by "she", and are taking hormones to look more feminine, but leave it at that. Some males like to dress as women, like to go by "she," are taking hormones, and are going through the process of getting the surgery. Some males have gone through the surgery and just ARE women.
Some females like to dress as men, but that's it. Some females like to dress as men and like to go by "he," but leave it at that. Some females like to dress as men, like to go by "he," and are taking hormones to look more masculine, but leave it at that. Some females like to dress as men, like to go by "he," are taking hormones, and are going through the process of getting the surgery. Some females have gone through the surgery and just ARE men.
Some males and females dress as men on some days and women on other days, but that's it. Some males and females dress as men sometimes and women other times and prefer the corresponding pronoun or NO pronoun at all. This is called Gender Fluidity.
And what's even more seemingly complex about it all is that none of this has to do with whom they are attracted to. All of the above gender identity scenarios can be attracted to men, women, anything in between, all of the above, or nothing at all. It all depends on the individual.
*Moral of the story to take home is:* Never assume... but if you're forced to assume (because of work), be open-minded about it. If you're not sure, then just ask politely.
*Advice for the ambiguously gender'd folk:* Don't be offended when someone accidentally gets it wrong. They genuinely didn't know. Just let them know kindly who you are and leave it at that.
*P.S.* Saying "preferred" pronouns subconsciously gives people the impression that they have an option in which pronoun to use. If you want people to be consistent and less confused, do not use the word "preferred". Remain assertive and simply say, "I actually go by __, and I would feel better if you used that instead."
Actually the brain has a sex too, and it doesn't always match the genitals. So us trans people are biologically both sexes. Female brain + male genitals, or vice versa, etc.
AHHHHHHHHHHHHH I think you misread what I was saying.
***** Exactly. To say "the brain has a sex too" *literally*, is physically impossible. To take that phrase figuratively, then they've completely misunderstood what I said. "The brain has a sex too" as a *figure of speech* refers to what gender is. So to correct me with exactly what I said in the first place makes no sense.
There's also the fact that I've got a degree in psychology, so not only am I *not* talking out of my ass, but I'm specifically going by operational definitions and not laymen's terms.
***** I was talking about them... not you. Hence, the pronoun "they."
my language has genderless pronouns so i can use the same pronoun to define a man, a woman or a bird. yayy
Which language is it and can I borrow it?
Is it a Nordic language?
Souds like your language is very primitive.
F the pronouns. You are lucky someone is willing to address you.
What language is it?
0:21 I love their outfit it's like "casual steampunk"
I KNOW RIGHT?!
They should have a transgender person answers common questions video, the concept still puzzles me in some regards
I feel ya
Definitaley i am clueless and google dosnt explain it well
If they did that buzzfeed would lose a lot of subs
yolo derp you play minecraft your probaly like 12 or 13 you don't know what your talking about
If I could help. There's some transgendered youtubers who could help you understand. Although Gigi gorgeous is transgendered youtuber, I don't think she really discusses it as much as she could. My favorite, is princessjoules, as she's documented her entire journey, and has made multiple videos not only one the physical changes of a man to woman, but the emotional ones. Like being in public and having someone try to guess or figure you out, and even discussing her relationship with specific family members. What emotional struggles she faces with the surgeries. Pretty much she's shown the reality of being transgendered, I think to help them have a voice, and help younger people who are in a place she once was, see how she did it, so they can do it themselves.
I'm born a girl, happily one too, and I'm straight. But I still love watching her and other people like her because it opens my eyes to the type of people there are, and their struggles. Sometimes I feel like the LGBT community is such a strong one because they all know what rejection and what being "different" feels like.
My English teacher was talking about how we need another gender pronoun for when you don't know if the person you are addressing is male or female in cases of emailing people who have gender neutral names.
If you want to be safe, it's generally accepted to refer to someone as 'they' (which yes, exists in a singular form) until you can ask what their pronouns are.
Oh yes please. No more figuring a way out, how you can adress someone if you only know their last name, or don't know their name at all. Makes writing a letter a lot easier.
Horse Lurver Cool. We also need new pronouns for persons that identify themselves as animals that are coming from other planets
If your ever unsure of what gender a person has then its safe to say that person shoukd be put in a re education camp to deal with their mental illness.
maRk John
NOPE
god i miss the days when people used to call someone by saing yoo my dude
I would argue that dude is a gender neutral term
@@charlesascone4773 i agree
@@charlesascone4773 but that doesn't matter, all that matters is whether one person could possibly be offended.
@@josh_final Would you be that person?
@@josh_final and what soft piece of crap would feel offended by that XD
I will only refer to you as "Ze" if you refer to me as "oh mighty one".
MoviesForLife yes, oh might one.
*****
No, what? Why no? I think that's an amazing pronoun.
I will only refer to you as ''oh mighty one'' if you refer to me as ''toaster''
And I will only refer to you as "oh mighty one" if you refer to me as "the lizard of WISDOM"
MoviesForLife I
I identify as a toaster oven and using incorrect gender pronouns triggers me
bahahahahahhahahaha
oh no don't say that the toaster strudels will be confound.
tumblr is that you
+DylanEatsSouls No one cares if you are offended, gender neutral pronouns are a joke and have no biological basis.
+DylanEatsSouls this is the issue with the world no one recognizes or embraces my gender and the fact you don't believe me makes you racist
I'm myself androgynous but I'm from the culture where s/he word is gender neutral and equal to all. Why English language can't get one gender neutral s/he what everyone remembers and shows real equality?
I still don't get it why we need to ad more words into English what already is full of so many words. It would be fair to use one s/he term with everyone.
Finnish id pretty hard one. But please learn it if you can. It's pretty much gender neutral all the way.. At least when comes to major really important basic words.
To be fair, it's not just English that assigns gender to words. Ever tried Spanish? xD
I know it's other languages too.. But English is known somewhat everywhere so why we can't change it to be equal and not just special to everyone? I see it more unfair if everyone has a different word.
I still say that more neutrality is better.. And I know that most of the English is neutral but still one of the critical parts isn't equal and neutral - when it should be.
"We already have so many words, We shouldn't add more!"
pretty poor argument imo
This is why I love learning Japanese, you can have a full convo without ever using a pronoun.
