One Mistake To Avoid When You Are Falsely Accused at Work

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  • @bmoshareholderappleshareho855
    @bmoshareholderappleshareho855 5 років тому +265

    There are two sides to every story, but it's very rare when people are interested in hearing both sides of the story.

    • @devinptacek9122
      @devinptacek9122 4 роки тому +18

      That’s what I’m going threw right now

    • @JoelDunstan
      @JoelDunstan 2 роки тому +14

      Theres 3 sides. Yours, theirs, and the truth. People are blinded by perspective

    • @ArkadyItkin
      @ArkadyItkin  2 роки тому +8

      This is true. It almost appears to be human nature and that's the reason for so many disputes, litigation, etc.

    • @SincerelyTracie
      @SincerelyTracie 2 роки тому +5

      @ellie especially if the liar is a supervisor

    • @jozefigueiredo8792
      @jozefigueiredo8792 2 роки тому +1

      @@JoelDunstanI disagree you cannot speak for 7.753 billion people on Earth

  • @charolettemoody9894
    @charolettemoody9894 4 роки тому +208

    My story of being falsely accused is extreme and sad! It almost destroyed my life and has destroyed my career and will take many years to recover. All I know to say is if anyone ever goes through it..no matter what never give up!

    • @meiko431
      @meiko431 3 роки тому +16

      I had a painful experience aswell, here,have some warm hugs and yes in time you will recover, i wish you the best.🤗

    • @eddyvideostar
      @eddyvideostar 3 роки тому +2

      May I respectfully ask: What is your gender?

    • @charolettemoody9894
      @charolettemoody9894 3 роки тому +3

      @@eddyvideostar female..why?

    • @eddyvideostar
      @eddyvideostar 3 роки тому +2

      @@charolettemoody9894: To further ask about your situation: What happened, why were you accused?

    • @charolettemoody9894
      @charolettemoody9894 3 роки тому +7

      @@eddyvideostar well it's a very long story but the summarized version is I'm a nurse and had to leave a home health case with other nurses there in my own family emergency and to say the least the story got very twisted. Four years later I had a warrant for my arrest. At the time of fighting in court my husband had a brain tumor so I settled for a plea bargain. But the entire situation was very painful and still is.

  • @niconugraha8337
    @niconugraha8337 5 років тому +117

    because, if by any chance i really get fired from false accusation, i wouldn't want to work with people who don't trust me anyway. i deserve me before a job.

    • @Demy1970
      @Demy1970 Рік тому

      Happened to me got a medical dumb asses

  • @divasins6356
    @divasins6356 3 роки тому +82

    Some psychopathic bitch was falsely accusing me of bullying by her and making fun of her weight when she was bullying me and trying to take over my station. But the universe is only showing you you need to move on to better things or you need to somehow fight back by self control and knowing yourself and staying grounded with yourself. Don’t let toxic waste of people get to you. You’re better than that! Much love everyone ❤️

  • @curateitgorl
    @curateitgorl 2 роки тому +87

    It sucks when coworkers accuse you of not doing work when it’s really a reflection of themselves.

    • @XeLYoutube
      @XeLYoutube Рік тому +8

      exactly what happened
      play victim when being agressor. unreal

  • @northyland1157
    @northyland1157 4 роки тому +83

    Many decades ago I was fired for stealing from cash register work. I had never stole a dime.... Sometimes life isn't fair.

    • @donnascott1390
      @donnascott1390 4 роки тому +20

      So true...And the more you try to defend yourself, the more they disbelieve you..and a lot of people believes the lie..

    • @BeautifulDreamerK
      @BeautifulDreamerK 4 роки тому +8

      Funny! Same thing happened to me too! I worked at a barre studio during grad school. It was a franchise studio and the owner and boss had no leadership experience (she just married rich). She accused me of taking money without follow up and I never did. I was let go but I think this was the best thing. I learned that if your boss hates you, there’s nothing you can do. You have a death sentence. If your boss is neutral yet pleasant, you’re good bc any conflict that may arise, they will give you a fair chance. If your boss LOVES AND APPRECIATES YOU, always work extra hard and reassure your gratitude to them. You are lucky (bc that is rare)

    • @Steve0686
      @Steve0686 3 роки тому

      @@BeautifulDreamerK if it’s the company that has good career benefits then claim discrimination if you have been treated differently. Most false accusations involve differential treatment. On settlement I ask for job back after filing EEOC charge. Even huge corporate legal counsel will opt for inexpensive settlement e.g reinstatement to the position instead of doing all that paperwork.
      I used to work as eeo specialist for the company’s legal department. They fired me because I settled cases I believed when employees were treated unfairly. All I did is reinstate them to the original position and fired unfair manager. The only time I didn’t settle was when they fired someone for a good reason.

    • @Steve0686
      @Steve0686 3 роки тому

      You should have filed EEOC charge. We need new laws f**k at will employment. Economy runs better with more people employed. At will employment should be allowed for small businesses with less than 15 employees.

    • @northyland1157
      @northyland1157 3 роки тому

      @@Steve0686 There is tons of jobs now, just nobody wants them. I see everybody crying about stimulas, but nobody filling out applications.

  • @JG638
    @JG638 6 років тому +89

    If you are falsely accused and fired you should just go look for another job ?? Wrong answer !! You strike back with a lawsuit or if you have a Union fight back through the appeals process !!

    • @AniFunMat
      @AniFunMat 6 років тому +7

      JG638 what if the union don't help?

    • @monarchmark
      @monarchmark 6 років тому +1

      Amen!

    • @bmoshareholderappleshareho855
      @bmoshareholderappleshareho855 5 років тому +8

      Yes, you go see a lawyer to find out what your rights are.

    • @Steve0686
      @Steve0686 3 роки тому +9

      @@AniFunMat file nlrb charge. NLRB is an agency where you can file unfair labor practice charge.

    • @eddyvideostar
      @eddyvideostar 3 роки тому +6

      @@AniFunMat Some union departments are corrupt and can backfire on a worker. They maintain and protect their dues-paying *nest* and will oust the wounded "ugly duckling." Certain management has friends in the union with back-scratching (helping) of each other until they lap up the sores of their stench.

