A kinder, gentler philosophy of success | Alain de Botton

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  • @Drtomterrific
    @Drtomterrific 5 років тому +413

    I'm 59 now and I am happy to say, I determined at a young age I would never let anyone else determine my definition of success. I have been driven all my life by a need to understand consciousness, particularly my own of course, that is what has occupied my mind and I'm very happy with the results!
    I'm retired and living comfortably in the Great American Southwest and I'm looking forward to living the next 25 years with even more gusto than I did my first 59. So much JOY!

    • @MrJeanNunes
      @MrJeanNunes 4 роки тому +7

      thats a terrific statement, terrifictom. i share your thoughts with a great deal of joy myself :D

    • @Drtomterrific
      @Drtomterrific 4 роки тому +8

      I apologize to the first two of you, for offering no reply to your kind comments. So rare on the internet. But apparently UA-cam failed to notify me of your comments until Mr. Parallaxes just about few minutes ago.
      I appreciate each of your kind words.

    • @kallingil9320
      @kallingil9320 4 роки тому +1

      Sau jau chacha ji.

    • @lamlalatoyabam9028
      @lamlalatoyabam9028 4 роки тому +2

      ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

    • @Drtomterrific
      @Drtomterrific 4 роки тому

      @Anthony W Moore
      I am both complimented and disappointed your experience of Americans is so poor. I know there are many people, American and others, who think deep of life. I've met a few here and abroad. But the internet allows me to hear from so many others I would never know existed.
      Do you know this reference:
      "There are yet 7,000 who have not bent the knee to Baal."

  • @xuanius
    @xuanius 7 років тому +787

    His strength is in making people realize their faults (i.e. Exercising snobbery) without being angered, and in fact leaves us wanting to be kinder :)
    Great emotional intelligence here.

    • @MrSidney9
      @MrSidney9 6 років тому +12

      Emotional intelligence is a contradiction in terms. It's simply intelligence- clear, logical thinking about how to best persuade Strategic persuasion. It's true though, that his audience is likely made of snobs

    • @soberanisfam1323
      @soberanisfam1323 10 місяців тому

      ​@@MrSidney9no

    • @LT-nx7bi
      @LT-nx7bi Місяць тому

      JP says there's no such thing as emotional intelligence; for instance: am I emotionally un-intelligent if I hate you?

  • @AsianPervasion
    @AsianPervasion 9 років тому +952

    Alain de Brilliant.

    • @bennyton2560
      @bennyton2560 6 років тому +5

      Touche

    • @minsookim2255
      @minsookim2255 6 років тому

      J. Lee ㄴ

    • @crazylittlepartytifs
      @crazylittlepartytifs 6 років тому +1

      yasss 👌👌👌😂

    • @jooyoungwuk
      @jooyoungwuk 5 років тому +1

      It's a korean joke right? XD
      For those who don't speak korean, Botton sounds like a word meaning 'average' or 'so-so' in korean!

  • @nucalabadze3850
    @nucalabadze3850 8 років тому +353

    What he says about envy and school reunions is one of his greatest ideas.

    • @sinarb2884
      @sinarb2884 6 років тому +2

      I agree, but it's not his own ideas perhaps, search for the video of him about the book democracy in america.

    • @v.dargain1678
      @v.dargain1678 5 років тому +2

      Envy ! ha ha ha ha !

    • @jennyhughes4474
      @jennyhughes4474 5 років тому +19

      I went to two school reunions and never felt envy for those earning far more than me (or with husbands or families who did) because I knew I had chosen extra free time over money and that made me happy and I think I had far more fun!

    • @harrybalszak7526
      @harrybalszak7526 5 років тому +2

      Jenny Hughes well said.

    • @ennediend2865
      @ennediend2865 3 роки тому +1

      Harder for men though...
      My opinion.

  • @peichunlin392
    @peichunlin392 10 років тому +328

    What a truly intelligent man.

  • @TissDiss
    @TissDiss 9 років тому +2081

    I wish this dude was my best friend.

