I have always told myself it’s normal to have a so called physic connection with my loved ones. It’s just like a mother’s intuition with their child(ren). Very normal. No need to be fixated on it. Also, if you just respect their boundaries you don’t obsess about what’s going on with them. Just be a supportive friend and lover. It’s not difficult.
Why do you say now cause I know that the doctor was so surprised I thought I was dying when my kid was like when my mom was pregnant for my daughter and I took her morning sickness and everything not my choice. I actually looked at him and I was being a smart ass, but I said like how do I give it back and he said he don’t work that way I know I’ve been working with my two daughters more than their mom, but I think it’s probably because of I am trauma as a child with my dad and everybody always says like a mother‘s intuition and seven I know I know my kids inside now like they do anything 30 seconds being home 12-year-old daughter right in front of mom was lying to me told me that she smoke a cigarette and stuff like that and she won’t open up like that to either one of them, but I also they say like the high NFJ is the only one that can be friends with your kid and be a parent first and both of them are my best friends and I honestly they know everything about me to go to bed Ugly and I just figured they would never walk away if I never made any mistakes worse than my past and I used to be an addict. First time I ever try to get clean. I did for one like all this was conceived in. I just have always educated a man at seven years old. My daughter saved her and her friend from being in a house where they were doing drugs because of what I told her and I never told her what drugs were called. I never told him what they did. I just told him how people acted when they should get out of there and call me and she did the second time she ever went anywhere to stay. I was so proud of her and you and her I was like I cannot believe it the whole time I was telling her she’s like you’re so ignorant and you’re so about this and that I said you don’t understand empathic part like you don’t I said I can tell she’s so intrigued that I am this. She’s over excited that I’m trusting her and it’s like she might as well as said, but tell me more daddy because She was just like consumed with the information and I knew she was understanding and she did and I said like why can’t you believe that because she’s so fucking smart and if you just educate your kid, even when they did something wrong, they don’t need to be disciplined or scream that they need to be educated and that’s where people go wrong to make your mark and change the world. It starts with your kids and broken generations. Need to quit breaking the next generation for anything to happen But man like me and my youngest she’s empathic like our elephants and everything is a mother elephant and a baby so I just called an adult elephant for the parent, but it’s always a mother elephant and there’s some mothers out there that are just horrible and just like that most women and most men are pretty much mostly all horrible these days there’s a select few that their moral compass isn’t ruined or trauma is so bad where they trauma dump their shit onto their kids where their kids pay for shit that they had to go through his kids not seeing that now you’re traumatizing your kid because of your trauma and I don’t know men and women are pretty much equal these days and I’m leaving. I’m not sex because I say women should be running in the world because men want power when you get power they just want more women most women Want stability once you get some stable you just keep it. You know balance keep a coasting. There’s only one kind of stable that is why and I get shit for guys all the time and I don’t trust men like I really have two men. I trusted my whole life and I can tell a girl I just meant 20 seconds ago my whole life story when I can’t even admit to a man if he might know a secret of mine, I can’t even admit the secret that I think he pretty much knows. I still can’t do it because I don’t trust him
Thank you for this insight. We especially myself alot of times have to be told to stop, or slowdown. When we get fixated on a problem espically with especially with people we love we go full throttle all the way.
Me too. I feel other souls in a way. And when it's a negative one withdraw from that person. I feel like I have a strange ability to touch another person's soul. I especially desire when I'm in love with that person. Sadly every time I fell in love I've been rejected
As an INFJ male, I can usually feel my wife's headache, and I don't even have to look at her, or hear her speak. I just have to be within 3-6 feet of her. It really hurts. When i move away, the headache goes away. Also, I almost never get headaches myself. When I'm intimate with her, I can sense when she is really feeling good from the experience. That is one of the most wonderful sensations.
I think something like this is going on with my INFJ husband, but not with headaches. I think I something about me bothers him and he avoids being close.
@@Serena-jf5ts If he has any degree of having an INFJ personality, it can be rather difficult. There is so much people "say" without words. Non-verbal cues are very telling, and usually more honest than any words can be. As one who went through years of speech therapy just so I could speak clearly enough, and the fact there is only a 70% chance that I can properly hear the words someone speaks, I have come to rely on anything but the written or spoken word. Body language, facial expressions, and the rhythm of a person's voice is much more telling. The words can easily be just as telling as they can be simply noise. I can imagine how some personalities can have a difficult time around INFJs - even INTJs - but the best approach is probably just to be open and honest - and patient. Also, if you watch other INFJ videos, you may see it could be something as simple as him just wanting time to himself to reflect and "reinvent" himself. IN*Js do tend to enjoy a certain degree of solitude. I am almost as much an INFJ as I am an INTJ and solitude is key, but I also consider my wife to be part of myself as much as I hope she is part of me.
I remember talking to a client i got on very well with on the phone and suddenly smelled oranges. I asked him if he was eating one and he said "yes", and then "how did you know?" I laughed and said I could smell it.
And they Love hearing "I feel like you....blah blah blah". LOL. I was SO connected to my ex - It freaked me out - had never experienced that intensity before..we used to kid around about it, how cool it was........until he didn't "like" it anymore- I guess I was too close to the bone....was overwhelming and 5 yrs of constant stress honestly was deteriorating me on many levels. Thanks for this video - I've never actually understood that this is a REAL thing. Yes, I thought I was going insane. And yes, he has tons of wounds that he does not want to work on. Once I started to really try and understand myself/heal from my own, he seemed to be irritated - probably because he thought I would push that healing on him to do also - but I would never have done that....I have enough on my own plate.
Wow, my story is/was exactly the same 😮 How are you now? I hope you're not blaming yourself ❤ For me it's been three years since my last relationship ended. I have had many opportunities to start a new relationship since, but I can see some of their wounds in a few hours of conversation over a coffee, even. It's scary, feeling how they are going to eventually reject my desire for self growth. I am working on trusting my body, and it tells me to walk away every time. Still after 3 years, I want to learn a new skill to deal with "this ability", because I do want a relationship and the probability of finding a partner with a similar ability is starting to appear small... Strangely, at work I am a "master of not taking things personally". So, it's the middle ground the hard part to master. At least for me. I hope my three year long experience is useful in some way. 🍀
@@artifundio1 isn’t it scary how many of us have had the same experiences? It honestly kind of blows my mind. It’s a relief because then we don’t feel quite so alone or so peculiar about ourselves ….. but it’s still sad. I can’t tell you how much I value all that I have learned, and all of the growth that has occurred in only 10 months. My relationship seems like a lifetime ago….Nope, I do not blame myself at all. At first I did, but then I started to understand everything, the foggy curtain parted And I took responsibility for everything, forgive myself, which was a monumental thing to do, and then decided it’s time to move forward, go back to being happy and joyful ….my natural state. I hope you’re doing wonderfully or at least better for sure. Sending you a gigantic hug…..you are brave and strong! ❤️🌻🙂
Am an infj male ..just want to share my experience..I had crush almost like relationship. We chat and call as usual. One day i got strange intense feeling about the above mentioned person that she is not well like seriously unwell ..then I called her and asked r u ok and she told me she met with a car accident and got injury on the vertebrae. Ya it was like somewhat other worldly
I don't just get this with romantic partners. I can sometimes get this from close friends when there's intense emotions involved. I've eventually accepted these experiences as real as, when I pick up these emotions from others, they just don't feel like mine. They also arrive out of the blue and leave unexpectedly.
