This os soooo true! I filed a grievance against our manager due to several reasons, she’s intentionally closing wound charts of our elderly patients from the system( care home for elderly residents) but I was the one who placed on suspension 😢
What I hate most about narcissists is that they tell you that you aren't making sense when they're the ones that aren't making sense. Three simple statements: 1) I do not want anything to do with her; 2) I did not follow her; and, 3) I did not send her any love letters. Which of those simple statements do not make sense and why do they not make sense? Their narcissistic responses: 1) The first statement doesn't make sense because she says that you want her and if she says that you want her then you obviously want her. Denying that you want her only proves you to have a delusional disorder of erotomanic type. 2) The second statement doesn't make sense because she says that she "feels" that you were following her and if that's the way she "feels" then there's no point in denying that you were following her. There's no possible way that her "feelings" could be wrong. 3) The third statement doesn't make sense because we have absolutely no reason to believe that she's falsely accusing you of sending her love letters. Besides, she wouldn't have told the whole planet that you were sending her love letters unless you were sending her love letters. She has a perfectly reasonable explanation for why she wasn't alleging you to be sending her love letters when she filed and escalated her original complaint. She has a perfectly good explanation for why she didn't start accusing you of sending her love letters until you started accusing her of falsely maligning you. She has a perfectly good explanation for why she forgot she had disposed of those love letters while she was telling the RCMP she still had them. She has a perfectly good explanation for how she was able to forget things like that despite her boasts of having a photographic memory. You ever notice how narcissists always have the right to protect themselves and their victims have no right to protect themselves from the narcissists whatsoever? Ever notice how narcissists have the right to protect themselves by intruding upon your privacy, falsely maligning you, falsely accusing you, infringing your rights, harassing you, encouraging others to harass you, singling you out, isolating you, and making baseless claims they don't feel require corroboration or substantiation because people are just supposed to accept their word as the "gold standard" when it comes to credibility? Ever notice how a narcissist's rights always supercede yours? Ever notice how a narcissist has the right to do everything the law prohibits and the only rights you have are the rights that they will allow you? Ever notice how narcissists have the most asinine logic? Ever notice how a narcissist feels they can do whatever they want to you by offering such crackpot cliches as "you can't always get what you want"? Ever notice how a narcissist expects to get away with every crime they commit by accusing their victim of "having to have their own way"? Ever notice how a narcissist tends to think of themselves as being "all that and a bag of chips" while accusing you of thinking the same thing about yourself? Ever notice the hypocrisy of the narcissist? Ever notice how a narcissist expects the entire world to bend to their every whim while accusing those who do not bend to their every whim of being a dissident? Ever notice how it's not a crime for a narcissist to intrude upon your privacy? And how a narcissist expects you to be corrected for complaining about their intrusion upon your privacy? Ever notice how it's acceptable in the mind of the narcissist to falsely accuse someone? And how the narcissist expects you to be punished for trying to defend yourself? Ever notice how easy it is to hate a narcissist? I discovered how easy it was to hate a narcissist long ago! Lesson learned, narc! This is one victim of a narcissist that's not going to tolerate that crap anymore! I'm suing!
