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The filipina I met has a dad that's irresponsible. He took money his daughter saved to buy then a house and got scammed out of the money. In the past he ruined his wife's sari-sari shop. What do u think Reekay, I think he can be a problem, should I deal with another filipina? She seems like she's to focused on fixing their housing problem
As a 60 year old man with a lot of experience it doesn't matter where you are focus on a mature woman at least in her mid 30s I have only been with one Filipina my wife since 2014 got to know her for over 3 years before even thinking I would ever go out of the United States i met her by accident i notice what a lot of men are doing coming to the philippines in there 40s 50s 60s and older you're too focused on beautiful i super model looking woman cause they do stare a lot i get a lot of that cause i look late 30s. Not as much even in NY most of these women in their 20s are not mature and you will see if you're Filipina wife has sisters that age you have nothing in common as you get to know them you can't share much having different interest it ends up not working out 95% of the time cause you go in that relationship thinking with the wrong head walking in lust all those good looking Filipino men they can communicate with better than they can with you ask yourself why me all you're doing is bringing attention to those men as they see you with them it makes it easier for them to meet there dream good Filipino and start using and playing you that's what you have to think about going after these young looking beautiful model looking women they stare at me a lot but I love my wife and ignore them you can even end up homeless like many foreigners have they're not even mature enough to be a friend and be there for you when things go that way it's usually a woman in her early 20s reeling you in saying all the right things putting you in a bad situation a lot of these younger filipinas now with the new technology and many changes are not gonna tell you but they're physically and in so many other ways into their own men ,,
I had all these qualities, I didn’t cheat, didn’t smoke or drink, supported my stay at home wife financially, built my own house, run my own business and she still left me after 24 years being married. I forgot to mention - she was an American woman.
Top 4 reasons a good woman leaves a good man: 1) He is too agreeable, too nice, too respectful, too eager to please her, worships her. 2) He is too trusting, does not set boundaries for her, allows her to hang out with her "friends" without any checks. 3) He tolerates disobedience, disrespect, emotional abuse, and even physical abuse. 4) He is absolutely committed to her and told her he will unconditionally love her and will never leave her.
The problem there, I'd say is that it's one sided. The lady likely has chosen to be there for financial reasons, and if you're with someone you don't really like but thought you could tolerate, it may turn really bad with toxic behaviour from her side as a consequence. This even if the guy is "too nice". She don't wants him, simple as that, but may stay cos he pays the bills, it usually don't end well. I guess, it could happen with large age gaps, doesn't have to, but I'd think the risks are higher there.
I’m 75 my Filipina wife is 42. Been married 12 years and I feel like a teenager in love. No drama no fighting ever no relatives to support. She works and never asks for money. And it gets better every day.
After she drains him financially, she's gone, and/or he ends the welfare to her extended family. Women, in general, tend to monkeybranch, not letting go of her present option, until she's secured another (usually better option). She can also be emotionally abusive with tampo, and continuing to nag him after he says no (again to her financial demands). I believe a once province girl--now entitled princess--won't leave to go back to the province, unless the abuse is severe. A good relationship will not have these issues, as both parties are able to work things out.
I always talked to a friend of mine, told him to beware of BBD - 'Bigger, Better, Deal'. There is always one eye on the present and one on the future. Like that lizard whose two eyes move in different directions. Apparently the psych fraternity have given it the official name of 'Marilyn Monroe Syndrome'.
Well said Reekay. I was married to a westerner woman. Without sounding haughty or pumped up which by nature, l am not, l consider myself a good man, loyal and responsible. Long story short, my ex always compared me to other people who, at that time were reasonably ‘well-off’. I felt hen pecked and often put down. I stuck it out because l thought god would do a miracle. Eventually l ‘found out’ that she had an affair. At that point, l shut the gate well and truly. Some years later, my ex apologised and with innuendo’s, wanted to come back. There was no way l was going to return. The trust was broken forever. She learnt a lesson that ‘the grass is never greener on the other side’. Fast forward now, l am so called ‘well off’ and l have my absolutely drop dead gorgeous ( in looks and character)Filipina woman. We have been together for a number of years now and will get married for sure. Great message Reekay! 😊😊
“… take a bullet for him” is allot more than I can say for the typical American woman w a husband w no vises. Thats no guarantee over here. Many woman here are too entitled, independent, self-important to stay w a good guy, respect and appreciate him over time. 80%+of the time its the wife that files for divorce in US. she gets half his stuff and thinks she can find greener pastures - then realizes too late shes too old and unattractive for any decent guy to want. You and I both speak from experience here. Great income, nonsmoking, good dad, never drank, cursed, nor saw other women, faithful, Christian, but she still filed; traumatized kids, took the finances, left. years later she is now broke on government assistance, kids have little respect for her. Regrets too late what she lost. Filippinas seem smart enough to know how to appreciate and care for their man - for life.
I don't drink or smoke and never did drugs, so those issues will never be a problem for me and thanks for the advice as I'm in the process of retirement and may be 18 to 24 months from exploring the concept of coming back to the Philippines to stay, been to a few places already and I understand about the "honeymoon" phase of coming there but I fell in love with the culture back in 2008 and now I'm having the itch to come back
Hi Rekay, Your very right about that. My family have really taken my filipeno lady into the family completely. We are getting married in january here, and my sister is over the moon helping her with the wedding, and is so excited that she will have a new sister officaly, she already thinks of her as her sister. I have never felt so loved or cared for my entier life. She keeps saying she is so lucky to have me, but I think I'm the real lucky one. My step daugther even likes her so much, she wants to be at the wedding and invites us to their events and not her real mother. Later we will have the church wedding there for her family, and I will send you and paul (old dog) an invite as well.
After trying several other countries, I settled in the Philippines and now need to decide between several attractive young Filipinas. There were of course the ones online only looking for money but when I refused to give them one peso, they disappeared immediately.
