I live by these maxims, and more. "Hope for the best, prepare for the worst" - anon, often credited to Marcus Aurelius "What stands in the way becomes the way" - Aurelius "We are more often frightened than we are hurt" - Seneca "Who is my Master? He who decides what I do or do not like" - Epictetus. Was a Slave in Ancient Rome "Don't overly rely on anyone in life because even your own shadow leaves you in total darkness" - Ibn Taymiyyah "Making the world a better place, is a marathon, not a sprint" - unknown. Perhaps one of mine. "Strive for perfection, don't throw TANTRUMS if you can't achieve nor receive it. If absolutely necessary & no other way, accept the lesser evil" - The Horseshoe Party UK "Be water" - Bruce Lee, oversimplified. "If you're going through Hell, keep going [through]" "Solitary trees if they grow at all, grow strong" - Sir Winston Churchill
Timestamps 1). Life is long 0:43 2). Don't excuse a cheater 1:44 3). You will still be disappointed 2:52 4). There is no best choice 4:15 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day.💙💙💙💙💙💙💙
i just asked my grandpa “how should a person handle rejection?” because i feel as if i’ve been rejected so many times for being myself & he said the best thing to do was to move on.
Never take rejection personal it always never about you anyway. it’s the other persons responsibility. Take it as a compliment It can be many peoples protection or saving grace sometimes at least that’s how I see it anyway. Keep being yourself you will eventually find someone who will see your value and appreciate you respect you and honour you as a person.
My best relationship ended horribly and turning toxic for me more than them, all because they couldn't move on from a bad argument They inflated it to be more than just that, and it suddenly became everything wrong with me and with her, she took it incredibly personal, asking her to move on in the best ways possible would always be taken as a personal insult So she never did, she only forcibly decided to bear the pain, and also leave me despite having feelings for me, forcing herself to ignore it and get with someone else to forget about me And here I am all because they wouldn't move on
@@Jack_Woods Emotionally immature and co-dependant those types usually just drift from one relationship to the next. It’s more about her wanting to be a victim protecting that fragile little ego. She wanted you to feel pain for her having insecurities so that was her way of getting you back for rejecting her. Well hopefully she’s gone don’t let this little girl back into your life you’ll regret it! block! Delete, run and live your best life. There a possibility she may come back later but don’t allow it. I can assure you the next relationship is doomed the poor dude just don’t know what he’s dealing with yet.
@@MRLX54 I mean that's not really true sometimes it is about you. Most the time it's not. Sometimes you might come off as creep or have bad hygiene or a bad attitude, or some other aspect that pushes away people.
@@mr.e7541 I agree its definitely a matter of context. I was thinking yes sometimes the person can do something bad to be rejected. But anyone who is rejected must however respect that persons decision and move on. It’s just that now we have a generation of people who feel heavily entitled and it’s toxic in itself.
"There is no best choice " something I struggle with a lot. Thinking "why did I do that?" Or "I should have never..." Regret is something I have been battling for the past 5 years, which I know doesn't seem like a lot but having but hating my self everyday for not having left the situation sooner. I spent many years thinking "this is where I should be and I will never leave " it's been devastating now that I finally left, it's been for the better that I did leave but why didn't I just listen to all those red flags and doubts I had in the first place! 😨
Honestly sometimes tough love is the only love you need and with the new year coming up i definitely needed this reminder to really reach my goals in 2023 so thank you ❤ and happy new year everyone! I hope this next year is one of your best!
If you need this : 0:43 Life is long 1:46 Don't excuse a cheater 2:52 You will still be disappointed 4:15 There is no best choice Voilà, hope I helped you ❤
"Don't give up doing what you truly want" I actually started thinking like that recently. I LOVE playing video games and I felt like crap when my dad or anyone would criticise me for it. But, I have a stable job now and still enjoy gaming whenever I can and I'm not letting anyone get in my head about it.
As it should be, as long as you can take care of yourself and responsibilities, then game as much as you want, but too many especially men only play video games without doing anything else and that is wrong.
Hello! Do you live with your parents? If so, I'd just take it as them reminding me not to overdo it. Although that's just me being able to see the positive in stuff and you may have other circumstances that affect you. But please don't spend too much time playing! Passion =/= obsession. Take care!
"The truth is utterly beneficial to you, but at first it can be quite shocking and disappointing to your other plans and goals. This you must risk if you wish to have the certainty and the empowerment that the truth will bring to you. The truth always brings resolution of conflict, always provides an experience of self, always gives you a sense of current reality, and always provides direction for you to move forward." *_Steps to Knowledge, The book of Inner Knowing - Step 17: Today I want to hear the truth._*
I've been a viewer for only about a month or 2 now and in that time your channel has helped me reflect and feel better about myself, as well as helped me make an effort to be a better person. I've been wrestling with depression and anxiety as well as a narcissistic parent all my life and this channel has taught me how to deal with them or at least ease the pain that they bring. I'm sure most of your viewers feel the same as I do but I just wanted to say thank you for all the lives you've saved and helped change.
I’m really sensitive too. Been tryina see it as feeling/being really alive. Like… it makes life so vibrant. Like we usually only pay attention to how we’re sensitive to negativity. BUT man, even the flowers give me love… Thinking about it like some people take drugs to feel like us lolz we have a gift
Well since this is a harsh truths video. You really need to get tougher skin. If you crumble when anything goes wrong, or Anyones mean to you. All your days will be horrible, and it will feel like nothing goes right. Learn to shrug things off.
@@rest1585 meh, being tough only ever caused me catastrophic injuries & health problems. Defo preferring being resilient. & prefer working with things more than shrugging them off. Like what I mean about being sensitive being potential for a fuller life; ima adrenaline junkie too, I just get a bigger hit cause my threshold is lower, ya feel me? ;P Like I land hard & I bounce back fast. & since I can’t help feeling (just psychological weather anyways) it’s actually pretty fun to work with
@@josiahgill1176 Never said you should be tough, just that you should toughen up. You don’t gotta be an emotionless edgy bada$$, If your not HSP. You shouldn’t really have a problem. Just don’t let dumb things give you dumb feelings.
The title of this video reminds me of the truths of a Lightweaver. If you know, great. If not, i’ll explain. The Lightweavers are a fictional group of super powered individuals in the Stormlight Archive series. They get their powers from admitting personal truths about themselves. Truths that they don’t want to admit. We all have our inner demons, and the Lightweavers have accepted those demons. They seek personal truth. The most powerful truth. This video is full of things that a Lightweaver might say as a truth. And that is significant.