  • @shootingbricks8554
    @shootingbricks8554 4 роки тому +45

    Keep all documents and emails. I was once accused of missing work by my boss who berated me in a group email. Almost got written up. Then I replied by sending a screen shot of his electronic signature of his approving my vacation. I didn't say anything and did not apologize. Didn't get written up and my coworkers said I was smart lol.

    • @JMK719
      @JMK719 4 роки тому +6

      Bosses are all like that. They don’t remember jack shit. I always keep EVERYTHING they sent or all my sent emails so when this happened I can fight them. The only time I lose a battle is when things were said verbally or when something were not documented and these assholes will NEVER admit they’re wrong. Today this guy just accused me of not doing something that he trained me to do. I said I didn’t get trained for that. He insisted he did and of course I lost because no proof of him not training me. They always think they’re right until proven wrong. Even so they will hate you for proving they’re wrong because you’re smarter and more organized then them and make them look like shit. I just fk hate to be accused because I carry myself highly especially when it comes to work.

    • @RedSiegfried
      @RedSiegfried 3 роки тому +1

      Hope you started looking for a new job because he will never live that down and he will get back at you at some point. Probably for "not being a team player."

  • @Yonah_144
    @Yonah_144 5 місяців тому +10

    I've noticed these false accusations happen when there's jealousy in the workplace, like a man talking to a woman, etc. If they falsely accuse you, deny it, then quit.

  • @deblmb
    @deblmb 6 років тому +108

    Scenario #3. Somebody else screwed up royally but wants to blame someone else, so they aren't the one who is disciplined or terminated.

    • @erwa5198
      @erwa5198 5 років тому +14

      I was falsely accused of harassment...I signed the paperwork and apologized to keep my job ...but I had dirt on her...I told them she appeared to be having an affair with someone she shouldn't..she was found guilty and FIRED karma is a B

    • @steveboone1498
      @steveboone1498 5 років тому +10

      I once worked with a lady who liked dressing in outfits so she could attract men. Any man that showed interest in dating her, she accused of sexual harassment. Her supervisors knew she was doing this but refused to stop her. I left the company before she could try to entice me and try to have me fired.

    • @a.c.guerra9850
      @a.c.guerra9850 5 років тому +5

      I was 15. Got a job at kroger grocery. They had off duty cops for security. There was another kid that worked at our store with same. Name as me. One day i got called to the office. It was pitch black and they had a heat lamp. I was not able to have my parent there or to sign off. But the interrogation was like 45 min. I was mentally wearing down. They repeatedly told me that i had stolen from the store just to admit it. Make it easy on myself. I started to believe it after 1/2 an hour. But then it popped into my mind that there was another kid that had the same name. I found out later. He was the one who was stealing. Made me so mad that i was tormented in the room. I could not see their faces and they gave me no apology.

    • @Steve0686
      @Steve0686 3 роки тому +4

      That’s why people need to play discrimination card.

    • @everybodyhatinbro
      @everybodyhatinbro 3 роки тому

      Exactly what happened to me I’m going to labor board

  • @jn2c478
    @jn2c478 4 роки тому +27

    Loss prevention at my work accused me of stealing, said they had video proof of me throwing the package in another location. I did not steal anything or even remember the item out of the thousands I processed. He and his boss who also spoke with me didn’t have their story straight on the item in question. I kept telling him I don’t remember the item nor would I knowingly throw away an empty package. He was twice my size and was standing over me trying to get me to confess to something I didn’t do. I was not suspended or fired . I am so glad I stood my ground and didn’t give in. I’m still work for the company but I get depressed and have anxiety over what happened. I’m so afraid they will try to do the same thing again but I like my job. I have been there a long time and would hate to start anywhere new. However, I no longer go above and beyond anymore .

  • @Washie_DukeOfGokwe
    @Washie_DukeOfGokwe Рік тому +31

    Sometimes you are pushed to a corner and might end up doing something you might regret, People are EVIL

    • @rockstarofredondo
      @rockstarofredondo Рік тому +4

      Use your phone camera for all encounters with unstable people at work. I cannot stress this enough.

  • @nicholaskaramanos5288
    @nicholaskaramanos5288 5 років тому +22

    i was accused of smoking in the bathroom completely false and was fired at 89 days an hour short of my 90 days that would have protected me how can this co worker have this ability to just make things up and get a mother of two fired with no proof of misconduct

  • @manuelmoraleda9285
    @manuelmoraleda9285 3 роки тому +13

    Request politely from your employer that these accusations be put in writing. Tell them that you're taking it very seriously. Only then should you respond after you receive the written complaint. Add that you might have to consult and hire a lawyer.

    • @happygal1974
      @happygal1974 2 роки тому

      this won't help in my country.. employer is always right and employee is always at fault and we should leave our job

    • @manuelmoraleda9684
      @manuelmoraleda9684 2 роки тому +1

      Of course if your employment can be terminated without cause, you wouldn't stand a chance to keep your job. In writing, strongly deny such false accusation and remind them that it's unnecessary and harmful to your future.

  • @angeliquaserenity5009
    @angeliquaserenity5009 5 років тому +22

    ...Easier said than done. I was wrongfully accused of profanity. Had Corroborating false evidence come from co-workers. Sometimes you have to be assertive to defend yourself.

    • @MedalionDS9
      @MedalionDS9 5 років тому

      Being assertive, is not the same thing as reacting emotionally hot coming to argue at your Manager to prove your innocence. Being assertive is what he was saying to calmly cooperate but still saying what you can do to help them prove you are not guilty of what the accusation, if this is indeed a false accusation.

    • @angeliquaserenity5009
      @angeliquaserenity5009 5 років тому +5

      @@MedalionDS9 In my case, I calmly walked out from my termination meeting. I was this close to loosing it. For me, it just was not worth it. Sometimes you have to get to the point where you realize you are not going to be able to reason with a bully. That or you are going to do something you are really going to regret. And yes it was a false accusation. Even people who just meet me in person can see I just am not that kind of person.

  • @charlessmith263
    @charlessmith263 4 роки тому +9

    Especially if you are accused of subordination, illegal Internet activity, or using the Internet or mobile phone inappropriately on company time, this video is very important if you work for somebody else. IT IS NOT WORTH THE RISK OF BEING FIRED!

  • @sanjsingh19
    @sanjsingh19 2 місяці тому +2

    I have gone through a situation, I had nightmares for 3 months straight. It was a hell.