Been there, friend. For me it was like being in a funhouse mirror room. Basically an infinity mirror. I wish you the best of luck in navigating it all. It's a lot. Take care. 🙏
I'm an INFJ dating an INFP. It is fabulous, and insanity rolled into one. We barely fight, but we are overloaded with each others emotions that cause misunderstandings, and it is hard to decipher who's feelings are who's. Sometimes neither of ours. Especially if we are around a lot of people. Nothing amazing doesn't come at some cost. The good far outweighs the bad. 😂😊❤
As an INFJ I can vouch for the accuracy of this. Thank you, Lauren. This video is 100% on point in my case. I still have a telepathic connection with my ex-. My therapist asked how I could feel deep love for this deceptive, cheating person whom I walked away from, and my response was, "He has a beautiful soul, and a troubled mind". She didn't get it. But I had, and still have, a telepathic connection with him as I say, and could literally see into all of his secrets, as well as pre-verbal trauma from before the age of two. He gaslit me terribly and denied everything, but I could literally see, feel, and know what he had been up to, and I could see/feel the inner wound driving his behaviors. Needless to say, it is healthier to be apart from him because he is a covert player which is disrespectful and unfair to me. As you say, the relationship was draining. I still love him, wish him well, and am also happy to be on my own. Yes, I have a psychic bond. But, I can also stand apart.
I gave up going deeper in a relationship when I realized someone's natural wound. I don't want to get into an unhealthy relationship like codependency. It's not a good idea to overuse our healer ability.
I never learned this until I was in my thirties and engaged, at least that’s what I thought. I was engaged until the idea of a break was brought up. I considered friendship with my ex fiancé. That’s just as damaging to INFJs and against our embedded characteristics. So I learned in that short time how there is no way of preventing codependency in romantic relationships/friendships. Since I’m not one to date to mate, like the majority of society. I have made it a point to just keep going at life alone.
I have experienced this so many times in my life (I am INFP). It is exhausting. living in an apartment is NOT good for our types. I have lived in multiple apartment situations, and now that I have my own house I cannot begin to explain how different my mental field is and how wonderful it is to be able to relax and heal and be in a more healthy place. I was overwhelmed by the mix of energies in a communal living space.
INFP here, I dated a girl with severe depression I thought i was going crazy and even sought therapy. I was feeling sad all the time. I never was like that before, I was definitely feeling emotions thats weren’t really mine. Once at work she texted me and just in a few texts I could tell something was off, but then I just broke down and cried uncontrollably. I was sent home. I still don’t know why exactly I felt so much. I haven’t cried like that without my own reason since. I raised the alarms to all her friends and close relationships that day. I would often text her roommates too to check up on her, which would prevent her acting out her thoughts of self harm. I never was able to guess exactly the thought or hear her thoughts in my head or something supernatural like that.
I used to say to my romantic partners "I don't know how to explain it, I just see you for who you really are inside - not so much all the things you've done in the past, etc". I didn't know why I would describe it like that - I had no basis, other than it being the truth. They had major issues - emotional unavailability/deceitful/etc so I couldn't figure out if I saw them as this good soul, why I could not trust them....feel relaxed around them and inside myself, I didn't know I was an INFJ until really about 4 months ago. I know I've taken the test a few times but wasn't really into understanding "myself" back then....so I remember seeing the same result, INFJ but not truly understanding how all of it fit into my life, decisions and approach to life. I wish I had paid attention to it decades ago, maybe things would have gone smoother, or I would have had a "grip" on Life, relationships, etc. Instead, I've had too many relationships with toxic individuals and when you see those types of people thru our lens, it's super dangerous. ..especially if you are not in touch and trusting your intuition. You just need to run...but I always doubted myself, my intuition and really thought I was asking too much for myself in these relationships..I know, it sounds as awful as it feels. So, big spiritual awakening smacked me in the face months ago, was not expecting it and I am totally awake to myself, my INFJ self and have been processing, learning and growing. Thank you for your excellent videos, YOU are a huge part of me feeling "normal"....I'm totally serious.
Lol. I’m an INFJ Dating an INFP. It’s like we are always mind reading each other. Somehow it really works in our favor. Like two people super mind reading each other after a long day. I can’t imagine how difficult relationships can be for everyone else. It’s tough enough navigating each other’s complex feelings at this level of intuitive connection. Lol
I had and have been having this sort of experiences all my life; not only with romantic partners, but also with other loved ones, my father, my children, my best friend etc
I’m an INFJ in a relationship with an INFP for a couple of months now. It’s true I get surprised sometimes by how often he would be telling a story and I would have a question in my mind, ready to ask, but he telepathically picks up on it, and gives the answer without me having to ask anymore. We are so connected on a deep, deep level even if we don’t talk for a whole day. Also worth mentioning that he (INFP) is 23 years older than me (INFJ), and I think our age difference plays an important role in our relationship.
I had a boyfriend and we were talking about his sister who I didn't know anything about and I mentioned how she was saving herself for marriage and he responded before I even knew what came out of my mouth "How did you know that?". I had no answer for him. I had no idea how I knew. I didn't even know I knew that.
I experience this as an ENFP! I know your content focuses on INFPs, and we are distinct, (granted, I am 49% Introvert, so the extroversion just barely wins out). But I am definitely right there with you on the struggle to remain with people who are wounded & not healing or working on it much. I feel it, and am working on how not to be overwhelmed by it. Each person is responsible for their own inner work.
Is it possible for us to fall for someone without wounds, someone who can reverse role with us and be our healer, honestly I'm tired of this role, I want to be the taker now
What I can say is it’s real and the knowledge must handled with care. Take the time to unlock and understand what you’ve been given because if misused can destroy that person. Take your time and be respectful yet loving towards that individual.
It sounds a lot like the new-age spiritual concept of the “twin flame”, when in reality, it can be intense psychological projection from the “dreamer/idealist”. A sort of euphoria which leads to disillusionment.
Exactly! It happened to me. I'm just getting out of a 5-year 'bond' that taught me a lot. Twin flame exist but only to make us realize that we want either reciprocity or be on our own.
The truth would blow your mind. I'm an INFJ who comes from generations of what people call witches. My family tree includes people who were unfairly put to death during the Salem witch trials. You don't need to believe what I am telling you but I can't not believe what happens when people of a certain bloodline develop an INFJ personality. My emotions can do more than you know possible and if I get protective of someone it can become dangerous.
@jiltrack Looks like you don't know what is attention and how it's work. In this case yes, your mind find comfortable explanation in form of "delusional".... Yes delusions happens with some one who only in his mind and thoughts, pictures. But for any who can really feel own attention, and connect with own attention to some one else (person or object) - can fell feedback and communication through this bond. This is same real, like your body can feel cold or hot. Mind, thoughts, delusions and real attention - that's very different things. First three - not real. But attention - very real by itself.
The amount of times I've been told things like "You read my mind" or "Get out of my head" by so many different people is ridiculous. So it pretty much happens with anybody. Although indeed, as connections (romantic or not) grow closer/deeper, the more clearer and complex that all becomes.
