@@Psych2go Apparently we’re very far from you guys, it’s literally almost 3 AM at the time of posting this How did this get over 50 likes 3/24/2023 Edit: Apparently you live on another continent lol
Have I ever considered I’m toxic? Yes constantly and it’s a recurring fear that I have that I may unintentionally hurt other people and want to do everything to improve.
It is a balancing act, like everything else in life. You should stick up for yourself, but like in physical self defense, avoid causing unnecessary harm verbally. Also, do not be surprised that other people are insecure, and thus, do not take it personally if they get hurt due to their weakness. Everyone has some weakness, but everyone should strive to grow stronger, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, physically, and perhaps financially. Considering you watch these videos, you are on the right path. Try looking up Emotional Awareness and Emotional Intelligence exercises. The best thing you can do, in terms of communication, is fine tune how you say what you want to say. People at work sometimes say I sound educated, and sure, some theater classes and being a reader helps, but I owe it to Facebook. I would argue politics on there, think about how to type it to be blunt without unnecessarily insulting, and my way of talking ended up reflecting how I began typing. Unless drunk, of course, then I keep my answer short and I talk slow and methodical, someone said I sound like the chill guy at work. This video brings up another point. If you criticize someone's work, not only try to be direct without being insulting about it, squeeze in some honest compliments if you can. Also remember that others are toxic, consciously or not, so it is good to be able to spot lies. Seriously, I know one person I do not know if she actually believes in her selective memory (I had witnesses to show I did not have selective memory) or was gaslighting me.
A wise person once told me, “The fact you don’t want to be a certain type of person desperately means you’re not” (As long as you are trying your best to replicate a person who’s not that way, you’re fine)
@@Pounamu104 this made me feel better, I’m trying but I always end up feeling mean. I get really mad at my little sister when she hurts and tosses my cat in front of me, So I sometimes lash out. I want to stop that
@@DawnshieId no, not at all, as much as i Remember that doesn't fall into the unintentional manipulation category (unless by being kind you make It look like you di everything by yourself)
This channel is like that elder brother or sisters who keeps humouring you for good✨️😁 Edit:- glad I ain't toxic...! Btw can u make a video on how to work on self esteem and how to stop being over available or too nice to others?
Wdym humoring you for good? I have mixed feelings about how humoring one can be a good thing, like sugarcoating feedback when it’s better to be honest so that their improvements will be real.
I'm D..... Toxic towards myself -Like the inner critic making me OCD and perfectionistic for example. Most mistakes/cringey memories from my younger days I've at least pondered about more than 50+ times. -Having such bad time anxiety and worrying about being late; even though time in itself is a man-made concept. -Having a hard time setting boundaries due to bad phobia of upsetting others, and thus makes me have guilt complex's. I'm working on improving those toxic aspects I've learned. I know now that if people are upset when setting boundaries, I'm doing it right; that and I have no reason to apologize for taking care of myself.
I suffer from OCD ( HOCD ). It is absolutely hell. It not give me peace. Force me to do specific thingz to get peace. This illness is hell. Also i had problem with boundaries. But i don't care now i put myself first. That mean i shoud make boundaries to others. I don't think you shoud apologize for that. Self care is more important.
If they are good people, they should understand when you set boundaries! My mother also struggles with saying no to people, so we did this exercise where I ask her for stuff, and she's supposed to say no.
@@inseptus712 My mother is same she is just too nice. I think i inherited my niceness from her. That is very cool idea 👍 to exercise your mother. I will try same exercise to my mum too.
I have that too! I feel like I’m mostly toxic to others but everyone is like “oh you’re kind and such”, and I was scared people would also think that’s not true.
I think there’s only one A / B I chose, that was the final question. I try not to envy others’ successes, but sometimes I can’t help it given how hard I try to push myself to success. The drama one was another one I tend to lean a bit towards B on. Unfortunately I’ve been in a few dramas throughout the past two years. It started a bit more after I endured some trauma last May with my mom dying. Some “friends / acquaintances” lost patience with me, and it drove us into drama. However, I’ve tried to always stay clear of drama for the longest time, so that’s where I’d like to say that I lean towards C.
Wow we’ve basically done the same! And tbh I think most people are jealous of other people’s success so I don’t even feel bad about it xD I don’t even judge people if they score less than me, I just try to be better than others because it makes me feel more self confident
My scenario's the same! I'm great on most of these, but I have a major lack of simply being happy for people if they surpass me in something I want to excel at, and I feel a little threatened if they get close. An odd flipside is that I want highly intelligent people around me to bounce clever stuff off of! A strategy I came up with that can do both of these goals is to surround myself with super smart people intentionally, so I'm among intellectual equals, so I have to take the pill of not necessarily being the smartest person in the room.
Exactly in the last one I also choose b, I mean I really happy for the success of my friends but at the same time I cannot avoid comparing them to me, and lately I feel bad for feeling that way.
I'm around 30-40% B and 60-70% C. In the B part, I felt when someone is doing something better than me, I usually feel jealous and sometimes if it overwhelmed me, discouraged. I respect their hardwork I know they do a lot to achieve it, but I just can't help but feel that way. Even though I'm fully conscious how I feel, I can't stop it. That's why sometimes I'd rather not hear anything, or if I do, suppress my jealousy and move on. Though it have quite significant impact on my life, if I'm overwhelmed by it, I just stop doing the same thing that someone else do that made me jealous. And this is also why I admire people who won't feel jealous, but instead learn more from them with hardwork.
Similar - I had 4 C's and 3 B's. The other B that I recall is that I don't feel awkward most of the time if I "win" an argument, though I'm typically not trying to crucify someone by making it overly contentious - it's more about being able to convey my perspective to where they have an understanding/ appreciation for it.
I agree, I got about the same results as you. I definitely agree with the jealousy part. I try hard not to be jealous but when you see people living their best lives and seeming to go through life easier (aka, having college paid for them, getting a lot of achievements, etc.), it just hurts and i cant help but feel jealous. I don’t let them know im jealous though. I try my best to keep it in check.
I've found that my answers to these questions vary from person to person. When it comes to my father, I'm A's all the way. I hold an immense amount of resentment for that asshole, probably because he's been giving me A's for most of my life. My mother? Mostly B's and a few A's and C's. Almost anyone else? C's all the way.
Whether we're toxic or not, we can always still have toxic feelings for someone, which we must accept and let go of in order to be free from unnecessary hate and suffering :)
I got 20-30% B and 70-80% A. One thing I’ve found I’ve struggled with is taking accountability during or after arguments. It wasn’t really something I’ve gotten to learn from a young age, and even though I try to control myself better it’s still difficult to constantly regulate my emotions. I’m glad I got to take this test though so I can be reminded to work towards being better at taking accountability :)
I’m sure you will get there in the end. I used to struggle with a lot of the same stuff too. If I was right, why should I apologize? However after working on it for a long time, I have gotten better. I’m sure you will reach that point as well. Wish you the best on your journey there.
Hey, it can be a hard thing to do. Don't beat yourself up for it, the fact that you're acknowledging it and want to improve on it shows how mature you are and willing to improve yourself. Im proud of you!!
I am a less toxic friend (I think) because of all the toxic friendships I had before. I just don't want to make my friends feel like these friends made me feel. However, if a non-friend acts toxic towards me now... I can be one of the most toxic people I have ever known.
