From pain to finding purpose. A story from Zeema finding her power in the midst of confusion, chaos and rejection. There is always an opportunity to rise again!
Very well said. We keep on walking/running and we never give up. There's always another day by God's grace and we will survive. As women we do have such strength and power to overcome even the most scariest or hard situation, as much as it hurts, we survive ❤
We begin to find our purpose the moment we stop living according to societal standards and when we decide to take responsibility for ourselves and be accountable for our own decisions.
Sheeeesh! This lady is so mature! You can tell she self introspects a lot! Because most mothers in her position would never be truthful about having kids with men who were not intentional about being fathers from the word go! It doesn’t excuse men from being unsupportive or being deadbeats! But our expectations must be aligned to the initial situation and we would be less hurt ! 😢
@@katlego5077 well said,and it's not like we encourage to abandon children but we ladies should be careful abt falling pregnant deliberately & assigning men 2 fatherhood they are not interested in,bcoz as much as it takes two to tango,de woman is de one stuck wid a child 4ever,a man can walk away
Just for the record, the guy was indeed shoved/thrust into parenthood just as the host suggested. By her own admission, she selfishly decided that she wanted a baby and took the first opportunity that came. And she decided to fall pregnant and carry the pragnancy through, that power lies solemnly with her.
“She decided to fall pregnant “ kanti what impregnates a woman ??? Holy water perhaps?? This man had UNPROTECTED SEX with this lady and the results of that is a BABY!!! Let’s not exempt him from the consequences of his action if he really didn’t want children he should have wrapped it up!!!
I like this interviewer, he lets his guests go on and dish up all the gist for us without interruption. Just subscribed because this has become my favorite channel.
Man the growth and maturity she ia demonstrating should studied. She got here when she decided to tqke responsibility for her own choices rather thqb placing blame elsewhere. Love, light and more healing energy for her. And oh yes, staying alone and thinking independently brings more life and fulfilment.
But then Zama, as much as you think those relationships delayed you, I think differently. I think God allowed all of it to happen for you to learn & move to next level.
I think she was speaking more on where she wishes her life could have been by now and also accepting that at that time she went to those relationships not because she wanted to but because she thought that's what society was expecting of her.
Why does the interview just start so randomly without a back story, or introductions or anything? It’s like we’re listening to a conversation we have no context to.
I relate shame with her, I also moved to JHB after my son turned 1years3months, and that moved really helped me introspect, have my own thoughts... and I too, got rooted more in Christ...
Never feel like age determines where you should be in life. You can always have things in good timing, never rush life, relationships ,marriage and especially having children.
13:55 😢😢. This warms my heart ❤️ 💙 and also makes me sad because some people have kids so that those kids feel obligated to look after them when their old. This is the first woman who has said that she owes her child a good life and not the other way around. Most parents feel like the kids are there to eventually support them financially only. But true love is when you just want the love that comes with the child and not the finances. The finances are a bonus if it happens. However loving your child and caring about their wellbeing is true parents love. Children are a blessing not to fill a void. ❤
I wish we could also hear the guy's side of the story, how this broke him and how he's finding his way out of this maze that this woman selfishly created for him.
“This woman selfishly created for him” kanti was this man forced to have unprotected sex 😭😭I don’t understand how he is a victim , if he REALLY didn’t want children like that he should have wrapped it up:THE CONSEQUENCES OF UNPROTECTED SEX IS A BABY!!!!!
I have a female cousin that's also this delulu and horrible, she put some dude in the same situation and in her narrative she's been done wrong by a clown. Truth is she's the clown, horrible person but she's my family 🤷🏾♂️
wow, what a beautiful conversation, as a 26 year old who almost got destroyed by a romantic relationship at varsity it can only be God that healed me and now I'm in such a good space now and I don't idolize relationships anymore. I'm working and focusing on my relationship with Jesus .
Really appreciate this episode. It felt like Zama was talking about me. I could see myself in all her experiences. Thank you for being that vulnerable, Zama. Wow ❤
Although it is a great idea to have Lungelo’s picture in the background I think it may cause focal point obstruction, the speaker/guest gets blurry as the camera focuses on the picture behind. Basically, I am asking if that picture can be removed, politely
I'm trying to understand how a person who emphasizes that she grew up in a two parent home and what it takes to create and run such a structure was the one who intentionally fell pregnant without discussing this with the potential parent, whereas the guy whom I assume is coming from a different background was the one who wanted to probably do this the correct way and may feel that was taken from him. He was thrust into a structure he was trying to avoid
@@MsSwanlake haha, I love how people say she ‘fell’ pregnant…. Do people actually understand how pregnancy happens? The act is so deliberate, like how is the guy ‘ shoved’ into fatherhood ? 🤦
This is crazy. She created a problem, and feels sorry for herself regarding solving her own creation. By the way, she is also suffering from Cognitive-Dissonance.