    • @aljasmialjasmi2510
      @aljasmialjasmi2510 8 років тому +44

      and i wish if he is my husband :(

    • @luishiguera11
      @luishiguera11 8 років тому +98

      he is everyone's best friend. whether you're sleeping, eating, walking around a park, getting married, at your child's graduation, Botton is also there. He will always be there.

    • @mojitofall5441
      @mojitofall5441 8 років тому +5

      lmao i lol'd

    • @TsarOfRuss
      @TsarOfRuss 8 років тому +3

      I be marry you

    • @CoachDeBora
      @CoachDeBora 7 років тому +10

      Your comment made me smile. Thanks

  • @inspira.
    @inspira. 2 роки тому +33

    I'm so happy that people like him exist in this world. Takes some load off your soul.

  • @francesca4192
    @francesca4192 3 роки тому +38

    As a third year student at uni, this video helps me every time in dismantling constant social pressures I keep receiving from the current system.

  • @benito_rojas
    @benito_rojas 9 років тому +182

    A kinder, gentler philosophy of success. Genius. More of this is needed in the world.

    • @narimafanficfan
      @narimafanficfan 3 роки тому +1

      Simon SENEK has similar views two, check it out if you're interested! much love!
      (happy new year!)

    • @Nka861
      @Nka861 10 місяців тому

      @@narimafanficfan😊

  • @thepolyglotfarmer6085
    @thepolyglotfarmer6085 2 роки тому +40

    One of the best talks I've ever listened to. The guy is a genius, on the one hand he speaks with such clarity and elegance and on the other he maintains a very good sense of humor!👌

  • @unwinsis
    @unwinsis 9 років тому +1105

    Q. "What do you do?"
    A. "Same as you. I work, I get paid, I drink."

    • @pravinda333
      @pravinda333 8 років тому +17

      Did Tyrion saw your comment?

    • @petitio_principii
      @petitio_principii 7 років тому +18

      No offense, but that seems like the life description of an alcoholic. :-/

    • @adressepoubelle6488
      @adressepoubelle6488 6 років тому +7

      Brilliant

    • @adressepoubelle6488
      @adressepoubelle6488 6 років тому +7

      You must be so pure and so perfectly well balanced in your mind and spirit.

    • @soninChina
      @soninChina 6 років тому +9

      unwinsis Funny...I have a class reunion coming up. I’m using that if it’s okay with you!!

  • @LickNRiff
    @LickNRiff 12 років тому +237

    This should be watched by every conscious person in the western world.

    • @lovedaisy_0728
      @lovedaisy_0728 4 роки тому +17

      And also the eastern world!

    • @aliceliu4548
      @aliceliu4548 4 роки тому +18

      not only the western world. meanwhile, in China everyone worship money and social status, what a snobby world here now

    • @Grace4ever22
      @Grace4ever22 3 роки тому +10

      TO BE WATCHED ALL OVER THE WORLD!!!!

    • @beezanteeum
      @beezanteeum 3 роки тому +3

      @@aliceliu4548
      It's even seeped onto Asian and every single collective cultures (Afro, Latin, Indigenous, etc.)

    • @poppymoon4122
      @poppymoon4122 3 роки тому

      The whole world

  • @alexandrusuciu885
    @alexandrusuciu885 8 років тому +138

    "let's make sure our ideas of success are truly our own" :) Yes!

    • @v.dargain1678
      @v.dargain1678 5 років тому +6

      I totally agree . Sucess is not an end product of "the thrill of the chase" .

  • @edkensalexandre7043
    @edkensalexandre7043 9 років тому +192

    This TEDtalk could not have come at a better moment.

    • @doza6472
      @doza6472 6 років тому +4

      And is still so relevant today!

    • @zozi_kozi951
      @zozi_kozi951 2 роки тому

      Hi, how its going?

    • @Qvksylver
      @Qvksylver 2 місяці тому +1

      @@zozi_kozi951 The future kinda sucks, stay in the past.

    • @zozi_kozi951
      @zozi_kozi951 2 місяці тому

      @@Qvksylver you are right! All my best wishes for you ❤️

  • @CodebreakerCH
    @CodebreakerCH 8 років тому +437

    I highly recommend his documentary "Status Anxiety" for anyone who liked this talk. It's about the same topic like in this video but in a 2 and a half hour version.

