Please don’t ever stop posting you are changing the world one video at a time. My moms a therapist and after showing her your videos I was able to help her better help her clients so thank you for helping teach the facts and not outdated harmful terminology❤️ love you and all your system does for the world!
When I had a flashback for the first time in front of my current boyfriend, he was so sweet. He asked if he could hold my hand and gave squeezes, then he put his bass in my lap. He was holding me on the ground from behind, my body on his chest, and told me “we’re going to learn how to play ‘you are my sunshine’ okay, baby? Because I always think of you when I hear it.” My hands were pretty limp and at first the idea made me anxious because I was thinking there’s no way I could move and it would just be embarrassing, but he held my hands up with his hands and moved my fingers, slowly drawing me out of the flashback bit by bit(: edit: someone brought me back to this comment a year later… our wedding is in 5 months!!!(: we both play music together.
One thing that wasn't mentioned was that if a flashback comes up during "bed stuff" they may need to be covered up by something. Just being naked can be triggering with that type of trauma. Sorry if I'm being vague trying not to trigger myself or others here
@Jaxson Lastname - don’t apologize. There’s no need to disclose or say anything you aren’t comfortable with. There is nothing wrong with being vague about things like this, but thank you for telling us that information I’m sure that it can help someone.
I was at work, the other day, when I had a flashback. It was not a "complete" flashback for I only had the physical sensations. Not the noise, neither the sights nor the emotions. Only the physical feelings. All my coworkers looked at me like I was some sort of weirdo... A couple of minutes in, one of these coworkers understood what was happening and helped me grounding, and getting out of my flashback, slowly... When I asked him how he recognized I was having a flashback, he replied "Takes one to know one", and I NEVER would have guessed this man would have flashbacks... Never underestimate the amount of people you'd be able to help remembering what's said in here, at you may come across someone in need when you least expect it ! Stay safe everybody, and long live Seraphina !
Honestly hearing Kya say all these affirming things that i am safe and that everythings alright, just full on made me sob, i really needed to hear that. Thank you guys so much for every video you've ever made ❤️
Every now and then I do this 45 min yoga flow that’s geared toward PTSD and there’s a part where you sort of hug your knees and whisper “I can,” and, “I am safe,” to yourself and it’s pretty intense ngl
This is just a really good video! This also goes even for people who aren’t in a system. Trauma is REALLY difficult and I wish more people knew how to help us and that it’s really just asking mostly. Thank you for this video dissociaDID
Wow. The bit about finding other people's trauma traumatizing was very validating. I didn't realize that was a genuine thing that other people experienced. Thank you.
Tw: use of terms regarding mental health Secondary trauma is even a common thing for mental health workers. Especially when they are working intensely with a patient. I personally never experienced this by a patient of mine, but got it based on issues that my partner was struggling with. If it happens close to you and repeatedly, it could rewire your way of thinking and reacting. It can even develop in the "genuine PTSD" (for lack of better words) if repeated or combined with personal experiences.
I know for me as a singular personality, I have purely emotional flashbacks and it tends to help me to just be held and let me go through the emotions of my flashbacks instead of being soothed. For me it's like draining the poison from the wound.
I relate to this. I hadn't really thought about it that way before. But sometimes people try to make it better somehow when I just need to be held and to be able to cry through it.
I'm the opposite. I can't be touched when I'm agitated. I feel like I'm going to explode from the inside out & if anyone touches me I will (not violently, but definitely quickly) shrug them off me. Even someone I love & trust wholeheartedly like my Mum.
I always get a bit frustrated when Kya feels the need to apologise after losing focus or trailing off or other 'normal' things that happen to all of us that deal with dissociative afflictions. There is nothing to apologise for! Quite the contrary, honestly, I think it is a helpful glimpse into what you are trying to talk about. I greatly appreciate you being brave enough to share those vulnerabilities. I wish you love and luck in your continuing journey and I want to thank you for sharing it, as well as helping others to understand the roles they may play in their loved ones' lives that also deal with these sorts of afflictions. Thank you.
I’m so happy your kitty is in your life. I think she genuinely and truly cares for you and wants to help you on your healing journey. It’s so obvious to me how much she loves you and how much you love her. Long live Seraphina
Can I just say a huge thank you? I have a PTSD diagnosis and my family rarely knows what to do with me when I’m having an “episode” as they call it. This video not only helped me feel less alone but also gives me something to show close friends/family for future reference. I’m really bad at verbalizing things and have learned to cope completely alone. Thank you for everything y’all do. It’s not in vain.
Seraphina’s purring is such a soothing sound for me. I always feel so peaceful when I hear it come through in the video. I can’t wait to have another cat of my own one day.
i'm glad you were in a safe environment during those several minutes - and it is completely up to you if you wanna share that content. i hope all of the system (also, quick hello to sally!) is doing okay and that what y'all have been going through lately isn't taking too heavy a toll on you. i'm so glad you are posting when you can - it's helped me with my own shit as well as helping me communicate to and with my friends who have had traumatic experiences. thank you, and i'm happy you're here. c:
I have CPTSD and I really appreciate your videos, they help me a lot in understanding my own trauma and the effects trauma can have for others, not just me. I tend to have a lot of emotional flashbacks with just like...little sparks I guess...of a particular memory. It's hardly ever the full memory, it’ll spark and I'll start to remember something, feel like I'm no longer in the place I actually am and then it feels like my brain panics and does a little reboot. I don't know if that's normal, but anyway, the emotional side of it tends to stay with me for a while and I personally would really appreciate any advice or knowledge you could give on helping yourself out of that. 💜💜
I know how you feel mine are exactly like that as well. I haven’t had them in awhile or often enough but flashbacks for myself are centered through a lot of emotions and glimpses of the trauma memory but usually ends pretty quickly.
Thanks for mentioning how it can sometimes be traumatizing to just hear about traumatic events. I’m admittedly a very sensitive person when it comes to other peoples problems and living in America has made loud bangs a large trigger for me. I’ve never personally been hurt by *boom sticks* but hearing about it constantly in the news and hearing them outside my apartment has somehow managed to traumatize me greatly 🙃
I remember starting to watch you guys when I was in secondary school and now to the point of leaving college it’s insane to see how much you guys have grown and taught me I feel so proud love you guys stay safe ❤️
Hearing how some people used positive triggers in such a cruel manner to take advantage of you was so infuriating 😡 you're so incredibly strong survivors.
As someone who was very recently diagnosed with DID (a week ago) I'm so glad I found your channel when I did a few years back because it's been so informative and seeing how strong you've been over the years and how you handle everything with such respect has really helped me just come to terms with this diagnosis
As someone with PTSD who works professionally with survivors of trauma, this video was so incredibly powerful and helpful. Thank you for all the important work you do ❤️
This might be a valuable comment but some peoples flashbacks are not always obvious! Our system is very covert and our flashbacks can often be very hard to detect by an outsider. We just freeze and stop interacting, this doesent mean we arent suffering! This is why talking to systems and those with ptsd is so important to learn their specific warning signs
Thank you for this, I struggle helping people out of panic attacks let alone flashbacks. Hope your doing okay thank you for educating and sharing light on such amazing mental illnesses and disorders that aren’t spoken about enough.