I can admit i have been the person who has caused betrayal, but I am determined to put in the work to not be that person and grow. I think it's important to accept your actions and grow to be the person you choose to be and not to remain in the past. Its done you can only do your best to help eachothers healing process and growth, and a lot times you can't fix things. Just try to work on you. It's tough to face that, but every day is an opportunity to do so.
Food For Thought: The beauty of life is, while we cannot undo what is done, we can see it, understand it, learn from it, and change so that every new moment is spent not in regret, guilt, loneliness, hesitation, fear, or anger; but in wisdom, understanding, enthusiasm, freedom, passion and love.
I've been watching your videos since your sociopath, psychopath and narcissist videos, specifically your quiz video! Watching you continue to post more and more about mental health to help others in need of this information or just to be (self) aware! I appreciate that you do this, it REALLY helps me and I'm sure it does for other people. Thank you for everything you do!
"The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen." - Elisabeth Kübler-Ross
Life is long but most of that time you'll spend eating, sleeping, working to have place to sleep and something to eat, and around 10% of it is a free time. So, the choices most of the time are obvious or doesn't matter, in fact we don't have any choice.
I would recommend improving one thing about yourself at a time. I have a bit of experience in the area of improving myself after realizing that I was a total a-hole.
We feel we've been trying to express ourselves through truth, as well as telling the truth to ppl that may not want to hear it...alot of your suggestions might help us grow further though, we've watched alot of your vids for awhile, and we want to thank you for all of the lives you're helping
This channel has helped me in figuring out who I am and I hope it continues to help others for a long time to come. This animation style is adorable btw and it suits the channel. ❤️
Hoppin' on the "how to live n accept your mistakes train"... Ending up being the cheater or horrible partner you NEVER wanted to be makes you wanna punish yourself or at least you'd just rationalize if your partner did the same you'd deserve it along with any other bad karma/ misfortune you experience since..."eye for an eye" Edit cause of the last point: Honestly it's unhealthy but being harsh n basically hating myself keeps me in line. Luckily I can still feel like me
I thought that this video will beat me up mentally but.. it's so soothing and relaxing which makes the process of learning mistakes even healthier. Thank you for that.
@@Psych2go I believe I didn't expect to learn that "there is no best choice". As a overachiever I felt like it was my duty to always keep up and complete my life at 100% rate. ----- Sorry for the late response, although I'm thinking about this video to this day and working on making my life a cozy thing.
I'd love to see a video on how to make peace with your past mistakes. This year has been one with a lot of mistakes on my part, but I'm trying to learn and grow. But I still deal with a lot of guilt sometimes.
I know right it’s not easy I guess a part of us believes that those mistakes are part of who we are. So we just find it difficult to deattach ourselves from it rather than just letting it go. It’s almost like we are punishing ourselves for those mistakes when like this lady said “the lesson is in the journey” take is a lesson and move on sounds easier said than done right 😩
Thank you so much for this incredible video! There's no doubt in my mind that everyone needs to hear at least one of these points; I know quite a few that resonated with me. I am eagerly awaiting part 2 and as always please keep up the great work!
I have to disagree on the "shortness of life" topic. At 17 (when nothing hurt, everything worked, and I thought I'd live forever), life seemed long. But now at 67 (and in less than good health), I assure you that life feels very short. One man's opinion...
Hmm I do believe you but here the context is that life too long not to reflect on the daily things we do and how we can actually do better by taking some time and recognising it instead of that "go go go" situation And well wishes to you sir
@@sunitaagarwal449 Thank you for your reply, Sunita. Yes, we actively shouldn't floor the accelerator petal 24/7, but also not passively think that there will allow be time to do the things we want. I "wish" I'd learned earlier in life that it is better to lean into the wind while traveling my path, than to let the wind determine as much of that path as it did.
I love that so many people are seeking mental health lately. It gives me hope for the future, even if I don’t see it or benefit from it. I’m happy for the people that inherit a better world.
4:20 no 4 there is no best choice. This is the problem with rumination, anxiety and the inability to make a choice also I've just learnt there is no right or wrong choice, just the choice that you make and how u deal with it too much 'should have' could lead to 'do not' in protection we protect ourselves cause we don't really process our emotions well and therefore do anything to avoid further pain.
0:43 1. Life Is Long 1:45 2. Don't Excuse A Cheater 2:53 3. You Will Still Be Disappointed 4:15 4. There Is No Best Choice Number 2 hit the most, I Don't Think cheaters have any good reason to cheat even if not feeling loved. Just break up
I’ve been in a mental hospital for the last seven years. Sometimes I drown in angst about the choices that got me here; what if, should I have, who’s fault. But in the end I wouldn’t trade it for anything, there’s been just as much beauty as pain. Met good friends. Fell in love for the first time. Found my calling. Signed my first autograph. It’s not MY life; it’s just life, and it’s wonderful
instead of being uncomfortable, i got the opposite feeling probably because i dont have much expectation and just go on with whatever it is while waiting for new phases in life
Life is long but opportunities are short. No one has ever made memories that will last them for the rest of the life that they can look back with and cherish by going to bed at a decent hour.
I feel like I really needed this. Ty 🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺 Btw have an early happy new year from me everyone!! I hope you spend it feeling joyful and hopeful for your bright futures. Stay safe and healthy 💞💞
Now that I'm more than 50 years old, let me assure everyone: *The only possible way to stop making mistakes is to be dead.* I don't _want_ to make mistakes. I actively _try to avoid_ making mistakes. But ... they're inevitable. Mistakes are learning experiences that give you more opportunities to become a better person. Take the lessons, lick your wounds, and move ever onwards!
Life is long? Well, it’s important to take it carefully and still make the most out of it. With the increase in life expectancy, I found some relief. I had to come back to this channel after having a breakdown from an existential crisis regarding life after death (I don’t want to cease to exist nor end up in hell). I hope there’s an afterlife for me and my soul can rest happily when my time comed.
HOLY SHOOT! I was sooooooo needy for this words these days soooo bad My life look like an eternal fight with my two personalities and overabundance of information that make me literally freak out. I'm so greatful that I'm living in 21st century. That I have family, home, food/water, study/work opportunities. At least, I'm alive! So I'm still can to make choices and try to do my best. I know by myself that sometimes it is really hard to move on. BUT I CAN! U CAN! WE'RE ALL CAN! Merry Christmas & Happy new year everyone
I, once I had cheat on someone. I was on holiday, I fell in love and I wanted to wait to break up the previous relationship, in order to do it not by messages but in person, so I cheated. I didn't want to lose such a beautiful thing for a relationship that needed to end, my mistake was not kissing the other boy but not ending the relationship before holidays.