Most people aren't absolute nutjobs fortunately. Most people don't call the cops when you introduce yourself to them. I just had the misfortune of introducing myself to a nutjob from la helle province. People accuse me of spinning because they're so hellbent on believing this lunatic. And I have no idea why they want to believe this nutjob! I did not send her love letters! She did NOT allege me to be sending her love letters when she filed her complaint. When she was unsatisfied with how her complaint was being handled she escalated her complaint. She didn't allege me to be sending her love letters when she escalated her complaint either. When I say that she did not allege me to be sending her love letters it's not spin; it's fact! When I say that she did not allege me to be sending her love letters when she escalated her complaint it's not spin; it's fact. When I say that she is falsely accusing me of sending her love letters I'm not spinning. I'm making an allegation against her! And I didn't follow her! And as someone who did NOT follow her I take grave exception to the police and the court accepting her "feeling" that I followed her as irrefutable proof that I followed her. I am outraged that someone can accuse me of doing something that I did not do and be believed because they're saying that they could "feel" that they were being followed! I have no qualms at all with calling Josee Plante a lunatic! And I have no qualms at all with calling the Sarnia Police Service and the Sarnia Courthouse morons for accepting something as eerily stupid as a "feeling" as proof that I did follow her. She falsely accused me of sending her an email in 2005 too! Constable Idiot (aka Viotte) calls me on the phone from Alberta. As soon as he mentions the name Josee Plante I hang up on him. I hung up on him because I was so fed up with that nutjob from la helle province. So he calls me right back and asks me why I hung up. I told him that I was fed up with that lunatic and her crazy allegations. Constable Idiot then proceeds to tell me that the raving loon received an email and she says that it was from me. He says that he looked into it and he determined that it wasn't from me. So I asked why he was caling me if he alreday determined the email wasn't from me. And he feeds me this spiel about my past. My past? You're calling me about something you already know I didn't do because of "my past"? Are you an absolute idiot, officer? Are you not familiar with "my past", officer? Her complaint was dismissed as baseless! That's "my past", officer! In 2002 I was arrested for accusing her of falsely maligning me as a stalker, officer! That's my past! Isn't it funny, officer, that the only conviction I have is for accusing that raving lunatic of slandering me as a stalker.... And here you are, officer, on the phone speaking to me about an email that you already determined wasn't from me! Here you are on the phone talking to me about an email a lunatic says is from me but you determined wasn't from me. Here you are on the phone talking to me about some fucking email that you know wasn't from me but the person I'm calling a lunatic says is from me! You're wasting my time calling me to tell me that a raving lunatic says I sent her an email that you already know I didn't send! My past? Get a clue, dipshit!
@@hrhubtalk They're invading my privacy. They're infringing my rights. They're discriminating against me. They're falsely accusing me. They're falsely maligning me. They're harassing me. They're gaslighting me. They're isolating me. They're telling me I want a girl that I do not want. And they're only telling me that I want her because they know that I do not want her. Under those circumstances it would seem rather absurd for those droppings from the ass of failure to impugn me as the hater.
The organization believes the accused if the accused is a manager, more senior employee, etc and the accuser is a low-level employee.
Thanks Sydney. That risk definitely increases when the investigator is internal.
@sydneyhart not true. I was senior leadership, and HR believed a regular FTE.
This os soooo true! I filed a grievance against our manager due to several reasons, she’s intentionally closing wound charts of our elderly patients from the system( care home for elderly residents) but I was the one who placed on suspension 😢
Wish we had more people like you in HR
Thanks Peggy!
This is so informative! I love each episode you have offered to HR people. Thank you so much
Weilicphr - thanks! Glad you liked it!
@Chertoff88 Thanks for the extra push to do this!
I didn't see this until now! I'm glad you saw it!
Sorry..!! I thought it wasn’t a marketing video 😢
Thank you for time-stamps/video chapters. I am a new employee seeing people go through this right now, very interesting thank you.
Glad it was helpful!!
What I hate most about narcissists is that they tell you that you aren't making sense when they're the ones that aren't making sense.
Three simple statements:
1) I do not want anything to do with her;
2) I did not follow her; and,
3) I did not send her any love letters.
Which of those simple statements do not make sense and why do they not make sense?
Their narcissistic responses:
1) The first statement doesn't make sense because she says that you want her and if she says that you want her then you obviously want her. Denying that you want her only proves you to have a delusional disorder of erotomanic type.
2) The second statement doesn't make sense because she says that she "feels" that you were following her and if that's the way she "feels" then there's no point in denying that you were following her. There's no possible way that her "feelings" could be wrong.
3) The third statement doesn't make sense because we have absolutely no reason to believe that she's falsely accusing you of sending her love letters. Besides, she wouldn't have told the whole planet that you were sending her love letters unless you were sending her love letters. She has a perfectly reasonable explanation for why she wasn't alleging you to be sending her love letters when she filed and escalated her original complaint. She has a perfectly good explanation for why she didn't start accusing you of sending her love letters until you started accusing her of falsely maligning you. She has a perfectly good explanation for why she forgot she had disposed of those love letters while she was telling the RCMP she still had them. She has a perfectly good explanation for how she was able to forget things like that despite her boasts of having a photographic memory.
You ever notice how narcissists always have the right to protect themselves and their victims have no right to protect themselves from the narcissists whatsoever? Ever notice how narcissists have the right to protect themselves by intruding upon your privacy, falsely maligning you, falsely accusing you, infringing your rights, harassing you, encouraging others to harass you, singling you out, isolating you, and making baseless claims they don't feel require corroboration or substantiation because people are just supposed to accept their word as the "gold standard" when it comes to credibility?