Thank you for emphasizing that it doesn't work for everybody, and that they have to check with the person having the flashback whether they could touch them or not. Sometimes people just jump in and try to "help" when all they do is make things worse. And I love the hair color so much..
Great video as always! Thank you for making such amazing and interesting content! None around me has DID but a lot of my friends (and me) have trauma so your videos really help us! Could you share some discreet grounding techniques? I may have to go regularly to a really triggering place at school next academic year and I'd like to have something to ground me without other people noticing it (people my age can be really awful to people who are having flashbacks). I wish you an amazing day and a wonderful life, You are worthy of love, kindness and respect, Lots of love from France, A tiny gremlin
Thank you very much for bringing the "trauma caused by others trauma" topic at the end... I myself went through second hand trauma and people often look at it like it's not a serious thing or as if it's any less valid than 1st hand trauma. So... Thanks ❤️
I am not diagnosed with any mental health issue, but I have found your grounding techniques very helpful in extreme anxiety triggering situations where i would have spiraled out of control before. Thank you so much for that.
I know this is only partially related to the video, but Seraphina inspired me to share a little about my cat! I hope it makes you smile. She was rescued as a kitten and has never been trained as an ESA, but she responds immediately to emotional distress. (TW- discussion of panic attacks) About a month ago, I was super close to a panic attack and she immediately woke up, came over to me and gently bit my hand to ground me. She rarely ever bites, and the way she did this was very careful and deliberate as to not hurt me, but to draw my attention. She did this until my breathing slowed, then she went around beside me and purred directly into my ear. She sat with me, making eye contact and kneading my arm until I was able to move, then when I sat down, she moved to my lap and fell asleep. This all helped me to avoid a full-blown panic attack, and I am so grateful. If ever anyone breathes too fast, or seems upset, she immediately picks up on it and gets up ready to help, until she knows they're ok. Her name is Gizmo and I think she's 3 now? I also have another cat called Luna, but she doesn't have the same empathetic intuition (love her to bits though). I feel so lucky that Gizmo is a part of our family, and am so overwhelmed by how supportive she has been.
I really loved the video. You teach a lot to people like me, who don't experience stuff like that. For me it's wonderful to know how to deal with situations ❤️
How about "I know you are feeling scared right now, but it's OK. I'm with you, I'm here and it's going to be over soon. I know it feels horrible and it was your reality, but it's a memory now, you're safe, you're in such and such a location, I'm with you and it's going to be finished soon. You are doing so well "
This video was obscenely validating. Hearing you all talk about it, and knowing I am not alone helps. I think Seraphina is amazing and helped ground everyone through this difficult topic. Thank you all for being so brave and trying so hard to keep us all safe. Keep doing what you're doing, we are here to support you all. 💜
You do amazing work educating the general public!! Im curious what it is like for the system while you edit videos, seeing all this back cant be easy at times.
This was a really great and informative video! I have severe anxiety and sometimes it's really hard to pull myself out of an anxiety attack, and my friends and family use some of these tactics to calm me. People are so different that it can be hard to determine what you can do for them should they have a flashback or need grounding, so thank you for making this guys! Also I just wanted to say how much of a noticeable difference Seraphina has made on you! I'm really happy that you've found a kind of support in her, and she seems really in tune with you and your feelings so that she can help to ground you. She's also adorable which is a massive bonus! I love the hair as well, and it was fun to see one of Kyle's old hats back on you! Much love to all of you!
I don't have the courage for that what you do. We can't handle the hate comming from the bad people through the internet. Your work is so important for us all with DID and the people that are in the supporter nets. Thank you so much. ❤
I watch a lot of emergency rescue/paramedic shows and they do exercises like the grounding techniques you mentioned to calm a patient down but also to judge their mental state. Engaging your brain by connecting what you see around you to concepts and words is so important after a traumatic or shocking event.
This is incredibly helpful for my personal experience with a close one. i've witnessed a flashback from them and it was the very first time i'd seen it happen, which really left me feeling helpless because they were completely dissociated from where they actually were and it sounded like they couldn't hear me. They were saying things that ended up making me guess what they were going through because they had told me about their trauma previously. It's extremely good to know these techniques now so i can talk about it to them and be of better help in the future, thank you so much for this
I'm so happy the system is getting the funding you all need! I am not able to donate but I will happily watch the ads 😊 Thank you for posting this video, I love the educational uploads ♥️
(In my experience) Consent and trust is so key. During events of intense emotional overwhelm, overestimated (for ADHD and spectrum folk) or even mild psychotic episodes, using frequent reassurance, physical touch, finding a calm safe space, and speaking softly and gently has really helped. I appreciate a very specific video regarding how to help someone during an episode or flashblack. Thank you.
Hello!!! I am glad that you feeling comfortable posting more videos! And, I'm glad that you are making this video because i never know how to help during a flashback.
Thank you so much for this resource. I'm going to hopefully show this to my friends and parents so they may be able to help in the future. We're all so grateful for the information you provide.
And if you're willing, I would really appreciate a vid on how to cope with having a flashback. Of course, please don't if it would be triggering for you!
That was so enlightening I really appreciate your efforts to do this videos. You don't need to apologize either, you constantly say "sorry" after disassociate, that's nothing to apologize for. Love all you guys, Thank u sm for everything
Absolutely GREAT video!! We find that the thing that helps us is repeating, "You are so strong and so sharp, you can escape this. If this happens to you, you can use your techniques because you're so powerful and quick." Saying "you're safe" makes it worse for us. We also prefer to let other Alters in our system we're close with coach us through flashbacks and we'd rather be left alone by outsiders. So interesting how it differs so much across different systems. VERY helpful video!!
I didn’t expect myself to have such a reaction to the video but just thinking about my experiences with flashbacks and hearing kya say those affirming things made me really emotional. i’m glad there’s people on youtube so committed to bringing awareness to such topics
I never even registered in my mind that this could be something people have, I'm going to check with my therapist over this because I might know someone with this
Having to deal with panic attacks and very slight dissacociation, I feel helps me understand this pretty well. Flashbacks are a whole new level of course, but the ground rules are always the same: ask, don't do anything that could scare/stress the person in that moment, be gentle, use words and slight touch if the person allows it.
I know this is a serious topic but Seraphina being a tiny chaos machine was everything 😂 seriously though thank you for discussing this. Massive appreciation for your system as always
That moment when you said. "other peoples trauma can be traumatizing to you" suddenly made sense.. the anger i can feel if people talk about certain topics seems a bit too much sometimes. almost as if iv been through it myself which iv not thankfully.
