The Rising Tide of Gender Dysphoria Explained!

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  • @Preciouspink
    @Preciouspink Місяць тому +18

    Where was this 50 years ago? The gender incongruity has worn a deep groove in my thought life and I am still dealing with it. Will this inordinate amount of gender preoccupation keep running,all the time, even in the background.I am 2 years successful, into my authentic self. The euphoria has lessened and to a lesser extent body Dysphoria.I am overwhelmingly happier but incessant thinking on gender and ways of alleviating gender dysphoria continues unabated. I want to broaden my life experience without constantly thinking on my gender identity.

    • @Genevieve111
      @Genevieve111 Місяць тому +4

      'Where was this 50 years ago'...
      x2...

    • @josephbelisle5792
      @josephbelisle5792 Місяць тому +3

      That is the ideal. Being yourself without having to keep defining yourself. But at this time, many people don't understand what gender is so we need to keep talking about it until people do understand and stop hurting people because of their misconceptions.

  • @BeckiLynn_N
    @BeckiLynn_N Місяць тому +16

    I feel point 5. The world is changing but November 5 can mean the difference between my continuing to become my true self and being forced underground again.

    • @kathyroux7386
      @kathyroux7386 Місяць тому +4

      I am terrified.

    • @Genevieve111
      @Genevieve111 Місяць тому +1

      ​@@kathyroux7386Of what... that Trump will win... ?

    • @JessRenee91481
      @JessRenee91481 Місяць тому +1

      Don't give into the fear mongering. Relax. Colorado was one (if not the first) of the first states to codify gender identity as part of discrimination in public accommodation and this was at the tail of the Bush administration when the state was still red. Regardless of who is elected (beyond lip service to scare you into voting for them) nothing will change. The deep red states will continue doing what they were going to do, and the less red will continue to do what they were going to do. Nothing substantial regarding trans laws (for or against) will come out of Washington.

    • @josephbelisle5792
      @josephbelisle5792 Місяць тому

      So true. One many levels there are not too many differences who gets elected. But on most issues it is a crisis. The Republicans will institute Project 2025. All LGBTQ rights will end. Our lives will be in exponentially increasing danger if Trump is elected. Even underground, we will still be in danger.

    • @Shalanaya
      @Shalanaya Місяць тому

      @@Genevieve111 Possibly of world war 3 and the end of US as a nation, because it would inevitably happen under that guy, and that is due to the trade wars in the middle east. They would need to get rid of LGBT entirely for this in order to install a theocratic system of totalitarian control, which was already planned back in 2015 where several Christian organizations made a deal to divide LGBT in order to take them down one by one, this was literally by their own words, I assume because when LGBT are united it is not easy to do. LGBT have always been posing threat to oppressive regimes in this world for embodying the expanded diverse expression of sexual energy that is breaking apart the robotic binary view of the world that provides a sense of control by an outside authority, which includes biblical Godhead. This is why Christianity has been largely a religion rooted in homogeny and dualism ruling over the body/feminine/mother nature as a creative expansive force that allows us to be authentic and different. This is why they have been waging war against the feminine for centuries.

  • @bradleyvanderwesthuizen4271
    @bradleyvanderwesthuizen4271 Місяць тому +4

    Agreed, drugs and alcohol will strip you of everything. I've been clean and sober for a good period of time now and I'm taking baby steps in my transition. I was clean and sober for 16 years and relapsed due to my denial with regards to my gender. It's simply not worth it!

  • @marcussmith1244
    @marcussmith1244 Місяць тому +2

    Dr. Z, first, thank you for your time and compassionate consideration. You have been a port in the storm for me so many times. An anchor to sanity. I have been on medically supervised HRT for three years. But I live - or rather, exist- in Southwest-Virginia. Which is about as progressive as hoop skirts and side saddles. In short, it is dangerous here.
    Everything you have said is true, but I feel stuck in a time warp that could find me hanging out in a tree from a branch attached to my neck. I can not afford to move but being here is a type of self-abuse. I am entirely alone here and am losing my grip on coping. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thank you for everything.

  • @liquidintegrity
    @liquidintegrity Місяць тому +8

    J,K Rowling doesn't know shit about trans care - lol :) I like more and more your content, gives me some hope and clarity about myself..

  • @princessjulieta
    @princessjulieta Місяць тому +2

    You make sense and are smart as always. But I do know a transwoman from a community that has not finished her transition. She has wisdom like you and has helped me.

