Alain de Botton: Work and Emotional Intelligence
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- Опубліковано 28 лип 2019
- Alain de Botton (Author, Philosopher, and Founder of the School of Life) takes us along for one of his famous, wide-spanning tour de force, this time on finding meaning in work, consumerism, and how tech innovation may one day become emotionally intelligent.
Founders Pledge Forum 2019 took place at the Conduit in London on June 11th. Bringing together the Founders Pledge community and the voices at the frontier of social change, it explored new visions for the future of philanthropy.
About Alain de Botton:
Alain de Botton is the founder and Chairman of The School of Life. Alain was born in Zurich, Switzerland and now lives in London. He is a writer of essayistic books that have been described as a 'philosophy of everyday life.' He’s written on love, travel, architecture and literature, including the titles 'How Proust Can Change Your Life' and 'The Consolations of Philosophy.' His books have been bestsellers in 30 countries and his latest, titled 'How to Think More About Sex' was published by Pan Macmillian as part of The School of Life's series of self-help guides.
He is the founder of Living Architecture, a social enterprise that asks top architects to build holiday homes for rental around the UK.
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If the world has 50 more Alain De Bottons. That would make the world a lot saner place. But incredibly grateful for having at least 1
"If you know what you really need, you don't desire so many things"
What do i neeeeed?????
Pretty much
Alain de Botton has a depth of intellect and insight served in his compelling narrative voice and tasteful wit. He constructs societally relevant talks that hit all the right spots for listening pleasure and intellectual gain. I’ve always thought he was an eloquent writer. Delightful discovery: Alain is an eloquent speaker too.
Bits of your writing sound like him...sometimes it takes one to recognise another...
@Random Stuff hmm... and the reason for your cynicism?
@@jolinagan210 ummm look at my comment for a good answer. I just wrote it five minutes ago.
@@jolinagan210 Cynicism?! Girl, the dude is trying to compliment you.
@@prateekagar88 she was referring to someone else whose comment has either been deleted or flagged down
I clicked when I saw Alain. I was not disappointed.
@Crebs Park -🤣🤣🤣🤣 You're uncouth silly person. I am walking away now. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 🤦♀️ people!
I'm just getting to know him online. He's brilliant isn't he!
"Advertising is clever, they know what we need, they just won't sell it to us." Love this guy haha 😊
Haha! Yeah,
like if Consumerism sold us things that could _actually satisfy us,_
the whole economic edifice would come to a stall (our dissatisfaction is integral to the function of a consumerist society)
There would be so many people working, coming home, cooking looking after the kids without time to watch this. Having leisure time is a great luxury. Appreciate.
Listening to this in a library, and I had to stop myself from shouting 'Ghostbusters!' every time he asked "Who do you call?"
He is so charismatic and smart !! Such a global tresure
I'm so goddam glad we don't get our deeper needs met by corporations. Those are the most sensitive elements of our existence, and corporations are inherently uninterested in truly respecting their customers if they can fool their customers into paying for their deeper needs to be continually *not* met, which has been a wonderfully successful endeavour for them.
but...corporations are people, too...
It's really the individual's responsibility to figure out what these higher needs are to him/her. The market place simply provides "things", some of which may help some individuals, but I think they rarely provide the solution.
I suspect that it's also very not-black-and-white. What do you call a group for a particular interest, but which requires funding for membership so that they can resource specific initiatives? They are less motivated to fool people into buying useless gizmos and cater to an ideology. For those who are invested in similar ideology, it can provide much meaning.
This man's voice is sth special.
Every Friday i watch his videos and then i start reflecting on my life.
One of the biggest untapped industry is the preparation to die. We are so wrapped up in living we ignore this fundamental reality, and assume that only owning life insurance is the answer.
Lonely people could teach the world about that topic. But no one makes money off human end- life PEACE so we are not supposed to know about it. But I need a job. Public speaking circuit about why most monetized crap on you tube is just more of the same endorsement of the life that is killing us all as soon as we are born. Don't buy it. Ask a lonely person for the truth and you will get it, and maybe a way to your own peaceful death when its time.
Very intellectual. He got me started questioning and thinking about stuff on a deep level. Thank you for sharing!!
