He was also bullied in school really. A kid actually beat him so bad that he was in a coma. It gets worse. The school didn’t even noticed he was missing. His mom came up to the school and they found him in a utility closet. He suffered from serious head trauma.
well people tend to connect this song with headlights for obvious reasons and I do see it suggested a lot for reactors especially after they did Cleanin out my closet. It's like Kim and Bad Husband. I'm a bit torn on which version he should do because the music video is awesome but it does cut out part, though to be fair it's not a verse (unlike Beautiful), I think it's just a bridge or something. So maybe the best thing would be if he'd check out both but I'm not sure if that makes sense. Also I forgot something: Eminem frequently mentions older songs and albums so that could also help with identifying where he is at somewhat. Especially on Recovery he mentions Relapse a lot (although in a negative way).
Ronnie was his uncle, they were very close in age and he introduced Eminem to hip hop and rap. He committed suicide because of a break up. His mom sued Em for 10mil dollars so that what's he's referring to with "how dare you take what you didn't help me to get". Also, you have to do Headlights!! It's part 2 of this song, his perception of things after he's matured some more and how he feels about his mom now. Cleaning out my closet is from 2002. Headlights is from 2013:)
There is just so much pain in this. I was abandoned by a mentally ill mother too. I think he wouldn’t have put all of this out there, but his mom sued him for $10 million for defamation in an earlier track and because Marshall would help her financially and she was being evicted from her mobile home. She went on talk shows to say that Marshall was too spoiled and made herself the victim. She never mentioned that her younger son was put in long term foster care due to medical abuse/neglect. Nathan, the younger half brother bounced around group homes with anger issues until Marshall filed for custody of him and eventually adopted him. Marshall was badly beaten by a middle school bully, he ended up in a coma, his mom sued the school and according to court records, she kept him drugged up on Valium and Xanax to make the “brain damage” seem worse in order to get more in lawsuits and welfare/social security disability. He had to recover from the brain injury through that time, and couldn’t really do well in school. He dropped out after failing 9th grade twice. So, he has reasons to be angry. I can relate because I’m the same age and also have a white trash family.
That’s genuinely his intention. Kim was a show of devotion, not hatred. He was telling Kim how much he loved her when he made that song. She just thought he was crazy.
@@varbergessamo6045 False, far less than everyone knows this fact. Why? Because he's Eminem, he likes to do silly stuff now and then. And the bit has a quite comical delivery if you don't the context. The delivery also sounds very rehearsed. And I've seen many reactors who thought it was a made up bit. Jesus christ!
That is what the " I'm' sorry momma" is about. He is trying to fix himself, and part of that process is acknowledging what his mom did to him. So he is sorry he has to talk about her in a bad way.
Em's honesty is one of the things that makes him so memorable. As long as he's rapping as Eminem and not Slim Shady you're going to hear a version of his truth, whether it's something that happened or a twisted fantasy he might have. He also repeatedly said this was his therapy which you can really see. Eventually got a real one which was for the best. Headlights is a good follow-up to this one. It's about 10 years down the line and THAT one is probably a part of his recovery.
Yeah. Slum is his fucking around, silly offensive personae. Marshall is the normal everyday him and when he gets personal and tells his store (past and present) and Em is his more technical, entertainer and "professional" personae. They are different sides of his personality.
This song got me trough so much as kid, I remember muffling my dad's yelling with it and letting out my anger by mouthing the lyrics whenever he turned his back at me. I started listening to it again last year and relating even more after finding out he was messing with my medical records.
His mother was only 15 yrs old when she had him. Then his dad split when he was only a couple months old. He didn't have anyone around to protect him. His Uncle Ronnie (her brother) killed himself over a girl and his mom said she wished it was him (Marshall)!!! After Marshall said a few things about his mom on a CD she sued him for slander! She got a little money but not much! His mother blamed him for his dad leaving and obviously had mental issues! Later she remarried & had another son Nathan and he was taken away by the state when he was 8 yrs old! Marshall got custody of him and raised him so he wouldn't be in foster care! So he had his half brother, his niece, his daughter Hailie & Whitney who was the product of an affair his ex-wife had! He adopted them all....except for Hailie of course and raised them as his own! That man has a huge heart!!! After everything he had gone through... he wanted to make sure they all had a better life than he did! He has a song called "Bad Husband" that I believe explains a great deal about him!
15:49 - Ronnie was Eminem's uncle (2 months older); from his mom's side and they were close. As you may remember from Stan, "I had a friend k!ll himself over some b!tch that didn't want him," that was Ronnie (12/14/91). Eminem's grandma (Ronnie's mom) claims that Eminem's mom, Debby, said that 'Ronnie would be alive today but you weren't home to take a phone call. Ronnie called and asked to speak to Marshall' but he wasn't home. The family claims that Ronnie never called and that Debby was just trying to place the blame on Eminem.
Years later he never performs this song anymore and nearly hates that he recorded it after getting clean and realizing from a clean/mature position what sort of a position his mother was in. "Headlights" is a must watch after this one as a sequel. They still are not on the best of terms, but have reconciled and pretty much leave each other to their own.
I mean, honestly I feel like song was important for him to eventually move on. It's a stepping stone for him. This is how he dealt with his life with all his songs.
Also the “took the bullets out of that gun” line is referencing his felony charge. He was charged after assaulting a club bouncer when he saw Kim (baby momma) kissing the bouncer. The bouncer claimed em pistol whipped him, which em insists it was a punch... but has that unloaded gun on him. If you listen to “say goodbye”, it will explain more too.
@@robbob5302 I don’t think so. He immediately had buzz. White boi with skill, Dre’s new artist, relatable poor kid who’s different, battle history. Not to mention slim shady ep and MMLP were both already out and massive. So the charge occurred after he already hit.
Cannot wait until you get to hear “ Haleys song” it’s such a good one. Also another great reaction as alway. I don’t even need to watch the video fully to know that it’s an overall great one. Good job Tom and Nick. 👏
I hope you do Headlights by Eminem soon. I want to wait until you've done both before I share your reactions to both with my own mother. I'm a 45-year-old mom myself who survived childhood abuse and neglect and am finally making progress with an incredible trauma informed therapist. And part of that entailed going no contact for almost 2 years. I re-initiated contact last year. My mom, having realized that I won't put up with certain things anymore , has actually been making attempts at modifying her behavior toward me and accepting the boundaries I've created for the most part. And I've been able to occasionally have somewhat productive conversations with her about things. But, it's still obvious that she doesn't understand how much the past affects how I function as an adult. And you just explained it so well. But the song Headlights was written several years after Cleaning Out My Closet. Eminem was able to grow and mature and gain more perspective on how his mom's own experiences and trauma shaped her behavior and his experience of childhood. So, I want to wait until I can share your commentary on both songs before sharing them with her. I absolutely've been loving this channel & can't wait for mores
I love that you can bring in a psych background to this song. Most people can only say "wow his mom was terrible," but you can bring forward Munchausen's and a great interpretation from a psychology perspective. I remember using this as an example for a presentation in college on Munchausen's By Proxy and loved hearing you explain how that disorder works (the caregiver seeking attention via another person's medical issues). You have such a refreshing take on Eminem and digging into the psychology of him using what he has poured out in his music. Keep up the great work!
