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I’ve met a few Gen Z Mikes while living in Saigon. They look at me and ask, with great curiosity and enthusiasm, how they can emulate my life and lifestyle. How can they become as physically fit as I am at my age. How can they become financially independent. I tell them that first, they will need to hit the gym 4 to 5 times a week, for 2 hours each time. The smile leaves their faces. Then I tell them to get a college degree in a subject that can help them land a good paying job (I have 3 degrees). Their eyes start to glaze over. Then I tell them to work like a dog in their 30s, invest their hard earned money, manage their spending habits, and live a modest lifestyle. The universal response to my advise: “That sounds too hard!”
the incident with this guy was my own lesson in helping out someone who doesn't follow advice or experience from others. i only helped him (never financially) as much as i did because i kept thinking of his parent's reaction if he ended up homeless, sleeping on the beach. but once he caught that flight back to usa, i was done with him. he didn't have the spine necessary to survive "out in the wild" as an expat. he couldn't have provide for himself back home.
A couple times while working abroad, I pretended not to speak English because I strongly disliked random foreigners feeling entitled to my _________. My whatever: compassion, advice, translation ability, tangible work & intellectual property, etc. Overly familiar & entitled: just because we’re both not of the local culture & geography. Strong dislike on all of that.
I’m worth 22 million and make 1.6 million in rental income on industrial and commercial property a year and have never had a job. 2 hours a day 5 days a week is way too much gym time. I play pickleball, surf and ski through slalom courses. My total excercise a week may be 6 hours but I also walk my golf course.
This is precisely why I was sooo glad when I hit full retirement age. The young people I had to supervise simply had not been raised to deal with the realities of actual life. The west is entering the season of hard times imo.
I agree, examples back in the late 90's, early 2000's I had parents coming with their adult kids to my job interviews, Some were not dressed properly, some couldn't fill out a job application. Needless to say I didn't hire them.
Proof that moving to another country won’t fix you. Squire Mike’s problem wasn’t lack of financial security or caving to his gf; his problem was him. Guarantee he’s making the same mistakes back at home.
@@TheGandorX If they spoiled him so much that he literally doesn’t know how to do anything for himself, that parent-to-child dynamic isn’t gonna change now, in his 20s.
Wow! Talk about a walking disaster. I knew guys like that in the Navy, they wanted everything the older guys had but couldn't afford it. They wound up becoming 'examples' of what not to do for junior enlisted. As always you have a great story for others to consider.
nah .. ANYONE who maxes out multiple credit cards because he's unwilling to change his lifestyle to necessary levels .. is doomed to get a very very bloody nose .. and i am willing to bet .. he's insanely bad with money and wasteful and dirty at his parents place too
What a story Reekay! I guess you've met them all. I've always greatly appreciated your advice throughout these last 6 or so years. You and I have conversed a bunch of times live and via messenger and you always have sound ideas and thoughts. Thank you again for your friendship, help and kindness. You are a great guy Reekay.👍👌
Sounds familiar. Younger people expect so much more. I was homeless in my teens, but now I’m considered wealthy. When I tell people what I had to do and how hard I’ve worked to get here they say ‘you shouldn’t have to do that’ 😄
Much respect to you for helping out this young man and also giving him boundaries. Simping kills men, young and old. Put God first, purpose, fitness, finances, mental / emotional health, community / friendships, and then bring a women into your world with clear vision and boundaries. If a man finds a woman before he has everything lined up and organized then set boundaries and learn to say no to your woman.
You are a very patient and generous man, Reekay. Very kind of you to indulge and try to help that young trainwreck. Unfortunately the outcome was all too predictable. And sadly, it sounds as though young Mike learned nothing from the experience, given that he called and asked for a favor after all of that.
Mike should have had moving to the Philippines as a goal. Working as a 22 yr old he could have worked as much as possible for 8 years (55+ hrs a week) and retired over there at 30. Just savihg half of it into an S&P index fund, you'd have $275k in 8 years. If you then just bought and held Verizon stock (6.71% div currently), youd bring in $18k annually on dividends to live on. Thats $1500 a month. If he was responsible and reinvested 20% of that to help it grow, he would have never run out of money.
This lesson was not for him. It was for you. As much as I hate to say that. Some people mature early and some people just don't ever mature. Be the nice guy. But don't be The guy that's too nice.
There is no teacher like actual Life experience. I've been a slow learner in this regard myself- the advice from older and wiser male mentors in their 40s and 50s or older only fell on deaf ears when I was in my 20s.I'm nearing 60 now and the same cycle is repeating when I give advice to younger men in their 20's who ask for it, and I can only shake my head in a detached way, and ponder on Life. :)
Well you really put yourself out there trying to help that guy Mike, We have all been there and not always with good results,I hope the boy learned something.
If you are 22 and still don't even know how to make Top Ramen, then maybe, just maybe your not ready to move to another country yet. He never got the concept of learn to crawl before you walk
I have no idea how to make Top Ramen, never had it... my family is amazed by the BBQ baby back ribs I make at tailgate parties though. I do remember being in my 20's and being told you can save on dishes by cooking the spaghetti WITH the sauce. That was a disaster!! But I didn't leave the dishes in the sink after. 🙂
“…still don't even know how to make Top Ramen, then maybe, just maybe your not ready to move to another country…” I knew the basics at seventeen. Trouble was my # was 43, 1-A, no defermits, and my country thought I was ready to move to SE Asia.
