Remember that time that having a social media account was GAY? The social media that is primarily girls taking pictures of themselves? Looking at girls is SO GAY!
There is no hassle. If you like her, ask her out. If she says no, then fine. Don't take maybe as an answer. Sooner or later one will say OK and off you go. Where's the hassle?
You've been married for 34 years and she doesn't trust you? Or you've been married 34 years and you've never taken her out to a surprise location before. Either way, that's a you problem.
@@elijahaitaok8624 OR: It's probably because she's 55-60 years old, and she needs to know how much energy and time she needs to invest in this thing. At that age, our energy is precious.
" Ummm...Could you wear the red ball gag and nipple clamps? That would perfect for this occasion " Go all 50 Shades of Gray up in their grill. Or you could go all Harry Potter with her. Lol 🤣
Is previously mentioned, your mileage will vary based on your wealth and your works. The dude in the book was handsome and had money. Try doing the stuff he did with women when you lived in the trailer park or your moms basement. Lol
A 304 is just any woman you set boundaries against to help ensure you don't date or even consider them as partner material. I wouldn't date her either.
It's relative this assumes your attractive to her or you would have gotten to this point to begin with. The key is to never be so invested that you put up with toxic bad behavior even if it means being alone.
I am 61 and by no means am i against learning anything new about women, relationships, etc. The problem for me, as i see it, i do not have or go to instagram, twitter X, only FB and that is to stay in contact with family and friends. Just not a fan of sharing with the world my walks, driving, cooking, etc. I do not trust these platforms after all of their data mining. Hell no
I tell my girl what to wear for every date. Started from the very first date. She has rules she follows if she wants to date me. Probably sounds crazy. But I can assure you that she absolutely loves it.
That only works in a woman’s fantasy. As soon as a man actually does it she’ll call him controlling. Or if she does do it, she’ll say it’s the wrong outfit for where he took her and will be pissed enough that she’ll never let him do it again.
I'm a bit confused by this.. although I can see one aspect that would be negative... Which would be if the chick were lying to watch you fall... Imo, that's evil... If I were a guy, I'd probably ask the actual one I was dating about her preferences... I do ask a guy when I'm on a date and everything's going well, what they like... I don't see the problem, but then again, I'm not out here TRYING to hurt people.. I can't figure the reason for THAT anyway.... someone would HAVE TO be evil inside.... (You don't want to do shit like that to anyone, or shouldn't, ever, but if you've ever had some ignorant bullshit done to you, you wouldn't want to do that to someone totally innocent that's never done a thing to you, much less just met you...)😊 How's everybody think all men and women GOT to this defensive stance against each other? Right?
@@jennifercox-arnett5602I think you prove the point by giving your advice being “ask the person you are dating”. Easily skipping over the most important and hardest parts. Getting a women’s attention without looking creepy, making her feel safe around you, being the one responsible for her having a good time on a date, getting her to like you enough to go past a first date. You comment proves why women just don’t get it.
@@manniefresh3425 well, I never have claimed to know exactly how to navigate all things lol... I just know I'm an easy person to speak to, and some things wouldn't strike me as strange, that anyone else would likely freak over... I'm just weird, I suppose, but in a good approachable way lol... I'm hard to offend. Really. Getting embarrassed is WAY more likely to happen...lol...But idegaf about that, mostly; I'm myself no matter who I'm in front of, or I'm quiet... there's no in-between lol.. I myself wouldn't see it as weird or creepy or off-putting if someone actually asked me how I liked to be treated... I know not everyone's gonna be like that, but just in my opinion, if a guy and girl can be that transparent with each other (no ill-intent intended), and follow through with it until they or the relationship ended, it sure would reduce a lot of misunderstanding and bullshit...but that's just my POV.... Anyone's (as we all should know and respect) entitled to their view, without prejudice or judgement, as far as I go.... No harm no foul...lol... But as far as happiness goes, if each person feels a degree of responsibility for contributing to it for the other, it's not just his responsibility towards her; she also has the same effort to be expected from her, towards him.... Each person should put out equal effort towards each other and the relationship they have. If not, someone's gonna get resentful, and that's voluntarily putting the relationship on the chopping block, if not turning off the life support... In no way do I mean to convey that there should be any inequality in effort put forth for the health and growth of the relationship between the two involved in it. Not at all. Effort SHOULD match. And there should be no entitlement on either person's part, BECAUSE they're expected to match the other's effort... It's supposed to be a team thing, right? At least that's what I've come to believe... To me, that's what would make the most sense, and stand the best chance for the relationship's survival.... Jmho...
I’m 46. I’ve done this so many times before social media. It works. It shows you’re interested, observant, and decisive. Didn’t know it was “BDE” back in the day. Still works on my wife.