So glad you did this one! I listened to it a lot as a kid, and every time I hear I just want to give him the biggest hug. Kids like this were the reason I got a degree in counseling (though I'm no longer in the field).
Eminem gets my emotions. He makes me laugh and choke up. To this day. Great artist, and I am gonna guess he is a great soul. So inspirational, it's cool to see these reactions cause I feel like your input is very helpful. Lots of Blessings to you
Thank you for addressing how intoxicated people make some people nervous. I can relate & I never feel "normal" going around that stuff, I always feel this strong anxiety &/or excitement in the pit of my stomach
Eminem is one of my favorite artists bc he is able to be very vulnerable. While some people may find his vulnerability to be unnecessary, it has helped me through a lot. My childhood was very similar to his, so this song is extremely relatable, especially how hurt he was that his mom wouldn’t admit that she wasn’t a good mom. It’s really hard to heal from childhood trauma when parents deny it even happening, or minimizing the child’s feelings.
This song reminds me of my own father repeating a very toxic cycle. I'm breaking this cycle, struggling just with the basics of life. Never passing on this suffering.
Loved this song when I heard it in highschool and I appreciated the honesty and vulnerability that Em showed here. When people criticize him for his violent/misogynist/homophobic/etc lyrics, I get offended because it means they didn't listen to a man tried by life but lived through his obstacles
A lot of videos will says they were uploaded 2009, and that’s true but that’s just when a TON of music videos got added to UA-cam. Cleaning out my closet came out in 2002.
"I'm sorry momma for cleanin out my closet at the time I was angry. Rightfully maybe so, never that far I meant to take it though.... that song I no longer play at shows and I cringe every time it's on the radio." He definitely has regret lol
I love seeing you grow into eminem so much from not knowing him to understanding why people connect with his songs. I think we all need a good look at music instead of instantly disliking the genre
... probably the coolest, most interesting concept for a channel *EVER*. This came out when i was very small and it let me realize that my mother's abuse wasnt my fault. A lot of pain, but at least i knew it wasnt me.
It’s incredible how fast your channel is growing. I like to see the perspective of a therapist reacting and giving their insights on music, especially artists like these. Keep up the simple but great content. I see your channel growing immensely.
@@ReactionTherapyOfficial PLEASE react to “dance with the devil” by immortal technique. This is if one of the most chilling songs in hip hop history. I believe you will really enjoy the story telling and the harshness of it. Again PLEASE and thank you
I love this song! Spent a lot of my younger adult life singing this at the top of my lungs while crying...very theraputic in its own way. But after years of counseling I'm very close to my mom now and we talk a lot about our relationship.
This song was crucial in my process of dealing with my childhood. I know it by heart and absolutely love it. But had never understood in detail as much as I do now. Thank you Tom. You're a gem.
"Its my life, I'd like to welcome yall to the eminem show" sends shivers down my spine every time! Anyone else? Also would love to see you react to "leaving heaven" by eminem
That song came out when I was maybe 12 or 13 n I related to it so so much, been in therapy for the past 3 yrs n still tear up when I hear it just thinking bout the pain I was in at the time n how much songs like that helped me through that part of my life!!!
I remember when it came out! I remember a lot of it by heart, and I remember the chorus by heart. Hehe. I've been hearing Eminem since his second mainstream album, SSLP, back in 99 when it came out when I was in 5th grade. Hehe.
My mother was an abusive alcoholic that will never admit to the horrible shit she did to me and my sisters. And, I can’t forgive , entirely, until she does. It’s like saying I’m wrong by not admitting to the truth.
I'm kinda in the same spot. Except mine keeps preaching that she's changed and making amends. Which is great, except for the fact that she, by her words and actions, is only making amends to make herself feel better. Sorry, I can't be a part of that.
great video! “headlights” by eminem is like the sequel to this song, it’s him apologizing for this song and other songs where he dissed her and how him and her kinda made up, he also heavily regrets “cleanin out my closet” and he doesn’t even play it at concerts anymore
This is my favorite Eminem song. It’s so similar to life with my biological mother. She didn’t physically make me sick but she mentally and emotionally abused me. I’m 45 and she still tries to do it. I’ve ended up blocking her on all social media platforms and her from my phone. She’s actually in some legal trouble right now and I wish they would force her to get a psychological exam more than jail time or fines. I was blessed that in 4 th grade I told my biological grandmother ( my mom) that I didn’t want to have to go with my biological mother anymore and she was fine with that and made sure I never had to spend time with her if I didn’t want to. My biological mother tried to mentally and emotionally mess with my niece when she was little (now 23) my brother never put his foot down, still hasn’t, but a few months ago my niece did. My brother escaped the majority of the mess with our biological mother as he’s been with our parents since he was 7.5 months old. When our mom got a phone call from a friend of our biological moms, telling her they were out having a good time and she brought my brother and put him on one side of the room against the wall and she was on the other side of the building having fun. Mom asked the guy to keep an eye on my brother until she could get there, she picked him and his seat up and walked out. Our biological mother had no idea he was even gone. Mom had already talked to the judge and got permanent custody of my brother (early 70s) before the night was over and before our bio mom realized he was gone.
His rawness and transparency of his thoughts and feelings helped me through my childhood and millions of other children and individuals going through bad
You know I'm gonna be the 1000th person to comment "Please do Headlights after." Because It's Eminem's growth and forgiving of his past. Please! When you get the chance, I request Headlights
Thank you for making this Video. Cleaning out my closet came out in July 2002 (The Eminem Show). Eminem (Marshall Bruce Mathers III) was born in Missouri (17. October 1972 ) and later moved to Detroit with his Mother. He never met his father, who died in 2019 (heart attack). His Uncle Ronnie, who commited suicide as a Teenager, was his best friend and he brought Hip Hop in Eminems life.
"Leaving Heaven" is the song Eminem wrote after the death of his father And in "Mockingbird", Em talks to his children about how he tries to treat them better than what he went through I think both could be interesting.
Ronnie was his Uncle (mom’s brother) who Em was close to and is the person who introduced him to hip hop! He committed suicide. His mom besides making a CD with people who were trying to take him down she sued him for defamation and basically got nothing! His childhood bully did the same (sued him) and got a big fat goose egg!
Every time I hear Eminem talking about Healy I'm crying my eyes out. I lost my mother when I was 5 and my relationship with my father was always really bad. So it fulfills me to hear about fathers that, despite all their problems they're doing their best to put their children first. Great video btw:)
The shit I’m going through right now… this song kills me. I needed to hear it and I needed to hear your take. I literally just came from a therapy session and this video pops up… some serious sort of divine intervention, and I’m not even religious.
This song hits me on spiritual level, my Dad is a alcoholic my Mom is a gambling addict. They arguing almost everyday, my Dad would throw and destroy stuff around house or break some mirrors. My Mom keep pawning stuff around the house including my bicycle that I need to go to school and I had to sleep at friend’s house because my Mom wouldn’t let me sleep in the house to hide the fact she pawn my bicycle from my Dad. I left them for 13 years now back when I was 16 years old.