The life we receive is not short but we make it so, we are not ill provided but use what we have wastefully. A meaningful life is one that stays calm and serene, regardless of what life puts in their way
I swear guys, this is a very good topic to talk aboit in your videos and I wish you did many many parts of it! Haha I think I really need to listen to some hard truths about life, cause I know that will actually help me grow and be the best I can! ❤️
My cheating story (TW: suicide, domestic violence ) My girlfriend & I had agreed on abortion if she got pregnant (she wanted to experience unprotected sex and I said I wasn’t ready to be a parent). She got pregnant (I was the last to know), and moved 45 minutes away to live with her parents without consulting me. Meanwhile, I lived with a close college friend and his girlfriend at the time. Theirs was a toxic relationship (she had BPD. in retrospect, he was/is a narcissist). After a violent fight, I tried to convince her to leave him, I cried about fathering a child I didn’t want, and we had bad drunk sex. 2 months later, after the next time he attacked her, she died by suicide in the bathroom, while police were in the living room investigating. We had both felt hurt and betrayed. We both didn’t want to leave our relationships, we wanted our partners to treat us differently. But cheating doesn’t give you your power back when you’re in a disempowering relationship-leaving does. I needed to have clearly formed boundaries regarding sex. Being codependent, you will end up hurting when you give away your power because you don’t know how to trust yourself, and the other person does what they want anyway, expecting you to go along with it.
That' s kind of weird, if she wanted to experience unprotected sex she could of took birthcontrol or had an IUD put in, I just wouldn' t of chanced it.
Ok so here goes this amazing story I want to share; and this has nothing to do with regret or unfortunate experiences (especially in the past), and I'm not calling out any specific person; I just don't understand why people these days are so apprehensive. I realize everyone thinks differently. And it's not to say that no one should ignore bad habits or forget about defense mechanisms; but I sure as heck want there to be peace and civility in the world. If anything, I'm sure those are personal deep truths most everyone can relate with. It's like with me being a sports fan (especially about the phila. Eagles and Phillies), how I don't want to feel anxious; but I realize it is a part of being human, and it's sort of like how my grandfather couldn't stand going to school (but valued strong work ethic and loved to draw - much like me). One key difference is that I always looked forward to going to school, even on my darkest days (especially when my dad was battling bipolar depression). And there are always concerns I (and many others) will have, but all anyone can do is to keep going and realize there will always be obstacles and challenges to be conquered, depending on the situation, place of refuge, or spectrum.
Thank you for giving me hope in the new start I'm working on for the new year! I may not comment as much but know that this content has helped me reflect in such a way that it's changed my life. Thank you for helping me never fully give up on myself.
feels very true so ill be honest myself then, I do overthink too much so thoughts like contemplating on "correct/best" choices and giving up are things I do often, if not all the time, I think its something like perfectionism or something related to that
and though life has barely just begun for me, for some odd reason I feel like I have this part of me thats completely scared of everything and doesnt want to do anything in life and this other part of me that is full of confidence and isnt afraid of living life to the fullest, feel like as ive gotten older I kinda started being scared of everything but hey im doing my best to get out of a dark place and its gonna take a while
only make mistakes if you come from a family that has enough money to help you. if your poor. you only get one shot that's it so don't mess it up! this is the best advice for those of you that don't live on easy street. you should eat the rich
2:54 this is very relatable. My performing arts group goes to a yearly competition every year called “access broadway” and in 2021 me and my sister did a duet scene and we ended up scoring gold (There’s silver, high silver, gold, high gold, and platinum) And Gold is considered a low score which meant that I couldn’t place for an overall award. I was so sad cause in 2020 I did so good.
Can you make an art tutorial or progress vid of the drawings&animations you make? They are soooo good! And the colour choice makes me happy just from looking at it Also yes please do 2nd part
@@Psych2go in this specific video, the first and last point. However, even though I know life is long, and that there's no best choice, it's still hard to accept these truths, but if you hear that often enough, it must be true, and you start to believe it, which is why it's so important to watch these videos, even when you know what's happening in the video.
My wife and I had the unfortunate cheating situation after 7 years together and we were apart for 3 months and it happened yet a second time but it only made us grow stronger after we both were able to fully realize just what we had together and the small issues we did have were truly nothing compared to what COULD BE where the grass only appeared greener! We had 20 amazing and beautiful years together until her sudden, untimely and devastating death in 2020 and I will never want another except as just a loving friend because my heart is forever hers and not even God itself could change that. I miss you so terribly Krista Miller 😢❤️🩹 be with you again very soon 😘
For the record those 20 years were NOT without their moments, but we both believe had we not both had a taste of what we thought we were missing, we would likely never fully appreciated just what we both realized we were truly blessed to have❤ not all cheaters deserve this second chance and only YOU can know if who you have is truly worth forgiving for their mistake, we are all only human after all….excuse or not.
Your voice is so calming and soothing, I'm trying to learn but you keep putting me to sleep. Cool and interesting content in your videos but, thanks a bunch 😊
@@Psych2goI'm hoping to study psychology this year and have been thoroughly enjoying your content. Hopefully in the coming years I'll be able to understand myself and others better and become a better person. Have a wonderful year and thank you for the valuable information and awareness you spread about the many different conditions we face throughout the world. It helps validate and gain a better understanding of ourselves. ☺️☺️
You probably could have added that if the cheater is a pleaser then you might as well consider everything that happened to make the right call. I'm still in a relationship with a person that cheated on me once, but because he was raised by his parents to be a pleaser, and the one I got cheated on with kept threatening with hurting himself or even taking his own life, so my partner got desperate because of his pleaser side and tried to help by making him forget about it through pleasure even if it was wrong, he told me he realized what he did but was scared and didn't know what to do to stop it. I ended up taking full responsibility for it as I've already dealt with plenty of cases like these in the past, it took me about 9 months to forgive my partner as well, and I'm making sure I'm helping him to get rid of his pleaser side because he asked for it, he told me he doesn't want to be a cruel person anymore and stop hurting people like that. Also just a reminder for y'all, if you can judge and see the whole picture, don't make the same mistake as me, let go of the past and move on, don't live in it, it'll only cause you more harm than it's already done.
