My Big Fat Nose | Michelle Bandur | TEDxOmaha

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  • Опубліковано 17 лис 2024

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  • @katl1489
    @katl1489 4 роки тому +670

    When people tell me I have a big nose, I just tell them they must be jealous of my maximized air intake.

    • @Olivia-uz1zn
      @Olivia-uz1zn 3 роки тому +33

      That’s brilliant I want to use that now haha

    • @Rwi-wk1pd
      @Rwi-wk1pd 3 роки тому +5

      😂 nice one

    • @SharlenesJourney
      @SharlenesJourney 3 роки тому +4

      Lol this made me laugh ima use this

    • @wellthisisinteresting4912
      @wellthisisinteresting4912 3 роки тому +7

      so much oxygen going to the brain hehehehe

    • @bruh438
      @bruh438 3 роки тому +1

      As someone with asthma, same 😂😂😂

  • @clementeen
    @clementeen 4 роки тому +269

    Thank you! This was life changing! I love my nose and my skinny lips! I don’t want to be anything other than me!

    • @shaki5146
      @shaki5146 4 роки тому +10

      Nadine El Nour mashallah you are very pretty! I get teased a lot at school and I'm of Arab heritage too!

    • @mariafoteini
      @mariafoteini 3 роки тому +5

      You're gorgeous!

    • @clementeen
      @clementeen 3 роки тому +9

      @@shaki5146 I wrote this comment 9 months ago and seeing it again just now is so interesting. Infact I think I am very beautiful, and am actually extremely grateful now for my features, because these days women are looking like clones. It’s nice to be set apart from the rest, especially knowing I’m natural.
      As for you, it’s crazy that they pick on you for your beautiful features lol, just remember our features weren’t “in” until jim kardashian showed up. So in the near future, we will be the face of beauty :)

    • @clementeen
      @clementeen 3 роки тому +2

      @@mariafoteini thank you :) I definitely know and appreciate that now

    • @tablokozhin1973
      @tablokozhin1973 3 роки тому +2

      If you are the person from your pfp than im jelose of you you are so pretty

  • @sya2797
    @sya2797 5 років тому +321

    I have a big nose too.. i was different from my siblings ..sometimes my relatives and even my family member teases me and said i was adopted..

  • @osamaghaedy1869
    @osamaghaedy1869 4 роки тому +263

    Am i the only one who has big nose and still not motivated by this beautiful inspiring speech

  • @Julidulia
    @Julidulia 4 роки тому +149

    I hate my nose since I was 15. Only one person told me about my nose, and it was two years ago, I’m 25 soon. I thought I got over my nose, I received a lot of compliments from men and friends that I’m beautiful but then something clicks in my mind and I wang to hide somewhere. I like my appearance but I feel that my nose do not suit me. Whats the worst, guys with small noses like me, and i feel more masculine because i imagine how big my nose is in comparison. I hope to feel beautiful again, I felt beautiful with same nose, i understand that nothing changed but I can’t look at myself in the mirror, why?

    • @zehrasimsek1399
      @zehrasimsek1399 4 роки тому +10

      why am i feeling the same...

    • @gabs-tf4eu
      @gabs-tf4eu 3 роки тому +16

      LITERALLY SAME someone said something about my nose last year and i still think about it like every day ☺️

    • @mihaibodrug8949
      @mihaibodrug8949 3 роки тому

      Just get a nose job

    • @Dragon-Slay3r
      @Dragon-Slay3r Рік тому

      🙀

  • @Lened2u
    @Lened2u 6 років тому +102

    I would hope that bully sees this. It's a horrible society we live in. People hide behind their computers or a piece of paper. You rose above it, congratulations to you. Way to make it a positive! You inspire many, keep doing what you are doing!

