How to Handle BULLIES: 11 SOFT POWER Ways to TEACH people how to TREAT You!
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“Their cornbread ain’t cooked in the middle”😂😂 This took me out because it’s true lol
Just sit back and watch, a bully will always reveal themselves.
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People don't talk about it but it seems that in the black community that being a bully is a birthright and that in order to be respected you have to be a mean girl. When you are nice and feminine you are seen as weak and someone unworthy of respect. The thing that I hate is that mean girls don't have to deal with trauma and people not liking them. It seems like the meaner they are the more love they get.
Great point. But mean girls hate themselves more than you’ll ever know. With experience and emotional intelligence you’ll learn over time that you won’t need evidence to know when a person is suffering. People who are happy do not go out of their way to hurt others. 💕💄
@@TheNewFeminine True
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I am African and I had this same conversation with my husband last night, it appears in the black community ni need to be toxic and hard as nails to earn a modicum of respect
Earliest experience if bullying was in church. It was both weird and embarrassing
I'm 30 but I needed this just as much as the 25 & under ladies. Nobody taught me anything about this and I can be very naive and trusting. I didn't realize how nasty most women are, especially the older ones to the younger ones. I feel like they are suppose to help guide other younger women but I mostly just see them belittle and disrespect them. It's like emotional cannibalism and it's truly disgusting.
"Emotional cannibalism " wow that is such a good description
Truly disgusting
Nope it’s okay we still experience things even at 30 doesn’t exempt us I grew up with a loving mom and 16 aunts didn’t realize girls/women were so cut throat until school and the workforce
Agreed!
@@QueenAmour8888 I thought the same thing! Very insightful
I used to think something was wrong with me because I was targeted and bullied most of my life by women. My mom would tell me that they were jealous and I didn't like that, I felt uncomfortable. As I've gotten older, I realized that bullies are truly miserable and bitter people, and there's nothing you can do but double down on your femininity and never stoop to their level.
Yup...I can relate.
My mother said similar things and it was just so bizarre to first think that women could hate themselves that much. You were blessed to have a mother tell you that you are loved. Some people don't receive that EVER. So sad but not our problem ❤
Same with me in elementary, it was like I had a target on my back 😤
@@lucidasmr6413 very true. Grateful my mother kept it real with me.
@@XxMercuriiXx it’s so difficult to deal with that during elementary school, so isolating, I hear you.
Bullying is so prevalent among women, young and especially the older ones, it amazes me. It is especially so present in female dominated jobs sites like healthcare and teaching. As a nurse, I developed my strategy to keep to myself all things personal and to not engage in small talks with women at work. This is the way I protect myself from the bullies.
Nurses are bullies. I’m a student nurse (almost qualified). Nurses eat their young(with the exception of a few). Bitter women!
@@swiitdoll congrats on finishing nursing. I would advise to work and get your experience in 1-2 years and go travel nursing. Keep your personal things to yourself. Sign your contract every 3 months and if you don’t like the place, run from there. I have almost three years experience and that’s what I am about to start. My job now is PRN and I go there day or night. The masculinas barely get to see me to start their abuse.
@@swiitdoll I agree in nursing school the staff are so nasty!!
@@kellysnyclife663girl, this! I made the mistake of getting comfortable wih coworkers. Idk how to avoid small talks now.
That's also my new strategy, avoid the small talks, because it can escalate very quickly into personal information being shared, office gossip etc. Still curtious and friendly but from a personal and spiritual space of distance. They really don't know what to do with that vibe😅
I was bullied by a masculine boss. She was a vile women and constantly seeking conflict. She was never happy with anything I did and constantly criticised me. She triggered by anxiety and depression. People told me to suck it up. It was really bad.
No girlfriend if you’re ever in that predicament again just know you can leave no amount of money is worth being disrespected. That’s why I quit jobs left right and center when I was younger 😅
I’m sorry that happened to you, now you can heal and hopefully find the courage to be in a rewarding relationship.
You're not a tree uproot yourself and move on...she not going to change. Self care #!
My contract ended and I’m now employed at the same company with a different boss and location. I’m super happy. I vowed to myself I would never put up with that again.
I’m going through this right now. not to mention she criticize my wardrobe and I know I am always on point.
I remember in middle school I was a part of a multi year first place military drill team. My coach warned us that when you are doing good things in life people will say “ you think your all that” and she told us that they know we are and that is why they are angry. That stuck with me for the past 15 years or so.