@@rosannarichardson7951 Would you want someone that has no loyalty and an att --- tude where they are better than you and is constantly looking for someone better and talking to them? That's far too common now. Also, it's usually someone with more money or status they can show off, it's all about attention. That will be someone impossible to live with, only good for an hour at a time. Most of us have decided that's not worth it. Go ask an average looking guy if he has an account that he actually uses, it's worthless for most men unless they are in the top 5% of looks and status or have a ton of money. And kindness, that's extremely rare from whoooamun now, just like celebrating men's loneliness and "end - ding", that's shows us you are not our friends, you are the opposite when you say nothing to stop it. Speak up and stop this or expect us to celebrate the same for you. p.s. Sarah is one of the very few not like this.
What happened to being a genuine person? Treating women with respect. Just not into playing games and that is how you come across. Yes, i do understand trying to gain her interest. "Oh, he really likes that outfit." Etc etc To me it makes a guy phoney, its a brand of manipulation.
It's not manipulation. It's simply helping her feel beautiful instead of stressing with what to wear. It shows confidence and assertion. But hey, if you wanna be the "everything i dont like is manipulation loser". You do you. What you feel it makes men means absolutely nothing.
@@robertsloane1268 Absolutely, i'm a professional BDSM Master with 13 submissives and high performance sex couch for couples and pornstars. It's all about being the leader or Dominant as we call it. Adding the mystical touch. Then goes to sexual escalation and domination. It's not as complicated as most guys think. Praticing your confidence goes a long way.
That era was over with the Xers that was out of style even then. Women don't want those types of dudes. They have more power in this society now. In 2023 here's the choice, "Simp" and have female companionship, or do as you say, and MAYBE you'll find that rare retro lady, who likes trying to be like the 1950's.
Don’t listen to this woman. If you’re about to commit to a woman that has an Instagram with this “little red dress” in it, that red dress isn’t for you Homie. 😂 it’s for everybody.
My wife (20+years) always asks “this dress or that?” I guarantee she always wears the opposite to the one I say looks best, so these days I choose the one I like least… she always looks good in both BTW.
Having been married for nearly fifteen years - widower, didn’t kill her, lololol - I figured out the correct path here is to be engaged and give a response. Which dress or sweater isn’t what matters, it’s that you are interested, involved, and/or care, showing that you don’t disregard her concerns.
Yes, that is true. But you're already married to her. This is for the young guys in the early dating stage of the relationship. Completely different set of circumstances and goals.
Cheesecake Factory? I'm not Elon Musk or Jeff Bezos, way to expensive, i go with her to McDonald's and she gets a hamburger.......and if she is nice, a drink too. 😂
This was well into a relationship, but one time I told my wife (in general terms) what to pack for a weekend away, but not where we were going or what we were doing. I brought her to Boston for a theater weekend: Movin' Out and the Blue Man Group. She and all her co-workers thought it was the most romantic thing ever.
Women, please simply understand this: Men don't care anymore. We now understand that it's just a game in your head that's all about you. That's OK, and it's nice for us to be free now.
That style of texting does work but won’t make anything “grow” 😂 no amount of texting will make it bigger lol 😂 Also it really only works on a woman that you know very well already. Only comes across as creepy if you do that too early, but great advice 3-4 months in. You may be surprised. Most men have been well educated on “how to” with a woman,so much so we will alter the way we speak when a woman is present. Women however have had no such instructions as far as I can tell. The problems arise when it isn’t reciprocated. That’s not to say they(women) don’t want to it only points out they don’t know “how” to. Women control access to sex. Men control access to relationships. Plenty of women getting way too much sex but not that many in relationships. Who needs education then 🤷🏻♂️
I feel like there are so many women out there that try so hard to shit on women and put men on a pedestal. What I love about you is you genuinely try to educate BOTH men and women on how to better themselves for each other. Instead of tearing down either side for their faults you encourage and help show how to be better individually to then come together and be stronger together. I adore your content.
I'm going out on a limb here, lmao, but the idea is she's wearing it for your viewing pleasure, and it wouldn't make a bit of difference if y'all went to the local dairy freeze lmao.... That's just my POV, but I know there's a BUNCH of high maintenance chicks that would scoff at this type of thing like a mofo.... To me, it wouldn't matter if a guy I was dating and really liked, asked me to wear my best outfit, and drove us to a campsite or beside a river or some shit... Hell, I once made a 4-course meal (complete with rum cake...151 rum, at that, lol...) and drove my vehicle to pick him up and went to where we were going for our date...never bothered me in the least... It all depends on the person, and how grateful they are for each life experience... Sadly enough, for some people it takes a lot of bullshit to get to the point that they'll appreciate the smallest gestures in the simplest of places...
@@XX-bn9sf Shit yeah.... Denny's has some decent food for the money... Especially if the staff cares about the customers and the business.... I like em... lol...
Hey.. You read my mind Sarah.. That's actually what I texted her.. But it's the little black dress, low cut in the back.. Her Instagram pic blew me away.. 😅 Wish me luck ❤ Good Night..
