Cheating boils down to lack of character. All the excuses and "science" is just blowing smoke. If you make a commitment, keep it. All the wealth and/or fame one can achieve means nothing. The only thing you take with you to whatever's next is your word, and if your word ain't worth a shit, neither are you.
The science is bunk. You would have to have an entire population under the threat of isolation and destruction in order to use things like "species survival" and as far as "Darwinian payoffs"? Darwin did not get too involved in stuff like that and the same types of arguments were used to justify incestuous family dynasties among ruling families of the past. Now, they just pawn some of these things off to freedom to express your sexuality.
"But each one is tempted when he is carried away and enticed by his own lust." - James 1:14 There's really no need for a lengthy study. It's really that simple.
Because essentially they are not very nice people and selfish. There is no excuse or reason. Adulterers have many reasons and excuses but then again, they would. It’s about the worst thing you can do to a partner. Just leave the relationship and then you can do what you like. Yes, it really is that simple regardless of any circumstances. Cheaters will always find reasons and excuses and blame. That’s what dishonest, lying, deceitful and unfaithful people do. They make the choice to cheat. It’s all on them.
As a stripper I’ll say this… some people cheat because they’re so drunk and high on drugs that they just stupidly act on sexual instinct and then they wake up the next day remorseful. Get drunk enough… and you’ll start acting really dumb.
Fully satisfied in a shared life immersed in a depth of consideration leading to intimate unity and companionship verses a unarticulated restlessness driven by A Sense that something is lacking or that One may be missing out on something. The chase for something more ….and the “more always being evaded will ultimately leave One feeling empty and alone…..
Since love is a deception practiced by nature, marriage is the attrition of love, and therefore must be disillusioning. Only a philosopher can be happy in marriage, and philosophers do not marry. -Schopenhauer
Choice and morality are dictated by our brain and brain is itself influenced by genetics. For ex psychopath can be easily found even in stable households. Although this example is extreme. But still play an important roll.
One of my coworkers recently went through a divorce. He said that his ex owned the house and makes a lot more money than him. Plus, they had very little in common. They had no reason to stay together. So that’s totally in line with what these ladies are talking about.
Your example mentions a divorce due to lack of commonality and monetary issues. They are talking about adultery across the board. How is that in line with the topic?
Dr. Helen Fisher was my professor at Rutgers University. Before anyone criticizes this 8 minute video and disregards the theories as outdated or don't like what she says because it hits a nerve, perhaps they need to dig deeper into the anthropological studies; they go deeper with actual empirical studies and data than this 8 minute video can provide.
The issue with "polite" society academics is that based on an ethical framework within their socio-cultural-professional constraints they often cannot reveal uncomfortable realities out of fear of social retribution therefore their analysis is often skewed with omission.
The action in itself is, of course, problematic. However, what bothers me even more is not being honest and owning up to the mess - busted or not. Don’t put unnecessary hurt in someone else’s life like that.
Numerous reasons! Change of life and the RUTS we run into. Top two.A Chemical connection with a certain individual . People jump into relationships and commit , when in reality there going through a phase. When the so called HONEYMOON IS OVER, the hunt for a new mate begins in lots of cases.
It's like night n day, a friend, who is more or less monogamous, and someone you talk to, maybe even a lot, who isn't. You're with a pal, who is cool with chicks and dudes. People, who are into scoping for the opposite sex, wherever they are, will leave you alone. And it's like sitting in this 'field' of invulnerability, when you're in public. Any 'intruder' is not allowed in. Course. If you're the opposite and you feel only OK, when you're with dudes and chicks, who are into scoping for opportunities, you would think the opposite. A lot of females and males say that nobody is trustworthy. And until you're sitting with someone, who is, you're right. In your head, you can come up with endless reasons why you are x way or why people are x way. Maybe the biggest 'flaw' in seeking a relationship that will not involve habitual lapses, is that people seek it in the opposite sex, first. You have to have same sex friends, who are into the same thing. That's your base, friendship with cool people. You can't be this hanger on, or needy person, with dudes or chicks, and be this skilled operator with the opposite sex, unless you want to be one of those dudes or chicks, who say everyone's jealous of you. Somethine sketchy about this Dr Helen Fisher.
Sorry, the "perpetuating his genes" theory is outdated. It lacks any foundational support in nature. Nice idea but ideas need to be validated before they become viable theories, otherwise they're just guesses. And guesses need to be discarded with confronted with contradictory evidence.
Megan, this one of the worst interviews the lady chatting away , is not mentioning anything we don't already know. Her topic is not engaging at all. You are beautiful for Your age Megan, Love Australia x
I'm sorry but this woman wishes she knew what she was talking about. When people try to explain life from an evolutionary standpoint, they will never make any sense and often contradict themselves.