Your topic on the specific connection between INFJ/INFP and their crush is quite revealing. Now, how to get support when you have a crush “to welcome and manage” without completely panicking to the point of ending up ruining the chances of this meeting (fear, distrust of your feelings, distrust of others, etc.) because you are not aware enough of our hyper-connection to be able to quietly flirt and really establish a sharing connection with this new person we like? personal development, self-esteem, self-confidence can be very good but with a hyper INFJ link not sufficient :) THANK YOU :)
I’ve had this experience with my ex and later she ruined us with her narcissistic behaviors. I did love her. She said she knew it was happening. We shared our lives for a while and then she became fearful. It was wonderful and then awful. She broke my heart. Now 2 years later it still breaks my heart. Ultimately, I blocked her. She was negative and controlling.
This is amazing and kinda fills in the gap for me. I always tend to fall in love with broken women who generally don't want help but I want to care for them. I begin to feel all the pain they are carrying. I always blow it off as my pain somehow or something else. After listening to this it makes sense. I'm not sure if I could feel where they are but I get "imagery" of situations and places. Of course I've never confirmed if I can see them as in a psychic bond. I can however feel the other person's feelings.
Euphoria.. frustration, & exhaustion.. I have felt two out of three of those. I’d switch out sadness for frustration though.. what a trade off because I don’t know which might be worse. I don’t get frustrated by people.. I get sad that they can’t SEE what I see.. ha! I met the love of my life I am sure & I know he felt the same way. And he had that personality that was the key to my lock (as no one else has ever had before or since)! But he was in a growth period in life, & still wrestling with loads of things, worst being his lack of confidence. No, we never ever discussed that but most everything he ever told me (which was alot), hinted at his insecurities. I could FEEL it intensely but his behavior was quite the opposite as if he were in total control. As we know, you can’t hide much from an INFJ. The whole time he was with me & long after he left, it was if a white light hovered over our 2mo. relationship/experience/togetherness.. This was 24yrs ago & I can feel it even now.. though he passed away almost 4mo. ago. He still remains in that white light in my minds eye. I am not into mysticism or things like that.. auras etc., but he remains surrounded by that light! After we parted 24yrs. ago we never had contact again. I only knew what was going on with him because he was in a known band & I could get updates about him that way. So I kept up with him that way. Before he left he PROMISED me more than once that he’d return. I moved away not long after that.. so never knew if he ever tried to return or look for me. It was in just one moment that I knew he was the One, the only One, my forever. Though he moved on, a continent away, as did I.. he has always remained the One, that One surrounded by that incredible.. undeniably wonderful, White Light. I keep him close down deep & hope to meet him again on the other side! Perhaps then.. the timing will be right.. & he will surely stand out, & still be surrounded by the White light🌟
So funny growing up my mother's always said children are sponges. And so how true! We are. Thank you for the great video. Yes, we are intruders, throughout life, even standing on a sidewalk waiting for light to change. We can block some of this if we work on it. And we should learn how to block it off. To connect spiritually mind to mind is deep and unnerving. But it is interesting to say the least.
I wish I understood this years ago. It just always felt like a broken brain and other people’s constant ‘what? No! I was NOT thinking/doing/considering what you just said… you’re crazy’ click goes the phone. 🙄
I found out a 1-2 ago I am an INFJ… this would have been useful earlier 😂… I wake up feeling like a supernova of feeling/energy and now finding that we do this, I am like is this my feeling or his… He is an INTJ… My mind I feel motivated, waking up and I am like body what is going on? One more thing… when someone is about to trip, fall, hurt themselves, I feel an uncomfortable very noticeable feeling in my knees like I am feeling what they are feeling. I feel if someone is crying, I can feel their pain like it’s mine, that has always been apparent. But the knee thing, I’ve not seen anyone talk about.
This isn't limited to romantic relationships at all. It's just an extra sense that some of us have. The problem is that it's been vilified and denied by religions, including psychology. Of course, love isn't limited to romantic relationships, either, but I will pick up things about people I'm only tangentially connected to.
I can confirm this experience. I've had and to some extent still do have these telepathic connections with past lovers. It can also move into actual physical feelings where i sense their breathing or heart beat or especially when they are not feeling well. It is most apparent when i am apart from them. I somehow know what they are going through from a great distance and only when we later communicate do they confirm this. It never bothered me, more a surprise than anything.
Their are things that are true that many try to explain with science. The truth is some of us can connect to people in a way that allows us to receive frequency type transmissions from people we care deeply for. I've also noticed that people with traumatic pasts will put of strong signals that I easily read for years and actually have to go to great length to break the connection.
Cant number how many ex girlfriends have called during a difficult personal period in my life saying " are you all right " I had a dream about you" etc....we bond in deeper ways...
Weird thing I am an entp . But very deep and introverted one . I come to these kinda channels literally stalking infj minds . Because I wanna find one . Can you blame I just wanna a person like this 😢😢
@snowyowlz5992 noo Really?! 😩 Hey please can you tell me how will I know if someone is infj . I mean I always get confused calm and quite infp , intj , isfj and intp Also looks like infj at first impression
So validating!! I've been experiencing this and even reached out to a therapist for support because I thought I was going crazy. But how you explain it makes so much sense to me and who I am
Im trying to help this guy ive known since i was a child go through his divorce..o my goodness..this resonates with me...we want to help heal people...take on there energy....i think its important as an INFP to recharge so that we can reset out energies if we are to go about and help people heal :-)
This video sure answered some very important questions I've had. I've gone through exactly what you are describing in this video multiple times and have been trying to figure this stuff out for quite a long time. Thank you! One thing I need to know is if when we fall for someone and this happens, are there reciprocal feelings, or is it that the other person can go on and not have a clue or any realization of the INF having feelings towards them? Is there a way we can train this aspect out of our personalities?
It seems like my INFJ has totally closed his energy field with me, or we're somehow energetically repelling each other. I tend to be very porous as well, but maybe in a different way.
This was happening to me, picking up where the person was in place, and going there, then also sensing some detailed information. Sometimes it was so bad that if I talked to the person and I realised I knew it, they thought I must have heard via gossip, but no, I had picked it up somehow directly from them. It was a quandary: do I tell them what I know or wait for them to tell me or what do I do? Eventually, I got freaked out myself and blocked these senses. Don’t have them now, mostly. All blocked and I’m so biased about everything now, that I’m not too worried about picking up much accurately any how. It was real though. I know. Falling in love was not necessary but having a strong connection, and a strong sense, but as I said have successfully squished this, and am too biased now.
Yep, very same similar bond. I can feel my wife - like there is two bodies in one body, at same time. I'm infj. And yea, we feel each other's states, no matter what distance, even if we at different countries. I don't know what type she is yet, but some of "nf"for shure.
My N-ex had an uncanny way of saying exactly what I was thinking before I had a chance to say it word for word. We weren't a bonded or connected pair, not close at all. Maybe I was reading his mind before he said it?