@Melinda Smith It's hard to. I was honestly way too polite and agreeable, which made people walk all over me. I'm not instantly mean either. Someone has to over step my boundaries first. It's usually someone I kind of know as well. With a friend I let them know what they did. With a non-friend though... Had this D-bag try and insinuate he doesn't play video games like me because they are a waste of time, then he gave me a face with derision. I lost it because there was no reason for that. I told him he looks like he mindlessly stuffs his face with calories, because he put on 30 pounds or so, so I can't imagine how boring his life is. I then said weren't you a mediocre competitive smash player, and I don't go to video game tornaments... I said think about what you say before you say stuff dumbass. I went on to ask if he has down syndrome or something pointing out his ugly features on his face. Told him he has the tendency to over smile, which annoys me because he has one gummy smile. All I can say is he won't be talking to me anymore which is how I like it.
I'm so proud of myself right now !! Most of my answers would had been A 3 years ago, but now (thanks to several years of therapy) I have achieved 6 C's and 1 B. I'm going to keep working so that I can get all C's someday. Tyy 💕
"Be sure not to let others take advantage of your kindness". Yeah, right on the spot. That is the damnation of ours INFJ empaths. Being non-toxic comes with a host of disadvantages and weak points in this brave new world of ours. One better guard oneself against all those emotional leeches roaming around.
And setting boundaries can also help protect you from quite good people unintentionally harming you. If you don't communicate your needs, they will sometimes have no way of knowing how to navigate your specific situation!
I always wondered whether I was a toxic person, if I messed myself up with others and I dwell on those. This will help me realise if I am truly toxic or not Edit: yess I'm not toxic :)
The thing I hate about these quizzes is that the people making them never consider the fact that there might be people who identify as more than just one of the answers in one question, or even that they might identify as none of said answers at all. I ended up identifying with multiple answers on most of the questions, and none of them on some. That’s really annoying because it ends up leaving me with no idea as to where I land on the scale.
Not just that, this is a horrible measure of toxicity imo. I say this as someone who would’ve been pretty strongly all C’s a few years ago. The non-toxic person in this circumstance has no self-acceptance or respect. It’s kinda scary how this video frames the perfect abuse victim as the ideal. Like yeah on a surface level - being happy for others, apologizing for your mistakes, being understanding are great characteristics to have. That said you shouldn’t have to go to the ends of the earth to understand someone in an argument or compromise with them - sometimes it’s best to just disagree internally and move on (ie talking with a racist family member). Also it’s not wrong to have a slightly heated discussion if both people are fine with it, especially as long as you recognize that you won’t loose yourself because of this conversation (ie arguing with said racist why racism is bad), and understand that this conversation is something you do outside of building the rest of your life. (It’s not your duty to fix a racist) Also it’s not wrong to feel anger, hurt, jealousy, insecurity - it’s wrong to use those feelings to hurt others and/or to let them consistently overwhelm you - it’s a part of being human. These aren’t things you should be repressing until they aren’t there at all, but rather acknowledging so you can move on from them.
Your videos are allways a huge mental boost for me, I frequently beat myself up over small things and percive flaws in my personality and when watching videos like "scent video says about you" and "your favorite colour says about you" and now this one and it's allways helps me out, like a slap in the face and somone telling me "hey your not a bad person and heres proof"
1.I'd say "sorry, I didn't mean to take that too far" (C) 2.I'd say "have fun!" (C) 3.I rarely get into drama for the sake of my mental stamina (C) 4.I rarely get into arguements since I'm quick to step down, so probably C 5.Somewhat excited because it varies on the topic (B) 6.I'd give feedback and probably not care about how I make them feel since I point out the flaws first (respectfully ofc) and say "Aside from that, I think the rest is good" (B) 7.Jealous but appreciate it at the end (B)
The mostly B's review is definitely how I feel my life is going. I can be the toxic one in certain situations and harbor on resentment issues and grudges when I feel certain people have done me wrong. I'm working on my upcoming 30s to be more like the mostly C's person because while my heart wants to be that person my mind wants to be underhanded because it seems easier to protect my feelings than to look at all angles
This video was very helpful to me because there were times where I really had to separate myself from certain people, especially in my who were toxic by the way they took advantage of me. I also had to separate myself from my friend because he complains about his job, about certain things and about his wife. He's very sensitive to where he wants sympathy from women, and he criticizes and gossips about people and he swears he's more righteous than everyone else
All of my answers were c. It’s good, but i wish i had a bit of toxic-ness. I know saying no to someone is not always toxic, but being toxic would make saying no much easier.
I didn't understand how much it hurts when your friend betrays you but only after experience I understand :( :( now I have to help others get through this because its too hard to handle.
nothing better than watching these at 1am knowing that im not toxic, worrying about the future, hungry for noodles, tossing and turning in bed. Nothing better than doing this all at 1-3 am 😃
My family is rather dysfunctional. I'm just glad we're trying to be good people while respecting each others perspectives and hopefully one day where we all accept each others ways of life.
The only thing that i am toxic is lack of apologies even though i am capable to doing sometime and sacrifing myself to be a better person and i am sometime argumentative for being dishonest ! Thank you for this video !
Jealousy is fine when experienced short termed and if you have self control to not act up on it mostly. Unless you're acting up on it frequently without valid reasons in general.
@@Psych2go I've had significant others in the past that would cheat and whatnot and nowadays when my current partner has someone getting too close I naturally get jealous
I’m all c’s! So proud of myself because even just at the beginning of 2023, i would’ve had some b’s and possibly some a’s as well, sure i didn’t grow how i intended to and achieve what i wanted to at the beginning of the year, but i’ve really grown a lot this year and achieved a lot that now i think is better than what January me set out to do, I can’t wait to see what i accomplish in 2024!
I used to be very toxic in the past. But now I'm definitely not toxic toward others. Yet instead I am more toxic towards myself. I hope to change that this year.
I mostly answered C, but I have to admit, there were some answers that I put B on. My biggest weakness apart from my stubbornness is that I can be quite blunt and OVERLY truthful at times, and it has screwed me over on occasion. I do try to take accountability and apologize whenever I do something seriously wrong because despite how difficult it can be for me to admit when I'm being an a$$hole at a certain time, I should since I don't want to lose the relationships I've gained. It's not worth it.
95% C, 5% B. I mostly try to be civil and respectful even though there are those minor tendencies to be toxic at times. I had mostly stay out of drama and learned accountability for my actions is the big one over the years. While I do have struggles, I'm usually quick to forgive others if they had wronged me and try to be understanding though self-forgiveness was another challenge I had to take on because I was angry with myself often.
This video really helped me understand myself better! I might share just share this with some of my friends 😅. They could probably learn something to…😂
100% C. over time, becoming more self aware has helped me to avoid future misunderstandings and occasionally unintentionally hurting someone. oddly enough, from all the books i read, it's made me very aware of everything around me. even peoples perspectives. i can understand someones point of view, even if they are vastly different from mine. (does get a bit awkward though when i'm stuck in the middle of an argument between two other people, taking no sides because i see both points of view. but i try to help both sides).
