Be less normal 😂.....be myself. Embrace our weirdness. It's hard to let go of those people but it is so liberating once we do let go. Creativity helped me a lot....I write all the time, it's amazing
I feel so stuck. I have this strong desire to create, but I can’t figure out how. I think that I would like to write or paint again, but I just feel so blocked. It’s literally giving me this feeling of pressure building up inside of me, especially in my head. I have so many ideas, but find in impossible to bring it to fruition to share with the world.
I feel so validated!! Finally understand why I get the reactions that I do! Thank you for sharing your insight! I finally found a tribe that understands how my brain works!
Thank you for posting this video. This has helped answer one of my biggest stumbling blocks in my career path: I get labeled a "maverick" with my problem solving ideas/capabilities. I realize that I encompass far more variables especially the effects on fellow workers/clients when working on solutions that go beyond the scope of what the corporation is looking to fix/improve. I guess the classic INFJ big picture/deep dive mindset just doesn't make sense in the business world which isn't there to fix deep rooted issues/challenges for the most part. I get it and understand - but now I feel vindicated and see I need to understand there is a balance to strike in the working world vs how my mind connects everything and sees intricate, large scale solutions. But the big challenge still remains: how to make my skillset much more profitable and finding a fit that satisfies both the financial side & the INFJ side
This has happened to me at various places I have been employed at. They didn't want me to operate at my fullest potential and they wanted me to be "just smart enough to operate the machine" so to speak. it's too late. I'm already 25 steps ahead of them on that. Instead of being glad they had employed someone who thinks critically, they got mad that I thought of it before they did.
Early this(Jan 8/25) I looked up “INFJ” out of curiosity. WOW! I’ve been reading about, and listening to videos on this all day! What an eye opener, and an understanding of why I’ve been, the way I’ve been all my life!!!! I’m convinced it’s me 👍😎 This channel has certainly opened my mind on the possibilities of me being an”INFJ”! More research, moving on👍😎 Cheers!
It is always refreshing to hear from another INFJ who truly knows what the INFJ personality type is. I believe that it takes one to know one in this case. Every word of this video is so spot-on it is almost spooky. Thanks for your content. A grateful INFJ subscriber to the channel.
I always knew I was different and I always hated myself for it. These videos are a real eye opener for me. I listen and reflect on my own life and now it makes sense when it never did before. I picked up long ago about the push of being different and being accepted because of it. When it comes to myself, I don’t feel accepted and it feels like a lot of me is being shunned and it’s all because I think and feel differently than the people around me. I feel as though I am an INFJ and I wish quite frequently that I can change it to something else, be someone else so I can feel accepted and valued. But deep down, I know I can’t because it’s not me. It’s also hurtful when you pour out your heart and soul to help people or reach out to them than getting a response that it’s not acceptable.
I love your videos, you really understand. I have been struggling socially and I think it's because I say things which to me are obvious truths but which make other people uncomfortable. You're so right about how they get uncomfortable with real creativity. A truly creative approach to work would be everyone doing work they enjoy and getting paid well for it with flexible hours ie 3pm-7pm or whatever suits you best (not 9-5) and a 3 day week. At least two months holiday each year and affordable everything including housing. Instead we live in a capitalist dystopia where a few people keep getting richer while everyone else's life quality reduces. Yet if we point this out people get angry and call us lazy. Buckminster Fuller talked about this, I expect he was an INFJ.
I’m infj and I have a friend who is infj too we understand each other I can be myself when I’m with her. We love to have deep conversation which I can’t have with other people even my oven family. The bast two years I began to understand my self after I’m feeling different then most people. Nobody understands me and I understand others very easily even before they talk to me I didn’t know why I do that but now I know why I always felt lonely and weird but I love to be alone all day long. Now I’m mom with husband and three boys. 3 of them are extroverts me and my son is introvert. I people have shallow connections with me at the same time I’m having deep connections in my head to survive 😂🤣 is this normal for infj.
I agree completely that we have a different idea of out-of-the-box thinking. I've noticed that whenever sensors think they're pushing the limits, they usually make one step forward, but never break the mold, let alone create a new one. One suggestion: whenever you talk about something common to INFJs and INFPs, you may write " INFx Unhappiness", for example.
There are too many dishonest, lazy, vulgar, and vengeful people to become stuck with at a company. They will do whatever it takes to sabotage any success for you when they see you are different.