  • @crtmaster
    @crtmaster Місяць тому +1

    Guilty of everything, I didn't think I was amplifying my dysphoria. I need to work on this ASAP. Thank you Dr.Z.

  • @charlieb6210
    @charlieb6210 Місяць тому +1

    wow! this is one of your best dr z! we are all on our own individual path through transition. also, it helps to recognize that like gawky teens going through puberty, the early and middle stages of transitions can be gawky as well. ❤

  • @lspoulin
    @lspoulin Місяць тому +2

    I did a lot of timelines and looking at other's results and after a few time of going into panic attacks I learn it was triggering but it did motivate me to take action. But as soon as the action was taken, I had to stop. Point 5, I had to expose myself to a lot of counter arguments to the transphobic arguments out there because the slightest hint of transphobia would send me in panic. It lead me to become an advocate for trans rights and help my friend to be represented in the medical and justice system.

  • @xProspr
    @xProspr Місяць тому +2

    For me it’s the potential people I could lose personal connections with in life like friends and family also any coworkers in the workplace. Just thinking of all the bad possibilities and outcomes.

    • @xProspr
      @xProspr Місяць тому

      @TransgenderSunshine i’m 23 y/o so i guess i still have time to figure it all out. I’m trying to find a therapist in my area that’ll help me through it.

  • @MsChristyCox
    @MsChristyCox Місяць тому +5

    Good afternoon Dr Z

  • @midorilavender8226
    @midorilavender8226 Місяць тому +2

    I feel point 1 (and kinda 3) so much... I feel that it's bad for me to want to be called 'they'. And I can't fully come to terms with it either.
    Sometimes I'm "yeah I'm nonbinary"
    And sometimes I'm "you're just an insecure cis woman, these feelings will go awayyy"
    And I feel worse and worse about being called a woman...
    Point 5 also hits home. I'm confident in my identity, but then reality hits that no one would see me for who I am. That people don't belive in my existence, and it destroys my hope. Yes, I can dream of being called 'they', but that won't happen, so why bother?

    • @JosephYeager-z3o
      @JosephYeager-z3o Місяць тому +1

      Why bother? Sounds like you're saying NO to your Self. Be who you are, and respect your own feelings more than you respect the box someone else chooses to keep you in. Bother to claim your power, and don't let them defeat you

  • @idkus
    @idkus Місяць тому +3

    The Gender Dysphoria Bible is great and not at all as described in this video (where an imagined version of it is criticized). The bible is very open about different ways of experiencing dysphoria and is not prescriptive. It was extemely helpful to me in the early stages of realizing my gender identity. Another commenter already noted this, but I felt it was important to reiterate that it is actually a really helpful document.
    Otherwise, I like your videos, but you should probably read what you criticize. Please respect the hard work of trans creators.

    • @DRZPHD
      @DRZPHD  Місяць тому +3

      Hi. Thanks for the comment. It seems my mention of the gender bible came across not as I intended which was less a critique of a text itself and more of importance to take any information, inducing mine, and than situate it within your personal context. I’ll speak more about in information overload video and appreciate you pointing out how it came across.

  • @harrispinkham
    @harrispinkham Місяць тому +2

    Sooo true and spot on as usual!

  • @name_o_person
    @name_o_person Місяць тому +1

    I'm to the point where my support group is telling me to come out already. I'm still engaging in belief my dysphoria will just go away.

  • @josephbelisle5792
    @josephbelisle5792 Місяць тому +1

    Another great video.
    The only people who know I am trans are my trauma therapist and gender therapist. Coming out to anyone else at this time would not be helpful as no one I know will understand or support me.
    I completely agree with point two. When I fully accepted I am trans I been trying to learn as much as possible. But I have found it gets painful after a while and causes me to be overwhelmed and puts me on my heels slowing me down. That and the videos of fully transitioned people who claim their way is the only way and other trans people are not valid. They are horrible.
    I do see my use of drugs and alcohol has increased. I watch my use of them carefully. But one thing I have been doing is a meditative walk where I use inebriants to break down walls in my mind and let myself dream of the best outcomes. I have repressed the fact I am female for decades. Letting this part out past all of my barriers can be hard. This process has helped me understand it and open it up. Im not recommending this process to anyone. It works for me. And I am careful about it. I know the affects of drug abuse and what it can do.
    At my age, I know ignoring issues is a recipe for disaster. You have to face who you are. Nothing gets better on its own.
    I hate anti-trans news. It is morally reprehensible. It is disparaging and crippling. Which is what they want. These people hate us because they hate themselves.
    But we have to face some information about transphobes. We need to understand them and what they plan on doing. We need to make sure they dont get anymore power. We need to defeat the Republican party. We need to defeat conservatiam. We need to defeat Trump. We need to defeat Project 2025. We need to defeat christian nationalists. We need to ptotect ourselves from the I, Me, Mine people. People who think bigotry and denying the rights of others is a right of theirs. We can inundate ourselves with these miserable people but we need to know what they are and what they are doing. We need to protect ourselves and others.
    Great video.