I was bullied relentlessly by my sister in law when I first started dating her brother. She changed for the better and accepted me but I never got over it and realized I never will. I cut her out of my life completely. My kindness delayed what I should have done years ago. She’s now blindsided and destroyed over my decision but I could care less.
I’ve had the same Sister in Law Issues in the past. My husband handled it but the experience taught me a lot about miserable women. Thank you for sharing.💄
I have a similar situation with my SIL too, I usually keep my distance from her, even though she has changed. It’s better to love her from afar.
These replies helped me a lot. I’m dealing with the same but brother in laws suprisingly
My toxic mother was my 1st bully. Next were the mean kids in school. In adulthood it was resentful older women in the workplace. I had to quit one job because of a WW boss, & a BW boss did fire me. I’m a lot less naive these days. I can stand up for myself & still keep my job.
Especially when you get unasked for praise. They absolutely hate that!
Very true, the older women in the workplace are the worst. They buddy up to management to make sure nothing ever happens to them for their behavior. I deal with them by never ever sharing anything in my life with them….they like to know your life for fuel so they can bully you. I am all the way professional and that’s it. Chloe made a video about older women and that helps me to stay away.
At times I feel that I have P TSD because of a toxic bully boss but reading the comments and listening to Chloe on this one I'm gonna let it go.. Next time, I will learn how to stand up and not need the job so bad where I cannot quit thanks for your comment.
@@NB2U As a older woman that was harassed almost fired from a professional job this is only what I have learned:
*It's just a JOB, the next job start putting 5 to 10% of your income away, no job is permanent it is a job just OVER BROKE JOB.
* Do not be friend anyone at the job and by no means go out drinking and partying with them.
*Know your Handbook and respectfully place personal as well as professional boundaries early.
* If you just want to keep the job and it's not too much emotional pain make sure you keep notes on what you're doing on a daily basis so you will be able to explain if they come after you.
The reason why I said save your money because if you don't own the business you should NEVER become comfortable on anybody's JOB.
I'm sure there's more but this is what I have come learn working on a job where I was bullied and harassed.
Same here! Its almost like you have to come in and portray yourself as someone who doesn’t tolerate fuckery but from the jump though…no matter how minimal the offense…can’t let ANYTHING slide…easier said than done I know…I myself am still learning this in my 20s
Bullies are mainly people especially women who aren’t healed and still have inner WORK to do. Focus on YOU and leave them in the dust.
Happy Self Care 🧖🏾♀️ Sunday Ladies!
My former boss was as you described broken and no instrospection
@@poelomokgotho8127 my ex friend was like this. no introspection whatsoever, narcissistic and always the victim.
Ignoring bullies and doing exactly what they were scared off is the ultimate flex!
"...and yes feathers will be ruffled, but you can argue with your flammable wig."🤣🤣💀. I love this channel! Always dropping timely gems while keeping it comedy! ❤️
Who sayings always get me to. And it’s never the same thing twice🔥
Lolll
Really needed this video as someone whos been bullied throughout my entire life in school and work. So many scrotes and masculinas out there who are racist and jealous. It’s been hard to be unbothered out here
Your sunday vids are part of my self-care day. Quote of the vid... "You can argue with your flammable wig" 😂
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Lol.. yeah or "You can argue with your dirty bedsheets."
Omgoodness!! 😂❤ I look forward to hearing these quotes from our Sister Chloe! ❤
@ZeeGee222 Lol...queen of sarcasm and I can relate to her method...I can be very sarcastic too. She just has a way of sliding it in, Lol.
And dirty bedsheets 😂
I’m bullied at work everyday by my supervisor! I’ve been to the manager multiple times, until I found out that she co-signs on the supervisor’s bad behavior by ignoring and turning a blind eye!
I work for the federal government, and have 5 years until I reach retirement with full benefits that I have earned with 28 years of service, including 3 years of military service!!! I refuse to leave until my time and goals are reached!
In the meantime, I will fight my battles with the power of my pen!!!
THANKS for all your videos and powerful commentary!
Chloe you’re AWESOME!
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Don’t let Nobody beat you out of your forthcoming financial blessings of retirement. They know they have limited time to get on your nerves so they are going full tilt.
Move to another team.