All marriages will experience tough times. Whatever happens, stay loyal. Because once you cheat and your partner finds it. The marriage is over. Trust, is the bedrock of all committed and loving relationships. Cheating destroys trust. So whatever ups and downs both of you are having, keep talking, don't cut off or withdraw from communication. Because, the next stage is cheating and once you reached that point of no return, your marriage is over.
You are right of course, just want to add, this door goes both ways. I'm married 22 years to basically a good woman, but after all these years of putting up with her binge drinking, when I do walk out that door, she knows why, she already knows that's going to happen.
Focused and clearly communicated. Thank you. Addictive behaviors, disrespect for others, immaturity, self centeredness, reckless abandon has its consequences. Some never grow up. I met SE Asian women hurt by men like that. Somehow they don’t feel how it can traumatize and confuse women. The SE Asian women I met are smart and don’t put up with it once they’ve seen it. I encouraged them to love themselves not to put up with poor behaviors
So true. And the first step is to take an honest assessment of yourself and have the integrity to correct any of these short comings. A lot of the "work" required in a happy marriage is on yourself.
Have to say I do like beers and hope I will be able to find some low carb alcoholic beverages in the Philippines ... lol On the other hand I rarely get stumbling drunk. Have been successful in my life and am very responsible though. My wife occasionally drinks some wine but is not much of a drinker at all and is okay with my drinking fortunately. Actually I was in the same boat as a lot of commenters on here, left my first wife thinking the grass was greener on the other side and found all the good women in the US were taken already. What was left was a bunch of women with mental problems(unfortunately due to some guy they were with) who could not stay in a sustained relationship. Thank goodness my brother helped me find the Philippines. Good video Reekay and look forward to more of your videos....Jim
Whether it is a Filipina or a good woman from other countries, these 4 factors (and others) will cause women to leave a man. Besides cheating, alcoholism, smoking, or taking drugs, I would add a difference of religious values, financial instability, and a lack of love, attention, and respect for each other. All these will take a toll on the relationship or marriage.
@@fwnmwasn't it technically Pontius Pilate's decision? That would mean the Romans killed Jesus. Yes, the Pharisees were the ones that pushed for it, but Pilate could have said no, being the legal authority at the time. He knew Jesus was innocent but still allowed the sentence to be carried out. Of course in our Bible, it has to happen that way because that is what was prophesied. Just so you know, i stand with Israel.
the participation of both jews and gentiles in the crucifixion puts the guilt on both parties with regard to humanity. on an individual basis, his crucifixion punishment was for our own personal sins.
Another home run video, thanks mate. What AI are you using to generate these absolutely stunning images of women with? I fall in love with them every video I watch. Lol thanks again bud
1. Cheating / side chicks 2. Abuse (physical or emotional) 3. Alcohol /drug abuse 4. Irresponsible (not being the leader; not paying the bills; she can't count on you)
You often hear guys say that Filipino women are only after money. If the guy keeps offering and then not taking “ No” for an answer, it’s pretty unfair to blame the woman when she thanks you and accepts. I know of both. The one that asks for money every time she sees you or contacts you is the one to avoid, but the one that works 12 hour days and still struggles, but won’t tell you. She might say I can’t afford this right now but doesn’t ask for anything. Still if you offer to help her, if she likes you she will accept your help even though she feels a little ashamed.
My wife and I have been together for almost 22 years. Our paths crossed in Canada when I worked in Health Care and she was an OFW contract Caregiver. We hit it off and the rest became history. Those four points were never part of the equation in our lives and now we are happily retired in our condo in Davao. Three years ago, while still in Canada, she was able to start a beach front resort in Pantukan, Davao de Oro, managed by her oldest daughter. Now she can be more active in running it. To make a long story short, any single or combination of the four points would have been disastrous to our relationship.
Hire a private investigator in the Philippines, have a pre-nup, and a very clear expectation in writing. Please note that when you're marrying a Filipina, your taking away a breadwinner from her family.
Great video with sound advice. When you get a good Filipina, don't blow it guys. They are totally different from your Western women. They are really loyal, loving, and compassionate women.
One more big reason for breaking up at least LDR wise is he waits too long to visit and she gets tired of waiting. Maybe she’d wait forever but she’s hurting too much being away. Or gives up he’s never coming. They were willing to wait longer periods of time before during Covid. They don’t want to wait years anymore. They want to talk and know that you’re coming within months usually. That’s why it’s best to either be here already or have a booked trip already and show her the tickets so she knows you’re sincere and really coming. Unfortunately also during Covid lots of foreigners just lied and used them for fun and promised them the world and never showed up either for financial reasons or really married back home or whatever. And they waited years for a man who never came. They’re tired of that and don’t want it again.
great job life, ive watched a few of your videos and your doing a great job. Where do you get these pictures you show, is this the norm in the Phillipines? The women in your photos are gorgeous...
the ones in the vids, i create with AI. but in the PH.. i'd say about 6% are a 7 thru a 10. with maybe 1% being a 10. but, they are very approachable and i've dated many since 2012.
Good to hear, my country Canada has become insanely expensive to live in, I am checking out the Phillipines next year, possibly moving there some day if I like it...@@Lifebeyondthesea
Its a total SHAME the women in America are NOT like this - The women I've dated in the past 9 years age from 45 to 54 years old - There all divorced with kids and CRAZY - On the first date I get questions like how big is my house or what is my income - Maybe I'll take a vactions to the Philippines one day
Best decision you'll ever make. I spent 10 weeks there this summer with my Filipina fiance and I will never look go back to American women. I'm actually moving to the Philippines to start my life there with her. Amazing people and she is a God send.