@@Jona7FerWhy do you think it will get more views? INFPs also have their struggles and look for solutions. If someone is searching for INFJ-specific or INFP-specific content, I suppose that adding "INFP" in the title would make it easier and Lauren wouldn't have to answer the question multiple times. Unless there is a construction that I'm unaware about, that seems like the optimal way of doing things.
@@stego2012I work from home for a small firm and barely have any contact with my colleagues, so that figures it out for now in my case, too. I've been thinking that self-employment is really the best solution in so many ways for a lot of INFJs, INFPs and INTJs.
No matter how many times I have taken the Myers Briggs over the years, I’m always an INFJ. Everything you describe fits me to T. I even remember saying as a child, if I could have any superpower, it would be… invisibility.
That's interesting that many INFJ and INFP are born to narcissistic parents. That was the case for me and my brother (INFP/INFJ). I'm curious as to how you reached this conclusion as I've wondered about this myself.
This channel has really opened my eyes to a new level that the things I experienced are not my fault but also that they are still affecting me now. Thank you for showing me and encouraging me to change and live the life I deserve.
At work, the best I do, is being the most reliable person. I realize that my corporate job isn’t or is hardly creative at all and I “contribute” where I can. I see others try with futility and end up annoying others. The go getters end up frustrating people they work “with”. Outside of work, I realize I haven’t done much of anything creative for at least 25 years, besides journaling. Although journaling is good for me, it’s private. Overall, I’m not satisfied. Sometimes my attitude is “so what” other times I can be frustrated. Yes, I’m stuck. Friends and people add to my frustration. Don’t know what to do. People disappoint me. I disappoint me. Seems all pointless.
Withdraw from where I don’t fit. Hmmm, as INFJ that does not leave me much in the way of company. Laura, you may say, “Take a little more time to find a true match for us”, but that is not a solution. It’s a platitude that insults our intelligence. I can do almost anything I put my mind to, am highly creative and have been an artist/ painter over 30 years. Being enthusiastic is my middle name, and am great at research, problem solving, showing what’s possible……But good company? Being understood when I speak? Rarely. No friends nor new friends. I’m an enigma to everyone, and at my age it’s getting boring quite frankly and rather sad. There is no magic fix and no one should be encouraged to go find one! I don’t belong anywhere except to Christ Jesus and when my life ends I know where I’m going 😉📖🙏✝️💟
First let me start by saying how thankful I am to find this channel. Also, I feel EXACTLY as you do. I have done some career jumping and despite liking the career, the people were the bane of my existence. Only because I struggle with being accepted for those deep convictions that I share - only to be called a bleeding heart. @aristocracy we are paddling in the same boat. I have the same 5 friends although I have desired to have more. I have always been odd, weird, different and not invited. But I am such a ball and have great humor, I just don't share that immediately - only those who are permitted to get close actually are aware. I first want to start with a lucrative career that gets me and I can feel like an asset within it. Currently withdrawing at where I work is also seen as a weakness, so it is feeling a bit lose / lose and so I am looking again. I think my spirituality definitely keeps me hopeful, balanced and calm and I am grateful for my friends. I maybe need to enjoy as opposed to continuously searching. And I definitely would say this site has been helpful, so do be encouraged. Even if solutions aren't found outside of yourself, knowledge of self provides keys that can open doors that yield improved relationships and experiences. For me, I am happy with that! Blessings to all.
Say what u want society instead of that's opposite day shit women do when it comes to dating. Society is just.... I'm over it. Left-hand path over and over
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A manager once said to me: 'You're good at your job, Jeff, but my God you're bloody weird.' I took it as a compliment.
I really thought I was the only one in this world who felt out of place. I have finally found my tribe, and now I know am not alone. Thank you Lauren!
Same thought 🥲
Be less normal 😂.....be myself. Embrace our weirdness. It's hard to let go of those people but it is so liberating once we do let go.
Creativity helped me a lot....I write all the time, it's amazing
I feel so stuck. I have this strong desire to create, but I can’t figure out how. I think that I would like to write or paint again, but I just feel so blocked. It’s literally giving me this feeling of pressure building up inside of me, especially in my head. I have so many ideas, but find in impossible to bring it to fruition to share with the world.
I get the looks like I'm from a different planet. I get eye rolls. And I've been told I am very intimidating.
Eye rolls! Holy 💩
I feel so validated!! Finally understand why I get the reactions that I do! Thank you for sharing your insight! I finally found a tribe that understands how my brain works!