    • @dbee8085
      @dbee8085 Місяць тому

      I recently came out to my conservative family and I thought they would reject me but they didn't. My mum said she loved me no matter what and that they all accepted me for who I was, they still loved me and wanted me to be happy. It was the best thing I did. After I stopped drinking.

  • @ABetterRed
    @ABetterRed Місяць тому

    this is a very good video. Thanks for video, Doc Z

  • @DrayseSchneider
    @DrayseSchneider Місяць тому +1

    Oh yeah, feeling dirty after affirming my gender in secret, simply by crossdressing, was an all too familiar dance.
    I made a transition video and showed my "in between" stages. Though arguably, I'm still "in between" in more than a few ways! 😅

  • @JherricaHarris-lj9ug
    @JherricaHarris-lj9ug Місяць тому

    I dont go on FB as much anymore. Constantly kept comparing my transition journey to everyone else's. Was too caught up in the before and after, not realizing it was affecting my gender dysphoria

  • @Undeadwishlist
    @Undeadwishlist Місяць тому

    I needed this video a year ago. Thanks for making it now

  • @stevedavenport2975
    @stevedavenport2975 Місяць тому +2

    Cc ould you talk about deal with physical threats an verbal abuse

  • @dochics1053
    @dochics1053 Місяць тому +1

    I am over it now,, I new I was born with female hormones my mother gave me by medicine she took my brain is part female now since I know now I love being a female..❤

  • @Jasmin1990z
    @Jasmin1990z Місяць тому

    I think one that triggers me is sex wise when men or female want to use your male parts. Something I cant stand doing and people don't understand that.

  • @princessjulieta
    @princessjulieta Місяць тому

    I admit I have gender dysphoria but I still need a diagnosis. I don't do drugs or drink. I watch many transgender videos and some de transition videos but none of them effect me in a negative way.

  • @joannamills8693
    @joannamills8693 Місяць тому

    This is a weird jderful video!
    I used to engage in some of these - i thought the transformation videos would be helpful but they really were not. I lived in denial, not telling anyone but people on line for a long time. It did create a tremendous anount of shame. And when younger and if I am not intentional, alcohol can be difficult as well. It is just not an easy path.
    I do a lot of writing on Medium and that has helped me tremendously.

  • @carlosmontero-hc9df
    @carlosmontero-hc9df Місяць тому

    I just wanted to ask you to make a video about transgender people with autism?

  • @candicewarriner5966
    @candicewarriner5966 Місяць тому +1

    So when a gender dyshoria person tells one person about their gender dysphoria do they expect it to stay secret with that one person? So they expect their secret not to go any further. That puts pressure on the person receiving the secret. Seems unfair to the person who now knows. Is this what is expected?

  • @Jayme-1337
    @Jayme-1337 Місяць тому +5

    Based on your comments, you obviously haven’t read the gender dysphoria bible. It doesn’t state anywhere that you need to experience dysphoria or gender incongruence to be transgender. Please take some time to read this living document before criticizing it.

  • @TonerPhaser
    @TonerPhaser Місяць тому

    100 managers drive randolph Vermont 05060

  • @AvitaB
    @AvitaB Місяць тому +3

    Social media is why it’s more common

    • @josephbelisle5792
      @josephbelisle5792 Місяць тому +4

      Social media is why dysphoria is more common? Trans dysphoria comes from knowing you are one sex and your body is another. How does social media make that more common? Or do you mean trans people? Social media doesn't affect how people are born. Social media is helping people understand their being trans and help people come out as trans. But it doesn't make anyone trans. You are either born trans or you are not. No one who is not trans would go through this.

    • @FrozEnbyWolf150-b9t
      @FrozEnbyWolf150-b9t Місяць тому

      Social media cannot turn someone trans or give them dysphoria. It can inform friends and family members about trans people and how to support them, which can mean the difference between a trans person coming out or staying in the closet. It can help trans people figure out who they are, whereas the same information and tools may not have been as readily available in generations past. It can show trans people what is possible and encourage them to come forward seeking treatment. But it cannot make someone into something they're not.