I met an INFJ once. We had psuedo friendship.. im infp. He had this 6th sense.. he caught on to that the person I was close with was a narc very quickly. While I was denying alot of my intuition he was accepting his. We had a very healthy friendship. He was really a good friend but we just faded away. In alot of ways we were similar but I would say he was more aware of things and trustin of his intuition than me
Hi Lauren, a fellow INFJ here (atleast from MBTI tests multiple times throughout my slightly over 2 decade lifetime). I wish I could email you this instead but here I go - So I am a university student and I find it extremely hard to construct words to explain what I understand. There's this fear of not knowing every minute detail which blanks me out in vivas and random quizzes in class. And sometimes, I just really don't know what to say...like idk where to begin..there's too many things running in my mind and I simply go blank because deep down I also know that that's gonna need time to be sorted. Maybe I do understand less than my classmates or maybe I just can't word it and so I come off as dumb, stupid and uninterested. I hate feeling this way and I wish I could express myself better.. Idk if this is an INFJ problem or just me. I would really appreciate your advice on this. I find your content extremely relatable and would really appreciate your take on this. - I hope you stumble upon this random YT comment
Hi, in your 20 s you might have that, also because we perceive many things differently and on a higher level we can not express everything verbally, also with time you will get better on expressing what you are feeling. Don’t underestimate yourself and don’t care what other people think! If needed go find a good therapist it will help you a lot, before 25 you can change many things very fast, in your limiting believes, everything. Try to meditate, be prepared to have incredible experiences!
You may find it easier to 'process' stuff and so be able to respond in a timely fashion if you spend more time outdoors in nature and/or in silence. Sounds like your brain is running too fast/is over stimulated so slowing it down is required. Do silent breathing exercises in busy circumstances, this should help. Breathe in to count of 4, hold to count of 4, breathe out to count of 4 and hold to count of 4. Repeat until calmer.
American society I do not feel understands love. In Greek there are 12 words for love. My baseline starts with care, sense their heart/soul/essence. Then Agape starts and grows fast this is a love without need of reciprocation, no conditions, no expectations (perhaps hopes, wishes), perhaps also Phileo - friendship love. Romantic does not even come in until considerably later. I confused the intense Agape for interest in romance/dating. And people assume with intense Agape that romance is wanted. There is a difference between knowing someone's heart/character and knowing their behaviors. So the connection in my experience does not need to be the Romantic love. Agape is bigger, deeper and selfless. Just my $0.02
I know the INFJ I was dealing with emotionally probably exhausted tf out of each other. I would always want to hear the dreams they had about me & they'd be right. I also was helping them cut off a toxic relationship that over extending beyond the deadline. I think I created a tower moment for them, not to say I'm perfect but I'm older than them & more aware of my spiritual gifts or I'd say accepting of them. It was intense. I'd like to have that again but with someone who won't lose themselves in me. Them draining themselves through me was irritating & became unbearable on my end. I think becase I was not in love with them. I could imagine how I'd be if that happened with someone I had strong intense feelings for. We have to be uplifting each other not dragging one another down. Needless to say their wounds were still fresh from the ex-person in their life who they had been with a long time. I assume now all INFJs like long lasting relationships 😂
Look I am an entp but as I am very curious and have interest in physicologycal. I always try to read people. And yeah it's like I can see through them now . I thought I am cool because I know every person I see like truly understand them . But yeah 😅I don't feel burdened by it because I am not that empathetic so yeah I don't care enough to try to fix them 😅
The discussion of being a healer doesn't apply to my soul connection with an INFJ. I'm an INFP. I like her spirit. I like her quietness. I like her speech and revealed thoughts when we talk. I can sense all 4 of her cognitive functions, and I think she's an enneagram 5 Castle. It has bothered me for months how much I like her and therefore want to talk to her and go walking with her and play sports and go to the fair, and other fun things because... She's super busy all the time, and somewhat passive about making time for a friendship. Yet, she has strengths I don't possess.
Ive also had crazy obsession with a married man that lasted for a while..i think it was the fantasy or something....Im an INFP..i dated an INFJ once and we were like best friends at one stage....But since he moved on and got married i got ghosted......Now i have a nice friendship with a non binary person and our friendship is very meaninful....So glad i found your videos :-) they are so helpful and insightful
It's so confusing how people say that we're crazy or weird when they are with is but then calls us mentally broken for not taking them back. That's some narcissistic ish, because I can't with this "try hard" ish
My question is tho... doesn't this invade the other's privacy? They don't get a choice in this psychic bond. Is there a limit to how much influence infj/p have over this bond? Otherwise... it really is a dangerous game, especially if one isnt very aware of the rules...
@@renatah_90s Hi Renata, I was wondering if you are part of the Sensitive Empowerment Community? Seems I recognize your profile picture from there. Just thought I drop you a line and say Hey. It's always lovely to come across like-minded HSP/INFJ's.
Infp and infj are the two personalities most likely to develop limerence, and both are significantly over represented in limerence. I disagree that infp and infj fall in love with the actual person, as they are both Idealists. They can't help but fall in love with the concept of another person.
In 1995 I had a dream I was in the shopping plaza where my girlfriend at the time would eat and hang out. In the dream I was in my car and I noticed the time said 8:00 pm. So on a whim I waited until 8 p.m. and drove to the plaza. My girlfriend and her friend pulled up in front of me (as I waited in my car) and they were arguing with each other. She was arguing with her over another guy she was having an affair with.
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I have always told myself it’s normal to have a so called physic connection with my loved ones. It’s just like a mother’s intuition with their child(ren). Very normal. No need to be fixated on it. Also, if you just respect their boundaries you don’t obsess about what’s going on with them. Just be a supportive friend and lover. It’s not difficult.
Why do you say now cause I know that the doctor was so surprised I thought I was dying when my kid was like when my mom was pregnant for my daughter and I took her morning sickness and everything not my choice. I actually looked at him and I was being a smart ass, but I said like how do I give it back and he said he don’t work that way I know I’ve been working with my two daughters more than their mom, but I think it’s probably because of I am trauma as a child with my dad and everybody always says like a mother‘s intuition and seven I know I know my kids inside now like they do anything 30 seconds being home 12-year-old daughter right in front of mom was lying to me told me that she smoke a cigarette and stuff like that and she won’t open up like that to either one of them, but I also they say like the high NFJ is the only one that can be friends with your kid and be a parent first and both of them are my best friends and I honestly they know everything about me to go to bed Ugly and I just figured they would never walk away if I never made any mistakes worse than my past and I used to be an addict. First time I ever try to get clean. I did for one like all this was conceived in. I just have always educated a man at seven years old. My daughter saved her and her friend from being in a house where they were doing drugs because of what I told her and I never told her what drugs were called. I never told him what they did. I just told him how people acted when they should get out of there and call me and she did the second time she ever went anywhere to stay. I was so proud of her and you and her I was like I cannot believe it the whole time I was telling her she’s like you’re so ignorant and you’re so about this and that I said you don’t understand empathic part like you don’t I said I can tell she’s so intrigued that I am this. She’s over excited that I’m trusting her and it’s like she might as well as said, but tell me more daddy because She was just like consumed with the information and I knew she was understanding and she did and I said like why can’t you believe that because she’s so fucking smart and if you just educate your kid, even when they did something wrong, they don’t need to be disciplined or scream that they need to be educated and that’s where people go wrong to make your mark and change the world. It starts with your kids and broken generations. Need to quit breaking the next generation for anything to happen But man like me and my youngest she’s empathic like our elephants and everything is a mother elephant and a baby so I just called an adult elephant for the parent, but it’s always a mother elephant and there’s some mothers out there that are just horrible and just like that most women and most men are pretty much mostly all horrible these days there’s a select few that their moral compass isn’t ruined or trauma is so bad where they trauma dump their shit onto their kids where their kids pay for shit that they had to go through his kids not seeing that now you’re traumatizing your kid because of your trauma and I don’t know men and women are pretty much equal these days and I’m leaving. I’m not sex because I say women should be running in the world because men want power when you get power they just want more women most women Want stability once you get some stable you just keep it. You know balance keep a coasting. There’s only one kind of stable that is why and I get shit for guys all the time and I don’t trust men like I really have two men. I trusted my whole life and I can tell a girl I just meant 20 seconds ago my whole life story when I can’t even admit to a man if he might know a secret of mine, I can’t even admit the secret that I think he pretty much knows. I still can’t do it because I don’t trust him
Thank you for this insight. We especially myself alot of times have to be told to stop, or slowdown. When we get fixated on a problem espically with especially with people we love we go full throttle all the way.