I have been with my Filipina for nearly a year, got engaged in August. She never asked me for anything but I offered to help her early in the relationship to save her going away and leaving the kids to work. I have been sending her (yes I know to much) a thousand Australian dollars a week. This is for mortgage of $250 per week in Manila car and other living expenses. I have recently cut it to $750 to save for the wedding. She hasn’t liked it one bit saying she can’t survive. This is a huge rag flag for me, she doesn’t seem to understand what I’m trying to do, but instead thinks I’m mad with her and want to make her suffer?? I have done nothing but been sweet to her wanting to give her the wedding she wants. She’s a province girl and there’s so much I like about her and I honestly love her but feel she will break up because she thinks I don’t want to provide for her and the kids. Why are Filipinas so illogical and impractical. ANY THOUGHT LIFE BEYOND THE SEAS. YOU SEEM TO KNOW A BIT ABOUT THE PHILAPINO MINDSET???
an expat from the UK had a very similar situation as yours. despite him sending her the vast majority of his earnings from the UK... his g/f kept saying, "it is not enough." i'll tell you what i told him, "she is full of crap." entire families live on $700/month usd. and this filipina you are with is saying she can't get by with $3,000 aus per month?? she is fleecing you. oh, and the UK guy who paid for her tuition for 3 years.. plus living expenses, paid her rent, spending money, etc... the whole time she was having an affair with some other guy. honestly, you may care for her emotionally, but you need to see this for what it is. no filipina is "struggling" to get by on $750 aus a week. your biggest fear is that she will break up with you. my recommendation... end it. this is more than a 'red flag'... she is lying to you and stealing from you. you can't trust a woman like that, ever.
With all the guidance and information out there...... You are doing this to yourself..... YOU are ALLOWING this to happen. and the more you give the more you loose. Ask yourself this question... what would she do without all the money you are and have sent. Cut your loses and find a good girl... Most times,. your gut feelings are right. (she will most likely leave) I really hate to be the reason for ending what seems to be a good thing, maybe it is ,. maybe it isn't.... Look at all the stories out there that sound like this and ..... Just be smarter than others... you have the flashing lights and alarms going off.... pay attention. If you cut the money off and she dumps you..... there you go. Heck, she may be doing this to 5-6 other guys, including you. Simple thought here,. you are pouring money in a wishing well. You wish you are not wrong. Best wishes in all sincerity.
I am convinced that what is described as "crazy" is simply a woman who is dating a guy for any reason other than love. Those will leave you seemingly without reason, and nobody wants to admit they were only used. Moreover women seem to want to frame overt manipulation as "love", maybe because that is more palatable than admitting the truth.
I don't encourage any of these behaviors on the list in this vid nor display any of them myself but if they want to leave let them. I think going over there for a long term relationship/marriage is just folly, especially when divorce is illegal in that country. Enjoy spending time with them, treat them with respect and take care of them while they are with you. That way if they want to leave it is on them and not because of your behavior. Another big problem is too many men come to that country with little or no experience in marriage and long term relationships and jump right in simply because they can. Enjoy the Philippines for what it is and don't complicate your life when you don't have to.
to be more accurate about divorce in the PH... divorce is not "illegal" in the PH. it is simply not available in the PH. also, an expat can marry a PH (doesn't matter which country the marriage occurs)... and later divorce her in his own country. this divorce decree will be acknowledged by the PH, even though they themselves do not grant divorces in their courts. both parties are then free to marry someone else, including the filipina. if divorce was illegal, a person could be prosecuted for it as a crime. but that is not the case in the PH.
@@Lifebeyondthesea I wasn't sure what the exact legal terms were but my point was that is not nearly as cut and dry to get divorced in the Philippines as it is in the rest of the world. Why men would ever get married over there (Or anywhere else for that matter) is beyond my understanding. You are complicating your life when you don't have to. You can have the exact same experience but be in a much better position to protect yourself and your assets if you never sign on the dotted line. Men around the world need to completely walk away from any sort of governmental involvement in their relationships for their own protection until the laws change to represent both parties equally in divorce.
@Lifebeyondthesea He forgot that the end result of an annulment is the same as a divorce, longer and more costly but in the end, the same, both free to remarry...
@@brucesmith9206 You are not guaranteed the right to an annulment in the PH even after you spend all the time and money on it. The judge can just tell you "no" for whatever reason and then you're stuck.
Reekay I love this video I don't have any of those voices. And I can't wait to find that kind of Memory once I get to the Philippines. I hope I can find that kind of woman that you speak of I appreciate you always and I appreciate your videos
Top 4 reasons if she's not so good (from experience): 1.To play a power game, 2. To 'manage distance', 3. To extract a concession, 4. To 'communicate' a message.
It's no different from what an American Woman would demand. The problem is, if you start dating someone who drinks occasionally and is a smoker, the worst thing you can do is aggressively criticize that activity. American men do not like being told what to do when it comes to pleasurable things they like, but they know cheating is not acceptable.
Not gonna lie. I´ve cheated once and lost the best partner I´ve ever had. I swore to myself to stay single until I am mature enough to controll my urges even while drunk. That was in 2013 and we broke up 2 years later. She tried to somehow cope with the distrust but ultimately failed to love an enemy. I am now used to being alone so I am not too sure if I am a strong willed man but I am definetly more mature than in my 20´s. I am not greedy for women anymore because I had a very... lively youth were I had it relatively easy with women. Alcohol was the reason why I kissed another women so I am with you on those two things. I´ve never laid hands on any one ( in any kind of relationship. Besides stupid fights in youger years). Gambling is not one of my problems and luckyly has never been. I really enjoy your bits on a daily basis :D It encourages me to work for my life in the PH and also prepares me for some things that will come for me once I am there.
I don't drink even socially anymore. Been on the loosing end of a cheater so I know how that crap feels so I won't do it. Never been an abusive person so that's not a problem. The only issue I have is that I smoke cigarettes still..
I believe all that is stated here is accurate. Now, state the other side. There are always two sides to every story and I know of the other side as well
A good woman will only stay for so long til she realizes her worth & what she deserves. A good woman will leave and find where she’s wanted & loved. You’re more likely to hurt her than make her mad for the faults you make bc they are sensitive. A good woman isn’t perfect but will take accountability for her shortcomings too & will show you that she’s trying to make things work. A good woman will blame herself instead of you if things doesn’t work out, if she recognizes she’s no longer wanted.
i would say a sense of despondency. they expect that if they are with a 'foreigner', life will get better. but with a local guy, not much is expected, the bar is set pretty low.