I work in healthcare in diagnostic imagine and on occasion have people experience panic attacks. We only know medical information that is pertinent to the exam, so we usually dont know what their mental health struggles are or if they have dementia, etc. Would you approach these types of breakdowns similarly? I wish we learned more about patient care and mental health in general, so I'm very grateful to have found your channel! You're helping so many people.
I found this video really helpful. I do not have DID, however I do have BPD and PTSD with dissociative episodes. Flashbacks are a daily occurrence for me.. I will be sharing this video with my loved ones who struggle to help me when I’m at my worst. For me, touching is strictly prohibited during a flashback, however, my husband has figured out that our lil dog (Jack Russell) will help me come back. He simply puts him on my lap, while reminding me to give him pets and scratches. Our lil dog is the very bestest good boi. He is not a trained service dog, but he just seems to know what to do to help me.
I'm very much someone who tries to be alone during flashbacks, and can even repress them to an extent or have almost like a delayed reaction if I am around people when the thought or image or feeling first appears (it's hard to say how much of this is repression and how much is masking; I suspect it's a combination. like when you want to cry but hold in the tears until you're alone). I think repression is our brain's specialty. It varies between each time, of course, but we have found it helpful sometimes to pace and talk (can't usually say anything describing the memory itself - just too difficult - but can talk through what's happening in the present). Thank you for making this video. It's so hard when our memories attack us, and so easy to get frustrated at ourselves like 'I shouldn't be feeling this way' or whatever. Being able to hear you talk about this so honestly, especially the reminders that different people respond to things differently and to respect people's boundaries, just helps so much.
Great video! I'm so happy that you have Seraphina! Every video that she is in it is easy to see that she is truly helpful for you and that she reacts to how you're doing. It is wonderful to hear her purrs and to see how you react to her! I used to have huge issues with food intolerances, before I really knew what triggered those. It would mean about every week a "session" in the bathroom with me having diarrhea and puking at the same time. I would sweat but shiver from cold, my skin would be itchy all over.. My kitty at the time, Simba, was amazing. She would always come to me, whenever possible sit on my lap, otherwise just stay with me and purr. It could not have been pleasant for her with those smells, but she always stayed with me and I cannot express how much she helped me. I will always be grateful for my little lady who left me 5 years ago at the age of 17. She was my rock. It truly looks to me like Seraphina is to you what my Simba was to me and it is so beautiful to see ❤️
THANK YOU for making this, I find that a lot of people want to help and are happy to learn, it's just a matter of being comfortable telling someone about it. I can see this video being very helpful for people who do have flashbacks, but maybe don't have the words or aren't able to tell someone this information. I have CPTSD and I get emotional flashbacks that can be very intense, and having someone around that is informed on how to help is just amazing. I think you're just great ❤
Thank you for everything you do Dissociadid! I am eternally Grateful. I’m part of my system. We are House of Omega. It’s hard having flashbacks and the fact people don’t understand our conditions is even harder. I hope you win your court case, I donated because you’ve helped me through finding out I do have a dissociative disorder and no one needs to harm you. I had a nerve try to force one of my alters to integrate when I was hospitalized recently. I understand how hard it is. -AJL
I don't know who picked the hair color this time, but the way you matched it with your makeup and clothes is A.M.A.Z.I.N.G. I don't have the color coordination skills that you have. Thank you for this awesome video! You're really brave for being willing to go into difficult topics that even trigger yourself.
Thank you so much for this video I have recently been dating someone with DID and one of the alters sent me this video, I learned alot from this and I will definitely watch it multiple time as to help remember.
Do you have any tips for when you’re alone and having flashbacks? I thankfully don’t have flashbacks very often anymore but even when I had them daily I had no idea how to help myself out of it.
I had a flashback once at work, (a woman triggered me by accident , being horrible to her child). And to distract my brain I would tidy the shop. But my lovely friend helped calm me, just by being goofy and taking my mind off things. He has no idea how much o appreciated that x
Thank you so much for this video. I don't experience flashbacks myself, and I know these two don't compare in level of intensity but I do struggle with panic attacks and anxiety attacks and it's always nice to know ways to help myself recover, as im often alone during them. So far grounding techniques have helped, so it's nice to learn new ones. You're helping a lot of people with your content, I'm so glad you guys decided to return, and always happy to see a new upload.
Oh my God thank you ! I experience flashbacks quite frequently and my fiancé's been doing some of this stuff already, but you're helping me realize that there are some errors he/we still do, such as not asking before touching. I'll show this to him ! Thanks 😊
I don’t have DID but a lot of the info you gave would help my husband a lot in a moment I start to what I call spaze out. Not sure if it’s panic but the clawing and wanting out of my body part. Thanks for sharing.
I'm glad you guys are back and are doing okay after everything you went through, I am amazed and inspired how strong you are and how determined you stayed.I'm happy you're all safe. Take care
I have a friend who doesn't have trauma who told me awhile ago that she wouldn't know what to do and I tried my best to explain and included it's different with different people, but you explain it much better! I'll share this with her. Thank you for all your help! Y'all help me understand myself and help me understand what other people may be going through. You put in words what I can't figure out how to put into words myself. You are making such a big difference for the better
I find it so admirable that u make the time and effort to help ppl thru making these videos even though they can trigger u and cause distress, that's very brave
Thank you. My partner and I have been dealing with my ptsd for a little over a year and it’s a hard for me to verbalize what I need. Thank you for helping me get the conversation started
The videos where you guys keep the dissociating in makes me feel so validated it's crazy. Sad noone ever notices when I do start dissociating. Though maybe it's just so constant they think im just like that. Now that I think about it I think some of my friends have only seen me not dissociated a few times.😢
This is incredibly useful for me. I have been having flashback for some years now and people around me just don't know how to handle them. I will most definitely speak to then in the aperhand about how to help me specifically. The only thing it would work with me is the frase "it's just a flashback" because for me it's not "just". But I see how it's totally valid for any other person/s system/s to hear this and feel better. I have now realized it is traumatizing for other people to see me through a flashback, and I will take that into account a lot more now. Thank you all very much. I have been watching this channel for some years now (I think) and it has been most definitely very very useful. It is good to understand better and to get someone else to explain it to others and to me. That this community makes me feel validated and safe and a lot of time this will be my safe spot after a hard day. Thank you very much, I cannot express how much you have help me and in the past us (I used to be a system). And this, you most definitely helped a lot in our healing process. (I like to say our because I do miss Amanda and some other alters a lot). Hope you are better and better. It's so good to see how Seraphina helps you. We too have a cat which is now mine and she (The Duchess of Jade Soft Paws is her name) has helped us and me a lot. Thank you very much, you all have saved my life in some opportunities. Thank you. I have been in no position to help you economically on your case and I am so sorry I hope I could have been able. Maybe in the future I might help. Again thanks. Pd: one frase that has got us and me through out the years is "we always do the best we can (with the instruments we have on the moment)". But we always do the best we can. Lots of love everybody. 💚🐢
Thank you for this … I have had friends and girlfriends who have gone through flashbacks in the past. And I did not deal with it well cause I panicked and tried to sooth them in a way that would have soothed me in their situation. This was not what they needed. I’m afraid I caused more duress and although I don’t hold relations with these people anymore it is helpful to hear what to do if I’m ever in that situation again. So thank you for sharing :)
i always feel self conscious about the voice i have specifically for my cat but the fact you have one makes me feel really happy. Thank you for all the work you put into the videos on this channel and i'm glad you're cat is helping you out
I only recently realized that I have ptsd and that the emotional outbursts I get stuck in are flash backs.. it never even occurred to me that it was an option. But my revelation has made them worse. The mere mention of being restrained made me start sobbing. I've found that when this happens all I want is to be alone. That my sister is the only person who I trust near me when I'm feeling trapped. Otherwise looking at me, talking to me, trying to help in any way just makes it worse. These videos, your advice for ptsd, it's helped tremendously. I'm incredibly happy they're coming back and that you're making content again! And cats! My cat is probably the best way I'm able to ground myself.