Han är verkligen inspirerande och är en elegant talare. Vi människor behöver reflektera över liv lite mer och säga nej till saker vi inte behöver.
This man speaks fantasticly !
There's no swindle about "higher needs being outside of commerce", his School Of Life is the very example of that. He talks about gurus and stuff. They're already in that market. Tech-companies, especially social media companies like Instagram are used the way they are by people who are trying to fulfill their higher needs.
The very problem of the concept of a market that provides you Maslow's higher needs is the hipocrisy it entails. You can't buy love/belonging. You can't buy esteem. You can't buy self-actualization. There are organizations that are advertising you all of this, but they can't deliver it, no matter how much they try.
@S Han This is where the spiritual retreats and lectures that ask for voluntary donation or labor in return stand out above the rest and are more likely to be suitable guides towards truthful experience aligned with science. I'm speaking from experience.
@S Han...money... it ranks right up there with oxygen
@@David-bc4rh Curious, which retreats offer this option?
@@justbeegreen Vipassana Meditation
@@David-bc4rh Thanks - yes, I experienced that in Japan and California. I think Insight Meditation Society in Massachusetts offers something like this too.
A true pleasure to listen to this lecture. With one exception: the problem of starvation in 1950s Germany concerned primarily allied-occupied territory (west) while Stalin made effort to feed his (eastern) zone properly. Right after the war it was more comfy to live there. It was after some time that the situation had reversed.
Most brilliant conclusion of 2021 for me thus far...billion dollar industries on passive aggression and higher up maslow hierarchy of needs
If Consumerism sold us things that could _actually satisfy us,_
(sooner or later) the whole economic edifice would come to a stall!
(our personal dissatisfaction is integral to the function of a consumerist society)
Love listen you...I'm french speaker from Cameroon , doing my best to understand , because so interesting...hope will have french translation of your video
03:18 The definition of a “meaningful job”
Alain de Botton always delivers excellent speeches!
Thank you!!
18:32 however, Advertising is so brilliant and beautiful and clever. because he knows what we need, it just refuses to sell it to as. Alain de Botton, love you. :)
One additional comment on this delightful brilliant writer/thinker/talker; work and love; Freud. I am a child of a holocaust survivor; Victor Frankl; revise Freud -- artifact only because he was so entirely calcified by his followers, no patience with that stuff; work; connection; meaning. I don't think this means you have to find meaning in a meaningless job because you have to work to live, but it has to come from somewhere, and is inextribably (sp,sorry Francophone) linked with self-knowledge, that uncomfortable place no-one wants to dwell in but we all have to visit; and sometimes our unconscious mind directs in amazing directions our ability to find ourselves in creative pursuits, wherever we find them. Alain, je vous remercie.
Thank you for the video. He is brilliant
I love Epicurus and I love Alain de Botton
great, as usual. Thank you !
Thanks, he is an amazing and brilliant person!
Another great talk. Thank you.
Sarah Parker He’s one of my favorites!
Alain, you marvelous human being!
Love this man.
No one:
Alain before he starts everything: "Who's here already married but.."
I really enjoy listening to that guy...
Gloriously entertaining
Love this guys stuff
It’s crazy how there are so many therapist online now that u can just chat with! Genuine need💯
Like ?
Wow 😳this is food for thought 🧐 great talk 👌
All jobs can be meaningful but often our society tells us what is meaningful or not - If money and power were "important" factors then are so many unsatisfied worker in well-paid positions? It is clearly our mentality.
"Meeting All Of Our Needs: Past & Present"
There, fixed the title for ya, Alain.
Not as fancy as using "emotional intelligence" but it works.
His point on luxury aiding the poor makes so much sense. I’d imagine being homeless in Dubai would be far more enjoyable than being homeless in Florida.
I thought he meant through taxes, like buying luxurious goods will turn in more money that the government can reinvest in welfare and public health etc.
Julien Eric that’s definitely a contributing factor
@@Julzchomovitch00 indeed, but in services too, that will increase labour opportunities.