My mother was my first mean girl N biggest bully to date Whom also turned my sisters and other siblings against me so yeah when I see a group of women I get dea*thly scared like after those experiences and even my sisters becoming mean girls to me I’m just done with female friendships friendships all together N the men all they wanna do is sleep with you so yeah 🤷🏽♀️ 😂
This
My mother did the same thing to me. She has always been my biggest hater. I'm thriving ❤️ and it eats her up inside. Love yourself, ladies. There are many miserable people out there.
It means you’re a star ⭐️
It’s very painful coming from family, so sorry about that. I wish I could be a good friend to you cos I understand what you’re going through. I pray you heal and grow.
Oh same lol but I equally distrust men and women
This
I was bullied in the workplace. I used it as material and inspiration for my dissertation. Once I graduated, I thanked my bully for inspiring me to get my doctorate. He was like 🤯🤯
I was bullied several times by old and older women as a child. It still baffles me how mothers and grandmothers can have beef with a 10 year old who never misbehaved. I later realized they saw a certain light and beauty in me that made them insecure and attack.
I've experienced this in the past and God has truly healed me. I've learned that bullies truly reap what they sow.
They really do.💄
100%
My high school bully in my inbox asking for money
@@yourfavouritenurse8814 Tell her to call Tyrone 😂
💯💯They do.
Having dealt with a number of women bullies a better part of my life particularly in work, I pay them absolute dust. I know that I’m better than them which allows me to preserve my femininity.
It always my toxic coworkers I aslo have friendly coworkers that I communicate with
I will be 42 years old and I still get this bad. I finally accepted it as a compliment. Don’t underestimate bullies. I had to defend myself from a women closer to mother’s age.
❤ it is worse in our forties especially if no one has ever checked a bully
Just in time I’m crying tears as I’m going through for 20 ling. Years it’s really a gift and a curse being kind+ attractive
Girl I feel you. It can be so confusing and damaging when you just don't understand that mindset. Or you try to make friends with other women and they just give you the stink eye.
@@livinginthepines And because of this behavior this is just a reason why women or to themselves and they do not try to make friends at all.
@@sandycheeks1580 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾thanks for advice
@@livinginthepines all this makes me want to be an entrepreneur because this happens to me at every job I had since I got out of high school
I agree I been bullied through my whole life leading up to law school. I can't stand when black women are jealous of one another its sad. Im currently in this situation where these girls in my law school were bullying me and the end result was withdrawing from the law school to protect my energy and peace. I am looking to transfer law schools pretty soon. My advice to any one stay stay stay very very very far from these women. I didnt hang around these women but I had to put up with their garbage everyday because they had the same classes as me everyday. So if you work or attend school with toxic people please watch your back because these people are dangerous.
I have learned to keep interactions with women (especially black women) to a minimum. It’s sad but it’s true. We as a people have not resolved our trauma that pits us against us. I have been on this journey pretty much my whole life. I have always been feminine and taken Ls for it. But my life continues to elevate and I am blessed. Currently looking to continue to cultivate my feminine tribe.
@Andrea Deveaux I 100% agree with you. I have to keep a minimum distance from them also. The law school I went to was an hbcu and I regretted coming to this school. Us black people need to heal instead of being jealous of one another.
I wish you success transferring law schools. I also had bullying in grad school and currently at work. When you stand up to them they’ll leave you alone. They’re everywhere. Stay prayed up and don’t let them chase you from your dreams and purpose. ❤
@@brebre23461 Let me guess. Howard? Smh It’s a shame when we cannot support each other. Too much crabs in the barrel mentality. My grad schools were all PWIs but you’ll encounter some of the same.
@Lou Wil It was Nccu. That college is ghetto as heck! And yeah im applying to all Pwi law schools because attending an hbcu law school wasn't it
Protect your peace at all costs!
Agree
I wish I understood this in my twenties and teens. I was bullied by coworkers, cousins and my brother in law.
My mother gets off on making me feel bad about the mistakes I’ve made and the things I didn’t achieve. I thought it was me but once I kinda got a little control over how I react it became clear she’s bullying me. Bringing up how I was mean to her as a child. Weird. Anyway, tried so hard over the years to make her happy and proud of me but it’s never good enough. I bought her very expensive things and gave her money but no amount of that can give me the reaction I want. I just had to accept that’s who she is and she is comfortable being miserable inside. I’m kinda just venting in the comment section but Chloe thank you for making these videos.