I don't have a pronoun. I have a name. That is much more important. For the record, using a pronoun while the person is near, instead of their name. Is much more disrespectful.
Very late, but I always forget names so yea...
Mhm
0:12 "Buck Angel - filmmaker" well that's one way of putting it lmao
Oh god I didnt even notice........
In Tagalog, there's no he/she pronouns, it's just "siya".
that's so cute
+Whoop De Doo in malay too, we just use "dia"
gui That's really cool!
Aye I'm Philipino
Same in Finland, we have "hän" and it doesn't define gender.
I really hate the "if I want to be an inanimate object I can" argument against transgenders. Surprise, if you want to be a pony, you can never become a pony, mentally or physically. If you want to become the opposite gender you can. You are still a human being. You didn't change what you are, you changed who, as in a person, you are. Comparing genders to animals and objects is highly disrespectful, close-minded, and shows you really don't get it. These are people who know their truth, so trying to say they are wrong is ridiculous.
Actually I didn't change who I am, I changed what I look like to represent who I have always been. Thanks for the support though
I Sir Laughsalot
you can be ''mentally opposite gender'' or ''mentally x-thing'' depending on how you define it, because both are subjective individually defined mental constructs.
Indigo Lemon I know right? Apache out. BRRRRRR THTHHTHTHTHTHTHTHTHTHTHHT
I Sir Laughsalot So if I am 100% white, but I want to identify as black and "be" black, I can?
Even though genetically I have 0 black heritage in me and I never will have black heritage in me. But since blacks and whites are both human beings, I can identify how I want. Right?
I Sir Laughsalot
_"If you want to become the opposite gender you can."_
No, actually, you can't. In no way can a male human ever become a female human. The body will never have the FUNCTION of the female body, no matter how expensive the surgery. Appearance without function is a superficial change. And individuals who undergo such gender reassignment surgery have suicide rates 20 times higher than those who never have the surgery. Chromosomal identity will ALWAYS be male.
The IDENTITY disconnect is never resolved by the surgery. It is simply exacerbated. These people will never be accepted as wholly female or wholly male. A transgender reassigned female to male will still have the lower bone density, weaker hips, and less developed musculature. Worst of all, they will have a laughably small and only partially functional sexual organ and still can't generate semen. Chromosomal identity will ALWAYS be female.
They will not be FUNCTIONALLY the opposite gender. You're pretending that this isn't a psychological issue isn't tolerance. It's enabling. In one case, you would never allow a delusional schizophrenic who believes that he can fly to jump off of a building, but here you are not just allowing but encouraging people who are under the misbegotten belief that their body and gender are two separate concepts to climb up onto a sexuality rooftop just the same. Hell, you are handing them a ladder.
It isn't the same. It will never be the same. This universe does not work that way.
No, I believe you're either a he or a she. I'm not using your made up pronouns. Who are you to try and tell me what words I can or can't use. Especially when this literally applies to an extremely small percentage of people.
"who are you to tell me what words i cant and cant use" ??? You're saying the person whose IDENTITY is being discussed doesn't have the authority to decide what THEIR OWN pronouns are? But YOU get to decide that people aren't allowed to be different just so they fit into YOUR standards and so you don't have to change the words you use. Who are YOU to tell people what their identity is? Honestly everything about your comment is so ignorant.
I think everyone should call you Slagathor also fyi you do this all the time if you call people by name. Names are words which other people tell you to address them by. You literally use made up words to address everyone you know and everyone who has ever met you has done the same to you so stfu
You obviously don't know that intersex people exist. And it's not a tiny percentage of the population. People are LITERALLY and GENETICALLY not entirely male or female. So you're wrong, it's not biologically 2 genders with no exceptions. Even biologically, people are somewhere in between the spectrum. That being said, anyone should be able to decide what their pronouns are because guess what? It's regarding who they are, not you. If someone who is born intersex, meaning genetically not completely male or female, what are you going to call them?Thats right, you call them whatever they want to be called because it's their identity. Plus, a large percentage of transgender people are passing as their gender so easily that you would never know they're trans unless they said so. You probably have already called people by their preferred pronouns without even knowing they're trans :) Just because you purposely want to call someone by a pronoun they don't identify with, doesn't mean you haven't already in your life seen or interacted with a trans person even momentarily and didn't know they were trans, AND called them by the correct gender :)
You're basing everything on your own knowledge on genetics which is still incorrect. Yes there are only 2 chromosomes but there are actual people with a wide variation and combination of those 2 chromosomes which were genetically not born entirely male or female. Look it up.
Show me proof then. Give me an article from a science magazine that supports what you claim.
Only 2 genders
That's your opinion. Other people may not share it.
Actually there are about 61 genders look it up
Clearly you've been living under a rock
Not tru
+Majestic Trash Actually that's science, not an opinion.
It's not disrespectful if we make a mistake but then we use the correct pronouns after being corrected. Right?
+Anthony Ginger No, don't worry if you make a mistake, especially if someone recently came out as trans and you're used to calling them something else.
Anthony Ginger
It's alright as long as you correct yourself before you continue talking. It's only offensive if you keep talking without saying 'Oh sorry I meant they/him/her (whatever the person's pronouns are) ^
+Jaz FtM but making big deal about it in public can out some point so just be careful with how you do that
Sebas Parra
Most trans people want as many people around them to know their gender identity, but for the 25% (or less) of cases where the trans person only wants a few friends or family members to know their gender identity, then you can ask them what pronouns to use in public ^
***** ok stfu no one called you here.
I try and imagine, as myself being a girl, if everyone kept calling me he/his. They wouldn't stop even if I'd tell everyone that I'm a girl and yet they'd just keep insisting on calling me male, him, his. I can imagine how frustrating that would be. I suppose that's how misgendering would feel like to any cis person trying to put themselves in a trans person's shoes?(Correct me if I'm wrong, I'm really not trying to say I'm at all educated when it comes to transgender people) I just thought I'd give my view because the first step to acceptance is trying to imagine yourself in that situation.
That's about right. You have the gift of empathy. If only more people had that
AHHHHHHHHHHHHH Aha, thank you. Many people like to say I should get my head out of the clouds and live in reality instead. It's sad that tolerance isn't our reality.