Telling someone to just get over it is the most damaging thing to say to some one that has been abused in any type of way. As an adult survivor of child abused I know I’m no longer a victim but I still have to live with the memories and scars and any triggers that come along with it. I’m glad you’re back and I hope you all are doing great please keep making videos this is very important work you are doing for mental health 🫶🏻✌🏻😊
I love that you emphasize that everyone is different. Even the same person can have different experiences at different times. With C-PTSD I used to have really intense flashbacks. Sometimes being encouraged to cry it out/feel what I need to feel vs "calming down" would keep me from disassociating. Other times I would go into a full-on panic attack and need to be guided to breathe to ground.
We really appreciate you talking about this. A friend of ours was worried she wasn’t helping us correctly during our flashbacks. It turns out she was doing everything perfectly minus a few things. Thanks.
Thank you for bringing attention to emotional flashbacks; I've only in this past year been suddenly feeling old emotions, or seeing an image of where I was but remembering mentally what I was doing back then. The smallest things can set me off- the smell of gas suddenly caused my most severe out of nowhere and was my first flashback. I'm 22 and only now am having flashbacks. Just... thank you as always for all you do and for making a difference. You and your whole system are so appreciated and loved. ❤️
You are very strong for continuing to talk about helping ppl thru flashbacks even though it is triggering to you. You are helping so many ppl and we all love you and the system so much. I watched the new introducing alters pt 1 and 2 (think that's the title) videos and all I wanted to do was hug you ... I wish I could hug everyone in the system who wants/needs one .... you all are so strong and I'm so proud of all of you for making it through everything. And proud of alters who didn't quite make it, they were very strong and handled everything the best way they could....you all do and you all are amazing.
This is such a good video! As someone with PTSD I’ve had family and past partners who would sometimes make it worse trying to help. Or just tell me to calm down and it would be so upsetting because I was trying to stay calm. And obviously in a flashback that can be very hard to do. Having someone tell you “hey it’s 2022, it’s august, you’re in __ place, you’re safe, etc” are all amazing tips for someone on the outside to help. I genuinely felt hopeless with trying to explain how to help without making it worse or sounding “crazy” or like a “basket case” as I’ve been called before. I think having a video like this out there is wonderful. I can show this to my partner or my dad for tips on how to help. You’re really doing “the lords work” as they say (not meant to be religious in any way. Just for the saying, I’m not religious) You’re doing so much good for the world- just in one video. Thank you for the content that you make. (Please remember to Always take care of yourself first and we’ll always be understanding when you need to take time away from the internet for yourself but your videos do make such a difference in the world. Please know that.) Know that you are soooo full of value and even without this platform you would still be inherently worthy, and full of value as a person/ system. But I just want you to know how much your videos are appreciated and how much of a difference that you make. There’s a channel here on UA-cam that does “butterfly effect” videos where they do research on the creator and how much of an impact they’ve made on the world. And how much good would be lost without them- It made me think about your videos. They have made such a huge huge impact in my life. Not only did I find your channel during a period of homelessness in my life(to not have to live with an ab*ser) but your videos gave me hope that I could end up living a normal and successful life even with mental health issues. I don’t have DID but I deal with dissociation (and didn’t know what it was called until finding your channel) and have ptsd and your content has always been a light in the dark on bad days and always given wonderful advice when you have it. (And you show your authenticity all the time because if you don’t know the answer to something you tell people/ or you do further research.) I know you didn’t make this channel for money (you made it to break stigmas about DID/other mental health issues and to better help people around you understand DID) but I do hope that you’re wildly successful with this channel and that you’re able to make a living from it. You really deserve all the positive vibes and success 💕I hope you and your whole system are doing well.
Please don’t ever stop posting you are changing the world one video at a time. My moms a therapist and after showing her your videos I was able to help her better help her clients so thank you for helping teach the facts and not outdated harmful terminology❤️ love you and all your system does for the world!
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When I had a flashback for the first time in front of my current boyfriend, he was so sweet. He asked if he could hold my hand and gave squeezes, then he put his bass in my lap. He was holding me on the ground from behind, my body on his chest, and told me “we’re going to learn how to play ‘you are my sunshine’ okay, baby? Because I always think of you when I hear it.” My hands were pretty limp and at first the idea made me anxious because I was thinking there’s no way I could move and it would just be embarrassing, but he held my hands up with his hands and moved my fingers, slowly drawing me out of the flashback bit by bit(:
edit: someone brought me back to this comment a year later… our wedding is in 5 months!!!(: we both play music together.
That’s so sweet omg. He’s such a keeper!!
What a lovely story!!!
HES A KEEPER!!!!
That's such a lovely story, definitely a keeper!!
@@sari9645 we are definitely getting married(:
One thing that wasn't mentioned was that if a flashback comes up during "bed stuff" they may need to be covered up by something. Just being naked can be triggering with that type of trauma.
Sorry if I'm being vague trying not to trigger myself or others here
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@Jaxson Lastname - don’t apologize. There’s no need to disclose or say anything you aren’t comfortable with. There is nothing wrong with being vague about things like this, but thank you for telling us that information I’m sure that it can help someone.
I was at work, the other day, when I had a flashback. It was not a "complete" flashback for I only had the physical sensations. Not the noise, neither the sights nor the emotions. Only the physical feelings. All my coworkers looked at me like I was some sort of weirdo... A couple of minutes in, one of these coworkers understood what was happening and helped me grounding, and getting out of my flashback, slowly... When I asked him how he recognized I was having a flashback, he replied "Takes one to know one", and I NEVER would have guessed this man would have flashbacks...
Never underestimate the amount of people you'd be able to help remembering what's said in here, at you may come across someone in need when you least expect it !