Ever notice how a narcissist's rights always supercede yours? Ever notice how a narcissist has the right to do everything the law prohibits and the only rights you have are the rights that they will allow you? Ever notice how narcissists have the most asinine logic? Ever notice how a narcissist feels they can do whatever they want to you by offering such crackpot cliches as "you can't always get what you want"? Ever notice how a narcissist expects to get away with every crime they commit by accusing their victim of "having to have their own way"?
Ever notice how a narcissist tends to think of themselves as being "all that and a bag of chips" while accusing you of thinking the same thing about yourself? Ever notice the hypocrisy of the narcissist? Ever notice how a narcissist expects the entire world to bend to their every whim while accusing those who do not bend to their every whim of being a dissident?
Ever notice how it's not a crime for a narcissist to intrude upon your privacy? And how a narcissist expects you to be corrected for complaining about their intrusion upon your privacy?
Ever notice how it's acceptable in the mind of the narcissist to falsely accuse someone? And how the narcissist expects you to be punished for trying to defend yourself?
Ever notice how easy it is to hate a narcissist? I discovered how easy it was to hate a narcissist long ago! Lesson learned, narc!
This is one victim of a narcissist that's not going to tolerate that crap anymore! I'm suing!
Wow. That sounds like a tough situation. I hope it worked out!!
Most people aren't absolute nutjobs fortunately. Most people don't call the cops when you introduce yourself to them. I just had the misfortune of introducing myself to a nutjob from la helle province.
People accuse me of spinning because they're so hellbent on believing this lunatic. And I have no idea why they want to believe this nutjob!
I did not send her love letters! She did NOT allege me to be sending her love letters when she filed her complaint. When she was unsatisfied with how her complaint was being handled she escalated her complaint. She didn't allege me to be sending her love letters when she escalated her complaint either.
When I say that she did not allege me to be sending her love letters it's not spin; it's fact! When I say that she did not allege me to be sending her love letters when she escalated her complaint it's not spin; it's fact.
When I say that she is falsely accusing me of sending her love letters I'm not spinning. I'm making an allegation against her!
And I didn't follow her! And as someone who did NOT follow her I take grave exception to the police and the court accepting her "feeling" that I followed her as irrefutable proof that I followed her. I am outraged that someone can accuse me of doing something that I did not do and be believed because they're saying that they could "feel" that they were being followed! I have no qualms at all with calling Josee Plante a lunatic! And I have no qualms at all with calling the Sarnia Police Service and the Sarnia Courthouse morons for accepting something as eerily stupid as a "feeling" as proof that I did follow her.
She falsely accused me of sending her an email in 2005 too! Constable Idiot (aka Viotte) calls me on the phone from Alberta. As soon as he mentions the name Josee Plante I hang up on him. I hung up on him because I was so fed up with that nutjob from la helle province.
So he calls me right back and asks me why I hung up. I told him that I was fed up with that lunatic and her crazy allegations. Constable Idiot then proceeds to tell me that the raving loon received an email and she says that it was from me. He says that he looked into it and he determined that it wasn't from me. So I asked why he was caling me if he alreday determined the email wasn't from me. And he feeds me this spiel about my past.
My past?
You're calling me about something you already know I didn't do because of "my past"? Are you an absolute idiot, officer?
Are you not familiar with "my past", officer?
Her complaint was dismissed as baseless! That's "my past", officer!
In 2002 I was arrested for accusing her of falsely maligning me as a stalker, officer! That's my past! Isn't it funny, officer, that the only conviction I have is for accusing that raving lunatic of slandering me as a stalker.... And here you are, officer, on the phone speaking to me about an email that you already determined wasn't from me! Here you are on the phone talking to me about an email a lunatic says is from me but you determined wasn't from me. Here you are on the phone talking to me about some fucking email that you know wasn't from me but the person I'm calling a lunatic says is from me!
You're wasting my time calling me to tell me that a raving lunatic says I sent her an email that you already know I didn't send!
My past?
Get a clue, dipshit!
@@hrhubtalk
They're invading my privacy.
They're infringing my rights.
They're discriminating against me.
They're falsely accusing me.
They're falsely maligning me.
They're harassing me.
They're gaslighting me.
They're isolating me.
They're telling me I want a girl that I do not want.
And they're only telling me that I want her because they know that I do not want her.
Under those circumstances it would seem rather absurd for those droppings from the ass of failure to impugn me as the hater.