Heh. I know a ‘Mike’ as well. He stopped talking to me after I tried to get him to make a comprehensive plan for living in the PI, in the most expensive area, with no income. Good luck! I’m probably 3 years away the way my plans are going and even then if AI takes over my job, I’ll be in trouble!
I knew a "Mike" from work in the US. He & his girl came to me once to borrow $50 to go to the state fair, I told them if they didn't have $50 they had no business going to the state fair. She didn't like that. Eventually he told me he was getting married to his "girlfriend" and asked me what I thought, I told him he should tell her he was saving for the wedding, take the money and leave the state. (She was 23 with two baby daddies paying her child support for her two kids) He didn't talk to me after that. I heard his ex was on one of those Maury Povich type shows. Her true love she met in high school and every year (including when she was married) on his birthday she would "visit family" and sleep with him. (Not any of her ex-husbands) They talked to the guy & he thought she was just a stupid trashy whore & spoke about her as such. I saw him a couple years later and he was driving a rusted out beater with a couple kids in the back. But it turns out she wasn't so smart. She let him adopt the other two kids and since he's a broke idiot with no financial intelligence, she wasn't getting income from 3 guys but instead nothing from one. He was a nice guy, but a total idiot when it came to money & women.
Oh my goodness! What a fantastic, entertaining story that was to listen to! Its almost too horrible to be true! ha ha... "The world needs ditch diggers too". (Ted Knight ~ Caddyshack)🤣
inexperienced, irresponsible, and disrespectful. I hope he matures later in life. But I know one person who didn't - he's 50 years old, lives in his mother's basement, and makes spare change delivering pizza, for beer money. Decades ago, this guy was my best friend. Sad.
Sounds like the opposite of my 23 year old son. Graduated from college with money in the bank and lives by himself so he doesn't have to clean up after roommates.
@@Lifebeyondthesea yes, I was just thinking in a way the parents got a 11 months vacation from him. Unfortunately it probably cost them. Too bad they couldn’t drop his butt off at the Navy recruiting office. “Son you can now go to Asia and get paid”.
I am very sorry for your bad experience, sincerely. Some wise words if you're interested to learn. I come from a narcissistic family dynamic, here some wisdom from somebody who is dealing with people like that EVERYDAY. The Facebook story should have been the end of it, and your final red flag (after the 4 or 5 red flags you already had before facebook) At least you got inspiration for a video. Great video, the only part I disagree with is when you say "He made every mistakes in the book". That's INCORRECT, because those are not mistakes, this is his way of life and it's ALL ON PURPOSE, either a narcissist, or a codependent (same disease on opposite spectrum) People will have to fix everything in his life for him until he dies. Even when around his 40's, he will manipulate and ask people to help him with sob stories and emotional manipulation or become a criminal. Those people never ever ever do mistakes (from their point of view) If you meet him in 40 years, and will still behave exactly the same. I hope you will remember this, this type of people are around 5 to 10% of the population, you will cross path with others. If I would ask him why all this happed, HE WOULD TELL ME IT'S BECAUSE OF YOU (no joke, must be saying that to his parents and friend right at this moment)
At 22 your brain isn't fully matured yet and you tend to take risks a person in late 20s would never take. Some people take longer to mature, some never do.
"No good deed goes unpunished" no matter where in the world you are. Most people in general are unappreciative. Younger people, in general, more so --that's the very definition of immaturity. Much respect to you for your charity, though.
Unbelievable! I've made some stupid mistakes in my life but listening to this story makes me feel really good about myself. I have to say, you were much more patient with this turkey than I ever would have been!
LOL!!, thanks so much reekay for giving me such a great laugh!,,, was one off the funniest stories ive ever heard!,,,you should write comedy scripts!..lol...
The only good thing this kid did was he at least took action and moved to the Philippines, lots of guys say they're planning to move to The Philippines or wherever but never even take that first step.
Is he not a great storyteller?????? Also being able to constantly come up with content is a skill. He is a talented dude. I also think to some extent these videos and interacting with us is somewhat cathartic.
There is a old country saying that my great grandmother used to say that applies to this situation, “The fastest way to get in trouble is help somebody.” So sad but so true.
I am 50, male. I was young and dumb, at one time. But this dumb? Never! Although a shocking story, I'm not too surprised. Today's youth is full of stupidity. It's scary to think that he represents the future. Beautiful photos throughout. I have to get to the Philippines!
Great story! So many young kids do not listen at all! I have 7 kids, 4 listened and are doing well and 3 are not (all boys) but one of the 4 is a boy as well who became a professionally paid software developer at the age of 18! I taught him a lot of it but he still listened, took notes, heeded the lessons, humbled himself and is making more at 20 (now) then most people ever make. And his brother is working at donut shops and chipotle...The tale of two brothers...Young boys need a strong hand to guide them. Great story! And I hope to see you soon ;)
A new environment doesn't fix the problem when the problem is "22". I will admit, however, that the story, ever how sad it was, was funny. The sad thing is that by going back to live under his parent's roof, he'll probably not learn from this screw up. He is therefore doomed to repeat his failure again.