The filipina I met has a dad that's irresponsible. He took money his daughter saved to buy then a house and got scammed out of the money. In the past he ruined his wife's sari-sari shop.
the only part her dad (or mother) play in your relationship with the filipina is sending a set-amount of support towards their well-being. that's her obligation to her parents, and i am fine with that. but it ends there. the father can continue the rest of his life being irresponsible, it has nothing to do with you and your filipina. you two live your life as one, and he can go live his life doing whatever. but knowing what you know... never loan him money and don't give him any large sum expecting him to do anything but waste it as he has done before.
Oh your love is such a thrill❤❤❤❤But your love won’t pay my bills, just give me money $$$$$, I just want your money!!!! Courtesy of, The Fling Lizards. Play it boys, memorize it and take it to heart.
I suppose her taking a bullet for him is his only way out 😅. All kidding aside, the reality is that men can cheat and still love their wife and family and be dedicated to them. But, thats not how women see it. This is a subject to be debated in a much longer conversation. But you can read David Buss - the evolution of desire
Well that's an easy list, but I already knew that and that's not only true with Filipinas, there are other Asian countries where that's generally true when you're talking about a woman that grew up in a good home and goes by the morals in their culture. In other words not a bar girl.
Can you make a TOP 4 of wife bad habits that she gets after 25 years of marriage? For example I am in year 35 with my wife and can't stand her addiction to her phone..
Rule #1 don’t cheat. Can you expand on this please? Exactly what does this mean behaviour wise? Could this be smiling at another woman, having lady friends, going out with a group of friends… There’s a whole sliding scale that might appear completely innocent to a nieve westerner but feel like betrayal to a Filipina. What are the unwritten rules?
bringbackescapewheelwatchr9679 You are going to have to find out what makes your gf get ticked off, if just smiling or saying Hi to a checkout clerk gets her blood boiling and threatening to leave you, then leave her, you don't need that. There is such a thing as 'casual interest' and it is normal. Cheating means sexual intercourse with another, not saying hi to your neighbors daughter. Wouldn't be going out with a bunch of girls unless your gf is coming too, just doesn't look right or respectful to your gf.
What I like about Filipinas they will not stay with a man that is good and will leave. I like that they have decernment because if they stay. That man may not make a good father or husband
I've been watching Philippines vids for years. If got say the age gap, they say the women want the maturity, do not Philippine men grow old? Also wanting a light skin baby's, maybe. But in my opinion it's all about economics, if the country was first world country and the economy was good, do you honestly think a twenty years old would hook up with a 70s year old? It's all about the money...
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The filipina I met has a dad that's irresponsible. He took money his daughter saved to buy then a house and got scammed out of the money. In the past he ruined his wife's sari-sari shop. What do u think Reekay, I think he can be a problem, should I deal with another filipina? She seems like she's to focused on fixing their housing problem
As a 60 year old man with a lot of experience it doesn't matter where you are focus on a mature woman at least in her mid 30s I have only been with one Filipina my wife since 2014 got to know her for over 3 years before even thinking I would ever go out of the United States i met her by accident i notice what a lot of men are doing coming to the philippines in there 40s 50s 60s and older you're too focused on beautiful i super model looking woman cause they do stare a lot i get a lot of that cause i look late 30s. Not as much even in NY most of these women in their 20s are not mature and you will see if you're Filipina wife has sisters that age you have nothing in common as you get to know them you can't share much having different interest it ends up not working out 95% of the time cause you go in that relationship thinking with the wrong head walking in lust all those good looking Filipino men they can communicate with better than they can with you ask yourself why me all you're doing is bringing attention to those men as they see you with them it makes it easier for them to meet there dream good Filipino and start using and playing you that's what you have to think about going after these young looking beautiful model looking women they stare at me a lot but I love my wife and ignore them you can even end up homeless like many foreigners have they're not even mature enough to be a friend and be there for you when things go that way it's usually a woman in her early 20s reeling you in saying all the right things putting you in a bad situation a lot of these younger filipinas now with the new technology and many changes are not gonna tell you but they're physically and in so many other ways into
their own men ,,
I had all these qualities, I didn’t cheat, didn’t smoke or drink, supported my stay at home wife financially, built my own house, run my own business and she still left me after 24 years being married. I forgot to mention - she was an American woman.
yep.
Well duh
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Mine left me when I became disabled. She told me that she realized that she could do it without me now. I needed her the most and I was expendable.
Thanks for the summary. Saved me 9 minutes.
Top 4 reasons a good woman leaves a good man:
1) He is too agreeable, too nice, too respectful, too eager to please her, worships her.
2) He is too trusting, does not set boundaries for her, allows her to hang out with her "friends" without any checks.
3) He tolerates disobedience, disrespect, emotional abuse, and even physical abuse.
4) He is absolutely committed to her and told her he will unconditionally love her and will never leave her.
I would say if she leaves a good man...well then she's not a good woman😮
You are SO SO SO SO CORRECT!!!
Apart for #1, these sound like reasons for a man to leave. If you put up with such BS, her leaving sounds more like a deliverance.
The problem there, I'd say is that it's one sided. The lady likely has chosen to be there for financial reasons, and if you're with someone you don't really like but thought you could tolerate, it may turn really bad with toxic behaviour from her side as a consequence. This even if the guy is "too nice".
She don't wants him, simple as that, but may stay cos he pays the bills, it usually don't end well.
I guess, it could happen with large age gaps, doesn't have to, but I'd think the risks are higher there.
I’m 75 my Filipina wife is 42. Been married 12 years and I feel like a teenager in love. No drama no fighting ever no relatives to support. She works and never asks for money. And it gets better every day.
that is awesome!! very happy for both of you. :)
She didn't grow up in a sea of Toxic Femininity.