What a beautiful conversation, so calm, so empowering, inspiring. I love both you guys and thank you for this interview.I could literally feel the positive energy between you two.
This could’ve just been written in her journal honestly 🙆🏾♀️. That rant about the guy she ‘shoved ‘ into fatherhood was unnecessary. She should stick to her own ‘growth’
So you had a baby intentionally with a man after 27 days and you're crying that the whole situation never worked out how you wanted and whole time that man ain't your husband. What were you expecting? Stop putting yourself in desperate positions knowingly and coming to tell people about it like a testimony all its showing is the fact that lack the ability to make sensible decisions. This isn't maturity if anything just attention seeking.
Had to be said‼️ She made a selfish choice and throw such a responsibility on someone who wasn't ready. If the broer didn't come to the table eventually to connect with his daughter, then he would have been on "No Excuse, Pay Papgeld"😂
Mina relationship delayed me I was physical abused I thought its because he was struggling in life so I put my life on hold and worked hard for him thinking if he makes it first he’ll stop abusing me and I’ll work on myself then
I have a serious question. So at the point where she realized that she wasn't getting married and a traditional family set up wasn't on the cards, why would getting knocked up by the first random that will have you seem like a good option? Self introspection could've helped you understand why men aren't seemingly drawn to you in that way but instead you doubled down and waved your red flag sky high for all respectable men to see? Did this lady have a healthy relationship with her father or what? Uya gula lo sesi mentally and possibly from STDs from being smashed raw by desperate randoms sies 😢
From pain to finding purpose. A story from Zeema finding her power in the midst of confusion, chaos and rejection.
There is always an opportunity to rise again!
Just curious, lungelo why dont you wear shoes?
Very well said. We keep on walking/running and we never give up. There's always another day by God's grace and we will survive.
As women we do have such strength and power to overcome even the most scariest or hard situation, as much as it hurts, we survive ❤
We begin to find our purpose the moment we stop living according to societal standards and when we decide to take responsibility for ourselves and be accountable for our own decisions.
@@SiphiwesihleOnakohe said that he wants to relax and be comfortable.
I'm too nosey why has this become my favorite channel 😭😭😭
Bona...😂😂 I've even subcribed
Same 😂
😁😆😅🤣😂...me too... watching from DRC❤.
You’re not the only one😂
Same. I'm watching from Namibia 🇳🇦
So my take away from these stories is stop being desperate for relationships and love. Have boundaries for yourself always
Also take that time to find yourself first so you place no expectations on others for your fulfillment.
Sheeeesh! This lady is so mature! You can tell she self introspects a lot! Because most mothers in her position would never be truthful about having kids with men who were not intentional about being fathers from the word go! It doesn’t excuse men from being unsupportive or being deadbeats! But our expectations must be aligned to the initial situation and we would be less hurt ! 😢
@@katlego5077 well said,and it's not like we encourage to abandon children but we ladies should be careful abt falling pregnant deliberately & assigning men 2 fatherhood they are not interested in,bcoz as much as it takes two to tango,de woman is de one stuck wid a child 4ever,a man can walk away
@@LollyMadikiza-xw4okwhy walk away when he didnot use protection?
We don't give flowers to people for doing normal shit man, you're supposed to be accountable as an adult human being 😢😢
@@thobekiledlaminiThey always do n continue with their lives like nothing happened😢
There's nothing more refreshing than listening to a conversation between people who admire God, without even quoting the Bible. ❤
Just for the record, the guy was indeed shoved/thrust into parenthood just as the host suggested. By her own admission, she selfishly decided that she wanted a baby and took the first opportunity that came. And she decided to fall pregnant and carry the pragnancy through, that power lies solemnly with her.
“She decided to fall pregnant “ kanti what impregnates a woman ??? Holy water perhaps?? This man had UNPROTECTED SEX with this lady and the results of that is a BABY!!! Let’s not exempt him from the consequences of his action if he really didn’t want children he should have wrapped it up!!!
" Motherhood broke me and moulded me back" Oh man Mooomy♥️
I like this interviewer, he lets his guests go on and dish up all the gist for us without interruption. Just subscribed because this has become my favorite channel.