    • @tagaway6173
      @tagaway6173 6 років тому +6

      Yours Truly does he work with "the school of life"? I wrote "status anxiety" and I cleaked on the school of life video, just to see what they say, before I watch the video u recommended.
      To my surprise,
      'TS of Life' whole video was this ted-talk, but shoter.
      But they did not credit Alan at all.
      Sad.

    • @mukamaslove1986
      @mukamaslove1986 6 років тому +31

      Alain de Botton owns School of Life so don't please dont be sad :)

    • @a4286j
      @a4286j 6 років тому +2

      Mukama's Love - i knew ive heard that voice before

    • @aronk001
      @aronk001 5 років тому +1

      op already states “his documentary”

    • @juanfranciscosanda6780
      @juanfranciscosanda6780 5 років тому +2

      Thx for sharing

  • @Live.startup
    @Live.startup 4 роки тому +32

    This man represents that which is good about the internet. I love his crude straightforwardness! The School of Life, good to have you here!

    • @genehughes4022
      @genehughes4022 10 місяців тому

      There's nothing crude about what he is saying

  • @gamolly
    @gamolly 9 років тому +790

    "He is not a loser, although he has lost."

    • @hakusansaku8800
      @hakusansaku8800 7 років тому +29

      "He is not a f***r, although he has f****d"

    • @akhil-ng5yj
      @akhil-ng5yj 7 років тому +6

      Haku Sansaku f****r

    • @davemckay4359
      @davemckay4359 4 роки тому +2

      This is my favorite ideal.

    • @spinnetti
      @spinnetti 4 роки тому

      Just like in the Cold Play song...

  • @yanzili2090
    @yanzili2090 3 роки тому +35

    Dear Alain, thank you so much for this speech and for all the great speeches you have given, the books you have written, the kindness, the wisdom, the humor, the deep thinking and profound caring for people. We are so lucky to have you!

  • @JuanRuiz-ji6ug
    @JuanRuiz-ji6ug 9 років тому +246

    why isn't this ted Talk viewed in the millions?

    • @adamlee6435
      @adamlee6435 8 років тому +19

      +Juan Ruiz Because there are too many talks on success, and too many ways to define success (money, family life, job satisfaction, emotional stability). Inflation of perceived intrinsic value in talks about success.

    • @TsarOfRuss
      @TsarOfRuss 8 років тому +4

      Because they delete Spiritual videos !! alot of people hate them ...
      they said they are only based on facts, but they accept psychotherapy speakers anyway

    • @soninChina
      @soninChina 6 років тому +1

      Juan Ruiz I just stumbled upon his videos. Now I binge watch!!

    • @tonytanou2810
      @tonytanou2810 6 років тому +5

      Because most others are drinking the Kool-Aid. The phrase "drinking the Kool-Aid" refers to the 1978 Jonestown massacre, in which more than 900 people committed mass suicide by drinking a flavored drink mixed with Valium, chloral hydrate, cyanide, and Phenergan. "The phrase can be used ironically or humorously to refer to accepting an idea or changing a preference due to popularity, peer pressure, or persuasion.

    • @LynnBFriedman
      @LynnBFriedman 6 років тому +3

      @juan ruiz Because he talks truthfully. His ideas demand introspection and growth. Hard to do ---

  • @nwschultz01
    @nwschultz01 10 років тому +52

    Alain de Botton points out that meritocracy includes both the positive idea that each of us can climb to the top and the negative idea that those who are at the bottom deserve it. He goes on to suggest that we learn to read tragedy (Euripides, Sophocles, Shakespeare) because it is the art form that best combats the view that people have earned their poverty or unfortunate circumstances. He specifically mentions Hamlet, pointing out, "Hamlet loses, but you wouldn't call Hamlet a loser." Funny how meritocracy leads back to the middle age's concept of the great chain of being--everyone has a place in the hierarchy, and everyone belongs in the place he's in.

  • @ft1sesa
    @ft1sesa 5 років тому +8

    Alain de Botton will be remembered for many years to come

  • @joycefungo1414
    @joycefungo1414 8 років тому +1880

    Is he the voice of School of Life?