Honest to god, I hope my tax dollars were not spent on finding that the prairie vole was prone to adulterous affairs, although I would not be surprised.
Darwinian "hop in the sack, theory" i hung on her Dr Helen Fisher every word Megyn gr8 pod cast I think she overlooked the physical attraction element which is extremely important as if like you Megyn extremely attractive chick but not the straying type you still will get hit on!!!!!
Megan, I disagree with Helen’s hypothesis. We all have many choices in our life. I truly believe that this choice( adultery) is really a lack of commitment to your spouse and an action based on a selfish impulse. And I’m not partial to being compared to a prairie boule…it seems to me that this is a moral issue. Not through in a judgement out there, just an observation.
#pt1 - *a 'simple' , unsophisticated [not by any mishap media] person would be probably puzzled by the very titles of the program - SCIENCE of LOVE and CHEATING in LOVE.* What's your GAME ? I was lost for .. words - I didn't know how to respond to that. But, _la nuit porte toujours conseil_ - *_Outro Vetchera Mudrenneije_* - and look, I've found those words after a night's dream _when I woke up_ - _- Megyn, you are a grown up person and you know that SCIENCE [m@$0nry's substitute for God's Providence] is all about lying by elaborate, underhand & shameless cheating ... (Are you good in that ?)
Cheating boils down to lack of character. All the excuses and "science" is just blowing smoke. If you make a commitment, keep it. All the wealth and/or fame one can achieve means nothing. The only thing you take with you to whatever's next is your word, and if your word ain't worth a shit, neither are you.
The science is bunk. You would have to have an entire population under the threat of isolation and destruction in order to use things like "species survival" and as far as "Darwinian payoffs"? Darwin did not get too involved in stuff like that and the same types of arguments were used to justify incestuous family dynasties among ruling families of the past. Now, they just pawn some of these things off to freedom to express your sexuality.
"But each one is tempted when he is carried away and enticed by his own lust." - James 1:14
There's really no need for a lengthy study. It's really that simple.
Absolutely correct.
People are lazy and are full of excuses with no consequences. The option to quit is better than the hard work
Only one reason a person cheats...because that person is garbage. Let's not sugar coat it.
Exactly.
Because essentially they are not very nice people and selfish. There is no excuse or reason. Adulterers have many reasons and excuses but then again, they would. It’s about the worst thing you can do to a partner. Just leave the relationship and then you can do what you like. Yes, it really is that simple regardless of any circumstances. Cheaters will always find reasons and excuses and blame. That’s what dishonest, lying, deceitful and unfaithful people do. They make the choice to cheat. It’s all on them.
I so agree with you! Once you cheat your vows are broken!
The proper basis for marriage is a mutual misunderstanding.
As a stripper I’ll say this… some people cheat because they’re so drunk and high on drugs that they just stupidly act on sexual instinct and then they wake up the next day remorseful. Get drunk enough… and you’ll start acting really dumb.
Fully satisfied in a shared life immersed in a depth of consideration leading to intimate unity and companionship verses a unarticulated restlessness driven by A
Sense that something is lacking or that One may be missing out on something. The chase for something more ….and the “more always being evaded will ultimately leave One feeling empty and alone…..
More valid reasons for adultery than there are for marriage.
Since love is a deception practiced by nature,
marriage is the attrition of love, and therefore must be disillusioning.
Only a philosopher can be happy in marriage, and philosophers do not marry.
-Schopenhauer
OK. Genetics does NOT determine behavior. You can point to the science of cheating all you want, it comes down to choice and morality.
Choice and morality are dictated by our brain and brain is itself influenced by genetics. For ex psychopath can be easily found even in stable households. Although this example is extreme. But still play an important roll.
I love Helen Fishers work. Always so interesting.
Coming from a woman who lives in a separate apartment than her husband, I wouldn’t take her advice…
Seems like everyone cheats and lies . It's heartbreaking
Love this ❤️❤️
ASA Hutchinson is an old man. With a Job B's Report. On record in the annals of history.
Marrying means to halve one's rights and double one's duties.
-schopenhauer
The sinful nature is why people cheat.
One of my coworkers recently went through a divorce. He said that his ex owned the house and makes a lot more money than him. Plus, they had very little in common. They had no reason to stay together. So that’s totally in line with what these ladies are talking about.
Your example mentions a divorce due to lack of commonality and monetary issues. They are talking about adultery across the board. How is that in line with the topic?
Dr. Helen Fisher was my professor at Rutgers University. Before anyone criticizes this 8 minute video and disregards the theories as outdated or don't like what she says because it hits a nerve, perhaps they need to dig deeper into the anthropological studies; they go deeper with actual empirical studies and data than this 8 minute video can provide.
The issue with "polite" society academics is that based on an ethical framework within their socio-cultural-professional constraints they often cannot reveal uncomfortable realities out of fear of social retribution therefore their analysis is often skewed with omission.