This song actually got me into rap......song was so memorable, I got the album, fell in love with Em and rap, and bought all his music, and moved from rock more to rap.;
I think writing songs, making music, is a part of how Eminem copes with his life. He wrote this song to get it out there, and later after he's matured and had more life experience he regrets it, but says he was angry- rightfully, maybe- and he wasn't thinking of how it would hurt his mom. He was just expressing his feelings in a nonviolent way.
This song definitely helped me get some of my emotions out about my mother, she was abusive and narcissistic and she truly ruined my life mainly from mental abuse she caused. I related a lot during this whole song, trying so hard to fix the issues that are causing her to become abusive that you get so tired that it becomes so hard to hold any form of love for her. I hear a lot about how a mother’s love is unique and how everyone needs a mother’s love and it sucks to think that I never and probably will never know what the true love of my mother feels like. Pardon the novel
I never knew the Munchausen syndrome by proxy thing was real but someone actually posted a report that was at the trial of when she tried to sue him for slander. From all the interviews and people talking about em, everything in this song is factual and not exaggerated. He did have a follow up to this song now hes older called headlights. He regrets making this song. After going through addiction himself, he kinda saw how it wasnt fully in her control how she acted. You should check it out.
This song actually scared me a lot. I think I was around13 or 14 year sold when this came out and since English isn't my native language, I didn't understand anything. So it was a pretty aggressive sounding song with domestic abuse in the video and a menacing beat to me. Do you actually check out the uncensored versions of this songs after the reaction? Because especially at the end of this song, he said some pretty nasty things. Btw I don't know how much you are informed about Em's history but here are some things to keep in mind which can help put the songs into a timeline: he did get more and more tattoos during his career. So in the early days when his daughter wasn't born yet/was a baby, he didn't have her tattooed on his right shoulder yet. Those are mostly the days of his first successfull album, The Slim Shady LP. I think he has that tattoo starting from his next album, The Marshall Mathers LP. The other big one is his tattoo that shows the name of Proof, his friend from D-12. It's on his left underarm and it should be there sometime after Encore, his forth main album. That's also the time of his first big hiatus when he had the most trouble with drugs. The other thing to keep in mind is his hair. First he was blonde and shaven in his career. Then after Encore he had dark hair sometimes in his videos (and the whole time during the movie 8 mile). He had blonde hair on some of the songs on Relapse and dark hair on the others. I think on Recovery he mostly had dark hair and on The Marshall Mathers LP2 he had mostly blonde hair again. Then with Revival he pretty much stuck with the dark hair and introduced us to his beard lol. And that's the present so if you see him with dark hair and a beard, then that song is pretty recent (it has to be at least from 2017), I don't know how much this made sense but I wanted to write it down, maybe it'll help lol.
@@ReactionTherapyOfficial if you want a truly menacing song song by him listen to Kim by Eminem it’s about his ex wife getting with another man and it’s a really dark song
I’m not sure if anyone else has suggested “Drug Ballad” yet but that’s another must listen song from Eminem, especially for that 3rd verse. I’ve never heard anything that so accurately captures the feeling of being young and caught up in addiction/excessive substance use.
“Deja Vu” is Eminem’s best song in my opinion. Not a super popular one but it’s got a wicked rhyme pattern and there are several ideas he expresses beautifully throughout
Although I didn't suffer the extend of the abuse Eminem did with his mother, I can relate. I never felt love from my mom. I felt like she cringed when I walked into the room- like she "had" to love me but never even "liked" me. I am 44 and feel like I am just starting now to work through some of those feelings. She passed away 8 years ago and up to the end of her life, she never gave an inch.
Love these reactions. Headlights is a good one to react to as it’s the apology sort of but I think “My Mom” is a must hear before that one to get the full scope of their relationship
He had a very hard life. Not only problems with his mom )family But he was bullied in school. He was beaten so bad by a bully in the school bathroom that he fell into a coma for a week when he was 9 years old .
His mother sued him for defamation of character for 10 million dollars. That's what he means by "how dare you try to take what you didn't help me to get". He makes references to that 10 mill in multiple songs.
Parents are parents, true but i can relate to this song. Both my parents rejected me hated me left me to starve, beat me with everything they could find i still remember when i was 6 years old and my mom locked me in the room with her so nobody could come to save me and she took a big knife and told me she will kill me and started to cut herself it was so much for me to take back then even now if i see blood i get dizy cause of that. My mom called me crazy she called me a demon also said she wish i was'nt even born. I hate to talk about my life but i'm 32 years now and i still can't deal with the stress and depression started drinking at the age of 14 got mixed with the wrong friends and it brought me in al sorts of trouble. My great grandma raised me fed me till she died she was the only one looking after me. Ended up in a heavy motorcycle accedent cause i remember when i asked my mom for food and she told me no so ended up taking my bike drove off to a fast food restaurant and ended up crashing into a truck on my way there my back never recovered from the accedent till this day i have back issues. Family hated me cause i was diffrent and rejected me since i started following Christ. I have a family of my own now and a little girl she is the reason i stopped drinking cause she told me many times: daddy stop drinking you will get drunk and pass out again, and hearing that from a 4 year old broke my heart and i'm trying everything to give her a better life and a life i never had, but it's so hard to forget the past!
I am speechless. And I am so sorry that every grown up person around you let you down.(except for your your great grandmother) Because some of them _must have seen & known that you were abused, but didn't intervene..._ Hugs. Big internet hugs. ❤
Eminem did this publicly because he's very passionate about rap but he also dealt with drug problems even during his career and he faced all his problems while rapping his job is his home and he still in the game
The follow-on to this song is "Headlights" where you can see that he has matured in his view of his mother and their relationship, and it's his apology/acceptance song, it's very poignant and regretful. He says he cringes at this song now when he hears it and he doesn't play it at his shows anymore. I relate to that so much. I had a horrible relationship with my mother and in my teenage/very young adult years, I was full of resentment and rage, I wanted to hurt her like I felt hurt. I used to listen to this song and relate it to my own feelings about her. Now, I am in my "Headlights" phase. Comparing these two songs will really show his emotional and psychological growth and maturity.
I subscribed because your analysis made me tear up. You’re spot on. As a man who has made his mother hate him, I am continuously trying to fix our relationship to no avail.
God this song here got me through most of my teen years although I still live with my mom,the angry lyrics kept me from doing something I would totally regret
Same, I relate to this more than anyone should. My mom said she should have had an abortion with me, yelled it at me when I was 12. You an 80's/90's baby too?
Same fam , I hate to repeat something you probably hear already but you gotta move out the small bit of space will help the relationship between you and your mom . It's not easy but it'll be a great goal and feeling
Ronnie was his uncle, but he was almost his age so they were very close and he Eminem's best friend at that time. Ronnie committed suicide in 1991. Pls react to "Headlights" also by Eminem, it's his apology letter to his mother.
This song and video still goes over people's heads till this day because they keep assuming he's talking about killing his mother when that's not the case.