Listen young fella, if you want big D energy, work on you not her. Treat the source not the symptom. Gain masculinity by working on your intelligence, your physical strength and most definitely have a set of money making skills. Those skills will manufacture a product that when applied will present something of quality. This will give you self esteem, confidence within your capabilities, responsibility, and satisfaction from productivity which gives you purpose. Once you do this for a few years, you will become a good version of yourself. Do this for more years and you will become a solid structured man with a plan. THAT is what women are attracted to.
Dude, if masculinity is what you are looking for in a man, don’t be surprised if he is as shallow as you are and if you can’t land a man who will respect you.
Awesome advice that is seriously needed in the gimmicky modern dating world. Nothing works long term except real value created through intelligent, persistent effort in the areas you mentioned.
Yeah I like this move. I've told a woman that once or twice. It shows her that, for one, you are in charge Also, it acknowledges that you are attracted to her without being simpy It also sets the stage for her to take the opportunity to impress you, which many women forget to do. A date isn't just for a man to impress a woman. She must impress you too The more a man takes charge and shows her that you want her to please you, the more she will want to (On the flip side, if she doesn't respond well to this, she likely won't do much for you on any matter)
You know nothing. It comes off as investing too hard. I guarantee the night will be less fun for the both of you 99.9% of the time if you do this cringe shit.
@@0000FFzlol, I know nothing? 😅 I have the experience to back this up. 99.9% eh? You come with statistics? You sound like you have no idea how to turn a woman on, but wanna tell us that stuff like this doesn't work? Riiiight... Whatever you say buddy. You go on with your plan, then. I'm sure it works for you.
This is common knowledge though sarah... The issue is that you already need the big D energy, you need to already come across as strong, confident, dominant and so on, basically already have her half way to calling you daddy..
Im a guy and can vouch for this one. I do this all the time, then we have a wonderful evening at the theatre or French restaurant. She's already calling all of her friends tying to guess where valentines is going to be. I told her to get an elegant-ish dress and her passport updated. (i asked her to imagine im the mayor and we need to go to a new years ball outdoors) FYI we're going to an ice hotel. It was my sister's who taught me this. edit Oh, forgot to say. Guys, be prepared to buy her a new dress. She'll randomly send me pics of dresses while I'm at work with the caption "will this do?" I love this whole dance probly even more than she does. Win/win.
Have done. (No instagram involved) Worked very well. It's just being assertive. "Hey gorgeous. We're going out, wear that black dress." Drove her crazy. Sent like five texts back asking for details, all of which I ignored. 😅
I'm not quite sure what that will do. Why would that text make a lady feel anything special? It's just a request nothing more. Shouldn't really question Sarah, but this one has me puzzled so an explanation would be nice
You are right - you shouldnt be telling this. Women will take it as you being "bossy" or "controlling". The way to have "Big D" energy is to always respect yourself and know what you are worth.
My wife fell in love with me because a year later i remembered what she wore on our first date. 15 years later, i still remind her of the creme sweater, apple bottom jeans, and leather boots, and the way she's glowed then and ever since.
ohh she lied lol if you do that you will be looked at as a perv or controlling from you tell or suggest a woman on what to wear she looks at uou funny😂she definately lied she setting yall up for failure
That’s not big d energy, your only showing her you are stalking her. No man with anything a woman is looking for has time to worry about your pictures.
My ex didn't know how to dress and I use to go with her and pick out out dresses and suites to wear for work and she looked amazing I especially liked to go into the dressing room with her, ahh I really missed that! Having PTSD from serving my country (missed diagnosed) and with medication ruined everything. The last 8 months of my tour in Vietnam they wouldn't give me a weapon so I was a little off you might say. Now that I'm off of everything I remember it all and I have to say it ruined every relationship I've ever had and the VA still won't give me 100 💯 disability can anyone please help me with this situation? I joined the army when I turned 18 my first girl friend sent me a dear John letter after 6 months I mean I loved her I used to hitch hike all the way from fort Rucker a Alabama on weekends and hitch hike back many times only for a few hours, does anyone think I have a great book?
I've never been on or even have a Instagram account. I'm barely on Twitter/X for 5mins a day at most, but usually only on it for roughly a minute. Never been on tiktok before either or Reddit
The best "Big D energy" is not being able to check her IG because you don't have it
The best "Big D energy" is not associating with the type of women who are on IG in the first place.
100 💯
UA-cam only for moi
Remember that time that having a social media account was GAY? The social media that is primarily girls taking pictures of themselves? Looking at girls is SO GAY!
@shornandkenny even that gets to be to much lol. I wanna throw my phone in a river and crawl into the woods and become the earth at this point
A man dating a woman with an instagram was this hypothetical man’s first mistake.
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You beat me to saying this. Very wise words there!
truth, insta and snap are some of the worst things ever thought up imo
Thats thundercock Chad red dress ...
Yup followed by an only fans account 😊😊😊😊
The more i learn about all the dating hassle, the more i feel I don't fucking care about trying to date women, anymore.
You and me both. It's ridiculous.
You can either love women or you can understand women; but you can't do both.
A week or so after I made this post, I met a woman, and we just clicked. She's the most wonderful person.
