Ima have to disagree on this one. Though what he is saying has much truth about pretty women being picky, and choosing to remain single because of it, it most definitely is not across the board. There plenty of gorgeous women waiting to be chose and ain't turning down men! Women are not like men when it comes to looks. We are much more lenient in that area. Cause once we get to know you, and treating us right, u will be fine as heck to us. Lots of beautiful women are single cause they aren't being approached. Like u said, real beauty is basically sterotyped, so they automatically assume all types of negative things. So if you aren't being approached, you cant be chosen. I know so many beautiful ladies with dry phones. They be getting D offers cause they fine and being lusted after, but nothing outside of that. And it has nothing to do with their character cause men don't even come close to trying even see it.
Yes!! Grown boys outnumber grown men. They are seeking to satisfy their lust. Worst part is they play the role of wanting something “serious” when they really don’t. If only grown boys were up front with women and said they just want to “hit and quit” rather then wrong the woman.
It seems like in life being the full package can also be a burden in the dating market, Tony. But you have to remain committed to the prize and try not to settle
People need to be realistic, especially some men. They are asking for what they do not posses. Looks might be the initial attraction, but there needs to be more to the person.
Avoid the insecure man, he gonna attack you to see you suffer is his pleasure. Find a man of values, a healthy masculine man will happily take care of you. He knows his role.
I sure don’t have the answer to everything, but as a former model and former ballet dancer, I get approach by every race on this earth, and I can say character is lacking. A good heart is lacking. Good intentions are lacking good values are lacking. I am single independent, and child free And I will not settle down with a grown boy and I know better to stay off my back lol I’m the words of Mr Gaskins
I have to disagree on some points in this vid. & tbh, I feel like lately your standpoints have been rather aggressive, & I’ve been watching you since 2020 & fully support/recommended your vids since then. It does get rather confusing when you say we can’t speak on how men are bc we’re not men, but you contradict yourself by speaking on women’s behalf. Also, through experiences & learning our lessons through men we personally deal with or wisdom we receive from family/friends, isn’t that a way for us to be able to speak on certain kinds of men, specially toxic men..? (for most of us) I agree, I can’t say how a man thinks or feels bc im not a man, but I can’t even say how a woman thinks or feels bc we are all our own individual. I feel like that statement isn’t valid to use anymore. Also, I think from MY experience as a woman & friends/family who are women, (since you used statistics from your 3.2 million ppl) We do not want to settle for just any man bc we have witnessed too many women get dragged through the mud so we’re learning from them to not make that same mistake. Most guys do not even get to know a lot of the “pretty” women (beauty is in the eye of the beholder but..) let’s be real, a lot of guys ghost women bc there are so many single women out there waiting for a guy to sweep them off their feet. & don’t get me started on the deceitfulness of most guys. I know you tend to block ppl who disagree with your points but it would be nice if you were able to have an open discussion or be open minded rather than tell ppl to shut up & listen to the rest of your videos when they didn’t mean you harm. (I was the person you told to shut up in your live video the other night btw.)
Don't take that shut up and listen personally, Ell. It's just the way he talks when he's on a roll. I have family members who do the same. Also, he said he is working on his bluntness and aggressiveness in his own personal life. But I think he's also a bit paranoid about allowing negative energy into his life, he has said that is the reason he blocks people in another video. Time is precious and we can't argue back and forth with everyone, everyone has a right to try to protect their peace, even TG.
Very true Tony. I always find it amusing when a man ask for my social media, so he can go judge my pictures. Pictures don’t tell what kind of person I am or what my head or heart desires. Getting to know people has been very hard but I’m still trying. May god bless us all ,our future partners ,and relationships ❤
Girl, yes!!! Asking for my IG instead of my number is a 🚩I tell them they gonna have follower's remorse cause ain't nothing on my IG you ain't seeing in person now 😂
Nah, most women are single because men have multiple bms with drama, they're pill popn/ smoking drug users, and they don't work. Who wants to settle for that. 😂 Ladies live and enjoy life! What's meant for you, wil happen...God's timing! 💫
And most men are single because women be having multiple baby daddies, use drugs and on WIC who don't like to work and depend on child support but don't use it on the child. What man wants that 😂😂. Fellas live your best life and don't fall for the okeydoke!
Money isn’t everything and neither are looks, chemistry has to be there and his relationship with God. I think a lot of women who are Christian women are single because men that do have God in there lives are already in relationships or married. I think that is there reason genuine women are single.
So true, the person you tend to pick when you are broken and bitter is not who you want when you are healed. Everybody should wait until you are healed and whole.
Key words used by Tony in this video 'the average man is disgusting' ......therefore there's not much to choose from either way...money or no money. They are innately disgusting
There's nothing wrong with a bus driver. My husband was a bus driver. We had a beautiful home, 3 cars, etc. We stayed married for 2 decades until he died. So don't look down on a bus driver, please 😊❤
I’m confused with dating. It’s like as a young women you shouldn’t lower your standards and you should know your worth; However, you are also told your standards are too high based on your lifestyle or looks. How is it fair to tell someone what they do or don’t deserve? How can one ever meet the perfect match when they are trying so hard to be careful? I just give up 💯. It’s even worse with my generation 😩.