I’m not sure that any type of homelessness is enjoyable, but I do take his point about spending stimulating the economy to be able to generate more jobs etc, or the trickle-down effect. Unfortunately this can and has become a corrupted system when it becomes more like the trickle-up effect, when basic jobs, that in the past would have got you onto the bottom rung of the ladder, can’t even cover rent and food, and you notice that there aren’t any other rungs on the ladder to climb up.......just other ladders with bottom rungs. I don’t have a solution unfortunately....just an observation.
...or in Kenia.
I love Alain de Botton; he has been various described over the last decade as a much needed civilizer/ popularizer of ideas gleaned from the Great Thinkers to someone who, through making ideas workable in this world we all inhabit somehow …. become infra dig. From a long-time Monty Python benchmark person, I believe he would find these reactions -- in no way can they be termed informed observations - hilarious. I'd like to add an entirely extraneous comment about core topics in his corpus -- don't do social media -- and that is the pernicious effect of the Romantic Movement as we live it today. No quarrel; just an observation. It didn't begin like that. Eleanor of Aquitaine in the 12th century (anyone remember Henry II in Beckett or The Lion in Winter? that was her husband) …. while still in the south of France began the cult of chivalry which really meant knights wouldn't rape maidens or spit on the floor etc. but with Cretien de Troyes and the 1st written account of the myth of Camelot really was the first feminist, which probably accounts for Henry II shutting her up in a tower while he carried on with a teenager, which simply means nothing has changed very much over many centuries indeed.
I'm deeply impressed by this. I came across similar material, and it was truly remarkable. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint
Passive aggression couple therapy - that could go on all day. Hahaha....Brilliant idea! I do love your The School of Life. I use it, he doesn't - what is that business? Thank you! It DOES help! :)
15:43 The 3 Fundamental Human Needs according to Epicureus
1.Analysed life
2.Freedom
3.Friendships
incredible
Maslow designed a pyramid just for this reason .... :) because at the top there are so few people!!
his voice, is he from the channel school of life?
Yup yup... Indeed it is
The founding father no less!
Our leader
Lo sabía!
Lovely chap,
great, enjoyable popular philosophy books! 😇 😈
Brilliant talk as always :) Alan what do you think of the work of New Citizenship Project on moving away from consumerism into what they call citizenship?
Encore!
I was a bricklayer for some time and I loved it. Then I moved countries and am now an IT manager and hate it 😂
“There is no shortage of good days. It is good lives that are hard to come by. A life of good days lived in the senses is not enough. The life of sensation is the life of greed; it requires more and more. The life of the spirit requires less and less; time is ample and its passage sweet. Who would call a day spent reading a good day? But a life spent reading - that is a good life. A day that closely resembles every other day of the past ten or twenty years does not suggest itself as a good one. But who would not call Pasteur’s life a good one, or Thomas Mann’s?”
Annie Dillard "A Writing Life"
He’s an intellectual rock star
BitCoin's ProofOfWork for the win! Worth every eV!
Great talk as always. One thing though: the title of the video doesn't really match the topic of his talk, should probably change that, maybe to the title of his slides.
Yea it really has nothing to do with the experience of the common workplace. Its a nudge towards ethical marketing.
A BRILLIANT speech. I agree with Alain but what is a better alternative to capitalism?
I basically luv him
Most companies deliver physical goods, which by nature target the base needs. The higher levels are more abstract. Yes, they manifest as singers, poets, religious/thought leaders, but also as clubs and organizations based on shared interests. They have market products, too (CDs, books, shows, memberships). Of course, even the higher level of community that is offered online (or over the air as shows) has to be resourced with ads for products targeting lower needs (primarily, but higher level needs like vacations and insurance are included).
I wasn't 100% in line with the explanation that having a luxury goods economy helps the poor by generating money that can be donated. In my view, it also creates a larger labour market, which reduces the proportion of unemployed. We will never eliminate "poorness", but we can mitigate it.
our highest needs are not for sale. humankind did not create life. do not understand it. cannot take care of it. need training or can pretend to know. will never admit ignorance. will pursue independence as the goal. independence from(?). freedom by(?). many will claim that God does not exist. but will quietly apply for the position. will do the job as a god. and expect the rewards. even demand it. manufactured chaos.