Stay safe everybody, and long live Seraphina !
I never even registered that this could be something I might need to help someone through one day! Thank you for informing me!
I agree this is such an useful information. Having at least some guidelines of what to do in situation like that is gold.
Honestly hearing Kya say all these affirming things that i am safe and that everythings alright, just full on made me sob, i really needed to hear that. Thank you guys so much for every video you've ever made ❤️
Every now and then I do this 45 min yoga flow that’s geared toward PTSD and there’s a part where you sort of hug your knees and whisper “I can,” and, “I am safe,” to yourself and it’s pretty intense ngl
@@crying2emoji5 Thanks for the idea!
Yeah me too I don't really know why but hearing that made me really sad :')
Sameee
This is just a really good video! This also goes even for people who aren’t in a system. Trauma is REALLY difficult and I wish more people knew how to help us and that it’s really just asking mostly. Thank you for this video dissociaDID
Wow. The bit about finding other people's trauma traumatizing was very validating. I didn't realize that was a genuine thing that other people experienced. Thank you.
It's called secondary trauma.
Tw: use of terms regarding mental health
Secondary trauma is even a common thing for mental health workers. Especially when they are working intensely with a patient.
I personally never experienced this by a patient of mine, but got it based on issues that my partner was struggling with. If it happens close to you and repeatedly, it could rewire your way of thinking and reacting. It can even develop in the "genuine PTSD" (for lack of better words) if repeated or combined with personal experiences.
@@irismols565 I'm learning so much lol
I know for me as a singular personality, I have purely emotional flashbacks and it tends to help me to just be held and let me go through the emotions of my flashbacks instead of being soothed. For me it's like draining the poison from the wound.
I relate to this. I hadn't really thought about it that way before. But sometimes people try to make it better somehow when I just need to be held and to be able to cry through it.
I'm the opposite. I can't be touched when I'm agitated. I feel like I'm going to explode from the inside out & if anyone touches me I will (not violently, but definitely quickly) shrug them off me. Even someone I love & trust wholeheartedly like my Mum.
I always get a bit frustrated when Kya feels the need to apologise after losing focus or trailing off or other 'normal' things that happen to all of us that deal with dissociative afflictions. There is nothing to apologise for! Quite the contrary, honestly, I think it is a helpful glimpse into what you are trying to talk about. I greatly appreciate you being brave enough to share those vulnerabilities.
I wish you love and luck in your continuing journey and I want to thank you for sharing it, as well as helping others to understand the roles they may play in their loved ones' lives that also deal with these sorts of afflictions. Thank you.
I’m so happy your kitty is in your life. I think she genuinely and truly cares for you and wants to help you on your healing journey. It’s so obvious to me how much she loves you and how much you love her. Long live Seraphina
Can I just say a huge thank you?
I have a PTSD diagnosis and my family rarely knows what to do with me when I’m having an “episode” as they call it.
This video not only helped me feel less alone but also gives me something to show close friends/family for future reference.
I’m really bad at verbalizing things and have learned to cope completely alone.
Thank you for everything y’all do. It’s not in vain.
💞
Seraphina’s purring is such a soothing sound for me. I always feel so peaceful when I hear it come through in the video.
I can’t wait to have another cat of my own one day.
Cat purring has actually been shown to relieve stress and anxiety~
@@saorise28 my cats purring definitely does that for me lol
YES!!!!!!!! We need more Seraphina videos!!
i'm glad you were in a safe environment during those several minutes - and it is completely up to you if you wanna share that content. i hope all of the system (also, quick hello to sally!) is doing okay and that what y'all have been going through lately isn't taking too heavy a toll on you. i'm so glad you are posting when you can - it's helped me with my own shit as well as helping me communicate to and with my friends who have had traumatic experiences. thank you, and i'm happy you're here. c:
I have CPTSD and I really appreciate your videos, they help me a lot in understanding my own trauma and the effects trauma can have for others, not just me. I tend to have a lot of emotional flashbacks with just like...little sparks I guess...of a particular memory. It's hardly ever the full memory, it’ll spark and I'll start to remember something, feel like I'm no longer in the place I actually am and then it feels like my brain panics and does a little reboot. I don't know if that's normal, but anyway, the emotional side of it tends to stay with me for a while and I personally would really appreciate any advice or knowledge you could give on helping yourself out of that. 💜💜
We can try ❤️ I'm sorry you experience this
@@DissociaDID thank you 💜💜
I know how you feel mine are exactly like that as well. I haven’t had them in awhile or often enough but flashbacks for myself are centered through a lot of emotions and glimpses of the trauma memory but usually ends pretty quickly.
Thanks for mentioning how it can sometimes be traumatizing to just hear about traumatic events. I’m admittedly a very sensitive person when it comes to other peoples problems and living in America has made loud bangs a large trigger for me. I’ve never personally been hurt by *boom sticks* but hearing about it constantly in the news and hearing them outside my apartment has somehow managed to traumatize me greatly 🙃
I also just learned how to make words bold 😅😅 that wasn’t the intention
I remember starting to watch you guys when I was in secondary school and now to the point of leaving college it’s insane to see how much you guys have grown and taught me I feel so proud love you guys stay safe ❤️
Hearing how some people used positive triggers in such a cruel manner to take advantage of you was so infuriating 😡 you're so incredibly strong survivors.
As someone who was very recently diagnosed with DID (a week ago) I'm so glad I found your channel when I did a few years back because it's been so informative and seeing how strong you've been over the years and how you handle everything with such respect has really helped me just come to terms with this diagnosis
You've got this! We see you and are here for u! -Ever system
Very awesome!! You all have got a life of so much joy ahead of you. Hang onto the other Alters on your team, if you can. Bless you all.
-Shao
Every video of yours is PRICELESS; please don't let anything or anyone stop you. Your openness and strenght really resonate with the public💕
So wonderful to hear that you all got to spend time with friends
As someone with PTSD who works professionally with survivors of trauma, this video was so incredibly powerful and helpful. Thank you for all the important work you do ❤️
you surely cant take all this serious . its a load of bull
This might be a valuable comment but some peoples flashbacks are not always obvious! Our system is very covert and our flashbacks can often be very hard to detect by an outsider. We just freeze and stop interacting, this doesent mean we arent suffering! This is why talking to systems and those with ptsd is so important to learn their specific warning signs
Absolutely! We mention that in the video too, for some people you might only notice dissociation or going quiet ❤️
@@DissociaDID Just got to that part! Thank you for all your educational content its amazing! You work so hard! 🥰
Thank you for watching it! ❤️❤️❤️
Had one just the other day around my significant other and I struggle to reach out for help when I am. I’m so happy that you posted this
I’m glad you’re back making content again. Thank you for being so brave, honest and raw. The world needs more people like you.
Thank you for this, I struggle helping people out of panic attacks let alone flashbacks. Hope your doing okay thank you for educating and sharing light on such amazing mental illnesses and disorders that aren’t spoken about enough.