Siyagowa as a country Lungile, you are the chosen platform to vent 😭
Man the growth and maturity she ia demonstrating should studied. She got here when she decided to tqke responsibility for her own choices rather thqb placing blame elsewhere. Love, light and more healing energy for her. And oh yes, staying alone and thinking independently brings more life and fulfilment.
But then Zama, as much as you think those relationships delayed you, I think differently. I think God allowed all of it to happen for you to learn & move to next level.
I think she was speaking more on where she wishes her life could have been by now and also accepting that at that time she went to those relationships not because she wanted to but because she thought that's what society was expecting of her.
Why does the interview just start so randomly without a back story, or introductions or anything? It’s like we’re listening to a conversation we have no context to.
M also suprised coz now it's like a part 2 of some sort😮
I love how she switches between Isizulu & English while articulating herself so well, I want to be like Zama when I grow up🥺
I resonated so much when Lungelo raised the isolation season and God speaking to you in stillness wow!
I relate shame with her, I also moved to JHB after my son turned 1years3months, and that moved really helped me introspect, have my own thoughts... and I too, got rooted more in Christ...
Never feel like age determines where you should be in life. You can always have things in good timing, never rush life, relationships ,marriage and especially having children.
This podcast is basically reminding us to stay single😂
I want Lungelo's sock collection 😭
Why is he not wearing shoes
😂 Soon.
On a carpet ? Naaaah man@@zena3413
Uthwele😂@@zena3413
13:55 😢😢. This warms my heart ❤️ 💙 and also makes me sad because some people have kids so that those kids feel obligated to look after them when their old. This is the first woman who has said that she owes her child a good life and not the other way around. Most parents feel like the kids are there to eventually support them financially only. But true love is when you just want the love that comes with the child and not the finances. The finances are a bonus if it happens. However loving your child and caring about their wellbeing is true parents love. Children are a blessing not to fill a void. ❤
"O stlaela shem" My first reaction to reading the title.
@@Fortu_Mokgaditsi you and I shame lol
Shuuu Im nolonger part of the 87% I've subscribed finally😅🎉I love how authentic Zama is❤ beautiful interview
I wish you nothing but the best Zeema K and I'm so proud of you.. Waze wakhuluma kahle
Bathi Sonke siyophelela kule Podcast 😭😭😂😂😂
@@leboocooks3682 😂😂😂
😂😂 Yazini... I still feel there's lot that's coming from the podcast. Lungelo has us glued to our screens.
Nami ngiyza soooon😢😢
🤣🤣🤣
I wish we could also hear the guy's side of the story, how this broke him and how he's finding his way out of this maze that this woman selfishly created for him.
“This woman selfishly created for him” kanti was this man forced to have unprotected sex 😭😭I don’t understand how he is a victim , if he REALLY didn’t want children like that he should have wrapped it up:THE CONSEQUENCES OF UNPROTECTED SEX IS A BABY!!!!!
@@neomalete5832 okay. High five!
So true we shouldn't be doing this to man as woman urs cruel. 😮
@@neomalete5832ge wasn't forced but she basically had an agenda and that's not fair. No one wants this for their sons brothers cousins so understand.
I have a female cousin that's also this delulu and horrible, she put some dude in the same situation and in her narrative she's been done wrong by a clown. Truth is she's the clown, horrible person but she's my family 🤷🏾♂️
She is such a breath of fresh air this lady😍😍 thank you for bringing her Lungelo 💞💞
wow, what a beautiful conversation, as a 26 year old who almost got destroyed by a romantic relationship at varsity it can only be God that healed me and now I'm in such a good space now and I don't idolize relationships anymore. I'm working and focusing on my relationship with Jesus .
Really appreciate this episode. It felt like Zama was talking about me. I could see myself in all her experiences. Thank you for being that vulnerable, Zama. Wow ❤
Although it is a great idea to have Lungelo’s picture in the background I think it may cause focal point obstruction, the speaker/guest gets blurry as the camera focuses on the picture behind. Basically, I am asking if that picture can be removed, politely
your picture at he background is distracting the viewer I keep looking at it and I shouldn't. good show there
She is a young big woman, I am very impressed. Indeed tough experiences teach us wisdom....