I cannot believe I just heard a billion dollar speech for free.
Thanks Alain, you’re a brilliant human being!
Was there a Q&A? If there was I hope it gets uploaded!
Just another meaningful talk.. How long do you think will it take to change a societal system? [That's my billion-dollar question.]
❤
A different Alain I see here compared to the one in the debate with Pinker where he had a rather pessimistic outlook about technology, and about the future in general.
Hi there! I'm working as a volunteer in a career advisor foundation for kids at risk and I'd love to show this video to them. However, we are in a Spanish speaking country and I've noticed this video doesn't have Spanish subtitles. Is there a possibility for you to enable them?
👌💖
Wow love this critique of capitalism, an unexpected joy
Mandavil was brilliant
Who you going to call? “Hello School of life how my we help you?...... We’ve got oneeee”
12:50 - Swiss with british accent
@0 he speaks french you clown. As if his name weren't clue enough that he's not from the german part of Switzerland
I wish the subtitles did not move. I am distracted.
He's hot 😁
Exploitation & Facebook. So true
2300: notice what is missing in a typical day. That is a new business idea.
The opening claim about work is vitiated by the fact of self-deception: _because_ we have this "beautiful idea" of meaningful work, many if not most people _tell_ themselves that that are happy with their meaningful work when, in fact, they are faking it.
friendship is the middle of the pyramid not the top
Great lecture, but sadly, I disagree with his optimism on technology helping us out of the current malaise. I think our neuroses might spark if we apply technologies to solving them.
Interesting perspective. Care to explain why and how exactly neuroses could be triggered should technologies be employed to "fulfil our higher needs", as Alain puts it? Assuming technology in the next 100 years would be sophisticated enough to navigate the complexities of the human psyche and generate solutions for these higher concerns...although this prospect seems unlikely from my perspective.
20:55
Who dislikes this???! I’m curious
Who do you call? UA-cam, Reddit etc.
Rake tips up. Manhandling the moss on the grange while we wait on the caribou, All while defending her freedom. Gnome- gardin shell, what will she do :)
Pride and luxury. The rich stay rich and the poor stay poor. I once heard someone say. "the rich people give the poor people work, a job." this is how capitalism works in the U.S. Nothing Changes and work is meaningless.
I like Alain, but his trickle down economics have been widely debunked - super-rich luxury is killing the planet, and global tax avoidance is rampant. He's great on personal values, but maybe less so on wider economic and political theory.
he is right about consumer capitalism and how it operates. its not trickle-down economics
Please listen to the talk again, try to listen to bit that he says: "yes, luxury is the correct way" or the bit that he says :"Russeau was in fact right, luxury is bad".
If capitalism helps the average and the poor better, why Bernie's argument about the insulin off the border in Canada versus US and people's crying? Why Michael Moore's Sicko, and his ideas and arguments about Flint, ans also the gap we're observing today. Why the icecaps' melting and global warming and 3.5 billion hungry people in the new capitalist universe of ours? Why people struggled two times in a row, 2016 & 2020, for Bernie Sanders? Just to name a few!
The title of this doesn't really line up with his lecture.
Superfluous luxury and spending.. I agree.. If I want to spend luxuriously on heroine, let me.. Trainspotting is life..
Why are we ok to say that 'capitalism will get better, the problems are growing problems' and yet when it comes to (communism which was mostly corrupt socialism) 'it will be like Germany in the 1950's '?
Higher needs can be sought after and discovered, for free. Why pay for it if you know where to look? And seeking is part of the journey. I am not excited about billion dollar business corporations selling spirituality, or freedom, and people think they can just buy higher needs in a nicely packaged deal like headspace subscription, or only those with money can purchase freedom.
I always enjoy Alain’s talk, but buried under his humor and intelligence there are also some over-generalized messages that I can’t quite agree with.
Oh wait, isn’t that what church is?
Agree whole heartedly with your observation. I enjoy Alain’s talk and speeches and they make a lot of sense to me. But I felt the same way about this bit of corporations trying to fulfil our highest needs. Businesses cannot go there and it is a good thing. The process of self actualisation is a deeply personal one and the journey is what makes it worthwhile. Although I can imagine a future in a hundred years where neuroscience has advanced enough to give us customised experiences based on a very deeply intimate assessment of our personalities, it is not something I look forward to. It’s the stuff of dystopian nightmares as far as I am concerned.