    • @shuhengazhang
      @shuhengazhang 8 років тому +127

      Yeah

    • @TrollinJoker
      @TrollinJoker 8 років тому +235

      +Joyce Fungo Not only that, I believe he is also the brain behind SOL

    • @ihazthots
      @ihazthots 8 років тому +60

      +Alex Ander , Indeed. He has also authored plenty of books on myriad subjects. The School of Life store has more information.

    • @JuanRuiz-ji6ug
      @JuanRuiz-ji6ug 8 років тому +90

      He is The school of life, The book of life, etc.

    • @mmv3547
      @mmv3547 8 років тому +47

      Watching his videos, hearing him speak about life and such gives me life....

  • @josefinay.785
    @josefinay.785 9 років тому +105

    Very inspiring talk, and a healthy dose of reality for all of us who have had it drummed into us to 'chase' success.

  • @nevil3076
    @nevil3076 3 роки тому +2

    12 years down the road and this speech is becoming more important.

  • @800542204
    @800542204 4 роки тому +6

    This feels so important right now with everything going on in the world. There is so much that is completely outside of the control of individuals.

  • @HybridHalfie
    @HybridHalfie 9 років тому +49

    So for everyone who enjoyed this there is a whole documentary and book he made called "status anxiety"
    This Ted Talk was like a condensed summary of the whole book and 2 hour documentary. Highly recommend it if you liked this
    :)

    • @DPSCo29
      @DPSCo29 2 роки тому

      My favorite book!

  • @polymath7
    @polymath7 15 років тому +5

    "There are two tragedies in life.
    One is not getting what one wants, and the other is getting it."
    This is more true than many would believe.
    Wilde is always right. Always.

  • @elnazpayani9436
    @elnazpayani9436 Рік тому +3

    Dear Alain,
    Thanks for your existence! you are more than a genius!

  • @aichaf3070
    @aichaf3070 7 років тому +92

    That crease across his shirt makes him ever so slightly more approachable. Love Alain de Botton.

    • @stephanietaylor7504
      @stephanietaylor7504 6 років тому +6

      Aicha F I can picture him buying the shirt in the airport on the flight over

    • @oi8542
      @oi8542 5 років тому

      Aicha F really funny

    • @TheArtemis07
      @TheArtemis07 5 років тому +7

      I was thinking the same thing. The crease in his shirt and his slight slouch. He should be standing tall with all his accomplishments, but the fact that he slouches means, to me, that he is unassuming and humble.

  • @pinkmazohyst
    @pinkmazohyst 8 років тому +407

    He could read the Sunday paper or a recipe book and I'd be fully attentive

  • @lovedaisy_0728
    @lovedaisy_0728 3 роки тому +7

    He is also a kind, gentle person himself

  • @joyce7550
    @joyce7550 5 років тому +2

    He is my favorite modern philosopher now. Not too serious despite his serious chosen subjects. Recently, I am listening to Jordan Peterson and for my break, I go back to Alain de Button.

  • @knockitdown20
    @knockitdown20 6 років тому +3

    Love it. He's a great mind that's able to distill true wisdom. He looks through the ages of human existence beyond just our era. And he's able to recognise true wisdom even though he's not religious

  • @Nanciefy
    @Nanciefy 12 років тому +47

    "Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it."

    • @cowboylikeme854
      @cowboylikeme854 3 роки тому +1

      How are you

    • @cowboylikeme854
      @cowboylikeme854 3 роки тому +1

      Asking since it's been 8 years

    • @Nanciefy
      @Nanciefy 3 роки тому +12

      Hahah damn it’s been a while! I’m good - this quote couldn’t be more relevant 😂 I’ve given up a lot since then, changed my career 3 times, and I’m finally feeling like I’m on the track to embracing my true self! If I hadn’t done that, I would have never discovered my current passion. Letting go has been one of my most humbling yet empowering lessons :) take care!

    • @cowboylikeme854
      @cowboylikeme854 3 роки тому +4

      @@Nanciefy that's great to know! Congratulations!