***** For yeaaarrrss I was always called a boy. Every one called me Harry. Really didn't help that I wasn't allowed to grow my hair out, I had to have this stupid short boofy haircut. But now, I have super long hair and it's great! I always get called 'young lady' and 'ma'am' now (which is a HUGE deal to me) haha
I felt like more could’ve been said in this video, but all in all, people need to respect other people and that’s it.
@@ReisterJP Just use the pronouns they prefer you don’t need to agree with them just be decent and use their pronouns and I’ll respect your opinion end of conversation
@@ReisterJP Don't you mean 'XY'?
I mean, I agree with you, but still... 🙄
Mmm, not quite.
People don’t actually HAVE to respect other people at ALL if they don’t wish to.
People could and arguably SHOULD be COURTEOUS to others, but don’t make the mistake of conflating courtesy with respect.
The former can be and usually is perfunctory if we were raised properly as kids.
The latter is EARNED or not earned, depending on how you act and speak.
@@thewab1974 This
Respect is earned, not given.
Courteous, sure. I'll call you whatever you want even though. Gender dysphoria is a real thing.
@@visualfinesse7445 The symptons of gender dysphoria are definately a real phenomena, but the entire trans theory and sociological ideology based around it does not hold any water.
I’m 14 and iv bearly started to transition like I only just cut my hair like a year ago and I’m starting to be called he it makes me so happy
Don't transition be who you are born as
Makes me happy when my family calls me a dorito i feel gud
@@mogabriel5238 no , it's only unhappiness, like imagine you feel like you're in the opposite body , should you just let yourself be depressed and sad all the time
Firstly I am very respectful so if someone tells me they like to be referred to as he or she or mam or sir then I will do it. Secondly the only time someone should be offended or angry, is when the person referring to you knows how you like to be referred and still doesn't refer to you that way. Gender specific pronouns are only a big deal to people that identify with a gender that they where not born with, which is a very small % of people and the rest of us don't know or don't think about unless its brought up. If we refer to you with the wrong gender pronoun it doesn't mean we are insensitive, hateful, disrespectful or oppressive it just means we don't know. The whole point of this video was to get us talking about this and to be more sensitive to the needs of the transgender and to possibly come up with collectively, a fitting pronoun for transgender men and woman. Then I read some of the comments and this one sums it up the best "Would it kill you to be sensitive to someone's needs? Piece of shit... " It seems that we need to focus more on the SENSITIVITY and RESPECT then on who its for. Just my two cent.
tru i am very grateful for a positive comment like this but i think most trans people are angry that people dont ask their pronouns and just assume what theyd like to be called.
Very eloquently said. I think most people, if they saw the issues that plague our society from a perspective other than their own, may see the world differently and change their ignorant, insensitive comments. I also find it ironic that the people you'd expect to be the most loving and sensitive, i.e. very religious Christians, are sometimes the most offensive and unloving people when an issue pertains to the LGBT community. As long as there are hypocrites using their religion as a reason for their hate, there will always be inequality. Something as simple as asking to be referred to as a "he" or a "she" should not be taken as an effort to make someone subservient and "bow down" to them when all they ask is that they are treated with respect which is what everyone is entitled to. I can only hope that people will change their perspective and allow themselves to through someone else's eyes. Also, I hope that I didn't come off as someone against religion. I just wanted to state that there are many people who follow a religion and use their religion as the basis of their hate but often forget that their religion also preaches acceptance and love.
Pup uwu Look, I get being called what you want to be called, and I'm fine with that. But if it's somebody you don't know and they think you look a certain way that 99.99% of time would be associated with one gender, but you don't choose to identify as that gender, don't get offended. Just respectfully correct me, and I will treat you with the same respect and call you what you want to be called. You shouldn't be offended if it's somebody you don't know because they don't know you so they don't know what you want to be referred as. It's a lot easier for a trans person to just respectfully correct a person that doesn't know them than for an entire society to have to think about what this person wants to be identified as before a conversation. It just doesn't feel natural and would be awkward to have to stop and think about that every time you talk to a new person. But if you let me know that you want to be called something else, I'll respect who you are and call you by that.
An Average Spork just use they if ur unsure
It’s not about being sensitive. It’s about them violating my freedom of speech by making call them something they are not.
I met a trans guy like a month ago i said "oh she knows" my heart dropped i quickly turned to him said "he sorry" he said it was fine but i still felt bad and i still feel bad
Don't waste too much energy feeling bad. You corrected yourself in respect of his pronouns and continue to use his pronouns, and he's said it's fine because you made the effort to correct yourself as you did. You've done a good thing.
You're still a better person than my boyfriend and brother. They misgender me and never correct themselves and get mad at me if I correct them
It's normal. If the person looks like a she, you are doing an effort. They should take it easy. It's not a big deal
They should throw you in a psych ward. Mentally ill degenerates everywhere
I hate being misgendered, I get it a lot with family and they laugh when my dad calls me he and not, my dead gender or my dead name. But I...I don’t understand why they laugh because, that’s what I identify as.
that lady with the rainbow glasses has my respect , fr tho
he is an man in a costume, who wants to persecute my freedom of speech by forcing me to call him something that is biologically incorrect.
@catgirl gf OOP
@@johnnyloc yall love to say "that's basic biology" but like transphobes don't care for the advanced scientific studies that prove the existence of trans people because they're afraid of changing for the better good
*man*
@@arthurjohnson09213 *lady*
The African American woman is stunning! OMG I want to achieve her level of beauty
OMG Thanks
That's exactly what I thought! She's beautiful!
Wow this may be offensive as her ethnic background may be Madagascan shame on you. Another usurper silenced by the social justice warriors!
Abby Reid-Green Her channel is VERY radical and she's pretty racist towards white people - watch MyNameIsJosephine's videos on her
he is an man in a costume, who wants to persecute my freedom of speech by forcing me to call him something that is biologically incorrect.