When he talks about taking out the bullets out of that gun, he is referring to an episode when he pistol whipped a guy who was kissing Kim. If the gun was still loaded, maybe he'd end up shooting at both. Other rappers made fun about the fact he ran around with an unloaded gun, he says it's the smartest thing he did.
The video was uploaded in 2009 because that is when UA-cam started as a platform; until then it was most likely played on MTV and other television channels related to music. Cleaning out my closet came out with The Eminem Show in 2002, and acted as a diss track to his mother and her abuses and manipulations from when he was a kid, critiquing her attitude to his upbringing. He had many more conflicts with his mother in his career, due to his lyrics about her. Headlights then came out years later as a way to say sorry and to make peace with his mother. The music video for it was heartwarming and you should see it.
When your talking i love it your one of the only people what it feel like your talking to us the eye contact is real when your talking im nodding my head in agreement.
When I was younger I know my mom took her far share of beatings just so I could go to the psych. I was always told by my dad not to talk about abuse b/c it could be worse and I knew my dad didn't threaten; he made promises. I was more concerned my dad would lose his job as a correctional officer tho. My mom was my first steps to mental health just sorry she went through so much pain to get me there. Great vid doc! Much love as always! So glad you give some thoughts of mental health along the way!
It took me a long time to realize just how much of a victim my mommas really was. I hope she seeks therapy b/c I know how bad her nightmares are in her sleep about the past.
Hear this song then yoy hear temporary from Eminem and its like wow. Ftom everything he managed to break the generation cycle and do and become what he did for his daughter and his adopted daughters. Wow. Have so much respect for this man
I can totally compare my life to his in a way! I was told by my mom "I could of adopted someone else" my mother was hateful my whole life! I was adopted when I was 5 she hurt me my whole child hood. The hurt, the memories play over and over! My mom passed in 2021, no im sorry, instead I never got to even see her as I was not welcome. No im sorry no closer! This will eat at me the rest of my life! I could keep going but I better stop!
Well, this is definitely a very unique reaction to this song. I love it! I agree with you - Eminem has a way to be open about some things in his life that make him so relateable. This song in particular hit me when it first came on MTV in 2002 even though I'd never been much of a rap-fan. Took me years to appreciate the genre as a whole (to my defense - I'm German so tehre wasn't as much out on radio as in the US) but this one truly hooked me. I could relate even though I've got the best parents in the world . Great choice
PS Another great song to tackle by Eminem (apart from Headlights) would probably be Deja Vu or Going through Changes. Both have the same subject, so you can probably choose either.
Unrelated to the music reaction, but .. you must be a great psychotherapist. I really wish any of my therapists were as soft spoken and empathetic as you sir. Thank you for what you are doing.
I grew up with abuse and chose to get between dad and mom and brothers. My brothers and I agreed on our own to not physically abuse our children and wives. Wife says she can still see it in my eyes and my voice 🤷🤷🤷 Joined the Marine Corps then law enforcement and that was good for my ulcers because that was nowhere near as stressful as home. I’m glad my folks divorced and he’s dead now. He thought he was a good man
Omg i love this channel so much! I’ve been debating on therapy for years but now I feel like I’m ready thank you for that! P.s you should listen to headlines by Eminem it’s after he’s grown and he talks about making this song
I was 8 or 9 when this song came out. I didn't understand the lyrics 100% but enough for it to make sense. Also came from a house with a lot of domestic violence, remember blaring this in my room while I hugged my younger sister so that way she didn't have to hear the fighting.
He was also bullied in school really. A kid actually beat him so bad that he was in a coma. It gets worse. The school didn’t even noticed he was missing. His mom came up to the school and they found him in a utility closet. He suffered from serious head trauma.
Holy crap. I'm a massive Eminem fan, grew up playing his CDs and watching his videos, and I don't think I ever heard about that.
Yep it’s true, he had a shit hard life growing up he had to learn to walk relearn to read and write because of coma,
I now understand why he had so much anger in his earlier music. Especially before the OD. This stuff is enough to turn some into poisonous people.
Eminem "Headlights" is super underrated. Nobody ever mentions it but it's good af. It's about his mom
Was just about to say the same thing.
Bro you beat me to it haha
well people tend to connect this song with headlights for obvious reasons and I do see it suggested a lot for reactors especially after they did Cleanin out my closet. It's like Kim and Bad Husband.
I'm a bit torn on which version he should do because the music video is awesome but it does cut out part, though to be fair it's not a verse (unlike Beautiful), I think it's just a bridge or something. So maybe the best thing would be if he'd check out both but I'm not sure if that makes sense.
Also I forgot something: Eminem frequently mentions older songs and albums so that could also help with identifying where he is at somewhat. Especially on Recovery he mentions Relapse a lot (although in a negative way).
It’s great to listen to it after Cleaning out my closet
It’s bc the feature sucks
Ronnie was his uncle, they were very close in age and he introduced Eminem to hip hop and rap. He committed suicide because of a break up. His mom sued Em for 10mil dollars so that what's he's referring to with "how dare you take what you didn't help me to get". Also, you have to do Headlights!! It's part 2 of this song, his perception of things after he's matured some more and how he feels about his mom now. Cleaning out my closet is from 2002. Headlights is from 2013:)
Awesome take! Thanks for clearing that up and that helps me understand things a lot more!😊👍
@@ReactionTherapyOfficial I feel like I’d explain an Eminem song to you, and you’d follow up with “and how does that make YOU feel?” 😂
@@ReactionTherapyOfficial second the Headlights rec, it's one of my favorite Eminem songs and definitely completes the story this song kicks off!
@@ReactionTherapyOfficial plz react to 97 bonnie and clyde by Eminem is so deep and tells a story in a unique way
@@ReactionTherapyOfficial Definitely do Headlights. You'd love the juxtaposition the song has from this one.
There is just so much pain in this. I was abandoned by a mentally ill mother too. I think he wouldn’t have put all of this out there, but his mom sued him for $10 million for defamation in an earlier track and because Marshall would help her financially and she was being evicted from her mobile home. She went on talk shows to say that Marshall was too spoiled and made herself the victim. She never mentioned that her younger son was put in long term foster care due to medical abuse/neglect. Nathan, the younger half brother bounced around group homes with anger issues until Marshall filed for custody of him and eventually adopted him. Marshall was badly beaten by a middle school bully, he ended up in a coma, his mom sued the school and according to court records, she kept him drugged up on Valium and Xanax to make the “brain damage” seem worse in order to get more in lawsuits and welfare/social security disability. He had to recover from the brain injury through that time, and couldn’t really do well in school. He dropped out after failing 9th grade twice. So, he has reasons to be angry. I can relate because I’m the same age and also have a white trash family.
As a child with mommy issues I sang this from the soul when I would cry alone in my room ❤️
It may sound weird, but I hear so much love in eminems lyrics. especially in the dark ones. They just show that he cares.
He cares .. and that's why it's hurting
That’s genuinely his intention. Kim was a show of devotion, not hatred. He was telling Kim how much he loved her when he made that song. She just thought he was crazy.