Most of these aren't super simple answers but I'm happy to say that while (I may have more b's than I'd like to admit) I usually do a pretty good job being considerate of others feelings. I've met a lot of people and honestly like to see value in everything while maintaining my personal values and understanding them as such. I make sure that I understand what the important things are, that's why everything is beautiful! (paraphrased from the song Drift by Naoki) Also great video! Thanks for aiding in my self reflection, I get the feeling I will meet someone sensitive soon so I will need all of the self awareness I can get.
Thank you so much, I really wanted to be on my side and remember that self-improvement is a long process and I'm doing as best as I can. And this video reminded me of it ❤
My new year's resolution was to make it clear to friends who are more sensitive that when I say something it's coming from my personal opinion and not a judgement of them and it's already working
I definitely took this test for myself but couldn't help but notice my ex-friend/roommate/bro hit every single 'A' meanwhile I'm closer to 'C'. He drove me insane and I have spent the past year detoxing and trying to figure out what happened. This video really pinpoints how toxic he was and how much suffering I actually went through living with him.
I got mostly C's to be honest if I have some negative feeling against someone such as jealousy and it's not nice, I usually try to keep it to myself. I don't like hurting other and I sometimes instantly apologize even if i am not at fault.
I was SO SURE I was a toxic person to some extent because I can be a little clingy sometimes. But it turns out I was completely wrong about myself. Thanks for the self reflection! ^w^
Definitely made me question myself a bit. I like to think I’m not toxic and the results of this mostly support that, but I still want to evaluate my actions How do we ask about/propose topics if that’s even an option (though I imagine it’d disappear in the crowd)
I appreciate this. I’ve been having some doubts as of recently. Like maybe I’m not doing enough to be a better person. For context, I’ve been dealing with residual damage that has been left behind by the many of narcissistic that i call my family. And since being shown how much damage I’ve received by someone I loved, I’ve been trying to be a better person every day i can. And with quiz, those doubts I’ve had about myself subsided a little. Mostly I answered C in the prompts with a few B’s so over the past 2 years of healing, I’m proud of myself for being strong enough to undo some of the damage that I’ve forcedly received. Thank you for this quiz. And thank you for helping others in helping themselves. Trauma is a scary thing, but coming from a fellow survivor. To anyone who thinks that “they can’t” or that “their not good enough” or “you don’t deserve it”, you do. You are. And you can. You can do anything you put your mind to. Even if you have to unfog it first. Your amazing! You got this! And have a great day! I’m proud of you! 🤍
I almost exclusively choose "c". However, I think that has more to do with me being a people pleaser. I'm constantly doing everything I can to slip by unnoticed, and when I do get noticed, I try to do everything I can to keep the other person happy... even if doing so is detrimental to myself.
I am a person with some toxic traits and they are not very good I can be very stubborn that time I hate when I am wrong I get angry for silly reasons and I don't like to work with others people but I willing to change for the better and be a better person so thank you psych2go for helping me see that I need to work on myself to be better I am glad we have people like you who are helping us to be better thank you and happy new year 🙏❤️👍👌💐🙂🎊🎉💜☺️
Sadly I come under highly toxic category 😞I will work upon it. I always thought why all my friends slowly got away from me and why no girl accepted me 😣 Thanx for giving me the answers. I will keep check on it
I lean towards B (5 points) the most, then C (2 points) and then A (0 points) as last. I notice that I am a little toxic in my behaviour sometimes. But I’m on self improvement rn where I work on all aspects of life (which includes my personality and how I act when it comes to emotions and so on). I think I lean towards B the most because I’ve been around toxicity my whole life, I’ve met a few true good hearted people. But most of those that I know are honestly the opposite. My mother is one of them. She is pretty narcissistic and toxic, which slowly also turned me to a shit person. Edit: also encountered fake ass fucking friends who talked shit behind my back. Probably also messed me up a bit mentally.
when my best friend and I were dissolving the friendship she told me "you are just really toxic and showed every red flag" in the same conversation she told me "i should've communicated by you triggered my trauma so I withheld communication and affection so you would take the hint" ie admitting to stonewalling, and abusive behavior, while blame shifting and giving a fake apology. she also accused me of breaking her boundaries, when that conversation she was referring to I specifically asked if I was okay to ask those types of questions, gave her a free out, and still dropped the topic shortly after based on tiny cues over text, it was all over text so I verified this reality. took this test and mostly Cs as well. absolute cruelty
i have been around very toxic people. and until that i’ve been toxic myself and i’m aware. when i try to change it takes steps y-know? but some people aren’t letting me and start to make drama with me and tell people rumors about me. now nobody likes me because of that i stopped trying to change because people don’t see how hard i’m trying. so rn i’m just titled as toxic and rude but guess what now i’m trying to be that i don’t care what others say anymore i’ll give them what they want. a toxic rude person. but really deep inside i don’t mean it and i’m very depressed that i’m alone and full of bs. let’s see how this quiz goes. 1: I say B or C depending who it is if i’m nice. if i don’t like them i would be A, “i’m just joking stop being sensitive.” 2: I say B, honestly i’d be jealous and mad. 3: i say A, anywhere it just has to find me or i find them. 4: i say B maybe sometimes C but rarely, depending on the person i guess. 5: just B i guess. but i’m not really “excited” mostly ready to be as rude as i can. 6: It depends on the person usually if i want to give rude feedback. but if it’s to someone that is neutral i would say it looks nice and give them nice feedback but maybe in the inside it weirds me out. (idk which one.) 7: it also depends on the person it would be a mix with A and B, mostly B. if it’s someone close like my partner i would be as nice as i can get. (i just don’t know how to be a good person now n days. feel free to ask questions i’ll answer them.)
I feel like the only thing I need to know about myself to know i CAN be a very toxic person is knowing that I love getting people riled up. Like, when I know someone is getting mad at what I’m saying, but I don’t really care for X reason, I love testing the limits, poking new, provoking buttons, seeing how angry I can make this person. This isn’t common, but it has happened on more than one occasion, and I relished it.
I'm not toxic, but I have toxic ways of coping when I'm dealing with toxic people. I build up resentment because people will just not stop disrespecting me even though it feels like we have several conversations about it. I just don't understand why some of the people I've dealt with in the past don't apply changes to their behaviour. I thought I was judgmental and extremely negative, but in the end I realise that when I'm with balanced and self-aware people, I'm fine. I hope to be able to leave toxic people behind from now on if my guts tell me to not bother. It's running me into the ground and having long-lasting effects on my mental and physical wellness when all I'm trying to do is grow and enjoy life while I still can.
After thinking about it, I tend to apologize more when I feel I was in the right than if I was in the wrong, I struggle to take accountability, but I’ll try to fix that, thanks.