@@davidhall3747 I was fresh out of the box when I went to Japan in 1994. But I also had a job as an English teacher (the position were plentiful) and listened to the advice of foreigners who had lived there longer than I had and accepted the help of Japanese. When faced with cockroach-infested temporary housing, I decided to grin and bear it because I really wanted to stay in Japan and master Japanese. Fortunately I was away from that accommodation most of the time and ended up only staying there a month. I shudder to think how I would have handled the Philippines in 1994 as a 23 year old. I am glad that I am much better prepared to handle it now as a result of Reekay's channel.
all the images in the vids, i create with AI for illustrative purposes. but in the PH.. i'd say about 6% are a 7 thru a 10. with maybe 1% being a 10. but, they are very approachable.
Jeez! Y’all had a lot more patience than I would have. Hey Reekay, quick question sir. I’m going to be in Cebu near Ayala mall next month. Can you recommend a good coffee shop to start my day? Thank you
at the main Ayala Mall.. there are a few good choices. on the terraces (outdoors) is a Starbucks. near that is a Bo's Coffee. each has outdoor seating, you can meet filipinas as they stroll by if you like. or just people watch, meet a date, etc. there is also The Social, also on the terraces. not really a coffee place but more like and outdoor bar/resto. lots of outdoor seating and a common meeting place. another consideration is The Pancake House. they have coffee and are one of the few places that cook up an american breakfast of pancakes, waffles, eggs, bacon, etc. along with basic coffee.
Something that drives me nuts is when someone asks me for advice, I tell them exactly how to solve their problem, and then they don't do anything I said but come back and complain that their problem isn't solved. I just read recently, a woman talked about how her company called a meeting to discuss how to solve some problem. They went through a long conversation about all their options, and then she said, "Or, we could just do what I said to do in the first place."
Reekay you are very intelligent I like listening to your channel and the real life advice you give keep up the good work I also frequent the Philippines from here in the us and plan to retire there I hope to meet you someday my finance lives in tagum about an hour drive from davao
Good Story. You have a kind heart and unfortunately thats a magnet for those who leech on others. I say this with kindness as I can see myself in you. Took me 40 years to learn that "You help the people that Want it...NOT the people that need it." Even worse...is that Squire Mike is unwilling to do introspection....or...he's incapable of such.
You have learned as i have...Vet anyone even if you feel sorry for...As most are really their own..And your own worst enemy and they will just cause things to get worse and now you have resentment. Some people not only make their own troubles and hell....They import to you too! Some men and women are not fit for society or living standards of civilization.Peace
I have a friend with a son like him, except he does have a degree and job. He's all about running before he can walk. He was playing in bitcoin using her entire nest egg for retirement, lost it all, then just told her investments are risky. 🙄 This young generation, they’re idiots!
That was a really funny story, because of the audacity of clueless Squire Mike. I'd be curious if the real reason he fled is because he knocked her up, or thought he may have.
many phones today carry 2 SIMs at once. but if you only have room for 1 SIM, i'd say just switch it out. unless you're still on roaming service for the number from your home country. and yes, at the airport.. in the terminal, they will have a kiosk to sell a Globe SIM (avoid PLDT, imo). you'll need to register it with a photo of your ID before you can use it. that is good for 30-days. if you plan to stay in the PH longterm (for years), then consider switching the number to a Post-Paid account and you won't have to re-register it ever again.
@@Lifebeyondthesea when I switch sim cards…will I still have access to everything that’s on my phone? What about incoming calls or texts that I would need to answer from my home country like my bank trying to reach me etc
again, it depends on whether or not your phone can hold two SIM cards at once or not. and also if you have roaming turned 'on' for your home country provider. without roaming, your home country network won't access your phone outside of their basic coverage area. if you don't have a phone that can hold 2 SIM cards at once, i suggest you get one. or get a 2nd phone for use in the PH. but either way... you will need roaming coverage on your home-country provider to get texts/calls in the PH.
His girlfriend has his computer now. He apparently has some brain cells missing. He paid (oops parents paid) for a life lesson he probably wasn't astute enough to benefit from the experience. Life is the best school!
Sounds par for the course to me. He was still a boy at 22. At 22, I had signed and completed three leases and always paid rent early. He seems like a lot of young people today, who have been insulated from "real life" and thus, can't handle themselves once they have to leave the nest. As a GenXer, I didn't have that problem. I was a latchkey kid so I knew how to cook in, what, second or third grade? Then Home Economics in 8th grade built upon that. I had to know how to handle myself for the hours between when I got home from school and when my parents got home from work. I also learned to pay attention when older, wiser, more experienced people were talking. When I move to the Philippines, I won't be retired (to quote the inimitable Ric Flair, "I will NEVER retire!"). But my income will be constant and more than enough to live on (and I haven't been 22 in decades).
Tell your young friend that IF he can learn to trade options or futures he can do VERY well, but the failure rate is >90%. Some formal education is good.