After she drains him financially, she's gone, and/or he ends the welfare to her extended family. Women, in general, tend to monkeybranch, not letting go of her present option, until she's secured another (usually better option). She can also be emotionally abusive with tampo, and continuing to nag him after he says no (again to her financial demands). I believe a once province girl--now entitled princess--won't leave to go back to the province, unless the abuse is severe. A good relationship will not have these issues, as both parties are able to work things out.
It's called the bbd. Or bigger better deal. I pray that my Filipina has no lines out. I hope that I am the only one that she is talking to.
I always talked to a friend of mine, told him to beware of BBD - 'Bigger, Better, Deal'. There is always one eye on the present and one on the future. Like that lizard whose two eyes move in different directions. Apparently the psych fraternity have given it the official name of 'Marilyn Monroe Syndrome'.
That is why vetting and testing her is so important. Especially during the dating stage. Before she moves in.
Well said Reekay.
I was married to a westerner woman. Without sounding haughty or pumped up which by nature, l am not, l consider myself a good man, loyal and responsible. Long story short, my ex always compared me to other people who, at that time were reasonably ‘well-off’.
I felt hen pecked and often put down. I stuck it out because l thought god would do a miracle.
Eventually l ‘found out’ that she had an affair.
At that point, l shut the gate well and truly.
Some years later, my ex apologised and with innuendo’s, wanted to come back. There was no way l was going to return. The trust was broken forever. She learnt a lesson that ‘the grass is never greener on the other side’.
Fast forward now, l am so called ‘well off’ and l have my absolutely drop dead gorgeous ( in looks and character)Filipina woman. We have been together for a number of years now and will get married for sure.
Great message Reekay!
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consequences are a bitch. but they made their choices.
Gentlemen, there's ABSOLUTELY NOTHING LIKE A PHILIPINA WOMAN PERIOD
@@edwinkirkland8856 l agree with you 👌
“… take a bullet for him” is allot more than I can say for the typical American woman w a husband w no vises. Thats no guarantee over here. Many woman here are too entitled, independent, self-important to stay w a good guy, respect and appreciate him over time. 80%+of the time its the wife that files for divorce in US. she gets half his stuff and thinks she can find greener pastures - then realizes too late shes too old and unattractive for any decent guy to want. You and I both speak from experience here. Great income, nonsmoking, good dad, never drank, cursed, nor saw other women, faithful, Christian, but she still filed; traumatized kids, took the finances, left. years later she is now broke on government assistance, kids have little respect for her. Regrets too late what she lost. Filippinas seem smart enough to know how to appreciate and care for their man - for life.
I don't drink or smoke and never did drugs, so those issues will never be a problem for me and thanks for the advice as I'm in the process of retirement and may be 18 to 24 months from exploring the concept of coming back to the Philippines to stay, been to a few places already and I understand about the "honeymoon" phase of coming there but I fell in love with the culture back in 2008 and now I'm having the itch to come back
Im assuming you do gym and eat right and stay healthy 😊
Hi Rekay, Your very right about that. My family have really taken my filipeno lady into the family completely. We are getting married in january here, and my sister is over the moon helping her with the wedding, and is so excited that she will have a new sister officaly, she already thinks of her as her sister. I have never felt so loved or cared for my entier life. She keeps saying she is so lucky to have me, but I think I'm the real lucky one. My step daugther even likes her so much, she wants to be at the wedding and invites us to their events and not her real mother. Later we will have the church wedding there for her family, and I will send you and paul (old dog) an invite as well.
that is great to hear! you can keep in touch with me here.. facebook.com/reekay.new
What about my invite? 😂
I’m kidding but l wish you much joy and happiness 😊
Geoff.
Congratulations Sir and keep up the good work
After trying several other countries, I settled in the Philippines and now need to decide between several attractive young Filipinas. There were of course the ones online only looking for money but when I refused to give them one peso, they disappeared immediately.
All marriages will experience tough times.
Whatever happens, stay loyal.
Because once you cheat and your partner finds it.
The marriage is over.
Trust, is the bedrock of all committed and loving relationships.
Cheating destroys trust.
So whatever ups and downs both of you are having, keep talking, don't cut off or withdraw from communication.
Because, the next stage is cheating and once you reached that point of no return, your marriage is over.
agree 100%
Wow Rique, you sure have improved the AI images here. Great advise as always. Take care.
You are right of course, just want to add, this door goes both ways. I'm married 22 years to basically a good woman, but after all these years of putting up with her binge drinking, when I do walk out that door, she knows why, she already knows that's going to happen.
What are you waiting for? Also, people can live in different houses and still see each other.
Focused and clearly communicated. Thank you. Addictive behaviors, disrespect for others, immaturity, self centeredness, reckless abandon has its consequences. Some never grow up. I met SE Asian women hurt by men like that. Somehow they don’t feel how it can traumatize and confuse women. The SE Asian women I met are smart and don’t put up with it once they’ve seen it. I encouraged them to love themselves not to put up with poor behaviors
Well said
So true. And the first step is to take an honest assessment of yourself and have the integrity to correct any of these short comings. A lot of the "work" required in a happy marriage is on yourself.
absolutely. anything less is basically selfish.
Have to say I do like beers and hope I will be able to find some low carb alcoholic beverages in the Philippines ... lol On the other hand I rarely get stumbling drunk. Have been successful in my life and am very responsible though. My wife occasionally drinks some wine but is not much of a drinker at all and is okay with my drinking fortunately.
Actually I was in the same boat as a lot of commenters on here, left my first wife thinking the grass was greener on the other side and found all the good women in the US were taken already. What was left was a bunch of women with mental problems(unfortunately due to some guy they were with) who could not stay in a sustained relationship. Thank goodness my brother helped me find the Philippines.