Thank you for emphasizing that it doesn't work for everybody, and that they have to check with the person having the flashback whether they could touch them or not. Sometimes people just jump in and try to "help" when all they do is make things worse.
And I love the hair color so much..
Great video as always! Thank you for making such amazing and interesting content! None around me has DID but a lot of my friends (and me) have trauma so your videos really help us!
Could you share some discreet grounding techniques? I may have to go regularly to a really triggering place at school next academic year and I'd like to have something to ground me without other people noticing it (people my age can be really awful to people who are having flashbacks).
I wish you an amazing day and a wonderful life,
You are worthy of love, kindness and respect,
Lots of love from France,
A tiny gremlin
We have a video on grounding in the works, we've got you! ❤️
@@DissociaDID Ok thank you so much! ❤️❤️
Thank you very much for bringing the "trauma caused by others trauma" topic at the end... I myself went through second hand trauma and people often look at it like it's not a serious thing or as if it's any less valid than 1st hand trauma. So... Thanks ❤️
I am not diagnosed with any mental health issue, but I have found your grounding techniques very helpful in extreme anxiety triggering situations where i would have spiraled out of control before. Thank you so much for that.
thank you so much, this’ll help both me and my friends when any of us have a flashback ❤️ take care of yourself, i love you all
I know this is only partially related to the video, but Seraphina inspired me to share a little about my cat! I hope it makes you smile.
She was rescued as a kitten and has never been trained as an ESA, but she responds immediately to emotional distress.
(TW- discussion of panic attacks)
About a month ago, I was super close to a panic attack and she immediately woke up, came over to me and gently bit my hand to ground me. She rarely ever bites, and the way she did this was very careful and deliberate as to not hurt me, but to draw my attention. She did this until my breathing slowed, then she went around beside me and purred directly into my ear. She sat with me, making eye contact and kneading my arm until I was able to move, then when I sat down, she moved to my lap and fell asleep.
This all helped me to avoid a full-blown panic attack, and I am so grateful.
If ever anyone breathes too fast, or seems upset, she immediately picks up on it and gets up ready to help, until she knows they're ok.
Her name is Gizmo and I think she's 3 now? I also have another cat called Luna, but she doesn't have the same empathetic intuition (love her to bits though). I feel so lucky that Gizmo is a part of our family, and am so overwhelmed by how supportive she has been.
I really loved the video. You teach a lot to people like me, who don't experience stuff like that. For me it's wonderful to know how to deal with situations ❤️
I literally had a flashback the other day and a full blown panic attack! What a great video and perfect timing for me. Thank you. 😊
Wonderful to see you guys upload! Thank you so much for what you do.
How about "I know you are feeling scared right now, but it's OK. I'm with you, I'm here and it's going to be over soon. I know it feels horrible and it was your reality, but it's a memory now, you're safe, you're in such and such a location, I'm with you and it's going to be finished soon. You are doing so well "
That's perfect ❤️❤️
@@DissociaDID thanks. I typed whilst I was watching and you ended up covering most of what I said anyhow 😁
This video was obscenely validating. Hearing you all talk about it, and knowing I am not alone helps. I think Seraphina is amazing and helped ground everyone through this difficult topic. Thank you all for being so brave and trying so hard to keep us all safe. Keep doing what you're doing, we are here to support you all. 💜
"It's Kya" pause "I think"
DID mood
You do amazing work educating the general public!! Im curious what it is like for the system while you edit videos, seeing all this back cant be easy at times.
We filmed this in early june, we kept dissociating or getting upset trying to edit it so it took about a month to finish ❤️
@@DissociaDID amazing work, no matter how long it takes yall. So much respect for what yall do everyday!
This was a really great and informative video! I have severe anxiety and sometimes it's really hard to pull myself out of an anxiety attack, and my friends and family use some of these tactics to calm me. People are so different that it can be hard to determine what you can do for them should they have a flashback or need grounding, so thank you for making this guys!
Also I just wanted to say how much of a noticeable difference Seraphina has made on you! I'm really happy that you've found a kind of support in her, and she seems really in tune with you and your feelings so that she can help to ground you. She's also adorable which is a massive bonus! I love the hair as well, and it was fun to see one of Kyle's old hats back on you! Much love to all of you!
I don't have the courage for that what you do. We can't handle the hate comming from the bad people through the internet. Your work is so important for us all with DID and the people that are in the supporter nets. Thank you so much. ❤
I watch a lot of emergency rescue/paramedic shows and they do exercises like the grounding techniques you mentioned to calm a patient down but also to judge their mental state. Engaging your brain by connecting what you see around you to concepts and words is so important after a traumatic or shocking event.
This is incredibly helpful for my personal experience with a close one. i've witnessed a flashback from them and it was the very first time i'd seen it happen, which really left me feeling helpless because they were completely dissociated from where they actually were and it sounded like they couldn't hear me. They were saying things that ended up making me guess what they were going through because they had told me about their trauma previously. It's extremely good to know these techniques now so i can talk about it to them and be of better help in the future, thank you so much for this
I'm so happy the system is getting the funding you all need! I am not able to donate but I will happily watch the ads 😊
Thank you for posting this video, I love the educational uploads ♥️
Thank you so much!
(In my experience)
Consent and trust is so key.
During events of intense emotional overwhelm, overestimated (for ADHD and spectrum folk) or even mild psychotic episodes, using frequent reassurance, physical touch, finding a calm safe space, and speaking softly and gently has really helped.
I appreciate a very specific video regarding how to help someone during an episode or flashblack. Thank you.
Hello!!! I am glad that you feeling comfortable posting more videos! And, I'm glad that you are making this video because i never know how to help during a flashback.
Thank you so much for this resource. I'm going to hopefully show this to my friends and parents so they may be able to help in the future. We're all so grateful for the information you provide.
And if you're willing, I would really appreciate a vid on how to cope with having a flashback. Of course, please don't if it would be triggering for you!
That was so enlightening I really appreciate your efforts to do this videos. You don't need to apologize either, you constantly say "sorry" after disassociate, that's nothing to apologize for. Love all you guys, Thank u sm for everything
Absolutely GREAT video!! We find that the thing that helps us is repeating, "You are so strong and so sharp, you can escape this. If this happens to you, you can use your techniques because you're so powerful and quick." Saying "you're safe" makes it worse for us. We also prefer to let other Alters in our system we're close with coach us through flashbacks and we'd rather be left alone by outsiders. So interesting how it differs so much across different systems. VERY helpful video!!