Thank you for posting this video. This has helped answer one of my biggest stumbling blocks in my career path: I get labeled a "maverick" with my problem solving ideas/capabilities. I realize that I encompass far more variables especially the effects on fellow workers/clients when working on solutions that go beyond the scope of what the corporation is looking to fix/improve. I guess the classic INFJ big picture/deep dive mindset just doesn't make sense in the business world which isn't there to fix deep rooted issues/challenges for the most part. I get it and understand - but now I feel vindicated and see I need to understand there is a balance to strike in the working world vs how my mind connects everything and sees intricate, large scale solutions. But the big challenge still remains: how to make my skillset much more profitable and finding a fit that satisfies both the financial side & the INFJ side
It really is freaky how all of these things apply to me, and all my life. It's shocking!
Same
This has happened to me at various places I have been employed at. They didn't want me to operate at my fullest potential and they wanted me to be "just smart enough to operate the machine" so to speak. it's too late. I'm already 25 steps ahead of them on that. Instead of being glad they had employed someone who thinks critically, they got mad that I thought of it before they did.
OMG, Lauren, every time I open a new episode, you’re always so 100%spot on about my situation. Thank you ❤❤❤
100% truth in this video! Every single part rings true… 🙏
Early this(Jan 8/25) I looked up “INFJ” out of curiosity. WOW! I’ve been reading about, and listening to videos on this all day! What an eye opener, and an understanding of why I’ve been, the way I’ve been all my life!!!! I’m convinced it’s me 👍😎 This channel has certainly opened my mind on the possibilities of me being an”INFJ”! More research, moving on👍😎 Cheers!
It is always refreshing to hear from another INFJ who truly knows what the INFJ personality type is. I believe that it takes one to know one in this case. Every word of this video is so spot-on it is almost spooky. Thanks for your content. A grateful INFJ subscriber to the channel.
I feel the same way
I feel the same way
I always knew I was different and I always hated myself for it. These videos are a real eye opener for me. I listen and reflect on my own life and now it makes sense when it never did before. I picked up long ago about the push of being different and being accepted because of it. When it comes to myself, I don’t feel accepted and it feels like a lot of me is being shunned and it’s all because I think and feel differently than the people around me. I feel as though I am an INFJ and I wish quite frequently that I can change it to something else, be someone else so I can feel accepted and valued. But deep down, I know I can’t because it’s not me. It’s also hurtful when you pour out your heart and soul to help people or reach out to them than getting a response that it’s not acceptable.
Couldn't agree more. glad im not crazy for seeing and feeling this. Takes a lot of baby steps and courage to step into our power.
I love your videos, you really understand. I have been struggling socially and I think it's because I say things which to me are obvious truths but which make other people uncomfortable. You're so right about how they get uncomfortable with real creativity. A truly creative approach to work would be everyone doing work they enjoy and getting paid well for it with flexible hours ie 3pm-7pm or whatever suits you best (not 9-5) and a 3 day week. At least two months holiday each year and affordable everything including housing. Instead we live in a capitalist dystopia where a few people keep getting richer while everyone else's life quality reduces. Yet if we point this out people get angry and call us lazy. Buckminster Fuller talked about this, I expect he was an INFJ.
I’m infj and I have a friend who is infj too we understand each other I can be myself when I’m with her. We love to have deep conversation which I can’t have with other people even my oven family. The bast two years I began to understand my self after I’m feeling different then most people. Nobody understands me and I understand others very easily even before they talk to me I didn’t know why I do that but now I know why I always felt lonely and weird but I love to be alone all day long. Now I’m mom with husband and three boys. 3 of them are extroverts me and my son is introvert. I people have shallow connections with me at the same time I’m having deep connections in my head to survive 😂🤣 is this normal for infj.
I agree completely that we have a different idea of out-of-the-box thinking. I've noticed that whenever sensors think they're pushing the limits, they usually make one step forward, but never break the mold, let alone create a new one.
One suggestion: whenever you talk about something common to INFJs and INFPs, you may write " INFx Unhappiness", for example.
infj in title will get more views, so it makes the most sense. And she is Infj so......
I work alone and it is for the best. It is impossible to have a conflict with anybody while being alone.
There are too many dishonest, lazy, vulgar, and vengeful people to become stuck with at a company. They will do whatever it takes to sabotage any success for you when they see you are different.
@@Jona7FerWhy do you think it will get more views? INFPs also have their struggles and look for solutions. If someone is searching for INFJ-specific or INFP-specific content, I suppose that adding "INFP" in the title would make it easier and Lauren wouldn't have to answer the question multiple times. Unless there is a construction that I'm unaware about, that seems like the optimal way of doing things.