And for the record my income backs up my decision not to date broke men…. I’m older 44… I’ve had men get disgusted when they found out I wasn’t 34 like they assumed… These men were very established and wealthy… But at 44 you know too much … no matter how pretty you are. ❤
Where I live it is nothing but grown boys, old perverts, alcoholics,drug addicts, and drug dealers. The past 2 weeks I have had a 63 and 81 year old man try to talk to me. There is no one worth my time or my energy.
Tony I was a victim at a young age. I hear that you can’t trust light skin women with green eyes… I dated and married within my looks scale but they were grown boys… I didn’t know. With therapy and coaching I’ve learned why I was a target. But an attractive woman is rarely taken seriously because Men think she has so many men. Healing and self love. Also I will never again date or marry a broke man. ❤
People are getting tired period... They're tired of wearing their hearts under their sleeves only to end up in situationships. Different times, different breed of people💩
Also Tony there is a major contradiction in your commentary The main one being that you don’t separate kingdom men and women from celebrities but give feedback based on celebrity. Unfortunately this isn’t Kingdom. Yeah you know men but you aren’t the Word on women. If a woman’s past of being victimized is held against her then the man isn’t Kingdom minded and you can dispute that if you like but I would encourage you to look deeper. Sometimes I feel afraid to comment because it seems that if any woman that engages in dialogue with you without full agreement, is blocked but I’ll take that chance. My hope is that the dialogue flows without the passive aggressiveness and a true dialogue ensues.❤ You may not think I or others here are beautiful but I’ve learned that most men reach for the best even if they aren’t the best themselves. ❤
I’d like to know why men are upset about what Steve Harvey said? What’s wrong with the man being the provider? They said he is a simp because he puts his wife on a pedestal. He talked in detail about how his wife made him better. I’m confused. Also Tony, it’s getting weird that all these men keep saying what they want but none of them are actively pursuing a relationship for marriage. I watched Judge Toler ask 2 gentleman upfront what were their relationship status/goals and both men gave the same ole same ole answer …. “I’m too busy”, “I’m working on me”, “I’m not ready”… that’s what’s so frustrating … the men keep making podcast everyday but they ain’t even applying nothing to their real life or even looking for nothing in real life but out here calling men like Steve and Russell simps… yet the podcast men are the ones you gotta make videos about cuz they out here wasting women’s time then getting mad when women are difficult.
@@tanyaflanders2196 girl i try to be objective and hear both sides of the story but i just don’t get it cuz when these men do meet a good woman they waste her time
@@RamonicaCaldwell exactly. It’s a whole lot of podcasts telling women how to be wives. But you can’t be a wife if you don’t have a RING. “Walk in the spirit of a wife” my behind 😂 You can’t act like something you aren’t! The men simply aren’t proposing marriage so therefore there’s less married women. Single women are a plenty
Yes social media has backed me into a corner of preferring to be SINGLE lol and now I like staying at home not going anywhere!!! Too many head cases out here. No Thankyou. I’m MARKED SAFE 🚨 😂😂😂 I’m so straight which is sad bc I’m so young and have therefore entered my Golden Girl years 🤣
So true, a man with money but no character can leave you broke and broken…look at Betty Broderick story. A man with looks but no money/ambition/work ethic or no character, you’ll end up being a sugar mama. A man with a faithful and loving character, you’ll love even when they old and wrinkly and lost £1 million from their business/stocks/401k.
I can't help but feel he said " yall got to forgive me" for me. I say this cause I've made a couple cracks about him saying that all the time plus his last video I joked about it again. Anyways in my experience being attractive and single is a choice. I get hit on quite often but don't want the guys that holla at me. If I gave into one of these many men, I would be in a relationship. But unfortunately there's more clowns out here than upright men so being single is easy, unless we settle for a clown. That's one reason to be attractive and single. Another one is that that good lookin person may just be crazy or only have looks and nothing else.
This was a great video. Kind of wish it was still like that today but people revolve their lives around the image they have on social media and so now it has become the judging place of the “quality of a person”
Looks play a part, but character is where it’s at. And look at the heart, is he kind and caring. Does he open the door for you, spend his time with, you. do you speak every day text as well. Do you have a connection? Chemistry? They are good men out there. Be realistic this is also key!!
Thank you for being so candid in a way that most women's fathers will not be or any other man for the most part. Insecure men are dangerous for many reasons and they will try to destroy a woman. They resent her, they fear the fact that they don't feel on the same level as her, they fear the unknown, and they will tear her down. They will cheat on her. They may kill her. Some will do almost anything because of their insecurities. All women need to know this.
I wonder what made the spirit tell Tony Mobile Al because I was born and raised there and I have been told so many times I dont look like I was born and raised there lol. Also me as a woman dont like a very good looking man. Its just a turn-off.
Tony can do a video on this ?! I am a single women and I have not dated in over 10 years I am a very attractive woman but it seems like whenever a guy I like try’s to talk to me , I get very shy and don’t know what to say , also the reason I didn’t date for 10 years is because of post depression. Can u give some advice
Wow. I had trouble believing Tony when he says he doesn't know an attractive man when he sees one, simply because I know an attractive woman when I see one. But now I believe him 😂. Kevin McCall looks just like Tyson Beckford, the supermodel. Dark skin, pearly white perfect smile, dimples, clean cut, big muscles, just under 6 ft, and Tony said that man look regular. That's crazy 😂
Thanks for all you do Tony. But I’m torn on the looks compatibility narrative. Especially for us black women. Certain demographics of black women have always been portrayed in a way that makes them internalize only being compatible with men who are low quality no matter the race because of negative media portrayal at worst or media erasure at best. It’s only recently we’re seeing a slow change. It’s the narrative of take what you can get because you’re not valuable even if the woman has worked in her brain, brand and body. Others who have not might still want to “put her in her place” so to speak. It’s the question of why does she think she deserves better when other women her color are always shown as accepting less. I feel women should focus on being their best selves inside and out and like you say focus on a man’s character more so than looks compatibility as long as he doesn’t loook like who shot john 😂.
