Why Women Pull Away When You’re Too Nice | Nice Guys Get Punished

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  • Опубліковано 21 вер 2023
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    Women aren’t attracted to nice guys and nice guy behavior. In the realm of attraction, however, the opposite of being nice isn’t being mean; the opposite of nice is indifference. You must be indifferent to women. No matter what they do. No matter what they say. No matter whether they see you or not. A woman’s presence can no longer affect you.
    This is a respect issue and you have to have the strength to pull back to get her to respect you.
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 107

  • @wellingtonrodrigues7654
    @wellingtonrodrigues7654 10 місяців тому +104

    If her life is a mess she will be addicted to chaos and drama

    • @IntegraDIY
      @IntegraDIY 10 місяців тому +22

      Most women are addicted to drama chaos.

    • @afonsodeportugal
      @afonsodeportugal 10 місяців тому +16

      @@IntegraDIY Most? Not really... only 99%!

    • @user-kt6bk9cb8w
      @user-kt6bk9cb8w 10 місяців тому +1

      @@afonsodeportugalhey what should I do because I gave my phone number to my girlfriend and my girlfriend has not texted me back yet

    • @VoiceOfThe
      @VoiceOfThe 10 місяців тому +7

      Even the sane ‘good women’ manufacture drama and play up when they’re bored (women get bored easily) to enable them to ‘feel’ something. She will also do it if she senses weakness in you.
      Basically women are a pain in the arse at times. As men we’re happy to just go along with our routines, we don’t need these emotional spikes to our days. It also gets tiresome having to entertain her the whole time so she doesn’t get bored / thinks you don’t care about her. As a man you can never relax when you’re in a LTR with a woman, else she starts thinking can I do better.

    • @-whackd
      @-whackd 10 місяців тому +2

      What if ive been nice for the past 4 weeks. What should I do?

  • @oscargonza2748
    @oscargonza2748 10 місяців тому +50

    Just be selfish put yourself first and don't care if she gets offended, plain and simple

    • @Anthony-wm5of
      @Anthony-wm5of 10 місяців тому +8

      Yup. I just stopped carrying about women ful stop. Even unsubscribed from all this manosphere stuff.💯

  • @tesfitmengs5550
    @tesfitmengs5550 10 місяців тому +26

    She pulled away from me I pulled away from her no questions no discussion, it’s been 5 months, and I think is going to be forever !

    • @Blackmass92860
      @Blackmass92860 4 місяці тому +1

      Talking for one week suddenly pulled away, no question asked
      3 days no contact, I wonder if she will contact

    • @user-tj8kf7nv9w
      @user-tj8kf7nv9w 4 місяці тому

      ​@@Blackmass92860nope
      She won't ever contact you again

  • @nazzhk6268
    @nazzhk6268 10 місяців тому +67

    I lost the love of my life because I was too nice and too responsive, helped her with everything and made her the center of my world, I knew what I was doing was wrong I just couldn't help it, I thought she was different, but I learned the hard way, they are all the same.

    • @MrKyleb21
      @MrKyleb21 10 місяців тому +13

      “A” love of your life

    • @kennedyagyekum3114
      @kennedyagyekum3114 10 місяців тому +9

      This is exactly me! The same happened to me…, I knew it was wrong but…., until I learned the hard way!

    • @jacekbil
      @jacekbil 9 місяців тому +2

      Take care mate I know what u are getting through, we all been there. Focus on ir mates, gym, work, money and health, the more time u spend with masculine energy and other maales the better u feel and ver 6 montchs u will be dofferent person, i promise u! And remeber no matter what ur parents are proud, mom loves u, dog loves u and u are important for so many ppl!!!

    • @nazzhk6268
      @nazzhk6268 9 місяців тому

      @@jacekbil thank you

    • @rally_chronicles
      @rally_chronicles 6 місяців тому

      ​@nazzhk6268 how are you feeling now, friend?