The "Where is my snare? I have no snare in my headphones" is actually a genuine studio moment they decided to include 😁
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Everyone knows that jesus christ, why would he just make that up and put it in?
@@varbergessamo6045 False, far less than everyone knows this fact. Why? Because he's Eminem, he likes to do silly stuff now and then. And the bit has a quite comical delivery if you don't the context. The delivery also sounds very rehearsed. And I've seen many reactors who thought it was a made up bit. Jesus christ!
@@varbergessamo6045 I did not know this. Interesting fact.
@@varbergessamo6045 I did not know this, it's the first time I have heard anyone say that.
That is what the " I'm' sorry momma" is about. He is trying to fix himself, and part of that process is acknowledging what his mom did to him. So he is sorry he has to talk about her in a bad way.
Em's honesty is one of the things that makes him so memorable. As long as he's rapping as Eminem and not Slim Shady you're going to hear a version of his truth, whether it's something that happened or a twisted fantasy he might have. He also repeatedly said this was his therapy which you can really see. Eventually got a real one which was for the best. Headlights is a good follow-up to this one. It's about 10 years down the line and THAT one is probably a part of his recovery.
Oohh so thats why he has two names. Makes more sense now lol
Yeah. Slum is his fucking around, silly offensive personae. Marshall is the normal everyday him and when he gets personal and tells his store (past and present) and Em is his more technical, entertainer and "professional" personae. They are different sides of his personality.
This song got me trough so much as kid, I remember muffling my dad's yelling with it and letting out my anger by mouthing the lyrics whenever he turned his back at me. I started listening to it again last year and relating even more after finding out he was messing with my medical records.
På koko j koko kok ju noom ok
Eminem is one of those artists that writes soundtracks for life. His words are so passionate that you feel like he's writing words just for you.
Aww 😢 and I guess your father never took the hint right? It goes over their heads.
Heartbreaking for all children who go through this 🥺😢🙏🏼 Great reaction and words of wisdom ❤️
“Headlights” by Eminem is almost like a part 2 about “cleaning out my closet”. It’s him pretty much looking back at this song and himself at the time
His mother was only 15 yrs old when she had him. Then his dad split when he was only a couple months old. He didn't have anyone around to protect him. His Uncle Ronnie (her brother) killed himself over a girl and his mom said she wished it was him (Marshall)!!! After Marshall said a few things about his mom on a CD she sued him for slander! She got a little money but not much! His mother blamed him for his dad leaving and obviously had mental issues! Later she remarried & had another son Nathan and he was taken away by the state when he was 8 yrs old! Marshall got custody of him and raised him so he wouldn't be in foster care! So he had his half brother, his niece, his daughter Hailie & Whitney who was the product of an affair his ex-wife had! He adopted them all....except for Hailie of course and raised them as his own! That man has a huge heart!!! After everything he had gone through... he wanted to make sure they all had a better life than he did! He has a song called "Bad Husband" that I believe explains a great deal about him!
Great take sunny! Thanks for all the insight! Very well done!😊👍
@@ReactionTherapyOfficial Sorry I was long winded! lol But thx
15:49 - Ronnie was Eminem's uncle (2 months older); from his mom's side and they were close. As you may remember from Stan, "I had a friend k!ll himself over some b!tch that didn't want him," that was Ronnie (12/14/91). Eminem's grandma (Ronnie's mom) claims that Eminem's mom, Debby, said that 'Ronnie would be alive today but you weren't home to take a phone call. Ronnie called and asked to speak to Marshall' but he wasn't home. The family claims that Ronnie never called and that Debby was just trying to place the blame on Eminem.
Wow! What a story, thanks for this!😊👍
Years later he never performs this song anymore and nearly hates that he recorded it after getting clean and realizing from a clean/mature position what sort of a position his mother was in. "Headlights" is a must watch after this one as a sequel. They still are not on the best of terms, but have reconciled and pretty much leave each other to their own.
It’s a shame cuz it’s one of his best songs
Sometimes I feel bad for liking a song that the artist hates lol
I mean, honestly I feel like song was important for him to eventually move on. It's a stepping stone for him. This is how he dealt with his life with all his songs.
Also the “took the bullets out of that gun” line is referencing his felony charge. He was charged after assaulting a club bouncer when he saw Kim (baby momma) kissing the bouncer. The bouncer claimed em pistol whipped him, which em insists it was a punch... but has that unloaded gun on him. If you listen to “say goodbye”, it will explain more too.
"You're full of shit too gurrera, that was a fist that hit you"
He needed some buzz in the press, to jump start his rap career.
@@robbob5302 I don’t think so. He immediately had buzz. White boi with skill, Dre’s new artist, relatable poor kid who’s different, battle history. Not to mention slim shady ep and MMLP were both already out and massive. So the charge occurred after he already hit.
@@robbob5302 😂 mmlp sold like.. 1.8 mill in its first week. More than enough buzz.
@@AiiRv Then I guess it worked!🙂
Cannot wait until you get to hear “ Haleys song” it’s such a good one. Also another great reaction as alway. I don’t even need to watch the video fully to know that it’s an overall great one. Good job Tom and Nick. 👏
Thanks So much Robin!😊👍
@JerzeVillain damn that's true ? Source plz xD
I hope you do Headlights by Eminem soon. I want to wait until you've done both before I share your reactions to both with my own mother.
I'm a 45-year-old mom myself who survived childhood abuse and neglect and am finally making progress with an incredible trauma informed therapist. And part of that entailed going no contact for almost 2 years. I re-initiated contact last year.
My mom, having realized that I won't put up with certain things anymore , has actually been making attempts at modifying her behavior toward me and accepting the boundaries I've created for the most part.
And I've been able to occasionally have somewhat productive conversations with her about things. But, it's still obvious that she doesn't understand how much the past affects how I function as an adult. And you just explained it so well.
But the song Headlights was written several years after Cleaning Out My Closet. Eminem was able to grow and mature and gain more perspective on how his mom's own experiences and trauma shaped her behavior and his experience of childhood. So, I want to wait until I can share your commentary on both songs before sharing them with her.
I absolutely've been loving this channel & can't wait for mores
my favorite eminem song
@JerzeVillain That's cool! Do you remember where you saw/heard that ?
I love that you can bring in a psych background to this song. Most people can only say "wow his mom was terrible," but you can bring forward Munchausen's and a great interpretation from a psychology perspective. I remember using this as an example for a presentation in college on Munchausen's By Proxy and loved hearing you explain how that disorder works (the caregiver seeking attention via another person's medical issues). You have such a refreshing take on Eminem and digging into the psychology of him using what he has poured out in his music. Keep up the great work!
Thanks so much Melissa! Great comments and I appreciate your support and watch😊👍
Well said
So glad you did this one! I listened to it a lot as a kid, and every time I hear I just want to give him the biggest hug. Kids like this were the reason I got a degree in counseling (though I'm no longer in the field).