1st question, apologize so much it annoys them 2nd B/C would be sad that plans were cancelled but happy for them 3rd B, if I don’t get along with someone I just try to avoid them 4th 50/50 I’ll look at it from their perspective aswell, if it’s my fault then it’s back to annoying them by over apologizing. If it’s their fault but they’re not budging at all, then that’s the end of it and we usually never talk again 5th I hate having to argue but it’s also one of the few things I’m very good at 6th blindly say I like it 7th happy for them Even tho the answers don’t line up, I still feel like I’m a toxic person. Maybe im just mixing annoying and overbearing
Me/my friends describe me as someone who can go from the most chill person in the group to the deadly sin of wrath. I see myself as a person who would go along with anything as long as I’m don’t give me a reason not to
I was not toxic at all but now I really want to become toxic because of the people who destroyed my innocence and filled my heart with hate and pain, I will never show mercy to anyone. I will never love anyone, I will show the world how villains are made
Great! Thanks for the video! It really helped. I got mostly Cs and three Bs. I looked inward and found out that I need to stop comparing myself with others and focus on being my best self bc I’m not them. And yes, I’m gonna use my religion to be a better person. Instead of using others to be better, I need to use God, and compare myself to Him. Because He is my compass. I’m a Christian btw if you have read this far 😊
1: depends what the joke is and what the context is 2: number 2, i may feel a certain way and want attention but im not gonna be an ass. 3: number 3, i only have drama with 1 individual that i've seemingly cut out of my life and since then haven't had problems 4: number 3, i admit when im wrong but to get to that point sometimes takes some work and honestly might be one of my worst flaws. since im very good at articulating my ideas, i become convinced that i'm right. i need an extensive debate to prove me wrong and with reasonable explainations. if you can't prove to me that i'm wrong, then i wont apologies, but if you do then i will take full responsability. 5: number 2, if im arguing with someone then i have a reason, only really agrue with my mom and that one friend i used to have, plus im a debate team captain and sticking it to an asshole is fun from time to time 6: somewhere inbetween 2 and 3, im honest about the way i feel and how much effort was put in. if someone did a shit job but ik they tried their best, then i'll praise them and tell them how i think they can improve, but let's say someone did well but put no effort and there is still improvement i'll be upset that they didn't try. its more about effort then end product. 7: again somewhere inbetween 2 and 3, but i lean closer to 3. if they are improving in something that means they could take a promotion i want or get i prize i've set my sights on, then yes i'll be jealous, but i'll still support them and supress my bias. if what they exell at is something that doesn't effect me negatively and they are proud of it, then my external reaction will still be supportive but it will be backed by purer intentions. sorry if there are any spelling or grammer errors. im a talker not a speller. dyslexia go brrrrr! lmfao
Love this channel. The positive work this channel has done for mental health awareness is absolutely amazing. Thank you. However. One thing. I know you have heard this before. The drawings in the early stages were great on so many levels. I never would have said anything if the current look of the animated characters look just like anime. It makes it hard to take it seriously. Just a thought. Love you guys.
I used to exhibit some of these toxic behaviors in my very early 20's (particularly jealousy/envy, getting into arguments, being judgmental and being inconsiderate of other people's feelings).... Nowadays, I do the best I can to keep my thoughts and feelings in check, but sometimes, it's hard for me to stop any persistent negative thoughts I have. The one golden rule that's helped me in those instances is to just keep my mouth shut, and if I have to let it out, I'll just wait until the situation is over and then get it all out of my system.
i know a lot of really toxic people who would never truly acknowledge any of these in themselves if they were watching this tbh. people whove even been called out for being toxic and said “omg ur right ill be better” and go back to being just as toxic or even more so than before.
A lot of people in my schools would manipulate. Because I saw this I learned what manipulation looks like and how to manipulate. Which is why I always ask my friends if they feel like I'm being a bad person to them so that I am not a bad person. I do not want to become a manipulative person. It is a big fear of mine.
I mostly got B’s and C’s. The resentment stems from people doing me dirty and taking advantage of me, not so much jealousy. Still working on it though.
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Nothing better than self-testing how toxic I am at 5 am 😂
Where are you watching from lol?
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@@Psych2go Apparently we’re very far from you guys, it’s literally almost 3 AM at the time of posting this
How did this get over 50 likes
3/24/2023 Edit: Apparently you live on another continent lol
Same omg
Have I ever considered I’m toxic? Yes constantly and it’s a recurring fear that I have that I may unintentionally hurt other people and want to do everything to improve.
Don't worry you'll be fine, the fact that you constantly worry about being a bad person means you're a good one.
✨NOW FEEL INSPIRED.✨ :D
It is a balancing act, like everything else in life. You should stick up for yourself, but like in physical self defense, avoid causing unnecessary harm verbally.
Also, do not be surprised that other people are insecure, and thus, do not take it personally if they get hurt due to their weakness. Everyone has some weakness, but everyone should strive to grow stronger, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, physically, and perhaps financially. Considering you watch these videos, you are on the right path. Try looking up Emotional Awareness and Emotional Intelligence exercises.
The best thing you can do, in terms of communication, is fine tune how you say what you want to say. People at work sometimes say I sound educated, and sure, some theater classes and being a reader helps, but I owe it to Facebook. I would argue politics on there, think about how to type it to be blunt without unnecessarily insulting, and my way of talking ended up reflecting how I began typing. Unless drunk, of course, then I keep my answer short and I talk slow and methodical, someone said I sound like the chill guy at work.
This video brings up another point. If you criticize someone's work, not only try to be direct without being insulting about it, squeeze in some honest compliments if you can.
Also remember that others are toxic, consciously or not, so it is good to be able to spot lies. Seriously, I know one person I do not know if she actually believes in her selective memory (I had witnesses to show I did not have selective memory) or was gaslighting me.
A wise person once told me, “The fact you don’t want to be a certain type of person desperately means you’re not” (As long as you are trying your best to replicate a person who’s not that way, you’re fine)
@@Pounamu104 this made me feel better, I’m trying but I always end up feeling mean. I get really mad at my little sister when she hurts and tosses my cat in front of me, So I sometimes lash out. I want to stop that
@@jeremybrummel3254 *What the he-*
Sometimes we try to run away from toxic people but we don't realise how toxic we are
Yes, they say the people we attract are sometimes a reflection of ourselves too.
@@Psych2go If I'm innocent and vulnerable and I attract people who manipulate me, does that mean I'm manipulative too?
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Yikes. Sad but true
@@DawnshieId no, not at all, as much as i Remember that doesn't fall into the unintentional manipulation category (unless by being kind you make It look like you di everything by yourself)
This channel is like that elder brother or sisters who keeps humouring you for good✨️😁
Edit:- glad I ain't toxic...!
Btw can u make a video on how to work on self esteem and how to stop being over available or too nice to others?
Ong yes I'd love a video like that 💯🙌🏼
Agree! That'd be great! Turns out I'm not toxic also. All
C's for me.
hey at least she gives me better advice then my older brother.
honestly I only have 1 sibling…and his advice seems kind of toxic sometimes lmao 😂👹🫠😈
Yes we need this video
Wdym humoring you for good? I have mixed feelings about how humoring one can be a good thing, like sugarcoating feedback when it’s better to be honest so that their improvements will be real.
I'm D..... Toxic towards myself
-Like the inner critic making me OCD and perfectionistic for example. Most mistakes/cringey memories from my younger days I've at least pondered about more than 50+ times.
-Having such bad time anxiety and worrying about being late; even though time in itself is a man-made concept.
-Having a hard time setting boundaries due to bad phobia of upsetting others, and thus makes me have guilt complex's.
I'm working on improving those toxic aspects I've learned. I know now that if people are upset when setting boundaries, I'm doing it right; that and I have no reason to apologize for taking care of myself.