Good video Reekay and look forward to more of your videos....Jim
Whether it is a Filipina or a good woman from other countries, these 4 factors (and others) will cause women to leave a man. Besides cheating, alcoholism, smoking, or taking drugs, I would add a difference of religious values, financial instability, and a lack of love, attention, and respect for each other.
All these will take a toll on the relationship or marriage.
yep, all cancerous to a healthy relationship.
@@fwnmwasn't it technically Pontius Pilate's decision? That would mean the Romans killed Jesus. Yes, the Pharisees were the ones that pushed for it, but Pilate could have said no, being the legal authority at the time. He knew Jesus was innocent but still allowed the sentence to be carried out. Of course in our Bible, it has to happen that way because that is what was prophesied. Just so you know, i stand with Israel.
the participation of both jews and gentiles in the crucifixion puts the guilt on both parties with regard to humanity.
on an individual basis, his crucifixion punishment was for our own personal sins.
Especially loss of respect, once you lose that, it's pretty much all she wrote for the relationship.
All you said is so very true. Thank you for sharing.
Another home run video, thanks mate. What AI are you using to generate these absolutely stunning images of women with? I fall in love with them every video I watch. Lol thanks again bud
1. Cheating / side chicks
2. Abuse (physical or emotional)
3. Alcohol /drug abuse
4. Irresponsible (not being the leader; not paying the bills; she can't count on you)
You often hear guys say that Filipino women are only after money. If the guy keeps offering and then not taking “ No” for an answer, it’s pretty unfair to blame the woman when she thanks you and accepts. I know of both. The one that asks for money every time she sees you or contacts you is the one to avoid, but the one that works 12 hour days and still struggles, but won’t tell you. She might say I can’t afford this right now but doesn’t ask for anything. Still if you offer to help her, if she likes you she will accept your help even though she feels a little ashamed.
so true.
Thank you for your words of wisdom. God bless you 🙏🏻
You are so welcome
A great talk....This advice applies to all men regardless of where they live....
A good looking Filipina has OPTIONS. Never cheat. Do not make them jealous.
Thank you for this video 😊
My wife and I have been together for almost 22 years. Our paths crossed in Canada when I worked in Health Care and she was an OFW contract Caregiver. We hit it off and the rest became history. Those four points were never part of the equation in our lives and now we are happily retired in our condo in Davao. Three years ago, while still in Canada, she was able to start a beach front resort in Pantukan, Davao de Oro, managed by her oldest daughter. Now she can be more active in running it. To make a long story short, any single or combination of the four points would have been disastrous to our relationship.
Sooo happy R to see you getting very good, extensive mileage working with my 'Dream' girl. Very fine work there! 😉🙂🤣
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Good advice bro. Im thinking that a full grown man should know all of these things.
Yes the friends family and coworkers can be the assassins of the relationship if you're caught! lol
Don't do it guys.
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every time.
They can wreck the relationship even when you're not cheating or doing anything overtly wrong.
Thanks brother that was great
Glad you enjoyed it
Hire a private investigator in the Philippines, have a pre-nup, and a very clear expectation in writing. Please note that when you're marrying a Filipina, your taking away a breadwinner from her family.
Very good points, makes lot of sense! 🤔🇫🇮🇺🇦
That seems to apply universally.
Great video with sound advice. When you get a good Filipina, don't blow it guys. They are totally different from your Western women. They are really loyal, loving, and compassionate women.
So true!
Funny but so true about a drunk guy great advice Reekay really enjoying your videos on Filipina relationships
This is just good solid advice.
One more big reason for breaking up at least LDR wise is he waits too long to visit and she gets tired of waiting. Maybe she’d wait forever but she’s hurting too much being away. Or gives up he’s never coming.
They were willing to wait longer periods of time before during Covid. They don’t want to wait years anymore. They want to talk and know that you’re coming within months usually. That’s why it’s best to either be here already or have a booked trip already and show her the tickets so she knows you’re sincere and really coming.
Unfortunately also during Covid lots of foreigners just lied and used them for fun and promised them the world and never showed up either for financial reasons or really married back home or whatever. And they waited years for a man who never came. They’re tired of that and don’t want it again.
great job life, ive watched a few of your videos and your doing a great job. Where do you get these pictures you show, is this the norm in the Phillipines? The women in your photos are gorgeous...
the ones in the vids, i create with AI. but in the PH.. i'd say about 6% are a 7 thru a 10. with maybe 1% being a 10. but, they are very approachable and i've dated many since 2012.
Good to hear, my country Canada has become insanely expensive to live in, I am checking out the Phillipines next year, possibly moving there some day if I like it...@@Lifebeyondthesea
A noteworthy video; thank-you.
Sounds like all the same reasons as in any relationship, anywhere.
I love the photos of all beauties
thanks. they are AI generated images. :)
Hey Reekay are you using Dal-E-2 to generate these images?
a little of everything, but a lot was done on midjourney.
@@Lifebeyondthesea thanks they're really good
Its a total SHAME the women in America are NOT like this - The women I've dated in the past 9 years age from 45 to 54 years old - There all divorced with kids and CRAZY - On the first date I get questions like how big is my house or what is my income - Maybe I'll take a vactions to the Philippines one day
you would be in for a treat. :)
Best decision you'll ever make. I spent 10 weeks there this summer with my Filipina fiance and I will never look go back to American women. I'm actually moving to the Philippines to start my life there with her. Amazing people and she is a God send.
why in the world would you ever waste time and money on an American woman? American women are the biggest gold-diggers on the planet.
There seems to be something very, very wrong with American women. Especially the so-called “Karen’s “. It’s crazy.
@@kingbeestacker873 congrats. 🎉
I have been with my Filipina for nearly a year, got engaged in August. She never asked me for anything but I offered to help her early in the relationship to save her going away and leaving the kids to work. I have been sending her (yes I know to much) a thousand Australian dollars a week. This is for mortgage of $250 per week in Manila car and other living expenses. I have recently cut it to $750 to save for the wedding. She hasn’t liked it one bit saying she can’t survive. This is a huge rag flag for me, she doesn’t seem to understand what I’m trying to do, but instead thinks I’m mad with her and want to make her suffer?? I have done nothing but been sweet to her wanting to give her the wedding she wants. She’s a province girl and there’s so much I like about her and I honestly love her but feel she will break up because she thinks I don’t want to provide for her and the kids. Why are Filipinas so illogical and impractical.