Eminem gets my emotions. He makes me laugh and choke up. To this day. Great artist, and I am gonna guess he is a great soul. So inspirational, it's cool to see these reactions cause I feel like your input is very helpful. Lots of Blessings to you
Eminem can make you angry, happy, cry and dry your eyes all with the same line
I remember watching this on MTV when it first came out
Thank you for addressing how intoxicated people make some people nervous. I can relate & I never feel "normal" going around that stuff, I always feel this strong anxiety &/or excitement in the pit of my stomach
Should follow this up with Headlights by Eminem. It's like an apology or coming to peace with his mom.
PERFECT FOLLOW UP TO SEE EM'S GROWTH
No kid should ever feel compelled to apologize for their own parents mistreatment of them. Especially when they fuck up and feel like they need to.
Amen!👍
Eminem is one of my favorite artists bc he is able to be very vulnerable. While some people may find his vulnerability to be unnecessary, it has helped me through a lot. My childhood was very similar to his, so this song is extremely relatable, especially how hurt he was that his mom wouldn’t admit that she wasn’t a good mom. It’s really hard to heal from childhood trauma when parents deny it even happening, or minimizing the child’s feelings.
This song reminds me of my own father repeating a very toxic cycle. I'm breaking this cycle, struggling just with the basics of life. Never passing on this suffering.
Loved this song when I heard it in highschool and I appreciated the honesty and vulnerability that Em showed here. When people criticize him for his violent/misogynist/homophobic/etc lyrics, I get offended because it means they didn't listen to a man tried by life but lived through his obstacles
At the end of the day he is the most controversial rapper in history
A lot of videos will says they were uploaded 2009, and that’s true but that’s just when a TON of music videos got added to UA-cam. Cleaning out my closet came out in 2002.
Eminem has always been brutally honest about his life through his music. He doesn't hold back and he doesn't regret his stories.
Thats right
Well, he does regret a bunch of stuff, which he talks about often. Some things should have stayed private
I mean he literally said he regretted some of the things he said. Especially in this song about his mother and he apologized for it
didn't he literally say he regretted making this song?
"I'm sorry momma for cleanin out my closet at the time I was angry. Rightfully maybe so, never that far I meant to take it though.... that song I no longer play at shows and I cringe every time it's on the radio."
He definitely has regret lol
I love seeing you grow into eminem so much from not knowing him to understanding why people connect with his songs.
I think we all need a good look at music instead of instantly disliking the genre
... probably the coolest, most interesting concept for a channel *EVER*.
This came out when i was very small and it let me realize that my mother's abuse wasnt my fault. A lot of pain, but at least i knew it wasnt me.
It’s incredible how fast your channel is growing. I like to see the perspective of a therapist reacting and giving their insights on music, especially artists like these. Keep up the simple but great content. I see your channel growing immensely.
Thank you so much Angelo! I really appreciate it 😊👍
That's the Eminem effect🐐
@@ReactionTherapyOfficial PLEASE react to “dance with the devil” by immortal technique. This is if one of the most chilling songs in hip hop history. I believe you will really enjoy the story telling and the harshness of it. Again PLEASE and thank you
@@angelobaziotis Patreon channel coming soon! It will be there!😊👍
@@angelobaziotis yes would love to see him hear that one dance with the devil by Immortal Technique 👍🏻👍🏻
This video digging the grave is a metaforic for him putting the past behind him because he's felt with everything through his music
I love this song! Spent a lot of my younger adult life singing this at the top of my lungs while crying...very theraputic in its own way. But after years of counseling I'm very close to my mom now and we talk a lot about our relationship.
Well said veruca!!😊👍
This song was crucial in my process of dealing with my childhood. I know it by heart and absolutely love it. But had never understood in detail as much as I do now. Thank you Tom. You're a gem.
Thanks so much for watching and for supporting 😊👍
"Its my life, I'd like to welcome yall to the eminem show" sends shivers down my spine every time! Anyone else? Also would love to see you react to "leaving heaven" by eminem
Yep, that particular lead-up to the chorus hits really hard
That song came out when I was maybe 12 or 13 n I related to it so so much, been in therapy for the past 3 yrs n still tear up when I hear it just thinking bout the pain I was in at the time n how much songs like that helped me through that part of my life!!!
Thanks so much for sharing this and for taking the time to watch😊👍
Em was also severely bullied in school as well (to the point of actual long term brain damage), so he had it rough in and out of home...
I remember when it came out! I remember a lot of it by heart, and I remember the chorus by heart. Hehe. I've been hearing Eminem since his second mainstream album, SSLP, back in 99 when it came out when I was in 5th grade. Hehe.
My mother was an abusive alcoholic that will never admit to the horrible shit she did to me and my sisters. And, I can’t forgive , entirely, until she does. It’s like saying I’m wrong by not admitting to the truth.
I'm kinda in the same spot. Except mine keeps preaching that she's changed and making amends. Which is great, except for the fact that she, by her words and actions, is only making amends to make herself feel better. Sorry, I can't be a part of that.
great video! “headlights” by eminem is like the sequel to this song, it’s him apologizing for this song and other songs where he dissed her and how him and her kinda made up, he also heavily regrets “cleanin out my closet” and he doesn’t even play it at concerts anymore
This is my favorite Eminem song. It’s so similar to life with my biological mother. She didn’t physically make me sick but she mentally and emotionally abused me. I’m 45 and she still tries to do it. I’ve ended up blocking her on all social media platforms and her from my phone. She’s actually in some legal trouble right now and I wish they would force her to get a psychological exam more than jail time or fines. I was blessed that in 4 th grade I told my biological grandmother ( my mom) that I didn’t want to have to go with my biological mother anymore and she was fine with that and made sure I never had to spend time with her if I didn’t want to. My biological mother tried to mentally and emotionally mess with my niece when she was little (now 23) my brother never put his foot down, still hasn’t, but a few months ago my niece did. My brother escaped the majority of the mess with our biological mother as he’s been with our parents since he was 7.5 months old. When our mom got a phone call from a friend of our biological moms, telling her they were out having a good time and she brought my brother and put him on one side of the room against the wall and she was on the other side of the building having fun. Mom asked the guy to keep an eye on my brother until she could get there, she picked him and his seat up and walked out. Our biological mother had no idea he was even gone. Mom had already talked to the judge and got permanent custody of my brother (early 70s) before the night was over and before our bio mom realized he was gone.
Headlights is basically a sequel to this song and is basically the next part of what happened between him and his mother. Love the reactions man.
His rawness and transparency of his thoughts and feelings helped me through my childhood and millions of other children and individuals going through bad
You know I'm gonna be the 1000th person to comment "Please do Headlights after." Because It's Eminem's growth and forgiving of his past. Please! When you get the chance, I request Headlights
Thank you for making this Video. Cleaning out my closet came out in July 2002 (The Eminem Show).
Eminem (Marshall Bruce Mathers III) was born in Missouri (17. October 1972 ) and later moved to Detroit with his Mother. He never met his father, who died in 2019 (heart attack).
His Uncle Ronnie, who commited suicide as a Teenager, was his best friend and he brought Hip Hop in Eminems life.
You need to do ”headlights” after this, its an apology to his mom
His mom actually made a diss track against him, wrote a book claiming to have a part in his fame, and tried to sue him for $10 million.