Tiny I love your content but I’m sorry this particular video is very shallow, and as a man of God I have to say the Bible teaches us to fall in love with the secret person of the heart, not the riches, looks, or standard of living. It’s the devil that influences the world to be shallow, and egotistical. I can’t vibe with this video at all. It’s all ego centered. You may be the most chiseled man in the world, but if your character is foul all the abs in the world won’t matter. I hope to find a man I’m attracted to who has a good natured character. That’s it that’s all. It’s when I’ve gone for the men who are supposedly the best that I’ve run into trouble. The best of the best is a man who loves God, and has a beautiful character. Whether he’s in Mobile, LA, or Saskatchewan.
Side note: environment matters so much. Just seeing your background made me feel better like wow the sun is out? No jacket?! Must be niice✨🎶 in Ohio it has the nerve to be 38 degrees on May 2! This is an outrage lol.
I think most women like Eva first goes for the protective type of man cause the world can be more cruel to “beauty”believe or not ,when that didn’t work she probably went for the more intelligent type thinking less trouble and more stability . 🤷🏽♀️
Mr.Tony, Please do not be offended but are you saying plastic surgery should be an option for women to be “attractive”? I recall watching a video of yours “You are enough” wherein you advocated for plastic surgery being the absolute last resort and people going to Dr.Gym before any surgeon. I do not know if I should consider this or not since I do consider myself to be physically unattractive, at least in comparison to my counterparts . Thank you
He’s always stated that women should use the gym first to reach their desired body goal before they jump underneath the knife. He’s also acknowledged in old videos that some things can’t be fixed by the gym alone (i.e. A person that was once morbidly obese dropping a lot of weight will have to have skin removal surgery because it will begin to have a negative impact on their health; or women that breastfeed and now their breast are deflated and sometimes deformed.) a gym can’t fix loose skin left behind from breastfeeding nor can it fix loose skin from drastic weight loss. Always consider the “why” behind why someone gets plastic surgery. Most people are doing it as a quick fix, not because they actually need it.
You look fine the way you are! Why would you do that? I honestly don't think you need a hair transplant. Your driving commentary had me cracking up! 🤣 I don't understand why you have to have someone from where you live? I don't think I really want someone from where I live. I really want to move to Texas. Many people are moving to other cities. Is that so wrong to do? I agree whatever type of person has hurt you, you try to get the exact opposite or at least look for the exact opposite....
Great topic!!! You tickled me getting away from the dump truck dropping rocks & the lady driving with the ongoing turning signal & observing the dude putting rocks behind the tire😂😂😂 Growing up my Grandaddy would put a brick or cinder block in front of the tire if he parked on a hill, to ensure the car didn’t roll (the parking brake didn’t work).
I married a man that is funny, caring, loving, family-oriented and ambitious. That is what I find attractive and that is what I chose. We are different in a lot of ways but my therapist says in life we choose those who can teach us to grow in the way we would not have otherwise. So I am learning to read the lines instead of only between them, while trying to show him what is between the lines
Yes, Tony previously Laurie was "thick" and she lost the weight and glowed up with her stepfathers (Steve Harvey) money and notoriety! No body has it all. Beauty can be a blessing and a curse. Meany men assume that "pretty women" are taken.
I usually agree with all of your videos Tony but I’m torn about this one 🫤 mainly the part where you said don’t worry about the looks. I get it but shouldn’t we be with someone we are attracted to? Yes he must have character and all the other things you mentioned but I feel like attraction is very important too. I don’t think men are settling for women they are not attracted to. Not saying he has to be 6 feet with a 6 pack and making 6 figures. All I’m saying is I feel like attraction is very important because if you’re not attracted to someone how will they initially grab your attention outside of you getting to know them internally? It takes a while to know someone so until we build up to that I feel like the attraction is what keeps us going. Just my opinion. Tbh I rarely ever get approached so maybe it’s just me, just saying.
I do agree with the preference thing he mentioned, among other reasons. I meant a decent guy before but when we had sex, it sucked, he was not well endowed and his stroke was crap. I told him I wanted to just be friends. This may sound wrong to some, but good sex and a well endowed man is a must for me. But this is an example of preference. Me and that dude could be together if I didn't have that preference.