I suffer from OCD ( HOCD ). It is absolutely hell. It not give me peace. Force me to do specific thingz to get peace. This illness is hell. Also i had problem with boundaries. But i don't care now i put myself first. That mean i shoud make boundaries to others. I don't think you shoud apologize for that. Self care is more important.
If they are good people, they should understand when you set boundaries!
My mother also struggles with saying no to people, so we did this exercise where I ask her for stuff, and she's supposed to say no.
@@inseptus712 My mother is same she is just too nice. I think i inherited my niceness from her. That is very cool idea 👍 to exercise your mother. I will try same exercise to my mum too.
I have that too! I feel like I’m mostly toxic to others but everyone is like “oh you’re kind and such”, and I was scared people would also think that’s not true.
I think there’s only one A / B I chose, that was the final question. I try not to envy others’ successes, but sometimes I can’t help it given how hard I try to push myself to success. The drama one was another one I tend to lean a bit towards B on. Unfortunately I’ve been in a few dramas throughout the past two years. It started a bit more after I endured some trauma last May with my mom dying. Some “friends / acquaintances” lost patience with me, and it drove us into drama. However, I’ve tried to always stay clear of drama for the longest time, so that’s where I’d like to say that I lean towards C.
Wow we’ve basically done the same! And tbh I think most people are jealous of other people’s success so I don’t even feel bad about it xD I don’t even judge people if they score less than me, I just try to be better than others because it makes me feel more self confident
The best thing is ur honest to yourself and acknowledging it☺️
My scenario's the same! I'm great on most of these, but I have a major lack of simply being happy for people if they surpass me in something I want to excel at, and I feel a little threatened if they get close.
An odd flipside is that I want highly intelligent people around me to bounce clever stuff off of!
A strategy I came up with that can do both of these goals is to surround myself with super smart people intentionally, so I'm among intellectual equals, so I have to take the pill of not necessarily being the smartest person in the room.
@@inseptus712 I’m the exact same, I like to surround myself with people who are smarter than me. It just helps me learn and grow from them.
Exactly in the last one I also choose b, I mean I really happy for the success of my friends but at the same time I cannot avoid comparing them to me, and lately I feel bad for feeling that way.
I'm around 30-40% B and 60-70% C. In the B part, I felt when someone is doing something better than me, I usually feel jealous and sometimes if it overwhelmed me, discouraged. I respect their hardwork I know they do a lot to achieve it, but I just can't help but feel that way. Even though I'm fully conscious how I feel, I can't stop it. That's why sometimes I'd rather not hear anything, or if I do, suppress my jealousy and move on. Though it have quite significant impact on my life, if I'm overwhelmed by it, I just stop doing the same thing that someone else do that made me jealous.
And this is also why I admire people who won't feel jealous, but instead learn more from them with hardwork.
Same, to me i think it's normal to be jealous sometimes
Similar - I had 4 C's and 3 B's. The other B that I recall is that I don't feel awkward most of the time if I "win" an argument, though I'm typically not trying to crucify someone by making it overly contentious - it's more about being able to convey my perspective to where they have an understanding/ appreciation for it.
@@LastEarBender there was 8 questions
I agree, I got about the same results as you. I definitely agree with the jealousy part. I try hard not to be jealous but when you see people living their best lives and seeming to go through life easier (aka, having college paid for them, getting a lot of achievements, etc.), it just hurts and i cant help but feel jealous. I don’t let them know im jealous though. I try my best to keep it in check.
@@-chirpchirp- maybe they got one a or smth
I've found that my answers to these questions vary from person to person. When it comes to my father, I'm A's all the way. I hold an immense amount of resentment for that asshole, probably because he's been giving me A's for most of my life. My mother? Mostly B's and a few A's and C's. Almost anyone else? C's all the way.
I agree!!
so relatable my father is all a's he's a bitch
Same, I chose mostly Cs, but if the person were my mom, it would be A’s mostly.
Unfortunately I have all A's and B's for most of my family. (Not my grandparents. They have B's and mostly C's.)
Whether we're toxic or not, we can always still have toxic feelings for someone, which we must accept and let go of in order to be free from unnecessary hate and suffering :)
I love that this channel always focuses on growth. Whether it’s self growth or growing pass negative people ❤
I got 20-30% B and 70-80% A. One thing I’ve found I’ve struggled with is taking accountability during or after arguments. It wasn’t really something I’ve gotten to learn from a young age, and even though I try to control myself better it’s still difficult to constantly regulate my emotions. I’m glad I got to take this test though so I can be reminded to work towards being better at taking accountability :)
I’m sure you will get there in the end. I used to struggle with a lot of the same stuff too. If I was right, why should I apologize? However after working on it for a long time, I have gotten better. I’m sure you will reach that point as well. Wish you the best on your journey there.
i just wanna say like this video xd
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All the best 😊😊
Hey, it can be a hard thing to do. Don't beat yourself up for it, the fact that you're acknowledging it and want to improve on it shows how mature you are and willing to improve yourself. Im proud of you!!
@@TurtleReefReal is hard if you warn her
I am a less toxic friend (I think) because of all the toxic friendships I had before. I just don't want to make my friends feel like these friends made me feel.
However, if a non-friend acts toxic towards me now... I can be one of the most toxic people I have ever known.
Exactly.
Makes sense but maybe tone it down even if it's just for a little bit
@Melinda Smith It's hard to. I was honestly way too polite and agreeable, which made people walk all over me.
I'm not instantly mean either. Someone has to over step my boundaries first. It's usually someone I kind of know as well. With a friend I let them know what they did. With a non-friend though...
Had this D-bag try and insinuate he doesn't play video games like me because they are a waste of time, then he gave me a face with derision. I lost it because there was no reason for that. I told him he looks like he mindlessly stuffs his face with calories, because he put on 30 pounds or so, so I can't imagine how boring his life is. I then said weren't you a mediocre competitive smash player, and I don't go to video game tornaments... I said think about what you say before you say stuff dumbass. I went on to ask if he has down syndrome or something pointing out his ugly features on his face. Told him he has the tendency to over smile, which annoys me because he has one gummy smile. All I can say is he won't be talking to me anymore which is how I like it.
I'm so proud of myself right now !! Most of my answers would had been A 3 years ago, but now (thanks to several years of therapy) I have achieved 6 C's and 1 B. I'm going to keep working so that I can get all C's someday. Tyy 💕
Tbh, I only disagree with the "arguing with other people" toxicity. Not wanting to argue with people isn't always the best trait to have in my opinion
@@halbgefressen9768 why not?
@@halbgefressen9768why wouldn't that be a good trait?
"Be sure not to let others take advantage of your kindness". Yeah, right on the spot. That is the damnation of ours INFJ empaths. Being non-toxic comes with a host of disadvantages and weak points in this brave new world of ours. One better guard oneself against all those emotional leeches roaming around.
Exactly.
I'm INTP so I can't relate but I'm more on the B sode of toxicity
I try to be a friend but sometimes I slip
I'm an enfp and I adore infjs
And setting boundaries can also help protect you from quite good people unintentionally harming you. If you don't communicate your needs, they will sometimes have no way of knowing how to navigate your specific situation!
when they said that, I felt it, peapole always take advantage of my kindness.