"Leaving Heaven" is the song Eminem wrote after the death of his father
And in "Mockingbird", Em talks to his children about how he tries to treat them better than what he went through
I think both could be interesting.
Ronnie was his Uncle (mom’s brother) who Em was close to and is the person who introduced him to hip hop! He committed suicide. His mom besides making a CD with people who were trying to take him down she sued him for defamation and basically got nothing! His childhood bully did the same (sued him) and got a big fat goose egg!
Headlights is an amazing follow up song to this. Also "need me" ft pink is a good song more about a toxic relationship
“ been in Survival Mode , since a Five year old “ 💔
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Every time I hear Eminem talking about Healy I'm crying my eyes out. I lost my mother when I was 5 and my relationship with my father was always really bad. So it fulfills me to hear about fathers that, despite all their problems they're doing their best to put their children first. Great video btw:)
*Hailie
@@JasonZakrajsek you could see past that. I'm greek, and not a native english speaker.
Even gave himself a thumbs up, psycho
The shit I’m going through right now… this song kills me. I needed to hear it and I needed to hear your take. I literally just came from a therapy session and this video pops up… some serious sort of divine intervention, and I’m not even religious.
So nice to hear your honesty and vulnerability 🙏
I was only 6 years old when this song came out and I have a vivid memory of this MV play on our family computer. It left me scared lol.
This song hits me on spiritual level, my Dad is a alcoholic my Mom is a gambling addict. They arguing almost everyday, my Dad would throw and destroy stuff around house or break some mirrors. My Mom keep pawning stuff around the house including my bicycle that I need to go to school and I had to sleep at friend’s house because my Mom wouldn’t let me sleep in the house to hide the fact she pawn my bicycle from my Dad. I left them for 13 years now back when I was 16 years old.
Glad you have this out. I’d watch headlights right after.
This song actually got me into rap......song was so memorable, I got the album, fell in love with Em and rap, and bought all his music, and moved from rock more to rap.;
I think writing songs, making music, is a part of how Eminem copes with his life. He wrote this song to get it out there, and later after he's matured and had more life experience he regrets it, but says he was angry- rightfully, maybe- and he wasn't thinking of how it would hurt his mom. He was just expressing his feelings in a nonviolent way.
This song definitely helped me get some of my emotions out about my mother, she was abusive and narcissistic and she truly ruined my life mainly from mental abuse she caused. I related a lot during this whole song, trying so hard to fix the issues that are causing her to become abusive that you get so tired that it becomes so hard to hold any form of love for her.
I hear a lot about how a mother’s love is unique and how everyone needs a mother’s love and it sucks to think that I never and probably will never know what the true love of my mother feels like.
Pardon the novel
You need to check out "Headlights" after this.
Geeze listening to this as an adult just makes me cry so much. I feel so bad for everything he had to go through or anyone else who dealt with this.
I never knew the Munchausen syndrome by proxy thing was real but someone actually posted a report that was at the trial of when she tried to sue him for slander. From all the interviews and people talking about em, everything in this song is factual and not exaggerated.
He did have a follow up to this song now hes older called headlights. He regrets making this song. After going through addiction himself, he kinda saw how it wasnt fully in her control how she acted. You should check it out.
Do you know where the report is?
You have to listen to headlights now since you're hearing this. It's beautiful
This song actually scared me a lot. I think I was around13 or 14 year sold when this came out and since English isn't my native language, I didn't understand anything. So it was a pretty aggressive sounding song with domestic abuse in the video and a menacing beat to me. Do you actually check out the uncensored versions of this songs after the reaction? Because especially at the end of this song, he said some pretty nasty things.
Btw I don't know how much you are informed about Em's history but here are some things to keep in mind which can help put the songs into a timeline: he did get more and more tattoos during his career. So in the early days when his daughter wasn't born yet/was a baby, he didn't have her tattooed on his right shoulder yet. Those are mostly the days of his first successfull album, The Slim Shady LP. I think he has that tattoo starting from his next album, The Marshall Mathers LP. The other big one is his tattoo that shows the name of Proof, his friend from D-12. It's on his left underarm and it should be there sometime after Encore, his forth main album. That's also the time of his first big hiatus when he had the most trouble with drugs.
The other thing to keep in mind is his hair. First he was blonde and shaven in his career. Then after Encore he had dark hair sometimes in his videos (and the whole time during the movie 8 mile). He had blonde hair on some of the songs on Relapse and dark hair on the others. I think on Recovery he mostly had dark hair and on The Marshall Mathers LP2 he had mostly blonde hair again. Then with Revival he pretty much stuck with the dark hair and introduced us to his beard lol. And that's the present so if you see him with dark hair and a beard, then that song is pretty recent (it has to be at least from 2017),
I don't know how much this made sense but I wanted to write it down, maybe it'll help lol.
You know your Eminem history! Well done and thanks for letting me know😊👍
@@ReactionTherapyOfficial if you want a truly menacing song song by him listen to Kim by Eminem it’s about his ex wife getting with another man and it’s a really dark song
I’m not sure if anyone else has suggested “Drug Ballad” yet but that’s another must listen song from Eminem, especially for that 3rd verse. I’ve never heard anything that so accurately captures the feeling of being young and caught up in addiction/excessive substance use.
“Deja Vu” is Eminem’s best song in my opinion. Not a super popular one but it’s got a wicked rhyme pattern and there are several ideas he expresses beautifully throughout
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I agree, it's a great song
Although I didn't suffer the extend of the abuse Eminem did with his mother, I can relate. I never felt love from my mom. I felt like she cringed when I walked into the room- like she "had" to love me but never even "liked" me. I am 44 and feel like I am just starting now to work through some of those feelings. She passed away 8 years ago and up to the end of her life, she never gave an inch.
Love these reactions. Headlights is a good one to react to as it’s the apology sort of but I think “My Mom” is a must hear before that one to get the full scope of their relationship
Definitely
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Make sure you all add 'Headlights' to the google doc! He's gotta follow this up with that one asap!
He had a very hard life. Not only problems with his mom )family
But he was bullied in school. He was beaten so bad by a bully in the school bathroom that he fell into a coma for a week when he was 9 years old .
His mother sued him for defamation of character for 10 million dollars. That's what he means by "how dare you try to take what you didn't help me to get". He makes references to that 10 mill in multiple songs.
She lost I'm pretty sure.
Ronnie was Eminem's uncle, older by 2 years. In Stan Em said his uncle Ronnie 'killed himself over some bitch that didn't want him'
Parents are parents, true but i can relate to this song. Both my parents rejected me hated me left me to starve, beat me with everything they could find i still remember when i was 6 years old and my mom locked me in the room with her so nobody could come to save me and she took a big knife and told me she will kill me and started to cut herself it was so much for me to take back then even now if i see blood i get dizy cause of that. My mom called me crazy she called me a demon also said she wish i was'nt even born. I hate to talk about my life but i'm 32 years now and i still can't deal with the stress and depression started drinking at the age of 14 got mixed with the wrong friends and it brought me in al sorts of trouble. My great grandma raised me fed me till she died she was the only one looking after me. Ended up in a heavy motorcycle accedent cause i remember when i asked my mom for food and she told me no so ended up taking my bike drove off to a fast food restaurant and ended up crashing into a truck on my way there my back never recovered from the accedent till this day i have back issues. Family hated me cause i was diffrent and rejected me since i started following Christ. I have a family of my own now and a little girl she is the reason i stopped drinking cause she told me many times: daddy stop drinking you will get drunk and pass out again, and hearing that from a 4 year old broke my heart and i'm trying everything to give her a better life and a life i never had, but it's so hard to forget the past!