OMG! Although I was not a great cook in 1994 in Japan, I learned at least how to cook my own chicken breast in aluminum foil! My Canadian roommate and I were also pretty good about hygiene as we had to dress professionally for work. You could impress many young Japanese women back in the day just by preparing spaghetti in boiled water and topping it with store-bought sauce!
I've heard a lot of stories of people who come here who heard somewhere, "In the Philippines, you can live like a king for $500 a month!" So they save up a few thousand dollars and they think they're going to live on it for the rest of their lives. Cost of living is low here ... but not that low. People get crazy unrealistic expectations. That, or they have no plan at all. They come here with no job lined up, no place to live, nothing, and think they'll just figure it all out as they go along. I wish such people the best ... but it's not likely to work out.
I feel that most of us didn't do much listening at that age.. By the way, you're mastering the AI philipinas. We're going to be disappointed when we visit the Philippines.. 😂
The only part of this story I expected but didn't happen - was him calling you at 3AM, "My girlfriend is pregnant! What do I do?" 😭 Of course she might be, but only found out after he left… or immediately before he left. He did sneak out while she was sleeping… The dude was 22. I did some stupid things at that age too. Got into situations way over my head. As I said to someone inexperienced not too long ago, "Life is an excellent teacher."
Ouch.... My sister is 6 years younger and is the same way.. Never seems to learn within a reasonable limit of time and ends up paying for it.. Or should I say, my parents end up paying for it..
@@PerfectSense77Could be his ex used the courts to take his kids away from him and severely limited his time with them. I had one of those 35 years ago who turned him into a soyboy f’nist. My mistake was choosing poorly in a wife back then.
That's good advice for anyone that do not have sufficient income to live in the Philippines. Hopefully, Mike learned a lesson from this bad experience.
Unfortunately, I think that is the problem with a lot of younger people. They’re not learning how to take care of themselves and be responsible first. As for me, I am 57 and planning to come to the Philippines this summer. I have already met a Filipino who is working in, Saudi Arabia and she will return to the Philippines this summer and we plan to meet. She is 45 and after three years of talking a lot more mature.
I feel like he could have made a go of it if he had a solid work ethic. I have to say, entering the Marines at 18 years old transformed me from a haphazard sloppy worker to a dedicated attention to detail worker. I learned and grew so much from that experience. I also feel like his parents failed this young man. You cannot enable lazy behavior and just hope your child will turn out alright. They were at least partly responsible for his failure.
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Have you considered unblocking him so you can get another video out of him? (to pay for the cleaning.) 🙂
I’ve met a few Gen Z Mikes while living in Saigon. They look at me and ask, with great curiosity and enthusiasm, how they can emulate my life and lifestyle. How can they become as physically fit as I am at my age. How can they become financially independent. I tell them that first, they will need to hit the gym 4 to 5 times a week, for 2 hours each time. The smile leaves their faces. Then I tell them to get a college degree in a subject that can help them land a good paying job (I have 3 degrees). Their eyes start to glaze over. Then I tell them to work like a dog in their 30s, invest their hard earned money, manage their spending habits, and live a modest lifestyle. The universal response to my advise: “That sounds too hard!”
the incident with this guy was my own lesson in helping out someone who doesn't follow advice or experience from others. i only helped him (never financially) as much as i did because i kept thinking of his parent's reaction if he ended up homeless, sleeping on the beach.
but once he caught that flight back to usa, i was done with him. he didn't have the spine necessary to survive "out in the wild" as an expat. he couldn't have provide for himself back home.
The hardheaded never learn
A couple times while working abroad, I pretended not to speak English because I strongly disliked random foreigners feeling entitled to my _________. My whatever: compassion, advice, translation ability, tangible work & intellectual property, etc. Overly familiar & entitled: just because we’re both not of the local culture & geography. Strong dislike on all of that.
I’m worth 22 million and make 1.6 million in rental income on industrial and commercial property a year and have never had a job. 2 hours a day 5 days a week is way too much gym time. I play pickleball, surf and ski through slalom courses. My total excercise a week may be 6 hours but I also walk my golf course.
Goes to show, they want the rewards without making the effort. But it's the effort that allows us to value the rewards that much more
This is precisely why I was sooo glad when I hit full retirement age. The young people I had to supervise simply had not been raised to deal with the realities of actual life. The west is entering the season of hard times imo.
Weak men make hard times.
I agree, examples back in the late 90's, early 2000's I had parents coming with their adult kids to my job interviews, Some were not dressed properly, some couldn't fill out a job application. Needless to say I didn't hire them.
You had WAY MORE patience with Mike than I would have.
Proof that moving to another country won’t fix you. Squire Mike’s problem wasn’t lack of financial security or caving to his gf; his problem was him. Guarantee he’s making the same mistakes back at home.
Truth. Wherever you go, there you are.
Let's hope his parents get him into shape.
@@TheGandorX If they spoiled him so much that he literally doesn’t know how to do anything for himself, that parent-to-child dynamic isn’t gonna change now, in his 20s.
“…Let's hope his parents get him into shape.” 🤣🤣🤣🤣😁
Wow! Talk about a walking disaster. I knew guys like that in the Navy, they wanted everything the older guys had but couldn't afford it. They wound up becoming 'examples' of what not to do for junior enlisted. As always you have a great story for others to consider.