I’ll admit, I have cheated ONCE. I didn’t mean to. I was with my first boyfriend and I soon fell out of love from us not contacting anymore, I still cared about his feelings then but I fell in love with a different guy and I didn’t have the heart to tell him I wanted to break up, I was scared, nervous, and didn’t wanna break his heart. So I kinda got with the other guy and saw how mad my first boyfriend was, so he broke up with me. I still want them to break up first if I fall out of love and now I’m a single Pringle- 2nd boyfriend broke up with me, liked me again while I was with another guy and soon my 3rd boyfriend I’ve had for almost 3 years kinda ignored me since he moved, so I politely broke up with him. It still hurts that I broke up with him only 2 days ago but I know I did the right thing and not being rude abt it.
I once committed an act that is arguably cheating. I word it as that because most people I’ve told, including the “victim”, what had happened, and all of them had not considered it cheating… so why do I still consider it as such?
I wonder if it's a good thing to have low expectations. I've unconsciously somehow turned myself that way. But I don't hate it, cuz the lovely things that suprise me, mean a lot to me, and the things that disappoint me, don't hurt as much
I made that mistake. She cheated on me on my birthday. She was my fiancee. It was with her best friend. We ultimately broke up and she went with him. And when that didn't work out, she tried to be my friend. I tried to be, but she only compared me to him unfavorably. I had to walk away. I did everything right and did all I could and it wasn't enough. Some people will not care what you do for them. Choose your partner very carefully.
I am an introvert, I want to find friends and I don’t know how to find friends, on the one hand, I have a lot of goals in life and at the same time I understand that I can’t achieve them without people. I have the same question again and again how can I find the right friends to help me achieve my goals?
It's hard when you do your Best and yet fail i have been like this almost all my life the higher you climb the harder you fall having someone beside you should help s lot in this situations but sadly I don't hope you all doing well and is not at the moment get better very soon
I just hope I can actually improve myself. I feel like I've reached a peak with the hobbies I love, and it's so abysmal compared to anyone else's peak. I have such big dreams, but I've yet to truly accomplish anything big after years of working. I may just have to give up and leave what I currently love behind. It may be time to just work on new things. I may not like them now, but I'll probably like them later. It's such a weird conflict I have. Should I keep chasing my dreams or change targets?
I just talked to my brother about this idea of life is long and life is short depends what you wanna show based on that not the idea on itself, they are both true in their context but they still both serve the idea of making the best out of it try stuff and grow and live it in a good situation, for short cause it's like an opportunity better do it well and long cause you'll probably prefer to live it well and build stuff, example life is too short to not do and strive for what you wanna do and too long to not do and strive for what you wanna do they work both 👍
Part 2 on making peace with the fact of being the cheater. 1. I am straight forward and don't push the actions into nonexistent. - what this does is let's my husband (who stayed) vocalize honestly any time he feels like it. 2. I'm never defensive. What this helps is the environment is open so anytime he. Needs to comment, her can get it off his chest 3. I am faithful in small ways - the clothes I wear are modest, I don't go out with friends to drink at a bar, I don't flirt, things like that build trust in the large things 4. Again open communication with regards details if he asks, I'm honest.- disclaimer - know the risk of getting mental images in the innocent ones head. They may not REALLY want to know, they just think they want to know. So make a disclaimer to them, go slow , answer briefly, you don't have to paint the picture - brief facts are-all that's needed - If they ask for details 5. Stay present in your relationship. Give tokens of your gratitude. Do entertainment together rather than scroll on your feed. Run errands together so you can enjoy more opportunities for small talk. Go deep. Intimacy doesn't only mean sex- explore that. Above all be patient with yourself and your partner. It could take years for the passive aggressive comments to stop. Show you're sympathetic when that happens and Apologize all over again. It's okay to do that. Not constantly letting yourself be viewed as a villain, no, but they were a victim of your horrible thoughts and actions. It has to change in the mind! So be nurturing your relationship with tenderness, open to talk, be a good listener. It's taken 3 years for my husband to say he forgives me. We laugh together all the time. We survived a devastating blow. We're strong. Our family is strong. Side note on timing - we'd been together since 06 and I cheated in '19 for a year. It was ongoing for a year. I broke it off. I told my husband.
Do you guys miss this animation style? Do you want a part 2 to this vid?
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*"You can never cross the ocean until you've the courage to lose sight of the shore"*
Life is basically a balance between holding on and letting go.
Did not think of this way but so true
I live by these maxims, and more. "Hope for the best, prepare for the worst" - anon, often credited to Marcus Aurelius
"What stands in the way becomes the way" - Aurelius
"We are more often frightened than we are hurt" - Seneca
"Who is my Master? He who decides what I do or do not like" - Epictetus. Was a Slave in Ancient Rome
"Don't overly rely on anyone in life because even your own shadow leaves you in total darkness" - Ibn Taymiyyah
"Making the world a better place, is a marathon, not a sprint" - unknown. Perhaps one of mine.
"Strive for perfection, don't throw TANTRUMS if you can't achieve nor receive it. If absolutely necessary & no other way, accept the lesser evil" - The Horseshoe Party UK
"Be water" - Bruce Lee, oversimplified.
"If you're going through Hell, keep going [through]" "Solitary trees if they grow at all, grow strong" - Sir Winston Churchill
I agree with this.
Timestamps
1). Life is long 0:43
2). Don't excuse a cheater 1:44
3). You will still be disappointed 2:52
4). There is no best choice 4:15
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day.💙💙💙💙💙💙💙
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Thank you!
@Mel C not a problem
i just asked my grandpa “how should a person handle rejection?” because i feel as if i’ve been rejected so many times for being myself & he said the best thing to do was to move on.
Never take rejection personal it always never about you anyway. it’s the other persons responsibility. Take it as a compliment It can be many peoples protection or saving grace sometimes at least that’s how I see it anyway. Keep being yourself you will eventually find someone who will see your value and appreciate you respect you and honour you as a person.
My best relationship ended horribly and turning toxic for me more than them, all because they couldn't move on from a bad argument
They inflated it to be more than just that, and it suddenly became everything wrong with me and with her, she took it incredibly personal, asking her to move on in the best ways possible would always be taken as a personal insult
So she never did, she only forcibly decided to bear the pain, and also leave me despite having feelings for me, forcing herself to ignore it and get with someone else to forget about me
And here I am
all because they wouldn't move on
@@Jack_Woods Emotionally immature and co-dependant those types usually just drift from one relationship to the next. It’s more about her wanting to be a victim protecting that fragile little ego. She wanted you to feel pain for her having insecurities so that was her way of getting you back for rejecting her. Well hopefully she’s gone don’t let this little girl back into your life you’ll regret it! block! Delete, run and live your best life. There a possibility she may come back later but don’t allow it. I can assure you the next relationship is doomed the poor dude just don’t know what he’s dealing with yet.