When I was in the military, I could sense the darkness in some of the other guys. It made life magnitudes more difficult.
Omg!!! I can also sense that
I believe its a charasmatic gift. However I have not seen a viable way of using it as no one in their right mind would believe me.
Me too. I feel other souls in a way. And when it's a negative one withdraw from that person. I feel like I have a strange ability to touch another person's soul. I especially desire when I'm in love with that person. Sadly every time I fell in love I've been rejected
Everyone thinks I'm being judgmental when I tell them a celebrity is a bad person 🤷🏽♀️ and then they eventually get arrested for DV or something
This is unreal... I've never had these experiences validated before! Thank you for this!
Oh my God these exact psychic connection things have been happening to me my whole life. I thought I was crazy. I'm so happy to hear it's not just me.
As an INFJ male, I can usually feel my wife's headache, and I don't even have to look at her, or hear her speak. I just have to be within 3-6 feet of her. It really hurts. When i move away, the headache goes away. Also, I almost never get headaches myself. When I'm intimate with her, I can sense when she is really feeling good from the experience. That is one of the most wonderful sensations.
I think something like this is going on with my INFJ husband, but not with headaches. I think I something about me bothers him and he avoids being close.
@@Serena-jf5ts If he has any degree of having an INFJ personality, it can be rather difficult. There is so much people "say" without words. Non-verbal cues are very telling, and usually more honest than any words can be. As one who went through years of speech therapy just so I could speak clearly enough, and the fact there is only a 70% chance that I can properly hear the words someone speaks, I have come to rely on anything but the written or spoken word. Body language, facial expressions, and the rhythm of a person's voice is much more telling. The words can easily be just as telling as they can be simply noise. I can imagine how some personalities can have a difficult time around INFJs - even INTJs - but the best approach is probably just to be open and honest - and patient. Also, if you watch other INFJ videos, you may see it could be something as simple as him just wanting time to himself to reflect and "reinvent" himself. IN*Js do tend to enjoy a certain degree of solitude. I am almost as much an INFJ as I am an INTJ and solitude is key, but I also consider my wife to be part of myself as much as I hope she is part of me.
I remember talking to a client i got on very well with on the phone and suddenly smelled oranges. I asked him if he was eating one and he said "yes", and then "how did you know?" I laughed and said I could smell it.
And they Love hearing "I feel like you....blah blah blah". LOL. I was SO connected to my ex - It freaked me out - had never experienced that intensity before..we used to kid around about it, how cool it was........until he didn't "like" it anymore- I guess I was too close to the bone....was overwhelming and 5 yrs of constant stress honestly was deteriorating me on many levels. Thanks for this video - I've never actually understood that this is a REAL thing. Yes, I thought I was going insane. And yes, he has tons of wounds that he does not want to work on. Once I started to really try and understand myself/heal from my own, he seemed to be irritated - probably because he thought I would push that healing on him to do also - but I would never have done that....I have enough on my own plate.
Wow, my story is/was exactly the same 😮
How are you now? I hope you're not blaming yourself ❤
For me it's been three years since my last relationship ended. I have had many opportunities to start a new relationship since, but I can see some of their wounds in a few hours of conversation over a coffee, even. It's scary, feeling how they are going to eventually reject my desire for self growth.
I am working on trusting my body, and it tells me to walk away every time. Still after 3 years, I want to learn a new skill to deal with "this ability", because I do want a relationship and the probability of finding a partner with a similar ability is starting to appear small...
Strangely, at work I am a "master of not taking things personally". So, it's the middle ground the hard part to master. At least for me.
I hope my three year long experience is useful in some way. 🍀
@@artifundio1 isn’t it scary how many of us have had the same experiences? It honestly kind of blows my mind. It’s a relief because then we don’t feel quite so alone or so peculiar about ourselves ….. but it’s still sad. I can’t tell you how much I value all that I have learned, and all of the growth that has occurred in only 10 months. My relationship seems like a lifetime ago….Nope, I do not blame myself at all. At first I did, but then I started to understand everything, the foggy curtain parted And I took responsibility for everything, forgive myself, which was a monumental thing to do, and then decided it’s time to move forward, go back to being happy and joyful ….my natural state. I hope you’re doing wonderfully or at least better for sure. Sending you a gigantic hug…..you are brave and strong! ❤️🌻🙂
Am an infj male ..just want to share my experience..I had crush almost like relationship. We chat and call as usual. One day i got strange intense feeling about the above mentioned person that she is not well like seriously unwell ..then I called her and asked r u ok and she told me she met with a car accident and got injury on the vertebrae. Ya it was like somewhat other worldly
I don't just get this with romantic partners. I can sometimes get this from close friends when there's intense emotions involved. I've eventually accepted these experiences as real as, when I pick up these emotions from others, they just don't feel like mine. They also arrive out of the blue and leave unexpectedly.
Oof as an INFP dating an INFJ right now I feel like this could be heightened to the max! Even in the early stages.
Been there, friend. For me it was like being in a funhouse mirror room. Basically an infinity mirror. I wish you the best of luck in navigating it all. It's a lot. Take care. 🙏
@@infpjohnny968I always thought that would be a good thing, could you share a little more about your experience? 🙏🏻
I'm an INFJ dating an INFP. It is fabulous, and insanity rolled into one. We barely fight, but we are overloaded with each others emotions that cause misunderstandings, and it is hard to decipher who's feelings are who's. Sometimes neither of ours. Especially if we are around a lot of people. Nothing amazing doesn't come at some cost. The good far outweighs the bad. 😂😊❤
As an INFJ I can vouch for the accuracy of this. Thank you, Lauren. This video is 100% on point in my case. I still have a telepathic connection with my ex-. My therapist asked how I could feel deep love for this deceptive, cheating person whom I walked away from, and my response was, "He has a beautiful soul, and a troubled mind". She didn't get it. But I had, and still have, a telepathic connection with him as I say, and could literally see into all of his secrets, as well as pre-verbal trauma from before the age of two. He gaslit me terribly and denied everything, but I could literally see, feel, and know what he had been up to, and I could see/feel the inner wound driving his behaviors. Needless to say, it is healthier to be apart from him because he is a covert player which is disrespectful and unfair to me. As you say, the relationship was draining. I still love him, wish him well, and am also happy to be on my own. Yes, I have a psychic bond. But, I can also stand apart.