  • @THEMAN-ru8ek
    @THEMAN-ru8ek 10 місяців тому +25

    "I would say.... LESS IS ALWAYS MORE WITH THESE WOMAN!!!!"
    Period!!!

  • @Flu_Tang_Clan
    @Flu_Tang_Clan 10 місяців тому +14

    Listen up Gentlemen. There are no exceptions. Stick to the rules, focus on your mission, and you'll be surprised by the results.

  • @Mike_Cosentino
    @Mike_Cosentino 10 місяців тому +47

    This is so spot-on. Come from a broken home, divorced family, estranged relatives, stress, trauma, etc. I’ve been very understanding of her situation, I’ve answered her calls-every time-b!thing about her family, work, etc. But the moment that I needed someone to talk to for five min, she was not available. The double-standard is disgusting. I’d been so selfless with multiple women. But you’re right, nice guys finish last. Best to do is not get caught up in their tangled web and focus on yourself and let them meet you halfway as opposed to doing 90-100% of the work.

    • @jhptsdx6275
      @jhptsdx6275 10 місяців тому +3

      Well said brother, at least you have the introspection to have realised
      Hope it’s not the case anymore for you!

    • @LITTLEDANCERSADHU993
      @LITTLEDANCERSADHU993 10 місяців тому +1

      Bang on 46 here,got to keep a close eye on our behaviour, i studied under Eban Pagan, spent 2 years rewiring my brain.

  • @brown_recidivist
    @brown_recidivist 10 місяців тому +16

    Women know when you pull away. So they come back being extra nice that's when you have to keep ignoring them or move on to someone else lol

  • @theencourager2686
    @theencourager2686 10 місяців тому +8

    Typically Spiritually Awakened men and women are not toxic, codependent, or karmic. But living together individually. Interesting subject

  • @randysetterberg4672
    @randysetterberg4672 10 місяців тому +21

    I gotta tell you, Chris: this "mission focused" life is one hell of a perpetual lonely ride!!

    • @guerin545
      @guerin545 10 місяців тому +6

      mission focused doesn't mean cutting women out of your life, it just means not making them a priority. use your brain

    • @randysetterberg4672
      @randysetterberg4672 10 місяців тому +1

      @@guerin545 thanks for the advice

    • @moopmoop345
      @moopmoop345 10 місяців тому

      Only if you are too mission focused cutting out family and friends. I think he's refering more to having a goal in life not being a slob. You can have balance it doesn't have to be extremes

    • @guerin545
      @guerin545 10 місяців тому

      anytime man@@randysetterberg4672

  • @tonymontana6368
    @tonymontana6368 7 місяців тому +5

    The more you invest in women the less you get back 😂😂😂

  • @postotal6340
    @postotal6340 10 місяців тому +10

    It happened to me guys, she attracted to me when i was being cold to her, i slowly soft when i was with her until i was being so nice to her & she ended up left me in the dust.

    • @averagestudent4358
      @averagestudent4358 10 місяців тому +4

      Been there.

    • @benefactorean7150
      @benefactorean7150 5 місяців тому +1

      Been there too, things got messed up as soon as I moved in with her.

    • @lb2696
      @lb2696 3 місяці тому +1

      Just experienced that.

  • @Yosef_Maharat
    @Yosef_Maharat 10 місяців тому +22

    I'm just apathetic to women and to LIFE 🤣🤣🤣.

    • @brownwallet942
      @brownwallet942 10 місяців тому +2

      As an employer you're the type of person I want in my company. Just happy to work

    • @Mike_Cosentino
      @Mike_Cosentino 10 місяців тому

      That’s funny and amazing because the moment I focus on ME for a change instead of women, I tend to have more ladies seeking me out and what not. Showing you don’t care and that you’re not an emotional, needy little boy works wonders. Let them come to you and then meet them back half way if you feelin it

    • @brownwallet942
      @brownwallet942 10 місяців тому

      @@Mike_Cosentino I don't believe in the idea of "letting them come to you". Girls are seeking you out, really? In what way? And meeting them back halfway, what is that? You mean to say these girls are making the rules and if it seems agreeable to you, you'll sign up for it? 😂