@@MRLX54 I mean that's not really true sometimes it is about you. Most the time it's not. Sometimes you might come off as creep or have bad hygiene or a bad attitude, or some other aspect that pushes away people.
@@mr.e7541 I agree its definitely a matter of context. I was thinking yes sometimes the person can do something bad to be rejected. But anyone who is rejected must however respect that persons decision and move on. It’s just that now we have a generation of people who feel heavily entitled and it’s toxic in itself.
"There is no best choice " something I struggle with a lot. Thinking "why did I do that?" Or "I should have never..." Regret is something I have been battling for the past 5 years, which I know doesn't seem like a lot but having but hating my self everyday for not having left the situation sooner. I spent many years thinking "this is where I should be and I will never leave " it's been devastating now that I finally left, it's been for the better that I did leave but why didn't I just listen to all those red flags and doubts I had in the first place! 😨
Honestly sometimes tough love is the only love you need and with the new year coming up i definitely needed this reminder to really reach my goals in 2023 so thank you ❤ and happy new year everyone! I hope this next year is one of your best!
“There is no best choice” is something that I’ve been needing to hear so much that it actually brought me relief.
That is why I need to stop overthinking. So I can fail and gain successful career.
If you need this :
0:43 Life is long
1:46 Don't excuse a cheater
2:52 You will still be disappointed
4:15 There is no best choice
Voilà, hope I helped you ❤
Yes it is
Merci bcp
Timestamps! ♥️🍃
1. Life is LONG. ⌚
0:44
2. Don’t EXCUSE a cheater. 🫤
1:45
3. You will be DISAPPOINTED. ☹︎
2:53
4. There is no best CHOICE. ✅ ❌
4:16
"Don't give up doing what you truly want"
I actually started thinking like that recently. I LOVE playing video games and I felt like crap when my dad or anyone would criticise me for it. But, I have a stable job now and still enjoy gaming whenever I can and I'm not letting anyone get in my head about it.
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As it should be, as long as you can take care of yourself and responsibilities, then game as much as you want, but too many especially men only play video games without doing anything else and that is wrong.
Remember not to spend too much time on games though, you can get addicted to them if you do.
How old are you now?
Hello! Do you live with your parents? If so, I'd just take it as them reminding me not to overdo it. Although that's just me being able to see the positive in stuff and you may have other circumstances that affect you.
But please don't spend too much time playing! Passion =/= obsession. Take care!
I agree. Cheaters don’t deserve a second chance.
"The truth is utterly beneficial to you, but at first it can be quite shocking and disappointing to your other plans and goals. This you must risk if you wish to have the certainty and the empowerment that the truth will bring to you. The truth always brings resolution of conflict, always provides an experience of self, always gives you a sense of current reality, and always provides direction for you to move forward."
*_Steps to Knowledge, The book of Inner Knowing - Step 17: Today I want to hear the truth._*
I've been a viewer for only about a month or 2 now and in that time your channel has helped me reflect and feel better about myself, as well as helped me make an effort to be a better person. I've been wrestling with depression and anxiety as well as a narcissistic parent all my life and this channel has taught me how to deal with them or at least ease the pain that they bring. I'm sure most of your viewers feel the same as I do but I just wanted to say thank you for all the lives you've saved and helped change.
Me too life-changing
First, I don't really know if I'm too sensitive sometimes and video like this makes me a better person little by little.
I’m really sensitive too. Been tryina see it as feeling/being really alive. Like… it makes life so vibrant. Like we usually only pay attention to how we’re sensitive to negativity. BUT man, even the flowers give me love…
Thinking about it like some people take drugs to feel like us lolz we have a gift
Well since this is a harsh truths video. You really need to get tougher skin. If you crumble when anything goes wrong, or Anyones mean to you. All your days will be horrible, and it will feel like nothing goes right. Learn to shrug things off.
@@rest1585 meh, being tough only ever caused me catastrophic injuries & health problems. Defo preferring being resilient. & prefer working with things more than shrugging them off.
Like what I mean about being sensitive being potential for a fuller life; ima adrenaline junkie too, I just get a bigger hit cause my threshold is lower, ya feel me? ;P
Like I land hard & I bounce back fast. & since I can’t help feeling (just psychological weather anyways) it’s actually pretty fun to work with
@@josiahgill1176 Never said you should be tough, just that you should toughen up. You don’t gotta be an emotionless edgy bada$$, If your not HSP. You shouldn’t really have a problem. Just don’t let dumb things give you dumb feelings.
@@rest1585 how would you not let things give you feelings? (Either dumb or significant) have you had any personal success with this?
I think this animation style is adorable and matches the channel well
Aww thanks :) Glad you like it
The title of this video reminds me of the truths of a Lightweaver. If you know, great. If not, i’ll explain. The Lightweavers are a fictional group of super powered individuals in the Stormlight Archive series. They get their powers from admitting personal truths about themselves. Truths that they don’t want to admit. We all have our inner demons, and the Lightweavers have accepted those demons. They seek personal truth. The most powerful truth. This video is full of things that a Lightweaver might say as a truth. And that is significant.
Thank you for sharing that. Now I have another series to add to my list. I'm even writing something similar but WAY different story and powers.
I can admit i have been the person who has caused betrayal, but I am determined to put in the work to not be that person and grow. I think it's important to accept your actions and grow to be the person you choose to be and not to remain in the past. Its done you can only do your best to help eachothers healing process and growth, and a lot times you can't fix things. Just try to work on you. It's tough to face that, but every day is an opportunity to do so.
Food For Thought: The beauty of life is, while we cannot undo what is done, we can see it, understand it, learn from it, and change so that every new moment is spent not in regret, guilt, loneliness, hesitation, fear, or anger; but in wisdom, understanding, enthusiasm, freedom, passion and love.
I've been watching your videos since your sociopath, psychopath and narcissist videos, specifically your quiz video! Watching you continue to post more and more about mental health to help others in need of this information or just to be (self) aware! I appreciate that you do this, it REALLY helps me and I'm sure it does for other people. Thank you for everything you do!
"The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen." - Elisabeth Kübler-Ross
I love you guys! Y'all have helped me so much, mentally. I feel numb but im trying. Been a not so good year, just me?