My best friend is transgender (boy in female's body) and he's not very open about it. When I talk to him, I refer to him by his chosen male name, but I talk about him with other people who don't know about him being transgender, it literally pains me to use she or his name given at birth (I'm not using "real name" because his real name is what he chooses it to be). Often at times I just slur the two pronouns, but when I don't I feel really really bad because I feel like I'm betraying him, or not showing him the respect he deserves
+SakuraPrincess i hope he gets better and starts feeling comfy
+Ankle foot If SakuraPrincess's friend isn't out as trans then wouldn't using 'they' push him out? I can completely understand the need for the female pronoun with friends that don't know he's male but equally how it could be painful. I understand your suggestion for the use of they but it's not always appropriate. Not everyone's experience is the same... :/
***** Still, being someone who tries to be as grammatically correct as possible, using a plural pronoun for a singular person just bothers me. I know that's ignorant on my part, but still
***** Thank you. Commenters like you always make me happy :)
His real name is what was given to him.
Stop pretending.
Look I'm not going to learn 50+ terms just so someone who's overly sensitive is offended. If you want to identify as that go ahead, If I mess it up just politely correct me and not get offended. Seriously.
I calls em how I sees em
Top comment. I consider myself far left and an ally to all downtrodden people, but damned if I don't get policed all the time by the prissy language cops.
I just lost 481 twitter followers after using the phrase: "it retards progress". They subtweeted and called "ableist white trash". Ironically, some used actual ableist terms to insult me ("moron", "autistic", etc.).
Without understanding context, language is meaningless. Some of the best potential allies to disenfranchised people are being pushed away and scorned because they didn't use the perfect correct accepted words of the moment. It's depressingly stupid, what the world is becoming, from all sides.
@American Fuel TV Yes, I saw what you did: you ignored context to make a biased point. Same thing the language cops do. I gave one extreme example that wasn't indicative of the whole, and I didn't specify what politics the mob of outraged bullies had (most were centrist normies).
In reality (not Twitter), that PC-fascistic behavior originated with conservative reactionaries, particularly the religious and militaristic. Then it morphed into general liberal culture, and was seized and manipulated by the Neoliberal media to manipulate the masses. This isn't a leftist conspiracy. Leftists have no control over it. But radical liberals are some of the most annoying perpetrators of the phenomenon.
@A L It's not the majority of leftists that wield authoritarian tendencies, though. All points on the political spectrum have been and can be guilty of that.
The worst language / thought police now tend to be the Neoliberal centrists.
All the lefty people I follow on social media see the cancer that is "woke" SJW outrage culture. The solution is to ignore those retards and carry on for real justice and equality.
Whatever you say mam
I remember avoiding this video when I was first figuring out my gender. I'm glad to watch it now
Look between your legs. That will show you your gender. You're welcome.
I booked you an appointment at the psych ward, they’ve got your straight jacket and padded cell ready you loon 💀🤣
In Finland we don't use "she/he" everyone is "hän". :)
You're lucky. That must be so much easier.
+BΛПDΣƬƬӨ (мαунєм) Yes it is!
+Azina chan wow lucky yeah english is so stupid
+Reeve Coble more languages than english are gendered. in chinese, the pronounciation for he and she are the same, but the characters indicate gender. its interesting how gender is so inbred into language.
+Reeve Coble Not that stupid... In Czech we don't have they/them... Well we do but it is only used to refer to group of people and sounds incredibly stupid and not right when used for one person... Also asking what someones pronouns are is not at all common, like I've never heard anyone discuss it (but I didn't hear or see everything, obviously :o))... Also gender neutral words are not common, we don't even have gender neutral word for friend, teacher and many others
In Sweden we actually have a world for it that's used frequently. If I do an application I can choose to identify as a "woman" "man or "hen" (which is in the middle).
hen
Hen is not a gender here in sweden it's a pronoun like "he" and "her".
yea hen here means female chicken so that might not work either
word**
candyapu3 Our children are called "barn" so yeah not much of the swedish language works in other countries
MUCH LOVE TO ALL THE TRANS PEOPLE OUT THERE ❤️🏳️🌈❤️🏳️🌈❤️🏳️🌈
BLESS YOUR SOULS ✨✨✨✨
Honestly i really don't care if your trans,gay, straight or whatever the heck. I'm not gonna say "oh good job" just because someones gay or trans or straight. Like why should i praise someone for just being not straight. WOW CONGRATS ON NOT BEING STRAIGHT U JUST WON A MILLION DOLAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAARS.
Thank you!
Thank you so much! 💘
Thanks!
Thx
"filmmaker" imma cry
This came out great! Loved being part of this!
Remember, when it comes to pronouns it's about respect. Of course you can choose to be a complete jerk and just disregard someone's pronouns for the sake of being a jerk. But remember that our identities do not rely on your validation. We are who we are regardless of whether or not you understand. There is a lot of hate against trans people in this society and if you care about changing that narrative, using proper pronouns is a basic step.
Wow, I'm so happy that they chose you for this video Kat!!! You are so beautiful, smart, and talented! Thank you so much for educating me and so many others on a consistent basis. It means a lot.
Matthew Daniel Aww thank you!!! Your support means everything!
You are what you are but you want to be something else? If your going by that saying shouldn't u stay the same sex? I honestly don't have a problem with them unless they don't tell the person they're dating/marrying/interested in what they used to be
truly inspiring👏 Love you and your channel❤️
Mia Jacobs I currently have a boyfriend and if we wanted to get married tomorrow, we legally could. :)
Watch us be adorable here: ua-cam.com/video/ubFM2nhOl1o/v-deo.html
I don't WANT to be anything. I simply am. I exist, I breathe, I live, I am reality.
Just watched beautiful people in the video!
Just read horrible people in the comments..
Why do people hate so easly when they don't understand..
I mean, I don't fully understand either, but that does not hinder me from loving them and actualy TRYING to understand their perspective!!!
thank you we need more cis people like you in the world
Pup uwu
lol, thanks, but I'm just a regular guy!
I was raised without any concept of free hate (racism, sexism, homophobism, etc)
To me, hearing these kinds of stuff feel just ... wrong! I can't even grasp what goes inside haters ..