I am speechless. And I am so sorry that every grown up person around you let you down.(except for your your great grandmother) Because some of them _must have seen & known that you were abused, but didn't intervene..._
Hugs. Big internet hugs. ❤
Eminem did this publicly because he's very passionate about rap but he also dealt with drug problems even during his career and he faced all his problems while rapping his job is his home and he still in the game
The follow-on to this song is "Headlights" where you can see that he has matured in his view of his mother and their relationship, and it's his apology/acceptance song, it's very poignant and regretful.
He says he cringes at this song now when he hears it and he doesn't play it at his shows anymore.
I relate to that so much. I had a horrible relationship with my mother and in my teenage/very young adult years, I was full of resentment and rage, I wanted to hurt her like I felt hurt. I used to listen to this song and relate it to my own feelings about her. Now, I am in my "Headlights" phase.
Comparing these two songs will really show his emotional and psychological growth and maturity.
I subscribed because your analysis made me tear up. You’re spot on. As a man who has made his mother hate him, I am continuously trying to fix our relationship to no avail.
Thanks for taking the time to comment😊🙏
God this song here got me through most of my teen years although I still live with my mom,the angry lyrics kept me from doing something I would totally regret
Same, I relate to this more than anyone should. My mom said she should have had an abortion with me, yelled it at me when I was 12. You an 80's/90's baby too?
Same fam , I hate to repeat something you probably hear already but you gotta move out the small bit of space will help the relationship between you and your mom . It's not easy but it'll be a great goal and feeling
Ronnie was his uncle, but he was almost his age so they were very close and he Eminem's best friend at that time. Ronnie committed suicide in 1991.
Pls react to "Headlights" also by Eminem, it's his apology letter to his mother.
My dad never left, but I always wished that he would have...
Ohh... Wait a minute, that's... Disturbing.. 😕
@@jomarbirhen8416 My dad was just a piece of shit, beat me, etc. Not sexual or anything thank fuck. But it still messed me up pretty good.
@@AlanahNahNah 😓😓😓😓 i don't know what to say...
Probably one of the most relatable songs I’ve ever heard. Amazing break down. Thank you sir.
Man I haven't listened to this album in years but I still remember every single lyric on it
2009!!! You sir have been living under a rock. I remember watching the world premiere of this in August 2002.
This song and video still goes over people's heads till this day because they keep assuming he's talking about killing his mother when that's not the case.
When he talks about taking out the bullets out of that gun, he is referring to an episode when he pistol whipped a guy who was kissing Kim. If the gun was still loaded, maybe he'd end up shooting at both.
Other rappers made fun about the fact he ran around with an unloaded gun, he says it's the smartest thing he did.
The video was uploaded in 2009 because that is when UA-cam started as a platform; until then it was most likely played on MTV and other television channels related to music. Cleaning out my closet came out with The Eminem Show in 2002, and acted as a diss track to his mother and her abuses and manipulations from when he was a kid, critiquing her attitude to his upbringing. He had many more conflicts with his mother in his career, due to his lyrics about her.
Headlights then came out years later as a way to say sorry and to make peace with his mother. The music video for it was heartwarming and you should see it.
When your talking i love it your one of the only people what it feel like your talking to us the eye contact is real when your talking im nodding my head in agreement.
Thank you! You’re right! Relationship is everything😊👍
When I was younger I know my mom took her far share of beatings just so I could go to the psych. I was always told by my dad not to talk about abuse b/c it could be worse and I knew my dad didn't threaten; he made promises. I was more concerned my dad would lose his job as a correctional officer tho. My mom was my first steps to mental health just sorry she went through so much pain to get me there. Great vid doc! Much love as always! So glad you give some thoughts of mental health along the way!
It took me a long time to realize just how much of a victim my mommas really was. I hope she seeks therapy b/c I know how bad her nightmares are in her sleep about the past.
Hear this song then yoy hear temporary from Eminem and its like wow. Ftom everything he managed to break the generation cycle and do and become what he did for his daughter and his adopted daughters. Wow. Have so much respect for this man
I think some point of my life i need to talk to a therapist. I just can't bear it anymore
This song is literally my childhood crazy how similar it is
I can totally compare my life to his in a way!
I was told by my mom "I could of adopted someone else" my mother was hateful my whole life! I was adopted when I was 5 she hurt me my whole child hood. The hurt, the memories play over and over! My mom passed in 2021, no im sorry, instead I never got to even see her as I was not welcome. No im sorry no closer! This will eat at me the rest of my life!
I could keep going but I better stop!
Well, this is definitely a very unique reaction to this song. I love it!
I agree with you - Eminem has a way to be open about some things in his life that make him so relateable. This song in particular hit me when it first came on MTV in 2002 even though I'd never been much of a rap-fan. Took me years to appreciate the genre as a whole (to my defense - I'm German so tehre wasn't as much out on radio as in the US) but this one truly hooked me. I could relate even though I've got the best parents in the world . Great choice
PS Another great song to tackle by Eminem (apart from Headlights) would probably be Deja Vu or Going through Changes. Both have the same subject, so you can probably choose either.
Thanks so much for watching and for the comment. It’s cool to see where you’ve come regarding rap.😊👍
the song “my mom” by eminem, is another song that goes more in depth with his childhood and especially his mother
Unrelated to the music reaction, but .. you must be a great psychotherapist.
I really wish any of my therapists were as soft spoken and empathetic as you sir.
Thank you for what you are doing.
I grew up with abuse and chose to get between dad and mom and brothers. My brothers and I agreed on our own to not physically abuse our children and wives. Wife says she can still see it in my eyes and my voice 🤷🤷🤷 Joined the Marine Corps then law enforcement and that was good for my ulcers because that was nowhere near as stressful as home. I’m glad my folks divorced and he’s dead now. He thought he was a good man
Omg i love this channel so much! I’ve been debating on therapy for years but now I feel like I’m ready thank you for that! P.s you should listen to headlines by Eminem it’s after he’s grown and he talks about making this song
Good for you!! Thanks for watching😊👍
Holy hell.
I’m sorry I can’t say more than that.
Thank you for everything you said in this video
THanks so much! For watching and for the comment😊👍
I was 8 or 9 when this song came out. I didn't understand the lyrics 100% but enough for it to make sense. Also came from a house with a lot of domestic violence, remember blaring this in my room while I hugged my younger sister so that way she didn't have to hear the fighting.
Em is the goat, we all live a life where we want to break out from reality