Seema has the Kelly Khumalo's looks
I'm trying to understand how a person who emphasizes that she grew up in a two parent home and what it takes to create and run such a structure was the one who intentionally fell pregnant without discussing this with the potential parent, whereas the guy whom I assume is coming from a different background was the one who wanted to probably do this the correct way and may feel that was taken from him. He was thrust into a structure he was trying to avoid
@@MsSwanlake haha, I love how people say she ‘fell’ pregnant…. Do people actually understand how pregnancy happens? The act is so deliberate, like how is the guy ‘ shoved’ into fatherhood ? 🤦
@T.C556 we have s*x everyday but it doesn't we do it with the intent to procreate each time
Humans like Dolphins actually have s*x for leisure
psalm112:7 she confidently trust the Lord to take care of her...thank you Zaama
This is crazy. She created a problem, and feels sorry for herself regarding solving her own creation. By the way, she is also suffering from Cognitive-Dissonance.
How was the father forced? He had options
She kind of reminded me of Kelly Khumalo when she speaks. Great interview
What an amazing woman , I truly learned a lot from this beautiful lady 🙏my thought focus truly changed
😂😂at least they are confessing that the father of the child will be there forever😂 date the single Mother at your own risk
Such an elegant woman with a healthy level of self awareness...🙌
The fact that all the girls coming here are my height but their feet don’t touch the ground when seating on the couch hurts my feelings
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Naledi is so lucky to have a mother like her 🥰
My grandmother always told me to take time to know your partner hle😢
What a beautiful conversation, so calm, so empowering, inspiring. I love both you guys and thank you for this interview.I could literally feel the positive energy between you two.
Zeema is such an intelligent woman I love her🥺🥰
😂😂😂 30 percent is the pass rate so a person who plays around 45% like this "lady" is truly intelligent in comparison 😂😂
This was such a beautiful episode, she's so well spoken🥺🩷
This could’ve just been written in her journal honestly 🙆🏾♀️. That rant about the guy she ‘shoved ‘ into fatherhood was unnecessary. She should stick to her own ‘growth’
Beautiful episode😊Thank you Zama and Lungelo❤️
Wow this was a beautiful one honestly❤
So you had a baby intentionally with a man after 27 days and you're crying that the whole situation never worked out how you wanted and whole time that man ain't your husband. What were you expecting? Stop putting yourself in desperate positions knowingly and coming to tell people about it like a testimony all its showing is the fact that lack the ability to make sensible decisions. This isn't maturity if anything just attention seeking.
😂😂😂😂
What a harsh truth 😩😩😩
Yoh
Iqiniso iyababa mfwethu 😩kodwa iyaphilisa
Had to be said‼️ She made a selfish choice and throw such a responsibility on someone who wasn't ready. If the broer didn't come to the table eventually to connect with his daughter, then he would have been on "No Excuse, Pay Papgeld"😂
Beautiful woman inside and out.Thank you for sharing Zama.
Thank u thank u I needed to hear that🙌
patiently waiting 🤩
oh my gosh i didn't know i needed to hear this
I relate to you Zama so much i feel like you are narrating my life story
Thnks what a great episode❤
WHERE DO U GET THIS PEOPLE ????
Enjoyed this so much ❤
this was good S/O lungelo😀
Finaly subscriped 😊😊
Really enjoyed this.
Just subscribed 😊
Yay! Thank you!❤
“I am dealing with a child here”. So, having a child is all about her. The man has to dance to her tune. These modern women are lost.
Mina relationship delayed me I was physical abused I thought its because he was struggling in life so I put my life on hold and worked hard for him thinking if he makes it first he’ll stop abusing me and I’ll work on myself then
Um so sori .....
Lungelo if you don't have a makoti, look no further😅😅😅..Smart girl❤❤❤
I fell pregnant after 14 days of dating him. Even worse on our first meet up. Yes we tested for HIV. Guess what?
You tested positive 😢? Or you guys got married😅
Your positive
You regret it all?
We are waiting impatiently for an answer 😮.....we need to know! 😂
Mara ke nawe....
Smart woman
Is this like a part 2 of something???
correct, there’s another one that was released last year, search Lungelo and Zeema
I'm at that age bathong 👀
This theme made me curious to listen
TO ACTUALLY THINK IM AT THIS STAGE
I have a serious question. So at the point where she realized that she wasn't getting married and a traditional family set up wasn't on the cards, why would getting knocked up by the first random that will have you seem like a good option? Self introspection could've helped you understand why men aren't seemingly drawn to you in that way but instead you doubled down and waved your red flag sky high for all respectable men to see? Did this lady have a healthy relationship with her father or what? Uya gula lo sesi mentally and possibly from STDs from being smashed raw by desperate randoms sies 😢
Tjo my story…
27 days. He was shoved pretty hard