    • @rainkidwell2467
      @rainkidwell2467 Місяць тому +4

      That's so strange considering I had no social media growing up

    • @AvitaB
      @AvitaB Місяць тому

      @@rainkidwell2467most are under age 30

    • @rainkidwell2467
      @rainkidwell2467 Місяць тому +1

      @@AvitaB I wonder why that is, considering the older ones are dead. Hmmmmmmmm

  • @metatechnologist
    @metatechnologist Місяць тому +1

    Politics ruins everything. I'm a moderator for an Obamacare (and got a Christmas card from Obama even) community and voting for the Democrat candidate doesn't make sense when migrants are overloading hospitals. It's the reason the Teamsters didn't endorse the Democrat candidate either. Frankly when it comes to healthcare the Biden administration is the worst disappointment concerning healthcare that I can remember. I just can't and am not going to forgive that.
    Transphobic politics are horrible. But keep in mind Melania held a fundraiser for LGBT in Trump Towers. And Trump said he would not repeal the ACA and I believe him. He has been president once before also.
    I actually know more on healthcare policy than 90% of Americans do and am ready to go into the weeds on it with anybody.
    Fwiw "Medicare for all" can literally not be given to all when you have tens of millions of migrants entering the country. We simply are not producing more doctors than before. The numbers just do not work out.
    There are trans and other LGBT people on UA-cam who feel the same way I do. It's not a one off.

    • @rainkidwell2467
      @rainkidwell2467 Місяць тому +1

      So you genuinely think Trump will be better for my Healthcare than Kamala?

    • @metatechnologist
      @metatechnologist Місяць тому +1

      @@rainkidwell2467 I will say this. We have just been through nearly four years of do-nothing on improving healthcare. It's because we sadly have a president going through elder-abuse. Democrats who have been the standard bearers on healthcare literally think the status quo is enough.
      Now in the past Republicans have touted to make health insurance available across state lines. I say we bring back that idea because there are many trans friendly blue state health insurance policies that I know a number of trans would give their eye teeth for.
      As it stands now the senate race does not look like it's going blue but turn red because of Montana. That will be enough for the GOP to dig in their heels and kill any "medicare for all" and Kamala will say "well I tried" and call it a day without achieving anything or moving anything healthcare forward. So we end up with another four wasted years of nothing just like what we've been through already.
      That's the problem. Trans people can't wait (or anybody else for that matter) for the "right people" to get into office to make access better. There's so much low hanging fruit around too that Biden ignored. He could have lowered the age for Medicare by ten or even five years easily with that massive monster bill that Kamala cast the deciding vote on. But he wasted all his time chasing down J6'rs to even think about it and the rest of his time he was eating ice cream. That was beyond stupid. I guess you could say demented.
      Really, Biden and now Kamala has done nothing to earn our vote. But getting access to a California Kaiser policy when you're in Nebraska would help out a whole bunch of transgender folk imo pretty quickly. And that's the frame of mind we need to be in.

    • @rainkidwell2467
      @rainkidwell2467 Місяць тому

      @@metatechnologist seems you're very good at typing, but I don't think you read very carefully.. Let me ask once more: you think Trump will be better for my rights than Kamala? Please concentrate, focus on this one single question. How will he be BETTER for my rights than Kamala? Describe.
      I'm assuming you're aware of the republican party platform and its approach to my rights. Explain?

    • @metatechnologist
      @metatechnologist Місяць тому +2

      @@rainkidwell2467 If you're talking about project 2025 that's DOA. If you're a third grader you may have to wait until the sixth grade to learn about LGBT. If you're in a public school your dinky worth-nothing library isn't going to be well stocked with LGBT books. You probably won't be able to shave your beard in the women's room. The Whitehouse won't be light-rainbowed in June.
      I mean that's literally it. I'm sorry if stuff like that is triggering for you but I don't consider any of that a loss tbh.

    • @rainkidwell2467
      @rainkidwell2467 Місяць тому

      @@metatechnologist ah, so you're not aware of the fact that independently of any mandate for leadership, the party platform is the removal of my access to HRT? Got it. Also, I see you have no idea they plan to ban that access for minors either.
      What you describe above is worded as an insult. I'm above this. You have nothing to offer and have no clue what it's like to be a trans person.

  • @girlgod7201
    @girlgod7201 Місяць тому

    Hey Sis are u real woman or trans?