The problem is that the generalist has become a specialist of the general in this environment of specialists. Philosophy is dying. What will be left is material conditions disguised as free will.
?yhw
Help me today
3:36 so, a what about a sex worker? Reckon the majority of them feel they have a meaningful job?
I love this guy and his stories, a great storyteller. BUT. There comes always the BUT. I´ve been wanting to attend the school of life courses but a lot of courses require an insane fee. Do poor people have no right to become emotionally intelligent? What about people who want to educate themselves but have no financial means at the moment, such as students? I understand they are not a charity, but I cannot help but to think this is a bit hypocritical.
Watch the videos for free
Hmmmmmm i Will no more be ungry at capitalism😁🤓.good to know that there is a LOT to learn😬
Saying that capitalism is good for poor people is easy to assume when you're born in wealth. I love Alain de Botton but I can't agree with capitalism being the savior by monetizing our higher psychological needs.
Fascinating talk. However, I can't help but surmise this is essentially a "feel good" talk that prolongs the life of the unhealthy modern capitalism. Baptising capitalism if you like
How is capitalism good for the poor? It seemed he jumped right to that conclusion. Capitalism is great for the rich and those well off, but seriously, an essential aspect of capitalism is the highest yield for the lowest cost, i.e., low wages. Unchecked grow, which forces the cost of basic needs above the reach of lower income people...just to name a few of its problems.
Lege woorden? Weg ermee!
Gibberish
But isn't better for everybody to have equal benefits rather than have an unequal shares? Capitalism helps the poor but the rich get richer. I think Socialism (the love for it's own country's people) fits better for a society for it's to have meaningful work . You work for the benefits of the society/country.
just my quick thought reading through. i agree with your thought. but also imo capitalism provide equal benefits on the availability of the opportunity for everyone. which said the "realize" benefits / share will be given to those who do the job well enough, it is proportional to the amount of effort given, it incentivize progress which in the end provide benefits for everyone as well. altho the richer will indeed get richer , but by doing so they will already be providing the benefits directly through job creation, tax that will trickle down to the benefits poor as well. (but indeed, no doubt there are bad people who avoid taxes and try to find lee way to exploit the worker etc) but generally it a positive-sum game.
@@octoniousen capitalism provide equal benefits on the availability of the oppurtunity to everyone who are able to work. What about those who can't? Like people who have problem mentally, physically, they need income too. We want meaningful work so socialism fits better if it's practiced the right way.
I don't think there's anything wrong with the rich getting richer. There's always a small group of exceptional people who thrive to the top, and we certainly don't want to suppress them for the sake of equality, which can't happen anyway because people can't be equal on all dimensions. I and many people I know ran away from countries where they doctrine the idea of socialism. Many appreciate to live in a capitalist country where we feel only the sky is the limit, and we thrive. Maybe there will be an effective implementation of socialism someday, but so far, I have seen a lot more justice in capitalism. Check out Jordan Peterson about the 1%.
@@nikylenguyen5950 Capitalism is only for the existence of the few. Not inclusive. Always the one who has lots of money get better treatment. Where's the humanity in it? It's better to be looked up by society with the one you have done good not with how much money you make. Some capitalist made successful business out of thin air means zero in capital. Which always and will always huge amount of people get affected by inflations.
Most of my German family were in East Germany when the Wall went up. They nearly cried when they saw oranges on rare visits to my grandparents in West Berlin. I saw it myself when I attended my German granddad's funeral in 1987. Very restricted lives. And there was no equality. If you did not toe the party line, you didn't study, you didn't get the job you wanted. And for most people, the waiting list for, say, a car was counted in years. Generally a decade for a car. And if you wanted a replacement tyre, you could wait 5 years. The only way that socialism gave meaning to their lives was that they were nearly all in the same boat. Equal misery for all. Hooray! However, if you were higher up in the party, then you got some nice perks. Remember Animal Farm: all animals are equal, but some are more equal than others. There were richer people under socialism, too.