Even at my work, some time ago my coworkers were sure I was gay just because I was defending and explaining gays to them.. it's like you MUST be gay if you want to respect gays
exactly ! thats not at all true you can be anyone and respect everyone
Or you can be a shithead and have no respect for anything different than your little mind was told to be "normal"
Because its easier to hate
they r important bc i am not out and it hurts everytime someone says “she” hjgngjhjh
I watched the video looking for arguments and found none. It literally boils down to "You dont need that language."
a senior at my school is a transgender girl. I heard so much stuff about her but I never knew who she was. at our homecoming dance I saw a girl and I thought her dress was really pretty so I went up to her not having any idea who she was and told her that I loved her dress and it looked amazing on her. later I found out that she was the transgender girl everyone talks about. so honestly, there's no difference between someone born a girl, and someone who was born a girl, but in a male body. same thing goes for someone born a boy and someone born male in a girl body. I don't understand why some people have to be so ignorant and can't see that
Bobby Miller tHeRE aRE OnLy TwO geNdeRs !11!! PEnIs aND VagINa 11!1! iNteRsEX iS irReLEvaNt !1!! i IgNOrE sCIeNcE aNd dIverSE CuLTuRaL HisToRIeS beCaUEsE L I B E R A L S hAVe COrrUpTEd tHeM !!1!!11!1!!!1!11
I used to use 'they' all the time in primary (US - grade) school when we were given sentence completing assignments, for example i'd write 'Sam went to get the ball, 'they' found it under a tree'
I got told off all the time because it was meant to be 'he', my argument was that Sam could be a boy or girls name, seeing as I didn't know their gender, "they" made more sense.
I got a punishment exercise for it...
Kyle Farscht But singular 'they' exists? How would you talk about someone if you didn't know their gender? Would you call them "it"?
For example, would you say 'they should just do it themselves' or 'it should just do it itself'/ "He or she should do it him or herself"?
English needs gender neutral pronouns, using 'they' is the most obvious choice.
Other people seem to think it's okay.
blog.dictionary.com/gender-neutral-singular-they/
TubbyMuffin no they rly didnt
kate makes me feel really comfortable like something about them is so wise and like larger than life almost like they have such a beautiful presence
Why are you so preoccupied with earning my respect? Does my opinion really matter that much to you? It shouldn't. You should be confident enough in your own identity to not care about what pronouns I use and instead focus on the conversation I'm trying to have with you.
how would you feel if someone called you by the wrong name? would you like that?
Katrine Carver I doubt I would care. Names aren't pertinent to conversation most of the time anyways.
How would you feel I someone insulted you? That what it feels like to them. Besides not everyone is like you, btw.
Katrine Carver I realize not everyone is like me. The point is, I don't think anyone should really be terribly concerned with insults they receive from anyone else. Whoop dee doo.
Okay then. But if they find it hurtful, they find it hurtful, and if they ask you to stop, please stop.
These people need to see a psychiatrist ASAP.
you do. honestly, its 2015 and these people are accepted. they should be. being transphobic is hateful and unnecessary.
I have a quick question. What is it like to live in such a small, ignorant world? I seriously can't fathom what it is like to be you.
jazzie maxwell it's honestly sad that Bobby cannot answer that question.
Certainly agree
How many Bobby O's does it take to change a lightbulb?
none, because they are afraid of change and bringing light to the world.
Am I the only one fine with homosexuality, but gets a little edgy about transgenders...
I was like you like 7 years ago, cause I was a freakin ignorant
Ahh, call it ignorance, but you know that you just want to make yourself sound better than me and call my option ignorant. Why isn't your opinion ignorant, might I ask?
'Transgender' isn't a noun - you can refer to 'transgender people', you know. And I think that's because trans people's rights and progress are 20 years behind gay rights. If you make the effort to go out and learn about trans people and what it means to be trans, you'll find that edginess leave you.
I used to be completely misunderstanding about trans people and be 'edgy', until I realised that I am trans.
epicXmedia15 but I was telling the truth, I was an ignorant and trans people made me sick. Im not telling you are an ignorant cause you feel the same about them as I did, im just sharing an opinion for god sakes
epicXmedia15 I would agree that it is ignorant, it shows an inherent lack of understanding about what we know today in regards to biological and psychological gender, sex, and orientation as well as the interplay between those things.
It's not a bad thing to be ignorant, everyone is ignorant towards a great many things, and an inherent lack of understanding about something will make your uncomfortable indeed.
Personally, I wouldn't label it as your 'opinion' though that makes you sound unnecessarily foolish and based on the way that you post I'd say that's probably an unfair reflection of your character. It's more like your initial feeling, you probably just haven't looked into it enough to form a real opinion.
one of my friends asked me my pronoun(s) and i honestly just looked at them and said: "Ze."
I created my own language. There are no gender specific pronouns, just the universal pronouns "je, jem, jes, jemself".
Is there a gender inspecific term between Mr and Miss?
+Jonathan King It's Mx. I use it for myself.
+Sinclair motocross? lol.. jk..
If you are talking about gender fluid then it might be Mx but don't quite me on that.
an excellent point! having a vagina does not determine your gender. i applaud you, thank you for your contribution to this discussion.
***** That's a pronoun, it's related but different. Like someone who uses they/them as their pronouns might choose to use Mx as their honorific.
My pronouns are: "Thine royal highness", "Lord Xenu", and "Great dark overlord master 9000."
And I identify as a Mocha Frappuchino triple lazer beam super mega wolf dragon potato darth vader swiss army knife with dual katana chipotle dorrito.
If you misgender me or use the wrong pronouns, you're being disrespecful and can trigger me.
Sarah Mann Lynch me, daddy.
that's not how Frappuccino is spelt did you do that on purpose?
You're the hero we all deserve
I'm sorry are you offended?
Thomas P Make a Buzzfeed video about it.
“Facts don’t care about feelings”
Another Ben Shapiro fan,much respect
@@KodaLeck do you see the ironic quotation marks or is it just me
Oof, Ben is dead. Why are you still quoting him 😆
Jacklyn Brown oh is he how so ms.Brown
Dakota Leck ✊
If you're worrying about pronouns and people aren't laughing in your face...you might be privileged.
Do you honestly want everyone to always ask everyone they meet , what their pronouns are?
This is riddicoulus, i understand if you want to be refferd to as something different then "he" or "she", but its not my job to make sure that you always fell 100% comfortable about yourself, You want to be called soemthing different? fine, but its your job to tell me that, not the other way around.
agreed
if youre confused about it ask them. no ones asking you to go up to random people and ask " LOL R U BOY OR GIREL?" its about respecting other people, it isnt complicated
+alphabet boy No, if they want to be reffered to as something different then "he" or "she" its not my job to ask them, its their job to tell me.