It's not just you. I hope this year's better for you 🙂
not just you but 2023 could be good 🩵
5 years now, but, I'm trying
@@dianadiaz962 i feel you. I hope that you get Better. 💗
@@munchiekins i hope so. Ever since covid hit, life isn't fun anymore and it sucks
Life is long but most of that time you'll spend eating, sleeping, working to have place to sleep and something to eat, and around 10% of it is a free time. So, the choices most of the time are obvious or doesn't matter, in fact we don't have any choice.
How does one begin to fix their self after finally coming to terms and realizing in fullness they are the a-hole?
Where do I start on improving?
Therapy!
I would recommend improving one thing about yourself at a time. I have a bit of experience in the area of improving myself after realizing that I was a total a-hole.
We feel we've been trying to express ourselves through truth, as well as telling the truth to ppl that may not want to hear it...alot of your suggestions might help us grow further though, we've watched alot of your vids for awhile, and we want to thank you for all of the lives you're helping
This channel has helped me in figuring out who I am and I hope it continues to help others for a long time to come.
This animation style is adorable btw and it suits the channel. ❤️
Happy to help! :) Did you relate to these truths. Glad you like the animation style too!!
I relate to truth number 3. “Life is long”. Life has never been too short, we just waste most it.
It’s a privilege to grow old and you have to live this life to its fullest.
Hoppin' on the "how to live n accept your mistakes train"... Ending up being the cheater or horrible partner you NEVER wanted to be makes you wanna punish yourself or at least you'd just rationalize if your partner did the same you'd deserve it along with any other bad karma/ misfortune you experience since..."eye for an eye"
Edit cause of the last point:
Honestly it's unhealthy but being harsh n basically hating myself keeps me in line. Luckily I can still feel like me
I thought that this video will beat me up mentally but.. it's so soothing and relaxing which makes the process of learning mistakes even healthier.
Thank you for that.
Glad to hear :) Which truth did you relate to the most?
@@Psych2go I believe I didn't expect to learn that "there is no best choice". As a overachiever I felt like it was my duty to always keep up and complete my life at 100% rate.
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Sorry for the late response, although I'm thinking about this video to this day and working on making my life a cozy thing.
I'd love to see a video on how to make peace with your past mistakes. This year has been one with a lot of mistakes on my part, but I'm trying to learn and grow. But I still deal with a lot of guilt sometimes.
I know right it’s not easy I guess a part of us believes that those mistakes are part of who we are. So we just find it difficult to deattach ourselves from it rather than just letting it go. It’s almost like we are punishing ourselves for those mistakes when like this lady said “the lesson is in the journey” take is a lesson and move on sounds easier said than done right 😩
You’re heading in the right direction. It’ll take time, will be painful but just keep being honest and forgiving of yourself and others.
Ahhh I LOVE pure honesty and uncomfortable things (facts, conversations etc.) that will make me stronger and wise
Right!! The pain from honesty hurts less than the pain from a lie every time. IMHO
Thank you so much for this incredible video! There's no doubt in my mind that everyone needs to hear at least one of these points; I know quite a few that resonated with me.
I am eagerly awaiting part 2 and as always please keep up the great work!
I have to disagree on the "shortness of life" topic. At 17 (when nothing hurt, everything worked, and I thought I'd live forever), life seemed long. But now at 67 (and in less than good health), I assure you that life feels very short. One man's opinion...
Hmm I do believe you but here the context is that life too long not to reflect on the daily things we do and how we can actually do better by taking some time and recognising it instead of that "go go go" situation
And well wishes to you sir
@@sunitaagarwal449 Thank you for your reply, Sunita. Yes, we actively shouldn't floor the accelerator petal 24/7, but also not passively think that there will allow be time to do the things we want. I "wish" I'd learned earlier in life that it is better to lean into the wind while traveling my path, than to let the wind determine as much of that path as it did.
Those sound effects really give me chills
0:50 listen closely
I love that so many people are seeking mental health lately. It gives me hope for the future, even if I don’t see it or benefit from it. I’m happy for the people that inherit a better world.
Loved it.. such a great timing.. going through these repetitive self questioning
4:20 no 4 there is no best choice.
This is the problem with rumination, anxiety and the inability to make a choice also
I've just learnt there is no right or wrong choice, just the choice that you make and how u deal with it
too much 'should have' could lead to 'do not' in protection
we protect ourselves cause we don't really process our emotions well and therefore do anything to avoid further pain.
The Truth Could Set You Free.🕊️🕊️🕊️
0:43 1. Life Is Long
1:45 2. Don't Excuse A Cheater
2:53 3. You Will Still Be Disappointed
4:15 4. There Is No Best Choice
Number 2 hit the most, I Don't Think cheaters have any good reason to cheat even if not feeling loved. Just break up
I’ve been in a mental hospital for the last seven years. Sometimes I drown in angst about the choices that got me here; what if, should I have, who’s fault. But in the end I wouldn’t trade it for anything, there’s been just as much beauty as pain. Met good friends. Fell in love for the first time. Found my calling. Signed my first autograph. It’s not MY life; it’s just life, and it’s wonderful
instead of being uncomfortable, i got the opposite feeling probably because i dont have much expectation and just go on with whatever it is while waiting for new phases in life
Suffering makes people stronger
Life is long but opportunities are short. No one has ever made memories that will last them for the rest of the life that they can look back with and cherish by going to bed at a decent hour.
I feel like I really needed this. Ty 🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺
Btw have an early happy new year from me everyone!! I hope you spend it feeling joyful and hopeful for your bright futures. Stay safe and healthy 💞💞
These videos are very helpful. Thanks for all you do to help and advocate for our mental health& wellness
Now that I'm more than 50 years old, let me assure everyone:
*The only possible way to stop making mistakes is to be dead.*
I don't _want_ to make mistakes. I actively _try to avoid_ making mistakes. But ... they're inevitable.
Mistakes are learning experiences that give you more opportunities to become a better person. Take the lessons, lick your wounds, and move ever onwards!
Thank you so much Yes please part two this was awesome Thank you so very much this channel has changed my life Thank you for all you do
We will let the team know :) Glad this video helped you. How many points did you relate to the most?
Life is long? Well, it’s important to take it carefully and still make the most out of it. With the increase in life expectancy, I found some relief.
I had to come back to this channel after having a breakdown from an existential crisis regarding life after death (I don’t want to cease to exist nor end up in hell). I hope there’s an afterlife for me and my soul can rest happily when my time comed.
Get close to God 💗
Much thanks, I needed all of that.
It really hurts moving on and letting go of the past and when a. Girl hates but you love her become friends with her.