You guys named him wrong.... It's not Squire Mike.... It's Court Jester Mike, for the title Squire is to prestigious for him.
It's too, not to. Fool.
Jesters actually had a higher status. They had the privilege to speak truth to the king and even mock him without being punished.
Great lesson for anybody thinking of doing this in any country.
nah .. ANYONE who maxes out multiple credit cards because he's unwilling to change his lifestyle to necessary levels .. is doomed to get a very very bloody nose .. and i am willing to bet .. he's insanely bad with money and wasteful and dirty at his parents place too
Man there's a lot of banter about scammers but so often people are their own worst enemy.
exactly. hardly any expat can say he was robbed of money. usually, he willingly handed it over when a filipina asked.
Because of this type of stories we learn from the mistakes others make and at the same time I enjoy your channel again
thanks! i'm glad it's helpful. :)
You opened your home n heart to that guy. What a user.
What a story Reekay! I guess you've met them all. I've always greatly appreciated your advice throughout these last 6 or so years. You and I have conversed a bunch of times live and via messenger and you always have sound ideas and thoughts. Thank you again for your friendship, help and kindness. You are a great guy Reekay.👍👌
Sounds familiar. Younger people expect so much more. I was homeless in my teens, but now I’m considered wealthy. When I tell people what I had to do and how hard I’ve worked to get here they say ‘you shouldn’t have to do that’ 😄
Man, you are one hell of a story teller! Loved this.
Thanks for listening
Squire mike sounds like a highly intelligent well disciplined gentelman of the higehest regard, we need more Squire Mike's in the world.😮😮😮😮😮
Reekay you're the most gracious humanitarian man I've not yet had the pleasure to meet. This story just confirms this to me. Love you man!
No good deed goes unpunished.
Poor Squire Mike! Being young, he still has a lot to learn of the realities in life.
Much respect to you for helping out this young man and also giving him boundaries. Simping kills men, young and old. Put God first, purpose, fitness, finances, mental / emotional health, community / friendships, and then bring a women into your world with clear vision and boundaries. If a man finds a woman before he has everything lined up and organized then set boundaries and learn to say no to your woman.
You are a very patient and generous man, Reekay. Very kind of you to indulge and try to help that young trainwreck. Unfortunately the outcome was all too predictable. And sadly, it sounds as though young Mike learned nothing from the experience, given that he called and asked for a favor after all of that.
base on my exprience , im now convinced that kind of people will never change/ learn
Mike should have had moving to the Philippines as a goal. Working as a 22 yr old he could have worked as much as possible for 8 years (55+ hrs a week) and retired over there at 30. Just savihg half of it into an S&P index fund, you'd have $275k in 8 years. If you then just bought and held Verizon stock (6.71% div currently), youd bring in $18k annually on dividends to live on. Thats $1500 a month. If he was responsible and reinvested 20% of that to help it grow, he would have never run out of money.
This lesson was not for him. It was for you.
As much as I hate to say that.
Some people mature early and some people just don't ever mature.
Be the nice guy. But don't be The guy that's too nice.
A very educational story, thank you for sharing.
There is no teacher like actual Life experience. I've been a slow learner in this regard myself- the advice from older and wiser male mentors in their 40s and 50s or older only fell on deaf ears when I was in my 20s.I'm nearing 60 now and the same cycle is repeating when I give advice to younger men in their 20's who ask for it, and I can only shake my head in a detached way, and ponder on Life. :)
youth is wasted on the young.
Well you really put yourself out there trying to help that guy Mike, We have all been there and not always with good results,I hope the boy learned something.
If you are 22 and still don't even know how to make Top Ramen, then maybe, just maybe your not ready to move to another country yet. He never got the concept of learn to crawl before you walk
I have no idea how to make Top Ramen, never had it... my family is amazed by the BBQ baby back ribs I make at tailgate parties though.
I do remember being in my 20's and being told you can save on dishes by cooking the spaghetti WITH the sauce. That was a disaster!!
But I didn't leave the dishes in the sink after. 🙂
“…still don't even know how to make Top Ramen, then maybe, just maybe your not ready to move to another country…”
I knew the basics at seventeen. Trouble was my # was 43, 1-A, no defermits, and my country thought I was ready to move to SE Asia.
22 years old living with parents...that's all I need to hear. I knew disaster was about to ensue.
Dude had Reekay as his sensei and still failed. Sad.
Heh. I know a ‘Mike’ as well. He stopped talking to me after I tried to get him to make a comprehensive plan for living in the PI, in the most expensive area, with no income. Good luck!
I’m probably 3 years away the way my plans are going and even then if AI takes over my job, I’ll be in trouble!
I knew a "Mike" from work in the US. He & his girl came to me once to borrow $50 to go to the state fair, I told them if they didn't have $50 they had no business going to the state fair. She didn't like that. Eventually he told me he was getting married to his "girlfriend" and asked me what I thought, I told him he should tell her he was saving for the wedding, take the money and leave the state. (She was 23 with two baby daddies paying her child support for her two kids) He didn't talk to me after that.