    • @ahmadtharwat2670
      @ahmadtharwat2670 2 роки тому

      Excellent reverse_engineering statement

  • @binkybunsssss
    @binkybunsssss 3 роки тому +4

    I need more series of talks of Alain de Botton. My daily morning routine is listening to his talks on Pessimism, Romanticism, Emotional Education 🌼🌿

  • @ahmadtharwat2670
    @ahmadtharwat2670 2 роки тому +2

    this type of content is way above the level of Just A TED Talk

  • @shre9
    @shre9 2 роки тому +3

    We are blessed to have Alain in our era. Such a legend

  • @heideleho
    @heideleho 8 років тому +73

    I feel like everyone would be a little bit calmer, confident and more mindful if they watched Alain's Ted talk series.

    • @ihazthots
      @ihazthots 8 років тому +7

      +heideleho, or you could follow his exemplary UA-cam channel called The School of Life. Similar philosophical discussions, but short, animated and recurring.

  • @kubasniak
    @kubasniak 10 років тому +11

    Very clever man I must say. His knowledge is astonishing. One of the best TED talks.

  • @Thank-u-so-much-for-everything
    @Thank-u-so-much-for-everything 2 роки тому +2

    Blind faith in others is not true love but trying to understand others is true form of love.
    Trying to understand others can't produce hate or fear except love and kindness in us.

  • @worldsavy
    @worldsavy 15 років тому +9

    I can definitely relate to this. I feel like it is incredibly easy to live a comfortable life, but very few of us feel that simply living such a life is "successful". In America especially, I feel that being a mailman or working for the postal office or working for any government branches will yield good healthcare, comfortable salary, great job security, and just an overall relaxed working environment.
    But it is because of society's expectations that we all want to gamble for the millions.

  • @swissschoolofyoga
    @swissschoolofyoga 6 років тому +6

    Such an intelligent, kind and clever man, so happy I've discovered his lectures

  • @harrybalszak7526
    @harrybalszak7526 5 років тому +6

    This guy doesn’t get the credit he deserves. He’s done more for public philosophical education than any individual in the last 100 years. Sure we have the medium of the internet but without Alain it would still lack accessibility on the forefront.

    • @Leotique
      @Leotique 5 років тому

      yeah especially with The School Of Life

  • @nicholaserickson4233
    @nicholaserickson4233 Рік тому +2

    Great message, slowed it down to .75 and made it much more relaxing for me. He whizzed through that at times.

  • @Phoenix_7568
    @Phoenix_7568 5 років тому +8

    I'm addicted to this guy's TED Talks.

    • @Tunawesmake
      @Tunawesmake 5 років тому

      Have you tried his The School of Life Chanel?

  • @andrewr311
    @andrewr311 4 роки тому +2

    I see many people including myself that have lived tragic lives. We tend to think everything is in our control and if we succeed it's all down to us but each day we all rely on millions of other people, to grow our food, to transport it, sell it, those who have planned our roads and cars and built them, those who obey the rules of the road around us etc etc.

  • @abundant224
    @abundant224 5 років тому +3

    Watching it forgive second time. So much respect for this man

  • @beldonhuang
    @beldonhuang Рік тому +1

    This is such a great talk by Alain, who is one of my favourite modern philosophers. The knowledge that is delivered here in the early 2000s still applies to us today. Just because someone is financially successful doesn't mean they are the best people to hang around with. Likewise, just because someone isn't financially successful (yet), doesn't mean they are not working hard to strive for what they wish to achieve. Essentially, just like Alain says, we shouldn't judge people merely based on their outlook.

  • @Faarax96
    @Faarax96 9 років тому +90

    The narrator of the school of life videos!

  • @yurojuan
    @yurojuan 4 роки тому +1

    He undestands life more than any other wealthy man out there. Now that is true wisdom, and the peace that comes with it is priceless.

  • @xiongluong
    @xiongluong 9 років тому +46

    Never gets old this talk.