  • @wickedlavender
    @wickedlavender Рік тому +21

    currently crying about my nose rn and this is making me feel a little better

    • @ajwalou-nack2343
      @ajwalou-nack2343 8 місяців тому

      Don't cry . The bullies are just a bunch of no real mates cowards . ❤

    • @imrum_
      @imrum_ 6 місяців тому

      same

  • @lisaeischens2352
    @lisaeischens2352 5 років тому +158

    My word, that was so cruel! I was teased relentlessly in school. They would hide around the corner and stick their finger out and bend it while screeching “herronk herreonk!” A guy I was hanging out with when I was 15 told me, “ I really like you but...I couldn’t go out with you because your nose is just too big.” I was so self conscious that every time I walked in to a room and if people were laughing, I just knew that they were laughing at me. I felt like a beast. I have Greek and Scandinavian heritage and inherited my biological fathers large nose which I smashed in to the concrete when I was in fifth grade so not only was it big but also crooked! I obsessed and obsessed about it to the point that my mother took me in for a surgery with an ENT doctor who really messed it up inside which made my breathing worse. Finally at the age of 31, I saved up my tax money and had a septo/rhinoplasty which was partially covered by my insurance because it was such a mess inside. It looks better, is a bit shorter but is still far from a perfect nose. I still have a messed up front angle with one nostril slightly larger than the other and it can still get me down sometimes especially with these damn IPhone reverse cameras! Now I’m nearly 50 and broke and have chronic pain from arthritis and back problems and couldn’t imagine trying to undergo surgery again especially when there’s no guarantee and with my luck, it would look worse so I’m stuck with this nose. We are so unbelievably hard on ourselves and I would never treat another person like I had treated myself in the past. I have a husband that loves me, 3 great kids and my 3rd grandkid on the way and they never seem to care about my nose so I’m gonna try not to care about it as much either. I do stop and smell the roses every chance I get and need to remember to be kind to myself and of course to others and to build people up rather than bulldoze them over with words that shred at our precious self esteem. Thanks for talking about this. I still have to fight the initial red flushes of shame that this brings up in me. You are a remarkable woman!

    • @lisaeischens2352
      @lisaeischens2352 5 років тому +13

      ma if I think we are all our worst critics. Most men I know tell me they never even noticed my nose. Maybe they just say that but still, there’s such a thing as having a great personality, a special talent or skill that one has and just being a kind, and caring person. You will find love no doubt about it! Just focus on what makes you unique and always work on education yourself on topics that interest you and you will find like minded people who will be happy to share your company! In the meantime, save your money in case you think you really need to make a change but don’t forget to work on your insides in the meantime.

    • @Gabriela-fp8wz
      @Gabriela-fp8wz Рік тому

      Thank you very much 😢

    • @ajwalou-nack2343
      @ajwalou-nack2343 8 місяців тому

      The bullies are cowards . I had a big sticky out nose until I was 11 when a 16 year old kicked me in the face . I had to have surgery to straighten it up . Now I have a bent nose but I don't care as I don't need to look at it . 61 now and it hasn't been an easy ride . Think mainly due to having a tough childhood has scared me mentally. ❤

  • @alyannagingatan5257
    @alyannagingatan5257 4 роки тому +70

    The person who was mean to you was probably insecure himself and so took the time to literally bring other people down to their level

  • @kristijbeebe
    @kristijbeebe 6 років тому +89

    Michelle - I am the same woman you are, I do not have a small nose. I am not considered a beauty and have larger features. Yes I used to be jealous of the pretty, petite featured women in life, but now on social media they get the "You are so beautiful" comments. Social media is so hard for these kids. Long ago I decided that I needed to use my other assets to forge ahead in life. I am highly creative, assertive and have a heart of gold ( all assets worth more than a pretty nose).
    Well this week I started my new challenge to lose 40 more lbs. (lost 55 in 2017 and gained a 20 back with my job lay off). This is a stressful time with looking for a job and the possibility that my life style will change greatly. I was an at home (remote) employee. If I am changing one thing I have decided to change it all. New hair, diet, workout and attitude........and darn I will have to get a new job in 2019. Thanks you for your inspiring message, I applied it to my life. I am also here and would be interested and love to help with the girls you mentor. Please reach out to me, I am here to help. God Bless You!!!!!!!