ANY THOUGHT LIFE BEYOND THE SEAS. YOU SEEM TO KNOW A BIT ABOUT THE PHILAPINO MINDSET???
an expat from the UK had a very similar situation as yours. despite him sending her the vast majority of his earnings from the UK... his g/f kept saying, "it is not enough."
i'll tell you what i told him, "she is full of crap." entire families live on $700/month usd. and this filipina you are with is saying she can't get by with $3,000 aus per month?? she is fleecing you.
oh, and the UK guy who paid for her tuition for 3 years.. plus living expenses, paid her rent, spending money, etc... the whole time she was having an affair with some other guy.
honestly, you may care for her emotionally, but you need to see this for what it is. no filipina is "struggling" to get by on $750 aus a week.
your biggest fear is that she will break up with you. my recommendation... end it. this is more than a 'red flag'... she is lying to you and stealing from you. you can't trust a woman like that, ever.
With all the guidance and information out there......
You are doing this to yourself..... YOU are ALLOWING this to happen. and the more you give the more you loose.
Ask yourself this question... what would she do without all the money you are and have sent.
Cut your loses and find a good girl...
Most times,. your gut feelings are right. (she will most likely leave)
I really hate to be the reason for ending what seems to be a good thing, maybe it is ,. maybe it isn't....
Look at all the stories out there that sound like this and ..... Just be smarter than others...
you have the flashing lights and alarms going off.... pay attention.
If you cut the money off and she dumps you..... there you go.
Heck, she may be doing this to 5-6 other guys, including you.
Simple thought here,. you are pouring money in a wishing well.
You wish you are not wrong.
Best wishes in all sincerity.
The Philippines is going to be awesome 😊
you are in for such a treat. :) you won't want to leave.
@@Lifebeyondthesea wow. Just getting going on this journey. Encouraged by so many positive messages coming from men who have experienced filipinas
I am convinced that what is described as "crazy" is simply a woman who is dating a guy for any reason other than love. Those will leave you seemingly without reason, and nobody wants to admit they were only used. Moreover women seem to want to frame overt manipulation as "love", maybe because that is more palatable than admitting the truth.
I am glad that cheating is not tolerated there.
I don't encourage any of these behaviors on the list in this vid nor display any of them myself but if they want to leave let them. I think going over there for a long term relationship/marriage is just folly, especially when divorce is illegal in that country. Enjoy spending time with them, treat them with respect and take care of them while they are with you. That way if they want to leave it is on them and not because of your behavior. Another big problem is too many men come to that country with little or no experience in marriage and long term relationships and jump right in simply because they can. Enjoy the Philippines for what it is and don't complicate your life when you don't have to.
to be more accurate about divorce in the PH... divorce is not "illegal" in the PH. it is simply not available in the PH.
also, an expat can marry a PH (doesn't matter which country the marriage occurs)... and later divorce her in his own country. this divorce decree will be acknowledged by the PH, even though they themselves do not grant divorces in their courts. both parties are then free to marry someone else, including the filipina.
if divorce was illegal, a person could be prosecuted for it as a crime. but that is not the case in the PH.
@@Lifebeyondthesea I wasn't sure what the exact legal terms were but my point was that is not nearly as cut and dry to get divorced in the Philippines as it is in the rest of the world. Why men would ever get married over there (Or anywhere else for that matter) is beyond my understanding. You are complicating your life when you don't have to.
You can have the exact same experience but be in a much better position to protect yourself and your assets if you never sign on the dotted line. Men around the world need to completely walk away from any sort of governmental involvement in their relationships for their own protection until the laws change to represent both parties equally in divorce.
@Lifebeyondthesea He forgot that the end result of an annulment is the same as a divorce, longer and more costly but in the end, the same, both free to remarry...
@@brucesmith9206 You are not guaranteed the right to an annulment in the PH even after you spend all the time and money on it. The judge can just tell you "no" for whatever reason and then you're stuck.
1 reason - bank drained
Reekay I love this video I don't have any of those voices. And I can't wait to find that kind of Memory once I get to the Philippines. I hope I can find that kind of woman that you speak of I appreciate you always and I appreciate your videos
Top 4 reasons if she's not so good (from experience): 1.To play a power game, 2. To 'manage distance', 3. To extract a concession, 4. To 'communicate' a message.
It's no different from what an American Woman would demand. The problem is, if you start dating someone who drinks occasionally and is a smoker, the worst thing you can do is aggressively criticize that activity. American men do not like being told what to do when it comes to pleasurable things they like, but they know cheating is not acceptable.
Not gonna lie. I´ve cheated once and lost the best partner I´ve ever had. I swore to myself to stay single until I am mature enough to controll my urges even while drunk. That was in 2013 and we broke up 2 years later. She tried to somehow cope with the distrust but ultimately failed to love an enemy. I am now used to being alone so I am not too sure if I am a strong willed man but I am definetly more mature than in my 20´s. I am not greedy for women anymore because I had a very... lively youth were I had it relatively easy with women.
Alcohol was the reason why I kissed another women so I am with you on those two things. I´ve never laid hands on any one ( in any kind of relationship. Besides stupid fights in youger years). Gambling is not one of my problems and luckyly has never been.
I really enjoy your bits on a daily basis :D It encourages me to work for my life in the PH and also prepares me for some things that will come for me once I am there.
Appreciate you sharing your story. Real growth comes from learning from our slip-ups. Keep pushing towards those Philippines goals! 😊
Yes they would leave like that,but would about both women knowing about each other and living in the same house and they both agree to be with you
This the best video I have listened too. Thank you.