There is no hassle. If you like her, ask her out. If she says no, then fine. Don't take maybe as an answer. Sooner or later one will say OK and off you go. Where's the hassle?
There ya go.....there's always somebody out there looking for somebody like you.....@@nodorf3778
a pimp once said choose the girl that wants you.
That pimp is right.
A pimp named slickback
Yep marry the girl that loves you and not the one you love.
True 😅
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Me telling my wife of 34 yrs this...
Wife: why...what are we doing...where we going...wear what, why????????
Me: Nevermind😮
It kills the mood every time.
You've been married for 34 years and she doesn't trust you?
Or you've been married 34 years and you've never taken her out to a surprise location before.
Either way, that's a you problem.
@@johnclaybaugh9536 nah that's just a married woman who doesn't need to do anything anymore, he's just a wallet and house to her
@@johnclaybaugh9536look at this blue pilled smart ass
@@elijahaitaok8624
OR: It's probably because she's 55-60 years old, and she needs to know how much energy and time she needs to invest in this thing. At that age, our energy is precious.
If she’s on instagram, I wouldn’t be committing to her. End of.
Big D energy gets a passport and finds women worth having.
The more I learn about what women want, the less possible it becomes I could ever be attracted to them again
When it comes to women, you can either understand them or you can love them; you cannot do both!
They're hard to like. If they didn't have vaginas, they'd be stacked ten high at the tip.
Fear not. This isn't what they want. It's what she _says they want,_ which is different.
@@AcmeRacingexactly
" Ummm...Could you wear the red ball gag and nipple clamps? That would perfect for this occasion " Go all 50 Shades of Gray up in their grill. Or you could go all Harry Potter with her. Lol 🤣
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Is previously mentioned, your mileage will vary based on your wealth and your works. The dude in the book was handsome and had money. Try doing the stuff he did with women when you lived in the trailer park or your moms basement. Lol
Men don't listen to this. Period.
Correct
Don’t invest anything in these 304’s ; and don’t listen to a fish telling you how to catch fish …
You don't know she's a 304
You watch too much Andrew Tate and that's why you only get 304s if anything at all
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@@markblanchard9049There's a very high chance.
A 304 is just any woman you set boundaries against to help ensure you don't date or even consider them as partner material. I wouldn't date her either.
Only "attractive men" can pull this off. Anyone ese will be labeled "creepy" or "thirsty".
It's relative this assumes your attractive to her or you would have gotten to this point to begin with. The key is to never be so invested that you put up with toxic bad behavior even if it means being alone.
They need to teach this in 1st grade. We will end up with fewer men trying in life, but it’s only fair to them.
Or if she's already heads on into you. The emphasis is on "already". Means no additional efforts needed for wet pants.
@@David_1789 because there is only failure in it, the only lesson there is to not have tried in the first place
If you look good you can be total asshole and still get what you want
"Hey, you know that amulet the witch gave you that she said would make me completely obsessed with you?"
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I am 61 and by no means am i against learning anything new about women, relationships, etc.
The problem for me, as i see it, i do not have or go to instagram, twitter X, only FB and that is to stay in contact with family and friends.
Just not a fan of sharing with the world my walks, driving, cooking, etc. I do not trust these platforms after all of their data mining. Hell no
If your chick is posting her pictures to get the attention of other men. She ain't your chick, TO THE CURB!
If you're using a smart phone they're mining just having that Facebook you're being exploited for your data to the fullest extent
Millennials and gen z have been brought up around normalised narcissism
They know everything on your credit card though, and Google follows you everywhere. 🎉😂
If you have a smart phone, the cameras and microphones are never off at any point
And you will instantly be branded a pervert OR a stalker and instantly you will be ghosted 👻.
If you do it on the first date, yes. If you do it on the 4th or 5th+ date, no.
*if you're ugly
@@MeidoInHebun Spot On. And all men are UGLY except the 1% effeminate boys.!!!
I tell my girl what to wear for every date. Started from the very first date. She has rules she follows if she wants to date me.
Probably sounds crazy. But I can assure you that she absolutely loves it.
@@mikey92362 Because she is attracted to you, if she is not then you are a creep. Actions are only tolerated based on how you view the person.
Here's how you do it...Don't bother
Trouble ahead, lady in red, Casey Jones you better watch your speed. 😎👍
Here's some advice: Men, don't chase. You are the one with value in every relationship. Treat her like arm candy, and you will be a lot happier.
This is the real truth!!!!
Gospel
Wtf? So, you'd want your daughter to be treated like arm candy?
Oh wait, you'll never have a wife or gf and never have kids, so never mind.
easier said than done. The man is the one who approaches first, ask for the date, plan it and pays for it.
Are you single? I only take dating advice from people who are not.
Why would I want a woman who is on Instagram?
Amen brother! I don't want a woman who is always got their feelers out there.
Exactly! Any woman with an Instagram that doesn't use it for a legitimate business is bad news.