Dont get me wrong here, im not gonna go out of my way to disrespect them by not respecting their pronuouns after they told me, but still: YOu want me to use your preferred pronouns? Tell me.
Exactly how I feel. Just the other day I got a lecture from a person for referring to someone (whom I had previously known as a she) as she. She told me how disrespectful I was and that they preferred they/them now. And the first thing I did was apologize, but I didn't hear the end of it. Like I had used a racial slur or something. They then proceeded to try to put me down which I just found to be childish.
+Levi Herron - Some people are just ridiculous. In my experience, most of the trans*/non-binary I've met were not like that. If someone misgendered them, they simply corrected them, and that was that. They only got upset if the other person refused to use their proper pronoun. I only met one person like the one you described, but she was always harping about SJW things, to the point that even the trans*/non-binary people who knew her didn't want to be around her. There are always people like that in the world.
People are constantly disrespecting my pronouns. Since I'm gender fluid, and my "birth gender" is female, people think it's okay to call me she/her even when they know and I tell them repeatedly that I would rather them use the correct pronouns to whatever gender I am. And people like to say that using they/them/theirs is disrespectful even though I TELL them to use those pronouns.
That's awful. I'm sorry you have to go through that. I'm pre-transition, and even I get more respect for my pronouns.
What are your pronouns?
I dislike "gender fluid". Out of all the forms of sexuality, this is the one that screams mental disorder.
Being born a male in a females body makes 100% sense, but being born a female then sometimes you're a male sometimes a female, it sounds like split personality, and while I feel sympathy for people who are transgender, I feel no real sympathy for you, and hope you understand for the rest of your life, you will almost never get called what you want.
loverboy6667 We're both transgender. How come my identity should be respected but theirs shouldn't?
Human gender is a huge spectrum, and far more complex than you've been taught to believe. The human brain is complex, and each person holds to such a variety of identities at any one time - familial, professional, socio-economical, platonical, romantic, sexual and so on and so forth. Our brains are far more complex than any computer we've managed to make.
If all this is true, why would our concept of gender simply fit between two flag poles based on something as irrelevant as your genitalia (whether they match a cultural standard or not)?
In that case, why would gender fluidity NOT be 'possible to comprehend'?
Like I said before it is 100% possible to comprehend as long as you understand from a physiological stand point, flipping between personalities, and letting one control you, literally makes you a split personality case. You're argument that each person hold different personalities is a complete grasp at straws. Comparing how you behave with family and how you behave at work, do not mean you have have different personalities, it means you have different persona's. I.E iI let you see what I want you to see at work compared to what i want my friends to see, same personality, different persona. To say you are a boy at the beginning of the day, then you change sometimes to girl or vice versa, Those changes will come with behavior change, you will act differently etc. Meaning a secondary personality is coming to fruition. So I do feel bad for you, because of the fact you have split personality disorder, but not for the fact that you are "transgender". You could of as easily been mentally human as well as mentally an owl. You just got lucky.
I have a friend who is gender fluid, and I am very much okay with it-just a little confused. When I can't see them (ie over text or other social media), what pronoun do I refer to them as? Do I ask them? It will it offend them? When speaking to others about them, I use the pronoun "they" but I obviously can't when talking directly to them.
This is why aliens won’t talk make Contact.
I am a FtM Trans boy who just came out at my school like a week ago and my science teacher is now talking about sexual reproduction and now everytime he starts talking about or even i take 1 step into his classroom it triggeres my bottom dysphoria so then i just end up not going to class
Soooo since you're trans, but want to be male, you're forced to be a bottom with other males since you do not have a penis.
As a gender fluid person, I really don't care about my pronouns, she or they works fine. The only thing that bothers me is when people make assumptions or refuse to accept that is who I am. My father, when I came out to him, said, "I don't care what gender you think you are, I will still call you a she." And that pisses me off so much.
+Sapply That happened to me too, it's horrible
A lot of people in my school do that, and it really really pisses me off as well. They just don't understand.
+Sapply im sorry you have to go through that!
***** yes and they're a she and a he and whatever other gender as well.
I'll call you it
I feel like people are making things alot more difficult than things should be....
XxBillyGoatNinjaxX I don't see what's difficult about it.
peepslostsheep It's difficult not being able to call someone a boy or girl without thinking "what if this is a transgender person who gets mad at me for not having some super power telling me what to call everyone!"
I'm pretty sure you don't go around asking someone "Are you a man or a woman?" before you talk to them.
ThatOneDude ""what if this is a transgender person who gets mad at me for not having some super power telling me what to call everyone!"
The vast, vast majority of them will not get mad at you for using the wrong pronoun, accidentally. The issue is when people do it purposefully. Just use what seems to fit them most
yes making it hella difficult
Okay but don't expect every stranger on the planet to know your pronouns. If you get offended but you didn't tell them, that's on you. No one should have to guess your identification.
well. obviously
yes
@@ezurka610 awesome
I think you’re conflating “offended” with “hurt”
@@TheMetallicSharpie read my above story
i have a question so if i’m a trans male can i still use all pronouns ??
Yes! You can do whatever makes you comfortable.
@@sharmimarahman7587 ty !
OFC!! whatever make you comfortable is what matters, not cisnormativity
yeah thats valid!!
i mean, whatever makes you comfortable
Being misgendered feels like finding out the pet you loved and grew up with died. Your heart clenches, your stomach does flips, and your throat closes up. Being transgender feels like everyone around you has wings and they're flying and nobody questions it but once you start to fly, to start being who you are, everybody is mocking you, calling you a freak and an accident. Pronouns are so important so please, if you know somebody's pronouns or birth name, do not call them that. If you don't know, then don't assume, just ask.
+Peter Alexander
"I'm a special snowflake pls pls pls pander to my mental illness and play pretend with me"
+DevilMaySub4 I literally said nothing of a mental illness though? I was giving my take on what being misgendered feels like. Do you really feel the need to attack others? Are you really that insecure? Pathetic if you ask me.
***** Or, instead of trying to offend someone, you could do something useful with your time, like help out at a homeless shelter or a food pantry :)
+Peter Alexander I've never read a more accurate comment. You've completely put it into words.