I didn’t expect myself to have such a reaction to the video but just thinking about my experiences with flashbacks and hearing kya say those affirming things made me really emotional. i’m glad there’s people on youtube so committed to bringing awareness to such topics
I think most of what you said could also be really useful to help someone going through a panic-attack. Thank you for continuing to educate.❤️
I never even registered in my mind that this could be something people have, I'm going to check with my therapist over this because I might know someone with this
What tremendous strength to record and share this video. You did an amazing job, well done. Lots of love and comfort for you guys xx
"it is Kya... I think"
Ha wow that is relatable
You all make me so happy and make me feel so validated thank you
Having to deal with panic attacks and very slight dissacociation, I feel helps me understand this pretty well. Flashbacks are a whole new level of course, but the ground rules are always the same: ask, don't do anything that could scare/stress the person in that moment, be gentle, use words and slight touch if the person allows it.
I’m so excited for the new vid! i’ve missed y’all while you were gone!
So good to see you guys uploading videos again. Wishing everybody the best ❤️.
I know this is a serious topic but Seraphina being a tiny chaos machine was everything 😂 seriously though thank you for discussing this. Massive appreciation for your system as always
She could tell we were distressed ❤️
@@DissociaDID I hope you feel much better today. And if y’all are up to it yes we would like a video on coping with flashbacks
That moment when you said. "other peoples trauma can be traumatizing to you" suddenly made sense.. the anger i can feel if people talk about certain topics seems a bit too much sometimes. almost as if iv been through it myself which iv not thankfully.
I work in healthcare in diagnostic imagine and on occasion have people experience panic attacks. We only know medical information that is pertinent to the exam, so we usually dont know what their mental health struggles are or if they have dementia, etc. Would you approach these types of breakdowns similarly? I wish we learned more about patient care and mental health in general, so I'm very grateful to have found your channel! You're helping so many people.
This is so helpful. Thank you so much for this video and for your wonderful advice and your wonderfully calming tone of voice.
I found this video really helpful. I do not have DID, however I do have BPD and PTSD with dissociative episodes. Flashbacks are a daily occurrence for me.. I will be sharing this video with my loved ones who struggle to help me when I’m at my worst.
For me, touching is strictly prohibited during a flashback, however, my husband has figured out that our lil dog (Jack Russell) will help me come back. He simply puts him on my lap, while reminding me to give him pets and scratches. Our lil dog is the very bestest good boi. He is not a trained service dog, but he just seems to know what to do to help me.
Sent this to my boyfriend, thank you for always putting words to the feelings I never know how to express
I'm very much someone who tries to be alone during flashbacks, and can even repress them to an extent or have almost like a delayed reaction if I am around people when the thought or image or feeling first appears (it's hard to say how much of this is repression and how much is masking; I suspect it's a combination. like when you want to cry but hold in the tears until you're alone). I think repression is our brain's specialty. It varies between each time, of course, but we have found it helpful sometimes to pace and talk (can't usually say anything describing the memory itself - just too difficult - but can talk through what's happening in the present).
Thank you for making this video. It's so hard when our memories attack us, and so easy to get frustrated at ourselves like 'I shouldn't be feeling this way' or whatever. Being able to hear you talk about this so honestly, especially the reminders that different people respond to things differently and to respect people's boundaries, just helps so much.
Great video!
I'm so happy that you have Seraphina! Every video that she is in it is easy to see that she is truly helpful for you and that she reacts to how you're doing. It is wonderful to hear her purrs and to see how you react to her!
I used to have huge issues with food intolerances, before I really knew what triggered those. It would mean about every week a "session" in the bathroom with me having diarrhea and puking at the same time. I would sweat but shiver from cold, my skin would be itchy all over.. My kitty at the time, Simba, was amazing. She would always come to me, whenever possible sit on my lap, otherwise just stay with me and purr. It could not have been pleasant for her with those smells, but she always stayed with me and I cannot express how much she helped me. I will always be grateful for my little lady who left me 5 years ago at the age of 17. She was my rock. It truly looks to me like Seraphina is to you what my Simba was to me and it is so beautiful to see ❤️
THANK YOU for making this, I find that a lot of people want to help and are happy to learn, it's just a matter of being comfortable telling someone about it. I can see this video being very helpful for people who do have flashbacks, but maybe don't have the words or aren't able to tell someone this information. I have CPTSD and I get emotional flashbacks that can be very intense, and having someone around that is informed on how to help is just amazing. I think you're just great ❤
This is super helpful (I have CPTSD and will be sharing this!)
You’re doing such great work and we’re very proud of you 💖 thank you for another informative video!
Thank you for everything you do Dissociadid! I am eternally Grateful. I’m part of my system. We are House of Omega. It’s hard having flashbacks and the fact people don’t understand our conditions is even harder. I hope you win your court case, I donated because you’ve helped me through finding out I do have a dissociative disorder and no one needs to harm you. I had a nerve try to force one of my alters to integrate when I was hospitalized recently. I understand how hard it is. -AJL
I don't know who picked the hair color this time, but the way you matched it with your makeup and clothes is A.M.A.Z.I.N.G. I don't have the color coordination skills that you have.
Thank you for this awesome video! You're really brave for being willing to go into difficult topics that even trigger yourself.
Thank you so much for this video I have recently been dating someone with DID and one of the alters sent me this video, I learned alot from this and I will definitely watch it multiple time as to help remember.
Do you have any tips for when you’re alone and having flashbacks? I thankfully don’t have flashbacks very often anymore but even when I had them daily I had no idea how to help myself out of it.
I had a flashback once at work, (a woman triggered me by accident , being horrible to her child). And to distract my brain I would tidy the shop. But my lovely friend helped calm me, just by being goofy and taking my mind off things. He has no idea how much o appreciated that x
Thank you so much for this video. I don't experience flashbacks myself, and I know these two don't compare in level of intensity but I do struggle with panic attacks and anxiety attacks and it's always nice to know ways to help myself recover, as im often alone during them. So far grounding techniques have helped, so it's nice to learn new ones. You're helping a lot of people with your content, I'm so glad you guys decided to return, and always happy to see a new upload.
“Your future needs you, your past does not”
Oh my God thank you ! I experience flashbacks quite frequently and my fiancé's been doing some of this stuff already, but you're helping me realize that there are some errors he/we still do, such as not asking before touching. I'll show this to him ! Thanks 😊
thank you so much for this
it’s very helpful
sincerely
-The poltergeist system
I’m so glad you posted this
Thank you. As someone who doesn't have DID, this really helps me feel more secure and prepared to help friends with trauma.
I don’t have DID but a lot of the info you gave would help my husband a lot in a moment I start to what I call spaze out. Not sure if it’s panic but the clawing and wanting out of my body part. Thanks for sharing.
Miss you guys posting and I hope you are doing okay and healing
I'm glad you guys are back and are doing okay after everything you went through, I am amazed and inspired how strong you are and how determined you stayed.I'm happy you're all safe. Take care
I have a friend who doesn't have trauma who told me awhile ago that she wouldn't know what to do and I tried my best to explain and included it's different with different people, but you explain it much better! I'll share this with her. Thank you for all your help! Y'all help me understand myself and help me understand what other people may be going through. You put in words what I can't figure out how to put into words myself. You are making such a big difference for the better
I find it so admirable that u make the time and effort to help ppl thru making these videos even though they can trigger u and cause distress, that's very brave
This hair looks so good on you. You look like a cartoon character in the best way possible!