  • @team2learn
    @team2learn 9 років тому +2

    Random thoughts
    'a small amount of information can put you aside'
    'a Mom can always brag about you'
    Ferrari -You are incredibly wealthy or vulnerable. Either way you are in need of Love.
    Meritocracy aside, work in your passion. However it could turn another person away.
    Self-help, 2 kind of books. 1) You can do anything 2) you have low self-esteem
    Alain is amazing. A teacher from whom we can all learn.

  • @bherusinghkitawat9933
    @bherusinghkitawat9933 4 роки тому +6

    Most underrated Ted talk of all time. I can't trust on my ears what I have just heard. This is what I wanted to hear from very long time.
    Thanks for sharing your thoughts about life 🙏

  • @davidedmundson8402
    @davidedmundson8402 5 років тому +2

    Probably the most consistently entertaining TED I've seen. Some pretty good ideas, too.

  • @ahmadtharwat2670
    @ahmadtharwat2670 3 роки тому +3

    We need more of this man in our modern world

  • @codacreator6162
    @codacreator6162 5 років тому +1

    I wish more of the most influential people on this planet actually listened to Alain de Botton. Imagine how great the world could be.

  • @SubhamoyChakraborti
    @SubhamoyChakraborti 10 років тому +8

    Stimulating talk on success, failure and the impossibility of setting up meritocracy in absolute sense.

  • @aaronkeogh
    @aaronkeogh 15 років тому +1

    I think that this is probably the best TED talk I have heard so far.
    I like this quite from Yvon Chouinard, (The founded or Patagonia), "You learn that what's important is how you got their, not what you've accomplished".

  • @amruthagirish1532
    @amruthagirish1532 8 років тому +7

    One of the best TED talks ever!

  • @cointreasurehunt1319
    @cointreasurehunt1319 5 років тому +1

    A class act. A man who cares and helps people, (who listen) live happier, and emotionally healthier lives.

  • @pkcre
    @pkcre 5 років тому +7

    This is simply one of the best talks I have watched - amazing stuff.

  • @stenl6383
    @stenl6383 4 роки тому +1

    The distinction between TED and TEDx is so clear here.

  • @drSarahai
    @drSarahai 6 років тому +16

    I'm writing highlights in Arabic.
    اهم النقاط التي استفدتها هنا
    فلسفة لطيفة عن النجاح.
    هناك علاقة بين المجتمعات التي تقنعك بأنك قادر على فعل اي شيء وبين تفشي ثقة النفس المتدنية بين أفرادها.
    قيمة الشخص الحقيقة لا يمكن ان تستشف من بطاقة أعماله فقط
    في الفشل، نحن لا نخشى فقدان المال او المهنة، احيانا نخشى حكم الآخرين علينا
    عندما فقدنا عبادة الخالق او الكون، واتجهنا لعبادة الخلق وأنفسنا. فقدنا المتنفس الذي يأخذنا من أنفسنا و من الخلق والتنافس والدراما المرتبطة بهم.
    انت لا تستطيع ان تكون ناجحا في كافة المجالات، هذا هراء. اي رؤية للنجاح يجب ان تعترف بمواطن خسارتها.
    تاكد من ان فكرة النجاح تنبع من ذاتك وليست مستقاة من خارجها، بأن يملى عليك ما يجب ان تفعل وتكون

    • @afshanhameed203
      @afshanhameed203 5 років тому +1

      and now it's somehow scary to some people!!

    • @salwayousef8212
      @salwayousef8212 5 років тому +1

      Thanks شكرا

    • @marwazein7283
      @marwazein7283 4 роки тому +1

      شكرا لمجهودك فكرة جميلة ترجمة المحتوي للعربية.

    • @drSarahai
      @drSarahai 4 роки тому +2

      @@marwazein7283 العفو، شكرا للطفك

  • @ArchiduquesaMA
    @ArchiduquesaMA 5 років тому +2

    Alain is brilliant. Huge admiration for him

  • @asphotawasti7005
    @asphotawasti7005 4 роки тому +6

    Oh my god! I love this TED talk. I saw this after 11 years, and I can relate to it 100%!

  • @tilleternity
    @tilleternity 3 роки тому +2

    so delighted and honored

  • @sudhindrak
    @sudhindrak 11 років тому +215

    That accent.. man. that accent is perhaps what God speaks in. That Brit accent is the most beautiful thing in this world after music.