I was going to comment the same thing. Instathots are only good for one thing and should be discarded after use.
That was gonna be my comment…👊🏻
Samuel Jackson says “Exactamundo.”😂
Don't tell her to go commando in fish net stockings and take her to Taco Bell
Well there goes my plans.
Depends on the size of the D mate. I mean, you should know. Dr J Hungwell? Lol
Challenge accepted!
That sounds like a splendid idea!
Been there done that
That only works in a woman’s fantasy. As soon as a man actually does it she’ll call him controlling. Or if she does do it, she’ll say it’s the wrong outfit for where he took her and will be pissed enough that she’ll never let him do it again.
Only works if you're a 10, Chad archetype. Otherwise she'll see it as a red flag.
If she doesn't run away anyway
Don't even work then.
EXACTLY - she will take this as "you are controlling" or "bossy"
Hole on pocket magnum Condom accidentally dropping out of my pocket worked for me.
I mean it'd be a red flag even from the hottest guy in the world. It's Ted Bundy shit.
You'd be surprised at what "Bad P energy" is, there's ALWAYS a counterpart to everything
Never heard of this (or even thought about it tbh 😱) but yeah! There's always a flip side.... 😂😂😂😂
It's loose P energy
@@vinny572 Im surprised Sarah didn't respond back to me tho
The whole Yin Yang thing I suppose.
@@ArnoldsDesign exactly
Treat her rough and tell her nothing. She’ll love you forever.
Yeah, a woman that was abused by their father maybe....
😂 nope
@@lauramoller606you say “nope” but the evidence bares out what he says every day
Men,Don’t take dating or relationship advice from a woman,never!😁😎
I'm a bit confused by this.. although I can see one aspect that would be negative... Which would be if the chick were lying to watch you fall... Imo, that's evil... If I were a guy, I'd probably ask the actual one I was dating about her preferences... I do ask a guy when I'm on a date and everything's going well, what they like... I don't see the problem, but then again, I'm not out here TRYING to hurt people.. I can't figure the reason for THAT anyway.... someone would HAVE TO be evil inside.... (You don't want to do shit like that to anyone, or shouldn't, ever, but if you've ever had some ignorant bullshit done to you, you wouldn't want to do that to someone totally innocent that's never done a thing to you, much less just met you...)😊 How's everybody think all men and women GOT to this defensive stance against each other? Right?
@@jennifercox-arnett5602 I think you replying to different comment,cuz what you said here got nothing to do with what I wrote🙄
Exactly
@@jennifercox-arnett5602I think you prove the point by giving your advice being “ask the person you are dating”. Easily skipping over the most important and hardest parts. Getting a women’s attention without looking creepy, making her feel safe around you, being the one responsible for her having a good time on a date, getting her to like you enough to go past a first date. You comment proves why women just don’t get it.
@@manniefresh3425 well, I never have claimed to know exactly how to navigate all things lol... I just know I'm an easy person to speak to, and some things wouldn't strike me as strange, that anyone else would likely freak over... I'm just weird, I suppose, but in a good approachable way lol... I'm hard to offend. Really. Getting embarrassed is WAY more likely to happen...lol...But idegaf about that, mostly; I'm myself no matter who I'm in front of, or I'm quiet... there's no in-between lol.. I myself wouldn't see it as weird or creepy or off-putting if someone actually asked me how I liked to be treated... I know not everyone's gonna be like that, but just in my opinion, if a guy and girl can be that transparent with each other (no ill-intent intended), and follow through with it until they or the relationship ended, it sure would reduce a lot of misunderstanding and bullshit...but that's just my POV.... Anyone's (as we all should know and respect) entitled to their view, without prejudice or judgement, as far as I go.... No harm no foul...lol... But as far as happiness goes, if each person feels a degree of responsibility for contributing to it for the other, it's not just his responsibility towards her; she also has the same effort to be expected from her, towards him.... Each person should put out equal effort towards each other and the relationship they have. If not, someone's gonna get resentful, and that's voluntarily putting the relationship on the chopping block, if not turning off the life support... In no way do I mean to convey that there should be any inequality in effort put forth for the health and growth of the relationship between the two involved in it. Not at all. Effort SHOULD match. And there should be no entitlement on either person's part, BECAUSE they're expected to match the other's effort... It's supposed to be a team thing, right? At least that's what I've come to believe... To me, that's what would make the most sense, and stand the best chance for the relationship's survival.... Jmho...
I’m 46. I’ve done this so many times before social media. It works. It shows you’re interested, observant, and decisive. Didn’t know it was “BDE” back in the day. Still works on my wife.
I concur it works on his wife
@@intravena 😂😂😂
Best to find women who are NOT on social media constantly seeking attention. Yeah, very few are worth it now.