Can you do a video on issues in relationships where men lie constantly about small shit when it comes handling their business ie: getting their license, making appointments, finances, handling responsibilities around the house, etc. even after giving them chances to grow and addressing it multiple times expressing that constant lies big or small are a dealbreaker. Thanks
Yeah I don't agree with someone telling women or men settle for what is around you. No thanks to that advice. He makes good points about not letting social media bull get inside your head and causing people to pick based on superficial stuff. There are so many places in the bible where God caused people to meet the right person outside of the community that they were from. So I say take the good advice from this and leave the bad advice where it is. People need to look inside of themselves first and figure out who they are first instead of believing that the person they fall in love with has the job of fixing them. I speak from experience and now I know that the healer is Jesus for what childhood or life stuff that has left us wounded. Relationships should be icing on the cake and not something we burry ourselves in so we won't have to deal with our selves. I am finding that once you start the hard work of dealing with what ever is going on with you with God you will realize that what you thought you wanted in a partner is different than what you thought you deserved. Pain can make you pick people that you know will destroy you because you grew up in that type of disfunction. There is a saying "I would rather deal with the devil I know than the one I don't know." So my advice is get with God and get to the root of why you pick who you pick. Let Jesus take you through the rough road of healing because he can handle what ever you got: deal with you and then deal with picking someone for your self because you will find that you are no longer attracted to toxic relationships anymore. God bless and get to loving your self through God's eyes it will change how you pick people and how you give love😊 I guess that saying is true "you can't love some one else until you love yourself first."
Yes, Lil Uglies do sometimes try to knock womens confidence down. The same as abusive, broke men do sometimes. Don’t think a man is of good character just because he kinda looks like a mutant.😊
Although, I understand, what Mr. Gaskins, is saying. I am going to have to disagree! I am a transplant ; in the Greater Philadelphia area. I am sure that there are some eligible men out here, but, just have not run across any. The population of this city is at least 6 million. So, I will try to be hopeful! But, it just doesn't not look good! lol!
I’m attractive women and men judge me women too think I’m easy but I respect myself but people easily judge I’m been trying to date correctly but people judge yu with out even knowing yu first
You humble Me a lot I just hate when a man asked me for money just have their own that’s all I really ask but before a few months ago I had this mat same mindset
Yes tony I I’m very attractive woman and men’s insecurities have destroyed me and treated me like trash put their insecurities on me abuse me and yes I left those men because I rather be alone them been put through hell if a man it’s not completely healed it’s not gonna work a men’s insecurities can destroy yu it’s them not yuor fault
May I just say that I think/feel the standard of your videos has deteriorated somewhat of late Sir - If you're talking to your audience then please try to remain/stay focusd on that point..... Personally, I am not interested in a commentry on who else is on the road driving alongside near you - It's getting irrating/very frustrating.... Aware that more often than not you need to record your videos on the go, but it seems to impair/affect your delivery of the message you wish to convey to the audience; is less than professional and a shame.....
I’m not picky at all if a man has good character I don’t mind what he does especially if he has a vision laid out for his life…… But the time we live in men have access to so many women and they never give anything a chance what one woman want another one will
Ima have to disagree on this one. Though what he is saying has much truth about pretty women being picky, and choosing to remain single because of it, it most definitely is not across the board. There plenty of gorgeous women waiting to be chose and ain't turning down men! Women are not like men when it comes to looks. We are much more lenient in that area. Cause once we get to know you, and treating us right, u will be fine as heck to us. Lots of beautiful women are single cause they aren't being approached. Like u said, real beauty is basically sterotyped, so they automatically assume all types of negative things. So if you aren't being approached, you cant be chosen. I know so many beautiful ladies with dry phones. They be getting D offers cause they fine and being lusted after, but nothing outside of that. And it has nothing to do with their character cause men don't even come close to trying even see it.
THANK YOUUU this is so spot on
Yes!!
Grown boys outnumber grown men.
They are seeking to satisfy their lust. Worst part is they play the role of wanting something “serious” when they really don’t. If only grown boys were up front with women and said they just want to “hit and quit” rather then wrong the woman.
Trueee
Exactly 💯 I agree
So true
It seems like in life being the full package can also be a burden in the dating market, Tony. But you have to remain committed to the prize and try not to settle
People need to be realistic, especially some men. They are asking for what they do not posses. Looks might be the initial attraction, but there needs to be more to the person.
Avoid the insecure man, he gonna attack you to see you suffer is his pleasure. Find a man of values, a healthy masculine man will happily take care of you. He knows his role.
I sure don’t have the answer to everything, but as a former model and former ballet dancer, I get approach by every race on this earth, and I can say character is lacking. A good heart is lacking. Good intentions are lacking good values are lacking. I am single independent, and child free And I will not settle down with a grown boy and I know better to stay off my back lol I’m the words of Mr Gaskins
Beauty is a blessing and a curse. Aesthetically beautiful people are often just objectified, not taken seriously, abused and treated very shallowly.
facts
Yep!
dating is becoming like calculus class and it is tiring. i've been so optimistic but my goodness!
😂😂 Ain't that the truth
Also a lot of guys don’t want girls that are too pretty because they feel there will be too much competition
Facts!!