Once you apologize and ask for forgiveness, you have no control over, nor are you responsible for another's inner work. Becareful with that because some could use guilt as a manipulation and control tactic.
If you haven’t already you need to go low contact with her. If or when she ask why you are behaving like this calmly explain you have apologized and have tried to make amends for any bad behavior on your part. She doesn’t have to accept your apology but you do not have to accept her negative behavior and she does not get a pass because she is your mother. When she tries to argue, because she will do not engage. Once she finishes speaking paraphrase what you said and say goodbye. If she tries to smear you with the family inform them of how you have tried to make amends and she still is nasty. You determine how often you wish to make contact and stick to it. I watched a friend do this with her mother. She had to go no contact for awhile. Once her mother realized she was no longer going to allow her behavior the interaction change. They are not close but her mother knows not to try her.
'Ignore, block, report. Bullies are looking for a reaction. Make the dismissal of all bullying behaviors automatic.'
Hi Chloé and Everyone 👋🏽
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Hey sis! 👋🏾
Definitely bullied by my family with my mum being the ring leader 😢. But YET I RISE. 🎊
Wow. I was just talking about this last week. I am so isolated now because people have become so negative it’s really sad. I think people are okay with being mediocre and when you decide to do something different, because they aren’t doing anything, they project their insecurities onto you. I am not interested in any women groups. Just drama and herd mentality. If you don’t do what everyone else is doing, they get upset with you. Why should I have to post my business on social media in order for you to be okay with me? I personally think they’ve created these groups for people who don’t know themselves and need to be manipulated and controlled by someone to feel like they fit into something. Notice the successful people who are respected by others and not seen surrounded in a circle with a bunch of people. Angela Bassett, Alicia keys, Beyoncé, THE ARTIST formerly known as PRINCE. Prince was a great example of greatness flying solo.
This bullying thing that I feel has derived from unhealthy groups, is contagious, people. If you hang around it, you become it. Learn who you are by spending time with yourself. Be kind to yourself first and watch how easy it is to be kind to others. Ugly behavior is normal for some people. They see nothing wrong with faking friendships, celebrations, and can easily talk about every single person they supposedly like, like a dog. My father, God rest his soul, taught me that you listen when you meet people. They will tell you who they are. He said stop talking so much and pay attention to what people are saying. The BEST advice I ever received as a teenager. I am much older now and I’ve found that his advice has carried me throughout my life. The people who are in my circle are doing things and support me in what I’m doing. All because I’ve established boundaries with people. The bad people fall off quickly when you do that. Trust me, it works.
I’m sorry I wrote a book but this topic is such a great one. I have been bullied online. People leaving bad reviews about my business, attacking my character like you wouldn’t believe. But those people are far and few in between. Good people still exist out here and I am still successful regardless to the anonymous hate. Chloe’s channel is such an inspiration. I hold it near and dear to me. Be feminine ladies but at the same time stern.
Thanks Chloe ❤
I enjoyed reading your book. 😉 I like your dads advice. I'm gonna take it also. ❤
I didn't have the pleasure of a father and when I read really good comments from the commenters fathers I write them down because I'm still learning also and have learned a lot
Lol...hey sometimes I just need to get it out too and my kids tease me about "the paragraphs" I write. But indeed...everything you've noted is spot on. I've recently come to terms with the fact that people's perception of you is bigger than reality...no need to waste energy and time convincing them otherwise because even once all is said and done, they'll still try to appease their perception by poking holes in your explanation of your own life and livelihood. I'm just not going to be one to give in to people's insecurities, jealousy, or envious emotions by altering how I live or my lifestyle.
Beyoncé is SMART. Ole girl been watching what she says and how she carries herself since birth 😂 She knew she’d be famous one day and that folks would try and use everything against her if she slipped.
Sis said argue with your flammable wig 😭🤣 I love you, Chloe! 💕
I love you too.