I gave up going deeper in a relationship when I realized someone's natural wound. I don't want to get into an unhealthy relationship like codependency. It's not a good idea to overuse our healer ability.
I never learned this until I was in my thirties and engaged, at least that’s what I thought. I was engaged until the idea of a break was brought up. I considered friendship with my ex fiancé. That’s just as damaging to INFJs and against our embedded characteristics. So I learned in that short time how there is no way of preventing codependency in romantic relationships/friendships. Since I’m not one to date to mate, like the majority of society. I have made it a point to just keep going at life alone.
I have experienced this so many times in my life (I am INFP). It is exhausting. living in an apartment is NOT good for our types. I have lived in multiple apartment situations, and now that I have my own house I cannot begin to explain how different my mental field is and how wonderful it is to be able to relax and heal and be in a more healthy place. I was overwhelmed by the mix of energies in a communal living space.
INFP here, I dated a girl with severe depression I thought i was going crazy and even sought therapy. I was feeling sad all the time. I never was like that before, I was definitely feeling emotions thats weren’t really mine. Once at work she texted me and just in a few texts I could tell something was off, but then I just broke down and cried uncontrollably. I was sent home. I still don’t know why exactly I felt so much. I haven’t cried like that without my own reason since. I raised the alarms to all her friends and close relationships that day. I would often text her roommates too to check up on her, which would prevent her acting out her thoughts of self harm.
I never was able to guess exactly the thought or hear her thoughts in my head or something supernatural like that.
I used to say to my romantic partners "I don't know how to explain it, I just see you for who you really are inside - not so much all the things you've done in the past, etc". I didn't know why I would describe it like that - I had no basis, other than it being the truth. They had major issues - emotional unavailability/deceitful/etc so I couldn't figure out if I saw them as this good soul, why I could not trust them....feel relaxed around them and inside myself, I didn't know I was an INFJ until really about 4 months ago. I know I've taken the test a few times but wasn't really into understanding "myself" back then....so I remember seeing the same result, INFJ but not truly understanding how all of it fit into my life, decisions and approach to life. I wish I had paid attention to it decades ago, maybe things would have gone smoother, or I would have had a "grip" on Life, relationships, etc. Instead, I've had too many relationships with toxic individuals and when you see those types of people thru our lens, it's super dangerous. ..especially if you are not in touch and trusting your intuition. You just need to run...but I always doubted myself, my intuition and really thought I was asking too much for myself in these relationships..I know, it sounds as awful as it feels. So, big spiritual awakening smacked me in the face months ago, was not expecting it and I am totally awake to myself, my INFJ self and have been processing, learning and growing. Thank you for your excellent videos, YOU are a huge part of me feeling "normal"....I'm totally serious.
Yes ! I'm going through this right now with someone I barely know !!!
Same here
Lol. I’m an INFJ Dating an INFP. It’s like we are always mind reading each other. Somehow it really works in our favor. Like two people super mind reading each other after a long day. I can’t imagine how difficult relationships can be for everyone else. It’s tough enough navigating each other’s complex feelings at this level of intuitive connection. Lol
I had and have been having this sort of experiences all my life; not only with romantic partners, but also with other loved ones, my father, my children, my best friend etc
I’m an INFJ in a relationship with an INFP for a couple of months now. It’s true I get surprised sometimes by how often he would be telling a story and I would have a question in my mind, ready to ask, but he telepathically picks up on it, and gives the answer without me having to ask anymore. We are so connected on a deep, deep level even if we don’t talk for a whole day. Also worth mentioning that he (INFP) is 23 years older than me (INFJ), and I think our age difference plays an important role in our relationship.
I had a boyfriend and we were talking about his sister who I didn't know anything about and I mentioned how she was saving herself for marriage and he responded before I even knew what came out of my mouth "How did you know that?". I had no answer for him. I had no idea how I knew. I didn't even know I knew that.
Wow I feel less crazy. Thank you!
I experience this as an ENFP! I know your content focuses on INFPs, and we are distinct, (granted, I am 49% Introvert, so the extroversion just barely wins out). But I am definitely right there with you on the struggle to remain with people who are wounded & not healing or working on it much. I feel it, and am working on how not to be overwhelmed by it. Each person is responsible for their own inner work.
Is it possible for us to fall for someone without wounds, someone who can reverse role with us and be our healer, honestly I'm tired of this role, I want to be the taker now
What I can say is it’s real and the knowledge must handled with care. Take the time to unlock and understand what you’ve been given because if misused can destroy that person. Take your time and be respectful yet loving towards that individual.
I would say these traits apply to loved ones meant to be in our journey or our purpose within theirs!
It sounds a lot like the new-age spiritual concept of the “twin flame”, when in reality, it can be intense psychological projection from the “dreamer/idealist”. A sort of euphoria which leads to disillusionment.
I learned feeling like “twin flame” is a sign of toxic relationship 🚩
@@yukio_saito i learned the hard way unfortunately. although i caught the toxic patterns very early on, it's still an unsettling experience
Exactly! It happened to me. I'm just getting out of a 5-year 'bond' that taught me a lot. Twin flame exist but only to make us realize that we want either reciprocity or be on our own.
The truth would blow your mind. I'm an INFJ who comes from generations of what people call witches. My family tree includes people who were unfairly put to death during the Salem witch trials. You don't need to believe what I am telling you but I can't not believe what happens when people of a certain bloodline develop an INFJ personality. My emotions can do more than you know possible and if I get protective of someone it can become dangerous.
@jiltrack Looks like you don't know what is attention and how it's work. In this case yes, your mind find comfortable explanation in form of "delusional"....
Yes delusions happens with some one who only in his mind and thoughts, pictures.
But for any who can really feel own attention, and connect with own attention to some one else (person or object) - can fell feedback and communication through this bond.
This is same real, like your body can feel cold or hot.
Mind, thoughts, delusions and real attention - that's very different things.
First three - not real.
But attention - very real by itself.
I have never had anyone confirm this before. You are so amazing.
YES ! It's exhausting !
Super interesting every time. Wonder if it’s possible to change the title to INFJ/P. So INFP can know they are included.
The amount of times I've been told things like "You read my mind" or "Get out of my head" by so many different people is ridiculous. So it pretty much happens with anybody. Although indeed, as connections (romantic or not) grow closer/deeper, the more clearer and complex that all becomes.
Your topic on the specific connection between INFJ/INFP and their crush is quite revealing. Now, how to get support when you have a crush “to welcome and manage” without completely panicking to the point of ending up ruining the chances of this meeting (fear, distrust of your feelings, distrust of others, etc.) because you are not aware enough of our hyper-connection to be able to quietly flirt and really establish a sharing connection with this new person we like? personal development, self-esteem, self-confidence can be very good but with a hyper INFJ link not sufficient :)
THANK YOU :)
The dreams, the visions the thoughts omg over it.