Humans are concrete sexual impulse,
for their origin is an act of copulation,
and the desire of their desires is the act of copulation.
-schopenhauer
Cheaters are cowards with no morals.
They lost respect for their partner.
Sinful nature… period.
Because we aren't meant to be with 1 person for 50 years.
This is so stupid. The answer is we sin because we are wicked. People do all kinds of things that harm themselves that are dumb. Its our sin nature.
The action in itself is, of course, problematic. However, what bothers me even more is not being honest and owning up to the mess - busted or not. Don’t put unnecessary hurt in someone else’s life like that.
@@mikehenry2540 I think cheating is abhorrent, but your views are kind of sick. Everyone makes mistakes.
Risk taking, easily bored and self centered people will cheat easier
Huge evolutionary payoff "cheating".
It's the normal state of affairs.
Fidelity is preposterous on its face. It never was and never will be.
Where does Dr. Laura stand on this?
Testosterone is an overpowering chemical. Yes, women have it too!
Men and women are only as faithful as there options.
A woman can't tell you why men cheat and I couldn't tell you why a woman cheats.
I hate it when profile photos are way out of date with how people currently look. It's denial.
People aren't "Wired To Cheat"
They are wired to procreate
Numerous reasons! Change of life and the RUTS we run into. Top two.A Chemical connection with a certain individual . People jump into relationships and commit , when in reality there going through a phase. When the so called HONEYMOON IS OVER, the hunt for a new mate begins in lots of cases.
It's like night n day, a friend, who is more or less monogamous, and someone you talk to, maybe even a lot, who isn't. You're with a pal, who is cool with chicks and dudes. People, who are into scoping for the opposite sex, wherever they are, will leave you alone. And it's like sitting in this 'field' of invulnerability, when you're in public. Any 'intruder' is not allowed in. Course. If you're the opposite and you feel only OK, when you're with dudes and chicks, who are into scoping for opportunities, you would think the opposite. A lot of females and males say that nobody is trustworthy. And until you're sitting with someone, who is, you're right. In your head, you can come up with endless reasons why you are x way or why people are x way. Maybe the biggest 'flaw' in seeking a relationship that will not involve habitual lapses, is that people seek it in the opposite sex, first. You have to have same sex friends, who are into the same thing. That's your base, friendship with cool people. You can't be this hanger on, or needy person, with dudes or chicks, and be this skilled operator with the opposite sex, unless you want to be one of those dudes or chicks, who say everyone's jealous of you. Somethine sketchy about this Dr Helen Fisher.
Sorry, the "perpetuating his genes" theory is outdated. It lacks any foundational support in nature. Nice idea but ideas need to be validated before they become viable theories, otherwise they're just guesses. And guesses need to be discarded with confronted with contradictory evidence.
Megan, this one of the worst interviews the lady chatting away , is not mentioning anything we don't already know.
Her topic is not engaging at all.
You are beautiful for Your age Megan,
Love Australia x
Nothing else going on in the World???!!!
Very hard to take the genetics argument seriously. Really?!
Selfishness and lack of moral integrity.
I'm sorry but this woman wishes she knew what she was talking about. When people try to explain life from an evolutionary standpoint, they will never make any sense and often contradict themselves.
Penguins. The tux, signed me, Sarah Pamula. Fulfilling days prior to death. Circadian self sight. And self vision.
It was the way The Rummell's treat people. The strangest women attended my mother's broken bones. Every bone is numbered. Judy Pamula had bones.
Honest to god, I hope my tax dollars were not spent on finding that the prairie vole was prone to adulterous affairs, although I would not be surprised.
Lol, I'm with you
Darwinian "hop in the sack, theory" i hung on her Dr Helen Fisher every word Megyn gr8 pod cast I think she overlooked the physical attraction element which is extremely important as if like you Megyn extremely attractive chick but not the straying type you still will get hit on!!!!!
Megan, I disagree with Helen’s hypothesis. We all have many choices in our life. I truly believe that this choice( adultery) is really a lack of commitment to your spouse and an action based on a selfish impulse. And I’m not partial to being compared to a prairie boule…it seems to me that this is a moral issue. Not through in a judgement out there, just an observation.
#pt1 - *a 'simple' , unsophisticated [not by any mishap media] person would be probably puzzled by the very titles of the program - SCIENCE of LOVE and CHEATING in LOVE.*
What's your GAME ? I was lost for .. words - I didn't know how to respond to that.
But, _la nuit porte toujours conseil_ - *_Outro Vetchera Mudrenneije_* - and look, I've found those words after a night's dream _when I woke up_ -
_- Megyn, you are a grown up person and you know that SCIENCE [m@$0nry's substitute for God's Providence] is all about lying by elaborate, underhand & shameless cheating ... (Are you good in that ?)