I heard his ex was on one of those Maury Povich type shows. Her true love she met in high school and every year (including when she was married) on his birthday she would "visit family" and sleep with him. (Not any of her ex-husbands) They talked to the guy & he thought she was just a stupid trashy whore & spoke about her as such. I saw him a couple years later and he was driving a rusted out beater with a couple kids in the back.
But it turns out she wasn't so smart. She let him adopt the other two kids and since he's a broke idiot with no financial intelligence, she wasn't getting income from 3 guys but instead nothing from one. He was a nice guy, but a total idiot when it came to money & women.
Great teaching video my friend, God bless you and keep doing what you do
Oh my goodness! What a fantastic, entertaining story that was to listen to! Its almost too horrible to be true! ha ha... "The world needs ditch diggers too". (Ted Knight ~ Caddyshack)🤣
inexperienced, irresponsible, and disrespectful. I hope he matures later in life. But I know one person who didn't - he's 50 years old, lives in his mother's basement, and makes spare change delivering pizza, for beer money. Decades ago, this guy was my best friend. Sad.
Sounds like the opposite of my 23 year old son. Graduated from college with money in the bank and lives by himself so he doesn't have to clean up after roommates.
Mom and Dad are thankful
only out of concern for his parents did i help him any. otherwise he'd have ended up in dire straits abroad.
@@Lifebeyondthesea yes, I was just thinking in a way the parents got a 11 months vacation from him. Unfortunately it probably cost them. Too bad they couldn’t drop his butt off at the Navy recruiting office. “Son you can now go to Asia and get paid”.
Glad you told this story and hope it helps the unprepared. He is lucky things did not go worse for him.
Mr. Ricky, you are so wise beyond your years.
Thanks for helping him.
I am very sorry for your bad experience, sincerely. Some wise words if you're interested to learn.
I come from a narcissistic family dynamic, here some wisdom from somebody who is dealing with people like that EVERYDAY.
The Facebook story should have been the end of it, and your final red flag (after the 4 or 5 red flags you already had before facebook) At least you got inspiration for a video. Great video, the only part I disagree with is when you say "He made every mistakes in the book". That's INCORRECT, because those are not mistakes, this is his way of life and it's ALL ON PURPOSE, either a narcissist, or a codependent (same disease on opposite spectrum) People will have to fix everything in his life for him until he dies. Even when around his 40's, he will manipulate and ask people to help him with sob stories and emotional manipulation or become a criminal. Those people never ever ever do mistakes (from their point of view) If you meet him in 40 years, and will still behave exactly the same. I hope you will remember this, this type of people are around 5 to 10% of the population, you will cross path with others. If I would ask him why all this happed, HE WOULD TELL ME IT'S BECAUSE OF YOU (no joke, must be saying that to his parents and friend right at this moment)
This is super interesting insight! Thanks for sharing.
At 22 your brain isn't fully matured yet and you tend to take risks a person in late 20s would never take. Some people take longer to mature, some never do.
"No good deed goes unpunished" no matter where in the world you are.
Most people in general are unappreciative. Younger people, in general, more so --that's the very definition of immaturity.
Much respect to you for your charity, though.
Thank you for sharing your knowledge with us.
Unbelievable! I've made some stupid mistakes in my life but listening to this story makes me feel really good about myself. I have to say, you were much more patient with this turkey than I ever would have been!
Thank you 🙏
Great story! Somehow I think you knew you'd be getting into a little stress by helping him... but not this level 😅
The kid might grow up and snap out of it,but not likely. There are plenty of 40 plus guys who are just comb over versions of him.
Hire a couple of cheap Filipino actors and this would make a great mini-series!
LOL!!, thanks so much reekay for giving me such a great laugh!,,, was one off the funniest stories ive ever heard!,,,you should write comedy scripts!..lol...
I'm surprised he wasn't expecting twins lol
The only good thing this kid did was he at least took action and moved to the Philippines, lots of guys say they're planning to move to The Philippines or wherever but never even take that first step.
His other good action was returning to the states while he still could. Didn’t end up totally broke and on the dole.
he is a piece of work
Is he not a great storyteller?????? Also being able to constantly come up with content is a skill. He is a talented dude. I also think to some extent these videos and interacting with us is somewhat cathartic.
thanks! :) and yes, i feel a bit better knowing some of these experiences may help others by sharing them.
Thanks for sharing.
You can't save somebody from himself and his enabling parents.
Holy S! That kid is destined for repeated failure
There is a old country saying that my great grandmother used to say that applies to this situation,
“The fastest way to get in trouble is help somebody.”
So sad but so true.
I am 50, male. I was young and dumb, at one time. But this dumb? Never!
Although a shocking story, I'm not too surprised. Today's youth is full of stupidity. It's scary to think that he represents the future.
Beautiful photos throughout. I have to get to the Philippines!
😮😂 so funny, you’re too nice mate.