Yes by my own mother. I have been bullied by managers, coworkers you name it alot of bullies hide behind the workplace
Chloe is serving up a nice hot plate of feminine game
I needed this. I recently just started putting a little bit more effort into how I look. I have always been that one person that had very stylish clothing but never wore it due to social anxiety. I love dressing up, it’s my biggest motivation to go somewhere… in most cases my lectures. At my PWI nobody dresses up. Most women where athletic leisure or sweats, shorts or an oversized T shirt to lecture. This year I started wearing the outfits that I wanted to where in order to cope with the many mental illness that I have (depression and social anxiety). I recently been put on meds and I guess you can say they are working. I started stepping out of my comfort zone wearing the cute outfits I’ve always wanted to wear. I’ve also been adding a little makeup (just eyebrows and lips). As of now I find women regularly starting at me. I’ve even heard some slick comments for some of them and it breaks my heart that they think I’m stuck up just because I come to lecture looking good. Im a girls girls so I love being around another women but my new found confidence has gotten a lot of them threatened. I can’t even walk around with my purse on my wrist without getting that “who does she think she is look”. It makes me depressed bc ppl really will dislike a black woman for existing outside of the parameters they set you in. Majority of the time I get weird looks, eye rolls , and slick comments from white women and other poc women of color. Black women treat me fine for the most part. I know at the end of the day it jealously and subtle racism but it still hurts that I have to go through this. Why can’t people just let black women explore their femininity without making it weird? I’m exhausted but I won’t stop being me and expressing myself bc it makes them uncomfortable.
Don’t take it personal. And trust; it’s not a race thing. I’m a girls girl too but sometimes WOMEN are weird, catty, petty, hostile and aggressive but it isn’t talked about much. Keep shining.💄
I have been bullied (emotionally) most of my life, but learned how to deal with bullies. I call them out, tell them about themselves, and dismiss them with a "have a nice day" remark. Sometimes, I just ignore them. Bullies hate when I do not give them my energy.
@Chrystal07 me too. It is a great chess move
Yes, I just finished dealing with a situation from a now former friend/coworker. Over 2 years ago I got a promotion and I noticed that she stopped speaking to me. I brushed it off as her being busy. I saw her in person a few months back and spoke to her but she didn't speak back. She found out about a particular man that I liked and pursued him. I heard that situation didn't work out well for her. Kinda hurt because I never did anything to her or spoke ill about her. And this woman is in her mid 50's acting this way. An old angry bully.
This video is my BIRTHDAY gift!! I really needed this reminder today. I decided to get therapy & get deep down in my feminine energy. I work in a very masculine energized environment with women who hate feminine women & have even placed myself & others in positions where we could've lost our jobs & life. Ladies, be very careful!
'Their cornbread ain't cooked in the middle.' 🤣🤣🤣💀💀💀
I'm 33 and need this
CUse there's older women who give ne attitude for no reason
So YT was certainly not a thing when I was 16 but I do wish I had this type of wisdom given to me then
I was targeted and bullied by black women in childhood and adulthood. 1st, my mother. Then at school. Then in the foster care system by black foster mothers and sisters. I never had this issue with other race women. Only black women. I'm 35 now, I do not trust women at all especially black women. Even when I tried, it was always something. Either they bullied me because of my skin tone (I'm light skin) or because I don't have a big butt. I noticed they never said I was ugly, but they seem to always attack something of my looks. They see a pretty woman immediately start trying to find something wrong. I only got this from black women.
Chole your god send!I experienced bullying from a young age and I just came to conclusions that they are full of insecurities instead of healing they hurt everyone around,it's not and wast not something in us deserve to get bully about
Dang Chloe, where were you at during my teenage years?!! LOL Looking back, I was very feminine but definitely got bullied and/or talked about for it. I have, through the years, been called high maintenance and stuck up. That used to tear me up inside because I felt that no one took the time to get to know me and they were judging me based upon how I carried myself. After listening to your channel, I finally embraced it but I definitely changed a lot of myself when I got to college because I wanted to be accepted and chosen by the guys. I wish I would have kept who I was but we also learn. Thanks to the grace of God, I am falling back into my feminine. I appreciate your channel.
I SO SO NEEDED THIS! I hate being a nice girl. I’ve gotten bullied a lot in life. And now as an adult I suffer from BPD. People always come for the way I look
Chloe definitely got her wit & humor from her Grandmother. The way I was gigging I had to listen twice lol
Great timing, I am experiencing bullying from my coworkers to the point where one of them tried to fight me on the job,smh.
Chloe, This is an absolute GEM. Lots of women neglect or turn away of doing the shadow work to become the Goddess that rest within you and your purpose. Masculinas love to knock anyone off their feminine journey as they blossum along the way to enjoy life as a Goddess. I love this Chloe...