  • @leelandglover2731
    @leelandglover2731 6 років тому +11

    I was fire for supposedly stealing overtime, an falsifying my electronic time card,an for retaliation because I didn't get a Sales Representative position. I was also fired on vacation.

  • @meeraborah2390
    @meeraborah2390 3 роки тому +10

    I have been dealing with one of the manager in my company, who is trying to manipulate the things I say or do. He is continuously targeting me for no reason. I am mentally bring tortured every other day there 😣

    • @psm23formeethel17
      @psm23formeethel17 2 роки тому

      i went through this before. i had to write to EEOC.

  • @mrbee3534
    @mrbee3534 6 років тому +21

    This only works when your employer doesn't have it in for you regardless involving nepotism. Laws protecting people from nepotisistic hectoring need implementation fast.

    • @edwardjames6023
      @edwardjames6023 5 років тому +4

      I am the only male in my work place and get blamed for messes I never did and my employer can never tell me when exactly i made a mess

    • @eddyvideostar
      @eddyvideostar 3 роки тому +1

      Mr. Bee: This is an upgraded paragraph of prose of erudite qualities. I enjoy your writing. Well done. Excellent.

  • @SincerelyTracie
    @SincerelyTracie 2 роки тому +14

    This was very helpful. I have a supervisor blatantly lying on me.

    • @MrMJmusicLover
      @MrMJmusicLover Рік тому

      A supervisor is just that, a supervisor. The supervisor at my job thinks she's a big shot just because she temporarily takes the spot of the front service manager for a day. She's still a survivor! She shouldn't let that little authority go to her head.

  • @jozefigueiredo8792
    @jozefigueiredo8792 2 роки тому +8

    My comment is in response to the guy on the video, about remaining calm when being falsely accused. The advice is good but in certain situations it's easier said than done. Let's say you were falsely accused and the person who lied caused you to lose your job that you lived paycheck to paycheck, two weeks later with no income you realize that if you don't get your job back or find a new job in the next 2 weeks you'll be bankrupt, lose everything you have and become homeless, it's not so easy to stay calm when your life is destroyed when you're innocent of the accusations, if you ask me I'd want to break his neck for falsely accusing me.

    • @jKLa
      @jKLa Рік тому +3

      Better to to tell them off for just what they did to their face I public with other people watching! I once did that to a women who had falsely accused me of flashing, right on the streets of downtown Oakland California!

  • @SecTechie
    @SecTechie 6 років тому +18

    I've seen it where someone was harassed because they are a woman and she reported it and SHE got fired for nothing.

    • @eddyvideostar
      @eddyvideostar 3 роки тому +1

      To Scien Techie: Could you please give an example -- any links and data will be much appreciated.

    • @SecTechie
      @SecTechie 3 роки тому +2

      @@eddyvideostar
      This happened at work years ago, but I never forgot it.

    • @eddyvideostar
      @eddyvideostar 3 роки тому +3

      @@SecTechie: Great memory. Are you indicating that a woman worker was being harassed and due to her reporting this, she was fired? Was her firing due to retaliation? Why was she fired? What was the "nothing"?

  • @ronaldwinfield307
    @ronaldwinfield307 5 місяців тому +1

    I had a case where an employer was just trying to get rid of me. Not only did I stand up to her, A friend reported her to upper management & she backed down.

  • @ryanpeters3289
    @ryanpeters3289 2 роки тому +16

    1. Communicate through email/text.
    2. Don't be alone with her. Or have a witness/recording.
    3. Direct everything through a middle man

    • @Ony4145
      @Ony4145 Рік тому

      Thank you.
      I was thinking how a man can save themselves from false accusations from woman. Supposedly she can use it to reduce your credibility at work. And have a clear way toward promotion if necessary.
      She can say anything and have many people by her side without any proof whatsoever.

  • @tinakeller7569
    @tinakeller7569 5 років тому +36

    If falsely accused and let go - isn't that grounds for legal intervention? Why look for another job if the accusations are false?

    • @Mandika68xx
      @Mandika68xx 5 років тому +14

      I do not think I can be happy again where one accused me and the manager would not simply ask me but escalate this further behind my back. It feels like he believes I am guilty. :(

    • @emanualcarr7408
      @emanualcarr7408 3 роки тому +4

      Because now you can not trust those you work around and possible hostility; at least you get to leave on your own terms though

    • @eligreg99
      @eligreg99 2 роки тому +5

      I wouldn’t return to a place that would falsely accuse me

    • @OfftoShambala
      @OfftoShambala Рік тому

      Because if you can’t prove your innocence they will likely fire you even though there is no evidence. It’s just the way it is.

  • @MegaMissfitz
    @MegaMissfitz 4 роки тому +4

    Just got back from a biking weekend to be Falsely accused of fraud! Not the best start to the week ive ever had 😤😤😤

  • @leahstrachan2532
    @leahstrachan2532 6 років тому +21

    Doesn't work if the richest people in the company are against you. It slightly worked though

    • @u235u235u235
      @u235u235u235 3 роки тому

      of course.
      unless it's about violence or sexual harassment/assault the organization usually sides with the employee who is of more value.
      would it be any other way? organizations are not moral or ethical, they do follow the law because they can get in trouble if they don't, but why side with the less valuable person? it's already hard enough to find and retain talented hard working employees, why keep a lesser employee regardless if they are right or not? the entire reason you are employed is to increase sales/capital/value. now if you say the more valuable employee is toxic or evil that would already be factored into their "value." get it? all those considerations would be already assigned to their value. so in totality for ALL aspects of the employee which is more valuable should stay and the lesser leaves unless the conflict can be resolved.
      from my experience most employee assess their coworker value correctly and they submit judgment/time/respect to a more valuable employee in most aspects. they know that employee is liked or seen as value by several departments and has a strong buzz. you mostly stay out of their way and try to befriend them. tribalism kicks in and you want to befriend the productive well liked and valuable people to help your own networking. that's how organizations work, everyone gets this general sense about who's hard working and talented, productive, creative, etc., and that buzz carries the person and gets them promoted. it's a very efficient system where peers more or less decide who is good and who is not -- it's very hard to fool your peers.
      again, the firm only hired you to achieve its goals, nothing else. any extra services you get health care, training, vacation is because it helps achieve that goal or is a regime forced on the firm legally or through social means and they're giving you that compensation to avoid the negative effects of not providing them. you are selling your labor which is making the firm money. if you can't get along with the more productive people you should leave.
      if you had a firm and one employee brought in $50 million in sales every year for the past 10 years and the second salesman brought in $200,000 every year for the past 10 years, which would you fire if you could not resolve their differences? These are no violence/harassment issues, just interpersonal/disagreement issues that prevents both from working and making any money, and the lower earning employee is technically in the right, but you can only keep one.