Great story! So many young kids do not listen at all! I have 7 kids, 4 listened and are doing well and 3 are not (all boys) but one of the 4 is a boy as well who became a professionally paid software developer at the age of 18! I taught him a lot of it but he still listened, took notes, heeded the lessons, humbled himself and is making more at 20 (now) then most people ever make. And his brother is working at donut shops and chipotle...The tale of two brothers...Young boys need a strong hand to guide them. Great story! And I hope to see you soon ;)
A new environment doesn't fix the problem when the problem is "22". I will admit, however, that the story, ever how sad it was, was funny. The sad thing is that by going back to live under his parent's roof, he'll probably not learn from this screw up. He is therefore doomed to repeat his failure again.
It seems like he is the perfect material for the US Army and completely useless otherwise 🤗
Phils no place for those " wet behind the ears " regardless of age or financial status.
Not to mention he was fresh out of the box.
@@davidhall3747 I was fresh out of the box when I went to Japan in 1994. But I also had a job as an English teacher (the position were plentiful) and listened to the advice of foreigners who had lived there longer than I had and accepted the help of Japanese. When faced with cockroach-infested temporary housing, I decided to grin and bear it because I really wanted to stay in Japan and master Japanese. Fortunately I was away from that accommodation most of the time and ended up only staying there a month.
I shudder to think how I would have handled the Philippines in 1994 as a 23 year old. I am glad that I am much better prepared to handle it now as a result of Reekay's channel.
What's the AI model you use for the backdrops?
all the images in the vids, i create with AI for illustrative purposes.
but in the PH.. i'd say about 6% are a 7 thru a 10. with maybe 1% being a 10. but, they are very approachable.
OMG Squirrel Mike was a piece of work. I see prison time in his future. LOL
Jeez! Y’all had a lot more patience than I would have. Hey Reekay, quick question sir. I’m going to be in Cebu near Ayala mall next month. Can you recommend a good coffee shop to start my day? Thank you
at the main Ayala Mall.. there are a few good choices. on the terraces (outdoors) is a Starbucks. near that is a Bo's Coffee. each has outdoor seating, you can meet filipinas as they stroll by if you like. or just people watch, meet a date, etc.
there is also The Social, also on the terraces. not really a coffee place but more like and outdoor bar/resto. lots of outdoor seating and a common meeting place.
another consideration is The Pancake House. they have coffee and are one of the few places that cook up an american breakfast of pancakes, waffles, eggs, bacon, etc. along with basic coffee.
@@Lifebeyondthesea thank you sir, hope you and your wife are both having a ball.
I wouldve blocked him after thr apt incident
I just can't stop smiling at Squire Mike's failure after failure after failure lol what a baby
looking back at it in retrospect.. yah, the guy was a joke.
Something that drives me nuts is when someone asks me for advice, I tell them exactly how to solve their problem, and then they don't do anything I said but come back and complain that their problem isn't solved. I just read recently, a woman talked about how her company called a meeting to discuss how to solve some problem. They went through a long conversation about all their options, and then she said, "Or, we could just do what I said to do in the first place."
I'm surprised you entertained his shenanigans for so long..
Reekay you are very intelligent I like listening to your channel and the real life advice you give keep up the good work I also frequent the Philippines from here in the us and plan to retire there I hope to meet you someday my finance lives in tagum about an hour drive from davao
you can bring knowledge to a man but you cant force him to learn it. "life is hard, but its harder when youre stupid." -- john wayne
His name is not Squire Mike. His accurate name is SIMPLETON Mike.
it could have ended much worse for the kid, hes lucky
Good Story. You have a kind heart and unfortunately thats a magnet for those who leech on others. I say this with kindness as I can see myself in you. Took me 40 years to learn that "You help the people that Want it...NOT the people that need it." Even worse...is that Squire Mike is unwilling to do introspection....or...he's incapable of such.
What a beautiful model! Must be AI generated. So perfect looking.
Who, A. I. Mike?
@@zebba5446Squire Mike before and after?👍😳😂
7:15 A.I. has Squire Mike's girl growing in the forward direction.😊
You have learned as i have...Vet anyone even if you feel sorry for...As most are really their own..And your own worst enemy and they will just cause things to get worse and now you have resentment. Some people not only make their own troubles and hell....They import to you too! Some men and women are not fit for society or living standards of civilization.Peace
I have a friend with a son like him, except he does have a degree and job. He's all about running before he can walk. He was playing in bitcoin using her entire nest egg for retirement, lost it all, then just told her investments are risky. 🙄 This young generation, they’re idiots!
That was a really funny story, because of the audacity of clueless Squire Mike.
I'd be curious if the real reason he fled is because he knocked her up, or thought he may have.
Would you recommend bringing 2 phones or just switching the sim when I get there at the globe kiosk in airport?
many phones today carry 2 SIMs at once. but if you only have room for 1 SIM, i'd say just switch it out. unless you're still on roaming service for the number from your home country.
and yes, at the airport.. in the terminal, they will have a kiosk to sell a Globe SIM (avoid PLDT, imo). you'll need to register it with a photo of your ID before you can use it. that is good for 30-days.
if you plan to stay in the PH longterm (for years), then consider switching the number to a Post-Paid account and you won't have to re-register it ever again.