I’ve had this experience with my ex and later she ruined us with her narcissistic behaviors. I did love her. She said she knew it was happening. We shared our lives for a while and then she became fearful. It was wonderful and then awful. She broke my heart. Now 2 years later it still breaks my heart. Ultimately, I blocked her. She was negative and controlling.
This is amazing and kinda fills in the gap for me. I always tend to fall in love with broken women who generally don't want help but I want to care for them. I begin to feel all the pain they are carrying. I always blow it off as my pain somehow or something else. After listening to this it makes sense. I'm not sure if I could feel where they are but I get "imagery" of situations and places. Of course I've never confirmed if I can see them as in a psychic bond. I can however feel the other person's feelings.
Euphoria.. frustration, & exhaustion.. I have felt two out of three of those. I’d switch out sadness for frustration though.. what a trade off because I don’t know which might be worse. I don’t get frustrated by people.. I get sad that they can’t SEE what I see.. ha! I met the love of my life I am sure & I know he felt the same way. And he had that personality that was the key to my lock (as no one else has ever had before or since)! But he was in a growth period in life, & still wrestling with loads of things, worst being his lack of confidence. No, we never ever discussed that but most everything he ever told me (which was alot), hinted at his insecurities. I could FEEL it intensely but his behavior was quite the opposite as if he were in total control. As we know, you can’t hide much from an INFJ. The whole time he was with me & long after he left, it was if a white light hovered over our 2mo. relationship/experience/togetherness.. This was 24yrs ago & I can feel it even now.. though he passed away almost 4mo. ago. He still remains in that white light in my minds eye. I am not into mysticism or things like that.. auras etc., but he remains surrounded by that light! After we parted 24yrs. ago we never had contact again. I only knew what was going on with him because he was in a known band & I could get updates about him that way. So I kept up with him that way. Before he left he PROMISED me more than once that he’d return. I moved away not long after that.. so never knew if he ever tried to return or look for me. It was in just one moment that I knew he was the One, the only One, my forever. Though he moved on, a continent away, as did I.. he has always remained the One, that One surrounded by that incredible.. undeniably wonderful, White Light. I keep him close down deep & hope to meet him again on the other side! Perhaps then.. the timing will be right.. & he will surely stand out, & still be surrounded by the White light🌟
So funny growing up my mother's always said children are sponges. And so how true! We are. Thank you for the great video. Yes, we are intruders, throughout life, even standing on a sidewalk waiting for light to change. We can block some of this if we work on it. And we should learn how to block it off. To connect spiritually mind to mind is deep and unnerving. But it is interesting to say the least.
I wish I understood this years ago. It just always felt like a broken brain and other people’s constant ‘what? No! I was NOT thinking/doing/considering what you just said… you’re crazy’ click goes the phone. 🙄
I found out a 1-2 ago I am an INFJ… this would have been useful earlier 😂… I wake up feeling like a supernova of feeling/energy and now finding that we do this, I am like is this my feeling or his… He is an INTJ… My mind I feel motivated, waking up and I am like body what is going on? One more thing… when someone is about to trip, fall, hurt themselves, I feel an uncomfortable very noticeable feeling in my knees like I am feeling what they are feeling. I feel if someone is crying, I can feel their pain like it’s mine, that has always been apparent. But the knee thing, I’ve not seen anyone talk about.
I get the knee feeling too. Particularly can't watch any slapstick comedy for that reason and can't understand why some think being hurt is funny.
I am so happy to hear that, I thought it was happening only with me , and i am only the person getting through this 😢😅😅
Thank you i no longer think im crazy. This is me xx
This isn't limited to romantic relationships at all. It's just an extra sense that some of us have. The problem is that it's been vilified and denied by religions, including psychology. Of course, love isn't limited to romantic relationships, either, but I will pick up things about people I'm only tangentially connected to.
I can confirm this experience. I've had and to some extent still do have these telepathic connections with past lovers. It can also move into actual physical feelings where i sense their breathing or heart beat or especially when they are not feeling well. It is most apparent when i am apart from them. I somehow know what they are going through from a great distance and only when we later communicate do they confirm this. It never bothered me, more a surprise than anything.
So I'm not crazy. Oh, thank God. 😂
Thank you for your insight and validation, one strong root in shifting sands
Their are things that are true that many try to explain with science. The truth is some of us can connect to people in a way that allows us to receive frequency type transmissions from people we care deeply for. I've also noticed that people with traumatic pasts will put of strong signals that I easily read for years and actually have to go to great length to break the connection.
It was real for me and my ex. We still have our psychic connection. Currently, I’m sure she is in denial. But I know. I did love her.
Omg! I get goosebumps from hearing about all these things that are happening to me from another person's perspective.
Can they also feel this?
Thank you! This is exactly my past 8 years… appreciate this 🙏🏻🥰
Cant number how many ex girlfriends have called during a difficult personal period in my life saying " are you all right " I had a dream about you" etc....we bond in deeper ways...
This resonates!!!!!!
It could happen with 'The One' but what do you say to INFJs being really good at putting up barriers, disconnecting, disassociating?
Weird thing I am an entp .
But very deep and introverted one . I come to these kinda channels literally stalking infj minds .
Because I wanna find one . Can you blame I just wanna a person like this 😢😢
Good luck with that. It took me 67 years to find another living INFJ.
@snowyowlz5992 noo
Really?!
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Hey please can you tell me how will I know if someone is infj .
I mean I always get confused calm and quite infp , intj , isfj and intp
Also looks like infj at first impression
Thank you so much! It’s not all in my head!
So validating!! I've been experiencing this and even reached out to a therapist for support because I thought I was going crazy. But how you explain it makes so much sense to me and who I am
Merci beaucoup pour ces explications,Enfin la vérité sur le sujet.
Im trying to help this guy ive known since i was a child go through his divorce..o my goodness..this resonates with me...we want to help heal people...take on there energy....i think its important as an INFP to recharge so that we can reset out energies if we are to go about and help people heal :-)
This video sure answered some very important questions I've had. I've gone through exactly what you are describing in this video multiple times and have been trying to figure this stuff out for quite a long time. Thank you! One thing I need to know is if when we fall for someone and this happens, are there reciprocal feelings, or is it that the other person can go on and not have a clue or any realization of the INF having feelings towards them? Is there a way we can train this aspect out of our personalities?
THIS COMMENT THREAD IS...AMAZING❤
Thank you ❤
This explains so much stuff I’ve often wondered about
It seems like my INFJ has totally closed his energy field with me, or we're somehow energetically repelling each other. I tend to be very porous as well, but maybe in a different way.
Thank you so much for talking about this 🌻
omg，I thoughts that‘s just my problem
This was happening to me, picking up where the person was in place, and going there, then also sensing some detailed information. Sometimes it was so bad that if I talked to the person and I realised I knew it, they thought I must have heard via gossip, but no, I had picked it up somehow directly from them. It was a quandary: do I tell them what I know or wait for them to tell me or what do I do? Eventually, I got freaked out myself and blocked these senses. Don’t have them now, mostly. All blocked and I’m so biased about everything now, that I’m not too worried about picking up much accurately any how. It was real though. I know. Falling in love was not necessary but having a strong connection, and a strong sense, but as I said have successfully squished this, and am too biased now.
Yep, very same similar bond. I can feel my wife - like there is two bodies in one body, at same time. I'm infj. And yea, we feel each other's states, no matter what distance, even if we at different countries.