Btw I'm an INFJ
Happy New Year! This video was a good one. I am elated to know that I am not a toxic person. 😁
I always wondered whether I was a toxic person, if I messed myself up with others and I dwell on those. This will help me realise if I am truly toxic or not
Edit: yess I'm not toxic :)
I got mostly C's but I KNOW that I'm more toxic than a Poison type Pokemon
We’ve all got toxic traits to an extent. You’re probably just more self aware of them and able to keep them at bay which is good!
@@brienethefox853 thanks 👍
@@brienethefox853 true
i feel the same
Toxic and poison are two different things lololol
The thing I hate about these quizzes is that the people making them never consider the fact that there might be people who identify as more than just one of the answers in one question, or even that they might identify as none of said answers at all.
I ended up identifying with multiple answers on most of the questions, and none of them on some. That’s really annoying because it ends up leaving me with no idea as to where I land on the scale.
Same here
Yeah same here but only happened with 2-3 problems and they were mostly B's
Not just that, this is a horrible measure of toxicity imo. I say this as someone who would’ve been pretty strongly all C’s a few years ago.
The non-toxic person in this circumstance has no self-acceptance or respect. It’s kinda scary how this video frames the perfect abuse victim as the ideal.
Like yeah on a surface level - being happy for others, apologizing for your mistakes, being understanding are great characteristics to have. That said you shouldn’t have to go to the ends of the earth to understand someone in an argument or compromise with them - sometimes it’s best to just disagree internally and move on (ie talking with a racist family member). Also it’s not wrong to have a slightly heated discussion if both people are fine with it, especially as long as you recognize that you won’t loose yourself because of this conversation (ie arguing with said racist why racism is bad), and understand that this conversation is something you do outside of building the rest of your life. (It’s not your duty to fix a racist)
Also it’s not wrong to feel anger, hurt, jealousy, insecurity - it’s wrong to use those feelings to hurt others and/or to let them consistently overwhelm you - it’s a part of being human. These aren’t things you should be repressing until they aren’t there at all, but rather acknowledging so you can move on from them.
I thought I was toxic but knowing I'm not makes me feel like my trail over depression made me a better person and I'm finally making progress
Ty for your amazing information, I really love your channel
No worries! Where are you from?
@@Psych2go OMG- I'm form Bangladesh- 🇧🇩🇧🇩 👁️👄👁️
@@Psych2go hello its me 😄
@@Yukiyusitzmeh me too
Why did I read this as "ty for the traumatizing experience"
(Don't let others take advantage of your kindness) that hit me on spiritual level 💀.
Your videos are allways a huge mental boost for me, I frequently beat myself up over small things and percive flaws in my personality and when watching videos like "scent video says about you" and "your favorite colour says about you" and now this one and it's allways helps me out, like a slap in the face and somone telling me "hey your not a bad person and heres proof"
1.I'd say "sorry, I didn't mean to take that too far" (C)
2.I'd say "have fun!" (C)
3.I rarely get into drama for the sake of my mental stamina (C)
4.I rarely get into arguements since I'm quick to step down, so probably C
5.Somewhat excited because it varies on the topic (B)
6.I'd give feedback and probably not care about how I make them feel since I point out the flaws first (respectfully ofc) and say "Aside from that, I think the rest is good" (B)
7.Jealous but appreciate it at the end (B)
The mostly B's review is definitely how I feel my life is going. I can be the toxic one in certain situations and harbor on resentment issues and grudges when I feel certain people have done me wrong. I'm working on my upcoming 30s to be more like the mostly C's person because while my heart wants to be that person my mind wants to be underhanded because it seems easier to protect my feelings than to look at all angles
This video was very helpful to me because there were times where I really had to separate myself from certain people, especially in my who were toxic by the way they took advantage of me. I also had to separate myself from my friend because he complains about his job, about certain things and about his wife. He's very sensitive to where he wants sympathy from women, and he criticizes and gossips about people and he swears he's more righteous than everyone else
All of my answers were c. It’s good, but i wish i had a bit of toxic-ness. I know saying no to someone is not always toxic, but being toxic would make saying no much easier.
I didn't understand how much it hurts when your friend betrays you but only after experience I understand :( :( now I have to help others get through this because its too hard to handle.
Not gonna lie, 2023 as a year already feels toxic.
I want a redo
What about 2024?
@@Psych2go 2024 is like the best friend you havent seen in 10 years but can still talk to as if nothing happened.
It can't come fast enough
@@Psych2go 😆
nothing better than watching these at 1am knowing that im not toxic, worrying about the future, hungry for noodles, tossing and turning in bed. Nothing better than doing this all at 1-3 am 😃
i too am hungry for noodles 🍜
That’s honestly me rn, glad im not alone
im over here sitting in bed at 2:36 am doing exactly the same thing 💀
When you get an C- but it’s the thought that counts
My family is rather dysfunctional. I'm just glad we're trying to be good people while respecting each others perspectives and hopefully one day where we all accept each others ways of life.
I was once arrogant and inconsiderate but after being separated to my friend, I feel more alone but considerate to others
I'm actually getting nervous while watching this. Hope I could be a better person than I am today.
If you're watching this already, you definitely will.
I be honest seeing arguments can be entertaining for me
I thought I was toxic for last few years but now I know I am not.
Thank you.
The only thing that i am toxic is lack of apologies even though i am capable to doing sometime and sacrifing myself to be a better person and i am sometime argumentative for being dishonest ! Thank you for this video !
I never knew jealousy was toxic. I always thought it was reasonable and normal
Jealousy is normal, but it's all about how you deal with it.
Jealousy can be good at times, but can you share what your thinking process is?
Jealousy is fine when experienced short termed and if you have self control to not act up on it mostly. Unless you're acting up on it frequently without valid reasons in general.
Jealousy and envy are both normal... I wish there were easier ways to reduce them
@@Psych2go I've had significant others in the past that would cheat and whatnot and nowadays when my current partner has someone getting too close I naturally get jealous
I’m all c’s!
So proud of myself because even just at the beginning of 2023, i would’ve had some b’s and possibly some a’s as well, sure i didn’t grow how i intended to and achieve what i wanted to at the beginning of the year, but i’ve really grown a lot this year and achieved a lot that now i think is better than what January me set out to do, I can’t wait to see what i accomplish in 2024!
Wishing everyone success and happiness in this comin year ❤
Likewise to you!
I used to be very toxic in the past. But now I'm definitely not toxic toward others. Yet instead I am more toxic towards myself. I hope to change that this year.
This was interesting to say to least, I wanted to look at this because of that and I did enjoy this, Love you guys!
Your voice is very soft and soothing
I mostly answered C, but I have to admit, there were some answers that I put B on. My biggest weakness apart from my stubbornness is that I can be quite blunt and OVERLY truthful at times, and it has screwed me over on occasion. I do try to take accountability and apologize whenever I do something seriously wrong because despite how difficult it can be for me to admit when I'm being an a$$hole at a certain time, I should since I don't want to lose the relationships I've gained. It's not worth it.
I'm only toxic when someone tells me I'm wrong about something. If you don't make that mistake then I'm a joy to be around.
My result is "C". I like your videos, because you encourage people to work, how to treat better yourself and others. Nobodys perfect👏👏👏
It’s so good to know yourself if you are toxic, to try and fix it and better the people around you and yourself :))
Thank you Psych2Go
Couldn't agree more. The best way to love the people around you is to work on yourself.