HOLY SHOOT! I was sooooooo needy for this words these days soooo bad
My life look like an eternal fight with my two personalities and overabundance of information that make me literally freak out. I'm so greatful that I'm living in 21st century. That I have family, home, food/water, study/work opportunities. At least, I'm alive! So I'm still can to make choices and try to do my best. I know by myself that sometimes it is really hard to move on. BUT I CAN! U CAN! WE'RE ALL CAN!
Merry Christmas & Happy new year everyone
OMG You guys posted this at the right time! I was just researching videos that could help me be a better person for 2023 and you guys posted this!
These videos make me feel happier than I was before.
I want to make peace with my past mistakes.
I, once I had cheat on someone. I was on holiday, I fell in love and I wanted to wait to break up the previous relationship, in order to do it not by messages but in person, so I cheated. I didn't want to lose such a beautiful thing for a relationship that needed to end, my mistake was not kissing the other boy but not ending the relationship before holidays.
Hey, I just wanted to let you know, your voice is incredibly soothing. It helps me feel better, take care!
The life we receive is not short but we make it so,
we are not ill provided but use what we have wastefully.
A meaningful life is one that stays calm and serene, regardless of what life puts in their way
Whoa that gigachad was unexpected though 😂2:01
I swear guys, this is a very good topic to talk aboit in your videos and I wish you did many many parts of it! Haha I think I really need to listen to some hard truths about life, cause I know that will actually help me grow and be the best I can! ❤️
My cheating story (TW: suicide, domestic violence )
My girlfriend & I had agreed on abortion if she got pregnant (she wanted to experience unprotected sex and I said I wasn’t ready to be a parent). She got pregnant (I was the last to know), and moved 45 minutes away to live with her parents without consulting me. Meanwhile, I lived with a close college friend and his girlfriend at the time. Theirs was a toxic relationship (she had BPD. in retrospect, he was/is a narcissist). After a violent fight, I tried to convince her to leave him, I cried about fathering a child I didn’t want, and we had bad drunk sex. 2 months later, after the next time he attacked her, she died by suicide in the bathroom, while police were in the living room investigating.
We had both felt hurt and betrayed. We both didn’t want to leave our relationships, we wanted our partners to treat us differently. But cheating doesn’t give you your power back when you’re in a disempowering relationship-leaving does. I needed to have clearly formed boundaries regarding sex. Being codependent, you will end up hurting when you give away your power because you don’t know how to trust yourself, and the other person does what they want anyway, expecting you to go along with it.
That' s kind of weird, if she wanted to experience unprotected sex she could of took birthcontrol or had an IUD put in, I just wouldn' t of chanced it.
Ok so here goes this amazing story I want to share; and this has nothing to do with regret or unfortunate experiences (especially in the past), and I'm not calling out any specific person; I just don't understand why people these days are so apprehensive. I realize everyone thinks differently. And it's not to say that no one should ignore bad habits or forget about defense mechanisms; but I sure as heck want there to be peace and civility in the world. If anything, I'm sure those are personal deep truths most everyone can relate with. It's like with me being a sports fan (especially about the phila. Eagles and Phillies), how I don't want to feel anxious; but I realize it is a part of being human, and it's sort of like how my grandfather couldn't stand going to school (but valued strong work ethic and loved to draw - much like me). One key difference is that I always looked forward to going to school, even on my darkest days (especially when my dad was battling bipolar depression). And there are always concerns I (and many others) will have, but all anyone can do is to keep going and realize there will always be obstacles and challenges to be conquered, depending on the situation, place of refuge, or spectrum.
Plz make a video on "How to make peace with your past"
Guys show some support
Thank you ^^ love your work from bottom of my heart ❤️ :)
I don't always comment but had to do so today but watch your channel as much as possible life changing
number 4. I've always struggled with asking myself "what is the "right" answer/correct path?"
Thank you for giving me hope in the new start I'm working on for the new year! I may not comment as much but know that this content has helped me reflect in such a way that it's changed my life. Thank you for helping me never fully give up on myself.
feels very true so ill be honest myself then, I do overthink too much so thoughts like contemplating on "correct/best" choices and giving up are things I do often, if not all the time, I think its something like perfectionism or something related to that
and though life has barely just begun for me, for some odd reason I feel like I have this part of me thats completely scared of everything and doesnt want to do anything in life and this other part of me that is full of confidence and isnt afraid of living life to the fullest, feel like as ive gotten older I kinda started being scared of everything but hey im doing my best to get out of a dark place and its gonna take a while
1 thing I learned from all that shit I been through is acceptance of everything they say it makes you more mature
One thing tho is it good or a bad thing?
only make mistakes if you come from a family that has enough money to help you. if your poor. you only get one shot that's it so don't mess it up! this is the best advice for those of you that don't live on easy street. you should eat the rich
2:54 this is very relatable. My performing arts group goes to a yearly competition every year called “access broadway” and in 2021 me and my sister did a duet scene and we ended up scoring gold (There’s silver, high silver, gold, high gold, and platinum) And Gold is considered a low score which meant that I couldn’t place for an overall award. I was so sad cause in 2020 I did so good.
One thing I've realised is that:
"The life you're living now is the past you'll reflect on in the future. So make it count."
Life is long, but each day comes only once
Can you make an art tutorial or progress vid of the drawings&animations you make? They are soooo good! And the colour choice makes me happy just from looking at it
Also yes please do 2nd part
These videos always come at the right time, thank you very much for making so much content!
I'm so happy to hear that. Which points did you resonate with the most?
@@Psych2go in this specific video, the first and last point. However, even though I know life is long, and that there's no best choice, it's still hard to accept these truths, but if you hear that often enough, it must be true, and you start to believe it, which is why it's so important to watch these videos, even when you know what's happening in the video.
About the choice one, I always thought "I did the best I could at the situation I was, that can not be the best now, but was the best I could do"
Love your videos!! They really help me mentally
My wife and I had the unfortunate cheating situation after 7 years together and we were apart for 3 months and it happened yet a second time but it only made us grow stronger after we both were able to fully realize just what we had together and the small issues we did have were truly nothing compared to what COULD BE where the grass only appeared greener! We had 20 amazing and beautiful years together until her sudden, untimely and devastating death in 2020 and I will never want another except as just a loving friend because my heart is forever hers and not even God itself could change that. I miss you so terribly Krista Miller 😢❤️🩹 be with you again very soon 😘
For the record those 20 years were NOT without their moments, but we both believe had we not both had a taste of what we thought we were missing, we would likely never fully appreciated just what we both realized we were truly blessed to have❤ not all cheaters deserve this second chance and only YOU can know if who you have is truly worth forgiving for their mistake, we are all only human after all….excuse or not.