    • @tammy1598
      @tammy1598 2 роки тому +1

      You’re amazing. I have a big nose and this made me feel like it’s okay

  • @roaringbanjara9014
    @roaringbanjara9014 4 роки тому +45

    The tragedy of world today.. large ,wide noses are not glamorised...noses have become a big burden and cause of insecurity to young boys and girls...this is so disappointing to me..our media,film makers should glamorise big,wide noses so that no one will suffer this type of insecurity depression...

  • @indyd9322
    @indyd9322 2 роки тому +5

    Turning meanness into kindness, what a classy lady!

  • @Marshmallofluff3
    @Marshmallofluff3 3 роки тому +13

    I love you so much for this talk. So so much. I have the same nose, and hearing you own it and love it proudly, made me know that I can too. My daughter has the same nose and I want her to grow to love it too. Not if it’s smaller, not if it’s more straight, just exactly the way it is. The part where you mentioned it being like your fathers was so beautiful. You are such a beautiful person, inside and out and I really needed to hear this video today.

  • @nareshraye327
    @nareshraye327 2 роки тому +5

    I cried 😢 remembering my lost dad

  • @rumsic9779
    @rumsic9779 5 років тому +398

    Is it me or does she doesnt have a big nose,she looks normal to

    • @AquaCarb
      @AquaCarb 5 років тому +36

      Once you fall in love with who a person is the "Big Nose" never matters.

    • @berlinwall6674
      @berlinwall6674 5 років тому +34

      looks normal

    • @Los_HermanitosCruz
      @Los_HermanitosCruz 5 років тому +34

      It does look normal

    • @nora1375
      @nora1375 4 роки тому +27

      It does she should see mine😫

    • @lolol-lm1bo
      @lolol-lm1bo 4 роки тому +13

      @@nora1375 and you should see mine

  • @MrReneeandsam
    @MrReneeandsam 2 роки тому +8

    This is me and my sister we were bullied so bad because of our nose so I feel it . We just learn to say we don’t care it’s part of our heritage

  • @TheKZagame
    @TheKZagame 6 років тому +40

    Absolutely inspirational! Thank you for sharing -- even though I know it wasn't easy.
    Mean messages will always hurt, no matter how hard we try to pretend they don't. But it's always so great to hear how others get through it!
    - A fellow news lady :)

  • @arevchick
    @arevchick 3 роки тому +6

    Girl!! Yes I got the same comments in the 6th grade. Damn, I’m in my 30s now. I’m with you self love and empower others.

  • @kenziehendrickson7917
    @kenziehendrickson7917 6 років тому +15

    You are amazing Michelle!!!!!!! I’m honored to have you as a family member and a good friend!!! Love you!!!!

  • @ghaidaisbored
    @ghaidaisbored Рік тому +3

    Im literally tearing ,u r the best 💜

  • @springmusic5340
    @springmusic5340 2 роки тому +6

    To be honest i have a bump on my nose and a while ago my sister told me my nose is terrible and i should do a surgery.Moreover, this is not the first time she said sth like that made me feel like i am not enough and as good as her.Fortunately just after listening to your speech i changed my mind about myself,🙂I wanna start pursuing my dream

  • @Kramer63
    @Kramer63 Рік тому +2

    This is so cool this woman rocks she is beautiful

  • @nancythompson5231
    @nancythompson5231 6 років тому +65

    Michelle, I have always thought you were a very pretty woman.

  • @nareshraye327
    @nareshraye327 2 роки тому +2

    Thanks for the support

  • @bruh-ch3hb
    @bruh-ch3hb 3 роки тому +3

    this tedtalk is amazing

  • @jennymunro3379
    @jennymunro3379 3 роки тому +4

    Great story Michelle! Thank you for all you do. You are beautiful inside and out. Keep doing meaningful work. You make a difference!