Facts 💯
That applies to both sexes honestly
@@nerdbamarich2063 facts
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I have to disagree on some points in this vid. & tbh, I feel like lately your standpoints have been rather aggressive, & I’ve been watching you since 2020 & fully support/recommended your vids since then. It does get rather confusing when you say we can’t speak on how men are bc we’re not men, but you contradict yourself by speaking on women’s behalf. Also, through experiences & learning our lessons through men we personally deal with or wisdom we receive from family/friends, isn’t that a way for us to be able to speak on certain kinds of men, specially toxic men..? (for most of us) I agree, I can’t say how a man thinks or feels bc im not a man, but I can’t even say how a woman thinks or feels bc we are all our own individual. I feel like that statement isn’t valid to use anymore. Also, I think from MY experience as a woman & friends/family who are women, (since you used statistics from your 3.2 million ppl) We do not want to settle for just any man bc we have witnessed too many women get dragged through the mud so we’re learning from them to not make that same mistake. Most guys do not even get to know a lot of the “pretty” women (beauty is in the eye of the beholder but..) let’s be real, a lot of guys ghost women bc there are so many single women out there waiting for a guy to sweep them off their feet. & don’t get me started on the deceitfulness of most guys. I know you tend to block ppl who disagree with your points but it would be nice if you were able to have an open discussion or be open minded rather than tell ppl to shut up & listen to the rest of your videos when they didn’t mean you harm. (I was the person you told to shut up in your live video the other night btw.)
Don't take that shut up and listen personally, Ell. It's just the way he talks when he's on a roll. I have family members who do the same. Also, he said he is working on his bluntness and aggressiveness in his own personal life. But I think he's also a bit paranoid about allowing negative energy into his life, he has said that is the reason he blocks people in another video. Time is precious and we can't argue back and forth with everyone, everyone has a right to try to protect their peace, even TG.
agreed. had to unsubscribe.
Very true Tony. I always find it amusing when a man ask for my social media, so he can go judge my pictures. Pictures don’t tell what kind of person I am or what my head or heart desires. Getting to know people has been very hard but I’m still trying. May god bless us all ,our future partners ,and relationships ❤
Girl, yes!!! Asking for my IG instead of my number is a 🚩I tell them they gonna have follower's remorse cause ain't nothing on my IG you ain't seeing in person now 😂
Naw, a man want your social to see what y’all about. Social media has never stirred me wrong when evaluating a woman
🎯 sad people in this world smh😊
Yes they wanna see what kinda brand you totin. When I first meet a man and he ask for my socials, that’s a turn off to me.
What if the person doesn’t have social media or isn’t active on it? Are they automatically out?
Nah, most women are single because men have multiple bms with drama, they're pill popn/ smoking drug users, and they don't work. Who wants to settle for that. 😂 Ladies live and enjoy life! What's meant for you, wil happen...God's timing! 💫
And most men are single because women be having multiple baby daddies, use drugs and on WIC who don't like to work and depend on child support but don't use it on the child. What man wants that 😂😂. Fellas live your best life and don't fall for the okeydoke!
❤❤ i agree
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Money isn’t everything and neither are looks, chemistry has to be there and his relationship with God. I think a lot of women who are Christian women are single because men that do have God in there lives are already in relationships or married. I think that is there reason genuine women are single.
So true, the person you tend to pick when you are broken and bitter is not who you want when you are healed. Everybody should wait until you are healed and whole.
Amen!!🙏🏽
Key words used by Tony in this video 'the average man is disgusting' ......therefore there's not much to choose from either way...money or no money. They are innately disgusting
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😂😂😂 they really are though🤷🏾♀️ no lies told there!
There's nothing wrong with a bus driver. My husband was a bus driver. We had a beautiful home, 3 cars, etc. We stayed married for 2 decades until he died. So don't look down on a bus driver, please 😊❤
Most Men just dnt have the passon & drive anymore its sad.
Well said
depressing isn't it....
I’m confused with dating. It’s like as a young women you shouldn’t lower your standards and you should know your worth; However, you are also told your standards are too high based on your lifestyle or looks. How is it fair to tell someone what they do or don’t deserve? How can one ever meet the perfect match when they are trying so hard to be careful? I just give up 💯. It’s even worse with my generation 😩.
People are freaking confused, they have too much access to any and everybody and don’t want to settle!
And for the record my income backs up my decision not to date broke men….
I’m older 44…
I’ve had men get disgusted when they found out I wasn’t 34 like they assumed…
These men were very established and wealthy…
But at 44 you know too much … no matter how pretty you are. ❤
also maybe they think you're too old to baby trap.
Where I live it is nothing but grown boys, old perverts, alcoholics,drug addicts, and drug dealers. The past 2 weeks I have had a 63 and 81 year old man try to talk to me. There is no one worth my time or my energy.
Tony I was a victim at a young age. I hear that you can’t trust light skin women with green eyes…
I dated and married within my looks scale but they were grown boys… I didn’t know.
With therapy and coaching I’ve learned why I was a target.
But an attractive woman is rarely taken seriously because
Men think she has so many men.
Healing and self love.
Also I will never again date or marry a broke man. ❤
I understand this very well. Sorry for all you've been through and happy to hear that you are doing the inner work. Best wishes to you, sis
@@ChrisnathaTVthanks sis❤
People are getting tired period... They're tired of wearing their hearts under their sleeves only to end up in situationships. Different times, different breed of people💩
Also Tony there is a major contradiction in your commentary
The main one being that you don’t separate kingdom men and women from celebrities but give feedback based on celebrity.
Unfortunately this isn’t Kingdom.
Yeah you know men but you aren’t the Word on women.
If a woman’s past of being victimized is held against her then the man isn’t Kingdom minded and you can dispute that if you like but I would encourage you to look deeper.
Sometimes I feel afraid to comment because it seems that if any woman that engages in dialogue with you without full agreement, is blocked but I’ll take that chance.