Males say this and they have social media. Make it make sense
@@rosannarichardson7951 Would you want someone that has no loyalty and an att --- tude where they are better than you and is constantly looking for someone better and talking to them? That's far too common now. Also, it's usually someone with more money or status they can show off, it's all about attention. That will be someone impossible to live with, only good for an hour at a time. Most of us have decided that's not worth it. Go ask an average looking guy if he has an account that he actually uses, it's worthless for most men unless they are in the top 5% of looks and status or have a ton of money. And kindness, that's extremely rare from whoooamun now, just like celebrating men's loneliness and "end - ding", that's shows us you are not our friends, you are the opposite when you say nothing to stop it. Speak up and stop this or expect us to celebrate the same for you.
p.s. Sarah is one of the very few not like this.
Thank goodness I’m done with this shit, I was lucky only had to go through this twice.
What happened to being a genuine person? Treating women with respect. Just not into playing games and that is how you come across.
Yes, i do understand trying to gain her interest. "Oh, he really likes that outfit." Etc etc
To me it makes a guy phoney, its a brand of manipulation.
Lost art it seems...
It's not manipulation. It's simply helping her feel beautiful instead of stressing with what to wear. It shows confidence and assertion.
But hey, if you wanna be the "everything i dont like is manipulation loser". You do you. What you feel it makes men means absolutely nothing.
@@robertsloane1268 Absolutely, i'm a professional BDSM Master with 13 submissives and high performance sex couch for couples and pornstars.
It's all about being the leader or Dominant as we call it. Adding the mystical touch. Then goes to sexual escalation and domination.
It's not as complicated as most guys think. Praticing your confidence goes a long way.
That era was over with the Xers that was out of style even then. Women don't want those types of dudes. They have more power in this society now. In 2023 here's the choice, "Simp" and have female companionship, or do as you say, and MAYBE you'll find that rare retro lady, who likes trying to be like the 1950's.
If you want a real one them stay true to you. This advice is bogus
Double standards. Stay safe kings 🤴
Don’t listen to this woman. If you’re about to commit to a woman that has an Instagram with this “little red dress” in it, that red dress isn’t for you Homie. 😂 it’s for everybody.
Ready to invest….thats all I needed to hear….I‘m out😂😂😂
Perhaps... The now ex-wife hated everything I bought for her, and trying to get her to wear something I wanted was never going to happen.
That's why you tell them before you marry them.
Red flag...why don't we all go back to the 60's and 70's no Internet no social media..and get to know one another the old fashion way.
My wife (20+years) always asks “this dress or that?” I guarantee she always wears the opposite to the one I say looks best, so these days I choose the one I like least… she always looks good in both BTW.
Having been married for nearly fifteen years - widower, didn’t kill her, lololol - I figured out the correct path here is to be engaged and give a response. Which dress or sweater isn’t what matters, it’s that you are interested, involved, and/or care, showing that you don’t disregard her concerns.
This is EXACTLY what happens to me. EVERY time.
@@TrephiningI’m sorry for your loss and YES. THIS every time.
Yes, that is true. But you're already married to her. This is for the young guys in the early dating stage of the relationship. Completely different set of circumstances and goals.
It is not the responsibility of men to ‘win’ women. This is the responsibility of women.
Then you take her ass to Cheesecake Factory!
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Cheesecake Factory? I'm not Elon Musk or Jeff Bezos, way to expensive, i go with her to McDonald's and she gets a hamburger.......and if she is nice, a drink too. 😂
This was well into a relationship, but one time I told my wife (in general terms) what to pack for a weekend away, but not where we were going or what we were doing. I brought her to Boston for a theater weekend: Movin' Out and the Blue Man Group. She and all her co-workers thought it was the most romantic thing ever.
Any woman mentioning BDE...time to move on brother...she is for the streets. Men go your own way and enjoy your life.
Women, please simply understand this: Men don't care anymore. We now understand that it's just a game in your head that's all about you. That's OK, and it's nice for us to be free now.
That style of texting does work but won’t make anything “grow” 😂 no amount of texting will make it bigger lol 😂
Also it really only works on a woman that you know very well already.
Only comes across as creepy if you do that too early, but great advice 3-4 months in.
You may be surprised. Most men have been well educated on “how to” with a woman,so much so we will alter the way we speak when a woman is present.
Women however have had no such instructions as far as I can tell.
The problems arise when it isn’t reciprocated.
That’s not to say they(women) don’t want to it only points out they don’t know “how” to.
Women control access to sex. Men control access to relationships.
Plenty of women getting way too much sex but not that many in relationships.
Who needs education then 🤷🏻♂️
I feel like there are so many women out there that try so hard to shit on women and put men on a pedestal. What I love about you is you genuinely try to educate BOTH men and women on how to better themselves for each other. Instead of tearing down either side for their faults you encourage and help show how to be better individually to then come together and be stronger together. I adore your content.
Taking woman's advice for dating is only the worst thing you can do. You deserve what you get if you go that route.
Crazy. Let her breath. Give it time.
You don't ask a fish how to catch fish.
The girl in my line - has NO social media - no IG, no FB, no tic tok - complete ghost
Then you take her to McDonald's.
Then you double down and set a tablecloth, put up candles, cloth napkins, and your best plates and silverware.