    • @eddyvideostar
      @eddyvideostar 3 роки тому

      @@u235u235u235 Classic: Kudos to your comment. Well expressed.

  • @monarchmark
    @monarchmark 6 років тому +18

    If you have a hobby or know a good trade. Start your own small business. Those so-called managers who use false accusations to set you up to fail/quit. You don't need them in your life!

    • @edwardjames6023
      @edwardjames6023 5 років тому +3

      I never seen them quit. Normally, they stay there for years and years in their own little pond where they can be a "big shark."

    • @emanualcarr7408
      @emanualcarr7408 3 роки тому

      You need Money for all that though; that is better to do before a situation like possibly being fired happens

    • @eddyvideostar
      @eddyvideostar 3 роки тому

      Monarch Mark: Many of the millions would do this if they could. *It's the independent ones who have everything and everyone.* One needs some form of foundation to go maverick in society.

  • @juliebailey2302
    @juliebailey2302 4 роки тому +5

    Thank you. I hope I can back up and begin again knowing and trusting you are correct. Maybe it's not too late .. thankyou for your video and message!

  • @anyhowsay8659
    @anyhowsay8659 2 місяці тому +1

    Im going thru this experience. A non issue regarding some remark which i cannot even remember. I knew my employer is using this to fire me. I reacted in a argumentative way. Wish i'd watched this video earlier

  • @stevetrivago
    @stevetrivago 3 роки тому +4

    Excellent video… common sense, but when in the situation it’s uncommon sense … Thanks for the reminder

  • @RedSiegfried
    @RedSiegfried 3 роки тому +282

    Something you can do to very easily avoid false accusations at work: don't ever work with women.

    • @truesayain818
      @truesayain818 3 роки тому +3

      How do you go about avoiding if already acused, ignore or call a defense attorney immediately

    • @jncjnc9411
      @jncjnc9411 2 роки тому

      For me the accusers was a man. Unless you say don't work with humans

    • @terranova3655
      @terranova3655 2 роки тому +14

      I’m a woman and being targeted by mainly men because I’m able to pick up their work easily so they feel intimidated lol. I don’t even compare myself to these people because I feel no need to compete with coworkers in a TEAM ENVIRONMENT

    • @andre1987eph
      @andre1987eph 2 роки тому

      some men ARE women

    • @NS-ru5gl
      @NS-ru5gl 2 роки тому +11

      I think that nepotism should be illegal. It should be something you can sue for. That will resolve most problems.

  • @melvayaredaguilar
    @melvayaredaguilar Рік тому +2

    3:01 appearing angry is different than actually being aggressive

  • @eddyvideostar
    @eddyvideostar 2 роки тому +3

    At 2:07 minutes: Arkady: Are you serious? Just concede? Show no hurt nor shock? This would shock the manager regarding the lack of emotion and would signify guilt or not caring. I would avoid complaining without some form of emotion: Not craziness, but with stern, sensible, and serious expressions.

    • @ArkadyItkin
      @ArkadyItkin  2 роки тому +1

      Eddy, showing normal, human reaction is understenable. What I meant to say is that there is no reason to fight. It's not the same as conceding. Also, showing or not showing emotion is not evidence of admitting guilt, and it has no relevance to your ability to make a legal claim later.

  • @Texas_Ce
    @Texas_Ce Рік тому +2

    I’m being harassed by the whole crew but can’t find someone to help me until I can find someone I can trust I want to take further actions prime example there was me and a coworker doing truck I completed 8 carts within my hrs he only completed 2 by the end of the day she told me I need to complete his carts before I leave while she let him go without a issue

  • @roxxanefox4771
    @roxxanefox4771 Рік тому +1

    Impressive work advice.Surely would do this to make it happen

  • @tonymagrof5303
    @tonymagrof5303 3 роки тому +2

    Someone who took over my job and projects when i left the company is was much less qualified than me and largely inexperienced in our line of work. I then found out that he slandered me through word of mouth. I find it very hard to believe that i made a huge error since i am very competent and experienced, and made sure i quadruple checked everything before i left. I called all my former colleagues and they said my work is fine. One of my colleagues who now works with him said hes terrible and has complained to management about him several times. The guy lives in my building so i run into him sometimes. Every time he sees me, hes very dodgy and acts very weird. So once i asked him if there was any thing wrong with my work and if everything was ok. He immediately began acting strangely and said everything was fine (obviously a lie). Every time i see him, he acts dodgy and weird. One day i couldnt take it anymore, i had to let him know what hes doing is wrong and illegal, so i saw him walking on the street and asked if i could have a word...he uttered something and kept walking (weird and dodgy as usual). So i yelled to make sure he could hear as he walked away -SLANDER IS ILLEGAL. I could tell he heard it i think.

    • @davecurtis6930
      @davecurtis6930 2 роки тому

      Damn,I meet so many ppl like this,also one of the dodgy creeps lives in my building, always looking away real quick when I see him.what a clone!

  • @michaeljimenez2079
    @michaeljimenez2079 Рік тому +1

    I was accused at work recently and it ended up getting me written up to a Final Warning. I have been having issues with my manager over the past 5 months and she got upset at me because I was trying to explain the challenges of the project to her but she got on the defensive and just walked away from me. I went back to the project and started to vent and the only word that came out of my mouth was "This Is Bullshit".. My manager has a high turnover and their are two other employees that have Finals on their record because they had similar issues with her as well. All my managers and other teams told me to not work for this woman that she may be a Gaslighted at work/Harasser.

  • @mcdonaldgc3020
    @mcdonaldgc3020 4 роки тому +4

    I falsely accused when the day before I was sent home now I come back to that accusation I asked if I didn't in which I didn't do it. show me the video so I can learn from my mistakes I take claim here's the evidence.. they deny it and added a new parts an blame shift me. I was no.. all because I refuse to follow an order from my supervisor.. in which he sent me home because I'm stressing out according to him. I told him he doesn't have the right to tell me how I should fell. I said no

  • @RobertJohnson-rq5ss
    @RobertJohnson-rq5ss Рік тому +1

    Why can't employers whose conducting the investigation have the accusers who have falsely accused the person of misconduct face his or her accusers in the investigation so that every word can be established??????