I don't know what type she is yet, but some of "nf"for shure.
i have psycic bonds with my dogs and 1 cat.
My N-ex had an uncanny way of saying exactly what I was thinking before I had a chance to say it word for word. We weren't a bonded or connected pair, not close at all. Maybe I was reading his mind before he said it?
You are an absolute genius!
I thought it was a mutual psychic bond and I was in some kind of a twin flames connection 😢 now I understand that I need to move on
I SO wish i could attend your weekend class, darling Lauren!!
Thank you for all you do❤️❤️❤️🙏
-What happens if the other person is the same, is it possible to exchange words, telepathically, when miles apart for instance?
Helpful video! Clarity n Validation, ThankYou
Excellent information 😊
So what happens when an infj and infp meet and feel a connection? Two way bond? Or is one bond always stronger?
good question
I met an INFJ once. We had psuedo friendship.. im infp. He had this 6th sense.. he caught on to that the person I was close with was a narc very quickly. While I was denying alot of my intuition he was accepting his. We had a very healthy friendship. He was really a good friend but we just faded away. In alot of ways we were similar but I would say he was more aware of things and trustin of his intuition than me
Hi Lauren, a fellow INFJ here (atleast from MBTI tests multiple times throughout my slightly over 2 decade lifetime). I wish I could email you this instead but here I go -
So I am a university student and I find it extremely hard to construct words to explain what I understand. There's this fear of not knowing every minute detail which blanks me out in vivas and random quizzes in class. And sometimes, I just really don't know what to say...like idk where to begin..there's too many things running in my mind and I simply go blank because deep down I also know that that's gonna need time to be sorted. Maybe I do understand less than my classmates or maybe I just can't word it and so I come off as dumb, stupid and uninterested. I hate feeling this way and I wish I could express myself better.. Idk if this is an INFJ problem or just me. I would really appreciate your advice on this. I find your content extremely relatable and would really appreciate your take on this.
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Hi, in your 20 s you might have that, also because we perceive many things differently and on a higher level we can not express everything verbally, also with time you will get better on expressing what you are feeling. Don’t underestimate yourself and don’t care what other people think! If needed go find a good therapist it will help you a lot, before 25 you can change many things very fast, in your limiting believes, everything. Try to meditate, be prepared to have incredible experiences!
You may find it easier to 'process' stuff and so be able to respond in a timely fashion if you spend more time outdoors in nature and/or in silence. Sounds like your brain is running too fast/is over stimulated so slowing it down is required. Do silent breathing exercises in busy circumstances, this should help. Breathe in to count of 4, hold to count of 4, breathe out to count of 4 and hold to count of 4. Repeat until calmer.
Thank you for this post. I am excited to watch your future videos about love. ❤️
American society I do not feel understands love. In Greek there are 12 words for love.
My baseline starts with care, sense their heart/soul/essence. Then
Agape starts and grows fast this is a love without need of reciprocation, no conditions, no expectations (perhaps hopes, wishes),
perhaps also Phileo - friendship love.
Romantic does not even come in until considerably later.
I confused the intense Agape for interest in romance/dating. And people assume with intense Agape that romance is wanted. There is a difference between knowing someone's heart/character and knowing their behaviors.
So the connection in my experience does not need to be the Romantic love. Agape is bigger, deeper and selfless. Just my $0.02
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Well said !!
My ENFP sister will never fully get this. Although shes also dealt with it in THE PAST.
True!
So infuriating when they want grow as quick as you want them to! Lol.
I know the INFJ I was dealing with emotionally probably exhausted tf out of each other. I would always want to hear the dreams they had about me & they'd be right. I also was helping them cut off a toxic relationship that over extending beyond the deadline. I think I created a tower moment for them, not to say I'm perfect but I'm older than them & more aware of my spiritual gifts or I'd say accepting of them. It was intense. I'd like to have that again but with someone who won't lose themselves in me. Them draining themselves through me was irritating & became unbearable on my end. I think becase I was not in love with them. I could imagine how I'd be if that happened with someone I had strong intense feelings for. We have to be uplifting each other not dragging one another down. Needless to say their wounds were still fresh from the ex-person in their life who they had been with a long time. I assume now all INFJs like long lasting relationships 😂
Why were you with them if you were not in love with them? Isn't that just mean?
@@matilda4406 how old are you? You don't know that you can like someone or love someone without being in love with them?
@@MiillieMesh definition of "in love" is subjective, isn't it ? What's your opinion ?
Look I am an entp but as I am very curious and have interest in physicologycal. I always try to read people. And yeah it's like I can see through them now . I thought I am cool because I know every person I see like truly understand them .
But yeah 😅I don't feel burdened by it because I am not that empathetic so yeah I don't care enough to try to fix them 😅
Let's admit it, we are wizards! It's a tricky path. 😅
The discussion of being a healer doesn't apply to my soul connection with an INFJ. I'm an INFP.
I like her spirit. I like her quietness. I like her speech and revealed thoughts when we talk. I can sense all 4 of her cognitive functions, and I think she's an enneagram 5 Castle.
It has bothered me for months how much I like her and therefore want to talk to her and go walking with her and play sports and go to the fair, and other fun things because...
She's super busy all the time, and somewhat passive about making time for a friendship.
Yet, she has strengths I don't possess.
Ive also had crazy obsession with a married man that lasted for a while..i think it was the fantasy or something....Im an INFP..i dated an INFJ once and we were like best friends at one stage....But since he moved on and got married i got ghosted......Now i have a nice friendship with a non binary person and our friendship is very meaninful....So glad i found your videos :-) they are so helpful and insightful
It's so confusing how people say that we're crazy or weird when they are with is but then calls us mentally broken for not taking them back. That's some narcissistic ish, because I can't with this "try hard" ish
My question is tho... doesn't this invade the other's privacy? They don't get a choice in this psychic bond. Is there a limit to how much influence infj/p have over this bond? Otherwise... it really is a dangerous game, especially if one isnt very aware of the rules...
For me, I am not and was not trying to hear their thoughts. Just happened unexpectedly each time
I wasn’t aware of the “rules” either decades ago. I listen now…
yeah
Well, so I guess I'm not insane after all :D
What is an INFJ's and INFP's????
Those are personality types based on the Myers Briggs Personality test.
@@renatah_90s Hi Renata, I was wondering if you are part of the Sensitive Empowerment Community? Seems I recognize your profile picture from there. Just thought I drop you a line and say Hey. It's always lovely to come across like-minded HSP/INFJ's.
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Infp and infj are the two personalities most likely to develop limerence, and both are significantly over represented in limerence.
I disagree that infp and infj fall in love with the actual person, as they are both Idealists.
They can't help but fall in love with the concept of another person.
no, I disagree. They love people. And they do, very much fall in love with the actual "person".
In 1995 I had a dream I was in the shopping plaza where my girlfriend at the time would eat and hang out. In the dream I was in my car and I noticed the time said 8:00 pm. So on a whim I waited until 8 p.m. and drove to the plaza. My girlfriend and her friend pulled up in front of me (as I waited in my car) and they were arguing with each other. She was arguing with her over another guy she was having an affair with.
Damn crazy..
That's insane