Always keep them guessing.
@@CazRaXand pull out a sack of white castles!
I will consider this while lounging on the beach in Fiji.
Wear that little red dress.. we're going to Denny's!
I'm going out on a limb here, lmao, but the idea is she's wearing it for your viewing pleasure, and it wouldn't make a bit of difference if y'all went to the local dairy freeze lmao.... That's just my POV, but I know there's a BUNCH of high maintenance chicks that would scoff at this type of thing like a mofo.... To me, it wouldn't matter if a guy I was dating and really liked, asked me to wear my best outfit, and drove us to a campsite or beside a river or some shit... Hell, I once made a 4-course meal (complete with rum cake...151 rum, at that, lol...) and drove my vehicle to pick him up and went to where we were going for our date...never bothered me in the least... It all depends on the person, and how grateful they are for each life experience... Sadly enough, for some people it takes a lot of bullshit to get to the point that they'll appreciate the smallest gestures in the simplest of places...
Even Denny's isn't good enough?
@@XX-bn9sf Shit yeah.... Denny's has some decent food for the money... Especially if the staff cares about the customers and the business.... I like em... lol...
I got the impression women don't like men telling them how to dress. It signifies that he is too controlling.
Hey..
You read my mind Sarah..
That's actually what I texted her..
But it's the little black dress, low cut in the back..
Her Instagram pic blew me away.. 😅
Wish me luck ❤
Good Night..
Don't get caught up in how she looks. Her being on instagram is a huge red flag to start with.
😂 There was this guy once in Chicago who went on a date with this woman who was wearing a red dress💃
🏃 Freeze FBI 💥💥💥💥👈😎
shhhh thats been a nice guy secret forever 😂😂😂
That would first, require me to be looking for a partner. And, secondarily- have enough curiosity to "stalk" their online profiles.
Listen young fella, if you want big D energy, work on you not her. Treat the source not the symptom. Gain masculinity by working on your intelligence, your physical strength and most definitely have a set of money making skills. Those skills will manufacture a product that when applied will present something of quality. This will give you self esteem, confidence within your capabilities, responsibility, and satisfaction from productivity which gives you purpose. Once you do this for a few years, you will become a good version of yourself. Do this for more years and you will become a solid structured man with a plan. THAT is what women are attracted to.
Preach it! You need a page because that's actually real advice!
Dude, if masculinity is what you are looking for in a man, don’t be surprised if he is as shallow as you are and if you can’t land a man who will respect you.
Awesome advice that is seriously needed in the gimmicky modern dating world. Nothing works long term except real value created through intelligent, persistent effort in the areas you mentioned.
Well this gets right to the men's visual strength you know cuz we're visual people so I like it
Yeah I like this move.
I've told a woman that once or twice.
It shows her that, for one, you are in charge
Also, it acknowledges that you are attracted to her without being simpy
It also sets the stage for her to take the opportunity to impress you, which many women forget to do.
A date isn't just for a man to impress a woman. She must impress you too
The more a man takes charge and shows her that you want her to please you, the more she will want to
(On the flip side, if she doesn't respond well to this, she likely won't do much for you on any matter)
You know nothing. It comes off as investing too hard. I guarantee the night will be less fun for the both of you 99.9% of the time if you do this cringe shit.
@@0000FFzlol, I know nothing? 😅 I have the experience to back this up.
99.9% eh? You come with statistics?
You sound like you have no idea how to turn a woman on, but wanna tell us that stuff like this doesn't work? Riiiight...
Whatever you say buddy. You go on with your plan, then. I'm sure it works for you.
If this is a secret tactic that carries a lot of weight with her, I don’t want her.
I love your ideas 😂❤
nah, she kicked off for me telling her what to wear.
I've never been on a date and I'm so, so glad I'll never have to. It's just so much work for so little reward
This is common knowledge though sarah...
The issue is that you already need the big D energy, you need to already come across as strong, confident, dominant and so on, basically already have her half way to calling you daddy..
From the Ladies POV- I ain't calling nobody Daddy. That just gives off creepy P3DO vibes. A Man asks me to call him Daddy? Nope! I'm OUT!
@@SilverPonyKat and you dont have to, each to their own.
But i think you understood the level of attraction i was implying by that.
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@@SilverPonyKatTotally agree
@@travismarshall4914Any man that wants that is just plain creepy It implies that you’re an adult and I’m a child 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
She can wear what she likes it's her soul and character I'm interested in, I think your right you probably shouldn't,
Im a guy and can vouch for this one.
I do this all the time, then we have a wonderful evening at the theatre or French restaurant.
She's already calling all of her friends tying to guess where valentines is going to be. I told her to get an elegant-ish dress and her passport updated. (i asked her to imagine im the mayor and we need to go to a new years ball outdoors) FYI we're going to an ice hotel.
It was my sister's who taught me this.
edit Oh, forgot to say. Guys, be prepared to buy her a new dress. She'll randomly send me pics of dresses while I'm at work with the caption "will this do?" I love this whole dance probly even more than she does. Win/win.