Really love this art style (:
Your voice is so calming and soothing, I'm trying to learn but you keep putting me to sleep. Cool and interesting content in your videos but, thanks a bunch 😊
Thank you!! We hope this video helped you :) did you relate to it?
@@Psych2goI'm hoping to study psychology this year and have been thoroughly enjoying your content. Hopefully in the coming years I'll be able to understand myself and others better and become a better person. Have a wonderful year and thank you for the valuable information and awareness you spread about the many different conditions we face throughout the world. It helps validate and gain a better understanding of ourselves. ☺️☺️
I really needed to hear that today. Thank you for this :)
Thanks for making videos to help me realize and help me change to be better
I love the work slide saying 'work stuff blabla', and 'statistics or something', lol!
This is actually pretty comforting also please make another video 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
You probably could have added that if the cheater is a pleaser then you might as well consider everything that happened to make the right call. I'm still in a relationship with a person that cheated on me once, but because he was raised by his parents to be a pleaser, and the one I got cheated on with kept threatening with hurting himself or even taking his own life, so my partner got desperate because of his pleaser side and tried to help by making him forget about it through pleasure even if it was wrong, he told me he realized what he did but was scared and didn't know what to do to stop it. I ended up taking full responsibility for it as I've already dealt with plenty of cases like these in the past, it took me about 9 months to forgive my partner as well, and I'm making sure I'm helping him to get rid of his pleaser side because he asked for it, he told me he doesn't want to be a cruel person anymore and stop hurting people like that. Also just a reminder for y'all, if you can judge and see the whole picture, don't make the same mistake as me, let go of the past and move on, don't live in it, it'll only cause you more harm than it's already done.
I’ll admit, I have cheated ONCE. I didn’t mean to. I was with my first boyfriend and I soon fell out of love from us not contacting anymore, I still cared about his feelings then but I fell in love with a different guy and I didn’t have the heart to tell him I wanted to break up, I was scared, nervous, and didn’t wanna break his heart. So I kinda got with the other guy and saw how mad my first boyfriend was, so he broke up with me. I still want them to break up first if I fall out of love and now I’m a single Pringle- 2nd boyfriend broke up with me, liked me again while I was with another guy and soon my 3rd boyfriend I’ve had for almost 3 years kinda ignored me since he moved, so I politely broke up with him. It still hurts that I broke up with him only 2 days ago but I know I did the right thing and not being rude abt it.
My uncomfortable truth is the majority of my tennis colleagues don't like me
I once committed an act that is arguably cheating. I word it as that because most people I’ve told, including the “victim”, what had happened, and all of them had not considered it cheating… so why do I still consider it as such?
Different ppl have different ideas and/ or boundaries of what cheating is, some think watching Porn is cheating or thinking of someone else sexually.
I wonder if it's a good thing to have low expectations. I've unconsciously somehow turned myself that way. But I don't hate it, cuz the lovely things that suprise me, mean a lot to me, and the things that disappoint me, don't hurt as much
I made that mistake. She cheated on me on my birthday. She was my fiancee. It was with her best friend. We ultimately broke up and she went with him. And when that didn't work out, she tried to be my friend. I tried to be, but she only compared me to him unfavorably. I had to walk away. I did everything right and did all I could and it wasn't enough. Some people will not care what you do for them. Choose your partner very carefully.
Thank you for the information videos they are a great help during my dark moments.
I am an introvert, I want to find friends and I don’t know how to find friends, on the one hand, I have a lot of goals in life and at the same time I understand that I can’t achieve them without people. I have the same question again and again how can I find the right friends to help me achieve my goals?
Man for real i cannot describe in words How helpfull this was for mt life😭 for real this video taked me in tears
im sorry but your voice is absolutely beautiful
thank you for the video as well!
It's hard when you do your Best and yet fail i have been like this almost all my life the higher you climb the harder you fall having someone beside you should help s lot in this situations but sadly I don't hope you all doing well and is not at the moment get better very soon
Boy these are so true
Really nice touch having that phone plugged in to the wall
I just hope I can actually improve myself. I feel like I've reached a peak with the hobbies I love, and it's so abysmal compared to anyone else's peak. I have such big dreams, but I've yet to truly accomplish anything big after years of working. I may just have to give up and leave what I currently love behind. It may be time to just work on new things. I may not like them now, but I'll probably like them later.
It's such a weird conflict I have. Should I keep chasing my dreams or change targets?
I just talked to my brother about this idea of life is long and life is short depends what you wanna show based on that not the idea on itself, they are both true in their context but they still both serve the idea of making the best out of it try stuff and grow and live it in a good situation, for short cause it's like an opportunity better do it well and long cause you'll probably prefer to live it well and build stuff, example life is too short to not do and strive for what you wanna do and too long to not do and strive for what you wanna do they work both 👍
Part 2 on making peace with the fact of being the cheater. 1. I am straight forward and don't push the actions into nonexistent. - what this does is let's my husband (who stayed) vocalize honestly any time he feels like it.
2. I'm never defensive. What this helps is the environment is open so anytime he. Needs to comment, her can get it off his chest
3. I am faithful in small ways - the clothes I wear are modest, I don't go out with friends to drink at a bar, I don't flirt, things like that build trust in the large things
4. Again open communication with regards details if he asks, I'm honest.- disclaimer - know the risk of getting mental images in the innocent ones head. They may not REALLY want to know, they just think they want to know. So make a disclaimer to them, go slow , answer briefly, you don't have to paint the picture - brief facts are-all that's needed - If they ask for details
5. Stay present in your relationship. Give tokens of your gratitude. Do entertainment together rather than scroll on your feed. Run errands together so you can enjoy more opportunities for small talk. Go deep. Intimacy doesn't only mean sex- explore that.
Above all be patient with yourself and your partner. It could take years for the passive aggressive comments to stop. Show you're sympathetic when that happens and Apologize all over again. It's okay to do that. Not constantly letting yourself be viewed as a villain, no, but they were a victim of your horrible thoughts and actions. It has to change in the mind! So be nurturing your relationship with tenderness, open to talk, be a good listener.
It's taken 3 years for my husband to say he forgives me. We laugh together all the time. We survived a devastating blow. We're strong. Our family is strong. Side note on timing - we'd been together since 06 and I cheated in '19 for a year. It was ongoing for a year. I broke it off. I told my husband.
Thank you for the Advice
This is alot more helpful than going to therapy