If you don't mind, can you explain being trans to me? I myself am not trans, but I am confused. I have mixed up being intersex with being trans. Do you just.... feel like a certain gender? or no gender at all? I hope I'm not being rude.
that older lady in rainbow glasses is magnificent! *_______*
she's a writer about gender and stuff and likes Doctor Who. She amazing.
Tumblerinas everywhere
*older man
+carl mosby Nah, their a woman, as the explicitly state in the video. :)
carl mosby woman, debate me
I feel like it's okay to misgender someone by accident as long as you're polite and apologize. Like saying ma'am or sir and if they correct you don't go "no, you're clearly [female/male]", you should, to be respectful and kind, say "oh, I'm so sorry."
Yep. ^
It’s also very easy to just ask “ hey what’s ur pronoun? I don’t want to offend you.” It’s also easy to just say they/them also!
Its not even that they want to offend someone, its more of the idea compelling someone what they must say, these people are using the idea of 'respect' 'offense' and 'violence' in a way to compel people what they want to be addressed. Do you honestly think people would stop the hate on trans or non-binary or every gender there is just because they use the right pronoun?
it’s actually not that easy
@@jessie2064
its actually pretty easy
@@qewdascz1839 it’s actually not
You can totally tell that these people fit into these genders, their true gender! I love that people can express themselves and that it's becoming accepted more than it was before!
"Their gender is still valid, regardless of whether or not you understand it" oh that line is so important.
No it’s not. They wouldn’t be demanding the world play along if it was valid.
no it's not.
@@prettylady6013 Pathetic
@@relaxingsounds1386 Pathetic
sure, so why does it matter so much when i call a guy “he”? i’m not trying to be a jerk this is an actual question
In polish language there is nearly no way to skip a pronoun. It's valid in every sentence, because our words used in sentences change due to the person's gender.
I identify as a correct.My pronouns are shut/up.
so i have to play guessing games now
kountrykountykid or use they.
"What is her favorite animal?"
"She likes dogs."
"What is their favorite animal?"
"They like dogs."
kountrykountykid Like the others said, just use "they" until you know for sure, or just ask. However! I should tell you, you should please ask "what are your pronouns", not "what is your gender", as some people use pronouns that aren't expected of their gender, and some people may not be ready to explain their gender to you. But please don't make other peoples need for their identity to be respected about you and be like "oh, now I have to guess!"
kountrykountykid If they get pissed at "they" that's their problem. not yours. "They" can be used for any gender identity, I don't think anyone has the right to get pissy over that.
when I am misgendered if it is a mistake I am okay but if it is intentional then I get mad
for me if its a mistake I get a little bit upset depending on the person if it's my mom or sister I get a little disappointed bc I've identified as male for about 7 months but if it's like someone that isn't important to me I don't care but my grandma and grandpa purposely mis gendered and that makes me really really mad
No one cares
+Robert Smith good for you 🙄🖕🏼🙃
Alright sir.
Sarah Mann Well if you were trying to on purpose use male pronouns thinking I'm a trans girl you failed. I was born a girl. I'm not trans that way.
I'm glad buzzfeed made this video so people can know more about mental illnesses
When my step-father transitioned getting the right pronouns was *by far* the hardest part for me. When I met him he was a she and presented as a woman. A year or so later he came out as a transman. For the next couple of years I tried, but changing the pronouns for a person you know is *hard,* so I mostly just avoided them whenever I could. It made for some awkward sentence structure, let me tell you! As he began presenting as more masculine when the testosterone kicked in it got easier. Now, 20 years later, I would never refer to him as anything but he or him. Nobody can look at him now and have any idea he was born a girl.
Does anyone actually like this channel?
+flyguyee
Crazies do.
yep
+flyguyee Of course. Why else would you be here? :p
+flyguyee YES
+flyguyee I do.
*sheepishly raises hand* pronouns matter to non-binaries too
yesssssssss ^^^
Non binary is a subcategory of trans. Trans is when you identify as a different gender then you were assigned at birth, and nobody is born with "nonbinary" genitalia. So nonbinary IS trans. You could see that in the video. Kate was talking about how they're not "a he" and not "a she".
Beck some non-binary people don't like being called trans because that has an implication of gender, and if you don't have a gender you wouldn't want that. When I feel neutral, I don't mind, but not everyone is okay with the same things, so I think that's what they meant.
+The Fandom Master my I ask what non-binary means?
DreatsyOne non-binary means anyone who isn't always either male or female. Basically every trans person that doesn't identify as 100% male or 100% female.
Today someone actually gave me the right pronouns but my Mum ruined it. I was in the opticians for my little brothers glasses and the optician talked to my little sister and said "Do you go to the same school as your brothers?" I smiled, and then my Mum just said "No, she's a girl"
Then when we went out the opticians I cried as if my Mum ruined everything. She ruined the first time someone got my pronouns right.
ssathedevilanimator so ur mad at ur mom for telling the truth?....
JOHN Smith no, he’s a boy.
I am transgender, so I am very glad you guys made this video. You shouldn't be so judgemental, just accept people for who they want to be!
I am hated and mocked daily for who I choose to be. It hurts, deeply. I have even comtemplated suicide or checking myself into a mental care facility. All because of who rude and discriminative people are to anything different.
I self-identify as the Governor of Oklahoma, and people need to get past their hatefullness and recognize me for who I choose to be!
So do people call you Govenor
+bbrock RailFan Unfourtunately, the public has yet to respect my identity. Perhaps they are intimidated by my courage.
+bbrock RailFan Also, this is very heavy satire using the silly argument of transgendered people and those who support the pratice.
The concept is ridicolous, and it makes just as much sense for me to identify myself as a Governor, or an endangered animal, or old enough to qualify for good old people insurance.
Samuel Richardson I wasn't sure if this was serious until the end. Lol well played
I am a demigod
it's important to use the correct pronouns for transgender/agender/genderfluid because you would use the pronouns She/her for a cis female? so why wouldn't you for a trans female, just because that person is trans doesn't make them any less than a she, so it would be wrong to use he because _she_ is not a he
Also for the they/them pronouns, it's just disrepectful not to use their pronouns, it isn't that hard, if they do not Identify as a girl or a boy and the want you to use the pronouns they/them do it, it is not difficult, it's really simple
+aj Yes, thank you! My argument on this subject is that if you called a cis male she, you would be corrected and everyone would be upset. The guy would probably tell you over and over again to use he/him. Why can't anti-trans people see this?