@@stego2012I work from home for a small firm and barely have any contact with my colleagues, so that figures it out for now in my case, too. I've been thinking that self-employment is really the best solution in so many ways for a lot of INFJs, INFPs and INTJs.
No matter how many times I have taken the Myers Briggs over the years, I’m always an INFJ. Everything you describe fits me to T. I even remember saying as a child, if I could have any superpower, it would be… invisibility.
Thank you for all your videos 🙏🏻❤
Wow! Yes! You just described how I felt in/about all my jobs. And thank you for talking about WHY, and giving suggestions on moving forward.❤
Looking at causes of issues... very true!
Born to make innovative ideas. I will tell myself this.
I have to visit people today and im dreading it! I know that i will come home after and spend the next week suffering with all the thinking.
That's interesting that many INFJ and INFP are born to narcissistic parents. That was the case for me and my brother (INFP/INFJ). I'm curious as to how you reached this conclusion as I've wondered about this myself.
Ya, if that's the case, isn't infj a disorder resulting from abuse, not a personality?
I feel so ridiculously seen
I really love how you explain things, it rings so true!
Yeah corporate wants creative sheep......not truly creative. Corporate hated me, it was the worst experience of my life. 😢
This channel has really opened my eyes to a new level that the things I experienced are not my fault but also that they are still affecting me now. Thank you for showing me and encouraging me to change and live the life I deserve.
Thank you. Really needing this right now
At work, the best I do, is being the most reliable person. I realize that my corporate job isn’t or is hardly creative at all and I “contribute” where I can. I see others try with futility and end up annoying others. The go getters end up frustrating people they work “with”. Outside of work, I realize I haven’t done much of anything creative for at least 25 years, besides journaling. Although journaling is good for me, it’s private. Overall, I’m not satisfied. Sometimes my attitude is “so what” other times I can be frustrated. Yes, I’m stuck. Friends and people add to my frustration.
Don’t know what to do. People disappoint me. I disappoint me. Seems all pointless.
Thank you so much for this…I needed this advice…”bringing what’s inside out…turning it into me own creative goal.”
GET TO THE CORE...YOU ARE SO CORRECT!!!
Lauren, god bless you for the work that you do. It helps me so much on my INFJ journey. ❤❤❤
This needs a dubble thums up button😊
Just what I needed this morning
Great video♥️♥️♥️
I put it as “What’s Really Going On?”
Interesting video! Wondering what is the solution for this personality type to find fulfillment and expression of those visionary/creative abilities?
Thank you so much. xo
Powerful video, thank you!
This is so great. Thank you :)
That's so true.
So accurate
Withdraw from where I don’t fit. Hmmm, as INFJ that does not leave me much in the way of company. Laura, you may say, “Take a little more time to find a true match for us”, but that is not a solution. It’s a platitude that insults our intelligence. I can do almost anything I put my mind to, am highly creative and have been an artist/ painter over 30 years. Being enthusiastic is my middle name, and am great at research, problem solving, showing what’s possible……But good company? Being understood when I speak? Rarely. No friends nor new friends. I’m an enigma to everyone, and at my age it’s getting boring quite frankly and rather sad. There is no magic fix and no one should be encouraged to go find one! I don’t belong anywhere except to Christ Jesus and when my life ends I know where I’m going 😉📖🙏✝️💟
First let me start by saying how thankful I am to find this channel. Also, I feel EXACTLY as you do. I have done some career jumping and despite liking the career, the people were the bane of my existence. Only because I struggle with being accepted for those deep convictions that I share - only to be called a bleeding heart. @aristocracy we are paddling in the same boat. I have the same 5 friends although I have desired to have more. I have always been odd, weird, different and not invited. But I am such a ball and have great humor, I just don't share that immediately - only those who are permitted to get close actually are aware. I first want to start with a lucrative career that gets me and I can feel like an asset within it. Currently withdrawing at where I work is also seen as a weakness, so it is feeling a bit lose / lose and so I am looking again. I think my spirituality definitely keeps me hopeful, balanced and calm and I am grateful for my friends. I maybe need to enjoy as opposed to continuously searching. And I definitely would say this site has been helpful, so do be encouraged. Even if solutions aren't found outside of yourself, knowledge of self provides keys that can open doors that yield improved relationships and experiences. For me, I am happy with that! Blessings to all.
It’s hard to be “happy” in a world of …. Zero honesty. I prefer to check out of the Spin.
Sometimes..i REALLY hate being me
Same
Say what u want society instead of that's opposite day shit women do when it comes to dating.
Society is just.... I'm over it.
Left-hand path over and over