what respecting yourself ACTUALLY looks like (and why people hate it)
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- Опубліковано 18 вер 2024
- Respecting yourself looks like a lot of things. Respecting yourself looks like taking care of yourself, prioritizing yourself, etc. For some reason, people HATE when you start to respect yourself, and I explain why in this video.
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4:35 leaving this here for when I return on *09/12/2039*
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with the way time flies, 2039 will be here before we know it!
Remind me too
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To me once a person said: "Without respect there can not be real love. Respect always comes before love."
Some say that thats why the enemies to lovers trope got so popular, cause a lover might love and adore you but a good enemy always respects you
Respect is Love in action.
In other words disrespect is loving passively at best.
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Ppl who get upset with your boundaries don't belong in your life. They're parasites. Good for you! It took me many years to learn this!
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yes being a people pleaser isn't good but its also fine to do things for people without getting any benefit.
that's what being a good person is - sometimes putting other people above you in the moment. i dont study well with others as well but i still study with my friend bc it helps him out.
yeah i might be wasting time but that's all it is - time. time being spent with others or helping others isn't a waste.
good video just putting it out there as i also struggle with being "selfish" vs "self-respect" and being a genuine and kind person/ good friend.
challenging the way I think as sometimes I can fall into viewing friendships as transactional where i help you with this and you help me with that vs just helping others because i like to help people and that makes me happy
I like this way of thinking, I think there’s a thin line between helping others and disrespecting yourself. For example, it may help for someone to have a study partner before a big test, but if I’m wasting the time knowing I’m not benefiting, I sabotage my own grade to help somebody else (and this scenario may have many outcomes, it depends on the person). I do agree that in moderation, helping others is not disrespecting yourself.
@@Ronxhall yeah I agree. with everything moderation is key but I find moderation itself is hard
@@Ronxhallthey don't like it because they burnt the dridge of them getting respect
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Mutilation of people
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That's why they don't like you
When I was 16, I chose to live on the streets, trying to accomplish 2 things. I wanted to understand what it was like to be at absolute rock bottom, and I wanted to see if I could help people get out of it. I thought I was going to live like Jesus did. And while I learned more about human nature and psychology than any psychologist I've ever found online or in person.. I'm also dead broke, with no legitimate experience to put on paper, no college degree. I'm 29 now and I'm having to get a regular entry level job, where I will not be able to use my knowledge and skills. Thank goodness humans live so long these days. I might still have time to get a home and raise children before I'm 50
I struggled with self respect all of high school, its only now until college im becoming myself. I used to be a sheep, following and pleasing everyone but now i realise i need to be my own person. Thank you, i really relate to this.
To anyone who’s had that people pleaser past, you can use it as an advantage, if you start to respect yourself those little things for others can still be done while making yourself and the other person feel loved
Facts brother. The minute I started sticking up for myself, people started getting mad at me.
This is a new POV, thanks to this video I'm able to figure out why I'm mentally tired just interacting with people.
We begin to slowly chip away at the self trust and discipline we have within ourselves when we don’t do the things we know we should do. Which only lessens our confidence in the future that we will do what we need to and actually respect ourselves. Extremely important to reverse it as much as possible, we deserve to be our first priority
you dont understand how perfect the timing was for this to be on my screen. God bless you 💗💗
Yeeeeees! A word right on time!
Same
i love how this video showed up when i needed to see it alhamdullilah
I feel like loving yourself truly, is respecting yourself, they go hand and hand, you cannot disrespect yourself and still love yourself that makes zero sense
My mom said this too lol, I asked her if she ever questioned if I loved her and she said no. But she’s been vocal about me being disrespectful to her in the past. I think you can disrespect the people you love easily, even yourself.
@@Ronxhall I completely agree. Before this video I thought because I loved myself I obviously had to respect myself but I couldn’t understand why I wasn’t keeping my word to myself, staying up late etc and you’ve helped me find an explanation for it
I disagree wholeheartedly. I absolutely believe that love and respect are two entirely separate things, but that they often overlap.
@@justinAclark2075 I’m not disagreeing that they overlap. They overlap but only to an extent because you can definitely love yourself yet not fully respect yourself
@@justinAclark2075 you can’t disagree ‘wholeheartedly’ but then agree with half of what I’m saying lol
bro woke up and chose to spit facts>>>>>>
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you really hit it on the head by mentioning that it's in the little things-- all those little things do really add up to depreciation. staying up late when you know you should be resting, the studying with a friend when you know you actually won't get things done, the various forms of people pleasing is so true. Going to hang out just to accompany a friend, and prioritizing them over the things you have/want todo. You see this prob in drinking and smoking too, you may be ready to let go of old motions like getting high or drinking w your friends, but once the moment arises you betray all the thoughts you had to let it go just to be with the vibes. It's really hard to really say no, making other people happy really seems/feels like an addiction that never pays.