  • @foxymchloe
    @foxymchloe 4 роки тому +13

    This video doesn't have enough veiws!
    What an amazing, beautiful woman.

  • @vivianedorsey6570
    @vivianedorsey6570 5 років тому +17

    Michelle you are beautiful just the way you are!! 💖
    Such a beautiful story!!
    🏵🌸💮🌹🌺🌻🌼🌺🏵🌸

  • @mariafoteini
    @mariafoteini 3 роки тому +10

    I hope the bully that sent her this awful letter saw this video.

  • @jeancoppin6353
    @jeancoppin6353 Рік тому +1

    Beyond the wounds of hurtful words, it's the sorrow that someone you don't even know wants to hurt you, and for what?

  • @wisecracker1294
    @wisecracker1294 2 роки тому +7

    I tell people my nose is normal size - it looks bigger because my head is small.

  • @adevariubire9236
    @adevariubire9236 3 роки тому +7

    In college they told me to make a plastic surgery because I had a big roman curvy nose.
    After uni when I started to work three coleagues who were ladys flirted with me because they liked my nose because it made me look different.
    So yeah... Depend what crowd you are at I suppose.
    Character is more important than my nose.

  • @soraya678
    @soraya678 2 роки тому +3

    Wow what a power woman!

  • @AquaCarb
    @AquaCarb 5 років тому +34

    I'd send you $20 disguised as a dozen roses.

  • @emilianoflores8772
    @emilianoflores8772 2 роки тому +2

    can relate so baddd

  • @spagetd1526
    @spagetd1526 2 роки тому +1

    WAIT i literally live in omaha nebraska. people from nebraska make it on ted talks??? WHAT???? i didn’t think people knew we existed.

  • @12lovingbaby
    @12lovingbaby Рік тому +3

    .. I hope someday I’ll love my nose again

  • @garima15
    @garima15 2 роки тому +4

    *I'm so insecure*

  • @CatsRule2024
    @CatsRule2024 6 років тому +4

    Freaking awesome!!! Thank you Bandur!!! ❤❤❤

  • @joshuabates7424
    @joshuabates7424 4 роки тому +3

    This is awesome!

  • @liaguillen4275
    @liaguillen4275 3 роки тому +2

    amazing message, i have a big nose too!

  • @brendamller
    @brendamller 11 місяців тому +1

    Wow some young ladies said some cruel things about my nose on TikTok I was so hurt I deleted their comments now I’m wishing I would have left them there 😢

    • @Pooopee
      @Pooopee 4 місяці тому +1

      They’re probably jealous, you’re beautiful

  • @cherylbecker3167
    @cherylbecker3167 4 роки тому +9

    My Shirt would say," I Triathlon like a Girl". I have a nose too ! I would tell them,why should I change my nose,I am still better looking than you!?

  • @laibamemon
    @laibamemon 2 роки тому +8

    I have a really big nose too. My family teases me about it and I today, I just received a comment on my Tiktok account, saying “lol fix ur nose then talk 😭” and that comment got me honestly. I have always hated my nose, and my mom told me that getting a nose job will result in me having ‘breathing difficulties’. Is this true ?

    • @swishy8218
      @swishy8218 2 роки тому +5

      I've heard of people having breathing problems cause of a nose job

  • @exesouline
    @exesouline 2 роки тому +5

    My nose is similar to hers and i think her nose fits her face

  • @johnconway8999
    @johnconway8999 3 роки тому +6

    Your nose is awesome!

  • @rullmourn1142
    @rullmourn1142 3 роки тому +12

    I don't have a big nose, I have a small face.