  • @OfftoShambala
    @OfftoShambala Рік тому +4

    If a person doesn’t act angry, I’d be suspicious… but in todays world… most people are absolutely self centered idiot. But, yes, your suggestion to offer to rectify yourself, is def right.

    • @ArkadyItkin
      @ArkadyItkin  Рік тому +1

      Thanks for your thoughts. Perhaps I should clarify - of course you would naturally be disappointed and frustrated with false accusations but it's important not to let it translate into some type of exhibition of short temper or rudeness toward people in charge who are just trying to determine what happened, whether correctly or incorrectly so.

  • @apollobusinessbroking
    @apollobusinessbroking 6 місяців тому +1

    brilliant advice thank you!

  • @Hannah-jk3dk
    @Hannah-jk3dk 2 роки тому +4

    I was falsely accused and fired without a hearing. It has affected me and I have been thinking of doing a letter to complain about him but the emotionly feeling is really painful and I sometimes feel like I can go crazy. Can I do a letter at our workplace as the environment has changed to a more democratic environment

    • @estheragbo6153
      @estheragbo6153 2 роки тому +1

      I can recommend you to a man who can help you with court case dismissed like he helped me.

    • @estheragbo6153
      @estheragbo6153 2 роки тому

      Wh'atsap him for heIp🙏.

    • @Hannah-jk3dk
      @Hannah-jk3dk 2 роки тому

      @@estheragbo6153 Help from who?

    • @Hannah-jk3dk
      @Hannah-jk3dk 2 роки тому

      @@estheragbo6153 I completely have no money for a good lawyer. I am using legal aid

  • @KnottsBear-yTalesPreserved
    @KnottsBear-yTalesPreserved 7 місяців тому

    A year ago, as my co-workers and I were doing some stuff on our theme park ride project called Kooky Trails. We got falsely accused by a former Voice Actress of us being discriminatory towards others on the autism spectrum. When that wasn't even true because me and half of the crew involved in that production are autistic ourselves. That and the Voice Actress was fired for being unruly, stirring personal drama, and annoying team members in DMs on Discord; which we have all the receipts to. Eventually, when this girl was let go. She tried to get her friend circle to harass us online and one of them even made an Icerberg video that may or may not still be on UA-cam. I refuse to look it up for mental health reasons.
    People will tend to sadly believe the liars more than the victims themselves. Its truly sad and I witnessed how that affected my co-worker mentally; he nearly considered comitting suicide. It even got to me months later when the Voice Actress launched a petition on my project after my grandfather died. Humans can be truly disgusting people.

  • @DeathstarsEG
    @DeathstarsEG 4 роки тому +5

    does the employer need to tell you exactly what you are being accused of? some girl at my work made accusations about me and they havent told me what exactly. Two district managers brought me in for questioning and asked me, "have you ever talked about religion at work?" "have you made discouraging comments about women?" "have you ever talked about sexual conduct?" I told them I'm not going answer any questions because I have no idea what am being accused of. I need advise.

    • @ArkadyItkin
      @ArkadyItkin  4 роки тому +3

      It would be a fair thing for the employer to inform the employee of the accusations but they don't have a legal obligation to do it.

    • @DeathstarsEG
      @DeathstarsEG 4 роки тому +2

      @@ArkadyItkin Ok, thank you sir.

    • @davecurtis6930
      @davecurtis6930 2 роки тому

      @@ArkadyItkin what if I was fired for texting threats&harm but I can't find any texts of that,just me venting to a coworker,I tried to talk to the boss but no response,she usually trusts me.i said I would never hurt anyone.my texts were stupid but I should of been able to defend myself.

    • @ArkadyItkin
      @ArkadyItkin  2 роки тому +1

      @@davecurtis6930 It's totally up to the employer to decide what to do in this case. They can take action against you or they can choose not to in their discretion.

    • @stopgotdamndeletingmycomme8642
      @stopgotdamndeletingmycomme8642 2 роки тому

      @@DeathstarsEG see your employee handbook look up discilinary procedures.itll tell u in there.if not then ask hr dept

  • @maksudmansuri2524
    @maksudmansuri2524 2 роки тому +3

    Fight for the truth either with employer or anyone in the world 😎

  • @cooldude3057
    @cooldude3057 4 роки тому +4

    So you should just be polite and not get angry if your being falsely accused of something then it will show your employer that well he or she doesn't seem to upset so it must seem that it's not a big deal to them it's not bothering them that bad they seem ok

    • @letsdiscussitoversometea8479
      @letsdiscussitoversometea8479 3 місяці тому +1

      Just watching this video got me EXTREMELY p*ssed off.
      I really don't give a d*mn how I come across.
      If they escalate it, *_I_* escalate it.
      My instincts are telling me to react *for a reason,* so therefore I'll react.
      Again and again and again and again and again.
      Bloody entitled to it.

  • @Ebby_Saks
    @Ebby_Saks Рік тому

    What if you are wrongly accused and your job terminated without giving you a hearing? What can one do, keep silent?

  • @larry930legend
    @larry930legend 2 роки тому

    Well when I worked for S&S in NY, year 2001, one night less than 5 minutes before my shift was over I was icaught on camera screwing off Aqua Velva and taking a small sniff and screwing top back on placing it back on the shelf.
    The next day I caught hell which was an understatement, the store manager GailbScavetta and trainer Lenny Tramonte FALSELY ACCUSED me of stealing merchandise(cigarettes,alcohol)
    stealing time,concealing items. I told them all I did was unscrew the top, didn't apply to my face,didn't steal anything but they didn't believe me, in fact the trainer THREE TIMES blatant says "WHAT ELSE HAVE YOU STOLEN"? I answered back that I haven't stolen anything.
    Looking back I should've gotten a attorney taken them to court and I would've made fools of them, but was informed to not go through with it.
    After I left the company I did retaliate against Gail Scavetta,she pressed charges against me but again she couldn't prove anything.
    2008 I contacted Gail Scavetta and made amends for any wrongdoings

  • @mohdsyedbader4027
    @mohdsyedbader4027 3 роки тому +1

    Awesome 😊
    Sir I have been waiting for justice from last eleven years 😣

    • @kingc1198
      @kingc1198 Рік тому

      I wish you the best😊😊😊

  • @andre1987eph
    @andre1987eph 2 роки тому

    30 years ago My boss at UC San Diego lab called or had someone call San Diego Police on me saying I resembelled a REALLY *BAD* guy there was a manhunt for. Detectives came to see me in the lab in front of co workers. My boss died young at 69, and I am about to re enter service (after a 24 years career in education) and purchase those years back for a song. Justice delayed is not justice denied.