I had an opposite journey, i was super about boundaries and saying no to anything that didn't serve me and everyone thought I was a dick (I still cared for people). But nontheless this video is right--people won't like you when you don't agree to their offers, advancements, asks. I'm vegan and rejecting others on various food situations always upsets people. All this "upsetting people" really made me feel terrible like maybe I was really a bad guy, so much that I thought my boundaries and no's maybe were toxic, so much that I bent all my rules and began to say yes to everything.
I'm slowly making my way back to my old self, but maybe a middle ground. There is a balance to living, saying no, and making a compromise for others that serve you both or even just them if you can afford that.
You are wise. 27yo here, and I felt like I was respecting myself much more during college. Afterword I’ve been gradually returning to that, and this was very helpful to hear. We can justify ignoring the small things if we have larger priorities, but this was a reminder how the little things ARE the priority. 🙏🏾
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Am actually in this phase of transmitting from a people pleaser to an actually honest and straight forward person......
Highly appreciated fam🙏
Love this. I must respect myself
Love this.
Also respect oneself enough to only set goals that are GENUINE.
Not someone elses ideas of success.
Always show up for yourself! Always! The thing I've heard the most in my life was that I'm stubborn and I can't just let things go. I'm fine with that because I go to bed knowing I respected myself and loved myself enough to use the word "no".
This video showed up randomly on my main page on yt which is crazy cause I feel like I needed to hear what you said. Thank you and keep going brother🙏
Hanssome young man very wise! Allowing yourself to just rest in quiet for a while every day is respecting yourself as well.
You would keep your commitments to someone else, why wouldn’t you do that for yourself? Exactly. So simple but so powerful. This came ON TIME!
Now I understad why I wasn´t being able to just "love myself"... there was something much more crucial underneath that. It really is impossible to love what you don`t respect, and to this day I never took the time to actually put that simple conclusion into words.
Thank you very much for this video; this mindset is key, and should definetly be talked about more :)
God put this video in my recommended at the right time tonight! This video helped me a lot to realize I wasn’t the only one going through this. Thank you so much!
don't stop brother you will win
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This is exactly what I needed at this point. Thank you so much for putting up things that our parents couldn't teach us
I’d say throughout my high school life, from y8-10 my self respect was at an all time low. Everything I did was for people around me and it can seriously turn you into a horrible person. I became two faced and my closeness with God just felt lost. Honestly in y11 I’ve lost so many people but I’m so happy. I respect myself but that always comes with a cost. It always will. It will be for something way better though and as long as you walk into collage/school/work with a good heart you are a good person. Don’t get stuck in the past
Comparison is the thief of Joy. God took His time with you. Creating “you”, you have impacted peoples lives in ways unimaginable even if they tell you or not. Remember that you matter and that if you do good, people will talk bad. If you do bad people will talk worse. You can’t please everyone and you don’t have to! Keep going and I’m proud of you. Live this life at your own pace. It’s a marathon not a race :) GOD BLESS UU ALLLLLLLL
Amen.
Amen 🙏
Being left unbothered doesn't always mean you're a people pleaser. Look at it from different angles brotha!
What I find really relates to this is the idea that people pleasers do for others what they want others to do for them or what needs the people pleaser is lacking in their own fulfilment. In reality there’s no guarantee that someone in your life is going to be able to fulfil whatever it is you’re lacking and frankly they don’t owe it to you because you’re there for them. We do nice things for eachother because we have the capacity to care for people outside of us and some of us tie our entire identities to it whether that be for survival, wanting to belong or just not grasping who you are.
I feel like as soon as we start disrespecting ourselves all hell breaks lose, What can go wrong, does go wrong.
And that's simply a consequence of not putting ourselves first..
Though topic to explain, yet you managed to break it down in a simple and inspiring way! great video bro
I honestly needed to hear this years ago, really put a lot into prospective. Great video man!
thank youu, i've been wondering if i've been pleasing people lately but no i always have known within myself that i only come close to people i like and i show myself for them and for me
Damn. Really enlightening, I’m trying to move into a career that’s heavily male dominated (very few females) and the way I keep second guessing myself is really disheartening. I’ve been reconstructing my thought process. Nice reminder to respect our self the way weed respect anyone else and to have grace. Thank you for the video!
Besides the fact that bro is majestic- this is a W video and helped a lot 🙏🏾
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Thank you for spreading knowledge ❤
Thank you for listening 😊
“RESPECT YOURSELF NOW! YOU SERVE SO MUCH PURPOSE”
-LowTierGod
Thank you for this video , even educated me, it’s like saying without self respect it’s like not even loving ones self. You’re soo right! I wish you nothing but the best and like remember that God is your best friend, like he’s there for you even when the crowd ain’t and if you don’t fit in, it’s often time cause ppl hate on you like they did to Joseph !! Include God in all your decisions and you’ll be itee 💖 bless
Good advice bro
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watching this at school and the message slaps!!!
thanks for spreading this message!!!
Ooh the intro message really resonated ❗️ There is always going to be someone upset with you, even if it's just for you existing.... sooo you might as well just do what you want. Thanks for sharing your message!