@@Lifebeyondthesea when I switch sim cards…will I still have access to everything that’s on my phone? What about incoming calls or texts that I would need to answer from my home country like my bank trying to reach me etc
again, it depends on whether or not your phone can hold two SIM cards at once or not. and also if you have roaming turned 'on' for your home country provider.
without roaming, your home country network won't access your phone outside of their basic coverage area.
if you don't have a phone that can hold 2 SIM cards at once, i suggest you get one. or get a 2nd phone for use in the PH. but either way... you will need roaming coverage on your home-country provider to get texts/calls in the PH.
@@Lifebeyondthesea thanks for the info. For clarity I just have 1 sim phone
Didn't you ever learn...?
No, he didn't.
😂
His girlfriend has his computer now. He apparently has some brain cells missing. He paid (oops parents paid) for a life lesson he probably wasn't astute enough to benefit from the experience.
Life is the best school!
Wow that kid wanted it all. Im surprised he didn't ask you to change his diaper.
You sure you weren't talking to Brandon from Brandon/Mary from "90 Day Fiancé."
Sounds par for the course to me. He was still a boy at 22. At 22, I had signed and completed three leases and always paid rent early. He seems like a lot of young people today, who have been insulated from "real life" and thus, can't handle themselves once they have to leave the nest. As a GenXer, I didn't have that problem. I was a latchkey kid so I knew how to cook in, what, second or third grade? Then Home Economics in 8th grade built upon that. I had to know how to handle myself for the hours between when I got home from school and when my parents got home from work. I also learned to pay attention when older, wiser, more experienced people were talking. When I move to the Philippines, I won't be retired (to quote the inimitable Ric Flair, "I will NEVER retire!"). But my income will be constant and more than enough to live on (and I haven't been 22 in decades).
No good deed goes unpunished. I wouldn't have done what you did, but I know that anything unearned is unappreciated.
Tell your young friend that IF he can learn to trade options or futures he can do VERY well, but the failure rate is >90%. Some formal education is good.
OMG! Although I was not a great cook in 1994 in Japan, I learned at least how to cook my own chicken breast in aluminum foil! My Canadian roommate and I were also pretty good about hygiene as we had to dress professionally for work. You could impress many young Japanese women back in the day just by preparing spaghetti in boiled water and topping it with store-bought sauce!
This should be required listening for any young novice thinking about coming to PI.
Let's hope this young dude has tough but fair parents and he cleans up his life.
The squire's frontal lobes weren't fully developed yet. He didn't know what he didn't know.
❤🎉 good 👍😊 evening madam God bless you 😢😊
all the images in the vids, i create with AI for illustrative purposes.
I've heard a lot of stories of people who come here who heard somewhere, "In the Philippines, you can live like a king for $500 a month!" So they save up a few thousand dollars and they think they're going to live on it for the rest of their lives. Cost of living is low here ... but not that low. People get crazy unrealistic expectations. That, or they have no plan at all. They come here with no job lined up, no place to live, nothing, and think they'll just figure it all out as they go along. I wish such people the best ... but it's not likely to work out.
I feel that most of us didn't do much listening at that age..
By the way, you're mastering the AI philipinas. We're going to be disappointed when we visit the Philippines.. 😂
Some people have no business moving to another country, he had no income.
A lot of young people are like that.
Can't even boil an egg😂
Oh my good Your a saint for helping him what a disaster I have known a few young men like that I wish him well
The only part of this story I expected but didn't happen - was him calling you at 3AM, "My girlfriend is pregnant! What do I do?" 😭 Of course she might be, but only found out after he left… or immediately before he left. He did sneak out while she was sleeping…
The dude was 22. I did some stupid things at that age too. Got into situations way over my head. As I said to someone inexperienced not too long ago, "Life is an excellent teacher."
Sounds like squire Mike should be a Filipina. Never takes advice, uses other people’s money, gets in impossible situations …
Does that ever happen? Imagine my surprise. That's not what the adverts say.😮
Mike sounds like a typical " Generation Z" kid. Full of entitlement and always know better.
I know, I have two such sons.
Ouch.... My sister is 6 years younger and is the same way.. Never seems to learn within a reasonable limit of time and ends up paying for it.. Or should I say, my parents end up paying for it..
You raised them, so if they’re so awful, whose fault is that bud?
@@PerfectSense77Could be his ex used the courts to take his kids away from him and severely limited his time with them. I had one of those 35 years ago who turned him into a soyboy f’nist. My mistake was choosing poorly in a wife back then.
That's good advice for anyone that do not have sufficient income to live in the Philippines. Hopefully, Mike learned a lesson from this bad experience.
Somehow I don't think he learned anything. The 'not my fault' generation.
Unfortunately, I think that is the problem with a lot of younger people. They’re not learning how to take care of themselves and be responsible first. As for me, I am 57 and planning to come to the Philippines this summer. I have already met a Filipino who is working in, Saudi Arabia and she will return to the Philippines this summer and we plan to meet. She is 45 and after three years of talking a lot more mature.
I feel like he could have made a go of it if he had a solid work ethic. I have to say, entering the Marines at 18 years old transformed me from a haphazard sloppy worker to a dedicated attention to detail worker. I learned and grew so much from that experience. I also feel like his parents failed this young man. You cannot enable lazy behavior and just hope your child will turn out alright. They were at least partly responsible for his failure.