I don't drink even socially anymore. Been on the loosing end of a cheater so I know how that crap feels so I won't do it. Never been an abusive person so that's not a problem. The only issue I have is that I smoke cigarettes still..
Conversely those would all be reasons I would leave a relationship too. 😅😅😅
Yes they don’t want guys who are lasing.
lasing??
@@Lifebeyondthesea drunk in Tagalog
@@Lifebeyondthesea Reekay, are you still doing consultations? If yes, how can I set one up? Thank you.
yes, you can reach me at my FB to set up a time here..
facebook.com/reekay.new
I believe all that is stated here is accurate. Now, state the other side. There are always two sides to every story and I know of the other side as well
already did.. can view it here...
ua-cam.com/video/msD7P0m2LOA/v-deo.html
Men don't realize that the woman was never yours to begin with , no matter what you do she is always looking for better
A good woman will only stay for so long til she realizes her worth & what she deserves. A good woman will leave and find where she’s wanted & loved. You’re more likely to hurt her than make her mad for the faults you make bc they are sensitive. A good woman isn’t perfect but will take accountability for her shortcomings too & will show you that she’s trying to make things work. A good woman will blame herself instead of you if things doesn’t work out, if she recognizes she’s no longer wanted.
Engagement
Emotional abuse by women is underrated. If a wife rations shex like a punishment/reward at home, don't blame the man for finding relief outside.
Testify enrique, testify
if she leaves - you just dodged a bullet !
Henry, what would you say is the reason why many good Filipina women put up with these traits in Filipino men, but not foreigners?
i would say a sense of despondency. they expect that if they are with a 'foreigner', life will get better. but with a local guy, not much is expected, the bar is set pretty low.
i have a big question; is it best to marry in the Philippines or America.... This concerns me...
Seems if you marry in America if divorce happens the American courts will take it all from you and give to her, I know the Phillys don’t allow divorce
That is a very low bar for men to reach. They should be knocking this out of the park.
1. Abuse her 2. Cheat on her 3. Lie to her about something important 4. Don't keep a reasonable amount of food in the house
that won't end well.
The filipina I met has a dad that's irresponsible. He took money his daughter saved to buy then a house and got scammed out of the money. In the past he ruined his wife's sari-sari shop.
the only part her dad (or mother) play in your relationship with the filipina is sending a set-amount of support towards their well-being. that's her obligation to her parents, and i am fine with that.
but it ends there. the father can continue the rest of his life being irresponsible, it has nothing to do with you and your filipina. you two live your life as one, and he can go live his life doing whatever.
but knowing what you know... never loan him money and don't give him any large sum expecting him to do anything but waste it as he has done before.
Oh your love is such a thrill❤❤❤❤But your love won’t pay my bills, just give me money $$$$$, I just want your money!!!! Courtesy of, The Fling Lizards. Play it boys, memorize it and take it to heart.
Bravo! A message many western men need to absorb.
I suppose her taking a bullet for him is his only way out 😅. All kidding aside, the reality is that men can cheat and still love their wife and family and be dedicated to them. But, thats not how women see it. This is a subject to be debated in a much longer conversation. But you can read David Buss - the evolution of desire
in my case as a police neice it's easy for me to report to the police authority
Well that's an easy list, but I already knew that and that's not only true with Filipinas, there are other Asian countries where that's generally true when you're talking about a woman that grew up in a good home and goes by the morals in their culture. In other words not a bar girl.
Can you make a TOP 4 of wife bad habits that she gets after 25 years of marriage? For example I am in year 35 with my wife and can't stand her addiction to her phone..
in 21 years i can make that list. :)
Rule #1 don’t cheat.
Can you expand on this please?
Exactly what does this mean behaviour wise? Could this be smiling at another woman, having lady friends, going out with a group of friends…
There’s a whole sliding scale that might appear completely innocent to a nieve westerner but feel like betrayal to a Filipina.
What are the unwritten rules?
bringbackescapewheelwatchr9679 You are going to have to find out what makes your gf get ticked off, if just smiling or saying Hi to a checkout clerk gets her blood boiling and threatening to leave you, then leave her, you don't need that. There is such a thing as 'casual interest' and it is normal. Cheating means sexual intercourse with another, not saying hi to your neighbors daughter. Wouldn't be going out with a bunch of girls unless your gf is coming too, just doesn't look right or respectful to your gf.
What I like about Filipinas they will not stay with a man that is good and will leave. I like that they have decernment because if they stay. That man may not make a good father or husband
Guys that cheat deserve to be left.
If I oil find one that looks anything any one of that could be faithful I would absolutely spoil the crap out them and move her here to Texas
1. Loses income 2. Doesn't share income with family members. 3. Income reduces. 4. Won't apply for her green card.
My future wife will have to sign a pre nuptial agreement before marriage.
The best way to control a Filipina is to tell her no bagoong for you..
Is that literal Bagoong or an euphemism for money?? 🤣 What a strange thing to say....
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I've been watching Philippines vids for years. If got say the age gap, they say the women want the maturity, do not Philippine men grow old? Also wanting a light skin baby's, maybe. But in my opinion it's all about economics, if the country was first world country and the economy was good, do you honestly think a twenty years old would hook up with a 70s year old? It's all about the money...
any smart woman will choose a man with money over a man with none. no different than a man will choose a woman with beauty over a woman who lacks it.
more on that here.. ua-cam.com/video/WtVCB4V3alc/v-deo.html
why do the men leave
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This might mean if you become long term ill and cant keep the bills paid, off she trots ! ?
it's always a possibility. that's why you find a woman of character, not just a pretty face.
Well boys, I guess if you want multiple filipinas you have to become muslim and live in mindanao 😉
cheating, drinking, violence, true poverty -- my 4 guesses -- I am 4 for 4 "true poverty" a.k.a. dead weight/irresponsible. :-)
winner-winner!, chicken dinner. :D
Gold diggers, all of them.
if she leaves - you just dodged a bullet !