95% C, 5% B.
I mostly try to be civil and respectful even though there are those minor tendencies to be toxic at times. I had mostly stay out of drama and learned accountability for my actions is the big one over the years.
While I do have struggles, I'm usually quick to forgive others if they had wronged me and try to be understanding though self-forgiveness was another challenge I had to take on because I was angry with myself often.
This video really helped me understand myself better! I might share just share this with some of my friends 😅. They could probably learn something to…😂
100% C.
over time, becoming more self aware has helped me to avoid future misunderstandings and occasionally unintentionally hurting someone.
oddly enough, from all the books i read, it's made me very aware of everything around me. even peoples perspectives. i can understand someones point of view, even if they are vastly different from mine.
(does get a bit awkward though when i'm stuck in the middle of an argument between two other people, taking no sides because i see both points of view. but i try to help both sides).
Most of these aren't super simple answers but I'm happy to say that while (I may have more b's than I'd like to admit) I usually do a pretty good job being considerate of others feelings. I've met a lot of people and honestly like to see value in everything while maintaining my personal values and understanding them as such. I make sure that I understand what the important things are, that's why everything is beautiful! (paraphrased from the song Drift by Naoki) Also great video! Thanks for aiding in my self reflection, I get the feeling I will meet someone sensitive soon so I will need all of the self awareness I can get.
Thank you so much, I really wanted to be on my side and remember that self-improvement is a long process and I'm doing as best as I can. And this video reminded me of it ❤
Time for another reality check!!
Thank you for watching!
My new year's resolution was to make it clear to friends who are more sensitive that when I say something it's coming from my personal opinion and not a judgement of them and it's already working
I definitely took this test for myself but couldn't help but notice my ex-friend/roommate/bro hit every single 'A' meanwhile I'm closer to 'C'. He drove me insane and I have spent the past year detoxing and trying to figure out what happened. This video really pinpoints how toxic he was and how much suffering I actually went through living with him.
I chose mostly 'B', and those traits you said were spot on! I will do my best to find out why I have said traits and will do my best to act on them.
I got mostly C's to be honest if I have some negative feeling against someone such as jealousy and it's not nice, I usually try to keep it to myself. I don't like hurting other and I sometimes instantly apologize even if i am not at fault.
All C's except one B: some arguments can be good for the sake of self growth and challenging our opinions and belief.
I was SO SURE I was a toxic person to some extent because I can be a little clingy sometimes. But it turns out I was completely wrong about myself. Thanks for the self reflection! ^w^
Being clingy dosen' t make you toxic, it makes you human.
The narrator for this episode sounds like Melody from hunter hunter. Very soothing voice.
Woo hoo!
@@Psych2go 👍
For some reason, your voice sound even more relaxing than usual :)
I got 4b and 3c. I definitely need to work on myself and I definitely will work on myself regarding this 😄
I had a best friend who was ALL drama, guilt trips, one-way sympathy and lies. SO many lies.
i love how the result rlly goes with me
i used to think im a very toxic person but this test says I'm not and I'm honestly appalled, thank you pysch2go
Definitely made me question myself a bit. I like to think I’m not toxic and the results of this mostly support that, but I still want to evaluate my actions
How do we ask about/propose topics if that’s even an option (though I imagine it’d disappear in the crowd)
I appreciate this.
I’ve been having some doubts as of recently.
Like maybe I’m not doing enough to be a better person. For context, I’ve been dealing with residual damage that has been left behind by the many of narcissistic that i call my family. And since being shown how much damage I’ve received by someone I loved, I’ve been trying to be a better person every day i can. And with quiz, those doubts I’ve had about myself subsided a little. Mostly I answered C in the prompts with a few B’s so over the past 2 years of healing, I’m proud of myself for being strong enough to undo some of the damage that I’ve forcedly received. Thank you for this quiz. And thank you for helping others in helping themselves. Trauma is a scary thing, but coming from a fellow survivor. To anyone who thinks that “they can’t” or that “their not good enough” or “you don’t deserve it”, you do. You are. And you can. You can do anything you put your mind to. Even if you have to unfog it first. Your amazing! You got this! And have a great day! I’m proud of you! 🤍
I almost exclusively choose "c". However, I think that has more to do with me being a people pleaser. I'm constantly doing everything I can to slip by unnoticed, and when I do get noticed, I try to do everything I can to keep the other person happy... even if doing so is detrimental to myself.
I am a person with some toxic traits and they are not very good I can be very stubborn that time I hate when I am wrong I get angry for silly reasons and I don't like to work with others people but I willing to change for the better and be a better person so thank you psych2go for helping me see that I need to work on myself to be better I am glad we have people like you who are helping us to be better thank you and happy new year 🙏❤️👍👌💐🙂🎊🎉💜☺️
Sadly I come under highly toxic category 😞I will work upon it. I always thought why all my friends slowly got away from me and why no girl accepted me 😣
Thanx for giving me the answers. I will keep check on it
I have little to no toxic traits, mostly C’s
Good job
@@wholesomeedits thank you 🙏
same
@@u_ImNotKeqing nice
@@tripletflamesrainbowstarpeople thanks
I've noticed a lot personally that, when it comes to being happy for other people, I will get resentful but I usually try to hide it.
I lean towards B (5 points) the most, then C (2 points) and then A (0 points) as last. I notice that I am a little toxic in my behaviour sometimes. But I’m on self improvement rn where I work on all aspects of life (which includes my personality and how I act when it comes to emotions and so on).
I think I lean towards B the most because I’ve been around toxicity my whole life, I’ve met a few true good hearted people. But most of those that I know are honestly the opposite. My mother is one of them. She is pretty narcissistic and toxic, which slowly also turned me to a shit person.
Edit: also encountered fake ass fucking friends who talked shit behind my back. Probably also messed me up a bit mentally.
I have been trying so hard to be more positive, not the whole way there, but i am better than i have been :)
When my ex was breaking up she told me I was the toxic one for not letting her talk to her ex
And now I took the test and got mostly Cs
when my best friend and I were dissolving the friendship she told me "you are just really toxic and showed every red flag"
in the same conversation she told me "i should've communicated by you triggered my trauma so I withheld communication and affection so you would take the hint"
ie admitting to stonewalling, and abusive behavior, while blame shifting and giving a fake apology.
she also accused me of breaking her boundaries, when that conversation she was referring to I specifically asked if I was okay to ask those types of questions, gave her a free out, and still dropped the topic shortly after based on tiny cues over text, it was all over text so I verified this reality.
took this test and mostly Cs as well.
absolute cruelty
i have been around very toxic people. and until that i’ve been toxic myself and i’m aware. when i try to change it takes steps y-know? but some people aren’t letting me and start to make drama with me and tell people rumors about me. now nobody likes me because of that i stopped trying to change because people don’t see how hard i’m trying. so rn i’m just titled as toxic and rude but guess what now i’m trying to be that i don’t care what others say anymore i’ll give them what they want. a toxic rude person. but really deep inside i don’t mean it and i’m very depressed that i’m alone and full of bs. let’s see how this quiz goes.