Thank you. My partner and I have been dealing with my ptsd for a little over a year and it’s a hard for me to verbalize what I need. Thank you for helping me get the conversation started
The videos where you guys keep the dissociating in makes me feel so validated it's crazy. Sad noone ever notices when I do start dissociating. Though maybe it's just so constant they think im just like that. Now that I think about it I think some of my friends have only seen me not dissociated a few times.😢
This is incredibly useful for me. I have been having flashback for some years now and people around me just don't know how to handle them.
I will most definitely speak to then in the aperhand about how to help me specifically. The only thing it would work with me is the frase "it's just a flashback" because for me it's not "just". But I see how it's totally valid for any other person/s system/s to hear this and feel better.
I have now realized it is traumatizing for other people to see me through a flashback, and I will take that into account a lot more now.
Thank you all very much. I have been watching this channel for some years now (I think) and it has been most definitely very very useful. It is good to understand better and to get someone else to explain it to others and to me. That this community makes me feel validated and safe and a lot of time this will be my safe spot after a hard day.
Thank you very much, I cannot express how much you have help me and in the past us (I used to be a system). And this, you most definitely helped a lot in our healing process. (I like to say our because I do miss Amanda and some other alters a lot).
Hope you are better and better. It's so good to see how Seraphina helps you. We too have a cat which is now mine and she (The Duchess of Jade Soft Paws is her name) has helped us and me a lot.
Thank you very much, you all have saved my life in some opportunities. Thank you.
I have been in no position to help you economically on your case and I am so sorry I hope I could have been able. Maybe in the future I might help.
Again thanks.
Pd: one frase that has got us and me through out the years is "we always do the best we can (with the instruments we have on the moment)". But we always do the best we can.
Lots of love everybody. 💚🐢
Thank you for this … I have had friends and girlfriends who have gone through flashbacks in the past. And I did not deal with it well cause I panicked and tried to sooth them in a way that would have soothed me in their situation. This was not what they needed. I’m afraid I caused more duress and although I don’t hold relations with these people anymore it is helpful to hear what to do if I’m ever in that situation again. So thank you for sharing :)
I'm so grateful for your service in sharing on these topics. Thank you all so, so much.
i always feel self conscious about the voice i have specifically for my cat but the fact you have one makes me feel really happy. Thank you for all the work you put into the videos on this channel and i'm glad you're cat is helping you out
I only recently realized that I have ptsd and that the emotional outbursts I get stuck in are flash backs.. it never even occurred to me that it was an option. But my revelation has made them worse. The mere mention of being restrained made me start sobbing. I've found that when this happens all I want is to be alone. That my sister is the only person who I trust near me when I'm feeling trapped. Otherwise looking at me, talking to me, trying to help in any way just makes it worse. These videos, your advice for ptsd, it's helped tremendously. I'm incredibly happy they're coming back and that you're making content again!
And cats! My cat is probably the best way I'm able to ground myself.
Telling someone to just get over it is the most damaging thing to say to some one that has been abused in any type of way. As an adult survivor of child abused I know I’m no longer a victim but I still have to live with the memories and scars and any triggers that come along with it.
I’m glad you’re back and I hope you all are doing great please keep making videos this is very important work you are doing for mental health 🫶🏻✌🏻😊
I love that you emphasize that everyone is different. Even the same person can have different experiences at different times. With C-PTSD I used to have really intense flashbacks. Sometimes being encouraged to cry it out/feel what I need to feel vs "calming down" would keep me from disassociating. Other times I would go into a full-on panic attack and need to be guided to breathe to ground.
We really appreciate you talking about this. A friend of ours was worried she wasn’t helping us correctly during our flashbacks. It turns out she was doing everything perfectly minus a few things. Thanks.
Thank you for this kind of content. It's so helpful. Thank yall for all the work you do!
Thank you for bringing attention to emotional flashbacks; I've only in this past year been suddenly feeling old emotions, or seeing an image of where I was but remembering mentally what I was doing back then. The smallest things can set me off- the smell of gas suddenly caused my most severe out of nowhere and was my first flashback. I'm 22 and only now am having flashbacks.
Just... thank you as always for all you do and for making a difference. You and your whole system are so appreciated and loved. ❤️
You are very strong for continuing to talk about helping ppl thru flashbacks even though it is triggering to you. You are helping so many ppl and we all love you and the system so much. I watched the new introducing alters pt 1 and 2 (think that's the title) videos and all I wanted to do was hug you ... I wish I could hug everyone in the system who wants/needs one .... you all are so strong and I'm so proud of all of you for making it through everything. And proud of alters who didn't quite make it, they were very strong and handled everything the best way they could....you all do and you all are amazing.
This is such a good video! As someone with PTSD I’ve had family and past partners who would sometimes make it worse trying to help. Or just tell me to calm down and it would be so upsetting because I was trying to stay calm. And obviously in a flashback that can be very hard to do. Having someone tell you “hey it’s 2022, it’s august, you’re in __ place, you’re safe, etc” are all amazing tips for someone on the outside to help. I genuinely felt hopeless with trying to explain how to help without making it worse or sounding “crazy” or like a “basket case” as I’ve been called before. I think having a video like this out there is wonderful. I can show this to my partner or my dad for tips on how to help. You’re really doing “the lords work” as they say (not meant to be religious in any way. Just for the saying, I’m not religious) You’re doing so much good for the world- just in one video. Thank you for the content that you make. (Please remember to Always take care of yourself first and we’ll always be understanding when you need to take time away from the internet for yourself but your videos do make such a difference in the world. Please know that.) Know that you are soooo full of value and even without this platform you would still be inherently worthy, and full of value as a person/ system. But I just want you to know how much your videos are appreciated and how much of a difference that you make. There’s a channel here on UA-cam that does “butterfly effect” videos where they do research on the creator and how much of an impact they’ve made on the world. And how much good would be lost without them- It made me think about your videos. They have made such a huge huge impact in my life. Not only did I find your channel during a period of homelessness in my life(to not have to live with an ab*ser) but your videos gave me hope that I could end up living a normal and successful life even with mental health issues. I don’t have DID but I deal with dissociation (and didn’t know what it was called until finding your channel) and have ptsd and your content has always been a light in the dark on bad days and always given wonderful advice when you have it. (And you show your authenticity all the time because if you don’t know the answer to something you tell people/ or you do further research.) I know you didn’t make this channel for money (you made it to break stigmas about DID/other mental health issues and to better help people around you understand DID) but I do hope that you’re wildly successful with this channel and that you’re able to make a living from it. You really deserve all the positive vibes and success 💕I hope you and your whole system are doing well.