Chloe, thanks for reminding us about Shanquella, her quest for justice against the bullying frenemies who caused her death isn't over yet 💔
My bullies were my aunts.
I’ve since checked EACH and every one of them!
They had it coming!
They are still watching and the compliment is when I see them (rarely) showing up looking like a masculine clone of ME❤
Bullies and bullying are unfortunate fact of life. It is also unfortunate to have people tell you that to deal with bullying effectively requires you tolerating it and changing yourself to deal with it. This video is significant and timely.
Oh yes I've been bullied and judged from childhood to adulthood for the most superficial reasons that really has nothing to do with me but indeed has everything to do with the insecurities that's brought out in other women when in my experience, I'm on the scene. It never ever stopped me from being too smart, too "put together" too "think she's cute" too "where does she think she's at/going" too "dressed up" oh yes that reminds me..., too "many clothes and shoes for one person" too "sidity (childhood days before "bougie" became a thing)/bougie (from undergrad college days), too "comfortable because she's got a husband taking care of her" too NAME IT. I'm 46 now and indeed it has continued throughout my adult life from the workplace/female coworkers, my SILS, peers/"friends"...even the one good, close friend I thought I had and have known since childhood has shown herself completely to date. How did I cope? I CONTINUED TO BE "TOO EVERYTHING" that I've always been without skipping a beat because I was JUST BEING ME. I didn't change to fit their preference or "dumb down" or do "less than" to appease anyone's mood. After all, as I saw it, whatever a person is not pleased with, she can change it and if it's not in her control, accept that it's not in her control and learn how to live/cope until it can be changed if at all which is what I ALSO live by. I chose not to make people's insecurities my business or problem. But hell yes, maintenance and even more successful outcomes or even perseverance from setbacks is the way to send a message to "bullies"/envious or jealous, or insecure people. Also, I keep my distance and ignore them while remaining cordial and/or unbothered.
"But you can argue with your flammable wig." 💀💀💀
When it comes from parents and close family members, it's hard to accept that you are being bullied. The confusion of their actions, which are often coupled with gas lighting, has caused me a lot of emotional distress. Seeing videos like this reminds me of what it is and helps me stay focused. Thank you.
Knowing what people will envy you and why people hate on you are great assets in moving in silence.
If you don’t have a good support team that validates you, they’ll gaslight you and make it you seem you are just being sensitive to the bullying.
Bulling does not discriminate. I have been bullied at my job for the past 10 yrs.
It's weird how they make fun of me but yet they are always watching me!I have always been more tomboyish and self assured, I do not tend to ask people who they think I should be, especially now. It's like every day that I wake I am becoming more and more of who God always created me to be and I can sense it, they hate me! My very presence bothers the hell out of them. I am trying to maintain composure however sometimes I just want to snap on them. I am not sorry that you made what other people think and feel your daily desire, you would rather belittle yourself to stick around people you know don't like you but just for the sake of saving face and having someone you stick to and I don't, I proudly burn bridges!It is what it is, tired of faking stop living for others!I know my name and that is who I am going to stick to being!
I’m 29 I needed to hear this I’ve been bullied from being too tall , my weight , my hair, my skin color ect from family & society so I’m more masculine then feminine
So grateful for my feminine support group 💓✨
Thank you for the birthday gift, Chloe!
Happy birthday 🥳
Happy Birthday 🎉🎂🎈
Me too happy birthday 🎉
Happy birthday!🕺🏽
Thank you for this. This older women at my job who are in their late 40s and early 50s has been bothering me and this is exactly what I needed and I listened to your workplace bully’s podcast episode as well! 🥰 really helpful! You’re the best.
It's like you made this specifically for me. I am working where my male boss is super mean and bullies all of us and most of my coworkers are the same. I don't know why but since I am not as loud and masculine as all my other coworkers they find it easy to bully me. I am glad you made this video because I needed it. I knew I would never stoop to their level so I wanted a way to deal with it while still being feminine
This is one of your best videos Chloe! It’s important for women to learn how to deal with bullies because they’re everywhere. Ignoring them is the best thing you can do because bullies thrive off of getting a reaction out of you. If you can’t get away with them maybe because you work with them, go low contact. Don’t share too much information with them. Keep it at hi and bye. This has helped me tremendously. 🙏🏽
Please do not hesitate to call onto the right spiritual helps,goddesses, duas if it gets too much.