    • @urbanproductions4852
      @urbanproductions4852 10 місяців тому

      a few weeks ago I got so pissed at the way every woman is...I said fuck it I'm not going to give a fuck about them anymore and I'm going to start treating each one of them like shit, funnily enough a week later had 3 wanting to meet up.@@Mike_Cosentino

  • @jacobs3031
    @jacobs3031 9 місяців тому +4

    Iv experienced this throughout my younger life I'm 30 now couldn't care less it doesn't even bother me. The chase and appeal of women doesn't even interest me.

  • @FANNYclNADYN
    @FANNYclNADYN 10 місяців тому +7

    Been independent before, only made my wife to think that I could handle life all alone and I had no need of my family

  • @simonthepukkapieman1387
    @simonthepukkapieman1387 10 місяців тому +8

    Thanks Chris, I learnt two more words today, sycophantic and when looking that up obsequious.

  • @flawless1979
    @flawless1979 10 місяців тому +10

    Great video. But prefer the color versions.

  • @DavyDeloom
    @DavyDeloom 10 місяців тому +2

    Chris, can you make a video about toxic women/toxic relationships?

  • @javisartdesign
    @javisartdesign 10 місяців тому +4

    Great advice, that really the truth. Thanks for letting us know how to become a man

  • @CogitoVibe
    @CogitoVibe 10 місяців тому +15

    Thanks!

    • @CogitoVibe
      @CogitoVibe 10 місяців тому +4

      Your UA-cam video saves my dating life . Thankful to find you

    • @realitytruth5175
      @realitytruth5175 10 місяців тому

      ​@@CogitoVibeyou read his book?

    • @CogitoVibe
      @CogitoVibe 10 місяців тому

      @@realitytruth5175 yes

    • @jhptsdx6275
      @jhptsdx6275 10 місяців тому

      What’s the book like overall?

  • @radfoo72
    @radfoo72 10 місяців тому +8

    Saw you on that CEO podcast.
    Great work.

    • @guerin545
      @guerin545 10 місяців тому

      which podcast?

    • @radfoo72
      @radfoo72 10 місяців тому +1

      @@guerin545
      The Diary Of A CEO

  • @oblivionsweeper
    @oblivionsweeper 10 місяців тому +4

    This is kind of sad many centuries ago a guy thats genuinely a good guy have every women swooning over him to get his attention now modern society, good guys/nice guys are frowned upon. Its ok to be nice or good if thats genuinely who you are but always have a backbone, don't be afraid to speak your mind & more importantly don't be afraid to walk away. If the woman pull away move on to the next🤔.

    • @moopmoop345
      @moopmoop345 10 місяців тому +4

      I think you really missed the point. Nice guys are not genuine, he isn't saying go and cheat behind her back he's saying remain your own person and have your own life. You can still be nice and loving.

    • @oblivionsweeper
      @oblivionsweeper 10 місяців тому +2

      @@moopmoop345 This might be shocking but they are real genuine nice guys do exist but very few though, I agree that most men these days pawned themselves as nice guys because they are not truly honest with themselves and don't go for what they want, I didn't say cheat behind their back, I'm saying if a women pulls away from you means you shouldn't even force the issue, just move on and find a woman that wants to be around you. You shouldn't stay with a woman that can step out on you at any time period. They are men nowadays that wised up and live their own life with their purpose and girls still walk away from them. I got the point many years ago I just see how relationships & marriages two generations from now will be a huge shit show, we live in a modern world where humanity does not know what real love is and will never ever experience it, but our grandparents and ancestors before them experience this. I'm sure someone that's a senior citizen told you he felt sorry for your generation many times because we will never feel joy or experience the real thing, we are just going to get that imitation/conditional affection, Tragic isn't it?

  • @miltonpowell9520
    @miltonpowell9520 10 місяців тому +6

    Facts 🔥🔥

  • @infinityGtd
    @infinityGtd 10 місяців тому +2

    Amazing video Chris black and white this time!