1: I say B or C depending who it is if i’m nice. if i don’t like them i would be A, “i’m just joking stop being sensitive.”
2: I say B, honestly i’d be jealous and mad.
3: i say A, anywhere it just has to find me or i find them.
4: i say B maybe sometimes C but rarely, depending on the person i guess.
5: just B i guess. but i’m not really “excited” mostly ready to be as rude as i can.
6: It depends on the person usually if i want to give rude feedback. but if it’s to someone that is neutral i would say it looks nice and give them nice feedback but maybe in the inside it weirds me out. (idk which one.)
7: it also depends on the person it would be a mix with A and B, mostly B.
if it’s someone close like my partner i would be as nice as i can get.
(i just don’t know how to be a good person now n days. feel free to ask questions i’ll answer them.)
Love the animation, keep it up :D
Edit:Lol I have bragging rights for you replying to my comment :D
High five! Krisha is amazing isn't she?
@@Psych2go Yeah!
I feel like the only thing I need to know about myself to know i CAN be a very toxic person is knowing that I love getting people riled up. Like, when I know someone is getting mad at what I’m saying, but I don’t really care for X reason, I love testing the limits, poking new, provoking buttons, seeing how angry I can make this person. This isn’t common, but it has happened on more than one occasion, and I relished it.
I'm not toxic, but I have toxic ways of coping when I'm dealing with toxic people. I build up resentment because people will just not stop disrespecting me even though it feels like we have several conversations about it. I just don't understand why some of the people I've dealt with in the past don't apply changes to their behaviour. I thought I was judgmental and extremely negative, but in the end I realise that when I'm with balanced and self-aware people, I'm fine. I hope to be able to leave toxic people behind from now on if my guts tell me to not bother. It's running me into the ground and having long-lasting effects on my mental and physical wellness when all I'm trying to do is grow and enjoy life while I still can.
After thinking about it, I tend to apologize more when I feel I was in the right than if I was in the wrong, I struggle to take accountability, but I’ll try to fix that, thanks.
Thank you for this video. It’s a nice reminder
I have a talent in hurting people emotionally without wanting it
I am kinda between b and c. I do know that I feel jealous sometimes but I keep it to me and still show happiness for the accomplishments of others
1st question, apologize so much it annoys them
2nd B/C would be sad that plans were cancelled but happy for them
3rd B, if I don’t get along with someone I just try to avoid them
4th 50/50 I’ll look at it from their perspective aswell, if it’s my fault then it’s back to annoying them by over apologizing. If it’s their fault but they’re not budging at all, then that’s the end of it and we usually never talk again
5th I hate having to argue but it’s also one of the few things I’m very good at
6th blindly say I like it
7th happy for them
Even tho the answers don’t line up, I still feel like I’m a toxic person. Maybe im just mixing annoying and overbearing
People told me that I have toxic behaviors. Well. After considering a couple of times and watching this video I know that I'm not toxic.
I got mostly A and I'm shocked by how accurate it is!!!!!!!!!!! I always thought that I was negitive so toxic fits me! TYSM for this!!!!!!!!!
Me/my friends describe me as someone who can go from the most chill person in the group to the deadly sin of wrath. I see myself as a person who would go along with anything as long as I’m don’t give me a reason not to
I still can't believe there are people who don't feel threatened by and hold resentment towards people in their lives better than them.
I was not toxic at all but now I really want to become toxic because of the people who destroyed my innocence and filled my heart with hate and pain, I will never show mercy to anyone. I will never love anyone, I will show the world how villains are made
Stop swallowing your own poison
Great! Thanks for the video! It really helped. I got mostly Cs and three Bs. I looked inward and found out that I need to stop comparing myself with others and focus on being my best self bc I’m not them. And yes, I’m gonna use my religion to be a better person. Instead of using others to be better, I need to use God, and compare myself to Him. Because He is my compass. I’m a Christian btw if you have read this far 😊
1: depends what the joke is and what the context is
2: number 2, i may feel a certain way and want attention but im not gonna be an ass.
3: number 3, i only have drama with 1 individual that i've seemingly cut out of my life and since then haven't had problems
4: number 3, i admit when im wrong but to get to that point sometimes takes some work and honestly might be one of my worst flaws. since im very good at articulating my ideas, i become convinced that i'm right. i need an extensive debate to prove me wrong and with reasonable explainations. if you can't prove to me that i'm wrong, then i wont apologies, but if you do then i will take full responsability.
5: number 2, if im arguing with someone then i have a reason, only really agrue with my mom and that one friend i used to have, plus im a debate team captain and sticking it to an asshole is fun from time to time
6: somewhere inbetween 2 and 3, im honest about the way i feel and how much effort was put in. if someone did a shit job but ik they tried their best, then i'll praise them and tell them how i think they can improve, but let's say someone did well but put no effort and there is still improvement i'll be upset that they didn't try. its more about effort then end product.
7: again somewhere inbetween 2 and 3, but i lean closer to 3. if they are improving in something that means they could take a promotion i want or get i prize i've set my sights on, then yes i'll be jealous, but i'll still support them and supress my bias. if what they exell at is something that doesn't effect me negatively and they are proud of it, then my external reaction will still be supportive but it will be backed by purer intentions.
sorry if there are any spelling or grammer errors. im a talker not a speller. dyslexia go brrrrr! lmfao
Love this channel. The positive work this channel has done for mental health awareness is absolutely amazing. Thank you. However. One thing. I know you have heard this before. The drawings in the early stages were great on so many levels. I never would have said anything if the current look of the animated characters look just like anime. It makes it hard to take it seriously. Just a thought. Love you guys.
Some people will never even admit they are
I used to exhibit some of these toxic behaviors in my very early 20's (particularly jealousy/envy, getting into arguments, being judgmental and being inconsiderate of other people's feelings).... Nowadays, I do the best I can to keep my thoughts and feelings in check, but sometimes, it's hard for me to stop any persistent negative thoughts I have. The one golden rule that's helped me in those instances is to just keep my mouth shut, and if I have to let it out, I'll just wait until the situation is over and then get it all out of my system.
1.depends on the circumstances
2.c
3.c i don't start drama other people
4. again completely circumstantial
5.c
6.c
8.again depends on circumstance
i know a lot of really toxic people who would never truly acknowledge any of these in themselves if they were watching this tbh. people whove even been called out for being toxic and said “omg ur right ill be better” and go back to being just as toxic or even more so than before.
This is a very helpful video, I love ur channel and this art style is so cute!! ☺️❤️
A lot of people in my schools would manipulate. Because I saw this I learned what manipulation looks like and how to manipulate. Which is why I always ask my friends if they feel like I'm being a bad person to them so that I am not a bad person. I do not want to become a manipulative person. It is a big fear of mine.
I mostly got B’s and C’s. The resentment stems from people doing me dirty and taking advantage of me, not so much jealousy. Still working on it though.
I’ve learnt I’m a toxic person. I suspected i am. Do I wanna change … truthfully I don’t know. I do need to work on filtering myself.
I'm just reallyy truelyy soo in love with this channel-
Aww. Thank you! What's your favorite part about it?
Somewhere between B and C is the place to be here. Anyone going hard A by these standards would be intolerable but hard C would be a hapless pushover.
I'm hard C until someone makes fun of my twin.