I can't afford gas
Nice man! How someone who isn’t rich afford this?
What else did your sister teach you
@@fionnmcnessa Hahah...dont go there. I just made note of thier reactions with their bfs.
Damn. That’s mad game!
Have done. (No instagram involved) Worked very well. It's just being assertive. "Hey gorgeous. We're going out, wear that black dress." Drove her crazy. Sent like five texts back asking for details, all of which I ignored. 😅
I'm not quite sure what that will do. Why would that text make a lady feel anything special? It's just a request nothing more. Shouldn't really question Sarah, but this one has me puzzled so an explanation would be nice
Intimacy for women is all imaginative.. this will get her day dreaming about it.
You need to stimulate their minds, their imagination too
Yep, they are like children. You need to constantly entertain them
It will make her feel like you're commanding her and in control, like a father would.
Women look for the feeling of feeling loved as much as the man who will love them.
Because they’re r3tarded and think real life is like the movies
You are right - you shouldnt be telling this. Women will take it as you being "bossy" or "controlling". The way to have "Big D" energy is to always respect yourself and know what you are worth.
I didn't this! Then I took her to Hometown Buffet. It didn't end well....😢
Haha state fair or cracker barrel would be funny
My wife fell in love with me because a year later i remembered what she wore on our first date. 15 years later, i still remind her of the creme sweater, apple bottom jeans, and leather boots, and the way she's glowed then and ever since.
This works.
For all their talk, most women actually like a Man to take control and lead.
Mine dresses better for work than for me. I'm not happy about it but she is a good person.
Telling a woman you’ve only gone on a couple dates with to wear something you’ve never actually seen her physically wear is creepy af
And if she responds with, “you can’t tell me what to wear”, you delete her number and save your self the headache of feminist
Never EVER take an ADVICE from the Woman 👊
Thank you Sarah Dawn, that sounds like something fun to do 😊
This is bad advice. I asked this woman to wear her American flag thong bikini to my sisters wedding. Didn’t work
Did she wear a Soviet thong instead?
She's giving up the ghost. That line works like fire.
I tend to screw it up by finishing the text with something like, "it will look great thrown on the floor of my bedroom."
I do this sometimes. However not to score any extra points. Just because I like girls wearing certain clothing or no clothing.
ohh she lied lol if you do that you will be looked at as a perv or controlling from you tell or suggest a woman on what to wear she looks at uou funny😂she definately lied she setting yall up for failure
Yeah, that's how I would feel about it anyway 😳
Be a man, do your own thing, let them follow.
Nah. Rather, explain women how to avoid exuding fat chick energy.
A-cup energy 😅
Yeah that only works for the first six months. Try this after being together for a few years and she'll call you a controlling jerk.
That’s not big d energy, your only showing her you are stalking her. No man with anything a woman is looking for has time to worry about your pictures.
Bull
Listening to a woman about Big D Energy is crazy. They made the term up to account for more of their bad habits, personality flaws and sad loneliness.
I do that. Some woman think it's "controlling." I call it being assertive and knowing what I want.
I did this with my girl on our first date. I told exactly what I wanted to see her in and she made it happen!! Gorgeous!!
My conversation would be like, “ that track suit you wear to bed?, don’t.”
Men, Do not take advice on “investing in a woman” from a former porn actress.
Thanks for sharing your always full of good advice for both men and women 👏 your awesome ❤😘🌹🌹🌹
Sarah, this is unexpected, but will you meet me in your flannel pajamas? 😂. No really! 😂
Tried that only to be called 'controlling even before the relationship starts'.
“Ready to invest” lol
You got to love how women are different than men and play up the differences is great advice!
The point is woman desire their man (potential) to show leadership and to present confidence.
My ex didn't know how to dress and I use to go with her and pick out out dresses and suites to wear for work and she looked amazing I especially liked to go into the dressing room with her, ahh I really missed that! Having PTSD from serving my country (missed diagnosed) and with medication ruined everything. The last 8 months of my tour in Vietnam they wouldn't give me a weapon so I was a little off you might say. Now that I'm off of everything I remember it all and I have to say it ruined every relationship I've ever had and the VA still won't give me 100 💯 disability can anyone please help me with this situation? I joined the army when I turned 18 my first girl friend sent me a dear John letter after 6 months I mean I loved her I used to hitch hike all the way from fort Rucker a Alabama on weekends and hitch hike back many times only for a few hours, does anyone think I have a great book?
I've never been on or even have a Instagram account. I'm barely on Twitter/X for 5mins a day at most, but usually only on it for roughly a minute. Never been on tiktok before either or Reddit
And then you’re accused of being a creepy stalker and controlling because you’re telling her what to wear
There's a few billion women out there bud. Not all think it's creepy when men take interest.
I believe in face to face, then let fate decide. Texting is just empty words, go old school!
So can I say “you know the birthday suit you have, that will be perfect for this occasion” 😂