  • @LilaBukvic
    @LilaBukvic 3 місяці тому

    People acusse me often that Im stressed out.
    I live 30 year in Sweden.
    Im from Bosnia and live in Sweden.
    I feel sad and insecure when People acusse me.
    😢

  • @personincognito3989
    @personincognito3989 5 років тому

    Oops I already sent the email. But it wasn't too bad but I will take this approach with the situation from here on in. Thank you for the information.

  • @SavedError
    @SavedError 3 роки тому

    Really didn't help my case. Coworker heard a rumor that me and another coworker was harrassing her verbally behind her back. Obviously not true, said coworker was my best friend. And I know she heard that rumor from somebody else. But its a "she said he said" thing. I can't prove my innocence but she cant prove I'm guilty. They'll probably dismiss this case but I want answers on who is saying this about me. It ruined my friendship. And now everyone thinks I'm a bad person.

  • @philipbriney4430
    @philipbriney4430 5 місяців тому +1

    I had a woman coworker try it but I was lucky I had employers that saw through her crap.

  • @briannabritt549
    @briannabritt549 3 роки тому

    What should I do if my job couch is trying to kick me. Out of the program

  • @910chinolas_
    @910chinolas_ 7 місяців тому

    I was fired today from work because somebody supposedly seen me stealing company gas in reality that was a lie because me and the coworker had her own personal issues and it just so happens that my management was looking for any single reason to terminate me because I found a better opportunity to work elsewhere.And that coworker knew that. I was denied and then turned on investigation and we do not have an HR department my supervisor ignored my story and denied me to see proof or evidence of what I was accused of. It’s his word against mine and he said he has more trust in that coworker and and not in me he said. And that was his reason, my word against his.

  • @Dig_Duke_SFM
    @Dig_Duke_SFM 3 роки тому

    I just moved to toledo ... so I hope this works

  • @phish_1
    @phish_1 Рік тому

    This is a libel case when someone is accusing you falsely or defamation!!!
    No need to fight just leave! The person who kicked you out will someday be kicked out too!

  • @gabeescoto6590
    @gabeescoto6590 5 місяців тому

    Remember this that if someone accuses you and it affects you and your job let them know you will submit to a polygraph test in the presence of your lawyer and the companies lawyer's.

  • @david-ky7rt
    @david-ky7rt 5 років тому +5

    BULLSHIT, maybe that lawyer should look for a new job

  • @charlessmith263
    @charlessmith263 4 роки тому

    OK, here is this scenario - suppose I am falsely accused of subordination, which can be a fireable offense. What can I do?

  • @JenGable-Justeson
    @JenGable-Justeson 2 місяці тому

    If you can stay calm, document the incident, or video the situation that will hopefully assist. If someone lies about you, find an attorney, and sue for Slander /Libel !

  • @jamescannon458
    @jamescannon458 3 роки тому

    I have a coworker who is paranoid schizophrenic and she is always accusing me of committing crimes against her, stealing her wallet, breaking into her car to put it back just to mess with her, scratching her car etc,etc, etc. She goes into fits saying God told her something bad is going to happen around here. Crazy off the wall crap, I have many witnesses she has also accused of things. And my employer refuses to do anything about it.

    • @Princess_Snowwflakehdho
      @Princess_Snowwflakehdho 3 роки тому

      1. Never be alone with her.
      2. Use your other colleagues to back you up.
      3. Take notes of every false accusations she invents.

  • @fairymairah
    @fairymairah 2 роки тому

    I was accused of being greedy for asking for a few more things.

  • @Ony4145
    @Ony4145 Рік тому

    How do you guys stay away from any accusation of sexual harassment from female co worker.
    If you could share some tips.
    She could use it to discredit anyones hard work and have an easy path for promotion.

  • @tinksc
    @tinksc 5 місяців тому

    Awesome thank you 🙏 😊

  • @JonFlatt
    @JonFlatt 3 роки тому

    That's what is easier said than done. But what's worth it is never easy

  • @7Mmc
    @7Mmc 2 місяці тому

    What if they never confronted you and yet they say all manner of things behind you and you don't even know who to hold responsible and nobody has ever challenged you,ever. You only know there is a blackmail going on through peoples attitudes and behaviours

  • @earthlycolorbrown6246
    @earthlycolorbrown6246 Рік тому +1

    Law suit in federal court and monetary relief is best practices!

    • @iloveoldschool888
      @iloveoldschool888 Рік тому

      In my case, I tried to sue with Eeoc, and they wouldn't take my case but gave me a right to sue letter. I called every employment attorney, but no one would help me. That place has so many connections that they know how to sweep things under the rug.

    • @iloveoldschool888
      @iloveoldschool888 10 місяців тому

      @robertp.3351 Yes. I worked at a childcare center inside a church, and you would've thought that they would've had the best workers.

  • @karagraham9764
    @karagraham9764 13 днів тому

    I have taken positions for work life balance so I’m not angry at the company for giving me work that is too hard. I have had coworkers and management get angry with me and get rid of me bc i don’t want to be miserable like them

  • @TyusHarshaw
    @TyusHarshaw Рік тому

    I was falsely accused at my place of work. I'm a chef by profession and it's been absolutely everything to me, I've dedicated my life to this profession. I'm currently 28 years old. One of my employees who was underage, 17 years old reported to my leadership team I had sexually assaulted her. There was no proof, no evidence, no accounts or witnesses because it never happened. My leadership team in turn decided to take her statement. They never took mine. They instead told my whole staff what they had heard. My work environment became so toxic I couldn't even work. I had to resign because no one would even look at me, or even have a conversation. I was not charged with any crime, I was never even reprimanded by my leadership team even before my resignation, I wasn't even notified of any misconduct. They have used it against me and I can't even find a job at all in my WHOLE state. They've labeled me and branded me. I'm still living with this today, I've never hurt anyone. I'm trying to be strong but it's so hard. I never thought I'd be in a situation like this. Praying this never happens to anyone, and if it does just hold on to whatever you can and be strong. This is incredibly painful.