  • @ajwalou-nack2343
    @ajwalou-nack2343 8 місяців тому

    13 . 08 go girl you are beautiful ❤️

  • @mightbeLara
    @mightbeLara 4 роки тому +7

    Once upon a time I was watching tv with my mom , she was staring at my face.
    Suddenly she said “ I think nerds have big noses “
    I was like whaaat?
    Then she said “ you and your uncle have big noses” my uncle is a surgeon btw
    Now I hate my face

    • @sittingturtleduck
      @sittingturtleduck 4 роки тому +5

      If your mom isn't one to insult, then she probably doesn't mean it as anything other than an observation. I know countless beautiful people with large noses. I know it sucks to have it pointed out though

    • @mightbeLara
      @mightbeLara 4 роки тому

      Constanza Jaymes 💜💜

    • @mightbeLara
      @mightbeLara 4 роки тому

      flmngo clouds
      I just wanna say that you made my day, I really appreciate that

    • @carla-2034
      @carla-2034 2 роки тому +2

      @@mightbeLara dont worry I am a woman with a Big nose and I am still considered pretty, I recomend you yo not analise evrey part of your face individually, but to look at the overall beauty you. Will feel better.

    • @mightbeLara
      @mightbeLara 2 роки тому

      @@carla-2034 thank u 🙏

  • @indiraadhikari7803
    @indiraadhikari7803 4 роки тому +12

    Who has big nose plz cmt

  • @wellyeah9568
    @wellyeah9568 4 роки тому +6

    Every boody should love thier nose 🙏🧡

  • @fayolachavali4556
    @fayolachavali4556 3 роки тому +3

    U have beautiful nose i'm jealous😭 m my nose is so small almost flattt😭😭

  • @yuvimap
    @yuvimap 3 роки тому +2

    Having a big nose means no foggy spectacles or loose mask😁

  • @seren7868
    @seren7868 4 роки тому +8

    For some reason I thought she’d be Australian

  • @yumikogita
    @yumikogita 4 роки тому +20

    Your nose ain't big sis

  • @piamcdowell1
    @piamcdowell1 2 роки тому +1

    your big nose allows you to be athletic and strong! some people who get nose jobs end up with breathing problems :(

  • @CloutClipsRepost
    @CloutClipsRepost 4 роки тому +15

    Her nose isn’t big

  • @rachelren9824
    @rachelren9824 4 роки тому +3

    I have the same nose... I want to change it so badly

    • @open_your_eyes1851
      @open_your_eyes1851 4 роки тому

      Sameee do whatever makes u happy

    • @Arounadabout
      @Arounadabout 4 роки тому +1

      @@open_your_eyes1851 I want rhinoplasty for my nose tip

  • @mariambajelidze8515
    @mariambajelidze8515 Рік тому

    💖

  • @rullmourn1142
    @rullmourn1142 3 роки тому +1

    Her nose is actually quite unremarkable imo. If they licked the stamp it has their DNA on it.

  • @samanthathompson9812
    @samanthathompson9812 3 роки тому +1

    A hooked nose like mine is worse. I look like a witch or a male.

  • @احمدالعربي-د5ش
    @احمدالعربي-د5ش 3 роки тому +2

    She have a neatherthal nose which is the native west Eurasian nose

  • @sinchasin3611
    @sinchasin3611 Рік тому +3

    Her nose is small and normal. wtf

  • @grandygram753
    @grandygram753 Рік тому +1

    I think your nose is pretty.

  • @BhatJahangir-s5u
    @BhatJahangir-s5u 10 місяців тому

    I like your nose

  • @ifeelsick258
    @ifeelsick258 3 роки тому +6

    Big nosed people get teased because they act like it is bad to have a big nose themselves.

    • @aes783
      @aes783 2 роки тому +17

      ehh not really. sometimes maybe, but you can't make a broad statement like that without sounding like you're victim blaming lol. More like society acts like its bad to have a big nose with its ridiculous standards with the rise of social media etc. You never see many actors/actresses with big noses but a big nose can work or add character if you're a comedian or something.

  • @Dragon-Slay3r
    @Dragon-Slay3r Рік тому +1

    Thats a huge dark nose aka pear nose

  • @niacal4nia
    @niacal4nia 5 місяців тому

    Had the same experience in school but then all the girls I dated were interested in guys with big noses 😂