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Ur vids help me and help a lot of ppl , keep going ⭐️
You guys give me purpose 🙂
@@Ronxhall and u give alot more than that
love that this popped up in my feed! simple but very clear, thanks for sharing :)
Lefend man, appreciate it. You earned my sub in 10 mins more thoroughly than anyone i can think of it recent (~10yr) memory
Love this video. However I would like to add from another point of view. Respecting yourself is also having grace for yourself even when you DONT always accomplish your goals or what you set out for yourself. Knowing that you are still a worthy person even just by trying or just setting those goals in the first place. We are all human and some days are worst that others. Somedays we can get up and be 100% productive all day and other days our body or our minds say no. & respecting yourself can also look like just listening to yourself. & not self deprecating just because u didn’t get some things done. Or your didn’t have the energy one day or a few days 🤷🏾♀️ ( not saying you should just always slack off tho and not try n set goals for yourself n not try to accomplish them. BUT remember it’s society that says we’re only worthy of receiving when we do & get things done. But god says we’re worthy just because of who we are :) 🤍
This definitely made a few things more clear for me by watching this 🙌🏾
Thank u , i really needed to hear this
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I love your energy 🫶🏽 thank you for this
I donot have any words to express!! , Thank you soo much for the video , as a people pleaser it really made me realise that i was such a clown , i'll try and sort my life out! ,and yee gl to you too .
This is definitely wisdom someone could use at any age or any stage of life. Thank you for this reminder.
Love the way you express yourself! Keep up the hard work friend! Beautiful video!
Bro I Just found your channel this morning!! New subscriber great content brother so many gems appreciate your perspective 💯💯
W content bro, a lot of superficial stuff on this app and it’s great to see some authentic content. I would also recommend reading The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey if that’s your typa thing. Really opened my eyes.
I Love this, needed this 💯
fucking amazing video bro. there are so so many videos on youtube about loving yourself, but barely any on respecting yourself which i hadn’t put enough thought into and your explanation of why it’s important hits hard for me man. thank you.
great words loved how you put it together and the music in the background sets the mood, keep going mane!
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Wow. This video opened my eyes up so much. Thank you for making it! Keep doing what you're doing, your goal of helping others is working. Even though we're not from the same religion, may god bless you and keep letting you do good for the world and for your afterlife.
This video appeared on my phone on the right time. Thank you and God bless you :)
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I think it’s all correct, its about being yourself and allowing yourself to embrace your true nature or who you really are or want to be, not for other people but for yourself
And to take care of yourself, know your priorities which is you, and treat yourself as if you treat a dear friend
As long as you remain a good person with good intentions like the video says, go for it
You're well-spoken! 👏
Ignore the sick voice 😂
I really needed to hear this
That’s real, I appreciate you
keep going bro.
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All very true 👊🏾💯🎯
This is very real 💯
This is so true, thank you
1:49. Factual. I’m 31 and I am telling you, factual.
Thank you thank you soooooooooo much❤
Well said.
I really benefited from this, thank you
Really enjoyed the vid❤❤
Great video, great message.
this video format suits me a lot
People hate it even more today. It's really unfortunate and feel like I don't belong here.
The want to appeal to everyone's desires is disrespectful to yourself
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great info man !
I’m subscribing to your channel because I respect myself and my growth 😂
great video!!
Learned this at 16 😂and I went through junior and senior year of Hs doing whatever I want not giving a fuck what people thought 😂 school went by so fast I don't remember anything or anybody from highschool I'm glad that's over.
Happy that i found your channel 🥺🤍🤍
loved the video and you have such a pretty voice
Your voice is nice to listen to
Oooh. He read me. Staying up late when I know I need to be up.
Nah. Respecting myself kept me single for a long time. But when I started to compromise, I actually had a love life.
I don’t want to generalise but most men actually hate it when women respect themselves and have strong boundaries. This is why so many young girls get pressured into having sex when they don’t even want to.
Facts, my man. And might I venture a guess that you weren't sick during this recording, and that it may have been that you were feeling really emotional from something you experienced recently? Maybe the friend who doesn't like you anymore, or something similar, is what motivated you to speak on this? No disrespect, I just feel a hunch, and I'm wondering
Yes I do my way
You on a higher plain brotha
All facts no printer
Amazing video
Thank you🔥
I know it’s off topic bro but you looked like Neymar a little bit in the thumbnail😭
Loved the video though bro,real topic.
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Amazing
Your content is wonderful.
People who dont like you dont realise that everyone is you pushed out. 👍
i agree i need to be better
Thann u so much this really helped me
I completely agree with your statement. However, with the example you gave in the very beginning, I think so much context is lost. You don’t owe us any of the context!!! It’s just, if someone told me that they don’t want to study with me because they “respect themselves,” I wouldn’t love it. There’s just so many ways to say something that conveys the same meaning. You didn’t sound like you were quoting yourself verbatim, so the viewers don’t know what happened. On the other hand , you said that the person now dislikes you. If they were truly your friend, there might’ve been a bigger attempt on their end to understand what you meant. Just my two cents!