  • @venture3800
    @venture3800 5 років тому +1

    I didn't know what I was starting when I started it

  • @SwimminWitDaFishies
    @SwimminWitDaFishies Рік тому

    I really feel my supervisor is a high functioning autistic with a heavy dose of narcissism mixed in. He knows people hates his guts and almost seems proud of it. He has said things to me that I never heard any adult say in real life ("I'm going to go yell at them, so you better be right about this!") I've really had it and feel the character assassination feedback I just received (supposedly from 6 other supervisors) is a set up for a justification of a "needs improvement" rating for this year. Do I take a poll of the office and gather overwhelming evidence to support my performance or just focus on looking to jump ship? I have documentation that will counter the "perception of total incompetence".

  • @mathisnotforthefaintofheart
    @mathisnotforthefaintofheart 2 роки тому +3

    There are two sides to the story: Her story and her story. Pence Rule men...it really works!

  • @RedMi-bm7uv
    @RedMi-bm7uv 6 років тому

    Thank you

  • @u235u235u235
    @u235u235u235 3 роки тому +3

    video starts at 3:17

  • @donnyko1539
    @donnyko1539 Рік тому

    I got accused of things bout my second job that has norhing to do with me current job thats why i kept quite after hea getting in my face in yelling

  • @mcdonaldgc3020
    @mcdonaldgc3020 4 роки тому

    I got misled and promised long term and training. the training is on a machine and in their handbook it says that in order to used the machine I training program has to be sign and has to be under the supervision by a trainer in my case when I reminded management and they knew about it. I clean the paralyne machines after cleaning you have to run the machine that's under pressure so a leak rate that I didn't know. I reminded the trainer and he insulted me another worker heard n was looking at me in schock then he took me outside n told me to leave to walk away n kept insulting me I told him that I just wanted to get trained plus don't put me down like that everything happened after I would help shipping dept. But I told my supervisor like I don't helping her but it's been a few times a female worker calls me for help I don't mind but I caught her not doing anything talking with other female after that everything happened the lead the trainer will talk to her then my lead or trainer made up some rules I reported the trainer even to the agency I made a report after that I'm being accused of putting parts wrong " we have told u so many times how to put this part" how can I be blame when I never had the training this pressure they would follow me then the trainer brought the training worksheet im a decent worker I brought ideas and motivated they even hire someone for me to train on the machines I told them I wasn't haven't had the training yet cleaning is pure logic I told the new employee that I been trying to get trained. I even cried on my car. Then I got terminated all because I wanted the training they could just said where not gona train u I can respect but lead on this kind of games affects the person psychologically they're forcing u out

  • @NoneofyourBusiness-hy5ln
    @NoneofyourBusiness-hy5ln Рік тому

    I was falsely accused of stealing LAXATIVE out of all medications that could be stolen. Then a problem client lied and said I called her names. That’s also a lie. They made me sign a paper stating I did so. What do I do?

    • @OfftoShambala
      @OfftoShambala Рік тому

      Stealing laxatives out of medications? Wt heck does that mean?

  • @inspoceanmedia9729
    @inspoceanmedia9729 2 роки тому

    I am not sure, that way every one pull you in their mud? Is it my job keep my life on hold spending time on false accusatios?

  • @marcoglara2012
    @marcoglara2012 3 роки тому +1

    Normally I would agree, but if this is a criminal matter, being forthcoming and cooperative is the last thing you should do to secure a innocence. Shut up, lawyer up

    • @ArkadyItkin
      @ArkadyItkin  3 роки тому

      This of course does not relate to any criminal accusations. A completely different advice and set of laws would apply in that case.

  • @alerickson3885
    @alerickson3885 11 місяців тому +2

    In 45 years working, the only cases of faulse accusations I was aware of were by wemen. This should say something about wemen.

  • @mysksaucy7066
    @mysksaucy7066 4 місяці тому

    i’m 17 and i just got my first job and i’m being falsely accused of saying i was gonna r word a girl on my crew and im scared that im gonna lose my job and that this will go on my record i never said anything like that to this girl she also speaks only spanish and i dont speak spanish at all. idk what to do

    • @ArkadyItkin
      @ArkadyItkin  4 місяці тому

      First, you are very young and this is one of the first and many jobs in your life, so I wouldn't worry too much about a "record" at one private company. Secondly, if there is any type of investigation - fully cooperate, tell your side of the story politely and dispassionately, make sure you don't act in a hostile, retaliatory manner toward the girl because of the accusations she made and act like nothing happened and this will increase the chance of being resolved without any action against you. If the employer still decides to terminate you, which they can, at least you will know that you have done your part correctly. There is no guarantee against being falsely accused at work for any of us, so that's just part of life for all of us.

    • @mysksaucy7066
      @mysksaucy7066 4 місяці тому

      @@ArkadyItkin Thank you, I still have yet to hear from anyone regarding this i had to go in and yesterday and talk to them about my side of the story and i told them that there was witness to say i didn’t say such a thing to her and later that day my supervisors called me to say to not come into work again (missing my 2nd day now) and to expect a call from HR but they haven’t questioned anyone on my crew about this and I’m relying on that because they were there the whole day and knows i didn’t say anything i’m just nervous that i’m gonna get fired without them questioning anyone else.

    • @letsdiscussitoversometea8479
      @letsdiscussitoversometea8479 3 місяці тому

      ​@@mysksaucy7066if you're so inclined, it would be a good idea to use this time to learn a trade/develop a skill/engage in a profitable hobby that you can use as a "backup" form of work (or start an enterprise such as a handyman business, "man and van", personal assistant/valet, clearing and cleaning service for those who actively volunteer what they want discarded (such as those with difficulty clearing cluttered homes)) - things like that.

    • @letsdiscussitoversometea8479
      @letsdiscussitoversometea8479 3 місяці тому +1

      ​@mysksaucy7066 if you're so inclined, it would be a good idea to use this time to learn a trade/develop a skill/engage in a profitable hobby that you can use as a "backup" form of work (or start an enterprise such as a handyman business, "man and van", personal assistant/valet, clearing and cleaning service for those who actively volunteer what they want discarded (such as those with difficulty clearing cluttered homes)) - things like that.