Great vid😊
I see more men bully Lori Harvey than women. I always see women supporting her and men calling her a heaux. Not saying it’s not happening but most of the hate I see comes from men
Men hate Lori because they could never have her.
@@islandgirl8067 that’s it!!
Exactly
Men are bullying her because they want their TURN. It’s pathetic but it’s similar to the movie Malena where the men all secretly wanted to f**k her.
Timely video Chloe,now I gotta start coming here with a notebook and pen.
Chloe not a bowl 🥣 of hate 🤣🤣 u are right cause I know I have been bullied
I have met multiple bullies in my life in the guise of “friends”. Over the years, I have realised that self love also requires that I avoid the company of people that make me feel unsafe, disrespected and hurt and that’s what I now do. I am now 30 years old - it took a while for me to learn to start protecting myself but better late than never.
Oh yeah! Where's 🖊 so I can cosign ✍. Bullies & haters can be great motivators.. Ex: I lived in apartment complex it was like 5 of them miserable, inside & out hags vs me. I never done them ish. I may have not been trying to be buddies but I was polite.. They hated when I didn't have much.. So I decided since they were looking& lurking to give them something to see. I leveled up looks, attitude, job, car, man & bounced to a nice home on them! I knew I already had it in me but something about l👀king @$$ ppl energize u to succeed even harder.. Don't become like them , bitter, do better!!
Happy Sunday everyone ❤❤
I’ve been bullied by my mother and family members for sure. Ex husband as well . I had to block everyone and move forward
I watch these videos partly just to hear Chloe tell people who to argue with!! lmao. "Argue with your flammable wig!!"
Especially family
First bully was mummy dearest, then church ppl then work ppl.
Now I have learned to be assertive and put boundaries in place ❤, I love me some me
flammable wig 😭😭😭😭
Great video as usual ❤❤❤❤❤
Not angry birdzzzz!!!!🤣🤣🤣 I needed this today...thank you, Chloe!
Chloe’s sharp wit🤌🏽
"Argue with your dirty bedsheets"😂
"Argue with your flammable wig"😅
'You can argue with your flammable wig.' lol
Thank you for sharing. You are speaking to a younger me. Took me a long time to realize these lessons. God's blessings!
TALK ABOUT IT !! They’re so obsessed it’s sad
Thank you for this information 🙏🏾. I have been bullied by peers, family, and myself. I have always felt not apart and at one point I attempted to change myself but I just embrace the 'weird' .
I love listening to you 🎉
This couldn't have come at a better time. I needed this so so so much, Chloe. I am trying to create boundaries with people, but my sweetheart tendencies keep taking me back to the same old nice me.
Always love and appreciate your work✨🙏🕊️ thank -you so much, and yes, I've been bullied all my life⚕️
Dealt with this all my life even now in my late 30s. It's sickening and comes from ppl of all walks of life
Incredibly thoughtful and skillful presentation. Thank you for educating young women.
this video like all the ones you post, always come in right on time
Salaam. Happy Sunday, Beloveds!
Awesome video!
This is excellent and needed .
Yeah.. some of us don’t have real friends nor real family
I have slipped and I know. I try so hard to not succumb to the negatives, but it builds up. It seems as if people have no grace with each other anymore. Anyone can call you out of your name or put their hands on you these days. I know I shouldn't let my fears get the best of me, but it is hard finding like minded people around. Thanks Chloe_ it's a refreshing reminder that I have to consistently work on myself and my feminine space, because anything worth having takes effort to upkeep, especially if you want a certain quality of life.
Hi Chole, Thank you for always, always giving us women your guidance and wisdom.
I too was bullied in school and work when I was much younger.
I had to learn how to speak up and be quick about it. I am in a much better place now that I'm much older and wiser.
Thank Chole, Much Love & Appreciation.🥰🥰🥰🥰
Hi Cholè💢 Thank you for the videos, and all the wonderful advice you share..Listen up ladies❣
It’s very prevalent in all races and genders, Im a black woman who lives in an all white area these women are supposedly spiritual but attempt to bully me, I never respond because I don’t have the energy. I just keep working on myself.
Love your video, it's educational. Love it.
loved this
Such a good video!!
Thank you again!
Love your content ✨️ 💕