My hope is that the dialogue flows without the passive aggressiveness and a true dialogue ensues.❤
You may not think I or others here are beautiful but I’ve learned that most men reach for the best even if they aren’t the best themselves. ❤
These men want young dumb women… I look younger than I am and when men figure out my age they back up
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Lots of attractive people have personality disorders!
It's a trick of the enemy. Life is about purpose and some are called into singleness.
Why do you assume attractive people have personality disorders?
Oh wow
lmao a lot of people in general have disorders of all kinds....
@@lw4294 I'm saying just because someone is beautiful doesn't mean they are healthy people to date
I’d like to know why men are upset about what Steve Harvey said? What’s wrong with the man being the provider? They said he is a simp because he puts his wife on a pedestal. He talked in detail about how his wife made him better. I’m confused. Also Tony, it’s getting weird that all these men keep saying what they want but none of them are actively pursuing a relationship for marriage. I watched Judge Toler ask 2 gentleman upfront what were their relationship status/goals and both men gave the same ole same ole answer …. “I’m too busy”, “I’m working on me”, “I’m not ready”… that’s what’s so frustrating … the men keep making podcast everyday but they ain’t even applying nothing to their real life or even looking for nothing in real life but out here calling men like Steve and Russell simps… yet the podcast men are the ones you gotta make videos about cuz they out here wasting women’s time then getting mad when women are difficult.
Boyce Watkins did a video on this topic a day ago. His point was providing feels different when youre broke in your 20s vs established in your 40s-50s
You are so right on this one.
@@tanyaflanders2196 girl i try to be objective and hear both sides of the story but i just don’t get it cuz when these men do meet a good woman they waste her time
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@@RamonicaCaldwell exactly. It’s a whole lot of podcasts telling women how to be wives. But you can’t be a wife if you don’t have a RING. “Walk in the spirit of a wife” my behind 😂 You can’t act like something you aren’t! The men simply aren’t proposing marriage so therefore there’s less married women. Single women are a plenty
Yes social media has backed me into a corner of preferring to be SINGLE lol and now I like staying at home not going anywhere!!! Too many head cases out here. No Thankyou. I’m MARKED SAFE 🚨 😂😂😂 I’m so straight which is sad bc I’m so young and have therefore entered my Golden Girl years 🤣
Look 👀 at character before you look at looks‼️ 👏🏾💯
So true, a man with money but no character can leave you broke and broken…look at Betty Broderick story.
A man with looks but no money/ambition/work ethic or no character, you’ll end up being a sugar mama.
A man with a faithful and loving character, you’ll love even when they old and wrinkly and lost £1 million from their business/stocks/401k.
Idk about anyone else but Kevin McCall was fine fine. It just turned out he had some mental issues.
I agree with you Tony. Character is the most important thing.
I can't help but feel he said " yall got to forgive me" for me. I say this cause I've made a couple cracks about him saying that all the time plus his last video I joked about it again.
Anyways in my experience being attractive and single is a choice. I get hit on quite often but don't want the guys that holla at me. If I gave into one of these many men, I would be in a relationship. But unfortunately there's more clowns out here than upright men so being single is easy, unless we settle for a clown. That's one reason to be attractive and single. Another one is that that good lookin person may just be crazy or only have looks and nothing else.
Factsssssss
This was a great video. Kind of wish it was still like that today but people revolve their lives around the image they have on social media and so now it has become the judging place of the “quality of a person”
Looks play a part, but character is where it’s at. And look at the heart, is he kind and caring. Does he open the door for you, spend his time with, you. do you speak every day text as well. Do you have a connection? Chemistry? They are good men out there. Be realistic this is also key!!
Not necessarily the best of the best but filters, props, makeup, etc. Not real at all.
Thank you for being so candid in a way that most women's fathers will not be or any other man for the most part. Insecure men are dangerous for many reasons and they will try to destroy a woman.
They resent her, they fear the fact that they don't feel on the same level as her, they fear the unknown, and they will tear her down. They will cheat on her. They may kill her.
Some will do almost anything because of their insecurities. All women need to know this.
well said.
I wonder what made the spirit tell Tony Mobile Al because I was born and raised there and I have been told so many times I dont look like I was born and raised there lol. Also me as a woman dont like a very good looking man. Its just a turn-off.
You get distracted easily 😂😂
Tony can do a video on this ?! I am a single women and I have not dated in over 10 years I am a very attractive woman but it seems like whenever a guy I like try’s to talk to me , I get very shy and don’t know what to say , also the reason I didn’t date for 10 years is because of post depression. Can u give some advice
I relate to your post as well depression kept me from dating in my 20s and 30s
Wow. I had trouble believing Tony when he says he doesn't know an attractive man when he sees one, simply because I know an attractive woman when I see one. But now I believe him 😂. Kevin McCall looks just like Tyson Beckford, the supermodel. Dark skin, pearly white perfect smile, dimples, clean cut, big muscles, just under 6 ft, and Tony said that man look regular. That's crazy 😂
Really? He fine?
@@akilahbatyah6505 Absolutely 😁
I live in a very high end neighborhood and I don't date outside my race and culture by choice ...so I am good....