    • @MrChandanc9
      @MrChandanc9 11 років тому +3

      ha ha !! these people don't speak they sing :)

    • @Jmndmb32
      @Jmndmb32 7 років тому +9

      sudhindra srinivas His accent is also heavily influenced by the German language.

    • @nixances9894
      @nixances9894 7 років тому +1

      Try british music

    • @bink865
      @bink865 5 років тому +16

      It's a posh British accent. We don't all talk like that. He is a good egg

    • @htaylorja
      @htaylorja 5 років тому

      Lolololol i really couldnt help myself with your delivery of how you wanted to express your awe of his accent. And its hilarious but i get you, however the funny thing is the Almighty accent may be a bit older than the English accent or dialect even though he understands all and can communicate all and reaches us deeper than a vocal range. Just a thought. Great delivery though.

  • @anitawildman6248
    @anitawildman6248 4 роки тому +4

    This was brilliant - I need to listen to it again. Everyone should listen to this.

  • @nancymohass4891
    @nancymohass4891 6 років тому +3

    I'm so amazed by his thoughts ! Wish he had a regular debate program on the media , so we all could participate !

  • @fangirlfortheages5940
    @fangirlfortheages5940 6 років тому +1

    This man has a channel called School of Life. It has intelligent videos like this, narrated in his voice, on all sorts of philosophical topics. They’re beautifully animated and so eloquent. 10/10 highly recommend

  • @thisisntallowed9560
    @thisisntallowed9560 5 років тому +5

    Wise man and amazing talk.
    I also believe that everyone's goal is to be happy, but we're told that a certain type of success will make us happy

  • @lovedaisy_0728
    @lovedaisy_0728 2 роки тому +2

    This man has said something that the whole world needs to hear.

  • @fron645
    @fron645 5 років тому +3

    Alain never disappoints. Such a great guy.

  • @nabieladrian
    @nabieladrian 4 роки тому +3

    He really lives far beyond the time, ultimately great man

  • @RimzMeow
    @RimzMeow 6 років тому +3

    I think society has measured success in monetary and materialistic manner. But what is success to an individual usually can't quantified. It could be raising a happy family or doing well in a business or it could just be anything. Like he said, one has to know their own definition of success. And as a wise man once said "it not about how much you make but how you make it that matter"

  • @chamarasajith6395
    @chamarasajith6395 2 роки тому +1

    this man is golden!This guy spoke out my mind

  • @SistahNedra
    @SistahNedra 12 років тому +3

    What a great way to start my first day back to school. I love his series; Philosophy: Guide to Happiness.

  • @mysteriousgirl4
    @mysteriousgirl4 13 років тому +1

    This was amazing to hear and so true. We live in that constant fear of failure because society teaches us that if we fail, then the failure is deserved. Enough to stress anyone out!

  • @urbinamdm
    @urbinamdm 7 років тому +9

    Love it. Lighthearted and great insights, A rare message these days, and because of that, very timely indeed.

    • @v.dargain1678
      @v.dargain1678 5 років тому

      Lighthearted and not authoritative . Nice

  • @Martin-lf9se
    @Martin-lf9se 5 років тому

    There was a time in history that people of power were the only ones that could speak, be heard and respected.
    In our times of internet and available data (think quality), it’s NOT easy to appear in front of millions (thanks to UA-cam) and deliver a message that is not opinionated, based on years of research and persuasive.
    Well Done!

  • @Nonoyawns
    @Nonoyawns 15 років тому +4

    He is a fantastic speaker! His series of shows "Philosophy: A Guide to Happiness" were great as well! Alain de Bottom has potential as a great popularizer of philosophy.

  • @cavedon.felipe
    @cavedon.felipe 5 років тому +1

    It's incredible how he can pass so much knowledge so straight forward.