  • @MJ-oj2eq
    @MJ-oj2eq 10 місяців тому +9

    Am thinking the best answer is to far from women , because women are very complicated

  • @denisa.4341
    @denisa.4341 10 місяців тому +1

    You are 100 percent right. I was nice and care i was kick out. I become not care and bad boy they are chasing 😤

    • @dingdong6005
      @dingdong6005 2 місяці тому

      You still a bad boy or what bro ???

  • @jossell911
    @jossell911 9 місяців тому +2

    Facts!!

  • @silvermine2033
    @silvermine2033 10 місяців тому +2

    A comment to boost the algorithm!

  • @nicholashousmans97
    @nicholashousmans97 10 місяців тому +1

    Green Day wrote a song about Nice Guys.

  • @thesiouxside1467
    @thesiouxside1467 10 місяців тому

    Gold

  • @user-kt6bk9cb8w
    @user-kt6bk9cb8w 10 місяців тому +5

    Hi Chris what should I do because I gave my girlfriend my phone number but my girlfriend has not texted me yet

    • @user-kt6bk9cb8w
      @user-kt6bk9cb8w 10 місяців тому +2

      @@IntegraDIYbecause I don’t have her number I gave her mine

    • @realitytruth5175
      @realitytruth5175 10 місяців тому +3

      Your gf don't have your number?

    • @user-kt6bk9cb8w
      @user-kt6bk9cb8w 10 місяців тому

      @@realitytruth5175 yes she does

    • @DigvijaySingh-by9md
      @DigvijaySingh-by9md 10 місяців тому +6

      How is she your girlfriend if you don't have her any contact lol. If you know each other IRL and meet often then that's different case.

    • @user-kt6bk9cb8w
      @user-kt6bk9cb8w 10 місяців тому

      @@DigvijaySingh-by9md I gave my girlfriend my phone number but she has not texted me yet so what should I do

  • @brcage
    @brcage 10 місяців тому +4

    So you shouldnt talk to your woman when she needs someone to talk to?

    • @chidiebereokeke3946
      @chidiebereokeke3946 10 місяців тому +2

      You should talk to her but the key is to find a balance.

    • @oscargonza2748
      @oscargonza2748 10 місяців тому +2

      If she has issues to talk to you about, just listen to her but don't become her emotional tampon and try to fix her issues, she will eventually deal with them., your duty is to be her rock for her to stand steady in the storm

    • @R_akehell
      @R_akehell 10 місяців тому

      @@oscargonza2748 fucc her let her find her solid rock, ain't nobody got time for that

    • @Flu_Tang_Clan
      @Flu_Tang_Clan 10 місяців тому

      Balance is key. You're not her mother, girlfriend, or sister - remember that.

  • @-whackd
    @-whackd 10 місяців тому +3

    What should I do. Ive been really nice to my gf for the last few weeks. How do you correct it

    • @oscargonza2748
      @oscargonza2748 10 місяців тому

      Follow Chris advice and put it into practice, bruh

    • @FANNYclNADYN
      @FANNYclNADYN 10 місяців тому +1

      Sometimes even 10 minutes pull backs from a man will do the trick, there is no need to be a super asshole all the time

    • @realitytruth5175
      @realitytruth5175 10 місяців тому

      Read his book

    • @brownwallet942
      @brownwallet942 10 місяців тому

      What do you mean by nice lol. What nice things have u been doing

    • @AR-xl6ym
      @AR-xl6ym 10 місяців тому +2

      Look, you're allowed to be nice and kind to the woman you're dating. It's about being indifferent.

  • @apeshitphilosophy5221
    @apeshitphilosophy5221 Місяць тому +1

    Too much testing is a bad sign. A little testing at the start is ok if she’s giving you gives as many IOI’s (signs of interest) but it seems your content is catered towards low interest women or narcissistic women that are looking for supply

  • @frankiemonato583
    @frankiemonato583 10 місяців тому +1

    1st