  • @t0ph4t1
    @t0ph4t1 2 роки тому +1

    I better call Saul

  • @upnorthofcali7399
    @upnorthofcali7399 Рік тому

    I stopped taking my 15 minute breaks at work due to coworkers saying that I was taking unauthorized breaks....idk what else to do

    • @ArkadyItkin
      @ArkadyItkin  Рік тому

      I believe you should discuss this with your management and not worry too much about what your co-workers think.

    • @upnorthofcali7399
      @upnorthofcali7399 Рік тому

      @@ArkadyItkin I know but this nursing home is different ya feel me

    • @OfftoShambala
      @OfftoShambala Рік тому

      @@ArkadyItkin honestly, after reading through all these comments and knowing my own experiences in life, I’m facing getting a job job after years of doing contract work … I’ve lost everything and won’t have a car soon and I need to get a waitress job or something like that… I’m just going to have to stay on my toes, but I don’t know if I can take anymore BS from humanity all of a sudden

  • @lilabukvic4216
    @lilabukvic4216 2 роки тому

    But Im completely exosted to be wrongly accused.

  • @noneofyourbusiness1114
    @noneofyourbusiness1114 3 роки тому

    Cashier's always gave me free shit, Id.always ask are you that's within your leadership to approve. They assured and now I'm on suspension for a misunderstanding the front end screwing up.

  • @venture3800
    @venture3800 5 років тому

    I didn't know I was taking anything before it came to me

  • @brianallison1913
    @brianallison1913 2 роки тому

    Instead of spending so much money on the whole drug free policy employers should focus on having every inch (except restrooms of course) of the job site under video and audio surveillance. It would not take as many cameras as one would think. I don't think anyone should be high on drugs at work but by going my route the cameras would back up a coworker or managers concern that an individual is performing and/or acting alarmingly out of character. Some would feel as though they were being spied upon and say it would be invasive but I believe many of those people are the ones that are creating most toxic work environments to begin with. You are paid to show up and perform an assigned task to help your employer do the one and only thing it strives to.......achieve a healthy and growing in the black bottom line. This would even get these goof-ball managers motivated to be more competent especially if a copy of the recording is sent to a third party database. But it will never happen because of that. Management and the upper corporate echelon above them don't want to ssip on their own parade.

    • @ArkadyItkin
      @ArkadyItkin  2 роки тому

      + it would also be necessary to balance important, competing privacy concerns associated with this type of close surveillance.

  • @NusratJahan-u9f
    @NusratJahan-u9f 8 місяців тому

    A girl is accusing me I did something bad with her but also I don't know her and always I stayed away from every girls and maintained distance from girls but now this girl suddenly come to my home and are saying I did this with her and my grandfather and some of my family members are taking her side now please give me some ideas how can I prove I didn't did anything it's a false accusation about me now how can I prove infront of everyone and can make her prove wrong please help me please give me some suggestions please everyone

    • @ArkadyItkin
      @ArkadyItkin  8 місяців тому

      Generally, the only thing you can do is tell your side of the story calmly and truthfully and try to avoid attacking the accuser as much as possible. The rest will be up to the decision maker of who to believe and which action to take in response. If there is a witness who has firsthand knowledge that the girl is accusing you for improper reasons, then that witness can be very helpful as well.

    • @NusratJahan-u9f
      @NusratJahan-u9f 8 місяців тому

      @@ArkadyItkin thanks but this girl have no proves she's telling I did that things and also she's telling she have proves her friend will tell I did this but I didn't did anything also I just seen her one time I don't know her

  • @nairobinyeusi5811
    @nairobinyeusi5811 5 років тому

    Im in trouble now 😒😒

  • @iloveoldschool888
    @iloveoldschool888 Рік тому

    I had a man lie and tell people that i was having sex with him at work after hours. The women at the job got mad and continued spreading more lies and rumors after i reported him. I've never had sex with this man a day in my life. I was later fired when I continued to speak up for the way that I was getting treated.

  • @venture3800
    @venture3800 5 років тому

    I didn't know what I was faking before it was real

  • @everybodyhatinbro
    @everybodyhatinbro 3 роки тому

    Well I got fired cause an employee stole gas so I’m going to labor board forget about it

  • @abusedbruce6789
    @abusedbruce6789 6 років тому

    Either that U CAN beat up a homeless man who made your MALE BOSS MILLIONS IN REVENUES OF MALLS

    • @abusedbruce6789
      @abusedbruce6789 6 років тому

      Verbally assaulting a homeless man who is a homeless man who has a long way of y’all
      Is tolerated in BOSTON MA
      YES IF YOU HAVE BEEN ABUSED IN ANY WAY
      AND HATE YOUR BOSS WHO IS IN THE 45-65 age group
      You can victimize the homeless
      SO BRING A FRIEND AND HAVE A GOOD TIME
      AS LONG AS YOU HAVE PAID ONE NIGHT STAY IN A LUXURIOUS HOTEL
      AND BOUGHT LUNCH
      YOU CAN BEAT A HOMELESS MAN
      NOT WOMEN
      THEY ARE SPECIAL

    • @abusedbruce6789
      @abusedbruce6789 6 років тому

      And let’s not forget the paid by dad little dweebs LETS GET IT ON YALL

    • @abusedbruce6789
      @abusedbruce6789 6 років тому

      We accept most CONDEMED SOULS AS LONG AS THEY ARE MADE OF PLASTIC LIKE KEN BARBIE

    • @abusedbruce6789
      @abusedbruce6789 6 років тому

      Remember some times it’s better to receive than to give
      SO BEND OVA FOR A BULL GOD

    • @eddyvideostar
      @eddyvideostar 3 роки тому

      To Abused Bruce: Please rewrite and explain what you are trying to say. I don't get it. Send links and data if you can.

  • @venture3800
    @venture3800 5 років тому

    Search me

  • @levonlyons
    @levonlyons 2 місяці тому

    I can’t wait to prove that I was right and I want to be able to work a job again in my life my life been on hold stuck for six years

  • @tommytube62
    @tommytube62 2 роки тому

    A girl I'm not even attracted to has accused me of staring at her....