  • @Amina088
    @Amina088 7 років тому +9

    Having listened to most of the recent videos of School of Life, I am surprised why I have just discovered this TED Talk. Although the content is nothing new to the current me, his calming voice makes his messages so kind and assuring. One day, I, too, want to become a splendid speaker like him. :)

  • @yashraj7007
    @yashraj7007 5 років тому +1

    One of the most honest videos I've every watched. You sir have condensed so much information in this video that if there's book by you, I would like to buy many copies to gift it to my loved ones. Thank you good sir

    • @SocialNetwooky
      @SocialNetwooky 5 років тому +1

      there are actually many books by him. Very readable and read-worthy too.

  • @Paseosinperro
    @Paseosinperro 13 років тому +3

    I think the idea of success is insane in itself, specially the meaning it has nowdays

  • @megganwright1535
    @megganwright1535 8 місяців тому

    Im not sure how I came across this video BUT i can definitely say that I am more the wiser after having watched it multiple times over. And I thank you Good Sir.

  • @adressepoubelle6488
    @adressepoubelle6488 6 років тому +4

    Funnily I'd like to argue that our appropriation of external ideas of success is due to the point you made earlier on according to which our own internal idea of success is to be respected and held in high esteem.

  • @joaopedroduarte6622
    @joaopedroduarte6622 7 років тому +2

    Brilliant as always. Alain de Botton is one of the best contemporary writers.

  • @IlinaKuriashkina
    @IlinaKuriashkina 10 років тому +10

    A wonderful and insightful talk. Well done, Alain!

  • @swish1234567890
    @swish1234567890 5 років тому +1

    i like that idea of looking more at tragic art. When we see all the little things that make people behave in a certain way we can't help but feel sympathy. He who knows all forgives all

  • @yuhanhe2583
    @yuhanhe2583 8 років тому +7

    He is simply great

  • @trickstercod
    @trickstercod 12 років тому +2

    I've always applaud the piece of art this guy presents with stunning insight from his reading and research. Bravo!!!

  • @TheNicolaGrace
    @TheNicolaGrace 12 років тому +5

    Amazing discussion Alain:) I like your line where you stress that success is to be free from anxiety.

  • @everythingispolitics6526
    @everythingispolitics6526 5 років тому +1

    I love this video for various reasons. One being the candidness and honesty in his explanations.

  • @faustinaakwuole8527
    @faustinaakwuole8527 2 роки тому +4

    The topic on the video is about success and failure. The two things I have learnt from this video are: Success is based on self-help. Secondly, any state of mind or level in life that put you out of anxiety is success.
    As a student, success or failure in college or career is based on my personal decision or effort to succeed. The extent of seriousness I put in my studies determines my success or failure. I don't need to depend on or copy what others are doing because you are not in them, is only God that knows us. When I diligently utilized every resource made available to me in college and make them my own, definitely I will succeed. Like if I am a given homework, and I made a personal effort to do it and submit it on time, I am working towards success without anxiety or much pressure on me.

  • @thepandorianne1422
    @thepandorianne1422 5 років тому +1

    He pointed out various things that I thought I already knew pretty well, but his stringenity transported the message better than any book quote. I found it funny how humans evolved to one enourmous failure-crown, unfluencung and depriving each other while we're equipped with individual thoughts, opinions and values. We should've done better all along..what is always holding us back..the fear among one another?

  • @DJ-yj1vg
    @DJ-yj1vg Рік тому +4

    This is a really profound and poignant speech. Many of these problems with society have magnified by social media allowing us to compare ourselves to every other stranger on the planet

  • @isameier9633
    @isameier9633 2 роки тому

    I love Alain de Botton. He's such a great enrichement for the society!

  • @afonsobrito6933
    @afonsobrito6933 8 років тому +183

    2:58 I bet there's that one ferrari owner in the audience...

    • @ride9111
      @ride9111 8 років тому +2

      Afonso Brito V V.

    • @aminaz1778
      @aminaz1778 5 років тому

      What's wrong with owning a Ferrari if it takes you from A to B?

  • @GetMeThere1
    @GetMeThere1 15 років тому

    Excellent! Filled with truths that can benefit many.
    Another truth NOT mentioned: For virtually ALL men, their drive for "success" is rooted in their desire for getting the woman (women) they want. And the corollary to that is that women (on average) CONTINUE to put "success" on high priority in mate choice.