Thanks for all you do Tony. But I’m torn on the looks compatibility narrative. Especially for us black women. Certain demographics of black women have always been portrayed in a way that makes them internalize only being compatible with men who are low quality no matter the race because of negative media portrayal at worst or media erasure at best. It’s only recently we’re seeing a slow change. It’s the narrative of take what you can get because you’re not valuable even if the woman has worked in her brain, brand and body. Others who have not might still want to “put her in her place” so to speak. It’s the question of why does she think she deserves better when other women her color are always shown as accepting less. I feel women should focus on being their best selves inside and out and like you say focus on a man’s character more so than looks compatibility as long as he doesn’t loook like who shot john 😂.
Huh? Kevin McCall is really handsome. Like model handsome. Beautiful complexion, lips, and bone structure. He and Eva are on par with looks.
Tiny I love your content but I’m sorry this particular video is very shallow, and as a man of God I have to say the Bible teaches us to fall in love with the secret person of the heart, not the riches, looks, or standard of living. It’s the devil that influences the world to be shallow, and egotistical. I can’t vibe with this video at all. It’s all ego centered. You may be the most chiseled man in the world, but if your character is foul all the abs in the world won’t matter. I hope to find a man I’m attracted to who has a good natured character. That’s it that’s all. It’s when I’ve gone for the men who are supposedly the best that I’ve run into trouble. The best of the best is a man who loves God, and has a beautiful character. Whether he’s in Mobile, LA, or Saskatchewan.
Side note: environment matters so much. Just seeing your background made me feel better like wow the sun is out? No jacket?! Must be niice✨🎶 in Ohio it has the nerve to be 38 degrees on May 2! This is an outrage lol.
I think most women like Eva first goes for the protective type of man cause the world can be more cruel to “beauty”believe or not ,when that didn’t work she probably went for the more intelligent type thinking less trouble and more stability . 🤷🏽♀️
Sounds about right, but insecurities can creep up in any type.
Mr.Tony,
Please do not be offended but are you saying plastic surgery should be an option for women to be “attractive”?
I recall watching a video of yours “You are enough” wherein you advocated for plastic surgery being the absolute last resort and people going to Dr.Gym before any surgeon.
I do not know if I should consider this or not since I do consider myself to be physically unattractive, at least in comparison to my counterparts .
Thank you
He’s always stated that women should use the gym first to reach their desired body goal before they jump underneath the knife. He’s also acknowledged in old videos that some things can’t be fixed by the gym alone (i.e. A person that was once morbidly obese dropping a lot of weight will have to have skin removal surgery because it will begin to have a negative impact on their health; or women that breastfeed and now their breast are deflated and sometimes deformed.) a gym can’t fix loose skin left behind from breastfeeding nor can it fix loose skin from drastic weight loss. Always consider the “why” behind why someone gets plastic surgery. Most people are doing it as a quick fix, not because they actually need it.
It's not about looks!
You look fine the way you are! Why would you do that? I honestly don't think you need a hair transplant.
Your driving commentary had me cracking up! 🤣
I don't understand why you have to have someone from where you live? I don't think I really want someone from where I live. I really want to move to Texas.
Many people are moving to other cities. Is that so wrong to do? I agree whatever type of person has hurt you, you try to get the exact opposite or at least look for the exact opposite....
not being rude but im confused becuase i thought you were basically saying we need to pick people on the same level of attractiveness as us
Great topic!!! You tickled me getting away from the dump truck dropping rocks & the lady driving with the ongoing turning signal & observing the dude putting rocks behind the tire😂😂😂 Growing up my Grandaddy would put a brick or cinder block in front of the tire if he parked on a hill, to ensure the car didn’t roll (the parking brake didn’t work).
I married a man that is funny, caring, loving, family-oriented and ambitious. That is what I find attractive and that is what I chose. We are different in a lot of ways but my therapist says in life we choose those who can teach us to grow in the way we would not have otherwise. So I am learning to read the lines instead of only between them, while trying to show him what is between the lines
I love how you speak the truth and throw in some comedy to give us a laugh!
Yes, Tony previously Laurie was "thick" and she lost the weight and glowed up with her stepfathers (Steve Harvey) money and notoriety! No body has it all. Beauty can be a blessing and a curse. Meany men assume that "pretty women" are taken.
Get away from that truck dawg 🤣
😂😂😂
Always hitting the nail on the head! Thank you Lord for Tony’s transparency and speaking through him
I usually agree with all of your videos Tony but I’m torn about this one 🫤 mainly the part where you said don’t worry about the looks. I get it but shouldn’t we be with someone we are attracted to? Yes he must have character and all the other things you mentioned but I feel like attraction is very important too. I don’t think men are settling for women they are not attracted to. Not saying he has to be 6 feet with a 6 pack and making 6 figures. All I’m saying is I feel like attraction is very important because if you’re not attracted to someone how will they initially grab your attention outside of you getting to know them internally? It takes a while to know someone so until we build up to that I feel like the attraction is what keeps us going. Just my opinion. Tbh I rarely ever get approached so maybe it’s just me, just saying.
I do agree with the preference thing he mentioned, among other reasons. I meant a decent guy before but when we had sex, it sucked, he was not well endowed and his stroke was crap. I told him I wanted to just be friends. This may sound wrong to some, but good sex and a well endowed man is a must for me. But this is an example of preference. Me and that dude could be together if I didn't have that preference.
Why didnt to teach the man on what works for your body?