This is exactly why I follow buzzfeed because it showcases the world the actual world and not some made up bullshit
1:51 well…it depends. If people are misgendering me on PURPOSE, then yes, I would feel disrespected. But if people misgender me on accident, then I would politely correct them. (My pronouns are they/them/theirs)
Respect has to be earned. It is NOT automatic!
he is an man in a costume, who wants to persecute my freedom of speech by forcing me to call him something that is biologically incorrect.
Quez .... what 😂
Quez read a book you IGNORANT TRASH
@@sarahjo8569 read a biology book there are only 2 genders and you cannot biologically change your gender. Maybe then your brain wouldn't be mush
@@johnnyloc mate there is two genders at least some people accept it
yo, i love this video so much. im agender, and my pronouns are they/them, and it makes me so happy to hear people who understand the fact that this stuff is normal. thank you so much to the people who are in this video, its people like you who remind me that im not a freak.
You are not a they. They is plural. You are not plural.
So, Buck Angel is a "filmmaker".... gg buzzfeed lol
I was legit thinking the same thing
"Theres a lot of situations we just dont need gendered language"
Ya, you would be correct... and thats why in those instances we dont use pronouns lol because it does nothing to help... but if there is a parade of all playboy bunnies and a man gropes one of them.. you cant say " THEY GROPED THEM!!"
People would say "who groped who?"
Or if that fat bald man with a beard for instance left a waitress a nice tip and the waitress pointed and says "that woman left me a really nice tip"
But she was pointing at a bald man with a beard... everyone would be confused... language is for making life easier, not to make life more complicated...
Nobody is asking for you to guess at random. All people want is you to ask if you are confused or if somebody tells you respect them
The person with the sunglasses. I am obsessed with their voice and style.
People sometimes use the pronouns "they/them/theirs" even if its just for one person cuz using "it" is for objects.
There's a transguy named jeff in my science class and he was out today and we had a substitute and she was asking where he was and a lot of people were like "he's out today" and I just felt so happy about that even though I don't really know jeff that well because everyone used the right pronouns
You know what would be really nice? If Ben Shapiro could knock some sense into BuzzFeed
Ben shapiro is like a Gatling gun. He can take out many protesters by himself.
Andrew Ricklefs DID YOU JUST SAY BOTH!? IMMMMM TRIGGGGGGGEEEEEERRRRREEEDDDD REEEEEEEEE!!
Andrew Ricklefs thank you... damn ... finally someone has some sense
Andrew Ricklefs Facts.
Why did you get triggered that the modern scientific consensus is that transgender is real and that people deserve the respect of being called by who they are.
Being misgendered is like being hit by a bus in the middle of your chest. You can't breath, and you freeze up completely. It's like being a deer in the headlights. It's the worst feeling ever, and no one deserves to have to go through it.
Surely you jest. I ask because I know there's a lot of trans/fluid pansies out there that ACTUALLY feel like this.
Roob If it feels that way I would contact a doctor
In sweden we have a pronoun for transgender :)
he = han
she = hon
han + hon = hen
hen is like a mixture of he and she in swedish :)
you use it when the gender is unknown and/or the person wants to be called that
And Sweden is becoming a dysfunctional and delusional brainwashing hellhole too.
overexagurate much?
anton myrberg No I'm not, from Islam to Feminism to this.
anton myrberg SWEDEN YES
***** OMG YES SHOTS FIRED!
Why do we have to split people in different groups due to their sexuality. Why can't we all be just 1 one big happy family. For at least this.
*Gender/Sexuality
no how about we learn to respect and appreciate the preferences and feelings of others.
+TheSirGamz Why?
Because that's incest
The older person in the jacket with cogs on it has dope glasses, lol.
My last brain cell just died.
I agree with this video on almost every pint but if you look a certain way you will most likely be called by the pronoun that person thinks you are. I don't like how people are so quick to hate on people who don't know what gender someone identifies as because no one can look into someone else's mind. But it's totally a whole other story when someone does it on purpose...
But in a conversation you switch to a persons name and you .You don't don't talk from third person
just ask for someones pronouns or if you cant say they. simple
Fez Girl THEN IF YOURE CONFUSED JUST FUCKING USE THEIR NAME OR ASK THEM THEIR DAMN PRONOUN ITS NOT THAT HARD
CandyG0re I think Fez Girl was talking more about accidentally misgendering someone because you didn't know they were trans, not being confused about a trans person's gender and deciding to pick a pronoun at random rather than ask.
CandyG0re It's more if you are talking to someone for the first time and they get super offended because you couldn't pick out exactly what pronoun they prefer to be called.
This makes me really happy because I am a trans Male and look like a girl but yet have the most beautiful girlfriend and the most amazing friends who call me by the correct name and pronouns :)
The world is so hateful- i'm not gonna even look at the other comments because I love being myself, and love being Trans! And i love the people i've surrounded myself with who are supportive!
If they are trans-male/tran-man they identify as man. ie trans-woman they identify as woman
thank you buzz feed for helping me come out. everyone address me as "your grace", "his majesty", or "the state" when referring to a group containing me regardless of others in said group. I also go by "his jolly old bollocks" on Sundays in December. please give me the same basic respect your asking for.
I respect you your grace
this is a pretty new thing for me and I have a couple of co-workers that use the pronoun "they" and I keep tripping up and accidentally using he. i feel bad when i do but they is so cool about it!:) im def trying to evolve with the world not against it!
Konscious Kat you don't have to cater to other people's fantasies. You should never be cruel to other people, but you don't have to reinforce their delusions either. I think these people need to recognize reality. Live however you want, dress however you want, just don't deny biological science
i appreciate your support and feedback, there is a lot of truth to what you are saying. I happen to be in a work environment with these 2 people and find that supporting them without discrimination is appropriate. I'm a Vegan and they try to support me as much as possible also.
Konscious Kat good that youre trying! im sure they really appreciate it :)
Konscious Kat what...the world "evolved" without this garbage. Also, why the heck do you care? You don't have to do anything
Konscious Kat lol that's called being sheeple sweetheart