@@zero1188 I could do that but his penis was still small. That part matters to me.
100% truth on choosing out of fear and insecurity!
Can you do a video on issues in relationships where men lie constantly about small shit when it comes handling their business ie: getting their license, making appointments, finances, handling responsibilities around the house, etc. even after giving them chances to grow and addressing it multiple times expressing that constant lies big or small are a dealbreaker. Thanks
Wow, how crazy is that. I can’t deal with liars.
he said to leave them the first time they do things you find unacceptable. that's the influence a woman has.
Tony’s side eye is the best part of the video 😂😂
Yeah I don't agree with someone telling women or men settle for what is around you. No thanks to that advice. He makes good points about not letting social media bull get inside your head and causing people to pick based on superficial stuff. There are so many places in the bible where God caused people to meet the right person outside of the community that they were from. So I say take the good advice from this and leave the bad advice where it is. People need to look inside of themselves first and figure out who they are first instead of believing that the person they fall in love with has the job of fixing them. I speak from experience and now I know that the healer is Jesus for what childhood or life stuff that has left us wounded. Relationships should be icing on the cake and not something we burry ourselves in so we won't have to deal with our selves. I am finding that once you start the hard work of dealing with what ever is going on with you with God you will realize that what you thought you wanted in a partner is different than what you thought you deserved. Pain can make you pick people that you know will destroy you because you grew up in that type of disfunction. There is a saying "I would rather deal with the devil I know than the one I don't know." So my advice is get with God and get to the root of why you pick who you pick. Let Jesus take you through the rough road of healing because he can handle what ever you got: deal with you and then deal with picking someone for your self because you will find that you are no longer attracted to toxic relationships anymore. God bless and get to loving your self through God's eyes it will change how you pick people and how you give love😊 I guess that saying is true "you can't love some one else until you love yourself first."
You're hilarious 😂😂😂
The traffic frustration! 😭 😂🤣
Yes, Lil Uglies do sometimes try to knock womens confidence down. The same as abusive, broke men do sometimes. Don’t think a man is of good character just because he kinda looks like a mutant.😊
Eva dated Lance Gross for a while too.
I disagree... Eva can't keep a man.
Although, I understand, what Mr. Gaskins, is saying. I am going to have to disagree! I am a transplant ; in the Greater Philadelphia area. I am sure that there are some eligible men out here, but, just have not run across any. The population of this city is at least 6 million. So, I will try to be hopeful! But, it just doesn't not look good! lol!
I’m attractive women and men judge me women too think I’m easy but I respect myself but people easily judge I’m been trying to date correctly but people judge yu with out even knowing yu first
I agree bout these trucks dropping rocks cracking people windshield make me so mad have of um don’t have stuff flying off covered properly
Naah she is so right. Pretty women really don’t get approached as much quite paradoxically
You humble
Me a lot
I just hate when a man asked me for money just have their own that’s all I really ask but before a few months ago I had this mat same mindset
Tony 100 Pct as usual👍
Yes tony I I’m very attractive woman and men’s insecurities have destroyed me and treated me like trash put their insecurities on me abuse me and yes I left those men because I rather be alone them been put through hell if a man it’s not completely healed it’s not gonna work a men’s insecurities can destroy yu it’s them not yuor fault
From a nurse therapist I’ve that neck if u didn’t already and maybe do ibuprofen
Hi Tony, I would like to paint a mural on the wall in your studio. I also have artwork available, too.
Tony you speaking the truth in this video right here brotha ✊🏾✊🏾.
I really enjoy listening to you.
It happened to me! He was so insecure and try to break me and I said I’m created by God… you can’t! 😊
Wow we I’ll take fit as I become fitter and one with good character and God fearing wow help me Lord
So much traffic in Bay Area now gotta drive defensive
Great insights Tony!
Thank you.
Preach🎯💯, very true
It’ll harden that soft tissue on the back of your neck as long as u keep lifting
You are 100% right, Tony 🙌. You have it bang on
Great information...
So glad u said that bout men even some women doubt certain men will violate a women because she may not be very attractive
Ummm I just wanna say that Damson is considered a top tier fine for women lol
Checking in 👋🏽
So what if somebody looks improve
Yep want the man fitted to me nothing more nothing less
You are so wise, Tony, it is crazy
May I just say that I think/feel the standard of your videos has deteriorated somewhat of late Sir - If you're talking to your audience then please try to remain/stay focusd on that point.....
Personally, I am not interested in a commentry on who else is on the road driving alongside near you - It's getting irrating/very frustrating....
Aware that more often than not you need to record your videos on the go, but it seems to impair/affect your delivery of the message you wish to convey to the audience; is less than professional and a shame.....
Drive safe 😊
I disagree with the eva m. part of Tony's personal assessment. But we all are entiltles to our opinions. No one knows why they are getting divorced.
Eva and Lance Gross were together, I believe they’re looks compatible..
Because they all have an attitude and in eras gone by where they would still cook and clean for a man, men tolerated it but not anymore.
I’m not picky at all if a man has good character I don’t mind what he does especially if he has a vision laid out for his life…… But the time we live in men have access to so many women and they never give anything a chance what one woman want another one will
Because looks is no longer a relationship qualifier. Folks are choosing peace over a pretty face.
Eva was engaged to Lance Gross for a long time. Eva has also had a relationship with a woman.